WEBVTT - On the Market with Tracy Tutor 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.320 Wine Down with Janet Kramer and I Heart Radio podcast 0:00:06.840 --> 0:00:10.119 The Gangs Back Together. I like it in the bands 0:00:10.160 --> 0:00:12.280 together in the same room where I can touch you 0:00:12.360 --> 0:00:19.920 and see your faces. You know. It's so that's all right, 0:00:20.560 --> 0:00:25.040 a real lovey, cuddly Catherine. That's me. Have you guys 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:28.560 had any embarrassing moments to start your year? Because I 0:00:28.600 --> 0:00:33.839 have this sounds like it. Do tell well it involves you. 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:38.560 Oh oh no, did I embarrass you? Oh? I got 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:42.839 nervous what happened? So I was, oh no, no, no, 0:00:43.200 --> 0:00:45.480 I'm not letting you be this way. Oh I am 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:47.919 I'm going to be this way. I can't. I don't 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:49.640 know what's up. I'm not entertaining this. I'm going to 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:51.560 fill you in on this. Cat. This is what happened, 0:00:51.680 --> 0:00:57.800 ready for it. So I'm not letting this is embarrassed. 0:00:57.840 --> 0:01:02.360 This is cringe e like fringe. It's cringe because you 0:01:02.400 --> 0:01:04.280 love me. But it does not need to be cringe 0:01:04.280 --> 0:01:07.640 e because I love you. So I was in Scotland 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:12.279 with my boyfriend and boyfriend we got a B word 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:16.360 on the podcast. I'm not reacting this time. I know 0:01:16.760 --> 0:01:22.360 they always get my like faces anyway. So anyways, in 0:01:22.600 --> 0:01:29.160 Scotland with the boyfriend and say it again. We'd like 0:01:29.240 --> 0:01:31.880 to hear it. But I was putting my makeup on, 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:33.720 and you know, I like to when either when I'm 0:01:33.760 --> 0:01:35.840 running or do my makeup, I like to make some 0:01:35.880 --> 0:01:39.280 FaceTime calls. I don't FaceTime Catherine because she hates facetiming. 0:01:39.440 --> 0:01:42.000 So there's certain people that FaceTime. By the way, I 0:01:42.040 --> 0:01:44.360 don't thoroughly enjoy it, but like face timing you just 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:47.560 so we're clear because you don't like it. Not my 0:01:47.640 --> 0:01:52.640 preference really well, especially when I'm facetiming my sweet beautiful 0:01:53.800 --> 0:01:59.320 actress friend with her brand new boobs, like just's some 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:02.040 sort of wapping the floor at home. Yeah, I have 0:02:02.120 --> 0:02:05.280 like a side ponytail and she's like Baywatch theme music 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:07.320 is playing and she's on the treadmill and like there 0:02:07.360 --> 0:02:11.880 she is, Hey, BF, what's going on? So people stand 0:02:12.160 --> 0:02:16.200 in the darkness. I'm like, Pam Anderson is online one 0:02:16.200 --> 0:02:22.240 I better answer that anyway. So anyhoo, I thought you 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:25.040 liked facetiming, and that's the second part of this embarrassing 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:27.480 now story. I actually really only like it with certain 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:30.600 people and I love it with you, so that should 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:35.519 be good. Well, I I just like to see people's faces. Yeah, 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:38.080 when I talk and Katherine, to be fair, we're not 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:41.119 really like we were were way more text her. We're 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:42.800 way more text her. But we also see each other 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:44.920 in personally, that's true. Yeah, we don't see each other 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:49.920 in person as much. Right. So, well, so I was 0:02:49.960 --> 0:02:52.160 facetiming with you. I was like, oh, I'm putting a 0:02:52.200 --> 0:02:57.200 makeup on, and so he has he'll talk to like 0:02:57.280 --> 0:03:02.079 his brother whoever, and and so I've wanted for him 0:03:02.120 --> 0:03:05.800 to meet my people too. Rite so I'm like, oh, 0:03:05.840 --> 0:03:08.880 I'm gonna FaceTime Kristen, and then you know, you can 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:12.040 meet the b off again because you've based on him 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:13.720 a few times. But the first time he was like 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:17.120 driving and he was trying to concentrate on keeping you safe, 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:20.560 and he was in his turtle neck looking dap so cute, 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:26.720 and so um we FaceTime. We're having this great conversation 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:30.440 and it's you know, it's awesome you you talked to him, 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:34.480 Uh were you know, I'm doing my makeup, I'm getting 0:03:34.520 --> 0:03:36.800 ready for like a really fun night out in Scotland, 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:41.200 and I'm just waking up. It's a great conversation. It's 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:48.600 so great. Cut two the next day, we land back 0:03:48.680 --> 0:03:53.040 in England and I'm driving what you're driving? I mean, 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:59.920 I'm not driving, not only just don't even do the highways. 0:04:02.400 --> 0:04:05.200 So when a really slow white car, I'm like, that's 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:08.800 probably Cramer. Definitely not Cramer. Did you see how she drove? 0:04:08.840 --> 0:04:12.240 That's true. You know why I thought I was driving 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:16.200 because I was in the driver's seat. Oh yeah, in England, right, 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:19.839 So it's like the other side, it's so strange. Um okay. 0:04:19.880 --> 0:04:26.720 So anyways, so driving and it was like, I'm scrolling 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:34.480 on Instagram and I see your birthday post and I go, 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:39.960 oh ship, and I'm almost so loud that he got 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:42.599 into an accident, you know. I freaked mys like what 0:04:42.720 --> 0:04:44.960 and I was like, oh my god, oh no, oh no, 0:04:44.960 --> 0:04:48.760 oh no. I go yesterday, I go it was Christine's birthday. 0:04:48.760 --> 0:04:51.400 He's like, okay, I go. We face time with her. 0:04:52.920 --> 0:04:56.880 I had her on the phone. She was actually like 0:04:56.960 --> 0:04:58.919 the first call of the day. So I was like, 0:04:58.960 --> 0:05:02.880 we'll look at Cramer not and I was like, hey girl, girl, 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:10.360 hey girl girl, not even like and I'm like, what's 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:13.560 even worse is we were on the phone with her 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:18.120 and I didn't say happy birthday. It is not even 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:21.520 this big of a d live for my birthday. But 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:24.040 I never expect anyone else to live for my birthday, 0:05:24.080 --> 0:05:25.760 like it means a lot to me, one of your 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:29.120 best friends. And the fact that I forgot what day 0:05:29.160 --> 0:05:32.160 it was, I mean, you can and you were so 0:05:32.160 --> 0:05:35.040 sweet like you're you've been traveling and it doesn't matter. 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:36.720 I was like, you don't. I was like, first of all, 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:38.960 San Diego, I don't even know where you are. You 0:05:38.960 --> 0:05:40.359 don't know what day it is. You don't even know 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:42.320 if you've arrived the same day you left, Like, how 0:05:42.360 --> 0:05:45.039 would you know it's my birthday? Because I should have 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:48.480 I should have done in a day. I don't care 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:52.560 the excuses that was. I felt so bad, but the 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:55.919 fact that we were on the phone together made it 0:05:56.120 --> 0:05:58.960 so much worse. I mean, I wasn't expecting you guys 0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:02.840 to be like hit it and and shethday. You're a 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:05.640 singer and he has a Scottish accent. I was like, oh, 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:11.920 this is gonna be good, just kidding, kidding. So when 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:15.200 I didn't say happy birthday, I mean, you so gracefully 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:18.320 just hung up the phone. I love you. I mean, 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:21.279 I was let me just waking up. What did you think, 0:06:21.400 --> 0:06:24.760 go ahead, you can call me the you know, just terrible. 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:27.800 I honestly, honestly, I was like so cute that she 0:06:27.880 --> 0:06:29.960 called me on my birthday. I just moved along like 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:34.039 I wasn't. It doesn't make it like it has to 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:37.360 be like I'm tracing you for your birthday, happy birthday. 0:06:37.440 --> 0:06:40.320 Like it's like you already one, Like what are we doing? 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:43.000 So you thought she was calling you for your birthday? 0:06:43.200 --> 0:06:46.000 I forgot to say happy birthday because she's also with 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:50.040 her boyfriend the word, and I was like, oh, that's exciting, 0:06:50.120 --> 0:06:52.200 Like I just don't. I'm just so like, but she 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:54.719 really forgot that it was your birthday? Well, I don't 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:56.520 think she knew a day it was. Let's talk about 0:06:56.520 --> 0:06:58.160 her like she's not here. I don't think we're not 0:06:58.200 --> 0:07:01.800 getting together. I honestly was like she had just gotten there, 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:03.200 So I was like she might just even not know, 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:05.440 like when she wrote and she was like, I'm so embarrassed. 0:07:05.440 --> 0:07:07.279 I'm like, you're not allowed to be embarrassed. You don't 0:07:07.320 --> 0:07:09.600 even maybe know what day it is, And I truthfully didn't. 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:11.840 I had no idea what because when I'm there, it's 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:14.320 such a different world, right, So I don't have my 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:17.080 responsibilities and I don't have work, like a lot of 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:19.640 work to do, and so I didn't I truly didn't 0:07:19.640 --> 0:07:21.600 know what day it was. And we also don't arrive 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:23.480 the same day that you was the fact we were 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:26.480 on the phone. Okay, that really just I believe I 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:29.000 should have done and said hey you. I cannot believe 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:31.360 I forgot to say happy birthday. That's the whole reason 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:32.920 I called you, and we would have moved right through 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:35.920 and we would not have listened to honest. I then 0:07:35.920 --> 0:07:38.240 went knee deep and was like, I got I got it. 0:07:38.280 --> 0:07:40.080 I was like, I know, you actually made a reel 0:07:40.120 --> 0:07:42.720 that made me cry. I was just like, I was like, 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:44.720 I was going to do a post anyways, but I 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:47.160 was like, you got a whole. I gotta I gotta 0:07:47.360 --> 0:07:49.520 a hole. And I was like, I go, I gotta 0:07:49.560 --> 0:07:51.520 make this up to her one second and I go 0:07:52.000 --> 0:07:56.600 give me the next twenty minutes. I mean, I read 0:07:56.680 --> 0:07:59.120 out take for like the last like nine years, and 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:01.080 I was so adding. I was just like making this 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:02.800 real because I was like, I gotta make this so good. 0:08:02.880 --> 0:08:05.600 But the best part was he was so cute. He 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:08.040 was trying to help me pick the song Hasty be 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:13.360 Jessica Simpsons song, and so we're listening to Jessica Simpson 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:15.880 music and she's obsessed Jessica Simpson. I go, but no 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:17.280 one else is going to get this. So I'm like 0:08:17.360 --> 0:08:21.600 with you with and he's like, I can't in person 0:08:21.600 --> 0:08:23.320 in his Scottish accent, he's like, I don't know if 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:25.840 that's that's that's totally British, so it's like terrible, I can't, 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:28.480 But in his cute little Scottish accent, he's like, I 0:08:28.520 --> 0:08:29.920 don't think people are going to get that, you know 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:32.040 what I mean. He's like that when it sounds, it 0:08:32.120 --> 0:08:34.720 sounds like you're you're like lesbian lovers with her. I 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:37.160 was like, well, I am, also, yeah, like we can't. 0:08:37.200 --> 0:08:39.840 We actually have a secret side promise that we'll raise 0:08:39.840 --> 0:08:42.680 our babies together things at the fans. Yeah. Meanwhile, I'm 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:44.880 panicking because you post the day after and I'm like, 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:46.800 I texted her on the wrong day, but then you 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:49.160 didn't respond, So I was like, I don't even know 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:51.240 if I have which is fine, everyone's texting on your birthday. 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:54.320 I'm not, you know, but I'm just like wrong. So 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:56.400 I got a Facebook and I'm like dude, I have 0:08:56.559 --> 0:08:59.760 the wrong or right, and then queened him also Julie 0:08:59.760 --> 0:09:02.719 Tech Happy birthday, Chris. I was like, oh yeah, got 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:06.719 the wrong day. Well, the queendom chats full of Leo's too, 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:09.320 so I just never expect the Leo's to come out first. 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:12.960 I don't. I'm usually terrible with birthdays, and I got you. 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:16.000 That's what I'm saying. It doesn't matter to me with birthdays. 0:09:16.160 --> 0:09:21.360 I am, I love you. It's seventh. I'm always and 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:26.280 you always say you guys. Am I the only one 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:28.320 that is just like not concerned like I really am, 0:09:29.200 --> 0:09:32.880 and especially mine because I'm January three. It's like it's 0:09:32.880 --> 0:09:35.480 been Christmas, it's been New Year, like everyone is finally 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:37.520 taking a deep breath, and now you're you have to 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:40.160 expect to get like calendar rally and come back for me. 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:42.439 I'm January three. I'm fine. I mean, but I reeled 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:45.480 it hard. That was like, my so sorry, you made 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:47.120 me cry. And then I felt bad because I was 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:51.200 sitting with Preston husband watching he made a real two 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:55.040 and it didn't make me cry. So I felt bad 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:57.599 because he's like I was like, look what look what 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:00.680 Kreamer made for me? And he's like you, he gets 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:03.440 I have like artist's best friend, artist husbands. Everybody gets 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:06.880 really ultra competitive. Who's going to get the A C 0:10:07.040 --> 0:10:09.760 M for best real and the birthday? Anyway, So it 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:12.160 was cute and I was not upset at all. I 0:10:12.160 --> 0:10:14.319 don't get upset. I know, well, I love you and 0:10:14.360 --> 0:10:16.480 I'm sorry, and I'm going to do better with birthdays. 0:10:16.480 --> 0:10:18.080 I just truly I you know, I had to put 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:19.680 them in my phone. I forget to put them in 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:21.240 my phone. I've been trying to be better about that, 0:10:21.280 --> 0:10:25.480 and then I do the reoccurring so every year. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:27.680 So I haven't celebrated yours because you were out of town, 0:10:27.679 --> 0:10:29.200 so we owe it to each other. Where was I? 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:31.920 Oh no, I was here alone? Yeah by myself. Oh no, 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:34.320 she was supposed to be out of town. Yeah yeah, 0:10:34.360 --> 0:10:38.079 good job. Yeah. And You're like, hey, guys, just kidding. 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:41.360 And I was like, oh, as I'm pulling my suitcase 0:10:41.360 --> 0:10:56.520 through bn A, I'm like, catch you next time. What 0:10:56.559 --> 0:11:00.439 were gonna say? Cattle? Anyway, I feel like you don't 0:11:00.440 --> 0:11:03.120 really look at your calendar, so you probably would have 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:07.439 Catherine her birthday. Katherine does work, Katherine, how do you 0:11:07.480 --> 0:11:10.200 feel about that and then she says I She goes, 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:12.600 don't forget whatever, and I'm like question mark or I 0:11:12.720 --> 0:11:19.719 just I'm like, nope, please see notes. Please, yeah, just 0:11:19.840 --> 0:11:21.920 check your calendar well, because it's hard because it's like 0:11:21.960 --> 0:11:25.480 the time difference is really tricky to uh with with 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:27.760 being over there, and I know, like we wanted to 0:11:27.800 --> 0:11:30.320 FaceTime you, Preston. I wanted to FaceTime you, but it 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:32.160 would be so late for you, like you would be 0:11:32.240 --> 0:11:34.400 middle of the night, right because it was like eight 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:36.920 o'clock for us. Yeah, and then when he gets home 0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:39.679 from work, that's the time where I put it away, 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:42.840 which is when you guys are all wanting to you know, 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:45.000 work or videos, and I'm like, I just want to 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:48.040 spend time with the man. What happens when he gets 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:52.320 home from work? Wow, we light a fire, which is 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:55.000 so fun. I love lighting fires. You've always been good 0:11:55.000 --> 0:12:00.000 at lighting fires and must be we've had this yeah. 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:03.199 Uh we was really busting her though. The last FaceTime 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:06.360 he was like, and I can't do a Scottish accent either, 0:12:06.440 --> 0:12:07.959 so one of us needs to sign up to get 0:12:08.000 --> 0:12:10.120 really good at that. You can do it when I'm 0:12:10.160 --> 0:12:12.720 around him, but when I when I'm not. I like, yeah, 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:14.760 I don't know what my net, but it's probably British. 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:18.760 Let's try it. She's not doing a very good job 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:23.040 and lighting the fire. I don't know what. I don't 0:12:23.040 --> 0:12:27.720 know what that is. I feel like I feel like 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:33.680 we need like a queendom goes overseas, Queendom to the Kingdom. 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:38.960 We do a wine down tour of that. Let's do 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:43.520 it in England. Yes, to the Palace we go. Wait, guys, 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:45.959 i'd be really fun. We need to do so are 0:12:45.960 --> 0:12:48.440 you listening? We need to do We need your money? 0:12:50.280 --> 0:12:54.280 This is getting right? Um? We should. That would be 0:12:54.320 --> 0:12:57.199 so fun because there's so many tree Hiller fans in England. Yeah, 0:12:58.440 --> 0:13:01.120 I don't like it. On the check Jackie, there's a 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:04.640 little chat that happens when we record, and sometimes I 0:13:04.640 --> 0:13:07.000 ignored the chat because I think we're getting in trouble. 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:09.760 First good thing. That would be so much fun, though, 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:11.520 we should do it. That'd be really fun and then 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:14.480 we can just have fun. Yeah, well, you guys eventually 0:13:14.520 --> 0:13:16.719 meet him, right, but I'm saying like, let's go a 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:20.959 step so we can meet him. Well, this next podcast, 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:25.160 that would be so much fun. It would be super 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:31.120 super fun for one of us. Okay, it really actually 0:13:31.120 --> 0:13:33.079 would be fun for all of us. Also, I've never 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:36.840 been so you've never been were in any of the 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:41.679 any of these? Have you ever ever seen? Yeah? Yeah, 0:13:42.200 --> 0:13:48.880 we never is that overseas. I haven't been anywhere like that. 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:51.880 You've never been to Europe. I never had it until 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:57.160 you were supposed to, and her passport was still working 0:13:57.160 --> 0:13:59.440 on that. I never goot it for new We need 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:02.880 to work on your passport it yet. Okay, let's edit 0:14:02.920 --> 0:14:08.320 that out because we need my heart to favor, don't 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:10.599 to be ready to go? Yeah, yeah, no, you gotta 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:13.599 because you never know. I'm doing it right now and 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:17.760 my family actually dating someone in London exactly expedite. It's 0:14:17.760 --> 0:14:26.360 on the calendar. Speaking of um traveling, we have a 0:14:26.480 --> 0:14:30.440 real estate agent coming on the show, not a travel agent, 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:36.360 not a travel agent, but she going with con She 0:14:36.400 --> 0:14:38.160 has a million dollar listing, so you know, if you 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:42.360 want to she's also adorable, she's she's a badass. Yeah, 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:44.720 but now she's she's on a million million dollar listing 0:14:45.440 --> 0:14:48.640 l A. It's on Bravo. So it's like, you know, traveling, 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:51.720 if you want to go to l A, I got 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:54.040 to go buy a million dollar listening in l A. No, 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:59.400 I'd like to sell my house. That's for sale. My 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:06.360 house is for say all everyone dmzu've for dress. Um No, 0:15:06.520 --> 0:15:08.480 I'm I'm I'm building a new house and I'm really 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:12.280 excited and I have to go. It's it's now officially 0:15:12.320 --> 0:15:14.720 ago and I can officially I can officially officially say 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:20.320 now that I am officially actually, um, this is exciting. 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:22.720 We'll have to sell my house. You're going to sell 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:25.280 your house, but God's just making sure that you don't 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:27.680 have to go live somewhere else in between, right. I 0:15:27.760 --> 0:15:31.040 like it, but I'm really excited. It was last September 0:15:31.600 --> 0:15:36.680 where I texted Nick, Catherine's husband, and I was just like, 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:40.160 I need to I need to get out of here. 0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:43.120 It was I started to like see things from like 0:15:43.240 --> 0:15:45.840 because I built this house with Mike, you know, and 0:15:45.880 --> 0:15:50.320 so I just I just want new memories, fresh beginnings 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:54.720 and uh so, but I also, you know, obviously talked 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:56.080 to the kids and I was like, hey, you know, 0:15:56.640 --> 0:15:58.680 we're still going to be very close, like even closer 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:03.080 to Pam in Harlem and everybody. So uh and we 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:06.280 found a lot that is very private and it just 0:16:06.320 --> 0:16:09.440 feels really good and so yeah, so I've I've been 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:11.440 kind of quiet about it, so much so that you 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:13.800 didn't even know I was. My house was up for sale. 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:18.600 That quendom chat guys sterical, we can revisit it, let's 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:22.680 do it, Okay, okay, okay. So I follow Nick consocials 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:26.240 and all of a sudden, he's like private listing coming 0:16:26.280 --> 0:16:31.400 in in Tennessee, and I'm like, that's Creamer's house. So 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:34.160 I copy it and send it in the queendom and 0:16:34.200 --> 0:16:36.760 I said, it looks like I might be behind, but 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:38.800 does anybody else confused where they're going for the next 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:40.680 one night because I don't think I have the correct 0:16:40.680 --> 0:16:46.360 address anymore. And then it got really good because Julie 0:16:46.400 --> 0:16:49.840 Solomon is hilarious, so funny, and then it just really 0:16:49.880 --> 0:16:53.800 spiraled out of control, like Janna leaving us out of everything, 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:58.320 and I just really needed to like have a minute 0:16:58.400 --> 0:17:03.640 to process it myself, just because I'm so so there's 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:05.920 just like one step between like yourself. And then it 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:09.000 go into socials that we get just little lippy loppy. Well, 0:17:09.040 --> 0:17:12.000 I didn't even think about it, like Nick, everybody didn't care. 0:17:12.160 --> 0:17:14.960 I knew you weren't going far right, but I was like, 0:17:16.240 --> 0:17:20.400 well this is I loved it. The funniest part of it, 0:17:20.440 --> 0:17:23.480 I think Catherine barely knew too. I mean I really truly. 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:25.520 I just texted Nick and was just like I would 0:17:25.560 --> 0:17:28.720 like to start talking about I just I just and 0:17:28.760 --> 0:17:30.919 then cleaned your house and how to film crew and 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:32.480 then yea and had people come and I was like, 0:17:32.520 --> 0:17:34.760 let's put it up there and then and because I 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:38.800 was just I just I'm craving that new lightness and 0:17:38.800 --> 0:17:42.600 that energy and specially think it's important you didn't run. Yeah, 0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:45.640 like you made peace with the space and now it's time. Yeah, 0:17:45.760 --> 0:17:47.520 and it's gonna be great. It's time to you know, 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:52.920 start the next chapter and seasons of change. The funniest 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:54.919 part of those like in Queendom, were very intimate with 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:56.720 each other, Like we we talked about a lot of 0:17:56.760 --> 0:17:59.640 really personal details, and so we were all just dying 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:01.239 because I was like, I know, when this chick has 0:18:01.280 --> 0:18:03.760 a hangnail, and I don't know when she's listening her home, 0:18:05.600 --> 0:18:07.480 I don't know, but I'm excited. But I think it 0:18:07.560 --> 0:18:10.040 was just Also it was even when I put my 0:18:10.040 --> 0:18:11.720 house up for sale and I started the contract on 0:18:11.800 --> 0:18:13.919 the building a new place, I was still because I 0:18:13.920 --> 0:18:15.280 have that mentality and like how am I going to 0:18:15.320 --> 0:18:18.200 afford this? Or how am I gonna? Like that scarcity mindset. 0:18:18.280 --> 0:18:20.879 So it's still very scary, but that's where I'm just 0:18:21.440 --> 0:18:23.680 kind of like, you know what God will provide and 0:18:23.760 --> 0:18:25.440 it's going to be great and it's going to be 0:18:25.480 --> 0:18:27.159 a beautiful home for the kids. And the kids have 0:18:27.200 --> 0:18:29.520 been really involved, like I said, all right, Julie, what 0:18:29.560 --> 0:18:31.160 do you want for your room? How do you guys? 0:18:31.160 --> 0:18:34.000 And so they they're so excited about it. That makes 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:37.280 me happy, and yeah, it's just I'm like, all right, 0:18:37.640 --> 0:18:40.960 this feels really good. And I've you know, with the 0:18:41.000 --> 0:18:44.240 acre that we talked about doing UM and therapies, I'm 0:18:44.280 --> 0:18:46.439 going to be very mindful of who I let into 0:18:46.440 --> 0:18:48.919 my new space and my new energy. And that's that 0:18:49.040 --> 0:18:50.960 was a huge piece of the work that I've done 0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:54.240 with my our therapist to be like, all right, because 0:18:54.480 --> 0:18:58.359 I've let people in here that have I didn't have 0:18:58.480 --> 0:19:00.840 the energy and that I feel like it taints your 0:19:00.880 --> 0:19:03.040 space and I don't. I don't. I want to be 0:19:03.160 --> 0:19:06.879 very mindful of who comes in the house. Um, is 0:19:06.920 --> 0:19:09.560 there some guru or something all of us can go to, 0:19:10.080 --> 0:19:12.119 because I feel like, I do pretty well battling this 0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:16.400 scarcity mindset. Preston as a preacher's kid, so we really 0:19:16.440 --> 0:19:17.800 go through this a lot in our marriage. He has 0:19:17.800 --> 0:19:19.520 a scarcity mindset, Like I want us to all go 0:19:19.600 --> 0:19:24.199 do something where we like take the block away? What 0:19:24.400 --> 0:19:26.160 is I mean? I listened to the secret and that's 0:19:26.160 --> 0:19:31.040 always helpful to me. And Steve Harvey said a really 0:19:31.040 --> 0:19:36.359 good motivational speech. He still like he said it to 0:19:36.480 --> 0:19:39.720 be um six. He's like, you have to get uncomfortable. 0:19:40.440 --> 0:19:44.879 He's like, to be successful, you've got to get uncomfortable comfort. Yeah, 0:19:45.080 --> 0:19:47.639 and so it's like, Okay, I am stretching myself with 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:51.399 this new place, but I am I'm gonna I'm gonna 0:19:51.400 --> 0:19:53.280 be able to provide and I have to believe that. 0:19:53.320 --> 0:19:56.399 And I have to get uncomfortable to be comfortable. And 0:19:56.440 --> 0:19:59.560 that was something that I love that he said. But yeah, 0:19:59.560 --> 0:20:01.680 I would love of that. We should we should find 0:20:01.720 --> 0:20:05.080 some rocks in a river. I don't know. I've thrown 0:20:05.119 --> 0:20:06.720 a lot of rocks and the rivers I've got to throw, 0:20:07.240 --> 0:20:09.720 So I'm tired of throwing rocks and rivers. Like I 0:20:09.760 --> 0:20:11.800 just want to be like I'm just I'm saying this 0:20:12.600 --> 0:20:15.080 is season to just be happy. It's just like we 0:20:15.160 --> 0:20:18.399 just talked about this. Yeah, I don't even know about 0:20:18.400 --> 0:20:22.320 that talk. Yeah that's a sign. But I was like, 0:20:22.320 --> 0:20:25.439 how about we just trying to just be joyful this year? Joyful? 0:20:25.480 --> 0:20:28.200 And that has been my word? Really, Yes, I love 0:20:28.240 --> 0:20:30.680 that word. That's that's my word. Not even just happy, 0:20:30.760 --> 0:20:33.359 like what's happy? You know whatever. Joyful It's such a 0:20:33.359 --> 0:20:36.440 good one. Yeah, like why not? Life's too short? Oh, 0:20:36.560 --> 0:20:38.680 life is way too short, and you're just choosing joy. 0:20:38.680 --> 0:20:40.800 And I think mine too, is like just kindness, like 0:20:40.880 --> 0:20:44.080 just choosing Yeah. Also just assume great things out of 0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:48.000 people and move along. Yeah, and just be kind. I 0:20:48.000 --> 0:20:49.560 know we talked about that million times, but yeah, I 0:20:49.560 --> 0:20:52.480 love the joyful. Its just that's a great one. Just yeah, 0:20:52.640 --> 0:20:54.960 speaking of joyful, wind down makes me joyful. And when 0:20:54.960 --> 0:20:57.480 we're on the road, I get extra joy and we 0:20:57.560 --> 0:21:02.520 are we are. We're going to New York in February 0:21:02.960 --> 0:21:08.880 and Boston. I've never been to Boston. You guys. It's 0:21:09.080 --> 0:21:12.399 beautiful and it's like fun. Everyone I meet from Boston 0:21:12.400 --> 0:21:15.119 I'm obsessed with. It's so much fun. I'm excited. I 0:21:15.160 --> 0:21:17.879 love Boston. Boston is great and New York is going 0:21:17.920 --> 0:21:19.920 to be awesome too. So, um, in February, if you 0:21:19.960 --> 0:21:22.800 guys are listening, wind Down is going to the City 0:21:22.840 --> 0:21:26.439 Wineries second Night or the first second night or we 0:21:26.480 --> 0:21:28.560 sold that in Boston. We added another one than New York. 0:21:28.640 --> 0:21:31.439 So we'll see you guys there. It's gonna be really fun. 0:21:32.160 --> 0:21:34.800 But um, all right, let's take a break and let's 0:21:34.840 --> 0:21:54.520 get Tracy Tutor on. Hi guys, Hi so much Hi. Hi. Okay, 0:21:54.560 --> 0:21:57.159 So you're I've always tried to um figure out the 0:21:57.160 --> 0:22:00.879 difference between a broker and an age. Her her husband's 0:22:00.880 --> 0:22:02.480 a real estate agent, so she was just kind of 0:22:02.480 --> 0:22:05.520 like filling us in, but you are the she no more. Yeah, 0:22:05.800 --> 0:22:09.800 but now I mean truth that we call ourselves brokers 0:22:09.840 --> 0:22:13.720 just but the broker is like the company where you 0:22:13.800 --> 0:22:16.399 had in your license as a real estate agent. You 0:22:16.440 --> 0:22:20.680 can get your broker's license, but I never did that. 0:22:20.880 --> 0:22:24.040 Twenty seven years later, I was like, what's the point, 0:22:24.119 --> 0:22:26.360 because you're do I really want to I don't want 0:22:26.359 --> 0:22:28.680 to open my own brokerage. So there's that. And then 0:22:28.720 --> 0:22:31.760 your dad was really into the you know, the architecture 0:22:31.800 --> 0:22:33.640 side of things. Is that kind of what got you 0:22:33.680 --> 0:22:37.439 into the career that you're in now. Oh no, I 0:22:37.480 --> 0:22:41.280 mean my dad is a builder, and my ex husband's 0:22:41.320 --> 0:22:45.480 a residential builder. My sister is an interior designer. My 0:22:45.560 --> 0:22:48.640 sister and laws an interior designer. So yeah, at some 0:22:48.760 --> 0:22:52.160 level it was in all in the family. But yeah, 0:22:52.160 --> 0:22:57.480 my dad is like infrastructure, so bridges, tunnels, casinos, hotels, 0:22:57.520 --> 0:23:00.840 like much more on a massive scale. Yeah, I love that. 0:23:01.280 --> 0:23:04.360 Are you do you enjoy filming the show? I mean, 0:23:04.400 --> 0:23:06.120 is it something where you're just like to be able 0:23:06.119 --> 0:23:07.879 to do what you love and then also kind of 0:23:07.880 --> 0:23:10.320 get the other side of, you know, being in front 0:23:10.320 --> 0:23:13.840 of the camera and having that that life too. I 0:23:13.960 --> 0:23:17.480 think yeah, I think because I grew up I went 0:23:17.520 --> 0:23:20.520 to theater school, So I started, you know, very young, 0:23:20.640 --> 0:23:24.360 wanting to be an actress, and I was dancing and singing, 0:23:24.440 --> 0:23:26.320 and I wanted to go to New York and be 0:23:26.480 --> 0:23:29.000 in theater and be on the stage. And when I 0:23:29.040 --> 0:23:33.159 graduated from SC theater school, I was like, you know, 0:23:33.200 --> 0:23:37.280 waiting tables and trying to go on auditions. But I 0:23:37.359 --> 0:23:39.560 never really fit into that box of like I wasn't 0:23:39.600 --> 0:23:43.359 like the hot girl or the funny girl. And it 0:23:43.440 --> 0:23:45.479 was really tough back in the day. I mean this 0:23:45.560 --> 0:23:50.439 was like nineteen nine, late nineties, and it was very 0:23:50.480 --> 0:23:52.880 it was very particular about you know, what people were 0:23:52.880 --> 0:23:54.960 looking for in terms of like a leading lady. And 0:23:55.000 --> 0:23:56.600 I was like, I just don't want to wake up 0:23:57.600 --> 0:24:01.840 and be bartending or or be still trying to get 0:24:01.880 --> 0:24:06.119 that gig. I wanted financial independence. And so I remember 0:24:06.119 --> 0:24:07.919 a friend of mine it sat me down and was like, 0:24:07.960 --> 0:24:10.600 why do we do real estate? Um? And she was 0:24:10.640 --> 0:24:13.960 also an actress, And I said, well, I guess you 0:24:14.000 --> 0:24:16.280 know it's not rocket science, right, Like I know how 0:24:16.280 --> 0:24:19.440 to sell. I could sell myself. I could probably sell houses. 0:24:19.560 --> 0:24:22.040 And so I studied to get my real estate license 0:24:22.080 --> 0:24:26.119 and I was probably twenty four at the time, and 0:24:26.160 --> 0:24:29.560 that's when I started my career as Okay, so I'm 0:24:29.560 --> 0:24:32.399 selling my house right now, and I'm I'm building a 0:24:32.440 --> 0:24:36.280 new house, and is there something that sellers do that 0:24:36.320 --> 0:24:38.720 you would recommend, Like is there something that I should 0:24:40.359 --> 0:24:42.240 that I should do differently, or something that you said, 0:24:42.240 --> 0:24:45.520 like it was something that's um like that sellers are 0:24:45.600 --> 0:24:47.480 doing that isn't good or whatever that you should be 0:24:47.520 --> 0:24:49.560 a little insight to help sell my house. I guess 0:24:50.600 --> 0:24:52.919 for sure. I mean I think the first thing I 0:24:52.960 --> 0:24:56.200 do when I'm walking through a house, is I look 0:24:56.240 --> 0:24:58.959 at the front, right, because curb appeal is like the 0:24:59.000 --> 0:25:02.080 first thing that every a body sees. And oftentimes, like 0:25:02.560 --> 0:25:05.399 you know, you'll remodel your house and you'll clean up 0:25:05.440 --> 0:25:09.160 the inside, but when you're pulling up and you see 0:25:09.200 --> 0:25:12.880 the front of the house and the architecture and the landscape, 0:25:13.040 --> 0:25:17.400 that's the first bit of where a buyer decides, Oh, 0:25:17.440 --> 0:25:21.400 I'm like intrigued. So whether that's like planting a little 0:25:21.440 --> 0:25:24.920 bit of some fresh flowers or upgrading your landscaping a 0:25:24.920 --> 0:25:27.840 little bit, I think herb appeals like by far one 0:25:27.840 --> 0:25:29.760 of the most important things that a celler has to 0:25:29.800 --> 0:25:32.640 consider spending a little bit of money on before coming 0:25:32.680 --> 0:25:36.480 to market. And then um on the inside of the house, 0:25:36.520 --> 0:25:38.399 I always say, a fresh code of paint. You know, 0:25:38.440 --> 0:25:41.800 everybody has different tastes, but I think you know, in 0:25:41.800 --> 0:25:44.600 a market like now, particularly this type of market, you 0:25:44.640 --> 0:25:47.719 want to appeal to as many people as possible, and 0:25:47.760 --> 0:25:50.320 we all have. I mean, look at the art behind me. 0:25:50.400 --> 0:25:55.320 This is not appeal to everybody, but it's about thinking about, 0:25:55.920 --> 0:25:59.399 you know, how can I make this I hate to 0:25:59.440 --> 0:26:02.560 say it, but as vanilla as I can, so that 0:26:02.600 --> 0:26:06.280 I can sort of appeal to the masses, because you know, 0:26:06.320 --> 0:26:09.880 there are very few people that have a gift and 0:26:09.880 --> 0:26:12.320 that talent of being able to pull a house together 0:26:12.440 --> 0:26:15.440 and it's you know, all the way right, Like they 0:26:15.440 --> 0:26:18.119 can furnish it well, but then they won't spend money 0:26:18.160 --> 0:26:21.600 on the accessories and the books at the end, which 0:26:22.080 --> 0:26:24.760 you know, to do a house property properly, it has 0:26:24.800 --> 0:26:27.000 to be like layered, it has to have all these 0:26:27.040 --> 0:26:29.919 different elements that sort of finish it off. And I 0:26:29.960 --> 0:26:32.760 think there's very few people that have the gift of 0:26:32.800 --> 0:26:34.520 knowing how to do that. So I'll go into a 0:26:34.520 --> 0:26:38.080 seller's house and no, say, okay, let's talk about like 0:26:38.160 --> 0:26:40.240 what what we really want to spend here to get 0:26:40.240 --> 0:26:42.199 the house ready for sale, or what what kind of 0:26:42.240 --> 0:26:44.720 budget do we have so that we can capitalize on 0:26:44.800 --> 0:26:47.560 your profit on the back end. And if they don't 0:26:47.560 --> 0:26:49.000 have a ton of money to do that, then I 0:26:49.080 --> 0:26:51.480 just simplify. I'll say, okay, so let's get rid of 0:26:51.480 --> 0:26:55.840 the chass personal family photos. We don't like a lot 0:26:55.840 --> 0:27:02.080 of knickknacks, clear the counters um. You almost want people 0:27:02.119 --> 0:27:04.080 to be able to walk into the house and imagine 0:27:04.080 --> 0:27:06.960 themselves living in it, not looking at like, oh, well, 0:27:06.960 --> 0:27:10.880 she's got a family of three. They're super cute. They 0:27:10.920 --> 0:27:13.280 seem to like, you know, this particular type of style. 0:27:13.640 --> 0:27:15.800 You want to be able to imagine themselves in it. 0:27:15.840 --> 0:27:19.879 And I think the more simplistic the houses on the interior, 0:27:20.440 --> 0:27:22.960 the more that it will appeal to the masses and 0:27:23.040 --> 0:27:26.160 hopefully drive up the price. So my entire family wall 0:27:26.480 --> 0:27:31.720 on this area I should probably take down. So as 0:27:31.760 --> 0:27:33.920 long as if you have a family wall in the hallway. 0:27:34.160 --> 0:27:36.199 I had the same thing in my old house, and 0:27:36.200 --> 0:27:38.320 I went, well, this is going to be a bit yeah. 0:27:38.359 --> 0:27:41.640 I mean it's like there's it's it's my entire top thing. 0:27:41.640 --> 0:27:44.680 I've got all these pictures of me and the kids. Well, 0:27:44.840 --> 0:27:46.919 I had the same thing, and I opted not to 0:27:47.000 --> 0:27:49.760 take it down. But you know, people walk by that 0:27:50.040 --> 0:27:52.359 that hallway and they're like, look at this darling family 0:27:52.480 --> 0:27:59.040 now right, you know, as long as it's tasteful, I 0:27:59.080 --> 0:28:01.919 guess right, you think though that people because like my 0:28:02.000 --> 0:28:03.959 fear is like people coming there, it's like, oh, this 0:28:04.040 --> 0:28:07.199 is like the divorce, like they got divorced in the 0:28:07.280 --> 0:28:09.320 house or whatever, Like is there like a death. It's 0:28:09.320 --> 0:28:11.800 like it's like second and I know it's not like 0:28:11.840 --> 0:28:13.760 a death. But I'm saying, like, is it, like, you know, 0:28:13.880 --> 0:28:15.679 is that is that going to be something that's like 0:28:15.680 --> 0:28:19.080 a negative for the house. There's some pretty there's some 0:28:19.280 --> 0:28:23.919 pretty interesting buyers out there, Like, you know, obviously, I 0:28:23.960 --> 0:28:26.440 don't think I think divorce is like fifty of the 0:28:26.480 --> 0:28:30.760 reason people sell their homes. Yeah, But on the flip side, 0:28:30.800 --> 0:28:34.199 you know, you also have you know, families that are 0:28:34.200 --> 0:28:37.399 selling for different reasons, and I think divorce is a 0:28:37.400 --> 0:28:40.640 little bit less concerning death. On the other hand, is 0:28:40.760 --> 0:28:43.280 can be a problem for people, you know, even if 0:28:43.320 --> 0:28:46.960 it's by natural causes. It's like, you know, I bought 0:28:47.000 --> 0:28:50.040 a house back like when I graduated from college. It 0:28:50.080 --> 0:28:53.280 was like my bachelorette pad in the Hollywood Hills. And 0:28:53.320 --> 0:28:55.400 after I bought it had a heart shaped pool. It 0:28:55.440 --> 0:29:00.400 was so fun and um, the neighbor that had there 0:29:00.440 --> 0:29:04.080 for like forty years came over and introduced himself and 0:29:04.120 --> 0:29:06.800 then proceeded to tell me that like thirty years prior, 0:29:06.840 --> 0:29:09.120 an entire family had been murdered in the house, And 0:29:09.240 --> 0:29:15.360 I was it was too late. Did you feel that 0:29:15.480 --> 0:29:17.640 already though, Like was there something or You're like no, 0:29:17.720 --> 0:29:19.400 it was good because I don't think it always has 0:29:19.440 --> 0:29:24.240 to feel that way. No, I didn't have that weird energy. 0:29:24.280 --> 0:29:26.680 I mean again, you know how some people just have 0:29:26.880 --> 0:29:29.560 that gift of going I you know, I steal the 0:29:29.720 --> 0:29:33.080 energy in here. I'm not really that person. My husband, 0:29:33.120 --> 0:29:35.680 I mean. And we walked into a home and I 0:29:35.760 --> 0:29:39.600 knew this is actually hilarious. I knew someone he hadn't 0:29:39.640 --> 0:29:41.480 died in the house, but the reason they were selling 0:29:41.560 --> 0:29:43.760 because the husband had passed away and he was a 0:29:43.800 --> 0:29:46.760 younger husband. And we walked in and I was like, 0:29:46.800 --> 0:29:49.360 what do you think? And He's like, energy is often here. 0:29:49.400 --> 0:29:50.840 I don't know. It just seems kind of dark. And 0:29:50.880 --> 0:29:55.920 I'm like, oh man, I felt bad, but you couldn't 0:29:55.960 --> 0:29:57.760 kind of tell. But it was a beautiful home, but 0:29:57.800 --> 0:29:59.520 there was just kind of like this gloomy and like 0:30:01.000 --> 0:30:04.560 some people have that that the ability to sort of 0:30:04.560 --> 0:30:07.360 feel that type of energy. I've never been that person, 0:30:07.400 --> 0:30:10.720 but I've had clients that are very much like that. 0:30:10.800 --> 0:30:13.240 Like We've gotten to the front door and turned around 0:30:13.280 --> 0:30:15.920 and walked out. So is there do you have to 0:30:15.960 --> 0:30:18.160 disclose any of that? Like legally do you have to 0:30:18.200 --> 0:30:24.280 say like if someone different states, different states have different laws. 0:30:24.400 --> 0:30:29.440 I think in in California, in three years. Um, if 0:30:29.440 --> 0:30:31.840 it's there's been a death in the home in the 0:30:31.920 --> 0:30:35.040 last three years, meaning the person would have had to 0:30:35.080 --> 0:30:38.600 die in the home. Okay, yeah, okay, Well let's just 0:30:38.760 --> 0:30:43.400 change the topic because it matters to me. Like, we 0:30:43.480 --> 0:30:47.040 bought new construction because I thought, I love the creakiness 0:30:47.120 --> 0:30:49.080 of older homes and the character and all the things. 0:30:49.080 --> 0:30:51.520 And my husband's like, nope, somebody died in here. I'm like, okay, 0:30:51.560 --> 0:30:53.880 we'll come on now. So we bought new construction because 0:30:53.880 --> 0:30:55.000 of that. And I was like, I was wondering if 0:30:55.040 --> 0:30:57.400 somebody could like legally have to tell us if that 0:30:57.520 --> 0:31:00.480 is something. I yeah, I don't think I could. I 0:31:00.560 --> 0:31:03.200 love the process of the building. I don't know. I 0:31:03.280 --> 0:31:06.120 just there's something about building. It's it's it's kind of 0:31:06.120 --> 0:31:09.719 stressful doing its single right now because well, I mean, 0:31:10.440 --> 0:31:13.320 you know, like by myself, but because my builder he's like, well, 0:31:13.320 --> 0:31:15.200 where would you like this outlet? I'm like, I'm a 0:31:15.280 --> 0:31:18.040 single mom. I don't know where to put the I 0:31:18.120 --> 0:31:20.120 was like, I need you to be like my husband 0:31:20.240 --> 0:31:21.720 right now. I need you to pretend to be my 0:31:21.800 --> 0:31:23.720 husband in this house. This is going to be a 0:31:23.720 --> 0:31:27.480 real intuitive placed home. It's going to be great, so 0:31:27.680 --> 0:31:31.280 like I just did it myself, but I bought like 0:31:31.280 --> 0:31:33.800 a nine twenties Spanish I actually bought it on the 0:31:33.840 --> 0:31:38.120 show from Josh Flag last season and then spent the 0:31:38.240 --> 0:31:42.440 last year remodeling it sort of top to bottom with 0:31:42.520 --> 0:31:48.080 my ex husband, who I was like, hey, like your mine, 0:31:48.280 --> 0:31:51.160 Can I use you as a resource Because it's been 0:31:51.200 --> 0:31:53.760 five years, I think we've moved past the divorced thing. 0:31:53.800 --> 0:31:57.720 We're co parenting, like could we work together again? And 0:31:57.760 --> 0:32:00.320 we actually got through it, And honestly, I don't think 0:32:00.320 --> 0:32:03.400 I could have picked where the plugs got. Like certain 0:32:03.440 --> 0:32:06.440 things that I'm very good at in terms of like 0:32:06.560 --> 0:32:09.440 design and spatial awareness and all, and then there's certain 0:32:09.480 --> 0:32:13.560 things I'm like, I that electrical, I have no idea, 0:32:14.400 --> 0:32:16.920 Like I'm not handy like that. How long did it 0:32:16.960 --> 0:32:19.680 take for your co parenting to or to be able 0:32:19.720 --> 0:32:24.600 to be on the other side, Uh, we've always co 0:32:24.840 --> 0:32:29.440 parented relatively well, we've been divorced now for about five years, 0:32:30.560 --> 0:32:36.200 I would say true like repair of our friendship and 0:32:36.360 --> 0:32:39.920 you know we were together for married for fourteen big 0:32:39.960 --> 0:32:42.360 together for almost eighteen years, so like most of my 0:32:42.400 --> 0:32:47.040 adult life. UM, I would say it took the better 0:32:47.080 --> 0:32:49.200 part of the last four years. So only in this 0:32:49.320 --> 0:32:51.240 last year and a half have we gotten to a 0:32:51.280 --> 0:32:54.400 place where I I feel like we're friends again, you know, 0:32:54.560 --> 0:32:56.840 like we laugh, you know, we have we get a 0:32:56.920 --> 0:32:59.280 kick out of each other. Like he's known me since 0:32:59.320 --> 0:33:02.080 I was twenty four years old. So is he dating 0:33:03.040 --> 0:33:06.120 for that? Yeah, he's actually married. He got married this 0:33:06.200 --> 0:33:10.280 year to a lovely girl and they're happy. And I'm 0:33:10.320 --> 0:33:12.360 I mean, I'm happy for them. And then how long 0:33:12.400 --> 0:33:16.479 have you been with your boyfriend? We're almost three years, okay? 0:33:16.520 --> 0:33:19.040 And are you are you wanting to do the remarriage 0:33:19.040 --> 0:33:22.760 and all that stuff? I mean, wow, guys, And it's 0:33:22.800 --> 0:33:24.440 like I thought that we were talking about real estate. 0:33:26.080 --> 0:33:36.600 It's like, am for this conversation? No, Um, you know 0:33:37.240 --> 0:33:41.320 I would get married again. I don't feel like that 0:33:41.440 --> 0:33:46.040 pressure to Like there's something sort of freeing about living 0:33:47.160 --> 0:33:49.520 for the moment that you're in and living for the day, 0:33:49.600 --> 0:33:52.640 which when you're married, it's like, you know, the idea 0:33:52.680 --> 0:33:56.440 of till death do you part, right, that's a very 0:33:56.480 --> 0:34:00.400 scary commitment these days. Like I think even my girls 0:34:00.400 --> 0:34:04.080 are like says who like my daughter seventeen, and she 0:34:04.320 --> 0:34:07.040 sent me a text the other day of her something 0:34:07.080 --> 0:34:10.040 that she had written in kindergarten, which I actually remembered, 0:34:10.360 --> 0:34:12.320 about who she wanted to be and what she wanted 0:34:12.360 --> 0:34:14.440 to do when she grown up. Was grown up, and 0:34:14.600 --> 0:34:17.160 she said, I want to have a boat that can 0:34:17.200 --> 0:34:20.239 take me to Arizona, and I'm going to be an 0:34:20.280 --> 0:34:23.399 actress and I'll be out American idol. But I will 0:34:23.480 --> 0:34:26.840 not be married, and I will absolutely not have kids, 0:34:26.840 --> 0:34:29.160 and my name will be Juliette and my boy name 0:34:29.160 --> 0:34:34.560 already is Juliette. So but I but I think like 0:34:35.320 --> 0:34:39.520 the younger generation, particularly young girls, have a little bit 0:34:39.520 --> 0:34:41.680 of a different perception than perhaps what we all grew 0:34:41.760 --> 0:34:44.279 up with in terms of the way they look at 0:34:44.280 --> 0:34:47.439 traditional relationships. And and I don't think that it has 0:34:47.480 --> 0:34:49.839 to be till death do you part anymore. I think 0:34:49.920 --> 0:34:53.439 even obviously we have all found out that marriage isn't 0:34:53.440 --> 0:34:55.840 always until death do you part? So why can't it 0:34:55.960 --> 0:35:01.239 just be tell we're not happy and thriving in the 0:35:01.280 --> 0:35:03.279 way that we need to let anyone. I also don't 0:35:03.320 --> 0:35:05.760 think there's a pressure to get married as young anymore, 0:35:06.040 --> 0:35:09.040 like I think our generation, I think we're all around 0:35:09.080 --> 0:35:11.520 the same age ish, but like it was always like 0:35:11.560 --> 0:35:13.080 I know, in my tiny town, it was like prom 0:35:13.160 --> 0:35:16.160 engagement babies, and they all thought when I got divorced 0:35:16.160 --> 0:35:19.839 at like thirty two and didn't have kids, They're like, well, 0:35:19.880 --> 0:35:21.920 she can she can't even have babies, like you know, 0:35:21.960 --> 0:35:24.000 how would she ever? And then when I remarried and 0:35:24.080 --> 0:35:26.279 had kids and later, you know, so I feel like 0:35:26.320 --> 0:35:28.960 it's kind of wonderful that they don't feel the pressure 0:35:29.000 --> 0:35:33.200 to like have to find someone in their twenties. Well 0:35:33.239 --> 0:35:34.960 you look at I look at some of my girlfriends 0:35:35.000 --> 0:35:39.040 that that never got married, and one of them adopted 0:35:39.080 --> 0:35:44.440 at forty five, one just recently at forty Uh, how 0:35:45.000 --> 0:35:48.040 a sur get involved? Like there's so many different ways 0:35:48.160 --> 0:35:56.359 to maybe skin the cats, not to write around, but 0:35:56.360 --> 0:35:59.280 but I do I feel like, you know, they're lucky 0:35:59.440 --> 0:36:02.120 to have the those kinds of options, you know, as 0:36:02.160 --> 0:36:06.160 beautiful as tradition is, and I appreciate the sentiment of 0:36:06.640 --> 0:36:08.680 till death do you part. If you can make it 0:36:09.160 --> 0:36:14.040 and it's beautiful and it's everlasting, then that's a wonderful thing. 0:36:14.200 --> 0:36:16.160 But I don't think that we need to live in 0:36:16.160 --> 0:36:21.000 that space because there's there's just disappointment that it's attached 0:36:21.040 --> 0:36:23.040 to that that I don't think we need to operate 0:36:23.120 --> 0:36:25.200 from I think if we operate from a place of 0:36:25.520 --> 0:36:29.640 you know, while we're happy, um, I think we're a 0:36:29.719 --> 0:36:32.160 lot more likely to be in more long term like 0:36:32.280 --> 0:36:36.080 healthy relationships. Yeah. I also think to the misconception is 0:36:36.200 --> 0:36:38.360 a lot of times for me too. I know, I 0:36:38.920 --> 0:36:42.760 know that I was putting my happiness in the where 0:36:42.800 --> 0:36:46.880 my status in the relationship was or how um you know, 0:36:46.920 --> 0:36:49.200 if we weren't good, then I'm not Then then I'm 0:36:49.200 --> 0:36:51.960 miserable and I'm not happy. It's like, um, I really 0:36:52.040 --> 0:36:57.560 thought that or I it was I based my happiness 0:36:57.640 --> 0:37:00.440 on the relationship and or him making me happy, and 0:37:00.440 --> 0:37:01.879 it's like he can't. I have to be the one 0:37:01.920 --> 0:37:04.000 to make myself happy. And so I think that was 0:37:04.080 --> 0:37:07.239 a big thing to to realize. I'm like, you know, 0:37:07.239 --> 0:37:10.120 I'm like and it's like, even in a new relationship, 0:37:10.160 --> 0:37:12.319 I'm like, you don't make me happy. You contribute to 0:37:12.320 --> 0:37:14.759 my happiness, but you can't make me happy you And 0:37:16.080 --> 0:37:17.719 that's not even that's never going to be your job. 0:37:17.800 --> 0:37:20.359 Like you can contribute to it, but you're not going 0:37:20.400 --> 0:37:22.840 to be the sole person of like you are my happiness. 0:37:23.600 --> 0:37:26.480 It's such a cycle break because I don't know how 0:37:26.520 --> 0:37:28.960 long have you been apart from your ex husband, but 0:37:29.120 --> 0:37:32.799 two years it's such like a cycle break to go 0:37:32.920 --> 0:37:36.880 through that piece of it, because I think that's just 0:37:37.600 --> 0:37:41.080 that's like nature virtus nurture, right, Like, this is how 0:37:41.120 --> 0:37:44.560 we grew up. Like we can intellectualize that, we can 0:37:44.560 --> 0:37:46.839 talk about it on podcasts, and we do. I do 0:37:46.920 --> 0:37:51.720 all the time about breaking that cycle of of needing 0:37:51.760 --> 0:37:56.799 to feel the happiness within the relationship. But the truth is, 0:37:56.840 --> 0:38:01.200 obviously only we can give that to ourselves. But even now, 0:38:01.560 --> 0:38:05.160 like even when I have a disagreement with my boyfriend, 0:38:05.600 --> 0:38:08.480 like I'm so tied to the people that I love 0:38:09.360 --> 0:38:12.759 that they affect me greatly. They affect my mood, they 0:38:12.800 --> 0:38:16.200 affect how I how I operate, how I function, and 0:38:16.239 --> 0:38:18.759 I have had to learn how to compartmentalize that so 0:38:18.800 --> 0:38:22.680 that I could move throughout my day. And sometimes I 0:38:22.719 --> 0:38:25.879 think by compartmentalizing it, it's kind of brought me back 0:38:25.960 --> 0:38:27.840 to myself. I'm like, Okay, I'm gonna put that away 0:38:27.880 --> 0:38:30.319 for right now because I have work to do. I 0:38:30.360 --> 0:38:32.960 have my kids to deal with, or I need to, 0:38:33.440 --> 0:38:35.759 you know, work on my relationship with my boyfriend or 0:38:36.000 --> 0:38:39.000 whatever it is. But I can't take it on all 0:38:39.040 --> 0:38:42.399 at once. And I think like as a working mom, 0:38:42.400 --> 0:38:45.000 particularly a single mom, and I'm sure you relate to 0:38:45.040 --> 0:38:48.239 this and starting new relationships. It's like you kind of 0:38:48.280 --> 0:38:51.080 put everything in like boxes and you're like, Okay, that's 0:38:51.080 --> 0:38:53.799 how I tack you know, like the ultimate question of 0:38:54.560 --> 0:38:57.160 how do we balance it all? It's like that question 0:38:57.280 --> 0:39:00.560 is like how do I answer that? I just I 0:39:00.680 --> 0:39:03.080 just get through it, yeah, you know, and we're just 0:39:03.120 --> 0:39:05.480 trying that. We were having that conversation because my boyfriend 0:39:05.560 --> 0:39:08.000 right now lives um in England, and so I'm like, 0:39:08.120 --> 0:39:10.480 you know, it's like, well, we're trying not to go 0:39:10.840 --> 0:39:12.799 more than three weeks about seeing each other. And it's 0:39:12.840 --> 0:39:15.680 like the steps like Okay, I can just focus on 0:39:15.719 --> 0:39:18.839 today because if I start going because I'm like, well, 0:39:18.840 --> 0:39:20.239 then I'm filming a movie in April and then I'm 0:39:20.239 --> 0:39:21.680 gonna be doing this, and then I'm like and then 0:39:21.719 --> 0:39:24.520 it's just becomes this like that's not that's not taking 0:39:24.560 --> 0:39:27.680 away my happiness and my joy for the situation that 0:39:27.719 --> 0:39:30.600 I'm in. Right, So it's like just focusing on and 0:39:30.640 --> 0:39:32.600 like you said, like in a way putting putting those 0:39:32.640 --> 0:39:34.960 months in different boxes and right now just focusing on 0:39:35.040 --> 0:39:38.279 like today and the joy that it's bringing. You know, 0:39:38.719 --> 0:39:41.080 I think that's such a big part two of coming 0:39:41.120 --> 0:39:43.880 out of a marriage, Like when you've been dependent on 0:39:43.960 --> 0:39:46.840 that one person for so many years of your life 0:39:46.880 --> 0:39:49.719 and and then all of a sudden there's this massive adjustment, 0:39:49.800 --> 0:39:53.280 and then you're kind of like, Okay, now what um 0:39:53.320 --> 0:39:55.919 you know, I don't want to say fate, but there's 0:39:55.960 --> 0:39:58.880 a reason you're dating someone on the other side of 0:39:58.880 --> 0:40:02.080 the pond, Like that's that's like what you're meant to 0:40:02.120 --> 0:40:04.480 be doing right now, probably to teach you all the 0:40:04.560 --> 0:40:07.320 same things that I've learned over the last five years, 0:40:07.880 --> 0:40:09.879 you know, by falling over and kind of getting back 0:40:09.920 --> 0:40:12.399 up again. It's like you know that that was put 0:40:12.440 --> 0:40:14.719 in front of you because it's a lesson that obviously 0:40:15.120 --> 0:40:16.680 is going to be a gift for you down the 0:40:16.760 --> 0:40:19.600 road one way or the other. Right is gone. It's 0:40:19.600 --> 0:40:22.000 gonna be the greatest gift or the greatest lesson, right. 0:40:22.120 --> 0:40:23.719 That's how That's how I was looking at It's like 0:40:23.719 --> 0:40:25.960 it will be the greatest gift or the greatest lesson. 0:40:26.840 --> 0:40:29.440 Right way to look at it. I was going to 0:40:29.520 --> 0:40:33.319 ask a show question. Please, I know I'm sorry, I like, 0:40:33.480 --> 0:40:35.719 I like to you know, get both things. I like, 0:40:36.160 --> 0:40:37.960 I actually had one more thing on marriage, but I 0:40:38.000 --> 0:40:39.720 was like, I was not going to do that because 0:40:40.200 --> 0:40:44.560 it's probably like, what am I doing? What show? Is that? Okay? 0:40:44.560 --> 0:40:48.040 So in fourteen? This is season fourteen, right, Yeah, I 0:40:48.080 --> 0:40:51.880 mean that's that's a really long TV career. First of all, 0:40:52.040 --> 0:40:54.720 I mean I've been on the show for five years, 0:40:54.800 --> 0:40:58.839 but there's you know, Flag has been on since you're 0:40:58.920 --> 0:41:00.760 what I mean, you blew up on a TV show, 0:41:01.760 --> 0:41:03.840 and it's also huge to be on for five Is 0:41:03.880 --> 0:41:07.880 this the first time you bought a property on the show? Yeah? 0:41:07.960 --> 0:41:11.440 Actually I sold my property after my divorce because I 0:41:11.480 --> 0:41:13.560 signed up for this show and then, you know, as 0:41:13.600 --> 0:41:16.080 one does on the reality show, I got divorced after 0:41:16.120 --> 0:41:24.120 my first season. It really is um I sold my 0:41:24.200 --> 0:41:27.520 first house on the show, and then I bought I 0:41:27.560 --> 0:41:30.520 bought the house that I'm currently in and you know, 0:41:30.719 --> 0:41:32.759 been renovating it for the last year. But I think 0:41:32.800 --> 0:41:36.120 being on this show is this year has been a 0:41:36.160 --> 0:41:38.759 lot of fun. I mean, very different from years past 0:41:38.800 --> 0:41:41.120 because it used to be six of us. I mean again, 0:41:41.160 --> 0:41:43.240 I've only been I've been the only woman on the show, 0:41:44.000 --> 0:41:47.920 but the other five people were men, So they've narrowed 0:41:47.960 --> 0:41:51.799 down the cast to just three of us now, which 0:41:52.040 --> 0:41:54.520 I think allows for a little bit more of like 0:41:54.560 --> 0:41:58.279 a personal relationship with the audience that's been watching the 0:41:58.280 --> 0:42:01.319 show for this long. With all these other I guess 0:42:01.360 --> 0:42:03.279 real estate shows that are out there now that are 0:42:03.320 --> 0:42:08.600 obviously um more drama focused with sort of the real 0:42:08.719 --> 0:42:12.000 estate as a background, will always keep the real estate 0:42:12.040 --> 0:42:15.719 in the foreground. But they've been watching us for this 0:42:15.840 --> 0:42:18.719 many years. They want to know, like, what's going on 0:42:18.800 --> 0:42:21.640 in your relationship, how are your kids? You know, like 0:42:22.080 --> 0:42:24.720 those are things that we haven't tapped into in the past, 0:42:24.800 --> 0:42:26.719 so they we really went there this season, and we 0:42:26.840 --> 0:42:29.799 filmed for eleven months, so it was a lot of 0:42:30.400 --> 0:42:32.839 a lot of hours. Yeah, And I do like that 0:42:32.920 --> 0:42:35.759 about the show, that it isn't drama focused, because like 0:42:36.200 --> 0:42:38.560 a lot of those other ones, I hope we don't 0:42:38.560 --> 0:42:44.200 ever have anybody else come on, but we have. I 0:42:45.160 --> 0:42:48.720 have one, actually, and it's great. It serves its purpose 0:42:48.760 --> 0:42:51.319 and it's great. But I do like I loved I 0:42:51.360 --> 0:42:54.560 love real estate, and I love to see and some 0:42:54.640 --> 0:42:56.040 of them I'm putting on me is what I was 0:42:56.040 --> 0:42:58.879 going to say, Like I'm here to watch what I'm 0:42:58.960 --> 0:43:00.520 I want to see the proper ease. I want to 0:43:00.520 --> 0:43:04.600 see the transformations. Do we get to see your renovation? Yeah, 0:43:04.760 --> 0:43:07.040 I mean you definitely see the inside of the house, 0:43:07.280 --> 0:43:09.279 um quite a bit because we film her all the 0:43:09.360 --> 0:43:12.200 time and I do some stuff on on Bravo TV 0:43:12.400 --> 0:43:14.759 dot com where I do some house tours and things 0:43:14.760 --> 0:43:17.600 of that nature. So that makes it a little fun 0:43:17.680 --> 0:43:22.120 because obviously people saw the house before, um, and so 0:43:22.320 --> 0:43:25.200 it's it's it's a very very different house now. Um. 0:43:25.520 --> 0:43:27.799 Probably the most year old thing I could say that 0:43:27.840 --> 0:43:33.600 I live for a good renovation. It was a fun. 0:43:33.760 --> 0:43:36.040 It was a really fun project to do it with 0:43:36.080 --> 0:43:39.200 my ex husband and then my boyfriend's here and everybody 0:43:39.239 --> 0:43:43.920 has opinions and we're like one big dysfunctional family. Um, 0:43:44.160 --> 0:43:46.920 it was. It was a roller coaster. Um. We're starting 0:43:46.960 --> 0:43:50.000 phase two and I'm doing my guesthouse now, um, which 0:43:50.080 --> 0:43:53.000 I swear to God will never end. But um, it's 0:43:53.040 --> 0:43:55.560 been it's been fun shooting in the house this season 0:43:55.640 --> 0:43:57.680 and kind of letting the viewers in a little bit 0:43:57.680 --> 0:44:01.040 more and and so it seems like i'vebody's enjoying the 0:44:01.080 --> 0:44:03.000 new format, which is, like I said, has been a 0:44:03.000 --> 0:44:05.560 little bit more personal, and I think that's great to 0:44:05.600 --> 0:44:07.520 be able to peel back the layers too. It's like 0:44:07.560 --> 0:44:09.600 you're still keeping the core of what the show is, 0:44:09.640 --> 0:44:12.640 but you're you're peeling back a layer. And I think 0:44:12.680 --> 0:44:15.480 that's really nice to give people that that look inside, 0:44:15.520 --> 0:44:17.440 because that's people. People want to see that, and they 0:44:17.440 --> 0:44:19.640 want to see, you know, what you're going through on 0:44:19.680 --> 0:44:22.319 the days that you're selling a house or looking you know, 0:44:22.360 --> 0:44:24.840 it's like people people want to feel that closeness to you. 0:44:25.080 --> 0:44:28.440 So we think of the questions we've already talked to 0:44:28.480 --> 0:44:34.680 you about, Tracy. I mean, I've already you know, I've 0:44:34.760 --> 0:44:37.239 been selling real estate for twenty four years and so 0:44:37.280 --> 0:44:39.160 I know what I'm doing and it was very easy 0:44:39.200 --> 0:44:41.960 for me to talk about, you know, ten thirty one exchanges. 0:44:42.160 --> 0:44:44.319 And like I said, our show is very different from 0:44:44.360 --> 0:44:47.160 some of the more entertaining real estate shows that are 0:44:47.200 --> 0:44:50.000 a little more drama and fused. But we definitely have 0:44:50.080 --> 0:44:52.160 some drops, like some of the drama that is coming 0:44:52.239 --> 0:44:59.719 later in the season. You know, it's it's a lot 0:45:00.040 --> 0:45:03.040 eight tune because it just I think it's building and 0:45:03.160 --> 0:45:05.799 you know, I remember we signed on with a new 0:45:05.880 --> 0:45:08.160 producer and she was like, listen, it's going to be 0:45:08.200 --> 0:45:10.600 a little different this year. And I'm like, but how different? 0:45:10.760 --> 0:45:13.200 Like you guys have been saying that for a long time, 0:45:13.239 --> 0:45:16.520 and I really think Bravo said go for it. So um, 0:45:16.560 --> 0:45:19.640 I think as as it's sort of keeps going from 0:45:19.680 --> 0:45:23.399 episode to episode, um, we'll have a little bit more 0:45:23.440 --> 0:45:26.640 fun with it, and you'll definitely see a breakdown and 0:45:26.680 --> 0:45:30.759 communication between the three of us. Definitely some arguments that 0:45:30.800 --> 0:45:34.440 are very real. Um, you know, not a lot of 0:45:34.480 --> 0:45:38.480 acting going on here, just just showing up lises and 0:45:38.880 --> 0:45:42.160 a lot of life lessons. So it was Its been 0:45:42.160 --> 0:45:44.279 a fun It's been a fun time. Well, thank you 0:45:44.320 --> 0:45:46.080 for coming on the show. Thank you for peeling back 0:45:46.080 --> 0:45:49.080 a layer with us, and I'm excited to see what's 0:45:49.120 --> 0:45:52.080 to come on the show. Thank you, Thanks guys, thanks 0:45:52.120 --> 0:45:57.279 for having thanks. Appreciate by. I appreciate you to thank you. Bye. 0:45:57.960 --> 0:46:00.399 I love it when people can open up and you back. 0:46:01.040 --> 0:46:03.800 It's fun to me. Yeah, I was like enough about this, 0:46:04.760 --> 0:46:06.839 but yeah, I don't know, I just I just think 0:46:06.880 --> 0:46:09.279 it's I mean, I personally love to and I know 0:46:09.400 --> 0:46:11.520 that some people do not like that about me, but 0:46:12.239 --> 0:46:14.320 I don't want to just know your favorite color is. 0:46:14.360 --> 0:46:16.759 I wanted to know what your childhood traumas are. Love 0:46:16.840 --> 0:46:21.440 that you ever are not an actress or an entertainment 0:46:21.680 --> 0:46:23.520 you have such a career ahead of you, like an 0:46:23.560 --> 0:46:27.200 interrogation officer. Like there'll be times where I'm like, actually, 0:46:27.440 --> 0:46:29.319 like I'm doing fine, and she's getting here and she's 0:46:29.320 --> 0:46:30.960 like how are you? And I'm like she's doing good, 0:46:30.960 --> 0:46:33.279 and she's like, man, you're crying feminutes, how are you? 0:46:33.880 --> 0:46:38.040 I'm actually right. My favorite is when she first meets 0:46:38.080 --> 0:46:40.440 someone and it's like she just goes right and I'm like, 0:46:40.600 --> 0:46:42.440 here we go, buckle up. But I had to be 0:46:42.760 --> 0:46:45.200 I had to be careful of that with So I 0:46:45.280 --> 0:46:48.800 did that differently this go around with dating, because my 0:46:48.920 --> 0:46:51.480 therapist is like, don't give them too much. I don't 0:46:51.480 --> 0:46:55.000 give them all of yourself, right, But I also when 0:46:55.040 --> 0:46:58.719 I go so like, so, what age were you with 0:46:58.800 --> 0:47:00.560 child traumas of this, that and the other, and it's 0:47:00.600 --> 0:47:03.240 like that that's a lot. That's a lot for somebody, 0:47:03.320 --> 0:47:06.160 especially a dude. So um, I had to kind of 0:47:07.040 --> 0:47:10.200 lean into those kind of conversations and like because some 0:47:10.280 --> 0:47:13.960 people aren't going to be as open about things and whatever. 0:47:14.200 --> 0:47:15.840 But I do. I do. I love it. I like 0:47:16.000 --> 0:47:17.759 it a lot. I love too. It's good to go 0:47:17.920 --> 0:47:20.960 slow because then you're like, I feel like if you 0:47:21.080 --> 0:47:23.000 know too much too soon, you might be like pre 0:47:23.160 --> 0:47:25.800 judging responses or waiting for certain things to be a 0:47:25.880 --> 0:47:28.200 certain way because of what you know. Well, I just 0:47:28.360 --> 0:47:29.920 just listen. If you're gonna sit next to me on 0:47:29.960 --> 0:47:32.360 a plane, I'm going to ask you about like generally 0:47:32.480 --> 0:47:35.440 end up on a podcast. Chances are you well because 0:47:35.480 --> 0:47:37.839 if you give them mouse a cookie, he's gonna ask 0:47:37.920 --> 0:47:43.040 for milk. Ask this mouse for peanuts, because you'll end 0:47:43.120 --> 0:47:45.759 up on our podcast. Who was the person you met? 0:47:45.840 --> 0:47:53.840 A Sarah Gretzky? So I got her Christmas card? And okay, 0:47:53.920 --> 0:47:58.279 I I send Christmas cards out and people will send 0:47:58.320 --> 0:48:00.200 me Christmas cards, but I don't read them like some 0:48:00.280 --> 0:48:02.000 people will send like the whole thing. I don't read it. 0:48:02.040 --> 0:48:06.320 I read. I read like literally hers and PAMs. So 0:48:06.560 --> 0:48:09.080 I read PAMs and then everyone else. I just put 0:48:09.120 --> 0:48:11.560 it on this like my little tree or whatever. And 0:48:11.880 --> 0:48:13.520 I was I was like, oh, Sarah, and but and 0:48:13.640 --> 0:48:18.200 for some reason I flipped the back of it because 0:48:18.239 --> 0:48:19.360 it was just you know, it was opening. There was 0:48:19.400 --> 0:48:23.080 like a pile of them and it said baby. Because 0:48:23.120 --> 0:48:25.880 I was like, and I immediately facetimeed her and my 0:48:26.040 --> 0:48:28.440 jaw was just on the floor and she was like, 0:48:29.120 --> 0:48:32.480 that's that was her announcement to people, was the Christmas 0:48:32.520 --> 0:48:35.800 card and she'll figure out who's diligent and that's and 0:48:35.920 --> 0:48:38.439 that's exactly what she go Sarah, I almost didn't read 0:48:38.520 --> 0:48:40.080 the car, and she goes, it's so funny. She's like, 0:48:40.160 --> 0:48:42.520 because there's been people that we've sent it to and like, oh, 0:48:42.560 --> 0:48:44.000 did you get the car. I'm like, yeah, it's great 0:48:44.200 --> 0:48:50.560 and they don't uncomfortable but anyways, yeah, so um, I 0:48:50.640 --> 0:48:51.879 love you guys. See you next week.