WEBVTT - Meghan King Spreads Intimate Knowledge

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<v Speaker 1>I just keep going back to to Heather or not Heather.

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<v Speaker 1>What's her name? Shannon Badoor? Where she was always calling

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<v Speaker 1>you Meghan King Edmund she loves I know.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I'm not a serial killer. I don't have

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<v Speaker 2>three names. Not really?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you still legally Edmunds?

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<v Speaker 1>No? Fuck no?

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<v Speaker 4>Fuck you not drop that fast enough. I have Meghan

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<v Speaker 4>King on the podcast today. Hey, babe, we have a

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<v Speaker 4>lot of comment.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, we do. It's nice to finally meet

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<v Speaker 2>in person and discuss.

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<v Speaker 1>Well.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like I know you because I watched you

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<v Speaker 4>on TV.

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<v Speaker 1>We've been texting right right, Yeah, And I had no

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<v Speaker 1>idea how similar our situations were.

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<v Speaker 2>They're very, very parallel, which reminds me. Use the term

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<v Speaker 2>parallel parenting. Yeah, I love that. Did you coin that?

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<v Speaker 5>Well?

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<v Speaker 1>I actually realized that it was a thing when I

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<v Speaker 1>was talking to someone who had, you know, been through

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of relationships and custody things, and he was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't co parent with that person.

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<v Speaker 2>You parallel I love that. And I heard that from you,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's exactly what I'm going through. It's a nice

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<v Speaker 2>way to say that there's no co parenting relationship.

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<v Speaker 4>No, And I don't want a co parenting relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, ideally, I think it would be nice to

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<v Speaker 2>have one, but like you have, you can't be a

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<v Speaker 2>human being.

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<v Speaker 1>First night that if I don't want one. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>co parent with a controlling narcissist.

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<v Speaker 2>No, you can't, And I absolutely know that. Yeah, as fact,

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<v Speaker 2>they live it every day.

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<v Speaker 4>Torture.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I recently got a temporary restraining order that I

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<v Speaker 2>then I dropped just because we entered into a consent agreement,

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<v Speaker 2>but not before my axe had to use his mouthpiece

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<v Speaker 2>to go slam me in the tabloids about how like I'm,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, attempting to get a restraining order and therefore

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like diminishing the abuse of like the real abuse

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<v Speaker 2>that women go through in domestic violence cases. And that's

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<v Speaker 2>it's such bullshit because the law doesn't recognize I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's starting to, but it doesn't officially recognize emotional abuse

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<v Speaker 2>as a form of domestic violence, right, And I just

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<v Speaker 2>know that I've had to work through so much and

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<v Speaker 2>I continue to through my triggers. So if that's not

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<v Speaker 2>domestic violence, then what is?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, No, there's it's coercive control that is dropped pretty

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<v Speaker 1>frequently on one mom's battle.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, so Tina and I started texting and she's yes,

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<v Speaker 2>has she helped you navigate that she has helped me navigate?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, yeah, she Her story is insane.

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<v Speaker 2>And hers is a continuing story as well. Mm hmm,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not over yet.

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<v Speaker 5>She's incredible too, because well for many reasons. But I

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<v Speaker 5>believe she represented herself in court.

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<v Speaker 2>She did.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, so she had to do all the research, all

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<v Speaker 5>the study.

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<v Speaker 3>She's a bad bitch.

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<v Speaker 4>No, she is a bad bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but you're right, it's not being It's not something

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<v Speaker 1>that people talk about very often. But there's so many

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<v Speaker 1>things I know in the state of California that fall

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<v Speaker 1>under DV, like when someone if you're living in a

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<v Speaker 1>home and the other party is filming you without your

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<v Speaker 1>knowledge or consent, it goes right under the domestic violence.

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<v Speaker 2>See, California recognizes a lot more than protects their people,

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<v Speaker 2>more than the state of Missouri, which is still very

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<v Speaker 2>traditional in all of those ways. So I'm glad to

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<v Speaker 2>hear that California is recognizing it because it has been

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<v Speaker 2>such a battle for me. And basically what I've heard

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<v Speaker 2>from lawyers is it's not that bad or just like,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like, let it go. It's the father your kids.

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<v Speaker 2>Let it go. Let it go. Only when I took

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<v Speaker 2>things into my own hands and documented on the phone,

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<v Speaker 2>like on video, and then called the police and then

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<v Speaker 2>made a report and actually wrote it all down, that's

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<v Speaker 2>when I felt empowered to have a sense of safety.

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<v Speaker 1>What was he doing?

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<v Speaker 4>Can you tell us?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, there's been a lot that's happened over the years,

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<v Speaker 2>but the majority of it is like this creepy like stalking,

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<v Speaker 2>threat also threatening words. Right, it's all in writing all

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<v Speaker 2>of it. It's like, what are you doing? It's literally

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<v Speaker 2>every last word all these would listen to what he

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<v Speaker 2>just did. He's on his honeymoon in Italy right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Just got married on my birthday. Best gets better and

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<v Speaker 2>he okay, he forgot that we were switching a day

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<v Speaker 2>that I was taking one of his days because I

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<v Speaker 2>was in town and he was in Italy. Right and

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<v Speaker 2>I pick up my kids from school, but he writes

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<v Speaker 2>an email. He replies all to an email from my

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<v Speaker 2>son's school. Who doesn't go to school with my daughter

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<v Speaker 2>and says, where the fuck is or where the hell

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<v Speaker 2>is my daughter? They don't even know who who our

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<v Speaker 2>daughter is? She doesn't go to that school. And then

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<v Speaker 2>I reply all and I'm like, I'm really sorry about this.

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<v Speaker 2>There's been a miscommunication and I tried to like smooth

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<v Speaker 2>it over, and then he replies all to that and

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<v Speaker 2>says something like in totally messed up grammar, how now

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<v Speaker 2>everyone can see how bad I suck and how I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just trying to stir up drama.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, he's a real nurses like on his honeymood.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I know, because he's still got to keep

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<v Speaker 1>control of you. What is he gonna How could he

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<v Speaker 1>enjoy Italy if you're not being controlled.

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<v Speaker 2>In la unbelievable, Like he doesn't even know where our

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<v Speaker 2>daughter goes to school. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I so relate to this. They're like I can't stop

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<v Speaker 1>smiling because I'm picturing Jim or writing all this shit,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's like, stop crawling your hole, Like someone just.

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<v Speaker 2>Goes away, like go to your honeymoon.

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<v Speaker 4>Go on your honeymoon and enjoy your fucking life.

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<v Speaker 2>And every time he posts about this wife, it's almost

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<v Speaker 2>some sort of jab at me or to all of

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<v Speaker 2>his ex wives, because I'm number three ex wife and

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<v Speaker 2>now he's on a wife four and He literally did this,

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<v Speaker 2>which I don't know if it was purposeful or not,

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<v Speaker 2>but he wrote the most beautiful bride ever. Well, you've

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<v Speaker 2>had four, so I know. And then like he'll be

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<v Speaker 2>like to everyone out there who's talking about me, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>sure you're still married to your first husband or wife.

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<v Speaker 4>Like just be happy, right, Like, go be happy?

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<v Speaker 2>I know. Don't address the haters. You know all about haters.

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<v Speaker 2>I know all about haters. Yeah, do we address them

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<v Speaker 2>when necessary? Is it constant?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it on a picture of your on your wedding day? Absolutely?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, he's commenting on things that are like on his

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<v Speaker 4>wedding day.

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<v Speaker 2>He like posted a picture on his wedding day. And

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<v Speaker 2>then I was like to all you haters to whatever

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<v Speaker 2>it was, I'm not, like, no, it's not verbati is.

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<v Speaker 4>The new Do you communicate with the new wife?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't. He's had her block me and stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, so she's easy to control, probably, which I

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<v Speaker 1>think she likes it.

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<v Speaker 4>They love that.

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<v Speaker 5>But for a quick background, so have you two ever

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<v Speaker 5>met in real life?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 4>How did mean?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>How did you start? How did you first come in contact?

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<v Speaker 1>Did I slide in your DRAMs or did you slide

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<v Speaker 1>in mind. It was something somebody's something about our situations.

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<v Speaker 2>Were you know I think you were like, Megan, come

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<v Speaker 2>on my podcast something like that.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I had read an article or something and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I have to get you on the podcast. And then

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<v Speaker 1>we started texting.

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<v Speaker 3>And you both have been going through similar situations.

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<v Speaker 4>Were you a divorce for how long have you been?

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<v Speaker 2>I've been separated, like for the years. The divorce isn't no,

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<v Speaker 2>the divorce is final, but divorce, you know it took

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<v Speaker 2>like a year and a half or whatever.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh so three years you were Okay, I got it

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<v Speaker 5>and you were coming up on a year.

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<v Speaker 4>So okay, my independence stay coming out.

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<v Speaker 2>And the ocean will never know you two together? No,

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<v Speaker 2>isn't that such a gift. One time, my kids saw

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<v Speaker 2>a picture with me and their dad in it, and

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<v Speaker 2>they said, you know my dad, Oh.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you do you like? Do you like that?

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<v Speaker 1>Though?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I love it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah I don't. I don't want ocean to know me

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<v Speaker 1>as the person I was when I was with him. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I was not my that wasn't me. I didn't recognize

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<v Speaker 1>that person at all.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you came out of it quickly then, because like

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<v Speaker 2>for you to be able to turn turn yourself around

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<v Speaker 2>like that after like that level of abuse, it takes

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<v Speaker 2>I think it takes a lot longer for most women

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<v Speaker 2>to even identify that what they've been through is abuse,

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<v Speaker 2>and that like any side effects that maybe they don't

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<v Speaker 2>like in their own behavior are because of of their

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<v Speaker 2>way of surviving when they were with a narcissist. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that takes women a long time to wrap their.

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<v Speaker 5>Brains around such a good point, because like, when you're

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<v Speaker 5>in survival and I've I've I heard other friends who've

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<v Speaker 5>been with narcissists say the same thing, like I don't

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<v Speaker 5>know the person I was in that relationship because you're

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<v Speaker 5>in survival mode, you have to act a certain way.

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<v Speaker 5>I've never been in this situation, but from that, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 5>I've had so many friends say that, like I did

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<v Speaker 5>things I wasn't proud of, but I was in survival mode,

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<v Speaker 5>or like I acted a way that I would never

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<v Speaker 5>act again, or I always was fighting with this person.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh constantly and never a smooth day, but it was.

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<v Speaker 2>Certain and the gaslighting is so intense that you one

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<v Speaker 2>begins to believe it and then you need coping mechanisms,

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<v Speaker 2>and so how do you hope? Do you party? Do

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<v Speaker 2>you do drugs? Do you like? Do you throw yourself

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<v Speaker 2>into work? What do you do?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>These are coping mechanisms. This is not who this individual

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<v Speaker 2>really is, right, And that's so hard to discern. The

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<v Speaker 2>difference from when you're in the mix of the narcissistic abuse.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, and unless you've been in it yourself, because

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<v Speaker 1>people don't understand it is the most fucked up.

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<v Speaker 4>I tell people, if you.

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<v Speaker 1>See any of these signs in someone, whether it's a

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<v Speaker 1>friend or a lover, like, you have to get out

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<v Speaker 1>because they'll ruin you.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you seen yourself with anyone else who's a narcissist?

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<v Speaker 5>No?

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<v Speaker 1>I actually have just started like dipping my toe into

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<v Speaker 1>talking to men and giving them a chance.

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<v Speaker 4>But I'm hyper sensitive.

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<v Speaker 1>Like the second that they start talking, I hang on

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<v Speaker 1>every word and I'm like red flag that doesn't add up,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, And these people could be completely normal, but

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<v Speaker 1>I just I don't allow people in.

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<v Speaker 2>Good for you, I need to put up more of

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<v Speaker 2>a screen.

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<v Speaker 3>Did it take you a second?

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<v Speaker 5>Since it's been like three years, how did it take

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<v Speaker 5>you a second to get back into the dating?

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<v Speaker 1>Boy?

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<v Speaker 2>You got married. Yeah, not really married, No, I did.

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<v Speaker 2>I got remarried and then divorced. It was a quickie marriage. Okay. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm a little different than than you, Lala. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that I was in I was surprised by when

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<v Speaker 2>my ex left. It was just it was very abrupt,

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<v Speaker 2>and I think I was still in the place of

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<v Speaker 2>trying to understand what it would look like to be

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<v Speaker 2>separated from him, and then boom, it was done. And

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<v Speaker 2>so I found my twins were eighteen months old, my

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<v Speaker 2>daughter wasn't quite three, and I was desperate. I was

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<v Speaker 2>in a like a place of desperation, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god. All I wanted was this partner. All

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted was a family.

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<v Speaker 1>So he heft he left the marriage.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, okay, yes, he left the marriage.

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<v Speaker 4>And what was his reasoning.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I found out that he had been hanging out

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<v Speaker 2>with our nanny outside of the marriage, and I confronted

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<v Speaker 2>them about it that morning. And when I confronted them

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<v Speaker 2>about it and I fired the nanny, she was leaving

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<v Speaker 2>and I was heated and I was like, get the

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<v Speaker 2>fuck out of my house or whatever. And he says

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<v Speaker 2>that he thought I was going after her like physically,

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<v Speaker 2>I was not. I was literally in my robe and

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<v Speaker 2>he grabbed the back of my robe and it triggered

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<v Speaker 2>me because he's touched me before, and I the police,

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<v Speaker 2>and when I called the police, he like he ended

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<v Speaker 2>up leaving, and that was when he left me. Kimberly.

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<v Speaker 2>My friend is here saying she's nodding her head because

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<v Speaker 2>she saw a lot of this too, the energy when

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<v Speaker 2>he left the house, I just I literally felt lighter.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt like I wanted to do things that I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't want to do before, like wipe down the kitchen table,

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<v Speaker 2>like weird little things that I suddenly cared about again,

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<v Speaker 2>like I cared about a clean table, like tiny things.

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<v Speaker 2>I find joy in small moments finally again, whereas before

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<v Speaker 2>I was constantly under a microscope and constantly doing something wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>Everything I do is his fault. If he stubs his toe,

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<v Speaker 2>his toe, it's my fault, it's your fault.

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<v Speaker 1>These men are such pieces of shit now really, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I do with shit.

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<v Speaker 4>I put them in the trash. I put them in

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<v Speaker 4>the trash and goodbye.

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<v Speaker 5>I love I love that you're both talking about it, though,

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<v Speaker 5>because there has been this, Like I even before I

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<v Speaker 5>met laala, And before I was like, oh, if I

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<v Speaker 5>looked in the mirror too long, I'm like, I'm so

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<v Speaker 5>a narcissist. And then I finally learned, I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 5>that's what a lot of people think it is. You

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<v Speaker 5>just like love yourself or you're obsessed with yourself. But

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<v Speaker 5>it's completely different.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because that's not what a narcissist, I know, But

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<v Speaker 2>a narcissistic trait, too, is different than being a narcissist.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think that was that Like for people who

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<v Speaker 2>throw around the term narcissists too much, I think that's

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<v Speaker 2>important to understand that narcissistic traits do not make one

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<v Speaker 2>a narcissist.

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<v Speaker 4>Correct, But most people don't know that. Yeah, No, or

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<v Speaker 4>women way, I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I like to keep this topic alive. It's not about

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<v Speaker 1>like dragging these two men. It's about shedding light on

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<v Speaker 1>situations that two women were in and a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>other women are in these situations and it has to

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<v Speaker 1>be spoken about because I'm telling you, a narcissist will

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<v Speaker 1>bleed you dry financially, mentally, emotionally. They will take everything

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<v Speaker 1>from you until you are living on the street and

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<v Speaker 1>can't even function.

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<v Speaker 2>That's absolutely true, including the children, and you think, like

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<v Speaker 2>the children can be used as ponds. They know that's

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<v Speaker 2>our weak spot. They can't get us with the money.

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<v Speaker 2>They can't get us like emotionally as much anymore, not

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<v Speaker 2>with this order that I have. But yeah, the children, heck, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>he can get me with them. Course, and it hurts them,

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<v Speaker 2>but like, so what as long as he's hurting me

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<v Speaker 2>because he hates me way more than he loves them.

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<v Speaker 3>And all of your children are his.

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<v Speaker 2>Statement that was, Yeah, it's true. Wow, And like I

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<v Speaker 2>think I'm such a lover and I just want everybody to,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, be happy and loved, and everybody's flawed. But

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<v Speaker 2>I've come to realize that, like there's something so wrong

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<v Speaker 2>and these the brains of these individuals that you can't

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<v Speaker 2>fix it. I read recently that a true narcissist, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like how yawns are contagious. Yeah, true narcissist won't yawn

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<v Speaker 2>when someone else yawns because they literally lack empathy to

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<v Speaker 2>even understand what that feels. Like?

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<v Speaker 3>What is wild?

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<v Speaker 1>How long after how did you say your your other

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<v Speaker 1>the annull's marriage?

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<v Speaker 2>How did I say?

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<v Speaker 4>How do you say his name again?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>Cuff?

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<v Speaker 1>Cuff.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, why DoD everyone call him coufe.

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<v Speaker 2>Well it's kind of spelled like that.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so it's just that simple cuff.

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<v Speaker 1>How did you meet him? Riah?

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<v Speaker 2>We met on dating app Riya.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a riot.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm not on any dating apps yet.

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<v Speaker 2>Ria, it's like my fave is it? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you?

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<v Speaker 4>The thing is though, is like riat is for dating,

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<v Speaker 4>Like you're on there to date? Right, it's not a

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<v Speaker 4>hookup site.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't. I don't think it's a hookup site, but

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<v Speaker 2>like it's a dating app, so I think like inevitably

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<v Speaker 2>there's going to be hookups.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, right, Like I'm down. I feel like my roster

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<v Speaker 1>of hookups is looking quite nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, yeah they're not hardy.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I am ready to go into like

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<v Speaker 1>the dating pool yet.

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<v Speaker 2>So what do you like?

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<v Speaker 4>What do you talk on apps?

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<v Speaker 2>So? What do you when? Will you be ready?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>What what level in life do you have to reach?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>What are you looking to do?

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<v Speaker 1>First?

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<v Speaker 4>I think I need to let my guard down a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I need some sort of resolution in my

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<v Speaker 1>life and then I think I'll be open to it

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<v Speaker 1>because right now it's like someone comes into my world

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<v Speaker 1>I hang on every word they say, I'm taking a

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<v Speaker 1>mental note, I'm sending the name off to the PI forget.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not even kidding. Do you do that too? Why

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<v Speaker 2>you have like three, like three background checks of persent?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not kidding.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, A fellow, A fellow.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, very good company in this room. I love that.

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<v Speaker 5>So then I'm gonna ask, have you ever did you

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<v Speaker 5>ever have trust issues? Or was it never because I

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<v Speaker 5>know you got in a relationship right after and then

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<v Speaker 5>it was annulled. But then were you like, okay, I

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<v Speaker 5>need to like face or were you just like no,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm good.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I think I really don't have trust

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<v Speaker 2>is shoe overall? I really don't. I mean, I'm definitely

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<v Speaker 2>a lot harder than I was twenty years ago as

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<v Speaker 2>far as the trust goes, But overall I kind of

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<v Speaker 2>think that, like I'm a hopeless romantic and I think

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<v Speaker 2>that's why I married that guy so fast in the

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<v Speaker 2>first place. I want to believe in a happy ending

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<v Speaker 2>in fairy tale, and like I think, only now, at

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<v Speaker 2>age thirty eight, am I to the point where I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't have to be a fairy tale. It might

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<v Speaker 2>even be better not being a fairy tale right, well, hello, Meg,

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<v Speaker 2>like only took it hellock long to get here, Like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm kind of opposite of you, and you think

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<v Speaker 2>you have me?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you? Or no?

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<v Speaker 4>Are you just I always see.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think it's called trust issues. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>just called being smart.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay you like that?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, And I don't think it's baggage.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's like me having knowledge about someone is

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<v Speaker 1>power for me. But I even after everything I've been through,

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<v Speaker 1>I still believe in love too. I'm like, I know

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<v Speaker 1>my person is out there.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, same. I mean, but with the

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<v Speaker 2>whole like cough marriage thing, I think it was I

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<v Speaker 2>was in a place of desperation where I truly wanted

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<v Speaker 2>that partner so badly that I fell into this like

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<v Speaker 2>where I, you know, look at all the good things

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<v Speaker 2>and let all the red flags just like go by

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<v Speaker 2>the way. I'm really good at that.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I ask you a very very personal question. Sure,

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<v Speaker 1>did he eat the cookies before he put it in?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's why you ignored red flags. Any any man

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<v Speaker 1>who's eaten it before he puts it in, there are

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<v Speaker 1>no red flags.

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<v Speaker 2>And back to the hookups.

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<v Speaker 3>You he's a living and dining.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, No, I am, because I went to New York

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<v Speaker 1>and I and had some fun time and now I

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<v Speaker 1>cannot get my mind off the deck. Oh I'm like.

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<v Speaker 2>Next yet, right, I know, but I did the hookups.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really done with the hookups. I totally get that,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, Like I can. I can hook up with

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<v Speaker 2>my vibrator and it's really good and way.

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<v Speaker 1>Good, you know, and you can have like ZiT cream

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<v Speaker 1>on exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't have to like go get groomed or anything,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's the best orgasm. Yeah, as fast as slow

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<v Speaker 2>as you want it, right, And so so that's my

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<v Speaker 2>hookup right now. Like I'm really looking for a meaningful connection.

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<v Speaker 4>Are you cool?

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<v Speaker 2>No, we're not cool. We don't talk, okay, good to know.

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<v Speaker 1>What's the point of talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>Why would you talk? Exactly? There's no reason, there's no

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<v Speaker 2>It was an old which means there's no property to

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<v Speaker 2>split anything.

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<v Speaker 4>Right, just like call it a day, have a good life.

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<v Speaker 1>Cool story though that like President Biden was just like

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<v Speaker 1>at your wedding, that.

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<v Speaker 2>Part of it is cool, but it didn't feel it's

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<v Speaker 2>fucking cool. It didn't. It didn't feel like, well, I

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<v Speaker 2>guess it did. I mean looking around and seeing like

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<v Speaker 2>Secret Service and stuff there that was kind of crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>But other than that, it just felt like a family.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it just felt like a family wedding. Small.

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<v Speaker 1>It was small.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like forty people or something tiny. And then

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<v Speaker 2>just like the Secret Service, yeah, like as definitely at

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<v Speaker 2>least as many of them as there were us at least.

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<v Speaker 1>No, so they were like, I know, you only have

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<v Speaker 1>a forty five person wedding or forty person wedding, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to need forty five more for my Secret

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<v Speaker 1>Service probably.

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<v Speaker 2>And then there was like, well it was a it

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<v Speaker 2>was a parents' house. And then like when I was

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<v Speaker 2>driving there there on the highway, there was like all

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<v Speaker 2>the exits were shut down and like police runt exits,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, what is going on here? They're

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<v Speaker 2>like the presidents in town. I'm like, oh yeah, and.

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<v Speaker 4>Like he's coming to my wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>The whole street was shut down like that that the

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<v Speaker 2>wedding was on and snipers snipers, yes, And I was

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<v Speaker 2>like we had to like go tell the Secret Service,

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<v Speaker 2>like we have to go down the street because the

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<v Speaker 2>bride's in the.

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<v Speaker 1>Car and were They like, I don't know about that.

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<v Speaker 1>We call President Biden.

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<v Speaker 4>Sure, that's true.

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<v Speaker 5>They're like, okay, go ahead, wild So are you do

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<v Speaker 5>you still use Riyah right now?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you on Riot?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>And you're you're having success with it?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I like, like I think sometimes like the Ryans have

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<v Speaker 2>like big heads. Yeah, so what the Ryans? The people

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<v Speaker 2>on Riyah? People in Riyah?

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<v Speaker 4>You call them Ryan's?

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<v Speaker 2>Sure? Why not?

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<v Speaker 1>I love that. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I kind of feel like it's like a dick measuring contest,

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<v Speaker 2>like who has a cooler job kind of thing?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh really?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like who has the better burning man photo kind

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<v Speaker 2>of thing?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? But what about bumble where like the female chooses everything.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you tried bumble? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. And then you know, sometimes like on

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<v Speaker 2>those apps, it's just too overloaded, Like for you, the

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<v Speaker 2>guys will probably a lot of them know who you are.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of guys don't know who I am unless

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<v Speaker 2>they're gay, which is like they're not interested in me

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<v Speaker 2>in the first.

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<v Speaker 1>Place, right right right?

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<v Speaker 2>But for you, I feel like more men know who

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<v Speaker 2>you are.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like not really, Oh so maybe you could

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<v Speaker 4>do a normal.

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<v Speaker 1>Especially my type of guy. I just don't see them

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<v Speaker 1>watching Bravo right now. Right Maybe if I was like

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<v Speaker 1>a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader, they would know who they would Yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't like on my Instagram, I think I have five

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<v Speaker 2>percent men following me.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's a low.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm pretty low too.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so maybe you could do a bumble, but those

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<v Speaker 2>you might just get overloaded. You know, you're on for

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<v Speaker 2>an hour and then you have like five hundred people

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know hours. The one with the girl, one

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<v Speaker 2>has the girl.

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<v Speaker 4>The girl does this swiping.

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<v Speaker 2>Inge was good? Oh gosh, these are energy suckers. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>an hour? Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>What?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Can you put in your type and stuff?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Yeah, you have to like pay to do you

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<v Speaker 2>know your type and you gotta do this. We'll set

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<v Speaker 2>up ready, there, you set up a profile.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, wait, I have to pay one.

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<v Speaker 2>No, you only have to pay if you want to say, like,

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<v Speaker 2>they have to be over six feet tall or then

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<v Speaker 2>I'm paying certain And.

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<v Speaker 5>Then from each of you, what's your type? What type

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<v Speaker 5>of guy are you into?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh?

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<v Speaker 4>I like this question, migan.

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<v Speaker 1>What's your type?

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<v Speaker 2>I love it? I want like, I want a manly

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<v Speaker 2>man who's fun and funny and really cool with three kids,

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<v Speaker 2>and you want him to have three kids? No, my

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<v Speaker 2>three kids really cool?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you want him to be.

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<v Speaker 2>Cool with your three three kids?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, of course I would like someone about my age,

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<v Speaker 2>someone who travels a lot and has like a non

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<v Speaker 2>traditional lifestyle and like I want him to be able

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<v Speaker 2>to pick me up and throw me around totally.

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<v Speaker 4>That's not Yeah, yeah, do you love that type?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you mind if he has kids?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't mind if he has kids. No, not at all.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Oh, let's deep dive. I like tall, so definitely

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<v Speaker 1>over six feet.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, how tall are you?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm five six, but I throw a heel five eleven.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh you need to think about that.

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<v Speaker 4>You got to have a tall, tall motherfucker.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta have like a basketball player.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so then well maybe not, but like what if

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<v Speaker 2>I go to somebody in my same height? This has

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<v Speaker 2>like been a challenge for me, well because they have

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<v Speaker 2>to be really confident.

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<v Speaker 4>So you care about hold on your five eleven?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think you gotta go taller.

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<v Speaker 1>They have to be like they gotta be like six

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<v Speaker 1>two six three minimum minimum with Yeah, okay, so you're

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<v Speaker 1>six feet taller than I'm thinking. If you can if

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<v Speaker 1>you can hit about a six two six three, that's

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<v Speaker 1>we're in visits.

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<v Speaker 2>That's like the right.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you gotta be tall. All three of the dudes

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<v Speaker 1>are tall right now?

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<v Speaker 2>All three of your guys. Yeah, you have three guys.

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<v Speaker 4>I have a little I have a Yeah, I know.

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<v Speaker 4>And I was like, this is so fun.

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<v Speaker 1>And now it's getting to the point where I'm like

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<v Speaker 1>I want one hundred on the roster.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, may on balance all of Like, if one's not

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<v Speaker 2>texting back, there's like two other ones.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm like, you need a rotation because one doesn't expect

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<v Speaker 5>then you'll be like, fine, I've got it.

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<v Speaker 2>Doesn't matter like you're not.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't even think about it, Okay, keep going.

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<v Speaker 1>They have to have tattoos.

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<v Speaker 2>How come?

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<v Speaker 1>I just love tattoos.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay everywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>It definitely adds character. It definitely like I need tattoos.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say, tall, dark and handsome.

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<v Speaker 4>Gotta have a jaw line.

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<v Speaker 1>I like facial hair. So that's important today. Have to

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<v Speaker 1>be cool that I haven't kid.

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<v Speaker 2>Obviously one's easier than three.

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<v Speaker 4>One is easy.

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<v Speaker 1>And my kid's like the coolest kid you'll ever meet

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<v Speaker 1>besides your three kids. And they've got to have like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care what their job is, but you have

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<v Speaker 1>to have a job. Actually, men with money scare me

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<v Speaker 1>right now because I think they have a power struggle.

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<v Speaker 1>But I will never not have my own place ever again,

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<v Speaker 1>even if I get married to this person, not legally

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<v Speaker 1>but just like we live together, I will always have

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<v Speaker 1>my own place place because God, for something happens. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to be able to dip in the port vision.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I'm even funny about dudes calling me a car.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you wait? Why?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, I can call myself.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I get weird like that too. I don't need

0:24:11.840 --> 0:24:14.760
<v Speaker 2>you to get any serve for me. No, I get

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<v Speaker 2>weird like that too, because I think like a gift

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<v Speaker 2>is even an airplane ticket, and so if somebody's like

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<v Speaker 2>an airplane ticket, I'm like, no, no, I got it, I

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<v Speaker 2>got it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yepp.

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<v Speaker 1>Also not staying with you when I get there, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>book myself a hotel.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, thanks a lot, got it totally, unless, like I, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I have I have started that way and then it

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't end that way.

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<v Speaker 4>No, but at least you know, at least you know

0:24:40.080 --> 0:24:40.480
<v Speaker 4>you have.

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<v Speaker 2>It right, and then it takes away that the like

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<v Speaker 2>gravity of the expectations on the day too.

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<v Speaker 4>Write I know.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I tell you? Every time I feel like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>about to have sex, I have a full melt down.

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<v Speaker 4>What I'm like, what the fuck?

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<v Speaker 1>And I have nothing because I'm sober, so I don't

0:24:55.680 --> 0:24:57.800
<v Speaker 1>have anything to like, I can't have a glass of

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<v Speaker 1>wine to call my nerves or anything. It's like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>very aware.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, Wait, so you have a panic attack or something

0:25:05.040 --> 0:25:06.000
<v Speaker 2>like in front of these men.

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, Before before I'm ready to like go over there,

0:25:10.440 --> 0:25:13.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm just like marry in my head about it for something, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's new and story panic attacks.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I'm sure all right. Before in my mind, I'm

0:25:20.200 --> 0:25:22.359
<v Speaker 2>like picturing you naked, like about to go at it,

0:25:22.400 --> 0:25:26.480
<v Speaker 2>and you're like I can't do it. Oh no, I'm

0:25:26.520 --> 0:25:27.600
<v Speaker 2>like that's that's not good.

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<v Speaker 4>No, no, no, we haven't gotten to that point yet.

0:25:31.040 --> 0:25:31.600
<v Speaker 2>We won't get there.

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<v Speaker 4>Get nervous about just like what am I doing?

0:25:34.080 --> 0:25:36.159
<v Speaker 1>What am I doing? Like I start going through all

0:25:36.160 --> 0:25:39.800
<v Speaker 1>the ship and then once we're there, once we're there, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just a bag of fun, ready to just turn

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<v Speaker 1>it on, I know. And so then it happens and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, let's add someone else to the roster because

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<v Speaker 1>I want to like going dance with them.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, hell yeah, all right, lovely up.

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<v Speaker 1>Here looking up is a lot. How did we even

0:25:58.560 --> 0:26:00.359
<v Speaker 1>get to that? Obviously type?

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<v Speaker 5>But I want to know before we're done with the types.

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<v Speaker 3>Age range.

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<v Speaker 5>I know you said near your age, but like, give

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<v Speaker 5>me a range for each of you youngest oldest?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, okay, well it's twenty three too young.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm thirty eight, I don't think so it's not for

0:26:13.960 --> 0:26:14.760
<v Speaker 1>a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like hooking up, hooking up not at now, okay, okay,

0:26:17.680 --> 0:26:18.919
<v Speaker 2>because that happened.

0:26:20.640 --> 0:26:21.640
<v Speaker 5>Because I've already done it.

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<v Speaker 2>So ideally, I would say my age range is like

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<v Speaker 2>thirty one to like fifty five.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh okay, broad, Yeah, that is broad.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a lot, but like best age, like thirty nine, okay,

0:26:35.520 --> 0:26:38.159
<v Speaker 2>so very close to your age, close to your age,

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<v Speaker 2>because then I feel like we could like grow something

0:26:40.800 --> 0:26:43.400
<v Speaker 2>together totally, you know, right right?

0:26:43.800 --> 0:26:47.399
<v Speaker 4>I think mine would be no younger than twenty eight, okay,

0:26:48.320 --> 0:26:53.440
<v Speaker 4>and no older than thirty eight old are you? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>thirty two?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So that's like, yeah, all right, right in the middle,

0:26:58.119 --> 0:26:58.800
<v Speaker 2>right in the middle.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, red flags because you guys have each mentioned like,

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<v Speaker 5>oh that's red flag.

0:27:05.160 --> 0:27:05.840
<v Speaker 3>That's red flag.

0:27:05.840 --> 0:27:08.040
<v Speaker 5>But I think there are different red flags for people,

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<v Speaker 5>So mention some of yours, each of yours, because you

0:27:11.640 --> 0:27:15.600
<v Speaker 5>like notoriously had some red flags on someone that. Stacy

0:27:15.760 --> 0:27:18.959
<v Speaker 5>was like, yeah, red flags, but you weren't even like

0:27:19.080 --> 0:27:21.040
<v Speaker 5>a big red flag until you got to like unpaid

0:27:21.040 --> 0:27:24.679
<v Speaker 5>parking tickets or something. No way, Yeah, so like what

0:27:24.760 --> 0:27:25.719
<v Speaker 5>are red flags?

0:27:26.040 --> 0:27:29.080
<v Speaker 2>I mean there's I feel like I could write a

0:27:29.160 --> 0:27:31.840
<v Speaker 2>book on like how many red flags. And by the way,

0:27:31.920 --> 0:27:36.000
<v Speaker 2>I just like ignore them, you do? I mean I have,

0:27:36.280 --> 0:27:37.719
<v Speaker 2>I have. I'm trying not to anymore.

0:27:37.760 --> 0:27:40.960
<v Speaker 1>But right, but I think it's okay if you're if

0:27:41.000 --> 0:27:43.119
<v Speaker 1>you see red flags and you know number one, this

0:27:43.160 --> 0:27:45.000
<v Speaker 1>person is never going to be around my children. This

0:27:45.119 --> 0:27:47.080
<v Speaker 1>person is just a hookup. We're not going to end

0:27:47.119 --> 0:27:51.280
<v Speaker 1>up together. Then it's like whatever he has unpaid parking tickets.

0:27:51.280 --> 0:27:52.919
<v Speaker 1>It's like, I'm just trying to get some good dick.

0:27:52.920 --> 0:27:55.640
<v Speaker 2>As long as fall in love with that person. Oh

0:27:55.920 --> 0:27:56.600
<v Speaker 2>that's the problem.

0:27:56.680 --> 0:27:58.199
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, okay, so you got to don't care to have

0:27:58.280 --> 0:27:59.040
<v Speaker 4>to be more careful.

0:27:59.119 --> 0:28:02.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like ir and like I romanticize everything, every situation,

0:28:03.280 --> 0:28:05.679
<v Speaker 2>every everything, So like I can't just hook up with

0:28:05.880 --> 0:28:08.000
<v Speaker 2>unpaid party ticket man because next thing I know will

0:28:08.040 --> 0:28:08.440
<v Speaker 2>be married.

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<v Speaker 5>Do you think it's the hooking up that makes you

0:28:11.160 --> 0:28:13.080
<v Speaker 5>because her mom is always like, once you have set

0:28:13.160 --> 0:28:15.639
<v Speaker 5>I'm the opposite. I'm like, have fun. You can have

0:28:15.720 --> 0:28:17.320
<v Speaker 5>sex with someone and then the next day be like

0:28:17.400 --> 0:28:19.800
<v Speaker 5>that was it. But her mom, which I love, is like,

0:28:20.480 --> 0:28:22.720
<v Speaker 5>once you have sex with someone, your heart gets into it.

0:28:22.760 --> 0:28:23.800
<v Speaker 3>Do you think that I.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't know if I don't know if it's really that

0:28:27.359 --> 0:28:30.560
<v Speaker 2>like cut and dry with me, but I can see

0:28:30.600 --> 0:28:33.200
<v Speaker 2>where she's coming from. I think maybe if depending on

0:28:33.200 --> 0:28:36.720
<v Speaker 2>her personality, perhaps okay, no not okay, no, okay, I

0:28:36.720 --> 0:28:37.960
<v Speaker 2>can write them off real quick.

0:28:38.920 --> 0:28:40.880
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I'm in that space right now too.

0:28:41.320 --> 0:28:43.760
<v Speaker 1>Just with everything that I've been through right now, I

0:28:43.760 --> 0:28:46.959
<v Speaker 1>don't feel like I would be able to get super

0:28:47.000 --> 0:28:50.840
<v Speaker 1>attached to somebody, even with or without sex. I just

0:28:50.840 --> 0:28:54.959
<v Speaker 1>feel like I'm in this zone. And I also have

0:28:55.000 --> 0:28:56.200
<v Speaker 1>a lot of things that I have to get done

0:28:56.240 --> 0:28:58.560
<v Speaker 1>during the day. I don't have time to sit here

0:28:58.600 --> 0:29:01.320
<v Speaker 1>and think about like if the person who just threw

0:29:01.400 --> 0:29:03.320
<v Speaker 1>good dick at me is going to text me today?

0:29:03.480 --> 0:29:06.240
<v Speaker 2>Right? If he does text you, then he texts you,

0:29:06.240 --> 0:29:09.240
<v Speaker 2>and if not, like it's that's also a message.

0:29:09.280 --> 0:29:09.600
<v Speaker 1>It's all.

0:29:11.000 --> 0:29:11.960
<v Speaker 4>It's all the same to me.

0:29:12.360 --> 0:29:15.240
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't think I would know red flags until

0:29:15.320 --> 0:29:17.960
<v Speaker 1>they presented themselves to me, Like if I get a

0:29:18.000 --> 0:29:19.840
<v Speaker 1>background check, I'm not going to know something's a red

0:29:19.880 --> 0:29:21.560
<v Speaker 1>flag until I read it and go, okay, that might

0:29:21.600 --> 0:29:22.080
<v Speaker 1>be a red.

0:29:21.920 --> 0:29:23.800
<v Speaker 3>Flag, right right? I get that.

0:29:24.320 --> 0:29:26.280
<v Speaker 5>Is there anything in a personality though, where you're like

0:29:26.320 --> 0:29:26.760
<v Speaker 5>red flag?

0:29:27.000 --> 0:29:29.440
<v Speaker 2>I know a red flag a bad tipper, bad tip?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, massive red flag?

0:29:31.480 --> 0:29:31.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>And red flag if they not red flag if they

0:29:34.640 --> 0:29:37.479
<v Speaker 6>give a huge, huge, huge tip and then ask you

0:29:37.520 --> 0:29:40.120
<v Speaker 6>if you could please replace the sewer because they don't

0:29:40.120 --> 0:29:42.560
<v Speaker 6>have the eighteen thousand dollars to wait.

0:29:43.920 --> 0:29:46.720
<v Speaker 2>Or this happen, Oh my god.

0:29:46.800 --> 0:29:49.840
<v Speaker 5>Red flag when there's fucking water coming through the ceiling.

0:29:50.080 --> 0:29:52.080
<v Speaker 2>Red flag when you use a debit card because your

0:29:52.120 --> 0:29:53.280
<v Speaker 2>credit cards are maxed up?

0:29:54.320 --> 0:29:58.640
<v Speaker 4>Huge red right lies is huge red flag.

0:29:58.960 --> 0:30:01.080
<v Speaker 5>We played this game on and that would have been

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<v Speaker 5>a good.

0:30:01.360 --> 0:30:02.160
<v Speaker 1>But it's a huge.

0:30:02.240 --> 0:30:03.760
<v Speaker 2>Yes, Well this happened.

0:30:03.960 --> 0:30:04.600
<v Speaker 4>I'm just glad.

0:30:04.600 --> 0:30:06.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm out of it. If you want to listen to

0:30:06.040 --> 0:30:07.600
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, you can listen. If you don't want

0:30:07.600 --> 0:30:09.080
<v Speaker 1>to listen and you want to stay with this person.

0:30:09.160 --> 0:30:10.040
<v Speaker 1>I really don't give a shit.

0:30:10.080 --> 0:30:13.400
<v Speaker 4>I'm just happy that I'm like free.

0:30:13.000 --> 0:30:15.960
<v Speaker 2>Free, freedom. God, Yes, it feels so damn good. Right.

0:30:16.160 --> 0:30:18.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And like having someone in front of me who like,

0:30:18.440 --> 0:30:21.880
<v Speaker 1>I just want just naked in the bed. Did you

0:30:21.960 --> 0:30:22.240
<v Speaker 1>have that?

0:30:23.080 --> 0:30:25.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I mean Jim and I like we our sex

0:30:25.840 --> 0:30:28.120
<v Speaker 2>life was fine, like that was never really an issue

0:30:28.160 --> 0:30:29.120
<v Speaker 2>until I had the babies.

0:30:29.960 --> 0:30:32.360
<v Speaker 4>But narcissists don't like when a woman has babies because.

0:30:32.160 --> 0:30:34.520
<v Speaker 2>The attention is started. And then like when I remember

0:30:34.560 --> 0:30:36.080
<v Speaker 2>I was pregnant once and I was getting out of

0:30:36.080 --> 0:30:38.240
<v Speaker 2>the shower, I was really big, and he says, I'm

0:30:38.280 --> 0:30:40.000
<v Speaker 2>just so sorry. I was like, what are you talking about?

0:30:40.040 --> 0:30:42.120
<v Speaker 2>He's like, your poor body, you're ruining it.

0:30:44.960 --> 0:30:46.920
<v Speaker 1>Oh oh yeah.

0:30:47.160 --> 0:30:48.640
<v Speaker 3>Was it a fight or at that point?

0:30:48.640 --> 0:30:50.800
<v Speaker 2>No, it was like he like that was his way

0:30:50.840 --> 0:30:54.280
<v Speaker 2>of like actually being like empathetic to me. Uh huh.

0:30:54.320 --> 0:30:55.760
<v Speaker 2>By the way, I thought I looked amazing.

0:30:55.880 --> 0:30:58.520
<v Speaker 1>I felt you did look amazing, thank you, And you

0:30:58.600 --> 0:31:01.920
<v Speaker 1>looked I was a pregnant check though, I agree, like

0:31:01.960 --> 0:31:03.480
<v Speaker 1>what do you I'm carrying your child?

0:31:03.600 --> 0:31:04.320
<v Speaker 2>What are you talking about?

0:31:04.400 --> 0:31:06.920
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, both of you had partners that were cheating on

0:31:06.960 --> 0:31:07.840
<v Speaker 5>you during pregnancy.

0:31:07.960 --> 0:31:10.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, totally grouchy.

0:31:10.640 --> 0:31:13.280
<v Speaker 2>Well, and I think that's because like when we're pregnant,

0:31:13.440 --> 0:31:16.280
<v Speaker 2>we don't look the same. We don't we're tired, you know,

0:31:16.320 --> 0:31:19.680
<v Speaker 2>we're hormonal. And then also we're not you know this

0:31:19.760 --> 0:31:23.560
<v Speaker 2>felt sexy vixen not in their minds right, totally and

0:31:23.680 --> 0:31:25.760
<v Speaker 2>so and like there's just other things to worry about,

0:31:25.760 --> 0:31:28.600
<v Speaker 2>medical stuff whatever, and so like during that part of

0:31:28.880 --> 0:31:31.080
<v Speaker 2>like my life, we didn't have a whole lot of sex.

0:31:31.120 --> 0:31:33.760
<v Speaker 2>But he would complain all the time, like we never

0:31:33.800 --> 0:31:35.360
<v Speaker 2>have sex, we know our sex. I'm like, well, I

0:31:35.440 --> 0:31:37.880
<v Speaker 2>just had three babies in eighteen months. Give me a break.

0:31:37.920 --> 0:31:40.680
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh. He sounds horrific.

0:31:40.840 --> 0:31:41.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:31:41.240 --> 0:31:43.400
<v Speaker 1>So I'm so glad you're not with him anymore.

0:31:43.480 --> 0:31:45.240
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, me too. And I've had a lot of fun

0:31:45.640 --> 0:31:48.000
<v Speaker 2>with sex since him too. It's been great.

0:31:48.200 --> 0:31:48.959
<v Speaker 3>That's so importing.

0:31:49.440 --> 0:31:51.560
<v Speaker 2>That's that's why I have my show Intimate Knowledge. I

0:31:51.560 --> 0:31:53.880
<v Speaker 2>talk about my dating life on my new podcast.

0:31:54.240 --> 0:31:54.920
<v Speaker 4>I want to come on.

0:31:55.440 --> 0:31:58.000
<v Speaker 2>Okay, Oh my gosh, yes, we have so.

0:31:57.960 --> 0:32:00.440
<v Speaker 5>Many wait, I want to hear so intimately, what do

0:32:00.480 --> 0:32:00.800
<v Speaker 5>you get it?

0:32:00.840 --> 0:32:02.480
<v Speaker 3>Do you interview certain people?

0:32:02.560 --> 0:32:03.240
<v Speaker 1>Do you do so?

0:32:03.360 --> 0:32:06.320
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? So let my last one sort of yes, but

0:32:06.400 --> 0:32:08.600
<v Speaker 2>mainly it's just about my own personal dating life and

0:32:08.640 --> 0:32:11.640
<v Speaker 2>what's going on, because apparently everybody cares about it. Not everyone,

0:32:11.880 --> 0:32:14.520
<v Speaker 2>like it's always it's in the tabloids a lot. So

0:32:14.880 --> 0:32:17.560
<v Speaker 2>when I was in Vegas for the iHeartRadio Music Festival,

0:32:17.840 --> 0:32:20.560
<v Speaker 2>my podcast team set me up with Mike Johnson, who's

0:32:20.640 --> 0:32:24.280
<v Speaker 2>the former Bachelor, and he he's a big, black eyed,

0:32:24.320 --> 0:32:29.680
<v Speaker 2>gorgeous man, like six foot five, done done, and we

0:32:29.960 --> 0:32:32.080
<v Speaker 2>so like we walked the carpet together. We had so

0:32:32.200 --> 0:32:35.080
<v Speaker 2>much fun and it was I mean, it was just

0:32:35.120 --> 0:32:37.800
<v Speaker 2>like basically a publicity stunt, but I ended up like

0:32:38.400 --> 0:32:41.000
<v Speaker 2>feeling like, Okay, I really like you, like you're a

0:32:41.080 --> 0:32:42.800
<v Speaker 2>night a good guy. And he was like, nope, just

0:32:42.800 --> 0:32:43.520
<v Speaker 2>one to me friends.

0:32:44.240 --> 0:32:46.120
<v Speaker 5>You know. That's who I was asking about because I

0:32:46.160 --> 0:32:47.880
<v Speaker 5>like Google and I just saw a photos and I

0:32:47.960 --> 0:32:51.960
<v Speaker 5>was like, yeah, that's who I thought, but.

0:32:51.920 --> 0:32:54.320
<v Speaker 2>I was I just was talking to Teddy Mellencamp this

0:32:54.440 --> 0:32:56.400
<v Speaker 2>morning because she was we were hanging out with her

0:32:56.440 --> 0:32:58.760
<v Speaker 2>all night, and I was like, Teddy, listen to this

0:32:58.800 --> 0:33:00.920
<v Speaker 2>text he sent me. She was like, you're the only

0:33:00.960 --> 0:33:03.120
<v Speaker 2>one who thought it might be more than a weekend.

0:33:03.160 --> 0:33:05.800
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, okay. She's like you have a broken picker.

0:33:05.920 --> 0:33:08.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to do your profiles. Yeah, now I get it. Fun.

0:33:10.000 --> 0:33:12.240
<v Speaker 4>This sounds like such a fun podcast.

0:33:12.480 --> 0:33:13.400
<v Speaker 2>It's so fun.

0:33:13.600 --> 0:33:15.400
<v Speaker 1>You have to know that. I want to come on

0:33:15.960 --> 0:33:17.640
<v Speaker 1>and then let's talk about this real quick before we

0:33:17.680 --> 0:33:20.120
<v Speaker 1>sign off. You got new boobies and if you knows,

0:33:20.200 --> 0:33:22.440
<v Speaker 1>I got news and an ear?

0:33:22.720 --> 0:33:23.840
<v Speaker 2>What did you get ear?

0:33:24.280 --> 0:33:25.160
<v Speaker 1>I got it pinned back?

0:33:25.240 --> 0:33:28.960
<v Speaker 2>Oh you did? I've thought about that before, just one Yeah.

0:33:29.280 --> 0:33:29.880
<v Speaker 2>Was it painful?

0:33:30.040 --> 0:33:30.200
<v Speaker 1>No?

0:33:30.320 --> 0:33:32.400
<v Speaker 2>I bet it wasn't. No, I should have done that.

0:33:33.320 --> 0:33:35.040
<v Speaker 4>Wait, let me see your ears?

0:33:35.120 --> 0:33:37.200
<v Speaker 2>Like, why wouldn't I if I was just under already

0:33:37.280 --> 0:33:41.120
<v Speaker 2>you're even. They're so even you, I mean whatever, They're

0:33:41.160 --> 0:33:43.520
<v Speaker 2>not terrible, yes, like pin it back a little bit?

0:33:43.960 --> 0:33:45.480
<v Speaker 1>When you pin it back?

0:33:46.320 --> 0:33:49.720
<v Speaker 4>See, I know I can see it. I can.

0:33:49.920 --> 0:33:53.000
<v Speaker 1>And by the way, if you didn't do that, I

0:33:53.000 --> 0:33:55.760
<v Speaker 1>would have I have to have people show me, like

0:33:55.800 --> 0:33:57.040
<v Speaker 1>what it would look like? Pinback?

0:33:57.440 --> 0:33:57.640
<v Speaker 2>Right?

0:33:57.840 --> 0:33:59.480
<v Speaker 1>How do you feel about your nose now? Because I

0:33:59.520 --> 0:34:01.520
<v Speaker 1>know you said so when the bandage first came off?

0:34:01.640 --> 0:34:03.520
<v Speaker 2>Did you see it? Did you see the pictures?

0:34:03.520 --> 0:34:05.080
<v Speaker 1>I looked yes, last night I looked it up.

0:34:05.240 --> 0:34:07.160
<v Speaker 4>Horrible and you you were swollen?

0:34:07.240 --> 0:34:09.719
<v Speaker 2>It was swollen. And I didn't get need much done

0:34:09.760 --> 0:34:12.040
<v Speaker 2>to my nose. So when I had the bandage taken off,

0:34:12.040 --> 0:34:13.960
<v Speaker 2>it was more swollen than it was before I got

0:34:13.960 --> 0:34:17.200
<v Speaker 2>my nose done. Okay, so I was horrified, but then

0:34:17.239 --> 0:34:20.000
<v Speaker 2>the swollen went down quickly, and now I really like it.

0:34:20.000 --> 0:34:21.160
<v Speaker 2>It was it's so cute.

0:34:21.200 --> 0:34:22.840
<v Speaker 1>What did you not like about it?

0:34:22.840 --> 0:34:25.239
<v Speaker 2>It just kind of had a bulbous tip, okay, like

0:34:25.320 --> 0:34:27.680
<v Speaker 2>a round bulbous tip like a Bill Clinton, but not

0:34:27.800 --> 0:34:31.319
<v Speaker 2>quiet okay, And so I had him remove that. But

0:34:31.360 --> 0:34:33.160
<v Speaker 2>then I was like, I don't know, maybe the bridge

0:34:33.160 --> 0:34:35.800
<v Speaker 2>will be too wide. Afterwards, I'm like, just do your magic,

0:34:35.840 --> 0:34:38.040
<v Speaker 2>but make me look the same. And I think he

0:34:38.040 --> 0:34:40.719
<v Speaker 2>did an incredible job. And he's also does boobs so cute.

0:34:40.920 --> 0:34:42.120
<v Speaker 4>Your boobs look awesome.

0:34:42.360 --> 0:34:43.719
<v Speaker 1>How many ccs did you do?

0:34:44.000 --> 0:34:46.399
<v Speaker 2>Four seven? I did four seventy five, but I did

0:34:46.400 --> 0:34:48.520
<v Speaker 2>have three twenty. Oh what did you do?

0:34:49.000 --> 0:34:51.480
<v Speaker 1>I had three options because my boobs got so big

0:34:51.600 --> 0:34:54.600
<v Speaker 1>after breastfeeding that my left one was so stretched out,

0:34:55.400 --> 0:34:58.640
<v Speaker 1>and so there were three options. I could get huge implants, right,

0:34:58.840 --> 0:35:01.919
<v Speaker 1>I could get the left one reduced, or I could

0:35:01.960 --> 0:35:04.239
<v Speaker 1>have them put a hammock in, which is you know,

0:35:04.360 --> 0:35:07.440
<v Speaker 1>essentially two rods on each side of the boob and

0:35:07.480 --> 0:35:10.480
<v Speaker 1>then the skin is attached. What I'm gonna have the

0:35:10.520 --> 0:35:12.120
<v Speaker 1>doctors on who did it because this could.

0:35:11.960 --> 0:35:12.760
<v Speaker 4>Be completely office.

0:35:12.800 --> 0:35:14.040
<v Speaker 2>This is what's th rereading or something.

0:35:14.080 --> 0:35:16.440
<v Speaker 4>No, it's can I tell I have a mesh?

0:35:16.600 --> 0:35:18.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Right now, I have a bionic tip. Like if

0:35:18.800 --> 0:35:21.040
<v Speaker 1>you were that's what you have. It feels like, yeah,

0:35:21.040 --> 0:35:22.840
<v Speaker 1>I have like two rods. And I have to warn boys.

0:35:23.040 --> 0:35:24.200
<v Speaker 1>I have to tell them I feel it.

0:35:24.320 --> 0:35:25.360
<v Speaker 3>You can feel the rods.

0:35:25.360 --> 0:35:26.520
<v Speaker 4>It's wild, you know.

0:35:26.640 --> 0:35:29.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm like getting it in and I have to tell boys, like,

0:35:29.080 --> 0:35:31.000
<v Speaker 1>by the way, if you suck my boobs, I may

0:35:31.080 --> 0:35:33.040
<v Speaker 1>lactate and if you touch the left one you may

0:35:33.080 --> 0:35:34.160
<v Speaker 1>feel something in there.

0:35:34.400 --> 0:35:35.440
<v Speaker 2>So have you lactated?

0:35:35.880 --> 0:35:36.160
<v Speaker 4>I have?

0:35:36.400 --> 0:35:36.680
<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

0:35:37.200 --> 0:35:37.759
<v Speaker 5>They like it.

0:35:37.840 --> 0:35:39.439
<v Speaker 1>In fact, that's how I knew that I was still

0:35:39.480 --> 0:35:42.160
<v Speaker 1>lactating was the boy said to me there's stuff in there,

0:35:42.920 --> 0:35:44.279
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, you love it?

0:35:44.440 --> 0:35:44.800
<v Speaker 3>Sorry?

0:35:44.880 --> 0:35:47.840
<v Speaker 1>He was like, don't apologize. He was kind of into it.

0:35:47.840 --> 0:35:48.600
<v Speaker 3>Did he swallow it?

0:35:48.800 --> 0:35:49.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, totally.

0:35:49.600 --> 0:35:50.520
<v Speaker 2>It doesn't taste bad.

0:35:50.640 --> 0:35:54.759
<v Speaker 4>I heard it tastes coconut milk. I'm sure muscles muscles.

0:35:55.640 --> 0:35:57.600
<v Speaker 2>Well. If he's a big guy like you one, he's

0:35:57.600 --> 0:36:02.520
<v Speaker 2>like me up. Yeah, no, there's a black market for that.

0:36:02.520 --> 0:36:05.600
<v Speaker 2>That's what I for, like workout, beach g or not.

0:36:05.640 --> 0:36:07.640
<v Speaker 5>I don't know if it's h whatever. I want to

0:36:07.640 --> 0:36:10.000
<v Speaker 5>say hgh, but maybe it's not. But they will buy

0:36:10.040 --> 0:36:10.680
<v Speaker 5>breast milk.

0:36:10.800 --> 0:36:12.239
<v Speaker 2>I think it's all kind of weird, which I don't

0:36:12.239 --> 0:36:14.239
<v Speaker 2>know why it's weird, because if we drink cow's milk

0:36:14.280 --> 0:36:16.160
<v Speaker 2>and oats milk and so, I don't know why it

0:36:16.160 --> 0:36:18.799
<v Speaker 2>would be weird to drink human milk. But somehow it's weird.

0:36:18.880 --> 0:36:20.560
<v Speaker 4>I know people think it's so weird. Do you love

0:36:20.560 --> 0:36:21.240
<v Speaker 4>your new boobs?

0:36:21.440 --> 0:36:23.920
<v Speaker 2>I love them? So he he like pushed them more

0:36:23.960 --> 0:36:26.040
<v Speaker 2>together because I have a broad chest, so he like

0:36:26.080 --> 0:36:28.280
<v Speaker 2>sewed the side so they'd be like more together.

0:36:28.400 --> 0:36:29.720
<v Speaker 4>Yeah they were, And yeh they're bigger.

0:36:29.800 --> 0:36:30.879
<v Speaker 2>I mean, look, I.

0:36:30.880 --> 0:36:33.640
<v Speaker 1>Know right there for everybody, I know, you're making me

0:36:33.680 --> 0:36:34.960
<v Speaker 1>wish that I would have gone bigger.

0:36:35.000 --> 0:36:37.359
<v Speaker 2>Your tubes are big, and you're smaller than me, so

0:36:37.400 --> 0:36:39.640
<v Speaker 2>yours are like you already have that natural cleavage.

0:36:39.719 --> 0:36:41.479
<v Speaker 4>Did you go underneath or through the nip?

0:36:41.719 --> 0:36:43.799
<v Speaker 2>Underneath? Because I already did my boobs ten years ago?

0:36:44.120 --> 0:36:44.520
<v Speaker 1>What did you do?

0:36:44.920 --> 0:36:46.680
<v Speaker 4>I went underneath too, because I did my boobs ten

0:36:46.760 --> 0:36:48.840
<v Speaker 4>years ago you did. Yeah, we're so insane.

0:36:49.160 --> 0:36:51.399
<v Speaker 5>Were you only got your nose done a month ago?

0:36:51.440 --> 0:36:53.640
<v Speaker 5>Because I heard healing for that was like three months.

0:36:53.640 --> 0:36:55.360
<v Speaker 4>It looks amazing, It looks intible.

0:36:55.760 --> 0:36:57.560
<v Speaker 2>I really love it. I think the heat, I mean

0:36:57.560 --> 0:37:01.000
<v Speaker 2>it feels okay, but he'll be like feeling back. Yeah,

0:37:01.040 --> 0:37:03.840
<v Speaker 2>but I think it'll go down with swelling in like

0:37:04.040 --> 0:37:04.720
<v Speaker 2>two more months.

0:37:04.719 --> 0:37:09.279
<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, okay, one hundred per second, so yes, really yeah,

0:37:09.320 --> 0:37:10.200
<v Speaker 1>think about what he did.

0:37:10.200 --> 0:37:12.120
<v Speaker 4>He literally cut into your face.

0:37:13.320 --> 0:37:15.239
<v Speaker 1>You're still going to be I think you're still gonna

0:37:15.280 --> 0:37:16.759
<v Speaker 1>and it looks amazing, like if this.

0:37:16.800 --> 0:37:19.279
<v Speaker 4>Were it, it would be so good.

0:37:19.400 --> 0:37:20.440
<v Speaker 1>But I think there's.

0:37:20.239 --> 0:37:22.319
<v Speaker 4>Still going to be swelling, don't you think.

0:37:22.640 --> 0:37:23.719
<v Speaker 1>I mean for a year.

0:37:24.719 --> 0:37:26.200
<v Speaker 4>I mean, yeah, I'm the birds.

0:37:26.239 --> 0:37:28.120
<v Speaker 1>I think is like a year to get them settled in.

0:37:28.440 --> 0:37:30.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm supposed to be wearing a brawl right now like

0:37:30.080 --> 0:37:31.600
<v Speaker 1>you have on Like you're not doing it.

0:37:31.760 --> 0:37:32.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm not worrying anything.

0:37:33.239 --> 0:37:34.200
<v Speaker 1>I know. That's amazing.

0:37:34.200 --> 0:37:35.600
<v Speaker 4>It makes you not want to write.

0:37:35.760 --> 0:37:39.280
<v Speaker 2>I know I've only gone like this like maybe five days.

0:37:39.960 --> 0:37:42.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but be careful, will you ply? I don't know.

0:37:42.400 --> 0:37:44.080
<v Speaker 1>I just feel like when the doctor, what's your son

0:37:44.160 --> 0:37:47.000
<v Speaker 1>sign Libra. Okay, that makes all the sense.

0:37:49.560 --> 0:37:52.160
<v Speaker 4>Because my virgo mind is the doctor told you.

0:37:53.640 --> 0:37:55.080
<v Speaker 2>And then her I'm like, oh, you told me to

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<v Speaker 2>do something, throw in the direction.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it.

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<v Speaker 4>Where can people find your podcast so you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Can listen to me intimate knowledge wherever you get your

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<v Speaker 2>podcasts or on iHeartRadio or Apple or anywhere else. And

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<v Speaker 2>follow me on Instagram at Megan King. Yay.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for coming on my podcast having me.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, thank you for listening to another episode of

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<v Speaker 1>the Give Them Alla Podcast. We will catch you next week.