Speaker 1: Still the Place with Laura Layton, Courtney thorn Smith.
Speaker 2: And Daphne's Aniga an iHeartRadio podcast. Here we are at
Speaker 2: a melrose minute, and just in the lines of Melrose
Speaker 2: Place and living being a young gals back in the nineties,
Speaker 2: we all were, we were all where.
Speaker 3: We just had a very dramatic.
Speaker 2: Melrose Place episode And there was a scene when Jane
Speaker 2: kicks Michael out because she finds out that he's had
Speaker 2: this affair with Kimberly, and she brings all she brings
Speaker 2: some of his bags to the hospital where he's working, and.
Speaker 4: We were so proud of her that she just picked
Speaker 4: up his stuff and delivered it and dropped in the
Speaker 4: parking lot and said, you're out.
Speaker 2: Finally Jane stands up for herself. Finally we're also happy
Speaker 2: about that man.
Speaker 1: And it's the other end of that.
Speaker 5: You know that moment early in a relationship where you like,
Speaker 5: you get a raw at his house or he gets
Speaker 5: to draw at your house and you give him his
Speaker 5: own teeth pert and there's that sweet romantic and then
Speaker 5: at the other end of the relationship, there's the time
Speaker 5: when you don't want any of his stuff touching any
Speaker 5: of your stuff.
Speaker 3: It's not a funny.
Speaker 4: Wanting like food colors, what do you mean or just dividing.
Speaker 5: The dividing of this stuff is so hard and sad,
Speaker 5: so daff You said you had a story about that.
Speaker 3: I think Daphne has a good story that we need
Speaker 3: to hear.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well my story is a more realistic story of
Speaker 2: throwing the guy's stuff out.
Speaker 3: It was not about separating. Can we break up?
Speaker 2: I have two stories, have two different tell us everything
Speaker 2: we were the eighties four when you're young and rich
Speaker 2: and and crazy.
Speaker 3: Uh in the nineties? Okay, which one time?
Speaker 2: I again, I think I mentioned before. I didn't really
Speaker 2: know how to have an argument but to stay in something.
Speaker 2: So I took all of his stuff. I was so angry.
Speaker 2: I found other women's names under g for girls in
Speaker 2: a little black book.
Speaker 3: Clich talk about a cliche.
Speaker 5: It was an actual book, so you're not looking through
Speaker 5: his phone. He has an actual book where he's written.
Speaker 2: He has a little address book because back in the
Speaker 2: day's people we didn't have phones. We just had to
Speaker 2: write everybody's number down this little book and put it
Speaker 2: in your purse. But in that little black book, literally
Speaker 2: a little he g These first names right.
Speaker 5: Oh my god, they have ratings where they like have
Speaker 5: a little like a number of parts.
Speaker 4: Well, they clearly didn't have last names, because they were
Speaker 4: they were all under g for girls, no last name,
Speaker 4: no last names.
Speaker 2: And by the way, I'm glad you're asking, you're getting
Speaker 2: into it, because you're seeing why I had every right
Speaker 2: to take it out of the closet and take it
Speaker 2: downstairs and throw it all into his convertible and say
Speaker 2: get out of here, and I don't ever want to
Speaker 2: see you again. And I mean his ARMANI suits all
Speaker 2: of it, boom out the door into his convertible Jaguar.
Speaker 5: How did he defend it? Does have any fence?
Speaker 3: He's ah, that's a good question. How did he defend it?
Speaker 3: These are just contractors for working.
Speaker 1: On my house contractor idea.
Speaker 2: No, I don't remember what he said, but he did say,
Speaker 2: you can't just keep you can't kick me out every time,
Speaker 2: and there mean nothing and all that crap. And I
Speaker 2: don't even haven't even called them in years, and blah
Speaker 2: blah blah.
Speaker 3: Who cares?
Speaker 5: Was that the last time you kicked him out? Had
Speaker 5: you kick him out before? Had you brought his stuff off?
Speaker 1: It sounds.
Speaker 3: So we lasted.
Speaker 1: We left.
Speaker 2: Those was one of my longest relationships. We were just
Speaker 2: into like the dynamics of it all. So he left
Speaker 2: and then I guess he came back because I remember
Speaker 2: having dinner with one of the gals.
Speaker 3: Wow with him. No wow, Yeah, Okay. Then there was
Speaker 3: another time when I just took the stuff that the.
Speaker 2: Guy had given me and went a different guy, different
Speaker 2: guy where he was living, and I just dumped it
Speaker 2: all out.
Speaker 3: And I'm telling you, guys, I had no.
Speaker 2: Just no kind of mom in paradigm to communicate skillfully.
Speaker 3: And have a conversation like at least Melrose Place is
Speaker 3: somewhat more.
Speaker 4: Supplies than what place to shame.
Speaker 3: I'm telling you. I used to say that, Laura.
Speaker 2: I used to say, oh my god, I just want
Speaker 2: to go to shoot Melrose Place where things are more sane.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 4: So wait this second story, when you say you just
Speaker 4: got you threw it all, do you mean like you
Speaker 4: put it.
Speaker 3: All on the front lawn. Yeah, but I was mean
Speaker 3: I tore up.
Speaker 2: I think I tore up you know, a Valentine's card
Speaker 2: and his mother told me, you really heard him.
Speaker 3: If that's what you wanted, And I was like, oh good,
Speaker 3: that's what's the intention.
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh boy, And we all lasted about a year
Speaker 2: and a half or two.
Speaker 4: So so wait, after that, you guys got back together.
Speaker 4: There was a actually final yeah, I.
Speaker 2: Think you know, ultimately, you know, I had to get
Speaker 2: rid of him cause he I picked. This is what
Speaker 2: my therapist said, you like to go to the horse's
Speaker 2: mouth for your lessons, So I had to pick guys
Speaker 2: who weren't going to be really trustworthy, I think, to
Speaker 2: work on trust issues. Eventually my picker got better and
Speaker 2: better until I have chosen the best.
Speaker 3: When you're you know, it's not like you learn a
Speaker 3: lesson on paper and then you follow it perfectly. A
Speaker 3: lot of times you have to do the.
Speaker 2: Opposite so that you, you know, can embody what's painful
Speaker 2: to get to the good stuff. So I think I
Speaker 2: was just acting stuff out, and they complied. I picked
Speaker 2: the guys that had g in their phone book for girls.
Speaker 2: Okay not, I mean either one of you would have
Speaker 2: gone like, yeah, no, I don't need.
Speaker 3: A second date. I'm sure. Well, it's the funny.
Speaker 4: The best part of the story really is you admitting
Speaker 4: that they actually came back after that and like that
Speaker 4: wasn't actually the end. That was maybe somewhere in the middle.
Speaker 4: That's kind of the most interesting part of the story
Speaker 4: to me.
Speaker 3: I love it. I love that you're like that fired.
Speaker 2: I was really into fire and drama and you know,
Speaker 2: and they provided, you know, they were into it too,
Speaker 2: like it wasn't I remember saying to my one of
Speaker 2: my boyfriend's like, aren't we supposed to keep learning and
Speaker 2: challenging each other? And he goes, I thought, we're supposed
Speaker 2: to like settle down and be like content And I'm like,
Speaker 2: what that sounds boring, So I, you know, I needed,
Speaker 2: always needed some drama.
Speaker 3: For me to feel like it was passionate.
Speaker 2: I confused drama for passion, which is not the same thing.
Speaker 5: I don't think that's super uncommon. I think a lot
Speaker 5: of yeah, especially yeah, yeah, you think it's you excited.
Speaker 3: Youth can sort of justify a lot of stuff. Well,
Speaker 3: I love that you's sort of you know the retrospect.
Speaker 2: Oh well, my last time on here, you were in
Speaker 2: the back of a police car, I might remind you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was, and I, well, I still am. I'm
Speaker 4: actually doing this podcast episode from my hometown, and I thought.
Speaker 3: I should go visit the scene of the crime.
Speaker 4: I should see if that alli right across from the
Speaker 4: police station, Like maybe it has a plaque like this
Speaker 4: is where I was in the back of it. Like
Speaker 4: maybe pretty sure they don't, but I might just go
Speaker 4: visit that spot and see, like if I would even
Speaker 4: recognize picture.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I might if I go there.
Speaker 4: On do you recognize it from the story when you're
Speaker 4: describing like putting his stuff outside on the curb, that
Speaker 4: made me think this is a little bit. It's adjacent,
Speaker 4: all right, It's an adjacent story about putting stuff outside
Speaker 4: that belonged to somebody moving. Okay for this, for this story,
Speaker 4: it wasn't a move. But for this story, I'm going
Speaker 4: to throw my kids and my husband under the bus
Speaker 4: a little bit because it was a battle with our
Speaker 4: kids who weren't cleaning up their room. And you know,
Speaker 4: you you ask and you ask and you ask, and
Speaker 4: it doesn't happen, and you finally say, that's it.
Speaker 3: If you're not going to take care of it, all of.
Speaker 4: It goes and Doug scooped it all up and he
Speaker 4: threw all the stuffed animals and the clothes and the
Speaker 4: stuff that it was all over the bedroom out into
Speaker 4: the backyard, and that was that was a good lesson
Speaker 4: and a good dramatic telling of what made me me
Speaker 4: be changing.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you feel that's why I was telling story.
Speaker 4: It's like by proxy, I'm sort of adopting the story
Speaker 4: like I did it.
Speaker 3: I didn't actually do the throwing out into the art.
Speaker 3: But and then you and then you keyed their cars.
Speaker 3: There's little hot wheel cars. They're little strollers, right, the strollers.
Speaker 5: I have a tiny white ceramic picture that you left
Speaker 5: when you brought that beautiful lemon cake to my house,
Speaker 5: a lemon bunt cake, and it had like frosting in
Speaker 5: it for the glaze, extra glaze in it. And I
Speaker 5: feel like you're not taking care of it because you've
Speaker 5: left my house for so long. Yeah, I'm going to
Speaker 5: leave that out front to teach you a lesson.
Speaker 4: I think that's probably the right thing I deserved that.
Speaker 4: I mean, I can also bring it next time we
Speaker 4: see each other. But I feel like you all learn
Speaker 4: from that. You're right, thank you, thank you for teaching
Speaker 4: me more about Bernie.
Speaker 3: Do you have a story?
Speaker 1: Crazy good? I do have a story.
Speaker 5: So let's hear my story takes place in Greece, because
Speaker 5: I'm just I guess I'm more interesting than you guys.
Speaker 5: Whatever you're fancy, I'm super fancy. So as in my
Speaker 5: early twenties and my boyfriend and I were not doing well.
Speaker 5: It was not a good time in our relationship, so
Speaker 5: we went to Europe to save our relationship, which is
Speaker 5: a terrible, terrible idea because then you're intensely together.
Speaker 3: And far from home.
Speaker 5: We were in Greece and we were drinking, I want
Speaker 5: to say, or so super early twenties, right, I was
Speaker 5: still drinking uzo or zo uzo, that stuff that you
Speaker 5: put ice in and it turns.
Speaker 3: Like milky, milky white.
Speaker 5: So needless say, I was drinking a lot of it
Speaker 5: because I got sober a few months later, so to say,
Speaker 5: there was a lot being drunk. And we got into
Speaker 5: this huge, horrible fight in which he told me that
Speaker 5: because we were in a couple of therapy, which we
Speaker 5: were in couple therapies in her early twenties, but whatever,
Speaker 5: and he said, the therapist thinks you're crazy too, as
Speaker 5: if she had called him separately and told him that
Speaker 5: I was crazy. And I was rightfully furious by that,
Speaker 5: and I spent the night separating all of our stuff
Speaker 5: so none of his stuff was touching any of my stuff,
Speaker 5: so that all of our stuff would be on separate sides.
Speaker 3: That will show him that, Thank you, Laura.
Speaker 1: That's what I thought. And I didn't want any of
Speaker 1: his stuff touching my stuff. And then we had to
Speaker 1: fly back together.
Speaker 5: Oh we big dramatic breakup in big drunken dramatic breakup
Speaker 5: in Greece, and I separate all and then you have
Speaker 5: to sit next to each other.
Speaker 4: And how do you not touch with that arm rest
Speaker 4: in between you? Just an arm rest for a very
Speaker 4: long flight.
Speaker 3: I'm not speaking to you three inches from me.
Speaker 1: I'll show you.
Speaker 3: God. Oh oh, such a meat line. Your therapist thinks
Speaker 3: you're crazy too, or whatever.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, the therapist you're crazy too, Oh my god. Yeah,
Speaker 5: although in his defense, I was many sheets to the
Speaker 5: wind and separating our stuff so his stuff wouldn't touch
Speaker 5: my stuff.
Speaker 1: So valid point.
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe maybe it's touch a crazy in the moment.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I've got my shining moment.
Speaker 2: You want your therapist to earn their money, so you
Speaker 2: know you may do a little.
Speaker 5: Are vacation fights awful because you vacation so awful? Because
Speaker 5: you have to go back to the same hotel room.
Speaker 5: You can't, and you're in a foreign land.
Speaker 3: It's supposed to be romantic and wonderful.
Speaker 2: It's so awful worst. Yeah, I'm sorry they.
Speaker 3: All and you lived.
Speaker 1: Is so sad for me. I live to tell the tale.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and Laura's kids are very neat.
Speaker 4: I bet they take I mean, I think a lesson
Speaker 4: was learned. But know the stuff, no animals, no stuffed animals,
Speaker 4: were actually harmed.
Speaker 2: These have been different stories about stuff, our personal stuff
Speaker 2: and how to make I want to.
Speaker 5: Do that for Joey, my dog, because you know he
Speaker 5: collects all those penguin toys, all the penguins.
Speaker 3: And he doesn't take care of them.
Speaker 1: That's a lesson.
Speaker 3: Throw them out the front door.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Joe's got a lesson a coming.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Well, I'll come over and get my picture as soon
Speaker 4: as I'm back from this little uh.
Speaker 1: I'm going to see you soon because we have two
Speaker 1: guests coming.
Speaker 3: Yes, we have two exciting guts.
Speaker 4: Thanks everybody for listening to melose minute. Thanks Stephanie and
Speaker 4: Court for sharing your drama anytime. Yay, yay, all right,
Speaker 4: let you guys, Bye bye,