1 00:00:03,400 --> 00:00:06,680 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 1: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:22,160 Speaker 1: Today's tip is to linger in good moments. By noticing 4 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:25,720 Speaker 1: what is going on and pausing to be mindful, you 5 00:00:25,720 --> 00:00:29,120 Speaker 1: can make these good moments stand out in memory, which 6 00:00:29,120 --> 00:00:34,479 Speaker 1: will make them feel frequent and large. I am writing 7 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:38,200 Speaker 1: this toward the very end of summer. My kids don't 8 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 1: start school until after Labor Day, so the first few 9 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 1: days of September are still part of summer vacation. I 10 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:49,880 Speaker 1: always liked the sense of lingering in this bonus time. 11 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: You can still be at the beach in September or 12 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 1: on a holiday trip in September, and maybe the world 13 00:00:57,240 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: has moved on, but there are still the last days 14 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: to enjoy. Eaked out against the return to the school 15 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:09,400 Speaker 1: year schedules, I am reminded of how the Miss America 16 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: pageant was originally scheduled for the weekend after Labor Day 17 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:15,760 Speaker 1: on the Jersey Shore. It gave people a reason to 18 00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:19,039 Speaker 1: come for one more weekend to feel like summer was 19 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 1: lasting a little longer. In any case, the sense of 20 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:27,479 Speaker 1: lingering can be quite pleasant. The word has a more 21 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 1: positive connotation than dilly dallying, or other such semantic cousins. 22 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:35,880 Speaker 1: It is sitting outside watching the night sky for a 23 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:39,720 Speaker 1: few more minutes before turning in, or eating slowly when 24 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:43,839 Speaker 1: gathered with friends and ordering dessert so the meal doesn't 25 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:48,200 Speaker 1: end quite so quickly. It is a good habit to cultivate, 26 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: one that makes life feel more pleasant. It just requires 27 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 1: a few things. First, to linger, you can't always be 28 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 1: dashing from one thing to the next. You need open 29 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:03,600 Speaker 1: space in your life so you can read a good 30 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 1: book for a little longer, or sit with a conversation 31 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 1: to see where it leads. So build an open space 32 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 1: where you can asking if anything truly deserves to be 33 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 1: part of your life or not before you agree to it. Second, 34 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: pay attention. Look at how you are feeling and notice 35 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 1: when you are not counting minutes or wondering when you 36 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:28,840 Speaker 1: should move on to the next thing. Do you really 37 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:34,240 Speaker 1: love being exactly where you are now? Notice this, Point 38 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 1: it out to yourself and then zoom back and taking 39 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:43,600 Speaker 1: your surroundings in the situation. Become an observer, Try to 40 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: savor the details, really think about what you are doing. 41 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:50,640 Speaker 1: Who is there, what do you see, what do you hear? 42 00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:55,359 Speaker 1: Note these details so you can recall them later, and 43 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:59,480 Speaker 1: then maybe stretch out the time a little more. If 44 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:01,880 Speaker 1: you are having a lovely conversation with someone and they 45 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:04,120 Speaker 1: don't seem in a hurry to end it, you can 46 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:08,400 Speaker 1: keep talking. If you are walking somewhere lovely, go a 47 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:12,320 Speaker 1: little further. If you are looking at something beautiful, don't 48 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 1: race off for some arbitrary deadline. Just sit for a 49 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 1: bit and take it in. Read a good article all 50 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:23,880 Speaker 1: the way to the end. Your email will still be there. 51 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:29,920 Speaker 1: You don't have to interrupt the experience. Life interrupts us enough. 52 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 1: Don't interrupt yourself while you are lingering. Finally, you can 53 00:03:37,040 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 1: plan ahead to make lingering possible. If you see something 54 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:43,560 Speaker 1: good on your schedule coming up, maybe clear the space 55 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 1: after it. By knowing something good is coming up and 56 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 1: looking forward to it, you can boost the pleasure of anticipation. 57 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 1: All things do ind eventually. Good conversations and summer too, 58 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 1: but there's no reason to end them prima Truly, When 59 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 1: we can stretch out the summer feelings all the way 60 00:04:04,600 --> 00:04:09,120 Speaker 1: to that first hint of the coming cold linger in 61 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:12,760 Speaker 1: good moments, they will consume more of your life. And 62 00:04:12,840 --> 00:04:16,839 Speaker 1: since lingering means noticing you will start to give these 63 00:04:16,880 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 1: moments more mental weight that makes life itself feel entirely different. 64 00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:30,840 Speaker 1: In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and 65 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:40,960 Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, 66 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:43,279 Speaker 1: I'd love to hear from you. You can send me 67 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: your tips, your questions, or anything else. Just connect with 68 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 1: me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram at Before Breakfast pod 69 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: that's b E the number four, then Breakfast p o D. 70 00:04:57,279 --> 00:05:00,120 Speaker 1: You can also shoot me an email at Before Breakfast 71 00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:04,080 Speaker 1: Podcasts at iHeartMedia dot com. That Before Breakfast is spelled 72 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 1: out with all the letters. Thanks so much, I look 73 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 1: forward to staying in touch. Before Breakfast is a production 74 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:18,599 Speaker 1: of I heart Radio. 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