1 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily A Baddie here. You are listening to 2 00:00:22,720 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: five Minute Friday from Hurdle. I'm exhal I'm sitting in 3 00:00:30,160 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 1: a my best friend's living room in Rhode Island. I 4 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:38,880 Speaker 1: came up here midweek because about a month ago today 5 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:43,960 Speaker 1: she had her third baby. Saying that out loud is 6 00:00:44,159 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 1: just absolutely I still I can't believe it's real. But 7 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:53,479 Speaker 1: I came to meet her. Her name is Bella, and 8 00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 1: she is absolutely beautiful. And I have been thinking of 9 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: about I guess where I am in my life and 10 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 1: something that has helped me on my journey of really 11 00:01:11,640 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 1: trusting the process when it comes to the things that 12 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:21,480 Speaker 1: I know that I want. I have adopted this mindset 13 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:24,959 Speaker 1: that what is meant to happen in my life will happen. 14 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 1: And that doesn't mean that I can take an entirely 15 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:31,560 Speaker 1: you know, by stand or approach. It still requires me 16 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:35,960 Speaker 1: to put in effort. But for so long I was 17 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:40,600 Speaker 1: frustrated about things that I wasn't doing anything about. And 18 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:43,760 Speaker 1: if I'm being transparent, a lot of that had to 19 00:01:43,840 --> 00:01:47,080 Speaker 1: do with the fact that I was choosing and have 20 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:50,280 Speaker 1: been choosing to focus most of my energy on my 21 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: work and my way of being and my friendships and 22 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:58,280 Speaker 1: the relationships that really fill me up. And I had this, 23 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 1: as we call in life coaching, this grumlin on my 24 00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: shoulder that basically told me that investing my time and 25 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:09,800 Speaker 1: trying to meet someone i e. A romantic partner was 26 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:13,919 Speaker 1: almost a waste because I didn't need to feel as 27 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:18,800 Speaker 1: though I wasn't good enough, and that oftentimes in the 28 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:24,359 Speaker 1: dating pool that can happen. I recognize now that I 29 00:02:24,400 --> 00:02:27,880 Speaker 1: am control of how I feel, and someone may do 30 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:30,120 Speaker 1: something or act in some kind of way, but then 31 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: I am responsible for what happens after that. It brings 32 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:40,080 Speaker 1: me to this idea of heaviness. And something is only 33 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: heavy because we make the conscious decision over and over 34 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: again to carry it. I'll say that again, something can 35 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: be heavy because we make the conscious decision over and 36 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 1: over to carry it. But what happens I pose this 37 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:58,680 Speaker 1: question when we embrace change, when you allow yourself to 38 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:02,280 Speaker 1: walk a new path, author loosen up your sense of identity. 39 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:10,040 Speaker 1: What happens when you, instead of ignoring what your inner 40 00:03:10,120 --> 00:03:14,440 Speaker 1: voice is saying, you embrace what is and decide to 41 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:17,520 Speaker 1: move forward. I feel like I'm kind of talking in 42 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:20,240 Speaker 1: circles here, But what I'm trying to say is that 43 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 1: we have the choice on how we want to move 44 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:28,239 Speaker 1: forward each and every day, and for me, my choice 45 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:30,800 Speaker 1: for a long time has been I am moving forward 46 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: focusing on certain things, and those things have nothing to 47 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 1: do with dating or starting a family, or I mean, 48 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:40,160 Speaker 1: I guess those are the two things that we're talking 49 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 1: about in this moment as I sit here in my 50 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 1: best friend's house that she shares with her husband and 51 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:49,840 Speaker 1: her three beautiful children. I made that conscious decision because 52 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:53,160 Speaker 1: it was what was best for me, and now I'm 53 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:56,920 Speaker 1: shifting into a space where that might not be true. 54 00:03:57,640 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: I might finally be ready to open myself up to 55 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: what something else might look like. And that's exciting, and 56 00:04:05,320 --> 00:04:09,200 Speaker 1: I'm framing it that way. Before I was framing it 57 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 1: and looking at it in a way that felt heavy 58 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: because of my past experiences carrying the concept, the ideas, 59 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 1: the thoughts, the notions of dating with me. It felt 60 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 1: like a burden, and it doesn't have to. It can 61 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: be exciting. It can be something to look forward to 62 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:32,120 Speaker 1: if I let go of the misfortunes that have happened 63 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 1: in my past and simply look forward to what there is, 64 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:38,720 Speaker 1: what can be, what I bring to the table knowing 65 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: that I choose whether or not I want to move 66 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:47,520 Speaker 1: forward with an individual. No more you make me feel 67 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:53,599 Speaker 1: this way, no more pointing the finger. Instead, I choose 68 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:57,640 Speaker 1: to move forward with light. I choose. I'm like smiling 69 00:04:57,720 --> 00:05:01,919 Speaker 1: thinking about this because I I think maybe it's not because, 70 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 1: but I believe that I'm smiling finally, because I'm at 71 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:09,800 Speaker 1: this point where I am ready and to anyone else 72 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:12,000 Speaker 1: who is listening to this, as I rambled into this 73 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: microphone and talk to you about where I'm at and 74 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:16,160 Speaker 1: all of my thoughts, which is what I do on 75 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:20,280 Speaker 1: five Minute Friday, I encourage you to listen to your 76 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: inner voice, not to make decisions because you feel as 77 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 1: though you should be doing one thing or another. But 78 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:33,280 Speaker 1: rather than shoulding on yourself, listen and move forward with 79 00:05:33,360 --> 00:05:39,000 Speaker 1: your own intentions, with what you want, because that when 80 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:42,599 Speaker 1: you move forward with what you want, that is when 81 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:47,080 Speaker 1: the universe shows up for you. That is when you 82 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 1: attract what you are putting in to the world. And 83 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:55,039 Speaker 1: that's a good way to be My prompt for you 84 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 1: this week. What are you caring with you that maybe 85 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: it's time to let go of what false assumption or 86 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 1: narrative are you carrying with you that maybe it is 87 00:06:06,640 --> 00:06:11,360 Speaker 1: time to let go of? And now a listener question. 88 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 2: Hi Emily calling in from San Diego. Hope you're having 89 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:18,880 Speaker 2: a great day. I wanted to see if you have 90 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:23,279 Speaker 2: any suggestions or tips for someone who wants to get 91 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 2: into cycling. I'm a longtime runner and have a chronic 92 00:06:30,040 --> 00:06:33,920 Speaker 2: knee injury unfortunately now, so I am unable to keep 93 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 2: running like I used to, and I'm really looking for 94 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 2: a new active hobby that can keep me moving and 95 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:43,560 Speaker 2: kind of fill the void in terms of that in 96 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:47,599 Speaker 2: dwarphin Rush. But I am super duper beginner when it 97 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 2: comes to biking. It looks like something I would really enjoy, 98 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:54,320 Speaker 2: but kind of scared to get started and not really 99 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:57,520 Speaker 2: sure where to get started. So any tips you have 100 00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 2: would be amazing. And yeah, thank you for everything that 101 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 2: you do. Really appreciate you. 102 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:06,960 Speaker 1: Hey, hey cycling, We love cycling. You are living in 103 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:08,960 Speaker 1: San Diego, so the weather is a little bit nicer 104 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:12,480 Speaker 1: year round than it is where I am. But for 105 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:16,720 Speaker 1: this specifically, I will offer two pieces of advice. The 106 00:07:16,760 --> 00:07:20,280 Speaker 1: first thing is don't judge your beginning too harshly. Just 107 00:07:20,360 --> 00:07:23,120 Speaker 1: like picking up any new activity. It can be a 108 00:07:23,160 --> 00:07:25,640 Speaker 1: little bit overwhelming and there will be a little bit 109 00:07:25,680 --> 00:07:29,960 Speaker 1: of a learning curve. With that said, do not fret. 110 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: There are plenty of really great cyclists that you can 111 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:38,120 Speaker 1: follow on social media for inspiration and also for tips 112 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 1: and tricks on how to get into the swing of things. 113 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:43,600 Speaker 1: I'm going to link an episode from Not All That 114 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 1: Long Ago in the show notes that answers a bunch 115 00:07:46,520 --> 00:07:51,280 Speaker 1: of beginner cycling questions. When you start out, I would 116 00:07:51,280 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: recommend getting an entry level bike, and by entry level 117 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 1: I mean something that's not all that expensive, so you 118 00:07:57,840 --> 00:07:59,760 Speaker 1: can make sure that this is something that you really 119 00:07:59,760 --> 00:08:04,680 Speaker 1: want to pursue. My friends at Priority sell really affordable bikes, 120 00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:07,720 Speaker 1: and the best part about their bikes is that they 121 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:11,040 Speaker 1: come equipped with a belt drive, which is different than 122 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 1: what you might find on a traditional road bike in 123 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 1: that it requires a lot less maintenance and is really 124 00:08:18,080 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: user friendly. So not only will I link that episode 125 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:23,760 Speaker 1: on beginner cycling tips in the show notes, but I'm 126 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 1: also going to toss in a link to Priorities website. Additionally, 127 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 1: when it comes to cycling, you can also bring your 128 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 1: road bike indoors by putting it on a trainer. This 129 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:36,960 Speaker 1: is a really great option for someone who wants to 130 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:39,079 Speaker 1: have a road bike, may not be able to use 131 00:08:39,120 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 1: it in the cooler months, but wants to get their 132 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:44,360 Speaker 1: cycling on inside and then this way they don't need 133 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:47,200 Speaker 1: to invest in both a road bike and an indoor 134 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:49,920 Speaker 1: spin bike, whether that be a peloton or maybe a 135 00:08:49,960 --> 00:08:54,120 Speaker 1: more affordable option. The last thing I'll say here is 136 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:57,200 Speaker 1: just like within the running community, the cycling community is 137 00:08:57,280 --> 00:09:00,640 Speaker 1: absolutely awesome, and there are so many people that are 138 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:03,000 Speaker 1: getting on the bike and getting out there on the 139 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:06,320 Speaker 1: regular that can help you with routes and also just 140 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:09,400 Speaker 1: having friends to go out with. I know that writing 141 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:11,439 Speaker 1: can be something that you definitely don't want to do 142 00:09:11,520 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 1: by yourself, especially if you don't know an area very well, 143 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:17,800 Speaker 1: So make sure to check out your local community, whether 144 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:20,880 Speaker 1: that's taking through Facebook, looking on Instagram. If you happen 145 00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 1: to live near a Rafa Cycling, they host group rides 146 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 1: out of their brand stores very often. So yeah, I 147 00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 1: think That's where I'd begin. But again, be gentle on yourself. 148 00:09:32,800 --> 00:09:35,319 Speaker 1: Starting something new can be overwhelming, so be proud of 149 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 1: yourself for getting in the position to start. Trust me, 150 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:42,120 Speaker 1: I know you won't regret it. With that, make sure 151 00:09:42,280 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 1: you're falling along with hurdle over on social It's at 152 00:09:44,280 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast. I'm over at Emily a Body, another hurdle conquered. 153 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 1: Catch you guys next time.