WEBVTT - It's Our Anniversary B!tches

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<v Speaker 1>Happy bonus episode and guess what, you guys, it is

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<v Speaker 1>our motherfucking third year in adverse thy, I can't believe

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<v Speaker 1>that we have been doing this for fucking three years.

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<v Speaker 1>This is absolutely crazy. He We love you, b C.

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<v Speaker 1>We're having a roll up event, meaning we're inviting you

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<v Speaker 1>guys to come have a smoke session with us tonight, Monday,

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<v Speaker 1>March eighth, at six point thirty. It's free to all

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<v Speaker 1>of our tribe at Patreon. If you are a patron,

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<v Speaker 1>then you are getting that zoom link. But if you

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<v Speaker 1>want to join the tribe, go ahead. You know it's

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<v Speaker 1>about this time. It's about time to just join Patreon,

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<v Speaker 1>support the movement, and come roll up with good moms

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<v Speaker 1>and hang out with me and Mila, because you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I think we need a little catchup. You know, we've

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<v Speaker 1>been doing money March and focusing on finance, but you

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<v Speaker 1>know there's still shit going on over here. We need

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<v Speaker 1>to work out. There's some things we need to work through.

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<v Speaker 1>So we love to connect with you guys, and a

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<v Speaker 1>bitch needs some advice, so come roll love with us.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll leave the details right here in the episode description.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll see you tonight. Enjoy this episode.

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<v Speaker 2>To welcome.

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<v Speaker 1>Like cute, Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>Erica and I'm Mela. And it's Wednesday, Bach No Bitch

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<v Speaker 1>is Monday, Monday, and this.

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<v Speaker 2>Is a very very special episode of Bonus Special Drop

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<v Speaker 2>because today, Ladies and Gentlemen.

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<v Speaker 1>Is International Women's Day and also the day we launched

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<v Speaker 1>our motherfucking podcasts.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy through your anniversary, Baby, Hi WiFi, Hi, I love you,

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<v Speaker 2>I love you.

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<v Speaker 1>Happy anniversary.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow, look at us three years later doing the

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<v Speaker 2>motherfucking thing. I'm you believe we're still here? No, I

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<v Speaker 2>mean I can. But also, oh my god, can I

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<v Speaker 2>be rich already? You know what?

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<v Speaker 1>We are recording at Lack Create Space, which is an

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<v Speaker 1>upgrade from my house. This is true.

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<v Speaker 2>We're almost there. Thank you so much to lot Create

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<v Speaker 2>Space in Englewood, who is supporting today's episode. It is

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<v Speaker 2>beautiful on here. It is black owned. It is a

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<v Speaker 2>coworking space and a production space for all of your

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<v Speaker 2>production needs.

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<v Speaker 1>Make sure you hit them up. If you're creative, if

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<v Speaker 1>you have a podcast, if you need things created and shot.

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<v Speaker 2>And edit it. Check out our patreon to see at

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<v Speaker 2>this beautiful space that we're at. There's a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>black art behind us. There's very classy microphones, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>me and Erica, I don't leave the valley often, so

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I had to be a motherfucking special occasion

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<v Speaker 2>for us to get our asses about the valley and

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<v Speaker 2>come to Englewood and get our record on. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>really happy to be here you too, well, Happy anniversary, boo. Thanks.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't believe that we've been doing this every fucking

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<v Speaker 2>Wednesday for three years.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, and thank you guys for tuning in, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I know some of you guys listening have been listening

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<v Speaker 1>from the very beginning, like twenty eighteen beginning, And if

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<v Speaker 1>you are just joining us and you've listened through all

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred and fifty five of our episodes, I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's where we're at right about now.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you, thank you, thank you for sticking.

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<v Speaker 1>Through all of our growth, all of our fuck ups,

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<v Speaker 1>all of our wins, all of our cries.

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<v Speaker 2>All our craziness, all of our breakups, our confusion, just

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<v Speaker 2>all of it, us wanting to get boyfriends, also saying

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<v Speaker 2>fuck niggas, being good moms making questionable decisions. Thank you,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you so much for bearing with us, and like

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<v Speaker 2>not only bearing with us, but like supporting us and

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<v Speaker 2>loving us in it. I still can't I believe the

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<v Speaker 2>amount of the very little amount of hate mail that

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<v Speaker 2>we get.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I's gotually a website somewhere we haven't checked.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't really check ever, but there's got

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<v Speaker 1>to be a site where people are hating, right, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure we just are we just like we're just

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<v Speaker 1>not rich and famouss and highly favored. We're just not

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<v Speaker 1>famous in a hashtag bleussed hashack bless. Yeah, I'm so

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<v Speaker 1>excited and I'm I'm so grateful, but you know, it's

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<v Speaker 1>so funny. Side note to this morning me and Jamila.

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<v Speaker 1>I was texting Jamila because we had a former guest

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<v Speaker 1>on that heard some tweets came out recently and they

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<v Speaker 1>were not good. If you listen to the podcast, you

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<v Speaker 1>know who I'm talking about. Maybe maybe not just google it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. But I was like, Mila, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have Twitter, so I know I didn't say no crazy shit,

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<v Speaker 1>but what the fuck did you do? So what have

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<v Speaker 1>you been on Twitter? What are you tweeting? What have

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<v Speaker 1>you tweeted in twenty twelve? Bitch? And she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't. I don't know, like I didn't really tweet anything.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, let me go look.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't even know how to work Twitter anymore. So when

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<v Speaker 2>I went to go look, I was like, wow, I

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<v Speaker 2>guess I did know how to use Twitter at one time.

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<v Speaker 2>Of fucking tweets, bitch, how did you tweet a lot?

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<v Speaker 2>And ill suddenly you don't even know how to log

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<v Speaker 2>on Anyway, if anyone wants to find me on Twitter,

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<v Speaker 2>it's peebee and jam jam.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that what it is? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Jamjam. Anyway, I start scrolling through my millions of tweets,

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<v Speaker 2>because clearly I was a tweeter, and I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 2>love the gaze. I'm like, oh no, that's I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>that's very unbranded. Then I'm like I keep looking.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like like, what did you say something about like

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<v Speaker 1>being naked or something? Then you talked about white women

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<v Speaker 1>and anal.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, white women love anal.

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<v Speaker 1>Little did you know you'd be driving past the airport

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<v Speaker 1>for anal. As a matter of fact, we're kind of

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<v Speaker 1>close to the airport right now. You can't get some anal,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you know. I thought about it.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I'm halfway up the foural five.

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<v Speaker 1>You have your crotchless panties with you, bro, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>hair's done now? You looking really cute? You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I did my hair just in case I did drive

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<v Speaker 2>past the airport and to get some man.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you act of that asshole?

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<v Speaker 2>No? You know what he likes hairiness? Oh, he likes

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<v Speaker 2>hair everywhere, Like if I shave, he gets irritated. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't see him that often, so I'm like, I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be hairy y'all fucking month long for you. I

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<v Speaker 2>wax my asshole.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, this is what I always were, an esthetician. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I know you got the wax.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to wax my own asshole, though I could,

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<v Speaker 2>though it's less. I tried to wax my own bikini

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<v Speaker 2>and that was not fun.

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<v Speaker 1>What other tweets did you find? Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>I found all these tweets about black people, but at

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<v Speaker 2>least it was abound our own people, and it was

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<v Speaker 2>all true, like black people always want to know if

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<v Speaker 2>you have flavored iced tea or lemonade. And oh, also

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<v Speaker 2>black people always want extra dressing before you even taste

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<v Speaker 2>the salad. This is also when I was a waitress,

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<v Speaker 2>so This is all related to black people ordering shit.

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<v Speaker 2>They don't need. Black people always want moscato. So that's

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<v Speaker 2>all true. So I don't really care if anyone digs

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<v Speaker 2>that up. When I get famous next year, come at

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<v Speaker 2>me with that shit.

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<v Speaker 1>She already said it. You heard it here first bitch

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<v Speaker 1>had what.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, Niggas love Sauce extra Ranch. Now I'm niggas.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh so, because okay, today's our anniversary. It's also national

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<v Speaker 2>it's International Women's Day. That's today. We launched three long

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<v Speaker 2>years ago. I first of all, Eric is like my

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<v Speaker 2>twin flame. So this week she's been really going hard

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<v Speaker 2>on like Hinge. She's she had like three dates within

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<v Speaker 2>like twelve hours. I was like, fuck, I love me

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<v Speaker 2>going like because she's she's my best friend and I

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<v Speaker 2>do it too, So I start going really hard on

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<v Speaker 2>Hinge tender. Then this guy is like what are you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, I am about to order sushi. He's like,

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<v Speaker 2>you want to just come over for dinner? I'm down.

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, I'm tender. It's very scary. It's like

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<v Speaker 2>one mile away. I'm like, are you one mile away?

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, how do you know? I'm like it says it.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, you want to come over for dinner? And

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<v Speaker 2>then like psycho ass is like okay, I go over there. Okay, So,

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<v Speaker 2>first of all, I'm not dating anyone under thirty five

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<v Speaker 2>because they're twelve, thirty five might be questionable. He was

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<v Speaker 2>like thirty one. I just felt like he was. He

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<v Speaker 2>was so cute, he was just so young. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>what the fuck are you talking about? And then he

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<v Speaker 2>would not shut the fuck up, Like I don't don't

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<v Speaker 2>know what he was talking about, but he also wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>shut the fuck up. And I'm just like, wow, are

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<v Speaker 2>you gonna ask me anything about myself? There were no questions.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like I've been on dates like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I'm so cool, ask me anything nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think it'scause we're so used to talking that

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<v Speaker 1>we like?

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<v Speaker 2>And I had it. I checked myself. I'm like, bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>why don't you just get used to listening and shutting

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<v Speaker 2>the fuck up? And then I was like, he's not

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<v Speaker 2>talking about shit, that's why. Anyway, Eventually, like four hours

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<v Speaker 2>into the date, he was like, ask me a question

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<v Speaker 2>or something. Anyway, I don't know. I probably like beg

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<v Speaker 2>to get an edge a word in and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I have a podcast and he's like, ohh but like,

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<v Speaker 2>are you consistent? I almost slapped the shit out of this.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, little, do you know, Okay, three years

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<v Speaker 2>of the shit consistent as fuck? I wanted to kill him.

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<v Speaker 2>I should have got it.

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<v Speaker 1>Three weeks off in three years.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it was like, actually, we're top ten percent in

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<v Speaker 2>the world. Craig is this his name? No? I was

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<v Speaker 2>just like saying, Craig at the end of world.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, like Friday, I'm black.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, but this is the most consistent thing I've

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<v Speaker 2>ever done in my life. So I'm very proud, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm I'm just proud that you're my friend. And me

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<v Speaker 2>and Erica were having a conversation earlier, earlier these last

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<v Speaker 2>three years. We were recently and we were talking about

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<v Speaker 2>how we feel strongly that this is a time where

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<v Speaker 2>it's a revolution for women. Absolutely not only have we

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<v Speaker 2>met and like linked up with so many amazing women

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<v Speaker 2>and became like best friends through the podcast, but just

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<v Speaker 2>in general, like, I've never felt so empowered in a

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<v Speaker 2>space with other women that are like pushing me that

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<v Speaker 2>we've partnered, that I can tap in and call that

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<v Speaker 2>support us, Like literally I just wish you're take the

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<v Speaker 2>whole episode to just talk about all the women that

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<v Speaker 2>I love that I met through the podcast, but there's

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<v Speaker 2>too many. But literally we have like very very very

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<v Speaker 2>very close friends because of the podcast, you know, like

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<v Speaker 2>Jessica Rose, Carmen, Ashley Bruna, fucking Shanisha.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, there's Melanie Melanie Maya.

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<v Speaker 2>Maya Niche like she's already been our friend, but just

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<v Speaker 2>so much love and support that, like, I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>it's so powerful to link up. Even Erica, I love you. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I love most importantly because I wasn't a very consistent

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<v Speaker 2>bitch by myself. And I just think through partnership Blair

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<v Speaker 2>post twenty one, like we've really seen our we've seen

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<v Speaker 2>ourselves blossom and obviously as we've seen our business blossom

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<v Speaker 2>and our brand, and I just feel like it's it's

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<v Speaker 2>this is the time for women. And if you have

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<v Speaker 2>some women and you're like or one of those women

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<v Speaker 2>that like doesn't like to fuck with other women, this

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<v Speaker 2>is not the time for that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you gotta move past that.

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<v Speaker 2>You gotta pass the fuck was all my cellular.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh sorry, you got to move past that. You gotta

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<v Speaker 1>push past that because there are, There are so many

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<v Speaker 1>amazing women out there. You gotta whatever is, whatever block

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<v Speaker 1>you have or whatever preconceived notion or whatever trauma you

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<v Speaker 1>have behind women, work on that shit because when we

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<v Speaker 1>come together, it is it's unstoppable. And I know, for me,

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<v Speaker 1>thinking back on where I was at the beginning of

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<v Speaker 1>this podcast till now, I am so I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>a fucking butterfly. Like I was in like a little cocoon,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, oh, like I'm freeing me too, me too,

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<v Speaker 1>and like no one can penetrate this shit. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>give a fuck. You can say whatever the fuck you

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<v Speaker 1>think about me and my womanhood and I don't give

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<v Speaker 1>a fuck. I don't care.

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<v Speaker 2>Rugh when men women other, I don't give a fuck. Literally,

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<v Speaker 2>I told some friends recently. I literally told some friends

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm not in the space to care about like

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<v Speaker 2>how you feel about aout me. I really like me

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<v Speaker 2>right now, I really love me, and I they're like,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't care. I was like, I don't, and I

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<v Speaker 2>was serious as fuck, like I just don't. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>really care about the input if it's negative about me,

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm the fucking shit and I haven't really ever

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<v Speaker 2>felt that way until now, like.

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<v Speaker 1>Just no, I'm like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm radically self radical self love.

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<v Speaker 1>I have questioned my worth, my just my worth, who

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<v Speaker 1>I am, what I'm doing, what I believe so consistently

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<v Speaker 1>in my life, and to be in a place now

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<v Speaker 1>where it feels like I have this unwavering understanding of

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<v Speaker 1>who I am and where I'm going like that, nothing,

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<v Speaker 1>no one, not even like someone that I love deeply

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<v Speaker 1>can change that.

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<v Speaker 2>Honestly, if you are in if you even think that

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<v Speaker 2>you're going to come into my space and try and

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<v Speaker 2>change it, you are the fuck out. If you even

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<v Speaker 2>step to me and are like I think that you

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<v Speaker 2>should be more like I think you gotta go. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't care. I really don't care, Like I love myself.

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<v Speaker 2>And we've worked so hard to get here, Erica, like

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<v Speaker 2>you've heard us do it one hundred and fifty five

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<v Speaker 2>nimes in the last three years. It is work. And

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<v Speaker 2>it's not to say that there's no not more work

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<v Speaker 2>to do.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's not to say that I'm not open to

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<v Speaker 1>constructive criticism, like I'm totally open to you know, like evaluates.

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<v Speaker 1>All I ever do is evaluate.

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<v Speaker 2>Myself self evaluate.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm open to that, but there's certain things that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm that are I'm not going to compromise on because

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<v Speaker 1>it took me a long time to feel this way,

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<v Speaker 1>and I feel good and I feel empowered, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>attracting the things that I'm attracting because of that. And

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<v Speaker 1>it ain't nobody, ain't no bitch, ain't no nigga, ain't

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<v Speaker 1>nothing now by the way of my alignment, No, it's not,

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<v Speaker 1>It won't and it can't. And just I just want

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<v Speaker 1>to like talk about this app infation that I want

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<v Speaker 1>us to all today think about. And this is something

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<v Speaker 1>that's been a little bit personal to me, and maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you can hear it in my voice because I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>little irritated writing she's ready to chat. My affirmation this week,

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<v Speaker 1>this month, this year, three hundred and sixty five days

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<v Speaker 1>forever is my past does not define me.

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<v Speaker 2>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>My past does not define me, Honey, it doesn't. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't care what the fuck you thought or think or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't. It does not define me because I'm living

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<v Speaker 1>in the present moment and everything that I did in

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<v Speaker 1>the past brought me to here to this moment.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you like me now, then you like everything.

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<v Speaker 1>If you like me now you like every bad, motherfucking

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<v Speaker 1>choice I made.

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<v Speaker 2>Every good, every bad, everything, everything that led me to

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<v Speaker 2>this place is who I am. And to love me

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<v Speaker 2>right now is to love all of that. And if

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<v Speaker 2>you are abrasive or question or have any fucking comments

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<v Speaker 2>about that, kick rocks, because guess what, if you're listening

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<v Speaker 2>and you too, this applies to you none. None of

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<v Speaker 2>that shit that happened, not even yesterday, changes who you are.

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<v Speaker 2>And I mean it makes you who you are, but

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<v Speaker 2>it does not define who you are. And tomorrow's a

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<v Speaker 2>new day. You could do, you could do and be

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<v Speaker 2>whoever the fuck you want you. Every day is a

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<v Speaker 2>new day to do that. I think as women that

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<v Speaker 2>gets fucked up often. I think as women we get.

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<v Speaker 1>What is it?

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<v Speaker 2>We get gentholed, we get pigeonholed to like our past

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<v Speaker 2>and decisions we've made, and I just want to We're

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<v Speaker 2>here to tell you that shit doesn't matter and don't

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<v Speaker 2>let anyone make you feel shamed or guilty or bad

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<v Speaker 2>about whatever the fuck got you to where you are

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<v Speaker 2>right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, I think you know. For me, I recently experienced

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<v Speaker 1>this with someone that I really really care about and

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<v Speaker 1>I love deeply truly, and I've known for a really

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<v Speaker 1>long time, and I felt I was really surprised by

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<v Speaker 1>his analysis of my past and his decision to, I guess,

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<v Speaker 1>in some ways decide if he's going to disassociate himself

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<v Speaker 1>with me.

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<v Speaker 2>Was disassociated the word used because I hate that.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, that's not the right word, because that's if he

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<v Speaker 1>listens to this. I don't want him to. That's not true. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe not disassociating.

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<v Speaker 2>Has it ever mattered if someone listens?

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<v Speaker 1>I know, but like just that it wasn't for him,

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<v Speaker 1>My past wasn't for him, but everything else was for him.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just, I just I know that had we

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<v Speaker 1>had this conversation three years ago, I would have been

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<v Speaker 1>like very I would have questioned myself. I would have questioned,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, like does my sexual history really? Am

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<v Speaker 1>I a hoe? Or like am I weak? Or do

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<v Speaker 1>I fuck people when I'm bored? And is that bad?

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<v Speaker 1>And like did is having sex for fun a bad thing?

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<v Speaker 1>Am I reckless? And am I not selective?

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<v Speaker 2>And the answer is sometimes yes to all of that

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<v Speaker 2>and sometimes.

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<v Speaker 1>No, And some I think, like the reason why I

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<v Speaker 1>am selective is because I've made bad choices, is because

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<v Speaker 1>I've admitted to him and to all of you listening

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<v Speaker 1>about the choices that I've made and how they've brought

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<v Speaker 1>me to this moment. And so I don't know, like

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<v Speaker 1>I've been like really stewing on it for about a

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<v Speaker 1>week and a half, this conversation that we had, And

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I did cry at first because and not

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<v Speaker 1>out of like because I felt guilty, but I just

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't believe that, like this person that I loved felt

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<v Speaker 1>this way about me and I had no idea, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And then and I also cried because I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>can this person be in my life anymore? Like I

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<v Speaker 1>felt like I was losing someone because I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want anyone around me that feels that way

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<v Speaker 1>about me. That and I don't know why you would

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<v Speaker 1>want to be around me if you feel that way

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<v Speaker 1>about me. Yeah, And like, you know, I send him

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<v Speaker 1>love and I want to. I've continued to, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>throughout this process of having these conversations to try to

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<v Speaker 1>empower him to like change his way of thinking, because

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<v Speaker 1>I do think that men in general, they have these

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<v Speaker 1>no matter how woke you think you are, or how

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<v Speaker 1>progressive or for feminism you think you are there are

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<v Speaker 1>these underlying like male toxic traits that you've been fed

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<v Speaker 1>that you don't even realize exist until you're encountered with

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<v Speaker 1>a woman who is empowered by her choices, good or bad.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that's that's what's happened. And like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, I just if you're if you're listening right now,

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<v Speaker 1>and a man has shamed you for you know, your

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<v Speaker 1>sexual history, for whatever it is. Maybe you cheated on

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<v Speaker 1>your ex boyfriend, you cheated on your boyfriend, maybe you

0:18:58.359 --> 0:19:02.480
<v Speaker 1>cheated on him, just know that it does not define

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<v Speaker 1>who you are. I know that my choices and my

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<v Speaker 1>vulnerability that I share with you guys every week and

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<v Speaker 1>with my friends and with my lovers, like if it

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<v Speaker 1>makes me who I am, and I don't apologize for

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<v Speaker 1>one part of who I am. And I'm just so

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<v Speaker 1>grateful to have you, to have so many women around

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<v Speaker 1>me that are like em eh, fuck that, No, we're

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<v Speaker 1>not doing that. And it made me feel good because

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<v Speaker 1>there are friends that might be like.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, girl, they well and.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have Thank God, I ain't got those. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't got those bitches in my life, none of them.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, maybe I do. Maybe you're talking shit behind

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<v Speaker 1>my back. If you are, fuck you. But I know

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<v Speaker 1>that my crew, my tribe is so thorough that and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so thorough and my decisions and my selectiveness that

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<v Speaker 1>that shit doesn't really it doesn't phase me. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just I'm just so grateful for where I'm at because

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<v Speaker 1>I know, like I said, like, had this conversation maybe

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<v Speaker 1>been had like three years ago, I really would have

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<v Speaker 1>questioned my self worth. I really would have questioned whether

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<v Speaker 1>he was right, and like really felt bad about myself.

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't feel bad at all.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like that bitch, you are that bitch, thank you,

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<v Speaker 2>and he's is his loss. Honestly, I have I mean

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<v Speaker 2>as a woman, and we all have been in this place,

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<v Speaker 2>but specifically with like someone I really really really cared

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<v Speaker 2>about and like my daughter's dad, and it was just constantly,

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<v Speaker 2>like constant, constant, constant. I feel like for a large

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<v Speaker 2>portion of my life, I mean a I was probably

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<v Speaker 2>making bad decisions and like having loathing over it and

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<v Speaker 2>then be obviously at other people trying to make me

0:20:50.720 --> 0:20:53.399
<v Speaker 2>question myself and making me feel shame and guilt. But

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<v Speaker 2>I think the biggest misconception for women is that you

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<v Speaker 2>got to evaluate shit for yourself. You know, if you

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<v Speaker 2>got to go home and be like I was bored,

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<v Speaker 2>I shouldn't did that. And it's not really to feel

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<v Speaker 2>guilty about. It's not really to like harbor On. It's

0:21:11.400 --> 0:21:14.639
<v Speaker 2>about it's like not harbor harp On, but to move

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<v Speaker 2>forward and to like just make better choices. Erica and

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<v Speaker 2>I took the kids to Denver last this week and

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<v Speaker 2>we're thirsty. So at some point we saw an attractive

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<v Speaker 2>man in the lobby. He had a fucking snow resort

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<v Speaker 2>of some sort, and we're like made our married friend

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<v Speaker 2>go like give give him our number, like we're thirteen.

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<v Speaker 2>And then after we put the kids to bed, him

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<v Speaker 2>and his brother came by totally uneventful. We like drank,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, we smoked whatever. Anyway, we started talking. No,

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<v Speaker 2>we started playing our favorite game, or The Culture, and

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<v Speaker 2>one of the people that came up on the game

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<v Speaker 2>was Carrie Hillson and he goes.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, so, just so you know, for the for the

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<v Speaker 1>Culture is like heads.

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<v Speaker 2>Up, so you have to, like you something comes across

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<v Speaker 2>the screen and everybody else has to guess. It has

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<v Speaker 2>to give you hints to guess the person or word

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<v Speaker 2>on the screen. So the word on the screen was

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<v Speaker 2>Carrie Hilton. So this nigga goes, she's disgusting, she puts

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<v Speaker 2>things in our mouth on the Internet, and I'm like

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<v Speaker 2>what I had?

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<v Speaker 1>I was like because I knew I saw Wait, actually

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<v Speaker 1>I was behind you, so I was like, who is

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<v Speaker 1>he talking about? Like, I was thinking, like, anyone but

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<v Speaker 1>carry Hilson, anyone but her.

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<v Speaker 2>I had no idea. So after the round, obviously we

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<v Speaker 2>got that wrong. I was like, what is so disgusting

0:22:34.520 --> 0:22:37.679
<v Speaker 2>about Carrie Hillson. He was like, oh, you don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>She's all over Twitter putting things in her mouth, so

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't. I was like, she has a sex video.

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<v Speaker 2>I need to check this out, Like.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she's deep throating.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like lollipop I was like, who's the sex

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<v Speaker 2>video with?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I was like deep throting. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh no.

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<v Speaker 2>So then he goes then he I thought it was

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<v Speaker 2>a sex video. Then he confirms it's lollipops. And when he.

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<v Speaker 1>Said the deep throning, I was like, well, bitch, nigga,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want to go on our patreot and watch

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<v Speaker 1>our deep throating video with Samaya and the Cucumber. And

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<v Speaker 1>literally when he said that. I was like, I was

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<v Speaker 1>just that was when I stopped talking to everyone. I

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<v Speaker 1>literally was on my phone looking down the whole time.

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<v Speaker 1>Jamila was doing her preachy thing where she's trying to

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<v Speaker 1>like change people's minds, and I was like, I'm out.

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<v Speaker 2>I cracked up so hard. And then I continued to

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<v Speaker 2>fuck with them and I was like, well, what if

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<v Speaker 2>you're in the house full of witches on a full moon?

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<v Speaker 2>They were for sure Christians. They got out, they never sing.

0:23:27.280 --> 0:23:29.000
<v Speaker 2>He said, yeah, he was like, like, my aunt is

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<v Speaker 2>Yolanda Adams. I was like, oh, he's not know where

0:23:32.280 --> 0:23:35.359
<v Speaker 2>he's at right. Long story short, About seventeen minutes later

0:23:35.440 --> 0:23:39.080
<v Speaker 2>they left rapidly, which was great, but it's also hilarious.

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<v Speaker 2>But it just confirms I don't know what all be

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<v Speaker 2>gone on this point. It just confirms the shaming of women,

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<v Speaker 2>the shaming of women, and not only from men but

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<v Speaker 2>amongst each other. You know, it's really interesting to see

0:23:50.840 --> 0:23:53.080
<v Speaker 2>how much we do that to each other. And because

0:23:53.119 --> 0:23:56.720
<v Speaker 2>of that, like there's no fucking support, Like I said,

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<v Speaker 2>I had, we probably heard this story once a year.

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<v Speaker 1>And also I encourage you go look at the video

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<v Speaker 1>that he's talking about. It's it's literally the most innocent

0:24:06.000 --> 0:24:06.800
<v Speaker 1>in a swallow of it.

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<v Speaker 2>I popule what Yeah, shout out to Kerry Hillson. I

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<v Speaker 2>love you for that. We're now I know for sure

0:24:14.520 --> 0:24:17.320
<v Speaker 2>nothing only bitches on the internet with deep throating something.

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<v Speaker 2>But even in my own friend circle, like the friends

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<v Speaker 2>I've known the longest, I literally recently had another conversation,

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<v Speaker 2>like an argument, and there was a guy in the car,

0:24:30.280 --> 0:24:31.959
<v Speaker 2>a guy that I brought in the car, and they

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<v Speaker 2>thought it would be a good idea to start talking

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<v Speaker 2>about MI nudity around all their boyfriends. And I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, I was fucking mortified because I'm like,

0:24:40.720 --> 0:24:42.879
<v Speaker 2>why are you talking about this right now when this

0:24:43.000 --> 0:24:45.800
<v Speaker 2>nigga is in the car. Second of all, bitch, I've

0:24:45.800 --> 0:24:48.680
<v Speaker 2>been friends with YouTube bitches for one hundred years. You

0:24:48.720 --> 0:24:52.480
<v Speaker 2>know my shit comes off when I have fun. Why

0:24:52.520 --> 0:24:54.639
<v Speaker 2>are we still talking about it? And I was just

0:24:54.680 --> 0:24:57.720
<v Speaker 2>getting so angry, and you know I did, like I

0:24:57.760 --> 0:25:00.440
<v Speaker 2>did get angry because they're like this boyfriend, my friend,

0:25:00.480 --> 0:25:02.200
<v Speaker 2>you got undressed in front of this person. I'm like, bitch,

0:25:02.240 --> 0:25:04.600
<v Speaker 2>that was three years ago, and I know you, so

0:25:04.680 --> 0:25:06.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm not constantly taking my titties out in front of

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<v Speaker 2>your nigga, because I know you're weird anyway. That was

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<v Speaker 2>one of the people that I had the conversation, and like,

0:25:13.640 --> 0:25:15.159
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I don't feel bad about anything that

0:25:15.200 --> 0:25:17.399
<v Speaker 2>I've done. I'm not going to apologize and honestly, I

0:25:17.920 --> 0:25:20.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm not changing anything. And they're like, oh, that's your solution.

0:25:20.680 --> 0:25:21.600
<v Speaker 2>I was like you, guys, I was like, if you

0:25:21.640 --> 0:25:26.639
<v Speaker 2>feel that way, oh, the words disrespectful and selfish were used,

0:25:26.840 --> 0:25:28.880
<v Speaker 2>and I said, look to my friend straight in the eye,

0:25:28.880 --> 0:25:30.040
<v Speaker 2>and I still feel this way, and I said, I

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<v Speaker 2>love you.

0:25:30.760 --> 0:25:31.000
<v Speaker 1>I do.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have to be around you, though, and I

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<v Speaker 2>really encourage you not to be around me if you

0:25:36.640 --> 0:25:40.359
<v Speaker 2>feel like I'm disrespectful or selfish. I have been the

0:25:40.400 --> 0:25:44.480
<v Speaker 2>same bitch for many years at my core, like the

0:25:44.480 --> 0:25:49.160
<v Speaker 2>tweets tell it all. So if you have an issue

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<v Speaker 2>with my nudity or how I express myself, please, I

0:25:52.800 --> 0:25:55.520
<v Speaker 2>really encourage you to take space. And I felt completely

0:25:55.600 --> 0:25:59.520
<v Speaker 2>comfortable and completely sound telling her this, and I hold

0:25:59.560 --> 0:26:02.440
<v Speaker 2>to it because, like you said, no nigga, not someone

0:26:02.440 --> 0:26:06.159
<v Speaker 2>i'm smashing, not someone who's my friend, no girl, no chicks,

0:26:06.320 --> 0:26:09.320
<v Speaker 2>nobody is going to make me. I've done it too long.

0:26:09.359 --> 0:26:11.000
<v Speaker 2>In my life, as I'm sure a lot of other

0:26:11.080 --> 0:26:14.720
<v Speaker 2>women have questioned myself, question my behavior. One thing about

0:26:14.720 --> 0:26:18.119
<v Speaker 2>me is I'm a loyal ass friend period. There's no like.

0:26:18.160 --> 0:26:21.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm not like a weird ass bitch. One thing about

0:26:21.080 --> 0:26:22.480
<v Speaker 2>me is your nigga is cute. And I think so

0:26:22.600 --> 0:26:24.359
<v Speaker 2>you're gonna know because I'm gonna tell you. I'm like,

0:26:24.400 --> 0:26:27.120
<v Speaker 2>if you need help, just let me know. But like,

0:26:27.200 --> 0:26:33.360
<v Speaker 2>it just really it really made me realize how much

0:26:33.400 --> 0:26:35.159
<v Speaker 2>if I wasn't in this space, and how in the

0:26:35.200 --> 0:26:37.199
<v Speaker 2>past when these conversations have come up, because they have

0:26:37.280 --> 0:26:39.439
<v Speaker 2>come up, how much it made me question myself and

0:26:39.480 --> 0:26:41.239
<v Speaker 2>if I am too much and if I like, if

0:26:41.240 --> 0:26:43.920
<v Speaker 2>I shouldn't tell niggas everything in the beginning or whatever

0:26:44.000 --> 0:26:48.280
<v Speaker 2>the fucking case is. And no space, especially in friendship

0:26:48.359 --> 0:26:50.400
<v Speaker 2>or in any relationship, should you have to question who

0:26:50.440 --> 0:26:52.680
<v Speaker 2>the fuck you are. You know you are who you are.

0:26:52.720 --> 0:26:55.000
<v Speaker 2>And I mean, obviously we all can get better and

0:26:55.040 --> 0:26:58.280
<v Speaker 2>be better and make changes, but like, there are certain

0:26:58.320 --> 0:27:01.119
<v Speaker 2>things that I'm not I'm about to feel bad for

0:27:01.280 --> 0:27:03.720
<v Speaker 2>if I just don't feel bad about them, me getting

0:27:03.800 --> 0:27:05.720
<v Speaker 2>naked when I'm having fun, I'm not gonna feel bad

0:27:05.760 --> 0:27:09.280
<v Speaker 2>about it. I don't care, So I just.

0:27:10.440 --> 0:27:13.080
<v Speaker 1>And don't don't invite her to the party. Don't invite

0:27:13.080 --> 0:27:13.640
<v Speaker 1>her to the party.

0:27:13.680 --> 0:27:16.639
<v Speaker 2>Your invites are done. You're not ef for getting invited

0:27:16.680 --> 0:27:18.880
<v Speaker 2>to vacation already. And I'm just saying, don't invite you.

0:27:19.000 --> 0:27:21.040
<v Speaker 2>I know everybody knows that if you don't want.

0:27:20.920 --> 0:27:22.760
<v Speaker 1>Mila to take her to her show her titties, don't

0:27:22.800 --> 0:27:23.200
<v Speaker 1>invite her.

0:27:23.240 --> 0:27:25.000
<v Speaker 2>But that's not true. I don't do it at every party.

0:27:25.040 --> 0:27:26.359
<v Speaker 2>It has to be like a it has to be

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<v Speaker 2>a warm climate.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah you do, like seventy percent. But you know, I

0:27:32.200 --> 0:27:35.320
<v Speaker 1>don't give a fuck. But I'm just saying they know.

0:27:35.720 --> 0:27:38.119
<v Speaker 1>They already know. They know more than I know, Like

0:27:38.240 --> 0:27:40.399
<v Speaker 1>they know what they're you know what they're getting, you know,

0:27:40.480 --> 0:27:43.040
<v Speaker 1>And it's like you're not if they're your friends, they're

0:27:43.040 --> 0:27:45.119
<v Speaker 1>not gonna try and change you. And they need to

0:27:45.160 --> 0:27:47.359
<v Speaker 1>check their niggas, check their niggas. If they have their

0:27:47.440 --> 0:27:49.560
<v Speaker 1>niggas got issues, check your niggas, you know what I mean,

0:27:49.640 --> 0:27:51.040
<v Speaker 1>Like I don't, I don't. I don't give a fuck

0:27:51.040 --> 0:27:53.439
<v Speaker 1>if you took your your titties out in front of

0:27:53.440 --> 0:27:56.040
<v Speaker 1>my friend, because guess what, my nigga loves my titties.

0:27:56.080 --> 0:27:57.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm good over here. If he wants to look at

0:27:57.840 --> 0:27:59.479
<v Speaker 1>your look at her titties. Aren't they great? You look

0:27:59.480 --> 0:28:02.760
<v Speaker 1>at mine? Because you're coming home with these? Okay, it's true.

0:28:02.840 --> 0:28:04.639
<v Speaker 2>I mean I'm not saying like I'm gonna take my

0:28:04.680 --> 0:28:06.919
<v Speaker 2>titties out every fucking event, at the wedding, at the

0:28:06.920 --> 0:28:10.760
<v Speaker 2>fucking you know I have. That's the thing. I am pretty,

0:28:10.960 --> 0:28:13.800
<v Speaker 2>I can gauge, I could read a room. I'm a

0:28:13.880 --> 0:28:17.720
<v Speaker 2>room reading bitch. I'm in fucking cancer. I'm an impath.

0:28:17.920 --> 0:28:21.639
<v Speaker 2>I can feel everybody's energy immediately, So it's not like

0:28:21.720 --> 0:28:24.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm oblivious. So it's just I just don't want to

0:28:24.800 --> 0:28:26.879
<v Speaker 2>be put in spaces or boxes where I have to

0:28:26.960 --> 0:28:29.200
<v Speaker 2>question who I am or think twice about my behavior

0:28:29.280 --> 0:28:31.399
<v Speaker 2>or what I'm doing. Because I'm a big girl and

0:28:31.440 --> 0:28:32.960
<v Speaker 2>I do whatever the fuck I want. And if it

0:28:33.000 --> 0:28:35.440
<v Speaker 2>makes you uncomfortable, kick rocks. If you don't like who

0:28:35.440 --> 0:28:38.160
<v Speaker 2>I am, kick rocks. And to the nigga who told

0:28:38.560 --> 0:28:41.600
<v Speaker 2>had some reservations about your sexual history and whether or

0:28:41.600 --> 0:28:44.240
<v Speaker 2>not you're selective of enough, I like him too, but

0:28:44.480 --> 0:28:48.320
<v Speaker 2>kick fucking rocks, because I love you, and I would

0:28:48.520 --> 0:28:50.720
<v Speaker 2>I don't want anyone to ever make you feel that

0:28:50.960 --> 0:28:53.560
<v Speaker 2>you know you're anything less than who the fuck you are,

0:28:53.600 --> 0:28:57.120
<v Speaker 2>which is the shit a fucking queen. Okay, based on

0:28:57.800 --> 0:29:00.200
<v Speaker 2>some niggas you fuck, because I guess what, everybody he

0:29:00.280 --> 0:29:03.160
<v Speaker 2>has some niggas or bitches on their list that could.

0:29:02.920 --> 0:29:04.680
<v Speaker 1>Have probably not been on the list.

0:29:05.360 --> 0:29:08.640
<v Speaker 2>Everybody, Oh, well, that's life. That's how you get better,

0:29:08.680 --> 0:29:11.040
<v Speaker 2>that's you get more selective. You do some fucks that

0:29:11.120 --> 0:29:12.160
<v Speaker 2>you could have done without.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, absolutely, I agree.

0:29:17.160 --> 0:29:20.440
<v Speaker 2>Happy International Women's Day, everybody.

0:29:24.200 --> 0:29:27.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think that I don't know. This day is

0:29:27.680 --> 0:29:32.080
<v Speaker 1>just a reminder of for me of like I think

0:29:32.160 --> 0:29:39.720
<v Speaker 1>about how how insecure I once was, and even like

0:29:40.040 --> 0:29:43.440
<v Speaker 1>ordering ordering dinner, I remember looking at menus and like

0:29:43.520 --> 0:29:47.440
<v Speaker 1>I couldn't fucking decide, Like like, I know it sounds silly,

0:29:47.480 --> 0:29:49.760
<v Speaker 1>but like I would look at menus and like any

0:29:49.760 --> 0:29:51.760
<v Speaker 1>menu that was more than three pages, I would completely

0:29:51.800 --> 0:29:55.800
<v Speaker 1>feel overwhelmed. Oh my god, it's me, like completely overwhelmed.

0:29:55.840 --> 0:29:58.440
<v Speaker 1>And now, like even ordering, I've noticed that I'm a

0:29:58.440 --> 0:30:01.840
<v Speaker 1>better orderer now. I know how to order better, I

0:30:01.880 --> 0:30:04.160
<v Speaker 1>know how to select my niggas better, I know how

0:30:04.160 --> 0:30:06.160
<v Speaker 1>to not give a fuck about what anybody says about

0:30:06.160 --> 0:30:11.200
<v Speaker 1>me better. I just feel overall, just I'm walking in

0:30:11.280 --> 0:30:14.320
<v Speaker 1>my power and a huge part of that is because

0:30:14.360 --> 0:30:18.239
<v Speaker 1>of you guys listening. Honestly, Like a huge part of

0:30:18.280 --> 0:30:21.360
<v Speaker 1>that is because of you guys listening, because of the

0:30:21.400 --> 0:30:26.560
<v Speaker 1>messages that you send us every day, empowering our decisions

0:30:26.560 --> 0:30:29.360
<v Speaker 1>and our choices and like saying, you know what, I

0:30:29.400 --> 0:30:31.920
<v Speaker 1>did that shit too, and like this is how I

0:30:32.000 --> 0:30:35.080
<v Speaker 1>overcame it. Like here, try this, because like you know,

0:30:35.160 --> 0:30:36.960
<v Speaker 1>me and Mila don't have all the answers, and a

0:30:36.960 --> 0:30:40.160
<v Speaker 1>lot of the times you guys have the answers. Like you,

0:30:40.800 --> 0:30:43.280
<v Speaker 1>there's parents that have kids that are eighteen years old

0:30:43.320 --> 0:30:45.400
<v Speaker 1>that are listening twenty in college, you know, as you

0:30:45.400 --> 0:30:50.240
<v Speaker 1>guys are way farther into your womanhood, your lives, your parenting.

0:30:51.120 --> 0:30:55.080
<v Speaker 1>And I'm just like a student, honestly. I'm a student

0:30:55.320 --> 0:31:00.040
<v Speaker 1>to you know, the our supporters. I'm a student to

0:31:00.760 --> 0:31:03.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, myself listening. I was telling my friend the

0:31:03.520 --> 0:31:05.640
<v Speaker 1>other day, I was like, I've learned so much just

0:31:05.680 --> 0:31:08.720
<v Speaker 1>by talking out loud. Oh my, I have learned so

0:31:08.880 --> 0:31:12.880
<v Speaker 1>much about life just by saying things. I've come to

0:31:13.080 --> 0:31:18.560
<v Speaker 1>just epiphanies about myself about how I view things and

0:31:18.640 --> 0:31:20.480
<v Speaker 1>why I do things and why I've done things in

0:31:20.520 --> 0:31:23.040
<v Speaker 1>the past by just like talking about it on them

0:31:23.080 --> 0:31:25.560
<v Speaker 1>on this mic. And I think I think a lot

0:31:25.600 --> 0:31:29.640
<v Speaker 1>of my insecurities came from internalizing everything and not saying

0:31:29.880 --> 0:31:35.520
<v Speaker 1>so many things and just like just overthinking everything. So

0:31:35.720 --> 0:31:38.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I'm just so grateful for this platform.

0:31:39.080 --> 0:31:42.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm so grateful for Jamila. I'm so grateful for our team.

0:31:42.200 --> 0:31:45.520
<v Speaker 1>Shout out to May over here, May, shout out to Taney,

0:31:45.760 --> 0:31:48.640
<v Speaker 1>Shout out to just everyone who's like pushed us along

0:31:48.640 --> 0:31:53.920
<v Speaker 1>the way, Nishe Brandon, like all the people that have

0:31:54.000 --> 0:31:58.760
<v Speaker 1>supported us Romo, like man All Ashley just go on,

0:31:58.880 --> 0:32:01.680
<v Speaker 1>are like neur Alyn, like just all the people that

0:32:01.760 --> 0:32:04.760
<v Speaker 1>have just been there for us and rode with us,

0:32:04.840 --> 0:32:07.840
<v Speaker 1>and just I love you, guys, I love you.

0:32:09.920 --> 0:32:14.960
<v Speaker 2>One more thing I was thinking, because because our community

0:32:15.000 --> 0:32:18.320
<v Speaker 2>is so supportive, and it's strange to say this, but like,

0:32:19.560 --> 0:32:23.800
<v Speaker 2>we had some really amazing wins in the last couple

0:32:23.880 --> 0:32:28.400
<v Speaker 2>of weeks, and it just confirmed for us that we're

0:32:28.400 --> 0:32:32.040
<v Speaker 2>doing the right thing, even when so many times we've

0:32:32.040 --> 0:32:34.160
<v Speaker 2>been told by people we knew and people who were

0:32:34.160 --> 0:32:37.440
<v Speaker 2>close to us, what you're doing is too much. And

0:32:37.880 --> 0:32:40.840
<v Speaker 2>to have a platform that talks about everything is too much,

0:32:40.880 --> 0:32:42.640
<v Speaker 2>Like you could keep some things to yourself. You don't

0:32:42.640 --> 0:32:44.720
<v Speaker 2>have to say everything, and believe it or not, we

0:32:44.760 --> 0:32:48.920
<v Speaker 2>don't say everything. But I beg I really wanted Erica

0:32:49.000 --> 0:32:54.040
<v Speaker 2>to watch the Free Brittany documentary and also did that

0:32:54.800 --> 0:32:58.080
<v Speaker 2>and denvers so important, and I really want to do

0:32:58.120 --> 0:33:00.480
<v Speaker 2>like an entire episode dedicated to Free Brittany, Like I

0:33:00.520 --> 0:33:01.840
<v Speaker 2>don't know if it's going to be on Patreon, I

0:33:01.880 --> 0:33:03.160
<v Speaker 2>don't know if it's going to be on here, but

0:33:03.200 --> 0:33:06.640
<v Speaker 2>it's necessary. But while watching it, it really made me realize, like,

0:33:06.680 --> 0:33:10.760
<v Speaker 2>first of all, Free Brittany. Second of all, they ridiculed

0:33:10.800 --> 0:33:15.800
<v Speaker 2>her so fucking harshly as a young woman, about her breast,

0:33:15.800 --> 0:33:18.720
<v Speaker 2>about her body, about her sexuality, about who she was dating,

0:33:19.400 --> 0:33:21.640
<v Speaker 2>when she became a mother, how she was parenting. They

0:33:21.800 --> 0:33:27.680
<v Speaker 2>fucking harassed this woman, this nice, lovely Caucasian woman. I mean,

0:33:27.720 --> 0:33:29.520
<v Speaker 2>the thing was, at first I didn't really care to watch.

0:33:29.560 --> 0:33:31.440
<v Speaker 2>She was like eh, And then when I watched, I

0:33:31.560 --> 0:33:35.960
<v Speaker 2>was moved and I was pissed and like, if this

0:33:36.000 --> 0:33:38.720
<v Speaker 2>can happen to this nice Caucasian woman, like we need

0:33:38.720 --> 0:33:41.760
<v Speaker 2>to come together. This is actually some real shit. Because

0:33:41.960 --> 0:33:46.120
<v Speaker 2>she's a slave, she's literally enslaved and being worked like

0:33:46.120 --> 0:33:47.960
<v Speaker 2>a circus monkey. If you haven't watched it, you should

0:33:47.960 --> 0:33:53.719
<v Speaker 2>really check it out. It's on Hulu. Uh it's effects.

0:33:54.120 --> 0:33:57.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. It's a New York Times presence, but

0:33:57.840 --> 0:34:00.440
<v Speaker 2>it really made me realize while watching it. First of all,

0:34:00.480 --> 0:34:02.320
<v Speaker 2>I remember when all this shit was going on as

0:34:02.320 --> 0:34:05.120
<v Speaker 2>a teenager, you know, like when she wrote she shaved

0:34:05.120 --> 0:34:07.600
<v Speaker 2>her head off. I remember when she like said she

0:34:07.640 --> 0:34:10.560
<v Speaker 2>was a virgin, and then justin Timberlake then said, oh

0:34:10.600 --> 0:34:14.320
<v Speaker 2>I smash publicly and everything was swept under the carpet,

0:34:14.480 --> 0:34:16.680
<v Speaker 2>and when she shaved her head, she was crazy. Even

0:34:16.680 --> 0:34:18.560
<v Speaker 2>till this day, we see her running makeup on the

0:34:18.600 --> 0:34:20.799
<v Speaker 2>internet and we're like, oh, she's lost it. But the

0:34:20.840 --> 0:34:24.480
<v Speaker 2>truth of the matter is we come from a society

0:34:24.480 --> 0:34:28.000
<v Speaker 2>of fucking vulturous people who are just evil and mean,

0:34:28.600 --> 0:34:32.160
<v Speaker 2>and they didn't let this woman evolve and live her life.

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<v Speaker 2>And I just feel like it reminds me watching this

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<v Speaker 2>and like this short period of time, like I can

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<v Speaker 2>look back like it was yesterday and I was fucking

0:34:41.200 --> 0:34:44.040
<v Speaker 2>watching her go through all this stuff, Like I vividly

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<v Speaker 2>remember all these things happening. We're from we're in the Valley,

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<v Speaker 2>So we're in Hollywood. We knew, we knew all the shit,

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<v Speaker 2>but it just it's astonishing to me that I sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>I forget when people say what we're doing is trailblazing,

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm like, we're just telling the truth. There was

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<v Speaker 2>a time where women couldn't talk like this. I couldn't

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<v Speaker 2>talk about driving past the airport for anal casual, anal

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<v Speaker 2>with some guy that it's probably never gonna be my boyfriend,

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 1>But and there was a time where you know, an

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<v Speaker 1>older man could ask a young woman about her breasts

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<v Speaker 1>on television.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know the kind of curse out this nigga

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<v Speaker 2>would have gotten from any of us.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Like, there's just it's just when I watched that,

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<v Speaker 1>I first of all, I felt bad because I've talked

0:35:29.920 --> 0:35:33.000
<v Speaker 1>shit about Brittany obviously even before I was a parent,

0:35:33.360 --> 0:35:35.239
<v Speaker 1>watching her like go through all of her shit and

0:35:35.280 --> 0:35:38.920
<v Speaker 1>not understanding postpartum depression. And also I have no idea

0:35:38.920 --> 0:35:41.920
<v Speaker 1>what it's like to have no privacy to wear everywhere

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<v Speaker 1>you go, you feel like you're in danger, and then

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<v Speaker 1>on top of that, having a child and wanting to

0:35:47.239 --> 0:35:50.239
<v Speaker 1>just get the fuck out and needing to escape, like

0:35:50.840 --> 0:35:54.240
<v Speaker 1>I can't even imagine. And I honestly like, I'm sorry, Brittany,

0:35:54.440 --> 0:35:57.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry. I really am, like truly because I judged.

0:35:57.160 --> 0:36:01.239
<v Speaker 1>I judged her, and I really didn't understand what she

0:36:01.320 --> 0:36:03.160
<v Speaker 1>was going through. And I shouldn't. I shouldn't have had to.

0:36:03.239 --> 0:36:05.040
<v Speaker 1>I shouldn't have had I shouldn't have had to watch

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<v Speaker 1>this documentary to gain perspective on why what has happened?

0:36:11.040 --> 0:36:13.880
<v Speaker 1>You know, but I did, and I and what Jamila said, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I encourage you guys to watch it. If you are

0:36:15.680 --> 0:36:17.239
<v Speaker 1>a parent, if you are a woman, if you're a man,

0:36:17.320 --> 0:36:20.080
<v Speaker 1>you really should go watch that shit because it's it's

0:36:20.160 --> 0:36:24.680
<v Speaker 1>crazy to see how her life progressed because she was

0:36:24.719 --> 0:36:29.160
<v Speaker 1>so eloquent, she was so intelligent, she was leading her career.

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<v Speaker 2>She was very kind amidst the hate she was getting

0:36:33.360 --> 0:36:35.680
<v Speaker 2>and the like the fucking attacks that she was getting

0:36:35.680 --> 0:36:39.120
<v Speaker 2>publicly by fucking Diane Sawyer. Diane Sawyer asked her on

0:36:39.239 --> 0:36:41.600
<v Speaker 2>fucking line, said to her on live dv SO and

0:36:41.640 --> 0:36:44.640
<v Speaker 2>so from Massachusetts said she would shoot you, well, like

0:36:44.840 --> 0:36:48.359
<v Speaker 2>you shoot you in the face. Is that fucking journalism, bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty pop, like eighteen years old.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's just like just as women, like we have

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<v Speaker 2>to do better and as men too, Like this is

0:36:54.520 --> 0:36:56.279
<v Speaker 2>a if you're a man and you're listening, because I

0:36:56.360 --> 0:36:58.160
<v Speaker 2>know you guys, listen some of you. This is like

0:36:58.520 --> 0:37:02.520
<v Speaker 2>literally deeply like a call for your attention to like

0:37:02.680 --> 0:37:05.520
<v Speaker 2>check your homies when they say stupid shit, check yourself

0:37:05.560 --> 0:37:08.319
<v Speaker 2>when you think stupid shit, Like we're all human, you

0:37:08.360 --> 0:37:11.440
<v Speaker 2>know you fuck you fuck some bitches the you know

0:37:11.480 --> 0:37:13.640
<v Speaker 2>what I'm saying, And like it's it's okay for you,

0:37:13.760 --> 0:37:17.080
<v Speaker 2>and no one no one's judging your character for it

0:37:17.200 --> 0:37:19.080
<v Speaker 2>or by it, or no one's thinking if should you

0:37:19.120 --> 0:37:21.840
<v Speaker 2>be my husband because you fucked and smashed this bitch

0:37:21.880 --> 0:37:24.960
<v Speaker 2>that's none not up to par. That that doesn't really

0:37:25.000 --> 0:37:27.400
<v Speaker 2>apply to men, you know, So I just encourage you

0:37:27.440 --> 0:37:29.799
<v Speaker 2>to just do better, and even for us. I'm just

0:37:29.880 --> 0:37:31.920
<v Speaker 2>so happy to be in this space and to be

0:37:31.960 --> 0:37:34.840
<v Speaker 2>empowered because I look at this, this fucking documentary, and

0:37:34.880 --> 0:37:37.200
<v Speaker 2>I see how empowered she was not and how like

0:37:37.280 --> 0:37:40.000
<v Speaker 2>it left her in a place of questioning herself and

0:37:40.320 --> 0:37:43.680
<v Speaker 2>sadness and unhappiness. And I'm just proud to be in

0:37:43.680 --> 0:37:46.160
<v Speaker 2>this space as a woman and as a mother and

0:37:46.239 --> 0:37:50.080
<v Speaker 2>to feel empowered and supportive enough to say, hey, yeah,

0:37:50.320 --> 0:37:53.120
<v Speaker 2>you know, I do this, I do that, and I'm

0:37:53.160 --> 0:37:54.839
<v Speaker 2>a good person and I'm a good mom, and that

0:37:54.880 --> 0:37:57.040
<v Speaker 2>means doesn't mean shit about the person that I am,

0:37:57.120 --> 0:37:59.520
<v Speaker 2>the friend, that I am, the daughter, the mother. So

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<v Speaker 2>I just I encourage everyone to judge less and love more.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeahs, as much as you go hard for black lives matter,

0:38:09.880 --> 0:38:12.880
<v Speaker 1>and like checking your your your your white friend's privileges,

0:38:13.680 --> 0:38:19.320
<v Speaker 1>check your your sexism. Women and men, don't, don't. Don't

0:38:19.400 --> 0:38:21.799
<v Speaker 1>just like push it to the side, laugh at it. No,

0:38:22.000 --> 0:38:25.640
<v Speaker 1>check that shit, because it's it's sick. It's sickening.

0:38:25.760 --> 0:38:27.880
<v Speaker 2>It's sickening, and it's toxic and it spreads.

0:38:28.840 --> 0:38:32.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and I don't know. Women, We we run the

0:38:32.960 --> 0:38:36.879
<v Speaker 1>fucking world, run the world, and it's it's you can't

0:38:36.960 --> 0:38:41.240
<v Speaker 1>we can't hide it anymore. It's undeniable. It's so undeniable

0:38:41.320 --> 0:38:42.160
<v Speaker 1>now like.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry, we're the glue. Not sorry, get with it because

0:38:47.040 --> 0:38:51.120
<v Speaker 2>it's a fucking takeover. Like this is not a patriarchy anymore.

0:38:51.719 --> 0:38:55.719
<v Speaker 2>Go home. Nope, go home, it's done. It's over the end.

0:38:56.320 --> 0:38:59.839
<v Speaker 2>You're out. You fucked everything up. We're taking our power back.

0:39:00.320 --> 0:39:03.000
<v Speaker 2>You can't tell us shit, you can't shame us. You

0:39:03.000 --> 0:39:05.680
<v Speaker 2>can't confuse us into thinking that our actions are fucked up.

0:39:05.680 --> 0:39:09.600
<v Speaker 2>We are sexual beings. We are also mothers. We are

0:39:09.640 --> 0:39:15.280
<v Speaker 2>also providers, we're nurturing, We're spicy. I'm masculine, I'm feminine.

0:39:15.320 --> 0:39:17.239
<v Speaker 2>I'll beat your fucking ass and I'll curse you out

0:39:17.280 --> 0:39:21.279
<v Speaker 2>and I'll also breastfeed you. So get with that.

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<v Speaker 1>Amen. Amen, Well on that note, Happy International Women's Day,

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<v Speaker 1>Happy avers, thy best. I love you, I love you,

0:39:35.000 --> 0:39:37.759
<v Speaker 1>and I love you, and we love you, and we

0:39:37.800 --> 0:39:41.359
<v Speaker 1>hope you take this day to celebrate yourself. Take the year,

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<v Speaker 1>Take every motherfucking day especially.

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<v Speaker 2>Take this day to delete people out of your life

0:39:45.120 --> 0:39:46.759
<v Speaker 2>and out of your phone that no longer serve you,

0:39:46.880 --> 0:39:48.920
<v Speaker 2>that don't align with who you are right now today,

0:39:48.920 --> 0:39:51.160
<v Speaker 2>don't appreciate the journey here, They're done.

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<v Speaker 1>Bye bye. Oh. Also, before we go, I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if you guys noticed but are not noticed. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if you guys know. I know some of y'all

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<v Speaker 1>missed our lives. If you missed our live show, don't fret.

0:40:02.880 --> 0:40:06.920
<v Speaker 1>We have our replay available on our website. So ladies,

0:40:07.440 --> 0:40:10.719
<v Speaker 1>if you're feeling empowered, go watch our live show because

0:40:10.760 --> 0:40:12.719
<v Speaker 1>it's gonna make you feel a little bit more empowered.

0:40:12.760 --> 0:40:14.840
<v Speaker 1>Call your friends up, go hang out at the crib,

0:40:15.400 --> 0:40:17.880
<v Speaker 1>get our replay, and spend about an hour and a

0:40:17.920 --> 0:40:21.840
<v Speaker 1>half with us, hanging out playing for the culture many

0:40:21.880 --> 0:40:26.439
<v Speaker 1>other games and talking our shit and feeling empowered, because

0:40:26.480 --> 0:40:28.800
<v Speaker 1>that's what we do over here at Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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<v Speaker 2>Join Patreon because we're going to eventually have a full

0:40:33.480 --> 0:40:36.840
<v Speaker 2>episode on Free the Free Brittany documentary. It's very important.

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<v Speaker 1>No, we really should. We will. It's important.

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<v Speaker 2>But we love you. Thank you, thank you for supporting

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<v Speaker 2>us all this time, and we will see you on

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<v Speaker 2>Wednesday and for money.

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<v Speaker 1>March