WEBVTT - Dear Chiquis: Should I Make an OnlyFans?

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached

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<v Speaker 2>beeB, Hi Cheeky's, I would really love your opinion on something.

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<v Speaker 2>So I recently came up with the idea of creating

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<v Speaker 2>and only fans but completely anonymous, and I would want

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<v Speaker 2>it to be completely anonymous because I am currently working

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<v Speaker 2>on my doctor program and I know that there could

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<v Speaker 2>be risk if I am on a platform like that.

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<v Speaker 2>And I also just became a mom year ago, and

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<v Speaker 2>after having my baby, I felt super self conscious and

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like creating my only Fans page can definitely

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<v Speaker 2>help me be more confident, but I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>it's worth the risk I've thought about it a lot,

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<v Speaker 2>and I really really want to do it. My husband

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<v Speaker 2>is super supportive about it. I am thinking if I

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<v Speaker 2>can just do it for a little bit and then

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<v Speaker 2>stop if I think that it's not a good choice

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<v Speaker 2>for me. I am also in a lot of student

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<v Speaker 2>debts and we're one household income, so that extra cash

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<v Speaker 2>would definitely help. But I know that it could still

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<v Speaker 2>be risky, So I just wanted to know your opinion.

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<v Speaker 2>You're definitely in the public eye. I wanted to see

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<v Speaker 2>your perspective. Should it be something that I just try

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<v Speaker 2>out or should I just wait until I'm done with

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<v Speaker 2>my program and think of a different way to embrace

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<v Speaker 2>my artistic side.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, my beautiful anonymous listener. I love your voice. You

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<v Speaker 1>have a very pretty voice, by the way. Okay, look,

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<v Speaker 1>that was going to be my first question. Do you

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<v Speaker 1>have a partner? Are you married? Are they going to

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<v Speaker 1>be okay with it? If you have the green light

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<v Speaker 1>from your husband and you are in debt and you

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<v Speaker 1>want to try this out, why the heck not crazy enough?

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<v Speaker 1>I had brought this up to my husband. He's not

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<v Speaker 1>okay with it. But I know people that have made

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of money on OnlyFans, and I support it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, dude, more power do you, especially if you're

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<v Speaker 1>not hiding it from you know, your husband, and he's

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<v Speaker 1>totally fine with it. I understand that you're in this program,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know what, like what you do in your

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<v Speaker 1>personal life is your business, mind you. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>you should put it out there or whatever. But I've

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<v Speaker 1>always had this idea of having in OnlyFans, although I wouldn't,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm saying when I thought about it, of like

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<v Speaker 1>doing like a mask type of thing. I have tattoos,

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<v Speaker 1>so I would cover up my tattoos. I've thought about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I've even thought about, like, oh, what if I'm like

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<v Speaker 1>a stripper? This is before right, but people know me.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, I would have to like definitely

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<v Speaker 1>cover up my tattoos, and I would like to wear

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<v Speaker 1>like a mask and change my name. It's like a

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<v Speaker 1>whole other persona. You know, like I have Cheeky's and

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<v Speaker 1>I have Janee. You know that you can have you,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you can have I don't know, we'll name

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<v Speaker 1>her diamond Girl or something, and you just put on

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<v Speaker 1>a mask and you do your thing and no one

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<v Speaker 1>ever has to know what you look like, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it'll be fun. And if it doesn't work

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<v Speaker 1>out then okay, at least you tried it. And if

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<v Speaker 1>it works out, then a freaking amazing for you and

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<v Speaker 1>your husband. You know, it might make him really excited

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, and your relationship, your marriage will benefit

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<v Speaker 1>from it. So I definitely say go for it again.

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<v Speaker 1>No one needs to know. It's your own little personal thing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's that other persona that you have and do it, girl. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>your child doesn't even have to know in the future.

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<v Speaker 1>No one needs to know. This is your own little thing.

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<v Speaker 1>You and your husband. Let me know what you decide. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and good luck because there is a lot of money

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<v Speaker 1>to be made there for sure, and you don't even

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<v Speaker 1>have to have sex with anyone. You just got to

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<v Speaker 1>be sexy. Oh my gosh, girl, do it? Okay, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>So we're gonna move on to the next question, also

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<v Speaker 1>from an anonymous listener. Let's see, Hi.

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<v Speaker 3>Cheekys, I really really really love your podcast. I listen

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<v Speaker 3>to it like every time a new episode comes out.

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<v Speaker 2>I just love it.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm coming to you now because it's something really

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<v Speaker 3>important and I really need your help on. So me

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<v Speaker 3>and my boyfriend been almost together for a year, and

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<v Speaker 3>a couple of days ago we found out we're pregnant.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know how many weeks I am. I just

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<v Speaker 3>took a test and now I have to figure out

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<v Speaker 3>how I'm gonna tell my parents. Yes, I'm old enough,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm about to be twenty seven in a couple of weeks,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm just scared of how I'm ia tell my

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<v Speaker 3>parents because years ago, my sister, my older sister, she

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<v Speaker 3>was a team mom and she told my parents. I

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<v Speaker 3>guess from that moment it traumatized me because of the

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<v Speaker 3>reaction and how my sister left the house and she

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<v Speaker 3>was my biggest role model. Now that I'm pregnant, I

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<v Speaker 3>guess it's the trauma that scares me of telling my parents.

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<v Speaker 3>And is there any advice she can give me. I

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<v Speaker 3>really do appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>I get it. I understand. I remember when my sister

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<v Speaker 1>Jackie had to tell my mom. She was really scared.

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<v Speaker 1>My sister was like, what nineteen twenty anyways, So just

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<v Speaker 1>brought it took me back to that moment. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>they might be disappointed, they might not talk to you

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<v Speaker 1>for a little bit, but you know what, this is

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<v Speaker 1>your life, and once they see the baby, they're going

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<v Speaker 1>to fall in love. And how are they not going

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<v Speaker 1>to love your baby? You know. I saw how my

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<v Speaker 1>mother loved my niece, and you know, it's just the

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<v Speaker 1>joy of her life, you know. So I understand that

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<v Speaker 1>you're scared, and just do it with fear. And I

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<v Speaker 1>always say this because this always helps me when I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't have the courage to say things like

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<v Speaker 1>confront something or confrontation a letter, you know, hey, and

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<v Speaker 1>so that they have time to digest it and it's

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<v Speaker 1>not as scary maybe writing them a letter and letting

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<v Speaker 1>them know, but also understanding that they might be upset

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<v Speaker 1>or disappointed or whatnot, you know, but it's okay. That's

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<v Speaker 1>their opinion, and they're probably very traditional. One thing I

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<v Speaker 1>hope that they don't do, because I feel like this

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<v Speaker 1>ruins relationships is when the parents force their children to

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<v Speaker 1>get married. That should be your choice and your partner's choice,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. But anyways, that's just a little side note.

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<v Speaker 1>But do it with fear. I understand that the trauma

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<v Speaker 1>is there. Maybe because your sister already went through it,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe they'll like ease up a little bit. But a

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<v Speaker 1>baby's a blessing. A baby's a blessing, and they will

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<v Speaker 1>love the baby with time, so I'm hoping that they

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<v Speaker 1>take it well. And yeah, God bless your baby and

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<v Speaker 1>your relationship for sure. Okay, guys, next question comes from

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<v Speaker 1>another anonymous listener. All right, let's see.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi, cheekies.

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<v Speaker 5>I wanted to go ahead and keep my name anonymously,

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<v Speaker 5>but I just wanted to start off by saying that

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<v Speaker 5>I love you, and I love your podcast, your words,

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<v Speaker 5>and your advice. So I was wondering if you can

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<v Speaker 5>give me some advice. I'm currently going through a little situation.

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<v Speaker 5>I got out of a year and a half relationship

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<v Speaker 5>with somebody due to domestic violence. He did something that

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<v Speaker 5>was very unforgivable. Although he has been contacting me since

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<v Speaker 5>the breakup about four or five times, wanting to meet up,

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<v Speaker 5>wanting to talk, wanting to apologize for what he did,

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<v Speaker 5>I just am confused. I don't know if I should

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know if I shouldn't because I'm a very

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<v Speaker 5>forgiving person and I don't want to continue to carry

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<v Speaker 5>this pain and this resentment and this anger of that

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<v Speaker 5>night in my heart and my soul. It's very heavy

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<v Speaker 5>for me. So in a way. I want to meet

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<v Speaker 5>up with him and hear him out.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to go back. I don't plan to.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't want to. I'm very firm on that decision,

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<v Speaker 5>although I do want to kind of meet up just

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<v Speaker 5>so I could heal for my own healing journey, for

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<v Speaker 5>my own peace of mind. And yeah, that's the reason

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<v Speaker 5>why I wouldn't want to. But then again, I feel

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<v Speaker 5>that he doesn't deserve it, so I stuck between the two.

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<v Speaker 5>So if you can go ahead and help me, I

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<v Speaker 5>me know what you think, what you would do if

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<v Speaker 5>you were in my shoes.

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<v Speaker 1>If I were in your shoes, I would meet it

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<v Speaker 1>up with him. Why because I don't know how long

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<v Speaker 1>it's been, but I would let a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>time go by. I think also for his healing. I

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<v Speaker 1>think being able to apologize face to face will help him.

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<v Speaker 1>But it will definitely help you give you closure, especially

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<v Speaker 1>if you're telling me that you definitely don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>go back. I would tell you if there was a chance,

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<v Speaker 1>or you still loved him, or you felt like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I might go back with him, because I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what he did, but you said it's unforgivable. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay, and it's safe for you to meet up

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<v Speaker 1>with him in a somewhat public place, give him the time,

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<v Speaker 1>especially if this is someone that you loved, just to

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<v Speaker 1>close that chapter in your life, to just give your

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<v Speaker 1>heart closure, to give him closure, whether he deserves it

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<v Speaker 1>or not, you know, but it's also through your healing journey,

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<v Speaker 1>you're helping him heal and that's going to just help

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<v Speaker 1>you in your future. I'm that type of person, like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, okay, I'll hear you out, and because then

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to live with a what if I would

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<v Speaker 1>have given him the opportunity, And I don't like to

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<v Speaker 1>live with doubt, at least not me. So I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay again semi public place where there it's not

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<v Speaker 1>too crowded, but it's still a public place where you

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<v Speaker 1>can have this conversation where he can apologize and make

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<v Speaker 1>it very clear like hey, I forgive you. What you

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<v Speaker 1>did is not okay. You need to get help or

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<v Speaker 1>whatever the case may be. He gets to say what

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<v Speaker 1>he has to say, and so do you. And you

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<v Speaker 1>just walk away and you're just like, Okay, that chapter

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<v Speaker 1>that book in my life boom closed. I think it

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<v Speaker 1>will definitely help you for sure, because I can still

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<v Speaker 1>hear in your voice that it hurts you, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure he did something really, really horrible, but it seems

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<v Speaker 1>like you're open to it. So I'm gonna go ahead

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<v Speaker 1>and tell you it's okay, giving you the green light.

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<v Speaker 1>Just be safe and make sure it's during the day.

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<v Speaker 1>That's all I'm gonna say. Okay, all right, last question,

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<v Speaker 1>guys comes from Rosie. Hello cheekies.

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<v Speaker 4>As the it's so is the thing no mass can

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<v Speaker 4>lesson respeto for disposal? That was amazing movie being difici

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<v Speaker 4>as a familia. It was it was I could.

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<v Speaker 1>I've tried to avoid going.

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<v Speaker 4>To like picnics and and get together managed okaras and

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<v Speaker 4>not missing directamente pas is like crazy, and so is

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<v Speaker 4>the thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. So Rosie is saying that she is married and

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<v Speaker 1>she doesn't necessarily get along very well with her sisters

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<v Speaker 1>in law. Sounds like there's a few a couple and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, her husband's very close to his family, so

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<v Speaker 1>she does her best to go to family gatherings, but they,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, give a little face, and she feels very uncomfortable,

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<v Speaker 1>and she just kind of wants to know what to do,

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<v Speaker 1>like what I suggest, you know, so, I just wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to like translate real quick. But Rosie ab it, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if your husband has had the conversation with

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<v Speaker 1>his sisters, but I think that is important to give

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<v Speaker 1>you your place as his woman, for him to do

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<v Speaker 1>his part and you as a partner to do your part, absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>because I feel like if he's very close to his family,

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<v Speaker 1>then you need to also cater to that and love

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<v Speaker 1>his family even if they don't love you back. But

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<v Speaker 1>if they're just giving you like faces and stuff like that,

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<v Speaker 1>like I feel like you could be like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just going to ignore it. I'm just going to

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<v Speaker 1>look the other way. I'm here for my husband, because

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<v Speaker 1>if you allow them to push you out, then that's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be on you, you know. So, But if

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<v Speaker 1>there's a day that you're like, you know what, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't feel like going no kioesta, no sino malakara. You

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<v Speaker 1>know you're you're you're not going to be happy, and

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<v Speaker 1>then it's just going to be an issue all over.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think if you can kind of put that

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<v Speaker 1>to the side, if they're not necessarily like being rude

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<v Speaker 1>to you or belitting you, or like saying things to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Then I think les Gadas and all that stuff, like

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<v Speaker 1>the little faces that they make to you, like it's

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<v Speaker 1>just kind of like, you know what, that's childish, that's

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<v Speaker 1>on them. I'm going to be my best self. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to be the bigger person for my husband. And

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<v Speaker 1>then with time, he'll realize that the issue is not you,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a sisters, and hopefully he steps up and defends

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<v Speaker 1>you and it's like, hey, you guys got to get

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<v Speaker 1>your shit together, like this is my girl, this is

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<v Speaker 1>the woman I love. Because that's tricky, you know, because

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want to be that woman that separates your

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<v Speaker 1>man from his family than vocal. You don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>do that. So my suggestion is hopefully having a conversation

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<v Speaker 1>with him and he has to fix that, or also

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<v Speaker 1>saying hey to the sisters, you guys, like we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to be family. I'm his wife and I want to

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<v Speaker 1>be with you guys, like let's just figure out, like

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<v Speaker 1>let's be happy, you know, like let's find a way

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<v Speaker 1>because if you if you don't go to the family

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<v Speaker 1>gatherings and stuff like that, like you're letting them win,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. So it's kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>just knowing like they're being immature. I'm not gonna soup

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<v Speaker 1>down to their level. You get me. I know it's

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<v Speaker 1>tough because just I'm not gonna say much, but I

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<v Speaker 1>feel you. I feel you on that one. So hopefully

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<v Speaker 1>it works out. Talk to him. Hopefully he defends you

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<v Speaker 1>better when no. All right, guys, So that finalizes this

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