WEBVTT - Is there a yes in that no?

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that when you are told no about something

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<v Speaker 1>you want, consider whether there might be a yes hiding

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<v Speaker 1>behind it. Disappointments are inevitable, but sometimes when one option

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<v Speaker 1>isn't happening, a related option will become available if you

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<v Speaker 1>look for it. So we hear no all the time

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<v Speaker 1>in life, like no, you're not getting that promotion. No,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't have a dinner reservation at this restaurant for Friday. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't have the report done by Monday. Or no,

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<v Speaker 1>there's no room in the four and five year old

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<v Speaker 1>swimming class. No, your kid wasn't admitted to that college.

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<v Speaker 1>It is disappointing, and sometimes no is just no. I

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<v Speaker 1>cringe when people sometimes say they won't take no for

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<v Speaker 1>an answer, because when someone has set a boundary, it

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<v Speaker 1>is frustrating and unfair for everyone if you keep trying

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<v Speaker 1>to push it. But other times, when you are turned

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<v Speaker 1>down for something you want, there may be something related

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<v Speaker 1>that is available if you just look around or ask.

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<v Speaker 1>So if your child doesn't make a sports team, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>they could be the team manager. The coach may not

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<v Speaker 1>volunteer that information, but if someone asks, another opportunity may

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<v Speaker 1>be available. After all, If you don't get a job

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<v Speaker 1>at an organization you love, ask whether they see any

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<v Speaker 1>other job openings that might be a good fit for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Make sure everyone has your information, and keep the lines

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<v Speaker 1>of communication open so you can check in every few

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<v Speaker 1>months to see I have lost track of how many

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<v Speaker 1>people have told me about interviewing at a company, losing

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<v Speaker 1>out in the last round for a job, and then

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<v Speaker 1>being first in mind the next time there is an opening.

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<v Speaker 1>It happens all the time. If a change in your

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<v Speaker 1>work schedule means you can no longer take the tennis

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<v Speaker 1>class you look forward to every week, what about scheduling

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<v Speaker 1>private lessons? What about trying a different tennis place You

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<v Speaker 1>just might find something you like. If you can't get

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<v Speaker 1>a reservation at the restaurant you wanted to go to

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<v Speaker 1>for your birthday, why not plan ahead and get a

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<v Speaker 1>reservation for your anniversary in a few months. They probably

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<v Speaker 1>aren't booked up. Then if the brother, If your brother

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<v Speaker 1>gets the painting you love from your parents' house, have

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<v Speaker 1>a print made of it for yourself. You are more

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<v Speaker 1>or less looking at the same thing. When you don't

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<v Speaker 1>get what you hoped for, get creative and consider whether

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<v Speaker 1>there is something adjacent that might be satisfying instead. I

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<v Speaker 1>have heard people say that when a door closes, a

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<v Speaker 1>window opens, and maybe that's true, but in my experience,

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<v Speaker 1>it's more like when you realize a door has closed,

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<v Speaker 1>then you can check whether you could open the windows.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes they are locked too, but not always. If you

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<v Speaker 1>get curious and look around, you might find some version

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<v Speaker 1>of a yes alongside that no. In the meantime, this

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<v Speaker 1>is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the

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<v Speaker 1>most of our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast.

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<v Speaker 1>If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach

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<v Speaker 1>me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast

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