WEBVTT - Make your goals happen 0:00:03.000 --> 0:00:09.200 Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning. 0:00:10.560 --> 0:00:16.320 This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 0:00:16.400 --> 0:00:19.400 episode is going to be a slightly longer one, but 0:00:19.520 --> 0:00:22.560 rather than interviewing someone else as I do usually once 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:25.200 a week, I am going to be talking about goals 0:00:25.680 --> 0:00:28.280 and how to set them and how to structure their 0:00:28.320 --> 0:00:33.479 pursuit so they actually happen. I know a lot of 0:00:33.520 --> 0:00:37.760 people set goals around this time of year, often framed 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:42.519 as New Year's resolutions. There is something about the fresh 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:46.040 start energy of a new year that makes people think 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:51.280 they can do new and exciting things. However, I know 0:00:51.400 --> 0:00:55.000 there is also a reasonable amount of cynicism about New 0:00:55.040 --> 0:01:00.520 Year's resolutions. I read a statistics somewhere that one percent 0:01:00.520 --> 0:01:03.480 of them fail. Now I don't know if that is 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:07.280 true or not, probably because sometimes these goals are so 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:10.640 vague that I am not sure you'd even know if 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:15.040 someone had succeeded. What does it mean to get in 0:01:15.120 --> 0:01:19.400 shape or to eat more helpfully? What would it mean 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:23.000 to be in control of your finances or to stop procrastinating, 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:27.680 or any of the other resolutions like that. In any case, 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:29.959 I know a fair number of people set out to 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:33.679 do things and then feel like they haven't succeeded at 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:37.640 doing what they set out to do. This can be frustrating, 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:41.039 and in a worst case scenario, can lead to a 0:01:41.080 --> 0:01:44.479 feeling like life is what it is and it is 0:01:44.520 --> 0:01:49.520 not even worth trying to change things. But I think 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:53.600 goals can be incredibly motivating, and I also think it 0:01:53.640 --> 0:01:56.760 is often possible to shape life in a schedule to 0:01:56.920 --> 0:02:01.040 make goals happen. To do that. Ye that, though, we 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:03.320 need to be careful about how we set our goals, 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:07.080 both in how we choose these goals and in how 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:11.280 we structure these goals in order to make success possible. 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:15.639 This episode is going to be about ways to think 0:02:15.680 --> 0:02:19.560 through these issues so that your goals stand a good 0:02:19.639 --> 0:02:25.799 chance of actually happening. So the first thing to think 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:29.520 about is whether your goal is something that you actually 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:34.360 want to do. Now, perhaps this sounds like a silly question, 0:02:34.919 --> 0:02:38.280 because if you are considering something as a goal, then 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:42.280 clearly you do want to do it, right, But I 0:02:42.320 --> 0:02:46.760 don't think this is necessarily true. People set goals for 0:02:46.960 --> 0:02:50.560 all sorts of reasons. Maybe they sound good at least 0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:54.480 in theory. Maybe other people are telling you that it 0:02:54.520 --> 0:02:58.000 should be a goal for you. Maybe it is in 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:00.720 the abstract, something that you would like to do. I mean, 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:04.960 maybe eventually, but it is not as big a priority 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:09.640 as other things in your life, perhaps right now. So 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:12.040 here is a way to figure out if you are 0:03:12.120 --> 0:03:15.359 motivated to do something or not, particularly something which might 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:19.239 involve a habit or putting something regularly into your life, 0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:24.280 or changing your daily schedule in some way. Ask yourself this, 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:29.600 would I do this on vacation? That is, would I 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:32.160 continue this habit or would I still be pursuing this 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:36.480 goal while on vacation. If you are planning to eat 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:40.360 more healthfily this year, would you eat more healthfuly on vacation. 0:03:41.760 --> 0:03:45.120 If you are planning to exercise more often, would you 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:49.320 be willing to exercise on vacation. If you are planning 0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:53.800 to drink less, would you drink less on vacation than 0:03:53.800 --> 0:03:57.640 you normally would? I am not saying you would follow 0:03:57.680 --> 0:04:03.080 the exact same schedule and protocol because hey, vacation, But 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:06.560 the key is whether you would eagerly ditch the protocol 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:12.400 because you were on vacation or not. This framing came 0:04:12.440 --> 0:04:14.680 to me several years ago when I was on a 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:20.000 cruise and was attending the orientation, the cruise director told 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:22.039 us about all the fun things we could do on 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:25.280 the ship and during our shore excursions, and then he 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:28.360 grinned from ear to ear and let us all know 0:04:28.440 --> 0:04:33.719 that all diets are officially kicked to the curb. He 0:04:33.800 --> 0:04:39.800 then mimed kicking something off the stage. The crowd went wild. 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:44.359 I found this all fascinating. I am sure that at 0:04:44.440 --> 0:04:47.000 least some people on that cruise had set some sort 0:04:47.000 --> 0:04:49.520 of goal to eat more healthfully during the year, and 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:53.200 then decided that being on a cruise was a guilt 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:56.720 free reason to not follow those eating patterns that they 0:04:56.720 --> 0:05:01.599 had set for themselves. But why what is it about 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:06.239 being on a giant boat that would change anything about 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:09.919 a goal you might have. I imagine the truth is 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:13.359 that people didn't particularly want to eat more healthfully, at 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:17.360 least among competing priorities, and so when there was a 0:05:17.440 --> 0:05:22.640 socially acceptable reason not to, people were happy to take 0:05:22.680 --> 0:05:27.240 the excuse. But for a long term habit to stick, 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:31.360 you will need to call upon your problem solving abilities 0:05:32.120 --> 0:05:34.200 to figure out ways to stick with the habit. When 0:05:34.240 --> 0:05:38.240 life is different from the norm for some reason, you 0:05:38.279 --> 0:05:41.279 can't be calling upon your problem solving abilities to get 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:45.039 out of doing it. So that is why I like 0:05:45.120 --> 0:05:50.159 this vacation question. If you would still more or less 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:54.400 do something while on vacation, then you do in fact 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:59.160 want to do it. For example, I still track my 0:05:59.240 --> 0:06:02.400 time on vacation because I find it useful to track 0:06:02.480 --> 0:06:06.119 my time. When I had my running streak going several 0:06:06.200 --> 0:06:09.800 years ago, I would run on vacation. For instance, I 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:11.960 ran laps around that cruise ship deck and in the 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:14.599 cruise gym. But not because I am some sort of 0:06:14.640 --> 0:06:19.560 paragon of virtue, trust me, I am not, but because 0:06:19.600 --> 0:06:23.520 I wanted to run. I really like running. I also 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:26.560 like eating dessert, so I would not set a goal 0:06:26.600 --> 0:06:30.800 that involved not eating dessert. I always want a little 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:35.000 bit to be okay. I think anyone ditching a diet 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:38.560 on that cruise ship might have been better served by 0:06:38.600 --> 0:06:43.400 an eating goal that involved moderation in all things. So 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:46.800 you could enjoy a cocktail on occasion or a treat 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:51.280 on occasion, but generally eat produce and lean protein for 0:06:51.400 --> 0:06:55.960 most of your calories. Asking would I do this on 0:06:56.080 --> 0:07:00.720 vacation leads to the next question, which is figuring out 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:03.680 how to structure a goal to fit in with your 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:08.000 regular life and life when it is not so regular. 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:11.560 I am not having to say, you know, you do 0:07:11.600 --> 0:07:13.880 something all the time, you do it every single day, 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:16.240 but you might want to figure out how it will 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:19.360 fit into what your day to day existence tends to 0:07:19.400 --> 0:07:25.200 look like. And guess what, you are busy. You do 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:29.680 not have five hours a day to devote to optional things. Right, 0:07:30.880 --> 0:07:32.800 So we're going to take a quick ad break and 0:07:32.840 --> 0:07:35.560 then we'll be back talking about more ways to set 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:45.720 goals and stick with them. Well, i am back. This 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:48.880 is a longer episode, but I'm not interviewing anyone this week. 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:51.640 I am talking about ways to set goals for the 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:55.800 new year that increases the chances that they will happen. First, 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:58.280 we talked about setting goals that you truly wanted to do, 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:01.160 and one way to get at this is to ask yourself, 0:08:01.480 --> 0:08:03.559 would you do at least some version of this goal 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:06.960 while on vacation? Would you stick with this habit at 0:08:07.040 --> 0:08:10.240 least to some degree on vacation. That is a good 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:14.800 way to gauge motivation. Now we're talking about building a 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:18.000 goal into daily life. I know people listening to this 0:08:18.120 --> 0:08:22.200 show are incredibly busy. We do not have hours a 0:08:22.240 --> 0:08:25.640 day to devote to optional things. Goals need to fit 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:30.160 into life as it is, so in general, one of 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:33.800 the best ways to make goals happen is to figure 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:36.920 out how you can break your big goals into as 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:41.400 small of steps as possible, and then you can figure 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:44.800 out where these small steps can fit into most days. 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:49.080 I like to think about small steps. Because the cruise 0:08:49.120 --> 0:08:51.960 director on that cruise I was talking about didn't tell 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:55.480 us that all toothbrushing habits were officially kicked to the curb. 0:08:56.240 --> 0:08:59.120 He didn't tell us that oral hygiene no longer applied 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:01.840 on this ship. I think people would have found that 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:05.480 rather odd if he had kicked a toothbrush off the stage. 0:09:06.520 --> 0:09:09.400 So I was sitting there pondering why are people willing 0:09:09.400 --> 0:09:12.080 to stick with one healthy habit, that is brushing their 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:17.040 teeth on vacation, but not others, like the diets. I 0:09:17.040 --> 0:09:23.200 think it is because toothbrushing is easy, reasonably pleasant, doesn't 0:09:23.240 --> 0:09:27.160 take much time, and we generally plan for aberrations in 0:09:27.200 --> 0:09:33.120 our routines. People take their toothbrushes with them on vacation. Indeed, 0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:34.920 if you want evidence that a lot of goals and 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:39.160 habits are less about discipline than they are about structure 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:43.720 and incentives. Consider that many people who don't think of 0:09:43.760 --> 0:09:48.520 themselves as good at habits might have a multi decade 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:53.400 streak going of brushing their teeth daily. No one points 0:09:53.440 --> 0:09:58.280 to daily teeth brushing as evidence of their ironclad discipline. 0:09:58.480 --> 0:10:02.320 Nor do people try to weasel out of toothbrushing by 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:04.800 claiming it is their birthday or are there on vacation, 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:07.880 or they did it yesterday, yesterday was a really tough day, 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:13.560 and name your excuse. People still brush their teeth. So 0:10:14.000 --> 0:10:17.680 if you have big goals, it might help to think 0:10:17.720 --> 0:10:20.880 about how you could make individual steps toward these big 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:27.760 goals feel relatively easy, much like brushing your teeth. This 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:30.840 is one reason that I am drawn to big, year 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:34.839 long projects. When I set my goals, even very big 0:10:34.880 --> 0:10:37.840 things spread out over three hundred and sixty five days 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:43.800 tend to become relatively little things. Back in twenty twenty two, 0:10:43.960 --> 0:10:46.559 I managed to read through all the works of Shakespeare 0:10:47.280 --> 0:10:51.160 by reading three pages in my anthology each day for 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:56.160 an entire year. Reading all of Shakespeare's sounds like a 0:10:56.280 --> 0:11:00.600 huge project, and on some level it is. But his 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:05.400 complete works fit into a one thousand page anthology, and 0:11:05.480 --> 0:11:08.080 if there are three hundred and sixty five days a year. 0:11:08.679 --> 0:11:12.640 That's just about three pages a day. The math works 0:11:13.600 --> 0:11:18.120 as long as you just keep going. I did the 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:20.880 same in twenty twenty five with listening to all the 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:23.559 works of Beethoven. That is something I set as a 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:27.160 goal for the year. Now, this was about thirty minutes 0:11:27.200 --> 0:11:29.480 of listening a day when I followed a particular calendar. 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:32.720 Some days it was a little more, some days it 0:11:32.760 --> 0:11:35.680 was a little less. But I know from my time 0:11:35.720 --> 0:11:39.720 logs that I spend at least thirty minutes driving around 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:43.160 each day in my car, So listening to Beethoven just 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:46.280 meant listening to something a bit more elevated than I 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:52.800 usually would. It all fit pretty easily, no major discipline required. 0:11:54.559 --> 0:11:59.200 Breaking big goals down into small steps can even make 0:11:59.280 --> 0:12:04.840 things that have I've eluded us before finally happen. So 0:12:05.040 --> 0:12:08.240 I have made several bucket lists over the years. Longtime 0:12:08.280 --> 0:12:10.560 listeners have heard me talk about my lists of one 0:12:10.600 --> 0:12:14.000 hundred dreams, and over the years I'd often put something 0:12:14.120 --> 0:12:18.680 like write a collection of seasonal sonnets on the list. 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:22.920 So sonnets are generally fourteen line poems with a certain 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:25.679 rhyming scheme. So I put this on the list, and 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:29.960 then I wouldn't do it. But a few years ago 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:33.880 I decided to set a goal to write just two 0:12:33.960 --> 0:12:39.040 lines in a sonnet every day. Two lines is truly 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:43.480 not that much. Now, these sonnets are in iambic pentameter, 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:48.560 so two lines meant twenty syllables a day, very very easy. 0:12:49.640 --> 0:12:52.280 But it turns out that two lines a day add 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:56.280 up two lines a day is one fourteen line poem 0:12:56.320 --> 0:12:59.760 a week. There are fifty two weeks in a year, 0:13:00.960 --> 0:13:03.480 so I have now written about one hundred and fifty 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:06.960 six of these poems over the last three years. It 0:13:07.000 --> 0:13:12.760 feels easy, unpleasant and rewarding enough that I plan to 0:13:13.040 --> 0:13:17.880 just keep going. We're going to take one more quick 0:13:17.920 --> 0:13:21.120 ad break, and then we'll be talking about how to 0:13:21.160 --> 0:13:31.800 make our goals happen. Well, we are back talking about 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:35.840 how to set goals so we can actually accomplish them. 0:13:37.360 --> 0:13:40.440 Of course, all goals do not need to happen daily. 0:13:41.800 --> 0:13:44.600 Sometimes there might be reasons that you wouldn't want to 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:47.080 have a goal structured as a daily habit, perhaps with 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:50.600 things like lifting heavy weights or running for people who 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:53.680 aren't going for streaks. In general, you do need some 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:57.520 recovery time for habits like those. But in those cases, 0:13:57.559 --> 0:14:00.280 I think it helps to figure out what success would 0:14:00.280 --> 0:14:03.800 look like for you in terms of frequency, allowing for 0:14:03.840 --> 0:14:07.200 the reality of life, and then to figure out where 0:14:07.520 --> 0:14:12.920 exactly these things could fit into the schedule. So let's 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:16.720 say you want to exercise more. That is a common 0:14:16.720 --> 0:14:20.080 goal people might set as a New Year's resolution. It 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:23.240 is also hard to know hearing that what success would 0:14:23.320 --> 0:14:27.080 mean for any individual person, so let's aim to make 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:31.920 it a little more specific. For example, I intend to 0:14:32.040 --> 0:14:35.560 exercise for thirty minutes three times a week, unless I 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:40.120 am physically incapable of doing so. In general, I believe 0:14:40.200 --> 0:14:43.240 that three times a week is a habit, so that 0:14:43.360 --> 0:14:47.040 is probably a good number to shoot for. So let's 0:14:47.080 --> 0:14:50.720 say the answer is three times a week. Then you 0:14:50.760 --> 0:14:53.080 would need to look at your calendar for the next 0:14:53.080 --> 0:14:56.160 few weeks and go ahead and block these sessions in. 0:14:57.600 --> 0:15:02.080 Where can three exercise sessions go next week? How about 0:15:02.080 --> 0:15:05.880 the week after that? This is where you figure out 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:08.680 if this is a reasonable goal for you or not. 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:13.440 If you can't block in three sessions during the first 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:17.200 week of January, it is not like other weeks will 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:21.960 magically be better. So if you can't find three spots, 0:15:22.920 --> 0:15:26.760 you'll need to refine your goal or figure out ways 0:15:26.800 --> 0:15:30.960 to change your schedule. Maybe that can't happen immediately, but 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:36.480 over ninety days maybe. But the truth is, I'd actually 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:39.800 aim to block more than three sessions in if that 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:42.160 is your goal, in order to make sure that the 0:15:42.200 --> 0:15:47.680 three sessions happen. Because here's the thing, life for sure 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:52.320 will happen. Stuff will come up. If you make space 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:55.840 for three sessions, there is a good chance one will 0:15:55.880 --> 0:15:58.280 be taken away from you when there is a work 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:02.240 crisis or a kid gets it's the flu. If you 0:16:02.320 --> 0:16:06.320 set a goal of three and only make one or two, 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:10.520 you might feel like a failure. It seems not to 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:14.640 be happening regularly. But if you carve out space for 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:19.560 four sessions and miss one, you have still hit your goal. 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:25.040 If you carve out space for four and miss two, 0:16:25.400 --> 0:16:28.600 you'll still feel quite a bit closer than if you 0:16:28.680 --> 0:16:33.920 missed two out of three. Now, I know it is 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:37.400 hard to carve out a backup slot in addition to 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:41.960 carving out time for our priorities, but hey, this episode 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:45.800 is about how to make goals happen. It's not always easy. 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:49.440 There is a reason that we believe most people fail 0:16:49.440 --> 0:16:52.880 at their New Year's resolutions, and I think not planning 0:16:52.920 --> 0:16:55.920 for life to go wrong on occasion is a big 0:16:55.960 --> 0:17:00.840 part of that reason. Finally, setting goals that actually happen 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:05.760 means being constantly reminded of your goals. How will you 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:09.040 remember your goals? How will you make sure you don't 0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:13.040 forget until New Year's next year? As you are planning 0:17:13.040 --> 0:17:16.200 your life, How will you make sure time for your 0:17:16.240 --> 0:17:22.639 goals winds up in your schedule. Longtime listeners know that 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:27.840 I advocate creating a regular weekly planning time. Each week, 0:17:28.000 --> 0:17:30.800 you sit down and around the same time and look 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:34.760 forward to the next week. What is most important to 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:40.560 do in the spheres of career, relationships and self. What 0:17:40.720 --> 0:17:44.320 do you need to do? What logistics do you need 0:17:44.359 --> 0:17:46.240 to sort out for all of this to take place? 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:51.200 During this time, you can look at your goals list 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:56.000 and think about what steps can happen and where during 0:17:56.040 --> 0:18:00.920 the week these should go. So look at the list frequently. 0:18:02.840 --> 0:18:05.520 You might also be helped by figuring out some form 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:10.480 of accountability. Sometimes we drift away from goals because they 0:18:10.520 --> 0:18:14.520 no longer make sense in our lives. But if you 0:18:14.640 --> 0:18:16.879 do want to stick with your goals rather than drift 0:18:16.920 --> 0:18:20.040 away from them. Then it helps to find ways to 0:18:20.119 --> 0:18:25.600 boost motivation when it might flag. So can you enlist 0:18:25.640 --> 0:18:31.159 an accountability partner? An accountability partnership doesn't have to be elaborate. 0:18:32.119 --> 0:18:35.000 All you have to do is check in by email 0:18:35.160 --> 0:18:38.640 or by text once a week or so to see 0:18:38.640 --> 0:18:42.120 how things are going. If you don't want to keep 0:18:42.200 --> 0:18:45.680 sending texts about why you just couldn't find three times 0:18:45.720 --> 0:18:48.320 a week to work out, or last week you didn't 0:18:48.320 --> 0:18:49.800 need to do it either, or maybe even the week 0:18:49.880 --> 0:18:52.200 before that you don't really want to send that text, well, 0:18:52.840 --> 0:18:55.520 maybe you will work on your schedule in order to 0:18:55.520 --> 0:19:00.119 make it happen. The good news is that if if 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:03.679 you do think about all these things, you will have 0:19:03.720 --> 0:19:08.679 a good chance of making your goals stick. You'll choose 0:19:08.680 --> 0:19:13.160 goals that you really want to do. You will think 0:19:13.200 --> 0:19:18.680 about how to make the individual steps of your goals easy. 0:19:18.800 --> 0:19:21.480 You will think about how they can regularly fit into 0:19:21.520 --> 0:19:25.040 your life. You will think about how they will fit 0:19:25.119 --> 0:19:29.359 into your life when life is complicated, and how you 0:19:29.359 --> 0:19:33.840 will create a backup slot so success is more likely 0:19:34.520 --> 0:19:38.320 even when things go wrong. You'll think about how you 0:19:38.320 --> 0:19:41.720 will be reminded of your goals and how you might 0:19:41.840 --> 0:19:47.760 keep yourself motivated through the year. Is that a lot maybe, 0:19:48.960 --> 0:19:52.720 but it is also likely the difference between success and 0:19:52.800 --> 0:19:57.919 feeling frustrated with the whole process. I want everyone to 0:19:58.000 --> 0:20:02.520 feel next December like they've been able to do what 0:20:02.560 --> 0:20:08.280 they set out to do. Success is truly possible when 0:20:08.280 --> 0:20:11.960 we achieve our goals and then we really do take 0:20:12.040 --> 0:20:18.080 life from great to awesome. I would love to hear 0:20:18.280 --> 0:20:22.000 about your New year's resolutions. Feel free to share them 0:20:22.040 --> 0:20:26.080 with me. You can always reach me at Laura at 0:20:26.119 --> 0:20:30.120 Laura vandercam dot com. What are you doing to make 0:20:30.160 --> 0:20:36.920 success more likely in the meantime? This is Laura. Thanks 0:20:36.920 --> 0:20:42.440 for listening, and here's to making the most of our time. 0:20:48.920 --> 0:20:53.320 Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, 0:20:53.480 --> 0:20:56.880 or feedback, you can reach me at Laura at Laura 0:20:57.000 --> 0:21:06.280 vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a production of iHeartMedia. 0:21:06.960 --> 0:21:10.920 For more podcasts from iHeartMedia, please visit the iHeartRadio app, 0:21:11.200 --> 0:21:14.439 Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.