1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:10,280 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya red An iHeartRadio podcast. Hello, everybody, 2 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:16,040 Speaker 1: we are scrubbing in. It's not just any Monday, what 3 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:19,919 Speaker 1: is it. It is the Monday after the Oscars and 4 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 1: Daylight Saving Studylight Savings time. It is Miley Cyrus's new 5 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:28,760 Speaker 1: album of Long Weekend, and I think we're gonna get 6 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:32,440 Speaker 1: into all that stuff. But most importantly, how are you 7 00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:35,519 Speaker 1: doing with the time change? Well, I'm doing fine. I 8 00:00:35,520 --> 00:00:37,559 Speaker 1: don't wake up at like five am like you do, 9 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:42,959 Speaker 1: so I'm just fine. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Like I when 10 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 1: I woke up this morning, I was like phills earlier 11 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:46,559 Speaker 1: than it is. But I still feel like I woke 12 00:00:46,640 --> 00:00:50,000 Speaker 1: up at like a decent hour and I slept really hard, 13 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:53,080 Speaker 1: so you know, I don't know if I've talked about 14 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:55,040 Speaker 1: this on the podcast, but I have like a hard 15 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 1: time staying asleep A lot of times. It's been because 16 00:00:58,080 --> 00:01:00,280 Speaker 1: Phoebe like is up all night coughing, and then I 17 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:02,080 Speaker 1: got that under control, but I feel like I'm still 18 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 1: like kind of awake at all times. To the last side, 19 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 1: I was like out, So it feels really good. It's 20 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: just like nice to go through the night and get 21 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: into like Rem suck right and just stay there. Yeah. Yeah, 22 00:01:12,440 --> 00:01:14,520 Speaker 1: I haven't been there in a minute. I haven't been 23 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:16,480 Speaker 1: in Rem. Haven't been in Rem. I've been like in 24 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:18,880 Speaker 1: and out of Rem. Robbie's been waking me up more 25 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:21,000 Speaker 1: when he gets up to go to the bathroom, which 26 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:22,759 Speaker 1: never used to happen for me. I should just sleep 27 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:26,000 Speaker 1: through everything. Yeah, so something to think about. Did that 28 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: change when he got sunny? No, this changed like a 29 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 1: month ago. Why. I don't know. I might start taking edibles. 30 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 1: I'm so on board because yeah, and I'm not sleeping. 31 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:42,000 Speaker 1: But what's interesting is so the last like three weeks 32 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:44,760 Speaker 1: we've gotten off coffee and alcohol, were just like we're like, 33 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:47,920 Speaker 1: we're just stopping and just seeing how it goes. Right. 34 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 1: So Saturday night we went to one of his best 35 00:01:50,480 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 1: friend's birthday dinners, and so I was like, Okay, we're 36 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 1: gonna go. We're gonna drink tonight because it's gonna make 37 00:01:55,240 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 1: a fun night. Right. I had three martinis, and martinis 38 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 1: are stiff, basically just liquor. Yeah, So we had like 39 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:06,360 Speaker 1: a really good time. We were out till maybe midnight, 40 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:09,480 Speaker 1: which really in the time change is one am. Right. 41 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 1: So the next morning was the Oscars, I'm sure. So 42 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 1: the next morning was the Oscars, and I had this 43 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 1: idea where I was like, I wanted to see Sophia 44 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: at some point during the day, and I was like, 45 00:02:23,160 --> 00:02:25,359 Speaker 1: what would be less annoying to her? I wanted to 46 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 1: surprise her. Would be just to do it at her 47 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:30,280 Speaker 1: house before she even like leaves to go get ready 48 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: and stuff. Right, So I was coordinating with Paulina, her sister, 49 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:35,360 Speaker 1: what the best time. I don't know some people listening 50 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:40,120 Speaker 1: um coordinating in terms of like timing when to get there. 51 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 1: So it first started out like be here around like 52 00:02:42,720 --> 00:02:45,120 Speaker 1: eight thirty, which I thought was totally normal. I wake 53 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 1: up around seven o'clock on the weekends anyway, so I 54 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 1: was like, no problem, right, it kept getting pushed like 55 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:53,800 Speaker 1: earlier and earlier, by like thirty minute increments on that 56 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:56,919 Speaker 1: night while I'm like drinking my Leachi martinis, so I'm 57 00:02:56,960 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 1: like setting my alarm robbing, And I got up at 58 00:03:00,320 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 1: five forty five on Sunday, which no, no, sorry, no 59 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:14,000 Speaker 1: sixty five. So and it just ended up being like 60 00:03:14,000 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 1: a jam packed day so we couldn't just like come 61 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 1: back home and like nap our Sunday was like full 62 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:19,880 Speaker 1: my parents were coming up for brunch. We did the 63 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 1: sound bath with the lat Nerd. I had work, so 64 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:25,560 Speaker 1: it was just like a whole day. Yeah. Um, so 65 00:03:25,639 --> 00:03:29,800 Speaker 1: I was just a total disaster yesterday and I think 66 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 1: it's rolling over into today. Does it do be doing that? Yeah, 67 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 1: it rolls over. I gotta say expression that sounds regional. 68 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: It was like tiktokling go a little bit um but 69 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 1: maybe a little bit of Louisiana. Um. I was gonna say, 70 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:50,240 Speaker 1: you posted a video of y'all out and you were 71 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:52,600 Speaker 1: like wrong something about our first time drinking, and it 72 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: was like I had a moment of us being in Vegas. Yes, 73 00:03:56,840 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 1: I saw the look in his side that took me 74 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: back to Vegas and I was like, oh no, we 75 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:05,200 Speaker 1: both hit like a point where we were just like 76 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 1: this point in our return. Yeah, it was fun. We 77 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 1: had like the best yea. So it was like a 78 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 1: great time. But I also don't you don't realize, like 79 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:16,480 Speaker 1: we were both really puffy the next morning. I'm like, 80 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:19,039 Speaker 1: you don't realize how alcohol affects you until you don't 81 00:04:19,120 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 1: drink it for a little bit. It's poison. Yeah, it 82 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:24,279 Speaker 1: literally is poison. Yeah, but I'm so really glad we 83 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:25,640 Speaker 1: did it because being able to see her at the 84 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:28,479 Speaker 1: morning of the Oscars was like really special getting a 85 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:30,559 Speaker 1: surprise her. She was really happy, so it was fun. 86 00:04:30,640 --> 00:04:33,359 Speaker 1: I mean, that is so epic to be nominated for 87 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:37,640 Speaker 1: an oscar to perform at the Oscars. Like, that's awesome. Yeah. Um, 88 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 1: I feel very proud of her. You feel proud of her. 89 00:04:40,960 --> 00:04:42,320 Speaker 1: We'll get into it when we talk when we do 90 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:46,839 Speaker 1: our Oscars. Yeah. Well, so Friday night, Hailey had told 91 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:49,599 Speaker 1: me earlier I guess when Hungry Heart came out. She 92 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:52,680 Speaker 1: was like, so, Steve Aoki is going to be in 93 00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:55,159 Speaker 1: LA and he wants me to perform Hungry Heart. And 94 00:04:55,200 --> 00:04:57,680 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that's so fun. What I'm laughing 95 00:04:57,680 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: because I know what you're gonna say. What what you 96 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:03,800 Speaker 1: were texting me over the weekend. I'm too old for this, though, 97 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: Oh I am. Yeah. And um. So as the concerts 98 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 1: getting closer, she's like, so, I don't think I'm going 99 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 1: on to like eleven thirty And I'm like, oh, what, Like, 100 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:17,600 Speaker 1: are we gonna go out before that? Because the last time, 101 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:19,159 Speaker 1: the only time we've ever done that was for the 102 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 1: Taylor Swift Grammy's party. We left at like eleven pm, 103 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: and that was crazy, but it was Taylor Swift like 104 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:27,440 Speaker 1: you do what you do DM. I've never been to 105 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:30,640 Speaker 1: an ed M show, and that late. I was just 106 00:05:30,680 --> 00:05:33,080 Speaker 1: not prepared to start to like what ten. I don't 107 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: think he went until ten. Yeah, And so we got 108 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 1: there and she performed and stuff. It was fun, but like, 109 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:43,240 Speaker 1: I don't know how people stand. They're packed in there. 110 00:05:43,520 --> 00:05:48,440 Speaker 1: It is the craziest thing. It's a lifestyle. Oh okay, 111 00:05:48,480 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 1: I didn't know about the cake thing. Stevie Oki like 112 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:55,360 Speaker 1: throws full cake, sheet cake and people ask for it. 113 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 1: And there's even like zones where it's like, hey, if 114 00:05:57,960 --> 00:05:59,680 Speaker 1: you don't want to get cake on you, like, don't 115 00:05:59,720 --> 00:06:02,599 Speaker 1: stay here. It's like a splash zone for cake. And 116 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:06,400 Speaker 1: he throws like sixteen of them. It's crazy. One cake 117 00:06:06,440 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 1: a show. Oh no, he's increased it. I think it's 118 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:12,280 Speaker 1: basically well, it's so wasteful, but I think it's basically frosting. 119 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 1: I think if it was a full cake it would 120 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: be too dense. Yeah, and he has an impeccable aim. 121 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:24,480 Speaker 1: So we left after Haley performed on Friday night at 122 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 1: the LA Show, and then we wake up Saturday and 123 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:30,080 Speaker 1: Haley was like damming with him, like that was so 124 00:06:30,120 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 1: fun last night and he was like, let's do it 125 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:33,159 Speaker 1: again and she was like you tell me what and 126 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:36,039 Speaker 1: he was like, tonight in San Francisco. So that was 127 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:40,440 Speaker 1: on a whim. Yes. Oh, so she's like, do you 128 00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:43,039 Speaker 1: want to go to San Francisco. I'm gonna perform with 129 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 1: him tonight and say like we fly out tonight. Yeah. 130 00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: It was cool, but I'm like, it's like so tired, 131 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: and she was tired. She's like, that was yesterday was 132 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:55,359 Speaker 1: basically her one day to just like rest, and she 133 00:06:55,440 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: was I was like I think you like, I don't 134 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:01,559 Speaker 1: think you can say no no, So we fly up 135 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:04,360 Speaker 1: and I know the world's blandest to him. We talked 136 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:06,600 Speaker 1: about that before the show started, but that for some reason, 137 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:08,200 Speaker 1: that's exciting to me. Someone'd say to me, you want 138 00:07:08,200 --> 00:07:11,640 Speaker 1: to go to San Francisco right now? Yeah, that's exciting. 139 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:17,200 Speaker 1: It's very We took JSX, which is you know easy, yeah, 140 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 1: the next best thing, um, and so we went up there. 141 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:22,160 Speaker 1: We went and had dinner, had some pasta and then 142 00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:25,400 Speaker 1: we went directly with our bags to the show and 143 00:07:25,520 --> 00:07:27,920 Speaker 1: like we got to the venue and they were like, 144 00:07:28,480 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 1: we gotta go like you gotta so she's like putting 145 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: on her in ears and stuff, and like we're walking 146 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:35,520 Speaker 1: to the stage. It was crazy, but we stayed the 147 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:37,440 Speaker 1: whole show and then we got she got to throw 148 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:40,280 Speaker 1: a cake hit someone right in my face. Nice. It was. 149 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 1: It was crazy, But you know what's really interesting. I 150 00:07:42,880 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 1: didn't have a sip of alcohol a weekend. Well I 151 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:48,240 Speaker 1: did yesterday at Bert's party, but like during this Steve 152 00:07:48,280 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 1: Aoky concert and you had a great time. No, you 153 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:53,600 Speaker 1: don't need alcohol to have a bad times have felt 154 00:07:53,640 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 1: like in those settings where you're a little bit uncomfortable 155 00:07:56,440 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 1: or like you're kind of like this is not my scene, 156 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:00,520 Speaker 1: Like a drink makes you kind of rely. But I 157 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 1: was like, I think it was so crazy, like Hayley performing, 158 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 1: and we got there so fast that there was no 159 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:08,520 Speaker 1: time to like think about alcohol. I enjoy the feeling 160 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:10,840 Speaker 1: of the alcohol, Like I like feeling buzzed. That's what 161 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:13,640 Speaker 1: I'm saying, yeah, about like comfort and stuff. And it's 162 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:15,920 Speaker 1: also like what I realized when we said when we 163 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:18,040 Speaker 1: said we were gonna stop drinking. I was at an 164 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: industry event and there was just it was like open 165 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 1: bar and I just would always just go and get 166 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:25,120 Speaker 1: a glass of wine or have like, maybe I don't 167 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: have two glasses of wine. I don't need it. I 168 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:29,160 Speaker 1: don't need to be more comfortable. I know every you know, 169 00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:31,800 Speaker 1: I know enough people here, but I think the buzz 170 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:34,760 Speaker 1: is the comfort, right. Yeah. But it was just as 171 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:36,680 Speaker 1: easy for me to like because I'd made that decision 172 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 1: that we weren't going to be drinking. So I was like, yeah, 173 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:39,800 Speaker 1: I don't need it, and then I felt better the 174 00:08:39,880 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 1: next day, That's all I'm saying. Yeah, And the next 175 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:44,880 Speaker 1: day we had a morning flight and I just I 176 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:47,200 Speaker 1: was just tired from the time change, but I didn't 177 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:49,359 Speaker 1: feel like bad or anything. And I was like, yeah, 178 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:51,720 Speaker 1: I do think it hits you differently, like because I 179 00:08:51,720 --> 00:08:54,360 Speaker 1: remember when I was in college, I was working at 180 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:57,400 Speaker 1: a morning show going to college, working a morning show 181 00:08:57,480 --> 00:08:59,680 Speaker 1: live every day, like waking up at four am, going 182 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:03,560 Speaker 1: to like date dashes, all this stuff, running on no sleep. 183 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:06,280 Speaker 1: But I was just doing it perpetually for like years. 184 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:09,120 Speaker 1: It was because you had dark hair. Yeah, but that 185 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:12,520 Speaker 1: was twenty one, twenty two. You know me. Now I'm 186 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 1: thirty five, and it hits different, like I need two 187 00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:18,200 Speaker 1: days to recover from one night of drinking. Yeah, it 188 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:20,640 Speaker 1: does hit different. It does. Yeah, I can't imagine what 189 00:09:20,679 --> 00:09:22,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be like a forty five, although I will 190 00:09:22,800 --> 00:09:24,520 Speaker 1: say we got back to the hotel and took an 191 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 1: edible and for I don't know how long, there was 192 00:09:26,440 --> 00:09:28,640 Speaker 1: a moment where we just like sat in silence, like 193 00:09:28,760 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 1: staring at nothing, and I was like, how long have 194 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 1: we been sitting here in silence? Like It's almost like 195 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:36,800 Speaker 1: we had a moment where we were just like coming down. 196 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:40,320 Speaker 1: And we stayed at the One Hotel, which is like, 197 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:44,160 Speaker 1: we stayed there Nashville. It's the most beautiful hotel chain ever. 198 00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:47,360 Speaker 1: And but their snacks are all like healthy organic snacks 199 00:09:47,360 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 1: and they don't have like soda or anything. So when 200 00:09:49,280 --> 00:09:51,439 Speaker 1: I was like ready to eat, I didn't feel horrible. 201 00:09:51,520 --> 00:09:55,720 Speaker 1: I was like some healthy stuff. Yeah, so that's great. 202 00:09:55,920 --> 00:09:57,839 Speaker 1: It's a busy weekend. And then we got back and 203 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:00,640 Speaker 1: we had Brittany's birthday yesterday and we were there and 204 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:03,480 Speaker 1: then we got home at like seven have the oscars 205 00:10:03,480 --> 00:10:05,720 Speaker 1: am both passed out on the couch for like I 206 00:10:05,760 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 1: don't know an hour, and then got up and got 207 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:11,080 Speaker 1: ready for bed and went to sleep. Here we are. 208 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:13,719 Speaker 1: We've missed you. At the sound bath. Actually have I 209 00:10:13,920 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 1: know two things too. I totally forgot them at home, 210 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:20,959 Speaker 1: so I'll bring them to you. But Tay Lautner, who 211 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:24,120 Speaker 1: we had on as a guest, did a sound bath 212 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:29,319 Speaker 1: for her foundation Lemons by Ta and so Rob and 213 00:10:29,360 --> 00:10:32,360 Speaker 1: I went to it yesterday and I've never done a 214 00:10:32,400 --> 00:10:35,080 Speaker 1: sound bath before. I had no idea what took. I mean, 215 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:36,719 Speaker 1: I kind of knew what to expect, like any of 216 00:10:36,800 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 1: this sounds and stuff, but it was very m Yeah. Yeah, 217 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:48,520 Speaker 1: it makes me want to sleep. That's the goal. It's 218 00:10:48,520 --> 00:10:51,720 Speaker 1: like to get you into like this really deep zen place. 219 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:57,559 Speaker 1: But what's so funny is we laid down and I 220 00:10:57,679 --> 00:11:01,000 Speaker 1: immediately have to pee and I'm like, oh no, oh no. 221 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:03,520 Speaker 1: And there's a whole room full of people right and 222 00:11:03,559 --> 00:11:05,760 Speaker 1: it's dark and you can hear like a pin you 223 00:11:05,840 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 1: can hear a pin drops. I was like, I'm not 224 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:09,240 Speaker 1: going to be the girl that Waltz is on out 225 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:11,040 Speaker 1: of here. You hear the toilet flush. I was like, 226 00:11:11,080 --> 00:11:13,760 Speaker 1: I can't. I can't disturb everybody's peace. It was a 227 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:16,839 Speaker 1: seventy five minute sound bad. So I'm sitting there for 228 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 1: the first thirty minutes like in pain, Like I'm going 229 00:11:19,480 --> 00:11:23,680 Speaker 1: through all the things that like my urine not relaxing. Yeah, 230 00:11:23,679 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 1: I'm gonna get a u TI from this. So then 231 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:27,920 Speaker 1: I was like I just I look at Robbie like 232 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:30,280 Speaker 1: opened his eyes and I was like, he goes go. 233 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:32,199 Speaker 1: So I was like, Okay, that's what I needed, you know, 234 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:34,120 Speaker 1: I needed the somebody to tell me to go. So 235 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:39,079 Speaker 1: I went up and I went Obviously these people plan 236 00:11:39,240 --> 00:11:41,480 Speaker 1: for these things, so the toilet flush you can't hear 237 00:11:41,520 --> 00:11:44,680 Speaker 1: it because it's like the bathrooms in the back. So anyways, 238 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 1: the last half of it I really got to enjoy 239 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:50,120 Speaker 1: because I was like bladder empty, total piece and zen. 240 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:53,400 Speaker 1: And then it was like I had a serendipitous moment. 241 00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:57,080 Speaker 1: Life lesson if you will tell me about it. If 242 00:11:57,160 --> 00:11:59,520 Speaker 1: you need to do something and your body's physically telling 243 00:11:59,559 --> 00:12:02,679 Speaker 1: you to do something, just do it. If you're putting 244 00:12:02,720 --> 00:12:05,240 Speaker 1: something off, if you're procrastinating something in life right now, 245 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:08,640 Speaker 1: just get it done. Stop procrastinating, stop putting it off 246 00:12:08,679 --> 00:12:11,720 Speaker 1: till tomorrow. Do it now. You're going to be happier. 247 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:15,160 Speaker 1: That's my life lessons to the sound bath. Pooping your 248 00:12:15,200 --> 00:12:18,320 Speaker 1: pants if you can wait, well no, but if you're 249 00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:19,960 Speaker 1: walking the dog and you have to poop your pants, 250 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:24,240 Speaker 1: don't do it. Take that piss never metaphorically. If there's 251 00:12:24,240 --> 00:12:26,920 Speaker 1: something that you're procrastinating on in life, this is your sign. 252 00:12:27,600 --> 00:12:29,280 Speaker 1: I like it. I don't have to point out every 253 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:31,480 Speaker 1: once in a while when I can feel listeners rolling 254 00:12:31,520 --> 00:12:33,440 Speaker 1: their eyes and I think a lot of non LA 255 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:35,720 Speaker 1: listeners are rolling their eyes that you into a seventy 256 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:40,480 Speaker 1: five minute sound bath. Yeah, it's a very la nonsensical thing. 257 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 1: It is a very LA thing, like i've I've sound 258 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:45,920 Speaker 1: baths have really kind of taken off, Like I feel like, 259 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:47,839 Speaker 1: can you explain what one is just for people who 260 00:12:47,840 --> 00:12:50,480 Speaker 1: don't know. So it's it's basically like a deep meditation, 261 00:12:50,559 --> 00:12:53,280 Speaker 1: and they like make all these sounds like gongs and 262 00:12:53,520 --> 00:12:56,400 Speaker 1: rain sticks and there's like a ocean sound, and it's 263 00:12:56,520 --> 00:12:58,360 Speaker 1: it's basic like a meditation where supposed to get you 264 00:12:58,360 --> 00:13:02,440 Speaker 1: into like a really really deep relaxed state, relaxed state. 265 00:13:02,559 --> 00:13:04,920 Speaker 1: I've never again I went to this. I was invited 266 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:06,880 Speaker 1: as a guest, So this isn't something that I've ever 267 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:08,800 Speaker 1: sought out on my own. But I do know a 268 00:13:08,840 --> 00:13:11,040 Speaker 1: lot of people that how much do people pay? You 269 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:12,640 Speaker 1: were a guest? But how much would a person pay 270 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 1: for I would assume it's like a workout class. That's 271 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 1: what I would assume, right, like a yoga class. Maybe 272 00:13:17,760 --> 00:13:20,599 Speaker 1: like twenty bucks. I guess depends on what kind of 273 00:13:20,760 --> 00:13:24,560 Speaker 1: where you're going for your sound ball mat. Yeah, it's 274 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:27,400 Speaker 1: like you lay on a mat and I imagine if 275 00:13:27,400 --> 00:13:30,480 Speaker 1: it's seventy five minutes, it's actually probably like twenty five dollars. No, 276 00:13:30,679 --> 00:13:33,480 Speaker 1: it's probably more than that. I would give it a 277 00:13:33,559 --> 00:13:38,439 Speaker 1: forty five range. Really, Yeah, it's like a spa like 278 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:42,160 Speaker 1: workout classes can range from anything from like I think, 279 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:46,120 Speaker 1: like fifteen to thirty dollars in LA. It's not a workout, 280 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:48,679 Speaker 1: but I'm just putting it in that category because I 281 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:51,240 Speaker 1: don't I don't know. Yeah, it's not like a massage. No, 282 00:13:51,640 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 1: but I did. I told you I'll went to that 283 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:56,640 Speaker 1: birthday party and it was a sound bath and Jay 284 00:13:56,720 --> 00:14:00,199 Speaker 1: Shetty led the meditation before and I was like, this 285 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:04,079 Speaker 1: is peak La, Like that was peak LA. And I 286 00:14:04,240 --> 00:14:06,920 Speaker 1: did have a hard time for the first like ten 287 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:09,400 Speaker 1: minutes relaxing because I had jeans on. I don't recommend 288 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:13,000 Speaker 1: wearing jeans to sound bath tight jeans. You gotta wear sweats, 289 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:15,520 Speaker 1: you gotta wear something cozy. Speaking of Jay Chetty. We 290 00:14:15,600 --> 00:14:17,160 Speaker 1: went to his show. I was going to ask you 291 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:21,680 Speaker 1: about it. It was so amazing. People who may not 292 00:14:21,840 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 1: know is we're not interviewing him, but we'll do a 293 00:14:24,280 --> 00:14:26,600 Speaker 1: quick intro. He said he would come on the podcast. 294 00:14:26,680 --> 00:14:28,160 Speaker 1: By the way, I've asked him to come on and 295 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:31,240 Speaker 1: he's so down. It's just a matter of scheduling, you know, 296 00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:34,880 Speaker 1: we gotta have it. Is like Camilla coming over to 297 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:39,280 Speaker 1: watch Crazy with you. No scheduling. I swear, I swear, 298 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:41,440 Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. I believe Jay is a very busy 299 00:14:41,600 --> 00:14:44,600 Speaker 1: person right now. Yeah, Yeah, it's a scheduling issue. And 300 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:47,240 Speaker 1: you know we're only doing in studios, so that's right. 301 00:14:47,440 --> 00:14:50,840 Speaker 1: It's tough, tough, tough one when he's on tour. But um, 302 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:55,360 Speaker 1: the show was incredible. He is h he's an author. 303 00:14:55,640 --> 00:14:59,160 Speaker 1: He's a New York Times best selling author. Actually, his book, 304 00:14:59,360 --> 00:15:01,680 Speaker 1: his new book came out the same exact day as 305 00:15:01,680 --> 00:15:04,760 Speaker 1: The Sunshine Mind. One of us was. One of us 306 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:06,720 Speaker 1: was a New York Times bestseller again, and one of 307 00:15:06,840 --> 00:15:09,800 Speaker 1: us was not. I'll let you guys figure that one out. 308 00:15:10,600 --> 00:15:13,440 Speaker 1: But he is Um. He used to be a monk. 309 00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:17,280 Speaker 1: He used to be a monk, and now he has 310 00:15:17,320 --> 00:15:20,200 Speaker 1: a job. He has a really great podcast. He's helps 311 00:15:20,200 --> 00:15:23,600 Speaker 1: people find their purpose. But um, so he's going on 312 00:15:23,720 --> 00:15:26,480 Speaker 1: tour or this tour it's like the show for it's 313 00:15:26,480 --> 00:15:28,560 Speaker 1: called Love Rules, which is kind of like off based 314 00:15:28,600 --> 00:15:31,400 Speaker 1: off of his new book, and he just has this 315 00:15:31,560 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 1: thing where like there's a couple of things he mentioned 316 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:36,240 Speaker 1: in this show that there's, um there's like this, there's 317 00:15:36,280 --> 00:15:37,720 Speaker 1: this thing that you can google. It's like a list 318 00:15:37,760 --> 00:15:40,440 Speaker 1: of thirty six questions to get to know someone, and 319 00:15:40,680 --> 00:15:43,240 Speaker 1: he mentioned it in his show. And so Robbie and 320 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 1: I did it on Saturday night before we went to 321 00:15:45,360 --> 00:15:46,640 Speaker 1: the birthday dinner, or the two of us just went 322 00:15:46,640 --> 00:15:49,720 Speaker 1: and got a drink um solo for like some alone time, 323 00:15:49,840 --> 00:15:51,400 Speaker 1: and we went through the list of thirty six and 324 00:15:51,520 --> 00:15:53,360 Speaker 1: they're kind of silly, like you would read them and 325 00:15:53,480 --> 00:15:56,680 Speaker 1: think like, oh, we already know all this stuff about 326 00:15:56,720 --> 00:15:59,640 Speaker 1: each other, but it really can spark the interesting conversation, 327 00:15:59,800 --> 00:16:04,120 Speaker 1: like you know, what's something you regret from your child 328 00:16:04,280 --> 00:16:06,920 Speaker 1: or the way you were raised, and like, uh, if 329 00:16:06,960 --> 00:16:08,440 Speaker 1: you knew you were going to die in a year, 330 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:11,240 Speaker 1: what would you do differently now? And like just things 331 00:16:11,280 --> 00:16:14,200 Speaker 1: that they sound like surface level when you read the questions, 332 00:16:14,240 --> 00:16:17,960 Speaker 1: but they really sparked a really interesting conversation for the 333 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 1: two of us after to fall in love. Yeah, okay, yeah, 334 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:24,920 Speaker 1: New York Times. Yeah. Um, but the show, if he's 335 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:26,880 Speaker 1: coming to a sitting near you, I highly recommend Jay 336 00:16:26,880 --> 00:16:30,200 Speaker 1: Shetty show because it was really really cool. He's a 337 00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:33,800 Speaker 1: very well connected man. He knows everybody. Everyone knows Jay 338 00:16:33,840 --> 00:16:36,040 Speaker 1: sett Yeah. And it's funny because we were at the 339 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:38,840 Speaker 1: show and Matthew Hussey was there with his fiancee, so 340 00:16:39,040 --> 00:16:41,120 Speaker 1: we got to spend a lot of time with Like 341 00:16:41,280 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 1: Robie and I spent a lot of time talking to 342 00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:45,800 Speaker 1: him and his fiance and they're lovely. We always see 343 00:16:45,880 --> 00:16:49,200 Speaker 1: him Matthew at like Jayshetty things. It's so funny, like 344 00:16:49,360 --> 00:16:51,520 Speaker 1: that's like our common thread. I was gonna say, I 345 00:16:51,600 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 1: feel like I met Matthew Hussey. Yeah yeah, Um I 346 00:16:56,640 --> 00:17:01,000 Speaker 1: met some scrubbers. Oh oh what I met a couple 347 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:03,760 Speaker 1: of scrubbers, maybe a handful of scrubbers at Jetty show. Okay. 348 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:06,160 Speaker 1: One of them dms me the next day the picture 349 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:08,359 Speaker 1: of us, and she says, I have to tell you, 350 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:10,680 Speaker 1: I was himming and hawing if I was going to 351 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:12,480 Speaker 1: buy a ticket to this show. Because I couldn't go 352 00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:14,680 Speaker 1: with anybody and I didn't want to go alone. And 353 00:17:14,760 --> 00:17:17,840 Speaker 1: I read your chapter in your book about being independent 354 00:17:18,160 --> 00:17:20,200 Speaker 1: and I ended up buying the ticket to the show. 355 00:17:20,359 --> 00:17:22,440 Speaker 1: And then I ended up meeting you at the show. 356 00:17:23,040 --> 00:17:28,080 Speaker 1: How crazy is that? Don't procrastinate, just dorastinate, Just do it. 357 00:17:28,200 --> 00:17:29,760 Speaker 1: I found that She's like sent me the picture of 358 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:31,480 Speaker 1: the chapter in my book that she read, and I 359 00:17:31,560 --> 00:17:33,760 Speaker 1: was like, wow, well I love that. Yeah, it was 360 00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:37,000 Speaker 1: like a full circle moment. It was a total one 361 00:17:37,200 --> 00:17:41,080 Speaker 1: eighty three sixty. Well that's two circles, isn't it. I 362 00:17:41,240 --> 00:17:43,680 Speaker 1: never know three sixty you're facing the same direction again, 363 00:17:43,720 --> 00:17:48,240 Speaker 1: he does. It's a spin, but meaning like, oh, okay, 364 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:52,360 Speaker 1: so eighties just turning around one eighties turning around seven 365 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:54,080 Speaker 1: twenty would be a full loop, and then you end 366 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:55,680 Speaker 1: up in a different spot, so you get like two 367 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:57,800 Speaker 1: versions of it. But I've never heard anybody say that, 368 00:17:57,920 --> 00:18:01,480 Speaker 1: so I don't think that same place. Yeah, seven twenty 369 00:18:01,600 --> 00:18:03,840 Speaker 1: is a spin and a half. No, three sixty times 370 00:18:03,880 --> 00:18:07,000 Speaker 1: two is seven twenties, So you're going twice. I'm sorry, 371 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:14,480 Speaker 1: is a strong suit here? That's not important? Wait did 372 00:18:14,560 --> 00:18:17,760 Speaker 1: you see um? Okay, do you know who Chris Olsen 373 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:21,399 Speaker 1: is he's a big TikTok Erni's friends with Megan Trainer. No. 374 00:18:22,240 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 1: I know who he is, but I don't know much 375 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:28,240 Speaker 1: about him. So he posted a carousel images and the 376 00:18:28,520 --> 00:18:30,920 Speaker 1: first photo is him kissing a guy and the tag 377 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:37,680 Speaker 1: is Ryan Trainer's brother. Oh, and then multiple photos of 378 00:18:37,760 --> 00:18:40,840 Speaker 1: them kissing. But they're really close, and I can't tell 379 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:44,280 Speaker 1: if Ryan's like everyone like, no one's really saying anything 380 00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:46,600 Speaker 1: about it. And I'm like confused because it felt like 381 00:18:46,680 --> 00:18:49,119 Speaker 1: a big deal that they if it was like a 382 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:53,960 Speaker 1: hard launch, or if it was just like they're close friends. 383 00:18:54,119 --> 00:18:56,640 Speaker 1: Maybe we can ask Megan. She's coming on the radio 384 00:18:56,680 --> 00:19:01,800 Speaker 1: show this week. Yeah, yes, please find out, but write 385 00:19:01,840 --> 00:19:03,679 Speaker 1: that down. Wait before we move on. I didn't want 386 00:19:03,680 --> 00:19:05,080 Speaker 1: to ask you because we got to know from last 387 00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 1: week's episode. Yeah, I feel like the intimate embraced right 388 00:19:09,720 --> 00:19:14,720 Speaker 1: and they're kissing. Yeah, um, I want before we moved on, 389 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:17,639 Speaker 1: I wanted to ask you because this was in notes 390 00:19:17,680 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 1: from last week's episode. How do you feel that you 391 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 1: have a love song from Haley that's not a breakup 392 00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:25,520 Speaker 1: song out? I feel so nice and I've been waiting 393 00:19:25,560 --> 00:19:27,640 Speaker 1: for I was like, maybe the song's never gonna get 394 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:30,600 Speaker 1: released because it's two. It's not a breakup song. Maybe 395 00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:33,159 Speaker 1: she only wants me to be the sad ones, the 396 00:19:33,280 --> 00:19:39,720 Speaker 1: one that makes you makes her sad sad at the 397 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:43,440 Speaker 1: same time. Very ca Yeah, yeah, um no, it feels 398 00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:45,679 Speaker 1: really good and I love this song. It's been one 399 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:48,840 Speaker 1: of my like when she sent me the um like 400 00:19:49,320 --> 00:19:53,240 Speaker 1: the wave, no, the demo or something, what's the wave? 401 00:19:53,440 --> 00:19:58,200 Speaker 1: The wave file? Nice? Is that like the nerdy talking? Yeah, 402 00:19:58,560 --> 00:20:01,240 Speaker 1: very good. Yeah, when you sent me a wave, I 403 00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:03,119 Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh, I love this song. And 404 00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:05,600 Speaker 1: I actually think we had kind of gotten into like 405 00:20:05,760 --> 00:20:07,600 Speaker 1: a little bit of a tiff. This is when we 406 00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:10,320 Speaker 1: first started dating. This was twenty and eighteen, and I 407 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:12,440 Speaker 1: had gone to iHeart Festival in Vegas and we kind 408 00:20:12,480 --> 00:20:15,040 Speaker 1: of had like it was kind of like a difficult time, 409 00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:20,800 Speaker 1: was that brother? I think? So I remember coming to 410 00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:22,639 Speaker 1: your room and you like telling me about No, that 411 00:20:22,800 --> 00:20:26,440 Speaker 1: wasn't that one that was here before. Um, But we 412 00:20:26,560 --> 00:20:28,560 Speaker 1: went to I went to iHeart and it was just 413 00:20:28,640 --> 00:20:30,680 Speaker 1: hard because she was she was We were still in 414 00:20:30,720 --> 00:20:32,720 Speaker 1: the beginning stages. We didn't get to see each other 415 00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:34,440 Speaker 1: a lot, and it was like, you know, that was 416 00:20:34,520 --> 00:20:37,720 Speaker 1: all when it was all bachelor guys and then it 417 00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 1: would be like me and Ashley if she got if 418 00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:43,200 Speaker 1: she was able to go, and so she was like, 419 00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:45,320 Speaker 1: I just feel like you're going to be, you know, 420 00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:48,120 Speaker 1: surrounded by all the bachelor guys. And we had kind 421 00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:50,000 Speaker 1: of got into an argument. I'm like, this is my work, 422 00:20:50,119 --> 00:20:52,880 Speaker 1: Like this is just you know, part of the work part. 423 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:54,920 Speaker 1: And then she wrote that song and one of the 424 00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:58,199 Speaker 1: lines was like whenever, whenever I'm with you, I already 425 00:20:58,280 --> 00:21:00,520 Speaker 1: miss you. That's how we were. We were like so 426 00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:03,600 Speaker 1: obsessive that it was like, even when we were together, 427 00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:05,719 Speaker 1: it was like anticipating the moment that we weren't going 428 00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:10,320 Speaker 1: to be together. I know, so deep, but yeah, I'm 429 00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:15,920 Speaker 1: still I know I hate it that. It's tough being 430 00:21:16,200 --> 00:21:20,359 Speaker 1: It's tough being with someone that you hate being apart 431 00:21:20,480 --> 00:21:23,359 Speaker 1: from in any capacity, it's the goal, isn't it. I 432 00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:25,399 Speaker 1: know it's the best and it's the worse when they 433 00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:28,600 Speaker 1: travel a lot. Yeah, I know that would really It's 434 00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:30,320 Speaker 1: funny because when Becca said you couldn't go to the 435 00:21:30,400 --> 00:21:32,640 Speaker 1: sound bath on Sunday, I was like, can Robbie come? 436 00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:35,240 Speaker 1: Like really was just like quick to oh yeah, immediately 437 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:40,159 Speaker 1: replace me. Yeah, like it was actually within seconds I 438 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 1: said I have a birthday party. I'm not. I don't 439 00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:44,240 Speaker 1: think I can't. I don't know what time it's gonna 440 00:21:44,240 --> 00:21:45,760 Speaker 1: be over, so I don't want to commit and take 441 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:48,359 Speaker 1: up a spot, And then thirty seconds Tanya had me 442 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:52,719 Speaker 1: replaced it. It's like that sometimes I want to talk 443 00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:54,399 Speaker 1: about the Oscars, but I think we should take a 444 00:21:54,400 --> 00:22:13,160 Speaker 1: break and come back. Yeah sounds good. All right, we're 445 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:19,399 Speaker 1: back with Oscar's recap. Where do we start first? I 446 00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:21,960 Speaker 1: would like to say that I feel like being the 447 00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:24,080 Speaker 1: host of the US or any award show like that 448 00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:27,720 Speaker 1: would be very challenging. Sure, but sometimes I'm just like, 449 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:30,800 Speaker 1: could could we do it without having someone having to 450 00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:33,840 Speaker 1: have like kind of like weird jokes The whole time 451 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:37,679 Speaker 1: we did that, we tried, that didn't go. I think 452 00:22:37,720 --> 00:22:41,240 Speaker 1: it was twenty twenty and it didn't. Few years ago, 453 00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:45,879 Speaker 1: they still take up time like they still fill the 454 00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:47,960 Speaker 1: time with like a weird thing. I think I don't 455 00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:50,200 Speaker 1: know that people were like walking into the It's just 456 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:53,960 Speaker 1: I think I like Trevor Noah, Are you saying you 457 00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:57,040 Speaker 1: didn't like Jimmy because I thought Jimmy was phenomenal last night? Yeah, 458 00:22:57,080 --> 00:22:59,240 Speaker 1: I don't know. Sometimes it's jokes. I'm just kinda like 459 00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:05,440 Speaker 1: the Nicole Kidman joke had me because I just find 460 00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:09,840 Speaker 1: that I'm always quoting the sometimes hotbreak feels good in 461 00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:13,120 Speaker 1: the place like this. Yeah, Like I'm constantly I find 462 00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:16,399 Speaker 1: it just so entertaining that commercial. Yeah, so when he 463 00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:18,359 Speaker 1: made that joke, I was like, oh my gosh, I 464 00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:20,240 Speaker 1: never thought of it that way, Like, thank you for 465 00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:23,119 Speaker 1: telling the people who are already at the movies to 466 00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:25,639 Speaker 1: go to the movie. Yeah, there was no host in 467 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:30,600 Speaker 1: nineteen twenty or twenty one, nineteen twenty, twenty twenty and 468 00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:32,680 Speaker 1: twenty twenty one, three straight years there was no host. 469 00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:36,200 Speaker 1: Oh wow, Yeah, so been there, done that. It was. Yeah, 470 00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:38,040 Speaker 1: I just think it's a hard job. Like I'm not 471 00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:40,680 Speaker 1: it's a thankless job. It's a very hardy Yeah, like 472 00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:43,720 Speaker 1: you're gonna get criticized no matter why, as we're hearing now. 473 00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: And yeah, I just said it was really good actually 474 00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:48,920 Speaker 1: like that his monologue, it was pretty perfect. Way he 475 00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:55,360 Speaker 1: addressed the Will Smith situation was very funny. But maybe 476 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:58,200 Speaker 1: I was napping during that. Oh. He basically said, like 477 00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:01,240 Speaker 1: if you if you do anything like any act of violence, 478 00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:07,280 Speaker 1: if you come out here you will be awarded. Yeah, 479 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:10,639 Speaker 1: I don't know. I just was kind of like, you 480 00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:14,280 Speaker 1: weren't into it when he said, this is the category 481 00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:16,560 Speaker 1: that caused the ruckets last year. So hopefully it goes 482 00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:21,040 Speaker 1: off without a hitch, and without a hitch. Yeah, it's 483 00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:26,160 Speaker 1: better than I'm giving a credit for rude cappy. Yeah. 484 00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:29,320 Speaker 1: I thought it was pretty good. And he's like, I 485 00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:32,680 Speaker 1: look out of here, and I so many beautiful people, 486 00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:36,880 Speaker 1: and I wonder if ozenpic is for me so fun. 487 00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:40,000 Speaker 1: We haven't talked about ozenpic on the podcast. No, that 488 00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:42,479 Speaker 1: is a hard hitting topic. It is a hard hit. 489 00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:45,960 Speaker 1: It's like trending on Twitter all the time anytime there's 490 00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:51,320 Speaker 1: a celebrity who's like, yeah, it's it's immediately the O. 491 00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:55,520 Speaker 1: But it is apparently it is I know, like people 492 00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:59,160 Speaker 1: to actually need it for their health reasons cannot get 493 00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:01,399 Speaker 1: it because people are using it to lose weight and 494 00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:04,400 Speaker 1: it is such a problem and I think people are like, well, 495 00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:08,560 Speaker 1: there's no um like, there's no ramifications, and I'm like, 496 00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:11,200 Speaker 1: I don't know that we know enough yet. No, there's 497 00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:15,000 Speaker 1: actually stuff coming out that it's like horrible. It's causing 498 00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:17,119 Speaker 1: like all kinds of bad things and the minute you 499 00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:19,600 Speaker 1: get off of it. I remember it was Ramy Bader 500 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:21,159 Speaker 1: was talking about the minute you get off of it, 501 00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:23,280 Speaker 1: you gain it back and something. So it's like, what 502 00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:24,800 Speaker 1: are you just going to use this thing for the 503 00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:28,000 Speaker 1: rest of your lifing. I do think that there's like 504 00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:31,240 Speaker 1: reasons of needing, like if there's like people who actually 505 00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:34,120 Speaker 1: need it, and then I think there's also a lot 506 00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:42,200 Speaker 1: of benefits to like nutrition and exercise. That's like there 507 00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:44,600 Speaker 1: for a reason something seems too good to be true. 508 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:46,520 Speaker 1: It is right, I mean, there is no quick fix 509 00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:49,679 Speaker 1: for these things. And also all those commercials that's you're 510 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:51,359 Speaker 1: a doctor, if this is right for you, I think 511 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:54,320 Speaker 1: you stay away from those. Right, this may cause internal bleeding. 512 00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:58,480 Speaker 1: Your arm is going to fall off. Every time I 513 00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:03,960 Speaker 1: see a medicine commercial and the like warning comes, I'm like, okay, 514 00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:06,160 Speaker 1: is this worth it. The thing that bothers me about 515 00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:10,960 Speaker 1: Hollywood is like the line if you're taking ozempic, just 516 00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:13,119 Speaker 1: own up to it, because I think the problem is 517 00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:15,920 Speaker 1: is like people see this stuff and they think that 518 00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:20,240 Speaker 1: you actually can look like that with eating greens and 519 00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:23,800 Speaker 1: sleeping on your back, you know what I mean. It's 520 00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:26,520 Speaker 1: like that people actually think that, and it's just not 521 00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:28,600 Speaker 1: the case, you know what I mean. And so I 522 00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:30,960 Speaker 1: actually said this when I was on Jay's podcast. It's 523 00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:33,080 Speaker 1: like if you could make something out. I can't remember 524 00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:34,920 Speaker 1: what the question was, but I was like, I would 525 00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:38,280 Speaker 1: love on social media if it just disclosed how many 526 00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:41,879 Speaker 1: filters and what filters people used on their photos. They 527 00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:43,800 Speaker 1: don't have to say what they did, but just say like, 528 00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:46,080 Speaker 1: here's my photo and I use I ran it through 529 00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:49,240 Speaker 1: face tune. A couple it's been through face tune, ta mesa, 530 00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:52,879 Speaker 1: this filter or whatever whatever. Because I just think like 531 00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:55,800 Speaker 1: we just need to start being more upfront because it's 532 00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:59,159 Speaker 1: like people are trying to use you know, this false 533 00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:02,240 Speaker 1: reality that people are being fed is just I think, 534 00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:06,160 Speaker 1: such a problem. I think though, it's like it's kind 535 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:09,439 Speaker 1: of the is it lying if they're not just blatant? 536 00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:11,879 Speaker 1: I get what you're saying, but is it lying. I 537 00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:14,879 Speaker 1: don't know that anyone's gonna straight up ask someone in 538 00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:17,280 Speaker 1: an interview like, so we're you using ozempic. I think 539 00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:20,119 Speaker 1: Chloe Kardashian's been asked, and I think Kyle Richards has 540 00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:24,560 Speaker 1: and yeah, they're denying it, deny it. Who knows? I 541 00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:29,760 Speaker 1: actually don't know for a fact, but yeah, no one. Yeah, 542 00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:31,760 Speaker 1: there's a lot of chatter about it. But I think 543 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:33,720 Speaker 1: I watched this like I don't even know if it 544 00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:36,560 Speaker 1: was called a documentary, but this like piece on it 545 00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:40,720 Speaker 1: and it was interviewing people like this guy who has diabetes, 546 00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:43,360 Speaker 1: and like he was like, I can't literally can't find 547 00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,240 Speaker 1: it anywhere, really bad. So I think they've got to 548 00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:48,400 Speaker 1: figure out a solution to where the people who need 549 00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:51,160 Speaker 1: it have access to it and like there's no increase 550 00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:53,720 Speaker 1: in like the price or whatever, and then if people 551 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,240 Speaker 1: want to be on it and take that risk for themselves, 552 00:27:56,320 --> 00:28:00,720 Speaker 1: then there's another option. Right, no judgment here. This is 553 00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:03,880 Speaker 1: a judge free zone. The people that need it need 554 00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:06,879 Speaker 1: access to it first. Yeah, okay, anyways back to the 555 00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:10,159 Speaker 1: oscars um, Well, I think we should start with the 556 00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:14,320 Speaker 1: carpet because that's the pre show and there's one person 557 00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:17,720 Speaker 1: in particular that's getting a lot of pick up, and 558 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:22,240 Speaker 1: that's Ashley Graham. Yes, and the two interviews in particular 559 00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:27,720 Speaker 1: were the interviews shod with Hugh Grant and Pedro Pascal. Yes, 560 00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:32,200 Speaker 1: it's interesting we have different Mark and I were discussing 561 00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:34,840 Speaker 1: it this morning and we have different opinions and so 562 00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:39,080 Speaker 1: I'm curious to hear what you Well, what are your opinions? Well, 563 00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:42,360 Speaker 1: I mean I'm surprised, Well what happened? For those who 564 00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 1: didn't watch, Ashley Graham asked Hugh Grants of questions. He 565 00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:48,840 Speaker 1: did not seem to like those questions or have any 566 00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:52,440 Speaker 1: answers for those questions, And it's incredibly uncomfortable because he's 567 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:55,840 Speaker 1: being obstinate. But in my opinion, her questions were such 568 00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:59,680 Speaker 1: generic garbage that I kind of understand where he's coming from, Like, 569 00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:01,480 Speaker 1: why bring him over for an interview if you have 570 00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:04,000 Speaker 1: absolutely nothing to ask him except who are you looking 571 00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,600 Speaker 1: forward to seeing? And how did you enjoy being in 572 00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:09,320 Speaker 1: class onion? Which he's in for five seconds? Right, So 573 00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:12,400 Speaker 1: I thought her questions were so lame and standard that 574 00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:14,480 Speaker 1: I get why he was being a little bit weird. 575 00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:16,720 Speaker 1: But I guess he's the one taking the majority of 576 00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:20,800 Speaker 1: the heat. Yeah. So it's interesting because the interviews so awkward, 577 00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:24,160 Speaker 1: like you can literally feel it when you're watching it. 578 00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:28,680 Speaker 1: It's so uncomfortable. My first thought was he's a dick 579 00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:31,880 Speaker 1: because he looked like a dick in that interview. I 580 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,000 Speaker 1: could see him coming off as a dick. But my 581 00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:37,640 Speaker 1: other thought was, yes, I do agree that the questions 582 00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:40,800 Speaker 1: were a little loosey goosey. They didn't feel like they 583 00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:43,880 Speaker 1: had an intention. Yeah, or she wasn't prepped at all. 584 00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:45,960 Speaker 1: And maybe I'm looking at it from a radio perspective 585 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:48,239 Speaker 1: because she had no prep for Hugh grew So when 586 00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:49,800 Speaker 1: I first saw this, I was a little bit on 587 00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:53,000 Speaker 1: Ashley's side, Like I was like, dude, you're doing an interview, Like, 588 00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:56,080 Speaker 1: even if they aren't the best questions, smile and be nice, 589 00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:59,080 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But then she did the 590 00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:04,240 Speaker 1: interview with Pedro Skall and basically what happened in that 591 00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:07,280 Speaker 1: interview was he uh, he said kind of like he's 592 00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:09,960 Speaker 1: looking forward. You know, Rihanna's performing tonight, right, And she 593 00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:12,160 Speaker 1: was like, no, Rhanda's not performing, but that'd be a 594 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:14,680 Speaker 1: great surprise if she did. Yeah, And it was like 595 00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:18,760 Speaker 1: knowing that Rihanna was performing by everybody, Yes, That's what 596 00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,360 Speaker 1: I'm saying. Like this is like like he had inside 597 00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,400 Speaker 1: like correct, this was not inside source. This was out 598 00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:26,920 Speaker 1: in the public knowledge for many, many weeks leading up 599 00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:28,760 Speaker 1: to the Oscars. And I'm like, if you're getting the 600 00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:33,200 Speaker 1: privilege to host a red carpet at the Oscars, you 601 00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:38,920 Speaker 1: don't know who's performing, it's a problem. Yeah, So I 602 00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:40,880 Speaker 1: don't know where I stand on it, because, like Hugh Grant, 603 00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:42,720 Speaker 1: when I was on totally on her side, because I 604 00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:44,520 Speaker 1: was like, I think he was he was totally just 605 00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:47,720 Speaker 1: being a jerk um. But then I saw that one 606 00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:51,200 Speaker 1: and I was like, maybe market that's disappointing to me 607 00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:53,560 Speaker 1: as a as a you know, as a journalist who 608 00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:55,560 Speaker 1: loves doing that, you know, like, I think it just 609 00:30:55,640 --> 00:31:00,400 Speaker 1: showed a lack of preparation. Preparation. Yeah, I think I 610 00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:02,720 Speaker 1: think I've reside in the middle on this one because 611 00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:07,000 Speaker 1: I think actually, probably most likely one thousand percent could 612 00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:09,680 Speaker 1: have been more prepared and ask more questions of like, hey, 613 00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:12,320 Speaker 1: was it um like a fun like a fun thing 614 00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:14,880 Speaker 1: being like even though you were just a small part 615 00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:17,640 Speaker 1: of glass onion, was it fun like being with that cast? 616 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:21,200 Speaker 1: Or more intentional questions and made it seem like she 617 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:25,000 Speaker 1: knew his role and like what he did. But also 618 00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:28,400 Speaker 1: I feel like he could have just been polite and 619 00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:32,080 Speaker 1: moved on and not made it like totally he was 620 00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:37,720 Speaker 1: visibly annoyed and like it's like, look, I as somebody 621 00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:40,120 Speaker 1: that's done that been on that side, and especially remember 622 00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:43,040 Speaker 1: Billboard Music awards. You're interviewing people. You don't even have 623 00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:46,000 Speaker 1: a second to think a sup of water. The next 624 00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,560 Speaker 1: person's like right there. Yeah, so everything's coming fast, and 625 00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:53,440 Speaker 1: like you can't physically know every single thing about every 626 00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:57,800 Speaker 1: single person that's coming on, and like, but I feel 627 00:31:57,800 --> 00:31:59,520 Speaker 1: like there's a happy medium, you know what I mean 628 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:03,160 Speaker 1: about being prepared and you know, having help and people 629 00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:05,440 Speaker 1: helping you and you know, I don't know, I just 630 00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:08,680 Speaker 1: feel like there's a happy medium there where you I'm 631 00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:10,680 Speaker 1: not going to sit here and say I've been one 632 00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:13,320 Speaker 1: hundred percent prepared for every single interview that I'd done. 633 00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:16,000 Speaker 1: That would be my nightmare job doing what she did. Yeah, 634 00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:17,960 Speaker 1: and we also see it from that side. I'm sorry 635 00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,680 Speaker 1: to interrupt with you, and see what Ryan used to 636 00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:24,479 Speaker 1: go through on the red carpet. Right, Your people, your 637 00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:27,800 Speaker 1: producer prepare for you an ungodly amount of material, right, 638 00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:30,080 Speaker 1: and it's very difficult to retain all of that. But 639 00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:32,560 Speaker 1: I think ryan strategy was always have a couple of 640 00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:35,320 Speaker 1: things about everybody, Yeah, like one or two things. Yeah, 641 00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:37,320 Speaker 1: I think they have to do that. It struck me 642 00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:41,440 Speaker 1: that she did not put the effort in. Yeah, and like, again, 643 00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:44,320 Speaker 1: you do have those generic filler questions that you can 644 00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:47,160 Speaker 1: throw out there, yeah, you know, in a pinch if 645 00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:49,120 Speaker 1: somebody's not giving you anything, like who are you excited 646 00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:51,320 Speaker 1: to see? Or like what do you love about the Oscars? 647 00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:53,360 Speaker 1: Or like what was your favorite movie this year? Who 648 00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:55,280 Speaker 1: are you rooting for? You know what I mean to me? 649 00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:58,680 Speaker 1: And whatever? To me? Those those questions from actually weren't offensive, 650 00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:02,640 Speaker 1: but they're just n And I do think like celebrities, 651 00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:05,920 Speaker 1: like especially at a level of like Hugh Grant, there's 652 00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:08,800 Speaker 1: an ego there because I've been on a carpet where 653 00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:10,920 Speaker 1: someone's interviewed me and I'm like, they have no idea 654 00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:13,080 Speaker 1: like who They're like, who is this person? They just 655 00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:15,440 Speaker 1: asked the most generic questions. But I'm like whatever. But 656 00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:17,120 Speaker 1: in an interview last week and they thought that I 657 00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:19,760 Speaker 1: hosted a Bachelor Power Hour podcast that I was on 658 00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:22,440 Speaker 1: the Ellen Degenerous Show, and I was just like, yeah, 659 00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:24,880 Speaker 1: you just go with there, you know what I mean? 660 00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:30,520 Speaker 1: Yeah that's me me and Ellen way back. Yeah, I 661 00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:32,560 Speaker 1: fig of themes, but that's what I'm saying, Like you, 662 00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:36,080 Speaker 1: I think there's an ego thing to it too for him, 663 00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:38,480 Speaker 1: where he's like why am I being asked these like 664 00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:41,440 Speaker 1: basic questions. But I also think it's a conversation of 665 00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:45,520 Speaker 1: the like respect of a journalist who does this for 666 00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:48,160 Speaker 1: a living, and like being able to see the difference 667 00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:51,240 Speaker 1: of hiring a journalist who does this for a living 668 00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:54,680 Speaker 1: and someone who doesn't do this for a living, who 669 00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:58,120 Speaker 1: just has like a powerful social media presence. Yeah, it's true. 670 00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:00,200 Speaker 1: So like the thing is too, like you really can 671 00:34:00,840 --> 00:34:03,080 Speaker 1: I remember the first award show that I ever did. 672 00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:08,359 Speaker 1: I buried myself in prep. I watched every single thing. 673 00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:11,520 Speaker 1: I watched tons of interviews with everybody, and it's like 674 00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:17,359 Speaker 1: it's very twenty four to seven, Like it is very intense. Yeah, 675 00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:20,160 Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying, though, Like you, when you got 676 00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:26,000 Speaker 1: that opportunity, you engrossed yourself in like every area. But 677 00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:28,040 Speaker 1: I do think there's a happy medium, you know what 678 00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:29,919 Speaker 1: I mean. I don't think you need That's what I'm saying. 679 00:34:29,920 --> 00:34:31,320 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think it was like, oh, she 680 00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:32,840 Speaker 1: did a terrible job. I think it was just like 681 00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:35,680 Speaker 1: the same thing like when we interview guests, sometimes we're 682 00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:37,560 Speaker 1: just like not prepared, and that you can tell in 683 00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:40,000 Speaker 1: the interview. That's another thing is sometimes you prepare for 684 00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:41,800 Speaker 1: all those people and then somebody who's not even on 685 00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:45,440 Speaker 1: the list shows up the forehand. Hey you got Hugh Grant. Here, 686 00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:47,320 Speaker 1: it comes Hugh Grant and you're like, oh, okay. But 687 00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:50,399 Speaker 1: I know some people who say no, like if you're 688 00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:52,440 Speaker 1: not if they're not prepped for that person, they're not 689 00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:54,640 Speaker 1: going to interview that. I think that's smart. I do too. 690 00:34:55,920 --> 00:35:02,879 Speaker 1: Tell me about Notting Hill right, oh man, because there's 691 00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:05,839 Speaker 1: nothing worse than like, especially in a live interview, saying 692 00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:08,480 Speaker 1: the wrong like stat or there was some other reporter 693 00:35:08,680 --> 00:35:12,680 Speaker 1: that um said to Kate Hudson that she had won 694 00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:14,920 Speaker 1: an oscar before and she had to correct her. You know, 695 00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:20,399 Speaker 1: it's like there's nothing more uncomfortable dagger like no right, 696 00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:24,080 Speaker 1: I will say to Pedro Pascal's like one of the biggest, 697 00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:26,800 Speaker 1: like most talked about celebrities. For that to be the 698 00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:31,320 Speaker 1: one where she had a moment is unfortunate. Unfortunate. I 699 00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:37,759 Speaker 1: have to say, Carl Dolavine is having a redemption moment. Yeah, 700 00:35:37,880 --> 00:35:41,239 Speaker 1: she looked good last night, amazing, Like she was one 701 00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:44,800 Speaker 1: of my favorite best dress for like the Oscars and 702 00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:47,600 Speaker 1: the afterparty. Yeah, she really rocked it. And you know, 703 00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:50,680 Speaker 1: white was a very beautiful theme. I felt like there's 704 00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:53,440 Speaker 1: a lot of people in white. Last night, Sophia Carson 705 00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:56,160 Speaker 1: was one of those girls. She looked stunning and her 706 00:35:56,239 --> 00:36:03,680 Speaker 1: performance was amazing. I got chills. Yeah, she was choir. 707 00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:06,560 Speaker 1: It's a choir, the singers in the back and then 708 00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:08,719 Speaker 1: the people the instruments at orchestra. Right, So she's an 709 00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:11,120 Speaker 1: orchestra and a choir. Yeah, that's cool. It was really 710 00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:15,480 Speaker 1: really special. Well, um, everything everywhere all at once was 711 00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:18,960 Speaker 1: clearly the big one. I watched it. Yeah, we watched it. 712 00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:21,000 Speaker 1: Oh you did, Yeah? Did you like it? Yeah? It's 713 00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:24,120 Speaker 1: very emotional, like it's a very like I mean, there's 714 00:36:24,120 --> 00:36:27,879 Speaker 1: a lot going on, like you gotta stay with it. Yeah. 715 00:36:28,160 --> 00:36:29,640 Speaker 1: I actually kind of wish I had seen it in 716 00:36:29,719 --> 00:36:32,040 Speaker 1: theaters because it felt like one of those that you 717 00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:36,359 Speaker 1: needed to just be like really and like watching every moment. 718 00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:39,480 Speaker 1: But it's very emotional, and I was just like, so 719 00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:45,760 Speaker 1: every the speeches were so emotional, like it was just beautiful. 720 00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:48,919 Speaker 1: I like that they weren't playing people off a couple 721 00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:50,799 Speaker 1: A couple of people were a little snoozy and long, 722 00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:53,200 Speaker 1: but for the most part, they were very emotional speeches 723 00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:54,879 Speaker 1: and very sweet that they just let them go. Well, 724 00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,920 Speaker 1: I want to talk about Jamie Lee Curtis because so 725 00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:00,960 Speaker 1: she wins for Best Supporting Actress, right, But she's been 726 00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:03,880 Speaker 1: doing a lot of press leading up to the Oscars, 727 00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:07,040 Speaker 1: and she was saying something that I think, maybe Becca, 728 00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:11,080 Speaker 1: you can help with because you have Haley the concert concerts, 729 00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:17,200 Speaker 1: the matinee concert Because what a brilliant idea, So she said, 730 00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:20,040 Speaker 1: So she said, why doesn't cold Play do a one 731 00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,960 Speaker 1: pm like a matinee showing of their concert, because she, 732 00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:26,560 Speaker 1: like myself, I'm sure, has like a nine o'clock bedtime 733 00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:29,319 Speaker 1: and doesn't want to go to a show that starts 734 00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:32,000 Speaker 1: at nine when there's an opening act like I would love. 735 00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,440 Speaker 1: I also love daydrinking. I'm like, how fun would it 736 00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:36,520 Speaker 1: be to go to a Charlie Pooth show at one 737 00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:40,160 Speaker 1: pm on a Saturday day? Drink, enjoy the show, rage, 738 00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:42,520 Speaker 1: go home, have a meal, and get in bed at 739 00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:45,640 Speaker 1: my normal time. That's a great idea. However, most people 740 00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:50,239 Speaker 1: work no on the weekends or a doubleheader. Hey, at 741 00:37:50,280 --> 00:37:52,239 Speaker 1: the a Kia Forum, Harry could have done a show 742 00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:55,279 Speaker 1: at one and then a show at eight. Yeah, what 743 00:37:55,560 --> 00:38:00,960 Speaker 1: a you guys? People have to work on a Saturday weekend. 744 00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:04,880 Speaker 1: Matinees would be fine. A week in matinee's great. But 745 00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:07,040 Speaker 1: if you play a show on Saturday and you or 746 00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:09,160 Speaker 1: Friday and you're having to get on your bus and 747 00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:11,960 Speaker 1: head to the next thing, that's a big turnaround for 748 00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:14,080 Speaker 1: an artist. I'm not saying they have to do all 749 00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:16,240 Speaker 1: their shows. What I'm saying, if you were in somewhere 750 00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:18,480 Speaker 1: and it is a weekend, like a Saturday or Sunday, 751 00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:21,879 Speaker 1: and you could do a matinee, I think it would 752 00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:26,480 Speaker 1: take off. I think a Vegas residency matinee really makes 753 00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:28,600 Speaker 1: sense because they just have the stage set up. But 754 00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:31,279 Speaker 1: I think like a traveling touring artist, I think that's 755 00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:34,120 Speaker 1: a lot unless you have like Taylor Swift, who has, 756 00:38:34,200 --> 00:38:37,640 Speaker 1: like you know, a lot of equipment that you have 757 00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:40,960 Speaker 1: to like rush to the next venue. Brother could do 758 00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:43,520 Speaker 1: five shows in a day and sell all of them out. 759 00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:45,360 Speaker 1: I mean this is a way for the artists to 760 00:38:45,640 --> 00:38:48,799 Speaker 1: do more shows and make more money. Yeah, artists, we're 761 00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:51,320 Speaker 1: really speaking to you. We want to make you more money, 762 00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:53,839 Speaker 1: That's what we're talking. My thing is, even if it's 763 00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:57,280 Speaker 1: not one pm, what about like a seven pm start? 764 00:38:57,400 --> 00:39:01,399 Speaker 1: Why are they all starting so late? Yeah? Like five? Yeah, 765 00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:04,080 Speaker 1: I mean most people get off at five, so if 766 00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:07,440 Speaker 1: they could get to the venue by seven. Talking weekends here, 767 00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:12,120 Speaker 1: I'm talking realistic artists don't just perform on a weekend. 768 00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:14,960 Speaker 1: I'm talking. I like the idea of starting earlier, but 769 00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:18,719 Speaker 1: like giving people seven feels realistic. Have the opener started six? 770 00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:24,759 Speaker 1: Okay at six? Okay, I'm not doing opener at seven though. 771 00:39:24,920 --> 00:39:30,160 Speaker 1: Opener headliner going on at nine is like standard, and 772 00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:32,279 Speaker 1: I don't get it. I don't either. I just think 773 00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:37,160 Speaker 1: day drinking is so fun. You're not drinking anymore. Not, 774 00:39:38,719 --> 00:39:41,120 Speaker 1: It's not like a if an infinity. It's just like 775 00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:47,719 Speaker 1: we're not drinking. We're not drinking, but we are having 776 00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:52,120 Speaker 1: a drink. Uh you know what I mean. We're not drinking, 777 00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:59,720 Speaker 1: we're having a drinking. It's fun drink a day drink. 778 00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:03,560 Speaker 1: There's a single drinker during the day. Yeah, I think 779 00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:09,160 Speaker 1: the show start. Do you know what I'm saying. I'm 780 00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:16,439 Speaker 1: not saying I'm not drinking. Yeah, not drinking, but I'll 781 00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:18,719 Speaker 1: have a drink here and there. You know, we're having 782 00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:21,600 Speaker 1: caffeine today, we should Yeah. Yeah, I'm having a little 783 00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:25,000 Speaker 1: green teeth so it's a little yeah, but I'm just 784 00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:30,760 Speaker 1: sipping it slightly this morning. Shoes on shrooms, yes, holding 785 00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:34,440 Speaker 1: holding up No, so on tough days. So these mushroom drinks, 786 00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:36,160 Speaker 1: these are all like you buy them at the grocery shore. 787 00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:39,640 Speaker 1: These isn't and I'm not like getting the psychedelics correct, 788 00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:41,759 Speaker 1: but they do have They're supposed to have the same 789 00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:45,920 Speaker 1: sort of adaptogenic energy boosting that coffee does, just in 790 00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:48,880 Speaker 1: a different way. So that's why I switched to mushrooms 791 00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:53,279 Speaker 1: instead of just going cold turkey. Um, and you know 792 00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:57,120 Speaker 1: we're here drinking caffeine just a little. Just the time 793 00:40:57,200 --> 00:41:00,680 Speaker 1: change really messed me up. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I hope 794 00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:05,400 Speaker 1: they got that. I I shift on camera. Anyway. Anyway, 795 00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:07,680 Speaker 1: I think we should go come back and do some 796 00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:11,560 Speaker 1: emailse did we recap enough of the oscars anything? Not? No, 797 00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:15,920 Speaker 1: A lot of stuff happened, Rihanna. You Vanity Fair afterparty, 798 00:41:16,360 --> 00:41:19,799 Speaker 1: Lady Gaga's performance. Have you been to a Vanity Fair 799 00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:25,320 Speaker 1: afterparty one of them? I don't know, but they seem 800 00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:29,520 Speaker 1: to be the spot, the spot. Yeah, I gotta get 801 00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:33,600 Speaker 1: somebody that's been in there. Why I just find it. 802 00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:36,200 Speaker 1: So it's just like this giant thing. So I don't 803 00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:39,160 Speaker 1: know if you know, but they basically build this structure. 804 00:41:39,840 --> 00:41:41,759 Speaker 1: I know, I've been texting her all morning and she's like, 805 00:41:42,080 --> 00:41:44,880 Speaker 1: crickets on me. They did get in and out because 806 00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:47,200 Speaker 1: I saw there was like, sir, they were serving in 807 00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:51,160 Speaker 1: an Outburgers. The Vanity Fair afterpartrom they build this structure 808 00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:54,760 Speaker 1: on Crescent Boulevards, so it's like the street just shuts 809 00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:58,960 Speaker 1: off and they build this looks like a tent almost. Yeah, 810 00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:02,359 Speaker 1: I don't know, but the whole city just turned into 811 00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:04,719 Speaker 1: an Oscar thing. Like we tried to go get a 812 00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:06,719 Speaker 1: drink Saturday before our birthday dinner and they were like, 813 00:42:07,120 --> 00:42:09,000 Speaker 1: so sorry, we're having a private event here for the 814 00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:12,680 Speaker 1: Oscars and we were like, this is a thousand oaks. 815 00:42:12,719 --> 00:42:14,600 Speaker 1: We'd never have any issues out. Yeah, a lot of 816 00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:17,320 Speaker 1: issues and now should bring the Oscar parties two thousands. 817 00:42:17,320 --> 00:42:19,520 Speaker 1: And I'm telling you, but it's like, if you think 818 00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:24,200 Speaker 1: about it's like that party is the one, the one 819 00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:26,759 Speaker 1: like the Met Gala. Think about everybody that was there. 820 00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:28,799 Speaker 1: It is like that. But I think it's better than 821 00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,120 Speaker 1: the Met Gala. There's more people at the Vanity Fair 822 00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:33,919 Speaker 1: party than at the Met Gala, and my like more 823 00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:37,880 Speaker 1: people that you care about. Yeah, like it's like everybody, 824 00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:44,960 Speaker 1: it's actors. It's actors. Christina Aguilera was there. That's random random, Yeah, 825 00:42:45,200 --> 00:42:51,520 Speaker 1: like unexpected. Gid and the Jenners were there. Adam Adam 826 00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:56,960 Speaker 1: Divine No, Adam, I mean and Abahati were there first time. 827 00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:59,799 Speaker 1: Here you're naming people that we see all the time. 828 00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:02,880 Speaker 1: Who who was there that you were like, I cannot 829 00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:06,920 Speaker 1: believe they were in a room together. Everybody that was there, 830 00:43:07,440 --> 00:43:12,720 Speaker 1: Jenner's and Hadid they're always everything Jennerous Hadid's, Hayley Bieber 831 00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:17,480 Speaker 1: was there, Halle Berry I believe, was there. Carra Delavine 832 00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:20,719 Speaker 1: was there. Noah's and Teneo and Lana Condor were there. 833 00:43:21,560 --> 00:43:23,960 Speaker 1: Are they a thing? No, no, no, there's from that show, 834 00:43:24,040 --> 00:43:26,880 Speaker 1: hold on from the show. But so were a couple? 835 00:43:27,280 --> 00:43:29,239 Speaker 1: They are not. They are not a couple. Yeah, these 836 00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:31,600 Speaker 1: are all like great people. I'm just saying you're acting 837 00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:36,680 Speaker 1: like this was like never been seen before. Kate Hudson 838 00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:39,680 Speaker 1: was there. Was at a party with Kate Hudson. Jonas 839 00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:44,040 Speaker 1: and Sophie Turner were there. Time I saw Donna was there. 840 00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:52,680 Speaker 1: I incline Billie Eilish and her boyfriend. But people are 841 00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:56,280 Speaker 1: not on board for TikTok does not like real boyfriend 842 00:43:56,320 --> 00:44:02,279 Speaker 1: Florence Pew Channing Tatum, Michelle el Yo. Did I mention 843 00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:07,840 Speaker 1: Kara del Avine, Austin Butler and Kaya gerber sew mend Center. 844 00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:11,480 Speaker 1: I wanted to talk about the Shall I go on 845 00:44:11,880 --> 00:44:17,520 Speaker 1: Austin Butler because Vanessa Hudgins did oscar uh live red Carpet. 846 00:44:18,440 --> 00:44:20,600 Speaker 1: I wish he would have gone and talked to her. Well, 847 00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:23,320 Speaker 1: of course they're gonna not do that. That would be 848 00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:26,000 Speaker 1: so dirty if the producers did that to her, would 849 00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:30,000 Speaker 1: it be that is great content? It would be It 850 00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:31,719 Speaker 1: would be mess up of the producers if they did 851 00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:34,560 Speaker 1: that to her. I think so. But this is Hollywood 852 00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:36,320 Speaker 1: and they like to do that stuff. We have to 853 00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:43,000 Speaker 1: break so you can keep researching. Celebrities were Spain there, 854 00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:47,640 Speaker 1: all right, Yeah, you keep researching and we'll be right back. 855 00:45:01,480 --> 00:45:06,040 Speaker 1: Olivia Wilde was there, Jennifer Coolidge was there, Miranda Kerr 856 00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:09,239 Speaker 1: and her husband, Chrissy Teagan and John Legend were there. 857 00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:14,440 Speaker 1: Naomi Watts was there. Sofia Vergaro, your overall point here 858 00:45:14,520 --> 00:45:18,080 Speaker 1: is you wish you had been there? Um, well, no, 859 00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:22,160 Speaker 1: I was working. I was working last night and working gal, 860 00:45:22,719 --> 00:45:26,239 Speaker 1: But I just like the star power in the room. 861 00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:29,840 Speaker 1: I just want to know what the vibe is, what 862 00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:33,120 Speaker 1: people are doing, what groups people are in, you know, 863 00:45:33,320 --> 00:45:35,600 Speaker 1: like he was talking to who was it Sharon Stone 864 00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:38,600 Speaker 1: that Austin Butler was talking to. I have no idea, 865 00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:45,719 Speaker 1: I just no. And also there was like I was 866 00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:48,400 Speaker 1: watching these videos and I didn't realize the length of 867 00:45:48,480 --> 00:45:51,560 Speaker 1: the line of people. When you're like taking your photos 868 00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:54,440 Speaker 1: before you go into the Vanity Fair party, the line 869 00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:58,840 Speaker 1: is so long. That's my last space. I skip it 870 00:45:58,920 --> 00:46:01,560 Speaker 1: every time. Like Ali be like like if I go 871 00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:03,360 Speaker 1: to a party that has like a carpet like that 872 00:46:03,440 --> 00:46:05,360 Speaker 1: and there's like actual celebrities there, I'm like, I'm not 873 00:46:05,520 --> 00:46:08,320 Speaker 1: doing it, Like I'm not going after Kate Huts. I'm sorry. 874 00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:13,160 Speaker 1: I think that's okay. I'll get an event. I'm fit 875 00:46:13,239 --> 00:46:18,240 Speaker 1: photo at the event on my iPhone. Yeah, um okay. 876 00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:21,440 Speaker 1: So you have direct access to knowing exactly what it 877 00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:25,000 Speaker 1: was like through your future made of honor following. I know. 878 00:46:25,200 --> 00:46:27,880 Speaker 1: You know what, By the way, we should we should 879 00:46:27,880 --> 00:46:29,279 Speaker 1: put a pin in that and come back to it, 880 00:46:29,400 --> 00:46:36,080 Speaker 1: because you're just so willy nilly about even wanting there, 881 00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:39,759 Speaker 1: and it's no, it's making me upset. Oh no, why 882 00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:42,600 Speaker 1: because you don't even want to be my maid of honor. 883 00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:45,200 Speaker 1: It's an honor to be my maid of honor. You 884 00:46:45,239 --> 00:46:47,239 Speaker 1: don't even want it, But what about like being a 885 00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:50,080 Speaker 1: bridesmaid and getting to be a part and like handing 886 00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:52,520 Speaker 1: it off to someone who's gonna be more responsible and 887 00:46:52,680 --> 00:46:55,719 Speaker 1: organized and like make you less stressed? You know what 888 00:46:55,800 --> 00:46:59,960 Speaker 1: that sounds like to me? But that sounds like we're 889 00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:04,560 Speaker 1: verse psychology gaslighting. You're a gaslighting me, and I don't 890 00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:09,640 Speaker 1: like it. Reverse psychology gas lighting. Yeah, yeah, that fills 891 00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:11,879 Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to deep dive into what that looks 892 00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:18,759 Speaker 1: like RL. Yeah, oh wow, Okay, So just like you 893 00:47:18,800 --> 00:47:22,719 Speaker 1: know you want me to fight for it. I mean no, 894 00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:24,439 Speaker 1: I don't want you to do anything that you don't 895 00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:29,080 Speaker 1: want to do a great example of wanting what you 896 00:47:29,880 --> 00:47:34,600 Speaker 1: don't have, one thing what you can't have, or wanting 897 00:47:34,760 --> 00:47:39,640 Speaker 1: what isn't interested right, makes you want it more? Like 898 00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:41,759 Speaker 1: you want me to try more. But then I put 899 00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:43,480 Speaker 1: in the effort and you're like, uh, I had to 900 00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:45,600 Speaker 1: go with Pauline it because she's more organized. And then 901 00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:47,279 Speaker 1: I'm just like, right, like I'm trying to figure out 902 00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:58,560 Speaker 1: if you're just are you gasolighting me? Yeah? Are we gasslighting? 903 00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:03,440 Speaker 1: Be more. I'll be more, and I'll fight for it, 904 00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:05,400 Speaker 1: all right. I don't know what I got to do 905 00:48:05,520 --> 00:48:08,360 Speaker 1: to prove myself. I've put on some pretty good parties 906 00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:10,840 Speaker 1: last minute, so I feel I think there's a reality 907 00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:13,680 Speaker 1: show here. Who wants to be Tanya Is? And I 908 00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:15,919 Speaker 1: think that you would be a great made of Honor? 909 00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:18,120 Speaker 1: I would be, I know, like I haven't would rise 910 00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:22,400 Speaker 1: the opportunity, yet I think I would rise to the occasion. 911 00:48:22,800 --> 00:48:24,640 Speaker 1: I think I would too. I know I would. One 912 00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:27,279 Speaker 1: think about me. It might be a disaster up until 913 00:48:27,320 --> 00:48:31,880 Speaker 1: the final moment, but the product is so good. We 914 00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:34,400 Speaker 1: get three or four or whatever content, we bring them 915 00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:37,200 Speaker 1: on the podcast, and we each asked them questions, and 916 00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:39,680 Speaker 1: then at the end we choose Tanya's Made of Honor? 917 00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:43,320 Speaker 1: Oh wow, Like like she does a multiple choice like 918 00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:46,520 Speaker 1: what what would be my preference of Kate? Yes, stuff like, 919 00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:49,919 Speaker 1: and she doesn't have final say it's it's us. Well, 920 00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:57,080 Speaker 1: I think that'd be fun. But which of these items 921 00:48:57,120 --> 00:49:01,239 Speaker 1: would I wanted my bachelor party? Oh? Keeness probably does, 922 00:49:01,719 --> 00:49:04,520 Speaker 1: even though I wouldn't choose that personally. I think she'd 923 00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:07,120 Speaker 1: one thought, would you want penis drass? I think a 924 00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:12,799 Speaker 1: little penis never hurt nobody. A little penis never hurt nobody. Yeah, 925 00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:22,480 Speaker 1: like tasteful, tasteful Ween, tasteful and tasteful Ween. We have 926 00:49:22,600 --> 00:49:26,600 Speaker 1: a good email that wills it brings in the wien. 927 00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:31,200 Speaker 1: All right, bring it? I mean Mark, thank you him 928 00:49:31,239 --> 00:49:34,200 Speaker 1: back in Antonia. I'm a recent scrubber who needs some advice. 929 00:49:34,320 --> 00:49:36,600 Speaker 1: My fiance is a best friend who is a girl. 930 00:49:37,360 --> 00:49:39,920 Speaker 1: They talk and text every day. They talk about everything. 931 00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:42,800 Speaker 1: For Christmas, he gifted her a date night package for 932 00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:47,960 Speaker 1: her and her boyfriend, which consisted of movie tickets and lube. No. 933 00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:50,520 Speaker 1: When he told me about the lube part, it made 934 00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:52,560 Speaker 1: me feel weirded out at first. I know they talk 935 00:49:52,600 --> 00:49:54,919 Speaker 1: about everything, but this to me was something I wasn't 936 00:49:55,080 --> 00:49:57,600 Speaker 1: used to. Today they were talking and he casually called 937 00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:00,080 Speaker 1: her sweetie. Now he does call other people love of 938 00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:03,160 Speaker 1: but when that happened, it made me think how him 939 00:50:03,239 --> 00:50:05,640 Speaker 1: and her they don't really have boundaries And I'm not 940 00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:11,040 Speaker 1: sure exactly what to feel or what to do. One 941 00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:13,960 Speaker 1: thing about me that I have realized about myself in 942 00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:19,759 Speaker 1: my current relationship, I am a little bit jealous. This 943 00:50:19,960 --> 00:50:23,040 Speaker 1: would be so that this would have never gone to 944 00:50:23,160 --> 00:50:25,759 Speaker 1: this point. I'm gonna say the exact same thing. It 945 00:50:25,840 --> 00:50:30,400 Speaker 1: would not get to the point if if Robbie bought 946 00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:35,560 Speaker 1: any woman loube, I don't even she could be married, 947 00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:40,400 Speaker 1: doesn't matter. It could be a family member like Deda 948 00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:46,200 Speaker 1: have sisters, but it would really bother me. That is 949 00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:51,480 Speaker 1: such a personal Doing nice things for somebody is totally 950 00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:54,800 Speaker 1: fine if he wants to get her like a couple's massage, 951 00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:56,880 Speaker 1: like if it's a good friend of his, a couple's massage. 952 00:50:57,280 --> 00:51:00,560 Speaker 1: Buying lube for some a girl. I just think it's 953 00:51:00,600 --> 00:51:04,200 Speaker 1: so inappropriate. I think that this is always This is 954 00:51:04,280 --> 00:51:07,879 Speaker 1: like an age old conversation, can you have a best 955 00:51:08,000 --> 00:51:10,440 Speaker 1: friend of the opposite sex when you're in a relationship 956 00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:12,359 Speaker 1: And a lot of people this is like a very 957 00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:14,319 Speaker 1: touchy subject for a lot of people because a lot 958 00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:16,480 Speaker 1: of people do have best friends of the opposite sex. 959 00:51:17,360 --> 00:51:21,839 Speaker 1: I just think and even like, this is even more 960 00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:24,279 Speaker 1: interesting for me because I'm dating a woman who has 961 00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:27,759 Speaker 1: both male and really close female friends. So it's like 962 00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:31,440 Speaker 1: where's the boundary, you know, right, because like think of 963 00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:34,360 Speaker 1: how close we are and what we talk about. True, 964 00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:36,920 Speaker 1: you know, yeah, but it's the same thing. It's like 965 00:51:37,080 --> 00:51:41,040 Speaker 1: I love you so much, but like I don't have 966 00:51:41,480 --> 00:51:46,480 Speaker 1: the feelings that I have for Hailey. True, you know, 967 00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:49,200 Speaker 1: so I can't expect her every relationship she has to 968 00:51:49,239 --> 00:51:52,359 Speaker 1: be the same. But I think that when you are 969 00:51:52,480 --> 00:51:54,879 Speaker 1: in a relationship, you have to be able to set 970 00:51:54,920 --> 00:51:57,400 Speaker 1: those boundaries of what you're comfortable with. And I just 971 00:51:57,520 --> 00:52:03,279 Speaker 1: feel like maybe no boundaries have been set. Her boundaries 972 00:52:03,520 --> 00:52:07,359 Speaker 1: are the fruit of life, let me tell you. They 973 00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:11,319 Speaker 1: are such an incredible powerful tool that I just don't 974 00:52:11,400 --> 00:52:14,399 Speaker 1: think And I'd be interested to know how old does 975 00:52:14,440 --> 00:52:17,080 Speaker 1: she say? How old she did? Oh? Well, I did 976 00:52:17,120 --> 00:52:19,480 Speaker 1: not start setting boundaries in my life until my thirties, 977 00:52:19,640 --> 00:52:23,000 Speaker 1: and I am upset that I didn't start earlier in 978 00:52:23,080 --> 00:52:25,800 Speaker 1: my life. Yeah, boundaries are very important, so important. But like, 979 00:52:25,920 --> 00:52:29,640 Speaker 1: do we think he's planning date nights and buying his 980 00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:36,600 Speaker 1: girlfriend and like is he doing the same types of 981 00:52:36,640 --> 00:52:38,719 Speaker 1: things for his own relationship? I just feel like it's 982 00:52:38,719 --> 00:52:41,960 Speaker 1: a very the whole thing intimate thoughtful. Guy's probably buying 983 00:52:42,000 --> 00:52:45,080 Speaker 1: her lube, handcuffs whatever, like intimate, though that is an 984 00:52:45,160 --> 00:52:47,880 Speaker 1: intimate gift for a friend. The lub would not fly 985 00:52:48,160 --> 00:52:50,160 Speaker 1: with me. So what So what does she need to 986 00:52:50,200 --> 00:52:52,520 Speaker 1: do here? She needs to talk to her fiance and say, look, 987 00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:57,319 Speaker 1: best friend, we got to draw the line here. She's 988 00:52:57,360 --> 00:53:00,880 Speaker 1: gonna say. I you know what I love about you. 989 00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:03,560 Speaker 1: I love that you are a loyal man, and you 990 00:53:03,800 --> 00:53:10,239 Speaker 1: and Eudora, Eudora, I've been such good friends for so 991 00:53:10,400 --> 00:53:14,000 Speaker 1: many years, and I think that's wonderful. I love your loyalty. 992 00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:16,560 Speaker 1: It's one of the most amazing qualities. I love about you. 993 00:53:18,360 --> 00:53:20,560 Speaker 1: Something about this relationship that's really important to me is 994 00:53:20,600 --> 00:53:22,880 Speaker 1: the respect that we have for each other. That has 995 00:53:22,920 --> 00:53:25,880 Speaker 1: been a core foundation of our relationship from the very beginning. 996 00:53:26,160 --> 00:53:30,440 Speaker 1: And I feel as though when you give another woman 997 00:53:30,800 --> 00:53:33,759 Speaker 1: lube it's a little bit disrespectful to me, and it 998 00:53:33,920 --> 00:53:36,240 Speaker 1: makes me feel a certain type of way. I'm sorry, 999 00:53:36,280 --> 00:53:37,839 Speaker 1: it makes me feel that you don't know, no, don't 1000 00:53:37,840 --> 00:53:39,640 Speaker 1: have to say sorry. It makes me feel that way. 1001 00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:41,840 Speaker 1: It makes me feel uncomfortable. And if you would like 1002 00:53:41,960 --> 00:53:44,719 Speaker 1: to respect me and respect those boundaries, that would be 1003 00:53:45,320 --> 00:53:47,640 Speaker 1: really much appreciate. Why I was just giving her It 1004 00:53:47,760 --> 00:53:49,439 Speaker 1: was like a date night for her and this guy. 1005 00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:51,560 Speaker 1: It's not like I'm flirting or something like. I was 1006 00:53:51,600 --> 00:53:53,719 Speaker 1: just getting them movie in Lubeck so they can have 1007 00:53:53,719 --> 00:53:55,800 Speaker 1: a great night together. What's a big deal. I'm not 1008 00:53:55,960 --> 00:53:58,680 Speaker 1: expecting you to understand how it makes me feel. I 1009 00:53:58,760 --> 00:54:01,319 Speaker 1: know we're very different people, but this is the way 1010 00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:03,880 Speaker 1: that it makes me feel, and it makes me feel uncomfortable, 1011 00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:06,000 Speaker 1: and it makes me feel disrespected. So I'm asking you, 1012 00:54:06,120 --> 00:54:09,719 Speaker 1: as your fiance, if you would please respect me and 1013 00:54:09,840 --> 00:54:13,560 Speaker 1: set some boundaries there. Thank you, I love you so much. 1014 00:54:15,560 --> 00:54:20,279 Speaker 1: I think that's great. I think you acknowledging that you 1015 00:54:20,800 --> 00:54:22,799 Speaker 1: love his friendship that he has with her, and it's 1016 00:54:22,840 --> 00:54:25,719 Speaker 1: never bothered you. But I think lube is a very 1017 00:54:25,800 --> 00:54:28,359 Speaker 1: intimate gift and it makes you uncomfortable, and just set 1018 00:54:28,400 --> 00:54:31,120 Speaker 1: that up if you like, Take ton your script and 1019 00:54:31,200 --> 00:54:34,800 Speaker 1: write it down. It was solid. Thanks so much, guys. 1020 00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:37,880 Speaker 1: Good luck to you Anonymous. Here's another one that continues 1021 00:54:37,920 --> 00:54:42,239 Speaker 1: the weeen. She's twenty, boyfriends thirty. They've been together just 1022 00:54:42,440 --> 00:54:44,920 Speaker 1: under two years, and everything's pretty great. We live together, 1023 00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:50,560 Speaker 1: we get along. Well, this girl has a boyfriend. What 1024 00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:53,440 Speaker 1: is the boyfriend thinking of this other guy buying her 1025 00:54:53,480 --> 00:55:01,200 Speaker 1: a date night in lube? Also, if a guy bought 1026 00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:05,000 Speaker 1: your wives, that's a good point, right, that's true. And 1027 00:55:05,040 --> 00:55:07,160 Speaker 1: then she pulls it out and she's like, hey, Jimmy 1028 00:55:07,239 --> 00:55:10,080 Speaker 1: got us this. Yeah, that's weird. That's a good point, 1029 00:55:10,760 --> 00:55:14,000 Speaker 1: and you could you could add that perhaps to her, Yeah, spiel, Yeah, 1030 00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:16,920 Speaker 1: I would bet the friend is in even like, even 1031 00:55:16,960 --> 00:55:18,719 Speaker 1: if it was like a joke, the friend is probably 1032 00:55:18,800 --> 00:55:20,920 Speaker 1: extremely weirded out by this. I think this man is 1033 00:55:20,920 --> 00:55:23,279 Speaker 1: stepping over so many boundaries in every aspect of his life. 1034 00:55:23,320 --> 00:55:31,920 Speaker 1: Would be the girls like a new Loube, don't have 1035 00:55:32,000 --> 00:55:36,160 Speaker 1: the one from lots Christmas? All right? Anyway, this is 1036 00:55:36,200 --> 00:55:37,880 Speaker 1: a longer one, so I just kind of sum it 1037 00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:40,839 Speaker 1: up here. She's twenty nine, right, this is this new one. Yeah, 1038 00:55:41,560 --> 00:55:46,399 Speaker 1: our emails together. He has severe everything's great, relationships going great. 1039 00:55:46,400 --> 00:55:48,719 Speaker 1: But my boyfriend has a severe depression and anxiety. He 1040 00:55:48,760 --> 00:55:50,480 Speaker 1: won't go to therapy like I'd like him too, but 1041 00:55:50,600 --> 00:55:54,160 Speaker 1: he has. He's on some medication from a psychiatrist. The 1042 00:55:54,280 --> 00:55:56,400 Speaker 1: meds make it hard for him sexually. He can get 1043 00:55:56,440 --> 00:55:59,400 Speaker 1: a roused, but he doesn't often finish. I feel like 1044 00:55:59,440 --> 00:56:01,400 Speaker 1: I should add that it's a super common side effect 1045 00:56:01,440 --> 00:56:03,840 Speaker 1: of this particular medication. But because he doesn't finish, I 1046 00:56:03,880 --> 00:56:06,480 Speaker 1: find myself not wanting to have sex. He goes out 1047 00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:08,960 Speaker 1: of his way to make it enjoyable for me. So 1048 00:56:09,080 --> 00:56:11,440 Speaker 1: I think it's a mental thing on my part, the 1049 00:56:11,640 --> 00:56:13,719 Speaker 1: idea of feeling like I'm not good enough for him 1050 00:56:13,840 --> 00:56:16,800 Speaker 1: or he's not attracted to me, even though I know 1051 00:56:17,040 --> 00:56:19,160 Speaker 1: what the situation is. I know it's the medication. He 1052 00:56:19,239 --> 00:56:21,920 Speaker 1: told me that's not the case. I'm not sure, but 1053 00:56:21,960 --> 00:56:23,480 Speaker 1: it's been at least three months since we've had sex. 1054 00:56:23,920 --> 00:56:25,600 Speaker 1: I hate the idea of bringing up because they don't 1055 00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:27,320 Speaker 1: want to make this about me and my feelings. It 1056 00:56:27,560 --> 00:56:30,080 Speaker 1: make him feel bad. When we first started having sex, 1057 00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:31,640 Speaker 1: we talked about it a bit and he said that 1058 00:56:31,920 --> 00:56:34,720 Speaker 1: I was making him feel insecure because it was obvious 1059 00:56:34,760 --> 00:56:36,840 Speaker 1: that I was upset that he didn't finish and he 1060 00:56:36,920 --> 00:56:39,080 Speaker 1: can't help it because of the medication. I feel bad 1061 00:56:39,120 --> 00:56:41,840 Speaker 1: I made him feel that way, but yes, physically I 1062 00:56:41,960 --> 00:56:44,640 Speaker 1: want to. Emotionally, I feel crappy after we do it 1063 00:56:44,760 --> 00:56:49,000 Speaker 1: and I'm satisfied and he isn't satisfied. More details. Sorry, 1064 00:56:49,040 --> 00:56:51,960 Speaker 1: If it's TMI Becca, I know Tanya won't feel that way. 1065 00:56:53,600 --> 00:56:56,080 Speaker 1: He can typically get himself to finish with his hand, 1066 00:56:56,239 --> 00:56:58,319 Speaker 1: but it's kind of a process, and then he wants 1067 00:56:58,360 --> 00:57:01,040 Speaker 1: to me to try harder, but then you know, it 1068 00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:03,439 Speaker 1: takes forty minutes, and then I try with my mouth 1069 00:57:03,480 --> 00:57:06,720 Speaker 1: for twenty more minutes and then my jaw hurts. Anyway, 1070 00:57:08,080 --> 00:57:10,239 Speaker 1: any advice on how to help, how to talk to 1071 00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:12,840 Speaker 1: him about sex or things I can tell myself to 1072 00:57:12,960 --> 00:57:15,160 Speaker 1: not feel so crappy when he doesn't get his happy ending. 1073 00:57:16,200 --> 00:57:20,080 Speaker 1: Thank you for the disclaimer that makes me emotional. I 1074 00:57:20,160 --> 00:57:23,000 Speaker 1: think it's I think, obviously you love him so much, 1075 00:57:23,160 --> 00:57:27,680 Speaker 1: and this is you're really making an effort to not 1076 00:57:28,960 --> 00:57:32,040 Speaker 1: be selfish or make it all about you. But I 1077 00:57:33,200 --> 00:57:35,840 Speaker 1: think that it's just sitting down and having a conversation 1078 00:57:35,920 --> 00:57:38,800 Speaker 1: and also maybe going to like a sex therapist or 1079 00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:42,720 Speaker 1: seeing I was going to suggest finding somebody that specializes 1080 00:57:42,760 --> 00:57:46,400 Speaker 1: in this, because I think that I understand how you're feeling. 1081 00:57:47,400 --> 00:57:51,520 Speaker 1: Because I think obviously, even you knowing that the medication 1082 00:57:51,600 --> 00:57:54,440 Speaker 1: this is a side effect, you're gonna feel like a failure. 1083 00:57:54,480 --> 00:57:56,760 Speaker 1: You're gonna feel like all those things that you were saying, 1084 00:57:57,200 --> 00:58:00,840 Speaker 1: you're not psychologically you can't switch that, you know what 1085 00:58:00,920 --> 00:58:04,120 Speaker 1: I mean. So I understand why you're feeling that way, 1086 00:58:04,360 --> 00:58:06,600 Speaker 1: and I understand why he's feeling the way that he's feeling. 1087 00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:08,680 Speaker 1: So it's a matter of just like really listening to 1088 00:58:08,840 --> 00:58:11,960 Speaker 1: each other, knowing where each other stands, and then getting 1089 00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:15,840 Speaker 1: somebody that can professionally help you and that. I'm sure 1090 00:58:15,920 --> 00:58:19,800 Speaker 1: there are people who have dealt with this. I'm sure 1091 00:58:19,840 --> 00:58:21,400 Speaker 1: there's tons of people who are dealing with this, So 1092 00:58:21,520 --> 00:58:24,320 Speaker 1: there's got to be somebody that knows how to navigate 1093 00:58:24,400 --> 00:58:28,560 Speaker 1: it in a better way. I think, look at this, 1094 00:58:28,680 --> 00:58:30,840 Speaker 1: there are positives to this that I think we're missing. 1095 00:58:30,880 --> 00:58:32,280 Speaker 1: One is that he's going out of his way to 1096 00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:34,560 Speaker 1: make it enjoyable for her because he knows he's got 1097 00:58:34,600 --> 00:58:37,560 Speaker 1: this situation with the medication. This is not a physical situation. 1098 00:58:39,000 --> 00:58:41,880 Speaker 1: It's definitely not a lack of attraction desire. This is 1099 00:58:41,960 --> 00:58:46,160 Speaker 1: a reaction to his medication. I just think that how 1100 00:58:46,240 --> 00:58:51,520 Speaker 1: many times in sexual history has the male finished and 1101 00:58:51,680 --> 00:58:54,280 Speaker 1: gotten what he wanted and the woman is not with 1102 00:58:54,520 --> 00:58:58,400 Speaker 1: no apology. If they don't and then don't care, they 1103 00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:00,320 Speaker 1: move on. I mean some do. Look I don't mean 1104 00:59:00,360 --> 00:59:02,480 Speaker 1: to generalize, but generally speaking in there like thanks, that 1105 00:59:02,600 --> 00:59:05,160 Speaker 1: was great, hand me the video game controller. There's another 1106 00:59:05,200 --> 00:59:07,720 Speaker 1: reason women are so much better than men, because women 1107 00:59:07,800 --> 00:59:09,720 Speaker 1: really want this to be a mutual thing, where men 1108 00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:12,480 Speaker 1: are perfectly happy with it sometimes and often not being 1109 00:59:12,520 --> 00:59:15,080 Speaker 1: a mutual thing. Right, So there are wonderful things here 1110 00:59:15,240 --> 00:59:16,959 Speaker 1: one is that he's a good guy who really wants 1111 00:59:16,960 --> 00:59:19,080 Speaker 1: you to enjoy yourself, yeah, and feels bad about the 1112 00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:21,040 Speaker 1: situation but wants to make the best of it. And 1113 00:59:21,200 --> 00:59:23,920 Speaker 1: two that you're so sensitive to this that you almost 1114 00:59:23,960 --> 00:59:26,680 Speaker 1: don't want to if he can't enjoy it. Yes, talking 1115 00:59:26,680 --> 00:59:29,040 Speaker 1: to somebody who's a great idea, But also focus on 1116 00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:34,320 Speaker 1: the positives here and enjoy yourself because honestly, I don't 1117 00:59:34,360 --> 00:59:36,640 Speaker 1: want to get graphic here. I just feel like he 1118 00:59:36,840 --> 00:59:39,760 Speaker 1: loves you. If he really wants you to have a 1119 00:59:39,800 --> 00:59:42,200 Speaker 1: great time and doesn't care about his own enjoyment, that 1120 00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:46,240 Speaker 1: is love. So don't feel bad about it. Yeah, just 1121 00:59:46,520 --> 00:59:49,840 Speaker 1: enjoy it as much as you can. Hopefully his situation 1122 00:59:49,920 --> 00:59:52,959 Speaker 1: gets resolved at some point. Yeah, that's the same. Maybe 1123 00:59:53,040 --> 00:59:54,680 Speaker 1: this is obviously I don't think it's a permanent thing. 1124 00:59:54,760 --> 00:59:56,400 Speaker 1: Or it might be a permanent thing. I don't know. 1125 00:59:57,320 --> 01:00:03,600 Speaker 1: But I also think that like talking to someone who 1126 01:00:03,760 --> 01:00:06,840 Speaker 1: maybe can find new ways that bring pleasure, because it 1127 01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:08,680 Speaker 1: might you know how we were talking about, there's different 1128 01:00:08,720 --> 01:00:15,600 Speaker 1: sex what was it sex styles? Or uh? That like magic? 1129 01:00:15,880 --> 01:00:18,320 Speaker 1: I think people respond differently to things. But I think 1130 01:00:18,360 --> 01:00:21,120 Speaker 1: you're trying to like do what's best for the other person, 1131 01:00:21,160 --> 01:00:22,840 Speaker 1: which I agree with Mark. I think it's a beautiful 1132 01:00:22,920 --> 01:00:25,919 Speaker 1: thing that you're both like wanting each other to feel 1133 01:00:25,960 --> 01:00:28,640 Speaker 1: happy and please. But I also think the more pressure 1134 01:00:28,680 --> 01:00:31,880 Speaker 1: and stress that you both feel, the more it's not 1135 01:00:32,040 --> 01:00:34,120 Speaker 1: going to happen. So I think you have to find 1136 01:00:34,160 --> 01:00:36,400 Speaker 1: a way to like not put the pressure on it. 1137 01:00:36,520 --> 01:00:41,360 Speaker 1: And if you're able to enjoy yourself and have much 1138 01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:44,840 Speaker 1: happy ending, then let that be. And if he can't 1139 01:00:44,920 --> 01:00:47,560 Speaker 1: and he's you know, it's don't put so much pressure 1140 01:00:47,600 --> 01:00:50,560 Speaker 1: on yourself to change that. It's just you know, you know, 1141 01:00:50,680 --> 01:00:53,320 Speaker 1: happy ending is like a thing, right, Yeah, okay, I'm 1142 01:00:53,800 --> 01:00:56,360 Speaker 1: I've only been with a girl from once. No, no, no, 1143 01:00:57,200 --> 01:00:59,160 Speaker 1: like that just because you like look down on things. 1144 01:01:00,000 --> 01:01:03,240 Speaker 1: Because she saw I thought she I thought I saw that, 1145 01:01:03,320 --> 01:01:06,160 Speaker 1: and then I was questioning if she had said that. Yeah, 1146 01:01:06,240 --> 01:01:09,000 Speaker 1: there's massage places that do. I haven't been to one, 1147 01:01:09,080 --> 01:01:11,960 Speaker 1: but that's a thing I have not been to one either, 1148 01:01:12,320 --> 01:01:18,520 Speaker 1: No full disclosure. Yeah all we haven't been to one. Yeah, 1149 01:01:18,640 --> 01:01:23,880 Speaker 1: no judgments here, but if you're willing, But if you're willing, 1150 01:01:24,440 --> 01:01:27,560 Speaker 1: um before we go. So, Tanya is cleaning out her apartment, 1151 01:01:27,760 --> 01:01:30,560 Speaker 1: as we know, and she at one point had a 1152 01:01:30,680 --> 01:01:34,160 Speaker 1: beautiful photo of Phoebe in her bathroom and she brought 1153 01:01:34,200 --> 01:01:35,640 Speaker 1: it to get back to me, which I felt was 1154 01:01:35,640 --> 01:01:38,560 Speaker 1: a little hurt full towards Phoebe. Well, first of all, 1155 01:01:39,040 --> 01:01:42,360 Speaker 1: I stole that from your house. That is your picture frame. 1156 01:01:42,520 --> 01:01:46,200 Speaker 1: But then we agreed that it in my bathroom. Yeah, 1157 01:01:47,360 --> 01:01:49,120 Speaker 1: I figured I was doing a nice thing by giving 1158 01:01:49,160 --> 01:01:53,200 Speaker 1: it back to its original owner. But if you would 1159 01:01:53,200 --> 01:01:55,520 Speaker 1: like me to, I think that should go to your 1160 01:01:55,560 --> 01:01:58,800 Speaker 1: new home. Okay, And then what if you put like 1161 01:01:58,880 --> 01:02:01,000 Speaker 1: a tiny little photo of Sunny And then it was 1162 01:02:01,080 --> 01:02:03,000 Speaker 1: like their best friend pick Sonny is going to be 1163 01:02:03,120 --> 01:02:05,040 Speaker 1: upset that she doesn't have a framed photo in the house. 1164 01:02:05,160 --> 01:02:08,120 Speaker 1: But maybe I'll just get one of her. Yeah, maybe 1165 01:02:08,160 --> 01:02:12,040 Speaker 1: you split half and half half a Phoebe's face half 1166 01:02:12,040 --> 01:02:18,240 Speaker 1: of Sunny's face could be artistic. All right, back home 1167 01:02:18,320 --> 01:02:23,000 Speaker 1: with me where? Yeah? We glad we got that covered on? 1168 01:02:23,120 --> 01:02:26,080 Speaker 1: Are Yeah? All right? Well we do. We have a 1169 01:02:26,120 --> 01:02:28,880 Speaker 1: guess this Thursday, working on We're working on it. We 1170 01:02:29,040 --> 01:02:32,880 Speaker 1: might be back Thursday, we might not, so stay tuned. Yeah, 1171 01:02:33,440 --> 01:02:36,000 Speaker 1: we love you all. Laugh a great week, ye