1 00:00:00,920 --> 00:00:03,640 Speaker 1: All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:07,520 Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com 4 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your 5 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:19,279 Speaker 1: letter live on the air, just like we're gonna read 6 00:00:19,320 --> 00:00:23,239 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. Buggle up, hold on tight, 7 00:00:23,320 --> 00:00:25,560 Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is a Strawberry letter, 8 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:29,360 Speaker 1: all right. This one says. The subject is he has 9 00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:33,920 Speaker 1: the mama and the daughterhooked. All right. So, Dear Stephen Shirley, 10 00:00:34,360 --> 00:00:37,040 Speaker 1: I'm writing for my friend because she has lost her 11 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:39,880 Speaker 1: mind and I need her to realize what she's doing 12 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:43,240 Speaker 1: is wrong. My twenty eight year old friend has two 13 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 1: children by her mother's fifty six year old boyfriend, who 14 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:53,279 Speaker 1: I'll call Larry. Okay, her mother thinks that she has 15 00:00:53,320 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 1: been dating a guy that she met in college, and 16 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:59,680 Speaker 1: she's never even asked to meet this guy. I honestly 17 00:00:59,760 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 1: can stand Larry, and whenever I'm around him, he seemed 18 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:06,679 Speaker 1: like a pervert. But my friend is old enough and 19 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:09,920 Speaker 1: smart enough to know better. Larry is paying her car 20 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: note and her rent. Larry only sees her children when 21 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 1: they are visiting their grandmother, who happens to be his girlfriend. 22 00:01:18,160 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 1: I don't know what my friend sees in him, but 23 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 1: he has some kind of hold on her. I told 24 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:26,200 Speaker 1: my friend that her mother will be devastated if she 25 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: finds out about her affair with Larry, and my friend 26 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:32,399 Speaker 1: basically said that her mom is no fool. My friend 27 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: is college educated and doing well for herself, but she 28 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:39,960 Speaker 1: doesn't have any positive role models in her life. After 29 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:43,400 Speaker 1: she graduated from college, she moved back in with her mom, 30 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:47,200 Speaker 1: and three years later she got pregnant. She confided in 31 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:49,480 Speaker 1: me and I told her it was time for her 32 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 1: to move out and get her own apartment, hoping that 33 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:54,800 Speaker 1: would end the affair with Larry. But she told me 34 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:57,240 Speaker 1: that Larry is a real man and guys our age 35 00:01:57,840 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 1: do not know how to treat women. She had the 36 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:03,840 Speaker 1: second baby recently and said Larry is planning to move 37 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:07,080 Speaker 1: in with her to take their relationship to the next level. 38 00:02:07,320 --> 00:02:09,800 Speaker 1: I've been thinking about sending an anonymous letter to my 39 00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:12,160 Speaker 1: friend's mom to let her know about Larry, but I 40 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:14,959 Speaker 1: don't want any of this to be traced back to me. 41 00:02:15,360 --> 00:02:18,600 Speaker 1: I love my friend, but I can't stand what she's 42 00:02:18,680 --> 00:02:21,600 Speaker 1: doing to her mom? How can I get her away 43 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:26,920 Speaker 1: from Larry? Please advise? This is horrible, I mean this 44 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: is really bad. Yeah, your friend's boyfriend slash I guess 45 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 1: boyfriend step daddy whatever he is to her. I mean, 46 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: he's just disgusting and file with it. And your friend 47 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 1: is she crazy for real? Because she's certainly acting like it. 48 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:48,920 Speaker 1: She doesn't get it. And I feel really sorry for 49 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:53,120 Speaker 1: her mom. I mean, this is the ultimate portrayal. Not 50 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:56,359 Speaker 1: only are they sleeping together, but two kids came out 51 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 1: of this. I mean they didn't have to have the kids, 52 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: They didn't have to go that far with it. I mean, 53 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:07,600 Speaker 1: they use no protection, had reckless disregard for everything and everyone, 54 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:11,520 Speaker 1: all because he's paying your rent and giving you money. 55 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:15,079 Speaker 1: And then on top of that, your friend is staying 56 00:03:15,160 --> 00:03:19,079 Speaker 1: with her mom and her mom's house. How disrespectful I mean. 57 00:03:19,120 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 1: And the poor babies don't know their own father. They 58 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:25,359 Speaker 1: will they ever know? How can they know? Because if 59 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 1: they know who the father is, then you know the 60 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:31,239 Speaker 1: jig is up at that point. And another thing that's 61 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 1: puzzling in this letter for me, Steve, this was I 62 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,120 Speaker 1: don't know exactly what you meant when you said her 63 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: mom would be devastated. And then your friend said her 64 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 1: mother is no fool. I mean, what was she saying. 65 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:49,800 Speaker 1: Was she saying that her mother knows or suspects something. 66 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 1: I just don't believe that could be it, because how 67 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: could her mother know or be no fool about what's 68 00:03:56,680 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: going on and then not do something about it or 69 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 1: not react. I don't get that part. But to your 70 00:04:02,640 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 1: friend who wrote the letter, I say, you know, I 71 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 1: know you care, I know you want to help, and 72 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 1: I especially know you feel for the mom because we 73 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: all do. But this is just not your business. It's 74 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:18,280 Speaker 1: just not You have to stay out of this and 75 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:21,320 Speaker 1: let them work it out for themselves. You have to 76 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 1: steve This is crazy. Wow, This twenty eight year old 77 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 1: friend of hers that has these two two children by 78 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 1: her mother's fifty six year old boyfriend named Larry. Her 79 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:41,719 Speaker 1: mother thinks that she's been dating a guy that she 80 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: met in college. She didn't even never asked to meet 81 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 1: this guy. You don't like Larry because whenever you're around him, 82 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 1: he seems like a pervert, seems But your friend is 83 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:59,359 Speaker 1: smart and old enough to know better. You say, okay, well, 84 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:02,320 Speaker 1: let's just deal with that part of it. Larry is 85 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:08,920 Speaker 1: paying her cardinal and her rent. Larry only sees their 86 00:05:09,040 --> 00:05:13,440 Speaker 1: children when they are visiting their grandmother, who happens to 87 00:05:13,480 --> 00:05:19,800 Speaker 1: be his girlfriend. Okay, let's stop right here. Okay, Larry 88 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 1: is one trifling ass man. He's just a trifling dude. 89 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 1: First of all, you got two kids. The only time 90 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 1: he sees them is when they over at the house 91 00:05:34,640 --> 00:05:37,919 Speaker 1: visiting any grandmother. And who do they think Larry is? 92 00:05:38,880 --> 00:05:41,680 Speaker 1: How trifling can you be? I don't know what my 93 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 1: friend sees in him, but he got a hold on her. 94 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:45,719 Speaker 1: I told my friend to be her mom would be 95 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 1: devastated and she finds out about her father with Larry, 96 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: and my friend basically said her mom is no fool. 97 00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 1: My friend is college educated, doing well for herself, but 98 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:56,919 Speaker 1: she doesn't have any positive role models in her life. 99 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 1: What do having a positive role modeling your life got 100 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:03,839 Speaker 1: to do? What? You're having a baby by two babies 101 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:07,799 Speaker 1: by your mama, boyfriend, Right, you need a role model 102 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:10,720 Speaker 1: to not to do that to your mama, to your 103 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:15,680 Speaker 1: own mother. Don't you don't need a role model not 104 00:06:15,800 --> 00:06:19,159 Speaker 1: to do that? Right? Hen you can know you know 105 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 1: not to do that from any damn body, right, that's right, Hell, 106 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:28,839 Speaker 1: criminals no better than that. So I don't understand this 107 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,040 Speaker 1: right here. I'm trying to make some sense of it. 108 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 1: And she said, if you told her mother you're free, 109 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 1: and basically said her, mama, no food, we come back. 110 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 1: I finished this, this ignorant answer, that it is this 111 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 1: rifling mess going on. All right, we'll have part two 112 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:45,039 Speaker 1: of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes after 113 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 1: be our subject. He has the mama and the daughterhooked. 114 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:56,479 Speaker 1: We'll be back right after this. 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Your 132 00:07:56,320 --> 00:07:59,640 Speaker 1: friend is old enough to small enough, no better, but 133 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 1: is paying her car note and her rent. Larry only 134 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:08,240 Speaker 1: sees these two children when they're visiting their grandmother. So 135 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 1: what is the kids calling Larry, who is actually their daddy? 136 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:16,960 Speaker 1: But if they calling him Paul Paul, Uncle, Paul Paul, 137 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: what is they calling Larry? Because they damn show ain't 138 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:25,480 Speaker 1: calling me daddy now. So y'all sitting over there with 139 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:30,240 Speaker 1: this disfunctional ass family, y'all got. And I told my 140 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:32,720 Speaker 1: friend that her mother gonna be devastating when she finds 141 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:35,520 Speaker 1: out about her affair with Larry. Your friend basically said 142 00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:38,559 Speaker 1: her mom is no fool. My friend is college educated 143 00:08:38,559 --> 00:08:40,680 Speaker 1: and doing well for herself, but she doesn't have any 144 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 1: positive role models in her life. My last question before 145 00:08:44,200 --> 00:08:48,320 Speaker 1: we left was what does a positive role model have 146 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:51,680 Speaker 1: to do with you sleeping with your mama's boyfriend and 147 00:08:51,720 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 1: they had two kids? Buying right, You don't need a 148 00:08:55,960 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 1: role model not to do that. All you got to 149 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:03,400 Speaker 1: do is not be trifling. You don't need a role 150 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 1: model not to be trifling. Seemed impossible here now. After 151 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:10,880 Speaker 1: she graduated from college, she moved back in with her mama, 152 00:09:10,920 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 1: and three years later she got pregnant. She confided in me, 153 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 1: and I told her it was time for her to 154 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:20,600 Speaker 1: move out and get her own apartment, hoping that she 155 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:23,680 Speaker 1: would end the affair with Larry. Now, I thought you 156 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:27,640 Speaker 1: said in the letter that he was paying her car 157 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:32,040 Speaker 1: note and her rent, so she must be paying her 158 00:09:32,080 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 1: mama rent. So Larry is just recycling the money. So 159 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:38,840 Speaker 1: Larry give her the money for the rent. She get 160 00:09:38,840 --> 00:09:41,960 Speaker 1: the money to her mama, and he playing her fifty 161 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 1: six her mama, so he getting the money right back. Now, 162 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:49,800 Speaker 1: I think she moved into the apartment. Steve moved into 163 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:53,520 Speaker 1: water part. I think when her when her friends suggested 164 00:09:53,559 --> 00:09:58,680 Speaker 1: that she moved, she moved, even though she don't say 165 00:09:58,679 --> 00:10:01,080 Speaker 1: that in the letter. She confided than me. I told 166 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:02,680 Speaker 1: her was timing her to move out. And get her 167 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:05,679 Speaker 1: own apartment, hoping that with the end the affair with Larry. 168 00:10:05,760 --> 00:10:09,640 Speaker 1: But she told me that Larry is a real man, 169 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 1: and guys our age don't know how to treat women. Oh, 170 00:10:13,880 --> 00:10:16,960 Speaker 1: Larry's a real man, and guys your age don't know 171 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:19,000 Speaker 1: how to treat women. You mean the way he treating 172 00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:23,760 Speaker 1: your mama. That's a real man, Because guys your age 173 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 1: don't know how to treat a woman. You mean the 174 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 1: way he treating your mama and you and them kids? 175 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:32,640 Speaker 1: You got a pisopost definition or how a man on 176 00:10:32,800 --> 00:10:39,720 Speaker 1: to treat children, mothers, daughters and women. You have a 177 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 1: bad misconception because he ain't doing nothing for none of y'all. 178 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 1: She had the second baby recently and said, Larry is 179 00:10:46,920 --> 00:10:49,480 Speaker 1: planning to move in with her. Okay, So I see 180 00:10:49,480 --> 00:10:53,040 Speaker 1: what you're saying. Okay, And Larry's planning to move in 181 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 1: with her to take that relationship to the next level. 182 00:10:55,960 --> 00:10:58,600 Speaker 1: Where is it going? So let me ask you something. 183 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:04,880 Speaker 1: You twenty eight, he fifty six, that's twenty eight years 184 00:11:05,080 --> 00:11:11,800 Speaker 1: older than you. What is the future with this food? 185 00:11:13,160 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 1: And who the next you? He gonn meet? Now? If 186 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:19,840 Speaker 1: he isn't screwed around on your mama with you. You 187 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:23,800 Speaker 1: don't think he'll screwed around on you with your mama. 188 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:28,120 Speaker 1: I mean, are you nuts he's seeing your mama. Now 189 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:35,959 Speaker 1: it's her mama's boyfriend's steed girl. And then now this 190 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:38,600 Speaker 1: lady that wrote the letter says, I've been thinking about 191 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:41,240 Speaker 1: sitting an anonymous letter to my friend's mom to let 192 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:43,880 Speaker 1: her know about Laric. You don't have to send a letter. 193 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:49,400 Speaker 1: There's no way this can stay hidden. There is no 194 00:11:49,840 --> 00:11:54,840 Speaker 1: way they can play this all the way out because 195 00:11:54,960 --> 00:11:58,160 Speaker 1: somebody at one point in time got to ask the 196 00:11:58,320 --> 00:12:03,560 Speaker 1: question where my dad. Somebody at one point in time 197 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: has to be responsible for these children. Somebody gonna let 198 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 1: something slip because all y'all stupid. If your mama and 199 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:17,280 Speaker 1: a fool, she gonna find out, the kids got to 200 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:23,320 Speaker 1: look like somebody. I feel sorry for the children. Man. 201 00:12:23,880 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 1: This trifling on so many novelsmen. This letter is a 202 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:30,640 Speaker 1: damn shame. But I don't want any of this to 203 00:12:30,679 --> 00:12:32,839 Speaker 1: be traced back to me. It's gonna come right back 204 00:12:32,880 --> 00:12:40,400 Speaker 1: to you. Everybody gonna blame you. Larry gonna blame you, 205 00:12:40,400 --> 00:12:45,240 Speaker 1: your friend gonna blame you, the mama gonna blame you. 206 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:48,920 Speaker 1: You this ain't gonna work out for nobody in the 207 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:52,280 Speaker 1: letter and nobody that wrote the letter. How can I 208 00:12:52,320 --> 00:12:54,840 Speaker 1: get her away from Larry? You can't. She gotta want 209 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:57,920 Speaker 1: to fix herself. Just be her friend and be there 210 00:12:57,920 --> 00:13:00,320 Speaker 1: with a bed, to be there for when she fall. 211 00:13:00,480 --> 00:13:03,520 Speaker 1: She gonna fall. This is whole, This is all. But 212 00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:08,280 Speaker 1: don't write that letter though, Oh no, thank you, no, please, 213 00:13:08,320 --> 00:13:11,679 Speaker 1: don't got to stay out of it all right. Post 214 00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:14,560 Speaker 1: your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM 215 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:17,679 Speaker 1: on Instagram and Facebook. Yeah that was the crazy one, 216 00:13:17,760 --> 00:13:24,600 Speaker 1: right god, yes, yes, and please check out the Strawberry 217 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:27,640 Speaker 1: Letter podcast on demand now coming up at forty six 218 00:13:27,679 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. 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