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Speaker 1: you behind your back. That's that's amazing what this segment is.

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Speaker 1: So what's going on with this guy? This is a

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Speaker 1: guy that you recently were asked out by and you're

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Speaker 1: excited about it, but there's a problem, so explained.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So recently, I've been talking to this guy that

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Speaker 3: I'm really really interested. He's so cool, very sweet, very

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Speaker 3: down to earth, my kind of guy. He's like the

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Speaker 3: male version of me, which I think is really really cool.

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Speaker 1: He's great, if I do say so myself, He's a

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Speaker 1: lot of me, which is why I like him so much. Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, fine, Yeah, so.

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Speaker 2: We've been talking, we've been flirting.

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Speaker 1: I'm so into it.

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Speaker 3: But the second he asked me out, I kind of panicked.

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Speaker 3: And the reason I panicked is because about sometime last year,

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Speaker 3: for about three months, I was casually hooking up with

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Speaker 3: his friend.

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Speaker 2: Okay, it was just up, but I never dated his friend.

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Speaker 3: It was, you know, every time we wanted to do something,

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Speaker 3: we would just do it and then that was it.

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Speaker 1: It was more like friends with benefits.

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Speaker 3: That's the best way I could describe that as friends

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Speaker 3: with benefits. And the guy that I'm currently about to

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Speaker 3: go out with doesn't know that, and I don't know

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Speaker 3: if I should, you know, tell him before we go out,

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Speaker 3: which could possibly ruin everything, or if.

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Speaker 4: I should just keep it to myself and gofa that

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Speaker 4: the friend tells him, and then the guy that I'm

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Speaker 4: seeing might say to me, well, why didn't you tell

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Speaker 4: me that earlier? I had to hear it from him,

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Speaker 4: so that puts me in an awkward position. Or should

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Speaker 4: I just abort the whole mission before it even starts

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Speaker 4: and just you know, be like whatever.

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Speaker 1: No, I have a few questions.

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Speaker 2: That's not my happiness, you know, right, But I have.

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Speaker 1: A few questions. So this was simply hooking up. There

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Speaker 1: was there was no he didn't you wor in love,

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Speaker 1: you weren't dating, There was no really death to it.

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Speaker 1: It was just it was what it was. It was

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Speaker 1: surface correct. Yeah, okay? And then how close are these guys?

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Speaker 3: They're best friend since childhood, they met in elementary school.

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Speaker 1: Oh great, but I think you know, he probably knows.

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Speaker 1: How do you know for a fact he doesn't know?

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Speaker 1: I mean, because like I don't know. I know who

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Speaker 1: my best friends are getting with for the most parts.

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Speaker 1: And I can tell you that if my best friend

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Speaker 1: pops up with a girl that I hooked up with, uh,

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Speaker 1: you know, more than once or twice even maybe, then

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Speaker 1: I probably would say something to them because I don't

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Speaker 1: from me. So but okay, so what makes you think

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Speaker 1: he doesn't know?

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Speaker 2: I mean, he's never brought it up to me, he said, Meaning.

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Speaker 1: Is that something you're like, Hey, you know, I love

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Speaker 1: that you slept with my friend for three months, Like

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Speaker 1: I love that about you, you know. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: don't know. It would be a strange thing to bring up,

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Speaker 1: I might I might let them know that I knew

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Speaker 1: and didn't mind, because I would imagine that if roles

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Speaker 2: That's a fair point, But that is a fair point.

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Speaker 3: But I feel like if it were me and another

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I think The more important part here

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Speaker 1: Maybe you don't, but eight five five five nine one

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Speaker 1: to say. You can call hi, text the same number,

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Speaker 1: but it's almost like maybe you do. You get this

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Speaker 1: his head's up, like I like you. I'd like to,

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Speaker 1: you know, like to see where this goes. I just

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Speaker 1: want to be fully transparent, you know, because it's this

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Speaker 1: other person's a part of your life, and I know

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Speaker 1: we're going to come into contact with him probably and

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Speaker 1: hang out with him or whatever. I did hook up

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Speaker 1: with him last year and it didn't mean anything. It

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Speaker 1: was it was what it was. I didn't know you,

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Speaker 1: and I just want to be transparent because that sort

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Speaker 1: of removes the taboo from this, and if the guy

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Speaker 1: freaks out, then that may say something about how this

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Speaker 1: he's like, yeah, I don't love it, but you know,

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Speaker 1: I like you. I'd like to see where this goes.

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Speaker 1: You didn't know me, so I mean that would be

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Speaker 1: kind of the fair thing to do would be to

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Speaker 1: be like, hey, I don't I don't have to like this,

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Speaker 1: but I also we didn't know each other then, so

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I like that idea a lot.

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Speaker 3: Just lay it out from see what he says, see

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Speaker 3: how it takes it. I think it's better to be

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Speaker 1: So I like that because if you don't say anything

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Speaker 1: it's still not fair for him to judge you based

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Speaker 1: what you've done in the past before you knew him.

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Speaker 1: I guess I could make the argument like why didn't

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Speaker 1: you tell me? Like what is there not to know? Kiki?

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Speaker 1: That's what you think?

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Speaker 5: Oh for sure? Like, and I would also be mad

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Speaker 5: at my friend. Yeah, if he knows that I'm hooking

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Speaker 5: up with this new girl and you and him have

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Speaker 5: this secret behind my back, I don't care how long,

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Speaker 5: how long ago it was. I feel like somebody in

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Speaker 5: this situation should be honest with him.

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Speaker 2: Is it more on the front, that's a good question,

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Speaker 2: you know, or is it on her? I wonder, Well, they're.

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Speaker 1: The ones who are going to be dating. So I

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Speaker 1: suppose you could establish, you know, the air of or

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Speaker 1: not the error that you're being transparent. Right, and again,

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Speaker 1: you like this guy, you haven't known him that long

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Speaker 1: and hasn't progressed that far. I think now would be

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Speaker 1: let's see where this goes. Or that's cool, I get it,

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Speaker 1: you know, that's been fine. But if he freaks out

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Speaker 1: on you, I can't believe this. I could never be

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Speaker 1: with you whatever. Imagine what's going to happen if in

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Speaker 1: three or four months or six months, when there are

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Speaker 1: emotions involved and feelings, then everyone's going to be really

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Speaker 1: hurt by this. It's going to be catastrophic. Yeah, but

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Speaker 1: let me take some phone calls on this street. Let's

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Speaker 1: see what other people I have to say, Polena, what

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Speaker 1: you're doing over there?

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Speaker 6: You guys love giving your power away and it really

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Speaker 6: kills me.

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Speaker 2: I hate to see you.

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Speaker 6: You guys know how I feel when there's a fight

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Speaker 6: or something happens, because like he might screw up.

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Speaker 2: You need that AMMO in your pocket.

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Speaker 1: Up, Helen, Oh, Helena, know this is so unhealthy. It

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Speaker 1: is so it is so unhealthy, Polana, And hang on

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Speaker 1: to these nuggets so that you can deeply cut someone

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Speaker 1: when you feel like it. It's so selfish and so wrong.

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Speaker 1: I love you so much. That is such an awful

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Speaker 1: thing to do. Harbor, harbor incriminating information, things that you

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Speaker 1: know will cut deep, so that you can just win

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Speaker 1: the argument in the moment, because you do realize one

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Speaker 1: of these times, and I don't wish this upon you, Polina,

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Speaker 1: but one of these times, you're gonna bust out with

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Speaker 6: Yes, I'm working on it. I am in therapy. My

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Speaker 6: up it to twice a week at this point, because.

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Speaker 2: That's where I'm at.

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Speaker 6: But I only say that because people like to I

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Speaker 6: don't know how to say it. Like people want to

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Speaker 6: always like come with it right, like, oh I got you,

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Speaker 6: But it's.

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Speaker 2: Like, no, I got you. You get what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: You have to like be.

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Speaker 1: Trying to get each other, like get We have to

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Speaker 1: gauge the level of arguments that we're getting. Not every

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Speaker 1: argument is a war. Not every time you do disagree.

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Speaker 1: Do you need to be armed with a nuclear weapon?

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Speaker 1: I mean it's like sometimes sometimes people just disagree and

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Speaker 1: like you move past it. But what you're never gonna

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Speaker 1: move past is when it's like you never wash the dishes, Paulina, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know what, and I bang your best friend. You

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Speaker 1: know what, You're right, that's how it would go.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the big stuff.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to use it for anything, because the

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Speaker 1: objective shouldn't be to just absolutely destroy the person that

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Speaker 1: you're arguing with if you love them. I mean maybe

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Speaker 1: if you have no intention of reconciliation. But this is

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Let me take some phone Callst. Julianne,

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Speaker 1: have a good day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you gotta hurt me?

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Speaker 1: Oh they No one needs to hurt you. You don't

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Speaker 1: need to hurt the people. You don't need to be

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Speaker 1: hanging on this. I hate the fact that you harbor

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Speaker 1: this stuff because I think, unfortunately, Paulina, that this could

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Speaker 1: really backfire in a way that is going to hurt

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Speaker 1: you worse. And I don't want that to happen to you.

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Speaker 2: And I'm not like trying to hurt people.

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Speaker 6: But I'm saying, like he's, you know, my boyfriend whatever

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Speaker 6: in this situation, cheats on me or something like I'm

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Speaker 6: talking like crazy, I'm not talking about the dishes or

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Speaker 7: Like just like a liar holding something in that you

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Speaker 2: Well, if it's like something I would use later, you

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Speaker 1: Why Why are you holding onto things too? Why? I

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Speaker 1: I don't like it. Pete, don't do it. And I

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Speaker 1: That's fine, that's your right. I only really care about

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Speaker 1: yet this is your practice. I don't like it. Hey, Tay, Hey, Hi,

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Speaker 9: But with that.

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Speaker 8: Girl, I'm sure the friend the guy already knows that

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Speaker 8: But it also might be that he already knows that

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Speaker 1: And it's like no, like I don't need to know that.

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Speaker 8: Well then that's when you meet Polly. He's method of

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Speaker 8: you got to hand them to pull out on him,

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Speaker 8: like hey, no, no, I try to do a thing,

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Speaker 1: Keep keep my mom's name out of your mouth. I

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Speaker 1: you guys are ruthless, Like when did I I am

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Speaker 1: like that is not a good way to operate, Julie, Yes,

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Speaker 1: good morning, Cerco. So this woman she called us because

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Speaker 9: I would ask the friend with benefits if he said anything,

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Speaker 9: did you tell him? Because I want to date him

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Speaker 9: and I don't know if he knows.

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Speaker 1: That's interesting.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how i'd feel about that further communication

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Speaker 1: Like I almost feel like I'd rather you just tell

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Speaker 9: It really puts him on the spot. So if he

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Speaker 9: because you're I don't know. It depends on how much

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Speaker 9: Right, but they had to have had some level of

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Speaker 9: I would I would want to.

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Speaker 1: Know before fair enough, Thank you, Julie, no problem. I

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Speaker 1: hate to say this would bother me, but it would,

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Speaker 1: But I think I think that's a little bit immature,

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Speaker 7: But she really needs to communicate that with you know,

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Speaker 7: I mean he'll choose dano be in a relationship with her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah sure, yeah, yeah, fair enough. Good advice. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: have a good day.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, guys.

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Speaker 1: All Right, I don't know final say Kiki, tell him, don't.

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Speaker 2: Tell him, man, I'm thinking about Paulina. Say, we might

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Speaker 2: need to have some ammo, little ammo.

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Speaker 1: Maybe when you guys stop it. There's one but well,

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Speaker 1: you guys, knock it off. Yeah, now, you guys, that

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