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Speaker 2: Hazel is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Trent.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get

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Speaker 2: her a second date. But first, Hazel, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Trent.

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Speaker 3: It's been about a week, which is like killing me.

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Speaker 4: It's been so long.

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Speaker 5: When was the last time you reached out?

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Speaker 4: I texted him yesterday, which I was like, I wish

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Speaker 4: I hadn't I So for our date we went to

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Speaker 4: a Saulsonite and so yesterday I texted him, I'm still

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Speaker 4: waiting for our next dance. And then I heard nothing,

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Speaker 4: and I was like all night, I was like.

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Speaker 1: Ours it is always cute what you said anyway, I.

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Speaker 4: Thought, so yeah, yeah, it was an amazing date, Like

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Speaker 4: it was so fun. He planned it and he's like

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Speaker 4: an amazing dancer. So we went to the Sultanite and

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Speaker 4: it was like there was like music and great lights,

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Speaker 4: and he was to teach me some moves and I'm

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Speaker 4: not a dancer or a mover and so I failed spectacularly.

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Speaker 4: But I feel like it was an amazing date because

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Speaker 4: he was so he had such a good sense of

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Speaker 4: humor about it, and we were laughing about the fact

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Speaker 4: that I was not a graceful dancer, and like we

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Speaker 4: were laughing toward my stomach hurt, which I just feel

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Speaker 4: like is such a good sign on the first date,

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Speaker 4: you know for sure?

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Speaker 5: What else did you guys do?

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Speaker 3: Well? Okay?

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Speaker 4: So then after okay, so all the like first dances happened,

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Speaker 4: like with like the teacher and stuff, and then they

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Speaker 4: played some slower songs, and then during the slower songs,

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Speaker 4: he was like holding me very close, which I appreciated

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Speaker 4: more than I can say.

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Speaker 5: At the end of the night, he did kiss me, and.

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Speaker 4: It was like not just like you know, I feel

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Speaker 4: like I've been going on these days lightly on hinte

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Speaker 4: where it's like these kisses are so weird at the

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Speaker 4: end of the night and this is like a movie kiss,

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Speaker 4: you know, and I like keep replaying in my head.

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Speaker 4: It was so good and so I'm just like, wait,

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Speaker 4: where is he Like I just I'm like I wasn't

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Speaker 4: lying to myself, like the chemistry was there it was

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Speaker 5: Okay, what could have gone wrong?

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 4: I mean that's what I've been like, ah, God, like

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Speaker 4: spiraling out about. I feel like I've been like thinking

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Speaker 4: over our whole conversation through the whole night, and I

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Speaker 4: feel like at one point, like we were just talking

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Speaker 4: about like values and stuff, and I said, I like

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Speaker 4: don't believe in marriage, but he seemed like so fine

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Speaker 4: about that. But I'm like maybe that threw him off.

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Speaker 4: I don't like, at the end of the night, he

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Speaker 4: I like went to kiss him again after our first kiss,

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Speaker 4: and he like turned his head and got the cheek

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Speaker 4: and I was.

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Speaker 5: Like, oh my gosh.

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Speaker 3: So I was like something I knew at the end

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Speaker 4: Was off, but but also like everything else was like

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Speaker 4: so fun that I just thought that I'm not crazy,

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Speaker 4: Like that was an amazing day, right.

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Speaker 5: So something changed, Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Something changed, And I'm like, and I have no idea

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Speaker 4: what it is because everything, I mean, he's like so

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Speaker 4: great and like he's stupid handsome, and you know, I

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Speaker 4: just I was like, he's really charming, but not like

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Speaker 4: an overly like performative way. He was just like.

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Speaker 3: Everything we revived, like we'd known.

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Speaker 4: Each other for a really long time, and I just

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Speaker 5: I don't think.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well that's what makes it so weird. Would jubile

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Speaker 1: on like a first date? If somebody tells you that

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Speaker 1: they don't believe a marriage and that's something that you

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Speaker 5: Probably if like.

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Speaker 2: I wanted to be, if I wanted marriage and they

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Speaker 2: said they weren't down with it, probably I probably wouldn't

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Speaker 2: waste my time with another date. So oh, it could

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Speaker 2: be the reason why Well yeah, I know. I mean

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Speaker 2: that's what I'm looking for, you know, why waste my time? Okay,

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Speaker 2: well we'll see if that is it. We'll play a

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Speaker 2: song come back, and then call him and see if

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Speaker 2: he'll tell us why he's ghosting you and maybe get

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Speaker 2: you another date.

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Speaker 5: Okay, okay, perfect, thank you? All right, we'll get your

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Speaker 5: first date follow up next.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your first date follow up

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Speaker 2: and if you're just joining us, Hazel is on the phone,

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Speaker 2: and Hazel is getting ghosted by a guy named Trent.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call him and see if he'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why he is Ghostinger and maybe get her

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Speaker 2: a second date. But before we do that, Hazel, why

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Speaker 2: don't you refresh our memory on.

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Speaker 5: Your date real quick?

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Speaker 4: Okay, Trent and I went to a Salton night. We

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Speaker 4: had an amazing time. He's an amazing dancer.

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Speaker 3: I am not.

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Speaker 4: However, I feel like we were laughing all night. We

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Speaker 4: shared like a spectacular kiss. And now I haven't heard

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Speaker 4: from him in a week. I think maybe it's because

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Speaker 4: I said that I don't believe in marriage, but at

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Speaker 4: the time you can find about that. So I'm a

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Speaker 4: little bit unsure about why he hasn't texted me back.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I guess after our first date it's a compliment,

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Speaker 1: no matter what if that is what it is, because

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Speaker 1: it's like I can see your's wifey and she.

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Speaker 5: Doesn't want to get married.

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Speaker 4: Bye.

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Speaker 5: Maybe all right, are you ready for us to call him? Yes?

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Speaker 3: Thank you?

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Speaker 5: All right? Here we go.

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Speaker 3: Hello him?

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Speaker 5: Ma, ask weeak to Trent? Please?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? It was what was calling?

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Speaker 5: Hey Trent? How are you? This is the Jebil Show.

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Speaker 5: It's a radio show. What's up, Trent? I'm Nina, Hi

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Speaker 5: am Victoria Radio and I'm Jewel. How are you? Yeah,

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Speaker 5: it's a radio show. Have you ever heard of it?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 5: Okay, well I'll tell you. It's called the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 2: It's a radio show and we do a segment on

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Speaker 2: our show where if you go out on a date

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Speaker 2: with somebody and you end up ghosting them, that person

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Speaker 2: can ask us to get you on the phone and

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Speaker 2: ask why. It's called the first Date follow up. And

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Speaker 2: we got an email about you from somebody. Oh, okay,

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Speaker 2: are you ghosting anybody right now?

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Speaker 3: This has gotta be about Hazel? Yeah, it has to be.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it is. It is about Hazel. So Hazel emailed us.

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Speaker 2: We talked to her about your date. Sounded really great,

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Speaker 2: sounded like you liked her, She liked you a lot.

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Speaker 5: Had a hot kiss. Ye would you mind telling us

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Speaker 5: why you're a ghostinger?

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Man, don't get me wrong. We had an outstanding time bett.

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Speaker 7: To be honest, it was something else like we had

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Speaker 7: this amazing dance teacher and it was just like Hazel

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Speaker 3: She kept telling me how beautiful she was, and she kept.

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Speaker 7: Like gawking at her, and she's like she gives me butterflies,

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Speaker 7: And I was like, what is this?

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Speaker 3: Like just threw me off.

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Speaker 7: It felt like she was like into women. I mean,

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Speaker 7: I don't know that I'm ready for anything like that.

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Speaker 7: And it was I'm just confused, Like I thought she

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Speaker 2: Okay, So you thought that Hazel was more into the

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Speaker 5: Is that why you're ghostinger?

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Speaker 7: She was definitely into me, but she was definitely onto

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Speaker 7: the dance instructor, like in a way I've never seen before,

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Speaker 7: Like I like when a girl looks at me the

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Speaker 3: So I was just confused, do you feel me?

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Speaker 5: Okay? And that's the reason you're not calling her back.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but you didn't.

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Speaker 5: Think like maybe go out there again and try to

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Speaker 5: figure it out or ask her.

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Speaker 7: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: It just threw me off, you know, and you just.

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Speaker 1: Thought it was easier just to like walk away from

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Speaker 1: the whole thing exactly.

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Speaker 5: All right, Well, thanks for being honest with us, Trent.

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Speaker 5: And Trent.

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Speaker 2: Now let you know that Hazel is actually on the

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, I okay, wait shun, I am I

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Speaker 4: allowed to talk now?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Okay, I Trent, No, I can't believe that's the reason

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Speaker 4: we had an amazing date that was like the most

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Speaker 4: fun I've had on a first date in so long.

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Speaker 4: And I like, you're ghosting me because I admired our

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Speaker 3: No, really, like I do not like women like that. Okay.

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Speaker 7: I wasn't trying to be judgment or anything. It's just

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Speaker 7: I don't know some some women are into.

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Speaker 3: Women like that. No, I mean I like love women.

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Speaker 4: I think they're like incredible, like beautiful creatures. And our

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Speaker 6: But that sounds like you see how she's describing her now,

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Speaker 6: But yeah, yeah, I just had never seen me another woman.

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Speaker 4: But I'm like I was like excited by her because

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Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, Like when I said

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Speaker 4: the thing about butterflies, that was like I'm having butterflies

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Speaker 4: about the idea that like, oh my god, like what

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Speaker 4: if one day I could dance like that and like

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Speaker 3: I was like, maybe one day I'll be like her.

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Speaker 4: And I was so excited about you and like the

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Speaker 2: Well, Trent, would you like to go out with Hazel

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Speaker 2: on another day? We'll pay for it?

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Speaker 7: You know that that would be great, But right now

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Speaker 7: I have to decline.

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Speaker 5: Really why?

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Speaker 7: Well, you see, the thing is with that dance teacher.

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Speaker 7: I kind of asked her out and we're going out.

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Speaker 3: Are you serious? You did say she was so beautiful?

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Speaker 7: I mean I think I was into her just as

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Speaker 7: much as you were.

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Speaker 4: When did you even talk to her like they slid

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 7: No, after that weird little kiss you gave me at

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Speaker 7: the end and went off, I went back and you know,

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Speaker 7: we started talking and we had a little heart to

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Speaker 7: I asked her out and here we are.

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Speaker 4: Huh wow, wow, wow, Tread. I mean, I'm not gonna

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Speaker 4: lie that this hurts, but well, she's giving.

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Speaker 3: Me butterflies now, so.

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Speaker 4: Okay, wow, okay, Well, I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 3: This definitely hurts, but I agree that she was an

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Speaker 3: amazing woman.

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Speaker 4: At least someone is going out with her, So Tread,

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Speaker 4: that's select to both of you.

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Speaker 5: Honestly, man, where do you guys take these dands. I'm

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Speaker 5: Dying to Know You was first date to follow up