1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:03,280 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you 2 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:07,000 Speaker 1: need advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. 3 00:00:07,400 --> 00:00:11,240 Speaker 1: Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com 4 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:15,159 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your 5 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:17,880 Speaker 1: letter live on the air, just like we're gonna read 6 00:00:17,960 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: this one. You heard that right here, right now. Buckle 7 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:24,800 Speaker 1: up and hold on tight. We got it for you here. 8 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:27,880 Speaker 1: It is a Strawberry letter. Thank you, nephew. This one 9 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:31,440 Speaker 1: says my mom needs to get a life. That is 10 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:34,479 Speaker 1: the subject. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a twenty one year 11 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:37,919 Speaker 1: old college student and I am an only child. My 12 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 1: parents divorced when I was twelve, and I grew up 13 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:43,839 Speaker 1: living with my mom since I was young. I have 14 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: always been a protector for my mom, and I felt 15 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:50,440 Speaker 1: like I had to take care of her. She is 16 00:00:50,479 --> 00:00:53,080 Speaker 1: a beautiful woman and she still has a nice shape, 17 00:00:53,320 --> 00:00:56,600 Speaker 1: so men are drawn to her. Whenever we are out, 18 00:00:56,680 --> 00:00:59,560 Speaker 1: men look at her and stop and speak. She hasn't 19 00:00:59,560 --> 00:01:01,680 Speaker 1: been on any dates in the last few years, and 20 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:04,000 Speaker 1: I have overheard her on the phone telling men that 21 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 1: her son is her main priority and she doesn't have 22 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:11,119 Speaker 1: time to date. Well. I am grown now and living 23 00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:14,960 Speaker 1: in another state, and she's still using that line. My 24 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 1: mom pressures me to fly home on weekends so we 25 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:20,000 Speaker 1: can hang out and I can do things around the 26 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:22,440 Speaker 1: house for her. When I'm at home, I have to 27 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: cut the grass, wash her car, and make minor repairs 28 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:27,640 Speaker 1: at home, and run errands for her. I'm expected to 29 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:31,040 Speaker 1: go to church, dinner, and anywhere else she might want 30 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:33,039 Speaker 1: to take me. If I tell her that I may 31 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 1: plans with my friends from high school, she puts a 32 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:38,119 Speaker 1: guilt trip on me and I end up staying home. 33 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 1: She has no idea how much she really needs a 34 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 1: man in her life. I am sure the divorce messed 35 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 1: her up, but maybe counseling could help her. She will 36 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 1: probably be upset with me when she finds out, but 37 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: I have asked her two best girlfriends to take her 38 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 1: out as soon as she as soon as this quarantine 39 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 1: is over. They agreed to do her hair and make 40 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 1: up and help her get her groove back. I love 41 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:03,840 Speaker 1: my mother, but I can't be everything for her anymore. 42 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 1: How can I get my mom to see that she 43 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:11,280 Speaker 1: needs a man? Please advise? Well, first, I gotta tell 44 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:14,920 Speaker 1: you this. It sounds like you were raised. Well, you 45 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 1: don't say much about your dad except where they divorced 46 00:02:17,880 --> 00:02:20,320 Speaker 1: at twelve. But you know, if this is all your mom, 47 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: she did a great job because you know, you do 48 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 1: know how to take care of her. But now you're 49 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:28,639 Speaker 1: twenty one, and you're right, she does need a man 50 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 1: of her own, or just not to pressure you and 51 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:35,280 Speaker 1: to guilt trip you into doing it. And of course 52 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:38,680 Speaker 1: you love your mom you want to help her. But again, 53 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:41,120 Speaker 1: you're twenty one. Now you have your own life, your 54 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:44,480 Speaker 1: own friends, and that's okay. You're perfectly within your rights 55 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:46,800 Speaker 1: to do that. You should have that. You want to 56 00:02:46,840 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: be on your own, without any guilt trips, without any 57 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:53,960 Speaker 1: babysitting mom, none of that. Your mom is taking advantage 58 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 1: of you and at this point, all the stuff she's 59 00:02:56,800 --> 00:03:00,480 Speaker 1: making you do, you're right, Mom should have a man, 60 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:04,040 Speaker 1: or a handyman. Get a handyman from tackle. They're easy. 61 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 1: I did that at my house and it was perfect. 62 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:10,760 Speaker 1: Do something like that. Okay, your mom is lonely. She 63 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 1: misses you. It's quite obvious. And since she doesn't have 64 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:17,640 Speaker 1: a man, guess what you're it. When she can guilt 65 00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:20,839 Speaker 1: you and pressure you into coming home, you say she's 66 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:24,079 Speaker 1: still nice. You know, she still looks good, she still 67 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 1: has a nice body, and she can attract men. So 68 00:03:27,320 --> 00:03:29,040 Speaker 1: you know, I think it's a really good thing that 69 00:03:29,080 --> 00:03:31,360 Speaker 1: you've called on her best girlfriends to step in and 70 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:34,239 Speaker 1: help her. That's I think that's exactly what she needs. 71 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:36,600 Speaker 1: I love the fact that you're twenty one and you're 72 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:40,240 Speaker 1: wise enough to know all of this. Your mom just 73 00:03:40,320 --> 00:03:43,160 Speaker 1: needs to let you go now, and you need to 74 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:45,920 Speaker 1: talk to her. Sit her down, talk to her nicely, respectfully, 75 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 1: and just tell her how you feel. You know, you 76 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 1: guys have that bond and then you go on and 77 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:57,320 Speaker 1: live your life. Steve, Yeah, young brother, we got a 78 00:03:57,320 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 1: little situation here. You're the only child. Your parents divorced 79 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 1: when you were twelve. You are now twenty one. You 80 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 1: grew up with your mom. You've always been her protector, 81 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 1: and you felt like you had to take care of 82 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 1: That's a boy's job. That's training for becoming a man. 83 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:24,279 Speaker 1: That's what we are. One of our main qualities as 84 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:27,720 Speaker 1: men is to be a protector. She's beautiful, still got 85 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 1: nice shapes from me in a drawn to her. She 86 00:04:30,320 --> 00:04:32,040 Speaker 1: han't been on a lot of dates in a few years, 87 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:34,280 Speaker 1: and I've overheard on the phone telling men that her 88 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:37,200 Speaker 1: son is her main priority and she doesn't have time 89 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:41,920 Speaker 1: to date. Or she's using that line because she's stuck 90 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:47,159 Speaker 1: in reverse. And what I mean by that is, you 91 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 1: got a divorce. Your mom got a divorce when you 92 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 1: were twelve. You're twenty one. If you reverse the number 93 00:04:55,480 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: twenty one, you back at twelve. She has not moved 94 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:06,479 Speaker 1: off that number. She is stuck thus who as she was, 95 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:12,039 Speaker 1: and since the divorce, she has put her life on pause. 96 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:16,360 Speaker 1: At first, that was a true statement. I don't have 97 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 1: time to date. He's your number one priority. You've grown, 98 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 1: you live out of state. Now you cannot be her 99 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 1: number one priority anymore. But she keeps using that because 100 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:32,680 Speaker 1: it sounds good. It's a defense mechanism that she's giving 101 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:37,480 Speaker 1: these guys to protect herself from the vulnerability of being 102 00:05:37,520 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 1: in a relationship. So we have a situation here, we 103 00:05:43,080 --> 00:05:47,559 Speaker 1: really really do that, and your mom needs some help, 104 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 1: and you have to help her get unstuck. You have 105 00:05:52,800 --> 00:06:00,359 Speaker 1: to help her find some independence. Now, I like the 106 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 1: idea you had about calling her girlfriends. So when we 107 00:06:06,040 --> 00:06:11,600 Speaker 1: come back, I'll try to find maybe if I can 108 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:17,279 Speaker 1: a couple of suggestions for you. But I'm not. I 109 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:19,560 Speaker 1: don't know if you're gonna like them a lot, but 110 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:24,120 Speaker 1: I think you might have to try some of them. Okay, 111 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:29,920 Speaker 1: hanging there, young fellows, it's gonna be all good, but 112 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:33,479 Speaker 1: you some things you're gonna have to do to help 113 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:36,680 Speaker 1: her with her independence. I think that's what I think. 114 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:40,359 Speaker 1: That's what I'll have when we come back. All right, Steve, 115 00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:42,720 Speaker 1: I like it. We'll have part two of your response 116 00:06:42,760 --> 00:06:45,799 Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's 117 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: Strawberry letter my mom needs to get a life. We'll 118 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:52,760 Speaker 1: get back into it right after this you're listening to, 119 00:06:55,120 --> 00:06:57,960 Speaker 1: all right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters 120 00:06:58,040 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 1: subject my mom needs to get a life. Well, you're right, 121 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 1: your mom does need to get a life. But you're 122 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:08,600 Speaker 1: gonna have to help her because you've been divorced. You're 123 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 1: from a divorced family since you were twelve. You're twenty one, 124 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 1: and like I said earlier, your mom is stuck in 125 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 1: reverse her life. She put it on Pauls when you 126 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:20,360 Speaker 1: were twelve. Nine years later, she's still stuck in that 127 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:22,960 Speaker 1: same thing. So even though she's nice looking, still got 128 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 1: a nice shape, men are drawn to her she's telling 129 00:07:26,280 --> 00:07:29,640 Speaker 1: men that you're her number one priority. What you were 130 00:07:29,680 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 1: when you were twelve through sixteen seventeen in high school, 131 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:35,800 Speaker 1: but you went to college. Now you live somewhere else. 132 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:39,679 Speaker 1: Now your mom pressures you to fly home and wants 133 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 1: you to wash a car, cut the grass. Now she 134 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: wants you to do the things that your dad used 135 00:07:46,280 --> 00:07:50,160 Speaker 1: to do. See, she keeps getting stuck in reverse. So 136 00:07:50,200 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 1: she uses you as the excuse because you're her number 137 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 1: one priority, because you were her child still all. But 138 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:57,960 Speaker 1: when you were a little boy, you've grown man. Now 139 00:07:58,400 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 1: well now she used that same excuse. But when you 140 00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:05,000 Speaker 1: come home, now you got to do what daddy used 141 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:07,440 Speaker 1: to do. Okay, just go in your room and play 142 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 1: video game. So now you've called on her a couple 143 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:13,480 Speaker 1: of her girlfriends to fix her hand take her out 144 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:17,880 Speaker 1: once this quarantine is over. Nigbor Greed, great job. But now, 145 00:08:17,960 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 1: young man, you're gonna have to do some things to 146 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:21,760 Speaker 1: help it, because you got to help your mother cut 147 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 1: the apron strings. See, you're not hanging on to the 148 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 1: apron strings. Your mother has tied the apron strings around 149 00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 1: your neck and she yanks him when she needs something. 150 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 1: So now what you're gonna have to do is you're 151 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:38,080 Speaker 1: gonna have to help her cut the apron strings. I 152 00:08:38,240 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 1: have a few suggestions. Let's go now, young man. You 153 00:08:42,480 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 1: might not like these, but you're gonna have to practice. 154 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna joke with him because he's a young 155 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 1: dude and he trying trying to get it together. So 156 00:08:50,840 --> 00:08:53,280 Speaker 1: like if my son's had this issue, what would I tell? 157 00:08:53,440 --> 00:08:56,720 Speaker 1: So here we go in twenty one. You're gonna have 158 00:08:56,760 --> 00:09:00,320 Speaker 1: to start practicing some tough love. She is your mother, 159 00:09:00,880 --> 00:09:04,920 Speaker 1: but you've got to help her untied the apron strings 160 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:07,480 Speaker 1: so she can get on with her life. So in 161 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:10,360 Speaker 1: this tough love, you're gonna have to stop flying home 162 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:15,320 Speaker 1: so much. You just gotta stop. Man, mom wa busy 163 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:19,360 Speaker 1: this weekend, I can't make it. That's one suggestion. The 164 00:09:19,400 --> 00:09:23,800 Speaker 1: next suggestion is when you do fly in, fly in 165 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:28,080 Speaker 1: with a girl. See that puts the big boys stuff 166 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:30,760 Speaker 1: in their face a little bit quicker. And I think 167 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 1: you have to introduce her to the man that you 168 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:36,600 Speaker 1: are now so she could quit view and you ask 169 00:09:36,760 --> 00:09:40,400 Speaker 1: the boy and stop trying to make you her man. 170 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:43,720 Speaker 1: She has to see that you are somebody else's man. 171 00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 1: Let's church say man, So I think you should fly 172 00:09:48,559 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 1: in with her. Here's another suggestion. You need to fly 173 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 1: her sometimes to you so she can see your life. 174 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 1: Have your friends drop bye, have a card party at 175 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:06,679 Speaker 1: your house or whatever y'all have, you know, have her, 176 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:09,400 Speaker 1: have her stay at your house and your girl spend 177 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:12,560 Speaker 1: the night. You got to introduce her to your life. Now. 178 00:10:12,559 --> 00:10:15,559 Speaker 1: I'm not saying you got to be disrespectful in any way, 179 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 1: so you don't want to do that. But if it's 180 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:20,679 Speaker 1: not being disrespectful, you just got to introduce it to 181 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:23,720 Speaker 1: your life. Because all that going out to dinner with 182 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:25,440 Speaker 1: your mom and all like that. Yeah that's good and 183 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:28,600 Speaker 1: all that's cool. Man, Ain't nothing wrong with that, But man, 184 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:33,160 Speaker 1: it's pulling on you, and she's not. Once she sees 185 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:37,840 Speaker 1: her child with a life, once she sees her child 186 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:42,360 Speaker 1: with a man, then we own to something. Now she 187 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:46,480 Speaker 1: might start saying, Wow, he's not my number one priority 188 00:10:46,559 --> 00:10:50,760 Speaker 1: because he has other priorities. Now he's You're gonna still 189 00:10:50,760 --> 00:10:53,559 Speaker 1: love your mama to the day you die, but you 190 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 1: got to practice some tough love if you don't. And 191 00:10:57,360 --> 00:10:59,319 Speaker 1: you're gonna be playing this game for a long time. 192 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 1: And I'm gonna tell you something, Man, this game ain't 193 00:11:01,720 --> 00:11:05,679 Speaker 1: gonna be cute to girls you dating, because they're not 194 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 1: gonna see it like that. They gonna thank you a 195 00:11:08,080 --> 00:11:12,720 Speaker 1: mama's boy, when really it's just she's a she's a 196 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:17,560 Speaker 1: boy's mama. It's really reverse. You ain't a mama's boy. 197 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:20,040 Speaker 1: She a boy's mama boys, and she want to be 198 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:23,240 Speaker 1: a boy's mama all her life. And she she got 199 00:11:23,240 --> 00:11:26,040 Speaker 1: a young man now, and so you're gonna have to 200 00:11:26,080 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 1: help her Cutdapri straight. That's my answer to the letter, 201 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 1: without any jokes. And I think he'll get it because 202 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:36,319 Speaker 1: he's a pretty wise young man at twenty one. Smart dude, 203 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 1: very much so. And he was raised well. So you 204 00:11:38,920 --> 00:11:42,160 Speaker 1: give mom credit for that. She done a great job. 205 00:11:42,280 --> 00:11:44,079 Speaker 1: She did a really good job with this young man. 206 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:47,920 Speaker 1: She did. But you know, come on now, everybody has 207 00:11:47,960 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 1: to grow up. But she's he's not her man though. 208 00:11:51,640 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 1: That's the thing. He's not her man, he's her son. Well, 209 00:11:55,920 --> 00:11:58,400 Speaker 1: she has to realize that. And the only thing way 210 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:00,480 Speaker 1: to get it is he got to help. He's got 211 00:12:00,480 --> 00:12:04,199 Speaker 1: to help her. Yeah, and you could also solicit her 212 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 1: friends to help with that too, not only take her out, 213 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:11,080 Speaker 1: but say hey, come on now, you gotta let this 214 00:12:11,160 --> 00:12:14,679 Speaker 1: boy have his life. And it's not like Steve. It's 215 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:16,840 Speaker 1: not like she doesn't have men in her life that 216 00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:18,960 Speaker 1: call her, that want to be with her. It's not 217 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:21,920 Speaker 1: even like that. But surely all he got to do 218 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 1: is flying down with a bad one that'll shut it 219 00:12:25,920 --> 00:12:30,160 Speaker 1: all down here right now. Yeah, well, why would you 220 00:12:30,200 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 1: bring her hill? Yeah? Because I really careful Carol about him. Yeah. Yeah, 221 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:42,760 Speaker 1: that's what you have to do. M M, that's what 222 00:12:42,840 --> 00:12:47,280 Speaker 1: you have to do. Oh mom, gotta let go, all right. 223 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:50,439 Speaker 1: You can post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at 224 00:12:50,440 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out 225 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:56,920 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming up at 226 00:12:56,960 --> 00:12:59,520 Speaker 1: forty six minutes after the hour, we're gonna talk about 227 00:12:59,559 --> 00:13:04,319 Speaker 1: being positive on this Wellness Wednesday that's coming up right 228 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:08,160 Speaker 1: after this. You're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.