WEBVTT - From Our Inbox to Your Ears 0:00:01.120 --> 0:00:05.000 Well, guys, welcome, welcome to nice show, your show. This 0:00:05.160 --> 0:00:08.600 is Exactly Amada and I am your girl, Amada Lanegra. 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:11.160 Thank you so much for listening. This is a production 0:00:11.240 --> 0:00:13.840 of iHeart Don't Forget. To give us those five stars 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:17.320 and subscribe to the podcast on your favorite podcast platform 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:20.280 and head over to our YouTube channel, where you will 0:00:20.320 --> 0:00:23.040 be able to watch or listen to the podcast by 0:00:23.040 --> 0:00:25.920 searching for my QUI fut up podcasts and clicking on 0:00:25.960 --> 0:00:28.760 Exactly Amada. I am glad that you're tuning in today, 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:32.640 because today I am going to be making this episode 0:00:32.680 --> 0:00:36.519 real fun, real exciting. You know that we love to 0:00:36.520 --> 0:00:40.360 talk about other things on this show, from sex education, 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:44.320 to finances, to parenthood, to whatever it is that you 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:46.800 want to talk about. I'm always down to listen. I'm 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:49.360 always down to read it out and actually come up 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:53.000 with a podcast that I can actually dedicate to you. 0:00:53.680 --> 0:00:56.560 So I have a whole bunch of dms, a ton 0:00:56.560 --> 0:00:59.120 of dms asking me different things, and today I just 0:00:59.120 --> 0:01:01.080 want to sit down and answer them for you. Okay, 0:01:01.080 --> 0:01:04.800 are you guys ready? All right? Here goes one of 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:06.959 the things that someone hit me up. I will say 0:01:06.959 --> 0:01:09.640 who it is, so you know, I'll be discreet one. 0:01:09.880 --> 0:01:13.840 Can you share your journey of entering the entertainment industry 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:18.880 and how it has shaped your life as a single mother. Why? Actually, 0:01:18.959 --> 0:01:22.960 I feel that growing up in the entertainment industry has 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:26.840 shaped me into being a better mother because or by 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:31.000 just my work ethic. I think that I've been very 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:34.440 driven my whole life because also coming up as a 0:01:34.440 --> 0:01:38.000 beauty pageant baby, I learned to be very competitive by nature. 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:41.240 So I'm always looking to be better. I'm always looking 0:01:41.240 --> 0:01:44.000 for the next challenge. I'm always looking to how can 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:46.680 I perfect my craft? And as a mother, I think 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:48.680 that I'm always looking as well on how to become 0:01:48.680 --> 0:01:51.840 a better mother. How can I balance out being a 0:01:51.880 --> 0:01:55.400 mother and my job. I never see as anything being impossible. 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:59.320 I always just try to figure other ways of doing things, 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:03.360 because that's basically how it is in the entertainment industry. 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:06.320 There's no one straight line into making it. You know. 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:08.639 I've had to work on radio, I've had to work 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:11.320 on TV. I've had to work on a thousand things. 0:02:11.360 --> 0:02:14.200 Even though my passion has always been being on stage 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:16.239 and being a performer and being an artist and doing 0:02:16.320 --> 0:02:19.840 music is really my biggest dream, My biggest goal, my drive, 0:02:20.000 --> 0:02:23.640 But you have to be prepared to get prepared in 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:26.520 many different avenues and you just never know what the 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:28.880 future is going to throw at you. The same thing 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:30.800 with motherhood. You know, I definitely wasn't prepared to be 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:32.960 a mother at this moment in my life, in my career, 0:02:33.360 --> 0:02:36.200 but it's here, it came, and I'm doing the best 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:37.760 that I can and I think I'm doing a pretty 0:02:37.800 --> 0:02:39.880 good job at it. And then that's just part of life. 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:43.480 You learn as you go along. I'm definitely grateful that 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:45.679 I was able to grow up doing what I love 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:49.519 because thanks to the effort, the discipline and other things 0:02:49.560 --> 0:02:52.240 that I did growing up, I am able to be 0:02:52.760 --> 0:02:54.800 where I am today and I've been able to succeed, 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:58.560 and I pray to God I'm able to implement this drive, 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:00.880 this discipline, all the things that I learned, all the 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:03.360 things that I know to my girls growing up as well. 0:03:04.080 --> 0:03:07.960 They're already working, they're doing commercials, they're already on national TV, 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:10.320 they're on Love and Hip Hop as well. You know, 0:03:10.360 --> 0:03:13.000 their children's book is coming out, their clothing line is 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:16.200 coming out. I'm working on creating an empire for them 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:20.200 as well. Like I think I'm doing it right. I 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:21.960 think that I'm doing it and I hope that one 0:03:22.040 --> 0:03:25.080 day my girls are proud of me because only God 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:27.000 and I know all the hard work that I'm doing 0:03:27.360 --> 0:03:30.800 to make sure that they have an amazing future. So 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:33.880 I hope that that answered that. But here you go through. 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:38.560 We also have another question, DCSC I love to get DMS. 0:03:38.840 --> 0:03:42.320 What are some of the biggest challenges you face while 0:03:42.360 --> 0:03:46.520 raising twin girls while pursuing a career in the entertainment 0:03:46.560 --> 0:03:49.520 and how did you overcome them? Well, I haven't overcome 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:51.880 them one hundred percent because my babies are only one 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:55.520 years old. Hasn't been hard. It's been extremely hard. I 0:03:55.560 --> 0:03:59.200 am currently drinking coffee to stay up because I didn't 0:03:59.200 --> 0:04:02.760 get to sleep much night. My girls have also influenced 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:05.320 even my mother's health because my mom, you know, with 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:07.960 her age and other things that she has gone through 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:10.680 in her life, right, it affected her health. And now 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:13.040 that my girls are here, she doesn't sleep and not 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:15.720 sleeping has affected her that being and her nerves are 0:04:15.760 --> 0:04:18.240 going crazy. Minds are going crazy. But I'm young. I 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:20.720 can put it off, but it's not easy. The truth 0:04:20.720 --> 0:04:22.159 of the matter is that being a mother is not 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:26.640 easy overall, especially when you have you're an entrepreneur, or 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:29.599 you have a career that demands a lot of your body, 0:04:29.640 --> 0:04:33.840 your attention, your mental peace and all those things. It's 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:36.600 very difficult because everybody don't have anybody else to rely on. 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:41.000 My mother helps me, not as much as people would think. 0:04:41.600 --> 0:04:43.479 My mother does help me, but I just feel like 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:46.320 it's not necessarily her full responsibility to take care of 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:48.760 my children. And I never want to be that daughter 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:52.040 that just throws her kids to the grandparents, to her 0:04:52.040 --> 0:04:54.160 mother and just like take care of my kids. No, 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:56.640 I do my best to be there as much as 0:04:56.680 --> 0:04:59.599 I can. I travel with my children, I move around 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:02.800 with them. I think it's important also to have my 0:05:02.880 --> 0:05:04.719 girls with me because I never want them to grow 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:07.480 up feeling or thinking, mommy just left us to go 0:05:07.520 --> 0:05:10.760 to work. No, mommy took you to work. Yes, mommy 0:05:10.839 --> 0:05:12.800 was always working. But you were right beside her. You 0:05:12.839 --> 0:05:16.159 were right there. You saw her drive, the way that 0:05:16.240 --> 0:05:19.920 she worked, you saw her being there multitasking. I think 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:23.479 that it's very easy to just throw your kids to 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:27.640 somebody else and you go do you or go clubbing 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:30.279 or go having a good time. Sometimes you do need 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:32.520 it but at the end of the day, it is 0:05:32.600 --> 0:05:37.120 our responsibility, it's my responsibility, and I just do the 0:05:37.160 --> 0:05:40.000 best to multitask and manage it the best that I can. 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:42.880 Now what I'm doing mid Like Kim Baylah, right, I'm 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:45.600 doing the Spanish version of Dancing with the Stars, and 0:05:45.640 --> 0:05:50.400 I have six days of rehearsals, eight hours of rehearsals, 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:54.280 one day of life to tape, meaning that I that's 0:05:54.320 --> 0:05:57.839 my competition date, and then I do eight hours of 0:05:57.920 --> 0:06:01.040 intense dancing every day. And then at the same time, 0:06:01.080 --> 0:06:04.000 I'm currently also filming Love and Hip Hop the fifth season, 0:06:04.360 --> 0:06:06.400 and then I also have my podcast, and then I 0:06:06.440 --> 0:06:09.800 also have my realistic and then it so I have 0:06:09.960 --> 0:06:11.800 so many things going on, and then on top of 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:14.000 that being a mother, which is a twenty four hour job. 0:06:14.080 --> 0:06:17.240 There's no days off for that. It looks really good 0:06:17.240 --> 0:06:20.159 on social media, but it's very hard not to mention. 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:23.159 I just left to Mexico to do another TV show 0:06:23.520 --> 0:06:26.720 called Mavez Go check that out as well. And I'm 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:28.880 also working on my girls children book and clothing and 0:06:29.040 --> 0:06:31.599 all these things. I've had to create a team to 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:34.720 help me do all these things. And even though I 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:37.599 have a team for every project. I have a team. 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:39.920 I have Alex and or Lean form my podcast, which 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:42.960 I'm so grateful for, and I have Cassie and Maryland 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:45.200 for other things, and I have the But you're still 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:48.479 the boss. You're still the one who has to be 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:51.320 on top of every single project. You can just leave 0:06:51.360 --> 0:06:53.960 it to them. Sometimes I do, and then I feel 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:57.280 guilty for it, but it's hard. The one thing you 0:06:57.360 --> 0:07:00.240 can just let go is being a parent. It will 0:07:00.279 --> 0:07:02.560 be a parent twenty four hours, every single day of 0:07:02.600 --> 0:07:06.400 your life. So have I completely overcomed it? No? Well 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:09.440 I I don't think so. But I am glad to 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:10.880 be able to be on exactly. Am I not to 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:13.800 take you through my journey? Yeah? That's that's pretty much it. 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:16.200 I know it sounds like a lot, because it is. 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:19.240 But I love my girls, and I love motherhood and 0:07:19.280 --> 0:07:28.400 I love being part of this experience. Okay, here goes 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:30.640 into the DM. How did being a Love and hip 0:07:30.640 --> 0:07:34.400 hop impact your personal O, your personal and professional life? 0:07:34.520 --> 0:07:38.800 Were there any unexpected opportunities or challenges? Okay, so here 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:42.320 it goes love and hip hop, which I am so 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:46.200 grateful for because Love and hip Hop gave me an 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:50.600 amazing platform to gain a new fan base right the 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:53.640 American fan base, because I had come from being very Latina. 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:57.440 In the Latino market, everything was great. I've obviously always 0:07:57.440 --> 0:08:00.240 been ambitious and I wanted to try something else. I don't 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:02.280 want to gain more, honest maybe I want to go 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:05.880 into Brazil, maybe into Japan. Why not. There's a lot 0:08:05.920 --> 0:08:07.680 of people in the world. I think that sometimes we 0:08:07.720 --> 0:08:10.080 think that our world is so small, and the world 0:08:10.160 --> 0:08:13.080 really is so big. So I am grateful that love 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:15.240 and hip hop allowed me to gain a new fan 0:08:15.320 --> 0:08:17.200 base to listen to my music and get to know me. 0:08:17.320 --> 0:08:21.520 And obviously that brought me new opportunities, commercials, endorsements, meeting 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:24.960 new people, movies, all types of things. I'm grateful for that. 0:08:25.200 --> 0:08:28.040 I did put really a lot of hard work because 0:08:28.040 --> 0:08:30.240 I have to give myself credit. We don't give ourselves 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:33.200 enough credit for the things that we have accomplished because 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:35.400 a lot of people, even though you may be complaining, 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:37.040 a lot of people wish that they had your job. 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:39.120 A lot of people wish that they were in your place. 0:08:39.320 --> 0:08:43.959 Right there's always somebody right behind you trying to gain 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:47.040 and have the lifestyle that you have. So I'm grateful 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:49.800 for that. I think mean Si Wina. I've been pretty 0:08:49.800 --> 0:08:51.560 smart in the way that I've invested my money in 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:54.400 comparison to other people who have also been on the show, 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:57.760 and I've seen their journey who haven't been financially smart 0:08:57.800 --> 0:09:01.640 on how to not just spand and create this fake 0:09:01.720 --> 0:09:04.839 lifestyle of luxury, but a real one. So I am 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:09.120 grateful in the professional aspect, grateful on the personal aspect. 0:09:09.160 --> 0:09:12.080 It's been terrible, it's been trash. The worst decision I've 0:09:12.080 --> 0:09:15.640 ever done in my life has been putting my personal 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:20.880 love life on National TV, especially because I didn't have 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:24.440 the opportunity of controlling the narrative. We also have to 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:27.480 remember when we watch these shows, and this goes for 0:09:27.520 --> 0:09:31.960 every show, not just mine. It's reality TV. It's a 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:36.520 TV show, so everything has to be intensified. Things may 0:09:36.559 --> 0:09:40.120 not be as big, as grand, as serious as they 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:43.319 may seem, but because it also has to be entertaining 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:48.120 for people watching, it goes zero to a thousand. So 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:52.480 my personal relationship, I feel that maybe if I hadn't 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:56.160 exposed it, maybe I would have a personal relationship at 0:09:56.160 --> 0:10:00.680 this point. But because I made a decision of being 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:03.320 on this show and exposing a lot of things that 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:07.280 I don't think it was necessary. It affected my relationships 0:10:07.480 --> 0:10:10.600 from my first one, which was with MJ. We weren't gray, 0:10:10.640 --> 0:10:13.840 but we were so much better when we weren't on camera. 0:10:14.200 --> 0:10:16.240 Because it also allows people to feel as that they 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:19.000 can have opinions about your personal relationship and you know 0:10:19.040 --> 0:10:21.400 they'll see you out in the streets and have comments. 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:24.320 Imagine when you have issues with your partner in your household, 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:27.599 how annoying it is that your cousin, your mother, or 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:30.400 whoever it is, your friends know about it. Imagine the 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:33.280 whole world knowing about it. So that was bad the 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:35.560 father of my children. I should have not never I 0:10:35.640 --> 0:10:38.280 regret that so much. I should have never put in 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:42.240 on national TV because that also affected many things that 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:46.280 I wish would have been kept privately. So in my 0:10:46.360 --> 0:10:48.520 personal life it has not done me well at all, 0:10:48.600 --> 0:10:51.200 because it's very stressful to be filming these shows and 0:10:51.240 --> 0:10:54.640 knowing that you're gonna go film something that you may 0:10:54.679 --> 0:10:57.080 not want to because it's going to bring stress and drama. 0:10:57.480 --> 0:10:59.720 Even knowing the day before what you're gonna have to 0:10:59.760 --> 0:11:02.440 do that night, you may not sleep in peace. Like 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:07.720 I said before, of growth for my career, yes, challenges, Yes, 0:11:07.960 --> 0:11:11.079 TV shows producers. A lot of people may not want 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:13.560 to work with you when you're on these tep of 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:16.760 shows because they automatically expect you to be arguing and 0:11:16.800 --> 0:11:19.079 fighting and da da da, And sometimes you have to 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:23.959 explain that's me when I'm on that platform, but when 0:11:24.000 --> 0:11:26.959 I'm not working on those type of platforms, that's not 0:11:27.000 --> 0:11:29.920 necessarily neat. I don't move like that and react like that. 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:32.920 It's hard to explain it to people because a lot 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:35.880 of people can get so invested in what they see 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:39.240 on these shows that they do kind of forget that 0:11:39.280 --> 0:11:42.439 you have eight cameras in your face while you're doing it. 0:11:42.840 --> 0:11:45.679 It does get edited. I filmed this like maybe six 0:11:45.720 --> 0:11:48.560 months before you got to see it, so maybe if 0:11:48.559 --> 0:11:51.760 there was an issue six months later, we even forgot 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:55.400 that that even happened. But there's a lot that goes 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:57.760 to it. Like I said, I am extremely grateful for 0:11:57.800 --> 0:12:01.520 the opportunity for the platform, and I've learned a lot 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:04.000 from it. But it has this pros and it has 0:12:04.000 --> 0:12:11.920 his cons. Like everything in life, here's into the DM says, 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:15.959 As a songwriter, what inspires you to create music? Are 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:19.680 there any specific experiences or emotions that draw you upon 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:22.920 writing songs. So I'll say writing songs for me is 0:12:22.920 --> 0:12:26.160 a very difficult thing because I don't I have a 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:29.360 writer's camp or i'll have writers. I think I'm better 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:33.120 of an entertainer. I interpret better than I write, and 0:12:33.200 --> 0:12:36.080 when I have written, it usually always comes from a 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:41.640 space of depression, being sad, being heartbroken, or maybe when 0:12:41.679 --> 0:12:44.559 I am at my high where I feel the most 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:47.640 empowered and I feel the baddest bitch and I feel, 0:12:48.000 --> 0:12:50.240 you know, like I can conquer the world. As usually 0:12:50.520 --> 0:12:53.440 any of those two emotions. Before, I think it was 0:12:53.480 --> 0:12:55.760 a thing like I write my own raps, I write 0:12:55.760 --> 0:12:58.240 my own lyrics, I do my own thing. But I 0:12:58.280 --> 0:12:59.839 don't think it's like that. I think it's important to 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:02.360 understand and know that we're all born with different talents, 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:05.559 different abilities. One is able to sing, but the other 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:07.560 one is not able to write. One can write but 0:13:07.640 --> 0:13:10.520 can interpret. One can interpret but you may not have 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:13.520 you know, know charisma, or or you may not have 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:16.199 that it fact they're on stage, Like, I think it's 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:19.839 important to know it takes a team of people to 0:13:19.880 --> 0:13:23.679 create that hit song or to make that artist. Because 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:26.120 even when you look I am a big fan of Beyonce, 0:13:26.480 --> 0:13:28.280 you may look at one of her songs and there 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:32.160 is one hundred writers on this one song. One wrote 0:13:32.200 --> 0:13:35.160 and but the and the other one said, girl, yes, 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:37.400 you know what I'm saying. Like it takes a team 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:39.880 of people. I think that a lot of artists put 0:13:39.920 --> 0:13:42.080 a lot of pressure into trying to be this perfect 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:45.040 artist and just oh, I can write, it, can sing, 0:13:45.040 --> 0:13:47.400 I can engineer, I can produce, I can do this. No, 0:13:47.520 --> 0:13:51.160 it's okay to have a team. Listen, I'll sing, you write, 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:55.360 you produce, you engineer, mix and master you this and 0:13:55.400 --> 0:13:57.800 then we come together and we created this. I always 0:13:57.840 --> 0:14:00.240 want to do music that make people feel good. But 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:01.560 at the same time, I know that there's a lot 0:14:01.600 --> 0:14:03.840 of women and men that will be able to relate 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:06.200 with me. If I were to put out some songs 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:09.760 where I'm really talking about my current experiences. I would 0:14:09.840 --> 0:14:12.520 love to talk, you know, do a song about motherhood. 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:15.760 I would love to do a song about how it 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:20.400 feels to be betrayed, you know, in love and not 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:22.080 feeling like you can get back on your feet. But 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:24.560 then doing a song where I realized I am that 0:14:24.680 --> 0:14:27.640 bitch and life is good and here I am. So 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:30.680 I think in due time, I'll get back to it 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:34.160 all right. So here goes another one. Can you tell 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:38.600 us about a memorable moment or accomplishment in your career 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:42.000 as a songwriter that holds a special place in your heart. 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:45.600 I can talk about a special song. There's two special 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:48.640 songs for me, I would say that really were impactful 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:52.680 in my life and my career. One has to be I. 0:14:52.680 --> 0:14:54.800 I was my first hit, and if you've never heard it, 0:14:54.840 --> 0:14:59.360 go on YouTube and just write am al ayy i 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:03.080 eedia I got I. That was my first hit in 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:06.320 the Latin community. I got to tour all over Europe, 0:15:06.360 --> 0:15:11.080 all over Central America. It was the best experience of 0:15:11.160 --> 0:15:14.280 my life. It came with a lot of drama behind 0:15:14.360 --> 0:15:18.200 closed doors, but publicly it was a song that really 0:15:18.200 --> 0:15:22.040 gave me the opportunity of showcasing my artistry. That was 0:15:22.080 --> 0:15:25.400 a really big moment. It was a Residian fund Be 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:29.640 mixed with Dimbo. It was a big fusion and till 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:33.000 this day, the song has done very, very well. Then 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:36.080 here comes the song Insecure, which was my first song 0:15:36.640 --> 0:15:39.360 after being on Love and Hip Hop Loving about Miami 0:15:39.440 --> 0:15:42.440 my first season. It was completely different from everything anything 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:44.440 I've ever done before because it was like an R 0:15:44.480 --> 0:15:50.000 and B song ensues with like Caribbean influences, and it 0:15:50.040 --> 0:15:52.360 did very well. I love those two songs. In my 0:15:52.360 --> 0:15:54.480 whole career, I've done a lot of music. I've done 0:15:54.480 --> 0:15:56.160 a lot of music that has stayed in the studio, 0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:58.080 a lot of music that has been out and people 0:15:58.120 --> 0:16:00.280 didn't pay too much attention to a lot of music 0:16:00.360 --> 0:16:02.800 the people loved, because you have to be prepared for 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:05.920 whatever reaction it may be. But those were the two 0:16:05.960 --> 0:16:08.280 biggest songs that really hit my heart. Whenever I think 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:18.680 about my music and my career, definitely those two. I 0:16:18.720 --> 0:16:21.120 love you guys asking questions, I really live for this. 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:25.040 Any tips for other single parents trying to find balance, 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:29.160 of course, here's something I've learned. No matter how tired, 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:32.440 how exhausted I am, which is most of the time, 0:16:32.640 --> 0:16:34.920 I always try to find time for my girls. And 0:16:34.960 --> 0:16:36.720 when I say time for my girls, it's just to 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:39.200 be there without my phone, to just be present in 0:16:39.240 --> 0:16:43.320 that moment, in that space, create those those memories. And 0:16:43.960 --> 0:16:45.520 let's say, for example, if I know I had to 0:16:45.560 --> 0:16:47.920 film for Love and Hip Hop at two o'clock in 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:51.680 the afternoon. In the morning, I'll get an inflatable baby pool, 0:16:51.920 --> 0:16:54.400 pour water and put their baby suits and I'll just 0:16:54.440 --> 0:16:56.600 have them play in the water and I'm there. I'm 0:16:56.640 --> 0:17:00.640 taking pictures, videos, memories. I am present, watch them laugh 0:17:00.680 --> 0:17:02.680 and have a good time. If I have to go 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:05.480 to work whenever, I'll take some time to go to 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:07.879 Turkey Cheeth and play with them and be there, and 0:17:07.920 --> 0:17:10.960 I want to be present. We'll put music really loud 0:17:11.000 --> 0:17:14.480 in the house and I don't know, I'll grab them 0:17:14.480 --> 0:17:17.080 and I'll dance with them, and I just I want 0:17:17.160 --> 0:17:21.160 to be as present as I can, because everyone keeps 0:17:21.160 --> 0:17:24.560 telling me that this time flies by so fast. I 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:27.760 don't want to lose these moments. I missed the first 0:17:27.800 --> 0:17:31.560 steps because I was working, and that's okay, because that 0:17:31.640 --> 0:17:36.159 comes with having to be a hard working woman, a 0:17:36.160 --> 0:17:39.400 hard working woman that's building an empire for my children, 0:17:40.160 --> 0:17:43.600 having to be a single parent. It also comes with 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:46.119 not being able to be there for every special moment 0:17:46.440 --> 0:17:49.119 that at some points I feel guilty, but then I 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:52.439 remember that this is my journey. There's no guidebook on 0:17:52.480 --> 0:17:54.719 how to live your life, on how to be a 0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:57.760 perfect parent, and you just learn as you go along. 0:17:57.880 --> 0:18:00.520 I still do my best to take time out of 0:18:00.600 --> 0:18:03.560 my day every single day, whether it's in the morning 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:05.679 or whether it's at night, I'll read them a book 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:09.720 or or whatever. I just want to be present. And 0:18:09.760 --> 0:18:12.240 I think that also it comes with creating that habit 0:18:12.320 --> 0:18:15.760 of forcing yourself to be present, because if you just 0:18:15.800 --> 0:18:18.560 do it once in a while, you will even realize 0:18:18.560 --> 0:18:22.240 when your kids grew up and you weren't there every day. 0:18:22.240 --> 0:18:26.040 I forced myself to make some time to be there 0:18:26.119 --> 0:18:30.240 for them every day. So yeah, it doesn't matter how 0:18:30.280 --> 0:18:33.400 busy you are with life, with whatever, make time for 0:18:33.480 --> 0:18:36.800 your children because they will always remember that. And I'll 0:18:36.840 --> 0:18:39.800 say this, I remember growing up my mom was always working, 0:18:40.119 --> 0:18:42.320 but she was always working and I got to see it. 0:18:42.640 --> 0:18:45.040 She would take me with her, even if she put 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:47.399 me in a little corner with a chair and a 0:18:47.400 --> 0:18:50.680 book or whatever. She always made sure that I saw 0:18:50.720 --> 0:18:54.480 her working and I was present. So that's important. I'm 0:18:54.480 --> 0:18:56.840 gonna answer these other ones kind of briefly because I 0:18:56.880 --> 0:18:58.680 know we don't have too much time, and I really 0:18:58.760 --> 0:19:01.119 enjoy being able to answer all these dms because I 0:19:01.160 --> 0:19:04.520 want to be there for you guys, and I want 0:19:04.560 --> 0:19:06.680 you to know that I am paying attention and I'm here. Okay, 0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:09.520 So here goes another one. As a single mother influenced 0:19:10.320 --> 0:19:13.560 the theme or message that you convey in your music. 0:19:14.000 --> 0:19:16.600 Not as of yet, Not as of yet, but I 0:19:16.640 --> 0:19:19.280 definitely feel that I should do one or two songs 0:19:19.320 --> 0:19:22.520 for all those single, beautiful, strong mothers out there doing 0:19:22.560 --> 0:19:25.560 what they got to do to make sure that their 0:19:25.600 --> 0:19:27.919 kids is good. So eventually I would love to do 0:19:27.960 --> 0:19:30.440 a song for my girls. Okay, so what are some 0:19:30.760 --> 0:19:34.600 misconception people made about your life in the entertainment industry 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:37.679 or being a single mother. They may definitely have a 0:19:37.680 --> 0:19:41.800 misconception that you're just out here living this luxurious life 0:19:41.800 --> 0:19:45.160 all day every day. In my case, it's not necessarily 0:19:45.200 --> 0:19:48.400 true because some days I wake up looking gomuna a loga, 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:50.679 you know what I mean, not sleeping, taking care of 0:19:50.720 --> 0:19:52.760 my kids. I'm a super regular girl when I'm in 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:58.119 the house in shan like like regular regular life. And 0:19:58.119 --> 0:19:59.840 then when you go out, I have the bougie on 0:20:00.080 --> 0:20:02.960 trays and food and just all that stuff. I think 0:20:02.960 --> 0:20:05.840 it's important to showcase the realness of who you are. 0:20:06.200 --> 0:20:08.879 I can be both. I'm not that all day. I 0:20:08.920 --> 0:20:12.359 think that social media has also made a lot of artists, celebrities, 0:20:12.440 --> 0:20:15.800 influencers fake sell this lifestyle that you live like this 0:20:15.920 --> 0:20:18.320 and you eat this every day, and you really don't. 0:20:18.640 --> 0:20:21.840 I think the people that are following all these influencers 0:20:21.840 --> 0:20:26.000 and stuff or artists whatever, celebrities should know most of 0:20:26.040 --> 0:20:30.040 it is a facade because we live the life that 0:20:30.080 --> 0:20:33.000 a lot of people wish that they could. So just 0:20:33.040 --> 0:20:35.840 don't believe everything that you see. Okay, I work really hard, 0:20:36.040 --> 0:20:38.000 You guys known because I talk to you all the time. 0:20:38.000 --> 0:20:40.640 I still haven't been able to get my love life together. Hopefully, 0:20:40.720 --> 0:20:44.040 now that I have downloaded this app Cheesebach and Raya 0:20:44.160 --> 0:20:46.040 and all these things, I might be able to finally 0:20:46.080 --> 0:20:48.640 find someone who knows And here goes the last one. 0:20:48.680 --> 0:20:52.359 Before I tap out, Can you share a funny or 0:20:52.600 --> 0:20:56.240 heartwarming story about your experience as a mother of twin 0:20:56.359 --> 0:21:00.920