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Speaker 1: Hi Amber, Hi LEVELA. Welcome to an Unlikely Affair.

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Speaker 2: Hey babes, Welcome back to an unlikely affair.

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Speaker 1: Hey babe, Hey ams, Hey, what's up girl? What's up girl?

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Speaker 1: How do you feel? How do you feel about the

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Speaker 1: first episode that aired last week?

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Speaker 3: Fantastic?

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Speaker 4: I think we actually should. Have you ever watched the

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Speaker 4: Ellen DeGeneres show.

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Speaker 1: You know how she like, I don't live under that

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Speaker 1: much of a rock.

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Speaker 3: You know how she comes out and she starts dancing.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like we should play like really good

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Speaker 4: music at the top of each episode.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, like a banger, Yeah, like a real like yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: We'll start with fifty fifty cent yeah. Oh my god,

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Speaker 2: I'm the of the perfect mashup. It should start with

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Speaker 2: Taylor Swift and I bet she'll only charges like five

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Speaker 2: million dollars for this one line. Jah, the cati is

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Speaker 2: sharp enough to kill a man. And then fifty beats

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Speaker 2: fifties beat drops.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, that'd be sick.

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Speaker 2: Did you see my Instagram post that I did the

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Speaker 2: like a a few weeks ago?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so.

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Speaker 4: Good now her listen. I like Taylor Swift is like

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Speaker 4: a she.

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Speaker 5: She knows how to write because we all are like this,

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Speaker 5: she wrote my experience, yes, yes, right, yes, So this

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Speaker 5: episode because we are a couple of weeks into the

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Speaker 5: new year.

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Speaker 2: And I want to talk about sex and dating because

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Speaker 2: I think I've told you this, but this is the

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Speaker 2: first time since I mean it's been probably four or

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Speaker 2: five years where I have finally said to the universe,

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Speaker 2: I am open to you bringing a man into my life.

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Speaker 1: What.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I know. It's it was like a big and

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Speaker 2: it felt like I was gonna vomit as I was

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Speaker 2: saying that, And people have asked me and I almost

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Speaker 2: like retreat because I'm like, oh, they see me. They're like,

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Speaker 2: I feel like you have a wallup because you're afraid.

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, I don't like that word because I'm

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Speaker 2: not afraid of anything. But I'm like, oh, they definitely

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Speaker 2: are calling me out on my shit. They're like psychoanalyzing

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Speaker 2: me right now, Like I am afraid of so many things.

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Speaker 2: I think I can finally admit that I definitely have

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Speaker 2: abandonment issues for whatever reason PTSD.

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Speaker 1: I have very little trust.

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Speaker 2: In humanity as a whole, you know, so to be

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Speaker 2: like I don't trust humans, but.

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Speaker 3: Let me welcome this man.

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Speaker 1: Into my life and come, you know, share a space

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Speaker 1: with me.

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Speaker 2: So to put that wall down and be like, this

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Speaker 2: is you being afraid and you can still be an

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Speaker 2: independent person because my biggest thing is like I cannot

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Speaker 2: lose my independence. It's like, okay, so don't you can

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Speaker 2: have two things at once.

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Speaker 4: Maybe that's your fear, is losing your independence. It's not

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Speaker 4: necessarily about trust, right, I mean, I'm sure like there

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Speaker 4: is a lot of things that play right right, right,

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Speaker 4: but that might be a bigger piece of the pie

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Speaker 4: than you actually think.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, when you go from being in a situation

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Speaker 2: where you feel a little bit codependent in many areas

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Speaker 2: and then you have to rise to the occasion and

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Speaker 2: you gain all of this independence and you're like, oh,

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Speaker 2: like I'm doing it. Oh my gosh, like chew, chew,

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Speaker 2: We're fucking off to the races.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I think my thing is how do you do it?

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Speaker 4: You know, like, how do you have a relationship? How

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Speaker 4: do you date? That was really scary figuring out how

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Speaker 4: to date. I know there's a lot of I don't

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Speaker 4: want to say rules, but like there's.

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Speaker 3: A lot of rules.

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Speaker 2: There's a lot of rules, I know, and it's very

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Speaker 2: intense and I'm it's funny because I'm like, I don't

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Speaker 2: like to play games. But then if I have a

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Speaker 2: man who's like, I want to take you on a date.

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Speaker 1: I want to do this, I'm like, oh, you're very available.

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Speaker 1: Don't love that.

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Speaker 2: But then the guy who's like he's you know, he's like,

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Speaker 2: to after two days. I'm like, oh, I'm digging this,

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Speaker 3: So do you like someone that takes the lead?

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Speaker 4: Would you say you want someone who's like, Okay, I'm

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Speaker 4: sending you a calendar invite for you know, February tenth, and.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna go out.

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Speaker 2: I couldn't even tell you what I'm into because there

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Speaker 2: have been friends where they want to set me up

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Speaker 2: and they're like, but what's what's your type? And I

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Speaker 2: can tell you all day physically what I want, but

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Speaker 2: they're like, right, like, what's your type of human person?

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, I don't even know. I think when

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Speaker 1: it enters my life, I'm just gonna know.

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Speaker 4: That and from my experience and tell me.

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Speaker 1: Because you're well rounded in.

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Speaker 4: Dating, yes, remember I got married at twenty divorced at

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Speaker 4: twenty seven, I think twenty seven, twenty eight. Then I

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Speaker 4: was in another six year relationship after that. So then

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Speaker 4: I woke up what almost three years ago.

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Speaker 3: Something like that.

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Speaker 4: It's crazy where the time goes. And I'm like, I'm

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Speaker 4: a single mom, I have grown children, I have a career.

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Speaker 3: How the hell do you date?

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Speaker 4: Like, I really didn't know, and so I had to

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Speaker 4: go back and actually learn. And when I first started dating,

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Speaker 4: I hated it. I was like this is terrible, Like

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Speaker 4: this is so exposed. And then I and then I

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Speaker 4: got sober.

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Speaker 1: Which is a whole different game.

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Speaker 4: Then I'm like, okay, now I'm dating sober, I'm having

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Speaker 4: sex sober.

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Speaker 2: I turned into a squirter once I had sober sex. Sorry,

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Speaker 2: it's true, that's how it happened.

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Speaker 1: That's hot.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. And then I was like I got to start dating.

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Speaker 4: And then I realized you date because you learn what

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Speaker 4: you like and.

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Speaker 3: What you don't.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I like after.

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Speaker 4: Every experience, whether it's four dates or six weeks or

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Speaker 4: three months, now I have a list of like, oh,

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Speaker 4: this is my non negotiables now, Like so I'm you

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Speaker 4: learn about yourself and like my I'll never forget.

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Speaker 1: I had a girlfriend who was like, I.

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Speaker 4: Was like, I'm done dating, no more, I'm not doing it.

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Speaker 4: She's like, Amber, you have to treat dating like a job.

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Speaker 1: You just have to. You have to.

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Speaker 4: It's a part time job. You have to put yourself

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Speaker 4: out there. Do you want to find a man? Do

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Speaker 4: you want to find a partner?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 4: Okay, Well guess what, sitting at home in your fucking robe,

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Speaker 4: sounds amazing. You're not gonna have the fine. I was like, Okay,

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Speaker 4: I need to find someone that likes that lifestyle. But

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Speaker 4: she was right, and I'm still like I haven't. No,

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Speaker 4: i haven't found my person yet. But I know very

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Speaker 4: quickly now I see red flags now right, just like

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Speaker 4: the guy that I was dating this past few months,

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Speaker 4: I knew very quickly. I almost ignored the signs.

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Speaker 1: No, you almost painted the red flags green.

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Speaker 2: Yes.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: And then I was like, Nope, you're not going to

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Speaker 4: I was like, Okay, one more try. We're gonna give

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Speaker 4: this like one more, like, you know, throw them a bone.

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Speaker 4: It was a bad day. And then I spent more

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Speaker 4: and more time. I was like, oh, it's not a

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Speaker 4: bad person, just not my guy, not your guy. And

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Speaker 4: so I had to have the courage to say, okay,

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Speaker 4: what is the language of, like, listen, you're a great guy,

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Speaker 4: We're just not a match. And I had to realize

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Speaker 4: I've gotten broken up with before and I was like

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Speaker 4: in fetal position for three days and my kids are like,

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Speaker 4: what's wrong with you?

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Speaker 3: I'm like nothing. And then it's like I'm not going

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Speaker 3: to be.

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Speaker 4: For everyone and everyone's not going to be for me.

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Speaker 3: And that's okay.

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Speaker 4: That's a hard truth that I had to learn. And

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Speaker 4: it's like okay, now now I'm like, bring it on,

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Speaker 4: I'm ready.

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Speaker 2: You know what. I went into twenty twenty six with

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Speaker 2: that that mindset without even trying. It was like, even

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Speaker 2: with friendships that have have dissolved, it's like, you're not

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Speaker 2: a bad person.

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Speaker 1: I'm not a bad person.

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Speaker 2: Doesn't matter who's right or wrong, we're just not for

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Speaker 2: each other anymore.

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Speaker 1: There's real people wrong with it. Yeah, it's all good.

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Speaker 4: Do you know what my favorite thing to do is now?

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Speaker 4: When I'm dating, I love playing games. Those dating games

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Speaker 1: They're so fun.

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Speaker 4: You get to know someone because you know, I get like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: it's nice going to dinner. But sometimes you're like, I

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Speaker 4: don't want to ask the same questions, or maybe we

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Speaker 4: don't want to go to dinner. We just want to

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Speaker 4: hang out watch a movie, but we're not jumping into

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Speaker 4: want to get to know them, right. There's like a

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Speaker 4: couple of different games that I've ordered online and the

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Speaker 4: games are amazing, and you really get to know someone.

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Speaker 3: Oh I love this. Yes, yes, I'll send you the links.

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Speaker 1: They're really good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And I also feel like there have been so.

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Speaker 2: Many times where I think about dating and I think

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Speaker 2: of all of the reasons why it won't work. I'm like, well,

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Speaker 2: ocean sleeps in my bed, and I can't do this

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Speaker 2: because this is going to happen and I need to be.

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Speaker 1: Focused on this and not that.

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Speaker 2: And for the first time again without even trying, it's

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Speaker 2: just like it just happened, where it's like we don't

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Speaker 2: need to think about those things.

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Speaker 1: No, just go out and meet someone and like let

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Speaker 1: it go where it goes.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you have to say to yourself, I give I

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Speaker 4: give myself permission to love and to be loved.

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Speaker 1: I did that, you did.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I literally went outside and I was like, all

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Speaker 2: of these things that I'm feeling, I need to like

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Speaker 2: speak it out loud to the universe that I am

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Speaker 2: open to all of these things, Yeah, coming into my life.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and it will happen.

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Speaker 4: Watch Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And I just feel so calm and chill, and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: I know what needs to be done. I'm not panicked

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Speaker 2: about anything. I was like, there's no conversation that's too

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Speaker 2: difficult for me to have, there's no roadblock that I

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Speaker 2: haven't faced before.

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Speaker 1: Bring it the fuck on. How do you.

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Speaker 4: Feel about dating someone sober versus not sober?

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Speaker 2: So I've dated a few people being sober, and I've

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Speaker 2: also had, like I've gone on this journey of just

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Speaker 1: Yeah move, like signed my life over to them. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: And then all of those four things like put together gas.

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Speaker 4: Don't remember having sex. Okay, who knows what happened that night.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how, but for some reason, I'm gonna

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Speaker 4: My favorite thing, favorite thing is is to actually like

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Speaker 4: that's like the best. It's like code language. Anyways, we

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Speaker 3: Back to having sex.

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Speaker 1: Sober sex can be so good.

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Speaker 4: Once you get over the hump of like the you're

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Speaker 1: It's so good.

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Speaker 3: And then you could listen to your body, like I

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Speaker 4: Remember, okay, how does this? How do I feel lying

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Speaker 1: Right? Because you don't, I'll go straight to my head. Right.

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Speaker 4: If I listen to my body, my body is gonna

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Speaker 4: tell me exactly what's going on. Like you feel safe,

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Speaker 1: You feel dysregulated, you feel whatever it is, like it's right, no,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And the other part of it is like, and

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Speaker 2: Blessed with having a G spot inside the cookie I do.

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Speaker 1: Oh you're so lucky. Yeah, we have to talk two.

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Speaker 1: Like good for you, but like it didn't happen for me.

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Speaker 3: Oh you know.

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Speaker 2: Being sober during sex, I now know that, like I

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Speaker 2: It was all about the other person and chaotic and

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Speaker 3: Like truthfully, oh my gosh, I can't It.

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Speaker 3: Things feel yucky, I'll never forget.

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Speaker 4: Towards the end, Yeah, begging me to bring another woman in,

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Speaker 1: Was like, no, have you had a threesome before?

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Speaker 4: No, I can't do it now I'm sober. No, you

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Speaker 3: I don't know if I would like it.

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Speaker 2: And you couldn't have feelings for the person. It would

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Speaker 4: Oh, and obviously chicks. What do you think about husbands

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Speaker 2: Here's the thing, my judgmental mind wants to go.

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Speaker 2: Disgusting m hmm, okay, but then I have to remove myself.

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Speaker 2: And if all parties are consenting adults, then like, what's

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Speaker 1: Maybe? But you're not my person. I don't have to

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So if you and your wife that's your thing and.

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Speaker 2: She's cool with it, and the guy who's banging your

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Speaker 2: wife is cool with you watching, then like, by all means,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I don't even watch.

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Speaker 2: Like the porn I watch is so basic and I

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Speaker 1: Forward to like where it gets good.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't need the four play Let's just

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I got kids to take care of.

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Speaker 2: Banging on the door, Mom, I'm like, you're really killing

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Speaker 1: I'm like, mom's taking Wait does yours go underwater? No?

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Speaker 1: I just the water. Don't tell anyone. I leave the

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Speaker 2: But I figure there are people who don't bathe, so

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Speaker 2: I'm just baiting for them.

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Speaker 1: I've bought a house full of moms. Ye, child, I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, me and my vagina are like what, that's why

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Speaker 4: That's why you need an office.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, what is one thing in twenty twenty

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Speaker 1: When it comes to dating.

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Speaker 2: Ooh you said you have like a list of non negotiables.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I heard.

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Speaker 1: I did.

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Speaker 4: Well, I'm gonna say ins and out.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Well we already kind of like touch base on

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Speaker 4: and you like you'll say like Okay, you know, it

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Speaker 4: and say, like, you know what, let me say that differently.

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Speaker 3: That just totally came out like the wrong way, right.

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Speaker 4: I need that emotional intelligence to be able to like

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Speaker 2: They can't do that, then you're dealing with someone who's

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Speaker 4: But a lot of people can't. A lot of people

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Speaker 1: It's my favorite thing to do. Really, Yeah, I want

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Speaker 3: And I think the most one of the other things

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Speaker 4: Understand that, like my my family comes first, my girls

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Speaker 4: Like you're not going to just get like seventy five percent,

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Speaker 3: My kids aren't older.

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Speaker 2: Like they're and by the way, even when they turn eighteen,

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Speaker 3: It's not over and it's never over, never over.

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Speaker 4: And someone that encourages my career, that's a big one.

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Speaker 4: Like anytime I sit down with someone that's not that

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Speaker 4: I'm not dating in the industry, because I'm not dating

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Speaker 4: I say, like, you know, like when they ask me,

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Speaker 4: family and career always come first, right, So yeah, I

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00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:29,359
Speaker 4: mean literally my list is I put at the end,

447
00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:32,080
Speaker 4: I do not chase. I do not settle. That's a

448
00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:34,200
Speaker 4: big one. Do not settle. And I choose a partner

449
00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:37,920
Speaker 4: who meets me where I am growing grounded and continuing

450
00:21:38,000 --> 00:21:38,800
Speaker 4: to be real.

451
00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:40,120
Speaker 1: I love it.

452
00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:50,720
Speaker 3: What about you?

453
00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:54,040
Speaker 1: You know, I'm news to this, so I'm not entirely sure.

454
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:57,120
Speaker 2: But I did have a conversation with someone who I've

455
00:21:57,160 --> 00:22:02,959
Speaker 2: been talking to and it's very casual and I enjoy

456
00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:10,840
Speaker 2: his conversation, and honestly, it was just about consistency is

457
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:11,359
Speaker 2: big for me.

458
00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:17,640
Speaker 1: Also, I love quality time with somebody.

459
00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:22,480
Speaker 2: You know, I'm not someone who needs extravagant things. I

460
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 2: don't need to go out to nice dinners. I don't

461
00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:27,520
Speaker 2: need to have you shower me with gifts or send

462
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:31,840
Speaker 2: me flowers. It actually literally does nothing for me. And

463
00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:33,520
Speaker 2: I guess I could fixate on the part of, oh,

464
00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:37,119
Speaker 2: they're thinking about me enough to do this, but my

465
00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:40,919
Speaker 2: mind just doesn't go there. Anyone who will take time

466
00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:45,879
Speaker 2: to like be with me, call me, send me messages

467
00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:48,400
Speaker 2: like those are things that I crave. I just crave

468
00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:53,639
Speaker 2: consistency and honesty. Yeah that is and it sounds like

469
00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:56,280
Speaker 2: the bare minimum, but those are actually the hardest things

470
00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:57,080
Speaker 2: for people to.

471
00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:00,360
Speaker 1: Give to you. You know, it's very easy.

472
00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:02,439
Speaker 4: To well, we know that, we know that on a

473
00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 4: personal level, it's easy just to throw a gift at

474
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 4: someone and say, like, you know it. But that's not

475
00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:10,960
Speaker 4: that's a quick fix.

476
00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:14,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it doesn't. It just doesn't do for me

477
00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:17,639
Speaker 2: maybe what it used to do. I'm going to know

478
00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 2: what I want and don't want when it's around me.

479
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 2: And when I did start dating, I noticed that I

480
00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:33,600
Speaker 2: was attracting men who were kind of similar, very sexy

481
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:36,919
Speaker 2: but similar in trait to what I had dealt with

482
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:37,600
Speaker 2: in my past.

483
00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:40,320
Speaker 1: And that's when I knew we we have to like.

484
00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:44,280
Speaker 2: Press pause on the dating aspect of things, because.

485
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:46,240
Speaker 1: You are just not mentally there.

486
00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:49,879
Speaker 4: Well, that felt safe that because it felt familiar.

487
00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:53,480
Speaker 2: Well, amber, that's a real freaking problem when someone's trying

488
00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:56,760
Speaker 2: to be sweet and cute and intimate with me and

489
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:59,640
Speaker 2: it feels awkward, and then when they choose to pick

490
00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 2: a five or things get chaotic that I thrive in conflict.

491
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:05,439
Speaker 2: It was like, Oh, this is something we really need

492
00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:09,400
Speaker 2: to look into. There's also the aspect of I've noticed

493
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 2: with men who have come into my life over the

494
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 2: past few years they either are a little too camera

495
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:17,160
Speaker 2: hungry or they want nothing to do with it, And

496
00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:20,720
Speaker 2: that's a very fine line. You also have to know

497
00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 2: that we can have a personal life, but to some

498
00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:29,400
Speaker 2: degree privacy is going to become a bit non existent

499
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:33,399
Speaker 2: because this is my life and this is how I

500
00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:36,760
Speaker 2: afford the wonderful things that I have and I get

501
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 2: to do. It's how I'm able to send my kids

502
00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:41,320
Speaker 2: to school and.

503
00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:42,360
Speaker 1: Provide for them.

504
00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 2: So if you can't look at it from that lens,

505
00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:49,000
Speaker 2: then I'm not the girl for you, because there may

506
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,760
Speaker 2: be a time where we get into it and I'm

507
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:53,480
Speaker 2: filming a show and I'm going to have to talk

508
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 2: about my life and the moment that I stop doing that,

509
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:59,439
Speaker 2: they're going to pry and pry and pry until you

510
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:02,440
Speaker 2: run away, right, And I'm not.

511
00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:04,360
Speaker 1: Sticks are too high now.

512
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:08,320
Speaker 4: But that's a livelihood that takes someone who's really grounded

513
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:11,159
Speaker 4: and secure. Yeah, So like that those are something that

514
00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 4: like I would highly suggest, like asking does this person

515
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 4: feel really grounded in who they are right and are

516
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:17,680
Speaker 4: they secure?

517
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:20,520
Speaker 1: Because there's a lot of haters.

518
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 4: There's gonna be a lot of shit talkers. Yeah, and

519
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:24,639
Speaker 4: they have say you know what, I'm not even like

520
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:27,240
Speaker 4: paying attention, Like I don't receive that message like whatever

521
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:30,200
Speaker 4: that person negative negative energy or whatever they're saying about

522
00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:31,639
Speaker 4: me online or on TV or whatever.

523
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:33,520
Speaker 3: It's like, no, I'm good.

524
00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:37,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, I also think that they're there could be and

525
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 2: I'm trying not I'm for the sake of conversation on

526
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,080
Speaker 2: the pod. I'll mention that I do think about this

527
00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 2: at times, but honestly, like I said earlier, like going

528
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:48,080
Speaker 2: into this year, there's just things where I'm like, I

529
00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:48,880
Speaker 2: don't need to plan.

530
00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:51,720
Speaker 1: Let's just meet someone and just see where it goes.

531
00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 4: Just don't look bad person, and don't give me crazy

532
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 4: shit to have to like say like red flag.

533
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:00,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, you go out into this streets and you slip

534
00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:02,119
Speaker 1: up and you cheat. We're breaking up.

535
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:03,880
Speaker 2: I'm gonna say that you fucking cheated, But it ends

536
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 2: with dad. Yeah, don't be a monster.

537
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:08,639
Speaker 1: And the blessing is I'm not gonna have kids with you,

538
00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:11,120
Speaker 1: So if you fuck up, I'm done with you. Bye. Yeah.

539
00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:14,200
Speaker 3: Oh but no more else what no more kids with someone?

540
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 2: Well, that's another thing that I gave to the universe

541
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:19,000
Speaker 2: is I'm like, you know, I'm not gonna say that

542
00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:21,080
Speaker 2: I would never have kids with someone because I don't know.

543
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:22,960
Speaker 2: I never thought that one of my babies would be

544
00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:24,119
Speaker 2: born via sperm donor.

545
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:25,119
Speaker 4: I had my life.

546
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:27,440
Speaker 1: If you want to tell me that in my twenties,

547
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 1: I would have laughed at you.

548
00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:30,360
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, Like on what.

549
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 1: Planet would I have to go do that? And it's

550
00:26:33,800 --> 00:26:38,399
Speaker 1: like right, yeah, no, that's how closed minded and ignorant

551
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:41,160
Speaker 1: I was. Getting a sperm donors for people who can't

552
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:44,920
Speaker 1: find a man. You're a fucking idiot. It's entirely not true.

553
00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 1: Same sex couples get sperm donors all the time. People

554
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:49,960
Speaker 1: who don't want to deal with a man.

555
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:54,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I had never thought like I just my eyes

556
00:26:54,119 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 2: have been opened to many things. I never thought i'd

557
00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:58,880
Speaker 2: be in the situation with Ocean, being a single mom

558
00:26:58,880 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 2: and being in a custody batter.

559
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:02,520
Speaker 1: Never thought I would be seeking a sperm donor.

560
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 2: Never in my wildest dreams did I think that my

561
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 2: household would consist of.

562
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:07,879
Speaker 1: My mom and my brother.

563
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:11,360
Speaker 2: And never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd

564
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:14,720
Speaker 2: be on reality TV and going out and saying, Wow,

565
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 2: I am able at thirty five to own two houses

566
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:18,120
Speaker 2: by myself.

567
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:21,600
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, But think about that, Oh my gosh,

568
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:25,200
Speaker 4: that like life is just gonna like happen the way

569
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:25,919
Speaker 4: it's supposed to know.

570
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:29,359
Speaker 3: I so like, I totally see you with a boy.

571
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 1: I think you would.

572
00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:35,719
Speaker 4: Crush having a son, you'd kate you, guys.

573
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 2: My daughter, Ocean, has been begging me for a brother,

574
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:41,480
Speaker 2: and I told her, I was like, you know, if

575
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 2: mommy has another baby, like we don't, I don't get

576
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 2: to choose if it's a boy or a girl.

577
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:47,359
Speaker 1: You know, Sosa came and she just happened to be

578
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 1: a girl.

579
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 2: The next morning, she wakes up and she says, Mommy,

580
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,959
Speaker 2: I had the best dream. I had a dream that

581
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:57,240
Speaker 2: you were pregnant again and you gave me a little brother,

582
00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 2: and we all lived together and all of us were

583
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:04,399
Speaker 2: really there for each other. And I about died.

584
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:09,439
Speaker 1: Oh. I was like, who are you? Where did you

585
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:10,000
Speaker 1: come from?

586
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 2: Do you know? My biggest thing right now is teaching

587
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 2: her like Sosa is your best friend. There are gonna

588
00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:16,679
Speaker 2: be times that you fight, but when people in this

589
00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 2: world are mean to you, she's gonna be your safe

590
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 2: space and you're gonna be her safe space.

591
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:22,200
Speaker 1: You have to protect each other at all costs.

592
00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 2: So for her to say we were really there for

593
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 2: each other, I'm like, oh my gosh.

594
00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:28,000
Speaker 1: Maybe you know.

595
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 2: Chris Medina said he does see me having a baby

596
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:31,520
Speaker 2: with a man.

597
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:35,160
Speaker 1: So I'm like, again, I threw it to the universe.

598
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 4: And I did the same thing. I said the same thing.

599
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:38,400
Speaker 4: I was like, I'm not having any more kids.

600
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 1: I'm done.

601
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 4: I have my kids are twelve and almost sixteen, Like

602
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 4: I'm done. But then I was like, wait, that's old behavior.

603
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 4: Just like you know what, just give it, give it

604
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 4: to the universe. Whatever happens. Yeah, like I look at

605
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 4: Jen Meyer who's having a baby, and she's forty eight

606
00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:54,920
Speaker 4: years old, and I'm like.

607
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:58,080
Speaker 3: Fuck yeah, great's she really inspired me?

608
00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 4: Like she looks stunning and beautiful and happy and in

609
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:04,960
Speaker 4: love and like she's glowing. And I'm like, wait, why

610
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 4: are you putting like a And she has two kids,

611
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:09,120
Speaker 4: older kids, right, and like why are you putting a?

612
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 4: Like why does it have to be a yes or no?

613
00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 4: If it if it's meant to happen, it's gonna happen.

614
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 5: No.

615
00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, my higher power has placed me exactly where, like

616
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 2: the stuff, the stars were aligned the moment I entered

617
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 2: this world, My journey was already said, like.

618
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:25,360
Speaker 1: I have no freaking say.

619
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 2: I am here and there's gonna be road bumps, and

620
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 2: I know that if.

621
00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:31,960
Speaker 1: Something is a fight, I'm like, okay, this is God.

622
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 2: And by the way, if I keep fighting, I'm gonna

623
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 2: get what I want and it's gonna be wrong for me.

624
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 1: So just take this as a fucking sign. Yeah you know. Yeah,

625
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:42,200
Speaker 1: I love a good psychic.

626
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:43,719
Speaker 4: By the way, we need to. I want a psychic

627
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 4: on the show.

628
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 1: Let's bring Medina on. I really love for him to

629
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 1: read me.

630
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:48,760
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something very quickly before we wrap

631
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:51,880
Speaker 2: it up. There is a vanity aspect of having a third,

632
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:55,480
Speaker 2: of course, and I'm okay to admit this. I love

633
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 2: being pregnant. It's like my most favorite thing, so I

634
00:29:57,840 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 2: want to experience it again.

635
00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:00,320
Speaker 1: But since my.

636
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 2: Second baby, I've looked at your body. Your body does

637
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:05,920
Speaker 2: not look like my stomach. Depending on how I move,

638
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:09,239
Speaker 2: it's a little creepy my stomach. And I don't want

639
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 2: anyone to be like, oh, shut the fuck up. I'm

640
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 2: being vulnerable right now. No matter who you are, what

641
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:19,280
Speaker 2: you look like, we all sit here and look at

642
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 2: ourselves and go, I don't love this.

643
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:27,360
Speaker 1: I'm telling you my stomach, I just I get nervous.

644
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:29,360
Speaker 2: The third we're gonna have a real We're gonna have

645
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:30,719
Speaker 2: a real granny issue happening.

646
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:34,360
Speaker 4: No, okay, first of all, that's not true. I've seen

647
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 4: your naked body. We've been through this in the first episode.

648
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 4: You're beautiful and if you don't like the way you look,

649
00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 4: you could change it. Yeah, that are you exercising.

650
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:49,680
Speaker 1: I've been really bad the past, people so very bad.

651
00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: I look like the Grinch, you know, he has like a.

652
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 2: Little ass with a pot belly and like little little boobs.

653
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 1: I did inquire about a boob job. She's calling me today.

654
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 1: I'm very excit. I did about that for you too.

655
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 1: I come in next next episode, I'm gonna have fucking knockers.

656
00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 4: Bro, you're gonna have to move the mic back four

657
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:10,480
Speaker 4: inches or maybe four feet.

658
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:13,360
Speaker 1: Right, listen, you get your boobs done.

659
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 3: I want a BBL.

660
00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 1: Well, if you're getting a BBL, soul am I.

661
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 4: I'm dying for I just don't want to do any

662
00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 4: more squads.

663
00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 3: I hate leg days.

664
00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 1: I do too.

665
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 3: They're the worst.

666
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:25,320
Speaker 2: And by the way, I work so hard to get it, perky,

667
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 2: I missed one week and I'm like.

668
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:28,480
Speaker 1: She's back to this. Why am I putting in so

669
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:29,080
Speaker 1: much work?

670
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, I think a little BBL.

671
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 1: It's the most dangerous surgery you can get, is it?

672
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 1: You can die? Yeah, it's really dangerous. I'm willing to

673
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:39,360
Speaker 1: take the risk.

674
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:46,760
Speaker 4: I mean, I just want like three four inches same

675
00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 4: like Seriously, that makes a big difference.

676
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 2: I'm trying to actually live like Cardi b But that's fine.

677
00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:54,479
Speaker 1: It's hot, she's fucking banging.

678
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:55,120
Speaker 3: She's hot.

679
00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 2: I want to have to use your customed made Oh no,

680
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:05,040
Speaker 2: that's annoying because my my thigh to ass to Torso Ratio,

681
00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:06,720
Speaker 2: is that wild.

682
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 4: Let's do this after you have the third baby, because

683
00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:12,880
Speaker 4: you are gonna have another baby.

684
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:14,479
Speaker 1: Really, you see that in my future?

685
00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 2: I do all right, I really do think it's a boy.

686
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:18,960
Speaker 2: I do all right, you know what, giving it to

687
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 2: the universe. Yeah, and maybe we just have it together. Well,

688
00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 2: don't tup me with a good time.

689
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:25,480
Speaker 1: No, I really like I would sope you down for them.

690
00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 2: Remember if I did that with you, we would really

691
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 2: be we would exile men for sure.

692
00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: That's a real problem.

693
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:33,960
Speaker 2: We're talking about how we're open. We have a baby together.

694
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 2: I do paint me lesbonic. Okay, I'm never going back.

695
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:41,680
Speaker 2: Scary out there.

696
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 3: It is scary out there.

697
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 1: I see some of the men that my friends end

698
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:48,800
Speaker 1: up with, and I'm like that this is what's out there. No,

699
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:50,160
Speaker 1: You're like, sure, I'll marry you.

700
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 4: I was like, No, I said, I'm gonna move to Montana.

701
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 4: And I did sa ionna find myself like a cool cowboy,

702
00:32:57,960 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 4: not like just just just a very liberal cowboy. Yes, yes,

703
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:06,600
Speaker 4: And I get out there, and first of all, they

704
00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:11,200
Speaker 4: call Bozeman Montana. Yeah, Bo's angelis because everyone from La

705
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:13,760
Speaker 4: is moving to Bozeman, okay, which is like, fine, I

706
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 4: have nothing against that, but the men on the dating apps.

707
00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 4: Before I deleted my hinge, it was like, if I

708
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:29,160
Speaker 4: see another fricking guy holding a dead fish like like this,

709
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:33,480
Speaker 4: or a pair of antlers like this, that's what I

710
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 4: was like, the dude, that's that's terrible.

711
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,360
Speaker 3: Like, if that's what you like to do, fine, okay,

712
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:40,160
Speaker 3: I'm not going to judge you.

713
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:41,800
Speaker 1: I'm judging. I don't.

714
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 3: I don't want to see it. That tells me nothing

715
00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:44,840
Speaker 3: about you.

716
00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 4: That tells me that you know how to shoot a

717
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:48,960
Speaker 4: gun and you know how to catch a fucking fish. Okay,

718
00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 4: And so does my twelve year old daughter, Like it's

719
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:53,280
Speaker 4: so bad.

720
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 1: It's so it's so excary.

721
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:56,160
Speaker 4: And that's why I was like, dude, I'm done. I'm

722
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 4: not I'm done with dating apps.

723
00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 1: I'm done. Yeah, it's it's.

724
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 3: A wh you know what I wanted to do.

725
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 4: I wanted to start a business to help guys with

726
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:05,480
Speaker 4: their profiles.

727
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,480
Speaker 1: It's actually fucking genius, yes.

728
00:34:09,040 --> 00:34:12,759
Speaker 4: Because there's so many guys that I've I've actually gone

729
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 4: on date dates with that I'm like, I just give

730
00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 4: him a try, Like, just give him a try and

731
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 4: I'm oh, you're so much cuter in person, like your

732
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 4: your photos are not great. Guys don't know how to

733
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:24,200
Speaker 4: do photos, and I don't want to see a selfie.

734
00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:27,560
Speaker 2: At selfie, I get it because I am the worst

735
00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 2: at taking photos. I mean and no, truly, you got

736
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:32,719
Speaker 2: to take a lot for me to find one that

737
00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:33,680
Speaker 2: I like.

738
00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:36,880
Speaker 1: Like a lot. Okay, truthfully, I'm not kidding.

739
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 2: And maybe it's because I'm looking at myself and I'm

740
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:41,840
Speaker 2: weird about the nose tilt and I'm also getting a

741
00:34:41,880 --> 00:34:46,799
Speaker 2: jaw line this year too.

742
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:51,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're gonna make one plastic surgeon real happy.

743
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, getting in there.

744
00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, I can't the next time we see you're feeling wrapped.

745
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:01,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, insert needles and dicks here. That's all I care about. Yeah,

746
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:10,399
Speaker 1: but I'm open to a relationship here me God anyway, Oh,

747
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:12,200
Speaker 1: this is a fun episode. I had.

748
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:14,239
Speaker 2: I had little bullet points. But you and I are

749
00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 2: good at tangentine. Yeah, my most favorite thing to do.

750
00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 2: You want to sign us off?

751
00:35:18,719 --> 00:35:18,919
Speaker 1: Oh?

752
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 4: Oh okay, all right, well I don't even know what

753
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 4: to say, but let's do it.

754
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 3: Okay, guys, thank you everyone for joining in to an

755
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:26,600
Speaker 3: unlikely affair.

756
00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:28,279
Speaker 1: Thank you, La La Thank you.

757
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:29,600
Speaker 3: It's been a real pleasure.

758
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 4: It's been a real pleasure. Pleasure is that all I'm

759
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:34,839
Speaker 4: supposed to say.

760
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:36,279
Speaker 1: We'll catch you guys next week.

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00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 3: Bye bye,