WEBVTT - ‘It’s OK to Let Go’: A Message from My Mom Jenni Rivera

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, everyone, Welcome to Cheeky's and Chill Happy Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.

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<v Speaker 1>Whenever you are listening to this podcast, to this episode,

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<v Speaker 1>I hope you're having a good day. This week for

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<v Speaker 1>me has been a little crazy, to be honest, but good.

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<v Speaker 1>It's kind of like the you know, you're winding down

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<v Speaker 1>the years ending. A lot of stuff is happening, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm happy nonetheless, and I hope you are too. So

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<v Speaker 1>this episode is going to be a personal one. It's

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<v Speaker 1>the Mike and I. We're going to be talking about

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<v Speaker 1>something a lot of people have been asking about because

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<v Speaker 1>they saw it on Cheeky sinfieldro my docu follow when

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<v Speaker 1>we went to go visit my mom in Mexico.

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<v Speaker 2>Well sounds weird? Was in my mom in Mexico? Well

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<v Speaker 2>were my.

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<v Speaker 1>Mom passed, where my mom's plane crashed. So that's what

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<v Speaker 1>we're going to be talking about today because a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people asked how that came about, and they just

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<v Speaker 1>wanted a little bit more details.

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<v Speaker 2>So we went earlier this year. It's going to be

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<v Speaker 2>what twelve.

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<v Speaker 1>Years since my mom's passing, and in December it'll be

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<v Speaker 1>twelve years and we waited this long because a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of us weren't ready. It's five of us, five children,

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<v Speaker 1>and I didn't want to go without them, and Johnny

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't ready and I wasn't ready for a long time.

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<v Speaker 1>So anyways, it happened when it was supposed to happen.

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<v Speaker 1>It happened in Monterrey, Mexico. That's where the plane, you know, crashed.

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<v Speaker 1>It's still so weird for me to talk about it,

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<v Speaker 1>to like talk, I just I don't know. It's weird

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<v Speaker 1>when people ask me, you know, how you know, how

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<v Speaker 1>old is your mom? Like, oh, my mom was forty

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<v Speaker 1>four years old, and then they asked, okay, how did

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<v Speaker 1>she pass? And I say, yeah, It's just so weird

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<v Speaker 1>to me still, it's just I can't believe it. So anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>we wanted to go out there. I feel like for me,

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<v Speaker 1>it was part of my healing journey before getting married.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to kind of get some closure in a way, because.

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<v Speaker 2>I never really got it.

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<v Speaker 1>My mom and I weren't on speaking terms. So when

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<v Speaker 1>that happened, so many things came crumbling down in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think I worked so hard and was so

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<v Speaker 1>focused on work, work, work, work, work to kind of

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<v Speaker 1>just not deal with the pain for so long that

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<v Speaker 1>it came to a point where I'm like, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>ignore this. This is part of my life, this is

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<v Speaker 1>part of my truth. And I told my siblings. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I'm ready to go. Who wants to come

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<v Speaker 1>with me? You know, because we always heard it was

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<v Speaker 1>a hike and the whole thing. And I talked to Emilio,

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<v Speaker 1>my husband, about it, and now my husband because he

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't my husband then when we went, and he said yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that he was down to go, and so we all went.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's called it is where it is, and it

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<v Speaker 1>again it's a monterrey, so it was a mountain, it's

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<v Speaker 1>someone's property. It's a farmer has like a huge land,

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<v Speaker 1>has huge land. And so now we met him, we

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<v Speaker 1>met his family, his his his wife.

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<v Speaker 2>We met also his son.

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<v Speaker 1>His son was and his cousin were one of uh

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<v Speaker 1>our guides to get up there. They told this in

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<v Speaker 1>the beginning, Oh, it's going to be like a four

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<v Speaker 1>hour hike. We're like, oh damn, okay. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>my mom's worth it. Let's do it, you know, let's go.

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<v Speaker 1>But it didn't take us that long. It took us

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<v Speaker 1>like they were very surprised, you know. So it took

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<v Speaker 1>us like, I don't know, maybe like a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>less than two hours.

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<v Speaker 2>It was very hot.

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<v Speaker 1>I felt fine for the most part because my siblings

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<v Speaker 1>were with me, and I've been doing a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>healing and a lot of like soul searching and therapy,

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<v Speaker 1>and also having Emilio there helped a lot. So I

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't go there expecting anything. I was just like,

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to go and see what I feel.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's exactly like what I did.

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<v Speaker 3>On the way up there.

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<v Speaker 1>My siblings and I were just listening to music, to

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<v Speaker 1>songs that she liked and her songs, and we were

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<v Speaker 1>all pretty happy for the most part, I think because

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<v Speaker 1>we were together when we were doing it together, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought Johnny would have broken down a little more,

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<v Speaker 1>but the one that broke down more was my brother Mikey.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I just didn't expect it, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think it really helped him a lot. So anyways, going

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<v Speaker 1>up there, walking up there, it was very nice, a

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<v Speaker 1>very very beautiful mountain, and I always felt like where

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<v Speaker 1>that happened, that incident and that catastrophe, I always thought

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<v Speaker 1>it was going to be like dark and cold and ugly,

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<v Speaker 1>and I I didn't know that's what I imagined. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so happy that I was able to go and

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<v Speaker 1>walking up there in silence and you know, talking you know,

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<v Speaker 1>to my siblings here and there was really cool. And

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<v Speaker 1>that we were able to document the you know, the

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<v Speaker 1>the that day was awesome because then I can show

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<v Speaker 1>my kids or maybe, I don't know, maybe one day

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<v Speaker 1>take my kids. We even thought about taking my nieces

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<v Speaker 1>and nephews one day, but it was so pretty, it

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<v Speaker 1>was so green and so peaceful. When we actually got

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<v Speaker 1>to where it happened, I can't the breeze was so nice.

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<v Speaker 1>It's crazy how much peace I felt. I even thought

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<v Speaker 1>in a moment, I'm like, why am I not crying?

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<v Speaker 1>Why am I not sad? Like I'm like something wrong

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<v Speaker 1>with me? But then when I thought about it, like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, no, nothing's wrong with me. I'm I'm I'm good.

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<v Speaker 1>Even though things happened the way that happened with my

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<v Speaker 1>mom and I and we weren't able to speak, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I have a very beautiful connection with her,

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<v Speaker 1>and I got the closure that I needed because when

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<v Speaker 1>we were just sitting there listening to her music, and

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<v Speaker 1>my brother was we were all kind of doing our

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<v Speaker 1>own thing. Jenica did cry. She's very very reserved. She went,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, off to on her own to do her thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Mikey too, and I just I stood there and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like kind of closed my eyes and I prayed.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what am I supposed to get out of

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<v Speaker 1>this moment? Like what am I looking for? Because I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't even really know. I just knew it was something

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<v Speaker 1>I needed to do and I wanted to do with

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<v Speaker 1>my siblings. So I just all I could hear was

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay.

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<v Speaker 3>To let go.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, and I'm like, what, Like it's weird,

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<v Speaker 1>it's I don't know if it was. I obviously didn't

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<v Speaker 1>hear someone say it. It was something that I felt

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<v Speaker 1>in my soul and I but I heard it clearly,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's okay to let go, And I'm like, what

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<v Speaker 1>do you mean? Like, I just know that I felt

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<v Speaker 1>so much peace, and I felt like my mom is good.

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<v Speaker 1>My mom is so good and at peace wherever she

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<v Speaker 1>may be. Because I do feel that there's life after

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<v Speaker 1>this life, whether it's in heaven or I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>but I feel she's so busy, so consumed in her

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<v Speaker 1>new life, doing her thing, she's happy, and she's still

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<v Speaker 1>watching over us.

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<v Speaker 2>But I feel her. And this might sound weird, but

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<v Speaker 2>I feel her far yet close. It's so weird.

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<v Speaker 1>What I got out of that whole experience and what

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<v Speaker 1>I have felt after that is just it's okay to

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<v Speaker 1>let my siblings go, to let them grow, to not

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<v Speaker 1>hold on so tight, to get married, because that's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like what I wanted in a way. I hadn't

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<v Speaker 1>said any thing to anyone about it, but it was like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay to let go of me, your mother, and

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<v Speaker 1>step into your new life, which is because I was

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<v Speaker 1>very scared of getting remarried and I never thought I

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<v Speaker 1>was going to do it again. I wanted to, but

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I don't know if it's ever going

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<v Speaker 1>to happen for me, and I just felt like her

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<v Speaker 1>blessing in that moment. I again, I don't know how

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<v Speaker 1>to explain it. I can't even going back to that

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<v Speaker 1>moment and closing my eyes is just such a unique

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<v Speaker 1>experience that I can't even tell you everything that I felt.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't even like explain it in words. I just

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<v Speaker 1>know that I got this like beautiful feeling, like of

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<v Speaker 1>and now ever since I did that, I used to

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<v Speaker 1>cry so much on stage for my mom so much,

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<v Speaker 1>and I did I did that before I started this

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<v Speaker 1>new tour, the A'm on this tour that was like

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<v Speaker 1>I think this happened like in April, if I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>mistaken when we went out there, and I don't cry

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<v Speaker 1>for her the way I used to on stage or

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<v Speaker 1>when I would sing her songs, like I think of her,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's not a sadness anymore. It's not like this grieving.

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's peace. It's like it's so weird.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, and it's gonna sound crazy, I think,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, because I know a lot of people love

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<v Speaker 1>my mom.

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<v Speaker 3>But I feel like.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I got the answers that I needed, Like not

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't love her, because I love her very much,

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<v Speaker 1>and there's times when I miss her so much, but

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<v Speaker 1>I don't cry the way I used to.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like we're good.

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<v Speaker 1>She was my mom, she was meant to be my

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<v Speaker 1>mom in this in this lifetime to teach me certain things,

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<v Speaker 1>so I can teach her certain things. And she's moved

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<v Speaker 1>on and she's doing something else, and I'm okay to

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<v Speaker 1>start doing me my life, live my life the way

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<v Speaker 1>I want to live it in every aspect and my

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<v Speaker 1>personal life and my career with my siblings. And even

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<v Speaker 1>since then, like I've in a way kind of let

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<v Speaker 1>go of my siblings as well, like I'm like, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>They're grown.

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<v Speaker 1>I love them very much, but I have to let

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<v Speaker 1>them live and learn and be here for them. But

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<v Speaker 1>now it's me and my husband. It's my husband and

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<v Speaker 1>I and I didn't feel that. I always felt like

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<v Speaker 1>my what I'm supposed to be doing in this world

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<v Speaker 1>is always honoring my mom and her legacy and what

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<v Speaker 1>she left for me and my siblings. And I just

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<v Speaker 1>felt like this need and this desire and this fire

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<v Speaker 1>within me to just do anything and everything for them,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's what my purpose was in life. And when

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<v Speaker 1>I did that and I went to go see her,

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<v Speaker 1>and I got this like let go, that's all I heard,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh shit, Like I have my own

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<v Speaker 1>life to live, like I have a different purpose. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't necessarily need to just do that or be that.

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<v Speaker 1>I can build and it's okay, and I and I

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<v Speaker 1>let go. And it's crazy because I think like I

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<v Speaker 1>had this this idea of, you know, there were times

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<v Speaker 1>where I was angry at her, I guess, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>because of everything that happened, and I had this idea of, like, shit,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what she left me. But now I'm like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>that's just a little part. You know. Yes that happened,

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<v Speaker 1>Yes we weren't on talking terms, but that doesn't determine

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<v Speaker 1>all of our relationship, you know, And.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's it. I'm going to leave that in my

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<v Speaker 2>past and I'm good.

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<v Speaker 1>And then after that, after we went to see my

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<v Speaker 1>mom and I got like her blessing of like letting go.

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<v Speaker 2>And my idea of what I got out of that.

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<v Speaker 1>Then I went to visit my dad and I got

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<v Speaker 1>his blessing, and I feel like, without even knowing or

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<v Speaker 1>planning it, everything just fell into place. And I was

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<v Speaker 1>ready to get married, like to step into this new

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<v Speaker 1>era of my life. And I'm glad we did it.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was very healing, and I think my brother

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<v Speaker 1>Mikey's doing a lot better. My sister Jackie had that

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<v Speaker 1>was her second time going, Jenica's first. I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>ever since we went there, we got a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>clarity and a lot of direction, and I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>it just it did something for us and it was

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<v Speaker 1>just I guess that that missing piece of the puzzle

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<v Speaker 1>to like just in a way move on. As messed

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<v Speaker 1>up as that might sound to certain people, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was just this beautiful gift that like we got, or

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<v Speaker 1>at least I did, And I think we all felt

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<v Speaker 1>different things, but we had that in common of like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's our mom, we love her, but she's happy. Also

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<v Speaker 1>moved on is what I felt like, She's she's happy, she's.

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<v Speaker 2>Good wherever she is.

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<v Speaker 1>There was so much peace, guys, Like I can't even explain,

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<v Speaker 1>Like just thinking of what I felt in that moment

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<v Speaker 1>makes me want to cry because I was like, shit,

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<v Speaker 1>she's good. And I think that's what I needed to

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<v Speaker 1>feel to just say, Okay, cool, she's good. I need

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<v Speaker 1>to be okay and not thinking I need to be

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<v Speaker 1>okay for my siblings or for anyone else, but I

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<v Speaker 1>need to be okay for me, for Jane, for my life,

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<v Speaker 1>to have kids, to like just live a different life.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just I don't know a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>ask me like what did you feel? Like what did

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<v Speaker 1>you guys think? And that's why I wanted to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about it on an episode of Cheeky's and Chill because

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<v Speaker 1>this is my space to open up and express things

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<v Speaker 1>to you. So I thank you guys for allowing me

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<v Speaker 1>to do that. And I don't know, I just I

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<v Speaker 1>highly recommend guys, like, if you feel it in your

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<v Speaker 1>heart and there's things that you haven't gotten closure if

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<v Speaker 1>you can, if you feel it in your heart, do

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<v Speaker 1>it get closure in one way or another. Because of

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<v Speaker 1>course I'd love to speak to my mother and see

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<v Speaker 1>her and like hear the words that I imagine, like for

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<v Speaker 1>her to in a way even apologize to me, because

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of things went down in a messed up way,

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<v Speaker 1>but I feel in her way she did apologize to me,

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<v Speaker 1>is what I felt. And again I can't explain it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just something that happened, spiritual, I don't know, but

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<v Speaker 1>it really has helped me just.

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<v Speaker 3>Move on with my life.

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<v Speaker 1>It was really nice to see a place that I

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<v Speaker 1>for so long that was just this ugly dark place,

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<v Speaker 1>place that tormented my life, not only mine, my famili's

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<v Speaker 1>people that loved my mother. I just saw that place

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<v Speaker 1>as something just so dark and just I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>and especially because I saw pictures and footage that people

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<v Speaker 1>that were there, like police officers and you know, authorities

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<v Speaker 1>and stuff that weren't necessarily supposed to do that, but

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<v Speaker 1>they they shared and I'm assuming sould the footage. And

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<v Speaker 1>I just never thought I would want to go there

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<v Speaker 1>because I saw some pretty graphic pictures remains of not

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<v Speaker 1>only my mom, but like people that were on the

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<v Speaker 1>plane with her and her dress. And I actually there

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<v Speaker 1>was this this picture that I'll never forget of my

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<v Speaker 1>mom's dress, her Mariacci dress that she was wearing the

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<v Speaker 1>night of that her last concert in Monterrey. There it

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<v Speaker 1>was just like hanging on a tree, and that tree

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<v Speaker 1>is still there, and that tree, I guess with the

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<v Speaker 1>plane like with one of the wings cut off like

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<v Speaker 1>the top of it. So my mom's dress, I guess

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<v Speaker 1>flew on top of the on top of the tree

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<v Speaker 1>and it was like this humongous tree before now it

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<v Speaker 1>is now it's what it was before. But They're like,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the tree where the dress was. And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my gosh, it's crazy because I didn't ask. No

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<v Speaker 1>one asked the guide. He's like, oh, that's the tree

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<v Speaker 1>where the dress was. A pink dress, and I'm like

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, I'll never forget that picture, that image,

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<v Speaker 1>because I just I was thinking in that moment, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, well, maybe someone placed it there. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to think my mom hadn't died. I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to think that someone had taken her and they just

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<v Speaker 1>placed it there to make it seem like I thought

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<v Speaker 1>so many things. I was like, no, she's still alive.

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<v Speaker 1>She's hiding somewhere. And I remember thinking when everything happened

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<v Speaker 1>that Sunday, because she passed away on a Sunday, or

0:16:59.120 --> 0:17:00.480
<v Speaker 1>they passed away on a side day. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to just talk about my mom, but like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>there's other people there with her. You know, that happened

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<v Speaker 1>on a Sunday. And I was still I still had

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<v Speaker 1>hope Monday Tuesday until Wednesday when some idiot posted or

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<v Speaker 1>they decided they thought it was a great idea to

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<v Speaker 1>post images and and it was a picture of my

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<v Speaker 1>mom's toes and I knew, I freaking knew. I said,

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<v Speaker 1>this is I massage those feet. I know that's my mom,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's what I knew. I was like, shit, she's

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<v Speaker 1>not coming home. I just and that's when I had

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<v Speaker 1>to break the news to my siblings, and.

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<v Speaker 2>It was tough.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I'm just I'm so against people posting or

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<v Speaker 1>sharing images like that, like when they try to share

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<v Speaker 1>images of like Kobe, you know, and and Vanessa suit

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<v Speaker 1>of the shit out of them, good job and she

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<v Speaker 1>won as she should, like it's not cool, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>or when you know, Nipsey got shot and killed and

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<v Speaker 1>someone posted actually unfollowed this girl, which is like what

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<v Speaker 1>started this beef with her? She talks I'm not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>mention him her name because it's not even worth it.

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<v Speaker 1>But she's this girl that's like a blogger or she

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<v Speaker 1>just talks shit about people, a lot about me. And

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<v Speaker 1>it all happened because I unfollowed her because I told her,

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<v Speaker 1>I said, hey, it's not cool that you're posting this

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<v Speaker 1>video of him being shot and he's on the Like

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<v Speaker 1>I was very upset about it. I was like, he

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<v Speaker 1>has kids, he has his wife, Like I'm sure she's

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<v Speaker 1>watched it. She doesn't want the whole world to watch

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<v Speaker 1>her man Lauren like like you know, on the floor,

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<v Speaker 1>like fighting for his life and it's just not cool.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm just I don't know, I think about it,

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<v Speaker 1>and it pisses me off, you know. So anyways, that's

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<v Speaker 1>a side story. But I did see a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>images and it's just nice to know that that ugly

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<v Speaker 1>place turned into something beautiful because it is very beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>and very peaceful, and it made me feel like my

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<v Speaker 1>mom's energy was there and she's like telling us, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>okay because we all felt the same piece, all of us.

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<v Speaker 2>The breeze.

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<v Speaker 1>It was wonderful, like the breeze, the greenery, butterflies were

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<v Speaker 1>all over the place. It was just very nice, and

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<v Speaker 1>there were still pieces of the plane. Like we walked around,

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<v Speaker 1>there was still like like you know, metal still there.

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<v Speaker 1>They're like, oh sometimes it just so with the breeze

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<v Speaker 1>that they come up, and it's just it's crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't even believe that this is my life sometimes, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>I really can't. I'm like, how how did this happen?

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<v Speaker 1>And it's just it's insane.

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Mean, I hope it doesn't offend any genuine Rivera fans

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<v Speaker 1>out there, because of course that's my mom, proud of

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<v Speaker 1>who she is. But such an ugly event that tormented

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<v Speaker 1>my life, our life for so long, like turned into

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<v Speaker 1>beauty like that place I think was they said, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>nothing grew here for years.

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<v Speaker 2>Now it's green. The breeze was beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>It was just amazing, like ashes to beauty, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I saw and that's what I felt. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>if you guys can go out there. It's open to

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<v Speaker 1>the public. There's like a little it's all over in Monterrey.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you can just have to ask anywhere at an

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<v Speaker 1>olkso at a gas station and tell them I want

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<v Speaker 1>to go see where Jenny Rivera is or whatever you

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<v Speaker 1>want to call it, and they'll direct you and they'll

0:20:10.000 --> 0:20:12.359
<v Speaker 1>take you there. So it's really nice. It's not that

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<v Speaker 1>much of a hike, it's not too bad, but take water.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, that's it, guys. I just wanted to express

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<v Speaker 1>this and you know, answer your guys's questions because I

0:20:21.600 --> 0:20:23.679
<v Speaker 1>was getting a lot of them and tell you my

0:20:23.800 --> 0:20:28.720
<v Speaker 1>experience going to Monterrey and can't really speak for my siblings.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of people ask like, what did your siblings feel? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't really speak for them. Maybe one day we'll

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<v Speaker 1>have a podcast with all of them and we'll talk

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit more about it. But I can only

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<v Speaker 1>speak about what I felt in my experience and how

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<v Speaker 1>it changed my life. So thank you guys for listening.

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate it. It's always nice to just sit here

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<v Speaker 1>and talk to the mic, talk to you guys, because

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<v Speaker 1>it's like therapy for me.

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<v Speaker 2>So I thank you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for listening, for watching, for coming to the podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>listening to everything that I have to say, because you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's always out of love. Think I share. All my

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts and feelings are to inspire and empower in some way. Okay,

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