1 00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:05,600 Speaker 1: When a teenager gets pregnant, it becomes a family affair. 2 00:00:05,760 --> 00:00:09,960 Speaker 1: T LC's new series Unexpected explores the ups and downs 3 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:13,080 Speaker 1: of three pregnant teens who are all children of teen 4 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 1: mothers themselves. Parents and grandparents must step in to help 5 00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:20,320 Speaker 1: them through this huge life change. Don't miss the revealing 6 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 1: new series Unexpected Sunday, November twelve at ten nine Central 7 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 1: on t l C. Can't wait Watch the early premiere 8 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:31,840 Speaker 1: now on t LC. Go download the free app. Now, 9 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:34,440 Speaker 1: let's go. Buckle up, hold on tight. We got it 10 00:00:34,440 --> 00:00:37,160 Speaker 1: for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you Tommy 11 00:00:37,479 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 1: subject today for the Strawberry Letter to many issues. Good morning, 12 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 1: Steve Shirley nephew Tommy, Carla. I listened to your show 13 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:48,600 Speaker 1: faithfully every morning because it gives me the inspiration I 14 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:50,840 Speaker 1: need to start my day. I love the way God 15 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:54,440 Speaker 1: truly clips glory first and foremost. On the issues I 16 00:00:54,480 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 1: am emailing about. My wife and I have been together 17 00:00:57,320 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 1: for twenty eight years and married for nineteen. Our problem 18 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 1: is our grown children, twenty seven and twenty five. Seven 19 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 1: year old has a nine year old daughter that we 20 00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 1: have been raising since she was six days old. My 21 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: daughter never comes to see her own child, because she 22 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:16,440 Speaker 1: says her man has told her to cut her ties 23 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:22,240 Speaker 1: with everyone, including her own daughter. Stupid fool. My my 24 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:25,759 Speaker 1: wife wants to adopt her, but doesn't want to hurt 25 00:01:25,840 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: our daughter. Our five year old has three babies and 26 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:32,360 Speaker 1: she is totally lazy. My wife gets up at three 27 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:36,720 Speaker 1: o'clock a m every morning, cleans house, cook's dinner, takes 28 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,560 Speaker 1: care of all the children and my daughter. The twenty 29 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:42,480 Speaker 1: five year old lays on the couch all day long 30 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:45,279 Speaker 1: on the phone, doesn't clean up after her own kids, 31 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 1: and nothing else. She may be pregnant with her fourth child. 32 00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 1: My wife asked her, and she told her what she 33 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:55,440 Speaker 1: does with her body is her business. This may be 34 00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:58,040 Speaker 1: the case, but when the baby is born, she is 35 00:01:58,040 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 1: gonna want my wife to keep it. I told her 36 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:02,960 Speaker 1: that since my daughter is trying to hide her pregnancy 37 00:02:02,960 --> 00:02:05,720 Speaker 1: and getting smart about it, then when the baby is born, 38 00:02:06,160 --> 00:02:08,720 Speaker 1: tell her what you did with your body is your business. 39 00:02:09,600 --> 00:02:12,440 Speaker 1: Since the baby was a secret, let it stay a secret. 40 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: My wife is not a dummy, just entirely too soft. 41 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 1: I am now ready to move on with our life 42 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:22,920 Speaker 1: and get our apartment alone without the kids, with the 43 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: exception of our nine year old granddaughter. My year old 44 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:29,519 Speaker 1: doesn't have a job, so my wife feels sorry for her. 45 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 1: When she had a job and got paid, she ran 46 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 1: off with her money and spent it all on her 47 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 1: friend and would lie and tell her mom and I 48 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:39,040 Speaker 1: that she didn't have any money. I feel that since 49 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:41,960 Speaker 1: God has given us the opportunity to move on, my 50 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 1: daughter can just move in with the friends that she 51 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:46,640 Speaker 1: gave her money to when she got paid. But my 52 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:52,079 Speaker 1: wife feels sorry for the kids. What should I do? Well, um, dear, 53 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 1: what should I do? You know, just what you stated 54 00:02:55,639 --> 00:02:57,639 Speaker 1: in the letter, God has blessed you, you and your 55 00:02:57,639 --> 00:02:59,959 Speaker 1: wife with the opportunity to move on, So I think 56 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: you guys should move on. You know, the kids are 57 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:05,519 Speaker 1: grown with kids of their own, and your wife continues 58 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 1: to enable them, and that is the problem. Your wife 59 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 1: enabling them is the problem. I mean, how will they ever, um, 60 00:03:13,560 --> 00:03:15,680 Speaker 1: be the people they're supposed to be unless she cuts 61 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:17,520 Speaker 1: the apron strings. And she's got to do it at 62 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:20,639 Speaker 1: some point, So why not? Now? Your kids don't respect 63 00:03:20,639 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 1: your wife, they don't respect you, they don't respect themselves. 64 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:25,960 Speaker 1: But my question to you is why are you just, 65 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 1: you know, just standing by and letting this go down 66 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 1: like this. I mean, these are your kids too, right, 67 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: you know. Come on, daddy, help your wife. Somebody needs 68 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:37,720 Speaker 1: to regulate this situation. Get the baby, you guys, move 69 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 1: and let the other grown kids spend for themselves. Twelve 70 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: minutes after we'll be back. Steve. You all right, you're 71 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: listening to the Steve. When a teenager gets pregnant, it 72 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:53,520 Speaker 1: becomes a family affair. Plc's new series Unexpected explores the 73 00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:56,560 Speaker 1: ups and downs of three pregnant teens who are all 74 00:03:56,680 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 1: children of teen mothers themselves. Parents and grandparents must step 75 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:03,760 Speaker 1: in to help them through this huge life change. Don't 76 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:08,120 Speaker 1: miss the revealing new series Unexpected Sunday, November twelve at 77 00:04:08,160 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: ten nine Central on t LC. Can't wait watch the 78 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:16,359 Speaker 1: early premiere now on t LC Go download the free app. Now. 79 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: Come on, Steve with your response to part two of 80 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:28,880 Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter. Okay, here's a deal. First of all, folks, 81 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 1: this letters written by man whatever man right in you 82 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 1: always get right to it. I just understand the male 83 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:40,839 Speaker 1: psyche here. It is too many issues. First of all, 84 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:45,280 Speaker 1: any man to say they got issues right there, they 85 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:50,359 Speaker 1: got issues. Good morning to you, Shirley, and nephew Tommy, 86 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:52,640 Speaker 1: and welcome back Carl, and listen to your show faithfully 87 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:54,839 Speaker 1: every morning because it gives me the inspiration I need 88 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:57,359 Speaker 1: to start my day. I love the way God truly 89 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 1: gets the glory first and foremost. On the issue she was, 90 00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:02,839 Speaker 1: I'm emailing about my wife and I've been together twenty 91 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:06,720 Speaker 1: years and married the nineteen. The problem is I've grown children, 92 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:09,240 Speaker 1: twenty seven and twenty five. Twenty seven year old has 93 00:05:09,240 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: a nine year old daughter that we've been raising. She 94 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 1: was six days old. My daughter never comes to see 95 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:17,720 Speaker 1: her own child because she says her man has told 96 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:20,599 Speaker 1: her to cut ties with everyone, including her own daughter. 97 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:25,039 Speaker 1: Stupid food. My wife wants to adopt her, but that's 98 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:27,560 Speaker 1: in the letter, by the way, and even though it's 99 00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:32,400 Speaker 1: exactly how I feel, stupid food, and I like saying 100 00:05:32,400 --> 00:05:37,799 Speaker 1: it like that too, one more time. Stupid food show 101 00:05:38,160 --> 00:05:45,839 Speaker 1: ignorant thoughts. My wife wants to adopt her, but doesn't 102 00:05:45,839 --> 00:05:49,320 Speaker 1: want to hurt our daughter. Five year old has three babies, 103 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:51,800 Speaker 1: and she's totally lazy. My wife gets up at three 104 00:05:51,800 --> 00:05:54,719 Speaker 1: am every morning, clean's house, cooks dinner, takes care of 105 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 1: all the children, and my daughter to twenty five year 106 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 1: old ladies on the couch all day long on the phone, 107 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:02,159 Speaker 1: doesn't lean up after her own kids and nothing else. 108 00:06:02,440 --> 00:06:04,919 Speaker 1: She may be pregnant with her fourth child. My wife 109 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 1: asked her, and she told her what she deales with 110 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:10,640 Speaker 1: her body is her business. This may be the case, 111 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 1: but when the baby is born, she's gonna want my 112 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,880 Speaker 1: wife to keep it. I told her that since my 113 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 1: daughter is trying to hide her pregnancy and getting smart 114 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 1: about it, then when the baby is born, tell her 115 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: what you did with your body is your business. Since 116 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:27,720 Speaker 1: the baby was a secret, let it stay a secret. 117 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:31,840 Speaker 1: My wife is not a dumby, just entirely too soft. 118 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:34,640 Speaker 1: I am now ready to move on with our life 119 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:37,279 Speaker 1: and get our apartment alone without the kids and the 120 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:40,360 Speaker 1: exception of our nine year old granddaughter. My twenty five 121 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:43,240 Speaker 1: year old doesn't have a job, so my wife feels 122 00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:45,680 Speaker 1: sorry for her. When she had a job and got paid, 123 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:47,920 Speaker 1: she ran off with her money and spending on her 124 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:49,680 Speaker 1: friends and with Lye and tell her mom and I 125 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:52,080 Speaker 1: that she didn't have any money. I felt, since God 126 00:06:52,120 --> 00:06:54,119 Speaker 1: has given us the opportunity to move on, my daughter 127 00:06:54,160 --> 00:06:56,599 Speaker 1: can just move in with her friends that she gave 128 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 1: her money to when she got paid, but my wife 129 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 1: feels sorry for the kids. What should I do? Well? Brother, 130 00:07:02,120 --> 00:07:04,359 Speaker 1: First of all, let's talk about this. This is your house, 131 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 1: just like it is your wife's house. Now, I got 132 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: your wife feel sorry for the kids, But this is 133 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:14,200 Speaker 1: entirely about you. Man and up. You just got the 134 00:07:14,240 --> 00:07:17,040 Speaker 1: man and put your foot down if you ain't man 135 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 1: enough to put them out, which I can understand because 136 00:07:19,360 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 1: I got daughters, but them kids, and it ain't they fault. 137 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:27,040 Speaker 1: So because your daughter trifling, it's because you allow your 138 00:07:27,120 --> 00:07:30,600 Speaker 1: daughter to be trifling at your house. See if my 139 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:33,080 Speaker 1: daughters were trifling, that would be one thing, But you 140 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 1: ain't fitting to be trifling at my house. You can 141 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:40,560 Speaker 1: go get your own place and take trifling to the 142 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 1: fullest letter of extent of the law. You can put 143 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:46,760 Speaker 1: two capital fls in your trifling if you want to. 144 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: But at this here house, you're gonna be different. Now 145 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:52,880 Speaker 1: you've got two kids that you're letting do some crazy stuff. 146 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 1: Your twenty seven year old you're raising her daughter, and 147 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:58,480 Speaker 1: she's been you've been raising since she was six days old. 148 00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:01,560 Speaker 1: And her daughter don't never come seel because her man 149 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:03,680 Speaker 1: who told her to cut ties and everybody include her 150 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 1: own daughter stupid food. Well what stupid fool you talk about? You? 151 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:11,080 Speaker 1: Is your daughter the stupid food? Because no man should 152 00:08:11,080 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 1: be able to tell a woman she can't go see 153 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 1: her kid. I hope you're calling your daughter a stupid fool. 154 00:08:16,880 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 1: But you and your wife are taking the baby and it 155 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 1: it is yours, and I got it, and I commend 156 00:08:20,200 --> 00:08:23,200 Speaker 1: you on that. That's pretty good. Your wife wanta adopt 157 00:08:23,200 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 1: a baby, but don't want to hurt your daughter. Do 158 00:08:26,440 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 1: you really think your daughter give a damn adopted baby? 159 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:33,719 Speaker 1: And y'all move on now for this trifling health for 160 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 1: that's laying on the couch with the three babies that's 161 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:40,600 Speaker 1: pregnant with the folk. Talking about what she do with 162 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 1: her body is her business? Can I share something with you? See? 163 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:48,840 Speaker 1: Doing what you want to do with your body is 164 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:52,559 Speaker 1: like you gotta tattoo put on it or you're gonna 165 00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:55,840 Speaker 1: get your babel piers. That's doing what you want to 166 00:08:55,880 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 1: do with your body. Having a baby. LiPo suction is 167 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:02,720 Speaker 1: doing what you want to do with your body. Botox, 168 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:08,600 Speaker 1: getting your lips full of weaves, that's doing what you 169 00:09:08,600 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 1: want to do with your body. Having a baby, bringing 170 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:15,760 Speaker 1: a baby. Having a baby is bringing another life into 171 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:19,000 Speaker 1: the world and with the other three kids that you 172 00:09:19,120 --> 00:09:22,280 Speaker 1: don't take care of. Now, I do what I want 173 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:24,600 Speaker 1: to do with my body. Yes, you can in your 174 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 1: own place, but if you're gonna be laying on my couch, 175 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:30,440 Speaker 1: here what we're gonna do now, bro, Here's what I 176 00:09:30,480 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 1: think you ought to do, sir, because obviously you're kind man. 177 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: You're saying your wife too soft, but you're soft too. 178 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 1: You're letting a lot of stuff happen in your house 179 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:42,160 Speaker 1: that you disagree with. Three kids, one on the way, 180 00:09:42,200 --> 00:09:45,200 Speaker 1: all the other got the four. Hear what you do? Dog? 181 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:49,520 Speaker 1: Go rent you apartment for you and your wife. Make 182 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 1: sure there's a place that your wife would love to live. 183 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 1: A matter of fact, just have go and go look 184 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:56,240 Speaker 1: at the place you all want, and then just say, baby, 185 00:09:56,280 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 1: if we ever move, where would you like to live? 186 00:09:58,559 --> 00:10:00,520 Speaker 1: Let her pick it out. When she pick it out, 187 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 1: you go on your own after work one day and 188 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:07,120 Speaker 1: rip the apartment and tell your wife I have the 189 00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:10,839 Speaker 1: place for us to live. We're moving. Thank you, Steve. 190 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:12,319 Speaker 1: You know we gotta get out of here. You can 191 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:15,440 Speaker 1: email our Instagram us your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter 192 00:10:15,520 --> 00:10:19,600 Speaker 1: at my Girl Shirley, Don't forget Tomorrow. Facebook Live the 193 00:10:19,720 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 1: after show with the Strawberry Letter. I'll have my fresh 194 00:10:23,160 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 1: strawberry pick of the week and we'll talk about some 195 00:10:25,320 --> 00:10:29,199 Speaker 1: trending topic. You're listening to The Steve Harvey Morning Show