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Speaker 1: I just keep going back to to Heather or not Heather.

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Speaker 1: What's her name? Shannon Badoor? Where she was always calling

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Speaker 1: you Meghan King Edmund she loves I know.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm not a serial killer. I don't have

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Speaker 3: Are you still legally Edmunds?

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Speaker 1: No? Fuck no?

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Speaker 4: Fuck you not drop that fast enough. I have Meghan

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Speaker 4: King on the podcast today. Hey, babe, we have a

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, we do. It's nice to finally meet

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Speaker 2: in person and discuss.

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Speaker 1: Well.

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Speaker 4: I feel like I know you because I watched you

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Speaker 1: We've been texting right right, Yeah, And I had no

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Speaker 1: idea how similar our situations were.

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Speaker 2: They're very, very parallel, which reminds me. Use the term

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Speaker 2: parallel parenting. Yeah, I love that. Did you coin that?

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Speaker 5: Well?

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Speaker 1: I actually realized that it was a thing when I

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Speaker 1: a lot of relationships and custody things, and he was like,

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Speaker 1: you don't co parent with that person.

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Speaker 2: You parallel I love that. And I heard that from you,

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Speaker 2: and that's exactly what I'm going through. It's a nice

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Speaker 2: way to say that there's no co parenting relationship.

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Speaker 4: No, And I don't want a co parenting relationship.

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Speaker 2: I mean, ideally, I think it would be nice to

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Speaker 2: have one, but like you have, you can't be a

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Speaker 1: First night that if I don't want one. I can't

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Speaker 2: No, you can't, And I absolutely know that. Yeah, as fact,

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Speaker 2: they live it every day.

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Speaker 4: Torture.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I recently got a temporary restraining order that I

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Speaker 2: then I dropped just because we entered into a consent agreement,

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Speaker 2: I'm like diminishing the abuse of like the real abuse

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Speaker 2: it's such bullshit because the law doesn't recognize I think

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Speaker 2: it's starting to, but it doesn't officially recognize emotional abuse

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Speaker 2: as a form of domestic violence, right, And I just

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, there's it's coercive control that is dropped pretty

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Speaker 2: Yes, so Tina and I started texting and she's yes,

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Speaker 2: has she helped you navigate that she has helped me navigate?

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Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, she Her story is insane.

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Speaker 2: And hers is a continuing story as well. Mm hmm,

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Speaker 5: She's incredible too, because well for many reasons. But I

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so she had to do all the research, all

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Speaker 3: She's a bad bitch.

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Speaker 4: No, she is a bad bitch.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but you're right, it's not being It's not something

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Speaker 2: See, California recognizes a lot more than protects their people,

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Speaker 2: Let it go. Let it go. Only when I took

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Speaker 2: Just got married on my birthday. Best gets better and

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Speaker 2: I pick up my kids from school, but he writes

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Speaker 2: son's school. Who doesn't go to school with my daughter

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Speaker 2: I reply all and I'm like, I'm really sorry about this.

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Speaker 2: everyone can see how bad I suck and how I'm

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, he's a real nurses like on his honeymood.

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Speaker 1: I know, I know, because he's still got to keep

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Speaker 2: Goes away, like go to your honeymoon.

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Speaker 4: Go on your honeymoon and enjoy your fucking life.

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Speaker 2: And every time he posts about this wife, it's almost

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Speaker 2: but he wrote the most beautiful bride ever. Well, you've

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Speaker 2: like to everyone out there who's talking about me, I'm

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Speaker 4: Like just be happy, right, Like, go be happy?

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Speaker 2: I know. Don't address the haters. You know all about haters.

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Speaker 2: Is it on a picture of your on your wedding day? Absolutely?

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Speaker 2: He like posted a picture on his wedding day. And

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Speaker 4: The new Do you communicate with the new wife?

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Speaker 5: But for a quick background, so have you two ever

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 2: Were you know I think you were like, Megan, come

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Speaker 3: And you both have been going through similar situations.

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Speaker 4: Were you a divorce for how long have you been?

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Speaker 2: I've been separated, like for the years. The divorce isn't no,

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Speaker 4: So okay, my independence stay coming out.

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Speaker 2: And the ocean will never know you two together? No,

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Speaker 5: Brains around such a good point, because like, when you're

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Speaker 2: Certain and the gaslighting is so intense that you one

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Speaker 2: and so how do you hope? Do you party? Do

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Speaker 2: These are coping mechanisms. This is not who this individual

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Speaker 4: I tell people, if you.

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Speaker 2: Have you seen yourself with anyone else who's a narcissist?

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Speaker 2: You got married. Yeah, not really married, No, I did.

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Speaker 2: I got remarried and then divorced. It was a quickie marriage. Okay. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So he heft he left the marriage.

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Speaker 4: And what was his reasoning.

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Speaker 2: My friend is here saying she's nodding her head because

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Speaker 2: I felt like I wanted to do things that I

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Speaker 2: like weird little things that I suddenly cared about again,

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Speaker 2: I find joy in small moments finally again, whereas before

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Speaker 2: I was constantly under a microscope and constantly doing something wrong.

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Speaker 2: Everything I do is his fault. If he stubs his toe,

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Speaker 2: his toe, it's my fault, it's your fault.

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Speaker 1: These men are such pieces of shit now really, and

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Speaker 1: you know what I do with shit.

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Speaker 4: I put them in the trash. I put them in

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Speaker 5: I love I love that you're both talking about it, though,

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Speaker 5: because there has been this, Like I even before I

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Speaker 5: that's what a lot of people think it is. You

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Speaker 5: it's completely different.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because that's not what a narcissist, I know, But

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Speaker 2: And I think that was that Like for people who

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Speaker 2: important to understand that narcissistic traits do not make one

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Speaker 4: Correct, But most people don't know that. Yeah, No, or

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Speaker 4: women way, I don't.

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Speaker 1: I like to keep this topic alive. It's not about

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Speaker 1: like dragging these two men. It's about shedding light on

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Speaker 1: situations that two women were in and a lot of

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Speaker 1: be spoken about because I'm telling you, a narcissist will

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Speaker 1: bleed you dry financially, mentally, emotionally. They will take everything

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Speaker 2: That's absolutely true, including the children, and you think, like

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Speaker 2: the children can be used as ponds. They know that's

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Speaker 2: our weak spot. They can't get us with the money.

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Speaker 2: They can't get us like emotionally as much anymore, not

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Speaker 2: with this order that I have. But yeah, the children, heck, yeah,

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Speaker 2: he can get me with them. Course, and it hurts them,

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Speaker 2: but like, so what as long as he's hurting me

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Speaker 2: because he hates me way more than he loves them.

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Speaker 3: And all of your children are his.

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Speaker 2: Statement that was, Yeah, it's true. Wow, And like I

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Speaker 2: think I'm such a lover and I just want everybody to,

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Speaker 2: you know, be happy and loved, and everybody's flawed. But

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Speaker 2: I've come to realize that, like there's something so wrong

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Speaker 2: and these the brains of these individuals that you can't

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Speaker 2: fix it. I read recently that a true narcissist, you know,

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Speaker 2: like how yawns are contagious. Yeah, true narcissist won't yawn

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Speaker 2: when someone else yawns because they literally lack empathy to

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Speaker 2: even understand what that feels. Like?

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Speaker 3: What is wild?

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Speaker 1: How long after how did you say your your other

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Speaker 1: the annull's marriage?

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Speaker 2: How did I say?

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Speaker 4: How do you say his name again?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Cuff?

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Speaker 1: Cuff.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, why DoD everyone call him coufe.

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Speaker 2: Well it's kind of spelled like that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's just that simple cuff.

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Speaker 1: How did you meet him? Riah?

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Speaker 2: We met on dating app Riya.

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Speaker 3: There's a riot.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm not on any dating apps yet.

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Speaker 2: Ria, it's like my fave is it? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Are you?

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Speaker 4: The thing is though, is like riat is for dating,

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Speaker 4: Like you're on there to date? Right, it's not a

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Speaker 4: hookup site.

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Speaker 2: I don't. I don't think it's a hookup site, but

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Speaker 2: like it's a dating app, so I think like inevitably

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Speaker 2: there's going to be hookups.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, right, Like I'm down. I feel like my roster

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Speaker 1: of hookups is looking quite nice.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah they're not hardy.

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Speaker 1: I don't think I am ready to go into like

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Speaker 1: the dating pool yet.

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Speaker 2: So what do you like?

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Speaker 4: What do you talk on apps?

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Speaker 2: So? What do you when? Will you be ready?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 2: What what level in life do you have to reach?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 2: What are you looking to do?

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Speaker 1: First?

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Speaker 4: I think I need to let my guard down a

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Speaker 4: little bit.

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Speaker 1: I think I need some sort of resolution in my

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Speaker 1: life and then I think I'll be open to it

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Speaker 1: because right now it's like someone comes into my world

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Speaker 1: I hang on every word they say, I'm taking a

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Speaker 1: mental note, I'm sending the name off to the PI forget.

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Speaker 2: I'm not even kidding. Do you do that too? Why

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Speaker 2: you have like three, like three background checks of persent?

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Speaker 2: I'm not kidding.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, A fellow, A fellow.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, very good company in this room. I love that.

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Speaker 5: So then I'm gonna ask, have you ever did you

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Speaker 5: ever have trust issues? Or was it never because I

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Speaker 5: know you got in a relationship right after and then

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Speaker 5: it was annulled. But then were you like, okay, I

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Speaker 5: need to like face or were you just like no,

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Speaker 5: I'm good.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I think I really don't have trust

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Speaker 2: is shoe overall? I really don't. I mean, I'm definitely

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Speaker 2: a lot harder than I was twenty years ago as

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Speaker 2: far as the trust goes, But overall I kind of

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Speaker 2: think that, like I'm a hopeless romantic and I think

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Speaker 2: first place. I want to believe in a happy ending

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Speaker 2: in fairy tale, and like I think, only now, at

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Speaker 2: age thirty eight, am I to the point where I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 2: it doesn't have to be a fairy tale. It might

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Speaker 2: even be better not being a fairy tale right, well, hello, Meg,

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Speaker 2: like only took it hellock long to get here, Like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: so I'm kind of opposite of you, and you think

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Speaker 2: you have me?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Do you? Or no?

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Speaker 4: Are you just I always see.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's called trust issues. I think it's

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Speaker 1: just called being smart.

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Speaker 2: Okay you like that?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And I don't think it's baggage.

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Speaker 1: I think it's like me having knowledge about someone is

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Speaker 1: power for me. But I even after everything I've been through,

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Speaker 1: I still believe in love too. I'm like, I know

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Speaker 1: my person is out there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, same. I mean, but with the

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Speaker 2: whole like cough marriage thing, I think it was I

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Speaker 2: was in a place of desperation where I truly wanted

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Speaker 2: that partner so badly that I fell into this like

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Speaker 2: where I, you know, look at all the good things

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Speaker 2: and let all the red flags just like go by

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Speaker 2: the way. I'm really good at that.

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Speaker 1: Can I ask you a very very personal question. Sure,

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Speaker 1: did he eat the cookies before he put it in?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why you ignored red flags. Any any man

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Speaker 1: who's eaten it before he puts it in, there are

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Speaker 1: no red flags.

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Speaker 2: And back to the hookups.

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Speaker 3: You he's a living and dining.

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Speaker 1: Right, No, I am, because I went to New York

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Speaker 1: and I and had some fun time and now I

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Speaker 1: cannot get my mind off the deck. Oh I'm like.

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Speaker 2: Next yet, right, I know, but I did the hookups.

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Speaker 2: I'm really done with the hookups. I totally get that,

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Speaker 2: you know, Like I can. I can hook up with

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Speaker 2: my vibrator and it's really good and way.

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Speaker 1: Good, you know, and you can have like ZiT cream

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Speaker 1: on exactly.

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Speaker 2: You don't have to like go get groomed or anything,

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Speaker 2: and it's the best orgasm. Yeah, as fast as slow

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Speaker 2: as you want it, right, And so so that's my

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Speaker 4: Are you cool?

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Speaker 2: No, we're not cool. We don't talk, okay, good to know.

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Speaker 1: What's the point of talking about.

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Speaker 2: Why would you talk? Exactly? There's no reason, there's no

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Speaker 2: It was an old which means there's no property to

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Speaker 2: split anything.

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Speaker 4: Right, just like call it a day, have a good life.

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Speaker 1: Cool story though that like President Biden was just like

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Speaker 1: at your wedding, that.

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Speaker 2: Part of it is cool, but it didn't feel it's

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Speaker 2: fucking cool. It didn't. It didn't feel like, well, I

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Speaker 2: guess it did. I mean looking around and seeing like

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Speaker 2: But other than that, it just felt like a family.

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Speaker 2: You know, it just felt like a family wedding. Small.

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Speaker 1: It was small.

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Speaker 2: It was like forty people or something tiny. And then

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Speaker 2: just like the Secret Service, yeah, like as definitely at

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Speaker 2: least as many of them as there were us at least.

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Speaker 1: No, so they were like, I know, you only have

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Speaker 2: And then there was like, well it was a it

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Speaker 2: like the presidents in town. I'm like, oh yeah, and.

448
00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:07,520
Speaker 4: Like he's coming to my wedding.

449
00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:09,919
Speaker 2: The whole street was shut down like that that the

450
00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:13,840
Speaker 2: wedding was on and snipers snipers, yes, And I was

451
00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:16,040
Speaker 2: like we had to like go tell the Secret Service,

452
00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:17,440
Speaker 2: like we have to go down the street because the

453
00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:18,160
Speaker 2: bride's in the.

454
00:19:18,040 --> 00:19:21,080
Speaker 1: Car and were They like, I don't know about that.

455
00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:22,480
Speaker 1: We call President Biden.

456
00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:23,960
Speaker 4: Sure, that's true.

457
00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:27,320
Speaker 5: They're like, okay, go ahead, wild So are you do

458
00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:28,800
Speaker 5: you still use Riyah right now?

459
00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:29,560
Speaker 3: Are you on Riot?

460
00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:30,240
Speaker 1: Yeah?

461
00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:31,919
Speaker 3: And you're you're having success with it?

462
00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:32,400
Speaker 5: Yeah?

463
00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:35,320
Speaker 2: I like, like I think sometimes like the Ryans have

464
00:19:35,480 --> 00:19:39,320
Speaker 2: like big heads. Yeah, so what the Ryans? The people

465
00:19:39,359 --> 00:19:40,520
Speaker 2: on Riyah? People in Riyah?

466
00:19:40,560 --> 00:19:41,320
Speaker 4: You call them Ryan's?

467
00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:41,879
Speaker 2: Sure? Why not?

468
00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:45,080
Speaker 1: I love that. I don't know.

469
00:19:45,119 --> 00:19:47,280
Speaker 2: I kind of feel like it's like a dick measuring contest,

470
00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:48,760
Speaker 2: like who has a cooler job kind of thing?

471
00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:49,639
Speaker 1: Oh really?

472
00:19:49,800 --> 00:19:52,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, like who has the better burning man photo kind

473
00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:52,359
Speaker 2: of thing?

474
00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:55,480
Speaker 1: Yeah? But what about bumble where like the female chooses everything.

475
00:19:55,600 --> 00:19:56,760
Speaker 1: Have you tried bumble? Yeah?

476
00:19:56,800 --> 00:19:58,879
Speaker 2: I don't know. And then you know, sometimes like on

477
00:19:58,960 --> 00:20:01,800
Speaker 2: those apps, it's just too overloaded, Like for you, the

478
00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:03,760
Speaker 2: guys will probably a lot of them know who you are.

479
00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:05,840
Speaker 2: A lot of guys don't know who I am unless

480
00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:07,720
Speaker 2: they're gay, which is like they're not interested in me

481
00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:08,280
Speaker 2: in the first.

482
00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:09,200
Speaker 1: Place, right right right?

483
00:20:09,800 --> 00:20:11,920
Speaker 2: But for you, I feel like more men know who

484
00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:12,320
Speaker 2: you are.

485
00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:15,400
Speaker 4: I feel like not really, Oh so maybe you could

486
00:20:15,440 --> 00:20:16,040
Speaker 4: do a normal.

487
00:20:16,160 --> 00:20:18,360
Speaker 1: Especially my type of guy. I just don't see them

488
00:20:18,359 --> 00:20:21,960
Speaker 1: watching Bravo right now. Right Maybe if I was like

489
00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:26,600
Speaker 1: a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader, they would know who they would Yeah, I.

490
00:20:26,520 --> 00:20:28,360
Speaker 2: Don't like on my Instagram, I think I have five

491
00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:29,679
Speaker 2: percent men following me.

492
00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:30,560
Speaker 6: Yeah.

493
00:20:30,640 --> 00:20:31,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a low.

494
00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:32,680
Speaker 1: I'm I'm pretty low too.

495
00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:35,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, so maybe you could do a bumble, but those

496
00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:38,000
Speaker 2: you might just get overloaded. You know, you're on for

497
00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:40,480
Speaker 2: an hour and then you have like five hundred people

498
00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:43,760
Speaker 2: I don't know hours. The one with the girl, one

499
00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:44,800
Speaker 2: has the girl.

500
00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:46,359
Speaker 4: The girl does this swiping.

501
00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:50,359
Speaker 2: Inge was good? Oh gosh, these are energy suckers. Yes,

502
00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:51,240
Speaker 2: an hour? Yes?

503
00:20:51,960 --> 00:20:52,280
Speaker 1: What?

504
00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:53,560
Speaker 2: Yeah?

505
00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:55,320
Speaker 4: Can you put in your type and stuff?

506
00:20:55,720 --> 00:20:58,879
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, you have to like pay to do you

507
00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:00,800
Speaker 2: know your type and you gotta do this. We'll set

508
00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:03,240
Speaker 2: up ready, there, you set up a profile.

509
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:06,200
Speaker 1: Okay, wait, I have to pay one.

510
00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:08,960
Speaker 2: No, you only have to pay if you want to say, like,

511
00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:11,479
Speaker 2: they have to be over six feet tall or then

512
00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:16,800
Speaker 2: I'm paying certain And.

513
00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:16,840
Speaker 5: Then from each of you, what's your type? What type

514
00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:17,720
Speaker 5: of guy are you into?

515
00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:18,040
Speaker 2: Oh?

516
00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:19,320
Speaker 4: I like this question, migan.

517
00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:20,040
Speaker 1: What's your type?

518
00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:27,080
Speaker 2: I love it? I want like, I want a manly

519
00:21:27,160 --> 00:21:31,080
Speaker 2: man who's fun and funny and really cool with three kids,

520
00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:34,800
Speaker 2: and you want him to have three kids? No, my

521
00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:35,600
Speaker 2: three kids really cool?

522
00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:36,400
Speaker 1: Oh you want him to be.

523
00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:37,880
Speaker 2: Cool with your three three kids?

524
00:21:38,000 --> 00:21:38,160
Speaker 1: Yeah?

525
00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:40,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, of course I would like someone about my age,

526
00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:43,040
Speaker 2: someone who travels a lot and has like a non

527
00:21:43,080 --> 00:21:46,520
Speaker 2: traditional lifestyle and like I want him to be able

528
00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:48,960
Speaker 2: to pick me up and throw me around totally.

529
00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:51,960
Speaker 4: That's not Yeah, yeah, do you love that type?

530
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:53,639
Speaker 3: Do you mind if he has kids?

531
00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:54,240
Speaker 4: No?

532
00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:55,920
Speaker 2: I don't mind if he has kids. No, not at all.

533
00:21:56,000 --> 00:22:01,480
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh, let's deep dive. I like tall, so definitely

534
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:02,560
Speaker 1: over six feet.

535
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:03,879
Speaker 2: Okay, how tall are you?

536
00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:06,840
Speaker 4: I'm five six, but I throw a heel five eleven.

537
00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:07,960
Speaker 2: Oh you need to think about that.

538
00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:10,080
Speaker 4: You got to have a tall, tall motherfucker.

539
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:12,280
Speaker 1: You gotta have like a basketball player.

540
00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:15,159
Speaker 2: Yeah, so then well maybe not, but like what if

541
00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:17,199
Speaker 2: I go to somebody in my same height? This has

542
00:22:17,280 --> 00:22:20,040
Speaker 2: like been a challenge for me, well because they have

543
00:22:20,080 --> 00:22:20,960
Speaker 2: to be really confident.

544
00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:23,400
Speaker 4: So you care about hold on your five eleven?

545
00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you gotta go taller.

546
00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:28,120
Speaker 1: They have to be like they gotta be like six

547
00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:32,880
Speaker 1: two six three minimum minimum with Yeah, okay, so you're

548
00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:36,439
Speaker 1: six feet taller than I'm thinking. If you can if

549
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:39,360
Speaker 1: you can hit about a six two six three, that's

550
00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:40,200
Speaker 1: we're in visits.

551
00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:40,920
Speaker 2: That's like the right.

552
00:22:41,680 --> 00:22:44,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta be tall. All three of the dudes

553
00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:45,120
Speaker 1: are tall right now?

554
00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 2: All three of your guys. Yeah, you have three guys.

555
00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:51,159
Speaker 4: I have a little I have a Yeah, I know.

556
00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:52,640
Speaker 4: And I was like, this is so fun.

557
00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:54,240
Speaker 1: And now it's getting to the point where I'm like

558
00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:56,080
Speaker 1: I want one hundred on the roster.

559
00:22:56,600 --> 00:23:01,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, may on balance all of Like, if one's not

560
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:03,040
Speaker 2: texting back, there's like two other ones.

561
00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:07,679
Speaker 5: I'm like, you need a rotation because one doesn't expect

562
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:08,919
Speaker 5: then you'll be like, fine, I've got it.

563
00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:10,240
Speaker 2: Doesn't matter like you're not.

564
00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:12,680
Speaker 3: You don't even think about it, Okay, keep going.

565
00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:14,879
Speaker 1: They have to have tattoos.

566
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:15,600
Speaker 2: How come?

567
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:17,399
Speaker 1: I just love tattoos.

568
00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:19,120
Speaker 2: Okay everywhere.

569
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:22,399
Speaker 1: It definitely adds character. It definitely like I need tattoos.

570
00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:24,720
Speaker 1: I would say, tall, dark and handsome.

571
00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:25,880
Speaker 4: Gotta have a jaw line.

572
00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:29,159
Speaker 1: I like facial hair. So that's important today. Have to

573
00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:30,120
Speaker 1: be cool that I haven't kid.

574
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:33,000
Speaker 2: Obviously one's easier than three.

575
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:34,920
Speaker 4: One is easy.

576
00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 1: And my kid's like the coolest kid you'll ever meet

577
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 1: besides your three kids. And they've got to have like,

578
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 1: I don't care what their job is, but you have

579
00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:45,639
Speaker 1: to have a job. Actually, men with money scare me

580
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:48,119
Speaker 1: right now because I think they have a power struggle.

581
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,760
Speaker 1: But I will never not have my own place ever again,

582
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:55,359
Speaker 1: even if I get married to this person, not legally

583
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:58,159
Speaker 1: but just like we live together, I will always have

584
00:23:58,200 --> 00:24:00,919
Speaker 1: my own place place because God, for something happens. I

585
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 1: want to be able to dip in the port vision.

586
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:03,800
Speaker 6: Yeah.

587
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm even funny about dudes calling me a car.

588
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 2: What do you wait? Why?

589
00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:09,439
Speaker 4: I'm like, I can call myself.

590
00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 2: Oh, I get weird like that too. I don't need

591
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:14,760
Speaker 2: you to get any serve for me. No, I get

592
00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:18,719
Speaker 2: weird like that too, because I think like a gift

593
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:22,440
Speaker 2: is even an airplane ticket, and so if somebody's like

594
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:25,159
Speaker 2: an airplane ticket, I'm like, no, no, I got it, I

595
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:25,480
Speaker 2: got it.

596
00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:26,359
Speaker 4: Yepp.

597
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:28,160
Speaker 1: Also not staying with you when I get there, I'll

598
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:29,240
Speaker 1: book myself a hotel.

599
00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, thanks a lot, got it totally, unless, like I, well,

600
00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:37,320
Speaker 2: I have I have started that way and then it

601
00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:38,160
Speaker 2: doesn't end that way.

602
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:40,040
Speaker 4: No, but at least you know, at least you know

603
00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:40,480
Speaker 4: you have.

604
00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:42,720
Speaker 2: It right, and then it takes away that the like

605
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:45,880
Speaker 2: gravity of the expectations on the day too.

606
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 4: Write I know.

607
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:48,920
Speaker 1: Can I tell you? Every time I feel like I'm

608
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:51,600
Speaker 1: about to have sex, I have a full melt down.

609
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 4: What I'm like, what the fuck?

610
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:55,640
Speaker 1: And I have nothing because I'm sober, so I don't

611
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:57,800
Speaker 1: have anything to like, I can't have a glass of

612
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,120
Speaker 1: wine to call my nerves or anything. It's like, I'm

613
00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 1: very aware.

614
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 2: Right, Wait, so you have a panic attack or something

615
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 2: like in front of these men.

616
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:10,440
Speaker 1: No, no, no, Before before I'm ready to like go over there,

617
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,440
Speaker 1: I'm just like marry in my head about it for something, Yeah,

618
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:17,720
Speaker 1: because it's new and story panic attacks.

619
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:20,200
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm sure all right. Before in my mind, I'm

620
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:22,359
Speaker 2: like picturing you naked, like about to go at it,

621
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:26,480
Speaker 2: and you're like I can't do it. Oh no, I'm

622
00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:27,600
Speaker 2: like that's that's not good.

623
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 4: No, no, no, we haven't gotten to that point yet.

624
00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 2: We won't get there.

625
00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:33,879
Speaker 4: Get nervous about just like what am I doing?

626
00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:36,159
Speaker 1: What am I doing? Like I start going through all

627
00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 1: the ship and then once we're there, once we're there, yeah,

628
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,280
Speaker 1: I'm just a bag of fun, ready to just turn

629
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:45,280
Speaker 1: it on, I know. And so then it happens and

630
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:48,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, let's add someone else to the roster because

631
00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 1: I want to like going dance with them.

632
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, hell yeah, all right, lovely up.

633
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 1: Here looking up is a lot. How did we even

634
00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:00,359
Speaker 1: get to that? Obviously type?

635
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:02,440
Speaker 5: But I want to know before we're done with the types.

636
00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 3: Age range.

637
00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:04,680
Speaker 5: I know you said near your age, but like, give

638
00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 5: me a range for each of you youngest oldest?

639
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:10,480
Speaker 2: Oh my god, okay, well it's twenty three too young.

640
00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:13,920
Speaker 1: I'm thirty eight, I don't think so it's not for

641
00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 1: a relationship.

642
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:17,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, like hooking up, hooking up not at now, okay, okay,

643
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:18,919
Speaker 2: because that happened.

644
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:21,640
Speaker 5: Because I've already done it.

645
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:25,399
Speaker 2: So ideally, I would say my age range is like

646
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:28,240
Speaker 2: thirty one to like fifty five.

647
00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:30,920
Speaker 3: Oh okay, broad, Yeah, that is broad.

648
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:34,919
Speaker 2: There's a lot, but like best age, like thirty nine, okay,

649
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:38,159
Speaker 2: so very close to your age, close to your age,

650
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 2: because then I feel like we could like grow something

651
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,400
Speaker 2: together totally, you know, right right?

652
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 4: I think mine would be no younger than twenty eight, okay,

653
00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:53,440
Speaker 4: and no older than thirty eight old are you? Yeah,

654
00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:54,240
Speaker 4: thirty two?

655
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:58,000
Speaker 2: Okay, So that's like, yeah, all right, right in the middle,

656
00:26:58,119 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 2: right in the middle.

657
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:04,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, red flags because you guys have each mentioned like,

658
00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:05,120
Speaker 5: oh that's red flag.

659
00:27:05,160 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 3: That's red flag.

660
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 5: But I think there are different red flags for people,

661
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 5: So mention some of yours, each of yours, because you

662
00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 5: like notoriously had some red flags on someone that. Stacy

663
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:18,959
Speaker 5: was like, yeah, red flags, but you weren't even like

664
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:21,040
Speaker 5: a big red flag until you got to like unpaid

665
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:24,679
Speaker 5: parking tickets or something. No way, Yeah, so like what

666
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:25,719
Speaker 5: are red flags?

667
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 2: I mean there's I feel like I could write a

668
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 2: book on like how many red flags. And by the way,

669
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 2: I just like ignore them, you do? I mean I have,

670
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:37,719
Speaker 2: I have. I'm trying not to anymore.

671
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:40,960
Speaker 1: But right, but I think it's okay if you're if

672
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:43,119
Speaker 1: you see red flags and you know number one, this

673
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,000
Speaker 1: person is never going to be around my children. This

674
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 1: person is just a hookup. We're not going to end

675
00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 1: up together. Then it's like whatever he has unpaid parking tickets.

676
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:52,919
Speaker 1: It's like, I'm just trying to get some good dick.

677
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,640
Speaker 2: As long as fall in love with that person. Oh

678
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:56,600
Speaker 2: that's the problem.

679
00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:58,199
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, so you got to don't care to have

680
00:27:58,280 --> 00:27:59,040
Speaker 4: to be more careful.

681
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, like ir and like I romanticize everything, every situation,

682
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:05,679
Speaker 2: every everything, So like I can't just hook up with

683
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,000
Speaker 2: unpaid party ticket man because next thing I know will

684
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:08,440
Speaker 2: be married.

685
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:11,159
Speaker 5: Do you think it's the hooking up that makes you

686
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:13,080
Speaker 5: because her mom is always like, once you have set

687
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:15,639
Speaker 5: I'm the opposite. I'm like, have fun. You can have

688
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 5: sex with someone and then the next day be like

689
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 5: that was it. But her mom, which I love, is like,

690
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 5: once you have sex with someone, your heart gets into it.

691
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 3: Do you think that I.

692
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 2: Don't know if I don't know if it's really that

693
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 2: like cut and dry with me, but I can see

694
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:33,200
Speaker 2: where she's coming from. I think maybe if depending on

695
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 2: her personality, perhaps okay, no not okay, no, okay, I

696
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:37,960
Speaker 2: can write them off real quick.

697
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm in that space right now too.

698
00:28:41,320 --> 00:28:43,760
Speaker 1: Just with everything that I've been through right now, I

699
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:46,959
Speaker 1: don't feel like I would be able to get super

700
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:50,840
Speaker 1: attached to somebody, even with or without sex. I just

701
00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:54,959
Speaker 1: feel like I'm in this zone. And I also have

702
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 1: a lot of things that I have to get done

703
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 1: during the day. I don't have time to sit here

704
00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:01,320
Speaker 1: and think about like if the person who just threw

705
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 1: good dick at me is going to text me today?

706
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 2: Right? If he does text you, then he texts you,

707
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 2: and if not, like it's that's also a message.

708
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 1: It's all.

709
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:11,960
Speaker 4: It's all the same to me.

710
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think I would know red flags until

711
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 1: they presented themselves to me, Like if I get a

712
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:19,840
Speaker 1: background check, I'm not going to know something's a red

713
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 1: flag until I read it and go, okay, that might

714
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:22,080
Speaker 1: be a red.

715
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 3: Flag, right right? I get that.

716
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 5: Is there anything in a personality though, where you're like

717
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:26,760
Speaker 5: red flag?

718
00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:29,440
Speaker 2: I know a red flag a bad tipper, bad tip?

719
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 2: Oh no, massive red flag?

720
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 1: Yeah?

721
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 6: And red flag if they not red flag if they

722
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:37,479
Speaker 6: give a huge, huge, huge tip and then ask you

723
00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:40,120
Speaker 6: if you could please replace the sewer because they don't

724
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 6: have the eighteen thousand dollars to wait.

725
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:46,720
Speaker 2: Or this happen, Oh my god.

726
00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 5: Red flag when there's fucking water coming through the ceiling.

727
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 2: Red flag when you use a debit card because your

728
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 2: credit cards are maxed up?

729
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 4: Huge red right lies is huge red flag.

730
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:01,080
Speaker 5: We played this game on and that would have been

731
00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:01,480
Speaker 5: a good.

732
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:02,160
Speaker 1: But it's a huge.

733
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:03,760
Speaker 2: Yes, Well this happened.

734
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:04,600
Speaker 4: I'm just glad.

735
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:06,040
Speaker 1: I'm out of it. If you want to listen to

736
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:07,600
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, you can listen. If you don't want

737
00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 1: to listen and you want to stay with this person.

738
00:30:09,160 --> 00:30:10,040
Speaker 1: I really don't give a shit.

739
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 4: I'm just happy that I'm like free.

740
00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 2: Free, freedom. God, Yes, it feels so damn good. Right.

741
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, And like having someone in front of me who like,

742
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:21,880
Speaker 1: I just want just naked in the bed. Did you

743
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:22,240
Speaker 1: have that?

744
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 2: Yeah? I mean Jim and I like we our sex

745
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 2: life was fine, like that was never really an issue

746
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:29,120
Speaker 2: until I had the babies.

747
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 4: But narcissists don't like when a woman has babies because.

748
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:34,520
Speaker 2: The attention is started. And then like when I remember

749
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:36,080
Speaker 2: I was pregnant once and I was getting out of

750
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 2: the shower, I was really big, and he says, I'm

751
00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 2: just so sorry. I was like, what are you talking about?

752
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 2: He's like, your poor body, you're ruining it.

753
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:46,920
Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah.

754
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 3: Was it a fight or at that point?

755
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:50,800
Speaker 2: No, it was like he like that was his way

756
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:54,280
Speaker 2: of like actually being like empathetic to me. Uh huh.

757
00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:55,760
Speaker 2: By the way, I thought I looked amazing.

758
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 1: I felt you did look amazing, thank you, And you

759
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:01,920
Speaker 1: looked I was a pregnant check though, I agree, like

760
00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:03,480
Speaker 1: what do you I'm carrying your child?

761
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 2: What are you talking about?

762
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, both of you had partners that were cheating on

763
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:07,840
Speaker 5: you during pregnancy.

764
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, totally grouchy.

765
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 2: Well, and I think that's because like when we're pregnant,

766
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 2: we don't look the same. We don't we're tired, you know,

767
00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 2: we're hormonal. And then also we're not you know this

768
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 2: felt sexy vixen not in their minds right, totally and

769
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:25,760
Speaker 2: so and like there's just other things to worry about,

770
00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 2: medical stuff whatever, and so like during that part of

771
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 2: like my life, we didn't have a whole lot of sex.

772
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:33,760
Speaker 2: But he would complain all the time, like we never

773
00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:35,360
Speaker 2: have sex, we know our sex. I'm like, well, I

774
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 2: just had three babies in eighteen months. Give me a break.

775
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:40,680
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. He sounds horrific.

776
00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

777
00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:43,400
Speaker 1: So I'm so glad you're not with him anymore.

778
00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:45,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, me too. And I've had a lot of fun

779
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 2: with sex since him too. It's been great.

780
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:48,959
Speaker 3: That's so importing.

781
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 2: That's that's why I have my show Intimate Knowledge. I

782
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 2: talk about my dating life on my new podcast.

783
00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 4: I want to come on.

784
00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:58,000
Speaker 2: Okay, Oh my gosh, yes, we have so.

785
00:31:57,960 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 5: Many wait, I want to hear so intimately, what do

786
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:00,800
Speaker 5: you get it?

787
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:02,480
Speaker 3: Do you interview certain people?

788
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:03,240
Speaker 1: Do you do so?

789
00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:06,320
Speaker 2: Yeah? So let my last one sort of yes, but

790
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 2: mainly it's just about my own personal dating life and

791
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 2: what's going on, because apparently everybody cares about it. Not everyone,

792
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 2: like it's always it's in the tabloids a lot. So

793
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 2: when I was in Vegas for the iHeartRadio Music Festival,

794
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 2: my podcast team set me up with Mike Johnson, who's

795
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 2: the former Bachelor, and he he's a big, black eyed,

796
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 2: gorgeous man, like six foot five, done done, and we

797
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:32,080
Speaker 2: so like we walked the carpet together. We had so

798
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:35,080
Speaker 2: much fun and it was I mean, it was just

799
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:37,800
Speaker 2: like basically a publicity stunt, but I ended up like

800
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 2: feeling like, Okay, I really like you, like you're a

801
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 2: night a good guy. And he was like, nope, just

802
00:32:42,800 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 2: one to me friends.

803
00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 5: You know. That's who I was asking about because I

804
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 5: like Google and I just saw a photos and I

805
00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 5: was like, yeah, that's who I thought, but.

806
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 2: I was I just was talking to Teddy Mellencamp this

807
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 2: morning because she was we were hanging out with her

808
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 2: all night, and I was like, Teddy, listen to this

809
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 2: text he sent me. She was like, you're the only

810
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:03,120
Speaker 2: one who thought it might be more than a weekend.

811
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay. She's like you have a broken picker.

812
00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:08,960
Speaker 2: I'm going to do your profiles. Yeah, now I get it. Fun.

813
00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:12,240
Speaker 4: This sounds like such a fun podcast.

814
00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 2: It's so fun.

815
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 1: You have to know that. I want to come on

816
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:17,640
Speaker 1: and then let's talk about this real quick before we

817
00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 1: sign off. You got new boobies and if you knows,

818
00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 1: I got news and an ear?

819
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:23,840
Speaker 2: What did you get ear?

820
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:25,160
Speaker 1: I got it pinned back?

821
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 2: Oh you did? I've thought about that before, just one Yeah.

822
00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:29,880
Speaker 2: Was it painful?

823
00:33:30,040 --> 00:33:30,200
Speaker 1: No?

824
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 2: I bet it wasn't. No, I should have done that.

825
00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 4: Wait, let me see your ears?

826
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 2: Like, why wouldn't I if I was just under already

827
00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 2: you're even. They're so even you, I mean whatever, They're

828
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:43,520
Speaker 2: not terrible, yes, like pin it back a little bit?

829
00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 1: When you pin it back?

830
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 4: See, I know I can see it. I can.

831
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 1: And by the way, if you didn't do that, I

832
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 1: would have I have to have people show me, like

833
00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:57,040
Speaker 1: what it would look like? Pinback?

834
00:33:57,440 --> 00:33:57,640
Speaker 2: Right?

835
00:33:57,840 --> 00:33:59,480
Speaker 1: How do you feel about your nose now? Because I

836
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 1: know you said so when the bandage first came off?

837
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 2: Did you see it? Did you see the pictures?

838
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 1: I looked yes, last night I looked it up.

839
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:07,160
Speaker 4: Horrible and you you were swollen?

840
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 2: It was swollen. And I didn't get need much done

841
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 2: to my nose. So when I had the bandage taken off,

842
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:13,960
Speaker 2: it was more swollen than it was before I got

843
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 2: my nose done. Okay, so I was horrified, but then

844
00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 2: the swollen went down quickly, and now I really like it.

845
00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:21,160
Speaker 2: It was it's so cute.

846
00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:22,840
Speaker 1: What did you not like about it?

847
00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 2: It just kind of had a bulbous tip, okay, like

848
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:27,680
Speaker 2: a round bulbous tip like a Bill Clinton, but not

849
00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:31,319
Speaker 2: quiet okay, And so I had him remove that. But

850
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:33,160
Speaker 2: then I was like, I don't know, maybe the bridge

851
00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:35,800
Speaker 2: will be too wide. Afterwards, I'm like, just do your magic,

852
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 2: but make me look the same. And I think he

853
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:40,719
Speaker 2: did an incredible job. And he's also does boobs so cute.

854
00:34:40,920 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 4: Your boobs look awesome.

855
00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 1: How many ccs did you do?

856
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:46,399
Speaker 2: Four seven? I did four seventy five, but I did

857
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 2: have three twenty. Oh what did you do?

858
00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 1: I had three options because my boobs got so big

859
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 1: after breastfeeding that my left one was so stretched out,

860
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 1: and so there were three options. I could get huge implants, right,

861
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:01,919
Speaker 1: I could get the left one reduced, or I could

862
00:35:01,960 --> 00:35:04,239
Speaker 1: have them put a hammock in, which is you know,

863
00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 1: essentially two rods on each side of the boob and

864
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:10,480
Speaker 1: then the skin is attached. What I'm gonna have the

865
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:12,120
Speaker 1: doctors on who did it because this could.

866
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:12,760
Speaker 4: Be completely office.

867
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 2: This is what's th rereading or something.

868
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:16,440
Speaker 4: No, it's can I tell I have a mesh?

869
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:18,799
Speaker 1: Yeah? Right now, I have a bionic tip. Like if

870
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:21,040
Speaker 1: you were that's what you have. It feels like, yeah,

871
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:22,840
Speaker 1: I have like two rods. And I have to warn boys.

872
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 1: I have to tell them I feel it.

873
00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:25,360
Speaker 3: You can feel the rods.

874
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:26,520
Speaker 4: It's wild, you know.

875
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 1: I'm like getting it in and I have to tell boys, like,

876
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 1: by the way, if you suck my boobs, I may

877
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:33,040
Speaker 1: lactate and if you touch the left one you may

878
00:35:33,080 --> 00:35:34,160
Speaker 1: feel something in there.

879
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:35,440
Speaker 2: So have you lactated?

880
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 4: I have?

881
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:36,680
Speaker 6: Yeah?

882
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:37,759
Speaker 5: They like it.

883
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:39,439
Speaker 1: In fact, that's how I knew that I was still

884
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 1: lactating was the boy said to me there's stuff in there,

885
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:44,279
Speaker 1: And I was like, you love it?

886
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:44,800
Speaker 3: Sorry?

887
00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:47,840
Speaker 1: He was like, don't apologize. He was kind of into it.

888
00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 3: Did he swallow it?

889
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, totally.

890
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 2: It doesn't taste bad.

891
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:54,759
Speaker 4: I heard it tastes coconut milk. I'm sure muscles muscles.

892
00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:57,600
Speaker 2: Well. If he's a big guy like you one, he's

893
00:35:57,600 --> 00:36:02,520
Speaker 2: like me up. Yeah, no, there's a black market for that.

894
00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 2: That's what I for, like workout, beach g or not.

895
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:07,640
Speaker 5: I don't know if it's h whatever. I want to

896
00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 5: say hgh, but maybe it's not. But they will buy

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Speaker 5: breast milk.

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Speaker 2: I think it's all kind of weird, which I don't

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Speaker 2: know why it's weird, because if we drink cow's milk

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Speaker 2: and oats milk and so, I don't know why it

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Speaker 2: would be weird to drink human milk. But somehow it's weird.

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Speaker 4: I know people think it's so weird. Do you love

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Speaker 4: your new boobs?

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Speaker 2: I love them? So he he like pushed them more

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Speaker 2: together because I have a broad chest, so he like

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Speaker 2: sewed the side so they'd be like more together.

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Speaker 4: Yeah they were, And yeh they're bigger.

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Speaker 2: I mean, look, I.

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Speaker 1: Know right there for everybody, I know, you're making me

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Speaker 1: wish that I would have gone bigger.

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Speaker 2: Your tubes are big, and you're smaller than me, so

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Speaker 2: yours are like you already have that natural cleavage.

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Speaker 4: Did you go underneath or through the nip?

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Speaker 2: Underneath? Because I already did my boobs ten years ago?

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Speaker 1: What did you do?

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Speaker 4: I went underneath too, because I did my boobs ten

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Speaker 4: years ago you did. Yeah, we're so insane.

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Speaker 5: Were you only got your nose done a month ago?

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Speaker 5: Because I heard healing for that was like three months.

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Speaker 4: It looks amazing, It looks intible.

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Speaker 2: I really love it. I think the heat, I mean

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Speaker 2: it feels okay, but he'll be like feeling back. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but I think it'll go down with swelling in like

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Speaker 2: two more months.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, one hundred per second, so yes, really yeah,

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Speaker 1: think about what he did.

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Speaker 4: He literally cut into your face.

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Speaker 1: You're still going to be I think you're still gonna

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Speaker 1: and it looks amazing, like if this.

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Speaker 4: Were it, it would be so good.

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Speaker 1: But I think there's.

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Speaker 4: Still going to be swelling, don't you think.

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Speaker 1: I mean for a year.

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Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, I'm the birds.

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Speaker 1: I think is like a year to get them settled in.

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Speaker 1: I'm supposed to be wearing a brawl right now like

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Speaker 1: you have on Like you're not doing it.

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Speaker 2: I'm not worrying anything.

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Speaker 1: I know. That's amazing.

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Speaker 4: It makes you not want to write.

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Speaker 2: I know I've only gone like this like maybe five days.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but be careful, will you ply? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I just feel like when the doctor, what's your son

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Speaker 1: sign Libra. Okay, that makes all the sense.

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Speaker 4: Because my virgo mind is the doctor told you.

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Speaker 2: And then her I'm like, oh, you told me to

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Speaker 2: do something, throw in the direction.

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Speaker 1: I love it.

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Speaker 4: Where can people find your podcast so you guys.

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Speaker 2: Can listen to me intimate knowledge wherever you get your

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Speaker 2: podcasts or on iHeartRadio or Apple or anywhere else. And

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Speaker 2: follow me on Instagram at Megan King. Yay.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for coming on my podcast having me.

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Speaker 1: Of course, thank you for listening to another episode of

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Speaker 1: the Give Them Alla Podcast. We will catch you next week.