1 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:06,560 Speaker 1: How do you feel about the age difference? Pabe. Honestly, 2 00:00:07,400 --> 00:00:10,559 Speaker 1: I never think about it, and I forget a lot 3 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:13,640 Speaker 1: of the times that there is a ga She looks 4 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: at me and she's like, what are your intentions with 5 00:00:15,480 --> 00:00:17,480 Speaker 1: my son since you are older than him? And then 6 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:19,079 Speaker 1: she just started laughing. I was like, oh my god, 7 00:00:19,160 --> 00:00:21,480 Speaker 1: I've never been asked that question because I've never dated 8 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 1: anyone younger than me. I feel like part of talking 9 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 1: about age comes from like sexual attraction as well. A 10 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:31,400 Speaker 1: year later, I'm extremely attractive to you, and I don't 11 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:39,519 Speaker 1: feel like we lack anything in any of those areas. Hey, guys, 12 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: how are you Moivian? I'm so happy to be here 13 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:45,240 Speaker 1: with all of you, So happy to be taping another 14 00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 1: episode of Chicks and Chill. If this is your first 15 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:52,200 Speaker 1: time listening to the pod, welcome, I'm your host, Cheeky. 16 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:56,640 Speaker 1: So today is an interesting one, an interesting topic, have 17 00:00:56,680 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: an interesting guest that's going to be joining us. We're 18 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 1: gonna be talking about relationship age gaps. You guys, it's 19 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:05,200 Speaker 1: pretty common for men to be older than a woman, 20 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:07,960 Speaker 1: but what about when a woman is older than a man. 21 00:01:08,920 --> 00:01:11,240 Speaker 1: So that's what we're going to be talking about. Grab 22 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:14,840 Speaker 1: your drink tequila. I'm having cafesito right now. I've had 23 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:17,560 Speaker 1: way too much tequila this past few days, so I'm 24 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 1: gonna stick to water and coffee. Welcome to another episode 25 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:32,000 Speaker 1: of Chickens and Chill. Alright, so today we have, like 26 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:38,400 Speaker 1: I said, a very special guest, my boyfriend, Emilio. Hi babe. Now, 27 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 1: for those of you who don't know, Emilia is actually 28 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 1: younger than I am by seven years. The number, yeah, 29 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:47,319 Speaker 1: I did say the number. Yeah, seven years, you guys, 30 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 1: seven years. I get a lot of questions about that, 31 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 1: and I get it. It's not something people normally talk about. 32 00:01:52,960 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: But really quick, before we dive into this topic, I 33 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:57,080 Speaker 1: want to give you guys a little background on how 34 00:01:57,120 --> 00:02:00,480 Speaker 1: we met. We talked about it before, but basically, I 35 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:04,880 Speaker 1: met Emilio last year March one, to be exact, and 36 00:02:04,920 --> 00:02:07,560 Speaker 1: we met him um or. I met him at Becky's 37 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: birthday party. I had met him before that, which was 38 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: one way, do you remember, yes, Jolene, that's right, that 39 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 1: was like May of he took some pictures of me 40 00:02:21,320 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: for the song with Becky g Jolyne. So Becky and 41 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:28,040 Speaker 1: Immedial have known each other since they were little. I 42 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:31,280 Speaker 1: don't know if in diapers. Yeah, pretty much. They see 43 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:35,040 Speaker 1: each other like cousins. Anyway, So that was the first 44 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 1: time I met him. And then on March one, he 45 00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:39,080 Speaker 1: went to Becky's birthday party that we had for her, 46 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 1: a surprise birthday party at my house, and he came 47 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:44,040 Speaker 1: and we just hit it off and we've been talking 48 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: since then. So that's a little background. I'm not going 49 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: to get into details because I feel like that's a 50 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 1: whole other episode, because it was just really cute how 51 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 1: we met. You know. I was like, I loved his dimples. 52 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:55,040 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, I want to poke 53 00:02:55,120 --> 00:02:57,680 Speaker 1: his little like dimples. And he has like really nice eyeballs. 54 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 1: It's exactly what I said the first time. I said, Wow, 55 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:02,399 Speaker 1: you have very nice eyeballs. He's like eyeballs. I'm like, yeah, 56 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:06,200 Speaker 1: you do. Anyways, he's getting shot, he's getting shied. Okay, 57 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:08,440 Speaker 1: so that's out of the way. So we should start 58 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 1: off by saying something that I've don't really talk about 59 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 1: you guys. Emilio is twenty nine and I am thirty six. 60 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: I think for women, it's like this whole thing of 61 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: like don't ask ages, like don't talk about ages or 62 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:22,720 Speaker 1: don't talk about your age or ask their age like 63 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 1: a woman. And you know what, I was thinking about it, 64 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:27,680 Speaker 1: and I'm like, you know, fuck it, I am thirty six. 65 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:30,640 Speaker 1: I'm proud of being thirty six, proud of everything that 66 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 1: I've been able to accomplish at this age. I don't 67 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:36,640 Speaker 1: feel like I look thirty six. Should I always say 68 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 1: I'm like twenty eight, you know, I don't feel it. 69 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:41,760 Speaker 1: I definitely don't feel it. So it's kind of crazy 70 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 1: to say it out loud because I'm like, oh, shoot, 71 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 1: like he's twenty nine. I never thought that I was 72 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 1: going to date someone this much younger than I am, 73 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:53,119 Speaker 1: but it's worked out. I mean, we're going on a year. 74 00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:56,080 Speaker 1: How do you feel about the age different spam? Honestly? 75 00:03:56,360 --> 00:03:59,880 Speaker 1: Is it something you think about? Honestly, I never think 76 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:02,760 Speaker 1: about it, And I forget a lot of the times 77 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 1: that there is a gap because it doesn't feel like 78 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 1: it when we're together. You know, I know, is it 79 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 1: because I'm immature. It's because I'm more mature than my age, 80 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: and you're immature at your age. So we meet right 81 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: in the middle. You know, we meet at like thirty two. Okay, yes, 82 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 1: you are a lot more mature than a lot of 83 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 1: guys your age, even guys that are older than you, 84 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:28,280 Speaker 1: You are way more mature. I think it's because you've 85 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:31,240 Speaker 1: done therapy. You've been very like intentional about that in 86 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:32,760 Speaker 1: your life, and that's one of the things I love 87 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 1: and that helps out a lot. And I've done my 88 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:37,599 Speaker 1: share of like life coaching and therapy, and I think, 89 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:40,479 Speaker 1: like I'm just like a free spirit, like very young 90 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 1: at heart, but then I'd like to call myself like 91 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 1: an old soul because I'm pretty wise. But I like 92 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:47,719 Speaker 1: to funk around a lot, Like we mess around a lot, 93 00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:50,039 Speaker 1: like we laugh, we joke around, and I think it 94 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: just keeps things light and happy. So maybe that's where 95 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 1: you say, like we we meet up like at twenty, 96 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 1: we meet up at twenty. I think we meet up 97 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:03,040 Speaker 1: bout thirty. Alright, cool, Okay, So when him and I 98 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:07,160 Speaker 1: first met, did I ask your age? Then? That night? 99 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:09,160 Speaker 1: Well you want to do my phone that night, so 100 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:16,000 Speaker 1: you probably asked me I did? I did? Boxica? Mind you? 101 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:19,919 Speaker 1: We were buzzing, okay. It was a really nice kickback 102 00:05:19,960 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 1: for Becky, Like it was super private, super intimate, so 103 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 1: we were all just vibing, like the energy that night 104 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 1: was something I'll never forget. So I just felt very 105 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: comfortable with him. I felt like, dude, I can talk 106 00:05:31,720 --> 00:05:34,120 Speaker 1: to this guy like I don't know. We were laughing, 107 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 1: like we just got along. So I just I grabbed 108 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:39,479 Speaker 1: his phone. I was gonna put my number in his 109 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: phone because he hadn't asked. He's a little bit more shy, 110 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:44,159 Speaker 1: but he is the first one that kissed me. You 111 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:46,400 Speaker 1: kissed me, you are you were a little shy. Yeah, 112 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 1: I did kiss you. I kiss you right away. What 113 00:05:49,040 --> 00:05:52,320 Speaker 1: did you do? He followed me? You guys followed her. 114 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 1: I was hoping he would follow me up. I set 115 00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 1: you up and I failed for the trap. Imagine if 116 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:01,760 Speaker 1: I would have been like are you doing? Obviously we 117 00:06:01,800 --> 00:06:03,599 Speaker 1: wouldn't be here, you know. But you know, I was 118 00:06:03,640 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 1: hoping that he would follow me and then we could 119 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:07,600 Speaker 1: just like kiss in private, and that's exactly what happened. 120 00:06:08,040 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 1: But anyways, from there, we continue talking. We were like chilling. 121 00:06:10,800 --> 00:06:13,040 Speaker 1: We went away from the party from everyone else, and 122 00:06:13,080 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 1: I put my number in his phone and I put 123 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:19,880 Speaker 1: baby with a purple heart. Oh my god, I think 124 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 1: about him, like, what was I thinking? Oh my gosh. 125 00:06:22,720 --> 00:06:25,320 Speaker 1: Folksy to the max Yo and I was like looking, 126 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:26,400 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, do you have a girlfriend? How 127 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 1: many girls who talk to? And this is that. I'm like, dude, 128 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: that's not cute girls. I don't recommend you doing that. 129 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 1: I mean, it was just super chill and like, now 130 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:36,360 Speaker 1: that we understand each other's personalities, it's kind of like, 131 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:38,839 Speaker 1: I don't know. It must have been the alcohol, but 132 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:42,039 Speaker 1: it worked out like he didn't trip about it, but 133 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:47,040 Speaker 1: I wouldn't regularly recommend that, so at first I did 134 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:49,240 Speaker 1: worry me. There was some conversations once I found out 135 00:06:49,279 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 1: how old he was. I was kind of like, oh, 136 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 1: my goodness, I'm thirty sick. Do we want the same things? 137 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: Like we talked about do you want kids? And he's like, 138 00:06:56,760 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 1: at first you had said I always knew I wanted 139 00:06:59,720 --> 00:07:04,919 Speaker 1: kids in my life, but I've never felt anywhere close 140 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 1: to like ready for that. Do you feel ready now? Now? 141 00:07:08,480 --> 00:07:14,040 Speaker 1: I do? Why Because now that it feels more achievable, 142 00:07:14,240 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 1: now that I have someone in my life who wants 143 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: the same things as me, I feel like I'm in 144 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:21,480 Speaker 1: a safe place with you where it's like, Okay, if 145 00:07:21,520 --> 00:07:25,680 Speaker 1: we did this, we would do it together. And it's 146 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 1: not like a fairytale dream anymore now, it's like it's 147 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:31,520 Speaker 1: it seems very achievable for us to do. I think 148 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:35,720 Speaker 1: it also helps that you have a woman that holds 149 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:38,200 Speaker 1: her own Perhaps is that a thing where it's like 150 00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:41,280 Speaker 1: we are partners. I don't depend on you too much 151 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:42,960 Speaker 1: and you don't depend on me, Like we just we 152 00:07:43,040 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 1: have our own thing and we meet in the middle. Yeah, 153 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:46,960 Speaker 1: I mean, I think that's been a big thing in 154 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 1: our relationships since the beginning. Everything is very important to me. 155 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 1: So the fact that our relationship was built on accince 156 00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 1: day one, like it's established a really good foundation between us. Absolutely, 157 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:01,280 Speaker 1: that's something that we both can indicated from the very beginning. 158 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 1: Like I had learned from my past relationship. I know 159 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:05,240 Speaker 1: what I want, what I don't want, what I want 160 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:06,840 Speaker 1: to change, what i want to do differently, And I 161 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 1: feel like I've done a very good job with it, 162 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 1: and so have you because we've had these conversations, you guys, 163 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:16,280 Speaker 1: and he was a completely different person in his past relationship. 164 00:08:16,280 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 1: And I think we feel like, Okay, we probably messed 165 00:08:18,640 --> 00:08:21,000 Speaker 1: up the last relationship, Like let's do everything right in 166 00:08:21,040 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 1: this one. And I'm going to tell you straight up, 167 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:26,000 Speaker 1: Like when I met Emilia, I had just written in 168 00:08:26,040 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 1: my notes, like the type of man that I wanted. 169 00:08:29,200 --> 00:08:31,840 Speaker 1: He has a lot of those things. I did want 170 00:08:31,880 --> 00:08:38,720 Speaker 1: someone that was supposedly forty five. I wanted someone older, 171 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:42,880 Speaker 1: as someone that perhaps had been married before and divorced 172 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:44,959 Speaker 1: and has children, because I wasn't sure if I wanted kids. 173 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:47,560 Speaker 1: And it's crazy because I'm like, Okay, this is what 174 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:49,640 Speaker 1: I thought I wanted, you know what I mean. But 175 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 1: then I met him, and I was a little skeptical 176 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:56,200 Speaker 1: and a little hesitant because I'm like, he's twenty nine, 177 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:58,800 Speaker 1: he's young. Like I kind of took it slow at 178 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:01,200 Speaker 1: first because I'm like, Okay, let's build this out. But 179 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:03,440 Speaker 1: even if I wanted to take it, so, things just happened. 180 00:09:03,440 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: Like I got to the point where I'm like, I'm 181 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:05,920 Speaker 1: gonna let it flow and I'm not going to think 182 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:07,840 Speaker 1: about it too much because I te'm like, well, what 183 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:10,320 Speaker 1: if you realize that you want someone younger later? You know, 184 00:09:10,600 --> 00:09:13,079 Speaker 1: those are just like insecurities that I think all women have. 185 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: But with time, like he's made me feel so confident 186 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 1: in our relationship and he makes me feel wanted, and 187 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 1: he's so fucking mature for his age. I'm telling you, 188 00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:27,520 Speaker 1: I told myself, I'm not going to date anyone younger 189 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:29,600 Speaker 1: than me, not even a year younger, And now I'm 190 00:09:29,679 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 1: dating someone that's seven years younger. And it's crazy, but 191 00:09:33,480 --> 00:09:37,360 Speaker 1: I'm happy because we're on the same page. We want 192 00:09:37,360 --> 00:09:44,040 Speaker 1: the same things, and he makes me feel secure, like stability, 193 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:46,319 Speaker 1: which I think is what all women want. So I 194 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:48,240 Speaker 1: wanted to do a podcast on this because I think 195 00:09:48,240 --> 00:09:50,880 Speaker 1: a lot of us think about age and we can 196 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:54,679 Speaker 1: potentially be missing out on a great opportunity with someone 197 00:09:54,760 --> 00:09:58,080 Speaker 1: just because they're either too old or too young. And 198 00:09:58,120 --> 00:09:59,920 Speaker 1: I think that that's the worst thing you could do. 199 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:04,240 Speaker 1: Because I'm leaving proof of this is working out. He 200 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:07,960 Speaker 1: is so responsible and I'm grateful every time if someone 201 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:12,200 Speaker 1: asks me, how are you doing, chick's I feel at peace, 202 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:14,480 Speaker 1: like I don't worry about him. He communicates. He was 203 00:10:14,520 --> 00:10:16,080 Speaker 1: just like, hey, I don't want you to worry. Here's 204 00:10:16,120 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 1: my location. On his own. I was like, are you sure, 205 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:21,320 Speaker 1: Like I don't want you to feel like. He's like, no, no, no, 206 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:22,840 Speaker 1: I want to give you this. I want to give 207 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:24,679 Speaker 1: that to you because I don't want you to feel 208 00:10:25,160 --> 00:10:26,960 Speaker 1: like I want you to know where I'm at. And 209 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:28,440 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, At first it was a little weird. 210 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 1: I was like, what does that mean I have to 211 00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:31,320 Speaker 1: share my location? He's like, no, I'm not saying that. 212 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 1: You do whatever you want. This is what I want 213 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 1: to do. I was like, what, He's just so different, 214 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:45,520 Speaker 1: you guys, Emilio. Have you ever did anyone older? I 215 00:10:45,520 --> 00:10:48,200 Speaker 1: have not did anyone older? Okay, how do you feel 216 00:10:48,200 --> 00:10:50,880 Speaker 1: about that? Like, to me, it just I don't know, 217 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:55,160 Speaker 1: it doesn't really matter because I don't really look at 218 00:10:55,160 --> 00:10:57,439 Speaker 1: age like that. Like I said, I forget that you're 219 00:10:57,440 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 1: seven years older than me because we just five and 220 00:10:59,440 --> 00:11:02,360 Speaker 1: we we have so much fun together. It's like, I 221 00:11:02,360 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 1: don't think about those kind of things. Do you feel, like, 222 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:08,880 Speaker 1: for sure like agents of them, but a number in 223 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:12,280 Speaker 1: most cases? Right, obviously we're not you know what I mean, 224 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:15,560 Speaker 1: be over eighteen? Yeah, we're not like twenty years apart 225 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 1: from each other, you know, Like that's so drastic. Yeah. 226 00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:21,040 Speaker 1: And my mom dated the love of her life was 227 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 1: ten almost eleven years younger than her, and that was 228 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:27,320 Speaker 1: like the love of her life. So that's I was like, well, 229 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:29,320 Speaker 1: my mom did it. I guess it's all right, you know. 230 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:31,280 Speaker 1: But now I'm like, okay, I'm experience I'm not thinking 231 00:11:31,280 --> 00:11:32,760 Speaker 1: about it that much. I'm like, I'm not gonna let 232 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 1: it bother me. I think it's all about taking it 233 00:11:35,480 --> 00:11:38,760 Speaker 1: day by day. And the funny thing is, guys, I'll 234 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:41,360 Speaker 1: tell you a little funny story. So we went out 235 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:45,040 Speaker 1: the other night and we ran into his ex girlfriend. 236 00:11:45,040 --> 00:11:48,920 Speaker 1: This is the second ex girlfriend of Emilio's that we 237 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:52,319 Speaker 1: run into. Okay, I think the first one was like 238 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:54,960 Speaker 1: I don't know, three weeks in, babe was it was 239 00:11:55,040 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 1: very early, very early on. And we went on date 240 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:01,800 Speaker 1: night the other day and we ran into his most 241 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:03,960 Speaker 1: recent ex girlfriend, who had he had been with on 242 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:06,800 Speaker 1: and off for what three years? And I was like, 243 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 1: what the heck? Like that, I think more than anything, 244 00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:11,800 Speaker 1: was like, oh, my t doesn't really have a type, 245 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:15,040 Speaker 1: Like I'm very different from these girls. Then that started 246 00:12:15,040 --> 00:12:16,920 Speaker 1: coming in to play. I'm like, Okay, are you sure 247 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:19,440 Speaker 1: I'm your type? Because it's very different. The two girls 248 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:20,880 Speaker 1: that I've seen are very different from me, and they're 249 00:12:20,920 --> 00:12:23,559 Speaker 1: different from each other. But anyways, the reason I'm bringing 250 00:12:23,559 --> 00:12:25,800 Speaker 1: that up is because that's why I believe him when 251 00:12:25,840 --> 00:12:27,559 Speaker 1: he says that the age does not bother him and 252 00:12:27,600 --> 00:12:30,480 Speaker 1: he does not think about it at all, because He's like, 253 00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:32,400 Speaker 1: I just vibe. If I vibe with the person, it 254 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:35,679 Speaker 1: doesn't matter. That also makes me feel better as far 255 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:40,040 Speaker 1: as like age goes, and I feel like part of 256 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 1: the topic of talking about age comes from like sexual 257 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:46,800 Speaker 1: attraction as well. M M. In the beginning, you probably 258 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:50,319 Speaker 1: had your doubts. But a year later, I know you're 259 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:53,200 Speaker 1: a lot more confident in that you know that what 260 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 1: I say, I mean, like the age doesn't matter. I'm 261 00:12:57,240 --> 00:13:00,280 Speaker 1: extremely attracted to you in every sort of way, and 262 00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:03,120 Speaker 1: I don't feel like we lack anything in any of 263 00:13:03,120 --> 00:13:07,079 Speaker 1: those areas. You want to talk about sex, let's talk 264 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:12,920 Speaker 1: about sex, baby, Well, no, that that I can attest to. 265 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:17,760 Speaker 1: Like for sure, you you do make me feel very confident, 266 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:21,520 Speaker 1: very secure, very sexy. Like it's just his hands are 267 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:24,319 Speaker 1: on me all the time, and even when we're like 268 00:13:24,559 --> 00:13:27,200 Speaker 1: in bed, you know, doing our thing. Thank there's certain 269 00:13:27,240 --> 00:13:28,679 Speaker 1: things that I say that I'm just like, you know, 270 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:30,480 Speaker 1: I can't repeat here because it's a little too much, 271 00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:33,520 Speaker 1: but it comes up. The age thing comes up during 272 00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:36,240 Speaker 1: you know, the nasty nasty because I think it's just cute, 273 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:38,040 Speaker 1: you know, But I know you guys want to know 274 00:13:38,120 --> 00:13:39,960 Speaker 1: what I say. But I'm going to tell you, Okay, 275 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:42,920 Speaker 1: there's certain things I have to keep right. Bit Okay, 276 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:45,640 Speaker 1: I know you're not used to it. Everyone. I think 277 00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:48,720 Speaker 1: what you say it was funny. It's funny to me. 278 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:51,120 Speaker 1: I'm like I because I don't think of it like that. 279 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:54,679 Speaker 1: But it's funny that you think of thinking sex interesting, 280 00:13:55,200 --> 00:13:59,319 Speaker 1: like what, come on? Say it? What do I say? Now? 281 00:13:59,360 --> 00:14:05,439 Speaker 1: You gotta say that? No, Emilio, I just said fucking 282 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:07,600 Speaker 1: a whole bunch of times. Yes, this is my podcast, 283 00:14:07,600 --> 00:14:13,080 Speaker 1: this is our safe space. I don't think it's pretty 284 00:14:13,120 --> 00:14:19,280 Speaker 1: bigger it is. Yeah, m okay, she just likes that young. Yeah, 285 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:24,120 Speaker 1: she likes that young. Yeah, he's energetic. Guys. We're good. 286 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:27,640 Speaker 1: We're chilling, you know. And on Valentine's a guys, for 287 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:30,000 Speaker 1: those of you that heard that podcast, you know what 288 00:14:30,040 --> 00:14:32,960 Speaker 1: I'm talking about. If not, go listen to it. Dr Vietnam. 289 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:35,120 Speaker 1: We spoke about sex and all that stuff, and me 290 00:14:35,200 --> 00:14:37,920 Speaker 1: initiating a little bit more because I just feel like 291 00:14:38,040 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 1: he wants me all the time. I don't I don't 292 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:43,480 Speaker 1: necessarily have to initiate, but I've been taking her advice 293 00:14:43,800 --> 00:14:48,160 Speaker 1: and I've been initiating. I have. Aren't you happy about that? 294 00:14:49,640 --> 00:14:52,120 Speaker 1: And I said on that episode that I was going 295 00:14:52,160 --> 00:14:55,360 Speaker 1: to do something sexy, and I did. I wore something sexy. 296 00:14:56,360 --> 00:15:00,800 Speaker 1: I'm initiating round of applause for me. Thank you so much, 297 00:15:00,840 --> 00:15:03,760 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you, thank you. But we don't have 298 00:15:03,800 --> 00:15:06,640 Speaker 1: a problem in that area, Thank goodness, we really don't. 299 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:09,120 Speaker 1: I think sometimes as women we get in our head 300 00:15:09,200 --> 00:15:11,400 Speaker 1: and we all have these insecurities. I mean, I think 301 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:13,640 Speaker 1: just being a woman is difficult. I enjoy being a woman, 302 00:15:13,680 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 1: but there are things that you know, our body starts changing, 303 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 1: Like I feel very young, but I'm like, okay, internally 304 00:15:20,160 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 1: my clock is ticking as far as like having children 305 00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:25,320 Speaker 1: and all these things. Thank goodness that we're able to 306 00:15:25,400 --> 00:15:27,880 Speaker 1: freeze our eggs because I'm not entirely ready. And I 307 00:15:27,880 --> 00:15:30,000 Speaker 1: think him and I are both on that page, on 308 00:15:30,040 --> 00:15:31,760 Speaker 1: the same page. Like I've never felt like I want 309 00:15:31,760 --> 00:15:33,640 Speaker 1: to have kids with anyone else as much as I 310 00:15:33,640 --> 00:15:37,560 Speaker 1: want to with him. He makes me feel very secure 311 00:15:37,600 --> 00:15:39,600 Speaker 1: in that area, like he'd be a great father and 312 00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 1: a great person to have a child with. But I 313 00:15:42,040 --> 00:15:45,000 Speaker 1: just kind of still want to enjoy my relationship with him, 314 00:15:45,040 --> 00:15:47,320 Speaker 1: so that's the only thing for me. It's like, Okay, well, 315 00:15:47,320 --> 00:15:49,680 Speaker 1: I'm thirty six, I haven't had kids. He wants kids, 316 00:15:49,680 --> 00:15:51,760 Speaker 1: Like what if I never want to have kids? Like 317 00:15:51,800 --> 00:15:53,600 Speaker 1: I always ask them, like what if I can't Let's 318 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:54,960 Speaker 1: just say what if I can't be what if I 319 00:15:54,960 --> 00:15:56,760 Speaker 1: can have kids? Are you gonna be okay with that? 320 00:15:57,800 --> 00:16:00,360 Speaker 1: I would say, this is like the only time MIGHT 321 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 1: actually have to think about your age is when it 322 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:08,040 Speaker 1: comes to kids, because I mean, just to be healthy 323 00:16:08,120 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 1: and safe and do it the right way, and you know, 324 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:13,280 Speaker 1: like I have to think about that, you know, So 325 00:16:14,400 --> 00:16:16,920 Speaker 1: that's probably the only time I really do think about 326 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:20,600 Speaker 1: the age. Like I have this like gap of a 327 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:24,080 Speaker 1: window that I feel like, if we are going to it, 328 00:16:24,080 --> 00:16:25,840 Speaker 1: it's going to have to be in that gap right there. 329 00:16:26,280 --> 00:16:32,000 Speaker 1: When's the gap? Honestly, like three or four years? All right, 330 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:34,960 Speaker 1: that's cool, I could do that. I'm just enjoying our 331 00:16:35,000 --> 00:16:38,960 Speaker 1: relationships so much. We do a lot together. I feel 332 00:16:39,000 --> 00:16:41,440 Speaker 1: like I raised kids most of my life. That that's 333 00:16:41,480 --> 00:16:43,680 Speaker 1: why I'm like, I've thought about something we haven't even 334 00:16:43,680 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 1: talked about. But like, if I'm not able to give 335 00:16:45,280 --> 00:16:48,640 Speaker 1: you that for whatever reason, it's gonna bother me because 336 00:16:48,680 --> 00:16:50,760 Speaker 1: I feel like I shouldn't take that from you, you 337 00:16:50,800 --> 00:16:51,920 Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like I don't want to take 338 00:16:51,920 --> 00:16:54,080 Speaker 1: that from you. Because you're younger. You can find someone 339 00:16:54,120 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 1: that wants to have children that you know what I mean. 340 00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:58,640 Speaker 1: As far as I'm concerned, I have eggs. I just checked. 341 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: We're good. You know. It's not like I won't have 342 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:03,360 Speaker 1: them or I can't or I'm infertil Thank goodness, I'm not. 343 00:17:03,720 --> 00:17:06,159 Speaker 1: It's just really a time thing, you know. And I 344 00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:07,840 Speaker 1: don't want to feel pressure to do that, which is 345 00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:11,320 Speaker 1: why I do recommend ladies to get your eggs frozen 346 00:17:11,520 --> 00:17:14,320 Speaker 1: as soon as possible. The sooner the better. The younger 347 00:17:14,359 --> 00:17:17,320 Speaker 1: you are, the better so that you don't feel that pressure. 348 00:17:17,359 --> 00:17:19,720 Speaker 1: But I don't want to take that from you. Yeah, 349 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:21,560 Speaker 1: I also don't want to put that pressure on you either. 350 00:17:21,640 --> 00:17:24,560 Speaker 1: Like I've told you before, we can go through every 351 00:17:24,560 --> 00:17:28,399 Speaker 1: single option and every single process to make it happen. 352 00:17:28,880 --> 00:17:30,720 Speaker 1: And at the end of the day, if we tried 353 00:17:30,720 --> 00:17:35,600 Speaker 1: our hardest and it doesn't happen, I'm okay with that. Really. Yeah, 354 00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:39,440 Speaker 1: I want you to know that. Wow, okay, well, time 355 00:17:39,440 --> 00:17:44,679 Speaker 1: will tell and thank you. My producer actually is asking 356 00:17:44,720 --> 00:17:46,960 Speaker 1: me to ask to say something. Her name is Brianna. 357 00:17:47,560 --> 00:17:50,760 Speaker 1: She wants to know do I find myself teaching immedial 358 00:17:50,840 --> 00:17:54,800 Speaker 1: things in the bedroom. Absolutely not. Oh me, it almost 359 00:17:54,840 --> 00:17:58,080 Speaker 1: choked on her coffee over here. I'm not even joking, 360 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:00,200 Speaker 1: you guys. This is the comment we were talking talking 361 00:18:00,200 --> 00:18:05,359 Speaker 1: about earlier. That's why there's nothing to teach like. It's 362 00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:08,960 Speaker 1: just every button that I have is has been pressed, 363 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:13,040 Speaker 1: and it's pressed and I have no issue there, thank God. 364 00:18:13,359 --> 00:18:16,679 Speaker 1: And I feel the most wanted and sexiest I have 365 00:18:16,880 --> 00:18:19,560 Speaker 1: ever fucking felt in my life. And I think that's 366 00:18:19,560 --> 00:18:22,960 Speaker 1: why my mom was so in love with Fernie, her boyfriend, 367 00:18:22,960 --> 00:18:25,119 Speaker 1: her soulmate that was ten years younger than her, because 368 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:26,720 Speaker 1: she's like, he made me a woman. He gave me 369 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:29,520 Speaker 1: my first orgasm, That's what she said. So I'm like, 370 00:18:29,960 --> 00:18:35,480 Speaker 1: I kid, your mama, Mama, I feel you. Um imagine 371 00:18:35,520 --> 00:18:37,480 Speaker 1: your mom listens to She's like, yeah, that's my boy. 372 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:40,720 Speaker 1: See that's gonna be like hell yeah, oh my god, 373 00:18:41,080 --> 00:18:44,520 Speaker 1: you guys. Emilio is the is an only child. That's 374 00:18:44,560 --> 00:18:46,359 Speaker 1: another thing, Like, I don't think he would want to 375 00:18:46,359 --> 00:18:49,440 Speaker 1: have just one kid. He would want to write. Isn't 376 00:18:49,440 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 1: that what we said before? Now? Or am I tripping? 377 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:53,880 Speaker 1: I don't know. Honestly. We have two dogs and it's 378 00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:57,600 Speaker 1: kind of hard to like share that love twice. You know, 379 00:18:57,840 --> 00:19:00,199 Speaker 1: I think one kid for us to be I think, 380 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:02,600 Speaker 1: if if I think it fits our store, you had 381 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:05,080 Speaker 1: a pretty good life. I had a very good life. 382 00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:07,520 Speaker 1: You had your your you know, Emma, which is his grandma. 383 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:10,080 Speaker 1: I love his family, you guys, his theaz They're all awesome. 384 00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:13,080 Speaker 1: They all helped raise him. So anyways, that's another thing. 385 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:15,720 Speaker 1: It's just a bonus to know that his family is 386 00:19:15,800 --> 00:19:18,239 Speaker 1: just They're awesome. I can drink with them. We dance him, 387 00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 1: his mom and I get down on the dance floor. 388 00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:24,200 Speaker 1: I'll share the video maybe one day, maybe one day. 389 00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 1: But anyways, talking about freezing your eggs, you guys, time 390 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 1: is of the essence, that clock is ticking, like all 391 00:19:29,119 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 1: those things that are just difficult, I think for most 392 00:19:32,640 --> 00:19:34,760 Speaker 1: women to talk about. I am here. I feel you. 393 00:19:35,119 --> 00:19:37,960 Speaker 1: And if you have not heard my episode on freezing 394 00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:41,160 Speaker 1: your eggs, I have an episode here on Chick's and Chill, 395 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:43,480 Speaker 1: so you guys, you know, check it out, listen to it. 396 00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:53,399 Speaker 1: Now that we're talking about Emilio's family, I want to 397 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:55,120 Speaker 1: share story. I don't know if I shared it. I'm 398 00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:56,760 Speaker 1: not sure if I shared it. In the last episode 399 00:19:56,800 --> 00:19:58,399 Speaker 1: when We had a media on very early, and I 400 00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:01,560 Speaker 1: think it was the first or second. But when I 401 00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:03,600 Speaker 1: met his mom for the first time, we went to 402 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:06,800 Speaker 1: lack on This and that's in Santa Monica here in 403 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:10,399 Speaker 1: l A. And we met and she was very quiet 404 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:12,600 Speaker 1: at first, and then I saw that she had ordered 405 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:14,280 Speaker 1: an alcoholic beverage and I said, I was shoe, okay, 406 00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:16,720 Speaker 1: this is awesome, order one too, started drinking a little bit, 407 00:20:16,880 --> 00:20:18,399 Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, she looks at me 408 00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:21,399 Speaker 1: and she's like, okay, so what are your intentions with 409 00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:23,520 Speaker 1: my son since you are older than him? And I 410 00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:26,080 Speaker 1: was like, oh fuck, and then she just started laughing. 411 00:20:26,119 --> 00:20:28,160 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, thank goodness. Like I 412 00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:30,080 Speaker 1: was like, I've never been asked that question because I've 413 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:33,800 Speaker 1: never dated anyone younger than me. But I told I 414 00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:36,760 Speaker 1: think my grandma. I didn't really talk to her too much, 415 00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:39,359 Speaker 1: honestly about the media. I didn't have the chance before 416 00:20:39,840 --> 00:20:42,000 Speaker 1: things got weird in our family. But I did speak 417 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:44,480 Speaker 1: to Jennica, who, as you guys know, is like my 418 00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:47,199 Speaker 1: best friend, my sister Jennica, and I told her, I 419 00:20:47,200 --> 00:20:48,560 Speaker 1: was like, I'm a little worried. She's like, you're thinking 420 00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:52,160 Speaker 1: about it way too much, Like he's very mature. He's chill, like, 421 00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:54,880 Speaker 1: you need to stop. That's going to get old if 422 00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:56,920 Speaker 1: you think about it way too much, like you're gonna 423 00:20:57,000 --> 00:20:58,600 Speaker 1: call that upon your life. And I'm like, oh my god, 424 00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 1: you're right, I should know better. So I think everyone's 425 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:04,879 Speaker 1: reaction on my end was pretty cool. My brother Mikey 426 00:21:05,119 --> 00:21:07,800 Speaker 1: is a year older than Emilio. Mikey just turned thirty, 427 00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:10,159 Speaker 1: so at first he was kind of like he was 428 00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:13,280 Speaker 1: there at the party, at Becky's party, and I think 429 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 1: Camilio accidentally dropped a beer on him. I still don't 430 00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:20,600 Speaker 1: believe that right, that whole thing. So Mikey was like, 431 00:21:20,840 --> 00:21:23,160 Speaker 1: what's up, and now you're dating the guy that dropped 432 00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:24,560 Speaker 1: the beer on me? And I'm like he was an 433 00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:26,240 Speaker 1: Actually He's like no, no, I know it's cool. It's cool, 434 00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:28,040 Speaker 1: but you know, I'm gonna like see what's up with him? 435 00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:29,480 Speaker 1: Like he was trying to be off tough because he's 436 00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:31,800 Speaker 1: like a year older. I was like, Mikey called me 437 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:35,960 Speaker 1: your ass down, I'm a grown as woman, chill. But 438 00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:38,040 Speaker 1: now they love each other. Now they're cool. My Johnny 439 00:21:38,080 --> 00:21:40,560 Speaker 1: loves him. Johnny is really cool. They talk a lot. 440 00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:43,879 Speaker 1: That makes me so happy, like and Emilio really tries 441 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:46,480 Speaker 1: like Emilio not like, oh my god, like over the top, 442 00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:49,240 Speaker 1: but he's he's cool, like he initiates conversations with my brothers, 443 00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:51,119 Speaker 1: like he tries. He's not like just like well whatever, 444 00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:52,920 Speaker 1: you know, it doesn't matter, I don't care. He knows 445 00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:55,040 Speaker 1: how important they are to me, and it just it 446 00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:57,199 Speaker 1: feels good to know that we're all chilling. Jackie. My 447 00:21:57,240 --> 00:22:00,119 Speaker 1: sister loves him, you know. She like, he's so cute. 448 00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:01,800 Speaker 1: I love his dimples. Oh my god, his eyes said, 449 00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:04,480 Speaker 1: you guys would have cute babies. She's all about it. 450 00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:06,720 Speaker 1: But what about your family? Did they ever tell you 451 00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:11,000 Speaker 1: anything about our age difference? No? Actually, I feel like 452 00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:12,960 Speaker 1: when it comes to like my friends and even my family, 453 00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:17,159 Speaker 1: like we're very We're very tight, you know, because with 454 00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:19,640 Speaker 1: my mom, I feel like I know she trust me, 455 00:22:20,240 --> 00:22:24,439 Speaker 1: so it doesn't matter what I bring because they have 456 00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:26,560 Speaker 1: a confidence in me that I'm like, I wouldn't make 457 00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:30,520 Speaker 1: any decisions that would be bad or hurt me in 458 00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:33,160 Speaker 1: a shorter way. So I feel like after they met you, 459 00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:35,920 Speaker 1: you know, they loved you interestantly. So I feel like 460 00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:38,119 Speaker 1: my mom making that joke of like, well you are 461 00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:41,080 Speaker 1: older than him. That's like just to break the ice. Yeah, 462 00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:43,679 Speaker 1: it's like something funny I will say to like, welcome me. 463 00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:46,880 Speaker 1: She's funny, she really does. She really does joke a lot. 464 00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:49,240 Speaker 1: But okay, so none of your friends ever said, like 465 00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:51,439 Speaker 1: day that that goes way too thick for you or 466 00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:52,879 Speaker 1: that goes wait, are you sure you want to be 467 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:56,159 Speaker 1: like with that girl? She's like older never never, not once, 468 00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:58,840 Speaker 1: not one person because I mean, I get along with 469 00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:01,040 Speaker 1: his friends. His friends are dope because they also see 470 00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,880 Speaker 1: how happy I was. Everyone was like, I've never seen 471 00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:06,720 Speaker 1: you this happy before, so there was no worries there 472 00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:09,159 Speaker 1: for me. All right, that makes me really happy. So 473 00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:13,240 Speaker 1: now I have a very important question. Are you ready, 474 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:20,919 Speaker 1: Emilio Sanchez? Are you pussy? Whooped? You know what? I 475 00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:25,440 Speaker 1: don't even care. I don't care. I love it too, 476 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:30,920 Speaker 1: Oh my god. But it's not just that, right, It's 477 00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:34,480 Speaker 1: not just infatuation. Yeah, no, it's I mean it is, 478 00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:37,680 Speaker 1: but with everything, not just sexually, Like I want to 479 00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:40,240 Speaker 1: be with you every day because I just I feel 480 00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:42,440 Speaker 1: so comfortable around you. I feel like everything is cool. 481 00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 1: You comfort me, we comfort each other. We're chill. One 482 00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:47,920 Speaker 1: of his friends said something super cool the other day. 483 00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:50,520 Speaker 1: That made me happy, like because I'm just me, you know, 484 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:53,720 Speaker 1: and his friends have all been super dope. We've had 485 00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:55,920 Speaker 1: great times, great dinners. And one of his friends was like, yeah, 486 00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:57,600 Speaker 1: Jeanne can come to the birthday party. She was like 487 00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:59,359 Speaker 1: one of the guys. I was like, Oh, that's tight. 488 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:01,920 Speaker 1: Like that made me so happy. I'm like, okay, cool. 489 00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:05,240 Speaker 1: Like I think we we are very very compatible. We 490 00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:07,880 Speaker 1: have great communication. And the best advice can give any 491 00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:10,480 Speaker 1: of you out there that are in a relationship or 492 00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:14,359 Speaker 1: starting a relationship, or haven't found that person but is waiting. 493 00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:18,160 Speaker 1: I think that laying things out in the very beginning 494 00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:20,960 Speaker 1: doesn't matter how old you are. It's just knowing what 495 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:23,520 Speaker 1: you want going in and being honest. If what you 496 00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:25,800 Speaker 1: wanna do is just have a good time and funk 497 00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:27,800 Speaker 1: around that you say that in the beginning. If you 498 00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:29,840 Speaker 1: want something a little bit more serious, like we're like, okay, 499 00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:32,000 Speaker 1: are we going to date exclusively? We asked that question 500 00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:34,359 Speaker 1: early on and I'm like, yeah, I'm down. He says, Okay, 501 00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:36,360 Speaker 1: me too. Cool. Get that out of the way. Let 502 00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:39,399 Speaker 1: things flow. But it's always important to communicate and be 503 00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:41,720 Speaker 1: honest from the very beginning. There are things and hard 504 00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:44,040 Speaker 1: conversations that I'm Melia and I have had to have 505 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:46,520 Speaker 1: where I don't want to hide anything from him, Like 506 00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:50,080 Speaker 1: I don't want to taint our relationship. I don't want 507 00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:53,520 Speaker 1: to contaminate it with lies, even if he'll never find out, 508 00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:55,280 Speaker 1: there are things that I'm like, Emilio, I need you 509 00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:56,920 Speaker 1: to know this, this happened, and I have to face 510 00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:58,520 Speaker 1: the music. And if he gets upset, he gets upset, 511 00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:01,440 Speaker 1: I have to understand that we've had those conversations. He's 512 00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:04,440 Speaker 1: also very honest with me. Um. I think that's why 513 00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:07,199 Speaker 1: it's worked. So the age hasn't really gotten in the 514 00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:10,160 Speaker 1: way because we both walked in knowing what we want, 515 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:15,240 Speaker 1: what we deserve, what we won't tolerate. We were very 516 00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:18,360 Speaker 1: on the same page with that. So yeah, I don't 517 00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:20,480 Speaker 1: know if you agree, Babe. Yeah, no, I was gonna 518 00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,040 Speaker 1: say that it never bothered me the age, but in 519 00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:25,000 Speaker 1: the beginning, I remember you, you know, I'm like I 520 00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:28,639 Speaker 1: was twenty eight actually when I met you, so I 521 00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:30,280 Speaker 1: can tell and I saw that it was something that 522 00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:33,719 Speaker 1: you were worried about. So for me or one thing 523 00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:35,200 Speaker 1: you said, it was like, Okay, how do you know 524 00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:37,560 Speaker 1: that you're gonna want something different in a year, in 525 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:41,199 Speaker 1: five years and ten years, and I knew what I 526 00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:43,560 Speaker 1: wanted a year ago, you know, I was very confident. 527 00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:44,960 Speaker 1: So it's like, all I need to do is just 528 00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:49,119 Speaker 1: stay consistent with that. That's the word consistency. Yeah, and 529 00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:51,960 Speaker 1: a year later, I want you and love you more 530 00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:55,359 Speaker 1: than I ever have, you know, And it's like to me, 531 00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:58,280 Speaker 1: it erases those insecurities of like, well, what's gonna happen, 532 00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:01,000 Speaker 1: Like we can't really worry about that, and as long 533 00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:05,720 Speaker 1: as you're consistent and you know, yeah, that's something he 534 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:08,760 Speaker 1: definitely is. He's consistent. And if there's something that we 535 00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:12,119 Speaker 1: both like to do, is if we're falling off track 536 00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:14,679 Speaker 1: or one of us is getting too comfortable, we're like, hey, 537 00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:17,240 Speaker 1: you're not doing what you were doing that made me 538 00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:19,480 Speaker 1: fall in love with you. And I'm telling you, communication 539 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:24,200 Speaker 1: is key and giving love doing those cute things even randomly, 540 00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:26,600 Speaker 1: like it's only been a year, yes, you guys, but 541 00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:29,359 Speaker 1: he's been pretty good with it. So I'm just hoping 542 00:26:29,359 --> 00:26:30,960 Speaker 1: and praying that it stays that way. And I also 543 00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:32,760 Speaker 1: have to do my part. It's not just the guy. 544 00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:37,199 Speaker 1: I'm very very adamant and intentional. There's that word That's 545 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,000 Speaker 1: one of my favorite words is you guys know intentional 546 00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:41,800 Speaker 1: about doing things and not feeling like, oh, the guy 547 00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:44,240 Speaker 1: has to always pursue me. Like we also have that 548 00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:47,920 Speaker 1: responsibility of pursuing and making our man feel wanted and 549 00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:51,640 Speaker 1: loved and handsome and all that stuff, you know, So 550 00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:53,720 Speaker 1: you just kind of know that you're ready. You're ready 551 00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:56,040 Speaker 1: to be in a relationship and you want the same 552 00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:57,960 Speaker 1: thing at the end of the day. And the best 553 00:26:57,960 --> 00:27:00,399 Speaker 1: advice that I can give anyone out there that is 554 00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:03,240 Speaker 1: thinking about dating someone or has stopped themselves from dating 555 00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:05,680 Speaker 1: someone because they're younger than them are way too old, 556 00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:08,920 Speaker 1: you know what, don't let that bother you. Like I 557 00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:11,800 Speaker 1: have been watching Love is Blind and it's crazy, and 558 00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:13,399 Speaker 1: that's what it should be like, where you get to 559 00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:16,840 Speaker 1: know the person without really Like, yes, physical attraction is important, 560 00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:19,280 Speaker 1: I totally get that, but it's like, how compatible are 561 00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:21,760 Speaker 1: you guys on a mental level, on an emotional level, 562 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,200 Speaker 1: on a spiritual level, Like those things are gonna is 563 00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:26,679 Speaker 1: what's going to last forever if you guys have the 564 00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:30,240 Speaker 1: same morals, you know, So don't just xanay something because 565 00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,960 Speaker 1: oh he's way too young. Like I'm telling you, I 566 00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:35,119 Speaker 1: never thought that I was going to date someone younger. 567 00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:37,880 Speaker 1: It has made me a more confident woman. It's made 568 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:41,400 Speaker 1: me just want to look better every day, feel better, 569 00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:44,439 Speaker 1: like take care of myself. It's helped me personally as well. 570 00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:46,879 Speaker 1: I've never been a woman to just be comfortable, like 571 00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:48,479 Speaker 1: I've always wanted to look good for my man, you know. 572 00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:50,639 Speaker 1: But I'm saying, like he's younger than me. So in 573 00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:52,720 Speaker 1: the beginning I did think about, oh my god, I'm 574 00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:55,280 Speaker 1: seven freaking years older. But the I'm like, wait, like 575 00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:57,399 Speaker 1: I take care of myself, like I don't look my 576 00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:00,520 Speaker 1: age like it's just keep doing that. And he does 577 00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:02,159 Speaker 1: all these fun things that I like, we're gonna go 578 00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:05,080 Speaker 1: to Yosemite, you guys, Like we're gonna go hiking and ship. 579 00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:07,480 Speaker 1: Like I'm kind of like, yeah, like I've been wanting 580 00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:09,560 Speaker 1: to do something like this, so I'm excited. I mean, 581 00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:12,360 Speaker 1: it's just looking at it in a positive way and 582 00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:16,119 Speaker 1: really knowing if you have a sole connection with someone, 583 00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:20,280 Speaker 1: fuck all this, if it's socially accepted, f all that. 584 00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:24,719 Speaker 1: It's about you, guys, it's a relationship. Okay. So that's 585 00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:27,280 Speaker 1: the best advice. I don't know, do you have some advice, baby, Yeah, well, 586 00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:30,879 Speaker 1: I mean I was just gonna say about the connection part, Like, yes, 587 00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:35,840 Speaker 1: we have connection sexually and all that, but like sometimes 588 00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:39,480 Speaker 1: we connect even more when we have like our deep conversations, 589 00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:42,240 Speaker 1: and I feel a part, you know, like sometimes that 590 00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:45,520 Speaker 1: gives us all the energy and confidence, reassurance, everything. Like 591 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,200 Speaker 1: we connect on such a high level during our conversations. 592 00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:51,320 Speaker 1: I think that's been our strongest thing since the beginning, 593 00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:54,920 Speaker 1: is our communication. It's the thing on most problems of 594 00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:58,960 Speaker 1: our relationship. You're so right, you give me freaking horny 595 00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:01,360 Speaker 1: by like conversation that we've had where I'm like, he's 596 00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:03,840 Speaker 1: just so fucking wise, and sometimes I stay quiet and 597 00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:05,720 Speaker 1: you know, I can talk. I have a podcast, you guys, 598 00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:07,840 Speaker 1: I could talk, and there's times when he could just 599 00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:10,760 Speaker 1: talk to me and put things into perspective without me 600 00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:12,840 Speaker 1: having to say a word, and I'm just like, fun, Yeah, 601 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:15,320 Speaker 1: this is why I love you. Yes, Like come give 602 00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:17,040 Speaker 1: it to me, you know what I mean. Like that's 603 00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:19,680 Speaker 1: how I feel because of the communication and the fact 604 00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:22,960 Speaker 1: that he's just so wise. And I'm telling you, like therapy, 605 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:27,320 Speaker 1: you guys, know, therapy in general, it is so important. Yeah, 606 00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:31,200 Speaker 1: I want to say something about therapy. Actually, coming from 607 00:29:31,560 --> 00:29:33,280 Speaker 1: the way I grew up, you know, therapy was always 608 00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:35,880 Speaker 1: kind of not found upon, but it's not the macho 609 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:38,800 Speaker 1: thing to do, you know, especially for a for a male. 610 00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:41,560 Speaker 1: But I've been in it since I was eighteen years 611 00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:45,600 Speaker 1: old and it's helped me so much. And before I 612 00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:47,760 Speaker 1: got with you, I was out of it for like 613 00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:52,880 Speaker 1: a year. And when we first started dating, I had 614 00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:56,120 Speaker 1: the urge to get back in it because before we 615 00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:59,680 Speaker 1: had any sort of problems or conference deep conversations or 616 00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:02,000 Speaker 1: anything like that, I wanted to make sure that I 617 00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:03,959 Speaker 1: was good on my end, to be able to at 618 00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:05,800 Speaker 1: least be the best version that I can be that 619 00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:09,320 Speaker 1: day for you and for our relationship. It's maintenance. There 620 00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:11,320 Speaker 1: may not be something wrong, but as long as I'm 621 00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:13,880 Speaker 1: keeping you know, the wheels grease like, we're going to 622 00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:18,160 Speaker 1: be smoother than like jumping into therapy when things are 623 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:22,520 Speaker 1: already crazy, you know, right right? Absolutely, see you guys, 624 00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 1: you guys, see why Oh anyways, that's just a little 625 00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:28,920 Speaker 1: bit of him. You know, I don't want to share 626 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:38,800 Speaker 1: him too much. Nolove. Well, you guys. I wish we 627 00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:41,400 Speaker 1: could spend more time talking about this, but we have 628 00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:43,960 Speaker 1: to run. As you guys, know I always give you 629 00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:46,160 Speaker 1: guys with a quote, a motivational quote because it is 630 00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:50,000 Speaker 1: Motivational Monday. So this week's quote is you can just 631 00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,479 Speaker 1: give up on someone because the situation is not ideal. 632 00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:56,320 Speaker 1: Great relationships aren't great because they have no problems. They're 633 00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:59,440 Speaker 1: great because both people care enough about the other person 634 00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:02,400 Speaker 1: to find a way to make it work. So that 635 00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:05,040 Speaker 1: is a quote. Thank you, guys again for listening in 636 00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:11,640 Speaker 1: on another episode of Chickens and Chill Como, Save Babe, 637 00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:14,440 Speaker 1: Say bye bye bye everyone. 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