1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: The Nicky Glazer Podcast. Billy's a Sex. Here's Nikki. Hello, here, 2 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:13,920 Speaker 1: I am welcome to the show. It's Nicky Glazer Podcast. 3 00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 1: It is Wednesday when you're hearing this, or I don't 4 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:19,520 Speaker 1: know when you're hearing this. It could be a Wednesday 5 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 1: anytime in the future. But um, yeah, if you're listening 6 00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 1: to it the first day it came out, it's Wednesday, 7 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:27,480 Speaker 1: but we're recording it on Tuesday. It's Valentine's Day here 8 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 1: in the world where we're recording this, And I hate 9 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:35,600 Speaker 1: this day personally and we're all coupled up. Wait, no, 10 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:40,879 Speaker 1: you hate this day too. Yes, I am so annoyed 11 00:00:40,880 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: with Instagram. I'm just disgusted by all the like love 12 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:49,240 Speaker 1: going out for like just my little sloppy love lover 13 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:53,239 Speaker 1: my little bunny this year. It's real. It's not even photos, 14 00:00:53,240 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: it's video compilations. Really, Oh god, I can't take it. 15 00:00:57,880 --> 00:00:59,720 Speaker 1: I just do not have a boyfriend who would ever 16 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 1: do like unless we were like getting married and he 17 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: wanted to make a reel of me for like the event, 18 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 1: like which he's good at and does for a job. 19 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:09,720 Speaker 1: He's not going to put up a personal post of 20 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 1: like me. This there's no one's coming at me. I 21 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:17,880 Speaker 1: don't even want this one's because I think they are 22 00:01:18,040 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: lame and they kind of speak to like a guy 23 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: who's a little bit pacified. I think of just like 24 00:01:24,480 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 1: whipped in a way, no offense. If your boyfriend does it, 25 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 1: I am jealous. It's like I want it, but I 26 00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 1: don't want to you know, Um, but I can't take 27 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:36,080 Speaker 1: all the posts today. It just really is irritating me. 28 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 1: And um, if Chris didn't want it, but I would 29 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 1: be out of character for him. I that'd be like 30 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 1: him being like I want you to have, you know, 31 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 1: an ass. It's like, well, I can't give that to you. 32 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: Why are you with me? You know, like why you 33 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 1: you shouldn't be with someone like me? Then if that's 34 00:01:56,600 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 1: what you want. So it's like you know those things 35 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 1: in relationships where you're like the person can't have so 36 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 1: I want I want it from you know there? Yes, 37 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 1: I do want something. I will say it is. He's 38 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:10,639 Speaker 1: on the West Coast. He got in really late last 39 00:02:10,720 --> 00:02:14,560 Speaker 1: night to our airbnb that we're going to share again there. 40 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:19,079 Speaker 1: I'm arriving on Sunday, and today he had to wake 41 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: up and go to work, so I'm allowing until I 42 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 1: think we decided noon on the girls Chat. Well, then 43 00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 1: I asked, how long until noon Pacific when I can 44 00:02:30,760 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: have reason to get like, okay, where is it? And 45 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:38,600 Speaker 1: then his argument would be, which is logical because he's 46 00:02:38,639 --> 00:02:41,520 Speaker 1: just a normal person, is why didn't you write me 47 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: if you want? I would think I don't think that 48 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:49,920 Speaker 1: would be mine? Of like, don't do this game of 49 00:02:49,960 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 1: like waiting. If you want it, now write me. Don't 50 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 1: do tests. But let's not play a game like. This 51 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:01,160 Speaker 1: is not Let's not pretend this is man's holiday too. 52 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 1: This is our day. Okay, let's not make any bones 53 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:09,440 Speaker 1: about it. I know we have to pretend we're all romantic. 54 00:03:10,160 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 1: I come to find out I want romances. As Aanya 55 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:14,920 Speaker 1: puts on her lipstick, That's why I'm putting on my 56 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 1: lipstick for you. I'm about to do it this one 57 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:21,040 Speaker 1: post for you. Thank you. I get it this one. 58 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:23,679 Speaker 1: If I died tragically, that's when everyone's gonna I'm gonna 59 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: get ever wanted in my life when I die tragically. 60 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 1: This is such an irony that you get all the 61 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 1: attention you love and crave, and all the love after 62 00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 1: you've been smashing the head by a log coming off 63 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 1: of a truck or whatever it is. However you get 64 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 1: taken out like that's when you get it all this. 65 00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 1: We toured the country together, we did podcasts together. We were, Oh, 66 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 1: it would be amazing that. I hope I have Instagram 67 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:57,680 Speaker 1: in purgatory wherever I'm hanging out. If you're dead and 68 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: everyone starts making your death about them, You're just like, 69 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:05,360 Speaker 1: I barely know that person, well a little. I mean, 70 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:08,560 Speaker 1: I would like everyone to be saddened by my death, 71 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:11,280 Speaker 1: for sure. I want some people to be like, because 72 00:04:11,320 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 1: I've been saddened by people's death that because no matter 73 00:04:14,440 --> 00:04:17,320 Speaker 1: how sad you are, you're making it about you, you know, 74 00:04:17,480 --> 00:04:22,600 Speaker 1: like a person could be misconstrued as making it about you. Yes, 75 00:04:22,680 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 1: but what people like top posts on Instagram are people 76 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:31,479 Speaker 1: that are on your like fifth tier of friends. You're like, 77 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:34,520 Speaker 1: I did a podcast with you once, and my boyfriend's 78 00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:40,400 Speaker 1: on his fifth tier coming out of his eye. I 79 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 1: wouldn't mind it, Like I kind of that. I've I've 80 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 1: touched people who I barely know. I feel like most 81 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:49,480 Speaker 1: people who would mourn my loss would not know me. 82 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:51,279 Speaker 1: It would be like best. These are people that have 83 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: never fans of mine because I feel like I'm a 84 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:57,440 Speaker 1: fan of people that if they died, I've felt extreme 85 00:04:57,480 --> 00:05:01,160 Speaker 1: loss of people I've barely known or even I struggled 86 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:02,440 Speaker 1: with the Bob sagg and thing of like I don't 87 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:04,599 Speaker 1: know him as much as John Mayer knew him, or 88 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:08,839 Speaker 1: stay most or you know all these people, yet you 89 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:14,120 Speaker 1: face him. But I facetimed him for my show. That's 90 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:16,280 Speaker 1: the only reason you know that. Otherwise you wouldn't know 91 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:19,600 Speaker 1: the context of our relationship at all, and you probably 92 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:21,720 Speaker 1: would have been like, and what if I didn't FaceTime him, 93 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:24,040 Speaker 1: then I'm not allowed to be sad? Like where are 94 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:29,280 Speaker 1: the where does it count? You got a mutual admiration 95 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:31,839 Speaker 1: for one another, and I got to witness that in person. 96 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:36,159 Speaker 1: It was off air in an hallway at a radio station. Yes, 97 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 1: but I'm just saying, where where do we draw the line? 98 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:42,159 Speaker 1: Where do we go? This person has no reason to 99 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 1: be sad because this is where it gets into tricky 100 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:46,239 Speaker 1: territory for me, because I think you have a reasonably 101 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 1: said I wouldn't bother me if people made my death 102 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:50,640 Speaker 1: about them. I guess is my can't tell people. I 103 00:05:50,680 --> 00:05:54,799 Speaker 1: feel that's generous. Really, you like who have what what 104 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 1: what kind of post would annoy you posthumously? For you 105 00:05:58,880 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 1: if you saw someone post it, that's like a fifth 106 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:04,200 Speaker 1: tier friend. I mean, I get annoyed by people who 107 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:07,279 Speaker 1: don't know someone who died. And it's just like, here's 108 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:09,480 Speaker 1: a long monologue about the one time I met them 109 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 1: in a hallway and they were so kind to me 110 00:06:11,839 --> 00:06:13,920 Speaker 1: and they talked to me about my mom, and it's 111 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:18,240 Speaker 1: just like, Irene Kara. Really this, You're gonna make a 112 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:21,479 Speaker 1: three paragraph thing about Irene Kara, who doesn't even know 113 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:24,680 Speaker 1: you exist, and then chose that. I get why that's 114 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:28,080 Speaker 1: annoying because that person is so unseelf aware and making 115 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:31,359 Speaker 1: like doing a eulogy for like they write more about 116 00:06:31,360 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 1: that person than their mom. But the reason they do 117 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:36,719 Speaker 1: is because they had a shitty mom that they don't 118 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 1: want to write anything about. Can I add to Anya's 119 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 1: so that Nikki? I get why that's not annoying. He 120 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:46,480 Speaker 1: would be annoying if the photo was of them doing 121 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:49,480 Speaker 1: like that lunge ass shot that Kirsten did the other day, 122 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:52,279 Speaker 1: And it's just an excuse to show the photo right 123 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 1: where that's just well that yeah, that's photos of taken 124 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: with me are of and I know that now because 125 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:05,480 Speaker 1: I take probably two photos after every show um with people, 126 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:10,360 Speaker 1: and those showed photos, I would say one one or 127 00:07:10,400 --> 00:07:12,440 Speaker 1: two show up at the next show that that person 128 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:13,960 Speaker 1: sees me at. They print them up and they hang 129 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 1: them on the wall and they have me sign them. 130 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 1: So that's that's of use. The other ones, I probably 131 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: think five people at most out of two posted on 132 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:23,160 Speaker 1: their Instagram story or tag me on it on their 133 00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 1: Instagram post. The other two forty four people waiting for 134 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 1: me to die, because that's going to be a great Otherwise, 135 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:34,559 Speaker 1: what are you doing with the photo on your phone? 136 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:37,560 Speaker 1: Maybe they said, you know, like the it's not like 137 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:40,120 Speaker 1: they know they're waiting for me to die, but they 138 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:41,920 Speaker 1: I know the day that I died, They're gonna go 139 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 1: what month was it we went to go see her, 140 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: like putting it in their phone, like trying to find 141 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:50,360 Speaker 1: that picture. We've all done it. I've done it too. Yeah, 142 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:54,840 Speaker 1: it's because you're looking for identity, you're looking for connection, 143 00:07:55,520 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 1: you're looking for people. You're an adult child of a 144 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:05,320 Speaker 1: of a you're an adult child of an emotionally immature parent, 145 00:08:05,440 --> 00:08:07,640 Speaker 1: which is a book I'm reading right now that literally 146 00:08:07,680 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 1: any bestie should read because if you are attracted to 147 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 1: the words that I'm saying, ever, you probably had an 148 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:15,880 Speaker 1: emotionally immature parent. Doesn't mean they were a bad parent. 149 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 1: It just means they had kids and they don't know 150 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:21,040 Speaker 1: how to like connect with them emotionally. And it's such 151 00:08:21,080 --> 00:08:23,320 Speaker 1: a good book that I think a bestie recommended me 152 00:08:23,360 --> 00:08:25,400 Speaker 1: and I'm flying through it and I love it, and 153 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:27,280 Speaker 1: it's I'm reading way more than one third of it 154 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:32,560 Speaker 1: and um really yeah, oh yeah, I'm like I'm halfway through. Um, 155 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:36,120 Speaker 1: it's it speaks to me like almost no other book has. 156 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:39,080 Speaker 1: And that's not to say that my parents were immature, 157 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:41,200 Speaker 1: except my dad would always go stop hitting yourself, stop 158 00:08:41,280 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 1: hitting yourself, and go ying ying, yinging, And it sounds 159 00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 1: like that's emotionally imature. That's justoopy face. Yeah, yeah, that's 160 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: just immature, emotionally immature. What are the qualifications for it? 161 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:55,640 Speaker 1: If you had an emotionally imature parents, Let me look 162 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:57,600 Speaker 1: at this up because they were kind of fascinating to me. 163 00:08:58,240 --> 00:09:02,320 Speaker 1: Let me guess you want to guess, yeah, because I 164 00:09:02,360 --> 00:09:08,840 Speaker 1: think mine, for sure, one of my everything is about them. First, 165 00:09:09,160 --> 00:09:11,560 Speaker 1: Like this happened the other day. My dad came over 166 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:13,880 Speaker 1: to our condo. Matt and I are staying in a 167 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 1: condo right above my parents, like two floors above them. 168 00:09:17,840 --> 00:09:21,679 Speaker 1: My dad tested negative, Yeah, positive for COVID. He's on 169 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:24,480 Speaker 1: like day eight, okay. And it comes over and I'm 170 00:09:24,520 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 1: like cheers in him. I go, God, damn, I cannot 171 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:31,600 Speaker 1: believe seven days ago you fucking had COVID and we're sick, 172 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 1: and look at you now, you're amazing, you look so great, 173 00:09:34,960 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 1: And I go, just for kicks, let me test you now, 174 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:40,559 Speaker 1: because it occurred to me. He tested himself and he's like, 175 00:09:40,600 --> 00:09:43,800 Speaker 1: I'm negative, and he took the packs alvid, which everybody knows. 176 00:09:43,840 --> 00:09:46,440 Speaker 1: You get rebounds off that it's very likely I had 177 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 1: one of myself. He's done so much research on cod 178 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:56,679 Speaker 1: that none of one of the three people here knows. Ye, 179 00:09:57,600 --> 00:10:00,520 Speaker 1: So I test him. Everyone knows COVID. You But what 180 00:10:00,559 --> 00:10:03,280 Speaker 1: do you you bounce back? What are you talking about? Remember? 181 00:10:03,360 --> 00:10:05,960 Speaker 1: I took packs alvid and I got sick again. I 182 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:08,160 Speaker 1: got do you feel great for a second and then 183 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:10,800 Speaker 1: you bounced back to feeling like shit again? Yes? And 184 00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:12,720 Speaker 1: if you feel like shit, that means that if you 185 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:17,960 Speaker 1: test positive, though it doesn't necessarily mean you're contagious. Correct correct. 186 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:22,640 Speaker 1: Although people can give it like full, COVID comes back 187 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:26,880 Speaker 1: a lot of times when you take this pack anyway, 188 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:30,360 Speaker 1: so mine came back taking it. Some people get well, 189 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:34,640 Speaker 1: most people get well, okay, okay. Also, if you're like old, 190 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:38,600 Speaker 1: you know it's going to keep you from hospitalization and death. 191 00:10:38,679 --> 00:10:40,920 Speaker 1: So I give my dad a test. He tests positive 192 00:10:40,960 --> 00:10:44,560 Speaker 1: and he goes, fuck, and I'm like all right, and 193 00:10:44,600 --> 00:10:47,080 Speaker 1: he goes, I do have kind of like sniffles that 194 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 1: I noticed this morning, and I, you know, I feel 195 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:52,640 Speaker 1: worse today than yesterday. We're sitting there at the table 196 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:55,559 Speaker 1: and with Matt and then I go yeah, and he 197 00:10:55,640 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 1: starts sneezing, and then Matt like looks at both of 198 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:01,560 Speaker 1: us like, are you guys crazy? Is put your mask on? 199 00:11:01,720 --> 00:11:04,200 Speaker 1: You should put your mask on now. My dad's like, God, 200 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:06,600 Speaker 1: damn it, I'm so pissed. This ruins my day. I go, 201 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:09,440 Speaker 1: is any part of you at all right now worrying 202 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:11,960 Speaker 1: about like maybe getting other people sick? And he's like, 203 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:15,840 Speaker 1: oh yeah, but that's his first instinct is my day 204 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:19,040 Speaker 1: is ruined, my week is ruined. Well, that's what was 205 00:11:19,080 --> 00:11:22,840 Speaker 1: wrong with COVID was everyone cared about themselves and didn't 206 00:11:22,840 --> 00:11:24,880 Speaker 1: care about other That was remember the height of it 207 00:11:24,920 --> 00:11:27,599 Speaker 1: where no one was wearing a mask. It wasn't I 208 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 1: And I even said in my stand up, I didn't 209 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:32,280 Speaker 1: wear a mask because I cared about getting COVID. Give 210 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:33,960 Speaker 1: it to me. It's like harpies. I just want to 211 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:35,840 Speaker 1: get it out of the way. I'm gonna get it eventually. 212 00:11:36,160 --> 00:11:38,079 Speaker 1: I don't care give it to me. I'm not scared 213 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:40,440 Speaker 1: of it because I'm gross, and I'm not scared of sickness. 214 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 1: I don't really get sick. You wear a mask for 215 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:46,040 Speaker 1: other people. And that was the problem with our country 216 00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:48,640 Speaker 1: not being able to get on board with masks is 217 00:11:48,679 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 1: because we don't care about each other. If you're poor, 218 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:56,160 Speaker 1: if you're different, if you're from a different part of town, 219 00:11:56,480 --> 00:11:59,080 Speaker 1: we just don't care as much about each other. It's 220 00:11:59,120 --> 00:12:02,440 Speaker 1: really it's just selfishness. But we're gonna go through the 221 00:12:02,480 --> 00:12:04,240 Speaker 1: checklist because I found it in my phone on this 222 00:12:04,280 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 1: book right after this, and you will be able to 223 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:09,720 Speaker 1: sess if your parents are emotionally immature and if maybe 224 00:12:09,760 --> 00:12:11,600 Speaker 1: you should read this book for some a little good 225 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:14,720 Speaker 1: guidance and a little bit of letting yourself off the 226 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:17,520 Speaker 1: hook for some of your behaviors and attractions to people 227 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 1: that you have because you were raised with emotionally immature parents, 228 00:12:20,360 --> 00:12:22,559 Speaker 1: which is not an indictment on them. They were also 229 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:25,400 Speaker 1: raised by emotionally immature people because it's something you passed down. 230 00:12:25,840 --> 00:12:31,440 Speaker 1: Let's break the cycle after this, but we'll be right there. Okay, 231 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:35,200 Speaker 1: we're back. So do you have emotionally immature parents? Here's 232 00:12:35,200 --> 00:12:37,280 Speaker 1: the checklist. Read through the following statements and check that 233 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:41,240 Speaker 1: any that describe your parents. My parents often overreacted two 234 00:12:41,280 --> 00:12:44,120 Speaker 1: relatively minor things. Are we let's all just do this 235 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:47,920 Speaker 1: right now. Okay, just to keep pick one either one 236 00:12:48,000 --> 00:12:50,480 Speaker 1: or both parents. Okay, so it's it's a yes if 237 00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:53,679 Speaker 1: it's even one of your parents. My parents often overreacted 238 00:12:53,679 --> 00:12:57,720 Speaker 1: to relatively minor things. My parents didn't express much empathy 239 00:12:57,840 --> 00:13:01,959 Speaker 1: or emotional awareness when it comes to emotional closeness and feelings. 240 00:13:01,960 --> 00:13:05,560 Speaker 1: My parents seem uncomfortable and didn't go there. Absolutely, yes, 241 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:09,720 Speaker 1: my parents often my parents or parents were often irritated 242 00:13:09,760 --> 00:13:13,720 Speaker 1: by individual differences or different points of view. Hell yes, 243 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:16,160 Speaker 1: when I when I was growing up, my parents used 244 00:13:16,160 --> 00:13:18,640 Speaker 1: me as a confidant, but wasn't a confidant for me. 245 00:13:20,960 --> 00:13:24,559 Speaker 1: My parents often said and did things without thinking about 246 00:13:24,559 --> 00:13:28,559 Speaker 1: other people's feelings. Yes, I didn't get much attention or 247 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 1: sympathy from my parents, except maybe when I was really sick. Yes, 248 00:13:34,120 --> 00:13:40,120 Speaker 1: my parent was inconsistent, sometimes wise, sometimes unreasonable. If I 249 00:13:40,200 --> 00:13:44,199 Speaker 1: became upset, my parents either said something superficial and unhelpful 250 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:48,160 Speaker 1: or got angry and sarcastic. Again, if I became upset, 251 00:13:48,400 --> 00:13:51,400 Speaker 1: my parents either said something superficial and unhelpful or angry 252 00:13:51,440 --> 00:13:56,360 Speaker 1: and sarcastic, or got angry. Um conversations mostly centered on 253 00:13:56,400 --> 00:14:01,360 Speaker 1: my parents interests. Even polite disagreement could could make my 254 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:06,680 Speaker 1: parents very defensive. Polite disagreement very defensive. If it was 255 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:09,400 Speaker 1: deflating to tell my parents about successes because it didn't 256 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:13,439 Speaker 1: seem to matter. That one doesn't. I don't relate to 257 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:15,839 Speaker 1: it at all. You relate to that one, it's not 258 00:14:17,600 --> 00:14:20,440 Speaker 1: my parents. Would my parents would get rid of jealous 259 00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:24,520 Speaker 1: of my success, No way. He would immediately he would 260 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:26,400 Speaker 1: be so happy for me. But the next thing out 261 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:28,400 Speaker 1: of his mouth would be, you know, I've never had 262 00:14:28,440 --> 00:14:32,560 Speaker 1: that kind of an audience. Oh, he'd be like, that's incredible, 263 00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:35,080 Speaker 1: I've never It would always be about him. The next 264 00:14:35,080 --> 00:14:40,600 Speaker 1: thing facts and oh, years would be judgmental, right, like 265 00:14:40,640 --> 00:14:43,200 Speaker 1: you would never there would never be any praise. It 266 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:46,400 Speaker 1: would just be like, oh, well, you know that didn't happen. 267 00:14:46,560 --> 00:14:48,280 Speaker 1: Or they would just point out if you got it, 268 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 1: if you've got something good happen to you, they would 269 00:14:50,680 --> 00:14:52,520 Speaker 1: point out like there was a well it's not that 270 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:54,920 Speaker 1: big of a deal because it was just like they 271 00:14:54,920 --> 00:14:58,520 Speaker 1: would minimize it. Yes, facts and logic. That's one I 272 00:14:58,560 --> 00:15:01,880 Speaker 1: did not ever have to my knowledge. Maybe subconsciously something 273 00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:04,440 Speaker 1: was going on, but my parents were your parents that 274 00:15:05,120 --> 00:15:08,080 Speaker 1: love to talk about you and recognize every little thing. 275 00:15:08,720 --> 00:15:10,960 Speaker 1: The Texas Weekend actually of like your dad is so 276 00:15:11,040 --> 00:15:13,400 Speaker 1: proud of you. He gets tears in his eyes. You 277 00:15:13,440 --> 00:15:17,080 Speaker 1: said something he does, he gets he beams. He literally beams, 278 00:15:17,120 --> 00:15:21,000 Speaker 1: like yesterday I met him briefly, will not say why. 279 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:25,920 Speaker 1: And it was a cloudy day. What Okay, I know why. 280 00:15:26,160 --> 00:15:30,720 Speaker 1: I know why you're saying that, but it sounds suspicious. 281 00:15:30,720 --> 00:15:36,720 Speaker 1: He was helping her in a week or two. Okay, 282 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:38,920 Speaker 1: you were handing him a file in a parking lot. 283 00:15:39,000 --> 00:15:41,920 Speaker 1: Yeah okay, Um, it was not a drug exchange, and 284 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:45,080 Speaker 1: it was cloudy and um, you know it was just 285 00:15:45,120 --> 00:15:48,520 Speaker 1: like a quick thing. And then he like brings, brings 286 00:15:48,560 --> 00:15:51,840 Speaker 1: up your name, and he literally like the sun came out. 287 00:15:52,120 --> 00:15:56,000 Speaker 1: He was just beaming, just rating he talks about you. 288 00:15:56,040 --> 00:15:58,280 Speaker 1: He loves you so much, so he does, he really does. 289 00:15:58,360 --> 00:16:01,040 Speaker 1: But it often is like I wish my mom could 290 00:16:01,040 --> 00:16:03,840 Speaker 1: see you. And I take that as like he just 291 00:16:03,880 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 1: wants to show me off, like look what I did. 292 00:16:06,080 --> 00:16:07,800 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Like it's that means a 293 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:10,400 Speaker 1: lot to me, and I know he would go like, 294 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:12,360 Speaker 1: I just want my mom to see you, because I 295 00:16:12,360 --> 00:16:14,000 Speaker 1: think she'd be proud. But there's a part of me 296 00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:16,680 Speaker 1: that's like, and I get it. If I had kids 297 00:16:16,680 --> 00:16:19,560 Speaker 1: and they accomplished amazing things, I would desperately want my 298 00:16:19,640 --> 00:16:21,400 Speaker 1: dad to see it, to be like, Dad, look what 299 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:24,000 Speaker 1: I made, that did this thing. You know there's a 300 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:26,080 Speaker 1: little you want the praise. I would I want the 301 00:16:26,080 --> 00:16:28,120 Speaker 1: praise of, like, look at this amazing child you made. 302 00:16:28,240 --> 00:16:31,960 Speaker 1: And I think when people go it's a little bit 303 00:16:31,960 --> 00:16:34,720 Speaker 1: of my worry about adopting is that my parents, if 304 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 1: the kid is amazing, they'll be like, well, wherever you 305 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:41,480 Speaker 1: got the kid, good job, then that's my parents child, 306 00:16:42,160 --> 00:16:44,640 Speaker 1: Like it had nothing to do with you. But if 307 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:47,560 Speaker 1: it's your blood, like any time there's anything wrong with 308 00:16:47,600 --> 00:16:52,920 Speaker 1: like anything off going on with nieces and nephews. It's like, well, 309 00:16:52,960 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 1: maybe that's mad side of the family. You know, maybe 310 00:16:56,520 --> 00:17:00,280 Speaker 1: they it's like it's like it's never their blood, like 311 00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 1: like we can even help our genes to begin with, 312 00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:05,320 Speaker 1: like whatever, d n A. It's and and I mean 313 00:17:05,359 --> 00:17:07,680 Speaker 1: that's that's not a conversation that really comes up ever. 314 00:17:07,800 --> 00:17:11,040 Speaker 1: But whenever there's like a behavioral problem, it's like, you 315 00:17:11,080 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 1: guys weren't like that, and you know, maybe it's just 316 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:16,080 Speaker 1: something that you know, the other side of the family. 317 00:17:16,160 --> 00:17:18,080 Speaker 1: Like I could just tell if I had adopted kids, 318 00:17:18,080 --> 00:17:20,359 Speaker 1: there would be a lot of well she shouldn't have 319 00:17:20,359 --> 00:17:25,240 Speaker 1: adopted that kid's kind of going crazy against um. Conversely, 320 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:28,440 Speaker 1: Matt's mom does this thing all the time where she's like, well, 321 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:31,359 Speaker 1: your talent is because of Jesus, and he's like, my 322 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:35,520 Speaker 1: talent is not anything to do the thing. Oh god, 323 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:41,280 Speaker 1: that's so yeah. She's always like, well, you gotta thank 324 00:17:41,359 --> 00:17:45,159 Speaker 1: Jesus for all that. He's like, do I She's not 325 00:17:45,240 --> 00:17:48,920 Speaker 1: wrong because you can't really attribute nothing you do is you. 326 00:17:48,920 --> 00:17:50,920 Speaker 1: You guys know, I don't believe in free will. Nothing 327 00:17:50,960 --> 00:17:53,760 Speaker 1: you you don't choose your thoughts you don't choose your motivations. 328 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:55,879 Speaker 1: If you're someone who like practice guitar a lot and 329 00:17:55,920 --> 00:17:58,800 Speaker 1: became a virtuous so you didn't choose the brain that 330 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:00,879 Speaker 1: was you were born with too good at guitar. I 331 00:18:00,880 --> 00:18:02,960 Speaker 1: know it feels like you're like, but I chose every 332 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:06,600 Speaker 1: day to play music. You didn't. You just got born 333 00:18:06,640 --> 00:18:10,040 Speaker 1: with a brain that is good at practication. Wants to 334 00:18:10,080 --> 00:18:13,520 Speaker 1: take away any kind of talent. It's not not but 335 00:18:13,560 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 1: I want to give it to science. She wants to 336 00:18:16,080 --> 00:18:21,960 Speaker 1: give it to a guy on across. I'm sure, but yeah, um, 337 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:24,359 Speaker 1: it was deflating to tell me. Okay, so facts and 338 00:18:24,440 --> 00:18:28,480 Speaker 1: logic were no match for my parents opinions my parents. 339 00:18:28,760 --> 00:18:31,399 Speaker 1: My parent wasn't self reflective and rarely looked at his 340 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:34,399 Speaker 1: or her role in a problem. My parents tended to 341 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:36,560 Speaker 1: be black and white, be a black and white thinker, 342 00:18:36,640 --> 00:18:40,359 Speaker 1: and unreceptive to new ideas. Okay, So if you listen 343 00:18:40,400 --> 00:18:44,440 Speaker 1: to this checklist listener, and even one of those statements 344 00:18:44,680 --> 00:18:48,920 Speaker 1: you said yes too, you could potentially be a child 345 00:18:48,960 --> 00:18:52,960 Speaker 1: of a emotionally immature parent, because even one of those 346 00:18:53,040 --> 00:18:55,040 Speaker 1: is enough to damage a kid in a way that 347 00:18:55,080 --> 00:18:58,520 Speaker 1: will lead to lots of behavioral problems later on in 348 00:18:58,560 --> 00:19:01,119 Speaker 1: your life that will suck up your life forever until 349 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:03,919 Speaker 1: you learn to like go against that. And it's not 350 00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:06,000 Speaker 1: because your parents were bad. I have the best parents 351 00:19:06,040 --> 00:19:08,560 Speaker 1: in the world, but they were twenty five when they 352 00:19:08,560 --> 00:19:11,200 Speaker 1: had me, and they had parents that never listened to them, 353 00:19:11,320 --> 00:19:16,200 Speaker 1: weren't around alcoholics, Like there's no way they were equipped 354 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:21,040 Speaker 1: to handle a little sensitive child's emotions all the time. 355 00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:23,200 Speaker 1: And if I had a child, I would also probably 356 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:25,800 Speaker 1: be emotionally immature for that child as well, because we're 357 00:19:25,800 --> 00:19:28,560 Speaker 1: all flawed. So this isn't a book that you buy 358 00:19:28,560 --> 00:19:30,720 Speaker 1: and then you like hate your mom. It's like you 359 00:19:30,760 --> 00:19:32,520 Speaker 1: don't even have to tell your mom about it, even 360 00:19:32,560 --> 00:19:34,400 Speaker 1: though your mom might listen to your podcast. And here 361 00:19:34,440 --> 00:19:37,080 Speaker 1: you go off this checklist and say, I was very 362 00:19:37,480 --> 00:19:42,639 Speaker 1: hurt by that checklist. When have I been defensive about anything? 363 00:19:43,800 --> 00:19:48,760 Speaker 1: I always support you know, I got a total of five, 364 00:19:49,280 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 1: which I thought it would be more like twenty, but 365 00:19:51,119 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 1: I got five. Yeah, I got like, yeah, I got 366 00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:57,440 Speaker 1: enough where I said, Okay. Then you read the book 367 00:19:57,440 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 1: and you just read the patterns of like people, people pleasers. 368 00:20:01,200 --> 00:20:03,920 Speaker 1: They put their own feelings aside for someone else. I mean, 369 00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:07,480 Speaker 1: it's all it's all a codependency, it's all kind of adult. Also, 370 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:10,159 Speaker 1: this could all fit for adult children of alcoholics, but 371 00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:13,520 Speaker 1: I think this is a more helpful thing because I 372 00:20:13,520 --> 00:20:15,760 Speaker 1: think a lot of kids here I'm not going to 373 00:20:15,800 --> 00:20:17,680 Speaker 1: read about being an adult child of alcoholic because my 374 00:20:17,720 --> 00:20:21,080 Speaker 1: parent didn't drink or my parent was never drunk around me. 375 00:20:21,240 --> 00:20:23,680 Speaker 1: They can't associate their parents or their parents hasn't qualified 376 00:20:23,680 --> 00:20:26,280 Speaker 1: as an alcohol to alcohol it to them, and so 377 00:20:26,359 --> 00:20:29,800 Speaker 1: they don't know. This is like something to wrap your 378 00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:32,040 Speaker 1: head around so you can know it's not your fault 379 00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 1: whatever it is that you are and do, which I 380 00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:38,640 Speaker 1: think is most of therapy is learning it's not your fault. 381 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:40,480 Speaker 1: And then when you're able to think of things is 382 00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 1: not your fault, I think you're able to get over 383 00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:45,080 Speaker 1: them more Like on you, you were suffering this weekend 384 00:20:45,080 --> 00:20:47,679 Speaker 1: with like a thing, and you're like, as long as 385 00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:49,480 Speaker 1: you like let yourself off the hook for it, because 386 00:20:49,720 --> 00:20:52,480 Speaker 1: you were, without getting into specifics, you were saying, like 387 00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:56,439 Speaker 1: I realized I'm just fucking crazy sometimes and like I 388 00:20:56,480 --> 00:21:00,040 Speaker 1: can't control my thoughts around this thing. How did you 389 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:03,439 Speaker 1: did you feel like that was acceptance or that was 390 00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:10,240 Speaker 1: judgmental of like you're crazy. In the moment, it felt heartbreaking, Like, God, 391 00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:13,920 Speaker 1: I work so hard on myself and I'm just as 392 00:21:13,920 --> 00:21:17,080 Speaker 1: crazy as you know. I'm around my family right now, 393 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:19,920 Speaker 1: so I get caught up in the toxic cycles of 394 00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:22,040 Speaker 1: like an old dynamic. I'm sure a lot of people 395 00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:24,760 Speaker 1: can relate. So I felt heartbroken, and then I was like, 396 00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:28,840 Speaker 1: it's okay because I do have so many tools, and 397 00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 1: when I take one step back from these people, a 398 00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:36,320 Speaker 1: loving step back, I am not crazy anymore. Like I am, 399 00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:39,480 Speaker 1: I am temporarily insane. And someone said something to me 400 00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:41,639 Speaker 1: so great, I've already told you this, nicky, But no, 401 00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:44,720 Speaker 1: I maybe I haven't told you. I've been holding onto 402 00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:50,400 Speaker 1: this adage. Boundaries are the distance between me and you 403 00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:53,480 Speaker 1: where I can love myself and still love you. So 404 00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:56,560 Speaker 1: I have these like loving boundaries. People don't seem to 405 00:21:56,600 --> 00:21:59,120 Speaker 1: like them, but I have them so that I can 406 00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:01,679 Speaker 1: be nice to you and myself and so I can 407 00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:04,840 Speaker 1: still have you. Yeah, I have a thing. I don't 408 00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:07,440 Speaker 1: love people staying over at my house for more than 409 00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:12,840 Speaker 1: four days. Four days max, God, Well, Chris and I 410 00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:15,560 Speaker 1: do this thing where like I only want to see 411 00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:18,200 Speaker 1: him if he's in a good mood. That I can nurse, 412 00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 1: you know, like, if he's in a bad mood needs 413 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 1: to talk about things, babe, I'm there for you. But 414 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:26,680 Speaker 1: if you're tired, hungry, let's go. I mean, if you're 415 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:31,919 Speaker 1: what's it called dirt or something, halt halt, it's the 416 00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:41,560 Speaker 1: acronymic halt, dick, halt, hungry, angry, lonely, tired. That's usually 417 00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:46,600 Speaker 1: what people are like, um, but there's a there's a 418 00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:50,720 Speaker 1: lot of times where I'm just like I. I can 419 00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:53,200 Speaker 1: hear that he's not in the best moon, and I 420 00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:55,120 Speaker 1: know the kind of mood he's in where he wants 421 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:56,720 Speaker 1: to talk about it and like he has to work 422 00:22:56,760 --> 00:22:58,480 Speaker 1: through something, and I know the type of mood where 423 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:02,640 Speaker 1: he's just doesn't want things aren't going to go well 424 00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:05,640 Speaker 1: between us. And I also have those moods too, where 425 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:08,159 Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but 426 00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:10,840 Speaker 1: don't come over tonight because it's not This isn't going 427 00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:13,680 Speaker 1: to move our needle forward in our relationship. This is 428 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:16,959 Speaker 1: only going to take away. But there's the illusion of 429 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:20,040 Speaker 1: like being together that gives people. If you're not with 430 00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:23,800 Speaker 1: the person they think you're, you don't love them. But 431 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:26,639 Speaker 1: it's like I love you. That's why I'm not hanging 432 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:29,480 Speaker 1: out with you tonight, as I want to maintain how 433 00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:32,639 Speaker 1: I like you because I am not. I am walking 434 00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:35,680 Speaker 1: on a tight rope of my own emotions. I'm gonna 435 00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:38,240 Speaker 1: fall off it and I'm going to hurt you. I'm 436 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:42,240 Speaker 1: gonna hurt you like I need to protect you from me. Yes, 437 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:45,439 Speaker 1: I'm a toxic train in Ohio or wherever that was 438 00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:51,359 Speaker 1: that burning day away FLEs there. It's terrifying. Um, yeah, 439 00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:57,639 Speaker 1: it's it's it's I as someone who is definitely a 440 00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:01,080 Speaker 1: crazy person and can have my moods and act everything 441 00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:05,920 Speaker 1: around me like like an infection. I have to quarantine 442 00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:10,640 Speaker 1: myself from people. I should put on masks when I'm 443 00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:12,879 Speaker 1: in a sour mood, and it sucks sometimes because you 444 00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:17,919 Speaker 1: gotta record a podcast or you gotta sucking. Podcasts are 445 00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:21,200 Speaker 1: the hardest thing for me because there's no allusion. There's 446 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:23,480 Speaker 1: no I don't put on a face for a podcast. 447 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:25,560 Speaker 1: If I did, it would show up that I was 448 00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:28,679 Speaker 1: putting on a face. A podcast is some If I was, 449 00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:30,400 Speaker 1: you know, in a bad mood today and I had 450 00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:32,520 Speaker 1: to do this podcast, you would sense it. There would 451 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,800 Speaker 1: be like a fucking you know you. It was last 452 00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:38,439 Speaker 1: year yesterday's podcast. I was sad and I but if 453 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,680 Speaker 1: I was shooting a commercial, I could have snapped out 454 00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:43,560 Speaker 1: of it because everything's a facade and it's like welcome 455 00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:46,360 Speaker 1: to Holiday and Express or whatever the funk I'm promoting. 456 00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:49,280 Speaker 1: I can put that. I can put a cape over 457 00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:51,879 Speaker 1: my feelings. But if I'm in a situation like a 458 00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:55,639 Speaker 1: podcast where it's like I'm myself and there's no I 459 00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:58,000 Speaker 1: don't even know what an edifice would be here if 460 00:24:58,000 --> 00:24:59,960 Speaker 1: I were to put one on. Believe me, I put 461 00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,960 Speaker 1: someone before on rough episodes that we've had to just 462 00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:07,240 Speaker 1: because of relationship things going on. But if it's just 463 00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:09,040 Speaker 1: us three, I'm not going to be able to put that. 464 00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:10,960 Speaker 1: I don't even know what that would be, to be 465 00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:13,760 Speaker 1: fake around you guys and be like everything's great. This 466 00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:15,880 Speaker 1: more like it just doesn't. So that's where I get 467 00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:19,640 Speaker 1: into rocky territories when I'm forced to do things where 468 00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:23,600 Speaker 1: I get to be myself and I and I have 469 00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,119 Speaker 1: to just and then it's almost like, um, like there 470 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:27,600 Speaker 1: are days I would choose not to do a podcast 471 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:29,080 Speaker 1: because I'm in a bad mood. But you but you 472 00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:30,800 Speaker 1: have to go to work or you would choose not 473 00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:33,040 Speaker 1: to go to your s SDJ. You're still sucking day 474 00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:35,399 Speaker 1: job because you're in a bad mood. You should be 475 00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,400 Speaker 1: able to call in sick mentally to things. I don't 476 00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:42,720 Speaker 1: think we're ever close to that happening, But I really 477 00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:47,320 Speaker 1: resent that everyone gets to be like cold today and 478 00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:48,879 Speaker 1: I can't be like I want to jump off my 479 00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:51,520 Speaker 1: balcony today. So I don't think I can make it 480 00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:53,160 Speaker 1: to my dentist appointment, like I want to be able 481 00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:56,560 Speaker 1: to say that which I did say to myst wouldn't 482 00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:59,600 Speaker 1: be my dent dentists would now he'd be like, without 483 00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:02,720 Speaker 1: those that amount of work that you need to have done. 484 00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:07,879 Speaker 1: Now I'm getting bonding on I'm bonding with my dentist. 485 00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:11,159 Speaker 1: It's is it? My calendar is dentist bonding? Because I 486 00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:14,000 Speaker 1: wrote it in tomorrow I was excited a meat over 487 00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:16,760 Speaker 1: a campfire. Yeah we're gonna hold hands and talk about 488 00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:21,720 Speaker 1: our emotionally unavailable parents. Um. Yeah, we're gonna do trust 489 00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:24,760 Speaker 1: falls out in the woods. Um, so I'm bonding with 490 00:26:24,800 --> 00:26:29,399 Speaker 1: my dentist tomorrow. Who's Scott Baculus, nephew? No, just name dropped, No, 491 00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:33,840 Speaker 1: not big deal. Dr Baculus shout out, Yeah he really is. Um, 492 00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:38,040 Speaker 1: but yeah, it's just though I wish that you could. 493 00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:40,720 Speaker 1: Um I did. I mean I've called in. I've called 494 00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:42,879 Speaker 1: in depressed to things but before and then, but I 495 00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:44,679 Speaker 1: always do it when I know the person is going 496 00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:47,240 Speaker 1: to be very understanding and like kind of gets it. 497 00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:50,399 Speaker 1: And it also talk about bonding if you tell someone 498 00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:52,640 Speaker 1: that you're depressed and you like open up to them 499 00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:57,560 Speaker 1: about that, like I can't make it today, like I'm depressed. Man, 500 00:26:58,119 --> 00:27:01,520 Speaker 1: is that like just it? I did it for my 501 00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:04,240 Speaker 1: vocal coach the other day, Like I was like, I'm 502 00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:06,480 Speaker 1: too depressed to meet I'm sorry, I'm not gonna lie 503 00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:08,959 Speaker 1: and say anything else, like I just I'm having horrible 504 00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:13,120 Speaker 1: thoughts today. And the next session we were like all 505 00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:15,479 Speaker 1: we did was talking about that kind of stuff and 506 00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:18,280 Speaker 1: like bonded so much because it was like instead of 507 00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:20,240 Speaker 1: me being like I'm busy or I don't feel very 508 00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:23,080 Speaker 1: good today, it just cut through the ship. And if 509 00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:26,000 Speaker 1: we could be more open about being depressed or those thoughts, 510 00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:29,840 Speaker 1: I wouldn't feel like such a weirdo sometimes because it 511 00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:34,240 Speaker 1: seems like I have a chronic disease. That's just like 512 00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:36,680 Speaker 1: go for a walk around the block. And that's how 513 00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:39,480 Speaker 1: you solve it, Nikki. And it's just like, well this, 514 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:43,040 Speaker 1: if I could do that, I would. I can't walk 515 00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:45,200 Speaker 1: around like you know what I mean. I just don't 516 00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:48,400 Speaker 1: think other people cancer doesn't get this kind of like 517 00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:53,480 Speaker 1: you know, just try harder make your bed every morning, 518 00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:56,240 Speaker 1: Like tell a cancer patient that, like that's the kind 519 00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:58,520 Speaker 1: of thing I'm feel like I'm up against some days. 520 00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:02,040 Speaker 1: Is like an actual physical illness, but it does you know, 521 00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:04,280 Speaker 1: and everyone knows this about mental illness is that it 522 00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:06,960 Speaker 1: doesn't get the same respect that physical illness does because 523 00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,240 Speaker 1: it seems like a choice. Um. But I'm just like 524 00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:13,720 Speaker 1: the more and more I suffer with it, um, and 525 00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:16,199 Speaker 1: it is stuff that There's also obviously stuff I can do. 526 00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:18,080 Speaker 1: Like sometimes people get lung cancer and you go, why 527 00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:19,959 Speaker 1: are you still smoking? It's like okay, yeah, put down 528 00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:23,960 Speaker 1: the cigarettes. There's things I can definitely do, um and 529 00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:26,439 Speaker 1: try to do. But I do wish that we can 530 00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:28,120 Speaker 1: get to a point as a society where you could 531 00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:31,960 Speaker 1: call in sick, or you can also just make say 532 00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:34,760 Speaker 1: that you were molested and then people go, oh, okay, 533 00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:36,960 Speaker 1: sorry I didn't know that, and you could be like, yeah, 534 00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:38,520 Speaker 1: that's why I was late or whatever. I just it's 535 00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,479 Speaker 1: a new joke. I'm working on my act. But I 536 00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:42,600 Speaker 1: think you should casually be able to say you were 537 00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:47,480 Speaker 1: molested and have people if you forgive you yeah, well 538 00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 1: yeah if you were if you were molested, I think 539 00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:51,480 Speaker 1: it should be as easy to admit as saying I 540 00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:54,840 Speaker 1: had my hair like or as shameful I guess as 541 00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:56,760 Speaker 1: being like I had botox or so I don't know, 542 00:28:56,920 --> 00:29:03,160 Speaker 1: or like I I my car hydroplaned, and like sometimes 543 00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:05,040 Speaker 1: you feel it fault for like like the amount of 544 00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:07,240 Speaker 1: shame you have for getting in a car accident, because 545 00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:09,120 Speaker 1: that's some people do a shame about card, since that's 546 00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:11,360 Speaker 1: what I mean, like a little bit maybe, which I 547 00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:13,360 Speaker 1: think you should have zero, but we'll never expect that 548 00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:16,560 Speaker 1: out of anyone because we're a country of shame. But 549 00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:18,800 Speaker 1: being molest it should seem like you just got hit 550 00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:20,720 Speaker 1: by a car or something like it's a car accident 551 00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:22,960 Speaker 1: and you had the right of way to walk and 552 00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:25,920 Speaker 1: you didn't know. But instead because if someone was like 553 00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:30,400 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I I'm if they kept being late for 554 00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:32,840 Speaker 1: meetings or zoomings or something and they were like, I'm sorry, 555 00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:34,960 Speaker 1: I was lost as a kid, I'm really fucked, I'd 556 00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:39,240 Speaker 1: be like, oh, okay, yeah, well I'm glad you even 557 00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:41,800 Speaker 1: can function, or like if they're like my dad beat 558 00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:43,720 Speaker 1: me severely, Like I think people should be able to 559 00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:48,120 Speaker 1: like kind of give their mental illness history or like 560 00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:52,120 Speaker 1: they're child abuse history without it being so heavy. I 561 00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:56,160 Speaker 1: wish definitely never seen since you started talking more about 562 00:29:56,160 --> 00:30:00,320 Speaker 1: botox and filler, I've seen way more people start doing 563 00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:02,320 Speaker 1: that too. I'm not saying you started it, but you're 564 00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:05,800 Speaker 1: define so open about it. Like five years ago or 565 00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:09,880 Speaker 1: maybe even longer, but nobody it was not cool to 566 00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:13,120 Speaker 1: talk about that openly. I feel like it's still something people. 567 00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:17,520 Speaker 1: Yeah people still yeah, keep it very secret. But that's 568 00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:20,360 Speaker 1: a really good comparison those two things. Like people have 569 00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:23,440 Speaker 1: less shame than they did five ten years ago aout 570 00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:27,040 Speaker 1: admitting the botox, And I always compared botox to getting 571 00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:29,440 Speaker 1: your hair died, Like it used to be shameful to 572 00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:32,080 Speaker 1: get your hair highlighted, like women used to like hide, 573 00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:35,320 Speaker 1: like go secretly at night like they were they wouldn't 574 00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:38,160 Speaker 1: talk about it, and it was rude to say did 575 00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:41,040 Speaker 1: you get highlights? Yes, exactly, and that we don't even 576 00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:45,360 Speaker 1: know that there's your natural although you know that's a game. 577 00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:48,800 Speaker 1: What in the book the game that's an egg like 578 00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:52,920 Speaker 1: that because those written. But it wouldn't be an egg 579 00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:54,640 Speaker 1: now because you'd be like, of course it's not natural. 580 00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:56,400 Speaker 1: You take out your hair and be like, no, it's 581 00:30:56,480 --> 00:31:01,320 Speaker 1: from a woman in India, this isn't mine. Um, yeah, 582 00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:03,960 Speaker 1: that I wanted to be. I like, yeah, I would 583 00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:07,240 Speaker 1: like things to be a little bit more just transparent, 584 00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:11,000 Speaker 1: I guess, just honest and transparent, um than they are. 585 00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:14,640 Speaker 1: But it's just, you know, not that way I was yesterday. 586 00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:17,920 Speaker 1: I was at a very um high pressure event all 587 00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:21,880 Speaker 1: day long. I was at um Cynthia Rowley fashion show. 588 00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:23,600 Speaker 1: Because it's fashion Week in New York, which is my 589 00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:26,440 Speaker 1: least favorite week. I forgot that it was that. Do 590 00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:28,520 Speaker 1: you guys remember fashion Week when you lived in New 591 00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:31,360 Speaker 1: York and just like you and I lived together, our 592 00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,600 Speaker 1: street was a major hub before it because there are 593 00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:38,120 Speaker 1: tons of galleries and they would have shows on two. 594 00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:42,160 Speaker 1: It's just like, yeah, and it's just like an alien 595 00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:46,040 Speaker 1: start ship lands in Manhattan and lets off a bunch 596 00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:53,320 Speaker 1: of seven foot tall people cats cats, seven foot tall, 597 00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:59,600 Speaker 1: lengthy vertical cats and they walk around, yes, and they 598 00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:03,400 Speaker 1: they truly look so I mean, I saw a model 599 00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:07,640 Speaker 1: yesterday at this thing and she was probably six ft two, 600 00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:11,040 Speaker 1: very thin, and I was like, well, and she was. 601 00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,120 Speaker 1: I saw her taking pictures. She was stunning, had a 602 00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:16,320 Speaker 1: gorgeous body, gorgeous face. But then I was like, oh, 603 00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:20,280 Speaker 1: she's the awkward tall girl in high school. These models 604 00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:23,480 Speaker 1: are not like hot in high school. She was like 605 00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:26,520 Speaker 1: on the volleyball team. Maybe it was probably really good 606 00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:29,840 Speaker 1: social studies student. Like this girl. I just saw her 607 00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:32,560 Speaker 1: for like, she's this supermodel, Like I don't know about 608 00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:36,360 Speaker 1: super but you know she's special. She's special model and 609 00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:40,520 Speaker 1: m she uh she wasn't the super Bowl of models. 610 00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:43,680 Speaker 1: She was like the Orange Bowl of Models or whatever, 611 00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:47,880 Speaker 1: um Dorito's Bowl and she but I just saw she 612 00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:50,920 Speaker 1: was like a high school dork, which most models are 613 00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:54,120 Speaker 1: like kind of dorks, you know. But um, I was 614 00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:56,480 Speaker 1: at this event and it was a bunch of comedians 615 00:32:57,520 --> 00:33:03,880 Speaker 1: Ego from UM s N who's hilarious, uh, Rosebud Baker, 616 00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:10,680 Speaker 1: Rachel Feinstein, Claudia oh Sary, I want to say she's 617 00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:14,760 Speaker 1: a girl with no job on Instagram. Um and then 618 00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:20,160 Speaker 1: esther Coup, Michelle boto Art and Mirren and we were 619 00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:24,680 Speaker 1: all doing this UM the show where we got like 620 00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:26,640 Speaker 1: we went I went to a fitting yesterday. We have 621 00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:28,560 Speaker 1: two looks, one for our stand up set, which was 622 00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:30,000 Speaker 1: five minutes long, which, by the way, if you do 623 00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:31,680 Speaker 1: stand up, like no one knows how to do a 624 00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:33,680 Speaker 1: five minutes that We were all like, what is that even? 625 00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:35,520 Speaker 1: Like you would just go out and say Hi, my 626 00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:37,280 Speaker 1: name is NICKI and I'm an alcohol Like what do 627 00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:40,360 Speaker 1: you even say for five minutes that It's like, unhurt. 628 00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:43,000 Speaker 1: I haven't done five minutes since I did the Tonight show. 629 00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:45,360 Speaker 1: Like I was making jokes with Rachel, like you have 630 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:48,040 Speaker 1: to submit your set to Michael Cox by four pm, 631 00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:50,760 Speaker 1: like for standards and practices, because it was like that's 632 00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:53,560 Speaker 1: who you know, get you on this tonight show. But 633 00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:55,200 Speaker 1: it was just like it was a short amount of time, 634 00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:58,120 Speaker 1: but it wasn't about comedy, was more but but Cynthia 635 00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:00,480 Speaker 1: Raley kepting like, no, it's about the comedy. It's not 636 00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:02,720 Speaker 1: about the fashion. We're like, no, we are all wearing 637 00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:05,640 Speaker 1: outfits we would never fucking were outside of this. We 638 00:34:05,760 --> 00:34:09,440 Speaker 1: looked amazing the fashion. I love Cynthia Rowley. Thank god 639 00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:13,120 Speaker 1: I got asked to do a fashion show earlier this 640 00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:15,840 Speaker 1: year that was happening in Paris that a lot of 641 00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:17,480 Speaker 1: comedians did. You can look it up, but I'm not 642 00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:20,359 Speaker 1: going to say who it was. I turned it down 643 00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:24,239 Speaker 1: because I thought the designs were so hideous, like I 644 00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:26,960 Speaker 1: couldn't find one thing in this collection, and you will 645 00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:28,560 Speaker 1: know it when you see it, when you go see 646 00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:32,800 Speaker 1: find the comedians that did this fashion show. I don't 647 00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:38,200 Speaker 1: know how this person. I'm sorry, artists subjective, but not 648 00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:40,799 Speaker 1: this art It is objectively bad. I don't know how 649 00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:45,040 Speaker 1: anyone would ever wear any of the ship And it 650 00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:47,719 Speaker 1: was all like the coolest guys in comedy too, which 651 00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:49,800 Speaker 1: made me laugh that they have to wear these ridiculous 652 00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:53,319 Speaker 1: outfits even though they're like bad boys of comedy. And 653 00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:55,279 Speaker 1: I can't wait to see a couple of them to 654 00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:58,160 Speaker 1: mock them for it, because they must have felt so 655 00:34:58,239 --> 00:35:00,440 Speaker 1: uncomfortable doing this fashion show. But I got us. I 656 00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:01,799 Speaker 1: turned that down because I was like, I don't want 657 00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:05,040 Speaker 1: to wear any of these clothes. Cynthia Rally, my god, 658 00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:07,120 Speaker 1: is like one of my favorite designers anyway. She's like 659 00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:10,160 Speaker 1: someone who's dresses I wear all the time, and um 660 00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:12,120 Speaker 1: so I was so excited I got to meet her. 661 00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:15,800 Speaker 1: I also saw her daughter on The Bachelor. The daughter 662 00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:18,400 Speaker 1: kid was on one of the butts, so I liked 663 00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:20,600 Speaker 1: I liked her daughter, so I knew her mom would 664 00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:25,360 Speaker 1: be cool. She was so fucking cool, so normal, so nice. 665 00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:28,600 Speaker 1: Someone I'm like, literally truly could be friends with. And 666 00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:30,799 Speaker 1: I don't say that about everyone. Like if she was 667 00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:34,520 Speaker 1: just like a kind of like a what you would 668 00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:36,920 Speaker 1: like an Anna Wintour type, I'd be like, she was amazing. 669 00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:39,200 Speaker 1: She's so such an artist, like I would just say 670 00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:41,920 Speaker 1: that cursory thing. This woman was actually the real deal, 671 00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:46,120 Speaker 1: so cool and um went to a fitting yesterday which 672 00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:48,520 Speaker 1: was super easy, and I thought it was going to 673 00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:50,080 Speaker 1: be like very uncomfortable, but it was in like her 674 00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:52,920 Speaker 1: studio with like all of her like people that are 675 00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:54,760 Speaker 1: working there. And then they have like a little shop 676 00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:57,520 Speaker 1: up front with some stuff, and I got to wear 677 00:35:57,520 --> 00:35:59,680 Speaker 1: this like red number and then this other white dress 678 00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:03,160 Speaker 1: with these boots that's just fantastic, and multiple outfits because 679 00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:05,000 Speaker 1: we had like a curtain call look at the end 680 00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:08,480 Speaker 1: and then so but backstage we had to get there 681 00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:11,520 Speaker 1: at Here's how quickly I do my hair and makeup. 682 00:36:11,560 --> 00:36:13,279 Speaker 1: If I'm going on stage, I can be full hair 683 00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:17,040 Speaker 1: and makeup, total glam from the time I get out 684 00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:21,719 Speaker 1: of the shower too, walking on stage forty minutes to 685 00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:24,960 Speaker 1: blow dry everything. I'm fast when I get my hair 686 00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:26,880 Speaker 1: and makeup done with my team an hour and a half, 687 00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:29,799 Speaker 1: because even that's fast for me for most people because 688 00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:31,440 Speaker 1: they are usually like they need to a half hours. 689 00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:35,440 Speaker 1: We were there at our Carlton was three thirty. We 690 00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:37,360 Speaker 1: didn't go on until eight, and I was like, I 691 00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:42,719 Speaker 1: don't need to get there fifteen hours early. But but 692 00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:46,000 Speaker 1: I wasn't in charge of the day we're there, like 693 00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:48,520 Speaker 1: it was kind of like the no one and no 694 00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:50,359 Speaker 1: one should put their foot down because we were all 695 00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:52,880 Speaker 1: equals that day, like no one's I'm not going to 696 00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,400 Speaker 1: be a devon and show up at six when everyone 697 00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:58,520 Speaker 1: else has been there since four. But we're all getting 698 00:36:58,560 --> 00:37:00,920 Speaker 1: ready in the same room. We're all that just like 699 00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:03,040 Speaker 1: there's different stations and it's just like you go here, 700 00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:07,719 Speaker 1: you go there. And I realized in this process the 701 00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:11,400 Speaker 1: on the fashion side of things amazing. Treated like a princess. 702 00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:14,200 Speaker 1: I love Cynthia Raley. I love the people that she 703 00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:17,680 Speaker 1: works with. It was so fun. Makeup and hair side 704 00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:22,840 Speaker 1: of things a little bit commoditized, like if that's a 705 00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:26,040 Speaker 1: word you I realized with a I have a friend 706 00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:30,120 Speaker 1: who's a model, sayer Lena, and I always when she 707 00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:33,839 Speaker 1: talks about her day's modeling, she does and I've heard 708 00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:36,440 Speaker 1: this before from other people too, is that models are 709 00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:39,600 Speaker 1: just treated like objects, like they're just objectified, like they're 710 00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:42,799 Speaker 1: talked about in front of each other, like people will 711 00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:45,399 Speaker 1: just be like, this needs to come in. Oh my god, 712 00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,520 Speaker 1: her waist is spilling over that this is not gonna fit. 713 00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:50,279 Speaker 1: She looks tired, like they'll they'll talk about you, like 714 00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:53,319 Speaker 1: your car that they're working on, and you forget that 715 00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:55,680 Speaker 1: you're there. Whereas as a comedian in a makeup chair, 716 00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:58,919 Speaker 1: I sit down, I go I okay, So I really 717 00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,239 Speaker 1: like a dark eyebrow with like a sharp edge on 718 00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:03,719 Speaker 1: the um on the front. I don't want them to 719 00:38:03,719 --> 00:38:07,320 Speaker 1: look like a little round sperms. I like uh eyeliner 720 00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:10,480 Speaker 1: in the waterline. I like um full lashes, but not 721 00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:13,920 Speaker 1: too full like false eyelashes. I like mascara on the bottom. 722 00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:16,280 Speaker 1: I do not like any kind of eyeliner on the bottom. 723 00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:17,719 Speaker 1: I like a thin line on the top. I like 724 00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:20,200 Speaker 1: a wing. I like really like pinky blush. I like 725 00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:23,759 Speaker 1: a slight contour on chin. And then um, cheek, I 726 00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:25,319 Speaker 1: like know exactly what I want because I've been doing 727 00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:30,000 Speaker 1: this forever and I swear to God. The guy goes, wow, okay, 728 00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:36,359 Speaker 1: do you know what you want? Like offended, because when 729 00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:38,200 Speaker 1: you're a model, you just sit in a chair and 730 00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:41,040 Speaker 1: get makeup done. There's no mirror in front of you, 731 00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:42,839 Speaker 1: so you can be like, um, can you actually just 732 00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,520 Speaker 1: you get your makeup done, and then you don't get 733 00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:47,200 Speaker 1: to look at and go I like it or not. 734 00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:50,799 Speaker 1: You just moved to the next station. And by the 735 00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:53,920 Speaker 1: end of the night, Rachel had overheard someone commenting about 736 00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:56,839 Speaker 1: some outfit. She'll have to tell it next time she's 737 00:38:56,840 --> 00:38:58,160 Speaker 1: on the podcast. I think it's gonna go in her 738 00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:02,640 Speaker 1: act because she heard someone's saying, we need to find 739 00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:05,920 Speaker 1: an we uh, we need to find another dress for 740 00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:09,520 Speaker 1: Esther and they go, no, Esther looks great. Rachel's probably something. 741 00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:12,480 Speaker 1: It was like Rachel heard with an earshot, like we 742 00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:15,440 Speaker 1: need to fix like, which is Rachel's biggest fear in 743 00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:18,239 Speaker 1: life is that she's like a problem and like and 744 00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:20,440 Speaker 1: it was not the case at all. Rachel looked amazing, 745 00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:23,640 Speaker 1: but like we kept all each of us overhearing little 746 00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:27,279 Speaker 1: things where we weren't where we were like, and then 747 00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:29,279 Speaker 1: the second you start feeling like a model, Like the 748 00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:31,400 Speaker 1: second you're like, have all your glam and you have 749 00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:34,279 Speaker 1: your fucking awesome outfit that's so tight and looks so good, 750 00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:37,520 Speaker 1: and your shoes and you look tall and you look leggy. 751 00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:39,759 Speaker 1: Then in walks this model. We don't even know why 752 00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:41,600 Speaker 1: they brought in a model. We don't even know what 753 00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:45,080 Speaker 1: she did. She was just there to make us realize, 754 00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:49,280 Speaker 1: you know, you are not know if you were starting 755 00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:52,880 Speaker 1: to think that you are a model. Look over there 756 00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:55,440 Speaker 1: at that woman who is a foot taller than you, 757 00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:59,279 Speaker 1: forty pounds lighter than you, wearing that thing like she 758 00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:02,439 Speaker 1: was born in it, with the cheek bone, the cheek 759 00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:08,560 Speaker 1: structure of I don't know, gollum, Like this is you're 760 00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:11,440 Speaker 1: you're nowhere close to her and they you know, I 761 00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:15,520 Speaker 1: just jokes to examine these clowns. It was weird, which 762 00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:17,200 Speaker 1: we didn't even know why she was there. I introduced 763 00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:18,680 Speaker 1: myself to her. I was like taking pictures of her 764 00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:20,360 Speaker 1: because she was so pretty. She was like doing a 765 00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:22,120 Speaker 1: shoot and I was behind the photographer being like is 766 00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:24,759 Speaker 1: this weird that I'm taking? Like you're captivating and I 767 00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:27,719 Speaker 1: want to learn poses. I was making jokes, like at 768 00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:29,200 Speaker 1: one point we were backstage and there was like a 769 00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:31,640 Speaker 1: bowl of mints and someone was and the mints were 770 00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:34,560 Speaker 1: all eaten, and someone was like, wow, someone like those mints. 771 00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:38,080 Speaker 1: And I was like model dinner, and I was just 772 00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:40,000 Speaker 1: like making jokes like that. They did give us a 773 00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:42,400 Speaker 1: really good food, They treated us awesome. I mean, it 774 00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:45,080 Speaker 1: was just a really long day and I'm not gonna lie. 775 00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:48,480 Speaker 1: It sets women up to be competitive when you have 776 00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:53,080 Speaker 1: seven women on a show, all comedians from different genres 777 00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:55,719 Speaker 1: of comedy, like we're talking sketch, we're talking stand up, 778 00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:59,520 Speaker 1: we're talking TikTok, and then you all have to do 779 00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:02,160 Speaker 1: five minute it's. And everyone who loved that show was like, 780 00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:04,560 Speaker 1: I like this person best. I like this person like 781 00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:07,160 Speaker 1: you can't go to a comedy show without ranking everyone 782 00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:09,560 Speaker 1: who you liked the best. And I'm not talking about 783 00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:12,279 Speaker 1: my comedy shows because I have maybe two or three 784 00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:14,520 Speaker 1: comics at most on them. And you're gonna like me 785 00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:16,120 Speaker 1: the best. You should because I do the most of 786 00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:18,040 Speaker 1: my time. And if you like someone more than me, 787 00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:19,880 Speaker 1: it's because they did a shorter amount of time and 788 00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:21,480 Speaker 1: they got to do their best jokes, whereas I had 789 00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:22,960 Speaker 1: to boo a bunch of jokes, I had to do 790 00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:25,799 Speaker 1: an hour. So this whole idea of like, I'd like 791 00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:32,640 Speaker 1: to opener better eight minutes, he did eight minutes. You 792 00:41:32,719 --> 00:41:35,399 Speaker 1: might maybe you should, but also maybe you just do 793 00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:38,920 Speaker 1: and not he, she, anyone. It's just like that's a 794 00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:41,560 Speaker 1: common thing in comedy where you'll be the headliner and 795 00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:45,280 Speaker 1: that you'll see the opener. Someone go you were the best, 796 00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:47,520 Speaker 1: and you go, oh, really because I did an hour 797 00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:50,959 Speaker 1: in fourteen minutes and he did eight. So maybe don't 798 00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:52,799 Speaker 1: say that in front of me with an earshot because 799 00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:54,600 Speaker 1: you know I can hear it. But you get to 800 00:41:54,600 --> 00:41:57,439 Speaker 1: play like, oh, I was just there. I just really 801 00:41:57,480 --> 00:42:01,399 Speaker 1: resonated with. But but that's not he or she. I'm 802 00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:03,960 Speaker 1: not talking about Andrew specifically or anyone that it's happened with. 803 00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:06,080 Speaker 1: Andrew used happened to me as an opener. People would 804 00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:08,520 Speaker 1: say it in front of to you know what, in 805 00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:11,399 Speaker 1: front of headliners to me and go like you were 806 00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:14,719 Speaker 1: actually and I'm like, I did twenty minutes and they 807 00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:17,279 Speaker 1: did an hour twenty of course you're gonna like me more. 808 00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:21,040 Speaker 1: I leave I left you wanting more. Um. But it 809 00:42:21,080 --> 00:42:23,640 Speaker 1: was just like a competitive day because we all I 810 00:42:23,680 --> 00:42:25,920 Speaker 1: went out on stage and I was like, are we're models? 811 00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:28,600 Speaker 1: You guys were models? Like are you loving this comedy 812 00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:31,160 Speaker 1: show from a bunch of models? I go, We're not models. 813 00:42:31,320 --> 00:42:34,360 Speaker 1: We all are very deeply uncomfortable with the setting. The 814 00:42:34,440 --> 00:42:36,439 Speaker 1: reason we got into this is because we're not good 815 00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:40,719 Speaker 1: at this. And the whole audience was influencers. I mean, 816 00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:43,040 Speaker 1: it was all fashioned, but they were a great audience. 817 00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:44,719 Speaker 1: It was really a great show. It was so fun. 818 00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:46,960 Speaker 1: I talked about like a girl falling in a fire 819 00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:50,480 Speaker 1: and how I like loved that, like I did. I did. 820 00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:52,600 Speaker 1: There was one there was a little bit of heckling 821 00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:55,120 Speaker 1: going on and people kept going like because I was like, 822 00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:57,640 Speaker 1: am I hot? You guys like I need to feel hot. 823 00:42:57,680 --> 00:42:59,120 Speaker 1: I need to be hot, And people kept going like 824 00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:03,160 Speaker 1: you're what you're so? And I go because I'm rich, 825 00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:08,759 Speaker 1: and it was it's rich or d n A. That's 826 00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:11,640 Speaker 1: all it is. If you're averagealous of someone, it's because 827 00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:14,560 Speaker 1: they're rich and they can afford something you can't, or 828 00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:18,120 Speaker 1: their mom was hot, or their dad had good legs. 829 00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:21,440 Speaker 1: That's it. And it was just so freeing to scream 830 00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:24,000 Speaker 1: at all these trendy people, to be like stop and 831 00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:27,200 Speaker 1: scream it myself. I mean, it's honestly, like I'm telling myself, 832 00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:31,040 Speaker 1: Like when I get jealous of people, I always have 833 00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:34,080 Speaker 1: to remember it's because their dad or mom had good 834 00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:37,840 Speaker 1: genes or they had the money to do a certain treatment. 835 00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:39,680 Speaker 1: And that's where I start beating myself up, is like 836 00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:43,279 Speaker 1: I'm not doing the right treatments. That's where I start going, Oh, 837 00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:46,040 Speaker 1: I need to do this and that. I want to 838 00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:49,400 Speaker 1: talk about Rihanna's super Bowl when we come back. And 839 00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:51,680 Speaker 1: I also want to talk about something with Olivia Wilde 840 00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:53,400 Speaker 1: that came up after the super Bowl and get your 841 00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:55,640 Speaker 1: guys thoughts on that. So we'll talk about that when 842 00:43:55,680 --> 00:44:00,719 Speaker 1: we get back. All right, we're back. Um, how do 843 00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:02,840 Speaker 1: you guys feel about rihanna super Bowl halftime show? I 844 00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:04,400 Speaker 1: mean we're a little late to it, but I do 845 00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:08,160 Speaker 1: want to give my take. I loved it. I love her, 846 00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:11,040 Speaker 1: That's all I have to say. She could in my book, 847 00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:13,880 Speaker 1: she can do wrong in mine, because I've read about 848 00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:16,400 Speaker 1: her fenty line and how it course people into like 849 00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:19,520 Speaker 1: signing up for like way more money than like a membership, 850 00:44:19,560 --> 00:44:21,960 Speaker 1: and then they like their bank accounts were drained by 851 00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:25,160 Speaker 1: this thing and that all her clothes are made in sweatshops, 852 00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:27,920 Speaker 1: and she's a billionaire, so she's definitely done some things 853 00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:31,920 Speaker 1: that are shady, and you know she's bullied people online 854 00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:34,319 Speaker 1: that I didn't care for that kind of stuff. But man, 855 00:44:34,440 --> 00:44:39,680 Speaker 1: can that girl sing? And man, that performance. If you 856 00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:44,200 Speaker 1: think it was boring, you're boring. You. You're someone who 857 00:44:44,200 --> 00:44:47,520 Speaker 1: needs too much stimulation. You're boring. Look at yourself if 858 00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:49,680 Speaker 1: you thought that, If you've left that performance is boring, 859 00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:53,440 Speaker 1: it's because you are boring you probably, And I get it, 860 00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:55,920 Speaker 1: like there are times where I am a boring person 861 00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:59,279 Speaker 1: too that I'm like, I want more like Pizzazz. We 862 00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:02,160 Speaker 1: needed nothing thing more from her. Those stages moving were 863 00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:05,280 Speaker 1: great enough. The dance sequences. Even though people were joking 864 00:45:05,320 --> 00:45:07,960 Speaker 1: about how she wasn't moving a lot, she fucking ended 865 00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:10,480 Speaker 1: up moving a lot. Maybe she started out slow, but 866 00:45:10,520 --> 00:45:14,400 Speaker 1: there and she's also pregnant and she's singing. Yeah, she 867 00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:18,160 Speaker 1: wasn't singing in some parts she was and like, yes, 868 00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:21,120 Speaker 1: they were agreed, but they there was tracks, but also 869 00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:24,399 Speaker 1: she was singing over track but she um but which 870 00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:26,719 Speaker 1: is fine. I don't even fault that when people are 871 00:45:26,760 --> 00:45:30,319 Speaker 1: like she was lips singing or whatever it's like. But 872 00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:33,280 Speaker 1: at least she sang that live at some point recently 873 00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:36,640 Speaker 1: into a microphone, and it sounded like live to me. 874 00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:39,080 Speaker 1: It didn't sound like two souped up or like too 875 00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:42,160 Speaker 1: many effects on it. It sounded live. So whether she 876 00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:44,279 Speaker 1: did it there or another time, I don't care. It 877 00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:47,560 Speaker 1: was recent enough. This girl has not performed live to 878 00:45:47,680 --> 00:45:51,759 Speaker 1: my knowledge, in like four years. Can you imagine the 879 00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:55,600 Speaker 1: first time you perform live and you never test out 880 00:45:55,640 --> 00:45:57,399 Speaker 1: any of them? I mean, she's she's done so many 881 00:45:57,400 --> 00:46:00,799 Speaker 1: concerts in the past, but years of being dormant. Is 882 00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:03,760 Speaker 1: the super Bowl halftime show, which is the biggest stage, 883 00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:06,839 Speaker 1: the biggest show that you could do. I thought it 884 00:46:06,920 --> 00:46:10,920 Speaker 1: was her voice. Her voice commanded enough, and you know 885 00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:15,279 Speaker 1: what also commanded enough, her fucking energy, the confidence that 886 00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:17,600 Speaker 1: woman had. I've said it before about Dave Chappelle, when 887 00:46:17,600 --> 00:46:19,359 Speaker 1: I was watching him one time on stage, I said 888 00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:21,440 Speaker 1: that man is more comfortable on stage than I am 889 00:46:21,440 --> 00:46:23,840 Speaker 1: in bed. And that's the way I fought about Rihanna. 890 00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:28,480 Speaker 1: She was so comfortable. There was no part of me 891 00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:31,680 Speaker 1: that was worried about her. When I watched Katie Perry's 892 00:46:31,719 --> 00:46:34,240 Speaker 1: Super Bowl I was worried when I'm watch Lady Gaga, 893 00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:37,319 Speaker 1: even Gaga, she's a very competent performer that makes me 894 00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:40,600 Speaker 1: feel secure. I was even like when I watched j 895 00:46:40,719 --> 00:46:43,799 Speaker 1: Lo I was literally like having a panic attack of 896 00:46:43,920 --> 00:46:48,160 Speaker 1: like can she do? Like even though she she's another 897 00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:52,240 Speaker 1: performer that never fails. But Rihanna, I was My blood 898 00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:55,080 Speaker 1: pressure went down. It was just like the way she 899 00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:57,960 Speaker 1: was sauntering around the stage, the way even the moment 900 00:46:58,000 --> 00:47:00,760 Speaker 1: with her fenty Beauty product where she's touching her own makeup, 901 00:47:01,320 --> 00:47:05,680 Speaker 1: which is a brilliant marketing, Like I know that it 902 00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:07,719 Speaker 1: was maybe presented to make it look like, oh, the 903 00:47:07,760 --> 00:47:10,319 Speaker 1: camera switched to her too quickly and they caught her 904 00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:13,279 Speaker 1: touching of her makeup. They weren't supposed to. That was 905 00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:16,319 Speaker 1: for the dumbest person watching That was that was who 906 00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:18,680 Speaker 1: that was meant for the dumbest person watching goes They 907 00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:21,080 Speaker 1: should her touching up her makeup. They weren't supposed to. 908 00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:27,000 Speaker 1: That's literally anyone who thought that should be. I don't 909 00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:28,520 Speaker 1: want to say what I think they should, but like 910 00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:32,280 Speaker 1: shouldn't procreate anymore, like anyone who was goofed into thinking 911 00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:34,919 Speaker 1: like they cut the camera too close. First of all, 912 00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:37,080 Speaker 1: if they did, she would be having makeup artists to 913 00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:39,440 Speaker 1: her makeup. She would not be touching it up herself. 914 00:47:39,440 --> 00:47:41,200 Speaker 1: So that's how I know that was a that was 915 00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:43,560 Speaker 1: put in there, but it was also a wink to like, 916 00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:46,520 Speaker 1: I know what I'm doing. I'm a marketing genius. I'm 917 00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:48,600 Speaker 1: putting in a moment where I touched up my own 918 00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:51,319 Speaker 1: makeup on TV in the middle of my performance. What 919 00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:54,000 Speaker 1: does that say to girls watching at home, touch up 920 00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:56,239 Speaker 1: your makeup whenever you want that shameful thing of going 921 00:47:56,280 --> 00:47:59,040 Speaker 1: to the bathroom to do your powder, do it in 922 00:47:59,040 --> 00:48:00,759 Speaker 1: front of the guy at the table Bowl. I just 923 00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:03,600 Speaker 1: did it at the fucking Super Bowl during my performance. 924 00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:07,360 Speaker 1: Never feel ashamed for doing your makeup and having makeup 925 00:48:07,400 --> 00:48:11,880 Speaker 1: nearby you and having my makeup nearby you. It was genius. 926 00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:16,160 Speaker 1: It was genius. And then then at the end when 927 00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:18,399 Speaker 1: she walks in and she's just like at the when 928 00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:20,480 Speaker 1: she knows that she's in, like the she's the fucking 929 00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:23,360 Speaker 1: it's in the final stretch of the show, and she 930 00:48:23,480 --> 00:48:25,920 Speaker 1: walks and she's like, you know, high fiving or like 931 00:48:25,960 --> 00:48:29,640 Speaker 1: whatever she's doing with like the musicians and kind of 932 00:48:29,680 --> 00:48:33,440 Speaker 1: just like sauntering around the stage confidently like her just 933 00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:37,879 Speaker 1: like having a moment with her musicians. It was I 934 00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:40,640 Speaker 1: was awe struck and I was watching on my little phone. 935 00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:43,560 Speaker 1: I watched it after the fact because I was flying 936 00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:47,040 Speaker 1: when it happened. I thought it was awesome. I loved 937 00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:50,640 Speaker 1: there wasn't too much bombastic bullshit. I don't need to 938 00:48:50,680 --> 00:48:53,840 Speaker 1: see fireworks. I don't need to see people dangling from things. 939 00:48:54,040 --> 00:48:56,280 Speaker 1: I don't need to see fifty cents hanging from a wall. 940 00:48:56,719 --> 00:49:01,960 Speaker 1: I thought the Doctor Dre Snoop Pastime show was bad. 941 00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:06,200 Speaker 1: Really sorry, I thought it was bad. I I love them, 942 00:49:06,239 --> 00:49:10,440 Speaker 1: I'm not like a huge, huge fan. I thought that 943 00:49:10,600 --> 00:49:13,479 Speaker 1: set was stupid. I didn't like all the it looked 944 00:49:13,480 --> 00:49:16,480 Speaker 1: like a little Barbie house dollhouse. I just thought it 945 00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:19,040 Speaker 1: was dumb. I thought the performances were good, but I 946 00:49:19,040 --> 00:49:22,360 Speaker 1: thought the set design was was dumb. And what do 947 00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:24,560 Speaker 1: I know about set design? Literally nothing. So if you're 948 00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:26,160 Speaker 1: watching this and you design that set and you're like, 949 00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:28,359 Speaker 1: what the funk? Literally I'm an idiot. So I don't 950 00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:30,319 Speaker 1: know anything. And I'm the only one who didn't like 951 00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:32,360 Speaker 1: the performance, and I can only feel confident saying I 952 00:49:32,400 --> 00:49:35,160 Speaker 1: didn't like it now that I loved Rihanna's because now 953 00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:37,839 Speaker 1: I know what I like and I did not like that. 954 00:49:38,080 --> 00:49:40,759 Speaker 1: And I remember after that happened, everyone was like, that 955 00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:44,640 Speaker 1: was the most amazing thing everyone. I was like, I 956 00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:47,640 Speaker 1: was bored, and it felt weird and it felt like 957 00:49:47,680 --> 00:49:50,280 Speaker 1: I was just looking at these little like a little 958 00:49:50,360 --> 00:49:53,160 Speaker 1: play happening inside the doll house. I didn't like it. 959 00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:55,560 Speaker 1: I love the music so much that it took me 960 00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:57,880 Speaker 1: back and made me feel nostalgic. And I think they're 961 00:49:57,880 --> 00:50:03,480 Speaker 1: creating sets to make you feel like you're in Compton. Okay, 962 00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:07,080 Speaker 1: so it worked, but maybe the super Bowl for me, 963 00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:09,760 Speaker 1: I did not feel like I was there. But remember 964 00:50:09,760 --> 00:50:14,319 Speaker 1: the performer, the girl doing sign language, that was amazing, 965 00:50:14,800 --> 00:50:18,319 Speaker 1: so cool. Yeah, they should have cut between her back 966 00:50:18,360 --> 00:50:20,959 Speaker 1: and forth from her and Rihanna Like that was such 967 00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:22,960 Speaker 1: a that was like this whole other life that it 968 00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:24,920 Speaker 1: was given. Okay, So I want to talk about this 969 00:50:24,960 --> 00:50:27,520 Speaker 1: thing though that Olivia wild posted. Now, Olivia Wilde, you 970 00:50:27,520 --> 00:50:31,160 Speaker 1: know is was dating Harry Styles is not anymore. They 971 00:50:31,200 --> 00:50:35,000 Speaker 1: broke up. Final thought Harry Styles to set the stage 972 00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:38,040 Speaker 1: for this. He did not. He's never really acknowledged that 973 00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:41,480 Speaker 1: she's his girlfriend. Ever impressed even when they were dating. Okay, 974 00:50:43,840 --> 00:50:48,120 Speaker 1: um oh, I got a Valentine's Day thing from Chris. 975 00:50:50,320 --> 00:50:52,600 Speaker 1: It's not huge, but it's a frog emoji, and that's 976 00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:53,960 Speaker 1: like our way of saying I love you as a 977 00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,480 Speaker 1: frog emoji. It's a long story, but I did get 978 00:50:56,480 --> 00:51:03,560 Speaker 1: a frog emoji Happy Valentine's Day to YouTube baby. Um so, uh, 979 00:51:03,600 --> 00:51:05,279 Speaker 1: he's never acknowed that. It made me think of that. 980 00:51:05,320 --> 00:51:07,080 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, is my boyfriend acknowledged me today? 981 00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:10,640 Speaker 1: So he never acknowledged her In an interview during he 982 00:51:10,680 --> 00:51:12,439 Speaker 1: did make Let's say if you made the deadline though, 983 00:51:12,880 --> 00:51:15,919 Speaker 1: because when did this come in by half an hour? 984 00:51:18,440 --> 00:51:20,200 Speaker 1: He did not make He did know he did it. 985 00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:22,640 Speaker 1: He sent it one fifty, he was ten minutes, he 986 00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:24,920 Speaker 1: made it ten minutes to go. So I still have 987 00:51:24,960 --> 00:51:29,400 Speaker 1: a boyfriend. Everyone was really there was any consequences of that. Yeah, 988 00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:32,200 Speaker 1: he said a frog And you know what, and you 989 00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:34,560 Speaker 1: know what I love about it is he didn't know 990 00:51:35,719 --> 00:51:37,480 Speaker 1: I was trying to make the frog emoji R way 991 00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:39,480 Speaker 1: of saying I love you. You You know, some people have 992 00:51:39,520 --> 00:51:41,440 Speaker 1: like a thing like you know in that stupid fucking 993 00:51:41,480 --> 00:51:44,280 Speaker 1: movie where Lady Guga like strokes down or dumb fucking 994 00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:46,279 Speaker 1: knows and like that sort of their way of being like, 995 00:51:46,320 --> 00:51:49,120 Speaker 1: I love you, baby star is born. I hate that 996 00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:51,200 Speaker 1: so much, but I wanted like a thing like that. 997 00:51:51,400 --> 00:51:54,000 Speaker 1: The other day I sent him this frog picture that 998 00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:56,520 Speaker 1: like it said on the frog it said like, look 999 00:51:56,520 --> 00:51:59,040 Speaker 1: at the left corner, bottom left corner, and then you 1000 00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:00,839 Speaker 1: looked down there and a little thing says, look at 1001 00:52:00,840 --> 00:52:02,520 Speaker 1: the right top corner, and then you go up there 1002 00:52:02,520 --> 00:52:04,879 Speaker 1: and you and then goes, now, no, don't look up here. 1003 00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:06,680 Speaker 1: Look at the frog's tongue and like very small in 1004 00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:08,319 Speaker 1: the frog's tongue and says I love you. So it 1005 00:52:08,360 --> 00:52:10,600 Speaker 1: has to you like jumping all over this photo and 1006 00:52:10,600 --> 00:52:12,640 Speaker 1: then it says I love you, but you can't see 1007 00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:15,600 Speaker 1: any of that unless you look closely. And so then 1008 00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:17,799 Speaker 1: I sent that to him one day and he was like, 1009 00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:19,399 Speaker 1: I really liked that, and I was like, and it's 1010 00:52:19,440 --> 00:52:21,720 Speaker 1: kind of stupid. So I was like, well, that's cute 1011 00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:23,600 Speaker 1: that he liked it, because it's kind of like, I 1012 00:52:23,640 --> 00:52:28,040 Speaker 1: don't know, it was just like, uh, dorky and corny. 1013 00:52:28,080 --> 00:52:31,840 Speaker 1: But then um, the other day I sent it again 1014 00:52:31,880 --> 00:52:34,000 Speaker 1: and then sent the frog emoji after it to be like, 1015 00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:36,480 Speaker 1: this is what means what I love you. So now 1016 00:52:36,520 --> 00:52:39,000 Speaker 1: he's connected it and I succeeded. I got a little 1017 00:52:39,040 --> 00:52:41,479 Speaker 1: emoji sign with my boyfriend. You know, it's the small 1018 00:52:41,520 --> 00:52:47,320 Speaker 1: things in life. Really. So Olivia Wild posted about the 1019 00:52:48,120 --> 00:52:52,640 Speaker 1: Rihanna's performance asap Rocky, who is Rihanna's I don't know husband, 1020 00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:57,040 Speaker 1: but definitely baby daddy boyfriend. Um. She he was like 1021 00:52:57,120 --> 00:52:59,560 Speaker 1: cheering her on and I guess she posted a video 1022 00:52:59,640 --> 00:53:01,040 Speaker 1: or all. I was the still of it, but it 1023 00:53:01,080 --> 00:53:03,960 Speaker 1: was on her story and she said, um, oh my god, 1024 00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:07,879 Speaker 1: what is the direct quote? Noah? Okay, so she she 1025 00:53:07,920 --> 00:53:11,400 Speaker 1: tagged Rocky and Rihanna and she goes, if I thought 1026 00:53:11,400 --> 00:53:15,000 Speaker 1: he was hot before, this really put me over the edge. Okay, 1027 00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:21,120 Speaker 1: So he was filming Rihanna right, And people are savagely 1028 00:53:21,160 --> 00:53:23,680 Speaker 1: attacking Olivia Wild for writing this because she said if 1029 00:53:23,719 --> 00:53:25,480 Speaker 1: I thought I loved I thought he was hot before, 1030 00:53:25,520 --> 00:53:28,799 Speaker 1: She's calling someone else's man hot. She tagged him and 1031 00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:31,920 Speaker 1: her in it. What do you guys think about this? 1032 00:53:31,960 --> 00:53:34,080 Speaker 1: We're gonna talk about her what she said afterwards, which 1033 00:53:34,080 --> 00:53:38,359 Speaker 1: I think I know what she was doing. I don't think. 1034 00:53:38,560 --> 00:53:40,319 Speaker 1: I think she was trying to make a point to 1035 00:53:40,440 --> 00:53:44,440 Speaker 1: Harry Styles, like a man that supports his woman is hot. 1036 00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:48,600 Speaker 1: I did not. It's exactly what she was doing because 1037 00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:51,280 Speaker 1: her her post afterward, because people were like, how dare 1038 00:53:51,360 --> 00:53:56,840 Speaker 1: this bitch called Rihanna's boyfriend hot, baby daddy hot? You 1039 00:53:56,840 --> 00:53:58,839 Speaker 1: don't say another woman's man is hot, which I would 1040 00:53:58,840 --> 00:54:02,920 Speaker 1: not be bothered by that at all, An, what do 1041 00:54:02,920 --> 00:54:05,320 Speaker 1: you mean? I mean people do it all the time. 1042 00:54:05,719 --> 00:54:08,120 Speaker 1: I guess if you're a celebrity or celebrity does not 1043 00:54:08,360 --> 00:54:10,880 Speaker 1: publicly say someone's hot if they Like the other day, 1044 00:54:10,920 --> 00:54:12,839 Speaker 1: I did an interview and I said someone was hot 1045 00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:14,920 Speaker 1: that has a wife, and I was like, you know, 1046 00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:16,840 Speaker 1: on my vision board we might end up together. And 1047 00:54:16,840 --> 00:54:18,600 Speaker 1: I was like, you know, because they could get divorced. 1048 00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:21,759 Speaker 1: You never know what happens. And I'm like literally quaking 1049 00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:23,759 Speaker 1: now in fear that that's going to like air and 1050 00:54:23,800 --> 00:54:26,399 Speaker 1: people are going to destroy me for it because it's 1051 00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:28,600 Speaker 1: like he's married, and it's like have you ever heard 1052 00:54:28,640 --> 00:54:32,279 Speaker 1: of divorce before? Like, I'm sorry, Like and also I 1053 00:54:32,320 --> 00:54:35,200 Speaker 1: have a boyfriend. I'm sorry, It's all a joke. I 1054 00:54:35,239 --> 00:54:37,000 Speaker 1: was just joke. I don't really have a vision board 1055 00:54:37,000 --> 00:54:39,160 Speaker 1: of this guy. I'm getting mad about something people aren't 1056 00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:41,799 Speaker 1: even mad at me about. So let me just having 1057 00:54:41,920 --> 00:54:47,160 Speaker 1: arguments in your head beep beep. Okay. So then Olivia 1058 00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:49,680 Speaker 1: Wilde wrote back to all these people being like, how 1059 00:54:49,760 --> 00:54:53,480 Speaker 1: dare you? Everyone fucking hates Olivia Wilde? Okay, everyone does. 1060 00:54:53,640 --> 00:54:56,960 Speaker 1: I like her. People hate her though, because they're jealous. 1061 00:54:57,280 --> 00:55:01,160 Speaker 1: She's beautiful. There's a little apotism. I think that might 1062 00:55:01,160 --> 00:55:02,719 Speaker 1: be going on that people are like, that's what, she's 1063 00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:09,040 Speaker 1: a former princess and she she what she's a former princess. Yeah, 1064 00:55:09,040 --> 00:55:12,720 Speaker 1: she was married to her prince. Okay that and also 1065 00:55:12,840 --> 00:55:17,240 Speaker 1: Harry Styles. Women are so jealous and she's gorgeous and perfect. 1066 00:55:17,680 --> 00:55:20,799 Speaker 1: They're talented and talented, and she's a director and she 1067 00:55:20,920 --> 00:55:22,480 Speaker 1: likes the lime like she likes to be behind the 1068 00:55:22,480 --> 00:55:24,040 Speaker 1: camera in front of the camera. We all hate it. 1069 00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:27,480 Speaker 1: She's artistic, she's cool, she like looks flawless and everything. 1070 00:55:27,680 --> 00:55:32,560 Speaker 1: We are jealous. Me is jealous. Okay, So that's what 1071 00:55:32,680 --> 00:55:35,879 Speaker 1: they're attacking her. But also, would you be pissed if 1072 00:55:35,880 --> 00:55:39,000 Speaker 1: someone wrote about your man. I used to think Matt 1073 00:55:39,040 --> 00:55:41,400 Speaker 1: Pond was hot. Now he's so hot because of how 1074 00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:44,239 Speaker 1: much he is loving on your I would be I'd 1075 00:55:44,280 --> 00:55:47,240 Speaker 1: be like, yes, bitchy, that is hot. I get exactly 1076 00:55:47,280 --> 00:55:50,680 Speaker 1: what she meant. Noah, If I'm tagged, it's okay. If 1077 00:55:50,680 --> 00:55:55,879 Speaker 1: I'm not tagged, I don't know. Okay. She was gonna 1078 00:55:55,920 --> 00:55:57,920 Speaker 1: take her earrings out. Well, you know what, if she 1079 00:55:57,960 --> 00:56:00,440 Speaker 1: didn't tag Rihanna, people would have said that exactly. They 1080 00:56:00,440 --> 00:56:02,040 Speaker 1: would have been like, why didn't you tag Rihanna? You're 1081 00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:04,840 Speaker 1: trying to make a pass at asap. No, she didn't 1082 00:56:04,880 --> 00:56:07,400 Speaker 1: tag sheet. But then because she tagg Rihanna, I was 1083 00:56:07,440 --> 00:56:09,560 Speaker 1: looking at all the comments. They were like, how fucking corny. 1084 00:56:09,640 --> 00:56:11,840 Speaker 1: She tagged Rihanna, like she wants her to see that 1085 00:56:11,880 --> 00:56:14,359 Speaker 1: she's coming for her man. I'm like, this bitch can't win. 1086 00:56:14,920 --> 00:56:18,400 Speaker 1: So then Olivia, following the backlash, wrote another thing on 1087 00:56:18,440 --> 00:56:20,279 Speaker 1: her story, and I liked what she said because it 1088 00:56:20,400 --> 00:56:23,200 Speaker 1: is exactly It tells you exactly what you need to 1089 00:56:23,200 --> 00:56:26,920 Speaker 1: know about why she posted it. She's talking about Harry Man. 1090 00:56:27,200 --> 00:56:29,840 Speaker 1: She did not get the support from harry that she wanted. 1091 00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:31,719 Speaker 1: She wanted him to be proud of her. She wanted 1092 00:56:31,800 --> 00:56:34,239 Speaker 1: him to brag about her. She wanted to post about her. 1093 00:56:34,480 --> 00:56:36,400 Speaker 1: She wanted him to like hold up his phone. She 1094 00:56:36,480 --> 00:56:38,680 Speaker 1: wanted him to do the same thing that she was 1095 00:56:38,719 --> 00:56:41,080 Speaker 1: doing at the Harry Styles Concerts, which was holding up 1096 00:56:41,120 --> 00:56:43,840 Speaker 1: her phone and dancing. She was captured many times supporting 1097 00:56:43,880 --> 00:56:47,000 Speaker 1: him from the side stage. Where was Harry during Don't 1098 00:56:47,040 --> 00:56:50,439 Speaker 1: Worry Darling Press, We didn't see him. That's what maybe 1099 00:56:50,480 --> 00:56:53,000 Speaker 1: led to their breakup. Who really knows, But what did 1100 00:56:53,040 --> 00:56:56,520 Speaker 1: she say? No? So she writes for anyone who got 1101 00:56:56,520 --> 00:57:00,960 Speaker 1: it twisted, it's hot to respect your partner, especially when 1102 00:57:00,960 --> 00:57:04,920 Speaker 1: your partner just did that like that, like what Rihanna 1103 00:57:05,000 --> 00:57:07,360 Speaker 1: just did. It's not as overt as I initially thought. 1104 00:57:07,400 --> 00:57:11,640 Speaker 1: But I know women, and I know what is going 1105 00:57:11,680 --> 00:57:15,319 Speaker 1: on here. This was not about asap racky. This was 1106 00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:19,120 Speaker 1: This was not about I don't really keep saying racky rocky. 1107 00:57:19,160 --> 00:57:22,680 Speaker 1: This is not about Rihannah and I'm saying her name 1108 00:57:23,080 --> 00:57:25,760 Speaker 1: Rihanna and how she feels about her or like trying 1109 00:57:25,800 --> 00:57:29,760 Speaker 1: to get it's how she feels about Harry. She's projecting 1110 00:57:30,120 --> 00:57:33,480 Speaker 1: And aren't we all today? Frog emoji gotta get out 1111 00:57:33,480 --> 00:57:35,520 Speaker 1: of here. Thank you guys for listening. We will see 1112 00:57:35,520 --> 00:57:39,120 Speaker 1: you next week. Happy Valentine's Day, belated. Um, come see 1113 00:57:39,160 --> 00:57:43,600 Speaker 1: me this weekend. Where are we, Anya? Um? We're not 1114 00:57:43,680 --> 00:57:47,040 Speaker 1: anywhere this weekend. Oh, I know where I'm this weekend. 1115 00:57:47,120 --> 00:57:49,640 Speaker 1: I'm in Vegas. Um, so if you're a millionaire, comes 1116 00:57:49,640 --> 00:57:54,080 Speaker 1: see me in Vegas as Steven Tyler's charity for um Alzheimer's. 1117 00:57:54,800 --> 00:57:57,280 Speaker 1: I will be there with Sammy Hagar and John Mayer 1118 00:57:57,920 --> 00:58:02,200 Speaker 1: and um oh loads of other people. It's a huge 1119 00:58:02,200 --> 00:58:03,920 Speaker 1: event that I'm doing on Saturday night, so wish me 1120 00:58:04,000 --> 00:58:06,000 Speaker 1: luck on that. I'll tell you about it on Tuesday's 1121 00:58:06,200 --> 00:58:10,200 Speaker 1: podcast and um and then the next weekend we are 1122 00:58:10,240 --> 00:58:16,880 Speaker 1: where we are in Bloomington, Newport, Kentucky, Lexington, Kentucky. Oh 1123 00:58:16,960 --> 00:58:21,320 Speaker 1: my gosh, Kentucky, Indiana, get on it. Europe that is 1124 00:58:21,320 --> 00:58:23,200 Speaker 1: coming up in May. Can't wait to see you guys 1125 00:58:23,200 --> 00:58:26,440 Speaker 1: out there. Please, besties come to shows. I love meeting you. 1126 00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:27,680 Speaker 1: You can get free meat and greets if you go 1127 00:58:27,760 --> 00:58:29,200 Speaker 1: to the merch booth and just tell them that you're 1128 00:58:29,200 --> 00:58:32,360 Speaker 1: a bestie, they'll hook you up. UM and I can't 1129 00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:33,480 Speaker 1: wait to see you at a show. And thank you 1130 00:58:33,520 --> 00:58:35,000 Speaker 1: so much for listening. I hope you have a great day, 1131 00:58:35,000 --> 00:58:37,440 Speaker 1: and I hope your parents aren't emotionally unavailable. Don't encouraging