WEBVTT - He Said Preguntas? 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:04.000 This is, he said, a ya viho with Eric Winter 0:00:04.120 --> 0:00:10.160 and Rosalind Fantaz. All right, welcome to another episode of 0:00:10.280 --> 0:00:13.000 he said, he said, and this should be the last, 0:00:13.039 --> 0:00:15.320 he said. He said. By the way, my wife Roslyin. 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:18.120 We'll be back in town here once we start taping 0:00:18.160 --> 0:00:21.240 our new episodes next month. But this one is actually 0:00:21.280 --> 0:00:24.880 gonna air when I'm finally reunited with my wife and 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:27.760 the families all together. We're gonna be traveling to Budapest here. 0:00:28.000 --> 0:00:29.680 She's having a great time on her movie. It's been 0:00:29.760 --> 0:00:33.080 going awesome and we're excited. We're excited to get out 0:00:33.080 --> 0:00:35.800 there now. The funny thing is, I'm not I'm traveling solo, 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:39.839 two kids international. It's gonna be an adventure, you know. 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:41.680 Roslin was freaking out. Good, I think you need to 0:00:41.720 --> 0:00:43.360 take Delmi with you. I think you need to take 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:44.959 del Me. I was like, look, I don't think we're 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:47.520 gonna need Delmia. I'm fine. The kids are old enough 0:00:47.520 --> 0:00:51.320 now they can help. I got it under control. I'm 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:53.640 not nervous. She's more nervous than I am. But it 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:56.720 is gonna be something wild. It's a long trip, long flight, 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:00.320 but I'm looking forward to it. You know, the the 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:03.680 kids have experienced this type of a flight once before 0:01:03.720 --> 0:01:05.679 when Rose was doing the Latin Grammys and they did 0:01:05.720 --> 0:01:09.560 great this one. Yeah, I think it's so fun that 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:11.840 they get to have this kind of an experience, you know, 0:01:11.880 --> 0:01:14.280 with me traveling and that's in an experience of itself, 0:01:14.319 --> 0:01:16.800 but then getting to go overseas again being in Europe 0:01:17.440 --> 0:01:18.880 at this age. I never got to do any of 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:22.240 this when I was their age, we weren't in that 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:24.640 kind of a position to take those kinds of trips. 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:27.400 I did travel, you know, locally and things like that 0:01:27.480 --> 0:01:30.120 to visit family, but never got to do this type 0:01:30.120 --> 0:01:32.240 of stuff. And I'm really looking forward to what this 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:34.320 new adventure is going to bring. Sabella has been in 0:01:34.440 --> 0:01:37.280 DC all this past week, funny enough, and so she's 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:39.959 coming back and then we take off again. So this 0:01:40.000 --> 0:01:42.240 is going to be this is going to be exciting, 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:45.160 something new. I'm not stressed, Rosalind, you need to relax. 0:01:45.319 --> 0:01:49.120 It's going to be okay. I'm excited for Budapest. I've 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:51.120 never been in Paris. I had been to before when 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:53.280 in my twenties I lived over in Europe for probably 0:01:54.240 --> 0:01:56.960 maybe it was six months. So I feel like I'm 0:01:57.000 --> 0:02:00.880 a pretty savvy traveler. I've done it, in my opinion, 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:02.480 like sort of with the locals, And back then it 0:02:02.520 --> 0:02:05.080 was no there were no even like phones weren't even 0:02:05.080 --> 0:02:06.800 a thing. I was dealing with, just maps. I had 0:02:06.800 --> 0:02:09.480 no way of calling an uber or do any of that. 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:13.680 Was take a take a bus, take the subway, or 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:15.800 just walk everywhere. And I have a lot of my 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:19.120 old maps from traveling of navigating everywhere i'd go, making 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:21.560 little marks on tourist sites i'd go see. But I 0:02:21.600 --> 0:02:23.840 was also there, you know, modeling at times I was working, 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:27.440 and it helped me get acclimated to the scene of 0:02:27.440 --> 0:02:29.600 the different locations. So we were going to be in 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:32.360 Paris after Budapest, and I think that's going to be 0:02:32.480 --> 0:02:35.200 a very cool experience for the kids, especially because Sebbi's 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:39.160 taken French this year in school. I think it's gonna 0:02:39.160 --> 0:02:40.760 be it's gonna be cool for her to sort of 0:02:41.760 --> 0:02:43.520 be in the culture and be in the environment of 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:46.640 everything she's been studying recently. So a couple of weeks 0:02:46.800 --> 0:02:49.320 we'll be gone and this will be airing, which I'm 0:02:49.320 --> 0:02:51.360 excited about. So this episode, we're gonna do more audience 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:58.359 questions let me go and start with the first one here. Hi, guys, 0:02:58.480 --> 0:03:00.799 I don't know if you'll ever this, well, we were 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:03.400 reading it, so you got that. Love you bull so much. 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:06.560 I'm currently studying in med school in Wales and would 0:03:06.600 --> 0:03:08.799 like to become a paramedic. My question is to Eric, 0:03:09.280 --> 0:03:12.160 I would love to know how was your experience in 0:03:12.160 --> 0:03:14.840 med school? Did you enjoy it and what inspired you? 0:03:15.280 --> 0:03:18.040 What skill from school do you use the most. So 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:20.160 I never actually went to med school, let me tell 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:22.800 you that I'm glad that you are in med school 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:25.760 as we speak. I was pre med at the time 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:29.160 at UCLA, a psycho biology major, and I wanted to 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:32.240 go into sports medicine, mainly because I played sports my 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:33.800 whole life. I thought it was something I could really 0:03:34.400 --> 0:03:36.520 get into be passionate about, and it was I wanted 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:39.840 to help athletes and that was personal to me in 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:42.400 that regard, so I'd say that's what inspired me. My 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:45.200 experience in school was great up until the point of 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:48.360 when I got into this business, and it wasn't that 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:51.160 that school became less fun. It's just I didn't have 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:53.760 time anymore. I started traveling so much. I was doing 0:03:53.840 --> 0:03:56.880 jobs and I couldn't explain to my teachers like, hey, 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:59.000 I'm going to miss this lab practical I'm not going 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:01.760 to be able to take these exams because I'm shooting, 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:04.680 you know, a campaign in Italy. And they were not 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:08.280 thrilled about that. So my grades started to quickly decline 0:04:08.360 --> 0:04:11.560 because I wasn't present for anything. And then I dropped 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:15.560 out of college and went back to college, partly just 0:04:15.600 --> 0:04:18.839 to have that completion for myself, but also my parents, 0:04:18.839 --> 0:04:22.120 who you know, helped me so much financially and was 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:26.359 support getting me that far at UCLA, and I finally 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:29.200 got my degree in psychology. So as far as skills 0:04:29.200 --> 0:04:31.240 that I used the most, I would probably just say 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:36.240 general psychology to be honest, which is a broad term. 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:38.799 You know, studying psychology is very broad unless you actually 0:04:38.880 --> 0:04:41.680 go into the field and get a doctorate. But I 0:04:41.680 --> 0:04:44.760 would say just my way of navigating people and communication 0:04:45.040 --> 0:04:47.520 and stuff like that are probably the skills I took 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:49.960 away the most from college. You know. I know, to 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:53.320 this day, I definitely don't remember anything in my calculus 0:04:53.360 --> 0:04:56.720 based physics or any of my math. None of that 0:04:57.000 --> 0:05:02.120 was something I took away with that set on you 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:03.440 know what I mean, Like that where it's really going 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:06.080 to help me in the future. So that was my 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:11.840 college life. It was very you know, unique in that fact, 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:15.160 and not normal by any means for somebody who has 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:18.000 a college life. I didn't walk when I graduated. I 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:20.680 just got a diploma sent the mail. So that's my 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:23.080 college experience as my story. But keep up the good work. 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:26.800 I'm stoked. I actually funny enough, when I stopped acting, 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:28.039 at a period of time, I talked about this. I 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:30.240 wanted to be a firefighter paramedic. So you and I 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:32.080 are kind of on a similar journey. Just don't become 0:05:32.120 --> 0:05:35.599 an actor and you'll live out what I wanted to do. Okay, 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:40.120 next question. Sorry, I'm still battling a cold. Everybody, Eric 0:05:40.160 --> 0:05:42.720 and Roz love the podcast. I listen every week here 0:05:42.760 --> 0:05:45.839 in Australia. Would love for you to have Makeiah on 0:05:45.960 --> 0:05:48.200 as a guest. I love Maka and hear all about 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:51.599 her dance journey before acting. Is that something you would consider. 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:55.200 Definitely would love to have Makiah back on. We had 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:57.120 her once with Alyssa, but I would love to talk 0:05:57.160 --> 0:06:00.000 to Micheah personally more about her experiences dancing with Michael Jackson, 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:03.640 her experiences. You know, she went to school for dance. 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:07.400 It's uh, you know, specializing in being a performing arts 0:06:07.400 --> 0:06:11.279 and all that. And she has a very cool life journey. 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:13.560 You know, met her now husband in college and they've 0:06:13.600 --> 0:06:16.039 been together that whole time. And we'll be a fun 0:06:16.040 --> 0:06:17.719 person to have on and chat with. So I will 0:06:17.720 --> 0:06:20.960 definitely look to do that. Also, you wrote looking forward 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:24.440 to Palm Republic being international. I can't wait until Palm 0:06:24.480 --> 0:06:30.200 is an international spirit. Thank you regarding the bottle and 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:33.360 everything else, we appreciate it. We the Palm support has 0:06:33.520 --> 0:06:40.000 been incredible from everyone, you know, stateside and also overseas, 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:42.400 and at some point we will be able. We're expanding 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:44.599 here in the States as we speak, and at some 0:06:44.640 --> 0:06:47.320 point we will make the international jump. And to remind 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:49.200 people that are going to be in Paris for the 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:51.360 for the con that I'm going to in May, I 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:55.680 will be being bringing Palm merch shirts, hats, I'll have 0:06:55.720 --> 0:06:59.200 some bracelets. You have to bring cash. According to the convention, 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:01.039 that's the only way that we could we could do 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:03.120 the sales. So I'm sure it'll be in Euros, but 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:06.280 just kind of gauge what we're doing on the website 0:07:06.279 --> 0:07:10.520 price wise, and we'll have it marked there what you 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:13.880 can buy and for how much. But looking forward to 0:07:13.920 --> 0:07:16.760 getting that merch international so people can even be more 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:21.080 aware of Palmer Republic. With everybody's support, all right, next 0:07:21.400 --> 0:07:26.200 question slash comment here Antonella from Milan, Italy. I love Milan, 0:07:26.320 --> 0:07:27.720 by the way, I lived in Milan for a period 0:07:27.720 --> 0:07:29.520 of time when I was modeling. I've been there a 0:07:29.560 --> 0:07:32.160 few times. You don't really have a question. You just 0:07:32.200 --> 0:07:33.760 wanted to tell that you and tell us that you 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:37.400 enjoyed the podcast. You came to know it not too 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:40.840 long ago after a new episode. After each new episode, 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:42.680 while waiting for the next one, you get you you're 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:45.600 loving the show. You try to catch the old episodes 0:07:45.600 --> 0:07:47.800 and catch up, which we appreciate you guys listening back. 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:50.440 That's always important. I think you know listen, every episode 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:52.960 stands alone, but there is a lot to our life 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:57.160 journey that's portrayed in previous episodes. You have a daughter 0:07:57.160 --> 0:08:00.480 about the same age as ours, living in the same moments, 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:04.600 moments and emotions as a parent, which I feel you. 0:08:04.680 --> 0:08:06.680 I get it. I know we were living the same 0:08:06.680 --> 0:08:12.000 life for sure. You're terrorized thinking about her dating someone 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:14.400 you know, a boyfriend, and you would like to thank 0:08:14.480 --> 0:08:17.440 us for opening up our life as parents and family. 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:20.160 We appreciate you, thank you for sharing all that. I'll 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:22.240 tell you a little funny story and this is again 0:08:22.320 --> 0:08:23.920 goes back to dating. My daughter, Like I said, is 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:27.800 in DC right now on a school trip, and then 0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:31.680 texts me to let me know that she got hit 0:08:31.760 --> 0:08:35.400 on by a boy from another school randomly. You know, 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:37.720 all these schools are there at the same time, going 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:40.360 to the same sites, doing this trip, which I did 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:43.280 as a teenager as well and junior high. And some 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:45.160 boy's friend came up to her and said, Hey, my 0:08:45.640 --> 0:08:48.400 my friend thinks you're hot or cute. I forgot the 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:52.280 term they used. Are you into him? And I was like, 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:56.800 oh my god. This was day one in DC. Different school. 0:08:57.120 --> 0:08:59.760 Didn't get a number, They didn't exchange that I know of. 0:08:59.840 --> 0:09:02.840 I hope they did not. I hope she never ran 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:06.240 into them again. But that would be a nightmare some 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:09.800 other kid exchanging numbers, which we couldn't do when I 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:12.079 was that age. You just you could exchange an address 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:14.439 and mail a letter to each other, or a house 0:09:14.480 --> 0:09:18.480 phone number. But I'll find out if she actually got 0:09:18.520 --> 0:09:20.280 this kid's number and they ran into each other again. 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:23.480 But that's just kind of stuff that we're navigating right now, 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:26.160 which is so wild but so normal at the same time. 0:09:26.920 --> 0:09:30.079 So lots of love to you Antonella in Italy and 0:09:30.320 --> 0:09:31.840 I wish you the very best. Thank you again for 0:09:31.880 --> 0:09:35.720 your support, and I will tell you with this podcast, 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:38.800 the international community has been huge. We have listeners from 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:41.440 all over the world. And I know it starts often 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:44.080 from the rookie and that's what brings listeners in. But 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:45.880 the fact that you all have stayed with us this long, 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:49.040 You've continued to tune in episode after episode or like 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:51.760 an Antonella's case, even gone back in episodes, it means 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:54.080 so much to Roz and I. We do this podcast 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:58.199 out of love and we enjoy sharing our life's journey 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:00.720 and talking with guests, but also sharing what we go 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:03.600 through on a regular basis as humans, you know, as 0:10:03.679 --> 0:10:07.640 parents navigating life and as a couple. So thank you everybody. 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:12.160 Kathy on Instagram. What challenges in your career have shaped 0:10:12.200 --> 0:10:14.760 you into the actor you have become. That's a great 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:20.360 question and I will say, look, we face challenges daily 0:10:20.400 --> 0:10:23.400 as actors in this business. It's getting harder and harder 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:25.719 to get work and it's not just getting work, it's 0:10:25.760 --> 0:10:28.400 steady work, making a living at doing what we do. 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:33.520 And I think the biggest challenges hah, not being so 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:36.439 sensitive or taking everything so personal, because we are in 0:10:36.480 --> 0:10:39.880 a business that is so subjective, right, I am having 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:42.880 to be told by somebody else if I'm good enough 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:45.880 or if I'm worthy in a sense of a job. 0:10:45.920 --> 0:10:49.160 And often what I've learned being on the production side 0:10:49.200 --> 0:10:51.400 of it is it's not about if I'm good enough, 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:54.040 it's not about if I'm worthy. I'm just not right. 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:58.960 It's almost if you can imagine you're looking for a 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:01.640 new piece of art, doesn't have to be expensive, just 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:04.320 a piece of art for your house. And you go 0:11:04.320 --> 0:11:07.280 into a store and there are a bunch of art 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:09.480 hanging on the wall. Right, there's a bunch of art, 0:11:09.720 --> 0:11:13.000 and you pick one out of fifty pieces of art 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:15.520 because that's what resonates with you the most, and that's 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:19.600 what fits your home. And that's what having a TV 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:21.720 show or a movie is. That's the home of the 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:25.200 writer or the director, and they need to find each 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:28.320 piece of art that is going to make their home complete. 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:32.040 And once I've started to accept that that it's not 0:11:32.120 --> 0:11:36.400 a personal you know notion. Every single time someone says 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:39.640 you're not the guy that is strictly, they're trying to 0:11:39.679 --> 0:11:41.240 find the right piece of art for their home and 0:11:41.280 --> 0:11:43.080 I just wasn't the one for that day. But somebody 0:11:43.120 --> 0:11:45.240 will buy me at some point, somebody will choose me 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:49.040 to represent their movie or their TV show, And I 0:11:49.080 --> 0:11:52.439 think that's been the challenge, is balancing that mentally. And 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:55.880 even as a producer, we deal with this. You spend 0:11:55.920 --> 0:11:58.600 so much time in development making no money. It's all 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:01.760 sweat equity, and even if you sell something, only the 0:12:01.800 --> 0:12:04.280 writer gets paid to write. As a producer, you're still 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:07.200 just putting in sweat equity and you're waiting for a 0:12:07.280 --> 0:12:10.240 network to buy you and pick you up to a 0:12:10.280 --> 0:12:14.680 series because youre what fits their home. Uh. It's the 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:17.520 hardest part about being in this business. So we've talked 0:12:17.520 --> 0:12:18.960 a lot about this. I don't want to beat this up, 0:12:19.000 --> 0:12:23.880 but that's just something that's been difficult to navigate. Okay, 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:27.120 Trey on Instagram. We have kids that are eight and five, 0:12:27.240 --> 0:12:29.520 and my wife and I are not finding the time 0:12:29.559 --> 0:12:32.520 to have sex. I get it from a male perspective. 0:12:32.559 --> 0:12:34.160 Do you think it is better to try to put 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:38.240 time aside or do spontaneous daytime quickies feel more romantic 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:41.360 and fun? Being discreet around the kids is a challenge 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:45.800 for us. Any advice, I this is a tough and 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:50.920 very real question and very honest answer. Spontane eighty to 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:55.000 me is always way better, whether it's during the day, 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:59.520 whether it's just spontaneous at night. To me, that is 0:13:00.640 --> 0:13:05.320 so much more fun and special and intimate versus feeling 0:13:05.320 --> 0:13:07.760 like it's put in the calendar and it's something we're 0:13:07.800 --> 0:13:12.000 just checking off the list now to that, you know, 0:13:12.080 --> 0:13:15.079 other side of the story to the defense, Sometimes it's 0:13:15.080 --> 0:13:17.079 what you gotta do. Sometimes you got to plan a 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:18.839 date night. And if you can make the plan for 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:21.040 a date night, whether it's dinner at home after the 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:23.280 kids go to bed, or it's going out to dinner, 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:26.760 that should be a night that would lead to something more, 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:30.840 some more intimacy and in a way you're planning without planning. 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:33.480 Like to me, to put sex in the calendar and 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:36.640 be like, we need to have sex every Wednesday. Take 0:13:36.720 --> 0:13:39.079 some of the fun out of it. Still necessary if 0:13:39.080 --> 0:13:41.679 that's the only option, but I would like to plan 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:45.280 in a roundabout way, you know, something not so on 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:47.839 the nose which is, let's plan a date night where 0:13:47.840 --> 0:13:51.319 we're gonna go talk, have dinner, celebrated, you know, our 0:13:51.360 --> 0:13:53.520 love for each other, spend time with each other, which 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:56.840 should ultimately lead to intimacy. But yes, you do have 0:13:56.880 --> 0:14:00.440 to make the time eight and five those ages, it's tough. 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:02.640 You're all in. I mean, actually I have a thirteen 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:05.040 year old. You're still all in. You're busy all the time, 0:14:05.080 --> 0:14:07.480 and the older they get, the later they go to bed, 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:11.160 so everything has to start later and you're tired. Make 0:14:11.200 --> 0:14:15.080 the time super important to me. It is essential and 0:14:15.160 --> 0:14:17.800 keeping a healthy marriage. So I wish you guys the best. 0:14:18.520 --> 0:14:21.720 Do whatever suit you both. If scheduling it doesn't bother 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:25.080 either of you, schedule it. If spontaneity is what matters 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:27.800 to both of you, be spontaneous. If you guys are 0:14:27.800 --> 0:14:32.200 split on this, shake it up sometimes schedule sometimes be spontaneous. 0:14:32.200 --> 0:14:43.440 But it takes both of you to put in that work. McKee, 0:14:43.600 --> 0:14:46.600 I hope I say that correctly from Instagram. What is 0:14:46.640 --> 0:14:51.040 the biggest culture shock you have enter you have ever? 0:14:51.120 --> 0:14:58.080 I think encountered while filming or traveling. Biggest shock? That's 0:14:58.120 --> 0:15:02.640 a tough question. I go into most places filming I 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:04.600 wouldn't say I have been anywhere where it's been a 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:09.840 culture shock that I can think of traveling. I've been 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:12.280 to a bunch of places. I mean all over the world. 0:15:13.120 --> 0:15:17.280 I go into every place very open minded, excited. I 0:15:17.400 --> 0:15:21.160 like to sort of I hate to be a quote 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:23.400 unquote even though I'm going to be a tourist, I 0:15:23.400 --> 0:15:25.880 don't want to stand out as a tourist. I don't 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:28.760 want to stand out as a typical American sort of 0:15:28.800 --> 0:15:35.640 not trying to understand the culture, not trying to be 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:40.320 in with everybody present. So I try to, you know, 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:43.640 I try to get in with the local culture. So 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:46.280 when I say culture shock, I mean this lightly. It's 0:15:46.480 --> 0:15:48.840 different than what I'm used to. But I don't go, 0:15:48.960 --> 0:15:51.280 oh my god, I can't make this work. I feel 0:15:51.320 --> 0:15:54.240 so out of place. This is uncomfortable, the food, this that, 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:59.240 the other. Yeah, So I wouldn't say there's a specific 0:16:00.560 --> 0:16:02.920 Southeast Asia was very different from me in a lot 0:16:02.920 --> 0:16:09.520 of ways. Loved it though, being in Thailand. Philippines. Absolutely 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:10.880 loved it because I know a lot of friends here 0:16:10.880 --> 0:16:13.240 in the States, so it was fun. I had had 0:16:13.280 --> 0:16:15.400 a lot of food similar in the States, too, so 0:16:15.440 --> 0:16:19.800 that was fun to explore and be there personally. Yeah, 0:16:19.800 --> 0:16:22.520 I don't know a and oh, you know, I will 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:25.640 say this. I went into a USO tour and I 0:16:25.680 --> 0:16:30.360 went to Afghanistan, Pakistan was Bekistan, I think it was, 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:33.120 and the United Arab Emirates. Now I didn't get to 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:34.800 go into many of the cities. I did go in 0:16:34.920 --> 0:16:37.560 z Pakistan in the town there, I did do some 0:16:37.600 --> 0:16:39.760 of that, and that was a bit of a you know, 0:16:39.800 --> 0:16:43.240 culture shock. It was very different. But I loved seeing 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:47.239 how everybody lived and being you know, in the company 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:49.520 of everyone being present. So it was it was a 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:57.160 lot of fun. Laura on Instagram. In your episode with Maury, 0:16:57.880 --> 0:17:01.440 you guys spoke about people giving advice they don't take themselves. 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:03.680 Which one of the sides do you fall on? And 0:17:03.760 --> 0:17:06.600 any advice for me as a person who gives but 0:17:06.760 --> 0:17:09.720 cannot take it all the time? All take it all 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:18.560 and drives my partner crazy. I often give advice to 0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:21.480 my friends, family, and I don't always follow that advice 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:24.000 for sure, But I'm very aware of the fact that 0:17:24.040 --> 0:17:26.479 I don't do that all the time, so I try 0:17:26.520 --> 0:17:31.320 super hard to stop reflect remember my own advice, and 0:17:31.359 --> 0:17:35.040 I try to follow it. That is true even just 0:17:35.640 --> 0:17:38.199 a discussion Rozon and I had the other day, long distance, 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:42.119 going over something. I had to step back, try to 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:45.960 be present, understand her perspective and what I want in 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:50.120 return and what I also and hear her out, which 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:53.560 is something I would preach to somebody else. So, as 0:17:53.600 --> 0:17:56.880 somebody yourself who often wants to give advice but doesn't 0:17:56.880 --> 0:17:59.640 always want to take it, you have to pause. You 0:17:59.720 --> 0:18:04.600 have to give time. You have to be quiet. When 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:07.080 people start to argue or get into a debate or 0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:10.399 a situation, personally, you kick into fight or flight, and 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:12.680 immediately you often you want to retaliate or you want 0:18:12.680 --> 0:18:15.359 to either want to run from the conversation or you 0:18:15.400 --> 0:18:17.680 want to retaliate and you want to fight. You've got 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:19.320 to find a way to calm and quiet the brain 0:18:19.760 --> 0:18:22.959 and be neutral, hear out your partner, and then you 0:18:23.000 --> 0:18:26.120 have to be able to as respectfully as possible, share 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:28.520 your side and hope that they will reciprocate and hear 0:18:28.560 --> 0:18:31.800 you out. So it takes a lot of practice, a 0:18:31.800 --> 0:18:35.760 lot of work. But to Mary's point and to what 0:18:35.800 --> 0:18:38.600 you're saying, yes, I kind of fall in the middle. 0:18:39.320 --> 0:18:41.440 I'm not a person that just gives advice and never 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:43.480 takes my own advice. I do take my own advice 0:18:43.520 --> 0:18:45.560 at times, but it takes a lot of work, and 0:18:45.560 --> 0:18:48.399 I have to remember to be quiet and be patient 0:18:48.440 --> 0:18:53.520 and listen. I hope that helps Laura. All right, Sally, 0:18:53.800 --> 0:18:56.800 I hope I said that correctly. The validation addiction conversation 0:18:56.920 --> 0:18:59.080 was really good. I want to have it with my children. 0:18:59.119 --> 0:19:01.119 I actually all the same. I want more to talk 0:19:01.160 --> 0:19:04.200 to my daughter. Funny enough, any suggestions on how to 0:19:04.240 --> 0:19:06.639 start that conversation. How do you do it with your kids? 0:19:08.119 --> 0:19:10.640 You know, I don't know that there's a great way 0:19:10.680 --> 0:19:13.600 to start it. I think it's about sitting down and saying, hey, 0:19:13.600 --> 0:19:15.480 I heard this podcast episode. I'd love you to listen 0:19:15.520 --> 0:19:17.639 to it. I'd love to talk to you about something 0:19:17.640 --> 0:19:19.800 that I learned because I think it could be beneficial 0:19:19.840 --> 0:19:23.800 for you and your growth as a young person. I 0:19:23.840 --> 0:19:25.480 want more to talk to my daughter, I really do, 0:19:25.560 --> 0:19:27.479 when it comes to sports and when it comes to school, 0:19:28.720 --> 0:19:33.800 and also just her appreciating herself. You know, you don't 0:19:33.920 --> 0:19:36.359 have to get validation from everyone. It's one of the 0:19:36.400 --> 0:19:38.640 reasons I keep my daughter off of social media. I'll 0:19:38.680 --> 0:19:41.000 be honest. A lot of her friends have social media, 0:19:41.040 --> 0:19:47.159 but I don't want her chasing comments or again. On 0:19:47.200 --> 0:19:49.880 social media, everybody paints the best picture of themselves, right 0:19:49.920 --> 0:19:54.639 They're They're constantly pushing for validation with what they post, 0:19:55.080 --> 0:19:57.000 and I don't want her to think that's real life 0:19:57.040 --> 0:20:01.840 because nobody shares their their downs, their negatives. Everybody shares 0:20:01.880 --> 0:20:05.480 their ups and their positive So if your child is 0:20:05.520 --> 0:20:07.480 on social media, you definitely want to have that conversation. 0:20:07.520 --> 0:20:11.119 I feel like, don't chase validation on social media. It's 0:20:11.520 --> 0:20:14.960 completely false and the worst place to do it. But 0:20:15.000 --> 0:20:17.960 I would probably just start by maybe asking your child 0:20:18.000 --> 0:20:22.920 if they would listen to the episode, or just you 0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:24.879 can buy Morey's book see if there's a way to 0:20:24.880 --> 0:20:27.160 explain it better. But I would just open up a dialogue, 0:20:27.640 --> 0:20:30.640 take your kid out to dinner, have a conversation. That's 0:20:30.680 --> 0:20:32.320 the best. I think you got to be open and 0:20:32.320 --> 0:20:39.200 transparent for sure, Tanya. What is harder to shoot scripted 0:20:39.280 --> 0:20:41.600 series like The Rookie or a daytime soap like Days 0:20:41.640 --> 0:20:47.600 of Our Lives. They both have their own unique challenges. 0:20:47.840 --> 0:20:51.360 I'll be honest. Daytime soap you get tons of dialogue, 0:20:51.880 --> 0:20:54.840 you do an episode a day. Obviously you're not in 0:20:54.880 --> 0:20:57.240 every scene in that episode, but it's a ton of dialogue. 0:20:57.440 --> 0:21:01.160 You're working NonStop and you have to memorize a lot 0:21:01.160 --> 0:21:02.400 and you have to hit your mark and you get 0:21:02.840 --> 0:21:06.200