WEBVTT - Ep. 175 — The College Graduation Gift Heard 'Round the World 0:00:16.400 --> 0:00:22.120 Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, We're brown. 0:00:22.720 --> 0:00:26.000 Hey, Mandra Hey, happy brand ambition Wednesday. Guys. 0:00:26.480 --> 0:00:31.360 Yeah, super excited. I'm Tiffany and it's Mandy and we're 0:00:31.400 --> 0:00:35.400 brand Ambition. So how have you been. 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:38.239 Things have been good, things have been really good. My 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:41.440 dog Walker quit, so there's been some there's been some 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:44.920 drums in my life. And I got a temporary person 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:46.680 to fill in today and I wasn't really you know, 0:00:46.680 --> 0:00:49.159 I have like nest cam setup. It's not creepy to 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:51.800 have nest cam setup. You have to. I feel like 0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:55.160 I need to have footage of any interactions just in 0:00:55.200 --> 0:00:57.960 case they, you know, abuse my baby. Yeah, of course, 0:00:58.400 --> 0:01:00.600 and especially because I didn't get to injured this person 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:03.240 because it was so last minute the change. So this 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:06.959 you know, lovely college student young woman visited and I didn't. 0:01:07.040 --> 0:01:08.920 I didn't think that she loved my dog enough. And 0:01:08.959 --> 0:01:11.440 I've was like texting my husband like I don't think 0:01:11.440 --> 0:01:14.920 that she thought it was adorable enough. How Molly decided 0:01:14.920 --> 0:01:17.880 to bring this long ass stick home with her like 0:01:17.920 --> 0:01:21.200 she seemed annoyed about it, which I didn't like. But uh, yeah, 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:22.920 I'm gonna turn into that kind of dog mom. 0:01:23.640 --> 0:01:27.720 But Yeah, no, I think that. Yeah, that you want 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:29.600 to have somebody who's going to look after you, you know, 0:01:29.680 --> 0:01:33.119 like someone who genuinely loves dogs or kids or whatever 0:01:33.160 --> 0:01:34.600 it is, or you're having them look after. 0:01:35.000 --> 0:01:36.920 Yeah, but shout out too, I've been. I used the 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:40.360 next Door It's called the neighborhood app. Like, if you 0:01:41.080 --> 0:01:43.280 live in a neighborhood, you can join this app called 0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:45.920 next Door, and then you join your neighborhood and then 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:48.160 you can it's kind of like a community message board. 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:51.400 You can say, for example, I posted I was looking 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:53.320 for a dog walker, just to find someone really close 0:01:53.320 --> 0:01:55.920 to my neighborhood, and I got a ton of referrals 0:01:55.960 --> 0:01:58.240 to people that I've got to sort through and it's helpful. 0:01:58.240 --> 0:01:59.680 And then if you like are looking for a house 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:02.360 cleaner or you want to sell something, it's like a 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:06.040 micro community thing versus like putting it on Craigslist or 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:10.040 Facebook where thorde knows who's going to see your post. 0:02:10.720 --> 0:02:13.160 Yeah, but I can't wait. So you like Nest, I 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:14.840 was thinking about getting one night, I was thinking I 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:18.119 ordered it already. I ordered a ring doorbell. 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:21.520 Oh yeah, rings, you definitely rings like really popular up 0:02:21.520 --> 0:02:22.040 there with Nest. 0:02:22.120 --> 0:02:24.840 I think yeah, so I they they gave them out 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:27.240 in my neighborhood. I guess they wanted people to like 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:30.639 obviously use and so yeah, I'm like curious. My neighbor 0:02:31.040 --> 0:02:33.960 she loves it. She's like it like rings her phone 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:36.560 so she could see who's there, she could speak directly 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:37.000 through it. 0:02:37.080 --> 0:02:40.720 I'm like, Okay, what's not to love. I love spying on. 0:02:40.880 --> 0:02:43.040 I just like to. It just gives peace of mind, 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:46.320 and it's really clutched when like, it's so much safer because, 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:48.720 for example, the dog walker, you don't you know, I 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:51.280 have a it's a keypad. I think ring works the 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:53.560 same way. You have a unique keypad for your door. 0:02:53.960 --> 0:02:56.360 Key code for your door. It's like a four digit code, 0:02:56.639 --> 0:02:58.639 and my husband and I have the main house one. 0:02:58.680 --> 0:03:00.600 But then when we were doing we have that construction 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:02.480 going on, And then with a dog walker, you can 0:03:02.520 --> 0:03:05.680 give people unique codes and then you can control what 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:07.000 time of day the codes work. 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:10.160 So smarty, aughty I like that. 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:12.520 Yeah. So just it's so much safer than like just 0:03:12.560 --> 0:03:14.760 having a lock and key. I feel like, yeah, if 0:03:14.760 --> 0:03:17.040 you're like me and you're always forgetting or losing your keys, 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:19.079 then you don't have to worry, like how many times 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:21.480 as a kid, was I crawling through windows because. 0:03:23.200 --> 0:03:26.120 You know, Jarrell still colobs too, because he's so skinny. 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:31.399 I'm like, you turn, So that sounds like a finishing touch. 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:33.600 Does that mean the house is getting there? 0:03:34.120 --> 0:03:38.160 Yes, we just got the floors refinished, and so we're 0:03:38.240 --> 0:03:39.320 just like, you know, they have to do the last 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:41.640 coat of paint. They did the floors first because redoing 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:45.400 a like redoing the floors can get a little messy, 0:03:45.480 --> 0:03:47.800 you know, so they like to get one coat of paint. 0:03:47.840 --> 0:03:50.720 And so after this, it's really just like doorknobs and 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:54.120 like hooks and you know, and knobs on the kitchen 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:57.680 kitchen cabinet. So I think by next week we should 0:03:57.680 --> 0:04:02.800 be in excited. I know, like I'm like holding my 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:04.680 excitement for when we're really like cause there are like 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:06.800 some definitely some touch and go stuff like I had 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:10.960 to I had to, like I could not find mirrors 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:14.480 and the doorknob situation. Who knew, Because when you have 0:04:14.520 --> 0:04:17.360 an older house you have these things sometimes called mortis locks, 0:04:17.960 --> 0:04:20.440 which are like normally if you were to open your door, 0:04:20.480 --> 0:04:22.720 like on the side, you see like the little the 0:04:23.360 --> 0:04:25.880 I guess, the part that actually closes the door like 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:29.200 the little button net pokes out on the on the 0:04:29.240 --> 0:04:32.120 spine of the door, so a mortis lock. The old 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:36.160 school ones are long and big and so like. Some 0:04:36.240 --> 0:04:37.960 of our doors are regular. I guess at some point 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:40.279 somebody replaced doors and some of them are those mortislocks. 0:04:40.400 --> 0:04:42.880 Those mortorslocks are so hard to find. They either sell 0:04:42.880 --> 0:04:45.000 them for like seven bucks and they break, like you know, 0:04:45.000 --> 0:04:47.400 you read the reviews, or they're like three hundred and 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:49.719 you're like, wait for one doornop, you. 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:53.440 Know doortombs in general, I was shocked. I was shocked 0:04:53.440 --> 0:04:55.720 at how much that our designer lady wanted us to 0:04:55.720 --> 0:04:59.160 spend one hundred and thirty five dollars each. It's really 0:04:59.200 --> 0:05:01.720 pretty doorknobs, and I was like negative. 0:05:01.240 --> 0:05:05.400 Though, yes, I was like yo. It took like months 0:05:05.480 --> 0:05:08.480 of looking and then finally I found these mortislock ones 0:05:08.520 --> 0:05:11.520 with good reviews that were solid, all this stuff for 0:05:11.560 --> 0:05:13.400 thirty five dollars a doorn up. I was like, who, 0:05:13.560 --> 0:05:16.400 thank you Jesus, because literally I was like, it's either 0:05:16.400 --> 0:05:18.440 I get these super cheap ones that are clearly going 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:21.440 to break because they're like eight bucks, or like one 0:05:21.520 --> 0:05:24.080 hundred and something dollar ones, And I'm like I refuse spend, 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:26.280 like because we have a lot of doors, so I 0:05:26.279 --> 0:05:28.520 think we had like twenty one doors. Can you imagine? 0:05:29.480 --> 0:05:32.599 Yeah I can, Yeah exactly. I remember. 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:35.120 I'm just glad that we're rounding the corner and like, 0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:37.440 you know, like it's just I can't believe when I 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:39.800 walk in, you know, I'm still like nervous about we 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:43.080 made a design choice that wasn't that cute. Like we 0:05:43.120 --> 0:05:45.599 have something called a plate rail, so you now you 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:47.040 have the chair rails in the in like in a 0:05:47.080 --> 0:05:50.159 living room or dining room where it's like Wayne's Wain's coating, 0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:51.560 I guess they call it. But up to like a 0:05:51.560 --> 0:05:54.960 certain certain heights or a plate rail is like as 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:57.000 high as a person because I guess back in the 0:05:57.080 --> 0:05:59.000 day Victorian women or whatever you used to like display 0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:01.200 their plates has a little lit and then the rest 0:06:01.279 --> 0:06:03.440 is like wood. And so my designer was like, oh, 0:06:03.520 --> 0:06:06.159 let's try, like, you know, painting the trim on this 0:06:06.240 --> 0:06:11.040 a darker color. And we both were like, yeah, that's bad. 0:06:11.160 --> 0:06:15.159 So it looked more zebrash then. So that was the 0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:17.479 one thing I took a picture like no one said anything, 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:20.080 and then one day Superman came in and I was 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:21.440 just like cause I was like sitting with it for 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:22.760 a little She's like, just sit with them and see 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:24.520 how you feel. So he came in. I was like, 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:25.840 what do you think you say I think it's ugly. 0:06:27.480 --> 0:06:29.839 He had been waiting to get it down. I was like, 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:31.840 I think so too. I wasn't. She's like no no, 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:33.960 He's like no no. And then I told my contractor. 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:36.720 I was like, don't put a second coat on of this. 0:06:36.960 --> 0:06:38.560 I just wanted to paint it back to the trim 0:06:38.600 --> 0:06:40.640 trim white. And he's like, ooh, I was gonna say, 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:42.280 you know, MI, like it's your house, lady. I didn't, 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:45.280 you know, I don't wanna. I don't wanna to say anything, 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:48.640 but woo, this thing is hideous. And I was like, okay, okay, 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:51.760 everybody so stuff like that. But honestly, other than that, 0:06:52.160 --> 0:06:55.360 everything like our designer has been awesome from remain home Rihanna, 0:06:55.720 --> 0:06:59.279 and yeah, it just looks it looks beautiful. The house. 0:06:59.440 --> 0:07:01.000 You know, that was the kind of like missed up 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:02.880 and even I'm glad we tried it because it's not 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:04.560 a huge thing to paint it over, but better to 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:05.520 paint it now than later. 0:07:06.279 --> 0:07:08.400 I was. I just heard this in passing that I 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:09.960 listened to Gail in the morning, which is what I 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:12.160 call CBS News because I don't know who other people are, 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:15.480 so it's just like a rotating you know, white guys. 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:18.320 At this point, I don't even know Nora o'donna left, 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:19.520 and now it's just like a white dude and an 0:07:19.520 --> 0:07:22.600 older white dude. But anyway, Gail was on this morning 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:24.600 talking about I feel like an old lady. I was 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:27.800 watching the Gael and she was talking about something about 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:32.640 seventy percent of people can't afford houses or people can't 0:07:32.640 --> 0:07:37.120 afford houses and seventy percent of the country basically like 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:40.080 at today's prices, which was just like one of the 0:07:40.240 --> 0:07:43.680 sadder stats I've ever heard. And I feel like it's 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:47.440 it's like all these great stats about homeowner and not 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:50.560 home ownership, but like employment being up and you know, 0:07:50.640 --> 0:07:53.800 unemployment being down so low and everyone's working, working, working. 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:56.640 It's just like ten years after the recession and you 0:07:56.720 --> 0:07:59.560 still feel like there's so much more we have to 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:03.360 do in terms of like income equality and giving people 0:08:03.400 --> 0:08:05.920 access to affordable housing, and we have so far to go. 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:09.200 So it's just a blessing. I feel like to to 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:13.440 own and to have reached out Milestone. Yeah, so hard 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:15.360 to people who are saving up for your house and 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:19.440 your first home. Like, I understand the struggle, and you know, 0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:22.480 it's just becoming increasingly rare to have that property. 0:08:23.120 --> 0:08:25.800 Yeah, and it's so crazy today. Like right before we started, 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:28.000 you know, taping today, someone called me. It was like 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:30.440 when I speak to Siphany Earle, I was like, that's 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:32.600 just she this is a bad time. I'm like, sorry, 0:08:32.600 --> 0:08:34.200 who are you? You know, You're just like just get 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:36.960 to it serious. He was like, he was like, I'm 0:08:37.559 --> 0:08:39.760 I was just I was riding around the neighborhood and 0:08:39.800 --> 0:08:41.320 I saw your house and I was like, oh boy, 0:08:41.320 --> 0:08:43.240 here we go. I said, this is the people when 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:45.920 people in Brooklyn feel like he basically wanted to purchase 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:48.320 the house, and I should have asked him at what 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:50.160 price I should have. I didn't even think of it, 0:08:50.200 --> 0:08:51.920 just to see, just to be I'm curious, just to know, 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:54.240 you know. He was like, you know, what do you 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:55.520 you know, what are your plans with that? I said, 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:57.120 my plans are to live in the house that I bought. 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:01.720 He was like, I know, he was like, okay, thanks, 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:04.200 but yeah, I'm honestly, I was I should have. I 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:05.680 didn't even think about it because what if he said 0:09:05.679 --> 0:09:08.680 I'll give you I mean or four hundred thousand hours 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:11.280 for it or something like that. But but yeah, so 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:14.400 this is this happens especially with our other house and 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:16.439 the Weekway section of Newark that's an also really nice 0:09:16.480 --> 0:09:20.400 section of Newark because that house was like dilapidated, and 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:22.520 so I guess people like really think like, oh, I'll 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:24.319 pay you like five g's for it to take it 0:09:24.360 --> 0:09:26.600 off your hands. But we just haven't gotten around to 0:09:27.600 --> 0:09:29.400 starting working on it yet since we're doing our house. 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:32.280 But I just thought to myself, like, wow, they are 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:34.959 really starting to like converge onto Newark, you know. 0:09:35.880 --> 0:09:39.240 I mean, it's bound to happen. Yeah, new York is popping. 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:40.160 You know. 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:42.560 We didn't get a chance to talk about that big 0:09:42.600 --> 0:09:44.440 news because we were out. We had a rerun a 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:46.880 rerun last week because I was sick. Sorry about that. 0:09:48.120 --> 0:09:52.480 But the big news, which was that Robert Smith paying 0:09:53.000 --> 0:09:57.280 agreeing that that billionaire philanthropist guy agreeing to payoff more 0:09:57.320 --> 0:10:00.640 House graduates of twenty nineteen all their student loan dead. 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:04.360 I know, everybody was so jealous, Like I saw a 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:07.080 meme going around to people crossing out their college on 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:09.079 their diploma and writing more House instead. 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:14.240 Yeah, I know that. I posted one about I forget 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:17.080 the woman from the young woman from Moesha. I can't 0:10:17.080 --> 0:10:19.760 remember her best friend, I forget her real name. And 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:21.560 she says like she has a little face that she 0:10:21.559 --> 0:10:23.480 always makes she used to make on Moesha. It says, 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:28.800 I go to Morehouse a little bit. She always said 0:10:28.800 --> 0:10:30.520 a little bit when she was on Mosha. And I 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:34.600 thought that was hilarious. But honestly, what a life changing 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:38.880 movement move Someone had posted under that meme that her 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:41.280 brother was there and he was one of the graduates. 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:44.400 And already, as a result of that generous gift, the 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:49.640 twenty nineteen graduates have started a grant and started contributing 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:51.080 to it so they can do the same for the 0:10:51.080 --> 0:10:51.920 next year's class. 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:55.320 That's beautiful. That's what happened after Oprah donated like a 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:57.120 crap ton of money in the more House. Then, like 0:10:57.360 --> 0:11:00.880 remember that episode of Oprah where why do I remember this? 0:11:00.920 --> 0:11:02.800 I don't know. I watched a lot of Oprah, But 0:11:03.000 --> 0:11:05.640 she gave this big graham to more House, and then 0:11:05.920 --> 0:11:08.520 a bunch of the recipients of that grant, like ten 0:11:08.600 --> 0:11:10.679 years later or twenty years later or whatever it was, 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:14.000 we're all really successful. And they got together and pulled 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:16.360 their funds for like a scholarship fund and then paid 0:11:16.360 --> 0:11:18.520 it forward, which is so beautiful. So it's nice to 0:11:18.520 --> 0:11:19.560 hear that I'm doing that again. 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:22.640 Yeah, it is. Honestly, it's just because someone tried to 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:26.000 come for you know. Auntie Oh was like, Oprah, that's 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:27.720 what you need to do. She's like, actually, did it 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:29.160 paid for four hundred? What? 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:29.760 Idiot? 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:32.720 I just don't understand, Like, well, if you gotta come 0:11:32.720 --> 0:11:34.840 for someone, at least you do your googles, right, do 0:11:34.880 --> 0:11:37.880 your googles. Everyone was like, if you don't sit down, like, 0:11:37.920 --> 0:11:39.760 first of all, one, you don't get to tell people 0:11:39.800 --> 0:11:41.920 how to spend their money. You just don't. Even if 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:44.600 Oprah never spent an like a penny on anyone else, 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:47.360 you still don't have any rights to her money. It's hers. 0:11:47.760 --> 0:11:51.160 That's one. And then two, she's done that and even more. 0:11:51.920 --> 0:11:55.240 And so you know, I mean, Oprah is both public 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:58.640 and private with her giving. So I just thought like, wow, 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:01.320 like I don't know, and you might ask yourself like 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:03.560 that same woman, have you given anything to your community? 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:07.080 Five dollars ten dollars ten minutes. Sometimes we're so worried 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:09.480 about other people doing you have to ask yourself, in 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:11.400 your own capacity, have you done anything? 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:14.760 Yeah, I've been thinking about that more and more. I 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:19.280 just had my ten year college graduation adversary this month, 0:12:19.360 --> 0:12:22.000 and I had gone home because I'm on the alumni 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:26.120 board to Athens to Uga, and they have this. When 0:12:26.120 --> 0:12:28.240 I was in school, like ten years ago. Long story short, 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:31.240 I got approved, I got accepted into this prestigious like 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:33.720 magazine internship in New York City, but I couldn't afford 0:12:33.720 --> 0:12:36.120 the airfare to get here. And I was like just 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:39.080 I was like working part time, you know, paying my 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:40.920 way through college, and I had just enough for rent 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:43.920 each month. But then I had an anonymous donor. I'm 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:45.280 pretty sure I knew who it was, one of my 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:48.200 professors who put up the money for me to pay 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:50.439 for my airfare and then my housing because housing is 0:12:50.480 --> 0:12:53.880 expensive in New York. And I always remembered that, and 0:12:53.920 --> 0:12:55.520 I was always like, one day I'll get a chance 0:12:55.559 --> 0:12:57.320 to pay it forward, and like, you don't need to 0:12:57.320 --> 0:12:59.160 be a billionaire. I'm just trying to say. So. I 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:03.160 reached out to my my the journalism school, and ask 0:13:03.240 --> 0:13:07.320 them if I could sponsor one of their journalism students 0:13:07.320 --> 0:13:09.600 coming to the campus this summer. They do like a 0:13:09.679 --> 0:13:12.440 summer camp with high school students to encourage them to 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:15.920 go into journalism. And it wasn't like a major gift, 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:17.480 but I went in on it with my friend and 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:19.360 I and we sponsored a student to go to this 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:23.080 for free, to this this journalism program this summer. And 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:25.120 I felt like that was a nice way, ten years 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:29.199 later to give something back. And it wasn't like a 0:13:29.240 --> 0:13:31.680 formal because I know you get those I don't know 0:13:31.720 --> 0:13:34.800 if your college reaches out to you, like the fundraising team, 0:13:34.840 --> 0:13:36.920 you know, asking you to donate twenty you know, called 0:13:36.960 --> 0:13:39.719 you on the phone. Those things are always you know, 0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:42.679 maybe you're inclined to donate, but I it always feels 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:44.800 kind of awkward. But this for me, like being able 0:13:44.880 --> 0:13:47.000 to control where the money went and knowing that it 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:49.560 went to a student of color for this program and 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:51.200 I got them to assure me that it would that 0:13:51.280 --> 0:13:53.160 felt really meaningful. 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:55.880 Oh that's good, that's really good. 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:58.320 Hey, pat on my back and shout out to my 0:13:58.320 --> 0:13:59.960 friend Baron for going in on it with me. 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:03.800 I mean, that's really I think to me, people don't 0:14:03.920 --> 0:14:06.800 there are not many Oprahs. Let's be real and that 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:11.000 like if what really what makes the biggest difference is yes, 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:16.440 Oprah obviously making this huge donation to four hundred college gards, 0:14:16.440 --> 0:14:18.760 and then Robert F. Smith making this huge donation that 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:22.240 those are awesome, But there are you know, thousands of 0:14:22.280 --> 0:14:25.200 people in that audience who were watching it. You know, 0:14:25.400 --> 0:14:27.440 if everyone just did something like I said, it doesn't 0:14:27.480 --> 0:14:30.720 have to be money. Maybe it's just like, you know, 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:35.560 making sure that the kids on your block get home safely, 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:38.040 or you know what I mean. Like it could be 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:39.720 like Jirell used to do this thing. I keep saying 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:41.280 his name, but whatever, Superman used to do this thing 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:44.760 on Fridays that we would get the kids pizza because 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:46.400 you know what kid doesn't love pizza. We just get 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:48.640 like three big you know, and there's like a pizza 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:51.160 place around around the corner that does like six dollars, 0:14:51.600 --> 0:14:54.080 you know, large pies, and then we would cut them 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:56.520 into like sixteens because most of the kids are pretty little, 0:14:56.840 --> 0:14:58.600 and even if they got just a little slice, it 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:01.480 was just something to be like, you know, we're all outside, 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:03.640 we're having fun. It's a summer night. We have some pizza, 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:07.160 we have some juice boxes. So it doesn't have to 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:10.560 be these big overtures. But small things really can equally 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:14.560 make life changing things happen in people's lives. And you know, 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:16.440 if we all just have to look to ourselves and say, well, 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:17.040 what can I do? 0:15:18.080 --> 0:15:20.240 Yeah, and then who in your life came out and 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:21.960 supported you in a time of need? And then how 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:25.960 can you pay that forward? Yeah, shout out to the Professor 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:28.200 Fink rec And I'm pretty sure he's the one who 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:28.840 gave me that gift. 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:30.280 Oh that's so sweet. 0:16:02.120 --> 0:16:04.720 What's a nice way to kick off the show? Break? 0:16:05.640 --> 0:16:08.920 Yes, boost a breaker, Boost a break. I've been waiting 0:16:09.200 --> 0:16:11.000 to share this boost, but I would let you go 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:11.800 first if you need to. 0:16:12.040 --> 0:16:15.160 No, please, Mademoiselle, go first. 0:16:15.880 --> 0:16:17.640 So I don't remember. I think it was the last 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:20.480 show or the show bef last. I think where I said, 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:24.400 oh I gained all this love weight. I would say 0:16:25.800 --> 0:16:29.440 approximately like twenty pounds, give or take a pound or two. 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:32.040 And I'm like, in the last two years because Supermann 0:16:32.120 --> 0:16:34.000 and I are going to be celebrating our two year 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:40.400 anniversary in a month, woo, thank ya. And yeah, So 0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:42.640 I was just like, I mean, part of it is 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:45.640 because the IVF process and like all the hormones. But 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:47.920 then also to part of it is just greed because 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:52.640 food delicious. You know, it's a thing. And so you're right. 0:16:52.680 --> 0:16:54.560 I had reached like my peak of all peaks. I 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:57.960 was like, whoa, I had never seen a number like 0:16:58.000 --> 0:17:01.440 this before on the scale. And then it must have 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:02.680 been like ten o'clock at night, and I was like, 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:05.320 you know, doing my daily ritual before I go to sleep, 0:17:05.400 --> 0:17:07.920 checking up on Facebook just in case I miss any action, 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:11.040 you know, I was scirling through. And then a friend 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:14.680 of mine had posted, like, woo who I just reached 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:18.120 my fifteen pound goal, losing a goal of losing fifteen pounds. 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:20.639 I did it in eight weeks. And she looked awesome. 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:23.080 I mean she looked awesome else either way, but you know, 0:17:23.160 --> 0:17:25.280 she looked awesome and she just seems so happy. And 0:17:25.560 --> 0:17:27.560 I remember her telling me before she was struggling, and 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:29.520 she was like, you know, I did weight watchers, and 0:17:29.560 --> 0:17:31.760 I was like, weight watchers the stuff that your mom does, 0:17:31.840 --> 0:17:35.080 you know, And I was like, okay, whatever, and then 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:38.640 like not even two minutes later, another friend of mine 0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:41.680 who actually lives here in Newark, I'll call her Tea. 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:45.040 She posted it before and after and I think it 0:17:45.119 --> 0:17:47.800 was like forty pounds. I had not seen her in 0:17:47.840 --> 0:17:51.679 a little while and so and she was like, you know, 0:17:51.960 --> 0:17:54.000 I love weight watchers. You know this really helped me 0:17:54.040 --> 0:17:55.920 to get my life back on track. And I was like, God, 0:17:56.440 --> 0:17:59.320 you trying to tell me something. And I told myself, Oh, 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:02.800 I'll sign up tomorrow, like you know, or maybe i'll 0:18:02.840 --> 0:18:04.320 look into it tomorrow. And I was like, Tivity, what 0:18:04.320 --> 0:18:06.800 are you doing tonight. You're saying that you're tired of 0:18:06.840 --> 0:18:10.120 like this love weight. I had gone vegan again, and 0:18:10.200 --> 0:18:11.679 you know, like I said, I love the animals, but 0:18:11.760 --> 0:18:14.280 really I'm vegan for the cuteness. I had gone there. 0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:16.800 I had gone vegan again and I'd lost like an 0:18:16.800 --> 0:18:19.000 initial five pounds, but then I started creeping back up 0:18:19.040 --> 0:18:22.359 and I couldn't understand why. And that's what was frustrating. 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:25.160 It was like I felt like I was eating like healthy, 0:18:25.600 --> 0:18:27.800 and yet I was like, you know, of the five 0:18:27.880 --> 0:18:29.440 I had gained back too, and I'm like, well, I 0:18:29.440 --> 0:18:32.159 don't understand. I'm not even like you know, I'm not 0:18:32.200 --> 0:18:35.320 eating pizza. I'm not eating cookies and the cakes and 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:37.439 ice cream I was eating before, so why am I 0:18:37.480 --> 0:18:39.520 putting the weight back on, even if it's slowly? And 0:18:40.280 --> 0:18:43.480 so I joined. And so if knowing what I would 0:18:43.520 --> 0:18:45.280 have known now, I wouldn't have joined with the coach. 0:18:45.320 --> 0:18:47.320 I joined with the coach because I thought I needed 0:18:47.320 --> 0:18:50.320 to help navigating the app. So if you join without 0:18:50.320 --> 0:18:52.800 a coach, I think the cheapest is like three dollars 0:18:52.800 --> 0:18:55.200 and fifteen cents like a week, which is pretty reasonable. 0:18:55.880 --> 0:18:58.119 And that's like what twelve dollars a month, something to 0:18:58.160 --> 0:19:00.200 that effect. But I joined with the coach, so I 0:19:00.240 --> 0:19:02.240 think it was like I did for two months. I 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:04.639 think it was like eight dollars a week or something. 0:19:04.640 --> 0:19:06.159