1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: It's stay or go. It was good for me. It 2 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:06,200 Speaker 1: was good for me. I needed to Yeah, thank you. 3 00:00:06,280 --> 00:00:09,520 Speaker 2: Hey, Paul, Hey, how's it going. 4 00:00:09,600 --> 00:00:12,560 Speaker 1: Welcome to the program, Paul, Stay or Go. Thank you 5 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:16,640 Speaker 1: for your your correspondence. Many ways you can get ahold 6 00:00:16,640 --> 00:00:19,080 Speaker 1: of us Fresher Radio dot com, Fretchier Radio on Instagram. 7 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 1: We can DM us whatever what's going on with you? 8 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 1: And this is your girlfriend of four months? 9 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:32,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's just about four months. Yeah, she's the amazing 10 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:38,160 Speaker 2: she's you know, tomorrow funny, she's yeah, it's awesome. It's 11 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:40,640 Speaker 2: just there's like one thing that's been bothering me. 12 00:00:42,120 --> 00:00:44,519 Speaker 1: Oh do tell, do tell. I'm on the edge of 13 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 1: my seat. 14 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:50,879 Speaker 2: So I don't know if it's a big thing. But 15 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 2: she like she is very like revealing and like setsy. 16 00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:03,080 Speaker 1: Okay, like all the time, no matter what we're doing, 17 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:05,959 Speaker 1: we're always dressing sexy. Like it doesn't matter if we're 18 00:01:05,959 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 1: going to the grocery store, going out or like it 19 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 1: it works, like to work, she wears revealing clothing even yeah, 20 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 1: to work. 21 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:18,080 Speaker 2: I mean, like, you know, we could be just doing 22 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:22,679 Speaker 2: nothing even and she she you know, she's like it's 23 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:26,520 Speaker 2: really short shorts and like these really tight skirts, and 24 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:30,319 Speaker 2: you know, like her tops are like really short, like 25 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:34,040 Speaker 2: they come down a lot, and like some of it 26 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:36,480 Speaker 2: is like see through, and she's like, where is it 27 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 2: to work? 28 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:37,600 Speaker 1: She wears it out? 29 00:01:37,959 --> 00:01:40,120 Speaker 2: It's like that's what she wears. 30 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:42,320 Speaker 1: No, it doesn't really matter. You should be able to 31 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:44,039 Speaker 1: wear whatever you want and feel confident in that. But 32 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 1: does she have does she have the body for that? 33 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: Like she does she have? I mean, does does it? 34 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 1: I don't know. Again, you can dress however you want, 35 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:54,960 Speaker 1: no matter what your body shape is or body size. 36 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: But I mean, would you say she has a body 37 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 1: commensurate with that sort of with the clothing that she's wearing. 38 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, no, no, she's yes, Okay, Yeah. 39 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 1: Might be helpful, It might be helpful just for journalistic purposes, 40 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:11,519 Speaker 1: if you could shoot a couple of photos over you know, 41 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:13,959 Speaker 1: just you you could just email them to me directly 42 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 1: because but I and I'll put them on a screen 43 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 1: here in So I just think it'd be helpful to know. 44 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:21,480 Speaker 1: It will be helpful to know what we're talking about here, 45 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: because you know, your definition of revealing might be different 46 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: than mine. You know, are you a prude? Like are 47 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:29,560 Speaker 1: you would you say that you are typically more conservative 48 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:31,359 Speaker 1: about about these things, or if if I were to 49 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:33,639 Speaker 1: see this stuff, or if the room were to collectively 50 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 1: see these things. But we all say, Okay, that's kind 51 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:37,960 Speaker 1: of a lot for like, you know, going to work 52 00:02:37,960 --> 00:02:38,919 Speaker 1: at the finance place. 53 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:44,080 Speaker 2: I mean, I am not apprud no, I you know, 54 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:47,480 Speaker 2: I h no. We first met she was you dressed 55 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 2: in that way, and I you know, I thought it 56 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:49,640 Speaker 2: was hot. 57 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 1: But yeah, well exactly, let me guess. Let me guess 58 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:58,920 Speaker 1: it's how it's one of the ways that she that 59 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 1: you were attracted to her, but now you're finding that 60 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:04,040 Speaker 1: it's attracting other people, right looks, And I would assume 61 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:06,160 Speaker 1: people are talking to her and she's getting hit on 62 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:08,040 Speaker 1: and things, and you don't like that. I'm assuming that's 63 00:03:08,040 --> 00:03:11,080 Speaker 1: what's changed. The very same thing that the very same 64 00:03:11,160 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 1: thing that led you to talk to her or approach 65 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: her or be attracted to her is now other people 66 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 1: are feeling the same way. Is that right? Exactly? 67 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:24,800 Speaker 2: Like it's just that it makes me really uncomfortable, Like 68 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:27,240 Speaker 2: we could, like we can just go to a coffee 69 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:31,120 Speaker 2: shop and everybody's staring at her, and you know, they're 70 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:33,839 Speaker 2: like I can tell, like all eyes are on her. 71 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 2: And it's just and like you know, the places with 72 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 2: like children and in places that might not be also 73 00:03:40,640 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 2: appropriately to be dressed that revealing. 74 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 1: It's just Paul, I'm trying to interrupt you. But have 75 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 1: you said something to her, like, have you said, hey, look, 76 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:52,480 Speaker 1: have we had an adult, mature conversation about this where 77 00:03:52,480 --> 00:03:54,440 Speaker 1: it's hey, I see, I noticed people are kind of 78 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 1: staring at you, and and some of this stuff is 79 00:03:56,320 --> 00:04:00,840 Speaker 1: awfully revealing for places where the youth are I mean, 80 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 1: you know, and I don't know, maybe maybe it's a 81 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 1: little a little too much, a little too attention seeking 82 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:09,640 Speaker 1: for my preser. I mean, and again, it's really that 83 00:04:09,800 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 1: up to you. Honestly, I don't think it's kind of 84 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 1: up to her. But she could potentially adjust it to 85 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:18,320 Speaker 1: your comfort level if you had a good conversation about it. 86 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 1: I assume you said something not you better not dress 87 00:04:21,960 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 1: like that because you know guys are going to do 88 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:25,719 Speaker 1: this or guys are gonna do that, taking the accountability 89 00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: off of men, which I can't stand. I can't stand 90 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:29,680 Speaker 1: the thing where it's you know, you can't dress like 91 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:31,720 Speaker 1: that because guys can't control themselves. No, no, we can 92 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:35,279 Speaker 1: control ourselves. We are in fact, not animals. But anyway, yes, 93 00:04:36,760 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 1: oh you know, honestly, I know's on me. 94 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:43,920 Speaker 2: I haven't said anything because I don't know if it's 95 00:04:43,960 --> 00:04:45,080 Speaker 2: my place say anything. 96 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:47,719 Speaker 1: That's why I'm calling it to you. I don't, you know, 97 00:04:47,720 --> 00:04:49,279 Speaker 1: I don't want to be a dick. 98 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 2: I don't know what if it's like, you know, if 99 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 2: it's all right for me to say something, or I'm 100 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:02,240 Speaker 2: afraid to enter do her to something because you know 101 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 2: a little more conservative and I you know, I. 102 00:05:05,720 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 3: Did you say your parents you broke up? You're fraid 103 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:10,279 Speaker 3: to introduce them to your parents? Your parents? 104 00:05:10,920 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, friends and parents are right. 105 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:15,920 Speaker 1: I've been she's been asking to and I feel really 106 00:05:15,920 --> 00:05:21,200 Speaker 1: weird about it. I know, but so she wouldn't And 107 00:05:21,200 --> 00:05:23,240 Speaker 1: again I'm just I'm playing devil's advocate here. She wouldn't 108 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:28,000 Speaker 1: even know to maybe adjust the style to the audience. 109 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: Like it's just everything is skin tight. We're putting it 110 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:37,919 Speaker 1: out there. I'm just making sure I'm clear about this anything. 111 00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 2: I don't think I've even like, you know, we're hanging 112 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:43,839 Speaker 2: out watching a movie, like you know, she wears these 113 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 2: little sweatshorts. 114 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:48,799 Speaker 1: I don't care watching a movie. I don't care about 115 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 1: with all due respect. I would I would say, why 116 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 1: are you complaining about that if you're in private? I mean, 117 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:57,360 Speaker 1: I'm worried about wearing, you know, wearing the skin tight 118 00:05:57,480 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 1: club dress to meet you know, mom and dad at 119 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:01,839 Speaker 1: the country club, like, you know, maybe that's not you know, 120 00:06:01,920 --> 00:06:04,360 Speaker 1: you kind of got to cater to the audience here. 121 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:07,720 Speaker 1: Let me take some phone calls on this, Paul. I. 122 00:06:07,839 --> 00:06:09,359 Speaker 1: Let's see what people have to say. Good luck to you. 123 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:14,240 Speaker 1: Keep the radio on, okay, nice, I appreciate the help. Okay, yeah, 124 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:17,600 Speaker 1: eight five five three five okay. So a couple of questions, 125 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:20,599 Speaker 1: you're a couple of layers. One is he does he 126 00:06:20,680 --> 00:06:24,320 Speaker 1: have a right in this relationship to say anything about this? 127 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: I would argue that that a mature, reasonable conversation could 128 00:06:28,960 --> 00:06:30,880 Speaker 1: take place about his comfort level. Now, I think he 129 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 1: has to be aware that she may not agree with him, 130 00:06:33,880 --> 00:06:36,040 Speaker 1: and then that's that's probably gonna have to be okay, 131 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:38,240 Speaker 1: because he doesn't own her and control her. And but 132 00:06:38,279 --> 00:06:40,279 Speaker 1: I think, you know, when you're in a relationship, you 133 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 1: do have a right to express what what makes you 134 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:45,240 Speaker 1: comfortable and what doesn't uh and have a a an 135 00:06:45,279 --> 00:06:49,080 Speaker 1: adult conversation. The second thing is, you know, should this 136 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: woman maybe be considerate of of you know, different settings 137 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:56,799 Speaker 1: and and and perhaps be thoughtful about what she's wearing 138 00:06:56,800 --> 00:06:59,080 Speaker 1: when she's in different places. But I think the real 139 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:01,359 Speaker 1: question is does he have a right to say anything? 140 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:04,400 Speaker 1: And and what does he do if she says I'm 141 00:07:04,400 --> 00:07:06,560 Speaker 1: not doing a thing which is fully within her right. 142 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:10,440 Speaker 3: I definitely think there's a way that he could say 143 00:07:10,440 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 3: something if he wanted to. I mean, I obviously the 144 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 3: part where he loved it at the beginning and is 145 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 3: getting annoyed by it is interesting that tends to happen. 146 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 3: But I think, like my boyfriend will tell me, like 147 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 3: if I'm wearing a short dress and I bend over 148 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:24,120 Speaker 3: at home, he'll just be like, whoa babe, be careful 149 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:25,960 Speaker 3: with if you bend over when we're out, you know, 150 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 3: because I see your whole booty. And I'm not like 151 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 3: upset about He's not like shaming me. I just I'm like, Okay, 152 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:32,880 Speaker 3: well I'm bending over like this because we're home, and 153 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 3: I won't do that when we're out. And I appreciate that, 154 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:37,440 Speaker 3: but you would never be like, don't wear that. 155 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 4: For sure, Like having my husband will say the same 156 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:41,880 Speaker 4: thing too, like if I wear which I don't even 157 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:44,360 Speaker 4: realize if I wear leggings that like if I bend 158 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:47,240 Speaker 4: over to grab something like we're seeing like cheeks, you 159 00:07:47,240 --> 00:07:49,120 Speaker 4: know what I mean, because their seat throw at that point, 160 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 4: I don't know. 161 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:50,920 Speaker 1: I can't see back there. 162 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:53,240 Speaker 4: So I appreciate like if a friend told me or 163 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:55,240 Speaker 4: hobby told me, oh, you know, just when you read oh, 164 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:57,480 Speaker 4: where I can like see your song basically like the 165 00:07:57,520 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 4: outline of all of it. And I'm just like, huh, 166 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 4: I'm gonna go change because I don't need, like you know, 167 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:03,960 Speaker 4: Nana seeing that or that it's up to you office 168 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 4: manager and seeing that, you know what I mean exactly. 169 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 1: Office he's the office manager. Now my job, he's the 170 00:08:15,840 --> 00:08:18,200 Speaker 1: market president. Yeah, let's make sure. Let's let's give the 171 00:08:18,240 --> 00:08:20,360 Speaker 1: man his due. You know, we had an old boss 172 00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 1: who liked to remind us by handing us his business 173 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:24,360 Speaker 1: card what his title was. But this man, I will 174 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:27,080 Speaker 1: be happy to say, same is the region. I believe 175 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:33,839 Speaker 1: he's region of my region. Yes he was. Yea, he 176 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:38,440 Speaker 1: wears sexy clothes. She walks by, she walks by, heads 177 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 1: over for this man like you know what's funny is 178 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 1: he is he asked you not to. It's funny every day. 179 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 1: It's like, not show me your regions. The office manager. 180 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:53,319 Speaker 4: I have to say, like if I'm working in an office, I. 181 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:55,720 Speaker 1: Don't like in that setting. He doesn't want Adams. 182 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 4: But then I thought of Adam, and I was like, 183 00:08:58,120 --> 00:08:59,720 Speaker 4: would Adam don't look at my cheeks? 184 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 1: The text are overwhelmingly that this guy is insecure, and 185 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: Takiki's point like, this is how you met, but but 186 00:09:07,200 --> 00:09:09,719 Speaker 1: I'm going to I don't think it's unfair to say, hey, 187 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:12,719 Speaker 1: we're going to a funeral, you know, like I need 188 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 1: you to put those away, Like that's not like that 189 00:09:16,040 --> 00:09:18,800 Speaker 1: shiny club dress is not appropriate for this. I don't 190 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:21,160 Speaker 1: like if someone you know what I mean, like, if 191 00:09:21,160 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 1: someone really truly like, isn't isn't getting I mean, I 192 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: think that there's some range, and I do think there's 193 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:30,760 Speaker 1: such a thing as being respectful about how you present 194 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:33,640 Speaker 1: yourself in certain settings. And I don't know that. I 195 00:09:33,640 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 1: think it would be unfair if the very first time 196 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:38,480 Speaker 1: that someone I'm dating meets my mom and and and 197 00:09:38,520 --> 00:09:41,319 Speaker 1: bend's over and we see her entire crack or something. 198 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:44,559 Speaker 1: I don't that's maybe not putting your best foot forward. 199 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:46,680 Speaker 1: And I think that's a fair thing to sort of 200 00:09:46,679 --> 00:09:50,600 Speaker 1: have a conversation about. But maybe this person doesn't care 201 00:09:50,640 --> 00:09:53,000 Speaker 1: about those things and they have that right. But then 202 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:54,719 Speaker 1: I suppose you also have a right to say that's 203 00:09:54,760 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 1: not in my comfort level. 204 00:09:56,080 --> 00:09:57,960 Speaker 3: I dated a guy who took my grandma out. I 205 00:09:58,000 --> 00:09:59,720 Speaker 3: was not present, but he wore a shirt with the 206 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:02,120 Speaker 3: F for it on it, the full effort. 207 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:06,440 Speaker 1: I wouldn't like if you were to call me if 208 00:10:06,440 --> 00:10:08,120 Speaker 1: we're dating and I did that and you said, hey, dude, 209 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 1: like what are you doing? Yeah, that's fair, Like that's 210 00:10:10,559 --> 00:10:11,120 Speaker 1: my grandmother. 211 00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 3: I mean she drops that too, but like, don't do 212 00:10:13,679 --> 00:10:14,480 Speaker 3: that respect her? 213 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:20,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, this is ridiculous. You think I do? Okay? 214 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:27,360 Speaker 1: Why thank you? Yeah? So that a little bit, you 215 00:10:27,600 --> 00:10:28,600 Speaker 1: just give us a little more. 216 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:30,560 Speaker 2: So. 217 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:34,080 Speaker 5: I think she should feel beautiful and whatever she wears, 218 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:37,800 Speaker 5: and she should feel confident. And I mean my fiance 219 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 5: addresses like that crop tops. I took her to Lululemon 220 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:45,760 Speaker 5: and get a short skirt. Just have her feel great 221 00:10:45,760 --> 00:10:46,480 Speaker 5: about herself. 222 00:10:47,640 --> 00:10:49,720 Speaker 1: Now, Zach, But is there a time? And I'm asking 223 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:51,160 Speaker 1: because I don't I mean, I'm not seeing anybody. I 224 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:53,240 Speaker 1: don't really know. Is there a time and a place though? 225 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:55,560 Speaker 1: Or do you want her to wear that Lululemon skirt 226 00:10:56,000 --> 00:10:56,800 Speaker 1: no matter where you go. 227 00:10:58,000 --> 00:10:59,440 Speaker 5: I mean, it's all up to her. If she wants 228 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:02,520 Speaker 5: to wear it out my parents house, sure, that's fine, 229 00:11:02,679 --> 00:11:05,400 Speaker 5: she wants to wear it to them, all awesome, Okay, I. 230 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:08,080 Speaker 1: Do not care. Okay, fair enough, thank you? Ye have 231 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:11,000 Speaker 1: a good day, you do. I guess for me, in 232 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 1: a perfect world, there would be some range, you know, 233 00:11:13,160 --> 00:11:15,000 Speaker 1: there would be a time and a place for everything. 234 00:11:15,320 --> 00:11:18,000 Speaker 1: And again, I don't mind if it's if you really 235 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 1: want to show off your figure, But I mean, wouldn't 236 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:22,560 Speaker 1: you guys? And it's only men calling, which is not 237 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:25,360 Speaker 1: surprising to me, and they're all saying, what are you 238 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 1: complaining about? 239 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:26,960 Speaker 6: Man like? 240 00:11:27,160 --> 00:11:29,240 Speaker 1: Honestly, and I would love to hear from a female 241 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:32,920 Speaker 1: like because many of you are texting. But I wouldn't 242 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:34,960 Speaker 1: you agree that, Like, there's a way to there's a 243 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 1: way to be yourself and have your unique style and 244 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 1: be confident, but also sort of adjust it to where 245 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 1: we are and what we're doing. Yeah, I mean, if 246 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:44,240 Speaker 1: we're going to a kid's birthday, if one of my 247 00:11:44,280 --> 00:11:47,920 Speaker 1: best friend's kids birthday party, then you might not wear that. 248 00:11:48,000 --> 00:11:50,679 Speaker 1: You might not choose the same outfit that you would 249 00:11:50,679 --> 00:11:55,120 Speaker 1: wear if you stress, right, if we're going. 250 00:11:54,960 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 3: To the club, right, Yeah, I think for me, I 251 00:11:57,520 --> 00:12:00,199 Speaker 3: think that there's always a way to say so, and 252 00:12:00,280 --> 00:12:03,080 Speaker 3: you can say anything, but it's how you say it, so, 253 00:12:03,480 --> 00:12:05,080 Speaker 3: you know, I don't know if he's telling her, you know, 254 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:07,640 Speaker 3: put those puppies away. 255 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:11,600 Speaker 1: You know, we're going to preschool. But because she did, right, 256 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:14,080 Speaker 1: did he meet her at a preschool? I don't know 257 00:12:14,080 --> 00:12:15,840 Speaker 1: why he was. I don't know why this man and 258 00:12:15,840 --> 00:12:18,320 Speaker 1: Paul is at a preschool. But if he was at 259 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:20,320 Speaker 1: a preschool and that's how she dressed and like and 260 00:12:20,440 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 1: he thought that was hot, and then you know, he 261 00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:23,960 Speaker 1: got a number. I don't know. Again, not sure why 262 00:12:24,080 --> 00:12:26,400 Speaker 1: falls at the preschool, but I don't know. Yeah, matter, 263 00:12:27,160 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 1: that's a different topic altogether. But you know, then then 264 00:12:30,960 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 1: I think you'd be hard pressed to say, like, I 265 00:12:32,960 --> 00:12:40,000 Speaker 1: need you to be totally different now, Daja, Yes, that's me, kay, 266 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:44,280 Speaker 1: turn the radio down, all right, all right, well anyway, 267 00:12:44,440 --> 00:12:46,120 Speaker 1: what do you think about this? By the way, if 268 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:48,200 Speaker 1: you're just joining us, This guy in stair ago, he 269 00:12:48,240 --> 00:12:51,440 Speaker 1: says his girlfriend, he's really into her, but she dresses 270 00:12:51,480 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 1: provocatively for everything, and he wishes that you know that 271 00:12:56,520 --> 00:12:58,360 Speaker 1: she would tone it down a little bit, and he 272 00:12:58,360 --> 00:13:00,840 Speaker 1: doesn't know how to handle it right. 273 00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:05,160 Speaker 6: So he should have came out the gate saying I'm 274 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 6: concerned that when she meets my parents she's not going 275 00:13:07,520 --> 00:13:11,000 Speaker 6: to dress appropriately. I'm concerned when wearing kid friendly environment. 276 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:14,679 Speaker 6: He should keep out of the conversation. She's wearing flatshorts 277 00:13:14,679 --> 00:13:18,280 Speaker 6: at home and she has like tight clothes on and 278 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:22,000 Speaker 6: stuff like that, Like address the concern head on. If 279 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 6: he is concerned about the parent thing. He should have 280 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:26,960 Speaker 6: started with that, not with I don't like the clothes 281 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:28,880 Speaker 6: she's wearing. That the clothes that when I met her, 282 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:31,160 Speaker 6: that she was wearing, that she's still wearing them because 283 00:13:31,160 --> 00:13:32,559 Speaker 6: she's not going to buy a new wardrobe now that 284 00:13:32,640 --> 00:13:35,880 Speaker 6: she's a relationship now right When she doesn't adjust her 285 00:13:35,920 --> 00:13:38,120 Speaker 6: wardrobe for the environment, that's the problem. 286 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:41,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think addressed that way as mankind is 287 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:44,599 Speaker 1: male kind, I should say I do think that sometimes 288 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:46,600 Speaker 1: some men have a way of communicating this in a 289 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:49,160 Speaker 1: way that's non productive. You know, Oh, guys are going 290 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:50,680 Speaker 1: to look at you and they're going to you know, 291 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:54,880 Speaker 1: because you're sexualizing it as opposed to and maybe maybe 292 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:58,160 Speaker 1: the person wearing the clothes isn't necessarily sexualizing. They're just 293 00:13:58,200 --> 00:14:00,199 Speaker 1: confident in their body or proud of their body, or 294 00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:02,400 Speaker 1: maybe they've gone through a transformation or whatever. So I 295 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:04,840 Speaker 1: did think to everyone's point, there's a way to do 296 00:14:04,920 --> 00:14:07,880 Speaker 1: this that doesn't make you come off like a scumbag. 297 00:14:07,880 --> 00:14:12,560 Speaker 1: But Dejah, thank you, You're welcome every day. Glad you call. Hey, Cassidy, 298 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 1: he's doing too much. Okay, Cassidy, that's great call, excellent, Cassidy. 299 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:22,400 Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm here. 300 00:14:22,720 --> 00:14:24,640 Speaker 1: Okay, we got to learn how to use our phones. 301 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:26,360 Speaker 1: Called before we call the radio station. I love you 302 00:14:26,440 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 1: so much, Cassidy. So he's doing too much. 303 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:33,800 Speaker 6: Yeah, he's doing too much. Why wasn't it a concern 304 00:14:33,840 --> 00:14:36,440 Speaker 6: in the beginning? And then you know what, guys, he 305 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:39,560 Speaker 6: threw the mother pardon after he said he's takes her 306 00:14:39,560 --> 00:14:41,920 Speaker 6: out and it bothers him. So it's not really a 307 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:44,720 Speaker 6: concern about the mom. It's a concern about how she's 308 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:47,080 Speaker 6: getting attention. If she got the attention before, why is 309 00:14:47,080 --> 00:14:48,720 Speaker 6: it a problem now? It sounds like you. 310 00:14:48,680 --> 00:14:49,480 Speaker 5: Can't handle it. 311 00:14:49,600 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, I do. I do agree that it does sound 312 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:53,360 Speaker 1: like all of a sudden now like he feels threatened 313 00:14:53,360 --> 00:14:56,360 Speaker 1: because the very same things that attracted her to him 314 00:14:56,480 --> 00:15:00,320 Speaker 1: are and he's noticing on other people and he But yeah, again, 315 00:15:00,360 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 1: I think it's all in how you communicate this. Thank you, Cassidy. 316 00:15:02,840 --> 00:15:09,240 Speaker 1: Have a great day. I'm glad you called. Uh Hey, Lucy, Yeah, Lucy, 317 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:10,880 Speaker 1: I hey, good morning. I gotta give you the final 318 00:15:10,920 --> 00:15:11,840 Speaker 1: say on this. What do you think? 319 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:16,920 Speaker 7: So yeah, I agree with you, bred I think obviously 320 00:15:16,920 --> 00:15:18,320 Speaker 7: a lot of people are gonna call it and kind 321 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:20,520 Speaker 7: of say, like, see all the other guys, don't you 322 00:15:20,560 --> 00:15:23,000 Speaker 7: care whatever it is? But yeah, I think there's like a. 323 00:15:23,040 --> 00:15:23,720 Speaker 4: Time and a place. 324 00:15:23,760 --> 00:15:26,040 Speaker 7: Obviously it's fun to you know, wear what you want, 325 00:15:26,120 --> 00:15:29,080 Speaker 7: but wear a place at burkets around things like that. 326 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:32,080 Speaker 7: I think it's totally normal to kind of want your 327 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:37,120 Speaker 7: partner to dress appropriately. So yeah, that's that's why I'm 328 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:38,280 Speaker 7: putting on and I agree. 329 00:15:38,040 --> 00:15:40,440 Speaker 1: With you, Lucy. Why is this guy complaining about we're 330 00:15:40,480 --> 00:15:43,280 Speaker 1: on the couch and she's wearing short short It's like weird, Like, yeah, 331 00:15:43,320 --> 00:15:45,160 Speaker 1: I need you to put that forever lazy on? Okay 332 00:15:45,160 --> 00:15:47,200 Speaker 1: that I need you to put your uh moment? Yeah, 333 00:15:47,240 --> 00:15:49,920 Speaker 1: why I need you to put the snuggy on the 334 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:53,040 Speaker 1: burka Like I told you to put your you gotta 335 00:15:53,040 --> 00:15:54,800 Speaker 1: put your winter coat on when you're in the house, Like, 336 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:56,640 Speaker 1: what are you doing? Like that doesn't make any sense. 337 00:15:56,760 --> 00:15:58,720 Speaker 1: That's that to me was crazy. What's he wearing a 338 00:15:58,760 --> 00:16:03,240 Speaker 1: tox right right? I thought that was kind of nuts. Lucy, 339 00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:05,120 Speaker 1: thank you for calling and for listening. Have a good day. 340 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:07,480 Speaker 2: Did you call? 341 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:09,560 Speaker 1: Like that was a really bad example, like, oh, to me, 342 00:16:09,720 --> 00:16:12,760 Speaker 1: my mom. But then when she's in the house right, well, 343 00:16:12,920 --> 00:16:15,800 Speaker 1: she's in there. I mean I'd be grateful for that.