WEBVTT - Change Will Not Happen Unless You Choose It with Dylan Murphy (Outweigh)

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<v Speaker 1>I won't let my body out outweigh everything that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>made dope, won't spend my life trying to change. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>learning to love who I am. I get I'm strong,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel free, I know who every part of me

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<v Speaker 1>it's beautiful and then will always out if you feel

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<v Speaker 1>it with your hands in here, she'll some love to

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<v Speaker 1>the boy. Let's say good day and did you and

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<v Speaker 1>die out Happy Saturday. Outweigh fam amy here And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>joined today by Dylan Hey, Dylan Hi Aby, Dylan Murphy

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<v Speaker 1>to be specific, and on Instagram Dylan Murphy dot r D.

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<v Speaker 1>And you're registered Dietitians with the r DS for and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm on your Instagram right now. And as part of

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<v Speaker 1>your bio, you have ditch diets Gain Freedom. And I

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<v Speaker 1>gotta say, that's what Outweigh is all about, is trying

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<v Speaker 1>to find that freedom. Our tagline is a life without

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<v Speaker 1>disordered eating outweighs everything. So that's why it's called outweigh.

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<v Speaker 1>So what made you focus on this or be that

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<v Speaker 1>type of dietitian because Lord knows, there's other kinds. Yeah, gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>there's so many other kinds. And I feel like, oftentimes

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<v Speaker 1>when I tell people I'm a dietitian. I'm like, let

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<v Speaker 1>me explain what type of dietician I am, because yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we're not all created equal. I think for me, once

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<v Speaker 1>I experienced what like life outside of rules of calorie counting,

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<v Speaker 1>all of all of that was like for myself personally,

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<v Speaker 1>which happened after I became a dietician. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't teach people things that I learned in school.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't teach people how to count calories, what to eat,

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<v Speaker 1>what not to eat, because there's so much freedom, like

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<v Speaker 1>I have in that tagline, like so much freedom that

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<v Speaker 1>lies outside of of diets that I've experienced myself and

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<v Speaker 1>been able to help other clients experience as well. So

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<v Speaker 1>I think my own personal experience has played a huge

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<v Speaker 1>role in definitely wanting to help people just find that freedom.

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<v Speaker 1>And do you feel as though when you were in

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<v Speaker 1>school the main focus was teaching people how to diet. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And I gosh, I tell a lot of my clients

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<v Speaker 1>and just a lot of people like I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>as dietitians, and I guess I can't speak for every program,

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<v Speaker 1>but a lot of programs we almost learn, like how

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<v Speaker 1>to give people eating disorders, to like put it bluntly,

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<v Speaker 1>like we learn a lot about strict calorie diets, what

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<v Speaker 1>to eat, what not to eat. It's very like weight

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<v Speaker 1>centric approach. And so this idea of like intuitive eating

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<v Speaker 1>of more like weight neutral care was very foreign to me,

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<v Speaker 1>honestly until I mean, I think I learned a lot

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<v Speaker 1>about through Instagram and then did a lot of like

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<v Speaker 1>self study on my own, did more like courses in

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<v Speaker 1>training on like intuitive eating and eating disorders. Because even

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<v Speaker 1>in college I probably had two lectures on eating disorders,

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<v Speaker 1>and in my postgrad program to be a dietitian, I

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<v Speaker 1>had like a one week rotation in like an intensive

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<v Speaker 1>treatment center for eating disorder. So we get very very

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<v Speaker 1>little training in that area, right, which is you know,

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<v Speaker 1>part of the problem. And so for those of us listening,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like right now, yeah, I'm a listener to

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, we wonder how we end up the

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<v Speaker 1>way we end up, and it's because it's just the norm.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, it's what we hear from diet industry. It's

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<v Speaker 1>what we see on Instagram. It used to be billboards, magazines, TV,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's been the narrative for a long time. And

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<v Speaker 1>then that's what we've that's what we're fed. And then

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<v Speaker 1>you know, just casual conversations with other humans and other dieticians.

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<v Speaker 1>That's that's the narrative. Like even when you showed up

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<v Speaker 1>at my house, my father in law said, oh, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you're a dietitian. Are you here to tell me I

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<v Speaker 1>can't have my ice cream? And that's a normal funny

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<v Speaker 1>ha hall, but like also very serious nutrition this joke,

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<v Speaker 1>and you were able to say, actually, that's not what

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<v Speaker 1>I do. I would maybe encourage you to even yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>eat the scape. You mentioned weight neutral? Can you just

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<v Speaker 1>define that for people? Yeah, absolutely, that's a good question.

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<v Speaker 1>So really weight neutral, what that means is like being

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<v Speaker 1>able to look at someone for more than just like

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<v Speaker 1>the size of their body, because I think in I

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<v Speaker 1>keep going back a lot to like how we're trained

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<v Speaker 1>as dietitians, were taught to really look at weight as

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<v Speaker 1>like the number one marker of health. But what we

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<v Speaker 1>know to be true and and what like research shows

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<v Speaker 1>us is that that's not true. There's so many things

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<v Speaker 1>outside of the size of our body that dictate our

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<v Speaker 1>health status. In in a weight neutral approach, the way

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<v Speaker 1>I view it as really taking like a holistic approach

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<v Speaker 1>to someone, So looking at the whole person of like

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<v Speaker 1>your stress, your emotions, your mental health, your friendships. Um, sure,

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<v Speaker 1>we look at physical health, we look at are you

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<v Speaker 1>eating vegetables? That sort of thing, but really looking at

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<v Speaker 1>like the whole picture of someone's health instead of just

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<v Speaker 1>honing in on the size of their body. There's a

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<v Speaker 1>post you put up on Instagram in the May the

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<v Speaker 1>actually said, in comparison to all the other things you've

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<v Speaker 1>lost to your eating disorder, doesn't wait seems so insignificant.

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<v Speaker 1>And I look back to when my eating disorder was

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<v Speaker 1>ruling my life, and yes, my stress level was high,

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<v Speaker 1>my friendships were poor, my relationships, my capacity to do

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<v Speaker 1>other things, just everything was second to the eating disorder.

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<v Speaker 1>I you know, was having a conversation with a friend

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the other day about just who I was

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<v Speaker 1>when they first met me. And my eating disorder arrived

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<v Speaker 1>on the scene when I was a teenager. But then

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<v Speaker 1>somehow I got a grip of at least the purging part.

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<v Speaker 1>For I realized I thought, because I got rid of that,

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<v Speaker 1>that I got rid of my eating disorder. But I

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<v Speaker 1>adopted all kinds of other disordered behaviors, like orthorexia and

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<v Speaker 1>working out NonStop and not enjoying meal time and family

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<v Speaker 1>and friends. But the BELIEMI A part came back in

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<v Speaker 1>two thousand and fourteen. So I went over a decade

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<v Speaker 1>without that, and I thought I was doing pretty good,

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<v Speaker 1>and I probably was better all things considered. But it

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<v Speaker 1>came back, and my relationship with certain people just formed

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<v Speaker 1>around that time. There's a few people in my life

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<v Speaker 1>that I met around that time, and the version of

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<v Speaker 1>me that they met was spiraling, but they didn't know

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<v Speaker 1>it because I wasn't saying. It took me a minute

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<v Speaker 1>or a couple of years to admit my eating disorders back,

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<v Speaker 1>and then to even admit finally I needed to get

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<v Speaker 1>into some sort of recovery. But those relationships weren't built

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<v Speaker 1>with a strong foundation because I was so self absorbed.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a very selfish I don't did we call it

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<v Speaker 1>a disease. It's a very okay, so it's disorder. There

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<v Speaker 1>we go, eating disordered, disordered behavior. I don't know why

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<v Speaker 1>I was faced on that, but it's a very selfish thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And I know it's hard to, you know, face that

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<v Speaker 1>reality that it takes up so much of your brain space,

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<v Speaker 1>that you don't have a room for much else, and

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<v Speaker 1>unfortunately it starts to take over and it just spreads

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<v Speaker 1>like a wildfire within you. And then okay, yeah, now

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<v Speaker 1>you have no control. It's very still selfish, but you

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<v Speaker 1>don't feel like you can even get out even if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to. Yes, I love the imagery of a

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<v Speaker 1>wildfire because I feel like that's exactly how eating disorders

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<v Speaker 1>can so often start of like it maybe one little

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<v Speaker 1>spark of like oh I just need to like lose

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<v Speaker 1>a few pounds, eat a little bit less here, do this,

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<v Speaker 1>do that, But then it's so easily immerses into this

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<v Speaker 1>like huge problem, and I think what you said of

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<v Speaker 1>it being this like selfish kind of self centered thing.

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<v Speaker 1>One thing I want to add on that too, is

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<v Speaker 1>like it doesn't mean that you are choosing to be

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<v Speaker 1>sick or choosing to have a problem. Like if you're

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<v Speaker 1>listening and you're like, gosh, I do struggle with any disorder,

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<v Speaker 1>like I am so focused on myself. There is a

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<v Speaker 1>way that you can get help, there's a way you

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<v Speaker 1>can get out of it. And it can also feel

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<v Speaker 1>like you you are stuck and that you can't get

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<v Speaker 1>out of it. But yeah, I love I love what

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<v Speaker 1>you said about friends as well, because I think I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>It's easy to think that, like, oh, well, my friends

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<v Speaker 1>are only going to like me if I'm like this size,

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<v Speaker 1>or like what what would they think if I tell

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<v Speaker 1>them I'm struggling with a needing disorder. I'm curious for

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<v Speaker 1>you and those like with your friends, were you able

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<v Speaker 1>to like share with them what you're struggling with that

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<v Speaker 1>they already know eventually. But I think really the problem

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<v Speaker 1>with me and this is layers deep. It's not just

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<v Speaker 1>the disorder, it's stuff from it's just lack of connection.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got so much going on inside your head you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have room to really truly connect. And then there's

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<v Speaker 1>the whole thing like how can you love others if

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<v Speaker 1>you're not loving yourself? And what's your relationship like with yourself?

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<v Speaker 1>How are you showing up for you? And then in

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<v Speaker 1>turn that effects how you show up for others, And

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<v Speaker 1>you kind of have these At least for me, I

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<v Speaker 1>can only speak for myself. I had these, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>eating disorder goggles on to the world. I was trying

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<v Speaker 1>to be fine, but I was still viewing everything through

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<v Speaker 1>my goggles. And I know I wasn't someone that had

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<v Speaker 1>the thoughts of my friends are only gonna like me

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm thin. It just affected connection with people, even

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<v Speaker 1>my own spouse, my children, anybody it's not. And then

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<v Speaker 1>also it affected well part of connection. This is like

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<v Speaker 1>a little piece like if we were to branch off

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<v Speaker 1>from that, it's you know, enjoying each other meal time,

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<v Speaker 1>going out to eat something we've discussed multiple times of

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<v Speaker 1>you know, just missing out. You stay home because you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to be faced with the fear of having

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<v Speaker 1>to eat something that doesn't fit into your box or

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<v Speaker 1>you'll have no way to you know, go work it

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<v Speaker 1>off afterwards or get read of it, and so you

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<v Speaker 1>just choose to stay home. So I think that's lack

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<v Speaker 1>of connection right there. And we were built for community

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<v Speaker 1>and it's a very isolating disorder. And so that's where

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<v Speaker 1>outweigh comes in and having experts on like you and

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<v Speaker 1>people sharing their stories and is that glimmer of hope

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<v Speaker 1>for people that it's okay, you're not just listening right

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<v Speaker 1>now and we're not yelling at you that you're selfish

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<v Speaker 1>and there's no it's more like, hey, I was selfish.

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<v Speaker 1>I can see it, and it took over to where

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't really trying to be selfish. It just was

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<v Speaker 1>out of my control. But I had to make the

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<v Speaker 1>choice to take take charge of my own destiny and

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<v Speaker 1>start doing so. If someone is listening right now and

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<v Speaker 1>they're like, Okay, well I want to take charge, what's

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<v Speaker 1>the first step. I love that you said that's I

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<v Speaker 1>actually posted something. I think it was even like yesterday

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe two days ago. Why have your Instagram let

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<v Speaker 1>to pull it up? Okay, hold on, I think you're

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<v Speaker 1>probably it's a very less thing, at least that the

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<v Speaker 1>time of recording this that you posted. And is it

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<v Speaker 1>the one where you said change will not happen unless

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<v Speaker 1>you choose it. Yes, Yes, So I tell my clients

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<v Speaker 1>that all the time because and I think in the

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<v Speaker 1>caption I wrote like I tell clients all the time

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<v Speaker 1>like I can't want recovery for you more than you

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<v Speaker 1>want it for yourself. I can't want freedom from diets

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<v Speaker 1>for you more than you want it yourself, and for gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>all my clients, even just all human beings across the world,

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<v Speaker 1>like I want everyone to be able to experience freedom

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<v Speaker 1>with food, freedom and their body, because I think it

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<v Speaker 1>just brings so much more fullness to your life. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>the first step I think first is that like awareness

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<v Speaker 1>of Okay, something's not working, there's a problem. I need

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<v Speaker 1>help with this, And then I think a great place.

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<v Speaker 1>Well one, if you're listening to this episode, you've already

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<v Speaker 1>started at a great place, like listening to podcast episodes

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<v Speaker 1>all about recovery and eating disorders and food freedom, but

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<v Speaker 1>even reaching out for support. I think this is something

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<v Speaker 1>like Amy mentioned, where it's easy to be isolated and

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<v Speaker 1>kind of stuck in this journey by yourself, and you're

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<v Speaker 1>eating disorder loves that it wants to be isolated. So

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<v Speaker 1>the more you can bring it to the light and

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<v Speaker 1>bring someone else into your journey, like a therapist, a

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<v Speaker 1>dietitian preferably both can be huge and there's there's great

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<v Speaker 1>resources out there. Um gosh, I'm trying to think of

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<v Speaker 1>the exact names. But even if you just google like

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<v Speaker 1>eating disorder dietitian near me wherever you happen to live,

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<v Speaker 1>or a therapist that specializes in eating disorders like our

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<v Speaker 1>mutual friend cat Fata. Absolutely, because it's very important, you

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<v Speaker 1>could easily fall into a therapist that doesn't have eating disorder,

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<v Speaker 1>training or focus, and they might they just saying that, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>with dietitians, you can find someone that would kind of

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<v Speaker 1>come alongside eating disorder and we don't want that. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's a great place, even like opening up to

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<v Speaker 1>family and friends, which can be so hard and I

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<v Speaker 1>think could be a whole another podcast episode in its olt,

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<v Speaker 1>but like inviting someone else into your journey that's in

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<v Speaker 1>your day to say life, that can keep you accountable

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<v Speaker 1>to Well, you're going to be back next week, so

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<v Speaker 1>maybe we talk more into that next Saturday. Dylan is

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<v Speaker 1>going to be on the next two Saturdays, so including today,

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<v Speaker 1>three total. And under this post that you put up

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<v Speaker 1>about you know, change will not happen unless you choose it,

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<v Speaker 1>you had someone comment named Natalie, and I like this,

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm going to read their comment and she said, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>we are only a choice away from changing our attitude

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<v Speaker 1>minute to minute, which in turn leads to a better

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<v Speaker 1>life by small choices adding up. And sometimes we look

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<v Speaker 1>at the mountain and the climb seems too much, But

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<v Speaker 1>one choice, one step towards it gets us to the

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<v Speaker 1>top eventually. Yes, but I know it takes time. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure you as an expert in's field can just say

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<v Speaker 1>you have to be incredibly patient with yourself and give

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<v Speaker 1>yourself so much grace. Yes, because it does. It takes time,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think it can be daunting, like when you

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<v Speaker 1>recognize I need help, I'm tired of struggling with these

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<v Speaker 1>behaviors I'm struggling with, it can feel so daunting of like, Okay, well,

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<v Speaker 1>how do I go from now to recovery and to

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<v Speaker 1>this freedom that you're talking about? But I think exactly

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<v Speaker 1>like that Comma Amy just read, it's like step by

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<v Speaker 1>step waking up every morning, like, Okay, what's one thing

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<v Speaker 1>I can do today to talk back to my eating disorder?

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<v Speaker 1>What's one thing I can do today to choose recovery?

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<v Speaker 1>And having that same mindset every day. For me, one

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<v Speaker 1>of the things was like I had to wake up

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<v Speaker 1>and for so long I restricted breakfast. So my one

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<v Speaker 1>thing that I would wake up and do is I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't care if I was hungry or not. I went

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<v Speaker 1>ate breakfast, which is like a huge thing for so

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<v Speaker 1>many people because I think breakfast is an easy one

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<v Speaker 1>to skip, yes, because you know, we're told like and

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<v Speaker 1>some people are able to do that and they don't have.

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<v Speaker 1>I just know this is this is for outweigh this

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<v Speaker 1>is for the people with disordered behaviors, because I have

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<v Speaker 1>some friends that are like, oh no, I mean, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>doing this for my brain and I'm not. I'm sharper

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<v Speaker 1>If I that's great, it is, it doesn't they can

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<v Speaker 1>still go out and enjoy time with friends. They don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to go to the gym five times a day. Like.

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<v Speaker 1>There are people that are able to do it, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's sometimes where it gets tricky. And maybe we can

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<v Speaker 1>dive into that next Saturday with the family and friends thing,

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<v Speaker 1>because sometimes we have family and friends that don't quite

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<v Speaker 1>get it and they're like, well, but this is what

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<v Speaker 1>I do. And you just have to really know that

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<v Speaker 1>just because someone else is doing it's not for you.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why people on Instagram posting what they eat in

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<v Speaker 1>a day is so ridiculous. Don't compare yourself. Yeah, we

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<v Speaker 1>cannot compare ourselves at all. You have a podcast, right

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<v Speaker 1>I do. Yeah, So it's called Free Method Podcast and

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<v Speaker 1>every week it's either myself or I'm interviewing other guests,

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<v Speaker 1>so other just experts in the area, whether it's therapist, dieticians,

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<v Speaker 1>or just people. I mean even similar to Amy who

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<v Speaker 1>like have a history with with an E disorder or

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<v Speaker 1>disordered eating. Um. We've also kind of expanded some into

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a new mom, so lots of conversation around just

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<v Speaker 1>like motherhood and body image and and really just everything

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<v Speaker 1>that encapsulates like living life free of diets and eating disorders.

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<v Speaker 1>Say the name of it one more time in please

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<v Speaker 1>people want to leave this episode and go listen. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's called Free Method f R E Method podcast and

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<v Speaker 1>you can find that wherever you listen to podcast awesome

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<v Speaker 1>and then your Instagram handle. I'll give that one more

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<v Speaker 1>time in case people want to go maybe screenshot. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a big screenshotter of encouragement that I see on Instagram

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<v Speaker 1>some when I screenshot a lot is Mel Robbins. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you yollow her? She's so great and Cat and I

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<v Speaker 1>talk about her all the time. But she's Another tip

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<v Speaker 1>that she has for starting her day off strong is

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<v Speaker 1>she has the five second role to get out of bed,

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<v Speaker 1>so one get up and then we were talking about

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<v Speaker 1>you know what you do when you wake up earlier.

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<v Speaker 1>But she loves to high five herself in the mirror,

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<v Speaker 1>and that might be something you could try that could

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<v Speaker 1>be step one. It's just get out of bed and

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<v Speaker 1>go to the mirror and look at yourself and say,

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<v Speaker 1>high five. You can do this. You can go eat breakfast.

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<v Speaker 1>High five. And it might be daunting, but it's just

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<v Speaker 1>that repetition. It's waking up every day and making that choice,

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<v Speaker 1>waking up every day and making the next right choice,

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<v Speaker 1>and you build those new neuropathways and then it starts

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<v Speaker 1>to become a habit where that becomes more easy to

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<v Speaker 1>do and you look back of like, oh wow, now

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<v Speaker 1>I do this like so seamlessly. I eat breakfast and

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<v Speaker 1>don't even think to us about it. I get out

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<v Speaker 1>of bed, high five myself in the mirror, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>a habit now. Yeah, you have another post that says

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<v Speaker 1>hi ku about dieting, and I'm laughing because my daughter

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<v Speaker 1>just wrapped eighth grade and she had this e l

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<v Speaker 1>a test or something that she's had to ride a

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<v Speaker 1>hiku and yours is just um, I think it's seven seven. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I probably couldn't write a real hiku, but yes, yes

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<v Speaker 1>it is, and um, yours is just no no no

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<v Speaker 1>no no, and the next line is no no no no.

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<v Speaker 1>And so really we just want to leave you with

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<v Speaker 1>that is if you get a crazy idea in your

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<v Speaker 1>head to maybe try some new diet, and there's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of posers out there. They're trying to say they're

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<v Speaker 1>not a diet, but they are diet. Yes, if they

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<v Speaker 1>say they're not a diet, it they're a diet, right,

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<v Speaker 1>because there's no diet, there's there's okay, So just say

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<v Speaker 1>say it with us. No no, no, no, no, no

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<v Speaker 1>no no. So that's what you have to say to

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<v Speaker 1>yourself is no, and then go high five yourself for

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<v Speaker 1>being like yes, yes, no, yes, Okay, well Dylan, thank

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<v Speaker 1>you so much for joining today, and then yeah, Dylan's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be back the next two Saturdays. We just want

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<v Speaker 1>to leave you all with hope and encouragement to tackle

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<v Speaker 1>the rest of your weekend and take care of yourself

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<v Speaker 1>and find a way where you can connect with someone

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<v Speaker 1>else today, whatever that looks like. So that way you

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<v Speaker 1>get out of your own head and start investing into

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<v Speaker 1>relationships in your life that really matter, because you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship with food ends up pretty lonely. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>who I spent a lot of time with for many years,

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<v Speaker 1>lots of food alone in my room watching something and

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<v Speaker 1>you know it's it's only cool for a minute, so

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<v Speaker 1>there's more to life and um yeah, we wish you

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<v Speaker 1>the best, See you all next weekend. By but the

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<v Speaker 1>Pat