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Speaker 1: Thank you nephew. Subject why is my mom sharing my daddy?

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm thirty three years old and I

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Speaker 1: moved back to my hometown two months ago. My dad

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Speaker 1: is ill and my mother is doing the best she

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Speaker 1: can to take care of him. At least that's what

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Speaker 1: she told me. I kicked right in and started taking

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Speaker 1: Daddy to the doctor and to get his medication. When

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Speaker 1: I couldn't do it because of work, Daddy had another

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Speaker 1: woman taking him, and I thought she was some kind

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Speaker 1: of nurse or assistant that his insurance provided. My mom

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Speaker 1: said it was just a lady that my dad. Well.

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Speaker 1: One day Dad called me and asked me could I

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Speaker 1: drop him off at a restaurant and he would get

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Speaker 1: a ride home. I took him and walked him inside.

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Speaker 1: He met with the lady that I thought was his

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Speaker 1: home health nurse. He said it was her birthday, so

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Speaker 1: I told her happy birthday. I called Mama and asked

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Speaker 1: if she was going to join them. I didn't care

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Speaker 1: if I was being messy by alerting my mom that

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Speaker 1: my dad was having dinner with the woman. Mama said

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Speaker 1: it's a special occasion for her, so she was allowing

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Speaker 1: my dad to spend some time with her alone. I

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Speaker 1: went by my mom and dad's house to wait for

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Speaker 1: Dad with her. He got home three hours later and

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Speaker 1: he had a milkshake. He said they went for a

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Speaker 1: birthday treat. My mom had already gone to bed, so

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Speaker 1: I asked him if the woman is a nurse or

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Speaker 1: his girlfriend. He said she's a little bit of both,

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Speaker 1: and he said to talk to my mom about it.

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Speaker 1: The next morning, Mama told me that she lets Dad

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Speaker 1: entertain himself in that way because he's sick. My dad

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Speaker 1: isn't terminally ill, so why is my mom allowing this?

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Speaker 1: She seems so sad about it. Should I confront my

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Speaker 1: daddy about cheating on my mom. Look, these are your parents,

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Speaker 1: and you can ask them. It's nothing wrong with that.

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Speaker 1: But you talk to them already and they both gave

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Speaker 1: you their answers. The woman is a nurse and a

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Speaker 1: girlfriend to your dad, and your mom lets him see

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Speaker 1: her because he's sick, And as weird as it sounds,

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Speaker 1: that's what they told you. Obviously, your mom and dad

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Speaker 1: have some sort of crazy arrangement going on here. Your

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Speaker 1: dad also told you to ask your mom, which meant

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Speaker 1: that your mom is well aware of what's going on

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Speaker 1: in this situation. This is not a secret between them.

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Speaker 1: You can ask her if this is making her sad,

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Speaker 1: why is she allowing your dad to see this other woman?

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Speaker 1: But again, she told you because he's sick, she knows

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Speaker 1: what he's doing. She didn't even stay up and wait

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Speaker 1: for him to get back. She was in bed before

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Speaker 1: he got home from his date with the other woman.

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Speaker 1: So is she really sad about it like you say?

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Speaker 1: And your dad might not be that's sick either, not

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Speaker 1: if he has the energy to have a wife and

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Speaker 1: a side chick. You said he's not terminally ill, so

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Speaker 1: this just must be something they've decided to do. I

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Speaker 1: know you care about what's going on with your parents.

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Speaker 1: But as strange as it is, it's their business. And

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Speaker 1: don't be shocked if you do confront them that they

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Speaker 1: may or may not give you what you want. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: this is crazy, Steve, ain't no secrets.

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Speaker 2: Why is my mom sharing my daddy? Well, you Shanny,

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Speaker 2: So let's just get into it. You're thirty three. You

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Speaker 2: to move back to your hometown a couple months ago.

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Speaker 2: Your dad is ill. Now, y'all ain't saying what he got,

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Speaker 2: So I just come up with something on my own. Lay,

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Speaker 2: don't My mother's doing the best she can to take

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Speaker 2: care of him, at least that's what she's saying. So

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Speaker 2: you jumped in and helped out taking Daddy to the

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Speaker 2: doctor to get his medicine. And when I couldn't do

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Speaker 2: it because of work, Daddy had another woman taken him,

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Speaker 2: and I thought she was some kind of nurse or

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Speaker 2: assistant that his insurance provided. Well, it ain't that the

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Speaker 2: nice cove up he got, y'all thinking or you thinking

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Speaker 2: it's potentially a nurse that the insurance has provided. My

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Speaker 2: mom said it was just a lady that my daddy know,

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Speaker 2: which means your mother is aware of this. Well, one

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Speaker 2: day daddy called me in to ask if I could

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Speaker 2: drop him off at a restaurant and he would get

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Speaker 2: a ride home. Now, I'm assuming since you came into

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Speaker 2: town and you done jumped in the kicky and to

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Speaker 2: take to get his medicine take him to the doctor,

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Speaker 2: that you do it when your mama came. I'm assuming

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Speaker 2: maybe your mama is at work with the car. See,

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Speaker 2: because I thank your daddy and mama got a car.

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Speaker 2: But I think mama got the car. She's overwhelmed with

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Speaker 2: going to work and taking him places. So now you

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Speaker 2: done jumped in and kicked in. So this one day

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Speaker 2: he asked you if you could call you and ask

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Speaker 2: you if you drop him off at the restaurant, he'll

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Speaker 2: get a ride home. This is hustling too hard for me.

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Speaker 2: All he getting to ride home, got a lift app

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Speaker 2: or uber app. But he fixed all that because he

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Speaker 2: got this woman. So I took him and walked him inside.

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Speaker 2: He didn't ask you for that. All he did was

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Speaker 2: so how sick is he? Where? You got to walk

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Speaker 2: him inside? But you took your nose. He ass in

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Speaker 2: that to walk him inside this restaurant because you wanted

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Speaker 2: to know what was going on. He met with the

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Speaker 2: lady that I thought was his home hell care, and

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Speaker 2: she is. That's what she is. She is the home

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Speaker 2: healthcare provided. Yes, he said it was her birthday, so

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Speaker 2: I told her happy birthday. Oh now the mama, no,

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Speaker 2: the daddy know. Now you done join in talking about

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Speaker 2: happy birthday. So now yo, you involved too, now cause

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Speaker 2: you at the birthday party. I called mama and asked

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Speaker 2: if she was gonna join him. And I don't care

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Speaker 2: if I was being messy by a learning my mom

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Speaker 2: and my dad was having dinner with the woman. When

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Speaker 2: we come back, I'm gonna tell you the rest of them,

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Speaker 2: and it ain't gonna be that shocking.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of your response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject

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Speaker 1: why is my mom sharing my daddy? Right after this,

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Speaker 1: you're listening hard Morning Show. All right, Steve, come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter, the subject why is my

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Speaker 1: mom sharing my daddy?

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Speaker 2: First of all, this ain't your business, but since you

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Speaker 2: want to make it yours, it's time for you to

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Speaker 2: have a grown folk. Come to Jesus. Now your daddy's sick.

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Speaker 2: You to move back home. You started helping out, taking

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Speaker 2: it to the doctor, getting his medicine. Obviously, your mama

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Speaker 2: is still working. Or and your mama and they got

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Speaker 2: one car, and your mama stay in the car. So

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Speaker 2: now when she can't do it, you got to do it.

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Speaker 2: And then sometimes you got to go to work yourself.

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Speaker 2: And so then he had another lady come by. You

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Speaker 2: thought this lady was the home care health provider. The

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Speaker 2: mama know about the lady. The daddy't know about the lady.

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Speaker 2: And now you know about the lady. So his mama

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Speaker 2: was at work and couldn't take him somewhere. So your

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Speaker 2: him off at a restaurant and he would get a

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Speaker 2: ride home. Or you're living nosey ass. Take him down

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Speaker 2: to the restaurant. You walk inside. Now if is he

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Speaker 2: is he is, I don't know what his sickness is,

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Speaker 2: but he didn't need walking inside. But you took it

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Speaker 2: in there. And now the lady was there, you thought

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Speaker 2: was the nurse. So then he said that it was

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Speaker 2: her birthday, so I told her happy birthday. So now

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Speaker 2: you done joined in and you participating in it. The

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Speaker 2: Mama know he knew it. So then you went home

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Speaker 2: with your little messy self and called Mama and asked

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Speaker 2: if she was gonna join him. I didn't care if

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Speaker 2: I was being messy by alerting my mom that my

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Speaker 2: was a special occasion for her, so she was allowing

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Speaker 2: my dad to spend some time with her alone. I

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Speaker 2: be there. I have got to get me a sickness.

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Speaker 2: What a work of this gotta be right up your ass, boy,

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Speaker 2: it's finna be. This is one glorious occasion. She told

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Speaker 2: you that it's a special occasion, so she was allowing

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Speaker 2: my dad's spend some time with her lung. I went

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Speaker 2: by mom and Dad's house to wait for my daddy

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Speaker 2: with her. He got home some three hours later, and

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Speaker 2: he had a milkshake. He said. They went for a

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Speaker 2: birthday treat. I know that's right, And the milkshake was

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Speaker 2: just to cover who's sure, guy hot in here swinging

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Speaker 2: by steak and shake. Girl, let me get that chocolate

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Speaker 2: shirt going. So he walked in the house, swirled in

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Speaker 2: the cup. They went by for a birthday treat. Now

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Speaker 2: they got to be old, so now Rupe, you're sitting

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Speaker 2: in the house with Ruby. He done just left Estale

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Speaker 2: down at the motor end to swing by the steak

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Speaker 2: and shake. Now you, Jocelyn, you sitting in the house

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Speaker 2: with Ruby and a stalon. Just tighten your daddy up

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Speaker 2: with a special birthday treat and he come back in

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Speaker 2: with a milkshake to cover for it. Three hours. There's

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Speaker 2: plenty of time. And then so I asked him if

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Speaker 2: the woman is a nurse or his girlfriend. He said

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Speaker 2: she a little bit of both, and he said, go

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Speaker 2: talk to your mama about it. So now the next morning,

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Speaker 2: Mama told me that she lets dad entertain himself in

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Speaker 2: that way because he's sick. We got two sick ass

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Speaker 2: dudes on the show right here. We got one that's

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Speaker 2: clear and we got one that's surviving. So now fellas see,

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Speaker 2: y'all ain't been using y'all illness system right, y'all could

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Speaker 2: have had you an in home nurse care provider PROD.

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Speaker 2: Boh boy, boy, Now, Tommy, I know your wife. You

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Speaker 2: ain't gonna be able to sell that one. So you

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Speaker 2: sit your ass down to be quiet. Junior, You show

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Speaker 2: better not say that so y'all can take y'allself out

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Speaker 2: of the little we sick two categories. It's too late

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Speaker 2: for me. I know better than this. Right here, My

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Speaker 2: dad isn't terminally ill? So why is my mom allowing this?

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Speaker 2: She seems so sad about it? Should I confront my

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Speaker 2: daddy about cheating? No, Mama, what are you gonna confront him?

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Speaker 1: For?

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Speaker 2: Everybody know, yo, Mama said, because your daddy is sick,

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Speaker 2: she allows this. Now, your daddy is not terminally ill,

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Speaker 2: So what do your daddy? Well, let's talk about your

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Speaker 2: daddy had diabetes, he got sugar. People with sugar need

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Speaker 2: a lot of other sugar. So maybe maybe it's that

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Speaker 2: right there, Maybe your daddy got a like a heart murmur.

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Speaker 2: Maybe your daddy uh oh, here we go. Maybe your

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Speaker 2: daddy been with your mama so long that your mama

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Speaker 2: that got tired of your daddy and she don't service

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Speaker 2: your daddy no more. And because he's sick, she really

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Speaker 2: don't feel like it. So she done gave him permission

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Speaker 2: go get service where he want to, because I done

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Speaker 2: lost my desire for it. So I told your daddy,

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Speaker 2: And then your daddy came in here and told me

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Speaker 2: whatever time he got left, he won't enjoy hisself. So

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Speaker 2: your daddy got a little girlfriend and I ain't going nowhere,

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Speaker 2: but I ain't servicing him and she do.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve.

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Speaker 2: You can confront your daddy if you want to, But

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