Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's
Speaker 1: tip is that when you are told no about something
Speaker 1: you want, consider whether there might be a yes hiding
Speaker 1: behind it. Disappointments are inevitable, but sometimes when one option
Speaker 1: isn't happening, a related option will become available if you
Speaker 1: look for it. So we hear no all the time
Speaker 1: in life, like no, you're not getting that promotion. No,
Speaker 1: you can't have a dinner reservation at this restaurant for Friday. No,
Speaker 1: I can't have the report done by Monday. Or no,
Speaker 1: there's no room in the four and five year old
Speaker 1: swimming class. No, your kid wasn't admitted to that college.
Speaker 1: It is disappointing, and sometimes no is just no. I
Speaker 1: cringe when people sometimes say they won't take no for
Speaker 1: an answer, because when someone has set a boundary, it
Speaker 1: is frustrating and unfair for everyone if you keep trying
Speaker 1: to push it. But other times, when you are turned
Speaker 1: down for something you want, there may be something related
Speaker 1: that is available if you just look around or ask.
Speaker 1: So if your child doesn't make a sports team, maybe
Speaker 1: they could be the team manager. The coach may not
Speaker 1: volunteer that information, but if someone asks, another opportunity may
Speaker 1: be available. After all, If you don't get a job
Speaker 1: at an organization you love, ask whether they see any
Speaker 1: other job openings that might be a good fit for you.
Speaker 1: Make sure everyone has your information, and keep the lines
Speaker 1: of communication open so you can check in every few
Speaker 1: months to see I have lost track of how many
Speaker 1: people have told me about interviewing at a company, losing
Speaker 1: out in the last round for a job, and then
Speaker 1: being first in mind the next time there is an opening.
Speaker 1: It happens all the time. If a change in your
Speaker 1: work schedule means you can no longer take the tennis
Speaker 1: class you look forward to every week, what about scheduling
Speaker 1: private lessons? What about trying a different tennis place You
Speaker 1: just might find something you like. If you can't get
Speaker 1: a reservation at the restaurant you wanted to go to
Speaker 1: for your birthday, why not plan ahead and get a
Speaker 1: reservation for your anniversary in a few months. They probably
Speaker 1: aren't booked up. Then if the brother, If your brother
Speaker 1: gets the painting you love from your parents' house, have
Speaker 1: a print made of it for yourself. You are more
Speaker 1: or less looking at the same thing. When you don't
Speaker 1: get what you hoped for, get creative and consider whether
Speaker 1: there is something adjacent that might be satisfying instead. I
Speaker 1: have heard people say that when a door closes, a
Speaker 1: window opens, and maybe that's true, but in my experience,
Speaker 1: it's more like when you realize a door has closed,
Speaker 1: then you can check whether you could open the windows.
Speaker 1: Sometimes they are locked too, but not always. If you
Speaker 1: get curious and look around, you might find some version
Speaker 1: of a yes alongside that no. In the meantime, this
Speaker 1: is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the
Speaker 1: most of our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast.
Speaker 1: If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach
Speaker 1: me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast
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