1 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:22,079 Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, Emily A. 2 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:25,760 Speaker 2: Baddi here coming to you live from the AG studio. 3 00:00:25,920 --> 00:00:29,800 Speaker 2: You are listening to five Minute Friday from Hurdle. I 4 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 2: feel like I've got some new listeners in the mix. 5 00:00:32,040 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 2: Really great turnout earlier this week for the live recording 6 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:39,440 Speaker 2: of Hurdle inside of Hub seventeen at Lululemon. The podcast 7 00:00:39,479 --> 00:00:41,920 Speaker 2: is making the rounds. So if you are new to 8 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:46,559 Speaker 2: the show, welcome. You are officially a hurdler. I'm so 9 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:47,599 Speaker 2: happy to have you. 10 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:48,839 Speaker 1: Now. Five Minute Friday on. 11 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:53,479 Speaker 2: The show is a little breezy segment that happens every Friday. 12 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 2: It's a quiggi in which I share a story from 13 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:57,840 Speaker 2: my week with a takeaway that I have for you. 14 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 2: I go ahead and answer a listener question which you 15 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:04,680 Speaker 2: can call and leave me a voicemail to be featured 16 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:07,039 Speaker 2: on the show. The link to do that is in 17 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:08,480 Speaker 2: the show notes. A huge thank you to all the 18 00:01:08,560 --> 00:01:11,640 Speaker 2: hurdlers that have been doing that recently. I really appreciate it. 19 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:16,320 Speaker 2: And that's that's the whole shebang. So this week I 20 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 2: want to talk about a commitment that I made on Tuesday. 21 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:21,800 Speaker 1: Now, I feel like I've been rambling. 22 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:25,559 Speaker 2: About how my go to habit of journaling every morning 23 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:28,399 Speaker 2: has been like a little bit lackluster literally for the 24 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:32,119 Speaker 2: past I don't know, three four months, and this week 25 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 2: on Tuesday morning my rule before big events, which obviously 26 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:39,040 Speaker 2: again I had that live show on Tuesday night, it's 27 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 2: twofold one. 28 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:41,559 Speaker 1: I need to journal in the morning. 29 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 2: I need to get out my thoughts like where my 30 00:01:43,840 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 2: head is at, et cetera, before going into it. And 31 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 2: I also need to sweat in some way. And I 32 00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 2: realized come Tuesday morning when I went to go to 33 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 2: my event day ritual of sorts, that it had been 34 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 2: I hadn't journaled since Italy that was almost a month ago. 35 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 2: And I think it's really easy for us to get 36 00:02:02,960 --> 00:02:07,120 Speaker 2: frustrated about the things that we're not doing rather than 37 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:10,760 Speaker 2: implement some immediate change. I mean, that's certainly relevant to 38 00:02:10,919 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 2: everything from starting a fitness routine to eating a certain way. 39 00:02:15,040 --> 00:02:18,519 Speaker 2: I know I recently spoke about being in some sort 40 00:02:18,560 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 2: of a funk, but the reality is is that rather 41 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 2: than giving your energy to being frustrated about something, you 42 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 2: have the opportunity instead to just take some action. So 43 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:33,920 Speaker 2: Tuesday morning, I decided the conscious decision to not judge 44 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 2: my new beginning too harshly, and I committed on Tuesday. 45 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:40,960 Speaker 2: It didn't need to be a full page like I 46 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:44,800 Speaker 2: used to do what felt like effortlessly every day, finishing 47 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 2: that page with a couple of sentences about something that 48 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 2: I'm grateful for that happened in the past twenty four hours. Instead, 49 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 2: I made the decision to, okay, just write something. It 50 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 2: can be a sentence, it can be two sentences. I 51 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 2: really do feel firmly about, or strongly anyway about finishing 52 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 2: whatever that little entry may be, with a little bit 53 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:11,760 Speaker 2: of gratitude, but not sitting there trying to implement what 54 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 2: was and just letting whatever come from my hand on 55 00:03:16,919 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 2: the pages of my Barren Fig notebook, just letting it 56 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:25,240 Speaker 2: be right that I needed that, I needed that mental 57 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:27,919 Speaker 2: shift to begin again. 58 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 1: And I am proud to report that I have journaled 59 00:03:33,200 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 1: every day this week. 60 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:38,720 Speaker 2: And I'm kind of digging my new routine, which looks 61 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 2: a little bit different than the old one. And again 62 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:45,120 Speaker 2: that's fine. I know there are so many benefits to 63 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 2: taking some time to reflect. I know the benefits of 64 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 2: being able to articulate the things that you're grateful for, 65 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 2: and I want those benefits. 66 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:54,760 Speaker 1: And when we. 67 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:58,800 Speaker 2: Know what we want, then we have the chance to 68 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 2: implement smart strategies to go after it. And so especially 69 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:06,120 Speaker 2: right now as I feel like I'm really dialing in 70 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 2: on all of these good for me practices, what is 71 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 2: it you know? Nine days out from the New York 72 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 2: City Marathon. I'll uh, I'll take every little bit that 73 00:04:15,320 --> 00:04:18,320 Speaker 2: i can get. And so my prompter you this week, 74 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:22,600 Speaker 2: what have you been waiting to start over with? What 75 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 2: are you judging? What are you holding resentment toward? And 76 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:31,400 Speaker 2: can you just release that? What do you want to 77 00:04:31,440 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 2: start over with? Maybe there's someone you want to start 78 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:37,719 Speaker 2: over with. What's holding you back? And how can you 79 00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:43,400 Speaker 2: take some action on that? A SAP and now a 80 00:04:43,440 --> 00:04:44,239 Speaker 2: listener question. 81 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:49,719 Speaker 3: Hi, am Lee, this is Amanda quick question and maybe 82 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:52,039 Speaker 3: it's a little too personal, So my apologies ahead of 83 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:58,600 Speaker 3: time of how to deal with awkward holiday situations. Holidays 84 00:04:58,600 --> 00:05:03,400 Speaker 3: are coming up and my parent parents are newly separated, 85 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:06,280 Speaker 3: not divorced, but separated, and things are already starting to 86 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 3: get a little awkward, and I just don't know how 87 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 3: to handle the situation. There's a lot of great arguing, 88 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 3: there's a lot of bickering. So do you have any 89 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 3: advice for me and my brother, it would be greatly appreciated. 90 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:18,279 Speaker 3: Love the show. 91 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:23,640 Speaker 1: Thanks, Hey, Amanda, thanks for this question. I feel you 92 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:24,719 Speaker 1: I have. 93 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:27,440 Speaker 2: My parents have been divorced since I was twenty one, 94 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:32,159 Speaker 2: and I am so lucky because they get along great, 95 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:36,640 Speaker 2: They love me unconditionally, They you know, will sporadically get 96 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 2: together with one another. I'm so so grateful to have 97 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 2: two loving, supportive parents. But come the holidays, it definitely 98 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:49,799 Speaker 2: still you know, I'm thirty three now, twelve years later, 99 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:54,080 Speaker 2: it feels as though I wish I could be in 100 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:57,360 Speaker 2: two places at once. I think since they got divorced, 101 00:05:57,360 --> 00:06:01,919 Speaker 2: we've done maybe two or three Thanksgivings together, But typically 102 00:06:02,400 --> 00:06:06,479 Speaker 2: the holidays, the big ones are spent apart, and that 103 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:08,840 Speaker 2: means that I need to do the best that I 104 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:14,600 Speaker 2: can to spend time with both parents for every holiday. 105 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 2: With Christmas it's a little bit easier because I split 106 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:22,400 Speaker 2: up Christmas Eve as one holiday and Christmas Day as another, 107 00:06:22,520 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 2: and I have that like down to a science. But 108 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 2: Thanksgiving only lasts for so long. What we have implemented 109 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:32,440 Speaker 2: in our family is every other year I flop for 110 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 2: Thanksgiving dinner, which means that I will be at one 111 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:37,600 Speaker 2: house until around like three in the afternoon, and then 112 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 2: I'll go to the other one until you know, the 113 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 2: following morning. That seems to be the most fair way 114 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 2: for me to divide my time. I have no idea 115 00:06:46,839 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 2: what I'm going to do when I have another you know, 116 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:51,360 Speaker 2: when I finally have a significant other to bring into 117 00:06:51,360 --> 00:06:54,680 Speaker 2: this equation, and we have to take into his family 118 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 2: into account. But what I will say is that just 119 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:02,080 Speaker 2: because you're trying to be diple with how you delegate 120 00:07:02,120 --> 00:07:05,160 Speaker 2: your time doesn't mean that feelings aren't going to get hurt. 121 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:07,919 Speaker 2: And the best thing that you can do articulating to 122 00:07:08,320 --> 00:07:10,560 Speaker 2: your parents that you love them both and that you're 123 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 2: truly trying to do the best that you can year 124 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:18,560 Speaker 2: after year to show up for everyone and that you 125 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:22,760 Speaker 2: love them each as they are. And it's not easy, 126 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 2: but find some solace in knowing that you're certainly not 127 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 2: the only one who is experiencing this, and that you 128 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 2: have to during this time make sure that you find 129 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 2: small ways to give back to you as well, because 130 00:07:35,400 --> 00:07:38,480 Speaker 2: tensions are high and you really are doing the best 131 00:07:38,600 --> 00:07:42,120 Speaker 2: you can with what you have, And remember that you know, 132 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:46,920 Speaker 2: remember that you have the best intentions, and these tensions 133 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 2: are high because there is so much love and a 134 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 2: want for your time, So have some grace with yourself, 135 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:57,600 Speaker 2: remember what the holidays are supposed to be about. And 136 00:07:58,120 --> 00:08:01,280 Speaker 2: if you need me, I'm only a voicemail away. 137 00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:04,080 Speaker 1: I got you. That's it for this week. 138 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 2: Make sure you're following along on social at Hurdle podcast 139 00:08:07,360 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 2: I'm over at Emily a Body, Another hurdle conquered. 140 00:08:11,960 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 1: Catch you guys next time.