1 00:00:13,840 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 1: Hi, guys, welcome back. It's I Do Part two, the 2 00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:20,560 Speaker 1: podcast all about finding love the second time around, and 3 00:00:20,680 --> 00:00:23,159 Speaker 1: I am one of your celebrity mentors, Jen Fessler, and 4 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:26,400 Speaker 1: I am joined by my fellow mentor, the beautiful Kelly 5 00:00:26,440 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 1: ben Simone. Hi Cal Hi. So you guys, today is 6 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 1: very very exciting because we have one of the fabulous 7 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:37,519 Speaker 1: women from the new Bravo show which is my actually 8 00:00:37,560 --> 00:00:40,880 Speaker 1: new obsession, and it is called Love Hotel. I hope 9 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:45,360 Speaker 1: you all already have heard of it. So this podcast 10 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:49,280 Speaker 1: is all about finding love again, and so is Love Hotel. 11 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 1: And we have to talk to today one of the stars, 12 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 1: and I just know you know who she is. Hello 13 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:02,880 Speaker 1: Ashley Darby, Hello Ji, Hello beautiful Ashley Darby. I just 14 00:01:02,920 --> 00:01:06,080 Speaker 1: I have to start by telling you I'm obsessed, and 15 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: I'm obsessed. It's a very strange thing because I haven't 16 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:11,639 Speaker 1: been obsessed with a new Bravo show for a while. 17 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,840 Speaker 1: I obviously I watch it all, but I have to 18 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: say I love Crappy like I got a little obsessed 19 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:22,120 Speaker 1: there too, too loved, but this is so fabulous and 20 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:23,960 Speaker 1: if I'm being completely honest, I didn't expect it. 21 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:26,120 Speaker 2: I did not, right, I didn't either. 22 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:27,560 Speaker 3: Okay, what did you guys expect? 23 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:30,400 Speaker 1: I don't maybe because it's like on the heels also 24 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:33,959 Speaker 1: of like the Golden Bachelor, and I just I've seen 25 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:36,760 Speaker 1: so much this was And also when you think housewives, 26 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:42,520 Speaker 1: you think nastiness and conflict and bloody, and this is 27 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: not that. This is like sisterhood and it's fun and 28 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:49,400 Speaker 1: you guys are bonded and you could just tell there's 29 00:01:49,840 --> 00:01:52,200 Speaker 1: chemistry and the guys are fat. I don't know. It 30 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: is good, I know. 31 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:55,240 Speaker 3: And that's actually why we were so excited to do it, 32 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 3: because having come from the housewife world where you can't 33 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:01,000 Speaker 3: really share who you are some it's like your little 34 00:02:01,040 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 3: trebidacious to be like, oh, this is what I'm feeling 35 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 3: at the Love Hotel. It was very much encouraged, you know, 36 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 3: and it was so supportive. And even though we're all 37 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 3: very different, Luiyne, Shannon Gaselle and I like, we're so different, 38 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:15,080 Speaker 3: but we all had the same common goal, which was 39 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:15,639 Speaker 3: finding love. 40 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 1: It feels like, yeah, just clicked. Also, and you did 41 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:19,919 Speaker 1: it at Grand Vealis, which is one of my all 42 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 1: time favorite resorts in Mexico. 43 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:25,360 Speaker 2: So gorgeous and the way the sun would hit. 44 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 4: The ball with the Flowers, but like everything from like 45 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:31,560 Speaker 4: the lighting of the show, all of you guys, like 46 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 4: it was just the dynamic between everyone. Like I was 47 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:36,160 Speaker 4: watching it and I was just like, oh my god, 48 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:39,720 Speaker 4: this is a great show and you are really really 49 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 4: compelling and you're just very there's something about you on 50 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:47,440 Speaker 4: the show that is like we're rooting for you, like 51 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 4: we really really really want to even if you don't 52 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:52,840 Speaker 4: know your past, Like the way that you handle yourself 53 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:56,079 Speaker 4: in the show, Like I was like, she's gonna find it. 54 00:02:56,480 --> 00:02:58,080 Speaker 4: Just get one of these guys is going to be 55 00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:00,480 Speaker 4: that person. And just like the way you are in 56 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 4: your own journey right now of like taking your time 57 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:06,920 Speaker 4: and making good decisions that are good for you and 58 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 4: your family, like I'm getting Chelsea. I just like loved 59 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 4: that because, like you, it just really resonates. It's like 60 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 4: people are like, oh my god, you want to find love. No, 61 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:17,959 Speaker 4: it's not necessarily finding love. It's you know, it's really 62 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 4: about that connection and about making things that are right 63 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:22,520 Speaker 4: for you at that time. 64 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:25,639 Speaker 3: Right, and with social beings, what is wrong with wanting love? 65 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:28,639 Speaker 3: There's actually nothing wrong with it, right, And we've all 66 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:31,360 Speaker 3: shared our stories very publicly, all four of us, so 67 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 3: I think people are also invested in seeing us have 68 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:35,760 Speaker 3: a bit of a happy ending. 69 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I really loved and I don't want to. 70 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 1: I don't want to give way any spoilers. But in 71 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:45,000 Speaker 1: the most recent episode, you were talking about two particular 72 00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 1: men and just really sort of seeing them, like kind 73 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:52,200 Speaker 1: of hovering above and saying what makes sense here and 74 00:03:52,480 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: whether or not. I don't want to again, I don't 75 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:55,840 Speaker 1: want to give anything away, but having that kind of 76 00:03:55,960 --> 00:03:59,560 Speaker 1: like foresight and that sort that comes with being through 77 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 1: and that comes with some age and saying yeah he's hot, 78 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 1: so is he? But hold on, what's the big picture here? 79 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:09,640 Speaker 1: And I don't think you can do that until you've 80 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 1: like I it like my and I at twenty whatever. 81 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:15,920 Speaker 1: Even if I was like, oh, look, how cute of you. 82 00:04:16,200 --> 00:04:16,760 Speaker 1: I love him. 83 00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:20,520 Speaker 5: I love him, shiny thing, this is the one. 84 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:22,359 Speaker 2: He's my husband. No, but it's true. 85 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:24,840 Speaker 3: And I have typically been with older men. I mean, 86 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 3: mix husband is sixty six this year, so it's that's 87 00:04:28,120 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 3: what I'm used to. But I really tried tilling into 88 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:34,919 Speaker 3: dating more age appropriate men. You know, it's not really 89 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:38,200 Speaker 3: my thing as much as I thought it was. Why 90 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 3: because with younger guys comes a different level of experience 91 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 3: and sophistication, and I'm just sort of used to a 92 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:50,280 Speaker 3: man who's commandeering, right, who like, oh, assertive and dominates. 93 00:04:50,920 --> 00:04:52,839 Speaker 3: Maybe a little bit toxic in my own way, but 94 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:55,839 Speaker 3: that's what I thought I was looking for. But Wile 95 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 3: did surprise me with having some of those traits and 96 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:00,680 Speaker 3: still being so young, you know, thirty eight. 97 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:01,719 Speaker 1: He's so cute. 98 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:02,920 Speaker 2: I'm so cute. 99 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 1: When he came back to the room with the kit, 100 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:09,760 Speaker 1: I was like, what do you mean, come in? Are 101 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: you still standing in the doorway? 102 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:14,320 Speaker 3: So respectful. The guys were so respectful that they wanted 103 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:17,279 Speaker 3: to consent to even like touch your hand, and I 104 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:18,960 Speaker 3: was like, if we don't grab this hand, okay. 105 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:22,200 Speaker 4: I also love that, just like the chivalry. You know, 106 00:05:22,480 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 4: do you think it's chivalry is dead or do you 107 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:25,119 Speaker 4: think it's alive? 108 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:27,440 Speaker 3: And well, well, at the Love Hotel was very much alive. 109 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 3: The guys were so just there for us emotionally, they 110 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 3: were very respectful. They asked about my kids. I mean, 111 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 3: people would ask about my kids every day, you know, 112 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:39,760 Speaker 3: And I was very sad because I was missing them, 113 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 3: trying to be present in the moment because this is 114 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:44,720 Speaker 3: a great opportunity. I've been asking Andy for literally three 115 00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:47,279 Speaker 3: years to put me on a love show, and finally 116 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:49,599 Speaker 3: he did so. I you know, I wanted to be 117 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 3: fully there and present, and it was a little challenging. 118 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:54,719 Speaker 3: But the guys would just like constantly reiterate how much 119 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 3: they like us, how much they support us, how much 120 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:58,400 Speaker 3: they admire us as women and as mothers. 121 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:01,200 Speaker 1: And Ashley, how long were you there? How long were 122 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:01,520 Speaker 1: you going? 123 00:06:01,560 --> 00:06:02,159 Speaker 2: Three weeks? 124 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 1: So three weeks? No babies, You're baby's going to come right, 125 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:07,839 Speaker 1: So yeah, no, that I had. Definitely you have young kids. 126 00:06:07,880 --> 00:06:08,680 Speaker 1: How old are your boys? 127 00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:11,039 Speaker 3: Three and five? But at that time they were three 128 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 3: and five. Now they're about to be four and six. 129 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:16,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, still still babies. That's hard. And do you look 130 00:06:16,320 --> 00:06:18,840 Speaker 1: at did you sort of you looking at these guys 131 00:06:18,839 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: in terms of like, how would they do with the babies? Well, 132 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 1: my babies like them? Are they We always sort of 133 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:26,039 Speaker 1: sat there for you for sure. 134 00:06:26,040 --> 00:06:27,720 Speaker 3: I Mean some of the guys have kids, like Ralph 135 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:30,680 Speaker 3: has children. Wale doesn't have children, but he's a very 136 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:33,160 Speaker 3: present uncle. So if you don't have kids on your own, 137 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:34,960 Speaker 3: at least you can celebrate someone else's. 138 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 2: Yes, Yeah, do you think that's a red flag that 139 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:37,880 Speaker 2: he doesn't have kids? 140 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:40,159 Speaker 3: I mean, he's thirty eight, and I just I know 141 00:06:40,200 --> 00:06:42,119 Speaker 3: people are waiting longer these days. 142 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:43,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know. 143 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:45,120 Speaker 3: I mean I wanted to get married at twenty five 144 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 3: and I'm my first kid, but twenty seven, like, I 145 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:49,839 Speaker 3: had a whole schedule, right, and I followed it pretty 146 00:06:49,920 --> 00:06:50,520 Speaker 3: much to the sea. 147 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:52,640 Speaker 1: Oh my god, No, I tell my kids now, I 148 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:54,680 Speaker 1: don't want to hear about it until you're thirty. Do 149 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:57,359 Speaker 1: you not come to me with any news about anything 150 00:06:57,800 --> 00:07:00,280 Speaker 1: until you're thirty? Not that they give what I say, 151 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 1: what are. 152 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:02,920 Speaker 4: Some of your non negotiables? Like, what are some of 153 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:04,400 Speaker 4: the things You're like? No, these are the lines in 154 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 4: this well. 155 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:07,040 Speaker 3: We did the game with Joel where we did our 156 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 3: red bricks, which were like the red flags and then 157 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 3: our green flags. Yes, so I was looking for consistency, 158 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 3: someone understands responsibility, someone who's packing in the pants, somebody 159 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:19,520 Speaker 3: who just liked you. 160 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 2: Just say, did that? Did that slip out? What I 161 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 2: was like? Packing in packing? Yeah, packing in the pants. 162 00:07:25,280 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 2: Like I just was like, oh my god, I'm like, 163 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:30,760 Speaker 2: is this a new single? Like am I? 164 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: It's like, I mean, I have to. 165 00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:33,280 Speaker 2: Say like a song. 166 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:36,320 Speaker 1: You are younger than I am, and I know Kelly, like, 167 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: how old are you? 168 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 2: My age? 169 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 3: You're ageless girl, both of you. 170 00:07:40,400 --> 00:07:44,320 Speaker 1: Seriously, I mean this one is actually pant packing. No, 171 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:46,080 Speaker 1: I'm just saying I have a feeling. I know what 172 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 1: it is, and it would be the last thing I 173 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:52,000 Speaker 1: would be looking. He has a big dick. 174 00:07:52,160 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 3: He's like, yeah, I told Shannon, I taught her this 175 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 3: saying of get your back broken, get your back broke. 176 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 3: So so that's what that means. So Shannon, would you 177 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:03,760 Speaker 3: get more mysterious? 178 00:08:03,840 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 1: So in other words, he should be able to ride you? Yes, okay, 179 00:08:08,440 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 1: got it. 180 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:12,239 Speaker 3: So Shannon was like, back but broke. 181 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:13,640 Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, it wasn't. 182 00:08:13,960 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 3: Now she gets it and she'll be like, Ashley, got 183 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:16,640 Speaker 3: in your back broke lately? 184 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:19,080 Speaker 1: Wow? But it's ok though, Is that like a big thing? 185 00:08:19,120 --> 00:08:20,600 Speaker 1: Like you want to know? Like what if he's not 186 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:23,640 Speaker 1: great in bed at the beginning? That's it got to 187 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 1: say goodbye. 188 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:26,400 Speaker 3: That's why you know. I'm all about like waiting and 189 00:08:26,440 --> 00:08:28,000 Speaker 3: all that. But you sort of got to get that 190 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 3: out of the way in the beginning. 191 00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:32,959 Speaker 1: That's so interesting. Would you care about that cow? Not 192 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:34,439 Speaker 1: that he wouldn't care everybody would care. 193 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:35,440 Speaker 2: I mean, I've had it. 194 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:38,600 Speaker 4: I've had so many different relationships where I was like 195 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:41,400 Speaker 4: so in love with being in love, and then some 196 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 4: other relationships where I was just so I was just like. 197 00:08:44,160 --> 00:08:45,160 Speaker 2: I love the sex. 198 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:50,080 Speaker 4: So now I'm trying to like take my time, uh 199 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:52,720 Speaker 4: and just kind of see what's going on and see like, 200 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:55,040 Speaker 4: am I excited to talk to him like, you know, 201 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 4: after like a couple of weeks versus just like having 202 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:00,200 Speaker 4: sex and then being like oh my god, no, No. 203 00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:02,400 Speaker 1: I just I think like at your age, I was 204 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 1: probably definitely that would have been key. I just think 205 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:08,960 Speaker 1: if I was single now, of course it's definitely important. 206 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 1: I don't need to minimize it, but I don't know 207 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:13,440 Speaker 1: that it would it would like I always think, well 208 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 1: we could work that part out, Like I don't know 209 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:18,160 Speaker 1: that it would be a no togo really. 210 00:09:18,800 --> 00:09:22,480 Speaker 3: I just yeah again, I mean, I'm thirty six and long. 211 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:24,040 Speaker 2: You know, you're young. 212 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:27,440 Speaker 3: Apparently the forties are where things really start getting more exciting. 213 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 3: So I need somebody who can keep up. 214 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:31,080 Speaker 1: I can hear that, at least hear that in my forties. 215 00:09:31,120 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 1: I can totally I talk to fifty. You are you're 216 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:35,160 Speaker 1: really yeah, you are young, You've been through a lot 217 00:09:35,280 --> 00:09:36,880 Speaker 1: for thirty six, you have. 218 00:09:37,320 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 3: I started dating Mike's husband at twenty one. 219 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. 220 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:44,200 Speaker 3: Really yeah, so I was with him till I was 221 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:44,959 Speaker 3: thirty three. 222 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:45,839 Speaker 1: Wow. 223 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:46,320 Speaker 3: Yeah. 224 00:09:46,400 --> 00:09:48,360 Speaker 2: So now when you're gone, when you're at Love Hotel 225 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:49,079 Speaker 2: and you're meeting all. 226 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:52,520 Speaker 4: These different guys, like you know, you've had you you know, 227 00:09:52,640 --> 00:09:55,120 Speaker 4: obviously married, you have children. Are when you are you 228 00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:57,720 Speaker 4: meeting these guys and being like comparing and contrasting and 229 00:09:57,720 --> 00:10:00,320 Speaker 4: being like, my access is better at this Like he 230 00:10:00,400 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 4: seems like that? Because does that go through your brain 231 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 4: or like are you just like okay, I am like 232 00:10:05,120 --> 00:10:07,720 Speaker 4: open and ready to find like a new guy. 233 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 2: What's your thought process? 234 00:10:09,080 --> 00:10:09,240 Speaker 4: You know? 235 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:12,000 Speaker 3: No one's asked me that, Kelly. And that's interesting because 236 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:14,600 Speaker 3: I want to feel like I'm healed and evolved to 237 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:16,800 Speaker 3: the point that I don't do that. But I think 238 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:19,920 Speaker 3: it's a human thing to use your past experiences to 239 00:10:20,559 --> 00:10:25,320 Speaker 3: judge and assess a situation. So I think, like, very subconsciously, 240 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:28,600 Speaker 3: I did a little bit of comparing thinking because he 241 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:31,839 Speaker 3: is a very Michael's a very charming, charismatic guy. He's 242 00:10:31,960 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 3: very take charge, you know, So that's sort of what 243 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:36,560 Speaker 3: I was looking for, but then I had to remember 244 00:10:36,600 --> 00:10:39,400 Speaker 3: that relationship didn't work for a reason. So I have 245 00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:42,080 Speaker 3: to like think about the qualities that I do want 246 00:10:42,640 --> 00:10:45,320 Speaker 3: that I haven't really experienced yet maybe or that I 247 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:48,040 Speaker 3: haven't found, and not keep thinking about the past and 248 00:10:48,080 --> 00:10:49,040 Speaker 3: comparing to the past. 249 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:51,640 Speaker 4: Okay, now here's another question. So you're you're talking about 250 00:10:51,679 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 4: being evolved, So you're evolved. I'm trying, you know, emotionally 251 00:10:56,400 --> 00:10:59,960 Speaker 4: and professionally and socially, so you're a totally different person. 252 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 4: And then when you were twenty one, you know, you've 253 00:11:02,280 --> 00:11:06,120 Speaker 4: been on television for so long, you're recognizable. Do you 254 00:11:06,240 --> 00:11:10,600 Speaker 4: feel like being in that position was that Do you 255 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:13,760 Speaker 4: feel like these guys were like we know who she is, 256 00:11:13,880 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 4: we know what this is going to be like do 257 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:18,360 Speaker 4: you feel like that they were like jumping on that 258 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:20,520 Speaker 4: train or do you feel like they were just like, 259 00:11:20,600 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 4: we want to meet you and celebrate your life. 260 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 3: Thankfully, they felt very authentic. I mean, I don't know 261 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 3: how the experience is for you dating, but I would 262 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:34,680 Speaker 3: rather have maybe if they know my name, that's nice, 263 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:36,920 Speaker 3: or maybe have like a general idea of who I am, 264 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:39,760 Speaker 3: But if you know everything about me, like my blood 265 00:11:39,760 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 3: type and all that stuff. That's a red flag for me, 266 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 3: you know, like we need to have a little bit 267 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:46,679 Speaker 3: of distance between us. And again, if you're a hardcore 268 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 3: Housewives fan, I'm wondering if you're my team, you know, I. 269 00:11:52,400 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 1: Have to say, yes, that's the whole thing. So that's 270 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:58,880 Speaker 1: what I thought, right, Like hardcore Housewives fans, I'm picturing 271 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:03,080 Speaker 1: well me and like, no, I'm serious about women around 272 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:06,760 Speaker 1: my or a lot of gay men obviously, so, but guess. 273 00:12:06,520 --> 00:12:08,520 Speaker 2: What, I guess a lot of straight man that watch Housewise. 274 00:12:08,559 --> 00:12:11,839 Speaker 1: I didn't think so until I got on. No, I 275 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:13,400 Speaker 1: didn't think so until I got on, and all of 276 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:18,360 Speaker 1: a sudden my husband became a ridiculously obsessed Housewise. I 277 00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:21,680 Speaker 1: don't I'm not proud of this. By the way, he's obsessed, Okay, 278 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:23,960 Speaker 1: I love it. I don't love it at all. Like 279 00:12:24,040 --> 00:12:25,920 Speaker 1: he thinks he's so cool and he's coming in he's like, 280 00:12:26,040 --> 00:12:29,079 Speaker 1: oh my god, I see Atlanta. He is not ok 281 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:33,640 Speaker 1: He's a lot of things. He's a wonderful man, fabulous husband. Yeah, 282 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:34,679 Speaker 1: cool is not one of them. 283 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:37,120 Speaker 3: Moving on, But at least you're the conduit for that, right, 284 00:12:37,160 --> 00:12:39,000 Speaker 3: Like if you're watching him by himself, i'd be looking 285 00:12:39,040 --> 00:12:43,680 Speaker 3: at him in a good eye. But fair together is okay? 286 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:53,600 Speaker 1: Do you believe that those guys, because I know they 287 00:12:53,720 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 1: mainly said that they hadn't watched it, they hadn't heard 288 00:12:55,920 --> 00:12:56,959 Speaker 1: of it. Did you believe them all? 289 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:01,360 Speaker 3: Well, it came out later that one's aunt or mother 290 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:04,520 Speaker 3: or something watched the show, so you know, in the beginning, 291 00:13:04,520 --> 00:13:06,760 Speaker 3: of course they said that. But the truth always comes 292 00:13:06,760 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 3: to light. And I felt a little some way that 293 00:13:08,960 --> 00:13:10,280 Speaker 3: he didn't tell me that from the beginning. 294 00:13:10,360 --> 00:13:12,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, don't tell us which who which he. 295 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:14,080 Speaker 3: I'm not going to say, right and I want to know. 296 00:13:14,280 --> 00:13:16,960 Speaker 3: But he's a good guy. So so who did. 297 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:19,000 Speaker 4: You most bond with and loved Hotel? Was it the 298 00:13:19,080 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 4: whin or like who is your? 299 00:13:21,320 --> 00:13:23,120 Speaker 1: Who is your? 300 00:13:23,400 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 3: Well, you know, Giselle and I are already really close, 301 00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:27,880 Speaker 3: but I've never seen Gizelle this way. I mean, Gazelle 302 00:13:27,880 --> 00:13:30,360 Speaker 3: has been my number one wing woman throughout the course 303 00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:32,720 Speaker 3: of my separation. I love her right and she's getting 304 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 3: better with tome. 305 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:35,960 Speaker 2: She is so wildly beautiful. 306 00:13:36,040 --> 00:13:37,800 Speaker 4: I was thinking, I was like, that woman is the 307 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 4: most beautiful woe I've ever seen my entire life. 308 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:41,719 Speaker 1: Like I was like, whoa well for you too, that 309 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:42,360 Speaker 1: must be hard. 310 00:13:42,600 --> 00:13:44,280 Speaker 2: She's just around like. 311 00:13:46,240 --> 00:13:49,200 Speaker 4: She's just like really really really beautiful, and just like 312 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:50,960 Speaker 4: she's very elegant human. 313 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:53,360 Speaker 3: She is she is, and she knows her worth. That's 314 00:13:53,360 --> 00:13:55,760 Speaker 3: one thing I really appreciate about her that. Yeah, so 315 00:13:55,800 --> 00:13:59,439 Speaker 3: she doesn't expect or tolerate anything less than the best. 316 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:01,040 Speaker 2: Because that's the she offer for you to have as 317 00:14:01,080 --> 00:14:02,000 Speaker 2: a friend. Totally. 318 00:14:02,440 --> 00:14:05,720 Speaker 4: But outside of your bestie, who did you like feel 319 00:14:05,760 --> 00:14:09,480 Speaker 4: like you could really like talk to and like drink 320 00:14:09,480 --> 00:14:11,480 Speaker 4: wine with and hang out and just be like, Okay, 321 00:14:11,480 --> 00:14:12,400 Speaker 4: this is the tea. 322 00:14:12,520 --> 00:14:14,960 Speaker 3: Well, you know, we had our off time and we 323 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:17,000 Speaker 3: all got down with the get down. Put it that way. 324 00:14:17,160 --> 00:14:22,440 Speaker 3: But I would say that Luyanne was more of my 325 00:14:22,480 --> 00:14:26,280 Speaker 3: spirit animal. Yeah, Luyenne is who I foresee myself being 326 00:14:27,240 --> 00:14:27,680 Speaker 3: in the future. 327 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:30,800 Speaker 1: Actually, do you ever watch her doing her cabaret When 328 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:33,400 Speaker 1: I get in a bad mood. Sometimes if I'm down 329 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:35,240 Speaker 1: about something, I just pick up the phone and I 330 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:37,880 Speaker 1: go to TikTok and I type in Sarah's over there 331 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:40,040 Speaker 1: laughing because she knows exactly what I'm saying. And I 332 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:43,480 Speaker 1: type and I watch her on that stage doing her cabaret, 333 00:14:43,480 --> 00:14:47,160 Speaker 1: and immediately all as well with the bongos in the world. 334 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:49,720 Speaker 2: Say, lev there's just nothing like it same. 335 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:53,400 Speaker 3: We were singing that all around the hotel. Love it, Yes, 336 00:14:53,720 --> 00:14:55,640 Speaker 3: And then of course I got to know Shannon. Shannon 337 00:14:55,640 --> 00:14:57,560 Speaker 3: can be a little bit guarded, and she was also 338 00:14:57,560 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 3: going through a very challenging time because was actually airing 339 00:15:01,920 --> 00:15:04,160 Speaker 3: and it was the traumatic stuff that had happened to 340 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:05,240 Speaker 3: her the previous year. 341 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:08,360 Speaker 1: Oh wow, you see you think about it in context 342 00:15:08,480 --> 00:15:08,800 Speaker 1: like that. 343 00:15:09,040 --> 00:15:11,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's been hard to be going through that 344 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:13,720 Speaker 4: at the same time than you guys were filming. 345 00:15:14,160 --> 00:15:17,000 Speaker 3: But I think it was almost cathartic for her because 346 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:18,600 Speaker 3: then we all knew what she was going through. We 347 00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:21,200 Speaker 3: can understand to a degree. So it was like and 348 00:15:21,320 --> 00:15:24,520 Speaker 3: we were in the bubble. There was really no outside influence, 349 00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:28,160 Speaker 3: no other friends, no kids, really not a lot of responsibilities, 350 00:15:28,280 --> 00:15:30,240 Speaker 3: so we were all able to just be there for 351 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:32,240 Speaker 3: each other and focus on the process. And part of 352 00:15:32,240 --> 00:15:34,320 Speaker 3: the process, yes, was to find love, but it was 353 00:15:34,360 --> 00:15:35,960 Speaker 3: also to fortify friendships. 354 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:37,840 Speaker 1: And I want to go to there and love hotel 355 00:15:37,920 --> 00:15:38,320 Speaker 1: so bad. 356 00:15:38,560 --> 00:15:39,640 Speaker 2: I love that I can't. 357 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:43,119 Speaker 1: I mean, there's no do you know, friendship? 358 00:15:43,320 --> 00:15:48,000 Speaker 5: I had such a not to say that's for sure, 359 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:50,520 Speaker 5: but you know what, I did, hope because I have 360 00:15:50,600 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 5: an evil side that like, maybe you guys were going 361 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:55,720 Speaker 5: to fight more and I don't know, only three episodes. 362 00:15:55,760 --> 00:15:58,000 Speaker 1: In honesty, you go around a little bit. 363 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:00,240 Speaker 3: Jen, just just hold type. 364 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:02,760 Speaker 1: I'm sorry because I should not wish for that, but 365 00:16:03,040 --> 00:16:05,520 Speaker 1: I also am from a world of housewives. I can't 366 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:05,760 Speaker 1: help it. 367 00:16:05,880 --> 00:16:06,720 Speaker 2: Well, but think about it. 368 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:09,040 Speaker 3: I mean, the most eligible guy there who everybody had 369 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:10,840 Speaker 3: their sights one was Ralph and all of us made 370 00:16:10,840 --> 00:16:12,800 Speaker 3: to play at Ralph. Yeah, so you can imagine how 371 00:16:12,800 --> 00:16:13,320 Speaker 3: that ends up. 372 00:16:13,480 --> 00:16:15,600 Speaker 1: Maybe, but don't you want to know? Like I want 373 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:18,080 Speaker 1: to corner you when the mics are down. I have 374 00:16:18,120 --> 00:16:18,880 Speaker 1: to know what happened. 375 00:16:19,240 --> 00:16:22,760 Speaker 2: Jen's gonna be like tell me everything. 376 00:16:23,400 --> 00:16:24,360 Speaker 1: I'll get her later. 377 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:27,000 Speaker 4: So what happened with you guys? Off camera? You said 378 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:30,320 Speaker 4: you guys spent time together? Did you guys like like 379 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:32,680 Speaker 4: we literally liked having drinks and having. 380 00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:35,000 Speaker 2: Fun or like well you know LeWinn Okay, I do know. 381 00:16:35,600 --> 00:16:40,160 Speaker 3: And so yeah, we we actually had some off days 382 00:16:40,200 --> 00:16:43,760 Speaker 3: because we had an earthquake and then hurricane back to back, 383 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 3: so we had two days off and it was not 384 00:16:46,640 --> 00:16:48,800 Speaker 3: in the plans. Everyone was like, we were all just 385 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:51,040 Speaker 3: kind of antsy. So they let us out. They let 386 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:52,520 Speaker 3: us off the reservation. 387 00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:53,000 Speaker 4: Wow. 388 00:16:53,120 --> 00:16:56,040 Speaker 3: And we went to this Mexican restaurant called Rosa something. 389 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:58,720 Speaker 3: You may know it in Cabo. Shannon was raving about it, 390 00:16:58,760 --> 00:17:01,520 Speaker 3: and she was right. We were dancing on the table 391 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:05,600 Speaker 3: like sparklers. It was just it was such a time. 392 00:17:06,080 --> 00:17:06,760 Speaker 2: I love that. 393 00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:10,320 Speaker 4: Wait, so when you guys went off campus, did that 394 00:17:10,359 --> 00:17:13,480 Speaker 4: like kind of ruin the vibe or did it like 395 00:17:13,480 --> 00:17:15,639 Speaker 4: like help nurture it. I think it was sort of 396 00:17:16,480 --> 00:17:18,720 Speaker 4: like when someone goes off and there it's like, oh, okay, 397 00:17:18,760 --> 00:17:20,120 Speaker 4: that that doesn't land so great. 398 00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:20,960 Speaker 2: No, you're right. 399 00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:24,720 Speaker 3: I mean, certainly you can sort of be like the 400 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:27,359 Speaker 3: circumstances can make you almost like each other, but then 401 00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:29,320 Speaker 3: once you're out of the circumstances like, ooh, I don't 402 00:17:29,320 --> 00:17:30,040 Speaker 3: really like that person. 403 00:17:30,520 --> 00:17:31,359 Speaker 2: That wasn't the case. 404 00:17:31,800 --> 00:17:31,960 Speaker 1: No. 405 00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:34,640 Speaker 3: I mean we went shopping together. I need a conditioner 406 00:17:34,680 --> 00:17:36,520 Speaker 3: for my hair, and all the girls are like, oh, come, 407 00:17:36,560 --> 00:17:38,359 Speaker 3: and then we were doing a shopping trip to the 408 00:17:38,400 --> 00:17:41,560 Speaker 3: beauty supplies store. I mean, it was really like this 409 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:45,119 Speaker 3: sisterhood that I didn't know could happen. And when I 410 00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:46,679 Speaker 3: went on the show, I really just thought I was 411 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:48,800 Speaker 3: going to find a man like that was my main prerogative. 412 00:17:49,359 --> 00:17:52,720 Speaker 3: And then when I got to spend time with Shannon, 413 00:17:53,160 --> 00:17:55,200 Speaker 3: mainly Shannon because Shannon is a night out Okay, she 414 00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:58,040 Speaker 3: doesn't really sleep, So when I got to spend time 415 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:00,680 Speaker 3: with Shannon at night, it was like, man, the other 416 00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:03,080 Speaker 3: reason I came here. Well, the thing is I go 417 00:18:03,119 --> 00:18:05,440 Speaker 3: to bed late and I wake up early. So it's 418 00:18:05,480 --> 00:18:07,680 Speaker 3: not the best combinations I ever. 419 00:18:07,600 --> 00:18:08,280 Speaker 1: Heard of in my life. 420 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:11,840 Speaker 4: I know that was like that says stress like, but 421 00:18:11,880 --> 00:18:14,679 Speaker 4: I know I'm night. 422 00:18:14,880 --> 00:18:20,000 Speaker 1: Oh, I'm thank God. So I want to know something 423 00:18:20,080 --> 00:18:21,720 Speaker 1: just dumb, but I can help it now that we 424 00:18:21,760 --> 00:18:23,639 Speaker 1: have you here, Like, how did you pack for this? 425 00:18:23,680 --> 00:18:26,000 Speaker 1: Because these outfits I have to say, gorgeous you guys, 426 00:18:26,080 --> 00:18:28,640 Speaker 1: they are You did perfectly. I mean so far, it's 427 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:31,320 Speaker 1: only been three episodes. Maybe there will be a up somewhere, 428 00:18:31,359 --> 00:18:33,480 Speaker 1: but you, so far it is you guys are on point. 429 00:18:33,720 --> 00:18:36,719 Speaker 1: They are so gorgeous. These dresses, they are tropical. They 430 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:39,760 Speaker 1: were beautiful. I want to say, all four of you, 431 00:18:39,800 --> 00:18:43,639 Speaker 1: maybe even a step up from House, Like I'm not 432 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:48,280 Speaker 1: saying you first, okay, I was. 433 00:18:48,320 --> 00:18:50,639 Speaker 4: I just thought I was just like esthetically I was 434 00:18:50,680 --> 00:18:52,280 Speaker 4: watching it, and I was like. 435 00:18:52,280 --> 00:18:54,280 Speaker 1: God, it's really beautiful. Like your outfa were just to 436 00:18:54,320 --> 00:18:56,840 Speaker 1: die for. You're not on you're on a resort on 437 00:18:56,880 --> 00:18:59,720 Speaker 1: housewives and tropical resource. Sure doing your thing, You're running around, 438 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:02,160 Speaker 1: you take carry your kids. But was there a stylist 439 00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:03,680 Speaker 1: in Bogs? You guys looked amazing. 440 00:19:04,680 --> 00:19:06,160 Speaker 3: We all had a little bit of help at home 441 00:19:06,200 --> 00:19:09,440 Speaker 3: before we came, but we never knew what was happening. 442 00:19:09,720 --> 00:19:12,560 Speaker 3: So they did tell us preemptively, like, hey, there will 443 00:19:12,600 --> 00:19:15,560 Speaker 3: be some of these themes. So there was like wear 444 00:19:15,800 --> 00:19:18,960 Speaker 3: a sparkly dress, right, you know, where's something you might 445 00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:22,720 Speaker 3: wear that's like Fiesta Mexican theme. Right, So we had 446 00:19:22,760 --> 00:19:25,200 Speaker 3: some direction, but it was actually a lot of fun 447 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:27,440 Speaker 3: packing and wearing things that I knew would be a 448 00:19:27,480 --> 00:19:29,480 Speaker 3: little sexy and show a little skin. 449 00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:31,720 Speaker 1: How was the room? How was just was it comfortable? 450 00:19:31,720 --> 00:19:35,520 Speaker 3: Were you well, you know, oh my gosh, it's divine. 451 00:19:35,680 --> 00:19:39,400 Speaker 3: Everything was so beautiful. The food was great too, amazing. 452 00:19:39,440 --> 00:19:41,400 Speaker 3: I mean I didn't I wanted to leave, but also 453 00:19:41,440 --> 00:19:43,240 Speaker 3: I didn't want to leave, you know, it was bittersweet 454 00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 3: when we left went home. 455 00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:46,159 Speaker 1: I mean I would I would never want When you 456 00:19:46,200 --> 00:19:50,240 Speaker 1: guys went to for Ultimate Girls, you went to bart Oh. 457 00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:54,680 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's different because it's like five women or you 458 00:19:54,720 --> 00:19:57,639 Speaker 4: know whatever, six women on a woman's trip. This is 459 00:19:57,680 --> 00:20:00,520 Speaker 4: like looking for love and like to your point, you're 460 00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:04,239 Speaker 4: like dressing sexy, feeling good about yourself. There's you know, 461 00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:06,920 Speaker 4: your children aren't there, Like all of your work stuff 462 00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:07,360 Speaker 4: isn't there. 463 00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:11,280 Speaker 3: I mean, this is right up your alley, baby, Like 464 00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:12,800 Speaker 3: you need to be here. 465 00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:15,440 Speaker 4: Well, I was supposed to go to meet with Luanne 466 00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:18,880 Speaker 4: and like meet her like you know, her new man friends, 467 00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:20,720 Speaker 4: and like go through it with her. But I couldn't 468 00:20:20,720 --> 00:20:24,520 Speaker 4: excite something else to do, and so I was like, 469 00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:26,000 Speaker 4: oh my god, this is gonna be so much money. 470 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:27,800 Speaker 2: She's like the best time. 471 00:20:28,440 --> 00:20:28,880 Speaker 5: Love this. 472 00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, someone I'll be like, 473 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:32,760 Speaker 4: I'll take him. 474 00:20:33,760 --> 00:20:35,360 Speaker 1: I love because. 475 00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:37,920 Speaker 2: It was an invader. It's Kelly. 476 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:40,520 Speaker 1: Kelly had some time with some of the Golden Bachelors 477 00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:43,359 Speaker 1: from that show I have had. She has some interesting 478 00:20:43,520 --> 00:20:45,640 Speaker 1: moments with a few of those. She played dating game 479 00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:48,159 Speaker 1: with them. But I think it's the French guy. Was 480 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:49,040 Speaker 1: he one of the yes. 481 00:20:49,040 --> 00:20:52,439 Speaker 2: Pascal other ones? Yes, Okay. 482 00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:56,160 Speaker 4: I love fun with the Golden Bachelors are so so fun. 483 00:20:56,200 --> 00:21:00,119 Speaker 4: They're dynamic, they are very dynamic. Yeah, they are are 484 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:01,640 Speaker 4: actually sensational. 485 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:04,560 Speaker 1: Do you guys feel like though it's like The Golden Bachelor, 486 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:07,520 Speaker 1: I do Part two, all of this stuff is there's 487 00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:10,080 Speaker 1: a I feel like this resurgence, there's something I feel like, 488 00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:13,080 Speaker 1: there's so much agism. Of course I think that I'm whatever, 489 00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:15,640 Speaker 1: I'm older, but I feel like there's so much agism, 490 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:18,560 Speaker 1: not just in you know, society, but like specifically even 491 00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:23,760 Speaker 1: sometimes in reality TV. And I think, like all of 492 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:26,760 Speaker 1: this is so cool because I find it so much 493 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:29,760 Speaker 1: more interesting to watch Love Hotel, for instance, then let's 494 00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:33,440 Speaker 1: say Bachelor in Paradise, Like I've seen that, been there, 495 00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:35,479 Speaker 1: done that. Well I haven't been there, done that, but like, 496 00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:38,200 Speaker 1: I love this stuff. It's very cool to see women 497 00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:40,360 Speaker 1: who have been through stuff of a certain agent. Again, 498 00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:43,520 Speaker 1: now you're way younger, but still like watching. You know, 499 00:21:44,119 --> 00:21:46,560 Speaker 1: I don't know how old is Giselle. She seems younger. Also, 500 00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:52,320 Speaker 1: shann is like my age, right, shann is right, and 501 00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:54,680 Speaker 1: Luanne is my age to our age pretty much right. 502 00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:57,800 Speaker 1: It's cool to watch these women in these scenarios the 503 00:21:57,840 --> 00:21:59,000 Speaker 1: way they're handling it. 504 00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:01,960 Speaker 3: You know, because also you have some baggage like bringing 505 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:05,040 Speaker 3: and that comes out and we have to talk about it. 506 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:08,320 Speaker 3: And even that tiff between Early and Shannon was about 507 00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:11,480 Speaker 3: some of the things that Earl had experienced that was 508 00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:14,840 Speaker 3: triggered by something Shannon said, right, right, and even Shannon 509 00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:17,480 Speaker 3: maybe not even being super self aware about some of 510 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:20,000 Speaker 3: the things she was doing because of her past relationship. 511 00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:22,560 Speaker 3: So it really put all of us under a microscope, like, right, 512 00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:23,720 Speaker 3: this is what I also bring. 513 00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:25,560 Speaker 4: You know, it's interesting you just said that about about 514 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:28,199 Speaker 4: being triggered, and I feel like, you know, I have younger, 515 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:31,520 Speaker 4: younger kids without younger, but they're in their you know, 516 00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:34,960 Speaker 4: their twenties and they're like out there dating, but they 517 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:37,159 Speaker 4: never talk about stuff like this. They never talk about 518 00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:40,639 Speaker 4: this guy triggering me or that happening. And I feel like, 519 00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:45,320 Speaker 4: to Jen's point, it's so much more exciting and interesting 520 00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:49,280 Speaker 4: to date at our age where you're unbiased, but like 521 00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:54,119 Speaker 4: because just like you were more interested in, like what 522 00:22:54,119 --> 00:22:58,560 Speaker 4: what affected your partner and like how you can help, 523 00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:00,919 Speaker 4: you know, help them through the that you know, all 524 00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:04,960 Speaker 4: of those things, and whether that's you know, just listening 525 00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:07,720 Speaker 4: or you know, being a you know, good sounding board 526 00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:10,439 Speaker 4: or you know whatever giving them good advice, but like 527 00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:12,840 Speaker 4: it doesn't happen when you're younger. And I also think 528 00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:16,080 Speaker 4: for you, which is fascinating is that you have dated 529 00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:19,520 Speaker 4: and be ben had relationships with men of different ages. 530 00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:22,600 Speaker 4: And how you're so open to doing something totally different 531 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:24,399 Speaker 4: from what you're used to and you're being out of 532 00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:27,240 Speaker 4: your comfort zone, I think is so cool. And it's 533 00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:29,879 Speaker 4: also different than what we had before. 534 00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:33,360 Speaker 1: You also were married to two men that was considerably older. Yes, 535 00:23:33,920 --> 00:23:35,440 Speaker 1: so would you do would you look for that again? 536 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:36,840 Speaker 2: No? 537 00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:39,359 Speaker 4: No? Yeah, I agree. I think it's I mean nothing 538 00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:42,639 Speaker 4: nothing against I'm not here to bash people, but like 539 00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:45,480 Speaker 4: when I met Pascal with and Jen was on my date. 540 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:53,280 Speaker 2: Jen was on my date, was like, don't ask her 541 00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:54,040 Speaker 2: that that's not a. 542 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:55,639 Speaker 1: Free way, not a three wheel, go on. 543 00:23:57,320 --> 00:23:58,119 Speaker 2: A three wheel? 544 00:23:58,920 --> 00:23:59,879 Speaker 1: No, that was not match. 545 00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,000 Speaker 4: When Jen was on my day and he'd just come 546 00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:04,960 Speaker 4: from Bachelor Nation and he's such a nice guy from 547 00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:08,080 Speaker 4: Illinois and I'm from Illinois, and you know, he's French, 548 00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:10,719 Speaker 4: and he was talking about being a he's a hairdresser, 549 00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:12,840 Speaker 4: but he was talking about being photographer and I was like, 550 00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:14,359 Speaker 4: I'm sorry, no, I can't do this. 551 00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:16,119 Speaker 2: I saw you John, I was like I can't. 552 00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 4: I just yeah, And then telling me how he's going 553 00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:20,479 Speaker 4: to do all these romantic things, and I was like, Jen, 554 00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:21,480 Speaker 4: this is not going to work out. 555 00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:24,119 Speaker 1: I can totally hear that from both of you. You wouldn't 556 00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:37,760 Speaker 1: want to maybe get back, you know what I mean? Like, Yeah, 557 00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:40,240 Speaker 1: if I was single now, I would only want to 558 00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:44,480 Speaker 1: date guys that were considerably older. I would be open, obviously, 559 00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:46,479 Speaker 1: because you have to be, but I would I mean, 560 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,800 Speaker 1: my husband is sixty two. I'm fifty six, so but 561 00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:52,240 Speaker 1: I would look right into the seventies. I'd be all 562 00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:52,840 Speaker 1: about that. 563 00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:55,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm got a call false on that note. You know, 564 00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:58,119 Speaker 3: I see you do in your tone and like a 565 00:24:58,240 --> 00:24:59,800 Speaker 3: nice little late thirties. 566 00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:04,840 Speaker 2: I have seen you say that now. 567 00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:06,680 Speaker 3: And you know, obviously I don't anything to happen with 568 00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:07,080 Speaker 3: you in your house. 569 00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:07,840 Speaker 1: I appreciate that. 570 00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:11,440 Speaker 3: I just think you might be a little curious. 571 00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,080 Speaker 1: I don't listen. I did my thing. 572 00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:13,679 Speaker 2: I was. 573 00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:16,440 Speaker 1: Believe me when I tell you, and I mean, I'm, 574 00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,320 Speaker 1: you know, hosting this podcast. I do part two even 575 00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:20,960 Speaker 1: though I've been married, because I was separated for like 576 00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:23,160 Speaker 1: a year and a half, and I dipped my toe 577 00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:25,120 Speaker 1: a lot, and I did my toe as a young 578 00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:28,200 Speaker 1: person a lot too much. I hope my kids aren't listening, 579 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:31,040 Speaker 1: but no, you gotta live. I lived, I lived in 580 00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:33,520 Speaker 1: that sense, and I just feel like at this point 581 00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:35,639 Speaker 1: in my life, what I want is and again I 582 00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,080 Speaker 1: don't actually you're younger, like I feel like we're I 583 00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:39,639 Speaker 1: don't want to. You know, this was not for you 584 00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:42,760 Speaker 1: about necessarily being an older person. It was about doing 585 00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:45,520 Speaker 1: it again. You're an old soul. You started at twenty one. Yeah, 586 00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:48,720 Speaker 1: most definitely, so the age might not is doesn't necessarily correspond, 587 00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:51,600 Speaker 1: but like you comment things with a different vantage point, right. 588 00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:54,000 Speaker 1: But if I was doing again, what I would want 589 00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:56,639 Speaker 1: is what I have now, which is peace. I would 590 00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:59,480 Speaker 1: want a brand somebody who you guys talk a lot 591 00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:01,359 Speaker 1: about want to laugh. I'd want to be able to 592 00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,399 Speaker 1: laugh with that person. My husband is not that funny, 593 00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:06,800 Speaker 1: but I am and he laughs, so like whatever balance, yes, 594 00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:10,520 Speaker 1: but I would just want it to be you know, 595 00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:14,280 Speaker 1: so sounds so tripe like best friends. Like he'd have 596 00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:16,760 Speaker 1: to have a certain amount of money. I'm just being honest. 597 00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:19,840 Speaker 1: I'm not there's problem, by the way, is what it is. Yes, 598 00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:23,600 Speaker 1: And he'd have to be easy, and he'd have to 599 00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,040 Speaker 1: be funny and kind and I don't know that he 600 00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:26,960 Speaker 1: need to have a what is he? 601 00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:28,160 Speaker 2: Would you say packing in the pants? 602 00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:29,320 Speaker 1: I don't know that you have to be packing in 603 00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:29,720 Speaker 1: the pants. 604 00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:37,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, I vibrator pack something in your pants in. 605 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,959 Speaker 3: Your bag, Kara, Yeah no, I like I like the flesh. 606 00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:41,760 Speaker 3: You know, I was riding with you for a long 607 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,359 Speaker 3: time till you got to that part. But you know, 608 00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:46,040 Speaker 3: I mean, and it's not a shallow thing. I think 609 00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:49,720 Speaker 3: I'm just more self And I think another thing too, 610 00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:53,760 Speaker 3: is at you know, this evolved time, this evolution, I'm 611 00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:55,560 Speaker 3: able to vocalize what I want and. 612 00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:57,320 Speaker 1: Before I wasn't. 613 00:26:57,359 --> 00:26:59,119 Speaker 3: I felt maybe a little self conscious, being like this 614 00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:00,680 Speaker 3: is what I need from you. This is how I 615 00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:01,359 Speaker 3: need you to love me. 616 00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:02,480 Speaker 1: It's different, you know. 617 00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:04,879 Speaker 2: But what about you talked about kids. 618 00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:08,239 Speaker 4: So let's say one of these guys is like, I 619 00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:10,119 Speaker 4: am so crazy about you and I want to have 620 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:10,560 Speaker 4: a child. 621 00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:14,639 Speaker 2: The record stops. 622 00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,160 Speaker 1: Unless it was really packing in the pants. 623 00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:24,240 Speaker 2: Back in the band, just like, okay, you're a try pod. 624 00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:27,200 Speaker 2: It's fine, right? Did I say that loud? Yes? 625 00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:29,840 Speaker 3: Bral on the same patrio. 626 00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:31,719 Speaker 2: Yeah no. 627 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:35,320 Speaker 3: The It's also a very big financial thing because you know. 628 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:36,800 Speaker 1: Kids are not cheap. 629 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:40,240 Speaker 3: You know, I'm paying twenty thousand dollars for preschool Montessori like. 630 00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:43,280 Speaker 2: We just waiting, just wait till they go to college. 631 00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:43,560 Speaker 1: Yeah. 632 00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:45,960 Speaker 4: No, see, I just finished everything. I'm like, oh god, 633 00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:48,520 Speaker 4: I was like wow. I was like, I was like, 634 00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:49,960 Speaker 4: oh my god, I'm just going to buy those shoes, 635 00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:51,640 Speaker 4: and I just don't. I'm not like, oh my god, 636 00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:52,760 Speaker 4: I can't buy those shoes. 637 00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:55,200 Speaker 1: Stop bragging my kids. In law school, we never paid 638 00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:56,640 Speaker 1: more for Oh my god. 639 00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:57,760 Speaker 3: It's a good investment. 640 00:27:57,840 --> 00:27:58,600 Speaker 2: It's an investment. 641 00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:01,360 Speaker 1: You don't think about it that way, but still fair enough. 642 00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:09,480 Speaker 2: I really like shoes. Yeah. So singing, Yes, I watched 643 00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:13,119 Speaker 2: this video of you singing. You have a beautiful voice. 644 00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:13,720 Speaker 3: Thank you. 645 00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:16,760 Speaker 2: Oh my god. I enjoy it a lot. Did you 646 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:20,359 Speaker 2: and Luanne sing on the show together? Yes, we did 647 00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:26,359 Speaker 2: sing guys singing something to live for. Oh my god. 648 00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,280 Speaker 3: I don't know if it's on camera now and I think. 649 00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,080 Speaker 2: Of it, but you're wearing a fedora is all I 650 00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:31,439 Speaker 2: want to know. 651 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:34,119 Speaker 3: Yes, So I went into Luane's room and she fitted 652 00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:36,560 Speaker 3: me in the door and a fedora that fit my 653 00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:38,640 Speaker 3: face oh wow, and my bone structure. 654 00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:38,920 Speaker 2: Okay. 655 00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:40,240 Speaker 3: She was very intentional about that. 656 00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 4: Jam Sash, Duane and I were in Morocco. We she 657 00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:48,640 Speaker 4: had she shared Her room was right next to mine, 658 00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:50,480 Speaker 4: and at night we were just She'd be like, what 659 00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:52,120 Speaker 4: are you doing. I'm like, I'm just laying bad. She's 660 00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:53,440 Speaker 4: like come over. I'm like okay, I'm like, I'm in 661 00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:55,520 Speaker 4: my underwear. She's like, fine, coming. We would literally sit 662 00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:57,560 Speaker 4: there in our underwear, drinking wine. I was like, you, guys, 663 00:28:57,520 --> 00:29:01,080 Speaker 4: you're missing everything we're in. I was in like, we're 664 00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:04,080 Speaker 4: like no clothes and we're having the best time. And 665 00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:06,040 Speaker 4: I mean, she's she's a great. 666 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,280 Speaker 1: I'm just wondering why you both didn't have clothes on 667 00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:13,000 Speaker 1: because I clo It was like, yeah, like in my 668 00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:15,760 Speaker 1: underwear and I'm seeing lots of wine and Kelly and 669 00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:16,880 Speaker 1: Luanne unclothed. 670 00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:20,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, lots lot of money for a lot of money. 671 00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:22,080 Speaker 2: What was it? What were the songs you guys were saying? 672 00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:23,680 Speaker 2: Can we get? Can we get? Like a couple of hones? 673 00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,760 Speaker 3: I can't even remember. We would just like jam out. 674 00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:28,760 Speaker 3: She would like put a song on and she started 675 00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:32,240 Speaker 3: singing and dancing in our bathing suits. So pretty close to. 676 00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:35,160 Speaker 4: You, guys, Yeah, exactly, so same vibe, Yeah, same vibe. Actually, 677 00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:37,120 Speaker 4: you had a Fedora on didn't count. 678 00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:40,960 Speaker 1: I'm like the Queen of shallow questions sometimes, but I 679 00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:44,040 Speaker 1: have to know how do you have that body? I mean, 680 00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:45,240 Speaker 1: what do you do? What are you doing? 681 00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:45,520 Speaker 4: Like? 682 00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:47,360 Speaker 1: Are you working out like a crazy person? What is 683 00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:47,800 Speaker 1: going on? 684 00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:50,560 Speaker 2: We have a lot of sex. Hello? Is that you know? 685 00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:51,680 Speaker 2: I do have a glow about me. 686 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:55,720 Speaker 3: Yes, I I do work out a lot. I work 687 00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:58,400 Speaker 3: out four to five days a week. Yeah, it's just 688 00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:00,560 Speaker 3: I don't know. Since I was twelve, been doing it 689 00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:00,920 Speaker 3: me too. 690 00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:02,360 Speaker 2: I just like it. I don't do it. 691 00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:04,400 Speaker 4: Everyone's like, you want to be skinny. I'm like, actually no, 692 00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:08,280 Speaker 4: I like just be fitting in my brain like yeah, booty, 693 00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,200 Speaker 4: but okay, and building that booty exactly. 694 00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:11,920 Speaker 2: I just had squatted before. I had a red light 695 00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:13,920 Speaker 2: mascot and I was like, squat squad. I'm like, oh, deeper. 696 00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:15,920 Speaker 1: Hello. We were away in health. I got to this 697 00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,000 Speaker 1: hotel next morning. She had to catch an early plane 698 00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:19,800 Speaker 1: and she's like, no, I'm at the gym. I'm like, 699 00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:20,360 Speaker 1: you're at the what. 700 00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:24,840 Speaker 2: I just just like I like it before we leave. 701 00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:27,400 Speaker 4: First of all, you are gorgeous and sweet and kind 702 00:30:27,440 --> 00:30:29,360 Speaker 4: and you and I met in the elevator and I 703 00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:30,560 Speaker 4: was just like, who are you? 704 00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:32,120 Speaker 2: I was like, we need to be friends and I 705 00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:32,520 Speaker 2: love you. 706 00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:36,560 Speaker 1: Do you remember where we met the first time? Overwhelmed? No, 707 00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:40,240 Speaker 1: wasn't Teresa's wedding. Yes, not her wedding at her wedding 708 00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:42,000 Speaker 1: show shower shower. 709 00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:43,560 Speaker 3: Yes, because you guys were filming them. 710 00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:44,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're filming it. 711 00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:47,000 Speaker 2: Yeah. It is such a sister the Housewives. 712 00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:48,680 Speaker 4: I mean, it's so great, but I have to ask you, 713 00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:52,160 Speaker 4: what are your thoughts on New York as a fellow 714 00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:56,040 Speaker 4: O G like and a big, big, big New York housewife. 715 00:30:56,720 --> 00:30:58,800 Speaker 4: It made me really upset to watch them. I'm just like, 716 00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:01,680 Speaker 4: first of all, you don't have jobs, so like I 717 00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:03,280 Speaker 4: had a job when I was on Housewife, I had 718 00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:05,920 Speaker 4: young children, like we had like a really I had 719 00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:09,160 Speaker 4: a very very strong narrative and I'm not wasn't pushing 720 00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:12,160 Speaker 4: a brand like at all, and so it was just 721 00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:14,040 Speaker 4: very weird. It was like, well, me and my brand, 722 00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:16,080 Speaker 4: I'm like, I don't even know what brand you're talking about. 723 00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:19,480 Speaker 2: I'm an influencer for whom, Like, I don't even know 724 00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:20,360 Speaker 2: what what does that mean? 725 00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:23,680 Speaker 4: Like, we don't like we had real people like Luanne 726 00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:27,480 Speaker 4: and I had met in the Hampton's multiple times. I mean, yes, 727 00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:29,880 Speaker 4: Bethany had come to my house and was, yeah, looking 728 00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,640 Speaker 4: through all my things, true story, but you know, like 729 00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:37,400 Speaker 4: that we had some kind of connection between us, and I. 730 00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:39,280 Speaker 2: Just felt that was super disconnected. I tried. 731 00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:42,040 Speaker 4: I tried to watch it, and I tried to be like, 732 00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:46,040 Speaker 4: you know, like supportive, but I couldn't. 733 00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:47,920 Speaker 1: I was just I didn't see any kind of real 734 00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:52,840 Speaker 1: uh kinship. I didn't see any real connection. I don't 735 00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:55,000 Speaker 1: think any of it was lat like. And again, I 736 00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:57,080 Speaker 1: loved a couple of those women that I got. 737 00:31:57,240 --> 00:31:59,640 Speaker 4: I know Jenna, I worked with her like one hundred 738 00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:01,760 Speaker 4: years a go, and Uber and I are friends, so 739 00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:03,920 Speaker 4: it's not like I don't know some of these women. 740 00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:06,440 Speaker 4: But I just was like they needed like someone to 741 00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:09,400 Speaker 4: be like, you guys should talk about this. 742 00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:12,400 Speaker 1: I didn't see. I just didn't see any kind of clicking. 743 00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:14,200 Speaker 1: I know they didn't. I didn't, And it wasn't fun 744 00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:15,080 Speaker 1: It wasn't funny. 745 00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:17,760 Speaker 3: Well, it seemed like maybe the ladies were editing themselves 746 00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:19,800 Speaker 3: a little bit too much too. I mean, you have 747 00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:21,720 Speaker 3: to be willing to make a fool of yourself to 748 00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:23,800 Speaker 3: a degree because you're not always going to be perfect 749 00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:25,640 Speaker 3: You're not always going to have your makeup and your 750 00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:28,160 Speaker 3: hair right. You're gonna say dumb stuff right, So you 751 00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:30,920 Speaker 3: just have to be prepared to go through that and 752 00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:31,760 Speaker 3: to be present. 753 00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:34,760 Speaker 4: But I also love like you and Giselle are really 754 00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:36,920 Speaker 4: really good friends, and you guys are working together and 755 00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:38,960 Speaker 4: you do all these things together. I mean, like Jen 756 00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:41,960 Speaker 4: and I met through Housewives and we've become really good friends. 757 00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:44,040 Speaker 2: We have we have so much fun together. 758 00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:48,120 Speaker 4: And I I've met so many I've met so I 759 00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:49,320 Speaker 4: have so many like Sutton and I. 760 00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:50,480 Speaker 2: Are really really good friends. 761 00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:52,400 Speaker 4: Obviously, Luanne and I are really good friends. I mean 762 00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:55,080 Speaker 4: I have so many friends that are from even before 763 00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:58,200 Speaker 4: they were housewives, and you know now they were so 764 00:32:58,280 --> 00:32:59,040 Speaker 4: much closer. 765 00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:02,880 Speaker 2: But it is such a it's such a sorority. I mean, 766 00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:05,480 Speaker 2: it really really is. And I'm just so happy that 767 00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:06,520 Speaker 2: you had the best time in love. Hope. 768 00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:08,560 Speaker 4: We want you to find love because you know what 769 00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:10,640 Speaker 4: you deserve it and living well and finding love is 770 00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:11,320 Speaker 4: the best revenge. 771 00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:13,440 Speaker 1: Yes, I have to say, and I know this is shallow, 772 00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:16,200 Speaker 1: but like, I'm so not worried about you Ashley Darby, 773 00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:17,680 Speaker 1: Hell about. 774 00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:18,880 Speaker 2: Her not just. 775 00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:22,880 Speaker 1: Look at her and you should by the way you 776 00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:26,480 Speaker 1: should enjoy this single time because it ain't gonna last. 777 00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:28,520 Speaker 2: Oh I'm fifty seven. It's lasting. 778 00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:30,440 Speaker 1: It's not lasting. It's not a couple. 779 00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:33,320 Speaker 3: I mean, I am a lover girl. So I'm trying 780 00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:34,680 Speaker 3: to like you my wits about me a little bit 781 00:33:34,680 --> 00:33:36,600 Speaker 3: because that can fall and fall hard and fast. 782 00:33:36,920 --> 00:33:38,880 Speaker 2: You know me too. I'm trying to not do that too. 783 00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:40,480 Speaker 1: I'm trying to be like, yeah. 784 00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:43,520 Speaker 3: Your friends have to keep you accountable. So Jen's gonna 785 00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:45,920 Speaker 3: help you make sure that you keep your priorities right. 786 00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:48,360 Speaker 3: You know, you need to do your non negotiables list. 787 00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:50,920 Speaker 3: I worked with a confidence coach, Yeah, and she made 788 00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:53,440 Speaker 3: me write down like the things that I was looking for, 789 00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:57,320 Speaker 3: but to the finest details. Share share Share like about 790 00:33:57,360 --> 00:34:02,479 Speaker 3: teeth and breath is a breath was like number two 791 00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:03,040 Speaker 3: on the list. 792 00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:05,360 Speaker 1: I think it's because I have had in my life 793 00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:08,080 Speaker 1: like chronic calatosis, Like I've been very I'm always conscious 794 00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:09,359 Speaker 1: of it because there was I went through a phase 795 00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:12,160 Speaker 1: when I first got veneers no where I was like, 796 00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:13,960 Speaker 1: I felt like the people that were closest to me, 797 00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:16,520 Speaker 1: so I appreciate, like, dude, you got bad breath. And 798 00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:19,920 Speaker 1: I became so self conscious of it but now, and 799 00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:22,200 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm very conscious of it, and when someone 800 00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:24,480 Speaker 1: has bad breath it almost pisses me off. It's like, 801 00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:26,759 Speaker 1: because you can do something about it, how dare you. 802 00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:28,840 Speaker 2: I don't brush your tongue. 803 00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:30,960 Speaker 4: Get a listing thing, go to the doctor, go to 804 00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:31,759 Speaker 4: the doctor. 805 00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:35,120 Speaker 2: Figure at the pH like, you can do it bio. 806 00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:37,040 Speaker 3: But you know, there's this other thing. It's like the 807 00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:38,800 Speaker 3: pheromones where it's not even your breath. 808 00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:39,279 Speaker 2: It's just like. 809 00:34:41,880 --> 00:34:44,520 Speaker 3: No, but it's not like must or anything. It's just 810 00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:47,920 Speaker 3: like your natural scent. Right, there was a guy and 811 00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:49,640 Speaker 3: I went in to kiss him and then I paused 812 00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,759 Speaker 3: right before because his pheromones hit me and my nose 813 00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:56,319 Speaker 3: scrunched up, and I was like, I'm about facing right now. 814 00:34:56,520 --> 00:34:58,440 Speaker 1: Yes, I think you'm being very kind. I think you 815 00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:00,319 Speaker 1: probably had body odor. But no, what. 816 00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:04,239 Speaker 2: That is or anything? No, no, no, it's like it's pheromones. 817 00:35:04,320 --> 00:35:08,080 Speaker 4: And it's interesting because they that's why everyone in the 818 00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,760 Speaker 4: fifties like they were together because they had these pheromos. 819 00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:12,680 Speaker 4: They were they were put together, but then they stayed 820 00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:14,799 Speaker 4: together because they're like, we're going to make kids. And 821 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:17,640 Speaker 4: then you know, in the seventies you are like I'm 822 00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:20,160 Speaker 4: on the pill. You can't smell when you're on the pill. 823 00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:24,239 Speaker 4: I heard that, So you don't know who is who 824 00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:25,960 Speaker 4: and then all of a sudden you go off the pill. 825 00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:29,480 Speaker 4: And that's why people are like, I'm sorry, who are you? Yes, like, 826 00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:33,000 Speaker 4: we're not friends here, Like you smell and I don't 827 00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:33,200 Speaker 4: like you. 828 00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:35,400 Speaker 1: So wait, some fat bad breath. Okay, just give us 829 00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:37,200 Speaker 1: one more non negotiable. 830 00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:37,560 Speaker 2: Teeth, bad breath. 831 00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:39,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, teeth and bad breath way up there. 832 00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:40,600 Speaker 2: She's a big smell for anything else. 833 00:35:41,120 --> 00:35:43,120 Speaker 3: You have to love your mom. If you talk bad 834 00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:44,799 Speaker 3: about your mom, you have nothing to say to me. 835 00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:47,040 Speaker 4: One hundred percent. So what about your ex wife? How 836 00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:48,719 Speaker 4: do you feel about like when they talk badly about 837 00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:49,320 Speaker 4: their axes. 838 00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:52,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not a huge fan of that either, you know. 839 00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:54,080 Speaker 2: I mean then like they're gonna talk badly about you? 840 00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:56,640 Speaker 3: Well, there are some pretty hideous people out there. Let's 841 00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:59,600 Speaker 3: just keep it a buck there are You know, maybe 842 00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:01,279 Speaker 3: the way that you talk about it could be a. 843 00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:02,640 Speaker 2: Little softer, right exactly? 844 00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:06,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, Yeah, I'm never my lobster, like whatever, right, that's 845 00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:07,160 Speaker 4: what I always say. 846 00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:08,160 Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm not my lobster. 847 00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:12,200 Speaker 1: Yes, Actually, Darby, you are a gift to us. 848 00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:12,440 Speaker 4: All. 849 00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:15,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't wait. I mean, I'm not. I really 850 00:36:15,719 --> 00:36:18,120 Speaker 1: I want to sort of corner you now and make 851 00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:20,279 Speaker 1: you tell me what's going to happen. But I'm not 852 00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:20,920 Speaker 1: going to be exciting. 853 00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:23,200 Speaker 3: I'm not doing it for you, Jo, I'm enjoying it. 854 00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:25,680 Speaker 5: Really, you guys just take a photo because yes, but 855 00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:26,200 Speaker 5: you guys. 856 00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:28,439 Speaker 1: If you whoever's listening, I am telling you right now, 857 00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:31,200 Speaker 1: trust me on this. It's different. I feel like it's 858 00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:34,400 Speaker 1: different than any of the recent Bravo shows. From being honest, 859 00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:37,080 Speaker 1: like I love, I do. I agree Crappy Lake, there 860 00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,080 Speaker 1: was something about it was and there's something about Leve 861 00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:42,160 Speaker 1: Hotel that's not I didn't expect it. It's fun to 862 00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:42,880 Speaker 1: watch you guys. 863 00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:45,000 Speaker 3: Okay, but have you guys seen the new wife swap 864 00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:45,759 Speaker 3: one that they're doing. 865 00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:48,480 Speaker 1: I know they're doing it, Okay, I do. I can't 866 00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:48,840 Speaker 1: wait for. 867 00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:54,440 Speaker 3: This freshness that's coming. Yes, I love, Yes, Yeah. 868 00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:55,520 Speaker 1: I agree, I agree. 869 00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:57,520 Speaker 2: An interesting way of using us too. 870 00:36:57,840 --> 00:37:00,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, but in like a good way and really good way. 871 00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:00,919 Speaker 2: Yeah. 872 00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:01,560 Speaker 3: Yeah. 873 00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:05,520 Speaker 2: Big fan, Yeah, big fan, big fan. Yes, Sunshine. 874 00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:09,560 Speaker 1: Ashley again, thank you, we love you. We can't wait 875 00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:12,120 Speaker 1: to see how it all pans. Out you guys. Just 876 00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:14,360 Speaker 1: be sure to check out the new episodes on Bravo 877 00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:17,360 Speaker 1: and also listeners. We would like to hear from you please. 878 00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:19,560 Speaker 1: Are you not having luck in the dating department? Do 879 00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:22,560 Speaker 1: you need any help? Email us or call us. We're 880 00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:25,200 Speaker 1: here to help. All the info is in the show notes. 881 00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:27,719 Speaker 1: Please follow us on socials. Make sure to rate and 882 00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:31,360 Speaker 1: review the podcast I Do Part two, an iHeart podcast 883 00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:33,880 Speaker 1: where falling in love is the main objective.