Speaker 1: Happy bonus episode and guess what, you guys, it is
Speaker 1: our motherfucking third year in adverse thy, I can't believe
Speaker 1: that we have been doing this for fucking three years.
Speaker 1: This is absolutely crazy. He We love you, b C.
Speaker 1: We're having a roll up event, meaning we're inviting you
Speaker 1: guys to come have a smoke session with us tonight, Monday,
Speaker 1: March eighth, at six point thirty. It's free to all
Speaker 1: of our tribe at Patreon. If you are a patron,
Speaker 1: then you are getting that zoom link. But if you
Speaker 1: want to join the tribe, go ahead. You know it's
Speaker 1: about this time. It's about time to just join Patreon,
Speaker 1: support the movement, and come roll up with good moms
Speaker 1: and hang out with me and Mila, because you know,
Speaker 1: I think we need a little catchup. You know, we've
Speaker 1: been doing money March and focusing on finance, but you
Speaker 1: know there's still shit going on over here. We need
Speaker 1: to work out. There's some things we need to work through.
Speaker 1: So we love to connect with you guys, and a
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Speaker 1: I'll leave the details right here in the episode description.
Speaker 1: We'll see you tonight. Enjoy this episode.
Speaker 2: To welcome.
Speaker 1: Like cute, Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm
Speaker 1: Erica and I'm Mela. And it's Wednesday, Bach No Bitch
Speaker 1: is Monday, Monday, and this.
Speaker 2: Is a very very special episode of Bonus Special Drop
Speaker 2: because today, Ladies and Gentlemen.
Speaker 1: Is International Women's Day and also the day we launched
Speaker 1: our motherfucking podcasts.
Speaker 2: Happy through your anniversary, Baby, Hi WiFi, Hi, I love you,
Speaker 2: I love you.
Speaker 1: Happy anniversary.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, look at us three years later doing the
Speaker 2: motherfucking thing. I'm you believe we're still here? No, I
Speaker 2: mean I can. But also, oh my god, can I
Speaker 2: be rich already? You know what?
Speaker 1: We are recording at Lack Create Space, which is an
Speaker 1: upgrade from my house. This is true.
Speaker 2: We're almost there. Thank you so much to lot Create
Speaker 2: Space in Englewood, who is supporting today's episode. It is
Speaker 2: beautiful on here. It is black owned. It is a
Speaker 2: coworking space and a production space for all of your
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Speaker 1: Make sure you hit them up. If you're creative, if
Speaker 1: you have a podcast, if you need things created and shot.
Speaker 2: And edit it. Check out our patreon to see at
Speaker 2: this beautiful space that we're at. There's a lot of
Speaker 2: black art behind us. There's very classy microphones, you know,
Speaker 2: me and Erica, I don't leave the valley often, so
Speaker 2: you know, I had to be a motherfucking special occasion
Speaker 2: for us to get our asses about the valley and
Speaker 2: come to Englewood and get our record on. So I'm
Speaker 2: really happy to be here you too, well, Happy anniversary, boo. Thanks.
Speaker 2: I can't believe that we've been doing this every fucking
Speaker 2: Wednesday for three years.
Speaker 1: I know, and thank you guys for tuning in, Like
Speaker 1: I know some of you guys listening have been listening
Speaker 1: from the very beginning, like twenty eighteen beginning, And if
Speaker 1: you are just joining us and you've listened through all
Speaker 1: one hundred and fifty five of our episodes, I think
Speaker 1: that's where we're at right about now.
Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you, thank you for sticking.
Speaker 1: Through all of our growth, all of our fuck ups,
Speaker 1: all of our wins, all of our cries.
Speaker 2: All our craziness, all of our breakups, our confusion, just
Speaker 2: all of it, us wanting to get boyfriends, also saying
Speaker 2: fuck niggas, being good moms making questionable decisions. Thank you,
Speaker 2: thank you so much for bearing with us, and like
Speaker 2: not only bearing with us, but like supporting us and
Speaker 2: loving us in it. I still can't I believe the
Speaker 2: amount of the very little amount of hate mail that
Speaker 2: we get.
Speaker 1: I know, I's gotually a website somewhere we haven't checked.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't really check ever, but there's got
Speaker 1: to be a site where people are hating, right, I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm sure we just are we just like we're just
Speaker 1: not rich and famouss and highly favored. We're just not
Speaker 1: famous in a hashtag bleussed hashack bless. Yeah, I'm so
Speaker 1: excited and I'm I'm so grateful, but you know, it's
Speaker 1: so funny. Side note to this morning me and Jamila.
Speaker 1: I was texting Jamila because we had a former guest
Speaker 1: on that heard some tweets came out recently and they
Speaker 1: were not good. If you listen to the podcast, you
Speaker 1: know who I'm talking about. Maybe maybe not just google it.
Speaker 1: I don't know. But I was like, Mila, I don't
Speaker 1: have Twitter, so I know I didn't say no crazy shit,
Speaker 1: but what the fuck did you do? So what have
Speaker 1: you been on Twitter? What are you tweeting? What have
Speaker 1: you tweeted in twenty twelve? Bitch? And she was like,
Speaker 1: I didn't. I don't know, like I didn't really tweet anything.
Speaker 2: I'm like, let me go look.
Speaker 1: First of all, I.
Speaker 2: Don't even know how to work Twitter anymore. So when
Speaker 2: I went to go look, I was like, wow, I
Speaker 2: guess I did know how to use Twitter at one time.
Speaker 2: Of fucking tweets, bitch, how did you tweet a lot?
Speaker 2: And ill suddenly you don't even know how to log
Speaker 2: on Anyway, if anyone wants to find me on Twitter,
Speaker 2: it's peebee and jam jam.
Speaker 1: Is that what it is? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Jamjam. Anyway, I start scrolling through my millions of tweets,
Speaker 2: because clearly I was a tweeter, and I'm like, I
Speaker 2: love the gaze. I'm like, oh no, that's I was like,
Speaker 2: that's very unbranded. Then I'm like I keep looking.
Speaker 1: He's like like, what did you say something about like
Speaker 1: being naked or something? Then you talked about white women
Speaker 1: and anal.
Speaker 2: I was like, white women love anal.
Speaker 1: Little did you know you'd be driving past the airport
Speaker 1: for anal. As a matter of fact, we're kind of
Speaker 1: close to the airport right now. You can't get some anal,
Speaker 1: you know, you know. I thought about it.
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm halfway up the foural five.
Speaker 1: You have your crotchless panties with you, bro, I don't
Speaker 1: hair's done now? You looking really cute? You know.
Speaker 2: I did my hair just in case I did drive
Speaker 2: past the airport and to get some man.
Speaker 1: Do you act of that asshole?
Speaker 2: No? You know what he likes hairiness? Oh, he likes
Speaker 2: hair everywhere, Like if I shave, he gets irritated. I
Speaker 2: don't see him that often, so I'm like, I'm not
Speaker 2: gonna be hairy y'all fucking month long for you. I
Speaker 2: wax my asshole.
Speaker 1: Wow, this is what I always were, an esthetician. You know,
Speaker 1: I know you got the wax.
Speaker 2: I don't want to wax my own asshole, though I could,
Speaker 2: though it's less. I tried to wax my own bikini
Speaker 2: and that was not fun.
Speaker 1: What other tweets did you find? Oh?
Speaker 2: I found all these tweets about black people, but at
Speaker 2: least it was abound our own people, and it was
Speaker 2: all true, like black people always want to know if
Speaker 2: you have flavored iced tea or lemonade. And oh, also
Speaker 2: black people always want extra dressing before you even taste
Speaker 2: the salad. This is also when I was a waitress,
Speaker 2: so This is all related to black people ordering shit.
Speaker 2: They don't need. Black people always want moscato. So that's
Speaker 2: all true. So I don't really care if anyone digs
Speaker 2: that up. When I get famous next year, come at
Speaker 2: me with that shit.
Speaker 1: She already said it. You heard it here first bitch
Speaker 1: had what.
Speaker 2: I said, Niggas love Sauce extra Ranch. Now I'm niggas.
Speaker 2: Oh so, because okay, today's our anniversary. It's also national
Speaker 2: it's International Women's Day. That's today. We launched three long
Speaker 2: years ago. I first of all, Eric is like my
Speaker 2: twin flame. So this week she's been really going hard
Speaker 2: on like Hinge. She's she had like three dates within
Speaker 2: like twelve hours. I was like, fuck, I love me
Speaker 2: going like because she's she's my best friend and I
Speaker 2: do it too, So I start going really hard on
Speaker 2: Hinge tender. Then this guy is like what are you doing?
Speaker 2: And I'm like, I am about to order sushi. He's like,
Speaker 2: you want to just come over for dinner? I'm down.
Speaker 2: First of all, I'm tender. It's very scary. It's like
Speaker 2: one mile away. I'm like, are you one mile away?
Speaker 2: He's like, how do you know? I'm like it says it.
Speaker 2: He's like, you want to come over for dinner? And
Speaker 2: then like psycho ass is like okay, I go over there. Okay, So,
Speaker 2: first of all, I'm not dating anyone under thirty five
Speaker 2: because they're twelve, thirty five might be questionable. He was
Speaker 2: like thirty one. I just felt like he was. He
Speaker 2: was so cute, he was just so young. I'm like,
Speaker 2: what the fuck are you talking about? And then he
Speaker 2: would not shut the fuck up, Like I don't don't
Speaker 2: know what he was talking about, but he also wouldn't
Speaker 2: shut the fuck up. And I'm just like, wow, are
Speaker 2: you gonna ask me anything about myself? There were no questions.
Speaker 1: It was like I've been on dates like that.
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm so cool, ask me anything nothing.
Speaker 1: Do you think it'scause we're so used to talking that
Speaker 1: we like?
Speaker 2: And I had it. I checked myself. I'm like, bitch,
Speaker 2: why don't you just get used to listening and shutting
Speaker 2: the fuck up? And then I was like, he's not
Speaker 2: talking about shit, that's why. Anyway, Eventually, like four hours
Speaker 2: into the date, he was like, ask me a question
Speaker 2: or something. Anyway, I don't know. I probably like beg
Speaker 2: to get an edge a word in and I was like,
Speaker 2: I have a podcast and he's like, ohh but like,
Speaker 2: are you consistent? I almost slapped the shit out of this.
Speaker 2: I was like, little, do you know, Okay, three years
Speaker 2: of the shit consistent as fuck? I wanted to kill him.
Speaker 2: I should have got it.
Speaker 1: Three weeks off in three years.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was like, actually, we're top ten percent in
Speaker 2: the world. Craig is this his name? No? I was
Speaker 2: just like saying, Craig at the end of world.
Speaker 1: Oh, like Friday, I'm black.
Speaker 2: But yeah, but this is the most consistent thing I've
Speaker 2: ever done in my life. So I'm very proud, and
Speaker 2: I'm I'm just proud that you're my friend. And me
Speaker 2: and Erica were having a conversation earlier, earlier these last
Speaker 2: three years. We were recently and we were talking about
Speaker 2: how we feel strongly that this is a time where
Speaker 2: it's a revolution for women. Absolutely not only have we
Speaker 2: met and like linked up with so many amazing women
Speaker 2: and became like best friends through the podcast, but just
Speaker 2: in general, like, I've never felt so empowered in a
Speaker 2: space with other women that are like pushing me that
Speaker 2: we've partnered, that I can tap in and call that
Speaker 2: support us, Like literally I just wish you're take the
Speaker 2: whole episode to just talk about all the women that
Speaker 2: I love that I met through the podcast, but there's
Speaker 2: too many. But literally we have like very very very
Speaker 2: very close friends because of the podcast, you know, like
Speaker 2: Jessica Rose, Carmen, Ashley Bruna, fucking Shanisha.
Speaker 1: Like, there's Melanie Melanie Maya.
Speaker 2: Maya Niche like she's already been our friend, but just
Speaker 2: so much love and support that, like, I feel like
Speaker 2: it's so powerful to link up. Even Erica, I love you. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I love most importantly because I wasn't a very consistent
Speaker 2: bitch by myself. And I just think through partnership Blair
Speaker 2: post twenty one, like we've really seen our we've seen
Speaker 2: ourselves blossom and obviously as we've seen our business blossom
Speaker 2: and our brand, and I just feel like it's it's
Speaker 2: this is the time for women. And if you have
Speaker 2: some women and you're like or one of those women
Speaker 2: that like doesn't like to fuck with other women, this
Speaker 2: is not the time for that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta move past that.
Speaker 2: You gotta pass the fuck was all my cellular.
Speaker 1: Oh sorry, you got to move past that. You gotta
Speaker 1: push past that because there are, There are so many
Speaker 1: amazing women out there. You gotta whatever is, whatever block
Speaker 1: you have or whatever preconceived notion or whatever trauma you
Speaker 1: have behind women, work on that shit because when we
Speaker 1: come together, it is it's unstoppable. And I know, for me,
Speaker 1: thinking back on where I was at the beginning of
Speaker 1: this podcast till now, I am so I feel like
Speaker 1: a fucking butterfly. Like I was in like a little cocoon,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, like I'm freeing me too, me too,
Speaker 1: and like no one can penetrate this shit. I don't
Speaker 1: give a fuck. You can say whatever the fuck you
Speaker 1: think about me and my womanhood and I don't give
Speaker 1: a fuck. I don't care.
Speaker 2: Rugh when men women other, I don't give a fuck. Literally,
Speaker 2: I told some friends recently. I literally told some friends
Speaker 2: like I'm not in the space to care about like
Speaker 2: how you feel about aout me. I really like me
Speaker 2: right now, I really love me, and I they're like,
Speaker 2: you don't care. I was like, I don't, and I
Speaker 2: was serious as fuck, like I just don't. I don't
Speaker 2: really care about the input if it's negative about me,
Speaker 2: because I'm the fucking shit and I haven't really ever
Speaker 2: felt that way until now, like.
Speaker 1: Just no, I'm like that.
Speaker 2: I'm radically self radical self love.
Speaker 1: I have questioned my worth, my just my worth, who
Speaker 1: I am, what I'm doing, what I believe so consistently
Speaker 1: in my life, and to be in a place now
Speaker 1: where it feels like I have this unwavering understanding of
Speaker 1: who I am and where I'm going like that, nothing,
Speaker 1: no one, not even like someone that I love deeply
Speaker 1: can change that.
Speaker 2: Honestly, if you are in if you even think that
Speaker 2: you're going to come into my space and try and
Speaker 2: change it, you are the fuck out. If you even
Speaker 2: step to me and are like I think that you
Speaker 2: should be more like I think you gotta go. I
Speaker 2: don't care. I really don't care, Like I love myself.
Speaker 2: And we've worked so hard to get here, Erica, like
Speaker 2: you've heard us do it one hundred and fifty five
Speaker 2: nimes in the last three years. It is work. And
Speaker 2: it's not to say that there's no not more work
Speaker 2: to do.
Speaker 1: And it's not to say that I'm not open to
Speaker 1: constructive criticism, like I'm totally open to you know, like evaluates.
Speaker 1: All I ever do is evaluate.
Speaker 2: Myself self evaluate.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm open to that, but there's certain things that
Speaker 1: I'm that are I'm not going to compromise on because
Speaker 1: it took me a long time to feel this way,
Speaker 1: and I feel good and I feel empowered, and I'm
Speaker 1: attracting the things that I'm attracting because of that. And
Speaker 1: it ain't nobody, ain't no bitch, ain't no nigga, ain't
Speaker 1: nothing now by the way of my alignment, No, it's not,
Speaker 1: It won't and it can't. And just I just want
Speaker 1: to like talk about this app infation that I want
Speaker 1: us to all today think about. And this is something
Speaker 1: that's been a little bit personal to me, and maybe
Speaker 1: you can hear it in my voice because I'm a
Speaker 1: little irritated writing she's ready to chat. My affirmation this week,
Speaker 1: this month, this year, three hundred and sixty five days
Speaker 1: forever is my past does not define me.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: My past does not define me, Honey, it doesn't. I
Speaker 1: don't care what the fuck you thought or think or whatever.
Speaker 1: It doesn't. It does not define me because I'm living
Speaker 1: in the present moment and everything that I did in
Speaker 1: the past brought me to here to this moment.
Speaker 2: And if you like me now, then you like everything.
Speaker 1: If you like me now you like every bad, motherfucking
Speaker 1: choice I made.
Speaker 2: Every good, every bad, everything, everything that led me to
Speaker 2: this place is who I am. And to love me
Speaker 2: right now is to love all of that. And if
Speaker 2: you are abrasive or question or have any fucking comments
Speaker 2: about that, kick rocks, because guess what, if you're listening
Speaker 2: and you too, this applies to you none. None of
Speaker 2: that shit that happened, not even yesterday, changes who you are.
Speaker 2: And I mean it makes you who you are, but
Speaker 2: it does not define who you are. And tomorrow's a
Speaker 2: new day. You could do, you could do and be
Speaker 2: whoever the fuck you want you. Every day is a
Speaker 2: new day to do that. I think as women that
Speaker 2: gets fucked up often. I think as women we get.
Speaker 1: What is it?
Speaker 2: We get gentholed, we get pigeonholed to like our past
Speaker 2: and decisions we've made, and I just want to We're
Speaker 2: here to tell you that shit doesn't matter and don't
Speaker 2: let anyone make you feel shamed or guilty or bad
Speaker 2: about whatever the fuck got you to where you are
Speaker 2: right now.
Speaker 1: Sorry, I think you know. For me, I recently experienced
Speaker 1: this with someone that I really really care about and
Speaker 1: I love deeply truly, and I've known for a really
Speaker 1: long time, and I felt I was really surprised by
Speaker 1: his analysis of my past and his decision to, I guess,
Speaker 1: in some ways decide if he's going to disassociate himself
Speaker 1: with me.
Speaker 2: Was disassociated the word used because I hate that.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's not the right word, because that's if he
Speaker 1: listens to this. I don't want him to. That's not true. Okay,
Speaker 1: maybe not disassociating.
Speaker 2: Has it ever mattered if someone listens?
Speaker 1: I know, but like just that it wasn't for him,
Speaker 1: My past wasn't for him, but everything else was for him.
Speaker 1: So I just, I just I know that had we
Speaker 1: had this conversation three years ago, I would have been
Speaker 1: like very I would have questioned myself. I would have questioned,
Speaker 1: oh my god, like does my sexual history really? Am
Speaker 1: I a hoe? Or like am I weak? Or do
Speaker 1: I fuck people when I'm bored? And is that bad?
Speaker 1: And like did is having sex for fun a bad thing?
Speaker 1: Am I reckless? And am I not selective?
Speaker 2: And the answer is sometimes yes to all of that
Speaker 2: and sometimes.
Speaker 1: No, And some I think, like the reason why I
Speaker 1: am selective is because I've made bad choices, is because
Speaker 1: I've admitted to him and to all of you listening
Speaker 1: about the choices that I've made and how they've brought
Speaker 1: me to this moment. And so I don't know, like
Speaker 1: I've been like really stewing on it for about a
Speaker 1: week and a half, this conversation that we had, And
Speaker 1: you know, I did cry at first because and not
Speaker 1: out of like because I felt guilty, but I just
Speaker 1: couldn't believe that, like this person that I loved felt
Speaker 1: this way about me and I had no idea, you know.
Speaker 1: And then and I also cried because I was like,
Speaker 1: can this person be in my life anymore? Like I
Speaker 1: felt like I was losing someone because I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't want anyone around me that feels that way
Speaker 1: about me. That and I don't know why you would
Speaker 1: want to be around me if you feel that way
Speaker 1: about me. Yeah, And like, you know, I send him
Speaker 1: love and I want to. I've continued to, you know,
Speaker 1: throughout this process of having these conversations to try to
Speaker 1: empower him to like change his way of thinking, because
Speaker 1: I do think that men in general, they have these
Speaker 1: no matter how woke you think you are, or how
Speaker 1: progressive or for feminism you think you are there are
Speaker 1: these underlying like male toxic traits that you've been fed
Speaker 1: that you don't even realize exist until you're encountered with
Speaker 1: a woman who is empowered by her choices, good or bad.
Speaker 1: And I think that's that's what's happened. And like, I
Speaker 1: don't know, I just if you're if you're listening right now,
Speaker 1: and a man has shamed you for you know, your
Speaker 1: sexual history, for whatever it is. Maybe you cheated on
Speaker 1: your ex boyfriend, you cheated on your boyfriend, maybe you
Speaker 1: cheated on him, just know that it does not define
Speaker 1: who you are. I know that my choices and my
Speaker 1: vulnerability that I share with you guys every week and
Speaker 1: with my friends and with my lovers, like if it
Speaker 1: makes me who I am, and I don't apologize for
Speaker 1: one part of who I am. And I'm just so
Speaker 1: grateful to have you, to have so many women around
Speaker 1: me that are like em eh, fuck that, No, we're
Speaker 1: not doing that. And it made me feel good because
Speaker 1: there are friends that might be like.
Speaker 2: Well, girl, they well and.
Speaker 1: I don't have Thank God, I ain't got those. I
Speaker 1: don't got those bitches in my life, none of them.
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe I do. Maybe you're talking shit behind
Speaker 1: my back. If you are, fuck you. But I know
Speaker 1: that my crew, my tribe is so thorough that and
Speaker 1: I'm so thorough and my decisions and my selectiveness that
Speaker 1: that shit doesn't really it doesn't phase me. And I'm
Speaker 1: just I'm just so grateful for where I'm at because
Speaker 1: I know, like I said, like, had this conversation maybe
Speaker 1: been had like three years ago, I really would have
Speaker 1: questioned my self worth. I really would have questioned whether
Speaker 1: he was right, and like really felt bad about myself.
Speaker 1: But I don't feel bad at all.
Speaker 2: I feel like that bitch, you are that bitch, thank you,
Speaker 2: and he's is his loss. Honestly, I have I mean
Speaker 2: as a woman, and we all have been in this place,
Speaker 2: but specifically with like someone I really really really cared
Speaker 2: about and like my daughter's dad, and it was just constantly,
Speaker 2: like constant, constant, constant. I feel like for a large
Speaker 2: portion of my life, I mean a I was probably
Speaker 2: making bad decisions and like having loathing over it and
Speaker 2: then be obviously at other people trying to make me
Speaker 2: question myself and making me feel shame and guilt. But
Speaker 2: I think the biggest misconception for women is that you
Speaker 2: got to evaluate shit for yourself. You know, if you
Speaker 2: got to go home and be like I was bored,
Speaker 2: I shouldn't did that. And it's not really to feel
Speaker 2: guilty about. It's not really to like harbor On. It's
Speaker 2: about it's like not harbor harp On, but to move
Speaker 2: forward and to like just make better choices. Erica and
Speaker 2: I took the kids to Denver last this week and
Speaker 2: we're thirsty. So at some point we saw an attractive
Speaker 2: man in the lobby. He had a fucking snow resort
Speaker 2: of some sort, and we're like made our married friend
Speaker 2: go like give give him our number, like we're thirteen.
Speaker 2: And then after we put the kids to bed, him
Speaker 2: and his brother came by totally uneventful. We like drank,
Speaker 2: you know, we smoked whatever. Anyway, we started talking. No,
Speaker 2: we started playing our favorite game, or The Culture, and
Speaker 2: one of the people that came up on the game
Speaker 2: was Carrie Hillson and he goes.
Speaker 1: Wait, so, just so you know, for the for the
Speaker 1: Culture is like heads.
Speaker 2: Up, so you have to, like you something comes across
Speaker 2: the screen and everybody else has to guess. It has
Speaker 2: to give you hints to guess the person or word
Speaker 2: on the screen. So the word on the screen was
Speaker 2: Carrie Hilton. So this nigga goes, she's disgusting, she puts
Speaker 2: things in our mouth on the Internet, and I'm like
Speaker 2: what I had?
Speaker 1: I was like because I knew I saw Wait, actually
Speaker 1: I was behind you, so I was like, who is
Speaker 1: he talking about? Like, I was thinking, like, anyone but
Speaker 1: carry Hilson, anyone but her.
Speaker 2: I had no idea. So after the round, obviously we
Speaker 2: got that wrong. I was like, what is so disgusting
Speaker 2: about Carrie Hillson. He was like, oh, you don't know.
Speaker 2: She's all over Twitter putting things in her mouth, so
Speaker 2: I didn't. I was like, she has a sex video.
Speaker 2: I need to check this out, Like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's deep throating.
Speaker 2: I was like lollipop I was like, who's the sex
Speaker 2: video with?
Speaker 1: I'm like, I was like deep throting. I was like,
Speaker 1: oh no.
Speaker 2: So then he goes then he I thought it was
Speaker 2: a sex video. Then he confirms it's lollipops. And when he.
Speaker 1: Said the deep throning, I was like, well, bitch, nigga,
Speaker 1: you don't want to go on our patreot and watch
Speaker 1: our deep throating video with Samaya and the Cucumber. And
Speaker 1: literally when he said that. I was like, I was
Speaker 1: just that was when I stopped talking to everyone. I
Speaker 1: literally was on my phone looking down the whole time.
Speaker 1: Jamila was doing her preachy thing where she's trying to
Speaker 1: like change people's minds, and I was like, I'm out.
Speaker 2: I cracked up so hard. And then I continued to
Speaker 2: fuck with them and I was like, well, what if
Speaker 2: you're in the house full of witches on a full moon?
Speaker 2: They were for sure Christians. They got out, they never sing.
Speaker 2: He said, yeah, he was like, like, my aunt is
Speaker 2: Yolanda Adams. I was like, oh, he's not know where
Speaker 2: he's at right. Long story short, About seventeen minutes later
Speaker 2: they left rapidly, which was great, but it's also hilarious.
Speaker 2: But it just confirms I don't know what all be
Speaker 2: gone on this point. It just confirms the shaming of women,
Speaker 2: the shaming of women, and not only from men but
Speaker 2: amongst each other. You know, it's really interesting to see
Speaker 2: how much we do that to each other. And because
Speaker 2: of that, like there's no fucking support, Like I said,
Speaker 2: I had, we probably heard this story once a year.
Speaker 1: And also I encourage you go look at the video
Speaker 1: that he's talking about. It's it's literally the most innocent
Speaker 1: in a swallow of it.
Speaker 2: I popule what Yeah, shout out to Kerry Hillson. I
Speaker 2: love you for that. We're now I know for sure
Speaker 2: nothing only bitches on the internet with deep throating something.
Speaker 2: But even in my own friend circle, like the friends
Speaker 2: I've known the longest, I literally recently had another conversation,
Speaker 2: like an argument, and there was a guy in the car,
Speaker 2: a guy that I brought in the car, and they
Speaker 2: thought it would be a good idea to start talking
Speaker 2: about MI nudity around all their boyfriends. And I was like,
Speaker 2: First of all, I was fucking mortified because I'm like,
Speaker 2: why are you talking about this right now when this
Speaker 2: nigga is in the car. Second of all, bitch, I've
Speaker 2: been friends with YouTube bitches for one hundred years. You
Speaker 2: know my shit comes off when I have fun. Why
Speaker 2: are we still talking about it? And I was just
Speaker 2: getting so angry, and you know I did, like I
Speaker 2: did get angry because they're like this boyfriend, my friend,
Speaker 2: you got undressed in front of this person. I'm like, bitch,
Speaker 2: that was three years ago, and I know you, so
Speaker 2: I'm not constantly taking my titties out in front of
Speaker 2: your nigga, because I know you're weird anyway. That was
Speaker 2: one of the people that I had the conversation, and like,
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't feel bad about anything that
Speaker 2: I've done. I'm not going to apologize and honestly, I
Speaker 2: I'm not changing anything. And they're like, oh, that's your solution.
Speaker 2: I was like you, guys, I was like, if you
Speaker 2: feel that way, oh, the words disrespectful and selfish were used,
Speaker 2: and I said, look to my friend straight in the eye,
Speaker 2: and I still feel this way, and I said, I
Speaker 2: love you.
Speaker 1: I do.
Speaker 2: I don't have to be around you, though, and I
Speaker 2: really encourage you not to be around me if you
Speaker 2: feel like I'm disrespectful or selfish. I have been the
Speaker 2: same bitch for many years at my core, like the
Speaker 2: tweets tell it all. So if you have an issue
Speaker 2: with my nudity or how I express myself, please, I
Speaker 2: really encourage you to take space. And I felt completely
Speaker 2: comfortable and completely sound telling her this, and I hold
Speaker 2: to it because, like you said, no nigga, not someone
Speaker 2: i'm smashing, not someone who's my friend, no girl, no chicks,
Speaker 2: nobody is going to make me. I've done it too long.
Speaker 2: In my life, as I'm sure a lot of other
Speaker 2: women have questioned myself, question my behavior. One thing about
Speaker 2: me is I'm a loyal ass friend period. There's no like.
Speaker 2: I'm not like a weird ass bitch. One thing about
Speaker 2: me is your nigga is cute. And I think so
Speaker 2: you're gonna know because I'm gonna tell you. I'm like,
Speaker 2: if you need help, just let me know. But like,
Speaker 2: it just really it really made me realize how much
Speaker 2: if I wasn't in this space, and how in the
Speaker 2: past when these conversations have come up, because they have
Speaker 2: come up, how much it made me question myself and
Speaker 2: if I am too much and if I like, if
Speaker 2: I shouldn't tell niggas everything in the beginning or whatever
Speaker 2: the fucking case is. And no space, especially in friendship
Speaker 2: or in any relationship, should you have to question who
Speaker 2: the fuck you are. You know you are who you are.
Speaker 2: And I mean, obviously we all can get better and
Speaker 2: be better and make changes, but like, there are certain
Speaker 2: things that I'm not I'm about to feel bad for
Speaker 2: if I just don't feel bad about them, me getting
Speaker 2: naked when I'm having fun, I'm not gonna feel bad
Speaker 2: about it. I don't care, So I just.
Speaker 1: And don't don't invite her to the party. Don't invite
Speaker 1: her to the party.
Speaker 2: Your invites are done. You're not ef for getting invited
Speaker 2: to vacation already. And I'm just saying, don't invite you.
Speaker 2: I know everybody knows that if you don't want.
Speaker 1: Mila to take her to her show her titties, don't
Speaker 1: invite her.
Speaker 2: But that's not true. I don't do it at every party.
Speaker 2: It has to be like a it has to be
Speaker 2: a warm climate.
Speaker 1: Yeah you do, like seventy percent. But you know, I
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck. But I'm just saying they know.
Speaker 1: They already know. They know more than I know, Like
Speaker 1: they know what they're you know what they're getting, you know,
Speaker 1: And it's like you're not if they're your friends, they're
Speaker 1: not gonna try and change you. And they need to
Speaker 1: check their niggas, check their niggas. If they have their
Speaker 1: niggas got issues, check your niggas, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like I don't, I don't. I don't give a fuck
Speaker 1: if you took your your titties out in front of
Speaker 1: my friend, because guess what, my nigga loves my titties.
Speaker 1: I'm good over here. If he wants to look at
Speaker 1: your look at her titties. Aren't they great? You look
Speaker 1: at mine? Because you're coming home with these? Okay, it's true.
Speaker 2: I mean I'm not saying like I'm gonna take my
Speaker 2: titties out every fucking event, at the wedding, at the
Speaker 2: fucking you know I have. That's the thing. I am pretty,
Speaker 2: I can gauge, I could read a room. I'm a
Speaker 2: room reading bitch. I'm in fucking cancer. I'm an impath.
Speaker 2: I can feel everybody's energy immediately, So it's not like
Speaker 2: I'm oblivious. So it's just I just don't want to
Speaker 2: be put in spaces or boxes where I have to
Speaker 2: question who I am or think twice about my behavior
Speaker 2: or what I'm doing. Because I'm a big girl and
Speaker 2: I do whatever the fuck I want. And if it
Speaker 2: makes you uncomfortable, kick rocks. If you don't like who
Speaker 2: I am, kick rocks. And to the nigga who told
Speaker 2: had some reservations about your sexual history and whether or
Speaker 2: not you're selective of enough, I like him too, but
Speaker 2: kick fucking rocks, because I love you, and I would
Speaker 2: I don't want anyone to ever make you feel that
Speaker 2: you know you're anything less than who the fuck you are,
Speaker 2: which is the shit a fucking queen. Okay, based on
Speaker 2: some niggas you fuck, because I guess what, everybody he
Speaker 2: has some niggas or bitches on their list that could.
Speaker 1: Have probably not been on the list.
Speaker 2: Everybody, Oh, well, that's life. That's how you get better,
Speaker 2: that's you get more selective. You do some fucks that
Speaker 2: you could have done without.
Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, I agree.
Speaker 2: Happy International Women's Day, everybody.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that I don't know. This day is
Speaker 1: just a reminder of for me of like I think
Speaker 1: about how how insecure I once was, and even like
Speaker 1: ordering ordering dinner, I remember looking at menus and like
Speaker 1: I couldn't fucking decide, Like like, I know it sounds silly,
Speaker 1: but like I would look at menus and like any
Speaker 1: menu that was more than three pages, I would completely
Speaker 1: feel overwhelmed. Oh my god, it's me, like completely overwhelmed.
Speaker 1: And now, like even ordering, I've noticed that I'm a
Speaker 1: better orderer now. I know how to order better, I
Speaker 1: know how to select my niggas better, I know how
Speaker 1: to not give a fuck about what anybody says about
Speaker 1: me better. I just feel overall, just I'm walking in
Speaker 1: my power and a huge part of that is because
Speaker 1: of you guys listening. Honestly, Like a huge part of
Speaker 1: that is because of you guys listening, because of the
Speaker 1: messages that you send us every day, empowering our decisions
Speaker 1: and our choices and like saying, you know what, I
Speaker 1: did that shit too, and like this is how I
Speaker 1: overcame it. Like here, try this, because like you know,
Speaker 1: me and Mila don't have all the answers, and a
Speaker 1: lot of the times you guys have the answers. Like you,
Speaker 1: there's parents that have kids that are eighteen years old
Speaker 1: that are listening twenty in college, you know, as you
Speaker 1: guys are way farther into your womanhood, your lives, your parenting.
Speaker 1: And I'm just like a student, honestly. I'm a student
Speaker 1: to you know, the our supporters. I'm a student to
Speaker 1: you know, myself listening. I was telling my friend the
Speaker 1: other day, I was like, I've learned so much just
Speaker 1: by talking out loud. Oh my, I have learned so
Speaker 1: much about life just by saying things. I've come to
Speaker 1: just epiphanies about myself about how I view things and
Speaker 1: why I do things and why I've done things in
Speaker 1: the past by just like talking about it on them
Speaker 1: on this mic. And I think I think a lot
Speaker 1: of my insecurities came from internalizing everything and not saying
Speaker 1: so many things and just like just overthinking everything. So
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just so grateful for this platform.
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for Jamila. I'm so grateful for our team.
Speaker 1: Shout out to May over here, May, shout out to Taney,
Speaker 1: Shout out to just everyone who's like pushed us along
Speaker 1: the way, Nishe Brandon, like all the people that have
Speaker 1: supported us Romo, like man All Ashley just go on,
Speaker 1: are like neur Alyn, like just all the people that
Speaker 1: have just been there for us and rode with us,
Speaker 1: and just I love you, guys, I love you.
Speaker 2: One more thing I was thinking, because because our community
Speaker 2: is so supportive, and it's strange to say this, but like,
Speaker 2: we had some really amazing wins in the last couple
Speaker 2: of weeks, and it just confirmed for us that we're
Speaker 2: doing the right thing, even when so many times we've
Speaker 2: been told by people we knew and people who were
Speaker 2: close to us, what you're doing is too much. And
Speaker 2: to have a platform that talks about everything is too much,
Speaker 2: Like you could keep some things to yourself. You don't
Speaker 2: have to say everything, and believe it or not, we
Speaker 2: don't say everything. But I beg I really wanted Erica
Speaker 2: to watch the Free Brittany documentary and also did that
Speaker 2: and denvers so important, and I really want to do
Speaker 2: like an entire episode dedicated to Free Brittany, Like I
Speaker 2: don't know if it's going to be on Patreon, I
Speaker 2: don't know if it's going to be on here, but
Speaker 2: it's necessary. But while watching it, it really made me realize, like,
Speaker 2: first of all, Free Brittany. Second of all, they ridiculed
Speaker 2: her so fucking harshly as a young woman, about her breast,
Speaker 2: about her body, about her sexuality, about who she was dating,
Speaker 2: when she became a mother, how she was parenting. They
Speaker 2: fucking harassed this woman, this nice, lovely Caucasian woman. I mean,
Speaker 2: the thing was, at first I didn't really care to watch.
Speaker 2: She was like eh, And then when I watched, I
Speaker 2: was moved and I was pissed and like, if this
Speaker 2: can happen to this nice Caucasian woman, like we need
Speaker 2: to come together. This is actually some real shit. Because
Speaker 2: she's a slave, she's literally enslaved and being worked like
Speaker 2: a circus monkey. If you haven't watched it, you should
Speaker 2: really check it out. It's on Hulu. Uh it's effects.
Speaker 2: I don't know. It's a New York Times presence, but
Speaker 2: it really made me realize while watching it. First of all,
Speaker 2: I remember when all this shit was going on as
Speaker 2: a teenager, you know, like when she wrote she shaved
Speaker 2: her head off. I remember when she like said she
Speaker 2: was a virgin, and then justin Timberlake then said, oh
Speaker 2: I smash publicly and everything was swept under the carpet,
Speaker 2: and when she shaved her head, she was crazy. Even
Speaker 2: till this day, we see her running makeup on the
Speaker 2: internet and we're like, oh, she's lost it. But the
Speaker 2: truth of the matter is we come from a society
Speaker 2: of fucking vulturous people who are just evil and mean,
Speaker 2: and they didn't let this woman evolve and live her life.
Speaker 2: And I just feel like it reminds me watching this
Speaker 2: and like this short period of time, like I can
Speaker 2: look back like it was yesterday and I was fucking
Speaker 2: watching her go through all this stuff, Like I vividly
Speaker 2: remember all these things happening. We're from we're in the Valley,
Speaker 2: So we're in Hollywood. We knew, we knew all the shit,
Speaker 2: but it just it's astonishing to me that I sometimes
Speaker 2: I forget when people say what we're doing is trailblazing,
Speaker 2: because I'm like, we're just telling the truth. There was
Speaker 2: a time where women couldn't talk like this. I couldn't
Speaker 2: talk about driving past the airport for anal casual, anal
Speaker 2: with some guy that it's probably never gonna be my boyfriend,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: But and there was a time where you know, an
Speaker 1: older man could ask a young woman about her breasts
Speaker 1: on television.
Speaker 2: Do you know the kind of curse out this nigga
Speaker 2: would have gotten from any of us.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, there's just it's just when I watched that,
Speaker 1: I first of all, I felt bad because I've talked
Speaker 1: shit about Brittany obviously even before I was a parent,
Speaker 1: watching her like go through all of her shit and
Speaker 1: not understanding postpartum depression. And also I have no idea
Speaker 1: what it's like to have no privacy to wear everywhere
Speaker 1: you go, you feel like you're in danger, and then
Speaker 1: on top of that, having a child and wanting to
Speaker 1: just get the fuck out and needing to escape, like
Speaker 1: I can't even imagine. And I honestly like, I'm sorry, Brittany,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I really am, like truly because I judged.
Speaker 1: I judged her, and I really didn't understand what she
Speaker 1: was going through. And I shouldn't. I shouldn't have had to.
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have had I shouldn't have had to watch
Speaker 1: this documentary to gain perspective on why what has happened?
Speaker 1: You know, but I did, and I and what Jamila said, like,
Speaker 1: I encourage you guys to watch it. If you are
Speaker 1: a parent, if you are a woman, if you're a man,
Speaker 1: you really should go watch that shit because it's it's
Speaker 1: crazy to see how her life progressed because she was
Speaker 1: so eloquent, she was so intelligent, she was leading her career.
Speaker 2: She was very kind amidst the hate she was getting
Speaker 2: and the like the fucking attacks that she was getting
Speaker 2: publicly by fucking Diane Sawyer. Diane Sawyer asked her on
Speaker 2: fucking line, said to her on live dv SO and
Speaker 2: so from Massachusetts said she would shoot you, well, like
Speaker 2: you shoot you in the face. Is that fucking journalism, bitch.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty pop, like eighteen years old.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just like just as women, like we have
Speaker 2: to do better and as men too, Like this is
Speaker 2: a if you're a man and you're listening, because I
Speaker 2: know you guys, listen some of you. This is like
Speaker 2: literally deeply like a call for your attention to like
Speaker 2: check your homies when they say stupid shit, check yourself
Speaker 2: when you think stupid shit, Like we're all human, you
Speaker 2: know you fuck you fuck some bitches the you know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying, And like it's it's okay for you,
Speaker 2: and no one no one's judging your character for it
Speaker 2: or by it, or no one's thinking if should you
Speaker 2: be my husband because you fucked and smashed this bitch
Speaker 2: that's none not up to par. That that doesn't really
Speaker 2: apply to men, you know, So I just encourage you
Speaker 2: to just do better, and even for us. I'm just
Speaker 2: so happy to be in this space and to be
Speaker 2: empowered because I look at this, this fucking documentary, and
Speaker 2: I see how empowered she was not and how like
Speaker 2: it left her in a place of questioning herself and
Speaker 2: sadness and unhappiness. And I'm just proud to be in
Speaker 2: this space as a woman and as a mother and
Speaker 2: to feel empowered and supportive enough to say, hey, yeah,
Speaker 2: you know, I do this, I do that, and I'm
Speaker 2: a good person and I'm a good mom, and that
Speaker 2: means doesn't mean shit about the person that I am,
Speaker 2: the friend, that I am, the daughter, the mother. So
Speaker 2: I just I encourage everyone to judge less and love more.
Speaker 1: Yeahs, as much as you go hard for black lives matter,
Speaker 1: and like checking your your your your white friend's privileges,
Speaker 1: check your your sexism. Women and men, don't, don't. Don't
Speaker 1: just like push it to the side, laugh at it. No,
Speaker 1: check that shit, because it's it's sick. It's sickening.
Speaker 2: It's sickening, and it's toxic and it spreads.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I don't know. Women, We we run the
Speaker 1: fucking world, run the world, and it's it's you can't
Speaker 1: we can't hide it anymore. It's undeniable. It's so undeniable
Speaker 1: now like.
Speaker 2: Sorry, we're the glue. Not sorry, get with it because
Speaker 2: it's a fucking takeover. Like this is not a patriarchy anymore.
Speaker 2: Go home. Nope, go home, it's done. It's over the end.
Speaker 2: You're out. You fucked everything up. We're taking our power back.
Speaker 2: You can't tell us shit, you can't shame us. You
Speaker 2: can't confuse us into thinking that our actions are fucked up.
Speaker 2: We are sexual beings. We are also mothers. We are
Speaker 2: also providers, we're nurturing, We're spicy. I'm masculine, I'm feminine.
Speaker 2: I'll beat your fucking ass and I'll curse you out
Speaker 2: and I'll also breastfeed you. So get with that.
Speaker 1: Amen. Amen, Well on that note, Happy International Women's Day,
Speaker 1: Happy avers, thy best. I love you, I love you,
Speaker 1: and I love you, and we love you, and we
Speaker 1: hope you take this day to celebrate yourself. Take the year,
Speaker 1: Take every motherfucking day especially.
Speaker 2: Take this day to delete people out of your life
Speaker 2: and out of your phone that no longer serve you,
Speaker 2: that don't align with who you are right now today,
Speaker 2: don't appreciate the journey here, They're done.
Speaker 1: Bye bye. Oh. Also, before we go, I don't know
Speaker 1: if you guys noticed but are not noticed. I don't
Speaker 1: know if you guys know. I know some of y'all
Speaker 1: missed our lives. If you missed our live show, don't fret.
Speaker 1: We have our replay available on our website. So ladies,
Speaker 1: if you're feeling empowered, go watch our live show because
Speaker 1: it's gonna make you feel a little bit more empowered.
Speaker 1: Call your friends up, go hang out at the crib,
Speaker 1: get our replay, and spend about an hour and a
Speaker 1: half with us, hanging out playing for the culture many
Speaker 1: other games and talking our shit and feeling empowered, because
Speaker 1: that's what we do over here at Good Mom's Bad Choices.
Speaker 2: Join Patreon because we're going to eventually have a full
Speaker 2: episode on Free the Free Brittany documentary. It's very important.
Speaker 1: No, we really should. We will. It's important.
Speaker 2: But we love you. Thank you, thank you for supporting
Speaker 2: us all this time, and we will see you on
Speaker 2: Wednesday and for money.
Speaker 1: March