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Speaker 1: New subject. He is playing more than the organ. Just

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. My mother is seventy years old, but she

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Speaker 1: is a new seventies woman. She's a size eight and

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Speaker 1: active in church ministries. My mother and I have always

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Speaker 1: had a great mom and daughter relationship until recently. We

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Speaker 1: She admitted that they're having that they're dating, and she

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Speaker 1: It's so bad at that when I'm in church I

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Speaker 1: Every time I would bring it up, he would say,

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Speaker 1: Now I'm at odds with him and my mom. Everything

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Speaker 1: How can I make things right with my mom first,

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Speaker 1: then with my husband? Please advise well, in order to

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Speaker 1: You can't be her judge. You can't you know, you

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Speaker 1: can't be telling her what to do. You can't be

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Speaker 1: acting like you're the mom. You know somebody needs to certainly,

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Speaker 1: but you can't do it because she's not hearing it

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Speaker 1: from you. She is seventy years old. There's nothing you

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Speaker 1: can tell her right now. Stop arguing with her. You

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Speaker 1: say you argue and argue with her, You're gonna have

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Speaker 1: and I totally get that, but you can't let your

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Speaker 1: Your opposition to her relationship is probably just you know,

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Speaker 1: something like yeah to the baby. He's thirty one, she's seventy.

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Speaker 1: First of all, I want to say to the lady

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Speaker 1: some things. Now, she might be a size eight. Hard

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Speaker 1: I hope you're not listening, because there's more ways came

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Speaker 1: for Rue Part two. Steve's a response coming up in

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: He's playing more than the Oregon. It's sad. Her mama's seventy,

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Speaker 1: her mama new seventies woman with her old self. Ain't

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Speaker 1: That's the mind boggling part. It's so sad that when

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Speaker 1: We didn't argu in aargu First of all, she's seventy.

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Speaker 1: mama is feeding her ego. Girl, I can get somebody

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Speaker 1: Get out of it. This is gonna play out. This

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Speaker 1: Ain't fit there. Your mama's seven. He don't won't huck.

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Speaker 1: This is a phase for both of them. He doing

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Speaker 1: just stroking her own damn ego because at everybody's seventy

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Speaker 1: at Earth church is decrepit. As soon as a nice

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Speaker 1: Let it play herself out. I notice is hard for you.

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Speaker 1: him I don't want you to say, Steve said, but

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Speaker 1: reality TV star from Married to Medicine. Please, Doctor Jackie

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Speaker 1: Walters will be our special guest. Right after this, you're

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Speaker 1: listening to The Dave Harvey Morning Show.