Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
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Speaker 2: beeB, Hi Cheeky's, I would really love your opinion on something.
Speaker 2: So I recently came up with the idea of creating
Speaker 2: and only fans but completely anonymous, and I would want
Speaker 2: it to be completely anonymous because I am currently working
Speaker 2: on my doctor program and I know that there could
Speaker 2: be risk if I am on a platform like that.
Speaker 2: And I also just became a mom year ago, and
Speaker 2: after having my baby, I felt super self conscious and
Speaker 2: I feel like creating my only Fans page can definitely
Speaker 2: help me be more confident, but I don't know if
Speaker 2: it's worth the risk I've thought about it a lot,
Speaker 2: and I really really want to do it. My husband
Speaker 2: is super supportive about it. I am thinking if I
Speaker 2: can just do it for a little bit and then
Speaker 2: stop if I think that it's not a good choice
Speaker 2: for me. I am also in a lot of student
Speaker 2: debts and we're one household income, so that extra cash
Speaker 2: would definitely help. But I know that it could still
Speaker 2: be risky, So I just wanted to know your opinion.
Speaker 2: You're definitely in the public eye. I wanted to see
Speaker 2: your perspective. Should it be something that I just try
Speaker 2: out or should I just wait until I'm done with
Speaker 2: my program and think of a different way to embrace
Speaker 2: my artistic side.
Speaker 1: Hello, my beautiful anonymous listener. I love your voice. You
Speaker 1: have a very pretty voice, by the way. Okay, look,
Speaker 1: that was going to be my first question. Do you
Speaker 1: have a partner? Are you married? Are they going to
Speaker 1: be okay with it? If you have the green light
Speaker 1: from your husband and you are in debt and you
Speaker 1: want to try this out, why the heck not crazy enough?
Speaker 1: I had brought this up to my husband. He's not
Speaker 1: okay with it. But I know people that have made
Speaker 1: a lot of money on OnlyFans, and I support it.
Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, more power do you, especially if you're
Speaker 1: not hiding it from you know, your husband, and he's
Speaker 1: totally fine with it. I understand that you're in this program,
Speaker 1: but you know what, like what you do in your
Speaker 1: personal life is your business, mind you. I don't think
Speaker 1: you should put it out there or whatever. But I've
Speaker 1: always had this idea of having in OnlyFans, although I wouldn't,
Speaker 1: but I'm saying when I thought about it, of like
Speaker 1: doing like a mask type of thing. I have tattoos,
Speaker 1: so I would cover up my tattoos. I've thought about it.
Speaker 1: I've even thought about, like, oh, what if I'm like
Speaker 1: a stripper? This is before right, but people know me.
Speaker 1: So I was like, I would have to like definitely
Speaker 1: cover up my tattoos, and I would like to wear
Speaker 1: like a mask and change my name. It's like a
Speaker 1: whole other persona. You know, like I have Cheeky's and
Speaker 1: I have Janee. You know that you can have you,
Speaker 1: and then you can have I don't know, we'll name
Speaker 1: her diamond Girl or something, and you just put on
Speaker 1: a mask and you do your thing and no one
Speaker 1: ever has to know what you look like, and yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it'll be fun. And if it doesn't work
Speaker 1: out then okay, at least you tried it. And if
Speaker 1: it works out, then a freaking amazing for you and
Speaker 1: your husband. You know, it might make him really excited
Speaker 1: and you know, and your relationship, your marriage will benefit
Speaker 1: from it. So I definitely say go for it again.
Speaker 1: No one needs to know. It's your own little personal thing.
Speaker 1: It's that other persona that you have and do it, girl. Yes,
Speaker 1: your child doesn't even have to know in the future.
Speaker 1: No one needs to know. This is your own little thing.
Speaker 1: You and your husband. Let me know what you decide. Okay,
Speaker 1: and good luck because there is a lot of money
Speaker 1: to be made there for sure, and you don't even
Speaker 1: have to have sex with anyone. You just got to
Speaker 1: be sexy. Oh my gosh, girl, do it? Okay, guys,
Speaker 1: So we're gonna move on to the next question, also
Speaker 1: from an anonymous listener. Let's see, Hi.
Speaker 3: Cheekys, I really really really love your podcast. I listen
Speaker 3: to it like every time a new episode comes out.
Speaker 2: I just love it.
Speaker 3: So I'm coming to you now because it's something really
Speaker 3: important and I really need your help on. So me
Speaker 3: and my boyfriend been almost together for a year, and
Speaker 3: a couple of days ago we found out we're pregnant.
Speaker 3: I don't know how many weeks I am. I just
Speaker 3: took a test and now I have to figure out
Speaker 3: how I'm gonna tell my parents. Yes, I'm old enough,
Speaker 3: I'm about to be twenty seven in a couple of weeks,
Speaker 3: and I'm just scared of how I'm ia tell my
Speaker 3: parents because years ago, my sister, my older sister, she
Speaker 3: was a team mom and she told my parents. I
Speaker 3: guess from that moment it traumatized me because of the
Speaker 3: reaction and how my sister left the house and she
Speaker 3: was my biggest role model. Now that I'm pregnant, I
Speaker 3: guess it's the trauma that scares me of telling my parents.
Speaker 3: And is there any advice she can give me. I
Speaker 3: really do appreciate it.
Speaker 1: I get it. I understand. I remember when my sister
Speaker 1: Jackie had to tell my mom. She was really scared.
Speaker 1: My sister was like, what nineteen twenty anyways, So just
Speaker 1: brought it took me back to that moment. You know,
Speaker 1: they might be disappointed, they might not talk to you
Speaker 1: for a little bit, but you know what, this is
Speaker 1: your life, and once they see the baby, they're going
Speaker 1: to fall in love. And how are they not going
Speaker 1: to love your baby? You know. I saw how my
Speaker 1: mother loved my niece, and you know, it's just the
Speaker 1: joy of her life, you know. So I understand that
Speaker 1: you're scared, and just do it with fear. And I
Speaker 1: always say this because this always helps me when I'm
Speaker 1: like I don't have the courage to say things like
Speaker 1: confront something or confrontation a letter, you know, hey, and
Speaker 1: so that they have time to digest it and it's
Speaker 1: not as scary maybe writing them a letter and letting
Speaker 1: them know, but also understanding that they might be upset
Speaker 1: or disappointed or whatnot, you know, but it's okay. That's
Speaker 1: their opinion, and they're probably very traditional. One thing I
Speaker 1: hope that they don't do, because I feel like this
Speaker 1: ruins relationships is when the parents force their children to
Speaker 1: get married. That should be your choice and your partner's choice,
Speaker 1: you know. But anyways, that's just a little side note.
Speaker 1: But do it with fear. I understand that the trauma
Speaker 1: is there. Maybe because your sister already went through it,
Speaker 1: maybe they'll like ease up a little bit. But a
Speaker 1: baby's a blessing. A baby's a blessing, and they will
Speaker 1: love the baby with time, so I'm hoping that they
Speaker 1: take it well. And yeah, God bless your baby and
Speaker 1: your relationship for sure. Okay, guys, next question comes from
Speaker 1: another anonymous listener. All right, let's see.
Speaker 4: Hi, cheekies.
Speaker 5: I wanted to go ahead and keep my name anonymously,
Speaker 5: but I just wanted to start off by saying that
Speaker 5: I love you, and I love your podcast, your words,
Speaker 5: and your advice. So I was wondering if you can
Speaker 5: give me some advice. I'm currently going through a little situation.
Speaker 5: I got out of a year and a half relationship
Speaker 5: with somebody due to domestic violence. He did something that
Speaker 5: was very unforgivable. Although he has been contacting me since
Speaker 5: the breakup about four or five times, wanting to meet up,
Speaker 5: wanting to talk, wanting to apologize for what he did,
Speaker 5: I just am confused. I don't know if I should
Speaker 5: I don't know if I shouldn't because I'm a very
Speaker 5: forgiving person and I don't want to continue to carry
Speaker 5: this pain and this resentment and this anger of that
Speaker 5: night in my heart and my soul. It's very heavy
Speaker 5: for me. So in a way. I want to meet
Speaker 5: up with him and hear him out.
Speaker 1: I don't want to go back. I don't plan to.
Speaker 5: I don't want to. I'm very firm on that decision,
Speaker 5: although I do want to kind of meet up just
Speaker 5: so I could heal for my own healing journey, for
Speaker 5: my own peace of mind. And yeah, that's the reason
Speaker 5: why I wouldn't want to. But then again, I feel
Speaker 5: that he doesn't deserve it, so I stuck between the two.
Speaker 5: So if you can go ahead and help me, I
Speaker 5: me know what you think, what you would do if
Speaker 5: you were in my shoes.
Speaker 1: If I were in your shoes, I would meet it
Speaker 1: up with him. Why because I don't know how long
Speaker 1: it's been, but I would let a little bit of
Speaker 1: time go by. I think also for his healing. I
Speaker 1: think being able to apologize face to face will help him.
Speaker 1: But it will definitely help you give you closure, especially
Speaker 1: if you're telling me that you definitely don't want to
Speaker 1: go back. I would tell you if there was a chance,
Speaker 1: or you still loved him, or you felt like, oh,
Speaker 1: I might go back with him, because I don't know
Speaker 1: what he did, but you said it's unforgivable. I think
Speaker 1: it's okay, and it's safe for you to meet up
Speaker 1: with him in a somewhat public place, give him the time,
Speaker 1: especially if this is someone that you loved, just to
Speaker 1: close that chapter in your life, to just give your
Speaker 1: heart closure, to give him closure, whether he deserves it
Speaker 1: or not, you know, but it's also through your healing journey,
Speaker 1: you're helping him heal and that's going to just help
Speaker 1: you in your future. I'm that type of person, like
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I'll hear you out, and because then
Speaker 1: you're going to live with a what if I would
Speaker 1: have given him the opportunity, And I don't like to
Speaker 1: live with doubt, at least not me. So I think
Speaker 1: it's okay again semi public place where there it's not
Speaker 1: too crowded, but it's still a public place where you
Speaker 1: can have this conversation where he can apologize and make
Speaker 1: it very clear like hey, I forgive you. What you
Speaker 1: did is not okay. You need to get help or
Speaker 1: whatever the case may be. He gets to say what
Speaker 1: he has to say, and so do you. And you
Speaker 1: just walk away and you're just like, Okay, that chapter
Speaker 1: that book in my life boom closed. I think it
Speaker 1: will definitely help you for sure, because I can still
Speaker 1: hear in your voice that it hurts you, and I'm
Speaker 1: sure he did something really, really horrible, but it seems
Speaker 1: like you're open to it. So I'm gonna go ahead
Speaker 1: and tell you it's okay, giving you the green light.
Speaker 1: Just be safe and make sure it's during the day.
Speaker 1: That's all I'm gonna say. Okay, all right, last question,
Speaker 1: guys comes from Rosie. Hello cheekies.
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Speaker 1: I've tried to avoid going.
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Speaker 4: the thank you.
Speaker 1: Okay. So Rosie is saying that she is married and
Speaker 1: she doesn't necessarily get along very well with her sisters
Speaker 1: in law. Sounds like there's a few a couple and
Speaker 1: you know, her husband's very close to his family, so
Speaker 1: she does her best to go to family gatherings, but they,
Speaker 1: you know, give a little face, and she feels very uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: and she just kind of wants to know what to do,
Speaker 1: like what I suggest, you know, so, I just wanted
Speaker 1: to like translate real quick. But Rosie ab it, I
Speaker 1: don't know if your husband has had the conversation with
Speaker 1: his sisters, but I think that is important to give
Speaker 1: you your place as his woman, for him to do
Speaker 1: his part and you as a partner to do your part, absolutely,
Speaker 1: because I feel like if he's very close to his family,
Speaker 1: then you need to also cater to that and love
Speaker 1: his family even if they don't love you back. But
Speaker 1: if they're just giving you like faces and stuff like that,
Speaker 1: like I feel like you could be like, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm just going to ignore it. I'm just going to
Speaker 1: look the other way. I'm here for my husband, because
Speaker 1: if you allow them to push you out, then that's
Speaker 1: going to be on you, you know. So, But if
Speaker 1: there's a day that you're like, you know what, I
Speaker 1: don't feel like going no kioesta, no sino malakara. You
Speaker 1: know you're you're you're not going to be happy, and
Speaker 1: then it's just going to be an issue all over.
Speaker 1: But I think if you can kind of put that
Speaker 1: to the side, if they're not necessarily like being rude
Speaker 1: to you or belitting you, or like saying things to you.
Speaker 1: Then I think les Gadas and all that stuff, like
Speaker 1: the little faces that they make to you, like it's
Speaker 1: just kind of like, you know what, that's childish, that's
Speaker 1: on them. I'm going to be my best self. I'm
Speaker 1: going to be the bigger person for my husband. And
Speaker 1: then with time, he'll realize that the issue is not you,
Speaker 1: it's a sisters, and hopefully he steps up and defends
Speaker 1: you and it's like, hey, you guys got to get
Speaker 1: your shit together, like this is my girl, this is
Speaker 1: the woman I love. Because that's tricky, you know, because
Speaker 1: you don't want to be that woman that separates your
Speaker 1: man from his family than vocal. You don't want to
Speaker 1: do that. So my suggestion is hopefully having a conversation
Speaker 1: with him and he has to fix that, or also
Speaker 1: saying hey to the sisters, you guys, like we're going
Speaker 1: to be family. I'm his wife and I want to
Speaker 1: be with you guys, like let's just figure out, like
Speaker 1: let's be happy, you know, like let's find a way
Speaker 1: because if you if you don't go to the family
Speaker 1: gatherings and stuff like that, like you're letting them win,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So it's kind of like
Speaker 1: just knowing like they're being immature. I'm not gonna soup
Speaker 1: down to their level. You get me. I know it's
Speaker 1: tough because just I'm not gonna say much, but I
Speaker 1: feel you. I feel you on that one. So hopefully
Speaker 1: it works out. Talk to him. Hopefully he defends you
Speaker 1: better when no. All right, guys, So that finalizes this
Speaker 1: episode of Dear Cheeky's. Thank you guys so much for
Speaker 1: your questions. I hope that I was of some type
Speaker 1: of help, God willing, wishing you all the best. And
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