WEBVTT - Gary’s Keeping the Faith! 0:00:02.160 --> 0:00:04.040 Hey, well, welcome back to bench your happy Hour. 0:00:04.320 --> 0:00:06.400 I'm Joe and I'm Serena. 0:00:06.120 --> 0:00:10.000 And we are here today with Gary. Gary, welcome to 0:00:10.160 --> 0:00:11.039 Bechler Happy Hour. 0:00:11.600 --> 0:00:14.319 Thank you for having me. Thank you of course. 0:00:14.360 --> 0:00:15.360 How you doing? What's new? 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:22.120 Things are fabulous? Just looking forward to, uh, the amazing 0:00:22.200 --> 0:00:25.840 journey that I've been on and it's it's it's been 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:27.840 a lot of fun. So what am I up to? 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:30.080 Enjoy the ride? 0:00:30.480 --> 0:00:33.000 Nice? I love that. Where where do you live? 0:00:33.800 --> 0:00:35.199 I'm in Palm Desert? 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:38.559 Okay? Where is that? California? 0:00:38.840 --> 0:00:44.480 Okay? So Palm Springs, Yes, the Coachella Valley, Yes, court 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:48.360 Shalla everyone turned. Coachella Y Desert is one of the 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:56.400 municipalities here in the Coachella Valley. Indian Wells Lakinita, so 0:00:56.480 --> 0:01:01.200 where Gary and Teresa were married over in at the resort. 0:01:01.520 --> 0:01:04.560 Okay, I'm where are you from? Are you from California? 0:01:05.200 --> 0:01:07.240 I'm from Los Angeles, the big city. 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:08.880 Gott are you? Who? 0:01:08.920 --> 0:01:09.760 Are you? Like? You? 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:11.280 A Rams? Are a Chargers fan? 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:15.960 I was a Rams fan until they moved, and once 0:01:16.000 --> 0:01:18.920 they moved, I became a Raider fan when they came 0:01:19.000 --> 0:01:24.160 to Los Angeles. But more importantly pro football. It's USC Trojans. 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:26.399 We fight on USC. 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:28.240 Yeah, I heard, I heard you're a USC fan. I 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:38.720 mean you guys. Well, it's been rough, right. 0:01:35.200 --> 0:01:38.520 Don't remind me. I'm reminded constantly over the past couple 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:41.640 of weeks about the new division. We're in the Big Ten, 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:46.120 and yeah, it's it's been an interesting run so far. 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:49.680 Well, I'm from Chicago and we have your guys our 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:50.760 quarterback now, so. 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:55.320 All of my guys in the NFL. So that's my 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:57.840 new team is the du Bears. 0:01:58.160 --> 0:02:00.720 Now, we'll see, we'll see how that works out. It 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:02.960 hasn't worked out good for anyone in a long time. 0:02:03.080 --> 0:02:05.760 But hopefully you're on the men. 0:02:05.960 --> 0:02:06.600 You're on the men. 0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:10.720 So yeah, we'll probably have to stop talking about football 0:02:10.760 --> 0:02:14.320 because our listeners don't want to hear about football, and 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:18.079 I know I shouldn't be talking about football. What How 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:22.040 did you get on to the Golden Bachelor. 0:02:22.800 --> 0:02:26.360 It's it's an interesting journey. In the beginning, I thought 0:02:26.360 --> 0:02:31.800 it like the Dickens. Someone came into my church and said, 0:02:31.960 --> 0:02:34.079 I think you should fill this out, and I go, no, 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:39.520 I'm too private a person. I'm nah. And we befriend 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:42.320 each other and I went to support one of the 0:02:42.360 --> 0:02:44.520 events that they were putting on, and lo and behold 0:02:44.560 --> 0:02:52.040 it was an event for the Golden Bacheorette, and I said, sure, 0:02:52.120 --> 0:02:55.000 let me fill this out and the rest is history, 0:02:55.000 --> 0:02:55.679 and here I am. 0:02:57.400 --> 0:02:59.959 Did you watch did you watch the Golden Bats? 0:03:01.120 --> 0:03:04.760 I watched some episodes of The Golden Bachelor, and then 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:11.000 once I started, I couldn't stop, So I did. I did, 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:13.320 I have to admit, and I don't watch much television, 0:03:13.440 --> 0:03:16.880 so it was it was a lot of fun. 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:20.520 Watching while watching that show. Did you think that you 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:21.760 could do something like this? 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:26.280 It never crossed my mind, to be honest with you, 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:31.560 although since being on this show, I can't see why 0:03:31.560 --> 0:03:34.760 I didn't cross my mind, because what a fun experience 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:37.960 it's been. And but yeah, it never crossed my mind 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:38.480 at the time. 0:03:39.040 --> 0:03:41.520 Yeah, I feel like you you were one of the 0:03:41.560 --> 0:03:42.760 guys that really. 0:03:44.160 --> 0:03:47.240 You genuinely seem to have most of the guys on 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:50.360 your season really a good time, don't you think? Yeah? 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:52.240 I think so. Was it what you expected it to be? 0:03:53.360 --> 0:04:00.240 It was so much more. It was so much more. Uh, Yeah, 0:04:00.320 --> 0:04:02.520 it was so much more than I could have ever 0:04:02.720 --> 0:04:06.560 expected or anticipated. But it's been a great run, and 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:11.720 the the fun continues, I mean, this is this is amazing, 0:04:11.920 --> 0:04:14.880 and I'm I'm humbled by the entire process. 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:16.480 Do you have kids? 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:23.400 I have two adult children and I have one grandson 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:25.680 who's all of five years old, So I have two 0:04:25.680 --> 0:04:26.479 adult children. 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:29.400 Oh yeah, I think in the in the first episode 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:32.320 we saw was it your grandson that we saw in 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:33.000 the video clip? 0:04:33.480 --> 0:04:39.520 That was my grandson? He is really my daughter Kelsey. Oh. 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:42.719 I wasn't expecting that. I don't know how the producers 0:04:42.760 --> 0:04:46.560 pulled that off, but that was a very touching moment 0:04:46.640 --> 0:04:51.240 because we talked my daughter and I about twice a 0:04:51.400 --> 0:04:53.760 day on our way to work, on our way home 0:04:53.760 --> 0:05:00.280 from work, and for that to be pulled was was 0:05:00.400 --> 0:05:02.600 just another adjustment I had to make. So when they 0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:07.320 showed it, it really hit home. And especially seeing my grandson. 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:11.320 What what did your daughter think of you going on 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:13.360 the show? Was she excited? Was she like what are you? 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:14.720 Why are you doing this? 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:19.159 She was? And both my son and daughter they're like, Dad, 0:05:19.200 --> 0:05:21.520 we just want you to be happy. We want you 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:26.159 to to find someone that you can continue to walk 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:30.320 through life with. And my daughter says, Dad, you know 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:32.760 the show is national. You know you're going to be 0:05:32.760 --> 0:05:37.799 seeing all over the world. I just thought, Oh my god. 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:41.040 You know, you don't think about that, but reality sets 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:45.760 in once you're there, and that's what I'm experiencing now. 0:05:45.960 --> 0:05:48.320 So she warned me. She let me know. 0:05:49.120 --> 0:05:50.920 I know, I feel like it can feel like almost 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:54.159 a disconnect. When you're filming the show. It's like, you 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:56.200 know it's going to be on TV and people are 0:05:56.279 --> 0:06:00.080 going to see it. But the scale of how I 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.560 need people are going to see these moments. I just 0:06:02.560 --> 0:06:04.960 feel like, never, even to this day, has never really 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:06.159 hit me like it is. 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:07.440 There's so many viewers. 0:06:07.520 --> 0:06:09.720 It's even people listening to this podcast. I forget anyone 0:06:09.839 --> 0:06:10.240 listens to this. 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:10.520 Yeah. 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:13.240 Joe and I when we were recording our apartment, we 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:15.120 always say like, oh, I forget the people listen to 0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:17.279 what we're saying when we're just chatting. 0:06:17.600 --> 0:06:22.080 Yeah, right, right, exactly. Yeah. The magnitude is the scale 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:26.280 is You're right, it's just a thousand times greater than 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:27.440 you could have ever imagined. 0:06:27.560 --> 0:06:32.839 Well wait, how how are you related to Tina Turner. 0:06:34.279 --> 0:06:39.000 My godmother, her son and I Craig Turner and the 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:42.880 other boys, I, Ronnie and Michael. We all grew up 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:47.440 together from like fifth grade. And Craig was the best 0:06:47.480 --> 0:06:51.559 man at my wedding, and we were even roommates after 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:55.080 I came home from college. And then when my mom 0:06:55.200 --> 0:06:59.240 passed back some time ago, and we would travel over 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:03.839 to Europe to see her. Once she moved, she said 0:07:03.880 --> 0:07:06.520 she would take on the reins as my godmother and 0:07:06.560 --> 0:07:09.720 not to worry and I could. I can always call. 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:12.880 So that's how that played out. Wo. 0:07:13.000 --> 0:07:16.120 Wow, that's a really unique story. But that's so beautiful. 0:07:18.120 --> 0:07:21.920 And I hold on to every word that she's that 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:24.280 she's ever shared with me, the books that she would 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:28.560 give me to read some pretty powerful moments. 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:32.160 Nice. That's awesome. What do you still work or you retired? 0:07:32.560 --> 0:07:38.320 I am retired, thank goodness, and I I what did 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:42.120 you do? Every minute? I was in corporate finance. I 0:07:42.160 --> 0:07:47.640 worked for Fortune one hundred companies. One in particular was 0:07:48.320 --> 0:07:52.559 Southern California Edison and I was there for fifteen years. 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:57.080 And then I worked at an arrow defense arrow commercial 0:07:57.120 --> 0:07:59.000 company Northrop Grumming Corporation. 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:04.000 Okay, wow, in and now you're loving retired life. 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:05.120 And now well. 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:10.560 And watching your watch and watching yourself back on the television. 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:15.760 That is it's the most insane thing when you you know, 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:18.440 you're sitting and I'm watching a sporting event and you 0:08:18.480 --> 0:08:20.640 see yourself go across the screen. 0:08:20.720 --> 0:08:24.840 It's like, those are all I actually forgot. 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:28.560 The promos are jarring when you're not expecting them, and 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:30.840 then all of a sudden, it's like your face and 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:32.920 you're like, oh my gosh, what am I doing there? 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:35.439 Totally? 0:08:42.240 --> 0:08:43.760 What did you do for the premiere? Do you do 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:45.080 anything fun? To celebrate? 0:08:46.520 --> 0:08:52.440 Some friends and some folks from our church put together 0:08:52.480 --> 0:08:55.680 an event at one of their homes and it was 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:59.640 pretty special. You know, that's my family here in the 0:08:59.640 --> 0:09:03.640 desert where I'm at, my family, my immediate families in 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:06.840 Los Angeles. So they put this thing on and it 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:09.920 was it was pretty special that they even wanted to 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:13.040 host the event, and yeah, it was great. 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:17.200 Can you can you take us back to night one 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:20.439 and just what was that experience like for you and 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:24.760 stepping out in the limo and finally getting into the mansion. 0:09:25.640 --> 0:09:31.840 Yeah, so night one it was. It was pretty amazing. 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:34.920 As we're on the limo and I'm with three or 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:37.880 four of the guys, and as we pull up the 0:09:37.960 --> 0:09:43.080 driveway to the mansion, the nerves start setting in and 0:09:43.120 --> 0:09:47.679 then we see Joan and it's like, oh my god, 0:09:47.840 --> 0:09:50.600 there she is, and she looked like she was on 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:54.720 a pedestal with the lights and just bigger than life. 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:58.760 So you know, you get out of the car. I 0:09:58.800 --> 0:10:02.640 saw Jordan and I kind of remember what I'm supposed 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:05.880 to say? What am I doing? Oh my? And I 0:10:06.000 --> 0:10:08.000 danced my way up so I got rid of some 0:10:08.080 --> 0:10:11.720 nervous energy there. That was kind of fun, smart, And 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:15.160 then she had to turn me where I was supposed 0:10:15.200 --> 0:10:18.280 to go because I was just I was in awe. 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:21.080 I was lost. I was lost in a moment and 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:24.559 it was It was pretty cool. It was pretty cool. 0:10:24.840 --> 0:10:28.720 How was it living with a bunch of guys? 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:34.640 I had kind of prepared myself for, not knowing what 0:10:34.679 --> 0:10:37.760 to expect or what to anticipate. It was okay, It 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:41.560 was cool outside of the little bunk beds that we 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:43.080 had sleep. 0:10:43.559 --> 0:10:45.560 Are you a top bunk or a bottom bunk? 0:10:45.920 --> 0:10:47.360 I was a bottom bunker. 0:10:47.760 --> 0:10:48.120 Nice. 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:53.600 Charles was above me. Charles was above me? Oh yeah, yeah, 0:10:53.640 --> 0:10:58.280 So we were roommates. It was Charles, myself, Guy Chalk, 0:10:58.480 --> 0:11:04.040 and Michael, which Charles, Charles Wayne. 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:07.840 Okay, and who who would you say would be your 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:09.120 closest friends? 0:11:09.120 --> 0:11:09.600 In the house. 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:17.959 My closest friends were were Guy and Christopher. I connected 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:23.760 very well with with Chalk, and yeah, quite a few 0:11:23.760 --> 0:11:26.679 of the guys we we It was like a brotherhood. 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:30.560 It was like a little fraternity Yeah, like fraternity house. 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:33.920 It was. It was. It was pretty special in that way. 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:38.800 And then before before you go on the show and 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:42.120 and you start dating Joan with twenty other guys, what 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:44.760 was what was dating life for you before going on? 0:11:46.880 --> 0:11:50.720 It was? It was an interesting experience trying to find 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:56.800 someone that was equally yoked in in my faith and 0:11:56.840 --> 0:12:04.800 my belief and some very long, continuous relationships, even proposing 0:12:04.960 --> 0:12:10.920 to someone that didn't happen or come to fruition, which 0:12:11.080 --> 0:12:14.520 was a little painful, but you know, we continue to 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:20.160 move forward and I think that she potentially is closer 0:12:20.200 --> 0:12:24.240 than I could ever imagine. And they say, sometimes she's 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:27.000 the person is right in front of you. You just 0:12:27.720 --> 0:12:29.600 have to let go and let God. 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:31.240 Did it feel crazy? 0:12:31.320 --> 0:12:33.440 The idea of proposing to someone in such a short 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:34.400 amount of time. 0:12:35.480 --> 0:12:42.000 That was insane crazy, And like, you know, yes, just 0:12:42.520 --> 0:12:47.600 it's crazy to think that someone could actually connect in 0:12:47.679 --> 0:12:50.239 that short period of time and make it a lifetime. 0:12:50.520 --> 0:12:55.080 Going forward, Yeah, yeah, true. Is that so. 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.880 That I'm assuming that's really important Having someone that has 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:03.160 same faith and beliefs as you. Is that like a 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:04.640 must in a relationship? 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:11.280 Well, I think it's important because you know, when when 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:14.520 you when you discuss faithful things and uh and you 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:21.280 have a belief it isn't a deal killer, but I 0:13:21.280 --> 0:13:26.760 think it's important that it helps exponentially having someone walk 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:28.040 in the same faith as you do. 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:31.439 Yeah, what are some other things that you're looking for 0:13:31.480 --> 0:13:32.840 when you're when you're dating? 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:40.720 Character? I think is important and someone that is is 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:44.560 true and honest with themselves and is not afraid to 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:48.000 be themselves. You know, as we get older, the more 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:51.800 comfortable in our skin we're supposed to be, the more 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:56.080 comfortable we're supposed to be with exhibiting who and what 0:13:56.200 --> 0:13:59.679 we are. So I think those are some of the 0:13:59.720 --> 0:14:03.640 import aspects I looked for in my partner. So what 0:14:03.760 --> 0:14:07.559 I can travel with and walk on sandy beaches, looking 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:11.960 at global sunsets from time to time, and or just 0:14:11.960 --> 0:14:15.439 sitting on the couch and grabbing some popcorn and watching 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:20.200 a film. So so yeah, those are some of the 0:14:20.280 --> 0:14:22.640 qualities I think are are important to me. 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:29.680 How how would you describe your relationship with Joan, your 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:31.480 connection with her while on the show. 0:14:32.880 --> 0:14:39.080 You know, it was pretty special and every opportunity I 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:43.720 got to spend with her and the time was it 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:49.480 was amazing getting to know her. From that first nostalgic 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:52.880 phone call that we made the first night with each other, 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:56.560 finding out that she was a straight A student was like, 0:14:57.800 --> 0:15:02.200 you know, that's amazing. She wasn't involved in sports or athletics, 0:15:02.320 --> 0:15:06.840 which is something that I did. But and and our 0:15:06.880 --> 0:15:11.240 connection continued to grow in such a special way that 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:15.840 we are now and uh and have become very very 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:16.840 good friends. 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:21.120 Do you remember the moment and we see you you 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:24.680 tear up a little bit when she gave you the 0:15:24.680 --> 0:15:29.040 picture of each other during was that the prom problem? 0:15:30.840 --> 0:15:31.040 Yeah? 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:33.560 Why why was that moment so special for you? 0:15:34.640 --> 0:15:39.480 I think it was special because it it hit me 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:45.200 emotionally with her doing something for me, and we were 0:15:45.200 --> 0:15:50.360 all doing stuff for her to get her attention, and 0:15:50.400 --> 0:15:52.320 the fact that I was the only guy that she 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:58.280 gave something to at that point it really touched me. 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:03.000 I thought, how awesome of you two to think of 0:16:03.080 --> 0:16:06.080 me in that way. And as my daughter says, Dad, 0:16:06.120 --> 0:16:09.640 she cried too much. And and I'm an emotional guy 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:14.800 and I don't mind, but you know, it was it 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:17.680 was pretty special. I mean it really really was, and 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:23.480 so it resonated with with me in that emotional kind 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:23.800 of play. 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:27.720 Yeah that that I mean, that makes that makes sense 0:16:27.840 --> 0:16:34.160 and that okay, So what what was your face? Did 0:16:34.160 --> 0:16:36.720 you have a favorite group date during your time? 0:16:39.880 --> 0:16:42.760 My favorite group date was when we played kick Blow? 0:16:43.360 --> 0:16:45.520 Oh yeah that was actually that was that was fun. 0:16:45.560 --> 0:16:48.280 Who are the who are the who are the NFL 0:16:48.320 --> 0:16:49.000 guys that were there? 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:51.920 That was Eric Dickerson. 0:16:51.480 --> 0:16:54.960 And yeah, Andrew Reid. Yeah, that's right. What was it 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:58.080 like seeing though? What was like? Like Eric Dickerson? He 0:16:58.240 --> 0:17:01.120 was he was in l a guy, right was he? 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:09.320 He he went to Southern Methodists University, Yes, if I'm 0:17:09.359 --> 0:17:13.119 not mistaken, but he was. Yeah, he did play the 0:17:13.200 --> 0:17:15.320 Rams for a while, but that was after they moved 0:17:15.359 --> 0:17:21.560 to Anaheim Angels. Yeah that was That was pretty awesome 0:17:21.600 --> 0:17:25.639 because those guys were from my era growing up, uh 0:17:25.680 --> 0:17:30.760 and watching football back in the old days, if you will. Yeah, 0:17:31.200 --> 0:17:32.720 so it was great seeing those guys. 0:17:32.960 --> 0:17:35.760 Yeah that's cool. And then how was it Yeah? How 0:17:35.840 --> 0:17:40.480 was it playing competitive kickball? How how into it was 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:42.400 everyone and at it. 0:17:43.119 --> 0:17:47.399 Well. I like to say I was the best. I 0:17:47.520 --> 0:17:51.440 made a few pretty amazing, pretty good catches and amazing 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:57.000 catches out there. So Jordan, who was our pitcher, was 0:17:57.400 --> 0:18:03.080 he was pretty amazing, very athletically inclined and was our 0:18:03.119 --> 0:18:08.399 spiritual leader you know the picture, and he was great. 0:18:08.720 --> 0:18:11.199 It was great with being on the same team with 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:12.800 Jordan's nice. 0:18:12.880 --> 0:18:15.639 I love that. Yeah, I could. Uh do you do 0:18:15.680 --> 0:18:18.359 you do you hit the gym at all? Now? 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:19.879 I do? 0:18:20.560 --> 0:18:23.600 But the ironic thing, you know, it's like one of 0:18:23.640 --> 0:18:28.760 those where something's not really working like it used to work. 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:31.119 I can go to gym and you know, you start 0:18:31.160 --> 0:18:34.520 seeing the muscles and you say, okay, I can eat 0:18:34.520 --> 0:18:37.200 whatever I want and I can take it off. It's 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:38.920 getting a lot harder to keep it off. 0:18:40.240 --> 0:18:44.200 Yeah, but I do go on a regular basis every 0:18:45.520 --> 0:18:49.040 uh what is it? Three four, five times a week? 0:18:49.080 --> 0:18:50.920 It just depends. It depends. 0:18:51.160 --> 0:18:53.760 Yeah. Do you do you stretch? That's something I have. 0:18:54.400 --> 0:18:57.000 I really try to focus on stretching because I hate 0:18:57.160 --> 0:19:00.800 doing it, but I like I do and now I 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:01.879 think I've gotten much better. 0:19:01.960 --> 0:19:04.600 Yeah, because I forced you when we got together, I 0:19:04.640 --> 0:19:07.720 was like, you can't keep not stretching, you're gonna hurt yourself. 0:19:08.320 --> 0:19:12.160 You can almost get in a full workout stretching. It's 0:19:12.240 --> 0:19:16.240 really good for you, very lomber. Stretching is something I 0:19:16.280 --> 0:19:19.119 think I need to work more on. Everyone going to 0:19:19.160 --> 0:19:23.439 the gym should probably do that, but probably don't stretch 0:19:23.480 --> 0:19:24.439 as much as I should. 0:19:24.760 --> 0:19:35.400 Yeah, we unfortunately saw your time on the show came 0:19:35.480 --> 0:19:38.399 to an end and you were sent home by Joan. 0:19:39.400 --> 0:19:42.320 How did that feel? Were you surprised? Were you expecting it? 0:19:43.760 --> 0:19:47.320 Well, you know, you want to stay on as long 0:19:47.359 --> 0:19:51.159 as you can, and I don't want to say I 0:19:51.200 --> 0:19:55.240 was surprised as much as I was just tired. I 0:19:55.280 --> 0:20:01.719 was exhausted. You know, it's a very exhausting process. I 0:20:01.800 --> 0:20:07.440 was disappointed, of course, but at that point I was 0:20:07.600 --> 0:20:09.720 I was just ready to come in and see my 0:20:09.840 --> 0:20:15.439 family into and to do that moving forward. You know, 0:20:15.560 --> 0:20:19.080 I I I missed the guys. We did have a 0:20:19.119 --> 0:20:22.880 special bond, but I miss spending time with Joan as well, 0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:24.280 and I wish it could have been more. 0:20:25.359 --> 0:20:27.760 Are you now that we know we now know who 0:20:27.760 --> 0:20:31.720 the final four men are and that is. 0:20:32.160 --> 0:20:35.160 Chuck, Jordan's Guy, and Pascal. 0:20:36.480 --> 0:20:40.479 Are you are you surprised by any of those guys 0:20:40.480 --> 0:20:42.920 being there, and are you Is there anyone that you're 0:20:42.960 --> 0:20:44.159 shocked that isn't there? 0:20:45.280 --> 0:20:50.879 No, I think that's pretty much who I would have anticipated. Uh, 0:20:51.000 --> 0:20:55.240 and all of them are are a great fit. I 0:20:55.280 --> 0:20:59.560 still don't know who the final guy is. Yeah, but 0:20:59.680 --> 0:21:03.080 who are it is? I just pray that they take 0:21:03.440 --> 0:21:07.080 good care of her and and give her all the 0:21:07.240 --> 0:21:09.560 love that she is still deserving of. 0:21:10.040 --> 0:21:16.480 Was there anyone that felt like had a just as stronger, 0:21:16.680 --> 0:21:19.280 like maybe the strongest connection with Joan that you kind 0:21:19.280 --> 0:21:20.119 of like watch your. 0:21:20.000 --> 0:21:21.720 Life or was it kind of hard to tell like 0:21:21.840 --> 0:21:24.840 who she had strongest connections with? 0:21:25.680 --> 0:21:31.120 You know, that's a good question because we were all speculated. Yeah, 0:21:31.800 --> 0:21:36.480 and I kept telling everyone, guys, just today is all 0:21:36.520 --> 0:21:40.240 we got. You can't we don't know if you just 0:21:40.400 --> 0:21:45.240 didn't know, even though Chalk was on the first day 0:21:45.320 --> 0:21:51.920 the Disneyland that was like, wow, my god. And yeah, 0:21:51.960 --> 0:21:52.800 so you don't know. 0:21:52.960 --> 0:21:54.520 You will get to see a lot of the men 0:21:55.000 --> 0:21:57.679 at the mental coming up. How are you feeling about that? 0:21:58.520 --> 0:22:05.240 I'm so looking for that, and I I think it's 0:22:05.240 --> 0:22:09.720 gonna be pretty fabulous getting us back together and reminding 0:22:09.760 --> 0:22:12.560 each other about those things that I'd forgotten that they've 0:22:12.600 --> 0:22:17.880 forgotten about and the little subtleties that you know that 0:22:18.000 --> 0:22:22.560 made the trip just amazing, truly, So I'm looking forward 0:22:22.640 --> 0:22:22.840 to that. 0:22:23.320 --> 0:22:26.640 If you mentioned Chalk had the one on one date 0:22:26.840 --> 0:22:31.399 in Disneyland for you, if you would have gotten a 0:22:31.440 --> 0:22:33.920 one on one, what would you have wanted your date 0:22:34.160 --> 0:22:34.439 to be. 0:22:36.960 --> 0:22:39.520 I would have wanted my date to be that Disneyland date. 0:22:39.720 --> 0:22:42.480 Okay, you need to It looked so fun, I. 0:22:42.800 --> 0:22:47.160 Know, and then how wonderful those fireworks going off after. 0:22:47.320 --> 0:22:51.800 It's like the most magical place in the world. It's 0:22:52.000 --> 0:22:57.240 just just absolutely fabulous. So I would have wanted that day. 0:22:57.440 --> 0:22:57.639 You know. 0:22:57.760 --> 0:23:00.880 Growing up, my dad used to always say to us, 0:23:00.920 --> 0:23:04.840 have a magical day, because they say that at disney World. Yeah, 0:23:04.920 --> 0:23:07.440 They'll say, do you like have a magical day? 0:23:08.080 --> 0:23:09.160 He still checks out. 0:23:09.680 --> 0:23:13.160 Yeah, you had disney World in Florida. We had Disneyland 0:23:13.240 --> 0:23:15.959 here in southern California. 0:23:15.119 --> 0:23:17.480 Right, yes, Disneyland. I'm been to Disneyland. 0:23:17.520 --> 0:23:20.240 But so, now that your journeys come to an end, 0:23:20.280 --> 0:23:22.800 you're single, are you ready to mingle? 0:23:23.040 --> 0:23:26.000 What are you looking for? Are you dating? What's the plan? 0:23:26.800 --> 0:23:33.080 You know? It's it's interesting because being the private and 0:23:33.200 --> 0:23:37.440 personal guy that I am. I kind of pulled back 0:23:37.520 --> 0:23:42.320 and said, I need to I need to be very careful, 0:23:44.600 --> 0:23:48.159 but I'm still looking forward to connecting with uh, the 0:23:48.280 --> 0:23:52.680 right person. And like I said, I think she's closer 0:23:52.680 --> 0:23:56.040 than I think. I just hm hmm. 0:23:57.320 --> 0:23:59.640 How about how about any of any of the women 0:24:00.040 --> 0:24:02.520 from Gary season of The Bachelor? 0:24:02.680 --> 0:24:04.880 Yes, there was a Golden Bachelor. 0:24:04.480 --> 0:24:08.600 In Paradise hypothetically, Hypothetically are there some women that you 0:24:08.640 --> 0:24:09.919 would maybe be interested in? 0:24:13.000 --> 0:24:14.280 Maybe? Maybe? 0:24:15.640 --> 0:24:16.000 All right? 0:24:16.960 --> 0:24:22.560 As a have you have you spoken to anyone from 0:24:24.080 --> 0:24:26.760 I mean, I mean we're just you know, we're just 0:24:26.880 --> 0:24:28.240 asking is there. 0:24:28.119 --> 0:24:35.480 Someone you're maybe chatting with already? 0:24:35.680 --> 0:24:38.280