1 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:06,600 Speaker 1: She's ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the 2 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:08,959 Speaker 1: Fred Show. Hey James, good morning, Welcome to the show. 3 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:11,280 Speaker 1: How are you hi, Guys, Good morning. I'm doing good. 4 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:13,880 Speaker 1: So what's going on with this woman, Kate? It's waiting 5 00:00:13,880 --> 00:00:15,239 Speaker 1: by the phone. We're trying to figure out if you've 6 00:00:15,280 --> 00:00:17,520 Speaker 1: been ghosted by by this person? How did you meet? 7 00:00:17,560 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 1: Tell us about any dates that you've been on, and 8 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:22,000 Speaker 1: why you think you're being ghosted? Right? So, yeah, I 9 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 1: met this Joe Kate. 10 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 2: Super super nighe very cute, and we kind of kind 11 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 2: of hit it off. I met her at a bar 12 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:32,879 Speaker 2: recently watching that college basketball game. You know, we were 13 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:34,639 Speaker 2: there kind of sharing for the same team. We were 14 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 2: both with some from some friends, and I approached her 15 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:41,199 Speaker 2: and things were going well, you know, I got her 16 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,559 Speaker 2: number and then eventually we met up after we just 17 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:47,400 Speaker 2: got a couple of drinks and then she said she 18 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 2: had to get going, but she said she'd be open 19 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 2: to another date. 20 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:51,840 Speaker 1: So I'm like, okay, that's great. 21 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 2: I have since called and text her, but she hasn't 22 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 2: replied or anything. So I'm like, is she playing hard 23 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:01,080 Speaker 2: to get or is she sh it's not interested. 24 00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: I'm kind of confused. Okay, all right, so you liked 25 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:06,240 Speaker 1: her a lot. You look back on this day, you 26 00:01:06,240 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: thought it was a success. You you're truly confused. You're like, 27 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 1: why why am I hearing from this person? That's it? 28 00:01:12,480 --> 00:01:14,400 Speaker 2: And like there's a good vibe, Like we were talking 29 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:16,360 Speaker 2: about all types of stuff and you know a little 30 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 2: bit about our family and what work and all that stuff. 31 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 2: It was just a great conversation. Why I'm like, the 32 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:22,399 Speaker 2: whole thing doesn't make sense. 33 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 1: Things got personal and you know, it wasn't surface and 34 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:27,959 Speaker 1: all right, And that's frustrating, because hey, when you meet 35 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 1: someone you like, you want to hear from them again. 36 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:31,120 Speaker 1: You want another shot. You want to you know, you 37 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 1: hope it goes somewhere. So all right, let's call her 38 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:44,119 Speaker 1: right now. Good luck, James. Hello, Hi is this Kate? Yes, hey, Kate, 39 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:45,720 Speaker 1: good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling from the 40 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: Fred's Show, the morning radio show, and I have to 41 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 1: tell you that we are on the air right now, 42 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 1: and I would need your permission to continue with the call. 43 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 1: Can we chat for just a second? Oh yes, yeah, 44 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 1: I know it's it's kind of startling, and but I 45 00:01:56,720 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 1: do appreciate you taking the time. You can hang up 46 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:00,200 Speaker 1: anytime you want. But we're calling on behalf of a 47 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:02,160 Speaker 1: guy who reached out to us. His name is James. 48 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: I guess you met him at a bar watching basketball 49 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:07,080 Speaker 1: or something like that. You remember this guy going out 50 00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:11,359 Speaker 1: with him? Yeah, yeah, hard to forget, hard to forget. Well, 51 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 1: James liked you, and he was just telling us that 52 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 1: he thought, you know, everything was going well with you two, 53 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:18,919 Speaker 1: and good conversation on the date and all that stuff. 54 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 1: He's surprised though, that he can't get a hold of 55 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: you for another date. Thanks for ghosting him. Sounds like 56 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:27,880 Speaker 1: maybe you are what happened, well. 57 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:31,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, everything was was great at first. I mean I 58 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 3: met at a bar. I thought he was really good 59 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:40,800 Speaker 3: looking actually, But then on the first date, I kid 60 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 3: you not, we have a single drink and she says 61 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 3: to me, do you want to go down the street 62 00:02:47,639 --> 00:02:51,400 Speaker 3: I know this place to get tested on the day. 63 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:54,799 Speaker 3: I thought that, yes, he thought that that was an 64 00:02:54,840 --> 00:02:59,080 Speaker 3: okay thing to say to me on our first day. 65 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: Yes, yes for COVID. Wow, okay, it's a little too late. 66 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: So you guys are on this date and he's like, hey, 67 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 1: let's go down the street to this great place I 68 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:14,520 Speaker 1: know and You're like, Okay, what is it, and he's like, 69 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:16,400 Speaker 1: it's a doctor's office. We're going to get tested for 70 00:03:16,919 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 1: you know, right? 71 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 3: Exactly? Wow, one drink in. It's not like this guy's wasted. 72 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:26,920 Speaker 3: It's not like he's having like a weird moment. He 73 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:31,400 Speaker 3: planned this whole date around knowing that this offense was 74 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:32,079 Speaker 3: down the street. 75 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:35,440 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm all for being safe and responsible and 76 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:37,840 Speaker 1: all of that and having that conversation, but maybe not 77 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:41,119 Speaker 1: after one drink on the first date. And I'm sure 78 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 1: that was your impression too. It's like, well, who says 79 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:45,000 Speaker 1: we're going Who says that's going to be necessary? 80 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 3: Exactly? It was like so presumptuous and also arrogant, because 81 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:53,680 Speaker 3: it's like, why do you think you have any right 82 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 3: to think that I'm going to sleep with you? 83 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:59,080 Speaker 1: Let me bring James in. I forgot to mention that 84 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: James was here. James, dude. One drink in? Yeah, what's up? 85 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:07,880 Speaker 2: Kate Like, I'm just surprised that you don't care about 86 00:04:07,880 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 2: being cleaned. 87 00:04:09,440 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 1: Well I don't. I don't think that's what she said. 88 00:04:12,040 --> 00:04:14,800 Speaker 1: That's a jump. No, that's not what she said. She 89 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:16,480 Speaker 1: said she doesn't want to go get tested after one 90 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:17,040 Speaker 1: drink with you. 91 00:04:17,720 --> 00:04:20,479 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, what's what's the big Like, I don't 92 00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:22,080 Speaker 2: understand how this is an issue? Like we want to 93 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:23,840 Speaker 2: eventually we're going to get there, right we had? 94 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 1: Maybe we're no Have you ever considered that it's maybe 95 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:31,159 Speaker 1: she doesn't want to I mean, it's possible that she 96 00:04:31,200 --> 00:04:32,840 Speaker 1: doesn't want to get with you ever. Maybe she wants 97 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:34,480 Speaker 1: to get with you right away. Maybe she doesn't ever 98 00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:36,560 Speaker 1: want to get with you. But how do you even know? 99 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:39,279 Speaker 2: I just have a feeling, you know, guys, we have 100 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 2: a hunch that it's going to go well, and you know, 101 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 2: and precaution we should go and get you know, tested 102 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:46,360 Speaker 2: and make sure we're good to go. What was it 103 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:46,839 Speaker 2: an issue? 104 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:48,039 Speaker 1: I don't get it. I've heard of a lot of 105 00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:51,320 Speaker 1: first aid activities, but all right to the clinic, isn't 106 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:54,920 Speaker 1: that one? I mean again, it's it's you know, good 107 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:56,680 Speaker 1: to have that conversation. I guess you want to get 108 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:58,599 Speaker 1: checked out if that's where it's headed, you know, down 109 00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:02,599 Speaker 1: the road. But I mean, I mean that's very presumptuous. 110 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:03,919 Speaker 1: I agree with Kate well. 111 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:05,479 Speaker 2: And his other thing too, is like, okay, so she 112 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:08,160 Speaker 2: doesn't want to do it, why is she hiding something 113 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:10,600 Speaker 2: that she doesn't want to say, like what's going on? 114 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 1: You know? You? Right? Do you do this with every 115 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:18,120 Speaker 1: first date? Clearly this is an important you don't have 116 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 1: to show, right, what makes you say? Like what in 117 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:23,120 Speaker 1: your mind's like, oh, Kate's a dirty one. We gotta 118 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:24,720 Speaker 1: go get tested, you know what I'm saying? Like what 119 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:25,800 Speaker 1: is this? I mean? 120 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:28,040 Speaker 2: No, there was no indication that he was a dirty, 121 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:29,920 Speaker 2: good dirty girl, of course, but like. 122 00:05:29,839 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 1: Hey, let's just be comit, okay, twenty. 123 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:34,080 Speaker 2: Twenty four, let's all be safe. We don't know where 124 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 2: we've been, and let's just handle it and then we can, 125 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:37,560 Speaker 2: you know, move forward. 126 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: But sir, who says she was sleeping with you? Yeah? 127 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 1: Who told you that? Who told you were getting lad? 128 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:47,960 Speaker 1: The guy? He knows he's got a hunt, Yeah he 129 00:05:48,040 --> 00:05:52,000 Speaker 1: got that success. Yeah. What I mean, why do you 130 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 1: think that's automatically going to happen? 131 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 2: Because eventually it does, you to be and whether it 132 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 2: happens the first or second time, it's gonna happened. 133 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:07,440 Speaker 1: This is why you're getting blocked, Kate. I'll ask, I mean, 134 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:09,479 Speaker 1: but I know the answer to you is rhetorical. Do 135 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:12,360 Speaker 1: you want to go out with this guy again? You'll 136 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:14,919 Speaker 1: probably have to get tested before you go, but you 137 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:16,640 Speaker 1: can go together. I guess he knows the place. 138 00:06:16,880 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 2: No. 139 00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 3: I would rather date anyone. 140 00:06:20,040 --> 00:06:24,680 Speaker 1: Else, wol. I don't blame you, James. I'm sorry. Man. 141 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:26,799 Speaker 1: It's not gonna work out, okay, whatever. 142 00:06:26,960 --> 00:06:31,760 Speaker 2: She obviously has an STD right, right, Okay, Well you'll 143 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:34,840 Speaker 2: never find out right, this is. 144 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:38,240 Speaker 1: Not going to be a problem for you, Kate. Thank 145 00:06:38,279 --> 00:06:40,920 Speaker 1: you for your time, James, good luck out there. Yeah.