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Speaker 5: Hey guys, welcome to another episode of Disizy Oons Disisy Owns.
Speaker 4: I'm your ger Mandy b I'm weazy, and you know
Speaker 4: it's crazy to have a couple that aren't known for sex,
Speaker 4: clothes and shit like ceting normal people today. It's just
Speaker 4: we are normal subjective. Oh that's right, I'm sorry.
Speaker 5: Normal in this economy is not having more than two children,
Speaker 5: and they have six.
Speaker 3: So I was looking at the club like one.
Speaker 4: By the way, I have to give you all your
Speaker 4: props for being celebrities.
Speaker 3: Eight minutes late on time. That's great. That is crazy.
Speaker 3: She calling him out for being late.
Speaker 1: And you know what, it wasn't that bad, you know
Speaker 1: when I actually I will say it. I have a
Speaker 1: cyber truck right and coming through Brooklyn and the Cyba truck.
Speaker 1: I got every middle finger here, I got some whole
Speaker 1: cursing me out standing in front of me.
Speaker 3: Put a dick on his car? What a swastika on it?
Speaker 1: Nobody put a dick on my car. Books, but like
Speaker 1: they really upset. They act like like I bought it
Speaker 1: from Eline himself, like you know, but so that's coming
Speaker 1: to Brooklyn.
Speaker 5: You know what's crazy though, having that conversation with how
Speaker 5: much I mean also, Brooklyn's like one of the most
Speaker 5: like progressive burrows. Now, so like niggas ain't what's crazy
Speaker 5: is everyone who's suck up your middle finger.
Speaker 3: Guess what. I bet they check every morning their ex account.
Speaker 3: I'm sure because I have.
Speaker 4: A Tessela in La and I was like, damn, this
Speaker 4: isn't happening to me and my homegirls, like brocause we
Speaker 4: all got teslas in La. Everything's electric. You get the
Speaker 4: extra tax credit from it. She's like, so we hate him,
Speaker 4: but there's too many of it here to see. A
Speaker 4: cyber truck is like, you know, you staring that.
Speaker 1: He gave me middle fingers when one guy standing in
Speaker 1: front of me the whole time like I'm not gonna move.
Speaker 1: I'm like Jesus, I'm like, you know, like I.
Speaker 3: Would have rolled down the window. Do you know where
Speaker 3: I am?
Speaker 1: This is my mind is so you can't even see
Speaker 1: the side. This is old school Brooklyn. Like if this
Speaker 1: would have been old school Brooklyn, I could have got out,
Speaker 1: We could have got to a fight and I would
Speaker 1: have made it on time.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Now and now we get sees my wife got on heel.
Speaker 4: So we just real life, real family. So this is
Speaker 4: your second book introduced them.
Speaker 6: This girl, I'm just so he got dj Envy and
Speaker 6: Ga in the building.
Speaker 5: Now she said, uh, dj imvy like how they stayed
Speaker 5: on the breakfast Gay and dj.
Speaker 3: Youn't even never forgot messed up?
Speaker 1: And that did it?
Speaker 3: Yeah? I did? What did they?
Speaker 1: He said? My girl dj MV? He said, my girl
Speaker 1: a lot, my girl dj MV. She dj MV, Like
Speaker 1: you mess it up with us?
Speaker 3: But didn't you know who y'all was at that point?
Speaker 1: And you know the funny thing. He wasn't playing like,
Speaker 1: he was just really reading it. And I guess maybe
Speaker 1: he was drunk, or maybe it's just just webby, but
Speaker 1: he did it for at least twenty minutes. It said
Speaker 1: the wrong names for twenty.
Speaker 4: Minutes, the grass like Loves of Sloopers like I played
Speaker 4: that probably every few years just for fun.
Speaker 1: I love it well and.
Speaker 3: I love that we have y'all here. You guys have
Speaker 3: a book coming out this week.
Speaker 1: Guys, I love it.
Speaker 5: It's your second book, so the first one Real Life,
Speaker 5: Real Love.
Speaker 3: And we'll talk about that because real love?
Speaker 1: What is that? Okay?
Speaker 3: What are you dead? And now you have real life,
Speaker 3: real family family? What is that?
Speaker 7: Hone?
Speaker 5: And what made you guys decide to do a second
Speaker 5: one after the first one? Y'all just loved the process
Speaker 5: of it. Didn't make y'all closer after the first one, Like.
Speaker 1: All of the BUP, I think real Life, Real Love.
Speaker 1: We actually should have came here for that one because
Speaker 1: it was all about our relationship. It was it was
Speaker 1: all about our relationship. If you don't know, Gi and
Speaker 1: I've been together thirty one years, we've been married twenty four,
Speaker 1: so you know we've had everything, ups, downs, left rights, like,
Speaker 1: we deal with everything when it came to love, And
Speaker 1: people always ask, you know, why were you guys so vulnerable?
Speaker 1: Why did y'all tell so much? But I tell people
Speaker 1: all the time. So many people are going through it,
Speaker 1: and kind of like this podcast, people are scared to
Speaker 1: talk about it.
Speaker 4: Oh, I thought he was saying, we're going through a girl.
Speaker 4: We alreat every damn about.
Speaker 5: I'm curious. You're a mom and a wife. You wrote
Speaker 5: about both of those roles. Which one was harder.
Speaker 8: Oh, that's a good question and a unique question. No
Speaker 8: one's ever try journal.
Speaker 3: Yes, being a wife. Being a wife is harder than
Speaker 3: my wife.
Speaker 8: Is more difficult than being a mom. As a mother,
Speaker 8: things come to you naturally, and not that you always
Speaker 8: get it right. But there's this inherent feeling, this inherent
Speaker 8: inclination to nurture, to care, to love individuals that inherently
Speaker 8: love you back. Right, So you're not dealing with a
Speaker 8: full fledged adult who may have their own issues or
Speaker 8: their own problems that they're bringing into a relationship where
Speaker 8: the two of you have to become one and then
Speaker 8: create a family. So one is a lot more pure
Speaker 8: and untainted than the other.
Speaker 5: She is saving the kids, not the husband, if she
Speaker 5: said she But okay, I love that answer.
Speaker 4: That's got me curious because we hear so much when
Speaker 4: moms are saying like, once you get past.
Speaker 3: Two or three, like it gets easier.
Speaker 4: Once you get past two or three, it gets harder
Speaker 4: to be a wife, but to be a mom of
Speaker 4: six still, a mom of six is easier.
Speaker 8: Yes, yes, well it's difficulty at this point. Neither are
Speaker 8: difficult because we've weathered those storms, We've done all of
Speaker 8: the grunt work, and we've got it figured out.
Speaker 4: How many years, on average does it take to get
Speaker 4: to that point. My parents have been together thirty five years,
Speaker 4: and I felt like when I was a kid and
Speaker 4: I'm thirty four. When I was a kid, they stopped
Speaker 4: arguing right around thirteen fourteen. Oh wow, it wasn't bad argument.
Speaker 4: They just would bicker a lot. But I just remember
Speaker 4: after that, I've never seen them argue.
Speaker 3: There's no time. There's no time.
Speaker 8: It's when that brick falls out of the sky and
Speaker 8: hits you on the head and lets you know the
Speaker 8: things that you need to know to be a conducive
Speaker 8: part of a lifelong relationship. And some people it takes
Speaker 8: longer than others. For us, I think that we got it.
Speaker 8: I think we got it, got it with no facades,
Speaker 8: with no pretense, with no smoke and mirrors, like really
Speaker 8: really really got it about thirteen or fourteen years ago,
Speaker 8: and go go.
Speaker 3: But you met in high school though, right exactly a
Speaker 3: little bit.
Speaker 8: Our situation is very, very unique. We've been together since
Speaker 8: I was fifteen and he was sixteen. Jesus, so we
Speaker 8: were babies. We were babies, and we've never broken up.
Speaker 3: We've never had no real playgroup day. You don't any
Speaker 3: family can ask anything.
Speaker 1: No, I haven't.
Speaker 8: Oh wow, he's the only one that I've seen three
Speaker 8: daring that.
Speaker 3: He's the only one saying that they didn't believe you.
Speaker 3: And honestly, people said that they didn't believe like it
Speaker 3: was in the reddit, like there's no not.
Speaker 4: I really love it because I like to like deep
Speaker 4: dive shows, white Lotus whatever. But I remember when I
Speaker 4: saw that, and I was like, that's kind of surprising
Speaker 4: to me because if if in true you're getting famous
Speaker 4: as you know, early twenties, how the fuck am I
Speaker 4: gonna be out here as floor and like everybody knows
Speaker 4: my man, And I think it's as normal for like.
Speaker 3: I think, not exploring like she and would you be
Speaker 3: everyone knows.
Speaker 4: The man, Like I'm saying, if you've been together that
Speaker 4: long and people are saying, there's no way he's the
Speaker 4: only person. If you're with someone who's in the spotlight,
Speaker 4: how can you do that? Maybe a normal relationship, shit
Speaker 4: like that could go on, but like, no, because it
Speaker 4: really makes both parties look crazy.
Speaker 8: You know what.
Speaker 3: You can't just sneak around.
Speaker 1: They're gonna be like, but.
Speaker 8: If I'm being honest with you, I never wanted to.
Speaker 8: I'm not that type of person. I'm a very, very
Speaker 8: loyal person in all forms of life, to my husband,
Speaker 8: to my children, to my friends. I'm a loyal person.
Speaker 8: If there's a moment that I intend on stepping out
Speaker 8: or being with someone else, or doing something that I
Speaker 8: want to do, I feel that as a human being,
Speaker 8: I have the right and the power to say so
Speaker 8: and to let you know up front I would never
Speaker 8: go behind his back and do anything, and I never have,
Speaker 8: which is why with the success of real life, real love,
Speaker 8: no one's ever come out period.
Speaker 3: Nothing.
Speaker 5: You already know as soon as you start doing the
Speaker 5: holier than that, or God or so people like to
Speaker 5: come out like of course, especially.
Speaker 9: Like friends with next friends, your sister, uncle, somebody would
Speaker 9: have come like.
Speaker 3: Hey, nobody came out. I know Aquarius, Okay, I'm what
Speaker 3: yours Virgo? Aquarius and Virgo like it?
Speaker 4: You know something, I don't know anything that's completely clueless.
Speaker 4: I don't even know what I'm supposed to be like
Speaker 4: doing we one sex question, but this is my first one.
Speaker 4: So what's the longest spurt that you guys didn't have sex?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 3: Was it related to baby, hard time? Whatever?
Speaker 1: It was having a baby, having a child.
Speaker 8: I think yeah, the longest time that we went without
Speaker 8: having sex was told to me by my doctor. So
Speaker 8: I think it's after you have a baby. You think
Speaker 8: i'd have this would be ingrained by now.
Speaker 5: Yeah, they say six weeks, six six weeks.
Speaker 3: I think six weeks week, give birth every every night
Speaker 3: the night halfway cheated that way. Yeah, everyone with all
Speaker 3: sex for six weeks.
Speaker 1: Why would we go long them?
Speaker 8: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Do you know how many people are together and married
Speaker 5: and have kids and say, like the the amount of
Speaker 5: times that they have sex drastically decreases after babies are
Speaker 5: born after being together for so long.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying I would say this pregnancy you
Speaker 1: can curse. I'm about to say pregnancy pussy is the best, right.
Speaker 5: That's great, okay, But everything that is because am I
Speaker 5: never gonna have that's pussy, It's wetter, is juicy, or
Speaker 5: it's everything that you can imagine it is when it comes.
Speaker 3: To that, our baby, pregnancy body body is so sexy.
Speaker 1: So it's like when people say that sex has declined, right,
Speaker 1: and no disrespect to anybody, I'm not bragging, but look
Speaker 1: at my wife right here. She looks like this all
Speaker 1: the time. So I want to knock off all the
Speaker 1: time when I wake up, when I see uh, when
Speaker 1: she's eating, when she's taking the kids. Everything is sexy
Speaker 1: to me. So it's like the only the biggest problem
Speaker 1: we have now is all our kids want to sleep
Speaker 1: in our bed. That is the biggest problem we have now.
Speaker 1: So it's like we can't get it in. So it's like,
Speaker 1: you know, well, we'll go to a dance competition and
Speaker 1: we got to bring our kids downstairs for dance. We'll
Speaker 1: go upstairs and get it in for like thirty quick
Speaker 1: minutes day, come right down like that. That's what it is.
Speaker 1: But you got to You also got to think. We
Speaker 1: went to high school together right the college we went.
Speaker 1: I went to Hampton, she went to Old Dominion, which
Speaker 1: is fifteen minutes away go from Virginia. And when we graduated,
Speaker 1: we got married at like twenty two. We bought our
Speaker 1: first house at twenty three.
Speaker 3: Wow, it's amazing.
Speaker 1: So we've been together that long until where we are now.
Speaker 1: But so we've never said paraded. There's never been a break.
Speaker 1: And the only breaks we've had is if I'm on
Speaker 1: tour when I DJ for FAB back in the day
Speaker 1: and I might have left for whatever it may be,
Speaker 1: but I still came back on the weekend. So we're
Speaker 1: always on top of each other, like we we are.
Speaker 1: I mean, six kids, that's it.
Speaker 9: You know.
Speaker 3: I recently saw something.
Speaker 4: I've been dating somebody for the last two years, and
Speaker 4: someone said we were code dependent, like we hang out
Speaker 4: a lot. I was supposed to be in LA for
Speaker 4: a week. After three days, He's like, I'm coming. Other
Speaker 4: than that, I want to see you. And I realized
Speaker 4: we spend so much time together, and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 4: is this bad? Should I be given in space? And
Speaker 4: I saw a video I can't remember. I think they
Speaker 4: were on Shan Boody's podcast, and he was like, our
Speaker 4: codependency works for us, Like this isn't considered needy because
Speaker 4: we enjoy.
Speaker 3: This type of space.
Speaker 4: Do you think that's what keeps you fucking all the
Speaker 4: time because people been missing each other, it makes you crazier.
Speaker 1: But you know what, our relationship is different, like even
Speaker 1: from our friends or people that talk about it, Like
Speaker 1: we are on top of each other all the time.
Speaker 1: Like when I get off of work, when I get
Speaker 1: off the breakfast club and I'm driving home, I'm talking
Speaker 1: her on the way home in the morning. When she's
Speaker 1: up at five in the morning, I'm talking on the
Speaker 1: way home. Like we are constantly talking to each other.
Speaker 1: But it's to the point and I know people say it,
Speaker 1: but it's she's my best friend. So it's like, if
Speaker 1: you tell me something that's not supposed to be told,
Speaker 1: she's gonna know. That's that's how our relationship is. Like
Speaker 1: I tell everybody all the time, if you tell me,
Speaker 1: he is gonna know, even if it's one of my fellas,
Speaker 1: one of my partners that's doing something. Wow, she knows
Speaker 1: the same thing with her, like she would have conversations
Speaker 1: and it'd be wild, and she'll tell me it's just what.
Speaker 3: My friends know.
Speaker 8: Like, if you tell me, you know, there's gonna be
Speaker 8: some pillow talk. There's gonna be a power with your friend.
Speaker 8: He's gonna know your business.
Speaker 5: A time where because you over shared your friend's business,
Speaker 5: either of you didn't want your partner hanging with that
Speaker 5: person anymore.
Speaker 8: No, you know how they say, like if you're in
Speaker 8: a bad part of town and you get robbed, it's
Speaker 8: like respect the joke.
Speaker 3: It's like I never heard it.
Speaker 8: No, it's like it's like it's some it's it's some
Speaker 8: mess up stuff, but you gotta respect it because you
Speaker 8: should know what comes with the territory.
Speaker 3: Oh, that's pretty much what she said. You have some
Speaker 3: how ask friends what it is?
Speaker 2: What it is?
Speaker 8: Yeah, So if I tell you something that you really
Speaker 8: have no business knowing, you have to respect it because
Speaker 8: it should have been kept from you in the first place.
Speaker 8: So if you feel some type of way that I'm
Speaker 8: not gonna appreciate.
Speaker 3: Keep it to yourself.
Speaker 8: Don't have met me any residual energy, because if you do,
Speaker 8: then I'm never going to tell you anything again.
Speaker 3: You got to respect it.
Speaker 1: I'm not mad at that and my single friends fuck
Speaker 1: with you like they when we go to the club
Speaker 1: and I'm dj in, she'd be like, yo, that one
Speaker 1: right there, because she's fine, you need to get that
Speaker 1: one right there.
Speaker 3: Fun girls, you're turning into the wife. Yeah, So we debate.
Speaker 4: I'm curious to know what y'all think, and like great
Speaker 4: points on both sides, because Mandy's like a lot of
Speaker 4: these men look for a woman that is well to do,
Speaker 4: not leaving the house, and then they be in the
Speaker 4: clubs having fun with everybody else. Right on the contrary,
Speaker 4: which that is true, I kind of feel like a
Speaker 4: lot of the fun girls that were out turned into wives.
Speaker 4: Do you think there needs to be a blend, like
Speaker 4: if she wasn't this cool?
Speaker 1: Like absolutely, you know, yeah, my wife has to come
Speaker 1: out with me, like we have fun, Like we go
Speaker 1: to the clubs. We you know, we'll go to the
Speaker 1: Jamaica back. Yeah, we go to ship clubs and like
Speaker 1: we have fun. Like it's not one of them things
Speaker 1: that like, oh we have six kids with boogie, you know,
Speaker 1: we go and we party and my kids are twenty
Speaker 1: one of my oldest twenty three and twenty one. They
Speaker 1: come with us.
Speaker 3: I didn't saw you DJing in Netflix event when your
Speaker 3: daughter was there.
Speaker 1: Yes, And I was like, my daughter, my dad only
Speaker 1: likes to go out with me because she's like, no,
Speaker 1: I have more time fun with my dad, Like my dad, Yeah,
Speaker 1: giving a lot, I'm giving a line. Even my son,
Speaker 1: my son FaceTime of the other day, he's at Club
Speaker 1: Live with fifty and he's in the section with fifty
Speaker 1: next to fifty. Fifty gives them a thousand singles to
Speaker 1: throw out the strippers. They went to the club eleven after.
Speaker 1: I got to say at let because there ain't no
Speaker 1: strippers that live. Said yeah, I said, look how many?
Speaker 1: How many singles you left with? He was like, well,
Speaker 1: I left with like four hundred because you know I
Speaker 1: only threw six hundred and fifty left. I'm like, I
Speaker 1: put these four.
Speaker 8: Hundred and.
Speaker 3: Not keeping the money.
Speaker 5: Yeah, throws allowing you to take money from fifteen.
Speaker 4: Is there any part where it's like, oh my god,
Speaker 4: this is so embarrassing because my dad's teaching.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, he's always embarrassed. Oh yeah, the breakfast club
Speaker 1: embarrassing is out of him. Like like you know, when
Speaker 1: charlomonne plays those games, he'd being batted all the time.
Speaker 3: You gotta get it way worse.
Speaker 1: Than you what it is. My Madison doesn't give, she
Speaker 1: doesn't care, but Logan, he'll send me a meme that
Speaker 1: he'll see the meme online. When Charlemagne gave me the
Speaker 1: butt cake, he'll send me a picture of butt kill.
Speaker 3: You know you have a son, kid in college, kid
Speaker 3: in high school. You got to talk about asses all
Speaker 3: the time, crazy.
Speaker 1: All the time.
Speaker 5: I want to have some fun with y'all with our
Speaker 5: hypothetical sections. I picked out a question.
Speaker 3: For each of you.
Speaker 5: Okay, so Ivy, yes, one of your kids is actually
Speaker 5: a genius time traveler from the future said to fix
Speaker 5: your parenting?
Speaker 3: Which kid is it?
Speaker 1: And what do they want to change? No, got you
Speaker 1: as the kid that's going to fix my parents, and
Speaker 1: I would say has to be Jackson. Okay, Jackson.
Speaker 3: Jackson.
Speaker 1: Jackson is ten years old. He is my second boy.
Speaker 1: I only have two boys and four girls. But the
Speaker 1: reason I say that is I don't have patience. Okay, right,
Speaker 1: I tell everybody all the time. My dad is retired
Speaker 1: police officer, he's ex military, so it was always his
Speaker 1: way or the highway, okay, and I don't have patience
Speaker 1: and I'm the one that be like, go do it now,
Speaker 1: go do that. And he is the one that it
Speaker 1: doesn't matter if I yelled at him or not, if
Speaker 1: I'm angry or not. He's the one to be like, Dad,
Speaker 1: are you okay? Dad? Would you like something? Would you
Speaker 1: like a beverage right now? To cool you down?
Speaker 3: Cold? Dad? Would you like to take a nap right now?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: He is that kid and he talks to me like that, Well,
Speaker 1: you can't get mad. He's like, you just gotta start laughing.
Speaker 1: So I think that would be the kid.
Speaker 3: You look like you kind of had a different answer
Speaker 3: or what. I definitely thought that he was going to say,
Speaker 3: my oldest son Logan. Okay, I did too.
Speaker 8: I'm yeah yeah, because him and Logan beef all the time,
Speaker 8: all the time, all the time.
Speaker 3: So that y'all are a lot of like like it.
Speaker 5: Like most kids too, beef with their parents is because
Speaker 5: a lot of times they just see each other in
Speaker 5: their in themselves and this sometimes the worst characteristics of
Speaker 5: each other, Like fuck, I got this from you.
Speaker 1: Damn you are me right?
Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Now we're not we're like where he he's a hustler,
Speaker 1: like he goes out. He knows what he wants to do.
Speaker 1: He doesn't stop. He likes to grind. But he's like
Speaker 1: his mom. When I say his mom, like, if you
Speaker 1: ever argue with somebody and somebody's an attorney, like they
Speaker 1: have every fact. That was like they were waiting for
Speaker 1: that argument. Oh right, So it was like, we're you
Speaker 1: getta argument. She start hitting. In fact, remember what you
Speaker 1: did in nineteen thirty two when you was like when
Speaker 1: he was a slave, Like that's Gid, that is good.
Speaker 1: That is crazy Loagan. So ever, since I can't beat yeah,
Speaker 1: I know I could be Logan. So that that's why
Speaker 1: I would say, Okay.
Speaker 3: Gia, yours is in another universe. You and Envy are
Speaker 3: both eighteen again.
Speaker 5: Okay, but you live through all of the chaos of
Speaker 5: young adulthood again, so bad apartments, terrible jobs, the.
Speaker 3: Ram and dinners.
Speaker 5: Would you relive those years again in order to make changes?
Speaker 5: If so, what changes would you make? And if not,
Speaker 5: which chaotic moments do you believe were necessary to get
Speaker 5: y'all where you are now?
Speaker 8: So my answer to your question is that I wouldn't
Speaker 8: change anything because I'm not a big believer in regret. Okay,
Speaker 8: because I'm one of those people and my son Logan,
Speaker 8: if you were here, like, I know what she's about
Speaker 8: to say. I'm one of those people that believe that
Speaker 8: everything truly does happen for a reason, okay, And I
Speaker 8: believe that there's so much wisdom and so much lessons
Speaker 8: in the mistakes and in the bad things that happen
Speaker 8: to us that you can't learn unless you go through them.
Speaker 8: There's so much to be said about understanding someone else
Speaker 8: because you know someone will be going through something terrible
Speaker 8: and you say, oh, no, I understand. You really don't, right,
Speaker 8: you really don't. You under stand as much as you
Speaker 8: can possibly understand, how going through it right yourself. Yeah,
Speaker 8: but you never really understand. So for me it might
Speaker 8: sound a little crazy, but I like to collect bad experiences.
Speaker 8: Because you said that before out loud.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, wow, I'm just thinking that's such a sentence.
Speaker 3: I like to collect bad experience.
Speaker 8: No, that's the first time I think I've ever said it.
Speaker 8: I've never been asked that question. Feel that in a
Speaker 8: sense in a sense because it gives me a certain
Speaker 8: level of compassion and empathy for others. Because the more
Speaker 8: bad things that I experience, the more I understand people,
Speaker 8: the more I understand the world. So all of the
Speaker 8: bad things that we've gone through in our relationship, I
Speaker 8: don't regret them. I think that God saw us through,
Speaker 8: and I love where we are today, so I have
Speaker 8: no regret.
Speaker 3: I wouldn't know.
Speaker 5: I don't know if you're a therapy, but literally, like so,
Speaker 5: I've been trying to remove my s from a lot
Speaker 5: of the decisions or the person that I thought I
Speaker 5: was in the past, Like I view my past selves
Speaker 5: as like different people almost, And because I'm so proud
Speaker 5: and standing where I am today, my therapist is getting
Speaker 5: me through, Like you might not be here or have
Speaker 5: the stories to tell on this podcast, or have the
Speaker 5: true experiences are people in your life.
Speaker 3: Without those things?
Speaker 5: Yes, And I said it on this pod too, and
Speaker 5: I think people have been able to see it. I
Speaker 5: got in my first relationship at thirty, but your worst
Speaker 5: relationship ever stayed stayed after many times I should have left.
Speaker 5: And then in breaking up, the healing journey was it
Speaker 5: did allow me then to see, Oh, I see why
Speaker 5: people say I see why I see why it hurts.
Speaker 3: And I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 5: We've been giving fucking advice on this pod for the
Speaker 5: last eight years, and it wasn't until I went through
Speaker 5: that relationship that I was like, Ooh, I get it now,
Speaker 5: and I apologize even for however, yes.
Speaker 8: Because I was like, damn, because you only understood as
Speaker 8: much as you could understand without going through stuff yourself.
Speaker 5: Why would you say, how how do you find forgiveness
Speaker 5: in what you just experienced? Then all of those things
Speaker 5: that I hadn't had any real experience in came only
Speaker 5: through that experience.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So I love that you said that.
Speaker 5: Because sometimes we regret or feel like we wasted our time,
Speaker 5: and there's so many elements of learning from it or
Speaker 5: or healing from it after you're like, oh, there was
Speaker 5: a lesson here.
Speaker 8: And every experience is a domino, like when you think
Speaker 8: about domino's falling and it ends up in a particular place.
Speaker 8: If one domino doesn't fall or falls in a different direction,
Speaker 8: then you're often a different trajectory.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 8: So maybe had you had the wonderful relationship that you
Speaker 8: probably desired at thirty, and you might not have this podcast.
Speaker 3: You might not be changing people. He ate the reason
Speaker 3: for this podcast.
Speaker 1: No, you me for the content.
Speaker 3: I'll know what I mean. Jose and you have run.
Speaker 8: Little thing can change your trajectory and it can take
Speaker 8: you off in a completely different You might not a
Speaker 8: had an idea that inspired this. For instance, it could
Speaker 8: be anything, but you could be somewhere completely different without
Speaker 8: that one domino falling.
Speaker 3: So it's funny.
Speaker 5: We talked about it with tempest shout out if you
Speaker 5: guys have it yet our book No Holds Barred. When
Speaker 5: Weezy and I first got into the process of writing
Speaker 5: our book, there were chapters that were she was single,
Speaker 5: I was in a relationship. During the process of writing it,
Speaker 5: she got into a relationship, I became single, and so
Speaker 5: it changed literally chapters in our book.
Speaker 3: I'm sure you guys explored. Did you guys have too
Speaker 3: it's your book?
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, yes, the final chapters of the book we tossed.
Speaker 4: I wrote when it wasn't that great if now final
Speaker 4: chapter of the book is about suicide.
Speaker 3: And it started off with me like party in New York,
Speaker 3: I haven't fun like a last night, and then boom,
Speaker 3: I'm lonely.
Speaker 4: And it was crazy because we were on a call
Speaker 4: where we asked her favorite chapters and she said that
Speaker 4: one And it's interesting to me how the forefront of
Speaker 4: what you think things will be about.
Speaker 3: It's not really what happens.
Speaker 4: It's not where the grip comes from for you guys,
Speaker 4: What's something you told in either book that you were like,
Speaker 4: I can't believe we just gave us up.
Speaker 3: You know they answer to this question, not the first one.
Speaker 1: Give the first one. I don't care. But the first
Speaker 1: one is the orgasm thing, right, you.
Speaker 4: Know that you never made her orgasm was just crazy
Speaker 4: because not never up until a certain point.
Speaker 1: She's crazy that she said you stay because girls, my
Speaker 1: mouth game was good.
Speaker 8: It's just my pen game wasn't wait for clarification. Game
Speaker 8: was good for clarification up to a certain point. I
Speaker 8: wasn't regularly having orgasms through intercourse that I was having
Speaker 8: orgasms in other ways, which.
Speaker 3: Is that's not what I thought.
Speaker 9: That's not what I because that's not how the.
Speaker 3: Media spun it.
Speaker 8: I mean, had anyone read the book, they would understand
Speaker 8: and they not clear.
Speaker 3: No, it's not that I was this long suffering wife.
Speaker 1: It wasn't that hashtag poor Giara the whole time.
Speaker 3: For Gia.
Speaker 1: They were sitting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, No, that wasn't it. Most women, unless you're touching
Speaker 3: your culturus.
Speaker 4: There is something said like eighty eight percent of women
Speaker 4: are experiencing vaginal penetration.
Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, that's the thing, of course it is.
Speaker 8: And that's why we thought that there was value in
Speaker 8: telling the story, Yeah, sharing our experience, because we figured
Speaker 8: that so many women would relate, they would get it,
Speaker 8: they would understand, and then they would find their dues.
Speaker 8: Now you can come through vaginal penetration every single timew No,
Speaker 8: hold on.
Speaker 9: It's not that you didn't get busy.
Speaker 3: And that was the value in the chapter that we
Speaker 3: told the story. It had nothing to do with him.
Speaker 5: So I'm gonna blend horrible decisions in just a little bit.
Speaker 5: And I don't know which one to ask this tip for.
Speaker 5: But if you went from only orgasming from head and
Speaker 5: then now you're able to do it through penetration, this
Speaker 5: what well? What what happened differently? Did you then be able?
Speaker 5: Did you incorporate something different? Did you tell him what
Speaker 5: he had to do?
Speaker 3: Like? What how did you get there?
Speaker 1: Let me start? Okay, so which is the fu shit about?
Speaker 1: You know, men entering the sexual space, right, there's nobody
Speaker 1: to talk to, right, you never sat down to your
Speaker 1: boy and like, yo, bro, how you have sex. You
Speaker 1: look at it. So what do most guys do, right,
Speaker 1: even the guys in the back, they watch porn, right,
Speaker 1: And when you watch porn, all you see is bang
Speaker 1: bang bang bang bang, Right, And he'd be like, wow,
Speaker 1: I need to do that. So you start trying to
Speaker 1: do that, okay, and bang bank and you know, you
Speaker 1: realize there was no sensuality. He realized there was no touch.
Speaker 1: You realize it's a movie, it's a porn movie. But
Speaker 1: I didn't realize that because she never told me.
Speaker 3: She was like, I'm a poor start and me too.
Speaker 8: Okay, okay, that's part of it. That's a very very
Speaker 8: small part of it. That's a very very small part
Speaker 8: of it. It wasn't okay, okay, you kicked it off.
Speaker 8: The problem that it wasn't him.
Speaker 3: The problem was me.
Speaker 8: Oh, the problem was me. And I was too young
Speaker 8: to understand your body, my body, ah, and that the
Speaker 8: problem was me. I lost my virginity on our one
Speaker 8: year anniversary, so I was sixteen years old and thinking
Speaker 8: that it was the way that most young people envision it.
Speaker 8: I wasn't even sure that I was supposed to have
Speaker 8: an orgasm every single time. And I think The problem
Speaker 8: was that when you look at society, it's as though
Speaker 8: women are playthings for men, like we look good, we
Speaker 8: put on we do all of these things for the
Speaker 8: pleasure of men. You look at billboards, it's sexy women
Speaker 8: draped over cars.
Speaker 3: Everything is about the sexualization of women.
Speaker 8: So when I was in that role, it was about
Speaker 8: me performing for my boyfriend, me performing for my husband.
Speaker 8: So I was in so much of a pleasure mode
Speaker 8: that I neglected myself. I don't even know if I
Speaker 8: saw the importance in myself being pleasured, And to be honest,
Speaker 8: I was pleased knowing that he was so pleased and.
Speaker 4: Vast thing you said you're a giver to talk about
Speaker 4: how much you love to nurture and not saying that
Speaker 4: a lot of women don't carry this innately. But I
Speaker 4: feel the same, and I think a lot of times
Speaker 4: being that you can have pleasure at the service of
Speaker 4: giving and being someone's subservice at whatever it is.
Speaker 3: Yes, I think we really.
Speaker 4: Don't prioritize self because we are so used to being
Speaker 4: satisfied from that one thing. And I hope a lot
Speaker 4: of people that maybe do have trouble orgasming during in
Speaker 4: her course, Mandy and I have said this for years,
Speaker 4: like visimoone, actually you're going on there soon. She hadn't
Speaker 4: had an orgasm when she first came off horrible, and
Speaker 4: we're like girl master.
Speaker 5: Ate and she hadn't really knew much to do. I
Speaker 5: don't think she had even used toys at that time.
Speaker 5: But I think that's the biggest thing. Also title chapter,
Speaker 5: you can't No one can please you unless you could
Speaker 5: please yourself.
Speaker 3: I know how to please myself, but yeah, but learning
Speaker 3: your body and being able also to communicate that to
Speaker 3: a partner like you doing it. Does he know the motion?
Speaker 3: Does he know the pressure? Does he like? And that
Speaker 3: has to be communicated.
Speaker 5: And sometimes when we go into the bedroom just wanting
Speaker 5: to please our partners, it's hard to communicate that he
Speaker 5: might be doing something wrong.
Speaker 3: You're just going to send me. You know, vagina is
Speaker 3: way more difficult.
Speaker 8: It is.
Speaker 3: I'm not a cool girl. I'm not this girl. I'm
Speaker 3: not a this girl. I need a slower one. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm just too The vagina's way harder than the pain.
Speaker 3: But I'll tell you, you know, I'll.
Speaker 8: Tell you what. In my experience, it didn't even take
Speaker 8: all of that for me. It's once I let go
Speaker 8: of being a performer and making sure that I looked
Speaker 8: good and I sounded good and my body looked good
Speaker 8: in this position, and I was doing all of those things.
Speaker 8: Once I let that go and concentrated on myself, it
Speaker 8: wasn't even about how he touched me, how in love
Speaker 8: I was with him, did the trick, but it.
Speaker 5: Really love a little dog in the baby, make a
Speaker 5: little man, All of that a little bit, all that
Speaker 5: I don't need, all that look a little bit shovel.
Speaker 4: Yeah, my hot friends, you say the same ship. Oh
Speaker 4: my god, I'm thinking about how I look, and they
Speaker 4: like you.
Speaker 3: To look ugly actually.
Speaker 8: Times, yes, yes, yeah, I like to start out pretty
Speaker 8: and I don't care if I get ugly in the interim,
Speaker 8: you know, but I like to start out.
Speaker 3: A certain way. But it didn't.
Speaker 8: It wasn't even about how he's the fact that he
Speaker 8: was touching me was enough. I mean, every single time,
Speaker 8: he doesn't have to do it. Sometimes I'd like, baby,
Speaker 8: damn it, you don't even really have to move, like,
Speaker 8: like do I not say that to you all? It's
Speaker 8: like you don't even really have to do much, like
Speaker 8: you're tired.
Speaker 3: It's okay, Like.
Speaker 5: Yeah, So for the reactionary for this, I'm gonna blend
Speaker 5: both books here.
Speaker 3: Okay, So.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna throw in some pop culture reasons and then
Speaker 5: I want y'all takes on them.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 5: So we know what happened with Matt Barnes in January
Speaker 5: with all of the affairs he had and his partner
Speaker 5: leaving Cardi being offset have been public about the infidelity
Speaker 5: happening within their relationship and now going through a divorce.
Speaker 5: And then, just because I love housewives, Real Housewives, Beverly Hills,
Speaker 5: Derry and PK are getting a divorce and they've vividly
Speaker 5: talked about not sharing that they're going through a divorce.
Speaker 3: To their kids.
Speaker 5: So a few questions here, does keeping kids in a
Speaker 5: kid's place work in today's era of social media? And
Speaker 5: so with your relationship being public, with there being a book, now,
Speaker 5: do you guys have to talk about the things that
Speaker 5: happen in your relationship that's adult shit, whether it be infidelity,
Speaker 5: whether it be an argument, whether it be real life shit.
Speaker 3: How do you have those conversations with your kids or
Speaker 3: do you keep them.
Speaker 1: Out of it? I think for our older kids twenty
Speaker 1: three and twenty one, yes, absolutely, they know everything.
Speaker 3: So at what age though our kids?
Speaker 5: Is it? Because, to be honest, when I was growing up,
Speaker 5: I knew my daddy had multiple girlfriends.
Speaker 3: I was like nine, and I knew it. Of course
Speaker 3: we didn't there was for one, two and three of
Speaker 3: these are his friends.
Speaker 5: When I look back in my childhood, I'm like, bro,
Speaker 5: there was so much I knew what the folk was
Speaker 5: going on, and y'all wasn't being honest or being real
Speaker 5: with me. Or I could tell when my mom was
Speaker 5: hurting or crying in the room and she come out
Speaker 5: and everything's okay. It's not like a part of me
Speaker 5: resents not being put onto the things that was actually happening.
Speaker 5: So I want to know what age do y'all feel
Speaker 5: comfortable or do you suggest parents start actually being honest
Speaker 5: with their kids.
Speaker 8: I think it's I don't necessarily think it's about age.
Speaker 8: I think it's about a how does it affect the children?
Speaker 8: So in your securitation, okay, you knew, yeah, you knew,
Speaker 8: so you knew, So I think that it would have
Speaker 8: been beneficial to explain things to you in a way
Speaker 8: that you were able to digest, because if not, you're
Speaker 8: carrying that burden and it's affecting you psychologically, while at
Speaker 8: nine years old, you don't realize that it's affecting you psychologically.
Speaker 3: So there does need to.
Speaker 8: Be some type of explanation or clarity provided were you
Speaker 8: even though you're nine, because if you're old enough to
Speaker 8: hurt from it or be affected by it, then you're
Speaker 8: old enough to be spoken to about it. So I
Speaker 8: don't think that there's a particular age. I think it
Speaker 8: depends on the reality of the situation aside from Aside
Speaker 8: from that things that don't affect children, I think that
Speaker 8: a child needs to stay in a child's place. I
Speaker 8: believe in the innocence of children so wholeheartedly, and I
Speaker 8: think that parents should do as much as they can
Speaker 8: to allow their children to hold on to that for
Speaker 8: as long as possible. I didn't tell you, but yesterday
Speaker 8: I finally told Jackson, who's ten, that the Easter Bunny
Speaker 8: and that the Leprechaun and the tooth Fairy don't exist.
Speaker 9: Oh I'm sorry, I can fault with you, because but
Speaker 9: he asked me straight.
Speaker 8: We were in the car coming back and he was
Speaker 8: having a conversation with his friends. Man he was feeling
Speaker 8: like the dunt the nutt in the group, and I
Speaker 8: didn't want him to suffer that humiliation. But we kept
Speaker 8: it as long as we possibly could until it affects him.
Speaker 3: In a negative way. Still exists. I don't care what
Speaker 3: this think.
Speaker 9: So and he asked me about three times.
Speaker 8: So he said, can I help you put the eggs
Speaker 8: out then on Easter for the other kids? And I said,
Speaker 8: I said, yeah you can. I was like, you'll get
Speaker 8: up with dad.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's part of something that we do. And
Speaker 1: we're gonna have an argument about this later.
Speaker 9: That's place he asked me on the spot. He asked
Speaker 9: me on the spot, you.
Speaker 1: Don't understand I'm saying we don't really shore about the liquor,
Speaker 1: she said, But the rest of the niggas, that's me.
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 1: But I'm the one that you don't understand that. I
Speaker 1: get a joy out of putting the toys together and
Speaker 1: you know, and getting their toys. I get a joy
Speaker 1: out of waking up five in the morning, four in
Speaker 1: the morning, putting the eggs all over the yard.
Speaker 3: Let so much fun.
Speaker 1: I get a joy out of that sort.
Speaker 8: Of messing up the room on Saint Patrick's Day because
Speaker 8: the Leprechaun is supposed to come and mess up the house.
Speaker 9: So we mess up the house and mess up my
Speaker 9: birthday and.
Speaker 4: I'm not yeah, yeh yeh new age parents and yeah
Speaker 4: yeah yeah, I get a joy at it comes and
Speaker 4: messes up the house.
Speaker 8: Oh yeah, he comes and messes up the room. Sometimes
Speaker 8: he steals things from your room.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's naughty.
Speaker 1: He had.
Speaker 5: The more kids you get, the more ship did sorry,
Speaker 5: that's yeah, make green eggs and hamp I think no,
Speaker 5: I celebrated, No, no, no, no, the lecra.
Speaker 8: Sometimes he'll take something. He's naughty, So he comes to
Speaker 8: your house and he does naughty things. We don't worry Santa, Santa,
Speaker 8: but he and I'm like, wow, now I'm telling a
Speaker 8: bold face. Before you know, Sanda is just a power
Speaker 8: of suggestion, right, but now I'm telling a bold face.
Speaker 1: Lie.
Speaker 3: And we pride ourselves on that, like.
Speaker 4: His cookies, on the twenty four faith that kids have, Like,
Speaker 4: I don't like seeing kids remove from kids things to.
Speaker 3: Exactly, And that's the thing TikTok and Instagram.
Speaker 4: My friends kind of laugh at me a lot because
Speaker 4: for number one, right, I am obviously all for sexuality.
Speaker 4: If kids being gay I get it, you know, like
Speaker 4: I was the gay kid, but TikTok, Instagram, all of
Speaker 4: these things that are just going to make my kid
Speaker 4: go from six to fifteen.
Speaker 3: No, I'm not with it.
Speaker 4: Like I don't even know if I want to do
Speaker 4: iPads out of side of a plane like we just
Speaker 4: or I just interviewed Brook Devard for Horrible Decisions on Patreon.
Speaker 3: I love this girl.
Speaker 4: She's a mom, she's got a great brand. And she said,
Speaker 4: I let my kids be bored. She said, if we
Speaker 4: go to a restaurant, people are asking me what do
Speaker 4: they do if they don't have an iPad?
Speaker 3: And I say, they play with the salt and pepper shakers.
Speaker 3: We get in the car, Oh, what colors do you see?
Speaker 4: And I think that was probably the greatest parenting advice
Speaker 4: I'd heard in a while, because I want to make
Speaker 4: sure that I do that, and I'm terrified of my
Speaker 4: kids being too grown because I was too grown.
Speaker 3: Wait a second, and but you said that's crazy, you disagree.
Speaker 3: I mean, here we go learn how to be when
Speaker 3: you take a ship. Don't you need the phone?
Speaker 8: We have to learn?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know I don't, but but you know, you
Speaker 1: know what it is. And that sounds so crazy sometimes. Well,
Speaker 1: first of all, when I go out to eat, it's
Speaker 1: different than most people go out to eat, right, And
Speaker 1: the reason I say that is dea was raised that
Speaker 1: you have to eat slow and you count your shoes.
Speaker 3: I don't count my chees.
Speaker 9: Can you stop perpetuating this line, girl, I never counted.
Speaker 8: I said that it's most healthy and productive for your
Speaker 8: body to break down your food so that your digestive
Speaker 8: system can digest it, and that usually takes about one
Speaker 8: hundred shoes per mouthful.
Speaker 1: It is you don't understand, we don't have to eat
Speaker 1: is a four hour thing?
Speaker 3: But I don't. I don't count.
Speaker 1: My kids playing with the salt and peppersheak of a
Speaker 1: four hours they get to I'll be playing with the
Speaker 1: play that's not happening. Let me get to the point
Speaker 1: where we all we all coloring like.
Speaker 3: A piece of state. It's in your head. I know,
Speaker 3: I do not, I not will count my chewes.
Speaker 8: I eat slowly, but I am not cognizant at all
Speaker 8: of how many choes it takes to break down what.
Speaker 1: You say you have one fry, poor ketchup on the
Speaker 1: whole five five minutes.
Speaker 7: At least I feel like I could see it and
Speaker 7: I understand it's it's crazy, but she's she's very disrespectful
Speaker 7: food like I'm talking cheese cake and showberries in the morning,
Speaker 7: leftovers for breakfast like it's it's it's.
Speaker 1: Really her jeans, the way she looks like this, No surgeries.
Speaker 1: She doesn't work out, does not work out.
Speaker 3: You don't work out the plates that we do well.
Speaker 1: That we did.
Speaker 3: We did it for like four weeks.
Speaker 1: No, you did it for four weeks.
Speaker 3: I did it for four weeks.
Speaker 1: It is when she eats, I gained weight.
Speaker 3: That is like, I'm yes, I have a question that
Speaker 3: I actually asked Brooks.
Speaker 4: So her and her husband, you know, they have a
Speaker 4: beautiful home in the hills, and you know, live a
Speaker 4: beautiful lifestyle. And I said, what, at what point, what's
Speaker 4: the thing you kind of keep from your kid? Because
Speaker 4: your kids obviously have money, they grow up, they know it.
Speaker 4: How do you keep them humble?
Speaker 1: Like they have.
Speaker 3: Jobs, Like, how does that work out once they get
Speaker 3: to that age?
Speaker 1: But we don't. We don't. We're different with our kids, right.
Speaker 1: Our kids are very humble. They all have chores, they
Speaker 1: all respect money. But we're the type of parents we
Speaker 1: want to see our kids enjoy it while we I like,
Speaker 1: there's some parents that the struggle. I don't like that
Speaker 1: that I want my kids so you know, I love
Speaker 1: cause my twenty three year old to take the ferrari,
Speaker 1: like my twenty one year old to take the lambo,
Speaker 1: like I want them to enjoy it. I want to
Speaker 1: see them when we work home.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 5: I wasn't born into nepotism like I wish I was, Like,
Speaker 5: I would not keep like I never understood the making
Speaker 5: your child struggle because you struggled.
Speaker 8: I can't stand that ideology like that is that ideology
Speaker 8: sucks like.
Speaker 3: It does like all the billionaires that leave their money
Speaker 3: to others. I don't like foundations. But I feel like
Speaker 3: it's only in like the black community that we do that.
Speaker 8: Yes, yes, because you know, I feel as though we're
Speaker 8: the only ones that want to see each other like
Speaker 8: struggle or want you.
Speaker 3: Know, like why like white people don't do that. People
Speaker 3: don't do that generally speaking, general generally, they don't do that.
Speaker 8: They nepotize, they pass things on to their children, they
Speaker 8: donte on their children, they give their children. And I
Speaker 8: don't see it as potent in our community.
Speaker 3: And I've always wondered why.
Speaker 5: Even even just to speak about even the iPad or
Speaker 5: Brooks choice of parenting in mind you me speaking also
Speaker 5: in parenting you're going me to comments with you and
Speaker 5: got kids.
Speaker 3: Fuck you.
Speaker 5: It's funny though that we still we have people that
Speaker 5: are also trying to remove technology from children today. Specifically,
Speaker 5: I see it being a thing that Americans do, knowing
Speaker 5: that they just passed the thing in China where from
Speaker 5: six years old they're going to teach the children all
Speaker 5: these areas of AI And so this is why we
Speaker 5: never go the terrorists don't forget continue like China is
Speaker 5: so advanced in teaching their children how society is changing,
Speaker 5: and we especially our community does want to stay dated.
Speaker 3: But these kids aren't social.
Speaker 4: Like I don't know if you guys have interacted with
Speaker 4: a COVID kid yet, but my partner and I were
Speaker 4: talking about this, and he's like, I hate when people
Speaker 4: act like you gotta let the.
Speaker 3: Kids come to you. He's like, they don't know to talk.
Speaker 3: You gotta be like, what are you playing with?
Speaker 4: What do you like?
Speaker 3: Get on your level? Kids these days, four or five
Speaker 3: years old.
Speaker 1: They are weird.
Speaker 3: I have so much to say right now, I say,
Speaker 3: I have so much to say.
Speaker 8: I want to speak on that, but I don't want
Speaker 8: to lose my thought about the spoiling of children because
Speaker 8: we ended it and we moved on. But I don't
Speaker 8: want to leave it on that note, because for me,
Speaker 8: it's not just about giving your children because you have
Speaker 8: in our household, our children don't receive anything unless they
Speaker 8: deserve it. I believe on bestowing upon my children if
Speaker 8: they deserve it. I do not believe in spoiling my children.
Speaker 8: We have six children, and five of them are not spoiled.
Speaker 3: I have a three year olds.
Speaker 1: We're working on it.
Speaker 3: Well, we have a three year old.
Speaker 9: We're working on her right now, but they're working on her.
Speaker 8: I want to make sure and listen, we have a
Speaker 8: routine and we have a way that we parent her
Speaker 8: to see to it that she is not going to
Speaker 8: be spoiled. But the other five, I can wholeheartedly say
Speaker 8: they are not.
Speaker 3: Spoiled at all.
Speaker 8: Everything that they get and they get it a lot,
Speaker 8: and they live a lifestyle, but they deserve it. Be
Speaker 8: says they are wonderful, beautiful, appreciative, grateful, helpful, and demonstrative children.
Speaker 1: All of them and.
Speaker 8: They can have something amazing. I'll tell you a little story.
Speaker 8: I went to brunch with a girlfriend of mine. She
Speaker 8: has two kids, and I'm there with my three kids
Speaker 8: and my baby was you bringing to kiss the brunch?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 8: Yeah? It was like a oh, we brought our kids
Speaker 8: to brench And we were talking and at the time,
Speaker 8: I drove a very nice vehicle. I drove a very
Speaker 8: nice vehicle. And this mom is very bufula she she like, okay,
Speaker 8: she's a bougie mom, you know. And she was making
Speaker 8: some comments about the car, and then her daughter, who
Speaker 8: was ten at the time, was making comments about the car, like, oh,
Speaker 8: you guys have this, and she's talking about it and
Speaker 8: some of the features. It doesn't matter what car it
Speaker 8: was in this car, it's a nice car, okay.
Speaker 3: And what does she do it anyway? Anyway?
Speaker 8: So she okay, So it was and she was talking
Speaker 8: about the star headliner and all this stuff, and I'm
Speaker 8: sitting there laughing, and the mom said to me, like,
Speaker 8: why are you laughing? I said, my kids have no
Speaker 8: idubt you're talking about.
Speaker 3: And she was like, what do you mean.
Speaker 8: I said, my kids don't even know what kind of
Speaker 8: car we drove in today? She said, how could they
Speaker 8: not know? I said, because we don't talk about material
Speaker 8: things at my house and she said, Giah, Like I said,
Speaker 8: ask London, and London at the time was ten, say Maye,
Speaker 8: just her daughter. That's how we met through our artists.
Speaker 8: I said, ask Linda what kind of car we drove
Speaker 8: in today? She was like, London, what car did you
Speaker 8: guys drive in?
Speaker 3: Drove in today? She's like, I don't know a Ford.
Speaker 3: And it's because we all we have like our family
Speaker 3: car that I throw the kids in. It's a Ford Explorer.
Speaker 8: And she would hear us say that all the time,
Speaker 8: like throw the stroller in the Ford, throw the car
Speaker 8: seats in the forward, take it out of the board
Speaker 8: and put it together.
Speaker 3: So she would hear the word forward for a Ford.
Speaker 3: But aside from that, she.
Speaker 8: Would never hear a Rolls Royce. She would never hear
Speaker 8: a Lamborghini. It'll be like the purple car, the blue car.
Speaker 8: Purposely because I didn't want her to start materializing in
Speaker 8: her mind or thinking that things are of value.
Speaker 3: Don't have money, it doesn't matter, no.
Speaker 5: No, no starts like we can do things like and
Speaker 5: for for me growing up it was name brand Cereal,
Speaker 5: like we know Texas hit when we got the public
Speaker 5: subs and the neighbor.
Speaker 3: Going to Olive Garden and can order. Yes, yes, so
Speaker 3: old were things like not growing up in materialism.
Speaker 5: It's weird because, like Weezy said, I love that you
Speaker 5: say that because it could apply to even Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 3: Think that's what it rings that are necessarily Actually.
Speaker 4: No, I mean when you're bringing up so no think
Speaker 4: about brand and you've got a regular Oh yeah, you're
Speaker 4: still working away up. I want my Louis back, I
Speaker 4: want my this, I want my mad You're almost talking
Speaker 4: about it more. But I think it's just it's really
Speaker 4: nice to hear that because the more I'm meeting wealthy
Speaker 4: people with children, it's the first question I have. I
Speaker 4: don't know if you've heard of Ursula Burns, but she
Speaker 4: was the first black woman CEO in America and it
Speaker 4: was Xerox and I was producing a show she was on,
Speaker 4: and she was like, everybody's asking me what to do
Speaker 4: with my kids, and like, my kids know they're rich.
Speaker 4: I just have to raise good kids. And I think
Speaker 4: when you're hearing about wealth, you're thinking about kids. TV Kardashians,
Speaker 4: shitty kids, Osborne, all that stuff I was.
Speaker 3: Born with seeing what do they have? My sweet sixteen like, yah,
Speaker 3: it's not necessarily normal life.
Speaker 8: Yeah, but the thing and there's a thing to that, right.
Speaker 8: Some of the most miserable people that I know are
Speaker 8: the people that are the most wealthy and have the
Speaker 8: most So I never want to align happiness with money
Speaker 8: because I'm not here to raise wealthy kids. I'm here
Speaker 8: to raise good kids.
Speaker 3: Money.
Speaker 8: That turned into no, it doesn't, and and speak no,
Speaker 8: it doesn't. No money, no, no, no, and guess what
Speaker 8: and guess what? Money No, it's like a bonus to
Speaker 8: your happiness. Yes, in real life, real love, in real life,
Speaker 8: real love. We talked about one of the worst things
Speaker 8: that either of us went through in our lives, and
Speaker 8: it was the infidelity. And I tell you, and I
Speaker 8: remember this like it was yesterday. I sat there in
Speaker 8: my bed or about a week after I found out,
Speaker 8: and I'm looking around at all of this shit that
Speaker 8: live in a mansion. I got garages full of cars,
Speaker 8: I got every bag, every label, every everything, and I'm
Speaker 8: fucking well, I believe that I'm miserable right now. I'm
Speaker 8: so unhappy. None of this means anything. And I remember
Speaker 8: thinking to myself, like, damn, women will go through this
Speaker 8: for like a freaking piece of leather. Yeah, And I
Speaker 8: had this mental like dialogue with myself like its fucking leather,
Speaker 8: Like leather, you're gonna throw away your dignity, your pride,
Speaker 8: your happiness or freaking leather, Like that's crazy.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So, no, material things don't bring you happiness.
Speaker 8: If you're happy and then you are able to live
Speaker 8: a life where you have quality things and there's abundance.
Speaker 8: Of course that's a beautiful thing. But buying a bag
Speaker 8: does not make me happy. And I sometimes I think
Speaker 8: that for some people it takes going through some of
Speaker 8: those bad experiences that I was talking about before, where
Speaker 8: you learn, you understand, there's lessons, there's wisdom in it,
Speaker 8: and I've lived a life.
Speaker 3: Can I ask you then? Some people.
Speaker 5: Stay for the kids quote unquote hm, some people stay
Speaker 5: for the afforded lifestyle. If you were this miserable and hurt,
Speaker 5: what what pushed you to do the work to stay?
Speaker 8: You got time? Because that's an answer. It's an answer
Speaker 8: that I can't wrap up in two minutes.
Speaker 3: I really can't.
Speaker 9: I mean, if you can, I can I'll do.
Speaker 5: I'll do my best only because I mean, we're we
Speaker 5: talk about beous, you know what I mean. And there's
Speaker 5: so many women that get into monogamous relationships that feel
Speaker 5: betrayed and everyone tells them to leave or that they're
Speaker 5: stupid for staying, and then it becomes a well why,
Speaker 5: and it could be sometimes for the kid lifestyle. Those
Speaker 5: are things that we accept as reasons. But if those
Speaker 5: weren't your reasons, what innateately made you want to stay?
Speaker 3: And work through that?
Speaker 8: For anyone that wants the full blown answer, it really
Speaker 8: is in real life, real love. But I'll do my
Speaker 8: best to wrap it up. It certainly was not for
Speaker 8: the children. I was ready, I had an attorney, I
Speaker 8: was getting a divorce. It was not something I was contemplating.
Speaker 8: It was something that was done, signed and sealed. Not
Speaker 8: quite deliber but signed and sealed. I don't believe in
Speaker 8: staying for the children. Okay, that's my personal belief. I
Speaker 8: would never because having an unhappy union, unhappy children. Children
Speaker 8: are not oblivious, they're not dumb. They very well know
Speaker 8: what's going on and you know firsthand. So staying for
Speaker 8: the kids, I think is more so to their detriment
Speaker 8: than for their benefit, to be honest. So definitely not
Speaker 8: for the kids. Certainly not for the lifestyle. And it's
Speaker 8: not lost on me that people probably perceive me as
Speaker 8: someone that has a lot, because I do have a lot,
Speaker 8: and that's just true. So you may be inclined to
Speaker 8: think that I'm materialistic, but I'm not. I don't really
Speaker 8: care about car, shoes, bags. I love my house. I
Speaker 8: like to have a nice house, that's the truth. But
Speaker 8: aside from that, I don't really care about the other things.
Speaker 8: So it definitely wasn't the lifestyle. I stayed because a
Speaker 8: series of events happened and it was revealed to me,
Speaker 8: and I fought it and I cried. And I'm not
Speaker 8: a big crier, but I fought it and I cried,
Speaker 8: and I had to learn a lot in a very
Speaker 8: short time. But I was forced to believe that God
Speaker 8: wanted me to stay in my marriage.
Speaker 3: How did I know you were going to talk about God?
Speaker 3: It was the only thing.
Speaker 8: That could have done that, And at the time, before
Speaker 8: I learned more about God and spirituality, I wouldn't have
Speaker 8: even thought that God could have made me stay in
Speaker 8: my relationship. But there was a series of things that
Speaker 8: happened there was in our lifetime together, and this was
Speaker 8: a whole life died. There was only one person in
Speaker 8: our lives that didn't champion my relationship.
Speaker 3: One person.
Speaker 8: Everybody else at the sun rose and shined on us
Speaker 8: because even though we had a tough time, for Shawn
Speaker 8: always he never faltered in our home. He was always amazing.
Speaker 8: I never had the red flags that my husband was cheating.
Speaker 8: I never had a red flag.
Speaker 3: He was. He showed up, He was there for me,
Speaker 3: he was there for.
Speaker 8: The kids, affectionate, demonsia, loving everything, generous everything.
Speaker 3: I had no idea, idea. I found out then he
Speaker 3: wasn't lacking. Oh yes, no, no, yes, how yes, no,
Speaker 3: he was not lacking. I had no idea.
Speaker 1: I was blind.
Speaker 3: I was blind.
Speaker 8: I had no idea. But the one thing that I
Speaker 8: have to say was that he was very jealous, very controlling,
Speaker 8: very wanting to make sure that we always stayed together.
Speaker 1: I was heavily insecure.
Speaker 3: Yes, So that was the thing. That's what drove.
Speaker 8: I came to learn that that's what drove the cheating.
Speaker 8: That's what drove you know, certain situations that he had
Speaker 8: to contend with.
Speaker 4: Did that moment kind of show you just as someone
Speaker 4: who seems very monogamous, that sex.
Speaker 3: Can just be sex.
Speaker 4: And I say that because for someone not to switch up,
Speaker 4: I mean, as Mandy and I are ethically non monogamous,
Speaker 4: it's not new to us, It's true to us. Right
Speaker 4: since the start of our show, I find that a
Speaker 4: lot of my friends that have been married a long time.
Speaker 4: One of my friends recently, and I've talked about it
Speaker 4: on Horror, her husband of like ten or thirteen years
Speaker 4: kissed someone and she wants to leave them.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, wow, it was a kiss.
Speaker 4: She's like, you don't understand our rules, how we live,
Speaker 4: And I was like, I pushed my shit on her.
Speaker 3: I'm thinking, so, what is Vegas? But did it.
Speaker 1: Not?
Speaker 2: So told you?
Speaker 3: Did that show you?
Speaker 4: Oh this can be this isolated thing. This isn't This
Speaker 4: isn't about me, This isn't how you feels about me.
Speaker 3: In that moment.
Speaker 8: No, it took a lot for me to learn and
Speaker 8: understand that because I was very much the person that
Speaker 8: you're referring to, and I was raised by a very
Speaker 8: strong mother, and for me, my feelings didn't matter. It
Speaker 8: didn't matter if I loved him. Still, it didn't matter
Speaker 8: if I wanted to stay. It didn't matter if I
Speaker 8: had this attachment that was just going to disintegrate.
Speaker 3: None of that mattered.
Speaker 8: What mattered was that I always said that if you
Speaker 8: so much as kiss another person, I'm gone, and I'm
Speaker 8: a person of my word, even if it's to myself,
Speaker 8: and I have the the ability to break it. That
Speaker 8: was done as soon as I found out, in the
Speaker 8: moment that he came clean, I said, Okay, it's over.
Speaker 8: And it was a few days before Christmas, and his
Speaker 8: mother was at my house helping me decorate for Christmas,
Speaker 8: and I left him where he was and I went
Speaker 8: home and walked into the house and I said, yeah,
Speaker 8: there's no need to finish decorating. And I said, she
Speaker 8: said why, I said, Christmas is canceled because Sean and
Speaker 8: I are getting a divorce. And it was instant. I
Speaker 8: didn't have to think about it. It was just a
Speaker 8: very robotic move for me. It didn't matter how I felt.
Speaker 3: What did you have something? I'm sorry? Is that pride that?
Speaker 8: Yes, it's pride in me being true to who I
Speaker 8: always said that I would be, that she would be exactly.
Speaker 3: And that's another thing. And what you want for yourself,
Speaker 3: which I think.
Speaker 8: And the feeling of seeing myself as a strong person
Speaker 8: and me identifying staying as a weakness.
Speaker 5: We create these boundaries that we say like, and we
Speaker 5: go in to relationships, and when it happens, it actually
Speaker 5: isn't a boundary. The fact that you stayed. We say
Speaker 5: that if you do this, I'm gone. Once you say that,
Speaker 5: no longer becomes a boundary. But has there been a
Speaker 5: conversation if that were to happen again or if it
Speaker 5: was supposed to. I mean, I only say that because
Speaker 5: I mean I stayed after and knew and I was like, okay.
Speaker 5: But also, I'm not a monogamous but I have friends
Speaker 5: who have cheated or have been cheated on, who are like, yeah,
Speaker 5: this is a deal breaker for me, but they stay
Speaker 5: after multiple times.
Speaker 4: It's that Cardi like, no, no, sorry now Cardi, Young
Speaker 4: Miami he got four times. Oh yeah, Young Miami just
Speaker 4: said yeah, yeah, how.
Speaker 8: Do you That's wild and that's wild to me, Like,
Speaker 8: that's why, that's that's why.
Speaker 3: Listen, your face just made.
Speaker 4: So many expressions in one and y'all watching this on YouTube,
Speaker 4: Gil went like she was trying to take this all
Speaker 4: in like y'ad No, she wanted to punch invY right.
Speaker 3: Now, like nigga, No, God isn't going to come in
Speaker 3: and fix it again. Okay.
Speaker 8: You know, like I was saying, there was one person
Speaker 8: in our entire life that didn't didn't chap, that didn't
Speaker 8: champion our relationship. And he is one of my best friends.
Speaker 8: So I have a best friend that's the best friends
Speaker 8: at our couple. So it's a husband and a wife.
Speaker 8: I met the wife in college and I became very
Speaker 8: close to her husband, and he is like, like my
Speaker 8: best friend. Why did he not champion because he saw
Speaker 8: Raseean as controlling and jealous and insecure and he wanted
Speaker 8: better for me.
Speaker 3: Okay, So he's the only person. So long story short.
Speaker 8: When I told him, when I told him that it
Speaker 8: was over, and he called me and confirmed that we
Speaker 8: were getting a divorce. Long story short, again, he is
Speaker 8: he's the only one. He's the one that said you'd
Speaker 8: have to read the book. But he said you can't
Speaker 8: divorce him, and I said why, And he flew to
Speaker 8: New York. He flew to New York and he stayed with.
Speaker 3: Us for nine days.
Speaker 8: Is to convince me to stay. And when I asked
Speaker 8: him why he did that. He said, because God sent
Speaker 8: him there to do it.
Speaker 3: Wow. Wow, yes, And I said, what does that even mean?
Speaker 8: Because I always believed in God, but I was never
Speaker 8: particularly spiritual. I didn't go to church, nothing like that.
Speaker 8: But it was an opportunity for me to learn and
Speaker 8: to understand what being spoken to by God meant. And
Speaker 8: then many other people that.
Speaker 3: That I did not know. That was one of them.
Speaker 8: And when I asked him, he told me God sent
Speaker 8: me and I said I don't And I said.
Speaker 3: He didn't.
Speaker 1: I didn't walk with I didn't know like that in
Speaker 1: New York and listening on radio.
Speaker 4: Already being so irritated because I was like, I just
Speaker 4: feel like people really love to see happiness crumble. And
Speaker 4: you know, as a Twitter girl, right, I'm want to
Speaker 4: laugh at something for a second, you're like, oh shit,
Speaker 4: When you really sit and think about it, it's like, damn,
Speaker 4: you know, when seeing strong family dynamics, it's just something
Speaker 4: that's not so common. You know, I can't imagine how
Speaker 4: much people can't wait to see lebron decks the two
Speaker 4: white ladies on the court side. Yeah, you know, you know,
Speaker 4: something that just hit me and I'm a big Jesus.
Speaker 3: And maryol fan. And when that moment happened, I was like,
Speaker 3: why is he tripping?
Speaker 4: Like it seems like a joke to hear you just
Speaker 4: say money doesn't mean anything to me, and you to
Speaker 4: know Gia that, well, I kind of.
Speaker 3: Now see why you bugg the fuck out.
Speaker 1: But well, if anybody follows the Breakfast Club and knows me,
Speaker 1: I bug out. When it comes to my family. I
Speaker 1: know you could tell you could take shots to me
Speaker 1: when so when you say something about my wife or
Speaker 1: my kids, I don't want to say it on there.
Speaker 1: I want to say it to your face, right, And
Speaker 1: that's why I've waited for them to come on there,
Speaker 1: because I don't like the shots, because I don't do
Speaker 1: it for ratings. I'm doing that to go back and forth.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say it to your face directly and we
Speaker 1: can have it. We can look at each other eye
Speaker 1: to eye like that moment. And when I said it
Speaker 1: to them and what happened, they apologize but said he was.
Speaker 4: Just playing though, right, But no, no, no no. After
Speaker 4: that comment, I remember he was like, oh the checks,
Speaker 4: I'm just playing.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: But when I saw it, I was like that's such
Speaker 4: an intense reaction for a comedian. But hearing you say
Speaker 4: this so strongly about money and what matters to you,
Speaker 4: now I kind of get it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know, we've been together since sixteen fifteen,
Speaker 1: so before money, and one time Gia had the money
Speaker 1: and I didn't. So when you say that, it's I
Speaker 1: feel like you're pushing a narrative, even if it's a
Speaker 1: joke or not. And what bothered me with them even
Speaker 1: more is they were friends to the room. They've been
Speaker 1: on the show many of times. I just didn't like
Speaker 1: that stab. So that's why I confronted them in person,
Speaker 1: and then you know, they apologized on person on air,
Speaker 1: and then when you know, social media took it off,
Speaker 1: they went another route. But my whole thing is I
Speaker 1: just don't play certain games.
Speaker 8: You know.
Speaker 1: It's like certain things like if we all family and
Speaker 1: we all cool, and you know, there's things that happen
Speaker 1: and we could fix it here, Like you know, we've
Speaker 1: had conversations before and it's not, you know, not something
Speaker 1: that goes public. It's like, yo, this is a small industry.
Speaker 1: And like you said, yeah, it's cool we could twitter
Speaker 1: joke and it's cool to see. But we don't want
Speaker 1: to see every somebody lose their family. We don't want
Speaker 1: to see somebody lose their job. We don't want to
Speaker 1: see somebody lose everything over something.
Speaker 3: That we hear other people feel that way. I actually
Speaker 3: don't don't think so. No, I don't.
Speaker 4: I think most people are innately good decent. If I
Speaker 4: fall down on the street, I think somebody will help me.
Speaker 4: But if that person maybe follows me on ig and
Speaker 4: they're not doing well in life and they see something
Speaker 4: crumble for me, I think it feels a little good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think people are inherently I don't. I don't
Speaker 3: think that loves company.
Speaker 8: I don't think that it's about whether people are inherently
Speaker 8: good or bad. I think people are inherently selfish. I
Speaker 8: think that most people do what benefits them and don't
Speaker 8: do things that make them feel uncomfortable. And I think
Speaker 8: that that's what leads most people's decisions. I agree most
Speaker 8: and then some people, maybe if they sit with it
Speaker 8: a little while, they'll come out on the better side
Speaker 8: of that and say, Okay, well, you know I should
Speaker 8: do this because it's the right thing.
Speaker 3: But I think most.
Speaker 8: People's knee jerk reaction comes from more of a selfish place,
Speaker 8: and that's something that life has taught me. I agree,
Speaker 8: And it's a sad thing about our society.
Speaker 3: I agree.
Speaker 4: And it's also doubled and tripled with the level of influencers,
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, Like I'm constantly looking. I
Speaker 4: don't think I had body image issues for a long
Speaker 4: time until Instagram really became a part of my daily routine.
Speaker 3: And then I was kind of like, damn.
Speaker 4: I kind of thought I liked myself, but I don't
Speaker 4: look like this, or oh I thought my apartment was
Speaker 4: designed right, but now there's wav savvy desile, like it's
Speaker 4: just something else that I don't have, and I'm someone
Speaker 4: that can get what I want, right.
Speaker 3: So I think when it comes to following someone seeing.
Speaker 4: Someone rise up that moment for you guys, I don't
Speaker 4: know with children, and I love happiness, like I see people.
Speaker 3: Being like told you, no one really happy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, but you know, anybody that comes in
Speaker 1: our house or sees together with our kids, they all
Speaker 1: say the same thing. I thought I was just fati.
Speaker 1: I thought it was just for the Instagram, Like we
Speaker 1: all like that, and as people like we genuinely try
Speaker 1: to help, Like when you opened up your your Plotti shop,
Speaker 1: what's the first thing I'll tell you? Yo, if you
Speaker 1: need me to come down and do a show or whatever,
Speaker 1: I'll gladly do it.
Speaker 4: It was so crazy that you said that too, because
Speaker 4: I think I mentioned on air the fitness director I
Speaker 4: hired literally said and he likes this. Before the doors
Speaker 4: were open, he goes, you know, he does this, He
Speaker 4: likes this.
Speaker 3: He always talks about how you would want this. And
Speaker 3: I can tell you. Guys are bad people. You in
Speaker 3: sharp You know, you guys really are.
Speaker 1: That's why we work so well together, and we've been
Speaker 1: working some because we are the same picture of course.
Speaker 3: Oh sorry, yeah, I want to know that now I know.
Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, watching the just thing happen, my whole thing
Speaker 4: was like, okay, this is partly postpartum feeling. When you
Speaker 4: were watching it happen, a lot of people were mad
Speaker 4: at you. Did you feel like, oh, he doesn't get it.
Speaker 4: This is new mom syndrome, Like did you think anything
Speaker 4: about what was happening.
Speaker 3: Was related part that he didn't get about. People were
Speaker 3: saying that you.
Speaker 4: Were too hard on Jess and that you weren't understanding like, oh,
Speaker 4: maternity leave whatever. As a mom, did you have a
Speaker 4: moment where you thought this is about kids?
Speaker 3: No? No, no, I didn't.
Speaker 8: You know, listen, I I believe that self control is
Speaker 8: very important. However, I never went through postpartum, so I
Speaker 8: can and that's another I cannot speak to it. I
Speaker 8: never experienced postpartum, so I can't presume to imagine how
Speaker 8: she felt if any of it did in fact have
Speaker 8: to do with postpartum.
Speaker 3: But I don't think just in my estimation, I don't.
Speaker 3: I didn't. I didn't. That didn't occur to is I
Speaker 3: related it a little bit?
Speaker 8: I just thought maybe maybe the emotional aspect of it,
Speaker 8: because postpartum can affect your hormone and whatnot.
Speaker 3: That's possible. But I cried. When I'm not being messing,
Speaker 3: I have the attitude of movies.
Speaker 8: Like yes. So my point is I didn't make a
Speaker 8: direct correlation to it.
Speaker 1: And I look at it like this, you both have.
Speaker 3: I'm the oldest, she's the only child, so I'm very tough.
Speaker 1: I show tough love, right, And the reason I show
Speaker 1: tough love and I tell everybody all the time, and
Speaker 1: even with my kids, I show tough love because I
Speaker 1: feel like the world is unforgiven, right, so I can't
Speaker 1: baby you. You get out in the world, you get
Speaker 1: smack and you cry. So I'm gonna be tough. And
Speaker 1: that's how I look at Jess. Yes, as I look
Speaker 1: at her, we're in a breakfast club, that's my sister.
Speaker 1: I'm going to protect her. I'm going to fight for her.
Speaker 1: If you're in my clique, we are together. So I
Speaker 1: want her to know at that moment, like fuck them niggas,
Speaker 1: like you good, you're great, You're great at what you do.
Speaker 1: Falck them niggas, because that's what I would tell my daughter.
Speaker 3: I was gonna say that that is children. That is
Speaker 3: how he talks to our kids.
Speaker 8: Like when when that When I was watching, that's what
Speaker 8: it didn't occur to me, Like like when I was watching,
Speaker 8: I'm like, that's how you would talk to mad Yeah,
Speaker 8: that's why.
Speaker 4: It wasn't the comments. But I was feeling a lot
Speaker 4: for her. There were so many thoughts in my head
Speaker 4: because you know, I was one of those like, oh,
Speaker 4: I hope that gets to be on the breakfast club too,
Speaker 4: and I know y'all love her. I remember talking about
Speaker 4: like oh, it's I think, yeah, but Yeah, that was
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