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Speaker 1: any subject, email podcast at drangersmith dot com. We'll put

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Speaker 1: they really could be about any subject. Just ask that

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Speaker 1: first is I want to answer a question that I

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Speaker 1: got in person about a guy named Blake Mikoski. Blake

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Speaker 1: is the founder of Tom's Shoes, and you might you

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Speaker 1: might remember Tom's. It started two thousand and six ish

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Speaker 1: wildly successful. He sold shoes, and he was inspired by

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Speaker 1: I mean, people loved to buy a product and knowing

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Speaker 1: I mean, who wouldn't. It is and still is a

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Speaker 1: great cause. As time goes on, Blake ends up having

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Speaker 1: and people buy into that. Customers go, hey, I want

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Speaker 1: of other companies decided to compete. Some of them even

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Speaker 1: Evidently to this retreat that Blake put on, evidently, and

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Speaker 1: What do we do with this? Well? I looked him

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Speaker 1: Okay, So what he's promoting now is essentially psychedelics. He's

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Speaker 1: cliche where new people avoid joining if interested. Number two,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to have a gossip center. Number three,

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Speaker 1: I want to avoid creating a Bible thumping crowd where

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Speaker 1: discussions are geared towards us being the only right people.

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Speaker 1: Three things I want to advice on how to achieve

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Speaker 1: is number one, where we just studied the Bible for

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Speaker 1: what it is and what it says. Number two, I

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Speaker 1: want to I would like to have a good Christian

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Speaker 1: and family atmosphere. Okay. Number three, I'd like to have

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Speaker 1: the gospel preached to where if someone comes once or

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Speaker 1: many times, they would hear it. Thank you so much

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Speaker 1: for advice. To look forward to hearing from you soon.

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Speaker 1: Thanks Ira. I'm trying to follow this, Arah, and I'm

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Speaker 1: encouraged by your willingness to do all this stuff. You

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Speaker 1: are asking for advice, and you're very specific in your question.

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Speaker 1: I'll give you that three things that you want to

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Speaker 1: avoid and three things you want to achieve in a

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Speaker 1: Bible study with your wife in your living room. So

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Speaker 1: I think the way to kind of avoid these three

447
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Speaker 1: things and the way to achieve your three things would

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Speaker 1: be kind of the same answer, and that is probably

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Speaker 1: there might be a misunderstanding on what a Bible study is,

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Speaker 1: and believe it or not. As crazy as it might sound,

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Speaker 1: a Bible study essentially means study the Bible. And it's

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Speaker 1: interesting that that really has been lost. It seems so simple.

453
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Speaker 1: What's a Bible study. It's a study of the Bible.

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Speaker 1: And instead, what I think we see is groups get

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Speaker 1: together and they instead study how to navigate life life.

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Speaker 1: And what I mean is you say, hey, we're having

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Speaker 1: a Bible study. What's it on And you say, well,

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Speaker 1: it's on marriage, or it's on parenting, or it's on grief,

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Speaker 1: or it's on managing money. And they say, great, I'm in.

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Speaker 1: But you called it a Bible study because none of

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Speaker 1: those things should matter. Instead, it's studying the Bible. Otherwise

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Speaker 1: you'd say, hey, we're having a Christian get together to

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Speaker 1: discuss managing money. And that's fine and that's encouraging, but

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Speaker 1: that's not a Bible study. The Bible study, in its

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Speaker 1: essence would be you pick up the Bible and you say,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna have a Bible study on the Book of Romans,

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Speaker 1: or on Galatians, or on First Corinthians, or on the

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Speaker 1: Four Gospels, or on the Book of Ruth, or on

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Speaker 1: Genesis or on half of Revelation. It doesn't really matter.

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Speaker 1: But as long as the Bible is the study, then

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Speaker 1: you would rightly call it a Bible study. So I

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Speaker 1: would encourage you, Ira, to let's start with, you know,

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Speaker 1: something basic like Romans, and say we're going to do

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Speaker 1: a Bible study on Romans. And what do you do

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Speaker 1: with that? You literally walk through Romans every week. So

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Speaker 1: you meet, say Mondays in your living room and you go, hey, hey,

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Speaker 1: welcome everybody to the Bible Study. Thanks for being here.

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Speaker 1: If you're new, We've got some you know, some food,

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Speaker 1: We've got a few drinks, We've got you know, whatever

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Speaker 1: you want. And we are reading, in case you didn't

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Speaker 1: know it, reading through the Bible, because this is a

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Speaker 1: Bible study, and we're going to walk through the Book

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Speaker 1: of Romans. And we're going to start with guess what

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Speaker 1: Romans won. That's where you start. And we're gonna today,

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Speaker 1: on this Monday, we're just going to talk about either

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Speaker 1: you could say, Ira, chapter one, or the first five verses,

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Speaker 1: or the first ten verses, or the first two chapters.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't really matter. You can make it nice and

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Speaker 1: round and neat and just say today we're going to

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Speaker 1: study chapter one, and next Monday, if you come back,

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Speaker 1: we're going to study chapter two. And so the gospel

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Speaker 1: that you want is going to be in there and

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Speaker 1: you'll be able to discuss that. And as you walk

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Speaker 1: through chapter one, you read it, you study it line

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Speaker 1: by line, you think about it. You have an exegesis

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Speaker 1: which you're reading into. You're taking out, excuse me, the

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Speaker 1: implications of what's inside the text, meaning who wrote it,

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Speaker 1: why he wrote it, where he was when he wrote it,

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Speaker 1: about the time he wrote it, to whom he was

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Speaker 1: writing it to. These are all things that you talk

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Speaker 1: about and discuss as you're walking through Romans chapter one.

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Speaker 1: And at the end you don't have to spend much

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Speaker 1: of it, could be fifteen minutes of that, and then

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Speaker 1: you start talking about from there, what are the applications

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Speaker 1: that we could take away in this study from reading this,

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Speaker 1: What could we learn. Let's go around the room, who

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Speaker 1: has some thoughts about this, who has some thoughts about

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Speaker 1: what we can take from what Paul said in the

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Speaker 1: first chapter of Romans. And then you could pray specifically

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Speaker 1: for that. Let's pray with the first chapter of Romans

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Speaker 1: for our own lives. You can't go wrong doing this,

512
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Speaker 1: and you're gonna fix all the all of these problems

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Speaker 1: once you get the Romans too, You're not gonna have

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Speaker 1: a problem with your gossip center or your Bible thumping

515
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 1: crowd where you're geared at, you know, gossiping towards other people.

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Speaker 1: All these things are just gonna go away. But it's

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Speaker 1: a lot easier than you think. I would encourage against

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Speaker 1: instead doing the Let's help us be better people. Let's

519
00:31:57,160 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 1: know more about ourselves. Let's know more about our marriage,

520
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:03,880
Speaker 1: our money, our grief, our happiness, our success. Instead, let's

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Speaker 1: look to the Bible and look to see who God is.

522
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Speaker 1: And as we learn who he is, the overflow of

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Speaker 1: that has massive implications on what we do with our

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Speaker 1: money and our marriage, and our grief and our success

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00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 1: and everything else comes flowing from our knowledge of God.

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Speaker 1: It's a good question, Thank you. I next question, Ariana says, Hey, Granger,

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Speaker 1: this isn't a super deep question like some of the

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Speaker 1: ones to receive, but it's important to me, so I

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Speaker 1: thought i'd ask. My fiance and I are getting married

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Speaker 1: in August, and we're both twenty one. He'll be twenty

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Speaker 1: two by then, So in this day and age's standards,

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Speaker 1: we're still pretty young to be getting married. My question is,

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Speaker 1: how could we as young as a young Christian couple

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Speaker 1: prepare for our marriage aside from taking pre premarital counseling

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Speaker 1: which we are doing with our pastor. Good Additionally, what

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Speaker 1: is some advice that you can give for having a

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Speaker 1: Christ's centered marriage? Thank you so much, love the podcast.

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Speaker 1: Ye ye, Well, this is great that it ties in

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Speaker 1: with that first question or one of the first ones

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Speaker 1: about the guy officiating the wedding, because automatically here you're

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Speaker 1: setting yourself up in a much better way by doing

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Speaker 1: this counseling with your pastor. And I hope that you're

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Speaker 1: connected to a local church. And so if you're not

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Speaker 1: connected to the local church with the pastor that's officiating,

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00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:26,480
Speaker 1: do that, pursue membership with that pastor and then walk

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Speaker 1: with that pastor and the other pastors at that church

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Speaker 1: and the other members of that church forward into your

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Speaker 1: future with this marriage, and have them encourage you, keep

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Speaker 1: you accountable, keep you from drifting away from each other,

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Speaker 1: from both each other and from God. And so the

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Speaker 1: church body as you get involved and you serve them

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Speaker 1: and you're encouraged by that you will hold each other

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Speaker 1: accountable in a way that keeps the marriage so that

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Speaker 1: you're not slipping into some kind of temptation or sin,

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Speaker 1: or frustration or anger towards each other or distrust for

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Speaker 1: each other. Instead, you hold you're held together by the

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Speaker 1: unity of the community, which is a beautiful thing. As humans,

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Speaker 1: we need community, So I would lean into that. Next

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Speaker 1: question says from Jack. Says, dear Granger, I'm twenty one

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Speaker 1: from Fairfield, Montana. I have actually met you a few times,

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Speaker 1: and I've struggled with marijuana useed and yet I want

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Speaker 1: to give my life to christ. I do not want

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Speaker 1: to be a cultural Christian. I spend time in the

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Speaker 1: Word and pray constantly, but seem to but can't seem

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Speaker 1: to conquer this sin. I have cut back, but still

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Speaker 1: continue to fall. I love your advice. Thank you, Yeah, Jack,

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Speaker 1: Thanks for the question, buddy. This ties really good into

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Speaker 1: the first segment that we did with with the Iowaston

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Speaker 1: And it's interesting that you say it this way because

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Speaker 1: marijuana is not addictive. It's not an addictive substance in itself,

571
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Speaker 1: but what you're getting is you're getting the numbness that

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Speaker 1: you're getting from it. Is the addicting part. Because there

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Speaker 1: is something else in your life that is needing to

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Speaker 1: be numb, then you want to live in the state

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Speaker 1: of numbness, if that makes sense. So it's not the

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Speaker 1: chemical addiction, it's the it's the addiction to the numbing itself,

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Speaker 1: which is a thing. And this is something I would

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Speaker 1: love to walk in person with you, because you can't.

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Speaker 1: You can't tell me that you you can't tell me

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Speaker 1: that you want to really quit this and then tell

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Speaker 1: me that you can't seem to conquer it, because I

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00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:59,959
Speaker 1: would say, I wonder, I wonder why you can't conquer

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Speaker 1: because you have to go and buy it, you have

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Speaker 1: to store it in your house, you have to use

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Speaker 1: it in whatever way you're using it in Montana, I

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Speaker 1: don't know if it's an edible or you're smoking it

587
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 1: or you're vaping it, and I don't know, but you

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00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:17,240
Speaker 1: have to go through a lot of trouble to actually

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Speaker 1: do it. And so the first thing with getting rid

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Speaker 1: of a habit is getting it out of your sight,

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Speaker 1: restricting the availability of it. So get rid of it,

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Speaker 1: get out of your house, don't be around other people

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Speaker 1: that do it, which is probably what's going on here.

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Speaker 1: If you are struggling with a bad habit, then one

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00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:44,920
Speaker 1: of the things you need to do immediately is disunit yourself.

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00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 1: Is that even a word, is to pull yourself away

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Speaker 1: from the group that's doing it, because this peer pressure

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00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:55,359
Speaker 1: is nearly impossible to beat. If you're hanging around people

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Speaker 1: every day that do it, if they're doing it at work,

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Speaker 1: you're going to need a new job. If all of

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Speaker 1: your friends are doing it, you're gonna need new friends.

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Speaker 1: That's just there's another way to say it lightly. You're

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00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,160
Speaker 1: gonna need new friends. You're gonna need new people. You're

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00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:13,799
Speaker 1: gonna need a new crew, a new community around you.

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Speaker 1: If you really want this to happen, you're gonna get

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Speaker 1: rid of it out of your house. You're going to

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00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:21,680
Speaker 1: start hanging around people that keep you accountable, that say, hey, Jack,

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Speaker 1: stay away, man. I see your eyes, I see your

609
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Speaker 1: glazed over. See what's going on. And I already talked

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Speaker 1: about all this stuff with psychedelics at the beginning of

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Speaker 1: the podcast, So I've already told you kind of the

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Speaker 1: reasons you shouldn't. But if you don't want to be

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Speaker 1: a cultural Christian, it starts here, and it starts with

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Speaker 1: the gospel that I've already said a couple of times

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Speaker 1: on this podcast. But if you if you trust that

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Speaker 1: Jesus became the substitute for your sin to reconcile you

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Speaker 1: back to God, if you trust that He did that,

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Speaker 1: then it takes so much pressure off of you trying

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Speaker 1: to be good enough because you're not. Jesus says, you're

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Speaker 1: not trust in him. And the overflow of that, that

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Speaker 1: that effect of that knowing that you're loved UH will

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Speaker 1: then overflow into into all of these problems and these addictions,

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Speaker 1: and you'll you'll hate You'll begin to hate them enough

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Speaker 1: that you'll put it down and you'll hang out, hang

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Speaker 1: around with people to keep you accountable, including the local church.

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Speaker 1: Next question, it comes from Christina and says, Hey, Grangeer Leila,

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Speaker 1: I've been struggling with whether or not whether or not

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Speaker 1: enforcing my personal boundaries honors God and the plans he

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Speaker 1: has from my life. I've learned a lot about forgiveness

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Speaker 1: in the last couple of years, and I've been able

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Speaker 1: to heal from a lot of past hurts. But I've

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00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 1: chosen to maintain a boundary of no contact with my

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Speaker 1: in laws in spite of forgiving them for things that

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Speaker 1: happened in the past. My boundary keeps myself and my

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Speaker 1: children safe from the threat of them repeating past behaviors

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Speaker 1: that they refuse to acknowledge or apologize for, and I

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00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 1: have felt justified in doing so up until recently when

638
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:07,319
Speaker 1: I started wondering what God would want me to do.

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Speaker 1: I know he calls us to forgive seventy times seven,

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Speaker 1: and that He forgave and forgives all of those who

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Speaker 1: have hurt him. That's an interesting way to say it.

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Speaker 1: Can I still live a life that honors God while

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Speaker 1: holding onto personal boundaries that keep people, that keep people

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Speaker 1: from me and my children's lives. I think that's what

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Speaker 1: you meant to say. Thanks for your insight and your advice, Christina.

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Speaker 1: There is a difference, and we say that. I've said

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Speaker 1: this a lot on this podcast because I think it's important,

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Speaker 1: and I'll keep saying it forever if that's what it takes.

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Speaker 1: But there is a difference between forgiveness and trust, and

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Speaker 1: you don't trust these people, especially if you don't trust

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Speaker 1: these people around your children, then you do all you

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Speaker 1: can to protect you and your children. And that has

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Speaker 1: absolutely nothing to do with forgive. If you don't trust somebody,

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Speaker 1: you need to know that trust is earned. Forgiveness is

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Speaker 1: freely given. We love and we forgive seventy times seven.

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Speaker 1: But that has nothing to do with saying. And so

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Speaker 1: then I invite you back into my life, and I

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Speaker 1: invite you to bring your toxicity back into me and

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Speaker 1: my family and my kids and corrupt us from the

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Speaker 1: inside out. I invite you to do that because that's

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Speaker 1: what I'm called to do. I'm called to forgive, and

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Speaker 1: that is those two things are not related at all.

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Speaker 1: You need to be responsible as a mother, and that

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Speaker 1: responsibility includes protecting your children against the toxicity of other

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Speaker 1: people and family members. And you're also called as a

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Speaker 1: Christian to forgive, and so you forgive them and you

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Speaker 1: create boundaries. And it doesn't have to be a problem

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Speaker 1: with both of those things. Those two things don't have

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Speaker 1: to be at odds with each other. So what God

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Speaker 1: wants you to do is keep your children safe and

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Speaker 1: love others as you love yourself, and forgive. And I

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Speaker 1: believe you could. You could accomplish all of those things

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Speaker 1: at the same time. And I don't think. I don't

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Speaker 1: think there's a problem. And then and then At the

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Speaker 1: same time, since I don't know your story, I also

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Speaker 1: have to be careful as I'm talking to you that

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Speaker 1: maybe there's a grudge that's unnecessary here. And if we're

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Speaker 1: talking about physical safety or you know, abuse of any kind, great,

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Speaker 1: then separate, create boundaries. But if you're just talking about

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Speaker 1: a grudge, like they they want to take my kids

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Speaker 1: to do this, and and I want to take my

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Speaker 1: kids to do this, and they don't believe that they

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Speaker 1: should be they should play soccer. They believe they should

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Speaker 1: If it's something trivial like that, then this is a

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Speaker 1: different conversation. That's a weird grudge, and you gotta let

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Speaker 1: it go, and you gotta you gotta love them, and

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Speaker 1: you gotta love them as you love yourself and bring

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Speaker 1: them into the family. But I don't know if that's

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Speaker 1: what you're talking about or not. But if it has

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Speaker 1: anything to do with safety or these kind of threats

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Speaker 1: that you're saying, then no, this has nothing to do

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Speaker 1: with forgiveness. Okay, So I hope that there's a distinction

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Speaker 1: made between trusting someone and forgiving someone. And I still

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Speaker 1: think It's a great question and I'm glad you asked it. Y'all.

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Speaker 1: That's all the time we have today, and I appreciate

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Speaker 1: the vulnerability in these questions and I want to encourage

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Speaker 1: you guys to keep on sending them. Podcast at grangersmith

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Speaker 1: guys next Monday. Thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith podcast.

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