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Speaker 1: Like cute, Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm

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Speaker 1: I was behind you, so I was like, who is

434
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:27,399
Speaker 1: he talking about? Like, I was thinking, like, anyone but

435
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:29,159
Speaker 1: carry Hilson, anyone but her.

436
00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:31,440
Speaker 2: I had no idea. So after the round, obviously we

437
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:34,480
Speaker 2: got that wrong. I was like, what is so disgusting

438
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:37,679
Speaker 2: about Carrie Hillson. He was like, oh, you don't know.

439
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:42,320
Speaker 2: She's all over Twitter putting things in her mouth, so

440
00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:44,160
Speaker 2: I didn't. I was like, she has a sex video.

441
00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 2: I need to check this out, Like.

442
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:46,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's deep throating.

443
00:22:46,560 --> 00:22:48,360
Speaker 2: I was like lollipop I was like, who's the sex

444
00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:48,760
Speaker 2: video with?

445
00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, I was like deep throting. I was like,

446
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:51,119
Speaker 1: oh no.

447
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:52,440
Speaker 2: So then he goes then he I thought it was

448
00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 2: a sex video. Then he confirms it's lollipops. And when he.

449
00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:57,720
Speaker 1: Said the deep throning, I was like, well, bitch, nigga,

450
00:22:57,760 --> 00:22:59,200
Speaker 1: you don't want to go on our patreot and watch

451
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:01,879
Speaker 1: our deep throating video with Samaya and the Cucumber. And

452
00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:03,960
Speaker 1: literally when he said that. I was like, I was

453
00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 1: just that was when I stopped talking to everyone. I

454
00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 1: literally was on my phone looking down the whole time.

455
00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:11,399
Speaker 1: Jamila was doing her preachy thing where she's trying to

456
00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:14,160
Speaker 1: like change people's minds, and I was like, I'm out.

457
00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 2: I cracked up so hard. And then I continued to

458
00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:19,199
Speaker 2: fuck with them and I was like, well, what if

459
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:21,160
Speaker 2: you're in the house full of witches on a full moon?

460
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:27,119
Speaker 2: They were for sure Christians. They got out, they never sing.

461
00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:29,000
Speaker 2: He said, yeah, he was like, like, my aunt is

462
00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:32,280
Speaker 2: Yolanda Adams. I was like, oh, he's not know where

463
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:35,359
Speaker 2: he's at right. Long story short, About seventeen minutes later

464
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:39,080
Speaker 2: they left rapidly, which was great, but it's also hilarious.

465
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:41,480
Speaker 2: But it just confirms I don't know what all be

466
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:44,200
Speaker 2: gone on this point. It just confirms the shaming of women,

467
00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:47,000
Speaker 2: the shaming of women, and not only from men but

468
00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 2: amongst each other. You know, it's really interesting to see

469
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 2: how much we do that to each other. And because

470
00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:56,720
Speaker 2: of that, like there's no fucking support, Like I said,

471
00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:58,880
Speaker 2: I had, we probably heard this story once a year.

472
00:23:58,920 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 1: And also I encourage you go look at the video

473
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:05,880
Speaker 1: that he's talking about. It's it's literally the most innocent

474
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:06,800
Speaker 1: in a swallow of it.

475
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:12,120
Speaker 2: I popule what Yeah, shout out to Kerry Hillson. I

476
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 2: love you for that. We're now I know for sure

477
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:17,320
Speaker 2: nothing only bitches on the internet with deep throating something.

478
00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:22,440
Speaker 2: But even in my own friend circle, like the friends

479
00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 2: I've known the longest, I literally recently had another conversation,

480
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:30,200
Speaker 2: like an argument, and there was a guy in the car,

481
00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:31,959
Speaker 2: a guy that I brought in the car, and they

482
00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:34,720
Speaker 2: thought it would be a good idea to start talking

483
00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:38,399
Speaker 2: about MI nudity around all their boyfriends. And I was like,

484
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:40,439
Speaker 2: First of all, I was fucking mortified because I'm like,

485
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:42,879
Speaker 2: why are you talking about this right now when this

486
00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 2: nigga is in the car. Second of all, bitch, I've

487
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:48,680
Speaker 2: been friends with YouTube bitches for one hundred years. You

488
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:52,480
Speaker 2: know my shit comes off when I have fun. Why

489
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:54,639
Speaker 2: are we still talking about it? And I was just

490
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:57,720
Speaker 2: getting so angry, and you know I did, like I

491
00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:00,440
Speaker 2: did get angry because they're like this boyfriend, my friend,

492
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:02,200
Speaker 2: you got undressed in front of this person. I'm like, bitch,

493
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 2: that was three years ago, and I know you, so

494
00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:06,960
Speaker 2: I'm not constantly taking my titties out in front of

495
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 2: your nigga, because I know you're weird anyway. That was

496
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,639
Speaker 2: one of the people that I had the conversation, and like,

497
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:15,159
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't feel bad about anything that

498
00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:17,399
Speaker 2: I've done. I'm not going to apologize and honestly, I

499
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:20,600
Speaker 2: I'm not changing anything. And they're like, oh, that's your solution.

500
00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 2: I was like you, guys, I was like, if you

501
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:26,639
Speaker 2: feel that way, oh, the words disrespectful and selfish were used,

502
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:28,880
Speaker 2: and I said, look to my friend straight in the eye,

503
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:30,040
Speaker 2: and I still feel this way, and I said, I

504
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:30,359
Speaker 2: love you.

505
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:31,000
Speaker 1: I do.

506
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:33,800
Speaker 2: I don't have to be around you, though, and I

507
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,600
Speaker 2: really encourage you not to be around me if you

508
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:40,359
Speaker 2: feel like I'm disrespectful or selfish. I have been the

509
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:44,480
Speaker 2: same bitch for many years at my core, like the

510
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:49,160
Speaker 2: tweets tell it all. So if you have an issue

511
00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:52,720
Speaker 2: with my nudity or how I express myself, please, I

512
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 2: really encourage you to take space. And I felt completely

513
00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:59,520
Speaker 2: comfortable and completely sound telling her this, and I hold

514
00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:02,440
Speaker 2: to it because, like you said, no nigga, not someone

515
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:06,159
Speaker 2: i'm smashing, not someone who's my friend, no girl, no chicks,

516
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 2: nobody is going to make me. I've done it too long.

517
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:11,000
Speaker 2: In my life, as I'm sure a lot of other

518
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:14,720
Speaker 2: women have questioned myself, question my behavior. One thing about

519
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:18,119
Speaker 2: me is I'm a loyal ass friend period. There's no like.

520
00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:21,080
Speaker 2: I'm not like a weird ass bitch. One thing about

521
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 2: me is your nigga is cute. And I think so

522
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:24,359
Speaker 2: you're gonna know because I'm gonna tell you. I'm like,

523
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:27,120
Speaker 2: if you need help, just let me know. But like,

524
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:33,360
Speaker 2: it just really it really made me realize how much

525
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:35,159
Speaker 2: if I wasn't in this space, and how in the

526
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:37,199
Speaker 2: past when these conversations have come up, because they have

527
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:39,439
Speaker 2: come up, how much it made me question myself and

528
00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:41,239
Speaker 2: if I am too much and if I like, if

529
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:43,920
Speaker 2: I shouldn't tell niggas everything in the beginning or whatever

530
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:48,280
Speaker 2: the fucking case is. And no space, especially in friendship

531
00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:50,400
Speaker 2: or in any relationship, should you have to question who

532
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:52,680
Speaker 2: the fuck you are. You know you are who you are.

533
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:55,000
Speaker 2: And I mean, obviously we all can get better and

534
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 2: be better and make changes, but like, there are certain

535
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:01,119
Speaker 2: things that I'm not I'm about to feel bad for

536
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 2: if I just don't feel bad about them, me getting

537
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 2: naked when I'm having fun, I'm not gonna feel bad

538
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 2: about it. I don't care, So I just.

539
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 1: And don't don't invite her to the party. Don't invite

540
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:13,640
Speaker 1: her to the party.

541
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:16,639
Speaker 2: Your invites are done. You're not ef for getting invited

542
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:18,880
Speaker 2: to vacation already. And I'm just saying, don't invite you.

543
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:21,040
Speaker 2: I know everybody knows that if you don't want.

544
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 1: Mila to take her to her show her titties, don't

545
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 1: invite her.

546
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:25,000
Speaker 2: But that's not true. I don't do it at every party.

547
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:26,359
Speaker 2: It has to be like a it has to be

548
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:27,119
Speaker 2: a warm climate.

549
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:32,159
Speaker 1: Yeah you do, like seventy percent. But you know, I

550
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck. But I'm just saying they know.

551
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:38,119
Speaker 1: They already know. They know more than I know, Like

552
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:40,399
Speaker 1: they know what they're you know what they're getting, you know,

553
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 1: And it's like you're not if they're your friends, they're

554
00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 1: not gonna try and change you. And they need to

555
00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:47,359
Speaker 1: check their niggas, check their niggas. If they have their

556
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 1: niggas got issues, check your niggas, you know what I mean,

557
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:51,040
Speaker 1: Like I don't, I don't. I don't give a fuck

558
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:53,439
Speaker 1: if you took your your titties out in front of

559
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 1: my friend, because guess what, my nigga loves my titties.

560
00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:57,840
Speaker 1: I'm good over here. If he wants to look at

561
00:27:57,840 --> 00:27:59,479
Speaker 1: your look at her titties. Aren't they great? You look

562
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 1: at mine? Because you're coming home with these? Okay, it's true.

563
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:04,639
Speaker 2: I mean I'm not saying like I'm gonna take my

564
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:06,919
Speaker 2: titties out every fucking event, at the wedding, at the

565
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 2: fucking you know I have. That's the thing. I am pretty,

566
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 2: I can gauge, I could read a room. I'm a

567
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 2: room reading bitch. I'm in fucking cancer. I'm an impath.

568
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:21,639
Speaker 2: I can feel everybody's energy immediately, So it's not like

569
00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 2: I'm oblivious. So it's just I just don't want to

570
00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:26,879
Speaker 2: be put in spaces or boxes where I have to

571
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:29,200
Speaker 2: question who I am or think twice about my behavior

572
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,399
Speaker 2: or what I'm doing. Because I'm a big girl and

573
00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:32,960
Speaker 2: I do whatever the fuck I want. And if it

574
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,440
Speaker 2: makes you uncomfortable, kick rocks. If you don't like who

575
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 2: I am, kick rocks. And to the nigga who told

576
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 2: had some reservations about your sexual history and whether or

577
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:44,240
Speaker 2: not you're selective of enough, I like him too, but

578
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 2: kick fucking rocks, because I love you, and I would

579
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:50,720
Speaker 2: I don't want anyone to ever make you feel that

580
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:53,560
Speaker 2: you know you're anything less than who the fuck you are,

581
00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 2: which is the shit a fucking queen. Okay, based on

582
00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:00,200
Speaker 2: some niggas you fuck, because I guess what, everybody he

583
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:03,160
Speaker 2: has some niggas or bitches on their list that could.

584
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:04,680
Speaker 1: Have probably not been on the list.

585
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,640
Speaker 2: Everybody, Oh, well, that's life. That's how you get better,

586
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:11,040
Speaker 2: that's you get more selective. You do some fucks that

587
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:12,160
Speaker 2: you could have done without.

588
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:14,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, I agree.

589
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 2: Happy International Women's Day, everybody.

590
00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:27,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that I don't know. This day is

591
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:32,080
Speaker 1: just a reminder of for me of like I think

592
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 1: about how how insecure I once was, and even like

593
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 1: ordering ordering dinner, I remember looking at menus and like

594
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 1: I couldn't fucking decide, Like like, I know it sounds silly,

595
00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 1: but like I would look at menus and like any

596
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 1: menu that was more than three pages, I would completely

597
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 1: feel overwhelmed. Oh my god, it's me, like completely overwhelmed.

598
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 1: And now, like even ordering, I've noticed that I'm a

599
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 1: better orderer now. I know how to order better, I

600
00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 1: know how to select my niggas better, I know how

601
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 1: to not give a fuck about what anybody says about

602
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 1: me better. I just feel overall, just I'm walking in

603
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 1: my power and a huge part of that is because

604
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:18,239
Speaker 1: of you guys listening. Honestly, Like a huge part of

605
00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 1: that is because of you guys listening, because of the

606
00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 1: messages that you send us every day, empowering our decisions

607
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:29,360
Speaker 1: and our choices and like saying, you know what, I

608
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:31,920
Speaker 1: did that shit too, and like this is how I

609
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:35,080
Speaker 1: overcame it. Like here, try this, because like you know,

610
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 1: me and Mila don't have all the answers, and a

611
00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 1: lot of the times you guys have the answers. Like you,

612
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:43,280
Speaker 1: there's parents that have kids that are eighteen years old

613
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 1: that are listening twenty in college, you know, as you

614
00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 1: guys are way farther into your womanhood, your lives, your parenting.

615
00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 1: And I'm just like a student, honestly. I'm a student

616
00:30:55,320 --> 00:31:00,040
Speaker 1: to you know, the our supporters. I'm a student to

617
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:03,480
Speaker 1: you know, myself listening. I was telling my friend the

618
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 1: other day, I was like, I've learned so much just

619
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 1: by talking out loud. Oh my, I have learned so

620
00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 1: much about life just by saying things. I've come to

621
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 1: just epiphanies about myself about how I view things and

622
00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:20,480
Speaker 1: why I do things and why I've done things in

623
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 1: the past by just like talking about it on them

624
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 1: on this mic. And I think I think a lot

625
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 1: of my insecurities came from internalizing everything and not saying

626
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:35,520
Speaker 1: so many things and just like just overthinking everything. So

627
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just so grateful for this platform.

628
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for Jamila. I'm so grateful for our team.

629
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 1: Shout out to May over here, May, shout out to Taney,

630
00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 1: Shout out to just everyone who's like pushed us along

631
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 1: the way, Nishe Brandon, like all the people that have

632
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 1: supported us Romo, like man All Ashley just go on,

633
00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 1: are like neur Alyn, like just all the people that

634
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 1: have just been there for us and rode with us,

635
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:07,840
Speaker 1: and just I love you, guys, I love you.

636
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 2: One more thing I was thinking, because because our community

637
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:18,320
Speaker 2: is so supportive, and it's strange to say this, but like,

638
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:23,800
Speaker 2: we had some really amazing wins in the last couple

639
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 2: of weeks, and it just confirmed for us that we're

640
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:32,040
Speaker 2: doing the right thing, even when so many times we've

641
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 2: been told by people we knew and people who were

642
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 2: close to us, what you're doing is too much. And

643
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 2: to have a platform that talks about everything is too much,

644
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:42,640
Speaker 2: Like you could keep some things to yourself. You don't

645
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:44,720
Speaker 2: have to say everything, and believe it or not, we

646
00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 2: don't say everything. But I beg I really wanted Erica

647
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:54,040
Speaker 2: to watch the Free Brittany documentary and also did that

648
00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:58,080
Speaker 2: and denvers so important, and I really want to do

649
00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 2: like an entire episode dedicated to Free Brittany, Like I

650
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 2: don't know if it's going to be on Patreon, I

651
00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 2: don't know if it's going to be on here, but

652
00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 2: it's necessary. But while watching it, it really made me realize, like,

653
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:10,760
Speaker 2: first of all, Free Brittany. Second of all, they ridiculed

654
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 2: her so fucking harshly as a young woman, about her breast,

655
00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 2: about her body, about her sexuality, about who she was dating,

656
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:21,640
Speaker 2: when she became a mother, how she was parenting. They

657
00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 2: fucking harassed this woman, this nice, lovely Caucasian woman. I mean,

658
00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 2: the thing was, at first I didn't really care to watch.

659
00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 2: She was like eh, And then when I watched, I

660
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:35,960
Speaker 2: was moved and I was pissed and like, if this

661
00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:38,720
Speaker 2: can happen to this nice Caucasian woman, like we need

662
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 2: to come together. This is actually some real shit. Because

663
00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:46,120
Speaker 2: she's a slave, she's literally enslaved and being worked like

664
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Speaker 2: a circus monkey. If you haven't watched it, you should

665
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:53,719
Speaker 2: really check it out. It's on Hulu. Uh it's effects.

666
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:57,680
Speaker 2: I don't know. It's a New York Times presence, but

667
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 2: it really made me realize while watching it. First of all,

668
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 2: I remember when all this shit was going on as

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Speaker 2: a teenager, you know, like when she wrote she shaved

670
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 2: her head off. I remember when she like said she

671
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 2: was a virgin, and then justin Timberlake then said, oh

672
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:14,320
Speaker 2: I smash publicly and everything was swept under the carpet,

673
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 2: and when she shaved her head, she was crazy. Even

674
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:18,560
Speaker 2: till this day, we see her running makeup on the

675
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 2: internet and we're like, oh, she's lost it. But the

676
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:24,480
Speaker 2: truth of the matter is we come from a society

677
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:28,000
Speaker 2: of fucking vulturous people who are just evil and mean,

678
00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 2: and they didn't let this woman evolve and live her life.

679
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:34,799
Speaker 2: And I just feel like it reminds me watching this

680
00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 2: and like this short period of time, like I can

681
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 2: look back like it was yesterday and I was fucking

682
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:44,040
Speaker 2: watching her go through all this stuff, Like I vividly

683
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 2: remember all these things happening. We're from we're in the Valley,

684
00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:48,919
Speaker 2: So we're in Hollywood. We knew, we knew all the shit,

685
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:54,320
Speaker 2: but it just it's astonishing to me that I sometimes

686
00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 2: I forget when people say what we're doing is trailblazing,

687
00:34:57,160 --> 00:35:00,400
Speaker 2: because I'm like, we're just telling the truth. There was

688
00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 2: a time where women couldn't talk like this. I couldn't

689
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:07,400
Speaker 2: talk about driving past the airport for anal casual, anal

690
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:09,880
Speaker 2: with some guy that it's probably never gonna be my boyfriend,

691
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Speaker 2: you know.

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Speaker 1: But and there was a time where you know, an

693
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:18,120
Speaker 1: older man could ask a young woman about her breasts

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Speaker 1: on television.

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00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:21,440
Speaker 2: Do you know the kind of curse out this nigga

696
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:23,080
Speaker 2: would have gotten from any of us.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, there's just it's just when I watched that,

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00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:29,919
Speaker 1: I first of all, I felt bad because I've talked

699
00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:33,000
Speaker 1: shit about Brittany obviously even before I was a parent,

700
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:35,239
Speaker 1: watching her like go through all of her shit and

701
00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:38,920
Speaker 1: not understanding postpartum depression. And also I have no idea

702
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:41,920
Speaker 1: what it's like to have no privacy to wear everywhere

703
00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:44,319
Speaker 1: you go, you feel like you're in danger, and then

704
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:47,160
Speaker 1: on top of that, having a child and wanting to

705
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:50,239
Speaker 1: just get the fuck out and needing to escape, like

706
00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:54,240
Speaker 1: I can't even imagine. And I honestly like, I'm sorry, Brittany,

707
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:57,120
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I really am, like truly because I judged.

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00:35:57,160 --> 00:36:01,239
Speaker 1: I judged her, and I really didn't understand what she

709
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:03,160
Speaker 1: was going through. And I shouldn't. I shouldn't have had to.

710
00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have had I shouldn't have had to watch

711
00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 1: this documentary to gain perspective on why what has happened?

712
00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:13,880
Speaker 1: You know, but I did, and I and what Jamila said, like,

713
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 1: I encourage you guys to watch it. If you are

714
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:17,239
Speaker 1: a parent, if you are a woman, if you're a man,

715
00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 1: you really should go watch that shit because it's it's

716
00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:24,680
Speaker 1: crazy to see how her life progressed because she was

717
00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 1: so eloquent, she was so intelligent, she was leading her career.

718
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:33,280
Speaker 2: She was very kind amidst the hate she was getting

719
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 2: and the like the fucking attacks that she was getting

720
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:39,120
Speaker 2: publicly by fucking Diane Sawyer. Diane Sawyer asked her on

721
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:41,600
Speaker 2: fucking line, said to her on live dv SO and

722
00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 2: so from Massachusetts said she would shoot you, well, like

723
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:48,359
Speaker 2: you shoot you in the face. Is that fucking journalism, bitch.

724
00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:49,839
Speaker 1: I'm pretty pop, like eighteen years old.

725
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:52,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just like just as women, like we have

726
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:54,480
Speaker 2: to do better and as men too, Like this is

727
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:56,279
Speaker 2: a if you're a man and you're listening, because I

728
00:36:56,360 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 2: know you guys, listen some of you. This is like

729
00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 2: literally deeply like a call for your attention to like

730
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 2: check your homies when they say stupid shit, check yourself

731
00:37:05,560 --> 00:37:08,319
Speaker 2: when you think stupid shit, Like we're all human, you

732
00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:11,440
Speaker 2: know you fuck you fuck some bitches the you know

733
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 2: what I'm saying, And like it's it's okay for you,

734
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 2: and no one no one's judging your character for it

735
00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:19,080
Speaker 2: or by it, or no one's thinking if should you

736
00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 2: be my husband because you fucked and smashed this bitch

737
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 2: that's none not up to par. That that doesn't really

738
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:27,400
Speaker 2: apply to men, you know, So I just encourage you

739
00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:29,799
Speaker 2: to just do better, and even for us. I'm just

740
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:31,920
Speaker 2: so happy to be in this space and to be

741
00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:34,840
Speaker 2: empowered because I look at this, this fucking documentary, and

742
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 2: I see how empowered she was not and how like

743
00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:40,000
Speaker 2: it left her in a place of questioning herself and

744
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 2: sadness and unhappiness. And I'm just proud to be in

745
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:46,160
Speaker 2: this space as a woman and as a mother and

746
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 2: to feel empowered and supportive enough to say, hey, yeah,

747
00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 2: you know, I do this, I do that, and I'm

748
00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:54,839
Speaker 2: a good person and I'm a good mom, and that

749
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 2: means doesn't mean shit about the person that I am,

750
00:37:57,120 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 2: the friend, that I am, the daughter, the mother. So

751
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:06,719
Speaker 2: I just I encourage everyone to judge less and love more.

752
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 1: Yeahs, as much as you go hard for black lives matter,

753
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,880
Speaker 1: and like checking your your your your white friend's privileges,

754
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:19,320
Speaker 1: check your your sexism. Women and men, don't, don't. Don't

755
00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 1: just like push it to the side, laugh at it. No,

756
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 1: check that shit, because it's it's sick. It's sickening.

757
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:27,880
Speaker 2: It's sickening, and it's toxic and it spreads.

758
00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I don't know. Women, We we run the

759
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:36,879
Speaker 1: fucking world, run the world, and it's it's you can't

760
00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:41,240
Speaker 1: we can't hide it anymore. It's undeniable. It's so undeniable

761
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 1: now like.

762
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 2: Sorry, we're the glue. Not sorry, get with it because

763
00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:51,120
Speaker 2: it's a fucking takeover. Like this is not a patriarchy anymore.

764
00:38:51,719 --> 00:38:55,719
Speaker 2: Go home. Nope, go home, it's done. It's over the end.

765
00:38:56,320 --> 00:38:59,839
Speaker 2: You're out. You fucked everything up. We're taking our power back.

766
00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:03,000
Speaker 2: You can't tell us shit, you can't shame us. You

767
00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:05,680
Speaker 2: can't confuse us into thinking that our actions are fucked up.

768
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 2: We are sexual beings. We are also mothers. We are

769
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:15,280
Speaker 2: also providers, we're nurturing, We're spicy. I'm masculine, I'm feminine.

770
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 2: I'll beat your fucking ass and I'll curse you out

771
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:21,279
Speaker 2: and I'll also breastfeed you. So get with that.

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00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 1: Amen. Amen, Well on that note, Happy International Women's Day,

773
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 1: Happy avers, thy best. I love you, I love you,

774
00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:37,759
Speaker 1: and I love you, and we love you, and we

775
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:41,359
Speaker 1: hope you take this day to celebrate yourself. Take the year,

776
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:43,480
Speaker 1: Take every motherfucking day especially.

777
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 2: Take this day to delete people out of your life

778
00:39:45,120 --> 00:39:46,759
Speaker 2: and out of your phone that no longer serve you,

779
00:39:46,880 --> 00:39:48,920
Speaker 2: that don't align with who you are right now today,

780
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 2: don't appreciate the journey here, They're done.

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00:39:52,080 --> 00:39:54,960
Speaker 1: Bye bye. Oh. Also, before we go, I don't know

782
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:56,960
Speaker 1: if you guys noticed but are not noticed. I don't

783
00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:59,399
Speaker 1: know if you guys know. I know some of y'all

784
00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 1: missed our lives. If you missed our live show, don't fret.

785
00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:06,920
Speaker 1: We have our replay available on our website. So ladies,

786
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:10,719
Speaker 1: if you're feeling empowered, go watch our live show because

787
00:40:10,760 --> 00:40:12,719
Speaker 1: it's gonna make you feel a little bit more empowered.

788
00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:14,840
Speaker 1: Call your friends up, go hang out at the crib,

789
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 1: get our replay, and spend about an hour and a

790
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:21,840
Speaker 1: half with us, hanging out playing for the culture many

791
00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:26,439
Speaker 1: other games and talking our shit and feeling empowered, because

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00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:28,800
Speaker 1: that's what we do over here at Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:33,440
Speaker 2: Join Patreon because we're going to eventually have a full

794
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:36,840
Speaker 2: episode on Free the Free Brittany documentary. It's very important.

795
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:39,400
Speaker 1: No, we really should. We will. It's important.

796
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:43,840
Speaker 2: But we love you. Thank you, thank you for supporting

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00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:46,880
Speaker 2: us all this time, and we will see you on

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00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 2: Wednesday and for money.

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Speaker 1: March