WEBVTT - What Are the Backstage Tantrums Like?

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<v Speaker 1>So it's on the side. What's up.

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<v Speaker 2>It's Gandhi and we're gonna do a mini SOD because

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to be consistent and release as many

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<v Speaker 2>episodes throughout the year as I can. We're wrapping it

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<v Speaker 2>up soon and next year could look totally different. Still podcasting,

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<v Speaker 2>but we never know.

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<v Speaker 1>You never know what's going to happen. That's Diamond contributing

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<v Speaker 1>quite a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>We were just talking about So today, by the way,

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<v Speaker 2>it is when you hear this, it will be the seventeenth.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe eighteen eighteenth eighteenth.

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<v Speaker 2>Today as we record it is December thirteenth, Friday the thirteenth,

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<v Speaker 2>which is jingle Ball Day and my birthday. And we

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<v Speaker 2>were interviewing Mark Summers today and then we talked about

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<v Speaker 2>like what a great interview he is because he's one

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<v Speaker 2>of those people who clearly knows how to do an interview.

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<v Speaker 2>He doesn't just one word it. He does the yes

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<v Speaker 2>and and gives you a full sentence and kind of

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<v Speaker 2>leaves things open.

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<v Speaker 1>So timond if we could work on that, that'd be great.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm always like yes, no, don't like that, or mm

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<v Speaker 4>hmm great, wow, yeah, which is funny because you have

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<v Speaker 4>so much to say, just in general, you always have

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<v Speaker 4>something to say until there's a microphone in front of

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<v Speaker 4>your face and then you're like, no, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Man, like okay, don't want this to live forever.

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<v Speaker 2>So I hear tonight at jingle Ball, which is now

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<v Speaker 2>in the past. When you're listening, you have kind of

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<v Speaker 2>some new responsibilities today because you're taking over for a

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<v Speaker 2>person who's not going to be backstage.

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<v Speaker 1>It's typically backstage.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, and she's very nervous about.

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<v Speaker 1>It, but yolo, she's nervous or you're nervous.

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<v Speaker 4>Me Okay, Hi, I'm very No, I'm not very nervous.

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<v Speaker 4>But this will be the first time that I'm doing

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<v Speaker 4>this by myself.

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<v Speaker 3>I've done it before with people.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, but I'm also working with you and Danielle, so

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<v Speaker 4>I'm very excited about that. And luckily it's not like

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<v Speaker 4>when I had to do it before. I was working

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<v Speaker 4>with people from a show that I didn't know, and

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<v Speaker 4>so luckily there was somebody else there with me.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm comfortable.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. What is it that makes you the most nervous

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<v Speaker 1>about this though, the.

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<v Speaker 4>Fact that you could prep as much as you want,

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<v Speaker 4>but when the mics. Come on, anything could come out

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<v Speaker 4>of anyone's mouth at any time. And okay, okay, you

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<v Speaker 4>and Danielle are lunatics. So I mean, this has happened

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<v Speaker 4>to me before where I've said, uh, Danielle know, this

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<v Speaker 4>is what you say and this is.

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<v Speaker 3>What you don't say.

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<v Speaker 4>And she mixed it up and said something that she

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<v Speaker 4>remember what it was, no, okay, something about an artist

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<v Speaker 4>and she said it to the artist and then she goes, oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>that's right. Diamond told me not to say that, and

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<v Speaker 4>like and so yeah, people were looking at me and

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, yeah, well, at least you know that

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<v Speaker 4>I told her not to say exactly anywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, yeah, so you can they do so much.

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<v Speaker 2>And then you know, this is when I say all

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<v Speaker 2>the time, if you have a problem with me, you

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<v Speaker 2>have a problem with me, I promise you. For the

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<v Speaker 2>most part, it's probably not with somebody who was around

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<v Speaker 2>me because I usually don't listen to them. But they

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<v Speaker 2>can also only control you so much, which is really

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<v Speaker 2>not at all. You cannot control people and what comes

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<v Speaker 2>out of their mouth. And when you have quote unquote

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<v Speaker 2>talent who has done this for a very long time,

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<v Speaker 2>and we have a microphone, and we know it's live.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't control what happens. You can do your best,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's it.

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<v Speaker 4>Also, I think i've ever worked with Elvis by myself.

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<v Speaker 4>Either he's good about that stuff. He's really good about

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<v Speaker 4>that stuff. Maybe I not by myself, but clearly i've

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<v Speaker 4>worked with him. But yeah, but he's also another person

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<v Speaker 4>who like, you never got a mood?

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<v Speaker 3>Ooh, babes, what the what is it? It's a piece

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<v Speaker 3>of paper with words on it.

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<v Speaker 2>There have been moments where and I will say this,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, there's the whole. You either die hero, you

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<v Speaker 2>live long enough to become the villain. When I was

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<v Speaker 2>a little baby DJ just starting out, I used to

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<v Speaker 2>see things and be like, oh my god, why are

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<v Speaker 2>they acting that way? I don't understand what the big

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<v Speaker 2>deal is. And now I am in my villain era

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, oh, I see, yeah, you get it.

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<v Speaker 2>I see where it comes from. I see what happened.

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<v Speaker 2>When we are at an event and it is our event.

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<v Speaker 2>We are the talent on stage, backstage, on the air,

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<v Speaker 2>off the air.

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<v Speaker 1>And you try to kick me out of a room.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you kidding?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I'll go home right fucking now.

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<v Speaker 3>It's the Can we talk about that?

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<v Speaker 4>Ye?

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<v Speaker 3>Watching the temper tantrums of you all.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's probably the most entertaining thing I've ever seen

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<v Speaker 4>in my life. Yeah, Like when Danielle gets mad, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>and then she's like.

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<v Speaker 3>It's Danielle like that. You are very like.

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<v Speaker 4>Kind of like the author me are Arthur Memes, and

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<v Speaker 4>you're like, damn it.

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<v Speaker 2>I think think if Danielle has not even a temper tantra,

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<v Speaker 2>but when she feels a certain kind of way, I

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<v Speaker 2>think it's more shocking because she's so happy and like

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<v Speaker 2>easy and just all like, yeah, everything's good, everything's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>So she gets upset.

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<v Speaker 3>It's noticeable.

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<v Speaker 2>That is why you have to be like me, which

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<v Speaker 2>isn't a constant state of keeping people on their toes.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you never know what's gonna happen. So when I

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<v Speaker 2>do have a little outburst, people are like, yeah, that tracks.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I want anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's funny, but nobody is funnier than Elvis.

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<v Speaker 2>Elvis is the best. And I can't even tell you

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<v Speaker 2>some of the stuff he's done because I know he does.

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<v Speaker 2>He wouldn't even want to, but I'll just say this,

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<v Speaker 2>every time I have seen it happen.

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<v Speaker 1>But for once, I was like, you earned that.

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<v Speaker 2>You pushed a nice guy a little too far in

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<v Speaker 2>a stressful situation, and.

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<v Speaker 1>He flipped a table.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, ten out of ten, ten out of ten. I

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<v Speaker 3>love it. I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, man, hilarious.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll just stand there like looking back and forth, like

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<v Speaker 2>watching a tennis match. I'm like, oh, oh, oh, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>oh shit.

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<v Speaker 4>And then I love the fact that like things like

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<v Speaker 4>that are happening. And then you turn around and you

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<v Speaker 4>just see Siary moseying on in with a drinking food

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<v Speaker 4>in his hand, and I'm like, I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Waiting for you.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, this is really good.

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<v Speaker 4>Wow, it would be nice if I could put this

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<v Speaker 4>down and grab something to eat with the scary.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah of chaos backstage. I brought my sister one time

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<v Speaker 2>backstage and I told her, I do not want you

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<v Speaker 2>to be here. I love you more than anything, and

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<v Speaker 2>I want you by my side for anything.

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<v Speaker 1>But this is a dark place.

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<v Speaker 2>Dark things happen, and you never know, and people are

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<v Speaker 2>gonna push you around until you get the fuck out

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<v Speaker 2>of the way, and they're not gonna be nice. Then

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna be mean because if I see someone being rude.

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<v Speaker 1>To you game on. Yeah, And on that night I

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<v Speaker 1>learned something.

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<v Speaker 2>So Elvis always told me, if somebody doesn't want you

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<v Speaker 2>to be there, walk away and let them know. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>walking away because you told me to walk away, and

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<v Speaker 2>you will rue the day.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So that night it was an after party and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>on the flyer for the after party. I'm on the

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<v Speaker 2>flyer because I'm hosting it. We walked from Madison Square

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<v Speaker 2>Garden in the rain, by the way, and it was

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<v Speaker 2>cold all the way to the club and they didn't

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<v Speaker 2>want to let people in until midnight and it was raining,

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<v Speaker 2>and I said, Hi, I'm here for the after party.

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<v Speaker 2>The fucker at the door said, everybody's here for the

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<v Speaker 2>after party. So I don't know why you think you're special.

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<v Speaker 2>You're gonna have to wait. And I said, well, typically

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<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't think I was special, But since I'm on

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<v Speaker 2>the flyer and I don't want to stand out here

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<v Speaker 2>and get soaked with my family, if you could just

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<v Speaker 2>let us in, I'll stand in the doorway. That'd be fine.

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<v Speaker 2>He said no. I was like, all right, I'm counting

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<v Speaker 2>down from five and if we haven't gotten in the

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<v Speaker 2>door by that, I'm going home and you can explain

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<v Speaker 2>why I'm not here because I'm on the flyer. And

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<v Speaker 2>he let me in, and my sister said, please don't

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<v Speaker 2>ever act like that in front of me. Ever.

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<v Speaker 1>Again, I was like, I'm trying to save you, man.

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<v Speaker 2>I would have loved that. I don't want to stand

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<v Speaker 2>out here and get soaked and be cold.

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<v Speaker 1>Come on, man.

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<v Speaker 2>So yes, I had that moment. And then we were

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<v Speaker 2>at another party in Miami. There was a pool party,

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<v Speaker 2>and again we're on the flyer, and I didn't to

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<v Speaker 2>be fair, I didn't have the wristband I was supposed

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<v Speaker 2>to have because I had met up with everybody later.

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<v Speaker 2>So I told him, hey, i'm here, I don't have

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<v Speaker 2>the wristband, but I can go grab one and I'll

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<v Speaker 2>come back out and give it to you. I was

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<v Speaker 2>by myself. It's not like the pack of people. As

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<v Speaker 2>I'm standing there and this man's not letting me in.

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<v Speaker 2>All these listeners are like, can I take a picture

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<v Speaker 2>with you? Can we take pictures? Yeah, for sure, no problems,

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm taking pictures. He still said, I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>who you are. I can't let you in here.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh Elvis, Froggy.

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<v Speaker 2>Everyone are like waving and yelling like get back here,

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<v Speaker 2>what's taking you so long? So I just pointed to

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<v Speaker 2>the guy, was like, he's not letting me in. So

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going home, and I start walking away and somebody

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<v Speaker 2>comes running out and grassy like.

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no, leave she's with us.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow, I'm not going to stand there and fight

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<v Speaker 2>with you to let me into something that I am hosting.

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<v Speaker 4>That's crazy. I would have loved to see that in person.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm gonna leave this guy to let me, so I'm

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<v Speaker 4>gonna leave. You know how stressful being a security guard

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<v Speaker 4>must be because like, Okay, I'm following the rules.

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<v Speaker 3>I know I'm being an asshole, but I'm following the rules.

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<v Speaker 4>And now I'm going to get in trouble because I

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<v Speaker 4>did my job and now you're leaving and what happened.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's the thing. There are so many solutions.

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<v Speaker 2>I used to work out a club and one of

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<v Speaker 2>the things, I think we've talked about this before. Never

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<v Speaker 2>get into it with security because you will lose. They're

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<v Speaker 2>bigger than you, they're stronger and you. The cops are

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<v Speaker 2>on their side every time walk away, but they do

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<v Speaker 2>have brains. They can think with them if they choose

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<v Speaker 2>not to. That's not my problem. So when there's a

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<v Speaker 2>guy at the front who sees the entire cabanda of

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<v Speaker 2>people where I'm supposed to be waving and saying come

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<v Speaker 2>in here, you see listeners taking a photo with me.

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<v Speaker 2>At any given point, you could have been like, hold

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<v Speaker 2>on one second, let me go get somebody. Hey, let

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<v Speaker 2>me ask my manager. Hey, there's thirty seven thousand other

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<v Speaker 2>security guards here. Maybe I could walk you back there

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<v Speaker 2>and see if in fact you were lying. You five

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<v Speaker 2>foot shrimp who's probably not going to do anything, but

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<v Speaker 2>instead you choose to just stand there and be a dick.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think so. We all have brains, let's use them.

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<v Speaker 2>It's important. Oh man, I know I probably sound like

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<v Speaker 2>such an asshole right now, but until you're in these situations,

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<v Speaker 2>it's warranted. These people are assholes. What do you feel

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<v Speaker 2>like in any way you have entered a villain era?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you still in the hero spots? Well, I've always

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<v Speaker 2>been a villain. I'm always a bad guy in a

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<v Speaker 2>lot situation, so I don't really care. Why what makes

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<v Speaker 2>you a bad guy? When you say you're the bad guy,

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<v Speaker 2>what does the bad guy mean? And why do you

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<v Speaker 2>think you're there.

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<v Speaker 4>I think that a lot of the times, my personality,

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<v Speaker 4>like the way that I handle situations, makes me seem

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<v Speaker 4>as if I don't care about things, so it's just

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<v Speaker 4>easier for people to paint me as a villain.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you very much care about things, and I

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<v Speaker 2>think it takes a lot from you to be like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not dealing with this, I don't want to address it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna have nothing to do with it. I think

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<v Speaker 2>that takes a lot more from you than if you

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<v Speaker 2>stay and fight about something. And I think that that's

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<v Speaker 2>your sort of declaration of wars when you act like

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<v Speaker 2>you don't care, because.

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<v Speaker 3>I know you care. Usually when there's a declaration of war,

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<v Speaker 3>you're dead to me.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you verrgo?

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<v Speaker 4>Yep. Once you've gotten me to the point where I

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<v Speaker 4>care enough to feel like I just have to walk

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<v Speaker 4>away and detach and disassociate, then like, oh you're done.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree, you are done, done, done.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. So people are like, oh my god, she's so cold.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes she is.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's funny, and again I'm me, So it's

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<v Speaker 2>very much coming from a place of bias. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think i'm cold or mean, and I get told NonStop

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<v Speaker 2>that I am both of those things, and I'm like, I, uh,

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<v Speaker 2>I thought I was the warmest person I knew you

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<v Speaker 2>and love you and embrace you and try to do nice.

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<v Speaker 4>Things only when you know people or when you're Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>well you're nice to people that you don't know too,

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<v Speaker 4>But like, I think you're very matter of a fact, right,

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<v Speaker 4>So I think that for some people that could be cold,

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<v Speaker 4>and like, I don't think it's mean, but it's just

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<v Speaker 4>like very blunt, straight to the point, are we doing this?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes or no? Great buye, which I appreciate.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's the nicest thing you can do, is

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<v Speaker 2>be direct and not waste people's time. And also, if

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<v Speaker 2>somebody upsets you, you owe it to yourself and to

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<v Speaker 2>that person to tell them why something upset you. Otherwise

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<v Speaker 2>you just build resentment because you didn't set expectations.

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<v Speaker 1>For yourself about how you want someone to treat you.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, well, okay, here's my thing, because I feel like

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<v Speaker 4>everyone has a brain, whether they use it or not.

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<v Speaker 4>Right security, if you know what you did to upset me,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not gonna waste my time telling you what you did.

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<v Speaker 2>But how do you know that they know.

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<v Speaker 4>You're a security guard does not let me in after

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<v Speaker 4>I've explained this and the third and I decide, fuck you,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not doing this. I don't feel like I need

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<v Speaker 4>to explain any further. You can't stand there and pretend

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<v Speaker 4>it's if you don't know why I'm upset. You know,

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<v Speaker 4>turn that thing on that's in your skull, Turn it on,

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<v Speaker 4>Turn it on.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't disagree with you. All I'm gonna say is,

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<v Speaker 2>if I've learned anything over the years of my life,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm the main character in my story. I am not

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<v Speaker 2>the main character in everybody else's story. So while I

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<v Speaker 2>would love to think that the world revolves around me

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<v Speaker 2>and people are doing things intentionally with me in mind,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think that's the case. I actually think people

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<v Speaker 2>are doing things for them. And sometimes when you're doing

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<v Speaker 2>things for yourself and you're not thinking about everybody else,

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<v Speaker 2>you accidentally step on a land mine or hurt somebody's

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<v Speaker 2>feelings or do whatever. And I think I'm being kind

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<v Speaker 2>by telling someone, Hey, this bothered me. You might not

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<v Speaker 2>know that you did something or that this thing bothered me,

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<v Speaker 2>but it does bother me, and I would like for

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<v Speaker 2>it to not happen again, which apparently makes me a monster.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and also I just feel like it could be

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<v Speaker 3>a waste of time. People don't care.

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<v Speaker 2>People do it once and then when they show you

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<v Speaker 2>they don't care, you move on.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, piece up, a town down. I feel like any

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<v Speaker 3>of it.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe I'll grow one day, right, Hopefully I do, right,

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<v Speaker 4>because you're supposed to keep growing and evolving. Absolutely, But

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know. This one thing about me has not changed.

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<v Speaker 4>I can't are you happy with it? Sometimes I think

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<v Speaker 4>that I wonder what my life would be like if.

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<v Speaker 3>I went out of my way to like have I.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't really want to say, confrontation with people, but like

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<v Speaker 4>engage with certain things. Don't really think it would be

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<v Speaker 4>much different, just because it's like, I really believe that

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<v Speaker 4>people know what they're doing when they do you and like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>you may not have realized in the moment what you did,

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<v Speaker 4>but over time you know, so fuck you.

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<v Speaker 1>You have more faith in people than I do.

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<v Speaker 3>Ah, Well, you have more faith in.

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<v Speaker 2>People's intelligence emotional intelligence than I do.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe maybe not, But I don't feel like that's emotional intelligence.

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<v Speaker 4>I think that's just using your brain. I don't think

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<v Speaker 4>emotion has anything to do with that.

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<v Speaker 3>You know when you do something wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I don't think emotional intelligence doesn't have to do

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<v Speaker 2>with being emotional.

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<v Speaker 1>It often has to do with how.

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<v Speaker 2>You read another person, okay, and they're what you perceive

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<v Speaker 2>as their intentions or their energy. I think that's more

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<v Speaker 2>of emotional intelligence than just addressing anger, grief, happiness, whatever

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<v Speaker 2>it is. I think it's it's interpersonal knowing how to

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<v Speaker 2>deal with people just based on vibes and things like that.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe I'll grow, I don't know, maybe don't need to.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe you're happy the way you are and it's not

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<v Speaker 1>like that. Cheers babes.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a Minisodam. We really went on for fifteen minutes.

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<v Speaker 2>That's good, perfect, that's perfect, right, Yeah, excellent. Wait, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>what do you wish for in this new year of life?

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<v Speaker 2>I wish for I know it sounds cliche, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 2>say it. I'm at the place of my life where

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<v Speaker 2>all I want, if I did have a wish come true,

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<v Speaker 2>was for my family and friends, the people who I

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<v Speaker 2>love to be happy and healthy.

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<v Speaker 1>And that is it.

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<v Speaker 2>If I can see those things, that's all I want.

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<v Speaker 4>What about you?

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<v Speaker 1>I have everything I want? Ah, that's so good.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean it I think every day I have everything

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<v Speaker 2>I ever wanted and more. What am I gonna ask for?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna ask for anything. I love that it's

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<v Speaker 2>time for me to do so for other people. Wow,

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<v Speaker 2>And I see you get far more fulfillment watching other

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<v Speaker 2>people be happy, because I'm happy as fuck. So I

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<v Speaker 2>love seeing it from other people.

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<v Speaker 3>It's great. I love them.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope you get all of your wishes this year.

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<v Speaker 2>That's my wish.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that. What was your birthday wish?

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<v Speaker 2>What did you want?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't remember the exact because I remember thinking about it.

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<v Speaker 4>My sister and I had a conversation, like what do

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<v Speaker 4>you want in this new year of life? I just

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<v Speaker 4>want to be healthy and happy and not so chaotic internally.

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<v Speaker 4>Other than that, I'm chilling.

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<v Speaker 2>Because that's like, that's the good stuff. That's the stuff

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<v Speaker 2>you can't buy, but if you have it, it is priceless.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, if someone can buy it, I can probably

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<v Speaker 2>buy it. And if I can't, Elvis, well it's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god. All right, if you want to find

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<v Speaker 1>you online, where they gonna find you?

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<v Speaker 3>At Diamond Sincere on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 2>I am at Baby Hot Sauce on Instagram. Oh shit,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what we could have done and we didn't

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<v Speaker 2>do talkbacks?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll do them in the next episode, A many episode

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<v Speaker 2>of talkbacks. Okay, until then, say bye.