1 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning, 2 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:15,960 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:18,360 Speaker 1: tip is that when you are told no about something 4 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:22,840 Speaker 1: you want, consider whether there might be a yes hiding 5 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 1: behind it. Disappointments are inevitable, but sometimes when one option 6 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:34,600 Speaker 1: isn't happening, a related option will become available if you 7 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: look for it. So we hear no all the time 8 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:42,159 Speaker 1: in life, like no, you're not getting that promotion. No, 9 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:46,120 Speaker 1: you can't have a dinner reservation at this restaurant for Friday. No, 10 00:00:46,360 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 1: I can't have the report done by Monday. Or no, 11 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:50,640 Speaker 1: there's no room in the four and five year old 12 00:00:50,640 --> 00:00:55,520 Speaker 1: swimming class. No, your kid wasn't admitted to that college. 13 00:00:56,280 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 1: It is disappointing, and sometimes no is just no. I 14 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 1: cringe when people sometimes say they won't take no for 15 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 1: an answer, because when someone has set a boundary, it 16 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 1: is frustrating and unfair for everyone if you keep trying 17 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: to push it. But other times, when you are turned 18 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:19,200 Speaker 1: down for something you want, there may be something related 19 00:01:19,240 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 1: that is available if you just look around or ask. 20 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:27,640 Speaker 1: So if your child doesn't make a sports team, maybe 21 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:30,679 Speaker 1: they could be the team manager. The coach may not 22 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:35,200 Speaker 1: volunteer that information, but if someone asks, another opportunity may 23 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:39,480 Speaker 1: be available. After all, If you don't get a job 24 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:43,319 Speaker 1: at an organization you love, ask whether they see any 25 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 1: other job openings that might be a good fit for you. 26 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:51,760 Speaker 1: Make sure everyone has your information, and keep the lines 27 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: of communication open so you can check in every few 28 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 1: months to see I have lost track of how many 29 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: people have told me about interviewing at a company, losing 30 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 1: out in the last round for a job, and then 31 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: being first in mind the next time there is an opening. 32 00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:14,919 Speaker 1: It happens all the time. If a change in your 33 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:17,560 Speaker 1: work schedule means you can no longer take the tennis 34 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 1: class you look forward to every week, what about scheduling 35 00:02:21,120 --> 00:02:26,120 Speaker 1: private lessons? What about trying a different tennis place You 36 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 1: just might find something you like. If you can't get 37 00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:32,840 Speaker 1: a reservation at the restaurant you wanted to go to 38 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 1: for your birthday, why not plan ahead and get a 39 00:02:36,919 --> 00:02:40,919 Speaker 1: reservation for your anniversary in a few months. They probably 40 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 1: aren't booked up. Then if the brother, If your brother 41 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:48,640 Speaker 1: gets the painting you love from your parents' house, have 42 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:51,839 Speaker 1: a print made of it for yourself. You are more 43 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 1: or less looking at the same thing. When you don't 44 00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 1: get what you hoped for, get creative and consider whether 45 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: there is something adjacent that might be satisfying instead. I 46 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:05,079 Speaker 1: have heard people say that when a door closes, a 47 00:03:05,120 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 1: window opens, and maybe that's true, but in my experience, 48 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:11,240 Speaker 1: it's more like when you realize a door has closed, 49 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:13,800 Speaker 1: then you can check whether you could open the windows. 50 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:19,120 Speaker 1: Sometimes they are locked too, but not always. If you 51 00:03:19,160 --> 00:03:22,720 Speaker 1: get curious and look around, you might find some version 52 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 1: of a yes alongside that no. In the meantime, this 53 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 1: is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the 54 00:03:32,639 --> 00:03:42,880 Speaker 1: most of our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. 55 00:03:43,440 --> 00:03:47,200 Speaker 1: If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach 56 00:03:47,280 --> 00:03:56,920 Speaker 1: me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast 57 00:03:56,960 --> 00:04:01,240 Speaker 1: is a production of iHeartMedia. For more podcasts from iHeartMedia, 58 00:04:01,280 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 1: please visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you 59 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 1: listen to your favorite shows.