Speaker 1: Brooking Jubil in the morning second date update. I'm calling
Speaker 1: today's second date update love with the side of broccoli cheddar.
Speaker 1: It does sound good, and that's because the girl on
Speaker 1: the phone to do a second date update today spend
Speaker 1: her first date at the most romantic of restaurants, Panera Bread. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's amazing. How all you have to do is say
Speaker 1: broccoli cheddar and we know exactly where you're talking about.
Speaker 1: It doesn't get sexier than Panera, especially when you're waiting
Speaker 1: for your food and they give you that little vibrating device,
Speaker 1: tell you when it's ready, and it lights up and vibrates,
Speaker 1: and just sit there for a few minutes and enjoy
Speaker 1: the vibration before you get your soup. What's up, Diana,
Speaker 1: how are you? Hello? Oh my god, what's going on? Well?
Speaker 1: I wanted to tell you guys about what's been going
Speaker 1: on and see do you help me? Okay, So you
Speaker 1: had a romantic date at Panera Bread and you did
Speaker 1: something with a vibrating thing. I mean that's how Jubil
Speaker 1: set it up. Any Way, what do you even call
Speaker 1: that thing? I don't know. Yeah, I just call it pleasurable. Okay,
Speaker 1: So tell us about your date. I understand you were
Speaker 1: throwing shade at panera, but I liked it. I'm in college.
Speaker 1: I thought it was a college appropriate first date. It is,
Speaker 1: I mean, and when you're talking about casual dunning, it's
Speaker 1: pretty expense and stuff. That's true, and he paid so nice?
Speaker 1: All right, sweet, So tell us a little bit about
Speaker 1: the dude. What's his name? His name is a J.
Speaker 1: And where do you meet him? We met in a
Speaker 1: study group. Oh my god, college kids still really do
Speaker 1: meet people in real life. We do. There was it
Speaker 1: a study group? App Yeah, but that's genius. We should
Speaker 1: make that, all right. So what do you like about AJ?
Speaker 1: I noticed him in our first study group, and like,
Speaker 1: I thought he was interesting and funny, like he was
Speaker 1: making people laugh or whatever. But I was getting everything
Speaker 1: in the study group. I felt really prepared. But I
Speaker 1: could tell he was struggling, and I was like, great,
Speaker 1: I can like help him out and spence more time
Speaker 1: with him. So I just kept staying and everybody else
Speaker 1: was sort of falling off and leaving the study group,
Speaker 1: and that it was just the two of us and
Speaker 1: we worked together and he was like starting to get
Speaker 1: it and we had a good time, like we were
Speaker 1: talking and stayed pretty late, and then a few days
Speaker 1: later he asked me to have lunch. That's so exciting.
Speaker 1: Were you so excited? I was so excited, Like my
Speaker 1: heart skipped a beat and I was really excited. And
Speaker 1: I mean I kind of was conflicted because I actually
Speaker 1: did have class, but I decided that I really liked
Speaker 1: this guy and decided to skip class and go to lunch. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So how was your date? It was good. We talked
Speaker 1: about life and like where we came from, and you know,
Speaker 1: all those things that I feel like you're supposed to
Speaker 1: talk about on the first date. And it went really well,
Speaker 1: and he actually at the end invited me to a
Speaker 1: party that he was going to the next night. So
Speaker 1: you ran home and tried on every outfit that you
Speaker 1: have in your closet and decided nothing was good enough,
Speaker 1: so you went to the store and bought something new. Totally. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I like definitely asked all the girls my stority like
Speaker 1: what to wear, and like we put together outfits. And
Speaker 1: so then the next night, which was the party, I
Speaker 1: was ready and waiting for his texted information and I
Speaker 1: ended up waiting in my room all night for him
Speaker 1: to text and he never texted me, never texted you
Speaker 1: at all. No, no, oh, and I bet you look
Speaker 1: so good. I felt really cute. It's like the worst,
Speaker 1: and then you have to explain to every single person
Speaker 1: that you live with, like why are you still home? Exactly?
Speaker 1: They helped me get ready and then it just like
Speaker 1: never happened. It was so awkward, and I'm guessing you
Speaker 1: haven't heard anything from him since either. Well no, because
Speaker 1: then the next day I texted him being like what happened,
Speaker 1: like what's up? And he just never responded. The thing
Speaker 1: is you have to make it seem like to him like,
Speaker 1: well I had other plans anyway, even though you didn't,
Speaker 1: and you ended up waiting the whole time just to
Speaker 1: save a little bit of face. I know something, And like,
Speaker 1: what makes it even more awkward? As we have class
Speaker 1: together tomorrow, that's I was going to ask. I was
Speaker 1: going to ask if you saw him, since you guys
Speaker 1: are in that same group and everything. So it's like
Speaker 1: not even that I want something to keep happening, it's
Speaker 1: that I actually have to keep seeing this person, and
Speaker 1: so I want to get it worked out before. Yeah,
Speaker 1: do you do you know anybody else who is at
Speaker 1: the same party, I don't think. So it's like group
Speaker 1: of people that I'm not friends with yet, so you
Speaker 1: couldn't get like a rapport on if he showed up
Speaker 1: alone or not. No, Like, of course, I'm worried that
Speaker 1: he got there and hooked up with someone right away
Speaker 1: and totally forgot right. Do you have any idea why
Speaker 1: he would blow you off like that? Though? I really
Speaker 1: don't think I did anything. Like We've just met and
Speaker 1: I've only been like very accommodating. Yeah, right, And I
Speaker 1: just keep thinking back to our data Panera, which I
Speaker 1: feel like went so well, and I just feel confused. Okay, cool,
Speaker 1: We'll play a song and then come back and try
Speaker 1: to get answer with their second day up date. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: all right, hang on rooking Jubile in the morning, right
Speaker 1: in the middle of a second date update and if
Speaker 1: you're just joining us. Dianna is on the phone and
Speaker 1: she wants to call a dude named aj. They actually
Speaker 1: are in college together. They met in a study group
Speaker 1: and then they had their first date at Panera Bread.
Speaker 1: She said she enjoyed it a lot, and then they
Speaker 1: made plans to go out to a party. She got
Speaker 1: all ready to go, but he never texted her. Also,
Speaker 1: to make matters worse, they have their class tomorrow, so
Speaker 1: she's probably going to see him and she wants to
Speaker 1: get this all sorted out beforehand. And Deanna, I really
Speaker 1: hope this works out for you to do. I too.
Speaker 1: I really had a good time with him. I like him.
Speaker 1: I think he's a good guy. I hope. You know,
Speaker 1: in a few months, you guys hang out and then
Speaker 1: you're calling home from school to talk to your parents
Speaker 1: about a pregnancy scare or something like that, you know.
Speaker 1: But sweet, yeah, I'm looking forward to a pregnancy scaring
Speaker 1: your future, and I think it's going to start right here.
Speaker 1: So I feel good about this. Thanks. Why aren't you
Speaker 1: angry at this guy? I'd be pissed. I am, like,
Speaker 1: we definitely have to talk about this. It was rude,
Speaker 1: for sure, but I'm open to understanding what happened. All right,
Speaker 1: all right? Cool, Well I'm on a Dallas phone of
Speaker 1: right now, and see if we can figure it out
Speaker 1: for you. Okay, thanks? All right? Here we go slow?
Speaker 1: All right? Is this aj? Yeah? Who's calling? What's up? Man?
Speaker 1: How are you? This is Jewil from brook and Jewil
Speaker 1: in the morning. I don't know what that is. Um,
Speaker 1: it's a radio show. It's called Brook and Jewel in
Speaker 1: the Morning. Oh okay, why are you calling me? That
Speaker 1: is a good question. I'm calling you because we actually
Speaker 1: got an email from one of our listeners about you
Speaker 1: wait like me specifically, like you sure the right AJ?
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure it's the right AJ. Is this the
Speaker 1: AJ that went out on a date to Panera Bread
Speaker 1: with a girl named Diana the other day? Oh? Yeah, yeah, yep,
Speaker 1: that's why we're calling. But how do you do you
Speaker 1: know that from the email? How do you know that?
Speaker 1: I know that because we do a segment on our
Speaker 1: what's called the Second Date Update. It's where if you
Speaker 1: go out on a date with somebody and then end
Speaker 1: up not calling them back, that person can email us
Speaker 1: to get you on the phone and ask what happened.
Speaker 1: So Dianna emailed us because she told us you hung out,
Speaker 1: went to Panera Bread and you were supposed to pick
Speaker 1: her up to go to a party, but you never
Speaker 1: texted her. That's kind of weird, she emailed a radio
Speaker 1: station about our date. Yeah. I think it's more weird
Speaker 1: that you left her just stranded. Man, Like, why would
Speaker 1: you commit to something and then not follow through. Even
Speaker 1: if you weren't going to go to the party with her,
Speaker 1: why wouldn't you just shoot her attacks and say, Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, it's not going to work out. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm not really comfortable talking about the details of our
Speaker 1: date on the radio. Well, when you say the details
Speaker 1: of your date, it doesn't sound like you guys really
Speaker 1: did much right. You're at Panera bread. Yeah, we talked
Speaker 1: and it was okay, But I don't want to air
Speaker 1: out her dirty laundr or anything. But he freaked me out,
Speaker 1: a little freaked out. Well, all right, if you don't
Speaker 1: want to air out her dirty laundry when we do
Speaker 1: this segment, everybody who agrees to do it knows that
Speaker 1: they might hear something that they don't want to hear.
Speaker 1: So she has agreed to have her dirty laundry aired.
Speaker 1: You're one hundred percent sure it's fine. I have clouds
Speaker 1: with this girl. Yeah, I'm one hundred percent sure it's fine.
Speaker 1: We've done thousands of these things at this point. But
Speaker 1: she knows that she could hear something that she might
Speaker 1: not want to hear. Well, we were at Panera, just chatting,
Speaker 1: you know, regular date stuff. But then she mentions that
Speaker 1: this is her first date like ever? Yeah, first date ever? Ever?
Speaker 1: So what she's in college. It's not like you're talking
Speaker 1: about a forty five year old woman. But still, what
Speaker 1: a date? Ever? Yeah, I know it's kind of surprising. Wrong. No,
Speaker 1: there is not anything wrong. It could just be that
Speaker 1: either she didn't meet somebody, maybe she's been really shy,
Speaker 1: maybe no one's ever even asked her. Do you know
Speaker 1: her excuse for that being her only first date a day?
Speaker 1: I don't know if she has an excuse or not.
Speaker 1: It's just in my experience, I don't like going on
Speaker 1: dates with girls who've never been on a date before.
Speaker 1: Why well, from my experience, afterwards to get really clingy
Speaker 1: and attached. I guess they over romanticize me or something.
Speaker 1: But you know, I'm in college. I'm not ready for
Speaker 1: that kind of commitment, you know, and that much cleanness.
Speaker 1: You say in your experience, have you had a lot
Speaker 1: of first dates with people who have never had first
Speaker 1: dates before? I mean, I guess back in high school.
Speaker 1: You know, people are younger, don't really have that kind
Speaker 1: of stuff in their wheelhouse yet, can wait? Hold up? Though,
Speaker 1: I feel like you're throwing out a huge stereotype about
Speaker 1: people who are dating virgins. Basically, actually, she could actually
Speaker 1: be a virgin too. She's never been on a date. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and that's bad. Yeah, don't go down that road. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she's like nineteen years old. Give these kids a break.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, don't be here first, because it is.
Speaker 1: It's the worst. Like, it's not only worse in the moment,
Speaker 1: but then after you have to deal with the aftermath
Speaker 1: of being her first. It's not fun. I agree with
Speaker 1: you on that age, No, all of you. That is awful.
Speaker 1: AJ What did she do on your date at Pernia
Speaker 1: that made you think she was cleany? Besides just telling
Speaker 1: you it was her first date? Ruin nothing much. She
Speaker 1: just very excited for a first official date, and that
Speaker 1: just you know, give me flashbacks to other first dates.
Speaker 1: And I was like, I don't know if I want
Speaker 1: to go down this road. Why so why blow her
Speaker 1: off there? Why not, like at least tell her that
Speaker 1: you weren't interested in seeing her again? Well, you know,
Speaker 1: it was just a first date. You know, if I'd
Speaker 1: been dating her for a while, it would have been
Speaker 1: extra rude. But you know, once this semester is over,
Speaker 1: I might not see her again, you know. So wait, No,
Speaker 1: it's rude to begin with, to make someone think that
Speaker 1: you have plans and then never follow through. Like that's rude.
Speaker 1: Well I can't text her after her first date ever
Speaker 1: and say, oh, well cancel that. That would crush her
Speaker 1: heart even more, you know, crush her heart even more
Speaker 1: than than making plans with her and then leaving her
Speaker 1: to sit home and wait for you. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I mean she thought I got into a car accident
Speaker 1: or something like altered it? Total reality are you living
Speaker 1: in right now? AJ? Like you need to be respectful
Speaker 1: and kind with other people's heart, and you're not doing
Speaker 1: that at all. Man. I really don't know what to
Speaker 1: say or because I don't want to hurt her feelings
Speaker 1: where I think we should give it a try, are you? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not sure. Okay, Well you better get
Speaker 1: sure because she's on the other line listening and wants
Speaker 1: to talk to Wait what she's on the other line? Yeah, yep,
Speaker 1: she's there, Dianna You there? Hey? Oh, Hidiana, Hey, hey
Speaker 1: j Yeah, I definitely heard everything you said. Well, at
Speaker 1: least you know how I feel. I can't. That's just
Speaker 1: my experience. In the past, you know, uh huh, you
Speaker 1: think I'll send you like eight thousand text messages or
Speaker 1: something after one day to Panera potentially, you know, you
Speaker 1: really don't think very much of me or sounds like
Speaker 1: women and girls in general. No, it's not not anything
Speaker 1: like that. It's just my experience in the past with
Speaker 1: you know, girls that they're not as experienced, and then
Speaker 1: they kind of think a little too much of me
Speaker 1: right away. So you think just because I haven't been
Speaker 1: on a date, that I don't have experience. To be honest,
Speaker 1: I just don't know you that well. So I just
Speaker 1: exactly that's exactly what he did. He made a ton
Speaker 1: of assumptions. Not having been on a date or been
Speaker 1: in a relationship actually means that I am much more
Speaker 1: independent than it sounds like you are. I'm just in college,
Speaker 1: you know, and I just I'm not really ready for
Speaker 1: something super serious, super quick, you know, and meeting parents
Speaker 1: and all that stuff. It's just experiences my past. It's
Speaker 1: just amazing that we're going to go to t Nara
Speaker 1: and then I'm going to be like, hey, you need
Speaker 1: to meet my family. I mean, aj I like you.
Speaker 1: I thought we had a really good time and it's
Speaker 1: really too bad that you actually have so many assumptions
Speaker 1: about women, that you're clinging too, and that you can't
Speaker 1: be open to other options, and that somebody actually is
Speaker 1: really independent. You said right there, you said you like
Speaker 1: me after one date. Is that enough information to really
Speaker 1: know you like somebody? I don't know. C Danny, you're
Speaker 1: being a little too clean. You're saying that you like
Speaker 1: him just after like one encounter, you know, totally. I mean,
Speaker 1: like emotional intelligence is really cleaning. I am really not
Speaker 1: shocked that this dude was the dumbest dude in your
Speaker 1: study group. What'd you say it on me? Aj? You
Speaker 1: were the one who wasn't getting it in the study group,
Speaker 1: and I was happy to hang out with you longer
Speaker 1: and make sure that you got it. And you did.
Speaker 1: You totally got it. Oh, she's really proud of you.
Speaker 1: I'm not some idiot with drool coming out of his
Speaker 1: mouth or something. Well, I didn't say that. Another assumption. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I kind of implied it. But another assumption right there. No,
Speaker 1: that he was talking about you. Yeah, no, he didn't.
Speaker 1: I definitely thought that I liked you, and I did.
Speaker 1: I thought we were having a good time and I
Speaker 1: was really open to dating you some more, but honestly,
Speaker 1: after this conversation, I think I know more about you.
Speaker 1: And since it's not gonna work, oh, let's make sure
Speaker 1: and ask officially, AJ, would you like to go on
Speaker 1: a second date with Danna? We'll pay for it. I
Speaker 1: know she just said she doesn't want to, but I'm
Speaker 1: hoping that you'll change your mind if you say yes.
Speaker 1: I feel like she got really worked up over just
Speaker 1: one date in one you know, miss Pex. You know
Speaker 1: I think do I sound the dead cleaning, but that
Speaker 1: that's that signs of cleanness right there, being so worked up.
Speaker 1: The clingy girl just denied you before you were even
Speaker 1: able to say no. Yeah, well it's mutual. Well sorry Danna,
Speaker 1: no second day. But it sounds like that you're okay
Speaker 1: with that totally. AJ. I know your deal. Wish you
Speaker 1: the best of luck. I hope you don't make assumptions
Speaker 1: about women in the future, though. Don't worry. I Dane
Speaker 1: and one day they'll be a guy that's cool with
Speaker 1: your whole deal. I don't think he's too broken up
Speaker 1: about it. And Jake, God, you're such a true broken
Speaker 1: jupil in the morning