Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garland. All righty,
Speaker 1: welcome back to I Choose Me, my conversation with Chrissy Metz.
Speaker 1: She has so many amazing things going on in her life,
Speaker 1: so many things that she has learned. Let's get back
Speaker 1: to it. I mean, you've changed a lot of people's
Speaker 1: lives just by being you and authentic and putting yourself
Speaker 1: out there and being vulnerable. And that's so beautiful to see.
Speaker 1: I know that a lot of people watch you know
Speaker 1: your health journey and how you take care of yourself.
Speaker 1: Is there anything like you can share with our listeners.
Speaker 1: Do you meal prep well? No?
Speaker 2: I always no. No. If you want to know information
Speaker 2: about losing weight meal prep, ask somebody who's plus sized
Speaker 2: or been plus size, because.
Speaker 1: We know it all all. Yeah, we know it all.
Speaker 2: Because we've tried it all. Like I literally have. Was
Speaker 2: in Weight Watchers when I was like what eleven?
Speaker 1: Like, oh, I hate it. The points. I could never
Speaker 1: keep track of my points.
Speaker 2: I was like, how much diet cherry soda do I
Speaker 2: have to drink in order to feel full? So I
Speaker 2: don't want to use another point. It's ridiculous, And that's
Speaker 2: you know, having that different relationship with food has helped
Speaker 2: because I vilified it for so long. But for me,
Speaker 2: I think meal prepping can be helpful. But sometimes I'm like,
Speaker 2: I do not want to heat up another meal in the.
Speaker 1: Look that look the same as the last meal.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm like, okay, So it's helpful when
Speaker 2: I'm at home, you know, in between jobs where I
Speaker 2: will cook. I mean before I didn't even use to
Speaker 2: cook for myself. I'm like, oh, I can't be bothered,
Speaker 2: and now I'm like, oh no, Like I cook it
Speaker 2: the way I want it, and I enjoy it and
Speaker 2: then I'm good. But there's it's a whole different thing
Speaker 2: I started, you know, this whole like perimenopausal situation. We
Speaker 2: were not my mom said nothing about no.
Speaker 1: I didn't get anything either. Wait, so are you perry
Speaker 1: right now?
Speaker 2: I think it's hard to know, yes, And that's another
Speaker 2: thing is it's hard to know, but like there seems
Speaker 2: to be some symptoms that I'm like, oh, so I'm
Speaker 2: going to do like one of those Dutch tests, those
Speaker 2: like have you heard about these?
Speaker 1: What's a Dutch test?
Speaker 2: Well? I think it's like I think the U stands
Speaker 2: for urine, so I think it's like a pen test
Speaker 2: that you can do it different doctor's offices. I think
Speaker 2: they have stuff that's mailing, but you basically sort of
Speaker 2: get like a hormone panel of what's going on. So
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, I'll start there because not just power.
Speaker 2: And I'm just like, yeah, I definitely know that I'm
Speaker 2: feeling different, and I'm about to be forty five, So
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, like these this is what happens, and
Speaker 2: whether our parents just didn't have the time to worry
Speaker 2: about it, and they're like, we, you know, my mom
Speaker 2: was just trying to pay the bills. Yeah, but like
Speaker 2: there's there are things going on, you know.
Speaker 1: Or I always think that too, like maybe maybe they
Speaker 1: they were obviously going through it and we were there, yeah,
Speaker 1: and we didn't know or notice that Mom's over there
Speaker 1: sweating and red faced, right for absolutely no reason, right,
Speaker 1: Like we were like whatever, she's fine.
Speaker 2: Or stressed, and she couldn't even have a moment to herself,
Speaker 2: you know, I know, I know, I know. So anyway,
Speaker 2: I am. I basically like discovered that for me, buying
Speaker 2: the food that I like is helpful and knowing that
Speaker 2: like it doesn't have to be a punishment, you know,
Speaker 2: but eating less of it. And now there are foods
Speaker 2: that I can't even eat that I'm like, oh, it
Speaker 2: just makes they make me feel too poorly, so I can't.
Speaker 1: Yeah that's good, that's good. Yeah, rule out the dairy,
Speaker 1: rule out the things that don't agree with you, because
Speaker 1: that does help a lot.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I just I just have done a lot
Speaker 2: of trial and error and a lot of troubleshooting, and
Speaker 2: that's that's helpful for me. And I do weight training good.
Speaker 1: That's like the number one thing you can do is
Speaker 1: if you know that you're probably going into menopause, perimenopause
Speaker 1: or whatever.
Speaker 2: This is what I've heard.
Speaker 1: That's what they've said. And i'd heard it. You know,
Speaker 1: everyone's really really talking about that now, and i'd heard
Speaker 1: it like five maybe four years before it was this
Speaker 1: huge discussion. And I really noticed such a difference in
Speaker 1: just my quality of life once I started using some
Speaker 1: free weights, like lifting some weights.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And I've always been like a sturdy girl, like
Speaker 2: I I love sports, and what I'm discovering like going
Speaker 2: to the gym AND's like.
Speaker 1: Oh oh I like this, Oh no, no, don't say that.
Speaker 2: I'm like, wait, a stay. Who is this lady? So
Speaker 2: if that's been really cool to discover too, because it.
Speaker 1: Feels different because you're exercising for your health now, yes,
Speaker 1: and for your happiness and not for your appearance or
Speaker 1: for your insecurities.
Speaker 2: Right, or for someone else, but for myself. I've done
Speaker 2: so much of so much in my life for everybody else.
Speaker 2: But yeah, those things have been really helpful. And also
Speaker 2: again like the mental emotional has to go with the
Speaker 2: physical for me.
Speaker 1: So yeah, okay, so aside from food, Like, what other
Speaker 1: things do you choose to help yourself thrive? You said meditation?
Speaker 2: Yes, meditation. I do a gratitude list before I even
Speaker 2: get out of bed in the morning. I really try
Speaker 2: not to even look at an email the phone before
Speaker 2: I do at least thirty minutes of meditation. And I
Speaker 2: love a nice bath like that. Honestly, it is such
Speaker 2: a treat. I love it. I feel so fortunate, like
Speaker 2: to take a bath.
Speaker 1: I know, well because yeah, it's a luxury, that very
Speaker 1: privileged to be able to put a tub full of water. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: have that opportunity, yeah exactly.
Speaker 2: So those things and then being of service where I
Speaker 2: can that always helps me, whether it's like within my
Speaker 2: family or my friends.
Speaker 1: Or the world, like you're yeah.
Speaker 2: That's it. It's been very rewarding for sure. Mm hmm, yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean your your children's books are acts of service. Oh,
Speaker 1: your music is acts of service. Just sharing your personal
Speaker 1: journey is an act of service. Who thought? Who would
Speaker 1: have thought? Like for me, that didn't connect because I've
Speaker 1: always been a really private person and I've always walked
Speaker 1: around with my eyes down just I don't I don't
Speaker 1: want to engage. I don't want to connect with people
Speaker 1: because I don't know if it's safe, and I just
Speaker 1: was never comfortable doing that. Once I started to kind
Speaker 1: of like lift my gaze up and look around and
Speaker 1: identify the fact that everybody is going through the same
Speaker 1: thing I'm going through, it just looks different for them. Yes, yes, yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like a feeling of connection with the world that
Speaker 1: i'd never really had before.
Speaker 2: I always wanted, like I was afraid to be too
Speaker 2: vulnerable because I'm like, oh, no, you're gonna have something
Speaker 2: over me, or you're gonna hurt me, or you're gonna
Speaker 2: think I'm less than And it's really the contrary.
Speaker 1: So yeah, tell me what's next for you?
Speaker 2: Well, I just started shooting this Apple show.
Speaker 1: Oh that's right. Wait wait Leave Shreiber.
Speaker 2: Yes, the end and Stephen Green Okay.
Speaker 1: I think Leave Schreiber is so hot.
Speaker 2: He is. I was so scared. I was like, oh
Speaker 2: my gosh, I'm so scared. I'm gonna be so intimidated.
Speaker 2: And I see, all you have to do is be prepared. Okay,
Speaker 2: Like that's all you have to do is do your job.
Speaker 2: And he could not have been more kind, more sweet.
Speaker 2: His wife and his daughter came to set, and she's adorable.
Speaker 2: Like it's funny that you think of a person one
Speaker 2: way and then you meet them you're.
Speaker 1: Like, oh, they're just normal.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, so that's been really I mean it's a
Speaker 2: it's a dark story based.
Speaker 1: On another one. Okay, I know, Oh it's darker. Really
Speaker 1: this is even darker. But oh I love that for you,
Speaker 1: Like what challenging media roles.
Speaker 2: How grateful? I mean again, we just want to have
Speaker 2: a job and for it to be challenging or to
Speaker 2: work with. I mean I always want to work with
Speaker 2: Steven Graham. I just think he's amazing and Leah like
Speaker 2: I never who who would have thought?
Speaker 1: So? Yeah, that's so cool.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we're doing in Pittsburgh, and I guess to
Speaker 2: use I've been working on my Pittsburgh Geese accent.
Speaker 1: Which is give me a little, give me a little, you.
Speaker 2: Know, like they would say like instead of pool, they'll
Speaker 2: say pool, like are we gonna go out to swim
Speaker 2: in the pool?
Speaker 1: WHOA Okay?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Or they'll say like pneumonia instead of pneumonia.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's from Scott's Irish. It's like a very interesting
Speaker 2: mix of it's hard, like it's really different, but it's
Speaker 2: cool and it's funny because Leev has a Philly accent
Speaker 2: in the show. And then Timothy Van Patten, who was
Speaker 2: directing our first block, is from Brooklyn. And then here
Speaker 2: I am with my Pittsburgh I was like, oh, my
Speaker 2: brain is like but but it's cool because you get
Speaker 2: to challenge yourself so and also honor the working class
Speaker 2: people of Pittsburgh, which is so cool.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I haven't hung out in Pittsburgh a lot, so
Speaker 1: but like that, I've heard that it's it's kind of popping.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really cool. There's so much art, there's so
Speaker 2: much theater, there's a museums. The architecture is beautiful. It
Speaker 2: actually was like more of the main hub before Manhattan,
Speaker 2: before like New York sort of started popping off. So
Speaker 2: there's this one strip of the most beautiful architecture. I'm like, what, Yeah,
Speaker 2: don't sleep on Pittsburgh out.
Speaker 1: No, It's like, yeah, I want to check it out. Well,
Speaker 1: so okay, that's going to be cool though, that the
Speaker 1: show is going to be set there. I like that,
Speaker 1: And that's I mean, your your plate is full and
Speaker 1: there's so much to be grateful for. I feel so
Speaker 1: grateful for you.
Speaker 2: Thank you. Yeah, I'm you know, trying to work on
Speaker 2: my own music and just trying to develop and creative
Speaker 2: and you produce something at some point, so you know.
Speaker 1: Just the limit try this guy is Somebody told me
Speaker 1: that once and it has stuck with me in such
Speaker 1: a profound way. I say it all the time.
Speaker 2: I love that, Like it's true. I think we always
Speaker 2: think like, oh no, I shouldn't be ambitious, I shouldn't
Speaker 2: want more generally, Yeah, but it's.
Speaker 1: It's okay to want to be great, to want to
Speaker 1: be better, to want to be bigger, Like it's it's yeah,
Speaker 1: it's an important message, and I'm excited that people are
Speaker 1: catching on to that. Do you I have one more question. Well,
Speaker 1: actually too. When we talk about the philosophy of I
Speaker 1: choose me, sometimes people can imagine that to be a
Speaker 1: selfish act. Yes, how do you balance taking yourself aside
Speaker 1: and choosing yourself and making sure that it is understood
Speaker 1: that that's not your goal. I mean, clearly you're not
Speaker 1: a selfish person. You put your people.
Speaker 2: Pleaser said, yeah, right, But in turn that means I'm selfish.
Speaker 2: So I think it goes back to like, I can't
Speaker 2: manage people's feelings and responses to what I do, but
Speaker 2: I know that I have to put myself first because
Speaker 2: if I don't know how to as rue Paul always says,
Speaker 2: if you can love yourself, how that you don't love
Speaker 2: somebody else? I know, we love. It's just so it
Speaker 2: seems so simple and it's so easy to say, but
Speaker 2: it's true. And it's taken me a long time to
Speaker 2: realize that, Like, if I'm not doing what I know
Speaker 2: I should be doing, it's going to make me feel
Speaker 2: good or make me love myself, do and say and
Speaker 2: make decisions that are only going to just compound the issue.
Speaker 1: You know, it's hard to learn that. It's hard.
Speaker 2: We're not taught that it's not cultivated because it's like
Speaker 2: you're selfish, right, but like you have selfish like you
Speaker 2: you really And I think selfish gets a bad rap
Speaker 2: because the connotation that it comes with, But it's not,
Speaker 2: you know, like it's.
Speaker 1: Just yeah, yeah, we have to take care of ourselves
Speaker 1: or I mean, what's the alternative?
Speaker 2: Right? We don't how core of our dogs, our beautiful children,
Speaker 2: our families if we can't take care.
Speaker 1: Of well, I have one last question, Chrissy Mets before
Speaker 1: I let you go. What was your last I choose
Speaker 1: me moment?
Speaker 2: Oh oh oh, it.
Speaker 1: Could be today, it could be yesterday.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, for sure. I think it was getting up
Speaker 2: and going to the gym, right, Like I chose that,
Speaker 2: like I didn't want to afterward, but starting the day,
Speaker 2: that is a little in my little bank, my confidence bank,
Speaker 2: or my choosing myself bank, for sure, take a little.
Speaker 1: Of How do you do that? When you're working all
Speaker 1: the time. It's you know, I hear people that get
Speaker 1: up at four am, five am. Well, I'm I'm like what.
Speaker 2: But you know, what's weird? I had no qualms about
Speaker 2: getting up a four am to go to set, So okay,
Speaker 2: so what Okay, is it because like I can do
Speaker 2: it for the people, why can't do it for myself?
Speaker 1: You're doing You're doing it because that's your job, right,
Speaker 1: But taking care of yourself is our job. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I had to really shift that perspective. I
Speaker 2: was like, oh no, like Christy and and as we know,
Speaker 2: like spending eighteen hours on the set, you've got to
Speaker 2: be in somewhat sort of shape for the endurance to
Speaker 2: you know, a long day and depending on what you're
Speaker 2: doing as well. Yeah, so I think for today, like
Speaker 2: that was certainly something I started my day with and
Speaker 2: it sets the tone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it definitely like revs yep for the rest of
Speaker 1: your day.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: I love that feeling.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know. I'm like, okay, okay, okay, she did it.
Speaker 1: Oh, I think you're awesome. I'm just really excited to
Speaker 1: meet you today and talk to you. I really enjoyed
Speaker 1: it you too.
Speaker 2: Thank you for your time and to chat and think
Speaker 2: such a great listener, Like I know, as a host
Speaker 2: you have to be, but people aren't. And I really
Speaker 2: don't know how to land the plane sometimes, so I
Speaker 2: really appreciate you.
Speaker 1: No, I understand I've been in your position.
Speaker 2: I get it again. Okay, all right, well, enjoy the show.
Speaker 1: Thank you. I definitely will keep up the good work.
Speaker 1: You're doing great.
Speaker 2: Thank you. Okay, take care, Bye bye, Chrissy,