1 00:00:02,279 --> 00:00:04,720 Speaker 1: I'm a homegrow that knows a little bit about everything 2 00:00:04,840 --> 00:00:07,800 Speaker 1: and everybody. You know, if you don't lie about that, right, 3 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:11,319 Speaker 1: Obama need to shut up and stuff talk about Barack 4 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:13,760 Speaker 1: Obama in an early episode because he said she'd be 5 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:18,959 Speaker 1: talking too much and she'd be embarrassing her. But anyway, Yeah, 6 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:20,959 Speaker 1: So Brandon will be joining me for you know, those 7 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:23,239 Speaker 1: those segments and also will be you know, producing those 8 00:00:23,239 --> 00:00:25,360 Speaker 1: out as well. It's just something fun that I think 9 00:00:26,040 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be excited about, and I think you guys 10 00:00:27,840 --> 00:00:31,000 Speaker 1: will too, because y'all be having a lot to say 11 00:00:31,160 --> 00:00:33,519 Speaker 1: up in the comments when I post these videos on 12 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:35,880 Speaker 1: social So we wanted to find a way to engage, 13 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:37,960 Speaker 1: and I think that this is going to be it. 14 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:41,199 Speaker 1: So getting right on into our episode, y'all know, the 15 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:44,520 Speaker 1: holidays are here, and man, I mean, I don't got 16 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:47,760 Speaker 1: these worries no more because my me and my me 17 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: and my man. I can't I can't wait because all 18 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:53,720 Speaker 1: of my family hasn't met my boyfriend yet as all 19 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: of your family met Norn. 20 00:00:57,240 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 2: We're really new. 21 00:00:57,960 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: So okay, then y'all are I didn't even know like 22 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 1: how to like intro it like, so y'all are officially 23 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:07,000 Speaker 1: boyfriend and girlfriend. 24 00:01:07,040 --> 00:01:09,319 Speaker 3: You better say yes? Can you say it with your 25 00:01:09,360 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 3: chest a little bit more? Oh she heard? 26 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 1: Okay, In case she's listening, hey, beautiful, he was patting 27 00:01:15,520 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 1: on his chest, so he was like, you know, very 28 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 1: serious about that answer. But yes, you know, in new relationships, 29 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:25,360 Speaker 1: I think it's the excitement of like, yes, my family's 30 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:27,280 Speaker 1: gonna love you can't wait for them to meet you. 31 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 1: If you know that you got a good one, okay, 32 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:33,960 Speaker 1: but if you have no one to bring home and 33 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:36,119 Speaker 1: you have everything else happening all year long. 34 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:37,960 Speaker 3: So the success of career. 35 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 1: You know, you're a great looking person, all of the 36 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:44,440 Speaker 1: things lined up, but you just pop up by yourself. 37 00:01:45,160 --> 00:01:46,399 Speaker 3: Family being your business. 38 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:51,200 Speaker 1: And Coco Jones was on Serious XM doing a segment 39 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 1: and she talked a little bit about you know what 40 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:56,400 Speaker 1: it's like having family in your business because someone wrote 41 00:01:56,400 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: into her was trying to get some advice. 42 00:01:57,880 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 3: Let's take a listen holiday. 43 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 4: My aunt drills me with the same questions about why 44 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 4: I'm still single and when I'm going to get married 45 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:12,120 Speaker 4: and have kids. No matter how hard I try to 46 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 4: change the subject, she keeps pressing me. How can I 47 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:17,920 Speaker 4: handle her this year without losing my cool or turning 48 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:21,639 Speaker 4: the family gathering into a scene. Oh my god, now 49 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:23,640 Speaker 4: that right there is messy girl, and I do have 50 00:02:23,680 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 4: to chuckle just a touch. 51 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 3: Here's what I think. 52 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 4: I'd actually have been very into nice nasty reads. So 53 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 4: I would honestly prep since you know that this happens 54 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:35,920 Speaker 4: every year. I would get a couple of pivots and 55 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:37,120 Speaker 4: have them ready like on. 56 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:38,880 Speaker 2: Like my notes app or just in the spirit. 57 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 3: So when she says something, I'd be like, oh, Auntie, 58 00:02:41,840 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 3: don't you need to worry about that job? 59 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 2: He wasn't. 60 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 3: No, you don't need to worry about uncle because I 61 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:47,679 Speaker 3: thought he Oh, I just feel like you. 62 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:49,040 Speaker 2: I thought you had a lot on your hands. 63 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:50,440 Speaker 4: Okay, he seems like you got a lot of free 64 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:51,560 Speaker 4: time on these days period. 65 00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 3: You know what, I like to walk beside plots. 66 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 4: Hey, you you know what I'm saying, like a nice 67 00:02:57,040 --> 00:03:00,400 Speaker 4: naughty nice naughty less You know what I'm saying, read 68 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:01,160 Speaker 4: like that, because. 69 00:03:00,919 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 3: Girl, you know what this one we have boundaries. 70 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying this is there's too much 71 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:08,040 Speaker 4: therapy on the internet to not have a boundary, to 72 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:12,240 Speaker 4: not have some and to not allow yourself to be cornered, and. 73 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 2: I think that's a little much should say all that, 74 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,160 Speaker 2: because I think your aunties is gonna be your aunties. 75 00:03:20,200 --> 00:03:22,799 Speaker 2: They're gonna want to pry, they're gonna act like your 76 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:25,000 Speaker 2: second mother's and they're gonna they're from Ghana. 77 00:03:25,240 --> 00:03:27,239 Speaker 3: Maybe it's different over there because you gotta. 78 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:30,920 Speaker 1: Respects, and I respect my olders. I love my olders. 79 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:34,800 Speaker 1: I love my old older aunts and you know all 80 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 1: of that. But if you keep pressing me, baby, you 81 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 1: poked the bear, You're gonna get. 82 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 3: What you as for. 83 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:41,360 Speaker 2: Maybe it's different with women because maybe they're on you 84 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 2: a little more and there's more pressure to get married. 85 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:46,240 Speaker 3: And has anyone ever asked you when are you gonna 86 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 3: have kids? 87 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 2: No? But they like. 88 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 3: Exactly, hold on, how old are you? 89 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:54,280 Speaker 2: Okay? No, no, no, they asked me what yes, yes, my parents. 90 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:56,600 Speaker 2: They I feel like they just started asking about like 91 00:03:56,840 --> 00:03:58,680 Speaker 2: grandkids because they don't have anything, but. 92 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:00,680 Speaker 3: Like how are they at? Like what are saying to you? 93 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:03,400 Speaker 2: It's more funny and playful, like oh we need some 94 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:07,080 Speaker 2: grandkids or like I mean, before they'd be trying to 95 00:04:07,120 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 2: hook me up with like if I go to church 96 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:11,440 Speaker 2: with them as the younger on the church, my son, 97 00:04:11,520 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 2: da da dah all this stuff. So it's more like 98 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 2: that they want me to. 99 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 3: Like, how old are you? 100 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 1: I'm thirty thirty okay, so probably from the time about 101 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 1: I was like eighteen nineteen really because at first I 102 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:26,799 Speaker 1: didn't know if I was going to go to college. 103 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 1: I was planning to just stay home and work. I've 104 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: always been like very like work oriented. Yeah, once I 105 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:34,839 Speaker 1: got out of college, I probably old. How old were 106 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:39,520 Speaker 1: you and graduated college twenty two twenty two, So imagine 107 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:43,760 Speaker 1: being nineteen and you know, the conversation is what are 108 00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:45,760 Speaker 1: you doing to prepare yourself for your husband so that 109 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:49,280 Speaker 1: you can have kids? Literally, like that's the only conversation. Yeah, 110 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 1: And I was like, well, I want to go to college. 111 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:53,799 Speaker 1: I want to get myself together. What are you doing 112 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:56,279 Speaker 1: to prepare yourself for your husband so you can have kids? 113 00:04:56,279 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 1: And it's like, well, damn, can I go to college, 114 00:04:58,600 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 1: have an education and get a career figure out myself 115 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: first before I just. 116 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 2: Well, that's their way like to clap back talking about 117 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 2: their divorce and everything they did wrong in life. Maybe 118 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 2: they're coming at you because they did have some missteps. 119 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:14,920 Speaker 2: Maybe they waited too long to you know, settle down 120 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:17,719 Speaker 2: and it's like I can understand that they want better 121 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 2: for you. 122 00:05:18,600 --> 00:05:20,320 Speaker 1: I can understand all of that, but I do think 123 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:24,479 Speaker 1: there's a level of all of that gets real because 124 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 1: here's my thing, and this is how I used to 125 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,240 Speaker 1: feel when like people people to this day still be 126 00:05:29,279 --> 00:05:31,280 Speaker 1: like you want kids, and I'd be like, you gonna 127 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 1: pay for them? I think I do think a lot 128 00:05:36,200 --> 00:05:38,720 Speaker 1: of it is in love and people just wanted you 129 00:05:38,800 --> 00:05:40,719 Speaker 1: to like not wait too late, especially as a woman 130 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 1: because of the time clock or whatever. But I also 131 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 1: feel like people don't take into account you're not with 132 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:51,039 Speaker 1: me on a day to day and most of the 133 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: women I know and my family, like it's very you 134 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 1: know a few one off situations where people are happily 135 00:05:56,680 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 1: married or happily in relationships. Other than that, everyone I know, 136 00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: woman wise, has raised their kids by themselves, like I have. 137 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:08,679 Speaker 1: I have a few aunts that have been happily married 138 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 1: for some time or like had kids with someone and 139 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:13,120 Speaker 1: had to remarry, and like those men have been good 140 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 1: men and raised like my cousins and stuff like that. 141 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:17,720 Speaker 3: But it's not like. 142 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:19,760 Speaker 1: A common thing where I'm seeing a bunch of like 143 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:21,640 Speaker 1: happily married Dolly. 144 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 2: That's why they wish they had somebody on their ass 145 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:30,479 Speaker 2: pressuring the maybe the importance of maybe they see the 146 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:32,720 Speaker 2: importance of a two parent household and how much it 147 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 2: could have helped them raising their child. 148 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:36,839 Speaker 1: I get it, I do, but I think that you 149 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 1: need to allow someone to see that importance themselves, because 150 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 1: I think when I was having conversations about this at 151 00:06:43,680 --> 00:06:46,680 Speaker 1: like nineteen twenty twenty one, twenty two, I understood it 152 00:06:46,680 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: because I don't come from a two parent household. Right 153 00:06:48,920 --> 00:06:53,520 Speaker 1: for me at my age now, my understanding of it 154 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: and also my ability to do what I need to 155 00:06:56,560 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 1: do to be able to be a wife aly to 156 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:04,360 Speaker 1: him in is completely different. If I got into a situation, 157 00:07:04,520 --> 00:07:07,719 Speaker 1: then it wouldn't have We would not be together today, 158 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: like I promise you, because I wouldn't have been able 159 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 1: to handle everything that life would have thrown my way, 160 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 1: and I. 161 00:07:14,200 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 3: Would have fought. 162 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:16,800 Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong, because I've always said I don't 163 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: believe in divorce and all of that, But like I 164 00:07:19,280 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 1: just think things happen for people when they're supposed to me. Personally, 165 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 1: I wasn't ready for a lot of the things that 166 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:29,920 Speaker 1: it takes to build a household in a home, not 167 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: just be with somebody and have a kid and it's 168 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 1: two of y'all in a house. 169 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,040 Speaker 3: I mean, I want to really build a home. 170 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:37,920 Speaker 1: I want my kid to feel the love that we 171 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:40,080 Speaker 1: have for each other, the love we have for them. 172 00:07:40,520 --> 00:07:42,800 Speaker 1: That's so different than just like, oh, we together, we 173 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:44,080 Speaker 1: have a kid, we live in this house together. We 174 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 1: make it work because we got kids. And I feel 175 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:50,840 Speaker 1: like I understand the push point, but sometimes I feel like, 176 00:07:50,960 --> 00:07:53,800 Speaker 1: back up, Auntie Dane, like you're wine kicking in. 177 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, I honestly what you're saying, Like because from what 178 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:58,840 Speaker 2: you just said and some things you've told you behind 179 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 2: the scenes about that situation, and like that was clearly 180 00:08:00,840 --> 00:08:03,520 Speaker 2: the wrong person to settle down. So that's different. 181 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 1: I would have a kid with him, we would not 182 00:08:06,480 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 1: be together right now, we would still have a kid. 183 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 2: But exactly so, I think it's more so like what 184 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 2: are you doing to attract the right person into your life? 185 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:15,240 Speaker 3: Exactly? 186 00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 2: I think that's a that's a thing too, like working 187 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:20,040 Speaker 2: on yourself to attract, you know, a good person. Sometimes 188 00:08:20,040 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 2: you're not working on yourself. You can attract the wrong 189 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:24,840 Speaker 2: person or just settle for anybody who comes your way. 190 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 2: Maybe lack of options. 191 00:08:26,320 --> 00:08:29,200 Speaker 1: I think it's always a conversation worth having with like 192 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:32,240 Speaker 1: my like my mom, and you know, other women that 193 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:35,320 Speaker 1: I know have always been very honest with me about 194 00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:38,240 Speaker 1: you need a partner, right, You need someone in your 195 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:40,360 Speaker 1: life that is a partner that is willing to do 196 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:42,440 Speaker 1: for you and you know, different things like that. 197 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 3: But at the same time. 198 00:08:46,840 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 1: You can't partner with me if I don't even know 199 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 1: what the foundation of the partnership should look like on 200 00:08:50,559 --> 00:08:52,520 Speaker 1: my end, Like I don't know. At that time, I 201 00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 1: didn't really understand a lot of like what I needed, 202 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 1: what I wanted. 203 00:08:57,400 --> 00:08:59,600 Speaker 3: Like there was so there's just so much that I 204 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 3: that It's. 205 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:03,760 Speaker 1: So different now today where I'm always grateful, like I'm 206 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:06,680 Speaker 1: so glad that I didn't just have kids and just 207 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:08,800 Speaker 1: do it because I was in a relationship with somebody 208 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:10,439 Speaker 1: like one hundred percent. 209 00:09:10,480 --> 00:09:11,120 Speaker 3: So I get it. 210 00:09:11,640 --> 00:09:13,920 Speaker 1: But I feel Coco, sometimes you need to let somebody know, 211 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 1: like Yo, your box line kicking in too much, leave 212 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:17,079 Speaker 1: me alone. 213 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:19,280 Speaker 2: That's good. That's not what Coco said. 214 00:09:19,679 --> 00:09:20,640 Speaker 3: It's the same thing. 215 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:23,240 Speaker 2: Not talking about what you gotta worry about your husband 216 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 2: doing like bring up her husband te and bring up 217 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:27,280 Speaker 2: the divorce. I all though that's a lot. That's a lot. 218 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:30,000 Speaker 1: That so for that caller that Coco was responding to, 219 00:09:30,080 --> 00:09:32,320 Speaker 1: because it's not Coco. Y'all know my girl Coco, she's good, 220 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:33,920 Speaker 1: okay her and Donovan Minstrom. 221 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:35,959 Speaker 2: No, Coco was the one that was saying, she that's 222 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:36,920 Speaker 2: how she could be talking to her. 223 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:39,080 Speaker 3: That's what she would say. She don't need to do 224 00:09:39,120 --> 00:09:39,559 Speaker 3: that now. 225 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 2: She good, No, but still like it's a new relationship. 226 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:44,640 Speaker 2: So they're probably ourpression a girl, you need to lock 227 00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:47,319 Speaker 2: that down, get that ring a sap and they're engaged. 228 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, but listen, the point is, I don't 229 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:55,360 Speaker 2: think I would walk. 230 00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 1: Into Christmas with a ring and somebody still want to 231 00:09:57,200 --> 00:09:59,120 Speaker 1: ask me about when we're getting married, when we having 232 00:09:59,120 --> 00:10:00,439 Speaker 1: a baby, show me your ring. 233 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 2: Auntie and my aunts are a petty and I still 234 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:09,600 Speaker 2: wouldn't do that too. I remember one time Thanksgiving right 235 00:10:09,840 --> 00:10:12,640 Speaker 2: and my aunt she had come from Ghana. I didn't 236 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 2: know she came from Ghana. I wasn't expecting to see her, 237 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:17,800 Speaker 2: so I went in for a hug and she was like, no, 238 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:20,320 Speaker 2: last time I saw you ignored me And they give 239 00:10:20,360 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 2: me a hug and kept the moment she was talking 240 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:23,439 Speaker 2: about when I was seven years old and I was 241 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:28,240 Speaker 2: playing with toys and I ignored her, I think with 242 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:30,040 Speaker 2: toys and she didn't give you a hug, but still 243 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 2: like and that's how she is. 244 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:34,280 Speaker 3: That the household, there's so much love in our family. 245 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:35,199 Speaker 3: I've always heard. 246 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:37,160 Speaker 2: Family don't do that. 247 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:39,880 Speaker 3: I've always heard. 248 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:43,040 Speaker 1: And listen, I love all of our African listeners from 249 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:45,000 Speaker 1: you know for New Year's Eve, hit me up if 250 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 1: y'all got some things I should be doing talking about 251 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 1: seeing But I've always heard it's a little bit different 252 00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:51,000 Speaker 1: in African household love. 253 00:10:51,040 --> 00:10:51,840 Speaker 2: There's a lot of love. 254 00:10:53,080 --> 00:10:53,959 Speaker 3: You got to heat it up. 255 00:10:54,240 --> 00:10:55,199 Speaker 2: Yes, that's true. 256 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:57,320 Speaker 3: Well, Vault did a report that. 257 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 2: Africans like that. 258 00:11:02,520 --> 00:11:07,200 Speaker 1: Both of the report back in October, and the headline 259 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:09,640 Speaker 1: of the report is is having a boyfriend embarrassing? 260 00:11:09,679 --> 00:11:09,839 Speaker 5: Now? 261 00:11:09,880 --> 00:11:15,360 Speaker 1: This is about your girlfriend's becoming the new boyfriend. Because 262 00:11:15,720 --> 00:11:18,520 Speaker 1: one thing also I will say to Auntie is now 263 00:11:18,559 --> 00:11:20,800 Speaker 1: you don went through it. I know Melvin had a 264 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:22,960 Speaker 1: family down the street and you got tired of it. 265 00:11:22,960 --> 00:11:25,000 Speaker 1: And that's why you by yourself. Don't nobody wants to 266 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:28,640 Speaker 1: pop up with another Melvin. Let me take my time 267 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:31,840 Speaker 1: because some people I think a big fear right now 268 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:34,560 Speaker 1: is with social media and a lot of the things 269 00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 1: that people are experiencing today. It's like it's very rare 270 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:40,600 Speaker 1: to find a person who is genuinely being intentional about 271 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:44,520 Speaker 1: being in someone's life. That's another thing, too, so to 272 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:46,920 Speaker 1: bring someone around your family to do all of that. 273 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:51,440 Speaker 1: Like it's just it's people are weird outside is like not, 274 00:11:52,679 --> 00:11:55,400 Speaker 1: I'm so happy I'm not there anymore, Like i am. 275 00:11:56,320 --> 00:11:57,199 Speaker 3: I love it over here. 276 00:11:57,240 --> 00:12:01,480 Speaker 1: I love being in the cut tucked away warn and 277 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 1: not you know, having to engage in my mean aunt 278 00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:04,839 Speaker 1: like Brandon. 279 00:12:05,320 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 3: But Volpe, says Vogue. 280 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:12,440 Speaker 1: So Vogue originally reported this and then self dot com 281 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:14,920 Speaker 1: picked it up. Self dot com says in twenty twenty five, 282 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:19,319 Speaker 1: having a boyfriend became embarrassing. According to Vogue, in place, 283 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:22,680 Speaker 1: friendships are receiving the kind of long term intention once 284 00:12:22,760 --> 00:12:26,160 Speaker 1: reserved exclusively for romantic partners. Friends are doing things like 285 00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:31,479 Speaker 1: buying homes together, opening joining bank accounts, throwing platonic wedding ceremonies. 286 00:12:31,520 --> 00:12:35,960 Speaker 1: That's wild, throwing platonic wedding ceremonies so formulize their commitment 287 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:36,680 Speaker 1: to each other. 288 00:12:37,160 --> 00:12:38,200 Speaker 3: Quote airmarks. 289 00:12:39,040 --> 00:12:41,400 Speaker 1: No one wants to see your cheesy, hard launch or 290 00:12:41,480 --> 00:12:44,400 Speaker 1: romantic week in Upstate on Instagram anymore but your girls 291 00:12:44,400 --> 00:12:48,560 Speaker 1: trip by any means. Unsurprisingly, this cultural reckoning has made 292 00:12:48,559 --> 00:12:50,360 Speaker 1: its way into the celebrity world. 293 00:12:50,360 --> 00:12:51,440 Speaker 3: Some of the celebrities they. 294 00:12:51,280 --> 00:12:55,160 Speaker 1: Point at our ariana grande instant, your re ros unsettling. 295 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:59,440 Speaker 1: According to self dot com, close and undeniably bold, bond 296 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:01,000 Speaker 1: throughout the w wicked, pressed. 297 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:02,680 Speaker 2: Towards I don't know Cynthia Lesbian, so she might be 298 00:13:02,679 --> 00:13:05,480 Speaker 2: trying to pull up on Marihanna. But that's another conversation 299 00:13:05,520 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 2: for another day. 300 00:13:06,840 --> 00:13:10,880 Speaker 1: I think the sense of the conversation is when you 301 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:14,120 Speaker 1: are popping out with somebody, you bringing somebody around your family, 302 00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:16,600 Speaker 1: you want to make sure it's legit, because if you're 303 00:13:16,600 --> 00:13:19,320 Speaker 1: gonna fight back against the aunties in their box wine, 304 00:13:20,120 --> 00:13:22,560 Speaker 1: it need to be real. Okay, I've been in a 305 00:13:22,600 --> 00:13:25,360 Speaker 1: situation where I was embarrassed in front of my family 306 00:13:25,800 --> 00:13:28,320 Speaker 1: by that man, and I told myself I would never 307 00:13:28,360 --> 00:13:29,040 Speaker 1: go back there again. 308 00:13:29,240 --> 00:13:32,000 Speaker 2: So what is the title of this article? Like, what 309 00:13:32,080 --> 00:13:32,720 Speaker 2: is the gist of it? 310 00:13:32,800 --> 00:13:36,600 Speaker 1: That best friends are the new boyfriends. So people are 311 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:39,720 Speaker 1: relying and resting their head in the fact that they 312 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 1: have a really good best friend and they're doing things 313 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:44,560 Speaker 1: that they would do with a very serious boyfriend because 314 00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:46,720 Speaker 1: they can't find anyone that is serious and intentional. 315 00:13:47,720 --> 00:13:50,720 Speaker 2: I understand that. I saw that lesbians have the highest 316 00:13:50,800 --> 00:13:51,480 Speaker 2: rate of divorce. 317 00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:55,440 Speaker 1: Where you see that at culture we do we do 318 00:13:55,480 --> 00:13:58,600 Speaker 1: sources over here, quot your sores. Let me look it up, Brandon, 319 00:13:58,720 --> 00:14:03,560 Speaker 1: just be making stuff up. Studies across multiple countries indicate 320 00:14:03,600 --> 00:14:05,960 Speaker 1: that lesbian couples do have a higher rate compared to 321 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:10,120 Speaker 1: both gay male couples and heterosexual. 322 00:14:08,679 --> 00:14:11,680 Speaker 2: So the less men in the relationship, the less women 323 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:13,640 Speaker 2: in the relationship, the better it would do. 324 00:14:14,120 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 325 00:14:15,760 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 1: So this is a study called them dot us. Why 326 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:22,880 Speaker 1: do lesbians? Why do lesbian couples tend to have higher 327 00:14:22,880 --> 00:14:25,240 Speaker 1: divorce rates than gay and straight peers. 328 00:14:27,640 --> 00:14:28,600 Speaker 2: I'll just be doing shit. 329 00:14:29,720 --> 00:14:32,040 Speaker 1: That's the question that a new finished study sets out 330 00:14:32,080 --> 00:14:34,600 Speaker 1: to answer, and the results might not be what you expect. 331 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:39,120 Speaker 1: The study, titled same Sex in Different sex Couples, Divorce Risks, 332 00:14:39,160 --> 00:14:45,080 Speaker 1: the Role of cohabit, cohabitation and Childbearing, was published in 333 00:14:45,160 --> 00:14:47,800 Speaker 1: the Journal of Marriage and Family on September nineth so. 334 00:14:47,880 --> 00:14:50,360 Speaker 1: Prior studies have shown that female and male couples, so 335 00:14:50,920 --> 00:14:54,000 Speaker 1: lesbian couples and gay male couples have a higher divorce 336 00:14:54,160 --> 00:14:56,560 Speaker 1: risk than different sex couples. 337 00:14:57,200 --> 00:14:57,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what. 338 00:14:57,760 --> 00:15:00,520 Speaker 1: This is according to the study with the high divorced 339 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:04,560 Speaker 1: risk among female couples, so lesbian couples across countries such 340 00:15:04,560 --> 00:15:08,560 Speaker 1: as Sweden, Norway, Denmark, and the United States and Canada. Well, look, 341 00:15:08,760 --> 00:15:11,200 Speaker 1: I think it's more about protecting your peace at the 342 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:12,680 Speaker 1: end of the day, I think that that is what's 343 00:15:12,720 --> 00:15:14,960 Speaker 1: most important. Again, I've been in a situation where I 344 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:16,840 Speaker 1: was embarrassed by a man when it comes to my 345 00:15:16,920 --> 00:15:20,480 Speaker 1: family and every single holiday, every single family get together, 346 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:23,320 Speaker 1: that's all you're thinking about is who got something to say? 347 00:15:23,600 --> 00:15:25,360 Speaker 3: You can't wait to pull up to say something to. 348 00:15:25,280 --> 00:15:27,760 Speaker 1: Somebody, blah blah blah blah, Like it's just too much 349 00:15:27,760 --> 00:15:30,440 Speaker 1: and you shouldn't be there, should be that animosity should 350 00:15:30,480 --> 00:15:35,000 Speaker 1: not exist within family about another person. Internally, y'all gonna 351 00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:38,240 Speaker 1: go through y'all things. And that's why this episode we 352 00:15:38,320 --> 00:15:41,680 Speaker 1: decided to get some callers on the line. We wanted 353 00:15:41,680 --> 00:15:43,640 Speaker 1: to get on the line with the low riders, you know, 354 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:46,400 Speaker 1: on the line with Lonosa and the Latest to hear 355 00:15:46,440 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 1: from some people that may have some animosity towards their 356 00:15:48,840 --> 00:15:51,480 Speaker 1: family or may not might just be protecting their peace 357 00:15:51,880 --> 00:15:54,680 Speaker 1: to ask them is it okay to skip out on 358 00:15:54,720 --> 00:15:57,640 Speaker 1: the holidays? Because honestly, if I was that person that 359 00:15:57,720 --> 00:16:02,080 Speaker 1: wrote the call cole Jones going back, if I got 360 00:16:02,080 --> 00:16:04,280 Speaker 1: to tell my aunt that's why you divorce, you old 361 00:16:04,360 --> 00:16:06,080 Speaker 1: hag and your box wind and seale. 362 00:16:06,040 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 3: I'm not going back. 363 00:16:08,560 --> 00:16:10,080 Speaker 2: Sometimes you gotta suck it up. Man. 364 00:16:10,960 --> 00:16:12,960 Speaker 1: Well, let's get into the callers. Let's see what our 365 00:16:13,000 --> 00:16:17,840 Speaker 1: caller had to say. Are y'all so introducing a new 366 00:16:18,320 --> 00:16:22,160 Speaker 1: bonus segment here during the holidays, because you know it'd 367 00:16:22,160 --> 00:16:24,600 Speaker 1: be a lot going on during the holidays. You got 368 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:26,320 Speaker 1: you got a lot of people you meet in a 369 00:16:26,320 --> 00:16:29,000 Speaker 1: lot of people in and out of the family. You're 370 00:16:29,040 --> 00:16:31,320 Speaker 1: trying to gauge if you like your cousin, new boyfriend, 371 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:34,200 Speaker 1: or gnaw or things. Y'all know how that go. So 372 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:38,120 Speaker 1: we have people calling in, my Lowriders, our listeners, our 373 00:16:38,160 --> 00:16:41,520 Speaker 1: community here calling in to talk about some topics that 374 00:16:41,560 --> 00:16:44,200 Speaker 1: I think are important to understand before you walk into 375 00:16:44,280 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 1: anybody's house and taste their maggagees. Yes, right, So on 376 00:16:48,760 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 1: the line, we have one of our low riders who 377 00:16:50,440 --> 00:16:54,080 Speaker 1: will remain anonymous, and all calls will be anonymous, because 378 00:16:54,120 --> 00:16:56,200 Speaker 1: y'all know, I protect the source, I protect the things. 379 00:16:56,920 --> 00:16:59,600 Speaker 1: But one of the questions that we are asking the 380 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:05,000 Speaker 1: low is is it okay to skip family holidays if 381 00:17:05,080 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 1: you are protecting your peace? 382 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:08,440 Speaker 3: All right? 383 00:17:08,520 --> 00:17:10,880 Speaker 1: So on the line, we have an anonymous caller who 384 00:17:11,480 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 1: has some things to say about this topic. 385 00:17:13,600 --> 00:17:14,280 Speaker 3: Call Are you there? 386 00:17:15,640 --> 00:17:16,119 Speaker 5: I'm here? 387 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:17,840 Speaker 3: So what do you think? 388 00:17:18,240 --> 00:17:20,760 Speaker 1: Is it okay to skip family holidays if you're protecting 389 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:21,280 Speaker 1: your peace? 390 00:17:21,600 --> 00:17:24,080 Speaker 3: Or grim? Am I gonna be pissed off and you 391 00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:25,479 Speaker 3: got to show up like what's going on? 392 00:17:26,840 --> 00:17:26,919 Speaker 2: No? 393 00:17:27,119 --> 00:17:31,040 Speaker 5: Absolutely, I do think that it's okay to get the 394 00:17:31,119 --> 00:17:35,240 Speaker 5: holiday or two or three to protect your piece. You know, 395 00:17:35,280 --> 00:17:37,600 Speaker 5: you go up thinking that some things that are normal, 396 00:17:37,960 --> 00:17:41,959 Speaker 5: and then grow up become an adult that's not so normal. 397 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:46,320 Speaker 5: So then after a while, it's like my relational intelligence 398 00:17:46,359 --> 00:17:49,480 Speaker 5: tells me to stay home and protect my peace and 399 00:17:49,840 --> 00:17:51,679 Speaker 5: dance in my house or do whatever I need to 400 00:17:51,720 --> 00:17:54,639 Speaker 5: do on my holidays and enjoy that. That's what I'm 401 00:17:54,640 --> 00:17:58,359 Speaker 5: gonna do. I think that sometimes we normalize dysfunction, and 402 00:17:58,800 --> 00:18:01,800 Speaker 5: that's not the space I am in life. So I'm 403 00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:03,920 Speaker 5: gonna just go ahead and gift that one, and I'll 404 00:18:03,920 --> 00:18:06,399 Speaker 5: call you on and say Merry Christmas or send that 405 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:08,400 Speaker 5: text and go on about my day. 406 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:10,840 Speaker 3: But what are you doing on the holiday? 407 00:18:10,880 --> 00:18:11,040 Speaker 2: Then? 408 00:18:11,119 --> 00:18:14,600 Speaker 1: Like you don't miss your because dysfunction I think, I mean, 409 00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:16,560 Speaker 1: you're never going to have like a fully functional family 410 00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:19,679 Speaker 1: because I think everybody's in very different places when it 411 00:18:19,680 --> 00:18:21,680 Speaker 1: comes to figuring out the function. The fact that they're 412 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:24,919 Speaker 1: even dysfunctional. Like I was gonna going to say figuring 413 00:18:24,920 --> 00:18:28,960 Speaker 1: out the function, but so like you can't get around that, 414 00:18:29,080 --> 00:18:30,360 Speaker 1: So like what do you do then? 415 00:18:30,400 --> 00:18:31,400 Speaker 3: Like what're for places? 416 00:18:31,720 --> 00:18:34,960 Speaker 1: Popping out for Christmas and exchanging the gifts and the 417 00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:37,760 Speaker 1: food and like you know what exchange? 418 00:18:37,960 --> 00:18:38,439 Speaker 3: What do you do? 419 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:42,760 Speaker 5: I think things that's on my cup? Right, I do 420 00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:47,000 Speaker 5: things like cook, I surround myself when maybe friends, because 421 00:18:47,040 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 5: you know, sometimes friends are your new family. And as 422 00:18:50,560 --> 00:18:52,680 Speaker 5: long as you're surrounded by that love or the things 423 00:18:52,680 --> 00:18:55,440 Speaker 5: that makes you happy, your cup is full. You can't 424 00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:57,320 Speaker 5: be emptied by nothing that you didn't allow. 425 00:18:58,480 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 3: You know what's crazy, Brandon. 426 00:19:00,119 --> 00:19:01,440 Speaker 1: I don't know if you have anything to say back 427 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:04,080 Speaker 1: to that, because that made me think of the friends 428 00:19:04,200 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 1: or there's been a report about how this year a 429 00:19:07,600 --> 00:19:10,080 Speaker 1: lot people have been seeing There's been a lot of 430 00:19:10,080 --> 00:19:11,880 Speaker 1: reports about friends being the new boyfriend. 431 00:19:12,560 --> 00:19:15,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, that was mostly a woman though, right that report, 432 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:18,119 Speaker 2: I mean, I hope, I hope not. 433 00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:18,720 Speaker 3: I hope. 434 00:19:18,760 --> 00:19:23,679 Speaker 2: So to apply to the anonymous caller, I agree. Like 435 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:27,040 Speaker 2: I think, if you're at a Christmas event or any 436 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:30,119 Speaker 2: family event and it always brings you down, and you know, 437 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:33,280 Speaker 2: you just leave the event feeling terrible about yourself or 438 00:19:33,440 --> 00:19:36,400 Speaker 2: just terrible towards others, or it takes you out of character, 439 00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:39,919 Speaker 2: you should definitely find something else to do. But I 440 00:19:39,960 --> 00:19:42,359 Speaker 2: do think the important part is to find something else 441 00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:45,639 Speaker 2: to do on that day so you're not down in 442 00:19:45,680 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 2: the dumps and depressed even when nobody's around. I think 443 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:50,680 Speaker 2: you should always maybe take a trip or like she said, 444 00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:53,880 Speaker 2: go out with friends or go to a friend's significant 445 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:57,359 Speaker 2: others family's place. I think it's important to do something 446 00:19:57,359 --> 00:19:59,240 Speaker 2: on that day, especially if you're used to doing something 447 00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:01,840 Speaker 2: instead of just at home and you know, just thinking 448 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:06,280 Speaker 2: about how much you not hate your family, but are 449 00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:07,680 Speaker 2: not good. 450 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:11,000 Speaker 3: And good but one one those school potato salad. 451 00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:13,480 Speaker 2: Now you hate your family, not hate your family, but 452 00:20:13,520 --> 00:20:16,399 Speaker 2: you're not getting along with your family, and just just 453 00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:18,159 Speaker 2: kind of take your mind off it in a in 454 00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:20,360 Speaker 2: a positive way. So I agree with everything that Colin said. 455 00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:23,040 Speaker 1: I guess you know because I also know too, like 456 00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:24,920 Speaker 1: around this time, there are always a lot of reports 457 00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:27,399 Speaker 1: from like, uh, you know, not to make it dark, 458 00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:29,879 Speaker 1: but there's always a lot of reports from various like 459 00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:32,800 Speaker 1: suicide previ mention websites and stuff like that, just about 460 00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:34,760 Speaker 1: like you know how people in that grief of like 461 00:20:35,280 --> 00:20:37,760 Speaker 1: having to disconnect. And I know Oprah got a lot 462 00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:40,560 Speaker 1: of pushback earlier this year when she talked about this 463 00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:43,320 Speaker 1: new trend of people fully going ghosts on their family 464 00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:45,920 Speaker 1: and like being like, you know what if you violate 465 00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:48,920 Speaker 1: my mental and my peace family or not, I'm not 466 00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:49,560 Speaker 1: dealing with you. 467 00:20:50,240 --> 00:20:51,000 Speaker 5: What are with that? 468 00:20:51,960 --> 00:20:53,000 Speaker 2: I'm with that. 469 00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:57,600 Speaker 1: But I guess my my question is then so you skip, 470 00:20:57,920 --> 00:21:00,439 Speaker 1: you skip Christmas? You might be able to skip a thing, 471 00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:02,879 Speaker 1: but they're still your family. And the caller on the 472 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,159 Speaker 1: line I would love to hear, like what do you 473 00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:09,240 Speaker 1: do long term? Because your family so your family every 474 00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:11,639 Speaker 1: single day of your life, so long term are you 475 00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:14,159 Speaker 1: having conversations with them posts Christmas? 476 00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:15,800 Speaker 3: Like, yo, I didn't even want to come to Christmas. 477 00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:16,720 Speaker 3: Y'all need to get it together. 478 00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:18,760 Speaker 1: Here are some things like how do you deal with 479 00:21:18,800 --> 00:21:21,359 Speaker 1: it the other three hundred and sixty four days of 480 00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:21,640 Speaker 1: the year. 481 00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:25,639 Speaker 5: I think I don't want it to get confused with 482 00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:28,520 Speaker 5: the value of family. I think that you know, those 483 00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:31,760 Speaker 5: relationships you have to continue to mend if they're worth mending. 484 00:21:31,840 --> 00:21:34,960 Speaker 5: And then if you can't get past that, I think 485 00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:38,840 Speaker 5: that you know, I'm a faith person, so you you 486 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,840 Speaker 5: sent it to die, let him handle it, and in 487 00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:45,000 Speaker 5: all faith, hope that it works out for the best. 488 00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:47,639 Speaker 5: But the other three one hundred and sixty five days, 489 00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:50,800 Speaker 5: if there was no effort put towards the relationship, then 490 00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:53,080 Speaker 5: I hate to say it, but you got to do 491 00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:55,520 Speaker 5: what you gotta do and kind of like press on. 492 00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:58,800 Speaker 3: So first question, when is the last time you didn't 493 00:21:58,840 --> 00:21:59,600 Speaker 3: go home for holiday? 494 00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:01,560 Speaker 5: Last Christmas? 495 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:05,199 Speaker 3: Did you go to Christmas this year for your family? 496 00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:09,760 Speaker 5: Yeah? And I think the trajectory changed, right because there 497 00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:13,760 Speaker 5: have been some honest conversations that have happened and some 498 00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:19,720 Speaker 5: actualities that sometimes people they just don't change and you 499 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:21,920 Speaker 5: can't want it more than them. But I also think 500 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:25,000 Speaker 5: that I don't have to blame all others around them 501 00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:27,360 Speaker 5: just for some of the other things that people do. 502 00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:29,920 Speaker 5: So you know, give you a hug when I walk 503 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:33,199 Speaker 5: in love you mean it by and then you know, 504 00:22:33,400 --> 00:22:36,200 Speaker 5: enjoy the rest of the day because it's not everybody's faults. 505 00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:39,520 Speaker 2: So what came out of the honest conversation, like, did 506 00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:41,520 Speaker 2: they acknowledge that things that was making you feel a 507 00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:42,120 Speaker 2: way about them? 508 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:46,680 Speaker 5: I think it was acknowledged at the time in the 509 00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:49,000 Speaker 5: you know, the space that it was had in, But 510 00:22:49,119 --> 00:22:54,360 Speaker 5: then after that maybe not. Maybe behaviors don't change all 511 00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:57,840 Speaker 5: the time, and I think the best apology has changed behaviors. 512 00:22:58,119 --> 00:23:00,919 Speaker 2: So so you you're just gonna suck it up this 513 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:04,960 Speaker 2: year pretty much, or just suck it up this year. 514 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:07,800 Speaker 5: I guess I just sucked it up this year. 515 00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:13,399 Speaker 1: Well, Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, Happy New Year. Hopefully they 516 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:14,920 Speaker 1: can see you in the New Year as well, because 517 00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:16,840 Speaker 1: you know, New Year knew me. You know, they might 518 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:20,639 Speaker 1: need that inspiration, they might need to get inspired by whoever. 519 00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:23,639 Speaker 1: The new U will be in twenty twenty six, you know, 520 00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:28,320 Speaker 1: yeah it happens. Well, thank you for joining us on 521 00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:30,080 Speaker 1: the line with the Low Riders. It's a new segment 522 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:31,600 Speaker 1: that we're doing here at the Ladies with Lorna Rosa 523 00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:34,240 Speaker 1: the podcast. So every now and then we will be 524 00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:36,720 Speaker 1: posting a number of via social Make sure you're following 525 00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:39,560 Speaker 1: me everywhere Laura l Rosa on all platforms. That's l 526 00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:43,520 Speaker 1: R ETN l O R O s A. Because when 527 00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:45,719 Speaker 1: we tell y'all, we need y'all to call, I need 528 00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:47,840 Speaker 1: y'all on my line. Okay, be blowing me up. I 529 00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:50,119 Speaker 1: need y'all on the line with Laura l Rosa, My 530 00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:50,800 Speaker 1: Low Riders. 531 00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:53,640 Speaker 2: You're trying to be one with the people, you know. 532 00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:55,800 Speaker 3: One, two three, A couple me a couple of things 533 00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:56,320 Speaker 3: with the people. 534 00:23:56,880 --> 00:24:00,080 Speaker 1: But bringing y'all in, I think it's really fun to 535 00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:01,200 Speaker 1: hear from you guys a bit. 536 00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:04,520 Speaker 3: So yeah, I'll see you guys in the next episode. 537 00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:06,720 Speaker 1: Maybe we'll be talking to some more Lowriders in the 538 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:07,800 Speaker 1: next episode. 539 00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:11,840 Speaker 3: Maybe not. Maybe I didn't go to Christmas, No I went. 540 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:12,960 Speaker 2: I went, you know. 541 00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:20,000 Speaker 1: You know, she says she loved her family too. We're 542 00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:22,560 Speaker 1: gonna end the episode here, y'all. It has been another 543 00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:24,600 Speaker 1: episode of the latest so long the rest of the podcast. 544 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:26,199 Speaker 1: At the end of the day, you guys could be 545 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:29,760 Speaker 1: anywhere with any old body talking about these things, my Lowriders, 546 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,480 Speaker 1: but y'all choose to be right here within me every episode, 547 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:33,680 Speaker 1: and I appreciate you guys. 548 00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:35,400 Speaker 3: For that, I'll see y'all in the next one.