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Speaker 1: Hi, Hi, How are you, hi, Chelsea?

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Speaker 2: You've got some interesting looking fish behind you.

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Speaker 3: I'm in Greece. I'm in Paro's, Greece with my family.

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Speaker 3: It's my sister's sixtieth birthday. So there are twelve women,

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Speaker 3: eleven women here from our family, my sisters, my nieces,

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Speaker 3: my cousins, my aunt and my Oh my god, am

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Speaker 3: I going to say, great niece.

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Speaker 4: I'm not going to say that.

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Speaker 1: We can fudge the numbers there.

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Speaker 4: It's fine, Please please fudge them.

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Speaker 1: That's wonderful. How long How long are you guys there?

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Speaker 1: How long are you going to be there?

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Speaker 4: We're on a Roman holiday.

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Speaker 3: We've been here for two days, three days, and we're

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Speaker 3: here for a full week and it's beautiful and it's

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Speaker 3: Grecian and we are eating the best food in the world,

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Speaker 3: and our family is together and without so like, there

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Speaker 3: is really nothing better than being with all the women

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Speaker 3: in your life.

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Speaker 4: Without men. I mean, there were no men that even

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Speaker 4: come to the house to like work at the house.

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Speaker 5: It's all women.

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Speaker 4: My aunt goes, do you only request female chefs? I'm like, no,

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Speaker 4: but that's a great idea.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: I was listening to some interview with a pop star

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Speaker 2: usually I'm the only woman in the room. And I

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Speaker 2: was like, you're big enough that that's your choice. So

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Speaker 2: I'm glad that you're choosing to be with all women.

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Speaker 2: Just makes things a little more peaceful.

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Speaker 4: Totally, meg and more reasonable.

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Speaker 3: Like last night, all the girls, the young girls made

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Speaker 3: dinner together and they made fish tacos and it was

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Speaker 3: Jordan and Charlie and Ella and they were all just like,

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Speaker 3: it was so cute to see these little butterflies roaming around,

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Speaker 3: like going from the outdoor kitchen to the indoor kitchen

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Speaker 3: and we're just sitting there like, you know, I'm drinking

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Speaker 3: obviously because that's what I do, and I was just

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Speaker 3: observing it. I was like, this is so sweet, you know,

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Speaker 3: watching all of the family members kind of you know, interrelate.

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Speaker 4: It's just so sweet. We have so many girls in

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Speaker 4: our family, so it's so nice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's great that like everybody seems like they

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Speaker 2: vibe really well.

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Speaker 1: And if there is any sort of you know, interpersonal.

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Speaker 4: It's me, by the way, I'm always the problem. So

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Speaker 4: I'm always the biggest problem.

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Speaker 2: Excellent, Well, I'm glad. We you know, we're all self aware.

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Speaker 2: We can take a responsibility for our stuff.

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Speaker 5: Awesome.

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Speaker 1: Well, Chelsea, you have some new dates coming up?

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Speaker 3: Yes, I'm adding some dates. Well, I'm doing Vegas on

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Speaker 3: July fifth, so.

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Speaker 5: Come to that.

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Speaker 3: And I added a couple of stand up dates to

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Speaker 3: round out the year. I'm doing Westhampton Beach August twenty first,

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Speaker 3: I'm headlining the Rochester Fringe Comedy Festival September thirteenth, and

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Speaker 3: I will be in NAPA on October third, So that's

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Speaker 3: how I'm rounding out the year. I feel slightly guilty

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Speaker 3: about being in Europe during everything that's happening in America,

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Speaker 3: but I also feel like I'm gathering my strength.

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Speaker 2: Yes, you have to like sharpen the acts before you

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Speaker 2: can go back to work.

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Speaker 1: And also like you are someone.

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Speaker 2: Because you have such a large following. It's like you

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Speaker 2: can also still be doing the work from other places

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Speaker 2: and you are.

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Speaker 4: So I think that's great.

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Speaker 5: Thanks Koth.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we have a lovely returning guest who we love today.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeh, so we love her and she has a

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Speaker 3: new special called Father out on Hulu which you all

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Speaker 3: must go watch. And you know how much we love

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Speaker 3: female comedians on this podcast, So please welcome Otsco oh Kotskott.

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Speaker 5: Chelsea, my daughter is that you?

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Speaker 4: Uh, you're my ba, You're my baby and I'm your mother.

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Speaker 5: That's all right.

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Speaker 4: I'm not your daughter.

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Speaker 3: You're my baby and my baby got a new bowl

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Speaker 3: cut because it looks very, very fresh.

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Speaker 4: Did you just cut it right now?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, she's been trimming it. She's talking about your work current,

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Speaker 5: she's so you're here here, I'll put this.

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Speaker 2: Is kurn and if you're not watching on YouTube, just

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Speaker 2: so you know, Osco's finishing up a haircut right now.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if her cut actually I thought maybe

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Speaker 3: her cut. Her hair actually just starts cutting itself when

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Speaker 5: Well, let's not talk about that, Chelsea.

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Speaker 4: I have you out of a jump.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, copy that. So there is somebody tending to it.

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Speaker 3: Okay like a gardener. Okay, got it.

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Speaker 5: I'm a yes ahead, guys, thank you, I am yeah, no,

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Speaker 5: can you believe? Yeah? This is today for I said,

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna see Chelsea, let's get that pristine cut going.

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Speaker 5: And Hi, Catherine, Hi, how are you?

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Speaker 4: Otsco? Okotska's here? Everybody?

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Speaker 3: If that took me a long time to say that

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Speaker 3: Otsko Okotska. You're gonna tell me I'm saying it wrong,

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Speaker 3: are you?

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Speaker 5: No, not at all? And it was and it was

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Speaker 5: Shell say yeah, Shelley, Actually, we love, we love. We

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Speaker 5: love a woman that's always updating herself.

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Speaker 3: You know, absolutely, I mean, yeah, there's so many seasons

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Speaker 5: It's just it's always a surprise your own body.

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Speaker 3: Now that I'm fifty, I'm like, oh god, so many

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Speaker 3: different things. Like I remember when I when I was younger,

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Speaker 3: And now as I've gotten more in shape and like

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Speaker 3: because I know you're not old.

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Speaker 4: How old are you?

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Speaker 5: I'm thirty six.

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Speaker 3: Thirty six, okay, so I'm fourteen years older than you,

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Speaker 3: And I want you to know, well, you're Asian, so

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Speaker 5: Hey, happy aging months, which is me? Happy ag Yeah,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we're recording. Yeah, what is wrying?

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Speaker 1: He's rolling for you?

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Speaker 5: Incredible? No, I was like, we're catching up so good already.

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Speaker 4: No, No, we're all we're going to use all of this.

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Speaker 3: We want our audience to know the ins and outs

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Speaker 5: I appreciate that what you just said about that aging.

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Speaker 5: I don't relate to the big boobs, to the finally

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Speaker 4: Double A since you were born pretty much.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, which is nice. I like consistency, so.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and a double A.

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Speaker 3: That's almost like you don't even have to wear a bra,

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Speaker 5: I was being humble. I just realized I'm actually a

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Speaker 4: Oh excuse me? Oh I didn't realize that. So you've

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Speaker 3: See, some people get bigger boobs as they get older.

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Speaker 5: We never. I don't think she ever was measured until

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Speaker 3: Otsco has a new special out on Hulu. It's called Father.

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Speaker 3: By the time this comes out, your special will be airing.

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Speaker 3: This is your sophomore special on Hulu and Disney It's

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Speaker 5: Well, so I do talk a little bit about reconnecting

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Speaker 5: call me mother. You know, we were talking about well,

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Speaker 4: Father, right, you know, I'm also kind of more of

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Speaker 4: A stepfather is where I come into my own you know.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, where we're like both thriving in life, but sometimes

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Speaker 4: Who but Ran is Ryan doing the laundry.

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Speaker 5: he's the one that's been doing the laundry this whole time.

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Speaker 5: We were both surprised though. It was like this devastating

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Speaker 4: And that was a surprise to you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and it alway was it a surprise to Ryan,

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Speaker 3: I believe No, No, it doesn't make sense at all,

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Speaker 3: I come to Whistler, I don't have a housekeeper here.

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Speaker 3: It couldn't be farther afield than my life in La

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Speaker 4: We're fraternal. We're fraternal from different continents.

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Speaker 5: Called no moleste if we name jokes, right, And yeah,

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Speaker 3: Literally, I remember that joke from Tig. Tig has a

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Speaker 5: Thank you. I mean, we all didn't live forty years

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Speaker 4: Right, absolutely, I understand. Ots go.

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Speaker 3: So, how has it been going with you and Ryan

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Speaker 5: So no, I don't you know that's such a big

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Speaker 4: Right, I understand that. So how has it been traveling

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Speaker 3: Like your relationship? You spend so much time with your husband.

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Speaker 5: Okay, the Scandinavians really surprised me in a pleasant way.

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Speaker 5: And because I was so worried, I said, all my

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Speaker 5: My opener did a backflip to silence during his set

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Speaker 4: That's good to know, though, That's good to know.

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Speaker 5: The Swiss? The Swiss, Oh, they were pretty lively, Actually

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, because half the places I'm going, I'm like,

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Speaker 4: I'm like, what are you fucking talking about.

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Speaker 3: I've been there people, everyone speaks English and sweet He's like,

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Speaker 5: I agree. He just he just wants to see if

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Speaker 4: I know, I know.

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Speaker 3: It's so hard for me to speak slowly. You know,

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Speaker 3: The great thing is I'll just be in one place

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Speaker 5: Oh gosh, it was it was my favorite. Yeah, one

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Speaker 4: Oh, oh yeah, of course I love that.

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm bringing Yaminika to a few of my dates.

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Speaker 3: You know, Yaminika, and she is me for Dick, So

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, the two of you together arrested Ja.

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Speaker 3: We have a real hard time together keeping our shit together.

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Speaker 3: It's one bad decision after another.

439
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Speaker 5: Yeah you are You're that White Castle movie, Harold and

440
00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:26,080
Speaker 5: Kumar Kumar. Yeah, the two of you trying to find

441
00:19:26,119 --> 00:19:28,480
Speaker 5: weed in Sweden exactly.

442
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Speaker 3: Yes, because I can't travel with drugs anymore because I've

443
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Speaker 3: talked so openly about my love for them, so I

444
00:19:34,600 --> 00:19:37,639
Speaker 3: can no longer transport them. So that leaves me with

445
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Speaker 3: having to find drugs when I get there. But luckily,

446
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Speaker 3: my reputation procedes itself, and people are very hip to

447
00:19:44,760 --> 00:19:47,639
Speaker 3: bringing as you've seen yourself, people are very hip to

448
00:19:47,680 --> 00:19:51,080
Speaker 3: bringing me drugs, and I encourage that.

449
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Speaker 5: That's where that's the only that's where our brands differ

450
00:19:53,800 --> 00:19:56,680
Speaker 5: a little bit. Where people do throw like mushrooms at

451
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Speaker 5: you from the crowd on the stage right. And then

452
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Speaker 5: for me, people show up to my shows in wigs

453
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Speaker 5: of my bull cut, so it's a little different. I'm

454
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Speaker 5: more I'm more like Mini Mouse, you know what I mean? Yeah, right, yeah, yeah,

455
00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:13,159
Speaker 5: and you're like, you're like Papa Smurf.

456
00:20:13,200 --> 00:20:15,800
Speaker 4: I'm more like Papa Smurf and you're more like Mini Mouse.

457
00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:18,840
Speaker 5: I knew it. Papas Murph was definitely a drug dealer.

458
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Speaker 3: Yeah, Okay, we're gonna take a break and we'll be

459
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Speaker 3: right back with Otsco.

460
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Speaker 4: Okotska, We're back with Otsco.

461
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Speaker 3: Okay, we're gonna take some callers. Catherine, what do we

462
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Speaker 3: what do we got in?

463
00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:34,760
Speaker 4: Yeah?

464
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Speaker 1: So this first one is a written one.

465
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Speaker 2: This is Anne Marie. She says, Dear Chelsea, I'm a

466
00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:43,760
Speaker 2: listener in the UK. I listen every week and love

467
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Speaker 2: the show. This is an off pieced topic, but one

468
00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:49,320
Speaker 2: that I'd love for you to answer. I'm a writer,

469
00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:52,520
Speaker 2: mainly TV comedy shows and more recently I turned my

470
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Speaker 2: attention to drama. I'm the same age as you, Chelsea,

471
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Speaker 2: and I want to write a show to perform myself.

472
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Speaker 2: It'll be kind of stand up. But despite my my

473
00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:03,040
Speaker 2: ability around creating a story. I don't really know where

474
00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:04,800
Speaker 2: to start with stand up. Do I just go to

475
00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:07,040
Speaker 2: a comedy club and watch and learn? Do I just

476
00:21:07,080 --> 00:21:11,159
Speaker 2: get up? My TV writing centers on complicated female dynamics,

477
00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:13,720
Speaker 2: and I'd love to expand on that. I'm not exactly

478
00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:16,639
Speaker 2: shy and retiring, but I've never done anything near stand up.

479
00:21:16,680 --> 00:21:18,800
Speaker 2: So I'd love your advice as I love your comedy

480
00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:21,120
Speaker 2: and the way you present yourself in the world. I'm

481
00:21:21,160 --> 00:21:24,720
Speaker 2: also super impressed slash envious by how you vacation, the people,

482
00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:29,840
Speaker 2: the locations, the edibles. Anyway, thank you, Anne, Marie, Oh

483
00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:30,439
Speaker 2: and Marie.

484
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Speaker 3: Well, that's easy ots go. Don't you think you got

485
00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 3: to get up on stage? First of all, you have

486
00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:37,439
Speaker 3: to just get up on stage, and you don't have

487
00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:39,639
Speaker 3: to have a huge plan. You have to have like

488
00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:43,080
Speaker 3: five minutes of an idea, like you if you have

489
00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:46,320
Speaker 3: like three or four premises. I mean, some people beat

490
00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:49,000
Speaker 3: out every single joke that they're going to tell, and

491
00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:53,520
Speaker 3: your storytelling will evolve once you start getting comfortable being

492
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Speaker 3: on stage. So I wouldn't worry about getting into the

493
00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:59,280
Speaker 3: story so much as I would be as just getting

494
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Speaker 3: staged high in front of people and exercising that muscle.

495
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Speaker 4: Have a couple of.

496
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Speaker 3: Jokes, but they don't have to be like, you don't

497
00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:10,440
Speaker 3: have to have fifteen jokes set up. You can take

498
00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:13,399
Speaker 3: your time, like connecting with the audience, doing crowd work,

499
00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:16,679
Speaker 3: asking questions, because that could spur something in you, and

500
00:22:16,720 --> 00:22:19,119
Speaker 3: that could spur a joke. You know, It's very easy

501
00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:21,320
Speaker 3: to talk to people and then get a new idea

502
00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:22,760
Speaker 3: about how to come back with something.

503
00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:25,480
Speaker 4: But the most important thing is to get on stage.

504
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:29,399
Speaker 3: Just get on stage and start getting your stage time prepare. Like,

505
00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:32,080
Speaker 3: look at this, I just got a text. My phone

506
00:22:32,119 --> 00:22:36,000
Speaker 3: just lit up, Yaminika Saunders. I swear, I swear I

507
00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:38,879
Speaker 3: watched this. This is off topic, but I want to

508
00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:41,160
Speaker 3: talk about it. I swear when you talk about people

509
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:43,919
Speaker 3: that the texts are being held in the iCloud and

510
00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:46,240
Speaker 3: then they come through when your phone here is that name,

511
00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:49,880
Speaker 3: because your phone wants you on your phone as much

512
00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:52,960
Speaker 3: as possible, so that some of these texts are just

513
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:55,320
Speaker 3: waiting and waiting and waiting, and then when you say

514
00:22:55,320 --> 00:22:57,159
Speaker 3: their name, they come up. I saw this in a

515
00:22:57,200 --> 00:22:58,679
Speaker 3: movie and I didn't believe it. I'm like, there's no

516
00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:00,960
Speaker 3: way they're holding the text, But I believe they are

517
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:02,200
Speaker 3: and today is proof.

518
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:05,080
Speaker 5: So yeah, I swear that's the real science.

519
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:07,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't you think as go don't you think you

520
00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:08,879
Speaker 3: just have to get on stage, Like what was your

521
00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:10,240
Speaker 3: first time on stage?

522
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Speaker 5: Like, yeah, for sure, getting on stage, but also watching

523
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 5: a lot of it is nice, so like, you know,

524
00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 5: go go catch Chelsea when she's in London. You know,

525
00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:21,800
Speaker 5: like watching other people and then just the way they

526
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:25,720
Speaker 5: storytell is very inspiring, you know, especially if you feel

527
00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:29,080
Speaker 5: like stuck right because then you know, just to see

528
00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:32,199
Speaker 5: someone else and how they structured together a bunch of

529
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Speaker 5: their stories or what they found interesting about their stories

530
00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 5: to make it to punch line, that's really helpful. And

531
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Speaker 5: then going on stage, you know, because just consuming other artists,

532
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:45,159
Speaker 5: I think so good, even if it's like in the

533
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:47,240
Speaker 5: back of your head and you're like, oh, I don't

534
00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:51,199
Speaker 5: know where I learned to realize the cut sounds funny

535
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:53,960
Speaker 5: or whatever. Oh, it's because I saw, you know, that

536
00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 5: comedian do it on stage and that made me laugh.

537
00:23:57,000 --> 00:23:59,480
Speaker 5: I took a stand up class, so that was how

538
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:01,919
Speaker 5: I got up on stage for the first time. So

539
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:04,360
Speaker 5: that's a little bit of a different journey.

540
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Speaker 3: I feel like, but you should map out what you're

541
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:08,640
Speaker 3: gonna say, you know, you should map out and have

542
00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 3: an idea if you're one of those people who needs

543
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:12,760
Speaker 3: like and you can take it on stage with you. You

544
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:14,359
Speaker 3: can take a piece of paper up there, don't be

545
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:17,000
Speaker 3: shy about that to look and see. You know, sometimes

546
00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 3: with all that adrenaline you can kind of forget a

547
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 3: couple of things that you want to say, but have

548
00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:22,760
Speaker 3: a plan of what you're gonna do when you get

549
00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:24,920
Speaker 3: up there, and it can be a story, it can

550
00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:28,400
Speaker 3: be jokes, but like just start to just use that

551
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,639
Speaker 3: as a way to get comfortable on stage so that

552
00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:34,159
Speaker 3: then when you have longer periods of time to be

553
00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:37,119
Speaker 3: on stage, that's where the storytelling can come in. But

554
00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 3: I would treat the initial time as just like an introduction,

555
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 3: you know, to stand up and to have a couple

556
00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:46,680
Speaker 3: of good jokes that you're willing to tell and try

557
00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:48,959
Speaker 3: and do some crowd work, because some people don't even

558
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:50,359
Speaker 3: know they're good at crowd work, and so they do

559
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 3: it for the first time and then it's great. If

560
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:56,080
Speaker 3: you're scared of it, then try it once and see

561
00:24:56,080 --> 00:24:57,880
Speaker 3: if you like it. You might not be scared of it,

562
00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:00,679
Speaker 3: but definitely just put the hours in you know you

563
00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 3: need the hours to get comfortable with something right.

564
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Speaker 1: Well, our next question comes from Alex. She is calling in.

565
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Speaker 2: She's thirty three, so the subject line is tips to

566
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:15,440
Speaker 2: avoid identity crisis after quitting your dream job. Hey, Chelsea,

567
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 2: I took a gummy before writing this, so bear with me.

568
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:21,879
Speaker 2: I was an annoying overachiever my whole life. Double major

569
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Speaker 2: in college, graduated cum laudie while working the whole time,

570
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Speaker 2: straight to law school, graduated with honors, passed the bar

571
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:30,520
Speaker 2: exam first time, and got hired at what I thought

572
00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 2: was my dream job at twenty five.

573
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Speaker 1: Blah blah blah, gross.

574
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:36,359
Speaker 2: I have wanted to be a public defender since the

575
00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:38,880
Speaker 2: moment I found out the job existed, and I started

576
00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:41,840
Speaker 2: interning at my local public defender's office when I was nineteen.

577
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:44,879
Speaker 2: Everything I know and love came from this office. I

578
00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:47,760
Speaker 2: met my husband here, many of my closest friends. I

579
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:51,040
Speaker 2: got my insane rescue dog from one of our unhoused clients, etc.

580
00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 5: Etc.

581
00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:55,600
Speaker 2: However, these last two years and full time mental health rotation,

582
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Speaker 2: I'll spare you the details unless you're truly thirsty. Reached

583
00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:02,160
Speaker 2: critical mass, extreme burnout. I was a pin prick away

584
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:04,800
Speaker 2: from sobbing or screaming in your face at any time

585
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:09,120
Speaker 2: I was so emotionally exhausted. After lots of overthinking, doubting,

586
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:11,880
Speaker 2: self hatred over the last several months, I finally made

587
00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:16,560
Speaker 2: the brave, correct decision and quit. I'm thirty three and unemployed.

588
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 2: My heart rate spiked just typing that out. But I'm

589
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:21,880
Speaker 2: calling it a sabbatical to avoid a few panic attacks

590
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 2: if I can. My therapist and I agreed, I'm taking

591
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Speaker 2: three months off. The first month to truly rest, the

592
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 2: next month to get the juices flowing for what the

593
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:31,639
Speaker 2: next chapter will look like, and the third month to

594
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Speaker 2: execute on those ideas. I'm very confident in the decision

595
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:38,120
Speaker 2: I made, but shitting bricks over the next chapter. How

596
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Speaker 2: do I handle these next three months as I figure

597
00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:42,320
Speaker 2: out the direction I'm going to go? Because when I

598
00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 2: was twenty five, I thought this was my endgame. And

599
00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:47,320
Speaker 2: I know that sounds naivestits, but I believe that to

600
00:26:47,359 --> 00:26:50,680
Speaker 2: my bones it was my identity. How do I best

601
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 2: spend this time disentangling from the job, the job, from

602
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:57,160
Speaker 2: my identity and being okay with it signed while trying

603
00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:59,359
Speaker 2: not to increase my SSRI dosage.

604
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Speaker 3: Alex Oh, Alex, you're fucking crushing it. First of all,

605
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:06,160
Speaker 3: what are you talking about. You may have all these

606
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 3: great decisions for your own mental health. You got out

607
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:10,880
Speaker 3: of a job that you thought was your dream job

608
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 3: that proved to be mentally debilitating to you and mentally

609
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 3: harmful to your health.

610
00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 4: Like that is amazing.

611
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 3: Now you have a whole and you're thirty three, you

612
00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:22,520
Speaker 3: have your whole life ahead of you to do phase two.

613
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:25,440
Speaker 3: Like you're an example to so many people that are

614
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 3: in jobs that they hate to actually walk away.

615
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 4: I think you're already on the right track.

616
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Speaker 3: Everything you said is great, Like, of course there's gonna

617
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 3: be some anxiety about what you're gonna do next, but

618
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:39,000
Speaker 3: you should also trust in the fact that you just

619
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,880
Speaker 3: got yourself out of a situation that was harmful to you.

620
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:44,360
Speaker 3: So you are the best person to take care of yourself,

621
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 3: which means you're gonna get to the place that you're

622
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 3: going and you're going to figure out what that next

623
00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:52,080
Speaker 3: step is in a natural amount of time. You're giving

624
00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:54,239
Speaker 3: yourself a month to do this, a month to do that.

625
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 3: These are all amazing things, Like you don't even need

626
00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:58,200
Speaker 3: any advice from me, Hotsco.

627
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 4: You could probably give Osco summed, do you need advice?

628
00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:04,240
Speaker 5: Help me out?

629
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 6: Yeah?

630
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:06,480
Speaker 5: I'm like, I have to keep this bowl cup forever.

631
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:09,360
Speaker 5: Speaking of an identity crisis, I'm like, can I ever

632
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:12,119
Speaker 5: grow my hair out ever? Again? What happens if I

633
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 5: lose my hairstylist friend? You know, to other clients, what

634
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:16,159
Speaker 5: am I going to do?

635
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:16,600
Speaker 6: No?

636
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,400
Speaker 5: But for real you it's it's kind of like a divorce.

637
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:21,880
Speaker 5: Whenever someone's reached a point of having to do that,

638
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:24,199
Speaker 5: it's because it needed to be done. Yeah, and so

639
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:28,000
Speaker 5: this realization is badass. I would just say, like, I

640
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:30,119
Speaker 5: would just say, clock the moments of joy that you

641
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:33,440
Speaker 5: feel when you're trying different things and different and then

642
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 5: you go okay, So that's a that's what I like.

643
00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:39,400
Speaker 5: It's good to start to realize what you do like

644
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 5: now you know. And so that's all because you knew

645
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,680
Speaker 5: what you didn't like. Yeah, so that's I guess.

646
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,560
Speaker 7: It's it's also knowing how much rest is like too

647
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:49,760
Speaker 7: much rest. I've never rested in my life. My parents

648
00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 7: are immigrants. Let's go a huge fan. I know you

649
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:56,080
Speaker 7: can relate to this. Productivity is beaten into your head

650
00:28:56,120 --> 00:29:00,120
Speaker 7: with a bat. So the idea of not doing any

651
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 7: thing because I have to and there's an expectation on

652
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 7: the other side. But just resting is a very foreign concept.

653
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 7: So I guess balancing what is rest and healing versus

654
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:12,200
Speaker 7: what is productive steps to be taking because I still

655
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Speaker 7: have to work at some point, Like I'm only thirty three,

656
00:29:14,080 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 7: Guys still have to actually make money.

657
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 6: Have you guys taken time like this before in your lives?

658
00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:19,120
Speaker 4: Yes?

659
00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:19,520
Speaker 5: I have.

660
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 4: I have all the time.

661
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 3: I look at that rest as like filling up my bank,

662
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 3: do you know what I mean? Like my emotional well being,

663
00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 3: Like I have burnt out so many times in my life,

664
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 3: and now I understand the balance, Like I understand that

665
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 3: the rest is as important as the work. The play

666
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 3: and the vacation is as important as the work. And

667
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 3: so just because you're not doing anything for a month,

668
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 3: like yeah, if you're not doing anything for six months,

669
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 3: that's a different story. If you say, Okay, I'm assigning

670
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 3: this month to resting and decompressing so that I can

671
00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 3: get focused and get re energized. And you know, get

672
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 3: I almost said get fucked. Maybe you need to get

673
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 3: fucked too. But all of these things, like fill yourself

674
00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 3: up with all of the stuff that you're are going

675
00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 3: to need to get you to that next phase, which

676
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 3: is going to be a more productive phase of actually

677
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 3: thinking about where you want to go in your career,

678
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:10,040
Speaker 3: what the next steps are. I think you're completely healthy

679
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:12,120
Speaker 3: and you know what you're doing. You're breaking a cycle.

680
00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:14,720
Speaker 3: You're talking about your parents coming to this country and

681
00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:17,040
Speaker 3: this work ethic, which is of course immigrants have. You know,

682
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 3: you come to America and you want to be successful,

683
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 3: so you can't really blame people for doing that. But

684
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:25,120
Speaker 3: you don't need to be working all the time. You

685
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 3: need to be like mentally healthy and then your work

686
00:30:28,120 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 3: can be joyful. You know, you want to be able

687
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 3: to put everything positive into your work. So I totally

688
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:34,720
Speaker 3: think everything.

689
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:35,640
Speaker 4: You're doing is just spot on.

690
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 2: Thanks Alex, Can I ask what are some of the

691
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 2: things that you're doing in this period of active rest,

692
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 2: Like are you going outside?

693
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Speaker 1: Are you meditate? Like what sort of in your day

694
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Speaker 1: to day?

695
00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:47,680
Speaker 7: So it's actually really funny. So I walk the dog

696
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 7: more than he's everyone walked in his entire life. I

697
00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 7: am reading all of the nerdy, romanticy books that I've

698
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 7: never had time to read before and making no apologies

699
00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 7: for it. Like my husband comes home, and I've been

700
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:01,720
Speaker 7: on the CA for eight and a half hours, and

701
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:04,600
Speaker 7: I'm very I'm journaling and taking a lot of gummies

702
00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 7: because it helps me med it like it helps you

703
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 7: be creative, and.

704
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:10,360
Speaker 5: I'm with you.

705
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 6: So I'm journaling a lot.

706
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:15,840
Speaker 7: And there's a huge scary part of me that realizes

707
00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 7: that maybe I don't even want to be a lawyer,

708
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 7: which is a bummer because I spent so much time

709
00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 7: and energy and money towards this education and I feel

710
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:25,720
Speaker 7: like I gained the skill set of not having any

711
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 7: fear of public speaking, not being afraid of grumpy old

712
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 7: white men yelling at me because they did that every

713
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 7: day in a robe like that doesn't scare me in

714
00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:33,479
Speaker 7: any field.

715
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 6: And I really like to write.

716
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 7: So there's a huge part of me that wants to

717
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 7: take a risk, even in that direction and something that's

718
00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:43,400
Speaker 7: not adjacent to my education at all.

719
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Speaker 2: Well, and as a person who like everyone in my

720
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:49,320
Speaker 2: family is a lawyer except for me, I can say, like,

721
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 2: there are a lot of ways to use your law

722
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 2: degree that like do not involve going to court, that

723
00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 2: don't involve sort of like a traditional sort of like

724
00:31:57,000 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 2: legal profession as we think about it, but also like, yeah,

725
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:03,160
Speaker 2: you have the freedom now to like reconsider. Maybe you

726
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,120
Speaker 2: use it again in fifteen years when you want to

727
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 2: do something different.

728
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Speaker 1: You know what I mean.

729
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 2: It's you know, it doesn't mean that that's a wasted experience.

730
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Speaker 2: And like you said, you've gained all these other tools

731
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Speaker 2: in your toolbox.

732
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Speaker 3: My sister was an attorney, hated it, hated working for

733
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:18,040
Speaker 3: a law firm, quit that and got a job for

734
00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 3: this health company where she was writing.

735
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Speaker 4: She was as a lawyer writing all.

736
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Speaker 3: Of like the healthcare laws, like helping to create the

737
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Speaker 3: healthcare laws around it. So she kind of switched because

738
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:31,320
Speaker 3: she was like I hate this, I hate defending people,

739
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 3: I hate like this kind of litigation aspect. She's like,

740
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:36,160
Speaker 3: I'm going to take this healthcare degree and turn it

741
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:38,960
Speaker 3: into something else where she can use her other skill sets,

742
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 3: which is writing and editing and all of that stuff.

743
00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 3: So she's kind of made a different career out of

744
00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:46,240
Speaker 3: being a healthcare attorney. And you can do the same thing.

745
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 3: You just have to find out what drives you and

746
00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 3: what moves you, and and your degree is going to

747
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 3: help you in many ways. Yes, I mean you just

748
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 3: listed a bunch of them, so like you should be

749
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:56,480
Speaker 3: doing a podcast where you're giving advice to people.

750
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're so mucky. Maybe that's your next marriage.

751
00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:03,640
Speaker 7: Maybe that's yeah, the landmark of the overconfident only daughter.

752
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, right, dear Alex, there's no reason.

753
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Speaker 5: Yeah, leave it to Chelsea to try to put you

754
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:13,440
Speaker 5: back to work. She just said she needed rest. Chelsea. Okay,

755
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:17,240
Speaker 5: she's like, oh, you start a podcast, come up with merch.

756
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:20,080
Speaker 5: I love it.

757
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:21,000
Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much.

758
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 4: Thank I take care, Alex, thank you, I'll take care.

759
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:26,680
Speaker 4: Well that was fucking easy. Yeah.

760
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 3: I know that girl was already doing everything that she

761
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 3: needed to be told.

762
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Speaker 5: I do.

763
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Speaker 1: She's doing great.

764
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Speaker 2: And you know, we don't think of like taking these

765
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Speaker 2: periods of rest as like rest is part of the work,

766
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Speaker 2: like you said, Chelsea, Like, we don't think of it

767
00:33:39,320 --> 00:33:41,000
Speaker 2: that way, but I think it's important to think of

768
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:41,520
Speaker 2: it that way.

769
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, no, I do. I'm a big proponent of that.

770
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Speaker 3: I mean, how do you feel about that? Ots go,

771
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 3: do you guys get do you guys get rest? Do

772
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Speaker 3: you actually rest?

773
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Speaker 5: You said you found the balance of work and play.

774
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Speaker 5: I'm still finding that. But I think it's because if

775
00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 5: you're really into work and you're as fraid to like

776
00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:03,480
Speaker 5: rest too long. You can totally schedule it in. You

777
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 5: can put it in a calendar, you know what I mean,

778
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:09,440
Speaker 5: so that you know, oh, this week is for play

779
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:11,840
Speaker 5: and then next week is for work. So if you

780
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:14,759
Speaker 5: feel anxiety about playing too hard, then you can do that,

781
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 5: you know, just like I think you can schedule in

782
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Speaker 5: six I'm a big, you.

783
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 3: Know, scheduler of sex. I actually scheduled the sex between

784
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 3: you and Ryan. I don't know if you knew that,

785
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:24,880
Speaker 3: but I actually am the one that puts that on

786
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 3: your calendar.

787
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Speaker 1: It's in Chelsea for seven years.

788
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Speaker 5: Yeah, no wonder. I was like, wow, it's very frequent

789
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Speaker 5: this month for some reason.

790
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Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, I decided to step things up this month. Specifically,

791
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:36,359
Speaker 3: I said, we need to work.

792
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:40,080
Speaker 5: Who's making us do it from eight am to eight pm? Yours?

793
00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:40,480
Speaker 4: Surely?

794
00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 5: Thank you well.

795
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Speaker 2: Our next color is Sarah. She's as dear Chelsea. I've

796
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 2: been in my husband's family for almost fifteen years and

797
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 2: recently had a falling out with my sister in law,

798
00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:54,919
Speaker 2: my husband's brother's wife. She's been icing me out ever

799
00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:57,839
Speaker 2: since I found out. She had the whole family over

800
00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:00,120
Speaker 2: for our niece's birthday and my husband and I I

801
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:03,320
Speaker 2: were not invited. In her words, it wasn't a quote

802
00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:06,400
Speaker 2: party but a quote drop by with cake and gifts.

803
00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:09,640
Speaker 2: I can accept this, but the problem is now my

804
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:11,520
Speaker 2: sister in law will not speak to me at family

805
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 2: events or text me back ever since I expressed my

806
00:35:13,800 --> 00:35:17,399
Speaker 2: hurt at not being invited. My biggest concern is she's

807
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 2: the aunt to my two children and continues to fawn

808
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 2: over them while ignoring me at family events. I was

809
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 2: in her wedding, yet I feel as though I'm being

810
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:27,840
Speaker 2: treated as a complete stranger. I've kept my side of

811
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:29,839
Speaker 2: the street clean by reaching out to her, and she

812
00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 2: continues to talk to members of my husband's family, but

813
00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:35,319
Speaker 2: not directly to me about what she's upset about. I

814
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:37,640
Speaker 2: need a real bitch's advice on how to move forward

815
00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:40,240
Speaker 2: from this. Do I humble myself and try to discuss

816
00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 2: the miscommunication again or does act like nothing happened. We've

817
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:46,080
Speaker 2: been closed for eight years, so this is quite the

818
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:47,680
Speaker 2: proverbial slap in the face.

819
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Speaker 5: Help.

820
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Speaker 3: Sarah, Hi Sarah Oh, Hi Hi otsco Okotska's our special

821
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 3: guest today.

822
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Speaker 4: Hello, Hi, Hi, So what was the falling out? What happened?

823
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Speaker 6: So the actual falling out was like, it was her

824
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:07,960
Speaker 6: daughter's birthday, and we had been texting like that morning.

825
00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:10,719
Speaker 6: I had given her a gift earlier on in the week,

826
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Speaker 6: like to give to her daughter, because I knew I

827
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:14,520
Speaker 6: wasn't going to see her on her birthday, because she

828
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Speaker 6: was like, you know, well we're going out of town

829
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Speaker 6: and all this stuff. So then the morning of her birthday,

830
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Speaker 6: she actually sent me like, I sent her a video

831
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Speaker 6: from my daughter who's her cousin, saying, you know, happy birthday,

832
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Speaker 6: hope you have a great day. And then she sent

833
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Speaker 6: a video back of like the whole family singing happy

834
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Speaker 6: birthday to her daughter. There was a cake, you know,

835
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Speaker 6: there were the president, the president I had given her

836
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Speaker 6: like earlier that week, and they were all like singing,

837
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Speaker 6: and I was like, so everyone was invited. So I

838
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 6: responded and I said.

839
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Speaker 3: Wait a second, I'm sorry, hold on back up. You

840
00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:50,120
Speaker 3: gave her a gift because you weren't going to be

841
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 3: able to see her on her birthday exactly, and then

842
00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 3: she had a birthday party on her birthday.

843
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Speaker 6: Yes, But when I said that, my feelings were hurt

844
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Speaker 6: because we lived three minutes away, literally right up the road.

845
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Speaker 3: But how did you know you weren't going to see

846
00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:04,360
Speaker 3: her on your birthday, her birthday.

847
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Speaker 6: Because she said that they were going out of town,

848
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 6: like she her and you know, her daughter and her

849
00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 6: husband were going out of town, and she was like, well,

850
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 6: we're just going on our trip, you know, for our

851
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:18,439
Speaker 6: daughter's birthday. So you know, thanks for giving me the gift, now,

852
00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 6: you know. And so I felt like it was kind

853
00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:23,319
Speaker 6: of omitted. But so then when I expressed that, I

854
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 6: was like her, you know, by not being invited because

855
00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:27,719
Speaker 6: she sent me that video. So I was like, this

856
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:31,640
Speaker 6: is kind of like really strange, right, I said, you know,

857
00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:34,239
Speaker 6: I'm hurt that, like, you know, we weren't invited because

858
00:37:34,239 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 6: we lived right up the road. And then she didn't

859
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:37,799
Speaker 6: talk to me after that.

860
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Speaker 4: All that was the falling out. That there was no

861
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:45,920
Speaker 4: prior falling out. Oh yes, that's confusing.

862
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:48,920
Speaker 6: Isn't a falling out? Like what is it? No?

863
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:51,640
Speaker 3: I I would the way I listened to your letter,

864
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:53,799
Speaker 3: I thought I heard that you guys had a falling out,

865
00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 3: and then this was like the aftermath of the falling out.

866
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:57,880
Speaker 4: So this is the actual incident.

867
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Speaker 3: What does your husband does any one in the family,

868
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,920
Speaker 3: has anyone conveyed to you what the issue is or

869
00:38:04,160 --> 00:38:05,680
Speaker 3: why she didn't invite.

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Speaker 6: You or no, I was never really given a conversation

871
00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 6: because she just didn't talk to me after that. So

872
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:13,600
Speaker 6: it was in a message with her and her husband,

873
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 6: and he did say right away, he was like, oh, sorry,

874
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:19,480
Speaker 6: we didn't mean to exclude you, but she was like

875
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:23,800
Speaker 6: radio silent. So I was like, was it something else

876
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:24,600
Speaker 6: that happened.

877
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:26,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, it sounds like something else happened that you're not

878
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,440
Speaker 3: aware of. So I would reach out to her again,

879
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:32,239
Speaker 3: first of all, your family members, so like, it's not

880
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:35,799
Speaker 3: really helpful to not be speaking, especially when you don't

881
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 3: know what happened. So maybe you did something that you

882
00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:40,320
Speaker 3: don't realize that hurt her feelings.

883
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:41,440
Speaker 4: And I would start with that.

884
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 3: I would send her a text or an email or

885
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 3: whatever's like the best way to contact her and just

886
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:48,279
Speaker 3: say I'm sorry, so sorry. I don't know did I

887
00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:52,320
Speaker 3: do something to hurt you, because it feels like I did,

888
00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:55,480
Speaker 3: and I want to make sure that I'm fully accountable,

889
00:38:55,560 --> 00:38:58,879
Speaker 3: like totally, just be the bigger person and ask her

890
00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:01,319
Speaker 3: why she's upset with you, Like you're not responding to

891
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:01,760
Speaker 3: my text.

892
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:04,160
Speaker 4: We've been friends for eight years. This is very strange.

893
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 3: Please feel free to tell me if I've done something

894
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 3: to hurt your feelings.

895
00:39:07,560 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 6: Yeah, hands down, like good old fashioned communication.

896
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:12,759
Speaker 3: Right, absolutely, You're part of the same family, so as

897
00:39:12,800 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 3: long as there's not some huge rift like this should

898
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:17,360
Speaker 3: be fixable, right.

899
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:21,120
Speaker 6: I totally agree, Oh fantastic, you're the best.

900
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 4: Well, I mean it's pretty obvious advice, no offense.

901
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:26,480
Speaker 6: Freaking obvious. But you know what it's been creating, like

902
00:39:26,560 --> 00:39:28,279
Speaker 6: just so much awkwardness, you know.

903
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:30,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, right.

904
00:39:30,800 --> 00:39:33,240
Speaker 6: It tends like we have a lot of family events,

905
00:39:33,320 --> 00:39:36,759
Speaker 6: you know, together we all close, and then like, you know,

906
00:39:36,840 --> 00:39:39,480
Speaker 6: I'll go to these events and like recently she started

907
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:41,680
Speaker 6: kind of being like hey, you know, like maybe that's

908
00:39:41,719 --> 00:39:43,360
Speaker 6: her way of trying to get a little closer. But

909
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:45,319
Speaker 6: then she still will not text. And this is like

910
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:48,759
Speaker 6: going from us texting multiple times a week. You know,

911
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:50,919
Speaker 6: our kids are going to the same daycare, like going

912
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 6: to exercise classes together too, you know. Now she'll talk

913
00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 6: to me at the events every now and again, like

914
00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:57,759
Speaker 6: she'll be like oh hey, like at least a high

915
00:39:58,520 --> 00:40:02,279
Speaker 6: but still like no text, no personal contact. So I'm like,

916
00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 6: I wonder if she's trying to just like show face

917
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:05,360
Speaker 6: for like the in laws and stuff.

918
00:40:05,840 --> 00:40:08,360
Speaker 2: I wonder if this is a like to pull her

919
00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:11,239
Speaker 2: aside at one of the family events sort of thing

920
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:12,959
Speaker 2: and like get her face to face, because I feel

921
00:40:12,960 --> 00:40:15,080
Speaker 2: like sometimes when people are being weird like this, if

922
00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:17,080
Speaker 2: you actually just like address it to their face, they'll

923
00:40:17,120 --> 00:40:19,239
Speaker 2: like totally back down like oh no, no, there's like

924
00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:21,319
Speaker 2: nothing weird, and then it's like, well, they do sort

925
00:40:21,360 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 2: of have to stick to their guns a little bit more,

926
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:25,680
Speaker 2: Whereas via text, like she might give you like a

927
00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:27,840
Speaker 2: one word like I'm fine, everything's fine or whatever, and

928
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 2: then continue to be a weirdo s.

929
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:32,319
Speaker 6: Right, like humanize myself a little bit.

930
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I would say that's right.

931
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 3: I would say to do it in person so that

932
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 3: she can't just not respond, because then it's just more

933
00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:40,680
Speaker 3: of the same. It's so weird to not respond, but

934
00:40:40,800 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 3: something must have happened that you're not aware of.

935
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, you're right, you know. And I'm like I've been

936
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:48,640
Speaker 6: overthinking it going through it, like I'm like, what could

937
00:40:48,680 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 6: this possibly be? You know. I thought of addressing it

938
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:53,680
Speaker 6: with my mother in law myself, because she's one of

939
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:55,799
Speaker 6: the people that she's been talking to, you know, like

940
00:40:55,840 --> 00:40:58,839
Speaker 6: about my mother in law is super cool, like she

941
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 6: I know that you'd be open to a conversation, but

942
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:03,279
Speaker 6: I don't want to open it up to that, you know,

943
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:06,040
Speaker 6: Like I thought I was being the better person initially

944
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:07,920
Speaker 6: by not doing that. Like I was like, this is

945
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:11,399
Speaker 6: between her and I, like, let's just knock it out.

946
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 6: But I think an in person conversation would have been better.

947
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 6: I just thought maybe she needed space, Like I didn't know,

948
00:41:18,160 --> 00:41:20,120
Speaker 6: really you know, how to approach it, because this has

949
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:23,399
Speaker 6: never happened to me before, especially in my tight knit group.

950
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:25,480
Speaker 6: You know, your rider dies, right, so this is like

951
00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 6: totally crazy.

952
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:31,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say, like, yeah, tug to her in person.

953
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 2: If she's still it's sort of like then she has

954
00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:35,600
Speaker 2: to either commit to like no, everything's fine, or like

955
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:37,879
Speaker 2: if she keeps acting weird after that, then you got

956
00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 2: to address it again and be like, all right, what's

957
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 2: the deeper thing here?

958
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:42,520
Speaker 1: Is there anything? And then if she.

959
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:44,839
Speaker 2: Keeps being weird, just I guess just let her be

960
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:47,080
Speaker 2: kind of weird, you know, like you don't necessarily have

961
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:49,400
Speaker 2: to be talking to her the entire time of family

962
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 2: events sort of thing, but just know that, you know,

963
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:53,239
Speaker 2: you're still keeping your side of the street clean.

964
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:56,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, because if you ask her what's up,

965
00:41:56,360 --> 00:41:58,640
Speaker 3: and she hasn't and she's like there's nothing, nothing wrong.

966
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 3: Then you're like, okay, fine, I tried whatever, Like I

967
00:42:02,160 --> 00:42:03,480
Speaker 3: don't know what to do with you. I don't know

968
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:04,879
Speaker 3: what happened. You're not going to tell me the truth,

969
00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 3: and there's nothing else you could do.

970
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:08,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, and hopefully she will change her tune, you know, I.

971
00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:10,880
Speaker 6: Hope so, I mean, because yeah, I feel like I've

972
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:12,400
Speaker 6: always been a good friend. Like I did like a

973
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:14,839
Speaker 6: speech at her wedding because her like sister didn't want

974
00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:17,680
Speaker 6: to do it, stuff like that, whatever, But there hasn't

975
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:19,839
Speaker 6: been anything I can think of that was just like, oh,

976
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 6: I really like pissed her off.

977
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:21,400
Speaker 5: You know.

978
00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:25,160
Speaker 6: It was like just I feel maybe she I don't know,

979
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:27,359
Speaker 6: I've like been going around like you're pulling back for

980
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:28,359
Speaker 6: a while, like.

981
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 3: They hit it straight on, and then you know, if

982
00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:32,680
Speaker 3: you don't get the answer, you like, then wait a

983
00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 3: little bit and then talk to her mother, your mother

984
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:36,439
Speaker 3: in law, and be like listen, I don't know what's

985
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:38,800
Speaker 3: going on here, but this isn't like a healthy dynamic,

986
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:40,960
Speaker 3: like we all have kids. I want to be friends.

987
00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 3: I don't understand what happened. I asked her what happened.

988
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:45,279
Speaker 3: She won't tell me, So how can I you know

989
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 3: what I mean, but start with her and just be

990
00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:50,919
Speaker 3: be direct so that she has to answer.

991
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:53,319
Speaker 6: You totally and like, and I'm okay with not being

992
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:56,880
Speaker 6: like bestie sister in law's too. We've been friends for

993
00:42:56,920 --> 00:42:58,799
Speaker 6: a long time. But I'm like, it's all right if

994
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:01,120
Speaker 6: if that's what it's going to be, you know, us

995
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:03,080
Speaker 6: just seeing each other at the family events.

996
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 4: It's just there was no I.

997
00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 6: Guess that would be a weird conversation for her to

998
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:09,319
Speaker 6: have with me, to be like, hey, I don't want

999
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:12,640
Speaker 6: to be as close as we are, you know, like, but.

1000
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:17,359
Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe that is it, But that seems a little odd.

1001
00:43:17,120 --> 00:43:18,359
Speaker 6: Weird way to go about it, right.

1002
00:43:18,480 --> 00:43:20,360
Speaker 2: Will you check in with us after you guys have

1003
00:43:20,400 --> 00:43:22,320
Speaker 2: a conversation, let us know if things get better?

1004
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 4: Absolutely right, Okay, Well, good luck, thanks Sarah.

1005
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 6: Good luck, bye bye, Thanks bye, let's go.

1006
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:31,879
Speaker 3: You don't have a sister in law, right, de Ryan

1007
00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 3: doesn't have siblings, or does he?

1008
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:36,319
Speaker 5: He does? He has too. Yeah, and so that's still

1009
00:43:36,360 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 5: a newer dynamic for me too to learn, you know. Yeah,

1010
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 5: because it's like they are relatives, but they kind of

1011
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:46,480
Speaker 5: are not, you know, and so it's like how much.

1012
00:43:46,360 --> 00:43:49,840
Speaker 4: Well they are your relatives cots go. First of all, they.

1013
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:52,879
Speaker 5: Are I know, they're like listening, They're like, excuse me,

1014
00:43:53,160 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 5: what are we? And I'm like, are you friends?

1015
00:43:55,239 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 1: Now you're gonna be fighting with your sisters?

1016
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:56,879
Speaker 3: Ima.

1017
00:43:57,320 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 5: I had a small family growing up, so I'm like, okay,

1018
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:02,640
Speaker 5: I guess it's new. I'm still learning this chosen family

1019
00:44:02,800 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 5: versus regular family thing, you know, because I married Ryan

1020
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 5: and then suddenly I'm an aunt too, right, So that's

1021
00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:12,520
Speaker 5: a lot to figure out. It's like, whoa, maybe I'm

1022
00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:14,919
Speaker 5: not good at being an aunt and I'm okay, I'm

1023
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:15,640
Speaker 5: not great.

1024
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:17,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, but you know what, you can always improve on

1025
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:18,840
Speaker 4: your aunting skills.

1026
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:21,759
Speaker 3: It's a new role. So you know, like I don't know,

1027
00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 3: being an ant is kind of the best of both worlds.

1028
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:26,480
Speaker 3: You get to be an aunt and with no responsibility, you.

1029
00:44:26,400 --> 00:44:26,919
Speaker 4: Know what I mean.

1030
00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:29,399
Speaker 3: You get to just be like a fun infuser, which

1031
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:31,759
Speaker 3: is I take Yeah, I take a lot of joy

1032
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:34,200
Speaker 3: in that, and especially I take a lot of joy

1033
00:44:34,239 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 3: when things get serious. It's like get the fuck out

1034
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 3: of here, you know, Like, if you've got real problems,

1035
00:44:38,719 --> 00:44:39,720
Speaker 3: go talk to your parents.

1036
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:42,799
Speaker 5: No it's true. I know you love it. Yeah, I'm

1037
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 5: just I'm always trying. I'm still not completely me around them.

1038
00:44:46,080 --> 00:44:49,239
Speaker 5: I think when I can I see yeah, yeah, because

1039
00:44:49,280 --> 00:44:51,320
Speaker 5: I'm like still getting to know the sister in laws.

1040
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:54,719
Speaker 5: So I'm I'm like, yes, you know, I will not

1041
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 5: curse around you, and yes, I you know I will

1042
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:05,440
Speaker 5: give you money. And I'm like, god, I'm going, oh.

1043
00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:06,279
Speaker 3: A great setup. I won't curse around you and I

1044
00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:07,640
Speaker 3: have to pay you perfect.

1045
00:45:08,000 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 5: Oh my god. Yeah, I'm like, what am I in

1046
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:10,760
Speaker 5: a church?

1047
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:12,640
Speaker 2: Maybe you should start swearing and then you can put

1048
00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:14,080
Speaker 2: money in a tip jar or in a zag.

1049
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:16,880
Speaker 4: Every time you swear, you get to give them a dollar.

1050
00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:17,279
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1051
00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:18,839
Speaker 4: Okay, we're gonna take a break and we'll be right

1052
00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:19,520
Speaker 4: back with Otsco.

1053
00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 3: And we're back with Otsko Okotska, who's got a new

1054
00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:30,080
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1055
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:33,239
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1056
00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 3: it is her sophomore special. Okay, what else do we got?

1057
00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:38,239
Speaker 3: What do we have to wrap things up today?

1058
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:42,919
Speaker 2: I have one quickie to wrap up with, Abby, says

1059
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:46,360
Speaker 2: dear Chelsea. I have a close friend that has recently

1060
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:49,240
Speaker 2: started sending me voice recordings of her singing.

1061
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 1: Oh, she sings, she sings.

1062
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:54,800
Speaker 2: Beautifully, but her boyfriend doesn't really care to hear her sing.

1063
00:45:54,840 --> 00:45:56,919
Speaker 2: So I think I'm the only one getting these, which

1064
00:45:56,960 --> 00:45:59,400
Speaker 2: makes me sad. I don't ever listen to them and

1065
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:03,440
Speaker 2: their entire sometimes not at all. How do I respond

1066
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 2: in a text to the constant voice recording messages? Or

1067
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 2: should I even respond?

1068
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:08,760
Speaker 1: Abby?

1069
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:10,000
Speaker 5: Wow?

1070
00:46:10,719 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 4: Yeah wow.

1071
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 5: This is a very specific, very specific, very specific incident

1072
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:17,279
Speaker 5: and very specific.

1073
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:23,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it is like text etiquette, it's evolving, well etiquette.

1074
00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 3: I mean the etiquette is blown out the window by

1075
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:27,399
Speaker 3: the person recording songs and sending them to.

1076
00:46:27,360 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 4: Her fucking friend. Who does that?

1077
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I guess somebody who has a boyfriend

1078
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 3: that won't listen to her singing, which is another problem

1079
00:46:34,719 --> 00:46:35,200
Speaker 3: that she has.

1080
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:36,279
Speaker 4: I would just.

1081
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:39,600
Speaker 3: Write, honestly, I would write beautiful a couple of times

1082
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 3: and then I would stop responding.

1083
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:44,759
Speaker 4: That's what I would do. But I don't know.

1084
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:46,560
Speaker 3: I mean, you want to give your friend some positive

1085
00:46:46,560 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 3: feedback because she clearly isn't getting it at home, and

1086
00:46:48,640 --> 00:46:51,000
Speaker 3: if she is a beautiful singer, and you're not telling

1087
00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:53,120
Speaker 3: a lie even if it was bad singing.

1088
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:55,120
Speaker 4: I would write, that's beautiful.

1089
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:57,719
Speaker 3: And then I would write that a couple times, I

1090
00:46:57,760 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 3: would write the same thing exactly like that's beautiful, and

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00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:04,480
Speaker 3: then the next time, that's beautiful, and then I stop

1092
00:47:04,719 --> 00:47:06,600
Speaker 3: responding Yeah.

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00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:08,920
Speaker 5: Yeah. It's kind of like when a kid is showing

1094
00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:13,319
Speaker 5: you a rock over and over. Yeah that's and you're like,

1095
00:47:13,400 --> 00:47:16,920
Speaker 5: that's really good, that's so good. And then they're like,

1096
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 5: here's a song that's really cute too, that's so good.

1097
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:22,920
Speaker 5: And then and then you know, if you exactly like

1098
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:25,600
Speaker 5: you know, it's a positive reinforcement thing. Once they stop

1099
00:47:25,640 --> 00:47:28,080
Speaker 5: hearing it, they go, Okay, I've had my feel of

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00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:28,759
Speaker 5: feeling good.

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00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:32,719
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, I mean I get emails.

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00:47:32,760 --> 00:47:34,760
Speaker 3: I have a friend who is like, just keep sending

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00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 3: me emails and she wants like our relationship ended a

1104
00:47:38,600 --> 00:47:41,839
Speaker 3: long time ago, and she's trying to rekindle our relationship

1105
00:47:41,920 --> 00:47:43,799
Speaker 3: and I'm not interested, but I'm not. I don't want

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00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:46,520
Speaker 3: to be mean. I'm just seriously like, I'm not interested

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00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:49,279
Speaker 3: in rekindling. Like it's I don't have the bandwidth where

1108
00:47:49,480 --> 00:47:52,359
Speaker 3: let's move on. So I wrote back the first time,

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00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 3: like this is very sweet. I want nothing but the

1110
00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:57,239
Speaker 3: best for you. I'm sending you so much love. I

1111
00:47:57,280 --> 00:47:59,280
Speaker 3: really don't have any space in my life right now

1112
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:02,040
Speaker 3: to recar to our friendship. I don't mean that as

1113
00:48:02,080 --> 00:48:04,319
Speaker 3: an affront to you. I don't hold any ill will

1114
00:48:04,360 --> 00:48:07,160
Speaker 3: towards you, but that's how I feel. And I'm you know,

1115
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:09,759
Speaker 3: I'm pretty busy, So let's just move on in our

1116
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:12,960
Speaker 3: separate ways and let go. Then I get another email.

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00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 3: Then I get a fourth email. I got four emails,

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00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 3: and I'm like, she's trying to basically harass me into

1119
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 3: rekindling our friendship. And now I have to be like,

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00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:25,359
Speaker 3: so I stopped responding, you know, but if I get

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00:48:25,360 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 3: another one, I'm gonna be like, you're now you're harassing me,

1122
00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:28,840
Speaker 3: Like I set.

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00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:31,839
Speaker 4: A boundary that you're not like. You know, this isn't now.

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00:48:31,920 --> 00:48:33,840
Speaker 4: This isn't the same as getting a voice memo of

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00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:34,680
Speaker 4: a song.

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00:48:35,200 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 5: But either way, they're both attacks. Okay, either way, they're

1127
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:42,200
Speaker 5: both attacks. And you were trapped and you didn't ask

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00:48:42,280 --> 00:48:42,600
Speaker 5: for it.

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00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:45,520
Speaker 4: It's an assault. It's an assault.

1130
00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:49,400
Speaker 5: We all deserve our own boundaries. You know, her boyfriend

1131
00:48:49,440 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 5: created one with that with her, and now you might

1132
00:48:52,600 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 5: need two with her too.

1133
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Speaker 2: I had a friend years ago who would like, actually

1134
00:48:57,560 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 2: do this in person, she'd be like, oh, new song

1135
00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:01,960
Speaker 2: for my album, and she would be like, let me

1136
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:03,719
Speaker 2: just play as a little snippet, and then she would

1137
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 2: play it, but she'd play the whole song and then

1138
00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:09,400
Speaker 2: sing it like a foot from my face to my face.

1139
00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:11,680
Speaker 2: And I'm like, too much of a people pleaser to

1140
00:49:11,719 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 2: just like, go away, but just be grateful.

1141
00:49:14,239 --> 00:49:15,839
Speaker 1: This is a voice memo, and you can.

1142
00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:20,319
Speaker 5: Tell her to post it online. That's validation she can

1143
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 5: get from somewhere.

1144
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 4: To go beautiful post. You should post this on Instagram.

1145
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:28,239
Speaker 3: You should post this that's great and brilliant, brilliant, and

1146
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:31,279
Speaker 3: hopefully the response is positive, because otherwise you're going to

1147
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:33,719
Speaker 3: be dealing with a different friend after.

1148
00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:36,400
Speaker 4: She gets some public public shaming critique.

1149
00:49:36,560 --> 00:49:38,600
Speaker 3: I've hooked up with a couple of guys that are

1150
00:49:38,600 --> 00:49:40,439
Speaker 3: in the industry, and when I've hooked up with them,

1151
00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:43,400
Speaker 3: I've had one guy show me his pilot, an episode

1152
00:49:43,400 --> 00:49:45,360
Speaker 3: of a pilot that he shot from start to finish,

1153
00:49:45,600 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 3: and this was before we were supposed to have sex.

1154
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:49,680
Speaker 3: Of course, I couldn't have sex with him after because

1155
00:49:49,680 --> 00:49:51,799
Speaker 3: I don't want to see your pilot. And then I

1156
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:54,840
Speaker 3: had another guy show me a sizzle reel from a

1157
00:49:54,880 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 3: movie that he was producing, and I was like, you're

1158
00:49:57,400 --> 00:50:00,000
Speaker 3: killing my boner, Like I don't know why people don't

1159
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:02,840
Speaker 3: and understand that. That's like me inviting people over and

1160
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:05,640
Speaker 3: saying watch my stand up special, or Otsco inviting people

1161
00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 3: over and being like, hey, not even inviting them to

1162
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:09,960
Speaker 3: watch a special, saying hey, do you want to hear

1163
00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:12,319
Speaker 3: some jokes from my special? It's like if they did,

1164
00:50:12,320 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 3: they'd fucking come see you perform. It's just all so

1165
00:50:15,400 --> 00:50:19,000
Speaker 3: like it's so unself aware, like nobody wants to do that.

1166
00:50:19,880 --> 00:50:22,359
Speaker 3: It's like taking videos. I can compare it to when

1167
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:24,799
Speaker 3: I'm in Whistler. I take videos for like when I'm

1168
00:50:24,800 --> 00:50:26,959
Speaker 3: skiing with the kids. They want videos all the time

1169
00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 3: of them they're gonna jump off this or they're gonna

1170
00:50:29,040 --> 00:50:30,919
Speaker 3: go in the park and they're gonna ride this rail.

1171
00:50:31,239 --> 00:50:33,440
Speaker 3: And I don't fucking have time for that shit. I'm

1172
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 3: not here to take videos of children. If I wanted

1173
00:50:35,640 --> 00:50:37,920
Speaker 3: to take videos of children, I would have had children.

1174
00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:41,359
Speaker 4: You know what I mean, I don't. I'm not the one.

1175
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:45,080
Speaker 5: You go, here's a GoPro. What's beautiful is it captures

1176
00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:48,120
Speaker 5: your actions while you move without someone else doing it.

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00:50:48,360 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 5: You know, it's these things. Guy. I had a guy

1178
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:54,839
Speaker 5: read me poetry before sex too, and I told him

1179
00:50:54,840 --> 00:50:56,840
Speaker 5: to say I said, that was good, that was beautiful,

1180
00:50:56,880 --> 00:51:00,760
Speaker 5: that same thing you told her to do. And afterwards

1181
00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:03,319
Speaker 5: he goes, thank you. I'm either thinking of being a

1182
00:51:03,360 --> 00:51:05,920
Speaker 5: poet that travels around the world or be a cop.

1183
00:51:06,280 --> 00:51:11,000
Speaker 5: I said, those are two very different things, sweetie. And

1184
00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:12,880
Speaker 5: by then it was like an hour in you know,

1185
00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:15,759
Speaker 5: so exactly. It's like respect, I came here for you.

1186
00:51:15,880 --> 00:51:18,120
Speaker 5: I'm going to offer you my body.

1187
00:51:18,880 --> 00:51:22,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, my body in my choice. And yeah you should.

1188
00:51:22,080 --> 00:51:24,879
Speaker 3: Actually, anyone who's on the fence about becoming a poet,

1189
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:26,960
Speaker 3: who's going to travel the world and their other option

1190
00:51:27,120 --> 00:51:29,360
Speaker 3: is a cop, you should just have them become a cop.

1191
00:51:30,160 --> 00:51:32,439
Speaker 4: Yeah, we need more poetry and police work.

1192
00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:37,680
Speaker 5: Yes, I agree, Yeah, but I don't know. His poems

1193
00:51:37,719 --> 00:51:38,480
Speaker 5: were intense.

1194
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:41,439
Speaker 3: So anyway, Well, first of all, this is the first

1195
00:51:41,440 --> 00:51:44,280
Speaker 3: time hearing that you took another lover before you met Ryan.

1196
00:51:44,320 --> 00:51:46,840
Speaker 4: And does he know about it? Does Ryan know about it? Ryan?

1197
00:51:47,080 --> 00:51:47,799
Speaker 4: Do you know about this?

1198
00:51:49,400 --> 00:51:51,279
Speaker 5: You're like, as a good Well, I'll put it in

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00:51:51,320 --> 00:51:53,879
Speaker 5: the calendar or shared calendar that the three of us share.

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00:51:54,320 --> 00:51:56,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I want to, Yeah, I like that we share

1201
00:51:56,120 --> 00:51:58,680
Speaker 3: a calendar, and I want to continue that. I want

1202
00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:01,280
Speaker 3: to continue that through twenty twenty at the very least.

1203
00:52:01,719 --> 00:52:04,319
Speaker 5: Yeah, just put any thoughts notes in there that you want.

1204
00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:07,160
Speaker 3: I have thoughts and notes for all all of us,

1205
00:52:07,239 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 3: all three of us.

1206
00:52:08,520 --> 00:52:10,040
Speaker 4: I'll be the leader of our calendar.

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00:52:10,520 --> 00:52:12,120
Speaker 5: Yes, please, thank you, mother.

1208
00:52:13,120 --> 00:52:16,520
Speaker 4: Thank you daughter. Okay, Otsco love talking to you.

1209
00:52:16,600 --> 00:52:18,160
Speaker 3: I'm sorry that this is the way we have to

1210
00:52:18,160 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 3: catch up now, I mean with our busy travel schedules.

1211
00:52:21,360 --> 00:52:23,520
Speaker 4: But I'm going to send you, guys.

1212
00:52:23,640 --> 00:52:25,160
Speaker 3: I'm going to send you guys some dates and see

1213
00:52:25,160 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 3: if you couldn't want to come to Mayorca this summer.

1214
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:28,000
Speaker 4: We'll see what you're doing.

1215
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:30,120
Speaker 3: I'm only going for a week this summer, but I

1216
00:52:30,160 --> 00:52:32,480
Speaker 3: have a little fun group of comics, so maybe you

1217
00:52:32,480 --> 00:52:33,120
Speaker 3: guys can come.

1218
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:34,000
Speaker 4: I'll send you dates.

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00:52:34,400 --> 00:52:35,839
Speaker 5: Yeah, okayay, it sounds good.

1220
00:52:35,960 --> 00:52:39,360
Speaker 4: Yes, Okay, love you. Congrats on your new special.

1221
00:52:39,400 --> 00:52:41,320
Speaker 3: I haven't seen it yet, you guys, because they haven't

1222
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 3: sent it to me, so otherwise I would be waxing

1223
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:45,279
Speaker 3: poetic about how funny it is, because I know it's

1224
00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:48,200
Speaker 3: fucking funny because it's Otsco and she's ridiculous, so it's

1225
00:52:48,239 --> 00:52:50,960
Speaker 3: called Father and you can watch it on Hulu Disney Plus.

1226
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:52,120
Speaker 5: You're incredible.

1227
00:52:52,600 --> 00:52:56,759
Speaker 4: Good Bye, we have a great day. Bye bye. So

1228
00:52:57,080 --> 00:52:58,640
Speaker 4: I added a couple of new dates.

1229
00:52:58,880 --> 00:53:00,719
Speaker 3: I'm not on tour yet, but I added a couple

1230
00:53:00,760 --> 00:53:02,759
Speaker 3: of dates just because I felt like we need a

1231
00:53:02,760 --> 00:53:04,439
Speaker 3: little bit more laughter and a little bit.

1232
00:53:04,360 --> 00:53:05,919
Speaker 4: More medicine for the end of the year.

1233
00:53:06,560 --> 00:53:08,719
Speaker 3: And I was wrapping things up, but I thought, maybe

1234
00:53:08,800 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 3: let me do a couple more. So I'm adding three

1235
00:53:10,840 --> 00:53:13,680
Speaker 3: more dates in addition to my Vegas residency. I'm doing

1236
00:53:13,960 --> 00:53:17,960
Speaker 3: Westhampton Beach August twenty first, I'm headlining the Rochester Fringe

1237
00:53:17,960 --> 00:53:22,280
Speaker 3: Comedy Festival September thirteenth, and I will be in Napa

1238
00:53:22,719 --> 00:53:26,000
Speaker 3: on October third, So those will be my last.

1239
00:53:25,840 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 4: Dates of the year.

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Speaker 1: Do you want advice from Chelsea?

1241
00:53:28,719 --> 00:53:32,240
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00:53:32,280 --> 00:53:35,400
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00:53:38,520 --> 00:53:42,680
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