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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: I like to keep in practice buck aleut. But hold

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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Should I cancel the

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Speaker 1: party or cancel my girlfriend? Dear Steve Anne Shirley. I've

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Speaker 1: been with my girlfriend for ten years and we're having

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Speaker 1: our first major issue. When I met my girlfriend, she

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Speaker 1: was new in town, so I introduced her to my

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Speaker 1: group of friends and their wives. There are four couples

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Speaker 1: that hang out and we've all known each other since college.

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Speaker 1: The wives were all nice enough to my girlfriend, but

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Speaker 1: they've never included her in girls' night out or invited

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Speaker 1: her to brunch with them. Whenever we're all together, I

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Speaker 1: a problem that I need to deal with. My girlfriend

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Speaker 1: thinks that my best friend's wife flirts with me. I

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Speaker 1: will admit that my best friend's wife gets a bit

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Speaker 1: out of hand when she's had too much wine, but

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Speaker 1: My girlfriend says, as a woman, she sees things differently

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Speaker 1: than I do. Last weekend, we all met at the

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Speaker 1: park for a friend's birthday and we got on the

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Speaker 1: subject of race and politics. My best friend's wife sat

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Speaker 1: the annual Fourth of July celebration at our house, and

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend said, my best friend's wife is not invited,

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Speaker 1: but her husband can come. What the hell? How can

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Speaker 1: I get my girlfriend to realize that she might be

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Speaker 1: the problem? I love her, but I am sick of

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Speaker 1: constantly validating her feelings. Should I cancel the Fourth of

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Speaker 1: Are you serious right now? You would cancel your girlfriend

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Speaker 1: of ten years over this? I mean, I just got

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Speaker 1: to say to that, well, well, well aren't you Aren't

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Speaker 1: you shallow, sir? Aren't you drawing a line in the

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Speaker 1: sand and picking sides here and all because you're a

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Speaker 1: little uncomfortable right now. I mean, imagine how your girl

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Speaker 1: feels now, mind you. I think she's dead wrong. No,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say this. She's just less than tactful for

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Speaker 1: husband can come. Okay, that's awkward for everyone. I get

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Speaker 1: that awkward for everyone involved. But that's what old girl

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Speaker 1: gets for being so disrespectful to your girlfriend. She's putting

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Speaker 1: side who comes up against her. You guys have been

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Speaker 1: together for ten years. You should have said something a

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Speaker 1: long time ago when they never included her socially. You

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Speaker 1: knew all about it and said or did nothing. These

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Speaker 1: are your friends, she was new in town. You introduced

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Speaker 1: her to your group of friends, and they snub your

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Speaker 1: girl when they have girls night out, when they have

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Speaker 1: brunches and things like that. And this woman openly flirts

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Speaker 1: with you in your face, in her face, and all

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Speaker 1: you do is eat it up and blame your girl. Why,

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you why. I know why because you like it.

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Speaker 1: You like the attention she's giving you, and the fact

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Speaker 1: That makes it all okay, doesn't it. Meanwhile, your girlfriend

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Speaker 1: She was oh when, oh, no, girl, you're tripping. You're crazy.

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Speaker 1: and so do we? Okay, so do we. That's what

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Speaker 1: she's probably better off without you. This is over a party,

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Speaker 1: and come on, she's given you ten years more than

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Speaker 1: Let's just start with the subject of the letter. Should

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Speaker 1: I counsel the party? All counsel my girlfriend? How's that

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Speaker 1: a question? Now? Shirley says, after she's been with you

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Speaker 1: If you've been the girlfriend after college for ten years,

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Speaker 1: So let's just start there. Now, let's go on down

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Speaker 1: the line. You got this best friend now for oh,

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Speaker 1: here's the next part. You introduced to a group of friends,

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Speaker 1: to the happy hour, shopping, to the movie, to brunch.

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Speaker 1: They don't like her. They do not like your girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: It's something about her that they've all picked up on

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Speaker 1: you didn't detected some things too. Now this letter is

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Speaker 1: just the last straw. Now, when she gets a little

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Speaker 1: bit to drink, you'll admit she's a bit much and

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Speaker 1: she'd be saying some wild stop and your but your

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Speaker 1: boy be right there, your best friend, and he think

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Speaker 1: it's funny. What dude. Thanks, It's funny that his girl

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Speaker 1: hi he him right? Who finds that funny? There's something

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Speaker 1: wrong with this whole little group. Hold that thought. We'll

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter titles Should

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Speaker 1: I cancel the party or cancel my girlfriends? We'll get

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's strawberry letters. Should I

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Speaker 1: crazy question. It is. This is just your turn to

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Speaker 1: do a Fourth of July, and you're considering canceling not

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Speaker 1: canceling that, but canceling your girlfriend who's been your girlfriend

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Speaker 1: from ten years, who you don't really want no more

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Speaker 1: like you want her to be your wife ten years,

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Speaker 1: don't nobody like her. She don't go to brunch half

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Speaker 1: together that my girlfriend feels included. You're forcing her into

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Speaker 1: the bunch. But now there's a problem. My girlfriend thinks

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Speaker 1: he thinks it's funny. I don't understand that right there,

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Speaker 1: How that's funny every damn time she gets drunk. I

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Speaker 1: better be something to this, the fact that your girlfriend

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Speaker 1: has noticed this. Women do see things that men don't see.

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Speaker 1: And Shirley said, why y'all always act like y'all don't

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Speaker 1: see it because we don't. We actually don't. Hey, let

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Speaker 1: me tell you something. If we did, we'd act on it.

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Speaker 1: We don't see it, but since you pointed it out,

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Speaker 1: we're looking forward. Okay, okay, see you want some of

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Speaker 1: this big daddy? All right? Now, what's up with you?

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Speaker 1: You see that's what it turned into. Well, here's a deal. Uh.

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Speaker 1: Last weekend we all met at the park from a

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Speaker 1: friend's birthday. We got on subject some politics and your

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Speaker 1: best friend's wife said, by me, and we talked and

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Speaker 1: to greed the most issues. My girlfriend was giving you

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Speaker 1: very uncomfortable. You should have moved, got your answer off

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Speaker 1: You saw her looking at you, your stupid ass. You're

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Speaker 1: gonna stay there now, That's why your ass was uncomfortable.

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Speaker 1: You saw her looking upside your head talking to this

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Speaker 1: So now as y'all's time. The horse horst the fourth

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Speaker 1: of July celebration at your house. And my girlfriend said,

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Speaker 1: can't come. What the hell right? You ain't lying, y'all?

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Speaker 1: What the hell your boy can come? But hey man,

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Speaker 1: Sheila don't want your wife. Sheila said, I don't even

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Speaker 1: me fur you lie think listen. Uh you're welcome to come.

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Speaker 1: Uh but uh jacket uh jack uh read the reader

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Speaker 1: read it on wan Sheila, excuse me, I said, My

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Speaker 1: wife said you're welcome. Earl, you can come down. You

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Speaker 1: know you might do. But readers say Sheila can't come.

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Speaker 1: You gotta come so low to the fourth judie. No, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: you misunderstanding. Dog. You good, you're good. Come over, get

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Speaker 1: nice music. But reader don't want Sheila to come. Yeah, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: matter when she drank. It's fun. Man. Look, I know

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Speaker 1: it's all fun. It don't even bother me. Man, But man,

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Speaker 1: my girl be tripping. Man. So look, I don't know

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Speaker 1: how we're gonna do this here, but you know you're

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Speaker 1: ha ha he he she can't come, cannot come? He

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Speaker 1: realize that she might be the problem she is? They

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Speaker 1: don't invite her, know what. She's not really that likable

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Speaker 1: to the group, none of them girls, and say, you

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Speaker 1: know what, let's invite real ain't know what I'm saying

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Speaker 1: that listen, everybody, just because she's not married to him,

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Speaker 1: and everybody know what else you're doing, dog, and the

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Speaker 1: one because you because you know, because you know, man,

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Speaker 1: you're doing your thing. But now y'all, cauldn't have this

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Speaker 1: your question is what do I do? Do I cancel

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Speaker 1: the party or counsel my girlfriend? But I'm sick of

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Speaker 1: constantly validating her feelings. That's what's wrong. You always got

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Speaker 1: you you exhausted. I hadn't done that before. Dog, it's exhausted.

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Speaker 1: You always got to explain dog dog. She tied dog

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Speaker 1: dog dog, dog dog. She just had a long day

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Speaker 1: and he tied of that. Counsel forth of July or

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend. I think the girlfriend should cancel him, all right,

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