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Speaker 1: So it was my senior year and I hated everybody

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Speaker 1: Me Duh female roommate, Mila, male roommate Robert, my boyfriend Frederick. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: So my roommates moved in weeks before me. I had

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Speaker 2: Thank you to Annette for twenty okay storytime memberships.

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Speaker 3: Oh ah baby, that is twenty babies delivered in rapid succession.

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Speaker 1: Same with the bathroom and dining room. Okay, so now

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Speaker 1: Definitely don't do your disgusting trash hoarder roommates laundry and

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Speaker 1: That's big effects. So, however, the mess seemed to flow

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Speaker 1: peace job, Loki. I thought you just meant that your

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Speaker 1: the side, I got cham. Oh, gotcham.

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Speaker 1: H we want some passa what's up with that banana?

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Speaker 1: Why is that thirty two hundred dollars from Wayfair? Just that? No,

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Speaker 1: It was also around this, Wait, I didn't care. I

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm not sorry. It was also

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Speaker 1: around this time that I met mine now boyfriend, Shiloh. Oh,

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Speaker 1: that's a good name. He lived about forty minutes away

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Speaker 1: I got pulled over. Long story short, Now I'm in jail.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, Well, i'd forgotten to pay a few speeding

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Speaker 2: Oh god, Okay, okay, Before he read any more of this,

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Speaker 1: Like I feel like a here definitely possible. Give us

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Speaker 2: It's just with everything that Opie does, Like you're enabling

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Speaker 1: She did say that this is not her anymore, oh

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Speaker 2: That's in this story. In this story, is Opie an

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Speaker 2: we're not getting context of Opie. Now, we're in context

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Speaker 3: Scroll up on chat a little bit. Someone said, uh,

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Speaker 3: Opie is chaotic.

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Speaker 1: I think that.

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Speaker 3: Uh oh yeah, Vexed Moxie says, OPI is chaotic. To

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Speaker 1: Opie also did say it's just like I have no

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Speaker 1: Sometimes people who don't have friends. I learned this. There's

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Speaker 1: that's this is why everyone hates this kid, because he's

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Speaker 1: I don't know if there's a subreddit about the best

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Speaker 3: I was in jail and then I was just like, back, yeah,

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Speaker 2: This is It's very weird because like one minute, like

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Speaker 1: That really gets at me, but like, yeah, anyway, yeah

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Speaker 1: Yeay please? Anyways, this set a lot of things in

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Speaker 1: excuse me. I threw most of my stuff out or in,

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure. I threw most of my stuff and

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Speaker 1: The heck is shape tape.

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Speaker 3: I get like like like body wear. That's what I'm

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Speaker 3: guessing shape tape like spanks kind of kind of type.

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Speaker 1: Perhaps maybe to change your shape tape for your shape.

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Speaker 1: That's what I believe. Sorry, I mean myself giggle. Okay.

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Speaker 1: I took what I could back window panes to my

428
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Speaker 1: china cabinet, floor mats for my car, blankets that my

429
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Speaker 1: grandmother made me. I got as much as I could

430
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Speaker 1: and help my cat for the last time. We'll take

431
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Speaker 1: the cat with you. What window panes to your china cabinet?

432
00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:51,760
Speaker 1: I have so many questions for OP I had too

433
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Speaker 1: many plates I couldn't fit the cat, namely, why didn't

434
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Speaker 1: you take your cat? And what happened in jail? To

435
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Speaker 1: any plates? Doing plates? Man? But you know what, we

436
00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:05,840
Speaker 1: don't have too many of what episodes, oh full episodes

437
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 1: with stories like this, we don't have enough. We just

438
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,720
Speaker 1: keep making more of them, and you can go listen

439
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 1: to them on Spotify or Apple podcasts or wherever you

440
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 1: get your podcasts from. Just search okay, story time and

441
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 1: you will find the backlogs. You'll find the archives, that's facts,

442
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 1: and there you can peruse them. So uh oh France

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Speaker 1: and your pants shape tape is booby tape. Oh oh okay,

444
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Speaker 1: there you go.

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Speaker 3: Tape for your shape, tape for your shape.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So before we finish this story, because we do

447
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Speaker 1: have a little bit of story left, yes, sir, Like

448
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Speaker 1: what Keon said earlier, right bringing into question the nature

449
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Speaker 1: of OP, John, tell me what you're feeling on op is,

450
00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 1: op is op and A.

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Speaker 3: You know, I have been so critically focused on this

452
00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 3: entire story, so I understand in full depth and detail

453
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:06,280
Speaker 3: every single aspect of what happened.

454
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 1: Your brain totally blanked as soon as we saw the

455
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Speaker 1: banana chair.

456
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:14,919
Speaker 3: Like banana, But no I have I have understood at

457
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:18,919
Speaker 3: least enough to know that OP. I think it is

458
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 3: the like cleaning, enabling and then turning around and hating.

459
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:27,200
Speaker 3: Whereas specifically, whereas you could have just been like, Okay,

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Speaker 3: you know what, this is your mess, I'm not gonna

461
00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:34,479
Speaker 3: deal with it anymore. Literally, yeah, take it on and

462
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 3: just go live your life. I'm gonna go live mine

463
00:27:37,080 --> 00:27:42,320
Speaker 3: and move out to enabling to Yeah. I think I

464
00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:44,960
Speaker 3: think OP is at least kind of the a hole. Yeah,

465
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 3: an ahole. Multiple multiple people are a holes.

466
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it might be like multiple people are

467
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:56,679
Speaker 1: are stinky here type situation. Definitely, your roommate Milo's trash

468
00:27:56,720 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 1: can for stealing your stuff though, that's super whack. Hopefully

469
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 1: you can get that back somehow. Maybe maybe maybe a

470
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:08,120
Speaker 1: little clandestine mission pulled by one of someone who's she's

471
00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 1: still living with, or you gotta repoe your stuff. I

472
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:17,199
Speaker 1: like it. Yeah, I kind of am in agreement. I

473
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 1: think my first red flag was when she was like,

474
00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:21,880
Speaker 1: I am unemployed and I have to clean the apartment

475
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Speaker 1: that I'm at all day. It was like have to.

476
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Speaker 1: It was like you kind of should low key not

477
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Speaker 1: but not. Then she would go. Then she would like

478
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Speaker 1: we were saying, like she would go beyond what would

479
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Speaker 1: be I would consider normal for that where it's like

480
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Speaker 1: you shouldn't do your roommates laundry, you shouldn't clean your

481
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Speaker 1: roommate's room, just like a light I'm not yeah whatever,

482
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Speaker 1: that was my firse like, what, okay, that was the first,

483
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:52,480
Speaker 1: but you know he did say, they're not this person anymore,

484
00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 1: so maybe we'll get an insight into the new them. Yeah,

485
00:28:57,200 --> 00:29:00,880
Speaker 1: the prolong this story here, here's where we are now, Yes,

486
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 1: let's see. So later, I got a text from my

487
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:09,280
Speaker 1: old landlord telling me that I was banned from going

488
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Speaker 1: back to the house. Apparently Mila had told him that

489
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 1: I broke in and went through her room. She told

490
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Speaker 1: me that she didn't feel safe. And I even told

491
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Speaker 1: him that I hadn't even used my key to get in.

492
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:25,360
Speaker 1: He said that they changed the locks already. I was pissed.

493
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 1: She blamed me for something I didn't even do. I

494
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: then tried frantically to find a place for me to

495
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 1: put my cat, but she had already offered him up

496
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 1: to anyone that would take him. Heartbroken, I blocked her.

497
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:40,240
Speaker 1: I heard nothing from her again. You know, she just

498
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 1: gave your cat away? What? Too many plates? What is

499
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:49,080
Speaker 1: going on here? Too many plates? How's this person giving

500
00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 1: your cat away? Because don't let her do that? What

501
00:29:55,880 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 1: are we doing? That's insane? It was her cat, right, Yes,

502
00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: that's something you could have agency about. Oh my god.

503
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:07,480
Speaker 1: And there was nothing I could do. It was powerless.

504
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:11,560
Speaker 1: She gave my cat away. It's like, no, go get it,

505
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 1: you're doing king cat? Yeah?

506
00:30:17,880 --> 00:30:18,080
Speaker 5: What?

507
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 1: Fast forward a couple months, I met my new job,

508
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,480
Speaker 1: and I get a series of texts from her new

509
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 1: roommates about how she was such a crappy person and

510
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:32,880
Speaker 1: how I never deserved Oh about how I was such

511
00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 1: a crappy person and how I never deserved my cat

512
00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 1: in the first place. Not your decision to make. I'm

513
00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:47,920
Speaker 1: finding that person in throwing hands immediately. Yeah. Yeah, you

514
00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 1: you who stole my cat. You repossessed my stolen cat.

515
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:59,320
Speaker 1: Oh girl. I tried to explain what happened and how

516
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 1: I can't even get him, which still breaks my heart.

517
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 1: I just finally blocked them. Thanks for reading, and that's

518
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:13,160
Speaker 1: the end. I am so confused. Did I miss something, dude,

519
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 1: just drop some Yeah. So the the mom is allergic

520
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 1: to the cat, which is why she couldn't take the cat.

521
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 1: But she said at the beginning of the story that

522
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 1: she got the cat even though her mom is allergic.

523
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 1: So I'm confused. You suck low key for letting somebody

524
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 1: just get rid of your cat. Yeah, that's so weird,

525
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:46,560
Speaker 1: even if it's your mom. Yeah, live somewhere else, get

526
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 1: out to not live with your mom. You have a

527
00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: cat to take care of, old pink on no money?

528
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Speaker 1: It works, Yeah, I agree. Usually I don't read a

529
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 1: lot of stories where everyone sucks, but everyone sucks everyone

530
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:11,120
Speaker 1: everyone sucks in this story. Oh god, well that is

531
00:32:12,240 --> 00:32:14,880
Speaker 1: the end of that. All she wrote. That is literally

532
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: all she wrote. That's it. He was like, goodbye, bye bye.

533
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 2: I had I looked up the account. Uh, no update

534
00:32:23,480 --> 00:32:27,120
Speaker 2: on jail or anything. It's they don't have any other

535
00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:32,760
Speaker 2: They have other posts. Their posts are like talking about lows.

536
00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:37,320
Speaker 1: Lows. Yeah, maybe that's where they went, dude, I don't know.

537
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 2: I went to g and then there was one of

538
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 2: the posts, one of their posts like my first level

539
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:42,600
Speaker 2: is someone with a neck beard.

540
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:46,720
Speaker 1: And I was like, I'm confused, Yeah, well this person

541
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 1: is really this person was confusing. Yeah, this is a

542
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:51,160
Speaker 1: confusing person.

543
00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 3: Maybe it was what objects do you need to break

544
00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 3: out of prison Low's checklists.

545
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:01,560
Speaker 1: They caught me. They caught me at the home improvement store.

546
00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 1: I was trying to break out of your spoon.

547
00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 2: To use out of Jack cleanser of that story.

548
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 1: Oh, salsa, they did it on MythBusters. Salsa. It takes

549
00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 1: a long time. You use electrolysis to you to you

550
00:33:17,040 --> 00:33:20,160
Speaker 1: rust the bars and then you can break them out.

551
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:25,080
Speaker 1: Apparently that happened in a Spanish prison. That's awesome. Ye, dude, respect,

552
00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:33,280
Speaker 1: but we got some thanks for that's twenty five bucks

553
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Speaker 1: on the tip link where we save thirty percent from

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Speaker 1: certain two bum Yes.

555
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Speaker 3: Oh hey look us John will know. It's Matt Lawrence

556
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 3: tonight too. I feel so old around you youngins these days.

557
00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 3: Ha Oh, I know Matt Lawrence's it's me.

558
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 1: I look like Matt Lawrence. Wait, not the newscaster guy right?

559
00:33:57,240 --> 00:33:57,320
Speaker 2: No?

560
00:33:57,560 --> 00:33:58,160
Speaker 4: Here? Yeah?

561
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:00,760
Speaker 1: Can you do a side by side? Keon? And by

562
00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:03,320
Speaker 1: the way, I swear to God, if you lose that banana,

563
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 1: if you lose that banana chair, don't.

564
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:07,640
Speaker 2: You kind of look like him? You don't really look

565
00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 2: like I need.

566
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:10,239
Speaker 1: A face, I can copy it. Let's see it. I'll

567
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:12,840
Speaker 1: see it. You need to face so I can mask.

568
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:16,319
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, he kind of doesn't look like me. It's

569
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 1: just the smile. We've got big old mouths and our eyes.

570
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:25,520
Speaker 1: Our eyes are squinty. His core face is like this.

571
00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:26,399
Speaker 1: This area is.

572
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 2: Not like a triangle face. Yeah, I'm not saying he's not.

573
00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:32,839
Speaker 2: He's a good looking guy, the od looking guy.

574
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:38,799
Speaker 1: He looks kind of like a Luig. Oh he does

575
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 1: look like a little Luigi all right. Next one though,

576
00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:54,120
Speaker 1: Next one, Henda Hana Hana for the forty five dollar

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Speaker 1: us D donation. Thank you, we thank you, We say silently,

578
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 1: thank you, Hannah if you have silent thanks and thank

579
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 1: you Little bourb for the five dollars. There is a

580
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:08,759
Speaker 1: food you can feed cats to help reduce the allergens

581
00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:11,879
Speaker 1: they shed. That's crazy, did not know that. Let's freaking go. Yeah,

582
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 1: very allergic to cats. Yeah he has quite done all.

583
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Speaker 2: The stuff except for the injections. But yeah, that's expensive.

584
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 1: Oh, let's subject you to bed to be a paaper. No,

585
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Speaker 1: we did not a page. Thanks for the five bucks

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Speaker 1: thank you page. Thanks for the twenty five bucks page.

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Speaker 1: Page says more time and that we got, that we got,

588
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Speaker 1: and that we got. Okay, Leoli been Tomona, thank you

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00:35:39,080 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 1: for gifting five Okay Storytime memberships to the stream. And

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00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:47,160
Speaker 1: vix Makes thank you for gifting one Okay Storytime membership

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00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:51,839
Speaker 1: to the Stream. We deeply appreciate the growing family. Annette,

592
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 1: thanks for the five hundred Filipino pestos, grow the fame.

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00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:07,239
Speaker 1: Okay to try pronouncing my last name Tayau. She's gonna

594
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Speaker 1: tell ya, I don't know. She didna come back and

595
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 1: be like, no, it's not to Yao is it Tayo?

596
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:18,239
Speaker 1: And we've done this too many times, Tayo Tao? Oh, Annette, Okay, hey,

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Speaker 1: thanks for gifting twenty okay Storytime memberships. Yes, we bow

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Speaker 1: down to all the members. Five forgiven the five from

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Speaker 1: us Sell fives. That's because they like the street rock.

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Speaker 1: Creek O two two three for the Dalla, thanks for

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Speaker 1: the Buckarouski, Hannah Rife Schneider. Nice, thank you, and welcome

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Speaker 1: to the Knights. I think you have a night's last name.

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Speaker 1: If I've ever heard one, sof Schneider. That pronunciation is crushed,

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Speaker 1: Am Sue Rife Schneider. Al right, Creek oh two two three?

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Speaker 1: Things again for the Buck Buckaruski. Uh, and we're caught up.

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Speaker 1: Caught up? Hey, hey, and now I caught up? What

607
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Speaker 1: you look at that?

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Speaker 2: Joe, John, how you dealing on your throat?

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Speaker 1: Good? Okay, story Time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I've been Uh, I've been recording a little more

611
00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,880
Speaker 3: music in the morning lately because of all the things happening.

612
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:28,120
Speaker 3: And I started just almost yaking every morning.

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00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:32,880
Speaker 1: That's just John. Are you pregnant? Huh? Are you pregnant?

614
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:37,280
Speaker 1: You've been yacking from delivering the hot five.

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Speaker 3: Delivering the bars, maybe too much soap, and now it's

616
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Speaker 3: creeping into the streams. So I'm desperately. I booked a

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00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:47,480
Speaker 3: doctor's appointment yesterday. But it's like I've always had a

618
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:50,319
Speaker 3: bad gag reflex, but it's getting like real bad.

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Speaker 1: It is progressing at like as you just talk, like

620
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Speaker 1: you talk too much in it and I'm just gagging

621
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Speaker 1: off of talking. Is it acid reflex or anything? I

622
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Speaker 1: think it might be. I think it might be. It

623
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Speaker 1: might Yes, stop drinking the Go Go juice. Oh yeah, dude,

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Speaker 1: I bet you that's what it is. You're drinking too

625
00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:11,400
Speaker 1: much chromium. But you know what, there's gonna got chromium

626
00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 1: in those drinks. How much chromium you should be drinking? None?

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Speaker 1: Zero zero chromium chromium.

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Speaker 2: That one drink that had that I won't name it,

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Speaker 2: but it's forever being named.

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Speaker 3: But uh, what I was gonna say, Oh, chat, if

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Speaker 3: you have any suggestions, I'm trying to Oh god, I

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Speaker 3: love that the meme, but yeah, drop your suggestion. I'm

633
00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 3: literally like gonna talk to like a vocal coach to

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Speaker 3: the doctor like everybody to try and figure this out,

635
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Speaker 3: because like I literally, if I I fear I might Yeah,

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Speaker 3: but I'm gonna.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna try to read this one is the next one,

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Speaker 1: if you want, I want to give it as it's

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Speaker 1: a longer one. It's a two. It's like a two

640
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Speaker 1: three two four. So it's fine, it's okay if you

641
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Speaker 1: don't need to read it. Okay, maybe next Yeah, both

642
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:02,800
Speaker 1: normal size.

643
00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:04,319
Speaker 2: This one, this one were both both stories are like

644
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:05,399
Speaker 2: two three two four.

645
00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 1: So I no longer am in need of my blanket. Okay,

646
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:13,000
Speaker 1: but yeah, you'll get the next one.

647
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 2: John, just give your give you your give your throat

648
00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:17,399
Speaker 2: a little little rest.

649
00:39:17,520 --> 00:39:19,800
Speaker 1: I'm trying. I'm trying, dude.

650
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:22,919
Speaker 2: We gotta we gotta figure out your gag reflex there, Budy, Dude,

651
00:39:22,920 --> 00:39:27,520
Speaker 2: I got the craziest gag reflex ever, Like truly.

652
00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:31,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, is crazy.

653
00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:35,680
Speaker 3: I don't say that, but it's true.

654
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:36,759
Speaker 1: France in your hands.

655
00:39:36,760 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 3: That's what my sister suggested, and my my sister and

656
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:39,840
Speaker 3: dad both take it.

657
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:42,719
Speaker 2: So soon's this, y'all talk about go go dos?

658
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 1: What is that? That's our own name for it. It

659
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 1: is highly highly caffeinated beverage. That's the caffeinated beverage. Yes. Also,

660
00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 1: I just want to say, fran I do see your

661
00:39:54,080 --> 00:39:56,439
Speaker 1: I see your comments in there fran about me being

662
00:39:56,520 --> 00:39:59,399
Speaker 1: the ha funny man ADHD king, and I appreciate it.

663
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:01,320
Speaker 1: I love the ADHD.

664
00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:03,719
Speaker 2: I just I know I'm a little party pooper, but

665
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:05,120
Speaker 2: I gotta I gotta keep in money eyes.

666
00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 1: It's fair. Can's been crushing lightly. I need to be

667
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:10,759
Speaker 1: held accountable. Sometimes I will make it.

668
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:13,839
Speaker 2: I have the banana stream, I have to poop chat

669
00:40:14,719 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 2: dropped at speaking of you raised yourself so you look taller,

670
00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:18,879
Speaker 2: and I'm gonna make you look small.

671
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:22,240
Speaker 1: Okay, while you do that, pull up the banana fine,

672
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:23,400
Speaker 1: I'll do it on my phone.

673
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:27,400
Speaker 3: I also, it's feel like I'm slightly off kilter only

674
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:28,240
Speaker 3: in the split screen.

675
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:30,080
Speaker 1: Yes, so fixed that my crazy.

676
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:33,239
Speaker 2: I feel right a little like I think like one

677
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:34,720
Speaker 2: moment you are in the moment you're.

678
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:38,480
Speaker 1: Not here, I'm great, and then full screen I'm.

679
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 3: Great, but just in the mex Yeah, just in the

680
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 3: split screen, just in the split screen. Thanks for all suggestions, guys,

681
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:47,200
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be I'm gonna check that out.

682
00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:47,640
Speaker 1: Dude.

683
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:51,479
Speaker 3: Uh jam hand keeps asking me about com.

684
00:40:54,080 --> 00:40:56,840
Speaker 1: I don't know what's going on with that? What jam

685
00:40:57,400 --> 00:40:59,840
Speaker 1: jam Han's been going going off in the chat this

686
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 1: The stream keeps asking me about Kanye. I don't know why.

687
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 1: So just to fill in everyone on the banana chair,

688
00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 1: it is thirty two hundred dollars and sixty nine thirty two,

689
00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:19,600
Speaker 1: one hundred and sixty nine dollars. It is the Leisure

690
00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:24,720
Speaker 1: Starfish Chair by timber Craft Designs. And I would normally

691
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:27,520
Speaker 1: say no free sponsors, but I'm doing the opposite. Buy

692
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 1: nothing from these people. They are selling a polyester banana

693
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:37,920
Speaker 1: chair for the thirty three hundred dollars.

694
00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:42,480
Speaker 6: No no, no, no, no no no no, no, no

695
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:49,879
Speaker 6: no no no. Also, John, you have good am.

696
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:56,800
Speaker 1: I what is these Oh my god, what is this stuff?

697
00:41:58,239 --> 00:42:03,200
Speaker 1: I think? Oh oh my, it be illegal. Still slightly

698
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 1: to the left the right to this way. Some of

699
00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:10,520
Speaker 1: the worst furniture I've ever seen in my life. For

700
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:14,680
Speaker 1: thirty four hundred dollars, that's not bro For twenty eight

701
00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:18,680
Speaker 1: hundred dollars, DA Code has seen my couch. Just freaking

702
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:24,959
Speaker 1: that couch. That's a perfect couch. A buck fifty. That's

703
00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 1: honestly insane. Dude. You just the streets provide man four

704
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:34,400
Speaker 1: thousand dollars for something called the American style rotating a

705
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 1: leisure chair, and it's like a bunch of like seals.

706
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 1: That's perfect. Yeah, you're perfect. It's just that you know

707
00:42:44,960 --> 00:42:45,319
Speaker 1: what it is.

708
00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 3: You see the space between my shoulder and my other shoulder,

709
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 3: like this shoulder's a lot of space the shoulder.

710
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:57,239
Speaker 1: No all space, jacket, I know. But look at this.

711
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:01,840
Speaker 1: What that's fourth thousand dollars. That's a chair. It's like

712
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:05,880
Speaker 1: a circular chair. I think. Yeah, that's four thousand dollars.

713
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:09,200
Speaker 1: Much better, Yeah, no, much better. Yeah, we'll roll with that.

714
00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:11,839
Speaker 1: We're roll with that. And I made it a little

715
00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 1: bit bigger. Yeah that works. Yeah, we we we close.

716
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:16,840
Speaker 1: We close unless something crazy happens. Your arms are just

717
00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 1: so big. John. Guys, if you need furniture, go to

718
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 1: in a state sale. Okay, don't go to the streets.

719
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:27,840
Speaker 1: Go do in a state sale. Go to the streets,

720
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:30,440
Speaker 1: go to the yard sale. Okay, do not be buying

721
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 1: new furniture for four Because we were picking. John would

722
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 1: add a couple of minutes.

723
00:43:34,320 --> 00:43:36,560
Speaker 3: Hey, we're gonna give you a couple of minutes. Chat, yeah,

724
00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:39,480
Speaker 3: get it back up, story put it like, yeah, yeah,

725
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 3: we're gonna.

726
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:42,399
Speaker 1: Give it to you. Give them one more. We don't

727
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:46,000
Speaker 1: give it to you, o, K, don't give it to you?

728
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:50,280
Speaker 1: Are you ready, Yes, sir, my roommate made my freshman

729
00:43:50,360 --> 00:43:54,839
Speaker 1: year horrible, but she got what she deserved in the end.

730
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:58,640
Speaker 1: Expelled calling it? Oh, calling it? You'll see? Is that

731
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 1: your ICU? That's right? You rip go let's go. What's it?

732
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:04,880
Speaker 5: So?

733
00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 1: This is from last year, my freshman year of college,

734
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:11,040
Speaker 1: and I was told to Reddit would love this crap.

735
00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 1: Not my first post, but it's like my third, so

736
00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 1: I'm sorry for any errors, and I hope this is

737
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:19,440
Speaker 1: the right forum for this. So some basic information. My

738
00:44:19,560 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 1: dad is a professor at the college I attend ad

739
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 1: junked and teaches the core classes everyone is required to take.

740
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:32,440
Speaker 1: This comes in later. What does ad junked mean? What

741
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 1: is an adjunct professor? Is it a professor that you

742
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:41,000
Speaker 1: add junked to? No? I know someone who adds some junk.

743
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:47,879
Speaker 1: By the way, you can add your junk to never mind. Nope,

744
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:50,520
Speaker 1: I can't. Nope. I'm sorry. I was. I'm sorry. By

745
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:53,640
Speaker 1: the way. This comes from user rin Maru thirteen, and

746
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:57,240
Speaker 1: you can submit your stories on the r slash showcase

747
00:44:57,239 --> 00:44:59,439
Speaker 1: story times. I read it, heyo, So I was trying

748
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 1: to figure out how to make junk segue into that.

749
00:45:02,480 --> 00:45:05,680
Speaker 1: I like it. It was for the stars. It didn't work, though.

750
00:45:06,640 --> 00:45:09,759
Speaker 1: I was really hyped up to be starting college like

751
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 1: most people are who isn't excited to move out of

752
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:15,040
Speaker 1: their parents' house, get some independence and choose what they

753
00:45:15,040 --> 00:45:17,360
Speaker 1: want to study for once, And of course I was

754
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:20,440
Speaker 1: excited to make new friends, specifically hoping to bond with

755
00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:23,319
Speaker 1: my roommate. Since everyone I knew who had been through

756
00:45:23,360 --> 00:45:26,680
Speaker 1: college said their closest friend was their freshman year roommate.

757
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:32,520
Speaker 1: Everyone was just shouting my name in the chat because

758
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:36,640
Speaker 1: of what I said. Now, I was going to a

759
00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 1: local college, but since I went to a small high school,

760
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:42,319
Speaker 1: no one else was going to this one, favoring the

761
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:48,080
Speaker 1: larger ones like some whatever. So since I didn't know anyone,

762
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:53,440
Speaker 1: I had a roommate randomly assigned to me enter entitled roommate.

763
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:58,320
Speaker 1: Let's call her Jasmine. As soon as I got her number,

764
00:45:58,400 --> 00:46:01,279
Speaker 1: I texted her to ask about her interests and try

765
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 1: to bond, as well as trying to work out who

766
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:06,839
Speaker 1: would bring what to furnish the room, standard stuff when

767
00:46:06,840 --> 00:46:09,280
Speaker 1: you're planning to spend a year living with someone. Pretty

768
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 1: much from the start, I got weird vibes from Jasmine.

769
00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 1: Very short kirt replies and very little clarity on what

770
00:46:16,719 --> 00:46:19,840
Speaker 1: she was bringing. I didn't really see this as a

771
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:24,080
Speaker 1: red flag, though, since I thought she was just shy

772
00:46:24,160 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 1: or nervous. I know I was, but things started getting

773
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 1: weird fast. For example, I told her that I had

774
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 1: a mini fridge we could share, and that would mean

775
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:36,720
Speaker 1: she wouldn't have to buy one and could instead handle

776
00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:40,320
Speaker 1: something else. She refused, saying that she didn't want to

777
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:42,919
Speaker 1: share a fridge and would instead be bringing her own,

778
00:46:43,520 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 1: which is honestly like super normal. I don't think that's weird. Yeah,

779
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:51,480
Speaker 1: it's a mini fridge. It's like y'all probably want two

780
00:46:51,560 --> 00:46:56,680
Speaker 1: of those, right, But OP says, okay, weird and inconvenient

781
00:46:56,760 --> 00:46:59,120
Speaker 1: that our limited room space now had to accommodate an

782
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:01,919
Speaker 1: extra fridge, But she promised to also bring a couple

783
00:47:01,960 --> 00:47:04,480
Speaker 1: extra things that I couldn't afford, so I was willing

784
00:47:04,480 --> 00:47:09,880
Speaker 1: to shrug it off. And then we met oh Man,

785
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:14,360
Speaker 1: Jasmine's parents were really nice when I met them, friendly,

786
00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:18,000
Speaker 1: saying they would that they really hoped we would be friends,

787
00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:19,880
Speaker 1: that we'd look out for each other and all that

788
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 1: good stuff. It made me pretty hopeful. That night, she

789
00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:26,120
Speaker 1: and I drew up our roommate agreement for him, and

790
00:47:26,160 --> 00:47:28,560
Speaker 1: she asked if she could FaceTime her boyfriend from time

791
00:47:28,560 --> 00:47:31,200
Speaker 1: to time since they were in a long distance relationship.

792
00:47:31,600 --> 00:47:34,600
Speaker 1: I was totally fine with that and agreed since I

793
00:47:34,760 --> 00:47:37,480
Speaker 1: was and still am in a long distance relationship and

794
00:47:37,640 --> 00:47:41,320
Speaker 1: understood how it felt to not see your significant other. Well,

795
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:44,080
Speaker 1: it turns out that when she said FaceTime from time

796
00:47:44,120 --> 00:47:49,880
Speaker 1: to time, she meant every single day, all hours of

797
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 1: the day, without headphones at full volume. Ah, I don't

798
00:47:55,480 --> 00:48:01,279
Speaker 1: see anything wrong with that. I'm just kidding you put

799
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 1: your headphones on. Put your headphones on, dummy, and whisper, Hey, dummy,

800
00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:09,279
Speaker 1: I can hear that. Make it so I can't just

801
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:13,319
Speaker 1: facetiming you because my freaking roommate sucks. It is like,

802
00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 1: really freaking stupid.

803
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 5: I fight.

804
00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:18,799
Speaker 1: I hate them bad, dude. That was so funny. If

805
00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:24,200
Speaker 1: that's the latent conversations where it's like, yeah, she still sucks,

806
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:28,879
Speaker 1: like looks directly at her. She's so annoying. Wait wait,

807
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 1: let me turn it back on full volume. When you say, oh, yeah,

808
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:33,680
Speaker 1: you think she sucks too, Yeah, I totally agree. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

809
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:38,759
Speaker 1: that's why I love you, babe. Yeah, So I would

810
00:48:38,840 --> 00:48:40,960
Speaker 1: leave in the morning, and she would be up talking

811
00:48:40,960 --> 00:48:43,799
Speaker 1: to her boyfriend, walking to the car together, talking to

812
00:48:43,840 --> 00:48:47,359
Speaker 1: her boyfriend. Come back from coming back from class, she'd

813
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:49,200
Speaker 1: be in her room as if she had never left,

814
00:48:49,280 --> 00:48:55,040
Speaker 1: talking to her boyfriend. And every single night I would

815
00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 1: have to deal with her talking to her boyfriend because

816
00:48:57,640 --> 00:49:07,640
Speaker 1: they slept with FaceTime on. Gross cringe, that's so cute. No, No,

817
00:49:07,640 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 1: normalize sleeping apart. You're god, that's already. You don't need

818
00:49:16,600 --> 00:49:20,040
Speaker 1: to be on your face time as you go to sleep.

819
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:32,080
Speaker 1: You're sleeping, you're sleeping. No, exactly normal, No, it's normal.

820
00:49:32,360 --> 00:49:42,640
Speaker 7: Hang up, go to sleep, go to door. Okay, m hmmm.

821
00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:45,480
Speaker 1: It got to the point where I did not feel

822
00:49:45,520 --> 00:49:48,319
Speaker 1: comfortable changing clothes in my own room and would go

823
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:51,279
Speaker 1: to change in the community bathroom because I didn't want

824
00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:56,239
Speaker 1: to risk her boyfriend seeing me undressed. Yeah, I mean

825
00:49:56,320 --> 00:50:02,040
Speaker 1: that's you can you could probably like press the issue, yes, yes,

826
00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:06,799
Speaker 1: be like, hey, can you like maybe not have the

827
00:50:06,840 --> 00:50:10,080
Speaker 1: camera on? I got no clothes on.

828
00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:12,839
Speaker 2: It's called a phone call, not a FaceTime.

829
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:17,000
Speaker 1: Ooh what's that? Yeah, come on, I'm come on man,

830
00:50:17,040 --> 00:50:22,919
Speaker 1: come on, man from gen Z. Anyway, Okay, so are you?

831
00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:27,359
Speaker 1: It was at this time excuse me. It was at

832
00:50:27,360 --> 00:50:30,480
Speaker 1: this time that I got officially diagnosed with depression, as

833
00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 1: well as social and general anxiety, which was definitely not

834
00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:38,040
Speaker 1: helped by my living situation. As a result, I struggled

835
00:50:38,040 --> 00:50:40,719
Speaker 1: to do basic things like keep my desk clean or

836
00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:42,719
Speaker 1: even get out of bed to go to classes. It

837
00:50:43,040 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 1: was a rough time. Jasmine got fed up with my

838
00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:50,440
Speaker 1: desk being piled with papers and school books after a bit,

839
00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:52,400
Speaker 1: but instead of coming to me and asking me to

840
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:55,160
Speaker 1: clean that, she took pictures of everything and then emailed

841
00:50:55,160 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 1: my dad using his professor's school email and told him

842
00:50:59,040 --> 00:51:03,440
Speaker 1: to tell me to lean up. Oh my, what a

843
00:51:03,680 --> 00:51:08,799
Speaker 1: what a whack move? That is the wackest move. Yes, whack,

844
00:51:08,920 --> 00:51:13,320
Speaker 1: so so whack, Like you're gonna get whacked for pulling

845
00:51:13,360 --> 00:51:16,880
Speaker 1: something that whack? Whoa? I mean not really, you're sleeping

846
00:51:16,920 --> 00:51:19,239
Speaker 1: with the fishes. No, no, not like that. I meant

847
00:51:19,320 --> 00:51:25,560
Speaker 1: like paper, you know, like a like an exhibitionist boxing match.

848
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:34,160
Speaker 1: You're gonna die. Whoa, Florida John, That's what said. Oh

849
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:34,719
Speaker 1: you got me.

850
00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:36,799
Speaker 3: Hey, I'm not wearing a suit jacket, but I am

851
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 3: wearing a jacket jacket.

852
00:51:38,120 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's true. That's all I'm saying. Security for Oh, so,

853
00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:47,960
Speaker 1: I got a confused text from my dad, who was up,

854
00:51:49,120 --> 00:51:52,959
Speaker 1: uh up under the impress you see, Oh yeah, under

855
00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:56,479
Speaker 1: the impression. Yes, I got a confused text from my dad,

856
00:51:56,520 --> 00:51:58,839
Speaker 1: who was under the impression that she had asked me

857
00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 1: a lot of times to clean up and I just

858
00:52:00,680 --> 00:52:04,600
Speaker 1: ignored her, when in reality I had never once been asked.

859
00:52:05,120 --> 00:52:08,879
Speaker 1: Let it be known that Jasmine never cleaned her messas either.

860
00:52:09,320 --> 00:52:11,600
Speaker 1: The room was covered in clumps of her hair. I

861
00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 1: know it's hers because she had black hair and I'm blonde,

862
00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:17,919
Speaker 1: and she never swept. It got to the point where

863
00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:20,560
Speaker 1: I would do all the cleaning for room checks, yet

864
00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:23,680
Speaker 1: she complained about me the one time I didn't clean

865
00:52:23,719 --> 00:52:27,240
Speaker 1: my desk during a depressive episode. Other things that happened

866
00:52:27,239 --> 00:52:29,720
Speaker 1: I will list below because describing them all in detail

867
00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 1: would take too much time. Ooh boy, we got bullet points.

868
00:52:32,239 --> 00:52:36,239
Speaker 1: Oh here we go, Here we go, gentlemen. Pull point

869
00:52:36,320 --> 00:52:39,719
Speaker 1: number one. Hey left her TV on full volume and

870
00:52:39,719 --> 00:52:43,080
Speaker 1: then fell asleep with the remote hidden in her blankets somewhere.

871
00:52:43,520 --> 00:52:46,080
Speaker 1: The TV was primarily controlled by that remote, and I

872
00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:47,960
Speaker 1: could not find the power button and slept on a

873
00:52:48,000 --> 00:52:52,040
Speaker 1: couch in the common area that night. Oh low key.

874
00:52:52,280 --> 00:52:56,040
Speaker 1: I feel like you failed the survival check on that one.

875
00:52:56,280 --> 00:53:00,319
Speaker 1: Like unplugged the TV from the wall. What are you

876
00:53:00,360 --> 00:53:02,879
Speaker 1: doing pull the plug out of the thing to do

877
00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 1: was hidden? I don't think so doing like unless they're

878
00:53:07,760 --> 00:53:11,200
Speaker 1: using like a CRT or like the HDM just grab

879
00:53:11,280 --> 00:53:12,960
Speaker 1: you can just go right up to the monitor and

880
00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:16,440
Speaker 1: go and pull that right out and it's off. So

881
00:53:18,560 --> 00:53:20,640
Speaker 1: not letting you get away with that one. Op. Sorry,

882
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:23,960
Speaker 1: let's see bull point number two. Bull point number two,

883
00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:27,279
Speaker 1: Hey never actually brought the items for the room she

884
00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:30,520
Speaker 1: had promised to bring. No rug no cleaning supplies, no nothing.

885
00:53:30,840 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 1: That's not very good. Okay. Number three told her boyfriend

886
00:53:35,080 --> 00:53:37,279
Speaker 1: she wanted to flush my pet fish because he wasn't

887
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:40,520
Speaker 1: a pretty beta fish. I loved fish and hearing the

888
00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:44,400
Speaker 1: band the band Fish, and I heard this while wearing

889
00:53:44,440 --> 00:53:47,719
Speaker 1: headphones that she thought were playing music. I kept a

890
00:53:47,760 --> 00:53:51,759
Speaker 1: close eye on my fish after that. She also broke

891
00:53:51,840 --> 00:53:54,359
Speaker 1: up with her boyfriend every few weeks, wailed about it

892
00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:59,360
Speaker 1: loudly to her friends on guess what FaceTime, oh sing,

893
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:01,719
Speaker 1: and then they would get back together that same night.

894
00:54:01,840 --> 00:54:03,640
Speaker 1: Not the worst thing ever, But if you're going to

895
00:54:03,640 --> 00:54:05,560
Speaker 1: scream at your boyfriend over the phone. Please don't do

896
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:08,719
Speaker 1: it while I'm studying in the room. For she sent

897
00:54:08,760 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 1: me text saying I wasn't a good person, that she

898
00:54:11,200 --> 00:54:13,560
Speaker 1: had never been rude to me, and that I should

899
00:54:13,560 --> 00:54:16,480
Speaker 1: come correct. When I spoke to her after I finally

900
00:54:16,480 --> 00:54:18,480
Speaker 1: got up the nerve to confront her about her actions,

901
00:54:18,840 --> 00:54:19,640
Speaker 1: oh boy.

902
00:54:20,000 --> 00:54:27,719
Speaker 3: Um ooh m. She did the bad touch, spicy self time.

903
00:54:28,280 --> 00:54:30,839
Speaker 1: She did the bad touch and talked dirty to her

904
00:54:30,880 --> 00:54:32,920
Speaker 1: boyfriend while I was in bed and she thought I

905
00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:35,839
Speaker 1: was asleep. Needless to say, I didn't sleep well at

906
00:54:35,840 --> 00:54:42,279
Speaker 1: all while that was going on. Also, op time to go, Hey,

907
00:54:42,320 --> 00:54:47,720
Speaker 1: I'm away, I am not sleep Hey, I can hear you, sap.

908
00:54:48,280 --> 00:54:53,439
Speaker 3: I mean, after a while, I could see a non

909
00:54:53,480 --> 00:54:56,360
Speaker 3: confrontational person being just worn down and just being like,

910
00:54:56,440 --> 00:55:02,359
Speaker 3: not that you should make make yours self known, but yeah,

911
00:55:02,520 --> 00:55:04,600
Speaker 3: you go, and those rooms aren't You were probably in

912
00:55:04,600 --> 00:55:06,600
Speaker 3: like a bunk bed or like a twin bed that

913
00:55:06,680 --> 00:55:08,400
Speaker 3: is three feet away from the other one. So you

914
00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:12,880
Speaker 3: just find something to knock on and you go, hey guys,

915
00:55:13,440 --> 00:55:14,359
Speaker 3: h sorry.

916
00:55:14,320 --> 00:55:22,800
Speaker 1: Hi, hi, Hi, I'm awake. Just for future reference, Okay,

917
00:55:23,680 --> 00:55:26,040
Speaker 1: I went to my Ra multiple times and asked her

918
00:55:26,040 --> 00:55:28,480
Speaker 1: to speak to Jasmine about this. She brought us a

919
00:55:28,520 --> 00:55:31,360
Speaker 1: few times. She brought us in a few times for

920
00:55:31,440 --> 00:55:33,520
Speaker 1: us to talk things out, but that was just a

921
00:55:33,560 --> 00:55:35,600
Speaker 1: time for us to vent our feelings and for the

922
00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:37,719
Speaker 1: ra to send us on our way without actually doing

923
00:55:37,719 --> 00:55:40,719
Speaker 1: anything to help, and without her saying that I was

924
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:43,800
Speaker 1: in a toxic environment. I didn't have grounds to move rooms,

925
00:55:44,120 --> 00:55:46,719
Speaker 1: so I was stuck in this situation and nothing changed.

926
00:55:47,239 --> 00:55:49,520
Speaker 1: This was also around the time when that story was

927
00:55:49,560 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 1: going viral about the racist girl. Wait about that racist

928
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:58,920
Speaker 1: girl rubbed used tampons on her African American roommates things,

929
00:55:59,080 --> 00:56:02,200
Speaker 1: And considering that I attended a southern college in the

930
00:56:02,200 --> 00:56:04,880
Speaker 1: heart of the Bible Belt with a predominantly white student

931
00:56:04,920 --> 00:56:07,399
Speaker 1: population and Jasmine was the only black girl on the hall,

932
00:56:07,719 --> 00:56:10,080
Speaker 1: I wasn't sure how far the crazy would extend, and

933
00:56:10,120 --> 00:56:12,080
Speaker 1: I didn't want to anger her to the point that

934
00:56:12,160 --> 00:56:14,680
Speaker 1: she decided she would accuse me of being racist towards

935
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:18,439
Speaker 1: her whoof Yeah, that was a tricky one. We got

936
00:56:18,440 --> 00:56:21,560
Speaker 1: there though. I was like, oh, no, is this about

937
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:24,719
Speaker 1: to get really bad? But it's like Loki Op, He's

938
00:56:24,800 --> 00:56:26,880
Speaker 1: just like and I also feel like I can't do

939
00:56:26,920 --> 00:56:29,239
Speaker 1: anything because everyone will be like racism.

940
00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:33,319
Speaker 3: She Yeah, she's worried how it might come off or

941
00:56:33,600 --> 00:56:36,279
Speaker 3: that people. Yeah, I know the context of their situation. Yes,

942
00:56:36,440 --> 00:56:37,160
Speaker 3: I guess.

943
00:56:38,680 --> 00:56:42,240
Speaker 1: Yes, looking back now, I know that wouldn't have made sense.

944
00:56:42,400 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 1: Most of my friends at the time were and still

945
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:47,440
Speaker 1: are African American and all knew what was going on

946
00:56:47,719 --> 00:56:51,400
Speaker 1: and would have vouched for me. But freshman year was me.

947
00:56:52,040 --> 00:56:55,279
Speaker 1: But freshman year me was terrified. All of this came

948
00:56:55,320 --> 00:56:58,960
Speaker 1: to the ground conclusion the week before finals. I lent

949
00:56:59,000 --> 00:57:01,719
Speaker 1: her money earlier in the year, twenty bucks, and I

950
00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:03,640
Speaker 1: had a night out with a friend that I wanted

951
00:57:03,719 --> 00:57:06,120
Speaker 1: cash for, so I asked her to pay me back

952
00:57:06,160 --> 00:57:09,320
Speaker 1: over texts since I kept forgetting and wanted it in writing.

953
00:57:09,800 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 1: Here's how it played out me. Hey, Jay, Jasmine just

954
00:57:14,080 --> 00:57:16,920
Speaker 1: wanted to let you know that I'm going out tonight

955
00:57:16,960 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 1: and I would appreciate it if you could pay back

956
00:57:19,200 --> 00:57:27,800
Speaker 1: that twenty dollars I lent you in January, Jasmine, John's

957
00:57:27,840 --> 00:57:30,040
Speaker 1: not gonna John's not gonna do jazz, he or keon.

958
00:57:30,080 --> 00:57:32,040
Speaker 1: You want to do you can't do it. I got you,

959
00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:36,240
Speaker 1: I gotcha, you got jazz. Now I'll do it right, Yeah, yeah,

960
00:57:36,240 --> 00:57:40,280
Speaker 1: as normal as possible. Yeah, I'll do it, but I

961
00:57:40,320 --> 00:57:43,520
Speaker 1: don't have the money. I know for a fact that

962
00:57:43,600 --> 00:57:45,960
Speaker 1: she has a job on campus that gives a paycheck

963
00:57:46,000 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 1: every other week. Well, you've had months now, and I

964
00:57:49,080 --> 00:57:50,880
Speaker 1: get that money can be tight, but I've given you

965
00:57:50,960 --> 00:57:52,840
Speaker 1: a lot of time to pay me back. So please

966
00:57:52,880 --> 00:57:55,360
Speaker 1: either venmo me or leave it in cash on my desk.

967
00:57:56,440 --> 00:57:59,800
Speaker 1: No reply, And then my phone rings and it's Jazz,

968
00:58:00,080 --> 00:58:05,280
Speaker 1: and so I answer it me, Hey, who the F

969
00:58:05,400 --> 00:58:06,200
Speaker 1: do you think you are?

970
00:58:06,760 --> 00:58:06,840
Speaker 2: Me?

971
00:58:08,840 --> 00:58:12,200
Speaker 3: You have no right to text my number asking me

972
00:58:12,360 --> 00:58:15,520
Speaker 3: for money I don't have I haven't paid in months.

973
00:58:15,760 --> 00:58:19,200
Speaker 3: I don't have the money. Don't ever text me again.

974
00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:22,040
Speaker 3: You don't have the right to speak to me that way.

975
00:58:22,200 --> 00:58:25,040
Speaker 3: You should speak to me in person about this.

976
00:58:25,120 --> 00:58:32,120
Speaker 1: Click immediately hangs up. I immediately break down and cry

977
00:58:32,160 --> 00:58:34,840
Speaker 1: for a while before calming down and deciding that I'll

978
00:58:34,840 --> 00:58:38,400
Speaker 1: talk to her again after that night. Also, this is

979
00:58:38,480 --> 00:58:44,560
Speaker 1: twenty dollars, like that was a lot of college student.

980
00:58:44,760 --> 00:58:48,240
Speaker 1: I'm broke, listen, man, just no, but just like it's

981
00:58:48,240 --> 00:58:50,840
Speaker 1: not about like, look, I know that you can't it's

982
00:58:51,040 --> 00:58:53,080
Speaker 1: not I've been in the spot where I can't afford

983
00:58:53,120 --> 00:58:55,200
Speaker 1: twenty bucks. But it's like I just mean more of

984
00:58:55,280 --> 00:58:59,320
Speaker 1: like the you don't have the right to message me.

985
00:58:59,360 --> 00:59:05,000
Speaker 1: It's like, this is not that serious. Yeah it's twenty bucks. Nah.

986
00:59:05,040 --> 00:59:11,400
Speaker 3: And and she's just like like she's being very calm,

987
00:59:11,440 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 3: like she's saying what she needs to say is like hey,

988
00:59:15,280 --> 00:59:17,040
Speaker 3: just like leave it on my desk or whatever. But

989
00:59:17,080 --> 00:59:19,560
Speaker 3: I feel like her communication did not cross the line.

990
00:59:20,080 --> 00:59:22,720
Speaker 1: No, it didn't get to the point where she deserved

991
00:59:22,720 --> 00:59:26,680
Speaker 1: to be like told off. No way true. Wow?

992
00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:33,440
Speaker 2: So wow, whoa, whoa, Woh.

993
00:59:32,320 --> 00:59:35,280
Speaker 1: It's for sure thirty minutes school. Oh oh, we have

994
00:59:35,400 --> 00:59:41,040
Speaker 1: just hit another. We got another one another. It's another

995
00:59:41,120 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 1: quick thirty.

996
00:59:42,120 --> 00:59:45,200
Speaker 3: From your favorite boy band.

997
00:59:45,440 --> 00:59:48,840
Speaker 1: Boy band. N oh yeah, that's the that's it.

998
00:59:49,560 --> 00:59:51,840
Speaker 3: I literally had a question and then Kean just like

999
00:59:51,960 --> 00:59:52,960
Speaker 3: beautifully answered it with.

1000
00:59:52,960 --> 00:59:59,560
Speaker 1: His beautiful fucking facial. Oh get him here. Oh wow,

1001
00:59:59,720 --> 01:00:03,400
Speaker 1: your face he's shake he's trembling. He's trembling. That's what

1002
01:00:03,440 --> 01:00:08,760
Speaker 1: I do with power. Oh god. Uh Okay, if she

1003
01:00:08,880 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 1: wants me to talk in person, then I'll do that too.

1004
01:00:12,960 --> 01:00:15,960
Speaker 1: I just want my money back, So when she gets back,

1005
01:00:16,000 --> 01:00:18,640
Speaker 1: I give her some time and then hesitantly bring up

1006
01:00:18,680 --> 01:00:20,160
Speaker 1: money again. It's my money, and I want to know

1007
01:00:20,280 --> 01:00:24,920
Speaker 1: she's a lot more calm this time, but still evasive.

1008
01:00:25,000 --> 01:00:32,800
Speaker 1: Oh Jasmine, Oh yeah, I get that, but I haven't

1009
01:00:32,800 --> 01:00:35,560
Speaker 1: paid in months. They messed up something with my information,

1010
01:00:35,760 --> 01:00:39,680
Speaker 1: so I'm waiting on a bunch of paychecks. Me. Oh man,

1011
01:00:39,760 --> 01:00:43,320
Speaker 1: that sucks. I'm sorry. But you have been going to

1012
01:00:43,400 --> 01:00:46,480
Speaker 1: bars every weekend with your friends, so you seem to

1013
01:00:46,520 --> 01:00:48,680
Speaker 1: have money for that. So I really just like my

1014
01:00:48,680 --> 01:00:51,520
Speaker 1: twenty dollars. Why the f are you all up in

1015
01:00:51,600 --> 01:00:56,680
Speaker 1: my business like that? That is so rude. Well, you're

1016
01:00:56,800 --> 01:01:01,080
Speaker 1: talking on the phone all the time, so I like

1017
01:01:01,400 --> 01:01:05,400
Speaker 1: listening in on conversations. He dropping, you are so rude.

1018
01:01:05,480 --> 01:01:06,400
Speaker 1: That's why every.

1019
01:01:06,200 --> 01:01:08,000
Speaker 3: One of the halls. That's what every one of the

1020
01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:11,680
Speaker 3: halls thinks you are. Everyone says you're rude. That's why

1021
01:01:11,720 --> 01:01:13,920
Speaker 3: no one likes you or talks to you. That's why

1022
01:01:13,920 --> 01:01:15,040
Speaker 3: you don't have any friends.

1023
01:01:16,280 --> 01:01:19,320
Speaker 1: Ouch. I knew I didn't have more than one or

1024
01:01:19,360 --> 01:01:21,560
Speaker 1: two friends on the hall, but that immediately triggered my

1025
01:01:21,600 --> 01:01:24,320
Speaker 1: social anxiety and made me think back over my actions

1026
01:01:24,360 --> 01:01:26,920
Speaker 1: and worry that the blame really was on me. So

1027
01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:30,200
Speaker 1: I'm trying not to cry now, me raising my voice.

1028
01:01:30,800 --> 01:01:34,120
Speaker 1: Maybe if you actually used headphones and didn't talk on

1029
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:38,280
Speaker 1: FaceTime all hours of the day. I wouldn't know all

1030
01:01:38,400 --> 01:01:45,760
Speaker 1: your business, but you're pretty thing. Or do ignore when

1031
01:01:46,520 --> 01:01:52,960
Speaker 1: I may have lost my cool? What the F? What

1032
01:01:53,000 --> 01:01:55,840
Speaker 1: the F did you just say to me? I have

1033
01:01:56,360 --> 01:02:01,120
Speaker 1: a boyfriend and being in a long distance relationship hard

1034
01:02:01,320 --> 01:02:08,840
Speaker 1: and talking on FaceTime helps. I know I'm in a

1035
01:02:08,880 --> 01:02:14,440
Speaker 1: long distance relationship too, oh, plot twist. But I make

1036
01:02:14,520 --> 01:02:17,200
Speaker 1: sure I talk when you aren't in the room or

1037
01:02:17,280 --> 01:02:21,440
Speaker 1: I leave the room, and I use headphones for privacy,

1038
01:02:22,040 --> 01:02:28,120
Speaker 1: and I don't talk all the time. Well, you must

1039
01:02:28,120 --> 01:02:31,840
Speaker 1: have a terrible relationship because I've never seen you facetiming.

1040
01:02:34,480 --> 01:02:37,160
Speaker 1: And yes, we are going two years strong, while you

1041
01:02:37,200 --> 01:02:41,680
Speaker 1: can't even last three weeks without a breakup. At that moment,

1042
01:02:41,720 --> 01:02:43,880
Speaker 1: my neighbor from the next room came over and knocked

1043
01:02:44,320 --> 01:02:47,800
Speaker 1: and asked for us to quiet down. Can you guys

1044
01:02:47,800 --> 01:02:48,560
Speaker 1: shut up? Please?

1045
01:02:49,360 --> 01:02:49,440
Speaker 5: No?

1046
01:02:50,160 --> 01:02:54,360
Speaker 1: Okay? I got up and left my room, going to

1047
01:02:54,400 --> 01:02:58,080
Speaker 1: try to find somewhere quiet to cry. The girl next door,

1048
01:02:59,400 --> 01:03:02,200
Speaker 1: an actual angel of a girl, saw me and went

1049
01:03:02,280 --> 01:03:05,160
Speaker 1: with me downstairs, bringing the ra and sitting with me

1050
01:03:05,600 --> 01:03:08,480
Speaker 1: and bringing me tissues while I sobbed and spilled everything

1051
01:03:08,480 --> 01:03:11,680
Speaker 1: about Jasmine to her and comforting me saying that no

1052
01:03:11,720 --> 01:03:13,720
Speaker 1: one thought I was rude at all, and that I

1053
01:03:13,800 --> 01:03:16,360
Speaker 1: was liked by many people on the hall. I was

1054
01:03:16,440 --> 01:03:21,680
Speaker 1: just not around to hear it. My Ra finally decided

1055
01:03:21,720 --> 01:03:24,080
Speaker 1: to escalate things to her boss, who talked to me

1056
01:03:24,240 --> 01:03:27,360
Speaker 1: and Jasmine separately, and even though she could not do

1057
01:03:27,400 --> 01:03:30,360
Speaker 1: anything for us, she promised to give me priority housing

1058
01:03:30,440 --> 01:03:32,720
Speaker 1: next year and pulled strings to get me into the

1059
01:03:32,800 --> 01:03:36,640
Speaker 1: nicest housing on campus where I have sweet style living

1060
01:03:36,720 --> 01:03:41,720
Speaker 1: with my own private room, and I'll have that for

1061
01:03:41,760 --> 01:03:46,160
Speaker 1: the rest of my college career. Just really quickly. I

1062
01:03:46,160 --> 01:03:48,440
Speaker 1: have to say that I love that. There's two comments

1063
01:03:48,560 --> 01:03:50,080
Speaker 1: right next to each other in the chat that says,

1064
01:03:50,400 --> 01:03:52,720
Speaker 1: I hate this Dakota voice so much, and then the

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01:03:52,760 --> 01:03:55,040
Speaker 1: next one says, top notch voice, Dakota.

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Speaker 3: You can't please them all, but Dakota.

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01:04:00,360 --> 01:04:02,160
Speaker 1: Oh, I got the full spectrum. I got the love

1068
01:04:02,160 --> 01:04:04,240
Speaker 1: and the hate, So I need to get the tattoos

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01:04:04,240 --> 01:04:10,240
Speaker 1: on my knuckles. Jasmine paid me my twenty dollars because

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01:04:10,360 --> 01:04:12,880
Speaker 1: I had her agreeing in writing that she owed me

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01:04:13,000 --> 01:04:15,440
Speaker 1: and could not deny the fact, and then I blocked

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01:04:15,440 --> 01:04:18,040
Speaker 1: her and deleted all connections to her. After she moved out,

1073
01:04:18,440 --> 01:04:20,480
Speaker 1: I was ready to forget all about her and move on.

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01:04:21,000 --> 01:04:24,000
Speaker 1: There's no real victory here. This isn't pro revenge or anything,

1075
01:04:24,040 --> 01:04:27,360
Speaker 1: but I do have some closing info you might find satisfying.

1076
01:04:28,000 --> 01:04:29,920
Speaker 1: So remember how I said that my dad was a

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01:04:29,920 --> 01:04:33,800
Speaker 1: professor teaching a required class. Well, for some reason, Jasmine

1078
01:04:33,800 --> 01:04:36,480
Speaker 1: decided to take his course, meaning that at the end

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01:04:36,480 --> 01:04:38,720
Speaker 1: of the semester I got all the details from my

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01:04:38,840 --> 01:04:42,640
Speaker 1: dad regarding her behavior in his class. By the way,

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01:04:43,360 --> 01:04:49,080
Speaker 1: we're gonna tell your dad on you. If you don't

1082
01:04:50,160 --> 01:04:53,880
Speaker 1: listen one more time. If you don't right now, if

1083
01:04:53,920 --> 01:04:57,320
Speaker 1: you don't listen to full episodes with stories like this,

1084
01:04:57,760 --> 01:05:00,000
Speaker 1: what are you gonna do? We will be informing the faculty,

1085
01:05:00,320 --> 01:05:06,040
Speaker 1: oh god, and they're gonna report back to us whether

1086
01:05:06,120 --> 01:05:09,240
Speaker 1: or not you've gone to Spotify or Apple Podcasts or

1087
01:05:09,280 --> 01:05:13,360
Speaker 1: wherever you get your podcasts from and have searched. Okay,

1088
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:15,720
Speaker 1: story time, because that is all you need to do

1089
01:05:15,800 --> 01:05:20,840
Speaker 1: to find a bottomless well of juicy episodes that you

1090
01:05:20,920 --> 01:05:26,600
Speaker 1: can just draw from at any moment. So true, bestie,

1091
01:05:28,320 --> 01:05:29,880
Speaker 1: I don't know if you cooked or you burnt it.

1092
01:05:29,920 --> 01:05:32,840
Speaker 1: I don't know if you did there. Teddy just goes,

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01:05:32,920 --> 01:05:43,600
Speaker 1: don't tell my dad shit. Oh okay, okay, So we

1094
01:05:43,920 --> 01:05:47,880
Speaker 1: are approaching the end of the story here before we

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01:05:48,000 --> 01:05:55,720
Speaker 1: finish it. You know, like I think I never had

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01:05:55,720 --> 01:05:57,440
Speaker 1: to deal with an ra. I didn't go to university

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01:05:57,480 --> 01:06:01,160
Speaker 1: like that, so I can't speak same. But at the

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01:06:01,200 --> 01:06:04,680
Speaker 1: same time I can say that, like, clearly you needed

1099
01:06:04,680 --> 01:06:07,280
Speaker 1: more evidence, so gather more evidence. Like and also, this

1100
01:06:07,320 --> 01:06:09,520
Speaker 1: person's young. You know, they're eighteen nineteen, they just went

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01:06:09,560 --> 01:06:14,040
Speaker 1: to college and freshmen. I think learning to be more

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01:06:15,240 --> 01:06:19,400
Speaker 1: secure in your own sort of thought processes and decisions

1103
01:06:19,600 --> 01:06:21,520
Speaker 1: something that we learn as we get older. For sure,

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01:06:21,920 --> 01:06:24,040
Speaker 1: this is not something we always have when we're.

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01:06:24,560 --> 01:06:31,320
Speaker 4: A fresh a fresh adult, but yeah, it's like you

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01:06:31,360 --> 01:06:33,600
Speaker 4: should definitely be able to be like, hey, I just

1107
01:06:33,640 --> 01:06:35,400
Speaker 4: can you not be on the phone all the time,

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01:06:35,560 --> 01:06:38,080
Speaker 4: Like it's it's distracting I'm trying to focus on studying.

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01:06:38,160 --> 01:06:40,360
Speaker 1: Or it's like or can you just use headphones? And

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01:06:40,400 --> 01:06:42,880
Speaker 1: if she's like no, absolutely not, then it's like, all right, well,

1111
01:06:42,920 --> 01:06:46,320
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm I'm gonna I guess talk to

1112
01:06:46,360 --> 01:06:48,360
Speaker 1: Ari about this because it's like I feel like I

1113
01:06:48,360 --> 01:06:51,240
Speaker 1: need a new roommate. I feel like we're not getting along. Yeah,

1114
01:06:51,360 --> 01:06:54,480
Speaker 1: I think you could have maybe found a way to

1115
01:06:54,560 --> 01:07:01,160
Speaker 1: get that move, to get that move to happen, because

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01:07:01,200 --> 01:07:02,640
Speaker 1: it was like, oh the r A can't move me

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01:07:02,680 --> 01:07:04,840
Speaker 1: out because it's not toxic. But I think if you

1118
01:07:04,840 --> 01:07:06,600
Speaker 1: could have gotten her be like, hey, we both aren't

1119
01:07:06,600 --> 01:07:09,640
Speaker 1: liking each other, right, let's both get new roommates.

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Speaker 2: That's very It's very odd because as someone who did

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01:07:12,680 --> 01:07:15,400
Speaker 2: go to university and you know, had the dorm life,

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01:07:15,400 --> 01:07:17,560
Speaker 2: but using a university.

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Speaker 1: Oh look at me over here with my big university

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01:07:21,320 --> 01:07:23,960
Speaker 1: cake that I drag around all day. We're just a

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01:07:24,000 --> 01:07:27,920
Speaker 1: couple of country bumpkins, aren't we over here? I tell

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01:07:27,920 --> 01:07:30,680
Speaker 1: you I didn't ever go to no higher education. But

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01:07:30,880 --> 01:07:34,320
Speaker 1: I'm uh dang it, I can't remember where I was

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01:07:34,320 --> 01:07:38,680
Speaker 1: gonna say, I graduated from a Baylor. Hey, yeah, I

1129
01:07:38,720 --> 01:07:42,640
Speaker 1: graduated from bail of Hay University. Yeah, Baylor, Now that's

1130
01:07:42,680 --> 01:07:45,200
Speaker 1: where I'm from. From Baylor. I'm from Baylor. I was by.

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01:07:46,000 --> 01:07:48,040
Speaker 1: I'm a big Bayler. There ain't no why in that

1132
01:07:48,160 --> 01:07:52,400
Speaker 1: university is b a I l e R or b

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01:07:52,520 --> 01:08:02,360
Speaker 1: A l e R. You were saying, speechless, hey college boy,

1134
01:08:02,440 --> 01:08:07,320
Speaker 1: what are you talking about? Big college boy? Pulling a Dakoda?

1135
01:08:07,360 --> 01:08:10,760
Speaker 1: And I lost my train of thought. No, yeah, I

1136
01:08:10,760 --> 01:08:12,640
Speaker 1: feel like we're going to talk about the ra as

1137
01:08:13,000 --> 01:08:19,320
Speaker 1: esause Oh you want me to do Yeah, yeah I do.

1138
01:08:20,040 --> 01:08:23,519
Speaker 1: We were just going, yeah, little goofin, little new boot,

1139
01:08:23,560 --> 01:08:28,400
Speaker 1: goofing on you. That's all. So I kind of lost

1140
01:08:28,400 --> 01:08:28,680
Speaker 1: it now.

1141
01:08:28,960 --> 01:08:33,880
Speaker 2: It's it was pretty easy to like, if you had

1142
01:08:33,880 --> 01:08:36,320
Speaker 2: a complaint, you would go to the ra A and

1143
01:08:36,360 --> 01:08:39,120
Speaker 2: be like, okay, cool, the ra A would like try

1144
01:08:39,120 --> 01:08:40,880
Speaker 2: and what they did at the very end there, they

1145
01:08:40,880 --> 01:08:42,200
Speaker 2: would have done that at the very beginning.

1146
01:08:42,240 --> 01:08:43,000
Speaker 1: I don't understand.

1147
01:08:43,000 --> 01:08:46,400
Speaker 2: That's very weird that, yeah, this wasn't heard in the

1148
01:08:46,439 --> 01:08:48,880
Speaker 2: first like complaint.

1149
01:08:49,120 --> 01:08:51,599
Speaker 1: Yeah, there was some stipulation. It was like, oh, well

1150
01:08:51,600 --> 01:08:55,040
Speaker 1: because there's no like proof that it's toxic. But it's like,

1151
01:08:55,560 --> 01:08:59,599
Speaker 1: where's the line for toxic being drawn these days by

1152
01:08:59,680 --> 01:08:59,920
Speaker 1: an R.

1153
01:09:02,280 --> 01:09:04,240
Speaker 3: I feel like as soon as that was the you know,

1154
01:09:04,320 --> 01:09:08,880
Speaker 3: the the spicy solo face time, Oh yeah, actually.

1155
01:09:09,240 --> 01:09:15,479
Speaker 1: Such face time. Yeah yeah, that's like hello, no, thank you, no.

1156
01:09:15,640 --> 01:09:17,960
Speaker 3: I feel like that would have at least that point,

1157
01:09:17,960 --> 01:09:22,480
Speaker 3: but also possibly and also op he was saying, oh

1158
01:09:23,120 --> 01:09:24,720
Speaker 3: she didn't go to the RI and the R told

1159
01:09:24,760 --> 01:09:26,439
Speaker 3: her that, right, it was like, oh, I don't have

1160
01:09:26,600 --> 01:09:28,840
Speaker 3: enough yet to prove that it's top No, she did.

1161
01:09:28,920 --> 01:09:30,920
Speaker 1: She went to the R and R was like, Nah,

1162
01:09:31,000 --> 01:09:34,679
Speaker 1: we can't. We can't move you out. Make it more toxic, code,

1163
01:09:35,040 --> 01:09:38,559
Speaker 1: make it more toxic. Yeah, well, let's see how the

1164
01:09:38,600 --> 01:09:43,479
Speaker 1: story is. Let's see what happens to toxic J turns

1165
01:09:43,520 --> 01:09:48,120
Speaker 1: out Jasmine missed so often it did absolutely no homework,

1166
01:09:48,160 --> 01:09:51,120
Speaker 1: and did so poorly on exams that he had no

1167
01:09:51,240 --> 01:09:56,120
Speaker 1: choice but tough fail. And when I checked the student

1168
01:09:56,160 --> 01:09:58,559
Speaker 1: registry this year, she is no longer attending the school.

1169
01:09:58,600 --> 01:10:00,880
Speaker 1: Because if I had to guess, I would say.

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01:10:00,720 --> 01:10:03,240
Speaker 5: It's because she never went to classes and spent most

1171
01:10:03,240 --> 01:10:05,000
Speaker 5: of her study time on her phone.

1172
01:10:06,320 --> 01:10:07,960
Speaker 1: Yeah. If I had a.

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01:10:08,000 --> 01:10:10,480
Speaker 5: Guess, it's because she's on the phone with a boyfriend

1174
01:10:10,560 --> 01:10:11,000
Speaker 5: touching on.

1175
01:10:12,080 --> 01:10:16,880
Speaker 1: Near mind nothing Wait wait I missed? Uh could you

1176
01:10:16,920 --> 01:10:19,799
Speaker 1: just like fully detail out. I'm just gonna fully detail

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01:10:19,840 --> 01:10:22,200
Speaker 1: it out. That's probably because she was on the phone

1178
01:10:22,200 --> 01:10:25,840
Speaker 1: with a boyfriend touch you know who? Ha? Okay, who's ha?

1179
01:10:27,120 --> 01:10:33,639
Speaker 1: Who's har? Who had dinner first? As for me, I

1180
01:10:33,680 --> 01:10:37,320
Speaker 1: am still at this school. I have three great suite mates,

1181
01:10:37,760 --> 01:10:40,640
Speaker 1: with two more good friends moving in next year. I

1182
01:10:40,680 --> 01:10:45,800
Speaker 1: have awoo, that's a lot of space. It's who is it?

1183
01:10:46,360 --> 01:10:50,360
Speaker 1: Three four five. That's six people in one suite. It's

1184
01:10:50,400 --> 01:10:50,880
Speaker 1: a lot.

1185
01:10:51,280 --> 01:10:52,960
Speaker 3: I think some of them they have like little it's

1186
01:10:52,960 --> 01:10:55,000
Speaker 3: almost like those hotel rooms, you know, it's a little connector.

1187
01:10:55,040 --> 01:10:58,960
Speaker 1: And then yeah, maybe I don't know. That's wild to me.

1188
01:10:59,840 --> 01:11:02,519
Speaker 1: I have a solid GPA, a healthier mental state, a

1189
01:11:02,560 --> 01:11:06,280
Speaker 1: stable relationship, have kept my scholarship, and most importantly, I've

1190
01:11:06,320 --> 01:11:09,920
Speaker 1: grown a spine with the help of therapy, anxiety medication,

1191
01:11:09,960 --> 01:11:14,080
Speaker 1: and realizing my own self worth. Yeah, go off, quote

1192
01:11:14,240 --> 01:11:17,240
Speaker 1: let's go. It's like that's I love that because that's

1193
01:11:17,920 --> 01:11:20,200
Speaker 1: that's all we needed right there. So I'd say I

1194
01:11:20,280 --> 01:11:24,280
Speaker 1: came out on top karmas a b two bees uh,

1195
01:11:24,280 --> 01:11:32,400
Speaker 1: and that is the end of that story. And that's

1196
01:11:32,479 --> 01:11:34,960
Speaker 1: actually the end of that episode. But we're not doing that.

1197
01:11:35,000 --> 01:11:41,759
Speaker 1: But we're not doing that because oh okay, wow.

1198
01:11:42,040 --> 01:11:44,200
Speaker 2: My takeaway to that is, if you are a college

1199
01:11:44,200 --> 01:11:46,759
Speaker 2: student and you are not comfortable in your living situation,

1200
01:11:46,880 --> 01:11:50,360
Speaker 2: especially as a freshman, speak to an RA or the

1201
01:11:50,479 --> 01:11:54,840
Speaker 2: norm manager or whoever someone high up and like, you know,

1202
01:11:55,920 --> 01:11:59,599
Speaker 2: just don't don't say anything. I mean, you gotta see something. Yeah, dude,

1203
01:11:59,600 --> 01:12:02,479
Speaker 2: you have rights. You're paying so much money to be there.

1204
01:12:02,640 --> 01:12:05,639
Speaker 2: You are paying a stupendous amount of money to be there.

1205
01:12:05,680 --> 01:12:08,040
Speaker 2: But I feel like you can speak your mind. All

1206
01:12:08,280 --> 01:12:08,800
Speaker 2: kids like it.

1207
01:12:09,520 --> 01:12:11,600
Speaker 3: Sometimes you really got to like they still feel like,

1208
01:12:11,680 --> 01:12:13,439
Speaker 3: oh I'm at school and like oh, like.

1209
01:12:13,600 --> 01:12:15,320
Speaker 2: Then they're walking on eggshells and they're like, oh no,

1210
01:12:15,360 --> 01:12:17,040
Speaker 2: I don't have a voice, and like I just want

1211
01:12:17,040 --> 01:12:18,519
Speaker 2: to be a cool kid and not be like the

1212
01:12:18,520 --> 01:12:20,559
Speaker 2: tattletale like nah, do your thing.

1213
01:12:20,880 --> 01:12:22,760
Speaker 1: This is where you get to fresh restart and get

1214
01:12:22,800 --> 01:12:23,559
Speaker 1: to be an adult.

1215
01:12:23,840 --> 01:12:26,280
Speaker 3: And and if you need kind of like Op, like

1216
01:12:26,360 --> 01:12:29,559
Speaker 3: I feel like Op kind of needed help, like coming

1217
01:12:29,640 --> 01:12:32,479
Speaker 3: out of her shell like that, talk to a therapist,

1218
01:12:32,520 --> 01:12:34,800
Speaker 3: your friend, your parents, et cetera. Like if you're like

1219
01:12:35,040 --> 01:12:37,360
Speaker 3: I really want to do this, but I have a

1220
01:12:37,360 --> 01:12:39,360
Speaker 3: hard time doing it, talk to someone who will kind

1221
01:12:39,360 --> 01:12:41,839
Speaker 3: of like I feel like someone be like, uh, yeah,

1222
01:12:41,920 --> 01:12:44,639
Speaker 3: you're ten trillion percent within your right.

1223
01:12:44,520 --> 01:12:44,880
Speaker 1: To do that.

1224
01:12:45,040 --> 01:12:46,840
Speaker 2: You gets like that helps and usually a lot of

1225
01:12:47,880 --> 01:12:51,000
Speaker 2: the validation, Yeah, a majority of campuses or a lot

1226
01:12:51,040 --> 01:12:53,439
Speaker 2: of campuses, actually, I would say maybe all of them.

1227
01:12:53,720 --> 01:12:57,040
Speaker 2: They do have like therapy sessions for students that usually

1228
01:12:57,080 --> 01:12:59,400
Speaker 2: you don't make as Yeah, so that's a great point.

1229
01:12:59,479 --> 01:13:01,680
Speaker 2: If you are again a student right now listening to

1230
01:13:01,760 --> 01:13:05,040
Speaker 2: us or watching us, do that. Talk to someone, talk

1231
01:13:05,080 --> 01:13:09,520
Speaker 2: to an adult. I don't know, talk to somebody.

1232
01:13:10,280 --> 01:13:13,240
Speaker 1: That ra goofed. There's no way that. Yeah, I really

1233
01:13:13,280 --> 01:13:16,360
Speaker 1: don't like how the RA like they could have handled

1234
01:13:16,400 --> 01:13:18,360
Speaker 1: it immediately. I know it's hard to find like.

1235
01:13:18,479 --> 01:13:20,880
Speaker 2: I know it's hard like because it does happen where

1236
01:13:20,880 --> 01:13:23,679
Speaker 2: they can't move people in the dorm and they can't

1237
01:13:23,760 --> 01:13:25,360
Speaker 2: take you and like, okay, there's no more rooms and

1238
01:13:25,360 --> 01:13:27,599
Speaker 2: there's no space, but they can try and maybe switch

1239
01:13:27,640 --> 01:13:29,120
Speaker 2: you out with someone who else is helping in a

1240
01:13:29,160 --> 01:13:30,280
Speaker 2: complaint with their roommate.

1241
01:13:30,640 --> 01:13:35,800
Speaker 1: That does sometimes happen. Oh oh, oh, that's what I'm

1242
01:13:35,840 --> 01:13:38,160
Speaker 1: doing to the ra. Oh he kicked him three times

1243
01:13:38,479 --> 01:13:43,719
Speaker 1: in the mouth. And so so this next story, John,

1244
01:13:44,479 --> 01:13:48,280
Speaker 1: it's thirty six hundred. That's a lot for my throat.

1245
01:13:48,560 --> 01:13:51,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll give you a lot for your threat.

1246
01:13:51,800 --> 01:13:58,759
Speaker 1: That's a lot of words to holy pause pause what

1247
01:13:59,640 --> 01:14:04,960
Speaker 1: I just or what? Oh? Chat note chat heard you?

1248
01:14:05,040 --> 01:14:09,880
Speaker 1: What chat knows what you said? Oh, you had a

1249
01:14:09,880 --> 01:14:13,040
Speaker 1: lot to say about your ah throat anyway.

1250
01:14:13,400 --> 01:14:16,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'll give him my honey tea, I will

1251
01:14:17,400 --> 01:14:20,240
Speaker 2: warm water, take liquids.

1252
01:14:20,240 --> 01:14:24,440
Speaker 1: I will take this bird in the PUNI shoulders, today's

1253
01:14:24,520 --> 01:14:30,920
Speaker 1: the first day. Oh yeah, Kofi supporter, thanks for the

1254
01:14:31,000 --> 01:14:36,479
Speaker 1: twenty five dollars in the tip link l F g

1255
01:14:37,160 --> 01:14:40,080
Speaker 1: FG flipping go guys.

1256
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Speaker 3: If you accidentally named yourself COF supporter, sound off so

1257
01:14:43,960 --> 01:14:45,320
Speaker 3: we can give you a proper shout outs.

1258
01:14:47,160 --> 01:14:53,720
Speaker 1: Hannah, thanks for the silent sixty five buckroons. Oh I

1259
01:14:53,800 --> 01:14:56,240
Speaker 1: keep drinking this hot team. It burns my tongue because

1260
01:14:56,240 --> 01:15:00,400
Speaker 1: I burned my mouth with the tea. No, we do

1261
01:15:00,640 --> 01:15:05,160
Speaker 1: not learn. I refuse to learn. Hannah, thank you for

1262
01:15:05,200 --> 01:15:08,160
Speaker 1: that sixty five Anonymous, thank you for the twenty five

1263
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Speaker 1: and if you also meant to have a name, sound

1264
01:15:10,400 --> 01:15:11,519
Speaker 1: off in the chat sound off.

1265
01:15:11,680 --> 01:15:11,800
Speaker 2: Uh.

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01:15:11,960 --> 01:15:15,200
Speaker 1: Texas fan we O Girl, thanks for the twenty five.

1267
01:15:15,479 --> 01:15:17,320
Speaker 1: Love listening to you guys while I do a little

1268
01:15:17,320 --> 01:15:19,800
Speaker 1: extra work in the evenings. It makes it go by

1269
01:15:19,840 --> 01:15:22,519
Speaker 1: so much faster. Well, we're glad to be of service.

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Speaker 1: Texas Fan we O Girl story spelled cto ri I

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Speaker 1: thanks for the five bucks, big fan. I listen to

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Speaker 1: you guys all day at work. Been in the process

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Speaker 1: of buying a house and honestly, you guys have been

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Speaker 1: able to keep me sane through it all. L o

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Speaker 1: l If you ever want some insane stories, let me

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01:15:40,160 --> 01:15:42,840
Speaker 1: know we do put them in our subreddit. My life

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01:15:42,880 --> 01:15:46,920
Speaker 1: has literally been a wild damn ride until the last year. Please,

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Speaker 1: by all means, put your stories in our subreddit. Ar

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Speaker 1: slash Okay, story story, your name is literally story whoa

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01:15:53,680 --> 01:15:59,439
Speaker 1: pronounced story whoa? Put your stories in story. Alison Perkins,

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01:15:59,439 --> 01:16:01,760
Speaker 1: thanks for the two. I appreciate this. Sending my son

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01:16:01,800 --> 01:16:05,920
Speaker 1: to college soon, well, we appreciate your appreciation. Jeanette Lane

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01:16:06,280 --> 01:16:12,320
Speaker 1: member for a one month Way to go, Jeanette, and

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01:16:12,600 --> 01:16:15,080
Speaker 1: I believe those are the only two that we had.

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01:16:15,600 --> 01:16:18,559
Speaker 1: Although I will say again, just because I love saying

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01:16:18,640 --> 01:16:23,439
Speaker 1: your name. Leli been to Mona, thank you for the

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01:16:23,479 --> 01:16:27,799
Speaker 1: five gifted subs. He always gotta shut that up? Always?

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01:16:33,080 --> 01:16:36,160
Speaker 1: Is there not one more underneath that? Keon no, no

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01:16:36,560 --> 01:16:40,240
Speaker 1: on the the tip link. Nope, that's it. We read

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01:16:40,240 --> 01:16:40,599
Speaker 1: that one.

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01:16:40,760 --> 01:16:43,960
Speaker 2: Okay, cool, okay, so good job everybody.

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01:16:44,680 --> 01:16:48,519
Speaker 1: Every all right, We're going on to the next mega

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01:16:49,760 --> 01:16:53,240
Speaker 1: mego taste the Martinelli's in my mint tea. You're welcome.

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Speaker 1: It's nice. That's a free sponsors. It's a pro tip.

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01:16:56,920 --> 01:16:58,439
Speaker 1: Put that in your mint tea. Put a little apple

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01:16:58,479 --> 01:17:02,920
Speaker 1: juice in unnamed pulling apple water coda. You're reading right?

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01:17:03,880 --> 01:17:06,400
Speaker 1: Mm hm? Should we? Can we?

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01:17:06,760 --> 01:17:08,559
Speaker 2: Do you want to read another story instead of the

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01:17:08,600 --> 01:17:09,040
Speaker 2: three K?

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01:17:10,479 --> 01:17:12,639
Speaker 1: Like another episode? I don't know. You can just read

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01:17:12,680 --> 01:17:14,960
Speaker 1: story two or something. Well, there's only two stories.

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01:17:15,080 --> 01:17:17,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, read the second one, but then John, I'll have

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01:17:17,400 --> 01:17:20,360
Speaker 2: to read the first one. No, just read the second one.

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01:17:20,720 --> 01:17:21,840
Speaker 2: Or do you want John to read the second one?

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01:17:21,840 --> 01:17:22,599
Speaker 2: The second one John.

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01:17:23,320 --> 01:17:25,720
Speaker 1: Read, I'll read the long one. Yeah, I will read

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01:17:25,720 --> 01:17:26,720
Speaker 1: the long the two K one.

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01:17:26,760 --> 01:17:28,240
Speaker 2: That's why the second story is a two K. Do

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01:17:28,240 --> 01:17:29,120
Speaker 2: you want to read that one, John?

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01:17:29,200 --> 01:17:30,600
Speaker 1: Or that? I think I could do two K? Do

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01:17:30,600 --> 01:17:31,560
Speaker 1: you want to read the two K? Or do you

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01:17:31,600 --> 01:17:33,160
Speaker 1: want to read the three I'll be doing? I will

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01:17:33,200 --> 01:17:35,080
Speaker 1: be doing this one? Nice?

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01:17:35,240 --> 01:17:36,479
Speaker 2: Do you want to do the two K or three K?

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01:17:37,400 --> 01:17:38,800
Speaker 2: What do you mean you can switch?

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01:17:38,840 --> 01:17:39,839
Speaker 1: There's only two episodes.

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01:17:39,880 --> 01:17:42,800
Speaker 2: I know you can do. There's a three, there's a three.

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01:17:42,960 --> 01:17:43,840
Speaker 1: This is like four?

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01:17:44,040 --> 01:17:45,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is pretty much four. Do you want to

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01:17:45,280 --> 01:17:46,520
Speaker 2: do the four KNA?

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01:17:46,520 --> 01:17:48,400
Speaker 1: Do the four? Do the two K? I'm doing the four?

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01:17:48,600 --> 01:17:51,599
Speaker 2: Okay, check out your throat because you're the one who

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01:17:51,600 --> 01:17:52,360
Speaker 2: burnt your mouth.

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01:17:52,640 --> 01:17:57,320
Speaker 1: Oh well, my mouth it's numb, so it's probably gonna

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01:17:57,360 --> 01:18:02,240
Speaker 1: hurt later, Achie. That's so good. Yeah. I basically put

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01:18:02,280 --> 01:18:04,760
Speaker 1: boiling water into the thermos and then forgot that it

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01:18:04,800 --> 01:18:07,120
Speaker 1: was such a good thermis and then I drank boiling

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01:18:07,120 --> 01:18:10,479
Speaker 1: water is just too high quality. Oh I think this

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01:18:10,600 --> 01:18:12,360
Speaker 1: Christian saw me like I literally took a sip and

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01:18:12,360 --> 01:18:14,840
Speaker 1: then it just like spilled out of my mouth like

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01:18:15,040 --> 01:18:19,880
Speaker 1: a narsty. Don't clip that, don't clip that chat, don't

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01:18:19,880 --> 01:18:23,240
Speaker 1: clear girlfriend, don't clip me my.

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01:18:23,920 --> 01:18:25,599
Speaker 3: I don't know what's going on in chat right now.

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01:18:26,320 --> 01:18:27,920
Speaker 3: Chat is just going banana.

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01:18:27,600 --> 01:18:28,840
Speaker 1: Slate has a girlfriend.

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01:18:29,360 --> 01:18:31,839
Speaker 2: Sam has a girlfriend who as a girlfriend?

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01:18:31,880 --> 01:18:32,519
Speaker 1: No, he doesn't.

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01:18:32,600 --> 01:18:34,920
Speaker 3: I think this is maybe fake news. This is not well,

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01:18:35,040 --> 01:18:37,600
Speaker 3: is their girlfriend and there's a girlfriend?

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01:18:37,800 --> 01:18:38,040
Speaker 1: You know?

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01:18:39,160 --> 01:18:39,240
Speaker 2: Not?

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01:18:39,360 --> 01:18:41,920
Speaker 1: Sam does not have a girlfriend. Sam does not do

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01:18:42,000 --> 01:18:44,920
Speaker 1: anything outside of the like read that guy has a girlfriend.

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01:18:50,160 --> 01:19:01,120
Speaker 1: Read my boyfriend? Sorry, holy is he god? Damn? Oh

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01:19:01,160 --> 01:19:10,080
Speaker 1: my god? Okay, dude, whoo okay, here we go. My

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01:19:10,240 --> 01:19:14,439
Speaker 1: boyfriend's friend accused me of aggression, so I asked him

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01:19:14,479 --> 01:19:18,280
Speaker 1: to defend me next time. What's going on here? I

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01:19:18,320 --> 01:19:23,479
Speaker 1: think she met the boyfriend. What's going on here? Yeah,

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01:19:23,520 --> 01:19:27,400
Speaker 1: well we're gonna find out, okay. I thirty four female

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01:19:27,400 --> 01:19:30,680
Speaker 1: and my boyfriend thirty three male, have been together for

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01:19:30,720 --> 01:19:33,120
Speaker 1: a little over a year. When I met him, he

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01:19:33,200 --> 01:19:35,160
Speaker 1: mentioned he wanted to start a D and D group

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01:19:35,200 --> 01:19:38,000
Speaker 1: with his friends. I agreed, even though I didn't know

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01:19:38,040 --> 01:19:41,120
Speaker 1: anything about those kinds of games. I wanted to spend

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01:19:41,120 --> 01:19:43,120
Speaker 1: time with him and thought it was a good way

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01:19:43,160 --> 01:19:46,439
Speaker 1: to meet and integrate with his friends. By the way,

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01:19:46,520 --> 01:19:49,680
Speaker 1: this comes from user Potato Queen fan, and you can

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01:19:49,720 --> 01:19:53,800
Speaker 1: submit your stories on the r slash Okay storytime subred

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01:19:54,760 --> 01:19:58,559
Speaker 1: So the D and D group consists of my boyfriend, me,

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01:19:58,960 --> 01:20:01,320
Speaker 1: his two best friends who are women, and they have

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Speaker 1: boyfriends who have also become my boyfriend's close friends. They've

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01:20:05,320 --> 01:20:07,919
Speaker 1: known each other since elementary school and when he introduced

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01:20:07,920 --> 01:20:10,680
Speaker 1: me to them, we seemed to get along well. We

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01:20:10,760 --> 01:20:14,840
Speaker 1: completed an entire campaign which lasts several months. For those

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01:20:14,880 --> 01:20:16,840
Speaker 1: who don't know, Yeah we know about that. Oh yeah,

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01:20:16,880 --> 01:20:20,599
Speaker 1: we know about that, and the last sessions were in November.

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01:20:21,040 --> 01:20:23,080
Speaker 1: At this point, my boyfriend and I have been together

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01:20:23,160 --> 01:20:25,759
Speaker 1: for a year and four months and have only ever

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01:20:25,840 --> 01:20:30,200
Speaker 1: had one argument due to a misunderstanding. We have a beautiful,

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01:20:30,200 --> 01:20:34,559
Speaker 1: healthy and loving relationship. Yesterday, while I was with him,

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01:20:34,680 --> 01:20:37,840
Speaker 1: I saw a Facebook post about a movie that one

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01:20:37,880 --> 01:20:41,920
Speaker 1: of his friends, who will call Elba, is obsessed with.

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01:20:42,520 --> 01:20:47,000
Speaker 2: Like Idris, like Idris, Idris, Elba so handsome.

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01:20:47,800 --> 01:20:50,400
Speaker 1: I wanted to tag her, but her name didn't show up.

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01:20:50,640 --> 01:20:52,960
Speaker 1: I searched my profile and saw that I no longer

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01:20:53,000 --> 01:20:56,240
Speaker 1: had her as a friend. I checked my boyfriend's profile

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01:20:56,280 --> 01:20:59,160
Speaker 1: and she didn't show up at all. I sent my

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01:20:59,200 --> 01:21:01,960
Speaker 1: boyfriend a screen sh and asked him what was going on.

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01:21:02,280 --> 01:21:04,679
Speaker 1: I was very confused because the last time I saw

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Speaker 1: her at a D and D session, everything seemed fine.

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01:21:08,600 --> 01:21:10,960
Speaker 1: We laughed, and when we said goodbye, she hugged me

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01:21:11,200 --> 01:21:14,360
Speaker 1: and wished me a merry Christmas. I noticed my boyfriend

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01:21:14,760 --> 01:21:17,360
Speaker 1: was avoiding the topic. I asked him to check with

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01:21:17,400 --> 01:21:19,600
Speaker 1: her to see if she was upset or if she

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01:21:19,640 --> 01:21:22,679
Speaker 1: had deleted her account. He didn't want to say anything

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01:21:22,760 --> 01:21:25,519
Speaker 1: and asked me to just forget about it. But something

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01:21:25,520 --> 01:21:29,080
Speaker 1: in his tone told me he was hiding something. Can

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01:21:29,120 --> 01:21:35,760
Speaker 1: you guess? Do I guess? I see you? Oh you

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01:21:35,800 --> 01:21:39,800
Speaker 1: see something? Do you he done? Smooched your mouth? Oh oh,

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01:21:39,840 --> 01:21:47,479
Speaker 1: straight mouth smooching. That's what I'm thinking. Okay, okay, yep,

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01:21:48,240 --> 01:21:54,400
Speaker 1: she blocked me. Oh no, that's well, okay. Oops. When

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01:21:54,400 --> 01:21:56,760
Speaker 1: my boyfriend finally told me what was going on, I

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01:21:56,840 --> 01:21:59,360
Speaker 1: was in shock and felt terrible. I pushed him for

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01:21:59,400 --> 01:22:02,040
Speaker 1: the full story and asked to see the conversation with her.

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01:22:02,439 --> 01:22:05,759
Speaker 1: A month ago, she messaged him, asking is everything okay

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01:22:05,800 --> 01:22:09,080
Speaker 1: with your girlfriend? And whether I had been abusive towards him.

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01:22:09,439 --> 01:22:12,360
Speaker 1: My boyfriend replied that everything was fine and asked why

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01:22:12,439 --> 01:22:15,759
Speaker 1: she was asking that. She said, at the last gathering,

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01:22:15,800 --> 01:22:19,200
Speaker 1: your girlfriend yelled at me, attacked me, was aggressive towards me,

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Speaker 1: and even turned red with rage. I was worried she

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01:22:22,760 --> 01:22:25,719
Speaker 1: might be abusive towards you. But if everything's fine, that's

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01:22:25,800 --> 01:22:33,320
Speaker 1: great to hear. WHOA, that's a lot to come out

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01:22:33,320 --> 01:22:35,160
Speaker 1: of left field. Wow. True.

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01:22:35,479 --> 01:22:38,160
Speaker 3: Now I'm like, do we have an unreliable narrator? Is

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01:22:38,160 --> 01:22:40,120
Speaker 3: the friend getting out? I don't know what something.

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01:22:41,439 --> 01:22:43,880
Speaker 1: Is going on here. We must search for the truth

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01:22:44,120 --> 01:22:50,400
Speaker 1: and let us continue on. Let's figure this out. Ezekiel,

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01:22:50,479 --> 01:22:52,200
Speaker 1: you didn't scare me. I don't know what you're talking about.

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01:22:54,000 --> 01:22:56,960
Speaker 1: At the gathering, she mentioned, the three women in the

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01:22:57,000 --> 01:22:59,920
Speaker 1: group stayed at the table chatting about the Joka move.

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01:23:00,080 --> 01:23:05,120
Speaker 1: Be Oh wait, did I skip anything? No? Okay, okay.

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01:23:06,080 --> 01:23:08,360
Speaker 1: At the gathering. She mentioned the three women in the

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01:23:08,360 --> 01:23:11,120
Speaker 1: group stayed at the table chatting about the Joker movie.

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01:23:11,439 --> 01:23:14,880
Speaker 1: I mentioned that there were many inaccuracies regarding mental health,

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01:23:14,960 --> 01:23:18,400
Speaker 1: such as how Lady Gaga's character couldn't be possibly be

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01:23:18,560 --> 01:23:22,040
Speaker 1: a psychiatrist as portrayed based on her profile and delusion.

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01:23:22,120 --> 01:23:24,320
Speaker 1: She wouldn't have been able to finish medical school, let

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01:23:24,360 --> 01:23:28,360
Speaker 1: alone complete a long specialty like psychiatry. The other girlfriend,

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01:23:28,479 --> 01:23:31,479
Speaker 1: let's call her Sophia, supported my argument, adding that her

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01:23:31,479 --> 01:23:34,679
Speaker 1: profile wouldn't have allowed her to even get into medical school.

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01:23:35,240 --> 01:23:40,320
Speaker 1: Elba got furious, saying that if there are pedo priests,

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01:23:40,560 --> 01:23:44,439
Speaker 1: then there can also be crazy doctors, and if there

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01:23:44,520 --> 01:23:50,000
Speaker 1: are touchy doctors, there can also be delusional women practicing medicine. Um,

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01:23:51,000 --> 01:23:56,240
Speaker 1: that's not that's a false equivalency. Uh, She's like, what

1425
01:23:56,479 --> 01:24:01,280
Speaker 1: does this have to do with Bah? You have picked

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01:24:01,920 --> 01:24:08,720
Speaker 1: the weirdest hill to die on. So we disagreed, and

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01:24:08,840 --> 01:24:12,080
Speaker 1: we should know, as Sophia is a doctor and I

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01:24:12,160 --> 01:24:16,120
Speaker 1: have a PhD in psychology and psychotherapy. Coming from a

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01:24:16,160 --> 01:24:19,520
Speaker 1: place of knowledge, we explained to her that it wasn't possible.

1430
01:24:19,800 --> 01:24:22,519
Speaker 1: The argument didn't lead anywhere. It was already very late

1431
01:24:22,560 --> 01:24:25,000
Speaker 1: around one am, so we said goodbye and left it

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01:24:25,040 --> 01:24:29,839
Speaker 1: at that, or so I thought. Oh. My boyfriend replied

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01:24:29,880 --> 01:24:33,040
Speaker 1: to Elba, saying that he didn't see any violence that night,

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01:24:33,120 --> 01:24:36,400
Speaker 1: but wanted to understand where she felt it happened. She

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01:24:36,520 --> 01:24:39,000
Speaker 1: responded that I yelled at her, and he replied that's

1436
01:24:39,080 --> 01:24:42,559
Speaker 1: just how she is. She's effusive. Her whole family's like that.

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01:24:42,600 --> 01:24:44,320
Speaker 1: If they don't yell, they don't listen to each other.

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01:24:44,600 --> 01:24:46,800
Speaker 1: She lost her temper and she can be crazy ish

1439
01:24:46,880 --> 01:24:50,800
Speaker 1: at times, but everything is fine between us. Note on

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01:24:50,840 --> 01:24:54,360
Speaker 1: this point, what my boyfriend said really hurt me. Not

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01:24:54,400 --> 01:24:56,160
Speaker 1: only do I feel like he agreed with her, but

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01:24:56,240 --> 01:24:59,360
Speaker 1: he also spoke badly about my family, essentially called me

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01:24:59,479 --> 01:25:02,320
Speaker 1: crazy in my eyes, and didn't defend me from a

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01:25:02,360 --> 01:25:05,960
Speaker 1: direct attack on my character. At this point, I was

1445
01:25:06,000 --> 01:25:08,519
Speaker 1: on the verge of tears. I asked him to ask

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01:25:08,560 --> 01:25:11,160
Speaker 1: her why she blocked me anyway, Even though I already

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01:25:11,240 --> 01:25:13,360
Speaker 1: knew the answer, I wanted to hear what she would say.

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01:25:13,880 --> 01:25:17,080
Speaker 1: Elbow replied that she didn't feel she owed anyone an explanation,

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01:25:17,240 --> 01:25:19,479
Speaker 1: didn't have to answer to anyone, and that it was

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01:25:19,479 --> 01:25:22,400
Speaker 1: a long story. She typed for what felt like hours

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01:25:22,439 --> 01:25:25,879
Speaker 1: and When she finally sent the message, I was stunned. Quote,

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01:25:26,000 --> 01:25:29,080
Speaker 1: your girlfriend is aggressive and violent. The last time we

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01:25:29,080 --> 01:25:31,640
Speaker 1: saw each other, she yelled at Sophia and her boyfriend

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01:25:31,840 --> 01:25:34,360
Speaker 1: and raised her voice to you. She's a terrible person

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01:25:34,400 --> 01:25:36,880
Speaker 1: and I have no interest in interacting with her at all.

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01:25:37,240 --> 01:25:39,400
Speaker 1: She's your girlfriend and you can do whatever you want,

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01:25:39,479 --> 01:25:41,639
Speaker 1: but I don't want her near me or my boyfriend.

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01:25:41,920 --> 01:25:44,120
Speaker 1: She's full of hatred and has anger issues that make

1459
01:25:44,160 --> 01:25:46,840
Speaker 1: her unfit to be around us. She's full of crap,

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01:25:46,840 --> 01:25:49,080
Speaker 1: and I don't tolerate someone yelling at my loved ones.

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01:25:49,120 --> 01:25:51,840
Speaker 1: She is crazy, and we think she's too aggressive and

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01:25:51,880 --> 01:25:57,720
Speaker 1: too violent. Didn't repeat yourself at all there, my boy

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01:25:57,439 --> 01:26:01,479
Speaker 1: My boyfriend replied, why why do you think that? And

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01:26:01,520 --> 01:26:05,160
Speaker 1: that was it. At that moment, I broke down crying,

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01:26:05,680 --> 01:26:08,799
Speaker 1: not just because of what she said, but also because

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01:26:08,960 --> 01:26:11,640
Speaker 1: during the previous gathering she hugged me, wished me a

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01:26:11,680 --> 01:26:15,560
Speaker 1: merry Christmas, and acted as if everything was fine. Additionally,

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01:26:15,600 --> 01:26:19,000
Speaker 1: my boyfriend didn't defend me or say anything in my favor. Instead,

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01:26:19,000 --> 01:26:22,240
Speaker 1: he wanted to quote understand why she viewed me that way,

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01:26:22,920 --> 01:26:26,200
Speaker 1: and also the we part stood out, she made it

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01:26:26,240 --> 01:26:30,000
Speaker 1: seem like all my boyfriend's friends thought I was violent

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01:26:30,800 --> 01:26:33,000
Speaker 1: while I while he was texting her, I wrote a

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01:26:33,000 --> 01:26:35,680
Speaker 1: message in the group chat we all shared, and then

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01:26:35,760 --> 01:26:37,960
Speaker 1: left the group, deciding not to be a part of

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01:26:37,960 --> 01:26:40,439
Speaker 1: the D and D table anymore to avoid further conflict.

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01:26:40,800 --> 01:26:46,200
Speaker 1: Here's the message I sent, quote Hi everyone. First of all,

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01:26:46,240 --> 01:26:48,479
Speaker 1: I want to apologize. If at any point you felt

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01:26:48,520 --> 01:26:51,360
Speaker 1: any kind of aggression from me towards you, please believe me.

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01:26:51,439 --> 01:26:54,120
Speaker 1: That was not my intention. Second, I just realized that

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01:26:54,200 --> 01:26:57,000
Speaker 1: I've been blocked on social media, and after talking with

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01:26:57,080 --> 01:27:00,160
Speaker 1: my boyfriend, he told me there was even a conversation

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01:27:00,280 --> 01:27:03,040
Speaker 1: where I was accused of being violent towards him. Knowing

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01:27:03,080 --> 01:27:05,479
Speaker 1: that more than one person in my boyfriend's close friend

1484
01:27:05,479 --> 01:27:08,080
Speaker 1: group sees me as a bad person or even violent

1485
01:27:08,160 --> 01:27:11,800
Speaker 1: towards him hurts me deeply. For everyone's well being, I'm

1486
01:27:11,880 --> 01:27:14,599
Speaker 1: leaving the group. Please believe me that my boyfriend didn't

1487
01:27:14,600 --> 01:27:16,519
Speaker 1: want to tell me anything, and I never wanted this

1488
01:27:16,560 --> 01:27:20,680
Speaker 1: to happen. Sophia and her boyfriend. I deeply apologize if

1489
01:27:20,680 --> 01:27:23,639
Speaker 1: I offended you or spoke harshly, it was never my intention.

1490
01:27:23,960 --> 01:27:27,360
Speaker 1: Believe me. I've been crying NonStop and feel terrible. I

1491
01:27:27,400 --> 01:27:29,599
Speaker 1: wish you all a very merry Christmas and a happy

1492
01:27:29,600 --> 01:27:32,679
Speaker 1: new Year. I hope that the new campaign is a success,

1493
01:27:32,760 --> 01:27:38,000
Speaker 1: and I send you my best wishes. I have some

1494
01:27:38,080 --> 01:27:41,800
Speaker 1: thoughts about that, but before we get into that, we're

1495
01:27:41,800 --> 01:27:44,960
Speaker 1: gonna keep going a little bit. Seconds after I sent

1496
01:27:45,240 --> 01:27:49,080
Speaker 1: that message, Elba sent a five minute voice note, followed

1497
01:27:49,080 --> 01:27:51,880
Speaker 1: by another seven minute one. In the voice note, she

1498
01:27:52,000 --> 01:27:55,400
Speaker 1: yelled at my boyfriend, saying why did she send that?

1499
01:27:55,400 --> 01:27:58,479
Speaker 1: That stupid girl is childish and spoiled. The right thing

1500
01:27:58,479 --> 01:28:00,439
Speaker 1: to do would have been to message me to to

1501
01:28:00,479 --> 01:28:03,640
Speaker 1: apologize and fix things, but no, she prefers everyone to

1502
01:28:03,680 --> 01:28:06,560
Speaker 1: find out so she can play the victim. She's manipulative

1503
01:28:06,560 --> 01:28:09,320
Speaker 1: and selfish. What matters here is you and that this

1504
01:28:09,439 --> 01:28:11,840
Speaker 1: is your group of friends and she's ruining it and

1505
01:28:11,880 --> 01:28:15,479
Speaker 1: being abusive, and of course, that manipulative Bee cries, what

1506
01:28:15,600 --> 01:28:18,280
Speaker 1: else can she do but act offended. She's a terrible

1507
01:28:18,320 --> 01:28:20,120
Speaker 1: person and that's why I don't want her near me.

1508
01:28:20,320 --> 01:28:22,360
Speaker 1: I don't even want to see her stupid face. If

1509
01:28:22,400 --> 01:28:25,400
Speaker 1: you want to keep her as your girlfriend, that's your problem,

1510
01:28:25,600 --> 01:28:27,160
Speaker 1: but I don't agree with it. And I hope that

1511
01:28:27,280 --> 01:28:30,840
Speaker 1: soon no one will want her around. Okay, And that

1512
01:28:32,439 --> 01:28:37,639
Speaker 1: that was the voice memo response from Elba, right Rightture.

1513
01:28:37,720 --> 01:28:41,080
Speaker 1: So my main point was, hey, girl, you're about to

1514
01:28:41,080 --> 01:28:44,240
Speaker 1: make things even worse, and not because you're a terrible person,

1515
01:28:44,280 --> 01:28:46,920
Speaker 1: but because the people that you're talking to, namely this

1516
01:28:47,080 --> 01:28:52,280
Speaker 1: person Elba, is awful. Yeah. So trying to have this

1517
01:28:52,439 --> 01:28:57,800
Speaker 1: like amicable piece piece message of like I'm removing myself.

1518
01:28:58,280 --> 01:29:01,680
Speaker 1: Sorry if I upset anyone, you're actually doing the opposite.

1519
01:29:02,240 --> 01:29:04,880
Speaker 1: You're stirring the pot even harder. And I guess this

1520
01:29:05,000 --> 01:29:07,880
Speaker 1: was sent directly to I don't know if this was

1521
01:29:07,880 --> 01:29:09,439
Speaker 1: sent in the group chatter to the group boyfriend.

1522
01:29:09,520 --> 01:29:13,400
Speaker 3: It kind of sounded like it was like the communication

1523
01:29:13,560 --> 01:29:15,519
Speaker 3: was happening in the group at least from Ope's message in.

1524
01:29:15,600 --> 01:29:19,080
Speaker 1: But and now at this point, if I'm privy to

1525
01:29:19,160 --> 01:29:22,639
Speaker 1: that voice message and the boyfriend isn't immediately like hey,

1526
01:29:22,760 --> 01:29:27,240
Speaker 1: first of all, Elba, watch your mouth. Yeah, Like, second

1527
01:29:27,240 --> 01:29:31,479
Speaker 1: of all, who do you think you're talking to? Third

1528
01:29:31,520 --> 01:29:35,680
Speaker 1: of all, watch your mouth again. If that's not the conversation,

1529
01:29:35,840 --> 01:29:38,360
Speaker 1: then I'm breaking up with the guy. Yeah yeah, I

1530
01:29:38,360 --> 01:29:41,040
Speaker 1: think now it's Op. I think Op brought up a

1531
01:29:41,080 --> 01:29:41,599
Speaker 1: lot of good points.

1532
01:29:41,640 --> 01:29:43,680
Speaker 3: Is like, hey, my boyfriend did defend me, my boyfriend,

1533
01:29:43,720 --> 01:29:46,360
Speaker 3: Like it was just like oh why, Like, yeah, one

1534
01:29:46,479 --> 01:29:51,160
Speaker 3: thing I was gonna say, maybe op did just like

1535
01:29:51,240 --> 01:29:53,559
Speaker 3: reading the context clues of like what the boyfriend said,

1536
01:29:53,960 --> 01:29:56,760
Speaker 3: maybe did. Maybe op did grow up in a household

1537
01:29:56,840 --> 01:30:02,080
Speaker 3: where communication, you know, very communication styles were present. So

1538
01:30:02,120 --> 01:30:06,200
Speaker 3: maybe Opie like communicates kind of more a quote unquote

1539
01:30:06,240 --> 01:30:12,200
Speaker 3: aggressively than the average person, and that is maybe a

1540
01:30:12,240 --> 01:30:15,160
Speaker 3: bit jarring to some people, even though OPI does not

1541
01:30:15,240 --> 01:30:19,320
Speaker 3: have any intention or like actual aggression, like intended aggression

1542
01:30:19,320 --> 01:30:24,479
Speaker 3: behind it, I guess so to say, but Elba's still wild.

1543
01:30:24,960 --> 01:30:30,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, Elba is still wilin. It is true low key,

1544
01:30:30,280 --> 01:30:34,720
Speaker 1: though I was gonna saying that first the first, like

1545
01:30:34,760 --> 01:30:37,439
Speaker 1: my boyfriend's not defending me, it's like, well is he

1546
01:30:37,680 --> 01:30:40,000
Speaker 1: is it? Because he already knows how this person is

1547
01:30:40,040 --> 01:30:42,080
Speaker 1: and he's not even gonna bother putting any energy into

1548
01:30:42,120 --> 01:30:45,080
Speaker 1: it where it's like I mean, yeah, I feel like

1549
01:30:45,080 --> 01:30:47,519
Speaker 1: at that point you almost just like don't even respond. Yeah,

1550
01:30:47,560 --> 01:30:49,920
Speaker 1: it's like this person's just ridiculous. It's just being like,

1551
01:30:49,960 --> 01:30:52,439
Speaker 1: all right, let me see if I can open her mind,

1552
01:30:52,760 --> 01:30:55,280
Speaker 1: and he's just like why do you feel that way?

1553
01:30:55,840 --> 01:30:58,439
Speaker 1: He's just asking her a question like, hey, yeah, where

1554
01:30:58,479 --> 01:31:03,040
Speaker 1: are your feelings coming from? Stupid? Why I could? I could?

1555
01:31:03,080 --> 01:31:05,000
Speaker 3: I could see that, But honestly, I feel like, what

1556
01:31:05,080 --> 01:31:06,599
Speaker 3: do you think the best move would have been for him?

1557
01:31:06,640 --> 01:31:08,840
Speaker 1: I mean, clearly you have to be like, hey, shut

1558
01:31:08,840 --> 01:31:11,800
Speaker 1: your mouth, but my girlfriend. Don't talk to her like that. Yeah,

1559
01:31:11,920 --> 01:31:14,360
Speaker 1: that's you have to say that every time.

1560
01:31:14,360 --> 01:31:17,800
Speaker 2: I get to say, just like a crazy conspiracy theory,

1561
01:31:18,240 --> 01:31:20,080
Speaker 2: maybe she just sucks a D and d op and

1562
01:31:20,120 --> 01:31:21,839
Speaker 2: they just don't want they want her out of the campaign.

1563
01:31:22,920 --> 01:31:26,000
Speaker 2: They're like, nah, so let's just make this really really

1564
01:31:26,840 --> 01:31:29,640
Speaker 2: wild accusation because she sucks a D and D.

1565
01:31:29,840 --> 01:31:32,000
Speaker 1: That's another good wild take right here. Yeah that is

1566
01:31:32,280 --> 01:31:37,360
Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, let's let's see where this goes. Find out.

1567
01:31:37,800 --> 01:31:40,080
Speaker 1: I didn't ask my boyfriend what he replied to her

1568
01:31:40,120 --> 01:31:43,479
Speaker 1: because I couldn't stop crying. In the year I had

1569
01:31:43,520 --> 01:31:45,960
Speaker 1: been spending time with Elba, I never had an argument

1570
01:31:46,120 --> 01:31:48,479
Speaker 1: or conflict with her, and hearing her say all that

1571
01:31:48,560 --> 01:31:51,840
Speaker 1: about me hurt deeply. Sofia and her boyfriend sent me

1572
01:31:51,880 --> 01:31:56,080
Speaker 1: private messages immediately after Elba's voice note. Sophia says, baby,

1573
01:31:56,120 --> 01:31:59,280
Speaker 1: what happened? When have you ever been aggressive? Honestly, I've

1574
01:31:59,320 --> 01:32:02,719
Speaker 1: never noticed anything like that. Please don't apologize. You really

1575
01:32:02,760 --> 01:32:05,240
Speaker 1: don't need to. You're important to me, and I hope

1576
01:32:05,240 --> 01:32:07,840
Speaker 1: we can continue being close. Even though we haven't known

1577
01:32:07,840 --> 01:32:10,280
Speaker 1: each other for very long. I already consider you a friend.

1578
01:32:10,600 --> 01:32:12,640
Speaker 1: You've helped me so much during my crisis is and

1579
01:32:12,680 --> 01:32:15,439
Speaker 1: supported me when my friend group broke apart. I care

1580
01:32:15,479 --> 01:32:18,000
Speaker 1: about you a lot, and I hope we stay friends. Yes,

1581
01:32:18,080 --> 01:32:22,200
Speaker 1: so this is just confirmation. Elba sucks. Elba sucks. Elba sucks.

1582
01:32:22,240 --> 01:32:25,679
Speaker 1: We know that, Sofia's boyfriend. We saw what you wrote,

1583
01:32:25,720 --> 01:32:28,120
Speaker 1: but we've never felt anything like what you're describing. If

1584
01:32:28,120 --> 01:32:31,320
Speaker 1: we did or said something to make you think otherwise,

1585
01:32:31,400 --> 01:32:34,200
Speaker 1: we're truly sorry. We've never felt any aggression or anything

1586
01:32:34,240 --> 01:32:37,280
Speaker 1: of the sort. Neither Sophia nor I think that way.

1587
01:32:37,520 --> 01:32:40,639
Speaker 1: On the contrary, you've always been a great friend to us.

1588
01:32:40,760 --> 01:32:43,120
Speaker 1: If you ever felt a bad attitude from us, please

1589
01:32:43,160 --> 01:32:46,160
Speaker 1: forgive us too. Let's continue being friends. We care about

1590
01:32:46,160 --> 01:32:50,920
Speaker 1: you a lot. Elba's boyfriend messaged my boyfriend saying he

1591
01:32:51,000 --> 01:32:53,719
Speaker 1: had decide with Elba, but admitted that everything had gotten

1592
01:32:53,760 --> 01:32:56,040
Speaker 1: out of hand and expressed how sorry he was about

1593
01:32:56,040 --> 01:32:59,479
Speaker 1: the situation. At this point, I felt better. With the

1594
01:32:59,520 --> 01:33:02,439
Speaker 1: support messages from Sophia and her boyfriend, I found the

1595
01:33:02,479 --> 01:33:05,240
Speaker 1: courage to tell my boyfriend I can no longer be

1596
01:33:05,400 --> 01:33:08,639
Speaker 1: around Elba. Yes, I never want to be near her again,

1597
01:33:09,040 --> 01:33:12,600
Speaker 1: and you needed and you need to decide. Either you

1598
01:33:12,720 --> 01:33:15,519
Speaker 1: side with her and we end our relationship, or you

1599
01:33:15,600 --> 01:33:17,880
Speaker 1: side with me and you keep her away from me

1600
01:33:18,200 --> 01:33:20,920
Speaker 1: and understand that I never want to see her again

1601
01:33:21,080 --> 01:33:27,599
Speaker 1: in my life. So my boyfriend got up and started

1602
01:33:27,600 --> 01:33:31,760
Speaker 1: saying I needed to stop talking. Oh oh oh. He

1603
01:33:31,800 --> 01:33:34,479
Speaker 1: said he was having a panic attack, that he couldn't

1604
01:33:34,520 --> 01:33:36,760
Speaker 1: make a decision like that, and that he never thought

1605
01:33:36,800 --> 01:33:39,120
Speaker 1: it would get to this point. He said he wasn't

1606
01:33:39,160 --> 01:33:45,439
Speaker 1: able to decide, so I will continue reading before I

1607
01:33:45,479 --> 01:33:49,160
Speaker 1: get into my I have thoughts, Yes, I have thoughts, Yes,

1608
01:33:49,200 --> 01:33:52,360
Speaker 1: but I will continue to read. Okay, we'll think too.

1609
01:33:53,040 --> 01:33:55,120
Speaker 1: I waited for him to calm down, gave him his

1610
01:33:55,240 --> 01:33:57,800
Speaker 1: anxiety pill and a glass of water. Note I'm a

1611
01:33:57,800 --> 01:34:00,960
Speaker 1: psychotherapist and I specialize in helping people in crisis. And

1612
01:34:01,000 --> 01:34:02,920
Speaker 1: once we were in a better place, I simply said,

1613
01:34:02,960 --> 01:34:05,439
Speaker 1: it's late, you should go home, think about it, and

1614
01:34:05,520 --> 01:34:08,920
Speaker 1: we'll finish this conversation another day when we're calmer. He

1615
01:34:09,000 --> 01:34:10,880
Speaker 1: told me he didn't want to leave me like that.

1616
01:34:11,479 --> 01:34:14,679
Speaker 1: By that time, I had been crying for over two hours.

1617
01:34:15,120 --> 01:34:17,960
Speaker 1: But I insisted that for his safety, he should go

1618
01:34:18,040 --> 01:34:20,439
Speaker 1: home before eleven PM and that we could pause the

1619
01:34:20,479 --> 01:34:28,599
Speaker 1: discussion for now. So my thought talk to me, I

1620
01:34:28,680 --> 01:34:33,200
Speaker 1: understand not wanting to ever see this person again, right yep.

1621
01:34:33,960 --> 01:34:38,400
Speaker 1: And it's one of your boyfriend's best friends. So it's

1622
01:34:38,920 --> 01:34:43,080
Speaker 1: you're now putting your relationship between a rock and a

1623
01:34:43,080 --> 01:34:47,000
Speaker 1: hard place. When it's true, like your boyfriend should defend you.

1624
01:34:47,880 --> 01:34:50,840
Speaker 1: But to now be like, well, I have to never

1625
01:34:50,880 --> 01:34:53,960
Speaker 1: see this person again, and if you're not going to

1626
01:34:54,040 --> 01:34:57,559
Speaker 1: facilitate that alongside me, then we're done. That is not

1627
01:34:57,680 --> 01:35:00,920
Speaker 1: the right move in my head. Yeah, you're giving it.

1628
01:35:00,960 --> 01:35:03,800
Speaker 1: From my perspective, you're giving the power in your relationship

1629
01:35:04,320 --> 01:35:08,880
Speaker 1: to Elba because now it's sure. It's like you can say, well,

1630
01:35:08,880 --> 01:35:10,920
Speaker 1: it's up to my boyfriend to decide whether he wants

1631
01:35:10,960 --> 01:35:14,280
Speaker 1: me or her, But it's like you're making her presence

1632
01:35:14,560 --> 01:35:18,360
Speaker 1: the fulcrum of like where your relationship is going to go. Now.

1633
01:35:18,560 --> 01:35:22,040
Speaker 2: Well, I mean, he he's like with everything coming of

1634
01:35:22,160 --> 01:35:24,559
Speaker 2: light and with everything going on, he's actually having a

1635
01:35:24,600 --> 01:35:26,439
Speaker 2: I don't know. Maybe he's not having a panic attack,

1636
01:35:26,439 --> 01:35:28,120
Speaker 2: but it sounds like he's actually having a panic attack

1637
01:35:28,200 --> 01:35:29,519
Speaker 2: and you can't think of that situation.

1638
01:35:29,760 --> 01:35:30,560
Speaker 1: Yeeah.

1639
01:35:30,600 --> 01:35:33,000
Speaker 2: So I'm giving him that credit of like take a breather,

1640
01:35:33,479 --> 01:35:36,040
Speaker 2: and what OP is saying like, Okay, this is a

1641
01:35:36,120 --> 01:35:38,479
Speaker 2: very tough conversation. I know this is a lot to process,

1642
01:35:38,560 --> 01:35:40,559
Speaker 2: and you are you cannot process any of it at

1643
01:35:40,560 --> 01:35:41,000
Speaker 2: this moment.

1644
01:35:41,640 --> 01:35:42,200
Speaker 1: Take a breather.

1645
01:35:42,360 --> 01:35:44,960
Speaker 2: We'll talk about this some other time or you know,

1646
01:35:45,320 --> 01:35:48,479
Speaker 2: when you actually are back to reality. I think he

1647
01:35:48,640 --> 01:35:52,479
Speaker 2: needs more like what's going on here between the both

1648
01:35:52,479 --> 01:35:53,679
Speaker 2: of them, of Elba and Op.

1649
01:35:54,200 --> 01:35:57,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, I totally agree, and also w move on Op

1650
01:35:57,439 --> 01:36:00,360
Speaker 3: for realizing like okay, we need to just pause rather

1651
01:36:00,560 --> 01:36:03,320
Speaker 3: let me help them right double down on it rather.

1652
01:36:03,160 --> 01:36:05,720
Speaker 2: Than attacking him or jumping to conclusions. It's like, oh

1653
01:36:05,720 --> 01:36:07,720
Speaker 2: my god, he's actually having a panic attack. And if

1654
01:36:07,760 --> 01:36:10,240
Speaker 2: you've ever seen somebody with having a panic attack, it's

1655
01:36:10,360 --> 01:36:13,240
Speaker 2: kind of scary. Yeah, being in one the person having

1656
01:36:13,280 --> 01:36:15,920
Speaker 2: the panic attack and to seeing that person having a

1657
01:36:15,920 --> 01:36:16,920
Speaker 2: panic attack one hundred percent.

1658
01:36:16,960 --> 01:36:19,080
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I've had I had won my life and

1659
01:36:19,120 --> 01:36:25,280
Speaker 1: it's like oh stops, brain stops working, my body starts shaking.

1660
01:36:25,479 --> 01:36:27,599
Speaker 2: I think I had a panic attack a couple of times,

1661
01:36:27,640 --> 01:36:29,720
Speaker 2: but I witnessed someone having a panic attack, and like

1662
01:36:29,800 --> 01:36:31,920
Speaker 2: mine was mild, and I was like, whoa, are you okay?

1663
01:36:31,920 --> 01:36:33,880
Speaker 2: Do I need to call the ambulance. You're like no, no, no, no,

1664
01:36:33,920 --> 01:36:35,560
Speaker 2: but like like I can't breathe. I can't breathe, but

1665
01:36:35,600 --> 01:36:37,799
Speaker 2: oh my god, what And like I was like, breathe

1666
01:36:37,880 --> 01:36:41,679
Speaker 2: and all the breathing techniques that I know. But it's

1667
01:36:42,280 --> 01:36:43,599
Speaker 2: wild to see that in the moment, the.

1668
01:36:43,520 --> 01:36:44,840
Speaker 1: Mind is powerful. The mind.

1669
01:36:45,200 --> 01:36:49,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, and yeah, I think that again to echo, like

1670
01:36:49,720 --> 01:36:52,559
Speaker 3: get both of your sentiments. Really, I think that the

1671
01:36:52,640 --> 01:36:58,840
Speaker 3: way that op framed it was like she could have

1672
01:36:58,880 --> 01:37:00,840
Speaker 3: I think she could have said something along the lines

1673
01:37:00,880 --> 01:37:04,240
Speaker 3: of like, honestly, I'm really hurt, and like, you know,

1674
01:37:05,360 --> 01:37:08,600
Speaker 3: I know this is an extreme ask, and I'm not

1675
01:37:08,720 --> 01:37:11,360
Speaker 3: trying to like make you choose or whatever, but like

1676
01:37:11,760 --> 01:37:14,640
Speaker 3: I almost feel like I want to ask you to,

1677
01:37:15,360 --> 01:37:19,599
Speaker 3: uh stop seeing Elba or something like that.

1678
01:37:19,640 --> 01:37:20,519
Speaker 1: Like I feel like you.

1679
01:37:20,479 --> 01:37:23,920
Speaker 3: Can essentially communicate very close to the same message or

1680
01:37:23,920 --> 01:37:26,080
Speaker 3: at least the way you're feeling, Like you can tell

1681
01:37:26,080 --> 01:37:28,759
Speaker 3: someone how you're feeling without telling them you have.

1682
01:37:28,640 --> 01:37:32,200
Speaker 1: To do this if that makes sense. Yeah, And to

1683
01:37:32,200 --> 01:37:35,120
Speaker 1: be clear, I think somebody did comment, and I think

1684
01:37:35,120 --> 01:37:38,679
Speaker 1: it's right that she didn't actually say that he can't

1685
01:37:39,680 --> 01:37:43,000
Speaker 1: see Elba anymore, just that he has to keep Elba

1686
01:37:43,120 --> 01:37:44,200
Speaker 1: from away from Ope.

1687
01:37:44,400 --> 01:37:46,400
Speaker 2: I think Elba was kind of like giving like a

1688
01:37:46,720 --> 01:37:48,920
Speaker 2: like like pushing.

1689
01:37:48,560 --> 01:37:51,280
Speaker 1: It the idea of you have to pick. Well, no

1690
01:37:51,400 --> 01:37:54,519
Speaker 1: Op was saying that, right, like it's either me or her. Right.

1691
01:37:54,520 --> 01:37:57,160
Speaker 1: Did she say something? I read it because a commenter

1692
01:37:57,200 --> 01:38:03,799
Speaker 1: I can't remember. I think it was actually blind Bee. Okay, yeah, yeah,

1693
01:38:04,120 --> 01:38:07,640
Speaker 1: through that she needs. Yeah, Basically she said that she

1694
01:38:07,720 --> 01:38:10,960
Speaker 1: doesn't want anything to do without Elba and that he

1695
01:38:11,000 --> 01:38:12,880
Speaker 1: would have to be okay with that and kind of

1696
01:38:13,080 --> 01:38:16,120
Speaker 1: play keep play the keep away game. So it's like

1697
01:38:16,439 --> 01:38:18,639
Speaker 1: he would have to facilitate, like, well, it's I got

1698
01:38:18,640 --> 01:38:21,160
Speaker 1: to make sure that Alba's not coming over to that

1699
01:38:21,200 --> 01:38:23,800
Speaker 1: house or that if we go somewhere that Elba's.

1700
01:38:23,760 --> 01:38:25,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's having the thought process of like how do

1701
01:38:26,040 --> 01:38:28,280
Speaker 2: I how do I make this work for both of it?

1702
01:38:28,360 --> 01:38:30,600
Speaker 2: But again, he's probably having so many thoughts in his

1703
01:38:30,680 --> 01:38:33,800
Speaker 2: head right now of how do I navigate this without

1704
01:38:33,800 --> 01:38:34,760
Speaker 2: losing one or the other?

1705
01:38:35,200 --> 01:38:35,559
Speaker 1: Got it?

1706
01:38:35,600 --> 01:38:38,599
Speaker 3: Okay, if but blind I might have misunderstood. I I

1707
01:38:38,640 --> 01:38:41,080
Speaker 3: agree with blind B. I think that that was Yeah,

1708
01:38:41,120 --> 01:38:44,720
Speaker 3: blindBy says, no Ope was saying Elba needs to be

1709
01:38:44,800 --> 01:38:47,360
Speaker 3: kept away from op and that if her boyfriend doesn't

1710
01:38:47,400 --> 01:38:48,920
Speaker 3: keep Elbow wait, they can't be together.

1711
01:38:49,120 --> 01:38:49,320
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1712
01:38:49,439 --> 01:38:53,360
Speaker 3: I totally understand that. Yeah, that's I think I misunderstood.

1713
01:38:53,479 --> 01:38:55,679
Speaker 1: I still don't like that though, because I still feel

1714
01:38:55,720 --> 01:38:58,320
Speaker 1: like it puts too much power in Alba's hands. It does,

1715
01:38:58,479 --> 01:39:00,679
Speaker 1: It's like it gives it gives too much power to Elba.

1716
01:39:00,760 --> 01:39:03,920
Speaker 1: This Elba should have nothing to do with your relationship. No,

1717
01:39:04,240 --> 01:39:06,479
Speaker 1: if anything, it should be like, I want you to

1718
01:39:06,680 --> 01:39:08,519
Speaker 1: make it clear to Elba that the way she spoke

1719
01:39:08,520 --> 01:39:11,679
Speaker 1: to me was unacceptable or spoke about me to you

1720
01:39:12,280 --> 01:39:14,960
Speaker 1: is unacceptable and will not be entertained. That's one thing

1721
01:39:15,000 --> 01:39:16,200
Speaker 1: I can be like, all right, yeah, you need to

1722
01:39:16,200 --> 01:39:20,280
Speaker 1: make him be like, hey, don't talk about my girlfriend

1723
01:39:20,280 --> 01:39:23,800
Speaker 1: to me like that. Yeah, that's not I'm not here

1724
01:39:23,840 --> 01:39:24,799
Speaker 1: for that. I can also.

1725
01:39:24,760 --> 01:39:26,559
Speaker 3: Understand her request, though it be like, hey, I just

1726
01:39:26,640 --> 01:39:30,719
Speaker 3: like like if she doesn't set the boundary of like, hey,

1727
01:39:30,920 --> 01:39:32,920
Speaker 3: I honestly just like don't want to be in the

1728
01:39:32,960 --> 01:39:35,680
Speaker 3: same room with Elba and I need your help in

1729
01:39:35,920 --> 01:39:39,960
Speaker 3: making sure that happens. Then she could end up in

1730
01:39:39,960 --> 01:39:43,080
Speaker 3: the same room with Elba, because it's like it kind

1731
01:39:43,120 --> 01:39:46,639
Speaker 3: of sucks, like ideally she doesn't like quote unquote hold

1732
01:39:46,680 --> 01:39:49,360
Speaker 3: that space. But it's almost like, but then if you

1733
01:39:49,400 --> 01:39:51,200
Speaker 3: don't say that, then it could happen.

1734
01:39:51,320 --> 01:39:53,519
Speaker 1: I just think it's like your give like this person

1735
01:39:53,600 --> 01:39:57,000
Speaker 1: does not mess with you, She does not f with you.

1736
01:39:57,880 --> 01:40:02,200
Speaker 1: Elba is your op opponent, your opposition.

1737
01:40:02,960 --> 01:40:06,320
Speaker 2: How about like OP in the relationship. I don't know,

1738
01:40:06,400 --> 01:40:09,040
Speaker 2: like she's taking I think I think from Alba.

1739
01:40:09,160 --> 01:40:10,760
Speaker 1: I don't know. OP needs to be able to walk

1740
01:40:10,800 --> 01:40:14,480
Speaker 1: into a room with Alba present and completely ignore her existence.

1741
01:40:15,160 --> 01:40:17,639
Speaker 1: That's it. I don't know. That's it to me. That's

1742
01:40:17,720 --> 01:40:19,320
Speaker 1: and I know that not everyone's gonna agree with that

1743
01:40:19,360 --> 01:40:21,040
Speaker 1: and everybody some people are gonna be like, I mean,

1744
01:40:21,040 --> 01:40:22,719
Speaker 1: I think it's what you can do whatever you want.

1745
01:40:23,160 --> 01:40:26,040
Speaker 1: But in my head, it's just like, how are you

1746
01:40:26,080 --> 01:40:30,479
Speaker 1: gonna let someone else dictate where you can be? Do

1747
01:40:30,520 --> 01:40:34,920
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? That's that's where anyway, Yeah,

1748
01:40:35,000 --> 01:40:37,720
Speaker 1: she's totally and she's fine to set whatever boundary she

1749
01:40:37,720 --> 01:40:41,320
Speaker 1: deems necessary, but I'm like, don't let her win you're

1750
01:40:41,360 --> 01:40:44,920
Speaker 1: letting Elba win. Anyways, back to the story, that was

1751
01:40:44,960 --> 01:40:45,599
Speaker 1: a long tangent.

1752
01:40:46,000 --> 01:40:46,160
Speaker 5: Uh.

1753
01:40:46,200 --> 01:40:50,639
Speaker 1: I told my mom about it, about the whole situation,

1754
01:40:51,280 --> 01:40:53,920
Speaker 1: and she's on my side, saying that my boyfriend didn't

1755
01:40:53,960 --> 01:40:57,240
Speaker 1: defend me, which that is true. He should have immediately

1756
01:40:57,280 --> 01:41:00,680
Speaker 1: been like, hey, just stop bashing my girlfriend. Why are

1757
01:41:00,680 --> 01:41:01,719
Speaker 1: you bashing my girlfriend?

1758
01:41:01,760 --> 01:41:04,200
Speaker 2: To me a question like why where is this coming from?

1759
01:41:04,320 --> 01:41:08,639
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, he should have set boundaries with Elba and

1760
01:41:08,760 --> 01:41:11,800
Speaker 1: that I'm in the right. Sophia and her boyfriend also

1761
01:41:11,840 --> 01:41:13,920
Speaker 1: make me feel like I didn't do anything Elba is

1762
01:41:13,920 --> 01:41:16,439
Speaker 1: accusing me of. But at this point I need to ask,

1763
01:41:16,560 --> 01:41:18,600
Speaker 1: am I the a hole for asking my boyfriend to

1764
01:41:18,640 --> 01:41:20,840
Speaker 1: defend me, stand up for me and never put me

1765
01:41:21,040 --> 01:41:22,799
Speaker 1: in front of Elba again?

1766
01:41:23,360 --> 01:41:23,479
Speaker 7: No?

1767
01:41:23,520 --> 01:41:25,840
Speaker 1: I wouldn't say you're an a hole for that. No, No,

1768
01:41:25,880 --> 01:41:27,400
Speaker 1: I wouldn't say you're an a hole for that. Yeah,

1769
01:41:27,479 --> 01:41:30,559
Speaker 1: maybe I might disagree with that the last part. I

1770
01:41:30,600 --> 01:41:32,160
Speaker 1: agree with the rest of it, and I don't think

1771
01:41:32,200 --> 01:41:36,479
Speaker 1: you're an ahole. I agree. Here's an update. Heio cool.

1772
01:41:37,160 --> 01:41:40,000
Speaker 1: Thanks to everyone who commented. I read all your comments

1773
01:41:40,000 --> 01:41:42,240
Speaker 1: and upvoted them to show that I genuinely took every

1774
01:41:42,240 --> 01:41:45,640
Speaker 1: word into account. I deeply appreciate your perspective. It has

1775
01:41:45,680 --> 01:41:49,200
Speaker 1: helped me through a very difficult and painful time. Let's

1776
01:41:49,200 --> 01:41:51,920
Speaker 1: get to what everyone wants to know. Last night we

1777
01:41:52,000 --> 01:41:55,080
Speaker 1: sat down to talk calmly. Keep in mind that more

1778
01:41:55,120 --> 01:41:58,559
Speaker 1: than four days had passed since the incident before we

1779
01:41:58,680 --> 01:42:03,320
Speaker 1: had this conversation. Don't like it is four days? The

1780
01:42:03,439 --> 01:42:08,800
Speaker 1: first days today and then we will talk later. Uh?

1781
01:42:08,840 --> 01:42:09,320
Speaker 1: Pretty good?

1782
01:42:10,560 --> 01:42:12,920
Speaker 2: Uh? Uh?

1783
01:42:13,200 --> 01:42:17,000
Speaker 1: That day, the day of the incident, I asked him

1784
01:42:17,040 --> 01:42:19,519
Speaker 1: to stop responding to her, as it was only giving

1785
01:42:19,520 --> 01:42:21,960
Speaker 1: her more ammunition to keep attacking me, and I didn't

1786
01:42:21,960 --> 01:42:25,160
Speaker 1: want him talking about me anymore. That same day, I

1787
01:42:25,240 --> 01:42:29,000
Speaker 1: realized he kept replying to her, and I knew he continued.

1788
01:42:29,320 --> 01:42:31,400
Speaker 1: We sat down in the living room and I said,

1789
01:42:31,840 --> 01:42:34,120
Speaker 1: first of all, I want you to know I'm not angry.

1790
01:42:34,479 --> 01:42:37,120
Speaker 1: I'm sad, and I want us to talk and figure

1791
01:42:37,160 --> 01:42:39,360
Speaker 1: out how we can fix this. I love you, and

1792
01:42:39,400 --> 01:42:42,000
Speaker 1: I want to know if you're okay and if you

1793
01:42:42,040 --> 01:42:44,880
Speaker 1: feel ready to talk. He told me he hadn't eaten

1794
01:42:44,960 --> 01:42:47,439
Speaker 1: because he was anxious about our talk, but otherwise he

1795
01:42:47,560 --> 01:42:51,000
Speaker 1: was fine and wanted to talk too. I first asked

1796
01:42:51,040 --> 01:42:52,920
Speaker 1: if he could show me what he had replied to

1797
01:42:52,960 --> 01:42:55,640
Speaker 1: Elba over the past few days. When he showed me,

1798
01:42:55,800 --> 01:42:58,720
Speaker 1: I saw that Elba kept sending hateful messages about me

1799
01:42:59,040 --> 01:43:02,320
Speaker 1: and my boyfriend replied not my not by defending me,

1800
01:43:02,680 --> 01:43:06,200
Speaker 1: but by validating her with things like why do you

1801
01:43:06,280 --> 01:43:08,760
Speaker 1: feel that way? I'm sure she didn't mean it like that.

1802
01:43:09,280 --> 01:43:10,280
Speaker 1: Let me talk to her.

1803
01:43:10,600 --> 01:43:15,160
Speaker 3: Eh, that's bad, no good.

1804
01:43:16,280 --> 01:43:18,840
Speaker 1: Uh. There were several voice notes of her attacking me

1805
01:43:19,040 --> 01:43:21,960
Speaker 1: and countless messages. I had blocked her a day before

1806
01:43:22,000 --> 01:43:25,559
Speaker 1: seeing him. Apparently she tried to contact me via text

1807
01:43:25,560 --> 01:43:28,080
Speaker 1: to clear things up. She sent him screenshots of her

1808
01:43:28,080 --> 01:43:32,080
Speaker 1: messages and to me and said she's immature and childish.

1809
01:43:32,160 --> 01:43:35,040
Speaker 1: Why did she block me? She has zero emotional intelligence

1810
01:43:35,080 --> 01:43:42,200
Speaker 1: and is manipulative. Dude, defend your girlfriend. You've lost all

1811
01:43:42,560 --> 01:43:46,320
Speaker 1: any legs to stand on poll break up or not

1812
01:43:47,160 --> 01:43:49,120
Speaker 1: break up? Do we just break up? I'm breaking up,

1813
01:43:50,600 --> 01:43:54,200
Speaker 1: I'm breaking all I'm influencing I breaking up. Yeah.

1814
01:43:54,240 --> 01:43:55,920
Speaker 2: I gave this guy the benefit of the doubt and

1815
01:43:55,960 --> 01:43:59,320
Speaker 2: he had four days to like and he's still not

1816
01:43:59,320 --> 01:44:02,840
Speaker 2: defending any things like I'm hearing you. I'm hearing you

1817
01:44:02,920 --> 01:44:07,000
Speaker 2: elbow like hmm. That sounds okay, okay.

1818
01:44:06,680 --> 01:44:09,760
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe my girlfriend does suck? Yeah, you know, maybe

1819
01:44:09,800 --> 01:44:13,120
Speaker 1: maybe literally maybe Elba, You're you're you're kind of kind

1820
01:44:13,120 --> 01:44:17,679
Speaker 1: of great guy. You suck guy. You're the suck guy,

1821
01:44:17,880 --> 01:44:18,920
Speaker 1: said the suck guy.

1822
01:44:20,600 --> 01:44:22,639
Speaker 2: Who are you yelling at?

1823
01:44:22,960 --> 01:44:33,679
Speaker 1: Oh he's boyfriend? Okay, oh oh oh okay, we're back.

1824
01:44:33,760 --> 01:44:37,240
Speaker 1: And we're back, babe, and we're back. Okay cool oo okay.

1825
01:44:37,439 --> 01:44:40,040
Speaker 1: I handed his phone back and told him three things

1826
01:44:40,080 --> 01:44:42,280
Speaker 1: before anything else. Number One, what I'm about to say

1827
01:44:42,320 --> 01:44:44,439
Speaker 1: doesn't mean we're breaking up. I want to continue as

1828
01:44:44,439 --> 01:44:46,760
Speaker 1: a couple. Number Two, when I'm going to share our

1829
01:44:46,840 --> 01:44:49,439
Speaker 1: decisions I've already made, not to punish you or make

1830
01:44:49,479 --> 01:44:52,000
Speaker 1: you feel bad. Number Three, I love you, and nothing

1831
01:44:52,040 --> 01:44:55,280
Speaker 1: I'm about to say changes that context. We had been

1832
01:44:55,400 --> 01:44:57,800
Speaker 1: talking about getting married and moving in together by mid

1833
01:44:57,840 --> 01:45:00,639
Speaker 1: next year, or on our second inniverse read three months

1834
01:45:00,680 --> 01:45:03,400
Speaker 1: before the year ends. When we discussed marriage, he said

1835
01:45:03,400 --> 01:45:05,360
Speaker 1: he only wanted a civil wedding, but I want a

1836
01:45:05,439 --> 01:45:07,880
Speaker 1: church wedding, not just because it's important to me, but

1837
01:45:07,960 --> 01:45:10,479
Speaker 1: also to my family. He said he didn't want to

1838
01:45:10,520 --> 01:45:13,200
Speaker 1: stand in front of a pedo priest and didn't even

1839
01:45:13,280 --> 01:45:16,920
Speaker 1: want the civil ceremony, only to live together. That who

1840
01:45:17,280 --> 01:45:19,280
Speaker 1: else was saying words like that, Yeah.

1841
01:45:19,360 --> 01:45:24,639
Speaker 3: Mmmm, Elba callback Elba callback to el Remember, remember that's crazy.

1842
01:45:24,920 --> 01:45:29,360
Speaker 1: Uh. I told him, no, that my family a bit

1843
01:45:29,400 --> 01:45:32,639
Speaker 1: more traditional and I wanted to do it the right way.

1844
01:45:32,720 --> 01:45:35,840
Speaker 1: Quote unquote, He replied, if your mom never got married,

1845
01:45:35,880 --> 01:45:38,200
Speaker 1: why would she care if you don't. At the time,

1846
01:45:38,280 --> 01:45:40,800
Speaker 1: I didn't think much of it, But after all this,

1847
01:45:40,840 --> 01:45:43,439
Speaker 1: it feels like a huge red flag. Yeah, just dunked

1848
01:45:43,479 --> 01:45:48,200
Speaker 1: on your mom, dude, that's that's awful. He actually he

1849
01:45:48,320 --> 01:45:51,479
Speaker 1: double dunked. He not only dunked on, he dunked on

1850
01:45:51,560 --> 01:45:54,640
Speaker 1: you and your mom in the same breath.

1851
01:45:54,520 --> 01:45:57,639
Speaker 3: And again the way he said, like literally the same

1852
01:45:57,680 --> 01:46:02,240
Speaker 3: exact phrase she did. I'm like, oh, she has him rapped,

1853
01:46:02,439 --> 01:46:06,080
Speaker 3: Elba has the boyfriend wrapped around her finger influencing him.

1854
01:46:06,200 --> 01:46:09,720
Speaker 1: Maybe, Yeah, I'm doing a little bit more. I don't know,

1855
01:46:10,040 --> 01:46:14,840
Speaker 1: who knows, I don't know. Seems like it, at the

1856
01:46:14,960 --> 01:46:17,000
Speaker 1: very least, we could say that Elba it definitely has

1857
01:46:17,040 --> 01:46:19,600
Speaker 1: a thing for Opie's boyfriend, or why would she be

1858
01:46:19,640 --> 01:46:28,639
Speaker 1: trying so viciously hard? Come on? No, I told him

1859
01:46:28,640 --> 01:46:30,760
Speaker 1: I wanted to cancel our plans to get married and

1860
01:46:30,800 --> 01:46:33,200
Speaker 1: move in together. I explained that we weren't in a

1861
01:46:33,200 --> 01:46:36,080
Speaker 1: healthy place and needed to resolve these issues before taking

1862
01:46:36,120 --> 01:46:39,440
Speaker 1: such an important step, which is true. I also clarified

1863
01:46:39,439 --> 01:46:41,920
Speaker 1: that I didn't want him to stop seeing his friends

1864
01:46:42,040 --> 01:46:44,919
Speaker 1: or playing D and D, and that, out of respect

1865
01:46:44,920 --> 01:46:48,400
Speaker 1: for Sophia and her boyfriend, he should continue doing so. Finally,

1866
01:46:48,439 --> 01:46:50,559
Speaker 1: I told him I needed time to heal, that my

1867
01:46:50,640 --> 01:46:54,080
Speaker 1: heart was broken and I wasn't acting out of anger,

1868
01:46:54,120 --> 01:46:56,880
Speaker 1: but trying to give us space to heal and figure

1869
01:46:56,880 --> 01:47:01,599
Speaker 1: out how and if we could stay together. He lost it.

1870
01:47:02,600 --> 01:47:05,599
Speaker 1: He had another panic attack. Oh dear, crying. He begged

1871
01:47:05,640 --> 01:47:08,320
Speaker 1: me not to cancel our plans, saying he loved me

1872
01:47:08,400 --> 01:47:10,720
Speaker 1: and didn't want any of this and felt I was

1873
01:47:10,800 --> 01:47:16,240
Speaker 1: punishing him. I'm starting to get mad.

1874
01:47:16,560 --> 01:47:19,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, OPI also shout out to OPI. Opie did a

1875
01:47:19,960 --> 01:47:24,200
Speaker 3: great job communicating in this specific conversation, like really just

1876
01:47:25,320 --> 01:47:28,960
Speaker 3: said what she said and stood stood firm on her

1877
01:47:29,040 --> 01:47:32,760
Speaker 3: own wants and boundaries and everything. But also it's like,

1878
01:47:32,880 --> 01:47:34,760
Speaker 3: you know, I'm not trying to attack you.

1879
01:47:35,040 --> 01:47:37,640
Speaker 1: I still love you. I still want to try and

1880
01:47:37,680 --> 01:47:39,800
Speaker 1: work this out. But here is how I which is

1881
01:47:39,840 --> 01:47:41,840
Speaker 1: so hard, being like, hey, by the way, we're not

1882
01:47:41,880 --> 01:47:44,880
Speaker 1: getting married and moving in together to have that be

1883
01:47:45,000 --> 01:47:48,880
Speaker 1: like a and we're okay. Yes, that's hard. I feel

1884
01:47:48,920 --> 01:47:54,519
Speaker 1: like she did it right. Yeah so oh. After pressing him,

1885
01:47:55,040 --> 01:47:58,040
Speaker 1: he finally admitted what he was thinking when he validated

1886
01:47:58,840 --> 01:48:04,720
Speaker 1: Elba's points. The campaign is really important to me. I

1887
01:48:04,800 --> 01:48:08,160
Speaker 1: know it's childish, but I'd already written things for your character,

1888
01:48:08,280 --> 01:48:10,559
Speaker 1: and it's important that you play with me and my friends.

1889
01:48:10,840 --> 01:48:13,760
Speaker 1: If I cause problems, the group might disband. If I

1890
01:48:13,800 --> 01:48:16,240
Speaker 1: don't side with Elba, she'll isolate me and turn everyone

1891
01:48:16,240 --> 01:48:18,840
Speaker 1: against me, like she did with Chris, a friend who

1892
01:48:18,880 --> 01:48:21,120
Speaker 1: was also part of the group but got excluded because

1893
01:48:21,200 --> 01:48:26,599
Speaker 1: Elba hated her boyfriend. And if I don't agree with her,

1894
01:48:26,640 --> 01:48:29,960
Speaker 1: we'll lose our friendship with the group. I waited for

1895
01:48:30,080 --> 01:48:33,720
Speaker 1: him to calm down, then told him what I thought

1896
01:48:33,720 --> 01:48:36,920
Speaker 1: about everything he'd said. I'm not asking you to leave

1897
01:48:36,920 --> 01:48:40,280
Speaker 1: your friends. I've always believed couples should have friendships or

1898
01:48:40,320 --> 01:48:43,519
Speaker 1: groups outside of the relationship. I never ask you to

1899
01:48:43,600 --> 01:48:47,440
Speaker 1: leave them. I asked you to defend me, set boundaries

1900
01:48:47,520 --> 01:48:49,880
Speaker 1: or respect that I can no longer be around Elba.

1901
01:48:50,160 --> 01:48:53,320
Speaker 1: And everything you're saying confirms what I've been thinking. I

1902
01:48:53,360 --> 01:48:56,120
Speaker 1: can't stay in the same group with her. Even if

1903
01:48:56,160 --> 01:48:59,759
Speaker 1: Sophia still invites me to her wedding, I'd only congret,

1904
01:49:00,280 --> 01:49:03,600
Speaker 1: only go to congratulate her, and then leave. If you

1905
01:49:03,640 --> 01:49:05,679
Speaker 1: want to stay for the party, I wouldn't be upset,

1906
01:49:05,880 --> 01:49:08,080
Speaker 1: but I won't risk being in a place with Elba

1907
01:49:08,200 --> 01:49:12,679
Speaker 1: and Booze. And what you're saying shows me this too.

1908
01:49:13,000 --> 01:49:15,880
Speaker 1: I'm not your priority. Your priority is your D and

1909
01:49:15,920 --> 01:49:20,280
Speaker 1: D group and your friends. I'm not That's that's right,

1910
01:49:20,360 --> 01:49:23,639
Speaker 1: that's it. Why don't you just take that guy? Ball

1911
01:49:23,720 --> 01:49:26,080
Speaker 1: him up like this? Oh, get him out it.

1912
01:49:28,479 --> 01:49:30,040
Speaker 2: I kind of call it though. It's like it has

1913
01:49:30,080 --> 01:49:31,559
Speaker 2: to do something with the D and D group.

1914
01:49:32,400 --> 01:49:37,080
Speaker 1: I knew it. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, Now throw

1915
01:49:37,120 --> 01:49:42,080
Speaker 1: that thing over there. Ha, good, I did it. Okay,

1916
01:49:43,479 --> 01:49:48,040
Speaker 1: we're back to Hannah for eighty dollars. Ooh, Hannah. Hannah

1917
01:49:48,040 --> 01:49:52,679
Speaker 1: knows what she's doing. You're dangerously close something dangerously close.

1918
01:49:53,720 --> 01:49:58,600
Speaker 1: So what you I'm not your priority. Your priority is

1919
01:49:58,640 --> 01:50:01,760
Speaker 1: your D and D group and you were friends. I'm

1920
01:50:01,800 --> 01:50:05,200
Speaker 1: not packs. And that's another reason we're not in a

1921
01:50:05,240 --> 01:50:08,559
Speaker 1: place to think about living together. Because our priorities aren't

1922
01:50:09,640 --> 01:50:14,160
Speaker 1: Excuse me, because our priorities aren't aligned. He asked for

1923
01:50:14,200 --> 01:50:16,639
Speaker 1: time to fix this, saying he wanted to redeem himself

1924
01:50:16,680 --> 01:50:19,440
Speaker 1: and start acting differently to show me I'm his priority.

1925
01:50:20,040 --> 01:50:23,599
Speaker 1: He asked me to put our plans on pause instead

1926
01:50:23,680 --> 01:50:26,680
Speaker 1: of canceling them. I told him, for example, about the

1927
01:50:26,760 --> 01:50:29,720
Speaker 1: church wedding, I feel there's no middle ground because I'm

1928
01:50:29,720 --> 01:50:32,280
Speaker 1: the one pressuring for it, and if it happens, people

1929
01:50:32,280 --> 01:50:35,960
Speaker 1: would think I manipulated him. If I were his priority,

1930
01:50:36,160 --> 01:50:38,880
Speaker 1: he'd at least consider it without those comments, because it's

1931
01:50:38,920 --> 01:50:42,320
Speaker 1: important to me. Now I feel like I'm manipulating him.

1932
01:50:42,439 --> 01:50:46,200
Speaker 1: As Elba claims, he asked me to stop mentioning her,

1933
01:50:46,439 --> 01:50:48,360
Speaker 1: but I told him I couldn't because now I see

1934
01:50:48,360 --> 01:50:50,880
Speaker 1: her as being in the middle of our relationship. We

1935
01:50:50,960 --> 01:50:54,040
Speaker 1: talked a bit more, coming back to the same conclusion.

1936
01:50:54,439 --> 01:50:57,160
Speaker 1: I'm not his priority and he needs to talk to

1937
01:50:57,240 --> 01:51:02,400
Speaker 1: Sophia and her boyfriend to avoid losing them. The next day.

1938
01:51:04,280 --> 01:51:07,400
Speaker 3: Well, there's some good news. We're gonna make it to

1939
01:51:07,439 --> 01:51:17,880
Speaker 3: this next day because that's right Broke's, and that's Hannah

1940
01:51:17,880 --> 01:51:21,840
Speaker 3: and Wingles and Wingles and the whole wing.

1941
01:51:21,720 --> 01:51:24,240
Speaker 1: We're gonna to all of them. Oh my god. Anonymous

1942
01:51:25,040 --> 01:51:31,080
Speaker 1: and somebody anonymous, somebody just had to donate fifty bucks. Yeah,

1943
01:51:31,120 --> 01:51:32,760
Speaker 1: we're almost. We're gonna get to the next one too.

1944
01:51:32,800 --> 01:51:35,120
Speaker 1: We're gonna have to add an hour. Oh we're one

1945
01:51:35,200 --> 01:51:39,640
Speaker 1: hundred and twenty dollars away from an hour. Oh my goodness. Yeah,

1946
01:51:39,680 --> 01:51:42,160
Speaker 1: it's just all right, fine it Yeah, let's go. Let's go,

1947
01:51:42,240 --> 01:51:46,040
Speaker 1: let's go. The next day, after we talked, he sent

1948
01:51:46,080 --> 01:51:48,800
Speaker 1: me a voice message saying he re read the conversation

1949
01:51:48,880 --> 01:51:52,439
Speaker 1: and felt angry. Initially, he thought I was exaggerating, but

1950
01:51:52,520 --> 01:51:55,320
Speaker 1: during our talk, I pointed out several parts where Elba

1951
01:51:55,439 --> 01:51:58,240
Speaker 1: insulted and belittled to him, and where she tried to

1952
01:51:58,240 --> 01:52:01,320
Speaker 1: manipulate him like yours. But if you're smart, you'll see

1953
01:52:01,320 --> 01:52:04,040
Speaker 1: how violent your girlfriend is. And I'd hate to have

1954
01:52:04,160 --> 01:52:05,960
Speaker 1: to disband the group like we did with Chris. But

1955
01:52:05,960 --> 01:52:09,320
Speaker 1: people like your girlfriend shouldn't be around us. After rereading,

1956
01:52:09,360 --> 01:52:12,680
Speaker 1: he realized I was right and wasn't reacting emotionally. What

1957
01:52:12,800 --> 01:52:14,920
Speaker 1: hurt him most about our convo was when I said,

1958
01:52:15,280 --> 01:52:17,559
Speaker 1: right now, I couldn't sleep with you if we were

1959
01:52:17,560 --> 01:52:20,679
Speaker 1: living together. I feel sad and tonight I'll shower, have dinner,

1960
01:52:20,720 --> 01:52:23,120
Speaker 1: and go to bed with my dog. It comforts me

1961
01:52:23,200 --> 01:52:29,080
Speaker 1: to just to sleep, just to snooze. It comforts me

1962
01:52:29,160 --> 01:52:31,519
Speaker 1: to know you won't be there so I can cry

1963
01:52:31,680 --> 01:52:34,320
Speaker 1: and be with my thoughts and you don't feel responsible

1964
01:52:34,320 --> 01:52:36,920
Speaker 1: for making me feel better. I need to sit with

1965
01:52:36,960 --> 01:52:41,680
Speaker 1: my feelings, not with you. When I said that, he

1966
01:52:41,800 --> 01:52:45,639
Speaker 1: told me. At that moment, I understood that I wasn't

1967
01:52:45,680 --> 01:52:47,840
Speaker 1: a safe space for you. You're right, I can't be a

1968
01:52:47,840 --> 01:52:50,519
Speaker 1: good husband or life partner because I'm not giving you

1969
01:52:50,560 --> 01:52:53,840
Speaker 1: what you need, security, protection and care. You are not

1970
01:52:53,880 --> 01:52:56,280
Speaker 1: being manipulative, you are sharing your needs and what I

1971
01:52:56,320 --> 01:52:58,519
Speaker 1: should be doing as a good boyfriend. Instead of trying

1972
01:52:58,520 --> 01:53:01,160
Speaker 1: to soothe Elba, I should have been comforting you and

1973
01:53:01,240 --> 01:53:06,559
Speaker 1: taking you away from her and from all of the damage. Okay, first,

1974
01:53:06,880 --> 01:53:11,400
Speaker 1: great thing he said these He seems like they both

1975
01:53:11,400 --> 01:53:13,120
Speaker 1: seem pretty emotionally mature.

1976
01:53:14,200 --> 01:53:18,479
Speaker 3: It well, he maybe maybe his anxiety ramps up and

1977
01:53:18,479 --> 01:53:20,200
Speaker 3: then he goes into he goes to crazy town.

1978
01:53:20,360 --> 01:53:23,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, but he might have also been blinded by how

1979
01:53:23,240 --> 01:53:26,840
Speaker 1: long he's been friends with this girl. Yeah, friends for

1980
01:53:26,840 --> 01:53:27,320
Speaker 1: a long time.

1981
01:53:27,320 --> 01:53:30,880
Speaker 3: It seems like maybe some some influencing factors maybe took

1982
01:53:30,920 --> 01:53:35,120
Speaker 3: him away. But when he's at baseline, which seems like

1983
01:53:35,120 --> 01:53:37,840
Speaker 3: where he was just there, that that was a I

1984
01:53:37,880 --> 01:53:40,960
Speaker 3: think very thoughtful response.

1985
01:53:41,600 --> 01:53:47,120
Speaker 1: Yes. Indeed, this afternoon he spoke with Sophia and her

1986
01:53:47,120 --> 01:53:50,519
Speaker 1: boyfriend and told them everything. They were obviously shocked, but

1987
01:53:50,600 --> 01:53:52,840
Speaker 1: asked us to have dinner with them to talk. From

1988
01:53:52,880 --> 01:53:55,080
Speaker 1: the messages, I can tell we'll still be able to

1989
01:53:55,120 --> 01:53:57,599
Speaker 1: maintain a friendship with them, He said, a firm boundary

1990
01:53:57,640 --> 01:54:00,240
Speaker 1: with Elba, telling her he couldn't allow her to keep

1991
01:54:00,320 --> 01:54:02,760
Speaker 1: speaking to us that way. He blocked her and sent

1992
01:54:02,840 --> 01:54:05,559
Speaker 1: her boyfriend in apology for the drama, saying he still

1993
01:54:05,600 --> 01:54:08,000
Speaker 1: considered him a friend but understood if he had to

1994
01:54:08,080 --> 01:54:10,640
Speaker 1: pick sides. And by the way, I want you to

1995
01:54:10,720 --> 01:54:14,559
Speaker 1: pick our side. Oh, and you can do that by

1996
01:54:14,680 --> 01:54:18,920
Speaker 1: listening to full episodes with stories like these on Spotify,

1997
01:54:19,160 --> 01:54:22,080
Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. All you

1998
01:54:22,080 --> 01:54:24,759
Speaker 1: gotta do is search up Okay story time, and there

1999
01:54:24,800 --> 01:54:30,920
Speaker 1: they are. Let's go limitless, endless liss theoretically endless episodes

2000
01:54:30,920 --> 01:54:36,800
Speaker 1: for you to listen to at your pleasure. I mean,

2001
01:54:36,840 --> 01:54:38,480
Speaker 1: do you have anything else to add to here? I think,

2002
01:54:38,680 --> 01:54:41,960
Speaker 1: I mean, oh, what did the pole say? By the way, Oh, we.

2003
01:54:41,920 --> 01:54:44,920
Speaker 2: Never did a poll. We just said breakup like they

2004
01:54:44,920 --> 01:54:48,560
Speaker 2: were doing breakup. Chasous and unanimous like everyone was saying breakup.

2005
01:54:49,160 --> 01:54:54,840
Speaker 3: I will say that while Ope did show in that

2006
01:54:54,960 --> 01:55:00,600
Speaker 3: response a lot of thoughtfulness, I you kind of have

2007
01:55:00,760 --> 01:55:04,680
Speaker 3: to grade it on the whole, you know. Uh, And

2008
01:55:05,640 --> 01:55:07,880
Speaker 3: I think and you know, I think it was his

2009
01:55:08,280 --> 01:55:11,680
Speaker 3: he had panic attacks and everything else, which understand, but

2010
01:55:13,600 --> 01:55:17,560
Speaker 3: I don't know that does that mean that Op's just

2011
01:55:17,680 --> 01:55:22,080
Speaker 3: at the whim of uh whenever these things happen and

2012
01:55:22,360 --> 01:55:26,000
Speaker 3: basically not having his support or like feeling attacked you you.

2013
01:55:25,880 --> 01:55:28,960
Speaker 1: Know what I'm trying to say, like right where it's like, yeah,

2014
01:55:29,160 --> 01:55:30,960
Speaker 1: like next time this happens, Oh, he's gonna to do

2015
01:55:31,000 --> 01:55:31,760
Speaker 1: the same thing again.

2016
01:55:32,200 --> 01:55:34,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, where it's like and and again, not not to

2017
01:55:35,040 --> 01:55:37,360
Speaker 3: shame him for his panic attacks, because that's not at

2018
01:55:37,360 --> 01:55:39,480
Speaker 3: all what should be done here, but kind of like

2019
01:55:39,720 --> 01:55:43,440
Speaker 3: saying like, hey, look, you know, you know you have

2020
01:55:43,960 --> 01:55:46,160
Speaker 3: you have these panic attacks and everything, and I don't

2021
01:55:46,200 --> 01:55:49,240
Speaker 3: know when I'm gonna be supported and when I'm going

2022
01:55:49,320 --> 01:55:52,160
Speaker 3: to feel kind of like left hung out to dry,

2023
01:55:52,680 --> 01:55:55,280
Speaker 3: you know, and and not that that's I understand, you

2024
01:55:55,360 --> 01:55:59,760
Speaker 3: have the panic attacks, and that's really ultimately like basically

2025
01:55:59,800 --> 01:56:01,840
Speaker 3: be on your control. And I understand that, and I

2026
01:56:01,880 --> 01:56:04,600
Speaker 3: don't like blame you for that. But at the same time,

2027
01:56:04,800 --> 01:56:08,520
Speaker 3: like that kind of just leaves me, uh like where

2028
01:56:08,560 --> 01:56:10,520
Speaker 3: I don't know if I will be able to be

2029
01:56:10,840 --> 01:56:13,880
Speaker 3: fully supported or not. You know, sometimes you answer the

2030
01:56:13,960 --> 01:56:16,680
Speaker 3: great way, and sometimes you answer where I'm like I am,

2031
01:56:17,400 --> 01:56:21,080
Speaker 3: just because earlier I felt like it was like, yeah,

2032
01:56:21,240 --> 01:56:25,800
Speaker 3: you are prioritizing a freaking Dungeons and Dragons game they

2033
01:56:25,880 --> 01:56:26,200
Speaker 3: called it.

2034
01:56:26,440 --> 01:56:26,960
Speaker 1: I knew it.

2035
01:56:27,280 --> 01:56:29,240
Speaker 2: I knew, I knew like there was at a core

2036
01:56:29,280 --> 01:56:30,800
Speaker 2: of this it has to do something with the D

2037
01:56:30,840 --> 01:56:34,560
Speaker 2: and D group because of just like that's how it

2038
01:56:34,640 --> 01:56:35,120
Speaker 2: usually it is.

2039
01:56:35,160 --> 01:56:39,360
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's giving neck beard. Sometimes when you invest a

2040
01:56:39,400 --> 01:56:43,720
Speaker 1: lot into a campaign, you gotta see it through. Imagine,

2041
01:56:43,880 --> 01:56:47,000
Speaker 1: imagine all the cool stuff that he's written about her

2042
01:56:47,080 --> 01:56:50,000
Speaker 1: character that no one will ever find out anymore. Where

2043
01:56:50,280 --> 01:56:57,360
Speaker 1: was the I'm just I'm kidding.

2044
01:56:58,080 --> 01:57:01,280
Speaker 2: You're on the line of reality and fantasy. My guy,

2045
01:57:01,600 --> 01:57:04,960
Speaker 2: I'm your actual girlfriend is an I need of you.

2046
01:57:04,960 --> 01:57:07,880
Speaker 2: You need to be an actual person for her.

2047
01:57:08,080 --> 01:57:10,480
Speaker 1: D and D blurs the line of reality and fantasy.

2048
01:57:11,320 --> 01:57:15,240
Speaker 3: And honestly, what one more quick thing I think now

2049
01:57:15,360 --> 01:57:17,960
Speaker 3: And shout out to blindBy as well for explaining exactly

2050
01:57:18,000 --> 01:57:20,560
Speaker 3: what she said, because I misinterpreted a little bit earlier.

2051
01:57:21,560 --> 01:57:24,640
Speaker 3: I'm honestly like, I feel like OPI is very entitled

2052
01:57:24,640 --> 01:57:27,800
Speaker 3: to say, like, I honestly kind of feel hurt that

2053
01:57:28,440 --> 01:57:30,640
Speaker 3: you want to continue friendship with her and that you

2054
01:57:30,840 --> 01:57:33,400
Speaker 3: are Yeah, you said about the boundary for me, but like,

2055
01:57:33,760 --> 01:57:36,879
Speaker 3: why would you want to continue being.

2056
01:57:36,920 --> 01:57:39,600
Speaker 1: It is true? That's a huge red flag to be like, yeah, oh,

2057
01:57:39,640 --> 01:57:43,240
Speaker 1: this person's sending slam dunk voice memos that are seven

2058
01:57:43,280 --> 01:57:46,320
Speaker 1: minutes long to my to my phone, and I'm not

2059
01:57:47,040 --> 01:57:51,920
Speaker 1: being like, hey, shut your dirty mouth. That is weird.

2060
01:57:52,400 --> 01:57:57,320
Speaker 1: That is weird. Anyway, I know this isn't the update

2061
01:57:57,400 --> 01:58:00,720
Speaker 1: many people wanted. I understand that ending the relationship is

2062
01:58:00,760 --> 01:58:02,680
Speaker 1: what many would have chosen, but I feel that for

2063
01:58:02,840 --> 01:58:05,200
Speaker 1: my sake and his, I need to give this a chance.

2064
01:58:05,840 --> 01:58:08,840
Speaker 1: He's always a good guy, despite how it might seem.

2065
01:58:09,120 --> 01:58:12,120
Speaker 1: He always tries to show me he loves me. Him

2066
01:58:12,120 --> 01:58:15,320
Speaker 1: coming around and giving me my place makes me think

2067
01:58:15,360 --> 01:58:18,600
Speaker 1: we might be able to work it out. And I

2068
01:58:18,640 --> 01:58:21,400
Speaker 1: feel like this whole drama is due to external forces

2069
01:58:21,400 --> 01:58:23,480
Speaker 1: and issues we need to work on as a couple

2070
01:58:23,600 --> 01:58:26,960
Speaker 1: and as individuals. My boyfriend mentioned that he felt like

2071
01:58:27,040 --> 01:58:29,040
Speaker 1: he lost me even when I told him that I

2072
01:58:29,120 --> 01:58:31,240
Speaker 1: was not breaking up with him. He said, I let

2073
01:58:31,280 --> 01:58:37,560
Speaker 1: you down so hard that only because you are mature

2074
01:58:37,600 --> 01:58:40,200
Speaker 1: and amazing, you stayed with me. I want to prove

2075
01:58:40,440 --> 01:58:43,839
Speaker 1: to you that I deserve you. Sophia and her boyfriend

2076
01:58:43,840 --> 01:58:46,360
Speaker 1: have been supportive, and we've created a new group with

2077
01:58:46,600 --> 01:58:50,360
Speaker 1: just the four of us, Just the four of us.

2078
01:58:51,480 --> 01:58:55,280
Speaker 1: We can place me in need, just the four of us.

2079
01:58:56,400 --> 01:59:04,400
Speaker 5: Just the mod without Alba, so uh so we can

2080
01:59:04,480 --> 01:59:07,880
Speaker 5: stay in touch and plan double dates the four of us.

2081
01:59:08,640 --> 01:59:11,280
Speaker 1: That genuinely makes me happy and gives me some comfort

2082
01:59:11,280 --> 01:59:14,520
Speaker 1: about the situation. Thank you so much for all your comments.

2083
01:59:14,640 --> 01:59:16,880
Speaker 1: I don't think there will be more updates, but I

2084
01:59:16,920 --> 01:59:20,240
Speaker 1: promise to share if anything else happens. Happy new Year

2085
01:59:20,320 --> 01:59:25,560
Speaker 1: to all and to all a new year, and that

2086
01:59:27,920 --> 01:59:28,400
Speaker 1: that story.

2087
01:59:29,520 --> 01:59:33,800
Speaker 2: I'm going to look up if there's an update.

2088
01:59:34,040 --> 01:59:40,720
Speaker 1: Oh oh you m there's no update because of from

2089
01:59:40,920 --> 01:59:44,520
Speaker 1: two weeks ago. What a crazy story though, that was

2090
01:59:45,520 --> 01:59:48,080
Speaker 1: lots of twists, lots of turns. I mean I didn't

2091
01:59:48,080 --> 01:59:48,680
Speaker 1: know what to think.

2092
01:59:50,000 --> 01:59:52,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I low key like part of me respects Op

2093
01:59:52,880 --> 01:59:56,560
Speaker 3: for continuing and just like really kind of giving her

2094
01:59:56,600 --> 01:59:59,240
Speaker 3: boyfriend a big chance and having a lot of faith

2095
01:59:59,280 --> 02:00:01,240
Speaker 3: in it, and then the other part of me is

2096
02:00:01,320 --> 02:00:02,960
Speaker 3: run you know.

2097
02:00:03,240 --> 02:00:05,000
Speaker 1: I mean, like I think you got you move forward

2098
02:00:05,040 --> 02:00:07,720
Speaker 1: with this, this knowledge of this you know event. Like

2099
02:00:07,720 --> 02:00:09,640
Speaker 1: she said, it's like this is just the one thing

2100
02:00:09,680 --> 02:00:14,240
Speaker 1: that's happened. Yeah, I don't know, literally, a perfect relationship

2101
02:00:14,240 --> 02:00:16,200
Speaker 1: for a year and four months and now this thing

2102
02:00:16,200 --> 02:00:17,000
Speaker 1: has happened. Yeah.

2103
02:00:17,120 --> 02:00:19,960
Speaker 2: I think I personally think the boyfriend was just like

2104
02:00:20,000 --> 02:00:23,600
Speaker 2: people pleaser. He just wanted everything to be peachy, Like

2105
02:00:24,040 --> 02:00:25,520
Speaker 2: I can make this work. I can make everyone, like

2106
02:00:25,520 --> 02:00:28,120
Speaker 2: I can please everyone. I can do this. Yeah, no

2107
02:00:28,120 --> 02:00:31,200
Speaker 2: one's gonna you know that a great point.

2108
02:00:31,280 --> 02:00:33,000
Speaker 1: I can manage everything. Yeah.

2109
02:00:33,200 --> 02:00:35,400
Speaker 2: No, Sometimes you just gotta let go of people that

2110
02:00:35,560 --> 02:00:38,040
Speaker 2: are toxic. They're not toxic to you, but they're toxic

2111
02:00:38,080 --> 02:00:38,800
Speaker 2: to your loved ones.

2112
02:00:39,040 --> 02:00:42,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, trum And can he learn to basically let go

2113
02:00:43,040 --> 02:00:44,520
Speaker 3: and improve on that over time?

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Speaker 1: Seems possible. I think so. They seem very emotionally intelligent,

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Speaker 1: They seem pretty mature. She's a psychotherapist. Yeah. The fact

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Speaker 1: that if she can fix him, I bet she can.

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Speaker 2: No, honestly, Oh, this was like the most calm like

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Speaker 2: an op was ever like I've ever seen in a store.

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Speaker 2: Like she didn't jump to conclusions she's like cheating or

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Speaker 2: like nah no. She was like, let's sit down. This

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Speaker 2: is how I feel, and I want you to hear

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Speaker 2: how I feel.

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Speaker 1: And that's that.

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Speaker 2: It was like okay, that's wow. That was great. And

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Speaker 2: he was like okay, and it he just yeah, he

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Speaker 2: just didn't have a big spine.

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Speaker 1: Took him small spined activities. I have to use the bath,

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Speaker 1: the little facility room. We'll talk to the