Speaker 1: Hey, Hey, Hey, it's me Caroline Hobby and I am
Speaker 1: back with another middle of the week mom chat. This
Speaker 1: is not directed a mom's This just was inspired. This
Speaker 1: topic was inspired to me because I've been pregnant recently
Speaker 1: for the past ten months nine months um, and just
Speaker 1: had a baby, and so I have been living through
Speaker 1: a lot of different bodies that I am not used to.
Speaker 1: I have you hear that rattling. It's my dog Sugar
Speaker 1: if she's running around house. Um, I'm used to being
Speaker 1: able to keep a consistent size, I guess is the
Speaker 1: way to phrase it, because gin really eat about the
Speaker 1: same amount of food and work out about the same
Speaker 1: amount weekly. Before I got pregnant, I was doing hot
Speaker 1: yoga probably two or three times a week, and then
Speaker 1: I was doing training camp, which is like a boot camp.
Speaker 1: I was doing that, um a couple of times a week,
Speaker 1: or doing a long walk, and so I was always
Speaker 1: doing exercise probably let's be real, probably like four times
Speaker 1: four or five times a week. And I was able
Speaker 1: to just kind of maintain um my body type and
Speaker 1: I felt good. I didn't feel like super super stick skinny,
Speaker 1: but I felt really healthy and um great. I just
Speaker 1: felt good in my skin, I guess is how to
Speaker 1: describe it. Like, and I wasn't worried about weight or anything,
Speaker 1: which is a first, because when I was younger, all
Speaker 1: the way up until my late twenties, I was obsessed
Speaker 1: with like being skinny. Like I just thought that I
Speaker 1: needed to be skinny, and I put a lot of
Speaker 1: pressure on my body and I did a lot of
Speaker 1: things that were unhealthy for my body, Like I tried
Speaker 1: every freaking crash diet in the world. Um, I did
Speaker 1: the Atkins diet, and that just I mean, that can
Speaker 1: work for a second, but then it completely backfires because
Speaker 1: the second you eat carbs, you gain like five or
Speaker 1: too in pounds back, and then you're depriving yourself of
Speaker 1: this huge food group which is like every carb and
Speaker 1: like healthy carbs, fruit and some vegetables. And you can't
Speaker 1: have any bread, even like whole grain bread or sprouted
Speaker 1: bread or anything like that, and so you can't have
Speaker 1: like Greek yogurt or anything like that. So you're just
Speaker 1: eating meat and things that have no carbs in them,
Speaker 1: which are high and fat. So that's so bad for
Speaker 1: your body to eat all that high fat. It's not
Speaker 1: balanced anyway. These are just my opinions. This is not
Speaker 1: nothing medical. I have no medical background. I'm just telling you,
Speaker 1: based on my own experience with diets what happened. Why.
Speaker 1: I don't think diets work, So I don't think the
Speaker 1: Atkins work because it backfires. It makes you gain a
Speaker 1: lot of weight back, and I just personally, for me,
Speaker 1: it was not sustainable. I didn't feel like that was
Speaker 1: something I could keep up because I enjoy food too
Speaker 1: much and I want to experience food and I don't
Speaker 1: want to be scared of food groups and Adkins kind
Speaker 1: of made me afraid of carbs and there's just a
Speaker 1: lot so that one didn't work for me um when
Speaker 1: I was younger. I also, I'm just going to hit
Speaker 1: this up because I feel like I need to talk
Speaker 1: about it, even though I feel like shame talking about it,
Speaker 1: because I feel like I should just block it out
Speaker 1: of my life because now I don't struggle with this
Speaker 1: at all, and it's kind of like shameful. But I
Speaker 1: did struggle with light like I twittered around with bolimia
Speaker 1: when I was in high school in college and I
Speaker 1: was I wouldn't say it was like a full blown
Speaker 1: thing for me, but I definitely like if I over eate.
Speaker 1: I would make myself throw up, and I hate saying that.
Speaker 1: It's like really embarrassing to say that out loud, to
Speaker 1: be honest with you, But my podcast is called Get Real,
Speaker 1: And if I'm not going to get real with you guys,
Speaker 1: then why would anyone want to get real with me?
Speaker 1: I learned that from Carissa Coliner, She's the host of
Speaker 1: e UM The Daily Pop, And she said that she
Speaker 1: was like, why would people share vulnerable stuff with me
Speaker 1: if I'm not going to share my story with you?
Speaker 1: So that's my truth, Like I didn't know how to
Speaker 1: quite get a grip on diet and wait all that
Speaker 1: when I was in high school and college, and so
Speaker 1: sometimes I would over eat and then I'd bring myself
Speaker 1: through up. It never worked though, because honestly, it just
Speaker 1: makes you bloated. It inflames your body, like your poor body,
Speaker 1: Like how sad this body that works so hard for
Speaker 1: you all day, walks you around, keeps you healthy, like
Speaker 1: pumps your blood. I'll let you Breathe allows you to
Speaker 1: see here, get around this world. Like in your stomach
Speaker 1: that digests your food and takes care of you and
Speaker 1: gives you nutrients, Like how awful that you're just like
Speaker 1: making yourself throw up and hurting yourself and hurting your
Speaker 1: body in that way and having no appreciation for what
Speaker 1: your body is doing for you. And to me, that
Speaker 1: was just very juvenile, a juvenile way of thinking. And
Speaker 1: I was just looking for a quick fix, and I
Speaker 1: was focused on all the wrong things because I was
Speaker 1: not focused on health. I was not focused on respecting
Speaker 1: my body and appreciating my body and trying to give
Speaker 1: love to my body and nourish it. I was only
Speaker 1: for gus on physical appearance. And to me, I didn't
Speaker 1: really think about all that was happening withinside of myself.
Speaker 1: I just was only looking at the external. And I
Speaker 1: was like, the external isn't pleasing to my eye, then
Speaker 1: how can I quickly try to make it pleasing to
Speaker 1: my eye while not taking care of myself. And I
Speaker 1: wasn't respecting food. I was just I would like overeat
Speaker 1: and gorge because I didn't. I just didn't have a balance.
Speaker 1: I had an unhealthy relationship with junk food, and so
Speaker 1: when I would eat junk food, I would end up
Speaker 1: eating too much of it, and I would because I
Speaker 1: felt like it's like the you know, like a dog
Speaker 1: that a stray dog like stumbles upon like say a
Speaker 1: steak in an alley, and it would just like scarf
Speaker 1: it down as fast as it could, even if it
Speaker 1: felt sick and ate too much. That would be a
Speaker 1: junk food. I would just kind of like overeat it
Speaker 1: because I just thought like, oh my god, what if
Speaker 1: I never get it again? Kind of like a just
Speaker 1: a straight dog. And I just had to work through
Speaker 1: that and learn that food is not scary and so okay.
Speaker 1: That was another thing I dealt was so mild mild
Speaker 1: teetering with bulimia. It makes me a cringe saying it
Speaker 1: out loud because I'm so ashamed of it. But it's
Speaker 1: not shameful. I know a lot of us deal with that,
Speaker 1: and so I'm just being honest. That was part of
Speaker 1: my journey. Um. Then I kind of got into like
Speaker 1: I would sort of I would take diet pills for
Speaker 1: a little while, like prescription diet pills, and that would
Speaker 1: make me not hungry, but it would also make me
Speaker 1: like intense, like almost like this intense person who um,
Speaker 1: I just was so focused, so mechanical, just had a
Speaker 1: million things to do, moving really fast, like just like
Speaker 1: very very intense lost a lot of my human um feelings.
Speaker 1: I didn't have a lot of empathy. I was kind
Speaker 1: of just like really black and white and like automission.
Speaker 1: And so I would kind of take diet pills and
Speaker 1: then I would exercise a lot, like over exercise, like
Speaker 1: do a really hard workout class, and then take a
Speaker 1: diet pill and then not really eat very much. And
Speaker 1: um that just yeah, that one kind of like it
Speaker 1: could work for a little while. All these can work
Speaker 1: for a little while, but you can't maintain that, and
Speaker 1: who wants to stay in that mindset? Like I literally
Speaker 1: was not enjoying my life because all I was doing
Speaker 1: was thinking about how do I get my physical appearance
Speaker 1: the way that I wanted it to look, And so
Speaker 1: that was my only thought, and I wasn't enjoying anything
Speaker 1: else because I'm taking this pill that makes my mind
Speaker 1: completely and like neurotic and just so focused and misses
Speaker 1: all the color of life. It just like sucks all
Speaker 1: the joy out of life because you're just this machine,
Speaker 1: like I said, and dinner, you're just like thinking about
Speaker 1: how you can burn as many calories as you can
Speaker 1: on some sort of exercise machine or class, and it's
Speaker 1: all for the wrong reasons, and so like, yes, maybe
Speaker 1: you can get a body that like is a desirable
Speaker 1: result of what you're going for, But are you even
Speaker 1: enjoying yourself. You're like stressed out about every you think
Speaker 1: you put in your body. You are stressed out about
Speaker 1: getting to the gym to get a workout class in
Speaker 1: to make sure you burn a certain amount of calories.
Speaker 1: You're stressed out about not eating too much. You want
Speaker 1: to kind of stay hungry, which is miserable to stay hungry,
Speaker 1: Like it just is misery, to be honest with you,
Speaker 1: and it's just all for the wrong reasons. And so
Speaker 1: I did that for a while in my late twenties,
Speaker 1: and I finally hit a point where I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm tired of this, and I had tried other diets
Speaker 1: to like in the meantime, I had tried, um uh,
Speaker 1: what I mean, what other diets are there? There's like
Speaker 1: the no car that was always my go to was
Speaker 1: no card. I would do like fast, you know where
Speaker 1: you do like a juice fast for a week, And
Speaker 1: in my mind I was like, I'm gonna kick start
Speaker 1: a diet plan and that can really work for a
Speaker 1: lot of people, like people who are really healthy and
Speaker 1: just want to cleanse their body and like give their
Speaker 1: body a break. I do think the juice cleans is
Speaker 1: great because I think it's nice to give your body
Speaker 1: a break every now and then, just to like reset.
Speaker 1: But it only if your intentions are right. If you're
Speaker 1: doing it to give your body a break because you're like,
Speaker 1: my body has been working hard for me, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: let it just like power down for a little while,
Speaker 1: give my organs a little bit of a rest. That's great.
Speaker 1: But if you are doing it because you're trying to
Speaker 1: get skinny and starve yourself, I think it backfires because
Speaker 1: you can't sustain that. Anything that you do because you're
Speaker 1: trying to get skinny and lose weight and have a
Speaker 1: certain look. Anything that you do that is manipulating your
Speaker 1: body and like not respecting your body or just having
Speaker 1: good intentions for why you're doing it, it's not going
Speaker 1: to be sustainable. It really isn't. And so that leads
Speaker 1: me to why I feel like I have been my
Speaker 1: happiest and my healthiest while I was pregnant and while
Speaker 1: post body, like post baby body, which is crazy because
Speaker 1: most people are very terrified of being pregnant. I have
Speaker 1: to say I was scared of getting pregnant for a
Speaker 1: little while that like what if I could never recover?
Speaker 1: What if I can't bounce back? What if I gain
Speaker 1: a hundred pounds and I can't ever lose it? Like,
Speaker 1: I'm just being honest. I'm telling on my honest journey
Speaker 1: and this is just the thoughts that were going through
Speaker 1: my head and I'm only speaking for myself, like I
Speaker 1: I just want to share my journey with you because
Speaker 1: this is my honest, my honest truth, and so here
Speaker 1: here it is. I mean, y'all might think this is
Speaker 1: so stupid that I'm even sharing this, but I just
Speaker 1: feel called to speak all my truth and talk about
Speaker 1: topics that I think about. And so this has been
Speaker 1: one that I've struggled with my whole life, and it's
Speaker 1: just been kind of a revelation for me that I
Speaker 1: haven't been struggling with it lately since I've been pregnant
Speaker 1: and post baby, when my body has completely changed the
Speaker 1: most it ever has in my life. And I was
Speaker 1: like analyzing why that is. And sorry, y'all, I'm a
Speaker 1: rambler me talking by myself alone auto mike with no
Speaker 1: one to like keep me moving forward is dangerous, So
Speaker 1: thank you, we're hanging on with me. I'm hoping that
Speaker 1: it all makes sense that I'm not just rambling. UM.
Speaker 1: But I think I've been the most happy pregnant and
Speaker 1: post pregnancy because I was doing it for a bigger
Speaker 1: purpose this um. I had so much appreciation for my body.
Speaker 1: Because anyone who's followed along, like with me and my
Speaker 1: pregnancy journey and have listened to my podcast, you all
Speaker 1: will know that, like it was a journey to get pregnant.
Speaker 1: It took about almost a year for us to get pregnant.
Speaker 1: We did have a miscarriage and a chemical pregnancy, and
Speaker 1: it was it was sad, Like that was a really
Speaker 1: hard season for me. And I really wanted to have
Speaker 1: a baby more than anything, and it's hard when it
Speaker 1: doesn't work for you and you feel like maybe your
Speaker 1: body is letting you down, and like why can't you
Speaker 1: hold a baby and all these things and it's just
Speaker 1: a lot. I think women feel it more than men.
Speaker 1: I do think men feel it too, Like it's like
Speaker 1: losing a child and not being able to get have
Speaker 1: a pregnancy with your wife or spouse or whatever or partner.
Speaker 1: I know that's hard for the men too, but it's
Speaker 1: really hard for the woman because it's actually going on
Speaker 1: in your body. And I struggled with that, I struggled
Speaker 1: with loss, and it was just a really hard season.
Speaker 1: And so I think because of all that, I let
Speaker 1: go of so much of my other stress that I
Speaker 1: used to carry about, like body image and trying to
Speaker 1: have a perfection perfect body image, and I let all
Speaker 1: that go. So when I got pregnant, the joy I
Speaker 1: felt and the gratefulness that I felt for being able
Speaker 1: to have a baby and carry a child, and that
Speaker 1: my body was working with me and like doing such
Speaker 1: amazing things for me and holding this child for me.
Speaker 1: Like I know this sounds hippie dippy, but like druly,
Speaker 1: this is how I felt. I just felt so privileged
Speaker 1: and so honored, and I felt so connected to God,
Speaker 1: and I felt so connected to this miracle of a
Speaker 1: child that was growing inside of me that I don't
Speaker 1: know it just my mind was not about how I looked.
Speaker 1: My mind was about the magic and the magnitude of
Speaker 1: the blessing and the miracle that was happening inside of me.
Speaker 1: Because I had experienced the opposite for so long that
Speaker 1: to act of not being able to get pregnant or
Speaker 1: hold the pregnancy and experience that growth of a child.
Speaker 1: Like I don't know, a lot of women just really
Speaker 1: want experience that Some women don't create that experience, but
Speaker 1: I know for me, it was so deep within me
Speaker 1: that I wanted to experience pregnancy and growing a child
Speaker 1: and having a baby like I just had that desire,
Speaker 1: And so when it wasn't happening or working, it was
Speaker 1: really emotional because it was a true desire that I
Speaker 1: wanted for my life. And when I finally got it,
Speaker 1: I just felt so grateful. And I didn't care about
Speaker 1: my body image. The crazy thing is, I gained forty
Speaker 1: five pounds in my pregnancy and it I wasn't really
Speaker 1: stressed about it. Yes, I did have moments where I
Speaker 1: would have revert back to fear, like, oh shoot, what
Speaker 1: if this never comes off? Oh shoot, you know what,
Speaker 1: my body changes forever like oh shoot. Like I had
Speaker 1: like a few little slip ups where I like would
Speaker 1: revert back to some of my old habits of thinking
Speaker 1: about body image perfection. But for the most part, I
Speaker 1: loved being pregnant. It was so fun, it felt so cool.
Speaker 1: I always was aware that there's a little human being
Speaker 1: inside of me, and just watching my body grow and
Speaker 1: change was just marvelous. It was spectacular. I felt like
Speaker 1: this was the greatest joy and gift and adventure you
Speaker 1: could ever experience. And so I just was kind of
Speaker 1: in awe of the whole thing. And then once I
Speaker 1: had Sonny, I literally was so in all of the
Speaker 1: miracle of her and like the birth experience, which if
Speaker 1: y'all to know about my birth experience, listened to UM
Speaker 1: the Middle of the week mom chat that I did
Speaker 1: last week because I talked about my birth experience, but
Speaker 1: I was so in awe of the birth experience, UM
Speaker 1: the that I just I didn't care again about my body,
Speaker 1: Like I was like, my body just did so much
Speaker 1: work for me, Like wow, like we just we did it, body,
Speaker 1: We just made a human Like, holy cow, here she is.
Speaker 1: This is insane, Like how did we do this? I
Speaker 1: know I sound crazy, but this is literally how I feel.
Speaker 1: It's like, body, like you freaking rocked, Like how did
Speaker 1: we make this happen? And so to see this human
Speaker 1: being come out of my body, I was It's just wow,
Speaker 1: whoa what started off as nothing is now a human
Speaker 1: in my body out now coming out of my outside
Speaker 1: of me, and I'm just like, it's just it's just
Speaker 1: such so spectacular. I just keep you you know, I
Speaker 1: used that already, but I'm gonna loss for words. It
Speaker 1: was just this incredible event and in my life, in
Speaker 1: Michael's life, and I don't know if anything could ever
Speaker 1: compare to it. And so why on earth would I
Speaker 1: sit around and stress about up getting my body back immediately?
Speaker 1: That just did not feel like one thing I wanted
Speaker 1: to think about, because all I wanted to do was
Speaker 1: enjoy my phone's going off. I was enjoyed this season
Speaker 1: in my life because I experienced the greatest thing I'm
Speaker 1: ever going to experience my life. So like, I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna worry about getting my body back. I knew that
Speaker 1: over time I was going to slowly get back to
Speaker 1: myself because I like feeling a certain way. And after
Speaker 1: trying all those diets and having eating disorders and running
Speaker 1: the gamut of always putting myself through something to try
Speaker 1: to get this desired physical result, and I realized that
Speaker 1: didn't work, and so and then I enjoyed myself during pregnancy,
Speaker 1: and I was just like, my body knows where it
Speaker 1: feels good like, and I know the weight and the
Speaker 1: size that feels good, and it's not even a number
Speaker 1: on a scale, it's just a feeling. Like I know
Speaker 1: when I feel good in my clothes, I know when
Speaker 1: I feel good in my body. I know what over
Speaker 1: eating feels like now, and I don't like the way
Speaker 1: I feel when I over eat. And so I just
Speaker 1: pretty much new that if I don't overeat, if I
Speaker 1: start working out again, because I love to work out,
Speaker 1: not because I want to get skinny, but because I
Speaker 1: love the feeling I get when I work out, if
Speaker 1: I start just eating to the point where I'm not
Speaker 1: gorging myself, just enjoying whatever I'm feeling like I want
Speaker 1: that day, just enjoying my meal, working out slowly, working
Speaker 1: out again, bringing we got a peloton, so working in
Speaker 1: when I have time in between Sunny's naps and I
Speaker 1: don't feel exhausted from not sleeping, I'm gonna peloton. But
Speaker 1: I'm also not going to put pressure on myself like
Speaker 1: I don't have to do it every day. I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna do it when I feel energized to do it,
Speaker 1: and hopefully, over time, once I get more rested, I'll
Speaker 1: do it more often, but for now, I'm just gonna
Speaker 1: do it as best that feels, as best I can
Speaker 1: for what feels right to me now. And that's just
Speaker 1: how I'm living my life. And slowly but surely, I'm
Speaker 1: just I am feeling like myself again and I'm not
Speaker 1: stressed about it because my main goal is just being
Speaker 1: with Sunny and taking care of her. And I don't know.
Speaker 1: So that's my opinion why eating disorders don't work because
Speaker 1: I think you don't enjoy yourself. I think that you're
Speaker 1: stressed out about trying to treat achieve a certain body image,
Speaker 1: and so you completely disrespect your body. You have no
Speaker 1: appreciation for what your body is doing for you. You
Speaker 1: have no appreciation for like just literally like the miracle
Speaker 1: of breathing, of seeing, of your organs, processing food, of
Speaker 1: being able to walk, of being able to feel things,
Speaker 1: of being able to hear, of being able to enjoy.
Speaker 1: Like you completely just disrespect your entire body and everything
Speaker 1: it does for you, and the only thing you care
Speaker 1: about is physical appearance, and you miss your life. And
Speaker 1: I that's why I think diets don't work. I think
Speaker 1: truly you should eat whatever you feel like eating. Don't
Speaker 1: gorge yourself, enjoy yourself. Stop when you're full, give thanks
Speaker 1: for your meal that you're getting to enjoy, because what
Speaker 1: a blessing that you get to enjoy this meal, and
Speaker 1: some life was given for you to eat it, either
Speaker 1: a plant life or an animal life. And I know,
Speaker 1: like I struggle with not being a vegetarian because I
Speaker 1: really struggle with the meat industry. But you know, I
Speaker 1: try to eat good quality meat of animals that I
Speaker 1: feel like we're more humanely treated. But you know, I
Speaker 1: just there's so much to stress out about. So I
Speaker 1: just feel like I try to give thanks for everything
Speaker 1: that I'm putting in my body and I really try
Speaker 1: to appreciate it, and then I just don't worry. And
Speaker 1: I'm telling you it's been a relief and coming from
Speaker 1: someone who worried a long time the majority of my life,
Speaker 1: all the way through my twenties, and now I'm feeling
Speaker 1: better than ever. I just wanted to share that I
Speaker 1: hope this has felt helpful and not rambling. It's really
Speaker 1: hard for me to have a microphone by myself and
Speaker 1: just talking by myself because I know I go on
Speaker 1: rabbit trails. But anyway, that is this topic. So that
Speaker 1: is my opinion on why eating disorders don't work. Let
Speaker 1: me see if you'll have some questions for me. Um,
Speaker 1: let's see what's the fine line between eating enough and overeating.
Speaker 1: I just think that's I think that that is you
Speaker 1: have to just feel that with yourself. Like I think now,
Speaker 1: I have experienced both sides like I have. I know
Speaker 1: what overeating feels like because I feel sick, I feel full.
Speaker 1: I feel like I need a bed in my pants.
Speaker 1: I feel bloated. I feel like I don't want to
Speaker 1: go out and do anything else. I feel like I
Speaker 1: want to go to bed. I feel tired. Um, I
Speaker 1: feel yuck, yucky. I just feel like, oh god, I
Speaker 1: just want to get through this feeling. But when I
Speaker 1: don't overeat, when I enjoy my meal or enjoy food,
Speaker 1: I feel I might feel a little full, like I
Speaker 1: got little full, like a kind of uncomfortable, a tiny bit,
Speaker 1: but still feel good in my clothes. I don't feel bloated,
Speaker 1: I don't want to take a nap. I feel like
Speaker 1: I can go out and do things and not feel
Speaker 1: just like a lethargic slug. I just feel like I
Speaker 1: enjoyed what I had and then I stopped before I
Speaker 1: just was that didn't enjoy it anymore, if that makes sense,
Speaker 1: Because if you don't enjoy what you're eating, you can
Speaker 1: get to this point where you just don't enjoy it.
Speaker 1: And so I don't know. I think when you start
Speaker 1: losing enjoyment of eating, that's when you should stop. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I mean, I really don't know. This is
Speaker 1: just my opinion obviously. UM So that's that, And I
Speaker 1: hope this was helpful. And I think that someone says,
Speaker 1: why has society decided that skinny isn't it's not healthy?
Speaker 1: You know, I do think it's switching. I think was
Speaker 1: So here's my thoughts on like social media. I feel
Speaker 1: like social media can be a thing that is very
Speaker 1: um it can really can make you compare. It can
Speaker 1: really make you feel bad about yourself, Like I do
Speaker 1: see that side. But I also think social media is
Speaker 1: a way for everyone to have their own platform and
Speaker 1: to speak their own truth. And I think that there
Speaker 1: are a lot of accounts out there and people who
Speaker 1: are influencing us on social media, who are being real
Speaker 1: and talking about real life and who are promoting real bodies.
Speaker 1: And I do think society is slowly changing, just because
Speaker 1: we all have access to a platform and we all
Speaker 1: can share. And I think because of social media, people
Speaker 1: are are being a lot more honest because there's not
Speaker 1: just one media outlet you can get information from. It's
Speaker 1: not just like TV, it's not just like news, it's
Speaker 1: not um websites like now, everyone if they want to,
Speaker 1: can have their own platform and speak their own truth.
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of people are taking advantage
Speaker 1: of that. And to me, I follow only people that
Speaker 1: inspire me on social media, like I don't follow anybody
Speaker 1: that isn't inspiring to me. And so in my mind,
Speaker 1: social media is a good thing because it makes me
Speaker 1: want to be better. And I'm looking at these people
Speaker 1: who I find inspirational and I'm seeing their journeys and
Speaker 1: they're sharing with me their truth and what they're doing
Speaker 1: and what's working for them and what they love and
Speaker 1: they're being real about it, and I don't know that
Speaker 1: inspires me. So I don't really see social media as
Speaker 1: a bad thing if you use it in the right way.
Speaker 1: Same thing with dieting and food and all that. If
Speaker 1: you abuse food and use it in the wrong way,
Speaker 1: it's a negative thing. But if you embrace it and
Speaker 1: enjoy it and you know, really have fun with food.
Speaker 1: It's a great thing. So that is my two cents,
Speaker 1: and thank you all for joining me on this ramble.
Speaker 1: And I hope that you are liking this midweek mom
Speaker 1: talk so far. I'm going to keep it up and
Speaker 1: just if you have topics for me, send them on
Speaker 1: in on my Instagram. Okay, I really appreciate you guys
Speaker 1: and love y'all. And I just am doing this because
Speaker 1: I want us all to be happy, be in ourselves
Speaker 1: and to find our own worth within ourselves, because I
Speaker 1: know I struggled with that. I still struggle with that.
Speaker 1: I think everyone struggles with that. I think that it's
Speaker 1: really easy to compare yourself or to like be down
Speaker 1: on yourself and check yourself talk Like I check myself
Speaker 1: talk a lot, Like what are you saying to yourself
Speaker 1: and how are you treating yourself? Are you hard on yourself?
Speaker 1: Are you praising yourself for all the good things that
Speaker 1: you're doing or are you only looking at the flaws
Speaker 1: that you have? Because I think that we all are
Speaker 1: really spectacular and even if there's something that you visibly
Speaker 1: can't stand about yourself or say you have a insecurity
Speaker 1: about something about who you are that you find shameful.
Speaker 1: Don't focus on that because we all have that, we
Speaker 1: all have little insecurity pockets, and just don't make that
Speaker 1: the focus of who you are because that's not who
Speaker 1: you are. You are so much more. We are not
Speaker 1: our little flaws. And I hate to break it to you,
Speaker 1: the rest of the world doesn't even notice your flaw. Yes,
Speaker 1: you think, like, oh my gosh, I have this crooked
Speaker 1: nose that when everyone sees me, that's all they're looking at. No,
Speaker 1: they're not. They're looking at your beautiful, sparkling eyes. They're
Speaker 1: hearing your amazing laugh. They're like loving the way that
Speaker 1: you make them feel when you tell a story. They
Speaker 1: appreciate what a hard worker you are and what you're
Speaker 1: contributing to the world with your brain. Like I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: people are not looking at the flaw. They're not and
Speaker 1: that is something that I have learned over time. So
Speaker 1: I just want to share that, and I just want
Speaker 1: us all to know that, yes, we all are flawed,
Speaker 1: and yes we all have insecurities. So let's just go
Speaker 1: ahead and get over it. Let's just take that off
Speaker 1: the table, because we're all there, and let's go ahead
Speaker 1: and just embrace who we are and use our life
Speaker 1: and our individual talents and our desires to be the
Speaker 1: people that we're put on this earth to beat. Because
Speaker 1: this life goes fast, you guys. I don't know about
Speaker 1: you guys, but it goes fast. And people, you never
Speaker 1: know your promise tomorrow. And why are we going to
Speaker 1: sit around worrying about things that don't matter when you
Speaker 1: have this beautiful opportunity to live your life and really
Speaker 1: dive into your dreams, tap into your dreams. That's why
Speaker 1: we came here. Okay, I'm done. I love y'all. Bye,