WEBVTT - Housewives Gone Wild At The Love Hotel with Ashley Darby 0:00:13.840 --> 0:00:16.840 Hi, guys, welcome back. It's I Do Part two, the 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:20.560 podcast all about finding love the second time around, and 0:00:20.680 --> 0:00:23.159 I am one of your celebrity mentors, Jen Fessler, and 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:26.400 I am joined by my fellow mentor, the beautiful Kelly 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:30.400 ben Simone. Hi Cal Hi. So you guys, today is 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:34.120 very very exciting because we have one of the fabulous 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:37.519 women from the new Bravo show which is my actually 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:40.880 new obsession, and it is called Love Hotel. I hope 0:00:40.920 --> 0:00:45.360 you all already have heard of it. So this podcast 0:00:45.920 --> 0:00:49.280 is all about finding love again, and so is Love Hotel. 0:00:50.000 --> 0:00:54.520 And we have to talk to today one of the stars, 0:00:54.920 --> 0:00:57.720 and I just know you know who she is. Hello 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:02.880 Ashley Darby, Hello Ji, Hello beautiful Ashley Darby. I just 0:01:02.920 --> 0:01:06.080 I have to start by telling you I'm obsessed, and 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:08.520 I'm obsessed. It's a very strange thing because I haven't 0:01:08.520 --> 0:01:11.639 been obsessed with a new Bravo show for a while. 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:14.840 I obviously I watch it all, but I have to 0:01:14.880 --> 0:01:17.520 say I love Crappy like I got a little obsessed 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:22.120 there too, too loved, but this is so fabulous and 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:23.960 if I'm being completely honest, I didn't expect it. 0:01:24.319 --> 0:01:26.120 I did not, right, I didn't either. 0:01:26.200 --> 0:01:27.560 Okay, what did you guys expect? 0:01:28.240 --> 0:01:30.400 I don't maybe because it's like on the heels also 0:01:30.440 --> 0:01:33.959 of like the Golden Bachelor, and I just I've seen 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:36.760 so much this was And also when you think housewives, 0:01:36.840 --> 0:01:42.520 you think nastiness and conflict and bloody, and this is 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:46.360 not that. This is like sisterhood and it's fun and 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:49.400 you guys are bonded and you could just tell there's 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:52.200 chemistry and the guys are fat. I don't know. It 0:01:52.320 --> 0:01:53.080 is good, I know. 0:01:53.160 --> 0:01:55.240 And that's actually why we were so excited to do it, 0:01:55.280 --> 0:01:58.520 because having come from the housewife world where you can't 0:01:58.520 --> 0:02:01.000 really share who you are some it's like your little 0:02:01.040 --> 0:02:03.320 trebidacious to be like, oh, this is what I'm feeling 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:06.960 at the Love Hotel. It was very much encouraged, you know, 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:09.640 and it was so supportive. And even though we're all 0:02:09.720 --> 0:02:12.680 very different, Luiyne, Shannon Gaselle and I like, we're so different, 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:15.080 but we all had the same common goal, which was 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:15.639 finding love. 0:02:15.720 --> 0:02:17.840 It feels like, yeah, just clicked. Also, and you did 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:19.919 it at Grand Vealis, which is one of my all 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:21.760 time favorite resorts in Mexico. 0:02:22.200 --> 0:02:25.360 So gorgeous and the way the sun would hit. 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:28.520 The ball with the Flowers, but like everything from like 0:02:28.760 --> 0:02:31.560 the lighting of the show, all of you guys, like 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:34.520 it was just the dynamic between everyone. Like I was 0:02:34.560 --> 0:02:36.160 watching it and I was just like, oh my god, 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:39.720 this is a great show and you are really really 0:02:39.800 --> 0:02:43.240 compelling and you're just very there's something about you on 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:47.440 the show that is like we're rooting for you, like 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:50.320 we really really really want to even if you don't 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:52.840 know your past, Like the way that you handle yourself 0:02:52.880 --> 0:02:56.079 in the show, Like I was like, she's gonna find it. 0:02:56.480 --> 0:02:58.080 Just get one of these guys is going to be 0:02:58.160 --> 0:03:00.480 that person. And just like the way you are in 0:03:00.520 --> 0:03:04.320 your own journey right now of like taking your time 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:06.920 and making good decisions that are good for you and 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:09.760 your family, like I'm getting Chelsea. I just like loved 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:12.280 that because, like you, it just really resonates. It's like 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:14.280 people are like, oh my god, you want to find love. No, 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:17.959 it's not necessarily finding love. It's you know, it's really 0:03:18.000 --> 0:03:21.240 about that connection and about making things that are right 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:22.520 for you at that time. 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:25.639 Right, and with social beings, what is wrong with wanting love? 0:03:25.760 --> 0:03:28.639 There's actually nothing wrong with it, right, And we've all 0:03:28.639 --> 0:03:31.360 shared our stories very publicly, all four of us, so 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:34.720 I think people are also invested in seeing us have 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:35.760 a bit of a happy ending. 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:39.120 Yeah, you know, I really loved and I don't want to. 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:41.080 I don't want to give way any spoilers. But in 0:03:41.120 --> 0:03:45.000 the most recent episode, you were talking about two particular 0:03:45.120 --> 0:03:48.160 men and just really sort of seeing them, like kind 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:52.200 of hovering above and saying what makes sense here and 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:53.720 whether or not. I don't want to again, I don't 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:55.840 want to give anything away, but having that kind of 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:59.560 like foresight and that sort that comes with being through 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:03.480 and that comes with some age and saying yeah he's hot, 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:07.360 so is he? But hold on, what's the big picture here? 0:04:07.680 --> 0:04:09.640 And I don't think you can do that until you've 0:04:10.280 --> 0:04:13.720 like I it like my and I at twenty whatever. 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:15.920 Even if I was like, oh, look, how cute of you. 0:04:16.200 --> 0:04:16.760 I love him. 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:20.520 I love him, shiny thing, this is the one. 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:22.359 He's my husband. No, but it's true. 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:24.840 And I have typically been with older men. I mean, 0:04:24.880 --> 0:04:28.080 mix husband is sixty six this year, so it's that's 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:30.440 what I'm used to. But I really tried tilling into 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:34.919 dating more age appropriate men. You know, it's not really 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:38.200 my thing as much as I thought it was. Why 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:43.320 because with younger guys comes a different level of experience 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:46.080 and sophistication, and I'm just sort of used to a 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:50.280 man who's commandeering, right, who like, oh, assertive and dominates. 0:04:50.920 --> 0:04:52.839 Maybe a little bit toxic in my own way, but 0:04:53.440 --> 0:04:55.839 that's what I thought I was looking for. But Wile 0:04:56.080 --> 0:04:58.400 did surprise me with having some of those traits and 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:00.680 still being so young, you know, thirty eight. 0:05:00.760 --> 0:05:01.719 He's so cute. 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:02.920 I'm so cute. 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:05.760 When he came back to the room with the kit, 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:09.760 I was like, what do you mean, come in? Are 0:05:09.800 --> 0:05:11.000 you still standing in the doorway? 0:05:11.040 --> 0:05:14.320 So respectful. The guys were so respectful that they wanted 0:05:14.320 --> 0:05:17.279 to consent to even like touch your hand, and I 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:18.960 was like, if we don't grab this hand, okay. 0:05:19.560 --> 0:05:22.200 I also love that, just like the chivalry. You know, 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:24.520 do you think it's chivalry is dead or do you 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:25.119 think it's alive? 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:27.440 And well, well, at the Love Hotel was very much alive. 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:32.440 The guys were so just there for us emotionally, they 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:34.880 were very respectful. They asked about my kids. I mean, 0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:37.200 people would ask about my kids every day, you know, 0:05:37.320 --> 0:05:39.760 And I was very sad because I was missing them, 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:41.640 trying to be present in the moment because this is 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:44.720 a great opportunity. I've been asking Andy for literally three 0:05:44.800 --> 0:05:47.279 years to put me on a love show, and finally 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:49.599 he did so. I you know, I wanted to be 0:05:49.640 --> 0:05:51.760 fully there and present, and it was a little challenging. 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:54.719 But the guys would just like constantly reiterate how much 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:56.600 they like us, how much they support us, how much 0:05:56.600 --> 0:05:58.400 they admire us as women and as mothers. 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:01.200 And Ashley, how long were you there? How long were 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:01.520 you going? 0:06:01.560 --> 0:06:02.159 Three weeks? 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:05.080 So three weeks? No babies, You're baby's going to come right, 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:07.839 So yeah, no, that I had. Definitely you have young kids. 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:08.680 How old are your boys? 0:06:08.839 --> 0:06:11.039 Three and five? But at that time they were three 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:12.640 and five. Now they're about to be four and six. 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:16.320 Yeah, still still babies. That's hard. And do you look 0:06:16.320 --> 0:06:18.840 at did you sort of you looking at these guys 0:06:18.839 --> 0:06:22.080 in terms of like, how would they do with the babies? Well, 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:24.440 my babies like them? Are they We always sort of 0:06:24.600 --> 0:06:26.039 sat there for you for sure. 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:27.720 I Mean some of the guys have kids, like Ralph 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:30.680 has children. Wale doesn't have children, but he's a very 0:06:30.680 --> 0:06:33.160 present uncle. So if you don't have kids on your own, 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:34.960 at least you can celebrate someone else's. 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:36.760 Yes, Yeah, do you think that's a red flag that 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:37.880 he doesn't have kids? 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:40.159 I mean, he's thirty eight, and I just I know 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:42.119 people are waiting longer these days. 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:43.000 Yeah, you know. 0:06:43.200 --> 0:06:45.120 I mean I wanted to get married at twenty five 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:46.880 and I'm my first kid, but twenty seven, like, I 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.839 had a whole schedule, right, and I followed it pretty 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:50.520 much to the sea. 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:52.640 Oh my god, No, I tell my kids now, I 0:06:52.680 --> 0:06:54.680 don't want to hear about it until you're thirty. Do 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:57.359 you not come to me with any news about anything 0:06:57.800 --> 0:07:00.280 until you're thirty? Not that they give what I say, 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:01.000 what are. 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:02.920 Some of your non negotiables? Like, what are some of 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:04.400 the things You're like? No, these are the lines in 0:07:04.440 --> 0:07:05.200 this well. 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:07.040 We did the game with Joel where we did our 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:10.480 red bricks, which were like the red flags and then 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:13.360 our green flags. Yes, so I was looking for consistency, 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:18.720 someone understands responsibility, someone who's packing in the pants, somebody 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:19.520 who just liked you. 0:07:19.400 --> 0:07:21.840 Just say, did that? Did that slip out? What I 0:07:21.880 --> 0:07:25.240 was like? Packing in packing? Yeah, packing in the pants. 0:07:25.280 --> 0:07:28.560 Like I just was like, oh my god, I'm like, 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:30.760 is this a new single? Like am I? 0:07:30.880 --> 0:07:32.000 It's like, I mean, I have to. 0:07:32.040 --> 0:07:33.280 Say like a song. 0:07:33.640 --> 0:07:36.320 You are younger than I am, and I know Kelly, like, 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:37.320 how old are you? 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:38.360 My age? 0:07:38.560 --> 0:07:39.960 You're ageless girl, both of you. 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:44.320 Seriously, I mean this one is actually pant packing. No, 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:46.080 I'm just saying I have a feeling. I know what 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:47.800 it is, and it would be the last thing I 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:52.000 would be looking. He has a big dick. 0:07:52.160 --> 0:07:56.280 He's like, yeah, I told Shannon, I taught her this 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:59.000 saying of get your back broken, get your back broke. 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:01.720 So so that's what that means. So Shannon, would you 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:03.760 get more mysterious? 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:08.040 So in other words, he should be able to ride you? Yes, okay, 0:08:08.440 --> 0:08:08.920 got it. 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:12.239 So Shannon was like, back but broke. 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:13.640 Yes, yeah, it wasn't. 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:15.720 Now she gets it and she'll be like, Ashley, got 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:16.640 in your back broke lately? 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:19.080 Wow? But it's ok though, Is that like a big thing? 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:20.600 Like you want to know? Like what if he's not 0:08:20.760 --> 0:08:23.640 great in bed at the beginning? That's it got to 0:08:23.640 --> 0:08:24.080 say goodbye. 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:26.400 That's why you know. I'm all about like waiting and 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:28.000 all that. But you sort of got to get that 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:29.000 out of the way in the beginning. 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:32.959 That's so interesting. Would you care about that cow? Not 0:08:33.000 --> 0:08:34.439 that he wouldn't care everybody would care. 0:08:34.520 --> 0:08:35.440 I mean, I've had it. 0:08:35.520 --> 0:08:38.600 I've had so many different relationships where I was like 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:41.400 so in love with being in love, and then some 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:44.160 other relationships where I was just so I was just like. 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:45.160 I love the sex. 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:50.080 So now I'm trying to like take my time, uh 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:52.720 and just kind of see what's going on and see like, 0:08:52.840 --> 0:08:55.040 am I excited to talk to him like, you know, 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:58.000 after like a couple of weeks versus just like having 0:08:58.000 --> 0:09:00.200 sex and then being like oh my god, no, No. 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:02.400 I just I think like at your age, I was 0:09:02.440 --> 0:09:05.880 probably definitely that would have been key. I just think 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:08.960 if I was single now, of course it's definitely important. 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:11.720 I don't need to minimize it, but I don't know 0:09:11.720 --> 0:09:13.440 that it would it would like I always think, well 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:15.600 we could work that part out, Like I don't know 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:18.160 that it would be a no togo really. 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:22.480 I just yeah again, I mean, I'm thirty six and long. 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:24.040 You know, you're young. 0:09:24.240 --> 0:09:27.440 Apparently the forties are where things really start getting more exciting. 0:09:27.520 --> 0:09:29.080 So I need somebody who can keep up. 0:09:29.120 --> 0:09:31.080 I can hear that, at least hear that in my forties. 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:33.000 I can totally I talk to fifty. You are you're 0:09:33.000 --> 0:09:35.160 really yeah, you are young, You've been through a lot 0:09:35.280 --> 0:09:36.880 for thirty six, you have. 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:39.040 I started dating Mike's husband at twenty one. 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:40.520 Oh my gosh. 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:44.200 Really yeah, so I was with him till I was 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:44.959 thirty three. 0:09:45.559 --> 0:09:45.839 Wow. 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:46.320 Yeah. 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:48.360 So now when you're gone, when you're at Love Hotel 0:09:48.400 --> 0:09:49.079 and you're meeting all. 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:52.520 These different guys, like you know, you've had you you know, 0:09:52.640 --> 0:09:55.120 obviously married, you have children. Are when you are you 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:57.720 meeting these guys and being like comparing and contrasting and 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:00.320 being like, my access is better at this Like he 0:10:00.400 --> 0:10:03.040 seems like that? Because does that go through your brain 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:05.000 or like are you just like okay, I am like 0:10:05.120 --> 0:10:07.720 open and ready to find like a new guy. 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:08.920 What's your thought process? 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:09.240 You know? 0:10:09.280 --> 0:10:12.000 No one's asked me that, Kelly. And that's interesting because 0:10:12.040 --> 0:10:14.600 I want to feel like I'm healed and evolved to 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:16.800 the point that I don't do that. But I think 0:10:16.840 --> 0:10:19.920 it's a human thing to use your past experiences to 0:10:20.559 --> 0:10:25.320 judge and assess a situation. So I think, like, very subconsciously, 0:10:25.880 --> 0:10:28.600 I did a little bit of comparing thinking because he 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:31.839 is a very Michael's a very charming, charismatic guy. He's 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:34.320 very take charge, you know, So that's sort of what 0:10:34.360 --> 0:10:36.560 I was looking for, but then I had to remember 0:10:36.600 --> 0:10:39.400 that relationship didn't work for a reason. So I have 0:10:39.480 --> 0:10:42.080 to like think about the qualities that I do want 0:10:42.640 --> 0:10:45.320 that I haven't really experienced yet maybe or that I 0:10:45.360 --> 0:10:48.040 haven't found, and not keep thinking about the past and 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:49.040 comparing to the past. 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:51.640 Okay, now here's another question. So you're you're talking about 0:10:51.679 --> 0:10:56.000 being evolved, So you're evolved. I'm trying, you know, emotionally 0:10:56.400 --> 0:10:59.960 and professionally and socially, so you're a totally different person. 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:02.240 And then when you were twenty one, you know, you've 0:11:02.280 --> 0:11:06.120 been on television for so long, you're recognizable. Do you 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:10.600 feel like being in that position was that Do you 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:13.760 feel like these guys were like we know who she is, 0:11:13.880 --> 0:11:15.800 we know what this is going to be like do 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:18.360 you feel like that they were like jumping on that 0:11:18.440 --> 0:11:20.520 train or do you feel like they were just like, 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:23.720 we want to meet you and celebrate your life. 0:11:24.000 --> 0:11:26.920 Thankfully, they felt very authentic. I mean, I don't know 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:30.880 how the experience is for you dating, but I would 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:34.680 rather have maybe if they know my name, that's nice, 0:11:34.800 --> 0:11:36.920 or maybe have like a general idea of who I am, 0:11:37.000 --> 0:11:39.760 But if you know everything about me, like my blood 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:42.440 type and all that stuff. That's a red flag for me, 0:11:42.640 --> 0:11:43.960 you know, like we need to have a little bit 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:46.679 of distance between us. And again, if you're a hardcore 0:11:46.720 --> 0:11:52.400 Housewives fan, I'm wondering if you're my team, you know, I. 0:11:52.400 --> 0:11:55.360 Have to say, yes, that's the whole thing. So that's 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:58.880 what I thought, right, Like hardcore Housewives fans, I'm picturing 0:11:59.280 --> 0:12:03.080 well me and like, no, I'm serious about women around 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:06.760 my or a lot of gay men obviously, so, but guess. 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:08.520 What, I guess a lot of straight man that watch Housewise. 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:11.839 I didn't think so until I got on. No, I 0:12:12.000 --> 0:12:13.400 didn't think so until I got on, and all of 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:18.360 a sudden my husband became a ridiculously obsessed Housewise. I 0:12:18.360 --> 0:12:21.680 don't I'm not proud of this. By the way, he's obsessed, Okay, 0:12:21.800 --> 0:12:23.960 I love it. I don't love it at all. Like 0:12:24.040 --> 0:12:25.920 he thinks he's so cool and he's coming in he's like, 0:12:26.040 --> 0:12:29.079 oh my god, I see Atlanta. He is not ok 0:12:30.320 --> 0:12:33.640 He's a lot of things. He's a wonderful man, fabulous husband. Yeah, 0:12:33.800 --> 0:12:34.679 cool is not one of them. 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:37.120 Moving on, But at least you're the conduit for that, right, 0:12:37.160 --> 0:12:39.000 Like if you're watching him by himself, i'd be looking 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:43.680 at him in a good eye. But fair together is okay? 0:12:51.760 --> 0:12:53.600 Do you believe that those guys, because I know they 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:55.920 mainly said that they hadn't watched it, they hadn't heard 0:12:55.920 --> 0:12:56.959 of it. Did you believe them all? 0:12:57.640 --> 0:13:01.360 Well, it came out later that one's aunt or mother 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:04.520 or something watched the show, so you know, in the beginning, 0:13:04.520 --> 0:13:06.760 of course they said that. But the truth always comes 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:08.920 to light. And I felt a little some way that 0:13:08.960 --> 0:13:10.280 he didn't tell me that from the beginning. 0:13:10.360 --> 0:13:12.360 Yeah, you know, don't tell us which who which he. 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:14.080 I'm not going to say, right and I want to know. 0:13:14.280 --> 0:13:16.960 But he's a good guy. So so who did. 0:13:16.840 --> 0:13:19.000 You most bond with and loved Hotel? Was it the 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:21.240 whin or like who is your? 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:23.120 Who is your? 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:25.000 Well, you know, Giselle and I are already really close, 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:27.880 but I've never seen Gizelle this way. I mean, Gazelle 0:13:27.880 --> 0:13:30.360 has been my number one wing woman throughout the course 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:32.720 of my separation. I love her right and she's getting 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:33.240 better with tome. 0:13:33.360 --> 0:13:35.960 She is so wildly beautiful. 0:13:36.040 --> 0:13:37.800 I was thinking, I was like, that woman is the 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:39.520 most beautiful woe I've ever seen my entire life. 0:13:39.600 --> 0:13:41.719 Like I was like, whoa well for you too, that 0:13:41.800 --> 0:13:42.360 must be hard. 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:44.280 She's just around like. 0:13:46.240 --> 0:13:49.200 She's just like really really really beautiful, and just like 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:50.960 she's very elegant human. 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:53.360 She is she is, and she knows her worth. That's 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:55.760 one thing I really appreciate about her that. Yeah, so 0:13:55.800 --> 0:13:59.439 she doesn't expect or tolerate anything less than the best. 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:01.040 Because that's the she offer for you to have as 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:02.000 a friend. Totally. 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:05.720 But outside of your bestie, who did you like feel 0:14:05.760 --> 0:14:09.480 like you could really like talk to and like drink 0:14:09.480 --> 0:14:11.480 wine with and hang out and just be like, Okay, 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:12.400 this is the tea. 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:14.960 Well, you know, we had our off time and we 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:17.000 all got down with the get down. Put it that way. 0:14:17.160 --> 0:14:22.440 But I would say that Luyanne was more of my 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:26.280 spirit animal. Yeah, Luyenne is who I foresee myself being 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:27.680 in the future. 0:14:27.720 --> 0:14:30.800 Actually, do you ever watch her doing her cabaret When 0:14:30.800 --> 0:14:33.400 I get in a bad mood. Sometimes if I'm down 0:14:33.440 --> 0:14:35.240 about something, I just pick up the phone and I 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:37.880 go to TikTok and I type in Sarah's over there 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:40.040 laughing because she knows exactly what I'm saying. And I 0:14:40.160 --> 0:14:43.480 type and I watch her on that stage doing her cabaret, 0:14:43.480 --> 0:14:47.160 and immediately all as well with the bongos in the world. 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:49.720 Say, lev there's just nothing like it same. 0:14:50.000 --> 0:14:53.400 We were singing that all around the hotel. Love it, Yes, 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:55.640 And then of course I got to know Shannon. Shannon 0:14:55.640 --> 0:14:57.560 can be a little bit guarded, and she was also 0:14:57.560 --> 0:15:01.200 going through a very challenging time because was actually airing 0:15:01.920 --> 0:15:04.160 and it was the traumatic stuff that had happened to 0:15:04.200 --> 0:15:05.240 her the previous year. 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:08.360 Oh wow, you see you think about it in context 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:08.800 like that. 0:15:09.040 --> 0:15:11.800 Yeah, so it's been hard to be going through that 0:15:11.840 --> 0:15:13.720 at the same time than you guys were filming. 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:17.000 But I think it was almost cathartic for her because 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:18.600 then we all knew what she was going through. We 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:21.200 can understand to a degree. So it was like and 0:15:21.320 --> 0:15:24.520 we were in the bubble. There was really no outside influence, 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:28.160 no other friends, no kids, really not a lot of responsibilities, 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:30.240 so we were all able to just be there for 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:32.240 each other and focus on the process. And part of 0:15:32.240 --> 0:15:34.320 the process, yes, was to find love, but it was 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:35.960 also to fortify friendships. 0:15:35.960 --> 0:15:37.840 And I want to go to there and love hotel 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:38.320 so bad. 0:15:38.560 --> 0:15:39.640 I love that I can't. 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:43.119 I mean, there's no do you know, friendship? 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:48.000 I had such a not to say that's for sure, 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:50.520 but you know what, I did, hope because I have 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:53.640 an evil side that like, maybe you guys were going 0:15:53.680 --> 0:15:55.720 to fight more and I don't know, only three episodes. 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:58.000 In honesty, you go around a little bit. 0:15:58.240 --> 0:16:00.240 Jen, just just hold type. 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:02.760 I'm sorry because I should not wish for that, but 0:16:03.040 --> 0:16:05.520 I also am from a world of housewives. I can't 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:05.760 help it. 0:16:05.880 --> 0:16:06.720 Well, but think about it. 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:09.040 I mean, the most eligible guy there who everybody had 0:16:09.040 --> 0:16:10.840 their sights one was Ralph and all of us made 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:12.800 to play at Ralph. Yeah, so you can imagine how 0:16:12.800 --> 0:16:13.320 that ends up. 0:16:13.480 --> 0:16:15.600 Maybe, but don't you want to know? Like I want 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:18.080 to corner you when the mics are down. I have 0:16:18.120 --> 0:16:18.880 to know what happened. 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:22.760 Jen's gonna be like tell me everything. 0:16:23.400 --> 0:16:24.360 I'll get her later. 0:16:24.520 --> 0:16:27.000 So what happened with you guys? Off camera? You said 0:16:27.000 --> 0:16:30.320 you guys spent time together? Did you guys like like 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:32.680 we literally liked having drinks and having. 0:16:32.480 --> 0:16:35.000 Fun or like well you know LeWinn Okay, I do know. 0:16:35.600 --> 0:16:40.160 And so yeah, we we actually had some off days 0:16:40.200 --> 0:16:43.760 because we had an earthquake and then hurricane back to back, 0:16:43.800 --> 0:16:46.520 so we had two days off and it was not 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:48.800 in the plans. Everyone was like, we were all just 0:16:48.880 --> 0:16:51.040 kind of antsy. So they let us out. They let 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:52.520 us off the reservation. 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:53.000 Wow. 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:56.040 And we went to this Mexican restaurant called Rosa something. 0:16:56.160 --> 0:16:58.720 You may know it in Cabo. Shannon was raving about it, 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:01.520 and she was right. We were dancing on the table 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:05.600 like sparklers. It was just it was such a time. 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:06.760 I love that. 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:10.320 Wait, so when you guys went off campus, did that 0:17:10.359 --> 0:17:13.480 like kind of ruin the vibe or did it like 0:17:13.480 --> 0:17:15.639 like help nurture it. I think it was sort of 0:17:16.480 --> 0:17:18.720 like when someone goes off and there it's like, oh, okay, 0:17:18.760 --> 0:17:20.120 that that doesn't land so great. 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:20.960 No, you're right. 0:17:21.000 --> 0:17:24.720 I mean, certainly you can sort of be like the 0:17:25.080 --> 0:17:27.359 circumstances can make you almost like each other, but then 0:17:27.400 --> 0:17:29.320