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Speaker 2: My father revealed the secret child and forced us to

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Speaker 2: call her our sister.

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Speaker 1: I'm not doing any of that.

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Speaker 2: I'm seventeen and my older sister, twenty one, is in a.

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Speaker 1: Very messy family.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what to do now that everything is messier,

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Speaker 2: and I've been thinking about it too much to start.

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Speaker 2: My sister and I grew up knowing our parents fought often.

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Speaker 2: Our dad isn't the greatest, and when I was around

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Speaker 2: four and my sister was eight, our dad cheated on

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Speaker 2: our mom. And around twenty twenty one, our dad cheated again.

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Speaker 2: My sister was the first to find out when she

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Speaker 2: saw a text on his phone. Now to the main point,

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Speaker 2: it's been a while since anything messy has happened. There

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Speaker 2: are still some hiccups in our family, like our dad

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Speaker 2: trying to fight us.

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Speaker 1: But what We're not just gonna glaze over there. Oh,

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Speaker 1: he says, but that was it? What do you mean

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Speaker 1: that was it? Your dad tried to fight you okay.

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Speaker 1: I mean it's not funny, but I thought it just

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Speaker 1: was way out of left feet. It's just like it.

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Speaker 1: We're a little bit messy.

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Speaker 2: He just tried to fight us once. Every family does that.

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Speaker 2: My dad has never tried to fight me.

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Speaker 1: I don't think. I can't say that my dad is either.

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Speaker 2: Can't can't think of a time where that would be needed.

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Speaker 2: I thought everything would be just that. But yesterday, my

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Speaker 2: sister and I were hanging out in her room and

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Speaker 2: we were having a good time. Our dad came into

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Speaker 2: her room and said that he needed to tell us something.

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Speaker 2: He told us that we have a little sister, not

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Speaker 2: from our mom. The kid was from another woman. This

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Speaker 2: is how we tell people things now, just walk in

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Speaker 2: and go, you go, I have a secret, you a

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Speaker 2: little sister.

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Speaker 1: Bye. Okay.

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Speaker 2: At that moment, I didn't know what to do. I

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Speaker 2: was starting to cry because he proceeded to tell us

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Speaker 1: Three years old. Three goddamn years old.

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Speaker 2: For three years, I thought everything would stop there. For

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Speaker 2: three years, I thought everything would just be me, my sister,

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Speaker 2: and my mom trying to get over and his mistakes.

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Speaker 2: He told us that we shouldn't tell Mom yet. And

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Speaker 2: that he needed to be the one to tell her.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy to be like, Oh, I haven't told your

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Speaker 1: mom yet. I'm gonna tell her, but I wanted to

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Speaker 1: tell you guys first.

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Speaker 2: I wanted to tell my two not rages, but like

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Speaker 2: one minor child and one twenty something year old child,

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Speaker 2: that I cheated on your mom And now you have

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Speaker 2: to hold onto that secret until I tell her.

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Speaker 1: Thanks Dad.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Soul Night xty, And

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Speaker 2: if you want to spit your own stories, go to

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Speaker 2: there our slash okay, storytime, separate it.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia and I'm Savannah.

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Speaker 2: And we're here to give good advice. Goofy, But we

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Speaker 2: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do,

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Speaker 2: So let us know what you would do in the comments,

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Speaker 2: and Opie says, yesterday was also our grandma's birthday. Our

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Speaker 1: Bond with her. WHOA do it?

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Speaker 2: Just immediate? He just shoves them together, he goes bond.

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Speaker 1: Come on.

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Speaker 2: My sister told me that she couldn't even fathom trying

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Speaker 1: She can't do it.

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Speaker 2: We were forced to take family photos with everyone and

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Speaker 2: too much to take in. I've cried over and over again.

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Speaker 2: I've been thinking about how our other family members would

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Speaker 2: see us when they already belittle my sister and me

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Speaker 2: too much for having separated parents. Why are they belittling you, guysy,

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Speaker 2: What did you do? Our dad tried to take photos

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Speaker 1: Our dad owes us a lot.

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Speaker 2: He wasn't a father to us, he wasn't a good

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Speaker 2: all his mistakes were falling on us. I've been thinking

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I just don't. I mean you could play with her,

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Speaker 1: but that's not it. And then who knows if, like

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Speaker 1: you'll even be in her life in the future, Like

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Speaker 1: nobody knows. We're just supposed to bond with her now

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Speaker 1: and then what in like two weeks, we'll never see

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Speaker 2: Kind of hard for a seventeen year old and a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like, what do you want me to do?

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Speaker 2: I've been thinking if I can even call my dad

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Speaker 2: how I should feel. It's eating at my conscience. So

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Speaker 2: please tell me, am I overreacting.

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Speaker 1: No, not at all, not at all. You're seventeen. This

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Speaker 1: keep it a secret. Yeah, that's the other thing I

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Speaker 1: think you clearly already have very mixed feelings about your dad.

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Speaker 2: It seems like maybe your mom is parent that you

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Speaker 2: go to for comfort, and your dad shouldn't expect you

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Speaker 2: is not your responsibility at all.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he shouldn't have put this burden on you. Not

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Speaker 1: but like just out of the blue, that's kind of weird.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean the information is definitely a burden, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 2: But we got some relevant comments. Comment Well says you

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Speaker 2: want to, but I don't know what the outcome will be. Oh,

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Speaker 2: we still live with our dad, like you all live together.

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Speaker 1: With your dad. Oh, like your parents are separated, but

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Speaker 2: I don't know what he might do, not only to me,

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Speaker 1: We have an updates. Did try to fight them at

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Speaker 2: If you are worried for your safety, oh Pete, then

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Speaker 1: I think we should go. I think we should try.

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Speaker 2: And get out of here, and hopefully your mom is gonna,

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Speaker 2: you know, be the adult.

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Speaker 1: That she needs to be in the situation and protect

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Speaker 1: her children. We've got an update. They knew who knew?

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Speaker 2: Nearly five months later to the update. A few months back,

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Speaker 2: I overheard my dad talking to his kid on a call.

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Speaker 2: He asked if she liked the toys she got, and

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Speaker 2: this kid. They knew, and they gave her old toys

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Speaker 2: your family has kept the secret for seemingly three years

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Speaker 2: or however long they knew. And today, while I was

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Speaker 1: I mean that I expected. Yeah, that wasn't a surprise. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: No, I admit that this sounds like I have a

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Speaker 2: I'm making him look like a monster. But he's still

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Speaker 2: My sister, and I tried hinting to her mom about

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Speaker 1: Is that a hint?

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Speaker 2: That's pretty obvious, as you should. But that's just telling

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Speaker 1: It's like, how would you feel if your if your

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Speaker 2: All that she said was that she's long over him,

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Speaker 1: I don't understand she can say that, yeah, but then

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Speaker 2: So true, I'm still mad. I have incomprehensible feelings that

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Speaker 2: I want out, But for now, this is my update

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Speaker 2: until he actually tells our mom about the kid himself

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Speaker 1: No, I'm not.

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Speaker 2: It's just that I do not understand how to feel

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Speaker 2: about her. I mean, you're seventeen, you're seventeen. If anyone

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Speaker 2: at the child like you're seventeen, feel how you want

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Speaker 1: Your mom about getting into therapy.

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Speaker 2: I still can't accept that I have a sister outside

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Speaker 2: of our family, but this is the reality I have

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Speaker 2: to live in. Common one says, not of reacting, but

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Speaker 2: I'm confused. Are your parents still together? Have you thought

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Speaker 2: about staying with mom and cutting your dad off or

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Speaker 2: going low contact? Opie says they aren't together anymore. We

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Speaker 2: used to live together with just our mom, but we

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Speaker 2: had to move out of the apartment because of the

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Speaker 2: renting cost and tuition fee. She lives somewhere else with

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Speaker 2: low rent because her work is far and we can't

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Speaker 2: move with her because our university is in a different city.

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Speaker 2: Comment two says, not of reacting, You're choosing your father

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Speaker 2: Tell your mother, she deserves to know. Op has a

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Speaker 2: downvote to comment I want to tell her so bad,

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Speaker 2: but now is not the moment. I'm graduating my senior

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Speaker 2: year of high school. I will tell mom, but not now.

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Speaker 2: Why not now?

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Speaker 1: Well, she has other things to worry about, like say,

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Speaker 1: That is also very true. It's not even your responsibility,

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Speaker 1: That he's just.

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Speaker 2: Another curb that will pass. She told us to wipe

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Speaker 1: Sounds like you have a very good mom. That is

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Speaker 2: After the call, it made me realize that I was

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Speaker 1: Good job, op, Yeah, good job.

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Speaker 2: I'm very impressed with how you handle this given how

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm glad that you have a support system and

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Speaker 1: And you know, I agree with your mom. I think

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Speaker 2: A little bit left our mom is I'm working hard

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Speaker 1: Whoo. My grandmother pretended to be my mother for years. Dang,

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Speaker 1: she must look young. I twenty two female, recently learned

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Speaker 1: My older sister, Emily thirty seven female, not her real name,

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Speaker 2: Wait wait, wait, wait, wait wait, I feel like we're

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Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, okay continue. Eventually she sat me down and said,

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Speaker 1: showcase storytime Separated. I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia, and we are

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Speaker 1: here to give some good advice a little goofy way.

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Speaker 1: But we don't have all the answers. We only tell

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Speaker 2: Yikes, it should always have been something that was going

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Speaker 1: This is her kid. Yeah, this is her kid, and

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Speaker 1: I do think it.

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Speaker 2: You know, it was maybe good that her mom stepped

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Speaker 1: Kind of lose her childhood completely.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure she did have a different upbringing than she

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Speaker 1: It's like adoption. Yeah, should have been that. It also

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Speaker 1: seems like Emily did not tell her mom. Well, I

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Speaker 1: it seems like Grandma was like, keep me yeah, so okay.

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Speaker 1: I feel like my entire life has been a lie.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how to feel about Emily. I understand

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00:19:35,359 --> 00:19:37,800
Speaker 1: she was a scared teenager, but part of me feels

440
00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:40,240
Speaker 1: betrayed that she let this go on for so long,

441
00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:44,040
Speaker 1: and my mom doesn't seem to think she did anything wrong.

442
00:19:44,400 --> 00:19:46,240
Speaker 1: I've been avoiding both of them while I try to

443
00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:50,280
Speaker 1: process this, but my mom keeps calling me selfish and ungrateful,

444
00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:52,960
Speaker 1: and Emily keeps begging me to forgive her. I know

445
00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:55,640
Speaker 1: some people might think this story isn't real, and honestly,

446
00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:58,720
Speaker 1: I wish it wasn't. I've never wanted anything to be

447
00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:01,800
Speaker 1: less true in my life. Am I the a hole? No?

448
00:20:01,960 --> 00:20:02,639
Speaker 1: Not at all.

449
00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:07,520
Speaker 2: I mean, what a huge revelation. Yeah, you're allowed to react.

450
00:20:07,600 --> 00:20:11,680
Speaker 1: However, if you feel like that, you know you're upset,

451
00:20:11,840 --> 00:20:15,920
Speaker 1: you're angry, you're frustrated, you're anxious, you're scared. You can

452
00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:18,640
Speaker 1: feel however you want. This is a big revelation. If

453
00:20:18,640 --> 00:20:22,760
Speaker 1: I found out my mom wasn't my mom, I'd be like, huh, yeah,

454
00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:27,280
Speaker 1: that is a big thing. Your sister is your mom. Yeah,

455
00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:29,119
Speaker 1: my old sister is three years older than me. Is

456
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Speaker 1: It's a lot to process absolutely right now, So you know,

457
00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:36,639
Speaker 1: take your time. You don't have to figure all of

458
00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:38,520
Speaker 1: this out right now. I like how you're taking time

459
00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:40,679
Speaker 1: to process, because I think that's what you need to

460
00:20:40,680 --> 00:20:42,840
Speaker 1: do right now for yourself. Yeah, and don't let your

461
00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:45,520
Speaker 1: grandmamm grandmam, I'm gonna call her grandmom.

462
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Speaker 2: Don't let your grandmom tell you how to feel.

463
00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:52,280
Speaker 1: Yeah. And I think the reason she's lashing out is

464
00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:54,480
Speaker 1: because she never wanted this to come out, and so

465
00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:59,960
Speaker 1: now she's projecting her anger towards you and her child.

466
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Speaker 1: There is update a month later. Unfortunately, things did not

467
00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:07,240
Speaker 1: go as I hoped, and my family's response has left

468
00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:11,320
Speaker 1: me heartbroken. Oh no, no. After my post, I decided

469
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Speaker 1: to meet up with my mom grandma to talk things out.

470
00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:17,480
Speaker 1: I thought maybe if we sat down face to face,

471
00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:20,239
Speaker 1: we could clear the air and find some understanding. I

472
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:23,040
Speaker 1: suggested getting coffee because I wanted to be in a neutral,

473
00:21:23,080 --> 00:21:26,560
Speaker 1: public place where we could stay calm. That idea completely

474
00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:30,320
Speaker 1: backfired as soon as I brought up how I felt

475
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Speaker 1: about finding out the truth. She exploded, Oh no, She

476
00:21:34,359 --> 00:21:37,639
Speaker 1: called me ungrateful, accused me of trying to ruin the family,

477
00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:41,280
Speaker 1: and said I was selfish for being upset about ancient history.

478
00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:43,640
Speaker 2: It's not engine hair history. You just bout out.

479
00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:47,240
Speaker 1: Yeah you knew because you were part of the whole scheme.

480
00:21:47,320 --> 00:21:50,639
Speaker 1: But yeah, OPI had no idea. This is a big revelation.

481
00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:52,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like, I lied to you, like twenty two

482
00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:54,280
Speaker 2: years ago doesn't count.

483
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Speaker 1: And ope, he's like, I just found out. And also, grandmam,

484
00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:02,760
Speaker 1: you have not even really given a no, it's just oh,

485
00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:05,880
Speaker 1: well she was fifteen, she wasn't ready, which is I'm

486
00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:09,840
Speaker 1: sure true, is not? You know, the point the reason

487
00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:13,199
Speaker 1: we got was I did what I had to do, Okay,

488
00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:17,680
Speaker 1: but why though that's not That leaves more questions.

489
00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:21,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, actually it seems like she said something about the

490
00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:24,399
Speaker 2: family dynamic. But to me, it doesn't make sense because

491
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Speaker 2: I'm sure everyone knew. There's no way that.

492
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Speaker 1: Opie's mom could have faked a pregnancy.

493
00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:33,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, to the point where everyone in the community, everyone

494
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:37,440
Speaker 2: in the extended family didn't know that it wasn't her

495
00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:42,600
Speaker 2: actual child. So that's even worse to me. Opie's whole

496
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Speaker 2: family or extended family was keeping the secret.

497
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Speaker 1: It's crazy, like, why are you only keeping the secret

498
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Speaker 1: from a pee? I tried to keep my cool and

499
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Speaker 1: explain that I just needed time to process everything and

500
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Speaker 1: figure out where we go from here. She wasn't hearing it.

501
00:22:57,200 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 1: Then out of nowhere, she threw her hot coffee. Oh okay,

502
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:07,200
Speaker 1: that's a salt. Yeah. I was stunned. I didn't even

503
00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:10,359
Speaker 1: react at first because I couldn't believe it happened. The

504
00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:13,080
Speaker 1: coffee burned my face and chest, and I ended up

505
00:23:13,119 --> 00:23:16,440
Speaker 1: having to go to urgent care for treatment. Oh my god.

506
00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:21,119
Speaker 1: Thankfully the burns aren't too severe, but the emotional damage

507
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:24,040
Speaker 1: hurts far worse than the physical. I know people will

508
00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:26,439
Speaker 1: say I should press charges or file a lawsuit, but

509
00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:28,919
Speaker 1: I can't bring myself to do that. She's still my

510
00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:31,520
Speaker 1: mom in so many ways, and as much as she's

511
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:34,200
Speaker 1: hurt me, I'm not in the mental space to handle

512
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Speaker 1: the stress of legal action. Genuinely.

513
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Speaker 2: I'm just sending her pictures of the burns, sending her

514
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:42,359
Speaker 2: pictures going to the doctor giving like exactly the treatment

515
00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 2: that I now have to do because she burned me.

516
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:46,600
Speaker 1: Oh, I would say, here's the bill.

517
00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:49,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd say, here's the bill, hey, and I would

518
00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:51,240
Speaker 2: just keep sending her pictures of the burns on my

519
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:52,399
Speaker 2: face and my chest.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, what just wrong with her? Right? I

521
00:23:57,000 --> 00:23:59,919
Speaker 1: really would limit contact? Oh yeah, I know.

522
00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:02,159
Speaker 2: Oh she's your mom. I know she's your mom. But

523
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:03,399
Speaker 2: this is insane.

524
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 1: That's not okay. Immediate low contact at least, that is

525
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 1: not okay. Yeah, well, I want to know what Emily's

526
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:13,639
Speaker 1: saying about all this? Yeah? Is she like, uh huh,

527
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 1: Well what's going on? Yeah? It's just too much for

528
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:19,480
Speaker 1: me right now. After that, I decided to reach out

529
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 1: to my sister by a Mom, hoping she could help

530
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Speaker 1: me make sense of all this. At first, she agreed

531
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Speaker 1: to talk, but she quickly changed her tune. She started

532
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:32,240
Speaker 1: blaming me for dragging this all up. Girl. You told

533
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 1: me what are you talking about? You told me Anne said,

534
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:38,480
Speaker 1: I should have just accepted things the way they were.

535
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:42,200
Speaker 1: You literally told me what are you talking about? Wow?

536
00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:45,280
Speaker 1: I would be so confused to be like, then why

537
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:48,320
Speaker 1: did you tell me? Yeah? You could have just never

538
00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:51,600
Speaker 1: said anything and then nothing would have changed. But instead,

539
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:54,800
Speaker 1: you one day out of the blue, were like, I

540
00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:57,199
Speaker 1: gotta tell you something, and now you don't want to

541
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Speaker 1: deal with the consequences of telling that something. Yeah, that

542
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 1: sinks because that just affected my entire life. Yep, like

543
00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:08,840
Speaker 1: everything that I've known is a lie. Insane. When I

544
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 1: asked if we could meet up to talk in person,

545
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 1: she refused and said, you're the one making this a problem,

546
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:18,320
Speaker 1: not me. What it is a problem. I I thought

547
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:21,440
Speaker 1: you were my sister for more than half my life.

548
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 2: I'm putting all these people on blast in the family

549
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:25,760
Speaker 2: group chat, and I'm also calling out all the family

550
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:27,159
Speaker 2: members who kept this secret from me.

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Speaker 1: That's stung more than I expected. More than the burns.

552
00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:33,280
Speaker 1: It feels like both of them are ganging up on me,

553
00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:35,960
Speaker 1: acting like I'm the one who did something wrong when

554
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:40,200
Speaker 1: all I've ever wanted was the truth is they feel guilty. Yep.

555
00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 1: I feel completely abandoned by the two people I thought

556
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 1: I could trust most in the world. For now, I'm

557
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,639
Speaker 1: keeping my distance from both of them. I need time

558
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 1: to heal physically from the burns and emotionally from all

559
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:53,879
Speaker 1: the hurt they've caused. I'm seriously considering therapy because I

560
00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 1: know I can't process all of this on my own.

561
00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 2: I think you should seriously go to therapy, right now, Yeah,

562
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:00,520
Speaker 2: you should seriously call.

563
00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:04,800
Speaker 1: Someone immediately and get an appointment. Yes for this week. Yes.

564
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Speaker 1: Thank you to everyone who supported me on my first post.

565
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 1: Your kind words have been a lifeline during this incredibly

566
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Speaker 1: difficult time. I'll try to keep you updated as I

567
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:15,920
Speaker 1: work through this, but for now I'm just trying to

568
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 1: focus on taking care of myself. There's another update another

569
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Speaker 1: month later. Hey, it's Angie, your favorite of fashion host. Here.

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Speaker 1: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's

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Speaker 1: three minutes of ads from our sponsors. First off, I

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Speaker 1: just want to say thank you to everyone who has

573
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:34,760
Speaker 1: supported me through this. I didn't expect my post to

574
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:37,240
Speaker 1: get so much attention, and honestly I needed some time

575
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Speaker 1: to process everything before updating. Things have been a lot,

576
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Speaker 1: but I do have some good news. So after the

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Speaker 1: whole coffee incident, I decided to go no contact with

578
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Speaker 1: my mother goose Grandmam. At first I thought that would

579
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:53,040
Speaker 1: be the end of it, but I was wrong. She

580
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:55,679
Speaker 1: kept trying to reach out, calling from different numbers, sending

581
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:59,640
Speaker 1: me long, guilt tripping emails, even showing up at my apartment.

582
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Speaker 1: The first time. She banged on my door for nearly

583
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Speaker 1: an hour. Switching between sobbing and screaming about how I

584
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:08,879
Speaker 1: was tearing the family apart. The second time she waited

585
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:11,920
Speaker 1: for me outside my job, she grabbed my arm before

586
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 1: I could walk past her and started whisper yelling about

587
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 1: how ungrateful I was and how everything she did was

588
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:17,879
Speaker 1: for me.

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00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 2: These people are having breakdowns and they're Oh my god,

590
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 2: they are assaulting you.

591
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, multiple times.

592
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:27,720
Speaker 2: I would get a restraining order at this point, because

593
00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 2: she has already hurt you and you have evidence of that,

594
00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:34,440
Speaker 2: and now she's coming to your job and grabbing you.

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00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:38,600
Speaker 1: I I don't I don't trust this. My manager had

596
00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:41,199
Speaker 1: to step in and ask her to leave. After that,

597
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 1: I blocked every possible way she could contact me. This

598
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 1: is just insane how they're reacting. They're showing a bigger

599
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:50,160
Speaker 1: reaction than you. You're just saying, hey, I need time

600
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 1: to process this.

601
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 2: Literally, you just said, hey, can we talk about this,

602
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:57,400
Speaker 2: and I'm bringing up Yeah, I didn't even bring it up.

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00:27:57,480 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 1: What Then somehow she found out about my I read

604
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:03,200
Speaker 1: it post. I have no idea how because I didn't

605
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 1: think it was that popular and I never shared it

606
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:08,000
Speaker 1: outside of here. But one day I got a text

607
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,640
Speaker 1: from an unknown number with a screenshot of my own

608
00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 1: post and a message saying this is how you treat family.

609
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:16,679
Speaker 2: And then I would respond with a picture of my

610
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:19,960
Speaker 2: burns and say this the value drain family?

611
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:24,440
Speaker 1: True? Then another one. You have no idea what you've done?

612
00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 1: What are these threats? That's when she really lost it.

613
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 1: Your grandmama is crazy. Yeah, you gotta get away from

614
00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 1: these people, and they are literally physically assaulting here, far away,

615
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 1: far away. God. She sent me a bunch of messages

616
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:44,320
Speaker 1: about how I humiliated her, how I made her look

617
00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 1: like a monster, how I was ruining her reputation good.

618
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 1: But not once did she acknowledge that any of this

619
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 1: was her fault. Not once did she say sorry, and

620
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 1: she never will. She thinks this was the right choice

621
00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:59,000
Speaker 1: and you just need to accept it. It was all

622
00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 1: about how I made her look bad, not about how

623
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:05,240
Speaker 1: she actually was bad. That was my breaking point. I

624
00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:08,320
Speaker 1: changed my locks just in case, blocked her on everything,

625
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 1: and fully cut contact. And I don't regret it. But

626
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 1: now for something good, my sister has actually come around. Finally.

627
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 2: I feel like Grandmam was getting in her ear. It

628
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 2: feels like sister is pretty susceptible to Grandmom's wishes and desires.

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00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 2: I mean, whatever she goes. She literally took over the family.

630
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:32,440
Speaker 1: Yeah.

631
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 2: So it feels like Emily has always had this dynamic

632
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 2: of whatever my mom says, I have to do, and

633
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 2: she hasn't grown out of that even though she's thirty seven. Now.

634
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 1: Well, it's like a trauma bond.

635
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:46,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, and hopefully she is now realizing, oh, I don't

636
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:48,280
Speaker 2: have to listen to what my mom says.

637
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:51,240
Speaker 1: Yeah. At first, she acted like I was being dramatic

638
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:53,680
Speaker 1: and told me to get over it. That hurt more

639
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:56,320
Speaker 1: than I expected, because deep down I had hoped she'd

640
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 1: understand because she's the one who did it in the

641
00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 1: first place. Deta did we forget about them? But a

642
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:04,960
Speaker 1: few days after I blocked our mother, she reached out again.

643
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 1: This time she actually apologized. She admitted that she was

644
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:11,280
Speaker 1: scared of facing the truth and that it was easier

645
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 1: for her to push me away than to acknowledge how

646
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 1: messed up everything was. She told me she regretted how

647
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 1: she acted and that she wants to rebuild our relationship,

648
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:22,600
Speaker 1: and honestly, I believe her. She's been making an effort.

649
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 1: There was a little bit left here. Any final thoughts.

650
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 1: I just think that you should definitely go to therapy. Yeah,

651
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 1: that's a step one. Step one therapy. Maybe get a

652
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 1: restraining order against your grandmom.

653
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Speaker 2: Step two, restraining order and take it one day at

654
00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 2: a time with your sister mom. Step three, talk to Emily,

655
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:47,200
Speaker 2: see what's going on, Understand the situation a little bit

656
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 2: more now or any questions, Yeah you don't know or anything.

657
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 2: She owes you stuff very true. All right, let's finish

658
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 2: it up. We've been meeting up, just the two of us,

659
00:30:56,680 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 2: having real conversations. She's finally acknowledging what happened and how

660
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 2: it affected me. It's not perfect, but we still have

661
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 2: a lot to work through, but it's a start. Through

662
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 2: all of this, Daniel not his real name, has been

663
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 2: my rock. He never forced me to talk, never tried

664
00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:14,160
Speaker 2: to fix me, just help me when I needed it

665
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 2: and gave me space when I didn't. I'm guessing that's

666
00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:21,240
Speaker 2: your boyfriend. One night, I finally told him everything, and

667
00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 2: instead of giving me some deep philosophical answer, he just

668
00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 2: looked at me and said, you don't have.

669
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:29,240
Speaker 1: To carry this alone. And I think that's when it

670
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:32,640
Speaker 1: really hit me. Family isn't just the people you're born to.

671
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:35,360
Speaker 1: It's the people who show up, the ones who stand

672
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:38,240
Speaker 1: by you even when things get ugly. And I may

673
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 1: have lost my relationship with my mother, but I'm gaining

674
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 1: something real with my sister, and I have people in

675
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 1: my life who actually care. So where do I go

676
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 1: from here? I don't know. But for the first time

677
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 1: in a long time, I feel like I have a

678
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 1: future worth looking forward to. That's sweet, very happy for you, Oppia.

679
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:59,360
Speaker 1: This whole situation blew up for it literally no reason.

680
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 1: If they could just and have a conversation, none of

681
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 1: this would have happened. But they have to think, oh,

682
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:07,000
Speaker 1: I'm getting attacked. I'm getting attacked. Let me be defensive

683
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 1: when it's like, I'm just asking questions. You want to

684
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,920
Speaker 1: know why this all happened in the first place. That's

685
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 1: all just a little curious. Why I wasn't told who

686
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 1: my real walm was. Yeah, Like, I feel like I

687
00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 1: deserve an answer for that, But you know, my bad,

688
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 1: my bad, Sorry, guys, I'll just head out yeah, like,

689
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 1: oh yeah, I forgot. I was just supposed to accept

690
00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 1: that crucial detail that completely flipped my life over.

691
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 2: I forgot when you tell me a life changing secret,

692
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 2: I'm supposed to not react as supposed to go.

693
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:39,760
Speaker 1: Got it. But that's the end of that story, and

694
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:41,280
Speaker 1: we got another one coming right up.

695
00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 2: Sure do we flew out for my sister in law's wedding,

696
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:45,960
Speaker 2: but it turns out we weren't.

697
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 1: In fight it.

698
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:49,959
Speaker 2: Oh uh, my bad. My wife and I are from

699
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:53,719
Speaker 2: different cultures, one Indian, one American, and her Indian parents

700
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 2: are not big fans of our marriage. You've kind of

701
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:58,640
Speaker 2: gotten past it over the last decade, but tried to

702
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 2: build an ally in my Indian's sister in law, who

703
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 2: seemed very supportive of building a bridge for the family.

704
00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:06,600
Speaker 2: We sponsored her and got her long term visa to

705
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:08,959
Speaker 2: go in and out of the US, and supported her

706
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:11,160
Speaker 2: when she met someone here. She lived with us for

707
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:14,920
Speaker 2: months each time she visited, and we took her on vacations.

708
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:17,640
Speaker 2: Never asked her to help out, paid for everything, and

709
00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:20,800
Speaker 2: supported all her decisions. Fast forward to this past year,

710
00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 2: she and her fiance are getting married in India. We

711
00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 2: planned to go with our kids, even discussing it with

712
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 2: her right there. She only once hinted that us being

713
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 2: there might cause some discomfort for a few more conservative

714
00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 2: family members since I'm not Indian, but never said don't

715
00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:39,080
Speaker 2: come By the way, this comes from d Kayne zero

716
00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 2: one one five and if you want to submit your

717
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 2: own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime severed it.

718
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, I'm Savannah, and we're here to give good advice.

719
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 1: Goofy, But we don't have all the answers. We only

720
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 1: know what we'd do, So let us know what you

721
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 1: would do in the comments, and Opie says, So we

722
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 1: made the plan, took weeks off work, bought tickets so expensive,

723
00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 1: and flew the twenty eight plus hours with three small children.

724
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 2: We get there only to be told we're not invited

725
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 2: because our family might take attention away from her in

726
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:08,279
Speaker 2: her special day.

727
00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:09,879
Speaker 1: What huh?

728
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:11,800
Speaker 2: And she never wanted us there in the first place.

729
00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 1: Sorry.

730
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 2: To top it all off, she then claimed that we've

731
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 2: done nothing for her, never supported her, and of course

732
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:19,840
Speaker 2: we should have always paid for everything because she's the

733
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:24,240
Speaker 2: younger sister, essentially said my wife, her big sister got

734
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:28,400
Speaker 2: everything growing up. Absolutely not true, and so now my wife,

735
00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 2: myself and our kids would all have to take the

736
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:31,879
Speaker 2: brunt of it.

737
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 1: Why didn't we.

738
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:35,399
Speaker 2: Talk about any of this before we got the fight?

739
00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and the fact that they like spent all this money,

740
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 1: flew all this way, and they're like, no, oh, he

741
00:34:42,239 --> 00:34:44,800
Speaker 1: freaking messed up. Sounds like they did that on purpose.

742
00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:49,799
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, you're taking the brunt right now. Yeah.

743
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 2: It caused a huge fight in the family, ending with

744
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:55,239
Speaker 2: the spouse and the sister in law not speaking. We

745
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:57,720
Speaker 2: didn't end up attending the wedding, trying not to cause

746
00:34:57,760 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 2: problems for my in laws, but my wife and the

747
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:03,239
Speaker 2: kids were devastated. To top it all off, we are

748
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:05,360
Speaker 2: now being blamed for causing a rift in the family

749
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:08,200
Speaker 2: just for planning to attend. Am I the ale for

750
00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:11,160
Speaker 2: flying across the world to attend this wedding, only to

751
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:14,279
Speaker 2: be denied because our family might take attention away from

752
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:18,239
Speaker 2: the bride and clarification, Yes, we were formally invited by

753
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:22,759
Speaker 2: my wife's slash bride's parents to all events and had

754
00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 2: helped to plan and even paid for some of the wedding,

755
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 2: and we have an update.

756
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:29,759
Speaker 1: But what do you think they should do? If you

757
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:33,240
Speaker 1: planned and paid for some of the wedding, you should

758
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:37,200
Speaker 1: be invited, absolutely, And they were invited, they were just

759
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 1: denied entry at the last minute. Yeah, that's that's crappy.

760
00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:43,920
Speaker 2: Super messed up. I feel like if you brought this

761
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:46,279
Speaker 2: up to other family members, they'd probably be on your

762
00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:50,000
Speaker 2: side since you were invited first originally.

763
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 1: And maybe shame the bride and groom a little bit

764
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:55,799
Speaker 1: for this behavior. Yeah, they're not cool for doing that.

765
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:58,520
Speaker 1: And I don't know what they said that.

766
00:35:58,920 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 2: Wait, what was the reason that they They didn't want

767
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:04,399
Speaker 2: the family to take attention away because Opie's not white

768
00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:07,480
Speaker 2: or Opie is white, so they didn't want their like

769
00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 2: mixed family to take away attention.

770
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 1: So this is racism.

771
00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:14,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, I see, like everyone will be looking at the

772
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:18,399
Speaker 2: white guy, so you can't come right Okay.

773
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:21,399
Speaker 1: Update. Hey, this is Riley the host. I can't really

774
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:23,280
Speaker 1: read that. Well, we're gonna get back to the stories,

775
00:36:23,320 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 1: but here's three minutes worth of ads from our sponsors.

776
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 2: We have decided to go no contact with sister in

777
00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:31,840
Speaker 2: law and husband. Fair and just working through that, but

778
00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 2: my wife is very hurt by this and we have

779
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:37,720
Speaker 2: an update a year later. So we've been no contact

780
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 2: with sister in law and her husband for nearly a

781
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:42,399
Speaker 2: year now after the events of her wedding, like kids

782
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 2: seemed to have adjusted well and the one time we

783
00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:47,560
Speaker 2: saw her from Afar at a cultural event. Unfortunately they

784
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:49,960
Speaker 2: still live in the same town. All the kids turn

785
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 2: away and kept walking, as did my wife, and I

786
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:55,400
Speaker 2: nice got a little bit left. Any final thoughts.

787
00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:57,479
Speaker 1: It's just the fact that if they had a problem,

788
00:36:57,560 --> 00:37:01,080
Speaker 1: they could have said something yes, and so to bring

789
00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 1: the kids into this and then have the like the kids,

790
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:08,240
Speaker 1: how would feel bad for just existing? How dare you

791
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:12,080
Speaker 1: not like just cut contact with the kids? Yeah, that

792
00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:15,840
Speaker 1: makes me upset. Like I couldn't fathom being mad at

793
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:17,920
Speaker 1: my brother and his wife.

794
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 2: Opie is white and they're going to his sister in

795
00:37:22,520 --> 00:37:27,760
Speaker 2: law's wedding who is Indian and his also Opie's wife

796
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:31,600
Speaker 2: is Indian and was going to the wedding, but because

797
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:33,920
Speaker 2: Opi is white and their kids are mixed, sister in

798
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:36,160
Speaker 2: law of op was like, yeah.

799
00:37:35,760 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 1: That's stupid. But I don't know. I couldn't imagine like

800
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:42,600
Speaker 1: blaming kids for this. Yeah, no, it's it's ridiculous. And

801
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:45,080
Speaker 1: to just like cut contact with not only that family,

802
00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:47,960
Speaker 1: but then also like the kids and they have to

803
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:51,560
Speaker 1: learn to turn away and just keep walking, is that

804
00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 1: would make me unbelievably upset in every way. But we

805
00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 1: got a little bit left.

806
00:37:56,520 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, my wife is still in some emotional turmoil over this.

807
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:02,919
Speaker 2: You spent so many years trying to bridge the gap

808
00:38:02,960 --> 00:38:06,360
Speaker 2: between us and our family. It's also seriously deteriorated the

809
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 2: relationship she has with her mother, who has been discovered

810
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:13,840
Speaker 2: to have been manipulating thingss Dang along with sister in

811
00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:17,040
Speaker 2: law for years. So now it's like she's lost half

812
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:20,239
Speaker 2: her family and has so much anger toward them. She

813
00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:22,680
Speaker 2: is working through it all, but it is much more

814
00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 2: than simply cutting ties in her upbringing. Family was everything

815
00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:29,400
Speaker 2: trying counseling and just moving on with a smaller but

816
00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:32,720
Speaker 2: hopefully less toxic family. Thank you for all your support

817
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:35,399
Speaker 2: and comments. We will be ending the story here.

818
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:37,800
Speaker 1: Dang dang, ding dang.

819
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 2: That sucks. Sorry you got to go through that. I

820
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:42,640
Speaker 2: hope that you guys had a good trip to India

821
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 2: regardless though.

822
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I hope you got to like show your kids

823
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,279
Speaker 1: some stuff and yeah you really have some family time.

824
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:53,160
Speaker 1: But that's just so annoying, Yeah, all because of real

825
00:38:53,280 --> 00:38:54,000
Speaker 1: they're just jealous.

826
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:56,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, and they're just jealous. Yeah, They're like, oh, these

827
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:58,919
Speaker 2: people are going to come and steal attention from us,

828
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 2: so they can't come.

829
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:04,319
Speaker 1: You're just jealous. Yeah, Okay, cool, thanks, awesome, let's ruin

830
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:07,799
Speaker 1: the family over this. Yeah, my neighbor was gossiping about me,

831
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:11,080
Speaker 1: so I crossed the street to confront her. Hey, what'd

832
00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 1: you say? So this has been building for a couple

833
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:15,799
Speaker 1: of weeks now, and it finally came to a head

834
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 1: today when I got off work. I just got transferred

835
00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 1: to a new base and had to relocate. I'm female

836
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:23,719
Speaker 1: in the military, and I also happened to be a

837
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 1: single parent. I had my daughter while serving, and as such,

838
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:30,640
Speaker 1: I'm entitled to housing on the base. Normally, I live

839
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 1: off base, but because the traffic going through the gate

840
00:39:33,080 --> 00:39:35,920
Speaker 1: is so horrible here, I decided it was better to

841
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:38,719
Speaker 1: live on base this time. So the first day I

842
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:41,239
Speaker 1: arrived to unload some of my personal things and meet

843
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:44,840
Speaker 1: the movers. I was dressed in regular clothes, not in uniform.

844
00:39:45,120 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 1: Right off the bat, a few neighbors who came over

845
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:50,439
Speaker 1: to help assumed I was a spouse who came over

846
00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:53,920
Speaker 1: to help my husband. They asked if my husband was deployed,

847
00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:56,840
Speaker 1: which I laughed off and explained that I wasn't married

848
00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 1: and that this is my house. No big deal, this

849
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 1: happens a I just normally explain and then go about

850
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 1: my business. Well, apparently not everyone got the memo. For

851
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:10,640
Speaker 1: the last ten days, I've had various male coworkers from

852
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:14,839
Speaker 1: my workplace over. No, we weren't doing anything torrid. They

853
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 1: were helping me move furniture around and get set up

854
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 1: because I am by myself normally. As payment afterwards, I

855
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:23,160
Speaker 1: give them booze for their help. Today was one of

856
00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:25,840
Speaker 1: those days. We were all hanging out on my porch

857
00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 1: unwinding when one of the spouses, who is also in

858
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 1: the military, approached us. I offered him an adult soda.

859
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 1: He sat down and as we were chatting, he dropped

860
00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:37,560
Speaker 1: the rumor that's been going around about me since I

861
00:40:37,680 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 1: moved in. By the way, this comes from created for

862
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,440
Speaker 1: am I the a hole And if you want to

863
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:46,240
Speaker 1: submit your own stories, go to the oslash Okay storytime Subredda.

864
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 1: I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia, and we're here to give some

865
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:52,759
Speaker 1: good advice. Maybe goofily, maybe cry a lee. Sure, but

866
00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:54,359
Speaker 1: we don't have all the answers when I only tell

867
00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:55,840
Speaker 1: you what we would do in this situation. But let

868
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:57,840
Speaker 1: us know what you would do down in the comments.

869
00:40:58,760 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 1: As Opie says, I had noticed some of the wise

870
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:04,440
Speaker 1: had been rather cool to me. When I asked why,

871
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:08,439
Speaker 1: he got uncomfortable and said, well, Cat and a lot

872
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 1: of other wives think you're married and stepping out on

873
00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:12,480
Speaker 1: your husband while he's deployed.

874
00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:18,280
Speaker 2: Huh so so one Count one, lie, I'm not married.

875
00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:23,600
Speaker 1: Count two, lie, I'm deployed. Count three lie. They came

876
00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 1: over to move my stuff. And also, I told you

877
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:31,439
Speaker 1: immediately when I came in here what this was for real?

878
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:33,520
Speaker 1: Who's been spreading these lies?

879
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:34,480
Speaker 2: Oh?

880
00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 1: They think this? Of course, floored me, and explained the

881
00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:42,359
Speaker 1: frosty treatment I'd been receiving. I asked, Oh, which one

882
00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:45,120
Speaker 1: is Kat? He pointed across the street to the gaggle

883
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:48,160
Speaker 1: of wives gathered on Cat's front porch area, where they

884
00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:51,799
Speaker 1: were having a party. I had apparently been purposely excluded

885
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:56,680
Speaker 1: for the hell yeah, confront them, confront them. Oh no,

886
00:41:56,920 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 1: it's turning into a party. It's kidding, it's gonna get

887
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:00,799
Speaker 1: a little high. He did.

888
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:04,000
Speaker 2: In here, they had been making statements about seeing my

889
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:07,439
Speaker 2: male coworkers come and go. Well, I told him I'd

890
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:10,360
Speaker 2: be right back, got up and marched across the street,

891
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:13,359
Speaker 2: walking right up to Kat. The next part, I said

892
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:16,239
Speaker 2: loud enough so everyone could hear me, I hear you've

893
00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:20,400
Speaker 2: been going around telling people I'm cheating and married. First Off, honey,

894
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 2: I ain't married.

895
00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 1: That house over there is paid for by my paycheck,

896
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:29,240
Speaker 1: no one else's. Secondly, if I choose to have mails

897
00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:35,520
Speaker 1: over my house, that's my business, not yours. Third, if

898
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:37,880
Speaker 1: I catch your here is where I may be. But

899
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 1: if I catch your depends but spreading any more rumors

900
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:45,920
Speaker 1: about me, I'll be back and you won't like what

901
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:48,400
Speaker 1: I have to say then. For those who don't know,

902
00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:52,920
Speaker 1: dependa is a derogatory slang term for a military spouse

903
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:56,320
Speaker 1: who is seen as lazy or entitled and contributes nothing

904
00:42:56,360 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 1: to the household. Okay, I turned on my heel and left,

905
00:43:00,480 --> 00:43:02,440
Speaker 1: going back to my porch and leaving them with their

906
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 1: jaws hanging open. Well, my neighbor and boyfriend think it

907
00:43:06,560 --> 00:43:09,719
Speaker 1: was hilarious, but they also said I was an a

908
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:12,239
Speaker 1: hole and should have just let it go. But I

909
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:14,400
Speaker 1: view it as standing up for myself and squashing this

910
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:16,760
Speaker 1: before it gets worse. But you also have a boyfriend.

911
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:20,279
Speaker 1: None of it. No, oh, neighbor and their boyfriend. I

912
00:43:20,320 --> 00:43:24,759
Speaker 1: was like, what, okay, so am I the a hole? No?

913
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:29,520
Speaker 1: They they started, Yeah, came in, you said exactly what

914
00:43:29,600 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 1: this was, You explained why you're here. Yeah, you know

915
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:35,880
Speaker 1: everything that came with it. And they decided to spread

916
00:43:35,920 --> 00:43:39,040
Speaker 1: rumors and be like, oh, she's she's she's sleeping around,

917
00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:42,359
Speaker 1: she's her husband's depled. Men are in the house. She's

918
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 1: just lying to us. Look how many men are of

919
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:45,560
Speaker 1: her house right now? Oh my gosh.

920
00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:47,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, I don't care what you gotta say, Like

921
00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:49,120
Speaker 2: you front them, call them out for that.

922
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:50,799
Speaker 1: Don't you have anything better to do?

923
00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:53,360
Speaker 2: No, that's the thing though, Like when you're on a

924
00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 2: military base, there's nothing better to do, Like, especially when

925
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 2: you are the partner of a deployed per Yeah, you're

926
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:01,879
Speaker 2: just sitting there.

927
00:44:01,960 --> 00:44:07,360
Speaker 1: Wait it's my cousin experienced that and hated it. Yep,

928
00:44:07,560 --> 00:44:11,080
Speaker 1: I would also very much hate that. Yeah, she's longer

929
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:13,560
Speaker 1: with that person who was in the military. Added to

930
00:44:13,600 --> 00:44:16,319
Speaker 1: add the rumor was much worse. But I didn't have

931
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:19,799
Speaker 1: enough space. She has been calling me names because of

932
00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:23,359
Speaker 1: the different males, saying that I obviously get trains run

933
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:27,880
Speaker 1: on me and such, Oh my god, and that wives

934
00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 1: like me and again I'm not one give the rest

935
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:33,120
Speaker 1: of them a bad name. I'm about to give you

936
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 1: a bad name. Watch out, there's a little bit left here.

937
00:44:36,480 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 1: You think she did the right thing? Yeah, come out,

938
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:41,640
Speaker 1: come out. They suck. Yeah, I wouldn't want to.

939
00:44:41,640 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 2: I mean, like, the only thing that I was thinking is, oh, well,

940
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 2: you might not have endeared yourself to any of them,

941
00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:50,520
Speaker 2: but also why would you want to be friends with

942
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 2: any of them?

943
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:54,960
Speaker 1: Anyway? They suck? Yeah, when immediately that's the first impression

944
00:44:54,960 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 1: you get of them. Yeah, I have better things to do,

945
00:44:58,080 --> 00:45:02,000
Speaker 1: actually set around and come up with gossip and laugh

946
00:45:02,040 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 1: about people like on, did you see her over there? Yeah? Okay, cool,

947
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:09,359
Speaker 1: that's awesome. Hope you enjoy that life. And guess why

948
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:13,280
Speaker 1: your husband's away and you'll never see him again. Yeah.

949
00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:16,920
Speaker 1: Edit and update. A couple of the wives have since

950
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:20,319
Speaker 1: come over and apologized for her behavior and theirs, and

951
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:23,440
Speaker 1: have confirmed what the first neighbor told me. Though, to

952
00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:25,279
Speaker 1: be fair, I think if you were pressured by their

953
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 1: spouses to make amends. To add for those who aren't

954
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:31,120
Speaker 1: familiar with the military, the rumors she was spreading could

955
00:45:31,120 --> 00:45:33,759
Speaker 1: actually result in a witch hunt of sorts if they

956
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:34,800
Speaker 1: reached the wrong people.

957
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:39,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's like a lot of morality stuff around the military.

958
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 2: It's it's pretty bad, Like, well, not bad, but it's

959
00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 2: pretty strict.

960
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:46,440
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well because a lot of like stuff goes in

961
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:49,280
Speaker 1: and you are provided a lot. Yeah, so I feel

962
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:53,280
Speaker 1: like you should take it seriously. Yeah, adultery is actually

963
00:45:53,360 --> 00:45:56,960
Speaker 1: a chargeable offense under military law. They're super strict. Dang.

964
00:45:57,280 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 1: One of the people who came to help is married,

965
00:45:59,480 --> 00:46:02,320
Speaker 1: which could all also lead to charges of unprofessional conduct

966
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:05,759
Speaker 1: and in proper relationships between ranks. Even though all of

967
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:09,440
Speaker 1: these accusations would be untrue, just being accused of them

968
00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:12,440
Speaker 1: can leave a permanent stain on your record. Stupid stuff

969
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:16,120
Speaker 1: like this can end careers. That's the end. So glad

970
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:18,439
Speaker 1: he nipped it in bud, then call him out imediately. Yeah,

971
00:46:18,640 --> 00:46:23,319
Speaker 1: these people, they shouldn't have just immediately believed. But of course,

972
00:46:23,400 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 1: you know, they don't have anything better to do. Yeah,

973
00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 1: they're just saw hanging out, sipping their tea and starting drama.

974
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:32,480
Speaker 1: That's the end of that story. And we got some comments.

975
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:35,799
Speaker 1: We've got comments from the video. My boyfriend's student is

976
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:36,719
Speaker 1: obsessed with him.

977
00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:40,040
Speaker 2: She flashed him. But this was posted June tenth, twenty

978
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:43,480
Speaker 2: twenty six. Tilde r comes from story one. Op and

979
00:46:43,480 --> 00:46:46,279
Speaker 2: her boyfriend Robin, a college tutor, started noticing one of

980
00:46:46,280 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 2: his students, Lucy, acting strange. First, it was always grabbing

981
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 2: the seat next to him. Then came the creative, his

982
00:46:52,680 --> 00:46:55,960
Speaker 2: favorite soda, the hundreds of dollars in matching anime ear

983
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:59,439
Speaker 2: and trying to insert herself into every couple.

984
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:00,920
Speaker 1: Thing that two of them planned.

985
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 2: Ope stayed calm and figured Robin could just talk it

986
00:47:03,520 --> 00:47:06,360
Speaker 2: out during their next session. She had no clue what

987
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:09,600
Speaker 2: was about to happen. What started as a simple conversation

988
00:47:09,719 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 2: turned into one of the wildest nights op he had

989
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 2: ever seen, full of horoscope rants, bold faced lies, a

990
00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:19,840
Speaker 2: destiny speech, and a moment so unbelievable the RA and

991
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:23,120
Speaker 2: campus security had to get involved. You will not believe

992
00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 2: how far Lucy is willing to go. And if you're

993
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:27,959
Speaker 2: curious to know the full story, you can go watch

994
00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:31,200
Speaker 2: the full video. But we got some comments, common one

995
00:47:31,239 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 2: from Unicorn McMuffin, who says that first story.

996
00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:38,360
Speaker 1: Was very titillating. I see what you did there? Funny.

997
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:42,359
Speaker 2: Natalie West says, as a former university employee and current

998
00:47:42,400 --> 00:47:45,360
Speaker 2: graduate student, that first story had many screaming tied on

999
00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:49,040
Speaker 2: nine before she even flashed the poor kid I'm pretty

1000
00:47:49,080 --> 00:47:52,800
Speaker 2: sure ras are mandatory reporters, and if not, the cops

1001
00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 2: certainly are. So Lucy's behavior is definitely documented somewhere by

1002
00:47:58,120 --> 00:48:03,720
Speaker 2: someone true. Macra says as inappropriate as Lucy's being, Robin

1003
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:06,120
Speaker 2: opened the door by not separating his work life and

1004
00:48:06,239 --> 00:48:09,480
Speaker 2: personal life because I guess he was tutoring and also

1005
00:48:09,560 --> 00:48:11,799
Speaker 2: friends with her. Outside of that, he should not be

1006
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:14,799
Speaker 2: welcoming his students into his social life. He also needs

1007
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:18,360
Speaker 2: to shut down inappropriate behavior immediately with students and ending

1008
00:48:18,360 --> 00:48:21,720
Speaker 2: their tutoring if they persist, along with the report regarding

1009
00:48:21,719 --> 00:48:24,720
Speaker 2: the inappropriate behavior to whatever agency or school is arranging

1010
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 2: the tutoring. Absolutely. Yeah, And final comment from Nixy ten,

1011
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:32,200
Speaker 2: who says Lucy is mentally unstable. I'm sure she believes

1012
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 2: in all this twin Flame thing. They should have reported

1013
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:36,200
Speaker 2: her and filed a restraining.

1014
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 1: Order way earlier.

1015
00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:41,480
Speaker 2: Yes, all of those things, and they definitely did report her,

1016
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:43,839
Speaker 2: I think by the end of the story, if I'm

1017
00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:46,920
Speaker 2: remembering correctly. But that's the end of those comments and

1018
00:48:46,960 --> 00:48:49,040
Speaker 2: the end of the episode. So if you love us,

1019
00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:52,520
Speaker 2: make sure to subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.