1 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:05,720 Speaker 1: How do you feel about the age difference? Babe? 2 00:00:06,080 --> 00:00:10,360 Speaker 2: Honestly, I never think about it, and I forget a 3 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 2: lot of the times that there is a gapt She. 4 00:00:13,480 --> 00:00:15,360 Speaker 1: Looks at me and she's like, what are your intentions 5 00:00:15,400 --> 00:00:17,360 Speaker 1: with my son since you are older than him? And 6 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:19,120 Speaker 1: then she just started laughing. I was like, oh my god, 7 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: I've never been asked that question because I've never dated 8 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:22,640 Speaker 1: anyone younger than me. 9 00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:26,079 Speaker 2: I feel like part of talking about age comes from 10 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 2: like sexual attraction as well. A year later, I'm extremely 11 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 2: attractive to you, and I don't feel like we lack 12 00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 2: anything in any of those areas. 13 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:41,880 Speaker 1: Hey, guys, how are you as better? Because then Moivian, 14 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 1: I'm so happy to be here with all of you, 15 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:47,240 Speaker 1: So happy to be taping another episode of Cheeky's and Chill. 16 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:50,600 Speaker 1: If this is your first time listening to the pod, welcome, 17 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:54,240 Speaker 1: I'm your host, Cheeky. So today is an interesting one, 18 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:58,240 Speaker 1: an interesting topic, have an interesting guest that's going to 19 00:00:58,240 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: be joining us. We're going to be talking about relationship 20 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 1: age gaps. You guys, it's pretty common for men to 21 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:06,560 Speaker 1: be older than a woman, but what about when a 22 00:01:06,600 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 1: woman is older than a man. So that's what we're 23 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 1: going to be talking about grab your drink tequila. I'm 24 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:16,479 Speaker 1: having cafesito right now. I've had way too much tequila 25 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 1: the past few days, so I'm going to stick to 26 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:22,319 Speaker 1: water and coffee. Welcome to another episode of Cheeky's and Chill. 27 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 1: All right, So today we have, like I said, a 28 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 1: very special guest, my boyfriend, Emilio. Hi babe. Now, for 29 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 1: those of you who don't know, Emilio is actually younger 30 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 1: than I am by seven years. 31 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:44,520 Speaker 2: Oh you said the number. 32 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:47,319 Speaker 1: Yeah, I did say the number. Yeah, seven years. You guys, 33 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: seven years. I get a lot of questions about that, 34 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 1: and I get it. It's not something people normally talk about. 35 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 1: But really quick, before we dive into the topic, I 36 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:57,080 Speaker 1: want to give you guys a little background on how 37 00:01:57,120 --> 00:02:00,560 Speaker 1: we met. We talked about it before, but basically, I 38 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:04,920 Speaker 1: met Emilio last year March first, to be exact, and 39 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 1: we met him or I met him at Becky's birthday party. 40 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: I had met him before that, which was one bab 41 00:02:11,320 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 1: Do you remember Joline, Yes, yes, Joline, that's right. That 42 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:20,959 Speaker 1: was like May of twenty twenty. He took some pictures 43 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,160 Speaker 1: of me for the song with Becky. Gee Joline. So, 44 00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 1: Becky and Emiedio have known each other since they were little. 45 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 1: I don't know if in diapers. 46 00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:30,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, pretty much. 47 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:34,799 Speaker 1: They see each other like cousins. Anyway, So that was 48 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:36,960 Speaker 1: the first time I met him. And then on March first, 49 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:39,120 Speaker 1: he went to Becky's birthday party that we had for her, 50 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:41,920 Speaker 1: a surprise birthday party at my house, and he came 51 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:44,080 Speaker 1: and we just hit it off and we've been talking 52 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: since then. So that's a little background. I'm not going 53 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: to get into details because I feel like that's a 54 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:51,360 Speaker 1: whole other episode, because it was just really cute how 55 00:02:51,400 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 1: we met. 56 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:51,960 Speaker 2: You know. 57 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: I was like, I loved his dimples. I was like, 58 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 1: oh my god, I want to poke his little like dimples. 59 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 1: And he has like really nice eyeballs. It's exactly what 60 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:00,240 Speaker 1: I said the first time. I said, Wow, you have 61 00:03:00,320 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 1: very nice eyeballs. He's like eyeballs. I'm like, yeah, you do. Anyways, 62 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:07,240 Speaker 1: he's getting shy. He's getting shy. Okay, so that's out 63 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 1: of the way, So it should start off by saying 64 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 1: something that I've don't really talk about. You guys. I mean, 65 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 1: you know, it's twenty nine and I am thirty six. 66 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 1: I think for women. It's like this whole thing of like, 67 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:21,079 Speaker 1: don't ask age, like don't talk about ages, or don't 68 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:23,160 Speaker 1: talk about your age or ask their age like a woman. 69 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:25,560 Speaker 1: And you know what, I was thinking about it right now, 70 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:27,680 Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, fuck it, I am thirty six. 71 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:30,680 Speaker 1: I'm proud of being thirty six, proud of everything that 72 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: I've been able to accomplish at this age. I don't 73 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:36,640 Speaker 1: feel like I look thirty six. Should I always say 74 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 1: I'm like twenty eight? You know, I don't feel it. 75 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 1: I definitely don't feel it. So it's kind of crazy 76 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 1: to say it out loud because I'm like, oh, shoot, 77 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: like he's twenty nine. I never thought that I was 78 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:50,480 Speaker 1: going to date someone this much younger than I am, 79 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:53,119 Speaker 1: but it's worked out. I mean, we're going on a year. 80 00:03:53,680 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: How do you feel about the age difference, babe? Honestly? 81 00:03:56,360 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 1: Is it something you think about? 82 00:03:57,920 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 2: Honestly, I never think about it, and I forget a 83 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:05,280 Speaker 2: lot of the times that there is a gap because 84 00:04:05,320 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 2: it doesn't feel like it when we're together. 85 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 1: You know, I know, is it because I'm immature. 86 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:12,560 Speaker 2: It's because I'm more mature than my age, and you're 87 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:16,040 Speaker 2: immature at your age, So we meet right in the middle. 88 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 2: You know, we meet at like thirty two. 89 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 1: Okay, Yes, you are a lot more mature than a 90 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:25,640 Speaker 1: lot of guys your age, even guys that are older 91 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 1: than you. You are way more mature. I think it's 92 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:31,040 Speaker 1: because you've done therapy. You've been very like intentional about 93 00:04:31,040 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: that in your life, and that's one of the things 94 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: I love, and that helps out a lot. And I've 95 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:37,240 Speaker 1: done my share of like life coaching and therapy. And 96 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:39,880 Speaker 1: I think, like, I'm just like a free spirit, like 97 00:04:40,040 --> 00:04:42,280 Speaker 1: very young at heart. But then I like to call 98 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 1: myself like an old soul because I'm pretty wise. But 99 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:47,159 Speaker 1: I like to fuck around a lot, Like we mess 100 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 1: around a lot, like we laugh, we joke around, and 101 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:53,120 Speaker 1: I think it just keeps things light and happy. So 102 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:55,039 Speaker 1: maybe that's where you say, like we meet up like 103 00:04:55,080 --> 00:04:57,040 Speaker 1: at twenty, we meet up at twenty eight. I think, no, 104 00:04:57,120 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 1: twenty nine, thirty thirty, we meet up at thirty? All right? Cool? Okay, 105 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 1: So when him and I first met, did I ask 106 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:07,159 Speaker 1: your age then? That night? 107 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:09,440 Speaker 2: Well you went through my phone that night, so you 108 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:10,200 Speaker 2: probably asked me. 109 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:18,320 Speaker 1: What I did I did? Fulksica mind you we were buzzing, Okay, 110 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:20,680 Speaker 1: it was a really nice kickback for Becky, Like it 111 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 1: was super private, super intimate. So we were all just vibing. 112 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:27,480 Speaker 1: Like the energy that night was something I'll never forget. 113 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 1: So I just felt very comfortable with him. I felt like, dude, 114 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:33,240 Speaker 1: I can talk to this guy like I don't know. 115 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: We were laughing, like we just got along. So I 116 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: just I grabbed his phone. I was gonna put my 117 00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:41,360 Speaker 1: number in his phone because he hadn't asked. He's a 118 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 1: little bit more shy, but he is the first one 119 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:45,800 Speaker 1: that kissed me. You kissed me, you were a little shy. 120 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:48,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, I did kiss you. I kiss you right away. 121 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:50,919 Speaker 1: What'd you do? He followed me? 122 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:52,400 Speaker 2: You guys, I followed her. 123 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:53,839 Speaker 1: I was hoping he would follow me. 124 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 2: She set me up. I set you up, and I 125 00:05:57,240 --> 00:05:58,080 Speaker 2: fail for the trap. 126 00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:01,320 Speaker 1: Imagine if I would have been like, what are you doing? Yeah, 127 00:06:01,320 --> 00:06:03,359 Speaker 1: obviously we wouldn't be here, you know, but you know, 128 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 1: I was hoping that he would follow me and then 129 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 1: we could just like kiss in private, and that's exactly 130 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 1: what happened. But anyways, from there, we continue talking. We 131 00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 1: were like chilling. We went away from the party from 132 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:16,640 Speaker 1: everyone else, and I put my number in his phone. 133 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:19,559 Speaker 1: And I put baby with a purple heart. Oh my god, 134 00:06:19,640 --> 00:06:21,479 Speaker 1: I think about it. I'm like, what was I thinking? 135 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:24,720 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, folks me to the max yo and 136 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:25,880 Speaker 1: I was like looking, I was like, oh, do you 137 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:27,320 Speaker 1: have a girlfriend? How many girls you talk to? And 138 00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 1: this is that. I'm like, dude, that's not cute girls. 139 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:32,840 Speaker 1: I don't recommend you doing that. Emilia's just super chill 140 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 1: and like, now that we understand each other's personalities, it's 141 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 1: kind of like, I don't know. It must have been 142 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:40,920 Speaker 1: the alcohol, but it worked out like he didn't trip 143 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:46,600 Speaker 1: about it, but I wouldn't regularly recommend that, so at 144 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:48,800 Speaker 1: first it did worry me. There was some conversations once 145 00:06:48,839 --> 00:06:50,720 Speaker 1: I found out how old he was. I was kind 146 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:52,640 Speaker 1: of like, oh my goodness, I'm thirty six. Do we 147 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:55,280 Speaker 1: want the same things? Like we talked about do you 148 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:58,000 Speaker 1: want kids? And he's like, at first you had said. 149 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 2: I always knew I want kids in my life, but 150 00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:06,359 Speaker 2: I've never felt anywhere close to like ready for that. 151 00:07:06,960 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 1: Do you feel ready now? 152 00:07:08,320 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 2: Now? I do? Why Because now that it feels more achievable, 153 00:07:14,280 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 2: now that I have someone in my life who wants 154 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 2: the same things as me, I feel like I'm in 155 00:07:19,280 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 2: a safe place with you where it's like, Okay, if 156 00:07:21,520 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 2: we did this, we would do it together. And it's 157 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:28,040 Speaker 2: not like a fairy tale dream anymore. Now, it's like 158 00:07:28,080 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 2: it's it seems very achievable for us to do. 159 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:34,000 Speaker 1: I think it also helps that you have a woman 160 00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:37,960 Speaker 1: that holds her own Perhaps is that a thing where 161 00:07:37,960 --> 00:07:40,960 Speaker 1: it's like we are partners. I don't depend on you 162 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:42,560 Speaker 1: too much and you don't depend on me, like we 163 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:44,520 Speaker 1: just we have our own thing and we meet in 164 00:07:44,520 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 1: the middle. 165 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I think that's been a big thing 166 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:50,400 Speaker 2: in our relationship since the beginning. Everything being fifty fifty 167 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 2: is very important to me. So the fact that our 168 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:55,480 Speaker 2: relationship was built on ac since day one, like it's 169 00:07:55,560 --> 00:07:57,960 Speaker 2: established a really good foundation between us. 170 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:00,640 Speaker 1: Absolutely, that's something that we both can udicated from the 171 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:03,040 Speaker 1: very beginning. Like I had learned from my past relationship. 172 00:08:03,360 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: I know what I want, what I don't want, what 173 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:06,640 Speaker 1: I want to change, what I want to do differently. 174 00:08:06,680 --> 00:08:09,040 Speaker 1: And I feel like I've done a very good job 175 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:13,440 Speaker 1: with it, and so have you because we've had these conversations, 176 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:15,360 Speaker 1: you guys, and he was a completely different person in 177 00:08:15,400 --> 00:08:17,720 Speaker 1: his past relationship, and I think we feel like, Okay, 178 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 1: we probably messed up the last relationship, like let's do 179 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:22,400 Speaker 1: everything right in this one. And I'm going to tell 180 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:25,320 Speaker 1: you straight up, like when I met Emilio, I had 181 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:27,880 Speaker 1: just written in my notes, like the type of man 182 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 1: that I wanted. He has a lot of those things. 183 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:35,720 Speaker 1: I did want someone that was in supposedly said Wuno 184 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:39,679 Speaker 1: forty forty five. I wanted someone older, as someone that 185 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:43,520 Speaker 1: perhaps had been married before and divorced and has children, 186 00:08:43,559 --> 00:08:45,559 Speaker 1: because I wasn't sure if I wanted kids. And it's 187 00:08:45,600 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 1: crazy because I'm like, Okay, this is what I thought 188 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:50,000 Speaker 1: I wanted, you know what I mean. But then I 189 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:54,080 Speaker 1: met him and I was a little skeptical and a 190 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:56,839 Speaker 1: little hesitant because I'm like, he's twenty nine, he's young. 191 00:08:56,960 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: Like I kind of took it slow at first because 192 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:01,719 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, let's feel this out. But even if 193 00:09:01,720 --> 00:09:03,560 Speaker 1: I wanted to take it so, things just happen. Like 194 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 1: I got to the point where I'm like, I'm going 195 00:09:04,679 --> 00:09:05,959 Speaker 1: to let it flow and I'm not going to think 196 00:09:05,960 --> 00:09:07,760 Speaker 1: about it too much because I tell them like, well, 197 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:10,000 Speaker 1: what if you realize that you want someone younger later? 198 00:09:10,120 --> 00:09:12,280 Speaker 1: You know, those are just like insecurities that I think 199 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:15,240 Speaker 1: all women have, but with time, like he's made me 200 00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 1: feel so confident in our relationship and he makes me 201 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:23,680 Speaker 1: feel wanted, and he's so fucking mature for his age. 202 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:26,599 Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I told myself I'm not going to 203 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 1: date anyone younger than me, not even a year younger, 204 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:31,439 Speaker 1: And now I'm dating someone that's seven years younger. And 205 00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:36,400 Speaker 1: it's crazy, but I'm happy because we're on the same page. 206 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:41,920 Speaker 1: We want the same things, and he makes me feel secure, 207 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: like stability, which I think is what all women want. 208 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: So I wanted to do a podcast on this because 209 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:50,559 Speaker 1: I think a lot of us think about age and 210 00:09:50,600 --> 00:09:53,839 Speaker 1: we could potentially be missing out on a great opportunity 211 00:09:54,200 --> 00:09:57,080 Speaker 1: with someone just because they're either too old or too young. 212 00:09:57,800 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 1: And I think that that's the worst thing that you 213 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:03,520 Speaker 1: could do. Because I'm leaving proof of this is working out. 214 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:07,720 Speaker 1: He is so responsible and I'm grateful every time if 215 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:09,640 Speaker 1: someone asks me, how are you doing Cheeky's, I'm like 216 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 1: esplitra guila. I feel at peace, like I don't worry 217 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:14,959 Speaker 1: about him. He communicates. He was just say hey, I 218 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:17,160 Speaker 1: don't want you to worry. Here's my location. On his 219 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:19,640 Speaker 1: own I was like, are you sure, like I don't 220 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 1: want you to feel like He's like, no, no, no, I 221 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:23,040 Speaker 1: want to give you this. I want to give that 222 00:10:23,080 --> 00:10:25,320 Speaker 1: to you because I don't want you to feel like 223 00:10:25,400 --> 00:10:27,480 Speaker 1: I want you to know where I'm at. And I'm like, okay. 224 00:10:27,520 --> 00:10:28,720 Speaker 1: At first it was a little weird. I was like, 225 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:30,120 Speaker 1: what does that mean I have to share my location? 226 00:10:30,200 --> 00:10:31,959 Speaker 1: He's like, no, I'm not saying that. You do whatever 227 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 1: you want. This is what I want to do. I 228 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:43,559 Speaker 1: was like, what, He's just so different you guys, Emilio, 229 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:45,120 Speaker 1: have you ever did anyone older? 230 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:46,959 Speaker 2: I have not did it anyone older? 231 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:48,600 Speaker 1: Okay, how do you feel about that? 232 00:10:49,520 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 2: Like to me, just I don't know, it doesn't really 233 00:10:52,640 --> 00:10:55,760 Speaker 2: matter because I don't really look at age like that. 234 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:58,160 Speaker 2: Like I said, I forget that you're seven years older 235 00:10:58,160 --> 00:11:00,840 Speaker 2: than me because we just vibe and we we have 236 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:03,200 Speaker 2: so much fun together. It's like, I don't think about 237 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:04,080 Speaker 2: those kind of things. 238 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:06,640 Speaker 1: Do you feel like for sure, like ages nothing but 239 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:10,320 Speaker 1: a number kind of Yeah? In most cases, right, obviously 240 00:11:11,360 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 1: we're not you know what I mean, be over eighteen? 241 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:16,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, we're not like twenty years apart from each other, 242 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:17,840 Speaker 2: you know, Like that's so drastic. 243 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:20,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, and my mom dated the love of her life 244 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 1: was ten almost eleven years younger than her, and that 245 00:11:24,600 --> 00:11:27,000 Speaker 1: was like the love of her life. So that's why 246 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:28,520 Speaker 1: I was like, well, my mom did it. I guess 247 00:11:28,559 --> 00:11:30,200 Speaker 1: it's all right, you know. But now I'm like, Okay, 248 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 1: I'm experienced. I'm not thinking about it that much. I'm like, 249 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna let it bother me. I think it's 250 00:11:34,679 --> 00:11:37,040 Speaker 1: all about taking it day by day. And the funny 251 00:11:37,040 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 1: thing is, guys, I'm go'll tell you a little funny story. 252 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:44,000 Speaker 1: So we went out the other night and we ran 253 00:11:44,040 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 1: into his ex girlfriend. This is the second ex girlfriend 254 00:11:47,880 --> 00:11:51,040 Speaker 1: of Emilios that we run into. Okay, I think the 255 00:11:51,080 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 1: first one was like I don't know, three weeks in, babe, 256 00:11:54,160 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 1: was it? 257 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:54,800 Speaker 2: Yeah? 258 00:11:54,840 --> 00:11:58,800 Speaker 1: It was very early, very early on. And we went 259 00:11:58,960 --> 00:12:01,240 Speaker 1: on date night the other day and we ran into 260 00:12:01,280 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 1: his most recent ex girlfriend, who had he had been 261 00:12:03,679 --> 00:12:06,520 Speaker 1: with on and off for what three years, And I 262 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 1: was like, what the heck? Like that, I think more 263 00:12:09,040 --> 00:12:11,240 Speaker 1: than anything, was like, oh my, he doesn't really have 264 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:14,480 Speaker 1: a type, Like I'm very different from these girls. Then 265 00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:16,560 Speaker 1: that started coming into play. I'm like, Okay, are you 266 00:12:16,679 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 1: sure I'm your type? Because it's very different. The two 267 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:20,719 Speaker 1: girls that I've seen are very different from me, and 268 00:12:20,720 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 1: they're different from each other. But anyways, the reason I'm 269 00:12:23,280 --> 00:12:25,719 Speaker 1: bringing that up is because that's why I believe him 270 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 1: when he says that the age does not bother him 271 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:29,480 Speaker 1: and he does not think about it at all because 272 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:32,319 Speaker 1: he's like, I just vibe. If I vibe with the person, 273 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 1: it doesn't matter. That also makes me feel better as 274 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:36,720 Speaker 1: far as like age goes. 275 00:12:37,120 --> 00:12:40,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I feel like part of the topic of 276 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:44,080 Speaker 2: talking about age comes from like sexual attraction as well. 277 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:48,520 Speaker 2: In the beginning, you probably had your doubts, but a 278 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:51,600 Speaker 2: year later, I know you're a lot more confident and 279 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 2: that you know that what I say, I mean, like 280 00:12:54,640 --> 00:12:58,959 Speaker 2: the age doesn't matter. I'm extremely attracted to you in 281 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:01,840 Speaker 2: every sort of way, and I don't feel like we 282 00:13:01,960 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 2: lack anything in any of those areas. 283 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:07,160 Speaker 1: Oh say, I want to talk about sex, let's talk 284 00:13:07,160 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 1: about sex, baby, Well, no, that that I can attest to. Like, 285 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:17,839 Speaker 1: for sure, you you do make me feel very confident, 286 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:21,560 Speaker 1: very secure, very sexy. Like it's just his hands are 287 00:13:21,600 --> 00:13:24,360 Speaker 1: on me all the time, and even when we're like 288 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:27,240 Speaker 1: in bed, you know, doing our thang thang. There's certain 289 00:13:27,240 --> 00:13:28,720 Speaker 1: things that I say that. I'm just like, you know, 290 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:30,520 Speaker 1: I can't repeat here because it's a little too much, 291 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:33,600 Speaker 1: but it comes up. The age thing comes up during 292 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:36,240 Speaker 1: you know, the nasty nasty because I think it's just cute, 293 00:13:36,280 --> 00:13:38,120 Speaker 1: you know. But I know you guys want to know 294 00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:40,000 Speaker 1: what I say, but I'm going to tell you. Okay, 295 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:42,840 Speaker 1: there's certain things I have to keep right it. Okay, 296 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:44,840 Speaker 1: I know you're not used to it. Everyone. 297 00:13:45,400 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 2: I think what you say is funny. It's funny to me. 298 00:13:48,800 --> 00:13:51,160 Speaker 2: I'm like, cause I don't think of it like that, 299 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:55,439 Speaker 2: but it's funny that you think of things sucks interesting, like. 300 00:13:55,440 --> 00:13:58,960 Speaker 1: What I come on? Say it? What do I say? 301 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:00,000 Speaker 2: Now? You gotta say it? 302 00:14:00,920 --> 00:14:05,880 Speaker 1: No, Emilio cuss I just said fucking a whole bunch 303 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 1: of times. This is my podcast. This is our safe space. 304 00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:14,959 Speaker 2: I don't think I say it. It's pretty bager it is. 305 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:17,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, mmmm, Okay. 306 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:22,560 Speaker 2: She just likes that young. Yeah, she likes that young. Yeah. 307 00:14:22,800 --> 00:14:25,440 Speaker 1: He's energetic. Guys, We're good. We're chilling, you know. And 308 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:29,240 Speaker 1: on Valentine's Day, guys, for those of you that heard 309 00:14:29,280 --> 00:14:30,840 Speaker 1: that podcast, you know what I'm talking about. If not, 310 00:14:30,920 --> 00:14:34,160 Speaker 1: go listen to it. Doctor Viviannam. We spoke about sex 311 00:14:34,200 --> 00:14:36,280 Speaker 1: and all that stuff, and me initiating a little bit 312 00:14:36,320 --> 00:14:38,640 Speaker 1: more because I just feel like he wants me all 313 00:14:38,680 --> 00:14:41,520 Speaker 1: the time. I don't. I don't necessarily have to initiate, 314 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:45,120 Speaker 1: but I've been taking her advice and I've been initiating. 315 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:50,160 Speaker 1: I have. Aren't you happy about that? And I said 316 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:53,320 Speaker 1: on that episode that I was going to do something sexy, 317 00:14:53,400 --> 00:14:58,360 Speaker 1: and I did. I wore something sexy. I'm initiating round 318 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:01,080 Speaker 1: of applause for me. Thank you so much, thank you, 319 00:15:01,120 --> 00:15:04,160 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. But we don't have a problem 320 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:07,320 Speaker 1: in that area, Thank goodness, we really don't. I think 321 00:15:07,360 --> 00:15:09,480 Speaker 1: sometimes as women we get in our head and we 322 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:11,720 Speaker 1: all have these insecurities. I mean, I think just being 323 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:13,760 Speaker 1: a woman is difficult. I enjoy being a woman, but 324 00:15:13,800 --> 00:15:16,680 Speaker 1: there are things that you know, our body starts changing, 325 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 1: like I feel very young, but I'm like, okay, internally 326 00:15:20,200 --> 00:15:22,760 Speaker 1: my clock is ticking as far as like having children 327 00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:25,360 Speaker 1: and all these things. Thank goodness that we're able to 328 00:15:25,400 --> 00:15:27,920 Speaker 1: freeze our eggs because I'm not entirely ready, and I 329 00:15:27,920 --> 00:15:30,040 Speaker 1: think him and I are both on that page, on 330 00:15:30,080 --> 00:15:31,800 Speaker 1: the same page. Like I've never felt like I want 331 00:15:31,800 --> 00:15:33,640 Speaker 1: to have kids with anyone else as much as I 332 00:15:33,640 --> 00:15:37,600 Speaker 1: want to with him. He makes me feel very secure 333 00:15:37,600 --> 00:15:39,680 Speaker 1: in that area, like he'd be a great father and 334 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 1: a great person to have a child with. But I 335 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:44,680 Speaker 1: just kind of still want to enjoy my relationship with him, 336 00:15:45,040 --> 00:15:47,200 Speaker 1: So that's the only thing for me. It's like, Okay, 337 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:49,720 Speaker 1: well I'm thirty six, I haven't had kids. He wants kids, 338 00:15:49,720 --> 00:15:51,800 Speaker 1: Like what if I never want to have kids? Like 339 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:53,680 Speaker 1: I always ask them, like what if I can't. Let's 340 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:54,960 Speaker 1: just say what if I can't be what if I 341 00:15:54,960 --> 00:15:56,720 Speaker 1: can have kids? Are you going to be okay with that? 342 00:15:57,840 --> 00:16:00,520 Speaker 2: I would say, this is like the only time I 343 00:16:00,520 --> 00:16:04,080 Speaker 2: actually have to think about your age is when it 344 00:16:04,080 --> 00:16:08,120 Speaker 2: comes to kids, because I mean, just to be healthy 345 00:16:08,160 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 2: and safe and do it the right way, and you know, 346 00:16:10,680 --> 00:16:13,160 Speaker 2: like I have to think about that, you know. So 347 00:16:14,400 --> 00:16:16,960 Speaker 2: that's probably the only time I really do think about 348 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:20,640 Speaker 2: the age. Like I have this like gap of a 349 00:16:20,680 --> 00:16:23,720 Speaker 2: window that I feel like if we are going to 350 00:16:23,920 --> 00:16:25,880 Speaker 2: it's going to have to be in that gap right there. 351 00:16:26,320 --> 00:16:27,040 Speaker 1: When's the gap? 352 00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:31,240 Speaker 2: Honestly, like three four years? 353 00:16:31,680 --> 00:16:34,240 Speaker 1: All right, that's cool, I could do that. I'm just 354 00:16:34,520 --> 00:16:37,600 Speaker 1: enjoying our relationships so much. We do a lot together. 355 00:16:38,640 --> 00:16:41,080 Speaker 1: I feel like I raised kids most of my life. 356 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 1: That that's why I'm like, I've thought it as something 357 00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:44,640 Speaker 1: we haven't even talked about. But like, if I'm not 358 00:16:44,680 --> 00:16:47,800 Speaker 1: able to give you that for whatever reason, it's going 359 00:16:47,880 --> 00:16:49,800 Speaker 1: to bother me because I feel like I shouldn't take 360 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:51,360 Speaker 1: that from you, you know what I mean, Like I 361 00:16:51,400 --> 00:16:53,080 Speaker 1: don't want to take that from you because you're younger. 362 00:16:53,120 --> 00:16:55,840 Speaker 1: You can find someone that wants to have children that, 363 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:57,520 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. As far as I'm concerned, 364 00:16:57,520 --> 00:16:59,120 Speaker 1: I have eggs. I just checked. We're good. 365 00:16:59,200 --> 00:16:59,320 Speaker 2: You know. 366 00:16:59,360 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 1: It's not like I don't have them or I can't 367 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 1: or I'm infertile, Thank goodness, I'm not. It's just really 368 00:17:04,920 --> 00:17:06,600 Speaker 1: a time thing, you know. And I don't want to 369 00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:08,719 Speaker 1: feel pressure to do that, which is why I do 370 00:17:08,800 --> 00:17:12,600 Speaker 1: recommend ladies to get your eggs frozen as soon as possible. 371 00:17:13,040 --> 00:17:15,080 Speaker 1: The sooner the better. The younger you are, the better 372 00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:18,280 Speaker 1: so that you don't feel that pressure. But I don't 373 00:17:18,320 --> 00:17:19,199 Speaker 1: want to take that from you. 374 00:17:19,560 --> 00:17:21,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, I also don't want to put that pressure on 375 00:17:21,280 --> 00:17:23,920 Speaker 2: you either. Like I've told you before, we can go 376 00:17:23,960 --> 00:17:27,920 Speaker 2: through every single option and every single process to make 377 00:17:27,960 --> 00:17:30,320 Speaker 2: it happen, and at the end of the day, if 378 00:17:30,320 --> 00:17:33,879 Speaker 2: we tried our hardest and it doesn't happen, I'm okay 379 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:34,240 Speaker 2: with that. 380 00:17:34,560 --> 00:17:35,880 Speaker 1: Really yeah, I. 381 00:17:35,840 --> 00:17:36,600 Speaker 2: Want you to know that. 382 00:17:37,520 --> 00:17:43,320 Speaker 1: Wow. Okay, well, time will tell and thank you. My 383 00:17:43,400 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 1: producer actually is asking me to ask to say something. 384 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:49,320 Speaker 1: Her name is Brianna. She wants to know. Do I 385 00:17:49,359 --> 00:17:53,240 Speaker 1: find myself teaching and medial things in the bedroom? Absolutely 386 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:56,040 Speaker 1: not O me. It almost choked on her coffee over here. 387 00:17:56,960 --> 00:17:59,560 Speaker 1: I'm not even joking you, guys. This is the comment 388 00:17:59,560 --> 00:18:03,679 Speaker 1: we were talking talking about earlier. That's why there's nothing 389 00:18:03,720 --> 00:18:07,679 Speaker 1: to teach like. It's just every button that I have 390 00:18:07,840 --> 00:18:11,159 Speaker 1: is has been pressed and is pressed and I have 391 00:18:11,200 --> 00:18:14,840 Speaker 1: no issue there, thank God. And I feel the most 392 00:18:15,080 --> 00:18:18,959 Speaker 1: wanted and sexiest I have ever fucking felt in my life. 393 00:18:19,000 --> 00:18:20,520 Speaker 1: And I think that's why my mom was so in 394 00:18:20,560 --> 00:18:23,919 Speaker 1: love with Fernie, her boyfriend, her soulmate that was ten 395 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:25,960 Speaker 1: years younger than her, because she's like, he made me 396 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:28,000 Speaker 1: a woman, he gave me my first orgasm, That's what 397 00:18:28,040 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 1: she said. So I'm like, I get you, mama, Mama, 398 00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:36,800 Speaker 1: I feel you. Imagine your mom listens and she's like, yeah, 399 00:18:36,800 --> 00:18:39,840 Speaker 1: that's my boy. See what that's gonna be like hell yeah, 400 00:18:40,040 --> 00:18:43,720 Speaker 1: oh my god, you guys. Emilio is an only child. 401 00:18:44,359 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 1: That's another thing, like, I don't think he would want 402 00:18:46,320 --> 00:18:49,200 Speaker 1: to have just one kid. He would want to write 403 00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:51,480 Speaker 1: isn't that what we said before now? Or am I trippin' 404 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:52,199 Speaker 1: I don't know. 405 00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:54,400 Speaker 2: Honestly, we have two dogs and it's kind of hard 406 00:18:54,440 --> 00:18:58,160 Speaker 2: to like share that love twice. You know, I think 407 00:18:58,240 --> 00:19:00,720 Speaker 2: one kid for us would be I think if I 408 00:19:00,720 --> 00:19:01,840 Speaker 2: think it fits our store. 409 00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:04,480 Speaker 1: You had a pretty good life. Yeah, I had a 410 00:19:04,560 --> 00:19:06,720 Speaker 1: very good life. You had your you know Ama, which 411 00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:09,200 Speaker 1: is his grandma. I love his family, you guys, Ysthias. 412 00:19:09,359 --> 00:19:12,520 Speaker 1: They're all awesome. They all helped raise him. So anyways, 413 00:19:12,560 --> 00:19:14,640 Speaker 1: that's another thing. It's just a bonus to know that 414 00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:17,520 Speaker 1: his family is just they're awesome. I can drink with them. 415 00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:19,480 Speaker 1: We dance him, his mom and I get down on 416 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 1: the dance floor. I'll share the video maybe one day, 417 00:19:22,720 --> 00:19:26,560 Speaker 1: maybe one day. But anyways, talking about freezing your eggs, 418 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:28,800 Speaker 1: you guys, time is of the essence. The clock is ticking, 419 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:31,560 Speaker 1: like all those things that are just difficult I think 420 00:19:32,080 --> 00:19:34,199 Speaker 1: for most women to talk about. I am here, I 421 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:37,240 Speaker 1: feel you. And if you have not heard my episode, 422 00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:40,199 Speaker 1: on freezing your eggs. I have an episode here on 423 00:19:40,280 --> 00:19:42,960 Speaker 1: Cheeky's and Shell, so you guys, you know, check it out, 424 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:52,680 Speaker 1: listen to it. Now that we're talking about Immedio's family, 425 00:19:52,840 --> 00:19:54,479 Speaker 1: I want to share a story. I don't know if 426 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:55,919 Speaker 1: I shared it. I'm not sure if I shared it 427 00:19:55,920 --> 00:19:57,720 Speaker 1: in the last episode when we had a media on 428 00:19:57,880 --> 00:19:59,600 Speaker 1: very early, and I think it was the first or second, 429 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:02,879 Speaker 1: but when I met his mom for the first time, 430 00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:06,720 Speaker 1: we went to La Condessa that's in Santa Monica here 431 00:20:06,720 --> 00:20:10,439 Speaker 1: in La and we met and she was very quiet 432 00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:12,600 Speaker 1: at first, and then I saw that she had ordered 433 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:14,399 Speaker 1: an alcoholic beverage and I said, oh shoo, okay, this 434 00:20:14,440 --> 00:20:16,280 Speaker 1: is awesome. I'll order one too. We started drinking a 435 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:18,160 Speaker 1: little bit, and then all of a sudden, she looks 436 00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:20,879 Speaker 1: at me and she's like, okay, so what are your 437 00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:23,160 Speaker 1: intentions with my son since you are older than him? 438 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:25,480 Speaker 1: And I was like, oh fuck, and then she just 439 00:20:25,520 --> 00:20:27,680 Speaker 1: started laughing. I was like, oh my god, Thank goodness. 440 00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:29,640 Speaker 1: Like I was like, I've never been asked that question 441 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:33,439 Speaker 1: because I've never dated anyone younger than me. But I 442 00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:36,199 Speaker 1: told I think my grandma. I didn't really talk to 443 00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:38,520 Speaker 1: her too much. Honestly about Emilio. I didn't have the 444 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:41,600 Speaker 1: chance before things got weird in our family, but I 445 00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:43,960 Speaker 1: did speak to Jenica, who, as you guys know, is 446 00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:47,119 Speaker 1: like my best friend, my sister Jenica, and I told her. 447 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:48,359 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm a little worried. She's like, you're 448 00:20:48,359 --> 00:20:50,880 Speaker 1: thinking about it way too much, Like he's very mature. 449 00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:53,800 Speaker 1: He's chill, like you need to stop. That's going to 450 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:56,240 Speaker 1: get old if you think about it way too much, 451 00:20:56,320 --> 00:20:58,040 Speaker 1: like you're going to call that upon your life. And 452 00:20:58,040 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, you're right, I should know better. 453 00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:04,080 Speaker 1: So I think everyone's reaction on my end was pretty cool. 454 00:21:04,160 --> 00:21:06,920 Speaker 1: My brother Mikey is a year older than Emilio. Mike 455 00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:09,280 Speaker 1: he just turned thirty, so at first he was kind 456 00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:12,040 Speaker 1: of like he was there at the party, at Becky's party, 457 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:15,959 Speaker 1: and I think Emilio accidentally dropped a beer on him. 458 00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:18,080 Speaker 2: I still don't believe that right. 459 00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:21,480 Speaker 1: That whole thing. So Mikey was like, what's up, and 460 00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:23,679 Speaker 1: now you're dating the guy that dropped the beer on me? 461 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:25,560 Speaker 1: And I'm like, it wasn't actually. He's like, no, no, I know, 462 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:27,080 Speaker 1: it's cool. It's cool, but you know, I'm gonna like 463 00:21:27,160 --> 00:21:28,679 Speaker 1: see what's up with him? Like he was trying to 464 00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:30,919 Speaker 1: be all tough because he's like a year older. I 465 00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:32,800 Speaker 1: was like, Mikey, calm your ass down. I'm a grown 466 00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:33,320 Speaker 1: ass woman. 467 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:35,600 Speaker 2: Chill. 468 00:21:35,920 --> 00:21:38,080 Speaker 1: But now they love each other. Now they're cool. Johnny 469 00:21:38,080 --> 00:21:40,720 Speaker 1: loves him. Johnny's really cool. They talk a lot. That 470 00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:44,119 Speaker 1: makes me so happy. Like, and Emilio really tries like 471 00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:46,480 Speaker 1: Emilio not like, oh my god, like over the top, 472 00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:49,280 Speaker 1: but he's cool, Like he initiates conversations with my brothers, 473 00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:51,119 Speaker 1: like he tries. He's not like just like well whatever, 474 00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:52,960 Speaker 1: you know, it doesn't matter. I don't care. He knows 475 00:21:52,960 --> 00:21:55,399 Speaker 1: how important they are to me, And it just feels 476 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,560 Speaker 1: good to know that we're all chilling. Jackie. My sister 477 00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:00,200 Speaker 1: loves him, you know. She's like, he's so cute. Yeah, 478 00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:01,960 Speaker 1: I love his dimples. Oh my god, his iceiter. You 479 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:05,359 Speaker 1: guys would have cute babies. She's all about it. But 480 00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:07,000 Speaker 1: what about your family? Did they ever tell you anything 481 00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:08,720 Speaker 1: about our age difference? No? 482 00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:12,240 Speaker 2: Actually, I feel like when it comes to like my friends, 483 00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:16,520 Speaker 2: even my family, like we're very we're very tight, you know, hmm. 484 00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:18,960 Speaker 2: Especially with my mom. I feel like I know she 485 00:22:19,080 --> 00:22:23,760 Speaker 2: trusts me, so it doesn't matter what I bring because 486 00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:25,960 Speaker 2: they have a confidence in me that I'm like, I 487 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:30,360 Speaker 2: wouldn't make any decisions that would be bad or hurt 488 00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:31,879 Speaker 2: me in a short of way. So I feel like 489 00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:34,760 Speaker 2: after they met you, you know, they they loved you instantly. 490 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:37,520 Speaker 2: So I feel like my mom making that joke of like, 491 00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:38,880 Speaker 2: well you are older than him. 492 00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:40,520 Speaker 1: That's like just to break the ice. 493 00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:43,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like something funny I will say to like, 494 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:43,639 Speaker 2: welcome you. 495 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:46,600 Speaker 1: She's really funny, she really does. She really does joke 496 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:48,720 Speaker 1: a lot. But okay, so none of your friends ever 497 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:51,280 Speaker 1: said like dang that that girl's way too thick for you, 498 00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:52,879 Speaker 1: or that girl's wait, are you sure you want to 499 00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:55,240 Speaker 1: be like with that girl? She's like older never. 500 00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:58,720 Speaker 2: Never, not once, not one person. Because I mean, I get. 501 00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:00,000 Speaker 1: Along with his friends. His friends are dope. 502 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,840 Speaker 2: Because they also see how happy I was. Everyone was like, 503 00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:05,720 Speaker 2: I've never seen you as happy before, So there was 504 00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:07,159 Speaker 2: no worries there for me. 505 00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:09,520 Speaker 1: All right, that makes me really happy. So now I 506 00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:15,480 Speaker 1: have a very important question. Are you ready, Emilio merced Sanchez? 507 00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:17,080 Speaker 1: Are you pussy? Whooped? 508 00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:22,760 Speaker 2: Oh? You know what, I don't even care? I am, 509 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,280 Speaker 2: I don't care. I love it. 510 00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:30,800 Speaker 1: Too oh my god. But it's not just that, right, 511 00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:32,000 Speaker 1: It's not just infatuation. 512 00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:35,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's I mean it is, but with everything, 513 00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:38,320 Speaker 2: not just sexually. Like I want to be with you 514 00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:41,240 Speaker 2: every day because I just I feel so comfortable around you. 515 00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:43,560 Speaker 2: I feel like everything is cool. You comfort me, We 516 00:23:43,640 --> 00:23:44,360 Speaker 2: comfort each other. 517 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,520 Speaker 1: We're chill. When his friends said something super cool the 518 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,119 Speaker 1: other day, that made me happy, like because I'm just me, 519 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:52,960 Speaker 1: you know, and his friends have all been super dope. 520 00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:55,280 Speaker 1: We've had great times, great dinners. And one of his 521 00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:57,320 Speaker 1: friends is like, yeah, Janey can come to the birthday party. 522 00:23:57,359 --> 00:23:58,720 Speaker 1: She's like one of the guys. I was like, oh, 523 00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:02,040 Speaker 1: that's tight. Like that made me so happy. I'm like, okay, cool. 524 00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:05,479 Speaker 1: Like I think we are very very compatible. We have 525 00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:08,040 Speaker 1: great communication. And the best advice can give any of 526 00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:10,800 Speaker 1: you out there that are in a relationship or starting 527 00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:14,440 Speaker 1: a relationship, or haven't found that person but is waiting. 528 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:18,240 Speaker 1: I think that laying things out in the very beginning 529 00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:21,000 Speaker 1: doesn't matter how old you are. It's just knowing what 530 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:23,520 Speaker 1: you want going in and being honest. If what you 531 00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:25,520 Speaker 1: want to do is just have a good time and 532 00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:27,760 Speaker 1: fuck around, that you say that in the beginning, If 533 00:24:27,800 --> 00:24:29,840 Speaker 1: you want something a little bit more serious, like we're like, okay, 534 00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:32,000 Speaker 1: are we going to date exclusively? We asked that question 535 00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,360 Speaker 1: early on and I'm like, yeah, I'm down. He says, Okay, 536 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:36,360 Speaker 1: me too. Cool. Get that out of the way. Let 537 00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:39,399 Speaker 1: things flow. But it's always important to communicate and be 538 00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:41,760 Speaker 1: honest from the very beginning. There are things and hard 539 00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:45,040 Speaker 1: conversations that Emilia and I have had to have where 540 00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:46,760 Speaker 1: I don't want to hide anything from him, like I 541 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:50,320 Speaker 1: don't want to taint our relationship. I don't want to 542 00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:53,480 Speaker 1: contaminate it with lies, even if he'll never find out. 543 00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:55,320 Speaker 1: There are things that I'm like, Emilio, I need you 544 00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:56,960 Speaker 1: to know this, this happened, and I have to face 545 00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:58,480 Speaker 1: some music. And if he gets upset, he gets upset. 546 00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:01,480 Speaker 1: I have to understand that we've had those conversations. He's 547 00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:05,040 Speaker 1: also very honest with me. I think that's why it's worked. 548 00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:08,240 Speaker 1: So the age hasn't really gotten in the way because 549 00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:11,680 Speaker 1: we both walked in knowing what we want, what we deserve, 550 00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:15,720 Speaker 1: what we won't tolerate. We were very on the same 551 00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:19,560 Speaker 1: page with that. So yeah, I don't know if you agree, baby. 552 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:22,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I was gonna say that it never bothered 553 00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:24,400 Speaker 2: me the age. But in the beginning, I remember you, 554 00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:26,960 Speaker 2: you know, I'm like I was twenty eight actually when 555 00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,680 Speaker 2: I met you, so I can tell and I saw 556 00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:31,359 Speaker 2: that it was something that you were worried about. So 557 00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:34,720 Speaker 2: for me or one thing you said, it was like, Okay, 558 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:36,720 Speaker 2: how do you know that you're going to want something 559 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:39,000 Speaker 2: different in the year in five years and ten years? 560 00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:42,679 Speaker 2: And I knew what I wanted a year ago, you know, 561 00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:44,480 Speaker 2: I was very confident. So it's like, all I need 562 00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:46,840 Speaker 2: to do is just stay consistent with that. 563 00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:48,320 Speaker 1: That's the word consistency. 564 00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:51,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, And a year later, I want you and love 565 00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:54,040 Speaker 2: you more than I ever have, you know, And it's 566 00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:57,680 Speaker 2: like to me, it erases those insecurities of like, well, 567 00:25:57,680 --> 00:25:59,400 Speaker 2: what's going to happen later, Like we can't really worry 568 00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:04,000 Speaker 2: about that, And as long as you're consistent and you know. 569 00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:08,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's something he definitely is. He's consistent. And if 570 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:11,120 Speaker 1: there's something that we both like to do, is if 571 00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:13,200 Speaker 1: we're falling off track or one of us is getting 572 00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:16,000 Speaker 1: too comfortable, we're like, hey, you're not doing what you 573 00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:17,919 Speaker 1: were doing that made me fall in love with you. 574 00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:21,600 Speaker 1: And I'm telling you communication is key and giving love 575 00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:25,320 Speaker 1: doing those cute things even randomly, like it's only been 576 00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:28,240 Speaker 1: a year, yes, you guys, but he's been pretty good 577 00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:29,919 Speaker 1: with it. So I'm just hoping and praying that it 578 00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:31,920 Speaker 1: stays that way. And I also have to do my part. 579 00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:36,520 Speaker 1: It's not just the guy. I'm very, very adamant and intentional. 580 00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:38,119 Speaker 1: There's that word. That's one of my favorite words. Is 581 00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:41,520 Speaker 1: you guys, know, intentional about doing things and not feeling like, oh, 582 00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:44,000 Speaker 1: the guy has to always pursue me. Like we also 583 00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:46,879 Speaker 1: have that responsibility of pursuing and making our man feel 584 00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:51,399 Speaker 1: wanted and loved and handsome and all that stuff, you know, 585 00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:53,480 Speaker 1: So you just kind of know that you're ready. You're 586 00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:55,840 Speaker 1: ready to be in a relationship and you want the 587 00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:57,760 Speaker 1: same thing at the end of the day. And the 588 00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:00,199 Speaker 1: best advice that I can give anyone out there that 589 00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:02,959 Speaker 1: is thinking about dating someone or has stopped themselves from 590 00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,720 Speaker 1: dating someone because they're younger than them are way too old, 591 00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:08,960 Speaker 1: you know what, don't let that bother you. Like I 592 00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:11,840 Speaker 1: have been watching Love is Blind and it's crazy, and 593 00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:13,439 Speaker 1: that's what it should be like, where you get to 594 00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:16,879 Speaker 1: know the person without really like, yes, physical attraction is important, 595 00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:19,320 Speaker 1: I totally get that, but It's like, how compatible are 596 00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:21,760 Speaker 1: you guys on a mental level, on an emotional level, 597 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,240 Speaker 1: on a spiritual level, Like those things are gonna is 598 00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:26,680 Speaker 1: what's going to last forever if you guys have the 599 00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,800 Speaker 1: same morals. You know, So don't just X nay something 600 00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:32,719 Speaker 1: because oh he's way too young. Like I'm telling you, 601 00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,240 Speaker 1: I never thought that I was going to date someone younger. 602 00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:37,920 Speaker 1: It has made me a more confident woman. It's made 603 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:41,520 Speaker 1: me just want to look better every day, feel better, 604 00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:44,400 Speaker 1: like take care of myself. It's helped me personally as well. 605 00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:46,879 Speaker 1: I've never been a woman to just be comfortable, Like 606 00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:48,480 Speaker 1: I've always wanted to look good for my man, you know. 607 00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:50,679 Speaker 1: But I'm saying like he's younger than me. So in 608 00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:52,760 Speaker 1: the beginning I did think about, oh my god, I'm 609 00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,359 Speaker 1: seven freaking years older. But then I'm like, wait, like 610 00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:57,879 Speaker 1: I take care of myself, like I don't look my age, 611 00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,679 Speaker 1: like it's just keep doing that. And he does all 612 00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:02,840 Speaker 1: these fun things that I like, we're gonna go to Yosemite, 613 00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:05,320 Speaker 1: you guys, like we're gonna go hiking and shit. Like 614 00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:07,679 Speaker 1: I'm kind of like, yeah, like I've been waiting to 615 00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:09,880 Speaker 1: do something like this, so I'm excited. I mean, it's 616 00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:12,800 Speaker 1: just looking at it in a positive way and really 617 00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:16,840 Speaker 1: knowing if you have a soul connection with someone, fuck 618 00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:20,560 Speaker 1: all this, if it's socially accepted, f all that. It's 619 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:24,160 Speaker 1: about you, guys, it's a relationship in personas. Okay, So 620 00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:25,840 Speaker 1: that's the best advice. I don't know. Do you have 621 00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:26,639 Speaker 1: some advice, babe? 622 00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:28,840 Speaker 2: Yeah? Well, I mean I was just gonna say about 623 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:34,480 Speaker 2: the connection part, Like, yes, we have connection sexually and 624 00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:37,360 Speaker 2: all that, but like sometimes we connect even more when 625 00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:41,240 Speaker 2: we have like our deep conversations and I feel a part, 626 00:28:41,320 --> 00:28:43,880 Speaker 2: you know, like sometimes that gives us all the energy 627 00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:46,600 Speaker 2: and confidence, reassurance, everything. Like we connect on such a 628 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:49,200 Speaker 2: high level during our conversations. I think that's been our 629 00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:53,160 Speaker 2: strongest thing since the beginning, is our communication. It's the 630 00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:55,520 Speaker 2: thing I'm most proud of of our relationship. 631 00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:59,400 Speaker 1: You're so right, you give me freaking horny by like 632 00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:01,880 Speaker 1: conversation that we've had where I'm like, he's just so 633 00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:04,000 Speaker 1: fucking wise, And sometimes I stay quiet and you know, 634 00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:05,800 Speaker 1: I can talk. I have a podcast, you guys, I 635 00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:08,800 Speaker 1: could talk, And there's times when he could just talk 636 00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:11,000 Speaker 1: to me and put things into perspective without me having 637 00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:12,800 Speaker 1: to say a word, and I'm just like, fuck, yeah, 638 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:15,360 Speaker 1: this is why I love you. Yes, Like come give 639 00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:17,080 Speaker 1: it to me, you know what I mean. Like that's 640 00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:19,720 Speaker 1: how I feel because of the communication and the fact 641 00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:23,000 Speaker 1: that he's just so wise. And I'm telling you like therapy, 642 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:26,760 Speaker 1: you guys know, therapy in general, it is so important. 643 00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:30,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to say something about therapy actually coming 644 00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:33,000 Speaker 2: from the way I grew up, you know, therapy was 645 00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:35,560 Speaker 2: always kind of not frowned upon. But it's not the 646 00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:38,840 Speaker 2: macho thing to do, you know, especially for a male. 647 00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:39,600 Speaker 1: Right. 648 00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:41,560 Speaker 2: But I've been in it since I was eighteen years 649 00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:45,640 Speaker 2: old and it's helped me so much. And before I 650 00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:47,800 Speaker 2: got with you, I was out of it for like 651 00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:52,880 Speaker 2: a year. And when we first started dating, I had 652 00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:56,080 Speaker 2: the urge to get back in it because before we 653 00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:59,920 Speaker 2: had any sort of problems or deep conversations or anything 654 00:29:59,920 --> 00:30:02,160 Speaker 2: like that, I wanted to make sure that I was 655 00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:04,240 Speaker 2: good on my end, to be able to at least 656 00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:06,120 Speaker 2: be the best version that I can be that day 657 00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:09,560 Speaker 2: for you and for our relationship. It's maintenance. There may 658 00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:11,840 Speaker 2: not be something wrong, but as long as I'm keeping 659 00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,120 Speaker 2: you know, the wheels grease, like, we're going to be 660 00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:18,920 Speaker 2: smoother than like jumping into therapy when things are already crazy, 661 00:30:19,240 --> 00:30:19,520 Speaker 2: you know. 662 00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:26,719 Speaker 1: Right right? Absolutely, see you guys, you guys see why Well, anyways, 663 00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:28,400 Speaker 1: that's just a little bit of him. You know. I 664 00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:33,120 Speaker 1: don't want to share him too much now, Bloomy kids, Babe, 665 00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:38,160 Speaker 1: I love you, I love you well, you guys. I 666 00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:40,800 Speaker 1: wish we could spend more time talking about this, but 667 00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,760 Speaker 1: we have to run, As you guys know, I always 668 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:45,880 Speaker 1: leave you guys with a quote, a motivational quote, because 669 00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:49,680 Speaker 1: it is motivational Monday. So this week's quote is you 670 00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:51,960 Speaker 1: can just give up on someone because the situation is 671 00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:55,880 Speaker 1: not ideal. Great relationships aren't great because they have no problems. 672 00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:59,120 Speaker 1: They're great because both people care enough about the other 673 00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:02,280 Speaker 1: person to find a way to make it work. So 674 00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:04,760 Speaker 1: that is a quote. Thank you, guys again for listening 675 00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:11,880 Speaker 1: in on another episode of Cheeky's and Chill Babe. Say 676 00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:14,440 Speaker 1: bye bye bye everyone, Thank you for having me by everyone, 677 00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:21,240 Speaker 1: and come give me a motherfucking kiss. Bye guys. This 678 00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:25,600 Speaker 1: is a production of iHeartRadio and mikea podcast Network. Follow 679 00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:30,160 Speaker 1: us on Instagram at Mikeura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's 680 00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:33,480 Speaker 1: That's c h i Q u y s. For more 681 00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:38,560 Speaker 1: podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, 682 00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:40,560 Speaker 1: or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.