Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya red An iHeartRadio podcast. Hello, everybody,
Speaker 1: we are scrubbing in. It's not just any Monday, what
Speaker 1: is it. It is the Monday after the Oscars and
Speaker 1: Daylight Saving Studylight Savings time. It is Miley Cyrus's new
Speaker 1: album of Long Weekend, and I think we're gonna get
Speaker 1: into all that stuff. But most importantly, how are you
Speaker 1: doing with the time change? Well, I'm doing fine. I
Speaker 1: don't wake up at like five am like you do,
Speaker 1: so I'm just fine. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Like I when
Speaker 1: I woke up this morning, I was like phills earlier
Speaker 1: than it is. But I still feel like I woke
Speaker 1: up at like a decent hour and I slept really hard,
Speaker 1: so you know, I don't know if I've talked about
Speaker 1: this on the podcast, but I have like a hard
Speaker 1: time staying asleep A lot of times. It's been because
Speaker 1: Phoebe like is up all night coughing, and then I
Speaker 1: got that under control, but I feel like I'm still
Speaker 1: like kind of awake at all times. To the last side,
Speaker 1: I was like out, So it feels really good. It's
Speaker 1: just like nice to go through the night and get
Speaker 1: into like Rem suck right and just stay there. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I haven't been there in a minute. I haven't been
Speaker 1: in Rem. Haven't been in Rem. I've been like in
Speaker 1: and out of Rem. Robbie's been waking me up more
Speaker 1: when he gets up to go to the bathroom, which
Speaker 1: never used to happen for me. I should just sleep
Speaker 1: through everything. Yeah, so something to think about. Did that
Speaker 1: change when he got sunny? No, this changed like a
Speaker 1: month ago. Why. I don't know. I might start taking edibles.
Speaker 1: I'm so on board because yeah, and I'm not sleeping.
Speaker 1: But what's interesting is so the last like three weeks
Speaker 1: we've gotten off coffee and alcohol, were just like we're like,
Speaker 1: we're just stopping and just seeing how it goes. Right.
Speaker 1: So Saturday night we went to one of his best
Speaker 1: friend's birthday dinners, and so I was like, Okay, we're
Speaker 1: gonna go. We're gonna drink tonight because it's gonna make
Speaker 1: a fun night. Right. I had three martinis, and martinis
Speaker 1: are stiff, basically just liquor. Yeah, So we had like
Speaker 1: a really good time. We were out till maybe midnight,
Speaker 1: which really in the time change is one am. Right.
Speaker 1: So the next morning was the Oscars, I'm sure. So
Speaker 1: the next morning was the Oscars, and I had this
Speaker 1: idea where I was like, I wanted to see Sophia
Speaker 1: at some point during the day, and I was like,
Speaker 1: what would be less annoying to her? I wanted to
Speaker 1: surprise her. Would be just to do it at her
Speaker 1: house before she even like leaves to go get ready
Speaker 1: and stuff. Right, So I was coordinating with Paulina, her sister,
Speaker 1: what the best time. I don't know some people listening
Speaker 1: um coordinating in terms of like timing when to get there.
Speaker 1: So it first started out like be here around like
Speaker 1: eight thirty, which I thought was totally normal. I wake
Speaker 1: up around seven o'clock on the weekends anyway, so I
Speaker 1: was like, no problem, right, it kept getting pushed like
Speaker 1: earlier and earlier, by like thirty minute increments on that
Speaker 1: night while I'm like drinking my Leachi martinis, so I'm
Speaker 1: like setting my alarm robbing, And I got up at
Speaker 1: five forty five on Sunday, which no, no, sorry, no
Speaker 1: sixty five. So and it just ended up being like
Speaker 1: a jam packed day so we couldn't just like come
Speaker 1: back home and like nap our Sunday was like full
Speaker 1: my parents were coming up for brunch. We did the
Speaker 1: sound bath with the lat Nerd. I had work, so
Speaker 1: it was just like a whole day. Yeah. Um, so
Speaker 1: I was just a total disaster yesterday and I think
Speaker 1: it's rolling over into today. Does it do be doing that? Yeah,
Speaker 1: it rolls over. I gotta say expression that sounds regional.
Speaker 1: It was like tiktokling go a little bit um but
Speaker 1: maybe a little bit of Louisiana. Um. I was gonna say,
Speaker 1: you posted a video of y'all out and you were
Speaker 1: like wrong something about our first time drinking, and it
Speaker 1: was like I had a moment of us being in Vegas. Yes,
Speaker 1: I saw the look in his side that took me
Speaker 1: back to Vegas and I was like, oh no, we
Speaker 1: both hit like a point where we were just like
Speaker 1: this point in our return. Yeah, it was fun. We
Speaker 1: had like the best yea. So it was like a
Speaker 1: great time. But I also don't you don't realize, like
Speaker 1: we were both really puffy the next morning. I'm like,
Speaker 1: you don't realize how alcohol affects you until you don't
Speaker 1: drink it for a little bit. It's poison. Yeah, it
Speaker 1: literally is poison. Yeah, but I'm so really glad we
Speaker 1: did it because being able to see her at the
Speaker 1: morning of the Oscars was like really special getting a
Speaker 1: surprise her. She was really happy, so it was fun.
Speaker 1: I mean, that is so epic to be nominated for
Speaker 1: an oscar to perform at the Oscars. Like, that's awesome. Yeah. Um,
Speaker 1: I feel very proud of her. You feel proud of her.
Speaker 1: We'll get into it when we talk when we do
Speaker 1: our Oscars. Yeah. Well, so Friday night, Hailey had told
Speaker 1: me earlier I guess when Hungry Heart came out. She
Speaker 1: was like, so, Steve Aoki is going to be in
Speaker 1: LA and he wants me to perform Hungry Heart. And
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that's so fun. What I'm laughing
Speaker 1: because I know what you're gonna say. What what you
Speaker 1: were texting me over the weekend. I'm too old for this, though,
Speaker 1: Oh I am. Yeah. And um. So as the concerts
Speaker 1: getting closer, she's like, so, I don't think I'm going
Speaker 1: on to like eleven thirty And I'm like, oh, what, Like,
Speaker 1: are we gonna go out before that? Because the last time,
Speaker 1: the only time we've ever done that was for the
Speaker 1: Taylor Swift Grammy's party. We left at like eleven pm,
Speaker 1: and that was crazy, but it was Taylor Swift like
Speaker 1: you do what you do DM. I've never been to
Speaker 1: an ed M show, and that late. I was just
Speaker 1: not prepared to start to like what ten. I don't
Speaker 1: think he went until ten. Yeah, And so we got
Speaker 1: there and she performed and stuff. It was fun, but like,
Speaker 1: I don't know how people stand. They're packed in there.
Speaker 1: It is the craziest thing. It's a lifestyle. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: I didn't know about the cake thing. Stevie Oki like
Speaker 1: throws full cake, sheet cake and people ask for it.
Speaker 1: And there's even like zones where it's like, hey, if
Speaker 1: you don't want to get cake on you, like, don't
Speaker 1: stay here. It's like a splash zone for cake. And
Speaker 1: he throws like sixteen of them. It's crazy. One cake
Speaker 1: a show. Oh no, he's increased it. I think it's
Speaker 1: basically well, it's so wasteful, but I think it's basically frosting.
Speaker 1: I think if it was a full cake it would
Speaker 1: be too dense. Yeah, and he has an impeccable aim.
Speaker 1: So we left after Haley performed on Friday night at
Speaker 1: the LA Show, and then we wake up Saturday and
Speaker 1: Haley was like damming with him, like that was so
Speaker 1: fun last night and he was like, let's do it
Speaker 1: again and she was like you tell me what and
Speaker 1: he was like, tonight in San Francisco. So that was
Speaker 1: on a whim. Yes. Oh, so she's like, do you
Speaker 1: want to go to San Francisco. I'm gonna perform with
Speaker 1: him tonight and say like we fly out tonight. Yeah.
Speaker 1: It was cool, but I'm like, it's like so tired,
Speaker 1: and she was tired. She's like, that was yesterday was
Speaker 1: basically her one day to just like rest, and she
Speaker 1: was I was like I think you like, I don't
Speaker 1: think you can say no no, So we fly up
Speaker 1: and I know the world's blandest to him. We talked
Speaker 1: about that before the show started, but that for some reason,
Speaker 1: that's exciting to me. Someone'd say to me, you want
Speaker 1: to go to San Francisco right now? Yeah, that's exciting.
Speaker 1: It's very We took JSX, which is you know easy, yeah,
Speaker 1: the next best thing, um, and so we went up there.
Speaker 1: We went and had dinner, had some pasta and then
Speaker 1: we went directly with our bags to the show and
Speaker 1: like we got to the venue and they were like,
Speaker 1: we gotta go like you gotta so she's like putting
Speaker 1: on her in ears and stuff, and like we're walking
Speaker 1: to the stage. It was crazy, but we stayed the
Speaker 1: whole show and then we got she got to throw
Speaker 1: a cake hit someone right in my face. Nice. It was.
Speaker 1: It was crazy, But you know what's really interesting. I
Speaker 1: didn't have a sip of alcohol a weekend. Well I
Speaker 1: did yesterday at Bert's party, but like during this Steve
Speaker 1: Aoky concert and you had a great time. No, you
Speaker 1: don't need alcohol to have a bad times have felt
Speaker 1: like in those settings where you're a little bit uncomfortable
Speaker 1: or like you're kind of like this is not my scene,
Speaker 1: Like a drink makes you kind of rely. But I
Speaker 1: was like, I think it was so crazy, like Hayley performing,
Speaker 1: and we got there so fast that there was no
Speaker 1: time to like think about alcohol. I enjoy the feeling
Speaker 1: of the alcohol, Like I like feeling buzzed. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, yeah, about like comfort and stuff. And it's
Speaker 1: also like what I realized when we said when we
Speaker 1: said we were gonna stop drinking. I was at an
Speaker 1: industry event and there was just it was like open
Speaker 1: bar and I just would always just go and get
Speaker 1: a glass of wine or have like, maybe I don't
Speaker 1: have two glasses of wine. I don't need it. I
Speaker 1: don't need to be more comfortable. I know every you know,
Speaker 1: I know enough people here, but I think the buzz
Speaker 1: is the comfort, right. Yeah. But it was just as
Speaker 1: easy for me to like because I'd made that decision
Speaker 1: that we weren't going to be drinking. So I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't need it, and then I felt better the
Speaker 1: next day, That's all I'm saying. Yeah, And the next
Speaker 1: day we had a morning flight and I just I
Speaker 1: was just tired from the time change, but I didn't
Speaker 1: feel like bad or anything. And I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I do think it hits you differently, like because I
Speaker 1: remember when I was in college, I was working at
Speaker 1: a morning show going to college, working a morning show
Speaker 1: live every day, like waking up at four am, going
Speaker 1: to like date dashes, all this stuff, running on no sleep.
Speaker 1: But I was just doing it perpetually for like years.
Speaker 1: It was because you had dark hair. Yeah, but that
Speaker 1: was twenty one, twenty two. You know me. Now I'm
Speaker 1: thirty five, and it hits different, like I need two
Speaker 1: days to recover from one night of drinking. Yeah, it
Speaker 1: does hit different. It does. Yeah, I can't imagine what
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be like a forty five, although I will
Speaker 1: say we got back to the hotel and took an
Speaker 1: edible and for I don't know how long, there was
Speaker 1: a moment where we just like sat in silence, like
Speaker 1: staring at nothing, and I was like, how long have
Speaker 1: we been sitting here in silence? Like It's almost like
Speaker 1: we had a moment where we were just like coming down.
Speaker 1: And we stayed at the One Hotel, which is like,
Speaker 1: we stayed there Nashville. It's the most beautiful hotel chain ever.
Speaker 1: And but their snacks are all like healthy organic snacks
Speaker 1: and they don't have like soda or anything. So when
Speaker 1: I was like ready to eat, I didn't feel horrible.
Speaker 1: I was like some healthy stuff. Yeah, so that's great.
Speaker 1: It's a busy weekend. And then we got back and
Speaker 1: we had Brittany's birthday yesterday and we were there and
Speaker 1: then we got home at like seven have the oscars
Speaker 1: am both passed out on the couch for like I
Speaker 1: don't know an hour, and then got up and got
Speaker 1: ready for bed and went to sleep. Here we are.
Speaker 1: We've missed you. At the sound bath. Actually have I
Speaker 1: know two things too. I totally forgot them at home,
Speaker 1: so I'll bring them to you. But Tay Lautner, who
Speaker 1: we had on as a guest, did a sound bath
Speaker 1: for her foundation Lemons by Ta and so Rob and
Speaker 1: I went to it yesterday and I've never done a
Speaker 1: sound bath before. I had no idea what took. I mean,
Speaker 1: I kind of knew what to expect, like any of
Speaker 1: this sounds and stuff, but it was very m Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it makes me want to sleep. That's the goal. It's
Speaker 1: like to get you into like this really deep zen place.
Speaker 1: But what's so funny is we laid down and I
Speaker 1: immediately have to pee and I'm like, oh no, oh no.
Speaker 1: And there's a whole room full of people right and
Speaker 1: it's dark and you can hear like a pin you
Speaker 1: can hear a pin drops. I was like, I'm not
Speaker 1: going to be the girl that Waltz is on out
Speaker 1: of here. You hear the toilet flush. I was like,
Speaker 1: I can't. I can't disturb everybody's peace. It was a
Speaker 1: seventy five minute sound bad. So I'm sitting there for
Speaker 1: the first thirty minutes like in pain, Like I'm going
Speaker 1: through all the things that like my urine not relaxing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get a u TI from this. So then
Speaker 1: I was like I just I look at Robbie like
Speaker 1: opened his eyes and I was like, he goes go.
Speaker 1: So I was like, Okay, that's what I needed, you know,
Speaker 1: I needed the somebody to tell me to go. So
Speaker 1: I went up and I went Obviously these people plan
Speaker 1: for these things, so the toilet flush you can't hear
Speaker 1: it because it's like the bathrooms in the back. So anyways,
Speaker 1: the last half of it I really got to enjoy
Speaker 1: because I was like bladder empty, total piece and zen.
Speaker 1: And then it was like I had a serendipitous moment.
Speaker 1: Life lesson if you will tell me about it. If
Speaker 1: you need to do something and your body's physically telling
Speaker 1: you to do something, just do it. If you're putting
Speaker 1: something off, if you're procrastinating something in life right now,
Speaker 1: just get it done. Stop procrastinating, stop putting it off
Speaker 1: till tomorrow. Do it now. You're going to be happier.
Speaker 1: That's my life lessons to the sound bath. Pooping your
Speaker 1: pants if you can wait, well no, but if you're
Speaker 1: walking the dog and you have to poop your pants,
Speaker 1: don't do it. Take that piss never metaphorically. If there's
Speaker 1: something that you're procrastinating on in life, this is your sign.
Speaker 1: I like it. I don't have to point out every
Speaker 1: once in a while when I can feel listeners rolling
Speaker 1: their eyes and I think a lot of non LA
Speaker 1: listeners are rolling their eyes that you into a seventy
Speaker 1: five minute sound bath. Yeah, it's a very la nonsensical thing.
Speaker 1: It is a very LA thing, like i've I've sound
Speaker 1: baths have really kind of taken off, Like I feel like,
Speaker 1: can you explain what one is just for people who
Speaker 1: don't know. So it's it's basically like a deep meditation,
Speaker 1: and they like make all these sounds like gongs and
Speaker 1: rain sticks and there's like a ocean sound, and it's
Speaker 1: it's basic like a meditation where supposed to get you
Speaker 1: into like a really really deep relaxed state, relaxed state.
Speaker 1: I've never again I went to this. I was invited
Speaker 1: as a guest, So this isn't something that I've ever
Speaker 1: sought out on my own. But I do know a
Speaker 1: lot of people that how much do people pay? You
Speaker 1: were a guest? But how much would a person pay
Speaker 1: for I would assume it's like a workout class. That's
Speaker 1: what I would assume, right, like a yoga class. Maybe
Speaker 1: like twenty bucks. I guess depends on what kind of
Speaker 1: where you're going for your sound ball mat. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: like you lay on a mat and I imagine if
Speaker 1: it's seventy five minutes, it's actually probably like twenty five dollars. No,
Speaker 1: it's probably more than that. I would give it a
Speaker 1: forty five range. Really, Yeah, it's like a spa like
Speaker 1: workout classes can range from anything from like I think,
Speaker 1: like fifteen to thirty dollars in LA. It's not a workout,
Speaker 1: but I'm just putting it in that category because I
Speaker 1: don't I don't know. Yeah, it's not like a massage. No,
Speaker 1: but I did. I told you I'll went to that
Speaker 1: birthday party and it was a sound bath and Jay
Speaker 1: Shetty led the meditation before and I was like, this
Speaker 1: is peak La, Like that was peak LA. And I
Speaker 1: did have a hard time for the first like ten
Speaker 1: minutes relaxing because I had jeans on. I don't recommend
Speaker 1: wearing jeans to sound bath tight jeans. You gotta wear sweats,
Speaker 1: you gotta wear something cozy. Speaking of Jay Chetty. We
Speaker 1: went to his show. I was going to ask you
Speaker 1: about it. It was so amazing. People who may not
Speaker 1: know is we're not interviewing him, but we'll do a
Speaker 1: quick intro. He said he would come on the podcast.
Speaker 1: By the way, I've asked him to come on and
Speaker 1: he's so down. It's just a matter of scheduling, you know,
Speaker 1: we gotta have it. Is like Camilla coming over to
Speaker 1: watch Crazy with you. No scheduling. I swear, I swear,
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. I believe Jay is a very busy
Speaker 1: person right now. Yeah, Yeah, it's a scheduling issue. And
Speaker 1: you know we're only doing in studios, so that's right.
Speaker 1: It's tough, tough, tough one when he's on tour. But um,
Speaker 1: the show was incredible. He is h he's an author.
Speaker 1: He's a New York Times best selling author. Actually, his book,
Speaker 1: his new book came out the same exact day as
Speaker 1: The Sunshine Mind. One of us was. One of us
Speaker 1: was a New York Times bestseller again, and one of
Speaker 1: us was not. I'll let you guys figure that one out.
Speaker 1: But he is Um. He used to be a monk.
Speaker 1: He used to be a monk, and now he has
Speaker 1: a job. He has a really great podcast. He's helps
Speaker 1: people find their purpose. But um, so he's going on
Speaker 1: tour or this tour it's like the show for it's
Speaker 1: called Love Rules, which is kind of like off based
Speaker 1: off of his new book, and he just has this
Speaker 1: thing where like there's a couple of things he mentioned
Speaker 1: in this show that there's, um there's like this, there's
Speaker 1: this thing that you can google. It's like a list
Speaker 1: of thirty six questions to get to know someone, and
Speaker 1: he mentioned it in his show. And so Robbie and
Speaker 1: I did it on Saturday night before we went to
Speaker 1: the birthday dinner, or the two of us just went
Speaker 1: and got a drink um solo for like some alone time,
Speaker 1: and we went through the list of thirty six and
Speaker 1: they're kind of silly, like you would read them and
Speaker 1: think like, oh, we already know all this stuff about
Speaker 1: each other, but it really can spark the interesting conversation,
Speaker 1: like you know, what's something you regret from your child
Speaker 1: or the way you were raised, and like, uh, if
Speaker 1: you knew you were going to die in a year,
Speaker 1: what would you do differently now? And like just things
Speaker 1: that they sound like surface level when you read the questions,
Speaker 1: but they really sparked a really interesting conversation for the
Speaker 1: two of us after to fall in love. Yeah, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: New York Times. Yeah. Um, but the show, if he's
Speaker 1: coming to a sitting near you, I highly recommend Jay
Speaker 1: Shetty show because it was really really cool. He's a
Speaker 1: very well connected man. He knows everybody. Everyone knows Jay
Speaker 1: sett Yeah. And it's funny because we were at the
Speaker 1: show and Matthew Hussey was there with his fiancee, so
Speaker 1: we got to spend a lot of time with Like
Speaker 1: Robie and I spent a lot of time talking to
Speaker 1: him and his fiance and they're lovely. We always see
Speaker 1: him Matthew at like Jayshetty things. It's so funny, like
Speaker 1: that's like our common thread. I was gonna say, I
Speaker 1: feel like I met Matthew Hussey. Yeah yeah, Um I
Speaker 1: met some scrubbers. Oh oh what I met a couple
Speaker 1: of scrubbers, maybe a handful of scrubbers at Jetty show. Okay.
Speaker 1: One of them dms me the next day the picture
Speaker 1: of us, and she says, I have to tell you,
Speaker 1: I was himming and hawing if I was going to
Speaker 1: buy a ticket to this show. Because I couldn't go
Speaker 1: with anybody and I didn't want to go alone. And
Speaker 1: I read your chapter in your book about being independent
Speaker 1: and I ended up buying the ticket to the show.
Speaker 1: And then I ended up meeting you at the show.
Speaker 1: How crazy is that? Don't procrastinate, just dorastinate, Just do it.
Speaker 1: I found that She's like sent me the picture of
Speaker 1: the chapter in my book that she read, and I
Speaker 1: was like, wow, well I love that. Yeah, it was
Speaker 1: like a full circle moment. It was a total one
Speaker 1: eighty three sixty. Well that's two circles, isn't it. I
Speaker 1: never know three sixty you're facing the same direction again,
Speaker 1: he does. It's a spin, but meaning like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: so eighties just turning around one eighties turning around seven
Speaker 1: twenty would be a full loop, and then you end
Speaker 1: up in a different spot, so you get like two
Speaker 1: versions of it. But I've never heard anybody say that,
Speaker 1: so I don't think that same place. Yeah, seven twenty
Speaker 1: is a spin and a half. No, three sixty times
Speaker 1: two is seven twenties, So you're going twice. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: is a strong suit here? That's not important? Wait did
Speaker 1: you see um? Okay, do you know who Chris Olsen
Speaker 1: is he's a big TikTok Erni's friends with Megan Trainer. No.
Speaker 1: I know who he is, but I don't know much
Speaker 1: about him. So he posted a carousel images and the
Speaker 1: first photo is him kissing a guy and the tag
Speaker 1: is Ryan Trainer's brother. Oh, and then multiple photos of
Speaker 1: them kissing. But they're really close, and I can't tell
Speaker 1: if Ryan's like everyone like, no one's really saying anything
Speaker 1: about it. And I'm like confused because it felt like
Speaker 1: a big deal that they if it was like a
Speaker 1: hard launch, or if it was just like they're close friends.
Speaker 1: Maybe we can ask Megan. She's coming on the radio
Speaker 1: show this week. Yeah, yes, please find out, but write
Speaker 1: that down. Wait before we move on. I didn't want
Speaker 1: to ask you because we got to know from last
Speaker 1: week's episode. Yeah, I feel like the intimate embraced right
Speaker 1: and they're kissing. Yeah, um, I want before we moved on,
Speaker 1: I wanted to ask you because this was in notes
Speaker 1: from last week's episode. How do you feel that you
Speaker 1: have a love song from Haley that's not a breakup
Speaker 1: song out? I feel so nice and I've been waiting
Speaker 1: for I was like, maybe the song's never gonna get
Speaker 1: released because it's two. It's not a breakup song. Maybe
Speaker 1: she only wants me to be the sad ones, the
Speaker 1: one that makes you makes her sad sad at the
Speaker 1: same time. Very ca Yeah, yeah, um no, it feels
Speaker 1: really good and I love this song. It's been one
Speaker 1: of my like when she sent me the um like
Speaker 1: the wave, no, the demo or something, what's the wave?
Speaker 1: The wave file? Nice? Is that like the nerdy talking? Yeah,
Speaker 1: very good. Yeah, when you sent me a wave, I
Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh, I love this song. And
Speaker 1: I actually think we had kind of gotten into like
Speaker 1: a little bit of a tiff. This is when we
Speaker 1: first started dating. This was twenty and eighteen, and I
Speaker 1: had gone to iHeart Festival in Vegas and we kind
Speaker 1: of had like it was kind of like a difficult time,
Speaker 1: was that brother? I think? So I remember coming to
Speaker 1: your room and you like telling me about No, that
Speaker 1: wasn't that one that was here before. Um, But we
Speaker 1: went to I went to iHeart and it was just
Speaker 1: hard because she was she was We were still in
Speaker 1: the beginning stages. We didn't get to see each other
Speaker 1: a lot, and it was like, you know, that was
Speaker 1: all when it was all bachelor guys and then it
Speaker 1: would be like me and Ashley if she got if
Speaker 1: she was able to go, and so she was like,
Speaker 1: I just feel like you're going to be, you know,
Speaker 1: surrounded by all the bachelor guys. And we had kind
Speaker 1: of got into an argument. I'm like, this is my work,
Speaker 1: Like this is just you know, part of the work part.
Speaker 1: And then she wrote that song and one of the
Speaker 1: lines was like whenever, whenever I'm with you, I already
Speaker 1: miss you. That's how we were. We were like so
Speaker 1: obsessive that it was like, even when we were together,
Speaker 1: it was like anticipating the moment that we weren't going
Speaker 1: to be together. I know, so deep, but yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: still I know I hate it that. It's tough being
Speaker 1: It's tough being with someone that you hate being apart
Speaker 1: from in any capacity, it's the goal, isn't it. I
Speaker 1: know it's the best and it's the worse when they
Speaker 1: travel a lot. Yeah, I know that would really It's
Speaker 1: funny because when Becca said you couldn't go to the
Speaker 1: sound bath on Sunday, I was like, can Robbie come?
Speaker 1: Like really was just like quick to oh yeah, immediately
Speaker 1: replace me. Yeah, like it was actually within seconds I
Speaker 1: said I have a birthday party. I'm not. I don't
Speaker 1: think I can't. I don't know what time it's gonna
Speaker 1: be over, so I don't want to commit and take
Speaker 1: up a spot, And then thirty seconds Tanya had me
Speaker 1: replaced it. It's like that sometimes I want to talk
Speaker 1: about the Oscars, but I think we should take a
Speaker 1: break and come back. Yeah sounds good. All right, we're
Speaker 1: back with Oscar's recap. Where do we start first? I
Speaker 1: would like to say that I feel like being the
Speaker 1: host of the US or any award show like that
Speaker 1: would be very challenging. Sure, but sometimes I'm just like,
Speaker 1: could could we do it without having someone having to
Speaker 1: have like kind of like weird jokes The whole time
Speaker 1: we did that, we tried, that didn't go. I think
Speaker 1: it was twenty twenty and it didn't. Few years ago,
Speaker 1: they still take up time like they still fill the
Speaker 1: time with like a weird thing. I think I don't
Speaker 1: know that people were like walking into the It's just
Speaker 1: I think I like Trevor Noah, Are you saying you
Speaker 1: didn't like Jimmy because I thought Jimmy was phenomenal last night? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Sometimes it's jokes. I'm just kinda like
Speaker 1: the Nicole Kidman joke had me because I just find
Speaker 1: that I'm always quoting the sometimes hotbreak feels good in
Speaker 1: the place like this. Yeah, Like I'm constantly I find
Speaker 1: it just so entertaining that commercial. Yeah, so when he
Speaker 1: made that joke, I was like, oh my gosh, I
Speaker 1: never thought of it that way, Like, thank you for
Speaker 1: telling the people who are already at the movies to
Speaker 1: go to the movie. Yeah, there was no host in
Speaker 1: nineteen twenty or twenty one, nineteen twenty, twenty twenty and
Speaker 1: twenty twenty one, three straight years there was no host.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, Yeah, so been there, done that. It was. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just think it's a hard job. Like I'm not
Speaker 1: it's a thankless job. It's a very hardy Yeah, like
Speaker 1: you're gonna get criticized no matter why, as we're hearing now.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I just said it was really good actually
Speaker 1: like that his monologue, it was pretty perfect. Way he
Speaker 1: addressed the Will Smith situation was very funny. But maybe
Speaker 1: I was napping during that. Oh. He basically said, like
Speaker 1: if you if you do anything like any act of violence,
Speaker 1: if you come out here you will be awarded. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just was kind of like, you
Speaker 1: weren't into it when he said, this is the category
Speaker 1: that caused the ruckets last year. So hopefully it goes
Speaker 1: off without a hitch, and without a hitch. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: better than I'm giving a credit for rude cappy. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I thought it was pretty good. And he's like, I
Speaker 1: look out of here, and I so many beautiful people,
Speaker 1: and I wonder if ozenpic is for me so fun.
Speaker 1: We haven't talked about ozenpic on the podcast. No, that
Speaker 1: is a hard hitting topic. It is a hard hit.
Speaker 1: It's like trending on Twitter all the time anytime there's
Speaker 1: a celebrity who's like, yeah, it's it's immediately the O.
Speaker 1: But it is apparently it is I know, like people
Speaker 1: to actually need it for their health reasons cannot get
Speaker 1: it because people are using it to lose weight and
Speaker 1: it is such a problem and I think people are like, well,
Speaker 1: there's no um like, there's no ramifications, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't know that we know enough yet. No, there's
Speaker 1: actually stuff coming out that it's like horrible. It's causing
Speaker 1: like all kinds of bad things and the minute you
Speaker 1: get off of it. I remember it was Ramy Bader
Speaker 1: was talking about the minute you get off of it,
Speaker 1: you gain it back and something. So it's like, what
Speaker 1: are you just going to use this thing for the
Speaker 1: rest of your lifing. I do think that there's like
Speaker 1: reasons of needing, like if there's like people who actually
Speaker 1: need it, and then I think there's also a lot
Speaker 1: of benefits to like nutrition and exercise. That's like there
Speaker 1: for a reason something seems too good to be true.
Speaker 1: It is right, I mean, there is no quick fix
Speaker 1: for these things. And also all those commercials that's you're
Speaker 1: a doctor, if this is right for you, I think
Speaker 1: you stay away from those. Right, this may cause internal bleeding.
Speaker 1: Your arm is going to fall off. Every time I
Speaker 1: see a medicine commercial and the like warning comes, I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: is this worth it. The thing that bothers me about
Speaker 1: Hollywood is like the line if you're taking ozempic, just
Speaker 1: own up to it, because I think the problem is
Speaker 1: is like people see this stuff and they think that
Speaker 1: you actually can look like that with eating greens and
Speaker 1: sleeping on your back, you know what I mean. It's
Speaker 1: like that people actually think that, and it's just not
Speaker 1: the case, you know what I mean. And so I
Speaker 1: actually said this when I was on Jay's podcast. It's
Speaker 1: like if you could make something out. I can't remember
Speaker 1: what the question was, but I was like, I would
Speaker 1: love on social media if it just disclosed how many
Speaker 1: filters and what filters people used on their photos. They
Speaker 1: don't have to say what they did, but just say like,
Speaker 1: here's my photo and I use I ran it through
Speaker 1: face tune. A couple it's been through face tune, ta mesa,
Speaker 1: this filter or whatever whatever. Because I just think like
Speaker 1: we just need to start being more upfront because it's
Speaker 1: like people are trying to use you know, this false
Speaker 1: reality that people are being fed is just I think,
Speaker 1: such a problem. I think though, it's like it's kind
Speaker 1: of the is it lying if they're not just blatant?
Speaker 1: I get what you're saying, but is it lying. I
Speaker 1: don't know that anyone's gonna straight up ask someone in
Speaker 1: an interview like, so we're you using ozempic. I think
Speaker 1: Chloe Kardashian's been asked, and I think Kyle Richards has
Speaker 1: and yeah, they're denying it, deny it. Who knows? I
Speaker 1: actually don't know for a fact, but yeah, no one. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of chatter about it. But I think
Speaker 1: I watched this like I don't even know if it
Speaker 1: was called a documentary, but this like piece on it
Speaker 1: and it was interviewing people like this guy who has diabetes,
Speaker 1: and like he was like, I can't literally can't find
Speaker 1: it anywhere, really bad. So I think they've got to
Speaker 1: figure out a solution to where the people who need
Speaker 1: it have access to it and like there's no increase
Speaker 1: in like the price or whatever, and then if people
Speaker 1: want to be on it and take that risk for themselves,
Speaker 1: then there's another option. Right, no judgment here. This is
Speaker 1: a judge free zone. The people that need it need
Speaker 1: access to it first. Yeah, okay, anyways back to the
Speaker 1: oscars um, Well, I think we should start with the
Speaker 1: carpet because that's the pre show and there's one person
Speaker 1: in particular that's getting a lot of pick up, and
Speaker 1: that's Ashley Graham. Yes, and the two interviews in particular
Speaker 1: were the interviews shod with Hugh Grant and Pedro Pascal. Yes,
Speaker 1: it's interesting we have different Mark and I were discussing
Speaker 1: it this morning and we have different opinions and so
Speaker 1: I'm curious to hear what you Well, what are your opinions? Well,
Speaker 1: I mean I'm surprised, Well what happened? For those who
Speaker 1: didn't watch, Ashley Graham asked Hugh Grants of questions. He
Speaker 1: did not seem to like those questions or have any
Speaker 1: answers for those questions, And it's incredibly uncomfortable because he's
Speaker 1: being obstinate. But in my opinion, her questions were such
Speaker 1: generic garbage that I kind of understand where he's coming from, Like,
Speaker 1: why bring him over for an interview if you have
Speaker 1: absolutely nothing to ask him except who are you looking
Speaker 1: forward to seeing? And how did you enjoy being in
Speaker 1: class onion? Which he's in for five seconds? Right, So
Speaker 1: I thought her questions were so lame and standard that
Speaker 1: I get why he was being a little bit weird.
Speaker 1: But I guess he's the one taking the majority of
Speaker 1: the heat. Yeah. So it's interesting because the interviews so awkward,
Speaker 1: like you can literally feel it when you're watching it.
Speaker 1: It's so uncomfortable. My first thought was he's a dick
Speaker 1: because he looked like a dick in that interview. I
Speaker 1: could see him coming off as a dick. But my
Speaker 1: other thought was, yes, I do agree that the questions
Speaker 1: were a little loosey goosey. They didn't feel like they
Speaker 1: had an intention. Yeah, or she wasn't prepped at all.
Speaker 1: And maybe I'm looking at it from a radio perspective
Speaker 1: because she had no prep for Hugh grew So when
Speaker 1: I first saw this, I was a little bit on
Speaker 1: Ashley's side, Like I was like, dude, you're doing an interview, Like,
Speaker 1: even if they aren't the best questions, smile and be nice,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But then she did the
Speaker 1: interview with Pedro Skall and basically what happened in that
Speaker 1: interview was he uh, he said kind of like he's
Speaker 1: looking forward. You know, Rihanna's performing tonight, right, And she
Speaker 1: was like, no, Rhanda's not performing, but that'd be a
Speaker 1: great surprise if she did. Yeah, And it was like
Speaker 1: knowing that Rihanna was performing by everybody, Yes, That's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Like this is like like he had inside
Speaker 1: like correct, this was not inside source. This was out
Speaker 1: in the public knowledge for many, many weeks leading up
Speaker 1: to the Oscars. And I'm like, if you're getting the
Speaker 1: privilege to host a red carpet at the Oscars, you
Speaker 1: don't know who's performing, it's a problem. Yeah, So I
Speaker 1: don't know where I stand on it, because, like Hugh Grant,
Speaker 1: when I was on totally on her side, because I
Speaker 1: was like, I think he was he was totally just
Speaker 1: being a jerk um. But then I saw that one
Speaker 1: and I was like, maybe market that's disappointing to me
Speaker 1: as a as a you know, as a journalist who
Speaker 1: loves doing that, you know, like, I think it just
Speaker 1: showed a lack of preparation. Preparation. Yeah, I think I
Speaker 1: think I've reside in the middle on this one because
Speaker 1: I think actually, probably most likely one thousand percent could
Speaker 1: have been more prepared and ask more questions of like, hey,
Speaker 1: was it um like a fun like a fun thing
Speaker 1: being like even though you were just a small part
Speaker 1: of glass onion, was it fun like being with that cast?
Speaker 1: Or more intentional questions and made it seem like she
Speaker 1: knew his role and like what he did. But also
Speaker 1: I feel like he could have just been polite and
Speaker 1: moved on and not made it like totally he was
Speaker 1: visibly annoyed and like it's like, look, I as somebody
Speaker 1: that's done that been on that side, and especially remember
Speaker 1: Billboard Music awards. You're interviewing people. You don't even have
Speaker 1: a second to think a sup of water. The next
Speaker 1: person's like right there. Yeah, so everything's coming fast, and
Speaker 1: like you can't physically know every single thing about every
Speaker 1: single person that's coming on, and like, but I feel
Speaker 1: like there's a happy medium, you know what I mean
Speaker 1: about being prepared and you know, having help and people
Speaker 1: helping you and you know, I don't know, I just
Speaker 1: feel like there's a happy medium there where you I'm
Speaker 1: not going to sit here and say I've been one
Speaker 1: hundred percent prepared for every single interview that I'd done.
Speaker 1: That would be my nightmare job doing what she did. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and we also see it from that side. I'm sorry
Speaker 1: to interrupt with you, and see what Ryan used to
Speaker 1: go through on the red carpet. Right, Your people, your
Speaker 1: producer prepare for you an ungodly amount of material, right,
Speaker 1: and it's very difficult to retain all of that. But
Speaker 1: I think ryan strategy was always have a couple of
Speaker 1: things about everybody, Yeah, like one or two things. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think they have to do that. It struck me
Speaker 1: that she did not put the effort in. Yeah, and like, again,
Speaker 1: you do have those generic filler questions that you can
Speaker 1: throw out there, yeah, you know, in a pinch if
Speaker 1: somebody's not giving you anything, like who are you excited
Speaker 1: to see? Or like what do you love about the Oscars?
Speaker 1: Or like what was your favorite movie this year? Who
Speaker 1: are you rooting for? You know what I mean to me?
Speaker 1: And whatever? To me? Those those questions from actually weren't offensive,
Speaker 1: but they're just n And I do think like celebrities,
Speaker 1: like especially at a level of like Hugh Grant, there's
Speaker 1: an ego there because I've been on a carpet where
Speaker 1: someone's interviewed me and I'm like, they have no idea
Speaker 1: like who They're like, who is this person? They just
Speaker 1: asked the most generic questions. But I'm like whatever. But
Speaker 1: in an interview last week and they thought that I
Speaker 1: hosted a Bachelor Power Hour podcast that I was on
Speaker 1: the Ellen Degenerous Show, and I was just like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you just go with there, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Yeah that's me me and Ellen way back. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: fig of themes, but that's what I'm saying, Like you,
Speaker 1: I think there's an ego thing to it too for him,
Speaker 1: where he's like why am I being asked these like
Speaker 1: basic questions. But I also think it's a conversation of
Speaker 1: the like respect of a journalist who does this for
Speaker 1: a living, and like being able to see the difference
Speaker 1: of hiring a journalist who does this for a living
Speaker 1: and someone who doesn't do this for a living, who
Speaker 1: just has like a powerful social media presence. Yeah, it's true.
Speaker 1: So like the thing is too, like you really can
Speaker 1: I remember the first award show that I ever did.
Speaker 1: I buried myself in prep. I watched every single thing.
Speaker 1: I watched tons of interviews with everybody, and it's like
Speaker 1: it's very twenty four to seven, Like it is very intense. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying, though, Like you, when you got
Speaker 1: that opportunity, you engrossed yourself in like every area. But
Speaker 1: I do think there's a happy medium, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. I don't think you need That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think it was like, oh, she
Speaker 1: did a terrible job. I think it was just like
Speaker 1: the same thing like when we interview guests, sometimes we're
Speaker 1: just like not prepared, and that you can tell in
Speaker 1: the interview. That's another thing is sometimes you prepare for
Speaker 1: all those people and then somebody who's not even on
Speaker 1: the list shows up the forehand. Hey you got Hugh Grant. Here,
Speaker 1: it comes Hugh Grant and you're like, oh, okay. But
Speaker 1: I know some people who say no, like if you're
Speaker 1: not if they're not prepped for that person, they're not
Speaker 1: going to interview that. I think that's smart. I do too.
Speaker 1: Tell me about Notting Hill right, oh man, because there's
Speaker 1: nothing worse than like, especially in a live interview, saying
Speaker 1: the wrong like stat or there was some other reporter
Speaker 1: that um said to Kate Hudson that she had won
Speaker 1: an oscar before and she had to correct her. You know,
Speaker 1: it's like there's nothing more uncomfortable dagger like no right,
Speaker 1: I will say to Pedro Pascal's like one of the biggest,
Speaker 1: like most talked about celebrities. For that to be the
Speaker 1: one where she had a moment is unfortunate. Unfortunate. I
Speaker 1: have to say, Carl Dolavine is having a redemption moment. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she looked good last night, amazing, Like she was one
Speaker 1: of my favorite best dress for like the Oscars and
Speaker 1: the afterparty. Yeah, she really rocked it. And you know,
Speaker 1: white was a very beautiful theme. I felt like there's
Speaker 1: a lot of people in white. Last night, Sophia Carson
Speaker 1: was one of those girls. She looked stunning and her
Speaker 1: performance was amazing. I got chills. Yeah, she was choir.
Speaker 1: It's a choir, the singers in the back and then
Speaker 1: the people the instruments at orchestra. Right, So she's an
Speaker 1: orchestra and a choir. Yeah, that's cool. It was really
Speaker 1: really special. Well, um, everything everywhere all at once was
Speaker 1: clearly the big one. I watched it. Yeah, we watched it.
Speaker 1: Oh you did, Yeah? Did you like it? Yeah? It's
Speaker 1: very emotional, like it's a very like I mean, there's
Speaker 1: a lot going on, like you gotta stay with it. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I actually kind of wish I had seen it in
Speaker 1: theaters because it felt like one of those that you
Speaker 1: needed to just be like really and like watching every moment.
Speaker 1: But it's very emotional, and I was just like, so
Speaker 1: every the speeches were so emotional, like it was just beautiful.
Speaker 1: I like that they weren't playing people off a couple
Speaker 1: A couple of people were a little snoozy and long,
Speaker 1: but for the most part, they were very emotional speeches
Speaker 1: and very sweet that they just let them go. Well,
Speaker 1: I want to talk about Jamie Lee Curtis because so
Speaker 1: she wins for Best Supporting Actress, right, But she's been
Speaker 1: doing a lot of press leading up to the Oscars,
Speaker 1: and she was saying something that I think, maybe Becca,
Speaker 1: you can help with because you have Haley the concert concerts,
Speaker 1: the matinee concert Because what a brilliant idea, So she said,
Speaker 1: So she said, why doesn't cold Play do a one
Speaker 1: pm like a matinee showing of their concert, because she,
Speaker 1: like myself, I'm sure, has like a nine o'clock bedtime
Speaker 1: and doesn't want to go to a show that starts
Speaker 1: at nine when there's an opening act like I would love.
Speaker 1: I also love daydrinking. I'm like, how fun would it
Speaker 1: be to go to a Charlie Pooth show at one
Speaker 1: pm on a Saturday day? Drink, enjoy the show, rage,
Speaker 1: go home, have a meal, and get in bed at
Speaker 1: my normal time. That's a great idea. However, most people
Speaker 1: work no on the weekends or a doubleheader. Hey, at
Speaker 1: the a Kia Forum, Harry could have done a show
Speaker 1: at one and then a show at eight. Yeah, what
Speaker 1: a you guys? People have to work on a Saturday weekend.
Speaker 1: Matinees would be fine. A week in matinee's great. But
Speaker 1: if you play a show on Saturday and you or
Speaker 1: Friday and you're having to get on your bus and
Speaker 1: head to the next thing, that's a big turnaround for
Speaker 1: an artist. I'm not saying they have to do all
Speaker 1: their shows. What I'm saying, if you were in somewhere
Speaker 1: and it is a weekend, like a Saturday or Sunday,
Speaker 1: and you could do a matinee, I think it would
Speaker 1: take off. I think a Vegas residency matinee really makes
Speaker 1: sense because they just have the stage set up. But
Speaker 1: I think like a traveling touring artist, I think that's
Speaker 1: a lot unless you have like Taylor Swift, who has,
Speaker 1: like you know, a lot of equipment that you have
Speaker 1: to like rush to the next venue. Brother could do
Speaker 1: five shows in a day and sell all of them out.
Speaker 1: I mean this is a way for the artists to
Speaker 1: do more shows and make more money. Yeah, artists, we're
Speaker 1: really speaking to you. We want to make you more money,
Speaker 1: That's what we're talking. My thing is, even if it's
Speaker 1: not one pm, what about like a seven pm start?
Speaker 1: Why are they all starting so late? Yeah? Like five? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean most people get off at five, so if
Speaker 1: they could get to the venue by seven. Talking weekends here,
Speaker 1: I'm talking realistic artists don't just perform on a weekend.
Speaker 1: I'm talking. I like the idea of starting earlier, but
Speaker 1: like giving people seven feels realistic. Have the opener started six?
Speaker 1: Okay at six? Okay, I'm not doing opener at seven though.
Speaker 1: Opener headliner going on at nine is like standard, and
Speaker 1: I don't get it. I don't either. I just think
Speaker 1: day drinking is so fun. You're not drinking anymore. Not,
Speaker 1: It's not like a if an infinity. It's just like
Speaker 1: we're not drinking. We're not drinking, but we are having
Speaker 1: a drink. Uh you know what I mean. We're not drinking,
Speaker 1: we're having a drinking. It's fun drink a day drink.
Speaker 1: There's a single drinker during the day. Yeah, I think
Speaker 1: the show start. Do you know what I'm saying. I'm
Speaker 1: not saying I'm not drinking. Yeah, not drinking, but I'll
Speaker 1: have a drink here and there. You know, we're having
Speaker 1: caffeine today, we should Yeah. Yeah, I'm having a little
Speaker 1: green teeth so it's a little yeah, but I'm just
Speaker 1: sipping it slightly this morning. Shoes on shrooms, yes, holding
Speaker 1: holding up No, so on tough days. So these mushroom drinks,
Speaker 1: these are all like you buy them at the grocery shore.
Speaker 1: These isn't and I'm not like getting the psychedelics correct,
Speaker 1: but they do have They're supposed to have the same
Speaker 1: sort of adaptogenic energy boosting that coffee does, just in
Speaker 1: a different way. So that's why I switched to mushrooms
Speaker 1: instead of just going cold turkey. Um, and you know
Speaker 1: we're here drinking caffeine just a little. Just the time
Speaker 1: change really messed me up. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I hope
Speaker 1: they got that. I I shift on camera. Anyway. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I think we should go come back and do some
Speaker 1: emailse did we recap enough of the oscars anything? Not? No,
Speaker 1: A lot of stuff happened, Rihanna. You Vanity Fair afterparty,
Speaker 1: Lady Gaga's performance. Have you been to a Vanity Fair
Speaker 1: afterparty one of them? I don't know, but they seem
Speaker 1: to be the spot, the spot. Yeah, I gotta get
Speaker 1: somebody that's been in there. Why I just find it.
Speaker 1: So it's just like this giant thing. So I don't
Speaker 1: know if you know, but they basically build this structure.
Speaker 1: I know, I've been texting her all morning and she's like,
Speaker 1: crickets on me. They did get in and out because
Speaker 1: I saw there was like, sir, they were serving in
Speaker 1: an Outburgers. The Vanity Fair afterpartrom they build this structure
Speaker 1: on Crescent Boulevards, so it's like the street just shuts
Speaker 1: off and they build this looks like a tent almost. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know, but the whole city just turned into
Speaker 1: an Oscar thing. Like we tried to go get a
Speaker 1: drink Saturday before our birthday dinner and they were like,
Speaker 1: so sorry, we're having a private event here for the
Speaker 1: Oscars and we were like, this is a thousand oaks.
Speaker 1: We'd never have any issues out. Yeah, a lot of
Speaker 1: issues and now should bring the Oscar parties two thousands.
Speaker 1: And I'm telling you, but it's like, if you think
Speaker 1: about it's like that party is the one, the one
Speaker 1: like the Met Gala. Think about everybody that was there.
Speaker 1: It is like that. But I think it's better than
Speaker 1: the Met Gala. There's more people at the Vanity Fair
Speaker 1: party than at the Met Gala, and my like more
Speaker 1: people that you care about. Yeah, like it's like everybody,
Speaker 1: it's actors. It's actors. Christina Aguilera was there. That's random random, Yeah,
Speaker 1: like unexpected. Gid and the Jenners were there. Adam Adam
Speaker 1: Divine No, Adam, I mean and Abahati were there first time.
Speaker 1: Here you're naming people that we see all the time.
Speaker 1: Who who was there that you were like, I cannot
Speaker 1: believe they were in a room together. Everybody that was there,
Speaker 1: Jenner's and Hadid they're always everything Jennerous Hadid's, Hayley Bieber
Speaker 1: was there, Halle Berry I believe, was there. Carra Delavine
Speaker 1: was there. Noah's and Teneo and Lana Condor were there.
Speaker 1: Are they a thing? No, no, no, there's from that show,
Speaker 1: hold on from the show. But so were a couple?
Speaker 1: They are not. They are not a couple. Yeah, these
Speaker 1: are all like great people. I'm just saying you're acting
Speaker 1: like this was like never been seen before. Kate Hudson
Speaker 1: was there. Was at a party with Kate Hudson. Jonas
Speaker 1: and Sophie Turner were there. Time I saw Donna was there.
Speaker 1: I incline Billie Eilish and her boyfriend. But people are
Speaker 1: not on board for TikTok does not like real boyfriend
Speaker 1: Florence Pew Channing Tatum, Michelle el Yo. Did I mention
Speaker 1: Kara del Avine, Austin Butler and Kaya gerber sew mend Center.
Speaker 1: I wanted to talk about the Shall I go on
Speaker 1: Austin Butler because Vanessa Hudgins did oscar uh live red Carpet.
Speaker 1: I wish he would have gone and talked to her. Well,
Speaker 1: of course they're gonna not do that. That would be
Speaker 1: so dirty if the producers did that to her, would
Speaker 1: it be that is great content? It would be It
Speaker 1: would be mess up of the producers if they did
Speaker 1: that to her. I think so. But this is Hollywood
Speaker 1: and they like to do that stuff. We have to
Speaker 1: break so you can keep researching. Celebrities were Spain there,
Speaker 1: all right, Yeah, you keep researching and we'll be right back.
Speaker 1: Olivia Wilde was there, Jennifer Coolidge was there, Miranda Kerr
Speaker 1: and her husband, Chrissy Teagan and John Legend were there.
Speaker 1: Naomi Watts was there. Sofia Vergaro, your overall point here
Speaker 1: is you wish you had been there? Um, well, no,
Speaker 1: I was working. I was working last night and working gal,
Speaker 1: But I just like the star power in the room.
Speaker 1: I just want to know what the vibe is, what
Speaker 1: people are doing, what groups people are in, you know,
Speaker 1: like he was talking to who was it Sharon Stone
Speaker 1: that Austin Butler was talking to. I have no idea,
Speaker 1: I just no. And also there was like I was
Speaker 1: watching these videos and I didn't realize the length of
Speaker 1: the line of people. When you're like taking your photos
Speaker 1: before you go into the Vanity Fair party, the line
Speaker 1: is so long. That's my last space. I skip it
Speaker 1: every time. Like Ali be like like if I go
Speaker 1: to a party that has like a carpet like that
Speaker 1: and there's like actual celebrities there, I'm like, I'm not
Speaker 1: doing it, Like I'm not going after Kate Huts. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I think that's okay. I'll get an event. I'm fit
Speaker 1: photo at the event on my iPhone. Yeah, um okay.
Speaker 1: So you have direct access to knowing exactly what it
Speaker 1: was like through your future made of honor following. I know.
Speaker 1: You know what, By the way, we should we should
Speaker 1: put a pin in that and come back to it,
Speaker 1: because you're just so willy nilly about even wanting there,
Speaker 1: and it's no, it's making me upset. Oh no, why
Speaker 1: because you don't even want to be my maid of honor.
Speaker 1: It's an honor to be my maid of honor. You
Speaker 1: don't even want it, But what about like being a
Speaker 1: bridesmaid and getting to be a part and like handing
Speaker 1: it off to someone who's gonna be more responsible and
Speaker 1: organized and like make you less stressed? You know what
Speaker 1: that sounds like to me? But that sounds like we're
Speaker 1: verse psychology gaslighting. You're a gaslighting me, and I don't
Speaker 1: like it. Reverse psychology gas lighting. Yeah, yeah, that fills
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to deep dive into what that looks
Speaker 1: like RL. Yeah, oh wow, Okay, So just like you
Speaker 1: know you want me to fight for it. I mean no,
Speaker 1: I don't want you to do anything that you don't
Speaker 1: want to do a great example of wanting what you
Speaker 1: don't have, one thing what you can't have, or wanting
Speaker 1: what isn't interested right, makes you want it more? Like
Speaker 1: you want me to try more. But then I put
Speaker 1: in the effort and you're like, uh, I had to
Speaker 1: go with Pauline it because she's more organized. And then
Speaker 1: I'm just like, right, like I'm trying to figure out
Speaker 1: if you're just are you gasolighting me? Yeah? Are we gasslighting?
Speaker 1: Be more. I'll be more, and I'll fight for it,
Speaker 1: all right. I don't know what I got to do
Speaker 1: to prove myself. I've put on some pretty good parties
Speaker 1: last minute, so I feel I think there's a reality
Speaker 1: show here. Who wants to be Tanya Is? And I
Speaker 1: think that you would be a great made of Honor?
Speaker 1: I would be, I know, like I haven't would rise
Speaker 1: the opportunity, yet I think I would rise to the occasion.
Speaker 1: I think I would too. I know I would. One
Speaker 1: think about me. It might be a disaster up until
Speaker 1: the final moment, but the product is so good. We
Speaker 1: get three or four or whatever content, we bring them
Speaker 1: on the podcast, and we each asked them questions, and
Speaker 1: then at the end we choose Tanya's Made of Honor?
Speaker 1: Oh wow, Like like she does a multiple choice like
Speaker 1: what what would be my preference of Kate? Yes, stuff like,
Speaker 1: and she doesn't have final say it's it's us. Well,
Speaker 1: I think that'd be fun. But which of these items
Speaker 1: would I wanted my bachelor party? Oh? Keeness probably does,
Speaker 1: even though I wouldn't choose that personally. I think she'd
Speaker 1: one thought, would you want penis drass? I think a
Speaker 1: little penis never hurt nobody. A little penis never hurt nobody. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like tasteful, tasteful Ween, tasteful and tasteful Ween. We have
Speaker 1: a good email that wills it brings in the wien.
Speaker 1: All right, bring it? I mean Mark, thank you him
Speaker 1: back in Antonia. I'm a recent scrubber who needs some advice.
Speaker 1: My fiance is a best friend who is a girl.
Speaker 1: They talk and text every day. They talk about everything.
Speaker 1: For Christmas, he gifted her a date night package for
Speaker 1: her and her boyfriend, which consisted of movie tickets and lube. No.
Speaker 1: When he told me about the lube part, it made
Speaker 1: me feel weirded out at first. I know they talk
Speaker 1: about everything, but this to me was something I wasn't
Speaker 1: used to. Today they were talking and he casually called
Speaker 1: her sweetie. Now he does call other people love of
Speaker 1: but when that happened, it made me think how him
Speaker 1: and her they don't really have boundaries And I'm not
Speaker 1: sure exactly what to feel or what to do. One
Speaker 1: thing about me that I have realized about myself in
Speaker 1: my current relationship, I am a little bit jealous. This
Speaker 1: would be so that this would have never gone to
Speaker 1: this point. I'm gonna say the exact same thing. It
Speaker 1: would not get to the point if if Robbie bought
Speaker 1: any woman loube, I don't even she could be married,
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. It could be a family member like Deda
Speaker 1: have sisters, but it would really bother me. That is
Speaker 1: such a personal Doing nice things for somebody is totally
Speaker 1: fine if he wants to get her like a couple's massage,
Speaker 1: like if it's a good friend of his, a couple's massage.
Speaker 1: Buying lube for some a girl. I just think it's
Speaker 1: so inappropriate. I think that this is always This is
Speaker 1: like an age old conversation, can you have a best
Speaker 1: friend of the opposite sex when you're in a relationship
Speaker 1: And a lot of people this is like a very
Speaker 1: touchy subject for a lot of people because a lot
Speaker 1: of people do have best friends of the opposite sex.
Speaker 1: I just think and even like, this is even more
Speaker 1: interesting for me because I'm dating a woman who has
Speaker 1: both male and really close female friends. So it's like
Speaker 1: where's the boundary, you know, right, because like think of
Speaker 1: how close we are and what we talk about. True,
Speaker 1: you know, yeah, but it's the same thing. It's like
Speaker 1: I love you so much, but like I don't have
Speaker 1: the feelings that I have for Hailey. True, you know,
Speaker 1: so I can't expect her every relationship she has to
Speaker 1: be the same. But I think that when you are
Speaker 1: in a relationship, you have to be able to set
Speaker 1: those boundaries of what you're comfortable with. And I just
Speaker 1: feel like maybe no boundaries have been set. Her boundaries
Speaker 1: are the fruit of life, let me tell you. They
Speaker 1: are such an incredible powerful tool that I just don't
Speaker 1: think And I'd be interested to know how old does
Speaker 1: she say? How old she did? Oh? Well, I did
Speaker 1: not start setting boundaries in my life until my thirties,
Speaker 1: and I am upset that I didn't start earlier in
Speaker 1: my life. Yeah, boundaries are very important, so important. But like,
Speaker 1: do we think he's planning date nights and buying his
Speaker 1: girlfriend and like is he doing the same types of
Speaker 1: things for his own relationship? I just feel like it's
Speaker 1: a very the whole thing intimate thoughtful. Guy's probably buying
Speaker 1: her lube, handcuffs whatever, like intimate, though that is an
Speaker 1: intimate gift for a friend. The lub would not fly
Speaker 1: with me. So what So what does she need to
Speaker 1: do here? She needs to talk to her fiance and say, look,
Speaker 1: best friend, we got to draw the line here. She's
Speaker 1: gonna say. I you know what I love about you.
Speaker 1: I love that you are a loyal man, and you
Speaker 1: and Eudora, Eudora, I've been such good friends for so
Speaker 1: many years, and I think that's wonderful. I love your loyalty.
Speaker 1: It's one of the most amazing qualities. I love about you.
Speaker 1: Something about this relationship that's really important to me is
Speaker 1: the respect that we have for each other. That has
Speaker 1: been a core foundation of our relationship from the very beginning.
Speaker 1: And I feel as though when you give another woman
Speaker 1: lube it's a little bit disrespectful to me, and it
Speaker 1: makes me feel a certain type of way. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: it makes me feel that you don't know, no, don't
Speaker 1: have to say sorry. It makes me feel that way.
Speaker 1: It makes me feel uncomfortable. And if you would like
Speaker 1: to respect me and respect those boundaries, that would be
Speaker 1: really much appreciate. Why I was just giving her It
Speaker 1: was like a date night for her and this guy.
Speaker 1: It's not like I'm flirting or something like. I was
Speaker 1: just getting them movie in Lubeck so they can have
Speaker 1: a great night together. What's a big deal. I'm not
Speaker 1: expecting you to understand how it makes me feel. I
Speaker 1: know we're very different people, but this is the way
Speaker 1: that it makes me feel, and it makes me feel uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: and it makes me feel disrespected. So I'm asking you,
Speaker 1: as your fiance, if you would please respect me and
Speaker 1: set some boundaries there. Thank you, I love you so much.
Speaker 1: I think that's great. I think you acknowledging that you
Speaker 1: love his friendship that he has with her, and it's
Speaker 1: never bothered you. But I think lube is a very
Speaker 1: intimate gift and it makes you uncomfortable, and just set
Speaker 1: that up if you like, Take ton your script and
Speaker 1: write it down. It was solid. Thanks so much, guys.
Speaker 1: Good luck to you Anonymous. Here's another one that continues
Speaker 1: the weeen. She's twenty, boyfriends thirty. They've been together just
Speaker 1: under two years, and everything's pretty great. We live together,
Speaker 1: we get along. Well, this girl has a boyfriend. What
Speaker 1: is the boyfriend thinking of this other guy buying her
Speaker 1: a date night in lube? Also, if a guy bought
Speaker 1: your wives, that's a good point, right, that's true. And
Speaker 1: then she pulls it out and she's like, hey, Jimmy
Speaker 1: got us this. Yeah, that's weird. That's a good point,
Speaker 1: and you could you could add that perhaps to her, Yeah, spiel, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I would bet the friend is in even like, even
Speaker 1: if it was like a joke, the friend is probably
Speaker 1: extremely weirded out by this. I think this man is
Speaker 1: stepping over so many boundaries in every aspect of his life.
Speaker 1: Would be the girls like a new Loube, don't have
Speaker 1: the one from lots Christmas? All right? Anyway, this is
Speaker 1: a longer one, so I just kind of sum it
Speaker 1: up here. She's twenty nine, right, this is this new one. Yeah,
Speaker 1: our emails together. He has severe everything's great, relationships going great.
Speaker 1: But my boyfriend has a severe depression and anxiety. He
Speaker 1: won't go to therapy like I'd like him too, but
Speaker 1: he has. He's on some medication from a psychiatrist. The
Speaker 1: meds make it hard for him sexually. He can get
Speaker 1: a roused, but he doesn't often finish. I feel like
Speaker 1: I should add that it's a super common side effect
Speaker 1: of this particular medication. But because he doesn't finish, I
Speaker 1: find myself not wanting to have sex. He goes out
Speaker 1: of his way to make it enjoyable for me. So
Speaker 1: I think it's a mental thing on my part, the
Speaker 1: idea of feeling like I'm not good enough for him
Speaker 1: or he's not attracted to me, even though I know
Speaker 1: what the situation is. I know it's the medication. He
Speaker 1: told me that's not the case. I'm not sure, but
Speaker 1: it's been at least three months since we've had sex.
Speaker 1: I hate the idea of bringing up because they don't
Speaker 1: want to make this about me and my feelings. It
Speaker 1: make him feel bad. When we first started having sex,
Speaker 1: we talked about it a bit and he said that
Speaker 1: I was making him feel insecure because it was obvious
Speaker 1: that I was upset that he didn't finish and he
Speaker 1: can't help it because of the medication. I feel bad
Speaker 1: I made him feel that way, but yes, physically I
Speaker 1: want to. Emotionally, I feel crappy after we do it
Speaker 1: and I'm satisfied and he isn't satisfied. More details. Sorry,
Speaker 1: If it's TMI Becca, I know Tanya won't feel that way.
Speaker 1: He can typically get himself to finish with his hand,
Speaker 1: but it's kind of a process, and then he wants
Speaker 1: to me to try harder, but then you know, it
Speaker 1: takes forty minutes, and then I try with my mouth
Speaker 1: for twenty more minutes and then my jaw hurts. Anyway,
Speaker 1: any advice on how to help, how to talk to
Speaker 1: him about sex or things I can tell myself to
Speaker 1: not feel so crappy when he doesn't get his happy ending.
Speaker 1: Thank you for the disclaimer that makes me emotional. I
Speaker 1: think it's I think, obviously you love him so much,
Speaker 1: and this is you're really making an effort to not
Speaker 1: be selfish or make it all about you. But I
Speaker 1: think that it's just sitting down and having a conversation
Speaker 1: and also maybe going to like a sex therapist or
Speaker 1: seeing I was going to suggest finding somebody that specializes
Speaker 1: in this, because I think that I understand how you're feeling.
Speaker 1: Because I think obviously, even you knowing that the medication
Speaker 1: this is a side effect, you're gonna feel like a failure.
Speaker 1: You're gonna feel like all those things that you were saying,
Speaker 1: you're not psychologically you can't switch that, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So I understand why you're feeling that way,
Speaker 1: and I understand why he's feeling the way that he's feeling.
Speaker 1: So it's a matter of just like really listening to
Speaker 1: each other, knowing where each other stands, and then getting
Speaker 1: somebody that can professionally help you and that. I'm sure
Speaker 1: there are people who have dealt with this. I'm sure
Speaker 1: there's tons of people who are dealing with this, So
Speaker 1: there's got to be somebody that knows how to navigate
Speaker 1: it in a better way. I think, look at this,
Speaker 1: there are positives to this that I think we're missing.
Speaker 1: One is that he's going out of his way to
Speaker 1: make it enjoyable for her because he knows he's got
Speaker 1: this situation with the medication. This is not a physical situation.
Speaker 1: It's definitely not a lack of attraction desire. This is
Speaker 1: a reaction to his medication. I just think that how
Speaker 1: many times in sexual history has the male finished and
Speaker 1: gotten what he wanted and the woman is not with
Speaker 1: no apology. If they don't and then don't care, they
Speaker 1: move on. I mean some do. Look I don't mean
Speaker 1: to generalize, but generally speaking in there like thanks, that
Speaker 1: was great, hand me the video game controller. There's another
Speaker 1: reason women are so much better than men, because women
Speaker 1: really want this to be a mutual thing, where men
Speaker 1: are perfectly happy with it sometimes and often not being
Speaker 1: a mutual thing. Right, So there are wonderful things here
Speaker 1: one is that he's a good guy who really wants
Speaker 1: you to enjoy yourself, yeah, and feels bad about the
Speaker 1: situation but wants to make the best of it. And
Speaker 1: two that you're so sensitive to this that you almost
Speaker 1: don't want to if he can't enjoy it. Yes, talking
Speaker 1: to somebody who's a great idea, But also focus on
Speaker 1: the positives here and enjoy yourself because honestly, I don't
Speaker 1: want to get graphic here. I just feel like he
Speaker 1: loves you. If he really wants you to have a
Speaker 1: great time and doesn't care about his own enjoyment, that
Speaker 1: is love. So don't feel bad about it. Yeah, just
Speaker 1: enjoy it as much as you can. Hopefully his situation
Speaker 1: gets resolved at some point. Yeah, that's the same. Maybe
Speaker 1: this is obviously I don't think it's a permanent thing.
Speaker 1: Or it might be a permanent thing. I don't know.
Speaker 1: But I also think that like talking to someone who
Speaker 1: maybe can find new ways that bring pleasure, because it
Speaker 1: might you know how we were talking about, there's different
Speaker 1: sex what was it sex styles? Or uh? That like magic?
Speaker 1: I think people respond differently to things. But I think
Speaker 1: you're trying to like do what's best for the other person,
Speaker 1: which I agree with Mark. I think it's a beautiful
Speaker 1: thing that you're both like wanting each other to feel
Speaker 1: happy and please. But I also think the more pressure
Speaker 1: and stress that you both feel, the more it's not
Speaker 1: going to happen. So I think you have to find
Speaker 1: a way to like not put the pressure on it.
Speaker 1: And if you're able to enjoy yourself and have much
Speaker 1: happy ending, then let that be. And if he can't
Speaker 1: and he's you know, it's don't put so much pressure
Speaker 1: on yourself to change that. It's just you know, you know,
Speaker 1: happy ending is like a thing, right, Yeah, okay, I'm
Speaker 1: I've only been with a girl from once. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: like that just because you like look down on things.
Speaker 1: Because she saw I thought she I thought I saw that,
Speaker 1: and then I was questioning if she had said that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's massage places that do. I haven't been to one,
Speaker 1: but that's a thing I have not been to one either,
Speaker 1: No full disclosure. Yeah all we haven't been to one. Yeah,
Speaker 1: no judgments here, but if you're willing, But if you're willing,
Speaker 1: um before we go. So, Tanya is cleaning out her apartment,
Speaker 1: as we know, and she at one point had a
Speaker 1: beautiful photo of Phoebe in her bathroom and she brought
Speaker 1: it to get back to me, which I felt was
Speaker 1: a little hurt full towards Phoebe. Well, first of all,
Speaker 1: I stole that from your house. That is your picture frame.
Speaker 1: But then we agreed that it in my bathroom. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I figured I was doing a nice thing by giving
Speaker 1: it back to its original owner. But if you would
Speaker 1: like me to, I think that should go to your
Speaker 1: new home. Okay, And then what if you put like
Speaker 1: a tiny little photo of Sunny And then it was
Speaker 1: like their best friend pick Sonny is going to be
Speaker 1: upset that she doesn't have a framed photo in the house.
Speaker 1: But maybe I'll just get one of her. Yeah, maybe
Speaker 1: you split half and half half a Phoebe's face half
Speaker 1: of Sunny's face could be artistic. All right, back home
Speaker 1: with me where? Yeah? We glad we got that covered on?
Speaker 1: Are Yeah? All right? Well we do. We have a
Speaker 1: guess this Thursday, working on We're working on it. We
Speaker 1: might be back Thursday, we might not, so stay tuned. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we love you all. Laugh a great week, ye