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Speaker 1: Hello, Lyle is this are you Simba?

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Speaker 2: I'm good. Sorry, I watch a lot of Disney. I

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Speaker 2: have a one year old.

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Speaker 1: So you have a one year old? Do you Are

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Speaker 1: you enjoying being a father?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's the light in my life. And uh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's tough though, having a one year old girl. But

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Speaker 2: trying to set a good example for her.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm. And what do you what sorts of things

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Speaker 1: do you do to set a good example for her?

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Speaker 2: Uh, trying to be a good parent, trying to be

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Speaker 2: there for when she needs me, and trying to, you know,

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Speaker 2: just shield her from the harsh realities of this world.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, why is why do you feel as though the

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Speaker 2: Well, there's a lot. I feel like there's a lot

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Speaker 2: of good to be found in this world. And her

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Speaker 2: mother does a really good job too. And ah, I

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Speaker 2: just feel like it's kind of a tough time right now.

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Speaker 2: She was a COVID baby, so it's it's funny you

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Speaker 2: just never really realize those things until you become a father.

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Speaker 1: M And has she been been have you been changing

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Speaker 1: her diapers a lot? Has she ever shat on your

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she sits all over the place and she shits

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Speaker 2: on my hand and but that's okay, but nah, And

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Speaker 2: I think her mother wants to have one more too,

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Speaker 2: so wish me luck.

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Speaker 1: Oh so you want to have another? Well, it says

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Speaker 1: here that you believe that your wife is getting bored

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Speaker 1: of you. Yeah, definitely, is that something she told you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like right to my face. And it's funny because

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Speaker 2: like she'll like say to me that, like she needs

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Speaker 2: someone with big dick energy. And I was like, huh

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Speaker 2: at first, I thought that was kind of hurtful, but

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Speaker 2: you know, I kind of see what she means, Like

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Speaker 2: she wants someone who's confident and relaxed, and that's kind

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Speaker 2: of like the opposite of what I am. And if

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Speaker 2: I don't do something soon, she's probably gonna try and

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Speaker 2: go and find a boyfriend or some shit. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Really, Yeah, it's a lot.

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Speaker 1: So she told you that that she is looking for

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Speaker 1: somebody with big dick energy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, And I feel like, yeah, we kind

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Speaker 2: of get on the wrong but sometimes, but she's like

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Speaker 2: a she's a witch too, she's a brew ha and

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Speaker 2: she like I see her like casting spells and ships.

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Speaker 2: So I take what she says very seriously.

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Speaker 1: M hmm. Do you believe that she has cast a

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Speaker 1: spell upon you?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, definitely. She wants me to just really

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Speaker 2: kind of grow a pair and get my fire and

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Speaker 2: my drive back because it's really low right now and

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Speaker 2: hers is like really high. And yeah, I just feel

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Speaker 2: like she's getting kind of bored with me, you know.

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Speaker 1: So what kind of spell do you believe she has

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Speaker 2: You know, it's funny. I actually think they're good stulls.

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Speaker 2: Like she brings me a lot of luck too, and

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Speaker 2: she gives me a lot of good energy, which is

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Speaker 2: why I'm I'm worried, you know, will make her unhappy.

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Speaker 2: So and she does want me to kind of go

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Speaker 2: to therapy too, but I guess that's another story.

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Speaker 1: So she's told you that she is bored of you.

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Speaker 1: But how do you feel about her?

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Speaker 2: Oh? I think she's the best thing to ever happened

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Speaker 2: to me. I feel like, you know, I was really

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Speaker 2: lucky to find her, and I feel like she's helped

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Speaker 2: me realize a lot of things too, Like there are

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Speaker 2: a lot of things that are wrong with me, But

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Speaker 2: I feel like I don't maybe do the same for her.

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Speaker 2: If you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: What does she helped you realize is wrong with you?

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Speaker 2: Well, she kind of made me like take a look

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Speaker 2: also made me realize that maybe my relationship with my

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Speaker 2: I'm twenty eight and I'm almost thirty, so it's kind

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 1: So you like her because well you you said you

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Speaker 1: And you were saying that because she's helped you realize

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Speaker 1: certain things that are that are amiss with you. I mean,

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Speaker 1: what else do you find redeeming and attractive and you know,

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Speaker 1: anything else about this person that you feel makes them

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Speaker 2: Well, she's really good at kids. That's the first thing.

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Speaker 2: Like I didn't know anything about having kids, and so

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Speaker 2: she's been able to kind of show me how to

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Speaker 2: then she's a really good friend to kind of bounce

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Speaker 2: She's kind of been coaching me a little bit.

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Speaker 1: And how how did it feel when she told you

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Speaker 2: It felt really good. I was really lucky to to

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Speaker 2: find her, but it made me realize that I still

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Speaker 2: have a long way to go, you know.

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Speaker 1: So that's well, Well, when when she when she you know,

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Speaker 1: I mean, when she when she told you that she's

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Speaker 1: looking for someone with big dig energy and that if

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Speaker 1: you don't.

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Speaker 2: Leave you feel.

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Speaker 1: Where how did that make you feel?

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Speaker 6: Well?

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Speaker 2: I just feel it didn't make me feel good. I

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Speaker 2: feel like, yeah, I feel like she wants someone who

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Speaker 2: has like some swag maybe and kind I'm kind of pooring,

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Speaker 2: you know, like I'm kind of quiet, and I feel

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Speaker 2: like and she's kind of looking for someone who can,

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Speaker 2: So it didn't make me feel goo good. But hopefully

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Speaker 2: since we're married, I can kind of turn that around

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Speaker 1: M What do you want from her? Do you want

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Speaker 2: That's a good question. I feel like maybe she could

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Speaker 2: just have a little more patience with me. You know,

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Speaker 2: I know that I suffer from some social anxiety a

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Speaker 2: me a little patience and I think we can get there.

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Speaker 1: Have you told her that.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry you kind of cut out there?

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Speaker 1: Have you told her that?

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, many times?

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Speaker 1: And does she does she seem she said, does she

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because I feel like, you know, she likes to

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 2: She likes to kind of be just reminded that she's loved,

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Speaker 2: and she likes to kind of be taken out on

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Speaker 2: dates and stuff like that. So but it's hard because

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Speaker 2: you know, you come home, you work all day and.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, here's what I do want to say to you, Simba.

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Speaker 1: Here's what I want to say to you, Simba. Simba.

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Speaker 1: I think I think if you're trying to build a

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Speaker 1: you should be married to someone who loves you for

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Speaker 1: who you are, who believes that you are enough, but

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Speaker 1: also it's continuously encouraging you, challenging you to be better

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Speaker 1: in ways in which you yourself also desire to be better.

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Speaker 1: I don't like that your wife is telling you, you know,

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Speaker 1: you better man up right now or else I'm out

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Speaker 1: of here again. I don't want to pry too deep

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Speaker 1: like I can grasp the full scope of your relationship

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Speaker 1: over the course of ten minutes. I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: pretend like I can, but I will just say that

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Speaker 1: I think you should be with someone who accepts you

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Speaker 1: for who you are while still simultaneously challenging you. And

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Speaker 1: I think that you should also be checking in with

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Speaker 1: she's not making the effort to be more patient with you,

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Speaker 1: then why would you be inclined to make the effort

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Speaker 1: to man up for her? You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: I don't like that there's an ultimatum attached to it.

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Speaker 1: I think it's good that you two are challenging each

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Speaker 1: other to be better, but if you're going to be

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Speaker 1: be deeply connected with this person, this person is gonna

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Speaker 1: be the most important person in your life. They should

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Speaker 1: feel as though you are enough. How do you feel

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Speaker 2: No, it's so good. I like that. I like that

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Speaker 2: a lot, and I can't wait to tell her. She's

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Speaker 2: But uh, I kind of like that.

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Speaker 4: I like that.

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Speaker 2: There's a balance, you know, and I really agree that

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Speaker 2: it takes It's a two way street and it will

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Speaker 2: take effort on both our parts. So I really like that.

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Speaker 1: Anything else you want to say before we go, Simba?

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Speaker 2: No, thank you so much. By chat Bye bye Lyle.

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Speaker 1: Goodbye, Simba.

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Speaker 2: Thanks by.

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Speaker 1: Simba. Simba, Simba, sim Simba. I don't know. I don't

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Speaker 1: have a wife, I don't have a children. I'm not

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Speaker 1: in love. I don't know if I'll ever be in love.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if anything qualifies me to tell Simba anything.

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm just an old chunk of coal, just

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Speaker 1: an old green, crackly leaf, you know. Hello, doctor Gex, Hello,

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Speaker 1: how are you?

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Speaker 3: I'm good, sir, I'm go because I got this problem.

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Speaker 3: I've ran off, you know, I ran off about eleven miles.

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Speaker 3: I've gotta I gotta rip some the band aid up

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Speaker 3: until that, I'm not coming back and I need your help.

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Speaker 3: How do igue?

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Speaker 1: Okay? So you said you've ran away?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Where did you run away?

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Speaker 3: From the mountains of Idaho?

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Speaker 1: You ran away to Idaho? Or from Idaho.

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Speaker 3: From Yeah, you ran cold.

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Speaker 1: The mountains of Idaho? Because it sounds very cold. Where

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Speaker 1: did you run away to.

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Speaker 3: San Diego? Works worn?

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Speaker 1: That sounds like a a well informed decision. What what

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Speaker 1: was the impetus of that decision? Why did you Why

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Speaker 1: did you run away? Was it just the weather?

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm allergic to the cold. Eh, I'm better gets

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Speaker 3: as well, but I actually am. And it's called cold

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Speaker 3: d gardia and it's just not I don't do well

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Speaker 1: Mhm mhm. And so from what you've said, you you

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Speaker 1: left someone there? You left uh a woman who is

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Speaker 1: important to you in Idaho?

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Speaker 4: Is that?

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Speaker 1: Is that what I'm hearing?

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Speaker 1: What is What is home is where it's home for you?

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Speaker 3: Oh man, I must have been a nomad in my

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Speaker 3: I've lost a few friends over it. Because if if

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Speaker 3: And that's the way I was. And I'm having a

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Speaker 3: Oh, there's delivery.

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Speaker 6: You know.

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Speaker 3: I don't go out to the store as much, so

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I never had it. I never allowed people

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 1: Now, I have another question for you that I I

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Speaker 3: Like totally be comfortable with me. I just you know,

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Speaker 3: I Yeah, I'm doing many a woman's life. You know,

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm not to scale on the internet today and

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Speaker 4: Okay, bye?

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Speaker 1: So after four marriages and all these girlfriends, all these

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Speaker 1: What made you want to try again?

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Speaker 3: Ah? Dude, it's the sense of a woman, right. How

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Speaker 1: Do you have friends? Just people like friends?

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Speaker 2: You know?

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Speaker 3: I have a couple, but rarely do I speak to them.

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Speaker 1: Do you see one of your good friends once a

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Speaker 3: You know, I just talked to him on the phone.

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Speaker 3: I read. I read like a million pages a year.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, it's probably not. I'll be a bad therapist.

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Speaker 3: I really would.

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Speaker 1: Why do you think it would be a bad therapist?

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Speaker 3: Because I give them bad advice? You know, they are fight,

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Speaker 3: But here's that's the way I'm doing to me until

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Speaker 3: I not, No, no freaking way, I don't regret nothing.

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Speaker 1: So you have you didn't even mention that you didn't

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Speaker 3: I know I can't tell you everything. It's a little

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Speaker 3: balling you. I've been a prospector. I've dug four hundred

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Speaker 3: things that the old timers did. I'm old timer too.

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Speaker 1: Do you ever do you ever see your children and grandchildren?

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Speaker 3: I cut thousands? What's that did?

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Speaker 1: Do you ever see your children and grandchildren?

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Speaker 3: Mm hmmm? You know on messenger and stuff? Mm hmm.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're pretty tech savvy, super considering. Uh, how you

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Speaker 1: you're you're talking about doing all of being an old timer?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, man, I went to I've been to college a

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Speaker 3: I don't know education helps you to be more social

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Speaker 3: I'm a hard case house dick.

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Speaker 1: So do you have any any advice for anyone out

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Speaker 3: My dolly ideas, Jack, I got. I've got advice for

444
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Speaker 3: the young folks out there. Please don't don't get a

445
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:28,240
Speaker 3: job and work yourself hard to hurt yourself, you know,

446
00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 3: don't hurt your back working for somebody. Just if you

447
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 3: have to just be a bomb, you know, because you'll

448
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 3: be okay. You make enough word me to feed yourself,

449
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 3: you'll be okay. You won't hurt yourself, and you'll laugh longer.

450
00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 3: And then if you gotta get married, don't have children

451
00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 3: until you're in your late forties. If you have to

452
00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 3: just adopt a seventeen year old that kids stuff, I don't.

453
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Speaker 3: That's no way. Let me have great here. Yeah, so

454
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Speaker 3: there you go.

455
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Speaker 1: Did you have a hard time raising your kids? What

456
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 1: did you have a hard time raising your kids?

457
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Speaker 3: No? I believe with my youngest daughter. And she's an intelligent,

458
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Speaker 3: freaking person, I know. And wow, Yeah, she's an artist

459
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:26,800
Speaker 3: and she's you know, she's on top of her you know,

460
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Speaker 3: she's only twenty one and she makes several hundred dollars

461
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Speaker 3: a day, way more than I ever did it. Hurry,

462
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Speaker 3: I guess for sure. Yeah, successful young woman. She's married

463
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Speaker 3: to a pirate. She's nice too. Yeah, he's an actual pirate.

464
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Speaker 1: She's married to an actual Where did she where does

465
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Speaker 1: she meet an actual pirate?

466
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Speaker 3: You not Eyman wine right, and she told me that

467
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Speaker 3: she would never ever get married, and by god, she's

468
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Speaker 3: married again, you know, somewhere off over in Washington, somewhere

469
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 3: he was he's stationed there as a pirate and until like, yeah,

470
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Speaker 3: I don't think they get along just fine.

471
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Speaker 1: Well, Teelor, you said your name.

472
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Speaker 3: Was Killer, like a boat tiller or a road to Killer,

473
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Speaker 3: something like, you know, like that, that kind of killer Tiller.

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Speaker 1: Any any final thoughts, feelings, sentiments that you wish to

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Speaker 1: share before we go.

476
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Speaker 3: I think your show is really cool, doctor Gak, and

477
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Speaker 3: I'll continue.

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Speaker 1: Thank you very much to welcome in.

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Speaker 3: You have good evening you as well.

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Speaker 1: Shout out to Tiller. Very interesting, very interesting perspective, Uh

481
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 1: from Tiller. There's a lot of unpack out of that.

482
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Speaker 1: The idea of there's an idea that I think about

483
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Speaker 1: over time, where like you know, society tells us that,

484
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:14,959
Speaker 1: I mean, what is the thesis of every Disney movie,

485
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 1: of a lot of things, is that the most important

486
00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 1: thing in life is friends and family? But what if

487
00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 1: it's not. What about Tiller? He seems like he's having

488
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Speaker 1: a great time. I don't know if he's having a

489
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Speaker 1: great time, but he seemed like it. People can seem

490
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Speaker 1: like a lot of things and not be those things.

491
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Speaker 1: But I don't know. I'm not going to say one

492
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Speaker 1: way or the other. But he seems like he's chilling.

493
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Speaker 1: He seems like he loves. He seemed like he love,

494
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Speaker 1: He had love right. He clearly loved. I don't know

495
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Speaker 1: if it was his daughter or his granddaughter that he

496
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Speaker 1: was talking about, but he clearly loved her, clearly loved

497
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Speaker 1: his children, but also love nothing more than his alone time,

498
00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:09,960
Speaker 1: his books. Where the hell did she meet a pirate?

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Speaker 1: It was the one thing I wasn't sure about. Hello,

500
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Speaker 1: big gek, Hello is this Daniel?

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Speaker 7: Yes, this is what's up with?

502
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Speaker 1: Do not a whole lot? Is there anything in particular

503
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Speaker 1: that you want to talk about today?

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Speaker 9: I have a couple of things, A couple of things here, Okay,

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Speaker 9: tell me Number one. I just found out that we

506
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Speaker 9: have a marijuana farmer's market where I live. Okay, that's

507
00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 9: kind of exciting. I'm new to the world of marijuana,

508
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:51,000
Speaker 9: so I'm like, I'm kind of stoked about it a

509
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Speaker 9: little bit.

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Speaker 1: Daniel, you had a particular thing that you told the

511
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Speaker 1: call screener that you wanted to talk about and I

512
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:58,920
Speaker 1: can tell that you are sort of skirting around it.

513
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Speaker 1: Why are you doing that?

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Speaker 9: It's it's kind of the I don't know, it's it's

515
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 9: a little a little nervous thing. It's a little it's

516
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:12,200
Speaker 9: a little bit of a anxiety to talk about it.

517
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Speaker 9: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 9: I don't usually open up to the random geck of

520
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Speaker 9: the internet.

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Speaker 8: Mm hm m hm hm.

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Speaker 1: Well, Daniel, it says here that you have a crush

523
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Speaker 1: on one of your co workers.

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Speaker 9: That is true, This is true. She's she's very I

525
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:43,400
Speaker 9: don't know, she's she's nice, she's she lasts in my jokes,

526
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Speaker 9: which I think is is pretty stellar. She appreciates my

527
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:51,400
Speaker 9: meat both puns after after the singer died our ip.

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Speaker 8: And she's pretty cool.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm. So are you are you going to make

530
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Speaker 1: any attempt to to get to know her about her,

531
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Speaker 1: to talk to her about things, to go on a

532
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 1: date with her, to somehow action upon your crush.

533
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 9: So yes, actually, but she just broke up with her boyfriend,

534
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 9: so I'm trying to give it a little bit of

535
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:23,560
Speaker 9: time so that she can heal. But I did invite

536
00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 9: her to go to the farmer's market with me, to

537
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Speaker 9: check out all the weeds.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, so this so everything does ultimately come

539
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 1: back to each other. This there there there was in

540
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:37,640
Speaker 1: fact an element to you bringing up this farmer's market.

541
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Speaker 1: You've invited her to the farmer's markets to to go

542
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Speaker 1: buy weed. And how did she respond to that?

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Speaker 9: She just said it was interesting. It's it's over the weekend,

544
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:52,279
Speaker 9: so she's she's given them some talking to think about it.

545
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:55,759
Speaker 9: But she has been bringing up how she wants to

546
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Speaker 9: hang out with friends outside of works more and she

547
00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:01,200
Speaker 9: wants to really she invited me to go at her

548
00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 9: New Year's party. Yeah, so I'm thinking there could be something,

549
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:08,399
Speaker 9: but I don't want to you know, push my luck

550
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:11,279
Speaker 9: and you know, review all my cards and then have

551
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Speaker 9: it all cave in on me.

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Speaker 1: You know, why are you so adverse to I mean,

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Speaker 1: even in this phone call, you seem uh not, not

554
00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:23,839
Speaker 1: even in this phone call, or or or in your

555
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 1: interactions with your friends or with with people you're romantically

556
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Speaker 1: interested in, you seem to not want to show all

557
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Speaker 1: of your cards just in general.

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Speaker 9: I guess so, I'm I'm just kind of a reserved person.

559
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:43,720
Speaker 9: I feel like if I put everything out in the open,

560
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 9: somehow it could come back to invite me. I like

561
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 9: to have a little bit of a mystery too that way,

562
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Speaker 9: like I'm more intriguing.

563
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Speaker 1: Mmmmmmm okay, And and does your does I are not

564
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Speaker 1: to show all of your cards? Is it come from

565
00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:08,560
Speaker 1: a fear of showing your cards? Or is this an

566
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Speaker 1: intentional ploy to see in a certain way, Because to

567
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 1: be honest, I don't like.

568
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 3: Either of both.

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Speaker 8: Yeah I.

570
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Speaker 4: Could.

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Speaker 1: I feel like, why do you desire to to appear

572
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Speaker 1: more mysterious?

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Speaker 9: I think it just adds that much more interest for others,

574
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Speaker 9: Like like you know, people when they watch a show

575
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:41,279
Speaker 9: doing the show off on a cliffhanger for some episodes

576
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:43,520
Speaker 9: and you think, oh my god, what's going to happen next?

577
00:37:43,520 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 9: And it leaves you like wondering it's so interested and

578
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:49,040
Speaker 9: stay invested. I feel like if I show some sort

579
00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:53,359
Speaker 9: of mystery to myself, like well founded mystery. I don't

580
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:56,520
Speaker 9: make stuff up, but I kind of reserve just enough

581
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Speaker 9: so that you know, they could she could be more

582
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Speaker 9: interested and say, okay, so the one that like she

583
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 9: she's asked me all questions about you know, the next

584
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:06,840
Speaker 9: car I'm gonna buy and stuff, and I just I

585
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 9: try to try to leave some sort of reservation from that.

586
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:13,120
Speaker 9: But also, like I said, I feel like if I

587
00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 9: open up, they could be used to against me, to like,

588
00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 9: I don't know, exploit my insecurity.

589
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Speaker 1: Totally, totally, totally, totally, I totally hear what you're saying, Daniel.

590
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:30,239
Speaker 1: You know, man, I'm gonna tell you. I know, I

591
00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 1: just went on a hold shpiel about how don't want

592
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:36,440
Speaker 1: to give advice. But that's a terrible uh. I I

593
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:42,239
Speaker 1: unfortunately host what some may consider an advice podcast, But

594
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:48,200
Speaker 1: I will tell you in my own personal life, when

595
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 1: it comes to the realm of sort of uh, romantic

596
00:38:57,320 --> 00:39:03,880
Speaker 1: hobble gobble or not not even not even romantic hobble gobble,

597
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 1: business hobble gobble, relate, friendship hobble gobble, all types of

598
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:12,399
Speaker 1: hobble gobble, I have found that the more I can

599
00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 1: just be without trying to change my personality or strategize.

600
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 1: Everyone's very obsessed with strategizing the various ways they can

601
00:39:28,120 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 1: say this cool thing or act this certain way to

602
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 1: get this person to think that of them or whatnot.

603
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:38,680
Speaker 1: And I don't know about you, but I used to

604
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:40,759
Speaker 1: do a lot, and don't get me wrong, I still

605
00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:45,719
Speaker 1: do my fair share of doing that. But every time

606
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:50,000
Speaker 1: I find myself doing that, it feels just stressful. It

607
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:54,800
Speaker 1: feels just like, you know, I've been so much happy

608
00:39:55,520 --> 00:39:57,799
Speaker 1: in this situation. It's a lot of work to try

609
00:39:57,840 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 1: to seem a certain way, and I find myself happier

610
00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:08,480
Speaker 1: when I can just be and people, naturally, I've noticed,

611
00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:15,680
Speaker 1: will either be attracted to who I am when I

612
00:40:15,719 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 1: am just being or they will not be right. But

613
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Speaker 1: I don't go out of my way. I try, I try.

614
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:24,400
Speaker 1: I never want to present to any of this is

615
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:26,240
Speaker 1: if I'm the master of it, because I'm totally, totally,

616
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:28,719
Speaker 1: totally not. But this is just where I would ultimately

617
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:31,319
Speaker 1: like to be in my life. That's what I'm telling you.

618
00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:38,200
Speaker 1: I try to just be exist and not try to

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Speaker 1: seem a certain way to people, because it just makes

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00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 1: me happier. It makes me feel better about myself. It

621
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 1: makes me feel a little bit less like I'm putting

622
00:40:46,719 --> 00:40:49,560
Speaker 1: on a thing of a way to try to be

623
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:55,360
Speaker 1: and it just skips so many unnecessary steps. Like, for example,

624
00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:59,080
Speaker 1: something I've been trying working on lately, again not a

625
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:01,719
Speaker 1: master of it, but been working on it is if

626
00:41:01,760 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 1: I'm ever texting with someone and I find myself rewriting

627
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 1: and writing a text to try, like you know how,

628
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:11,040
Speaker 1: you know how it is, trying to craft the perfect

629
00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:16,359
Speaker 1: text that sounds the perfect way, right. I've decided I'm

630
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:19,360
Speaker 1: not I've decided I'm not gonna do that anymore. I've decided.

631
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 1: And I look at my text with people and I'm

632
00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:24,279
Speaker 1: like and every and I want them to look all

633
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 1: the same. I don't want to text one person one

634
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 1: sort of cool way and one person like more like RelA.

635
00:41:32,040 --> 00:41:38,000
Speaker 1: Just I just exist. I am, and people either well

636
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:42,080
Speaker 1: like me or they won't. But I'm I'm tired of

637
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 1: trying to craft the cool text, trying to say the

638
00:41:44,560 --> 00:41:50,480
Speaker 1: cool thing. It's it's exhausting. It's so much outward effort,

639
00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 1: where you could, instead, Daniel, focus on improving the aspects

640
00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:05,280
Speaker 1: of your personality that you yourself are proud of, leaning

641
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:11,000
Speaker 1: more into yourself and confidently trying to express that self

642
00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:15,360
Speaker 1: out into the world. Again, I'm not an expert of that,

643
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:18,239
Speaker 1: but that's the philosophy that I like to undertake when

644
00:42:18,320 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 1: it comes to things like this. So I get why

645
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:25,439
Speaker 1: you want I get why you want to create an

646
00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:29,239
Speaker 1: air of mystery. But here's the thing. This girl that

647
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:34,239
Speaker 1: you like, she's either going to like you or she's not.

648
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:42,919
Speaker 1: And in reality, the like the idea that you can

649
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 1: say some cool thing or act some cool way that

650
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 1: will change that is faulty, I think, and I think

651
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 1: you would be better off focusing on just being yourself

652
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:06,520
Speaker 1: as much as you possibly can and projecting that as

653
00:43:06,560 --> 00:43:09,680
Speaker 1: authentically as you possibly can, and then see who sticks around.

654
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:13,680
Speaker 1: It'll be a much it's a tougher journey, for sure,

655
00:43:14,320 --> 00:43:18,000
Speaker 1: but it will be a better long term strategy for

656
00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:20,839
Speaker 1: you than to try to see a mysterious what do

657
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:21,680
Speaker 1: you think about all that?

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Speaker 9: I think that's a very well put and very well founded,

659
00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:30,719
Speaker 9: because there are times when I'm talking with her, like

660
00:43:30,960 --> 00:43:33,560
Speaker 9: I'll bring up things about myself, like you know, a

661
00:43:33,600 --> 00:43:36,880
Speaker 9: playlist I made for my funeral, and like the things

662
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:39,759
Speaker 9: that just that are more about me and less like

663
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:43,480
Speaker 9: you know, act like made up or left to you know,

664
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 9: kind of persuade her, like you said, but like when

665
00:43:47,400 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 9: I have those types of conversations, it just feels more

666
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:53,120
Speaker 9: genuine and more authentic, and it's just a lot easier

667
00:43:53,160 --> 00:43:56,440
Speaker 9: to do. But the example that you had is text

668
00:43:56,480 --> 00:44:00,160
Speaker 9: is beautifully crafted. When you have to sit there and

669
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:03,320
Speaker 9: rewrite the text over and over. It just it doesn't

670
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 9: feel natural, it doesn't feel correct. So I agree with

671
00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 9: what are you doing yourself? And that's that's something that

672
00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:13,520
Speaker 9: I I kind of want to pick one up. So

673
00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:14,680
Speaker 9: thanks for shouldn't like.

674
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:17,839
Speaker 1: To that for sure, Daniel. I wish you good luck.

675
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:19,640
Speaker 1: And again, as I said, I'm not an expert of

676
00:44:19,680 --> 00:44:23,319
Speaker 1: these things. I'm trying to do them alongside uh you,

677
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:26,920
Speaker 1: So you know, I hope that I hope that that

678
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 1: helped inform something.

679
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:32,160
Speaker 8: It really did.

680
00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 9: It kind of opened up my eyes a little bit.

681
00:44:34,600 --> 00:44:37,360
Speaker 1: So thank you, appreciate it, Thank you for calling Daniel.

682
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:40,719
Speaker 9: Thank you enjoying it.

683
00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:44,319
Speaker 1: Oh fae, I cut him off before he said to

684
00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:47,680
Speaker 1: enjoy the rest of my day. Now my day is

685
00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:51,400
Speaker 1: gonna suck. I seriously do that. I fucking made up.

686
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 1: I made a promise to myself. I made a promise

687
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:58,480
Speaker 1: to myself and maybe you guys will join me. But

688
00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 1: every if I've ever if I'm crafting a text back

689
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:05,799
Speaker 1: for more than five minutes or something I've been doing,

690
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:09,120
Speaker 1: I've been doing this lately. I'll catch myself if I'm

691
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 1: trying to craft the perfect text or email or whatever

692
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 1: it is, and I'll go with the fuck am I

693
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:18,640
Speaker 1: just send it who gives it? Because at the I

694
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:25,719
Speaker 1: fucking genuinely believe. I fucking genuinely believe that whatever it

695
00:45:25,800 --> 00:45:27,400
Speaker 1: is you want from the person, whether it's you want

696
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 1: them to go on a date with you, you want them

697
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:31,480
Speaker 1: to be friends with you, you want them to work with

698
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:34,279
Speaker 1: you in some sort of business capacity, whatever it is,

699
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:38,719
Speaker 1: they kind of already will want to or won't want to,

700
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:42,839
Speaker 1: I think, And the amounts that you can influence whether

701
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:46,160
Speaker 1: or not they will or won't by whatever it is

702
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:49,920
Speaker 1: you say in your text, aside from the outliers, if

703
00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:54,960
Speaker 1: you like, say something that's completely crazy, you know, but

704
00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:57,319
Speaker 1: I believe that the amount of influence that you can

705
00:45:57,360 --> 00:46:03,319
Speaker 1: have by the crafting the perfect whatever it's kind of low.

706
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 1: Think about it like this. Think about the person you

707
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:09,759
Speaker 1: have a crush on, right if they texted you, you

708
00:46:09,800 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 1: would respond It doesn't matter what they It doesn't really

709
00:46:12,600 --> 00:46:14,759
Speaker 1: matter what they say. They could send an emoji, they

710
00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 1: could send a thing with five exclamation points, it doesn't matter.

711
00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:21,880
Speaker 1: You would respond why because you want to. It doesn't

712
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:23,880
Speaker 1: matter what they say. People either will want to or

713
00:46:23,920 --> 00:46:26,719
Speaker 1: won't want to. That's just what I think but I'm

714
00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:32,840
Speaker 1: a crazy get go guy on the computer. Hello, Why

715
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:33,319
Speaker 1: how are you?

716
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:36,080
Speaker 3: I'm doing well?

717
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 5: How are you?

718
00:46:38,800 --> 00:46:42,759
Speaker 1: I'm doing I'm doing good. It says here that you

719
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 1: are a therapist and you would like to talk about

720
00:46:44,640 --> 00:46:47,319
Speaker 1: the difference between what I do and actual therapy, and

721
00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:49,120
Speaker 1: I would love to have this conversation.

722
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:56,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'd love to have a conversation. I was telling

723
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:59,640
Speaker 5: the screener guy that I was super stoked to even

724
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:02,520
Speaker 5: get to that point because I tried calling many times

725
00:47:02,680 --> 00:47:05,719
Speaker 5: and have never been able to get through. And then yeah,

726
00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:07,799
Speaker 5: I was just I'm a big fan. I follow you

727
00:47:07,840 --> 00:47:09,480
Speaker 5: on the ground, follow you on stream.

728
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:10,960
Speaker 6: It's really cool.

729
00:47:11,960 --> 00:47:14,320
Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you. I'm excited to have this conversation.

730
00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 1: This is going to sound out of context when I

731
00:47:17,760 --> 00:47:22,200
Speaker 1: put it into a podcast. But we did just have

732
00:47:22,239 --> 00:47:26,319
Speaker 1: a caller call in saying that they were hanging on

733
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:30,760
Speaker 1: a thread, and I had to decline that call because

734
00:47:32,840 --> 00:47:35,360
Speaker 1: it felt a little bit too too intense for me,

735
00:47:35,400 --> 00:47:38,040
Speaker 1: and I felt as though I felt as though it's

736
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:41,960
Speaker 1: it would be responsible to take a call like that,

737
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:44,480
Speaker 1: even though you know, I do hope that person gets help.

738
00:47:44,760 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 1: What do you think about that, Tiffany, Yeah.

739
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:51,240
Speaker 5: No, I was actually watching that, and I was like, huh,

740
00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 5: and I felt very nervous for you and that conversation.

741
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 5: I think you handled it great.

742
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:02,799
Speaker 1: So tell me. You said the differences between what I

743
00:48:02,840 --> 00:48:05,359
Speaker 1: do and actual therapy, I I I, you know, I'd

744
00:48:05,360 --> 00:48:06,719
Speaker 1: love to hear your thoughts on all this.

745
00:48:08,760 --> 00:48:08,960
Speaker 3: Well.

746
00:48:09,040 --> 00:48:13,120
Speaker 5: I mean, I I've I view what you do as

747
00:48:13,239 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 5: as entertainment, but with you know, very genuine flair. I

748
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:19,440
Speaker 5: you know, obviously this is unscripted. You don't know who's

749
00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:23,839
Speaker 5: going to be giving you a call and uh, and

750
00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:26,319
Speaker 5: so you know, I think you bring yourself and and

751
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:32,320
Speaker 5: your reactions, your genuine reactions into that dynamic, and oftentimes

752
00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:37,040
Speaker 5: it's very funny, that's super hilarious, hence the entertainment value.

753
00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:42,480
Speaker 5: But I really appreciate your your kind of authenticity in

754
00:48:42,520 --> 00:48:45,080
Speaker 5: in these conversations. So as far as what I think

755
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:48,160
Speaker 5: is different between what you and I do, is I

756
00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:52,120
Speaker 5: operate out of a therapeutic orientation. I was trained extensively

757
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:57,279
Speaker 5: in uh, mental health, you know, mental disorders. You know,

758
00:48:57,320 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 5: I often work collaboratively with an entire treatment team, and

759
00:49:02,480 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 5: I mean I've treated things like suicidality and self harm

760
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:09,200
Speaker 5: and things like that, and have a kind of therapeutic

761
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:12,960
Speaker 5: orientation to operate out from to treat that. So, I mean,

762
00:49:13,000 --> 00:49:14,560
Speaker 5: I view what you and I do is very different.

763
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:16,799
Speaker 5: But what I really appreciate about what you do is

764
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:20,520
Speaker 5: this uh kind of genuineness that you bring into the dynamic.

765
00:49:20,600 --> 00:49:23,399
Speaker 5: And that's something you know. As a therapist, I am

766
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:26,280
Speaker 5: by profession, but I always like to tell my clients

767
00:49:26,280 --> 00:49:29,720
Speaker 5: like I'm a I'm a human first and therapist as well,

768
00:49:29,760 --> 00:49:32,880
Speaker 5: but you know, I try to bring my genuine self

769
00:49:33,040 --> 00:49:35,600
Speaker 5: in the interactions I have with my clients as well.

770
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:38,240
Speaker 5: So yeah, I mean, I think those are kind of

771
00:49:38,280 --> 00:49:39,879
Speaker 5: the big differences.

772
00:49:41,120 --> 00:49:44,919
Speaker 1: Does that what ever come to you and you feel

773
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:47,680
Speaker 1: as though you cannot help them?

774
00:49:47,719 --> 00:49:47,879
Speaker 4: Oh?

775
00:49:47,920 --> 00:49:48,560
Speaker 2: Absolutely.

776
00:49:48,960 --> 00:49:52,800
Speaker 5: Anytime I get into territory where I feel like, you know,

777
00:49:52,840 --> 00:49:56,719
Speaker 5: it's out of my expertise, I I really try to

778
00:49:56,840 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 5: understand my limitations and be very transparent out them. I

779
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:03,800
Speaker 5: think that's part of my my realness and genuineness in

780
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,800
Speaker 5: in my treatment is you know, heye, you're telling me

781
00:50:06,840 --> 00:50:10,040
Speaker 5: about these things and it is really not in my

782
00:50:10,239 --> 00:50:13,160
Speaker 5: scope of expertise. So you know, I do recommend UH

783
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:17,960
Speaker 5: treatment in X Y or Z area, but that happens frequently.

784
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 1: Mm hmm hmm, do you think do you do? You

785
00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 1: do you have a optimistic viewpoint that everyone can be

786
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:33,880
Speaker 1: helped or have you ever met someone or had a

787
00:50:33,880 --> 00:50:37,319
Speaker 1: client come in and be like, there is no hope

788
00:50:37,320 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 1: for this person.

789
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:49,319
Speaker 5: I generally have an optimistic perspective that's largely based in

790
00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 5: my therapeutic training and my involvement in research. I have

791
00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:58,600
Speaker 5: a lot of hope for treatment outcomes and treatment development.

792
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:02,239
Speaker 5: And I've worked and you know, really severe populations, and

793
00:51:02,280 --> 00:51:06,759
Speaker 5: I've seen progress and recovery. So I I do, you know,

794
00:51:06,800 --> 00:51:09,080
Speaker 5: And if I didn't have a sense of hope, I

795
00:51:09,080 --> 00:51:11,760
Speaker 5: don't think I'd be doing what I'm doing. That being said,

796
00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:14,880
Speaker 5: especially in the past couple of years of the pandemic,

797
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:21,960
Speaker 5: mental health has has really declined and it's incredibly tiring,

798
00:51:22,480 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 5: I will say, and I've felt more burnt out than

799
00:51:25,200 --> 00:51:31,040
Speaker 5: I have in a long time. But I would say

800
00:51:31,040 --> 00:51:33,279
Speaker 5: I do have hope, and I think it's it's not

801
00:51:33,360 --> 00:51:36,440
Speaker 5: a it's not a black or white answer either. I

802
00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 5: think there's certain populations that have worse prognosis and and

803
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:43,239
Speaker 5: some that have better prognosis. But it doesn't mean that

804
00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:46,960
Speaker 5: there isn't still a chance and that if you know they're.

805
00:51:46,840 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 4: Part of who I treat that I.

806
00:51:51,239 --> 00:51:55,200
Speaker 5: Have zero kind of hope in even some improvement in

807
00:51:55,239 --> 00:51:59,680
Speaker 5: their conditions.

808
00:51:57,800 --> 00:52:04,319
Speaker 1: Ms burnt out by m hm doing all of this work.

809
00:52:04,400 --> 00:52:08,920
Speaker 1: What do you do when you get burnt out to

810
00:52:09,120 --> 00:52:10,040
Speaker 1: revive yourself?

811
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:16,320
Speaker 5: Oh, I take vacations. I have a really supportive partner.

812
00:52:16,640 --> 00:52:19,960
Speaker 5: I just I really try to kind of distance myself

813
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:25,719
Speaker 5: and get myself out out away from work. I like

814
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:28,360
Speaker 5: to treat myself. You know, doesn't hurt to buy a

815
00:52:28,440 --> 00:52:31,640
Speaker 5: nice pair of shoes, doesn't hurt to you know, go

816
00:52:31,760 --> 00:52:35,000
Speaker 5: out to a nice dinner. It doesn't mean, yeah, I'm saying,

817
00:52:35,160 --> 00:52:40,800
Speaker 5: like treat yourself. I like just shopping. I like cooking.

818
00:52:40,840 --> 00:52:42,520
Speaker 5: There's a lot of things I like doing, and those

819
00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:44,920
Speaker 5: are all. You know, there's forms of self care that

820
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:47,879
Speaker 5: I think are a little bit more indulgent. And then

821
00:52:47,920 --> 00:52:50,279
Speaker 5: there's you know, the day to day, my.

822
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:54,799
Speaker 1: Dog, What do you when? What are you doing when

823
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:57,080
Speaker 1: you find what are you doing when you find yourself indulging?

824
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:01,880
Speaker 5: Oh? Oh, like like the fancy dinners. You know, like

825
00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:05,840
Speaker 5: fancy dinners or I, you know, treat myself as something

826
00:53:05,960 --> 00:53:08,800
Speaker 5: extra expensive. And yet it's hard because it's a therapist.

827
00:53:08,840 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 5: You don't make all that much money. You don't go

828
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:11,920
Speaker 5: into the profession for the big.

829
00:53:11,760 --> 00:53:14,160
Speaker 3: Dollars, but.

830
00:53:15,960 --> 00:53:20,239
Speaker 5: You know, I do enjoy just at least feeling like

831
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:23,080
Speaker 5: I'm treating myself. You know, I'm a.

832
00:53:23,040 --> 00:53:24,280
Speaker 4: Big dirict shopper.

833
00:53:24,400 --> 00:53:28,239
Speaker 5: I like feels, and so you know, if I like

834
00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:31,160
Speaker 5: go to you know, TJ Max or Nordstrom rack and

835
00:53:31,200 --> 00:53:33,680
Speaker 5: find something that was would otherwise be hundreds of dollars

836
00:53:33,680 --> 00:53:36,719
Speaker 5: that I've scored for like twenty that's like one of

837
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:40,080
Speaker 5: the most fun things for me to do. Hm.

838
00:53:42,480 --> 00:53:47,080
Speaker 1: Hmm. Okay, so you're a real therapist. You burn out sometimes,

839
00:53:47,120 --> 00:53:52,440
Speaker 1: but you go to the olive garden and fun shape.

840
00:53:54,120 --> 00:53:54,400
Speaker 8: Hmm.

841
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:57,200
Speaker 1: What other questions do I have for you as a

842
00:53:57,120 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 1: as a real therapist? What I'm doing illegal?

843
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:05,760
Speaker 5: I don't think so. But also I'm not a lawyer,

844
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:11,600
Speaker 5: so you know, I couldn't give you that specific answer.

845
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:14,880
Speaker 5: I don't think. I think you're very clear about what

846
00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:15,279
Speaker 5: you do.

847
00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:19,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I'm not a real Uh couldn't imagine

848
00:54:19,239 --> 00:54:27,640
Speaker 1: being a real therapist. That sounds that sounds tough. It is.

849
00:54:27,800 --> 00:54:30,400
Speaker 5: It's it's not an easy job. But I think the

850
00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:33,240
Speaker 5: training to go into a therapist helps me to feel

851
00:54:33,600 --> 00:54:35,120
Speaker 5: well equipped to do what I do.

852
00:54:36,360 --> 00:54:41,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I hate being a fake one sometimes, you.

853
00:54:41,320 --> 00:54:46,400
Speaker 5: Know, but to be honest, things like this, watching your

854
00:54:46,440 --> 00:54:48,840
Speaker 5: feed and following you is something I do.

855
00:54:48,719 --> 00:54:49,319
Speaker 4: For self care.

856
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:51,719
Speaker 5: I really enjoy what you do and it brings like,

857
00:54:52,360 --> 00:54:55,520
Speaker 5: you know, happiness into my day. And I've I've shared

858
00:54:55,560 --> 00:54:58,480
Speaker 5: your content with my other therapist friends and we all

859
00:54:58,480 --> 00:55:00,719
Speaker 5: get a you know, good laugh out of out of

860
00:55:00,719 --> 00:55:02,160
Speaker 5: what you do and it's really nice.

861
00:55:03,360 --> 00:55:06,080
Speaker 1: Well, damn, thank you very much, Tiffany. I appreciate all

862
00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:10,200
Speaker 1: the kind words. And hmm, is there is there a

863
00:55:10,360 --> 00:55:14,000
Speaker 1: before we go? I is there anything in particular else

864
00:55:14,040 --> 00:55:17,000
Speaker 1: that you want to say before before we depart and

865
00:55:17,040 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 1: never see each other again.

866
00:55:19,480 --> 00:55:22,080
Speaker 5: Well, you know, something I told the screener guy was,

867
00:55:22,480 --> 00:55:25,240
Speaker 5: you know, I'm calling the what I do with the therapist,

868
00:55:25,320 --> 00:55:28,360
Speaker 5: and you know, what you do is not always super

869
00:55:28,400 --> 00:55:31,120
Speaker 5: funny like this most recent call. It can feel kind

870
00:55:31,120 --> 00:55:34,080
Speaker 5: of scary. And I can't, I mean, I can't imagine

871
00:55:34,080 --> 00:55:36,960
Speaker 5: all your calls to be as like, you know, funny

872
00:55:36,960 --> 00:55:39,319
Speaker 5: and joyful. So I just wanted to know how you

873
00:55:39,360 --> 00:55:42,000
Speaker 5: handle things, and you know how how what some of

874
00:55:42,040 --> 00:55:44,120
Speaker 5: the things you do for a self care and you know,

875
00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:46,760
Speaker 5: take care of take care of your own mental health.

876
00:55:47,600 --> 00:55:51,360
Speaker 1: That's a good question. I was talking about this before,

877
00:55:51,400 --> 00:55:54,279
Speaker 1: but on Monday's stream I was falling apart by the

878
00:55:54,360 --> 00:56:00,640
Speaker 1: end of it. Uh uh. Today's stream, though it was great.

879
00:56:00,880 --> 00:56:04,319
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's hard because it really feels like

880
00:56:04,360 --> 00:56:07,600
Speaker 1: I'm rolling the dice every time I get on here where.

881
00:56:07,640 --> 00:56:10,359
Speaker 1: Sometimes I feel really great about things and I'm like, oh,

882
00:56:10,360 --> 00:56:12,120
Speaker 1: this is a good thing to be doing. And sometimes

883
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:14,319
Speaker 1: I'm like, what the hell have I gone and got

884
00:56:14,360 --> 00:56:19,680
Speaker 1: myself into by being a fake gecko guy thing on

885
00:56:19,719 --> 00:56:24,440
Speaker 1: the computer? But how do I stay sane? I don't know.

886
00:56:24,440 --> 00:56:26,359
Speaker 1: I wish I could give you a answer for that.

887
00:56:26,840 --> 00:56:34,359
Speaker 1: I've been trying to meditate more, journaling, getting high, ohthough

888
00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:35,960
Speaker 1: that's probably not a good one. I eat a lot

889
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:40,920
Speaker 1: of candy. That's also not a good one. Ah, you know,

890
00:56:41,080 --> 00:56:47,080
Speaker 1: just bad stuff. But trying to take breaks. Although I'm

891
00:56:47,120 --> 00:56:50,640
Speaker 1: conflicted about breaks. I'm very conflicted about the idea of breaks,

892
00:56:50,680 --> 00:56:55,680
Speaker 1: because a break, okay, like if I'm being very stressed

893
00:56:55,719 --> 00:57:01,120
Speaker 1: out by my job or by something that, let's say

894
00:57:01,120 --> 00:57:03,840
Speaker 1: by my job, and I'm like, okay, I need a break,

895
00:57:04,400 --> 00:57:09,799
Speaker 1: I almost feel like I'm escaping from the thing as

896
00:57:09,800 --> 00:57:14,640
Speaker 1: opposed to facing it head on and fixing the problem

897
00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:18,040
Speaker 1: where the problem is, because right like, I could take

898
00:57:18,120 --> 00:57:23,160
Speaker 1: a three week vacation whatever the fuck, come back, and

899
00:57:23,200 --> 00:57:25,600
Speaker 1: then if I'm not feeling good, I still haven't I

900
00:57:25,600 --> 00:57:29,000
Speaker 1: even fixed the problem. I've just escaped from it momentarily,

901
00:57:29,000 --> 00:57:32,040
Speaker 1: I still have to go back to it. So that's

902
00:57:31,520 --> 00:57:35,080
Speaker 1: my sort of thing about about breaks. I feel like

903
00:57:35,120 --> 00:57:38,640
Speaker 1: I'm pretty good at I'm pretty good at finding time

904
00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:43,200
Speaker 1: to think about things outside of the stream and live

905
00:57:43,240 --> 00:57:47,840
Speaker 1: a life outside of the computer. But still when I

906
00:57:47,840 --> 00:57:51,560
Speaker 1: come back, I'm still it doesn't feel like I've addressed

907
00:57:51,600 --> 00:57:54,160
Speaker 1: the problem. I'm like, escape, you escape from the problem,

908
00:57:54,160 --> 00:57:56,040
Speaker 1: and you come back, it's still there, you know. Does

909
00:57:56,080 --> 00:57:56,680
Speaker 1: that make sense?

910
00:57:57,920 --> 00:57:58,200
Speaker 7: Yeah?

911
00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:01,880
Speaker 5: I mean I think you have. You have a conundrum

912
00:58:01,920 --> 00:58:05,080
Speaker 5: on your hands. I mean, I I was thinking you

913
00:58:05,120 --> 00:58:09,240
Speaker 5: were going to go into a separate thought about about

914
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:12,240
Speaker 5: breaks and why they can be so conflicting, because I

915
00:58:12,280 --> 00:58:15,760
Speaker 5: feel similarly about breaks but in a different way and so,

916
00:58:16,560 --> 00:58:18,680
Speaker 5: but but that's not where I thought you were going.

917
00:58:18,800 --> 00:58:22,920
Speaker 5: And uh, and and it sounds to me like maybe

918
00:58:23,160 --> 00:58:27,480
Speaker 5: if the problem being work, which is what I imagine

919
00:58:27,560 --> 00:58:32,120
Speaker 5: this this streaming to be feeling that degree of stressful

920
00:58:32,200 --> 00:58:36,560
Speaker 5: for you. It's yeah, it's not something a vacation necessarily

921
00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:40,640
Speaker 5: is going to fix. There's something about what you do

922
00:58:40,680 --> 00:58:43,960
Speaker 5: that is, I think more inherently stressful, and perhaps that

923
00:58:44,040 --> 00:58:45,800
Speaker 5: needs to be like explored.

924
00:58:45,880 --> 00:58:49,400
Speaker 1: You know, It's true, I feel good right now. This

925
00:58:49,400 --> 00:58:52,480
Speaker 1: has been a good stream. I haven't very good for

926
00:58:52,520 --> 00:58:55,680
Speaker 1: that stream, so who knows? It's always like that's that.

927
00:58:55,760 --> 00:58:57,360
Speaker 1: I think that's the biggest problem that I have is

928
00:58:57,400 --> 00:59:00,120
Speaker 1: that what's the is like, what is the fucking I?

929
00:59:00,520 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 1: What is the x y X plus y times z

930
00:59:04,240 --> 00:59:09,680
Speaker 1: divided by Q equation? Like that I can always feel good,

931
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 1: but it doesn't I don't feel like I can don't

932
00:59:12,400 --> 00:59:13,960
Speaker 1: feel like I have a control over that. It's just

933
00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:15,760
Speaker 1: gotta's gotta go in. You's got to show up.

934
00:59:15,840 --> 00:59:20,680
Speaker 5: But yeah, yeah, I mean I think it's it's probably

935
00:59:20,680 --> 00:59:22,600
Speaker 5: a lot of things that contribute to you know, how

936
00:59:22,680 --> 00:59:26,240
Speaker 5: you enter in stream that that kind of primes you

937
00:59:26,360 --> 00:59:28,440
Speaker 5: for whether it's going to be good to some degree,

938
00:59:28,520 --> 00:59:30,920
Speaker 5: And then I think, whatever the dice rolls as far

939
00:59:31,000 --> 00:59:32,720
Speaker 5: as who shows up in your stream, I mean, I

940
00:59:32,760 --> 00:59:34,800
Speaker 5: don't know. I feel like some of that unpredictability is

941
00:59:34,880 --> 00:59:38,000
Speaker 5: some some that I something I deal with too, and

942
00:59:38,880 --> 00:59:40,280
Speaker 5: you know, there are aspects of my job that I

943
00:59:40,320 --> 00:59:45,360
Speaker 5: wish we're more I don't know, certain or stable in

944
00:59:45,520 --> 00:59:48,080
Speaker 5: some way. But it's also what makes it kind of

945
00:59:48,120 --> 00:59:51,880
Speaker 5: exciting and interesting. It feels like a new new thing

946
00:59:51,960 --> 00:59:54,520
Speaker 5: to figure out or kind of challenge myself with or

947
00:59:54,560 --> 00:59:55,919
Speaker 5: grow in some way, shape or form.

948
00:59:56,000 --> 00:59:57,720
Speaker 6: So it's a little bit of a double edged sword.

949
00:59:58,720 --> 01:00:01,240
Speaker 1: I agree with that. If are you going to invoice

950
01:00:01,280 --> 01:00:01,600
Speaker 1: me for this?

951
01:00:04,360 --> 01:00:07,680
Speaker 5: No, because this isn't therapy. I this is me talking

952
01:00:07,720 --> 01:00:10,240
Speaker 5: to you as a human. I'm enjoying this, and you know,

953
01:00:10,360 --> 01:00:13,160
Speaker 5: to some degree my my therapy self is a bit

954
01:00:13,520 --> 01:00:17,000
Speaker 5: inseparable from my human self. But I'm certainly not operating

955
01:00:17,040 --> 01:00:19,560
Speaker 5: out of some kind of therapeutic orientation right now. I

956
01:00:19,600 --> 01:00:21,960
Speaker 5: really I do appreciate what you're what you're telling me,

957
01:00:22,040 --> 01:00:23,800
Speaker 5: and I am thinking about how I feel in my

958
01:00:24,000 --> 01:00:27,120
Speaker 5: life to how I deal with my stressors, and you know,

959
01:00:27,520 --> 01:00:30,640
Speaker 5: really digesting your question. So you know this is more

960
01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:33,600
Speaker 5: open and transparent than I would, well I would. It's

961
01:00:33,640 --> 01:00:36,320
Speaker 5: hard to say I'm pretty open in therapy session. Like

962
01:00:36,360 --> 01:00:38,040
Speaker 5: I said, I like to be pretty real and keep it,

963
01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:41,160
Speaker 5: keep it really to be really genuine in my session.

964
01:00:41,200 --> 01:00:43,840
Speaker 5: So but that being said, like, no, this is I'm

965
01:00:43,880 --> 01:00:49,320
Speaker 5: not not thinking in terms of therapy. I'm not like hypothesizing.

966
01:00:48,520 --> 01:00:49,640
Speaker 6: Anything or anything like that.

967
01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:52,919
Speaker 1: Do you have do you have like a therapy brain

968
01:00:53,040 --> 01:00:55,320
Speaker 1: and a person brain where like, like if this was

969
01:00:55,360 --> 01:00:57,600
Speaker 1: a therapy session and I was telling you things, would

970
01:00:57,640 --> 01:01:02,480
Speaker 1: you be hypothesizing about certain things like diagnosing whatever it is?

971
01:01:04,040 --> 01:01:07,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I mean I definitely would be. I'm trained

972
01:01:08,040 --> 01:01:11,680
Speaker 5: to do like clinical interviewing, so there's sets of questions

973
01:01:11,720 --> 01:01:14,480
Speaker 5: that I asked for, you know, different diagnoses, and so

974
01:01:14,720 --> 01:01:18,960
Speaker 5: I'm really thinking about different diagnostic pictures. There's also structure

975
01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:22,720
Speaker 5: to my therapy sessions that you know, from session one

976
01:01:22,840 --> 01:01:25,320
Speaker 5: through session ten, in different stages of therapy and things

977
01:01:25,400 --> 01:01:28,440
Speaker 5: like that. So it really is much more structured and

978
01:01:30,080 --> 01:01:32,240
Speaker 5: clinical in that way I'm thinking in it, I don't

979
01:01:32,280 --> 01:01:35,160
Speaker 5: almost feels like a different part of my brain and

980
01:01:35,280 --> 01:01:37,600
Speaker 5: I am thinking about hypotheses. But I'm also telling my

981
01:01:37,920 --> 01:01:40,160
Speaker 5: clients too, like, hey, if if something comes to mind

982
01:01:40,240 --> 01:01:42,280
Speaker 5: as far as the diagnoses, I will be the first

983
01:01:42,320 --> 01:01:43,880
Speaker 5: person to talk to you about that. So I'm not

984
01:01:44,000 --> 01:01:47,200
Speaker 5: here to like hide that from you or anything. I

985
01:01:47,360 --> 01:01:49,240
Speaker 5: like to really be transparent about this sort of thing.

986
01:01:52,360 --> 01:01:53,760
Speaker 1: So what's wrong with me, Tiffany.

987
01:01:55,480 --> 01:01:55,920
Speaker 3: I don't know.

988
01:01:56,280 --> 01:01:59,040
Speaker 5: I wasn't thinking about it. I just really I am

989
01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:01,960
Speaker 5: like stars structs if I'm being completely honest, Like, I

990
01:02:02,040 --> 01:02:04,440
Speaker 5: got through the call and I was just like I

991
01:02:04,480 --> 01:02:08,160
Speaker 5: almost lost words what to say, you know, talking to

992
01:02:08,240 --> 01:02:10,000
Speaker 5: the streamer, and then at the end he's like, Okay,

993
01:02:10,000 --> 01:02:11,760
Speaker 5: I'm gonna put you in the cue, but just so

994
01:02:11,840 --> 01:02:13,120
Speaker 5: you know, you might not get picked.

995
01:02:13,160 --> 01:02:14,480
Speaker 6: And then my heart dropped.

996
01:02:16,600 --> 01:02:18,920
Speaker 5: I made it this far and it might not get

997
01:02:19,040 --> 01:02:21,240
Speaker 5: through again. And I've tried calling many times, so it

998
01:02:21,360 --> 01:02:25,000
Speaker 5: was just like fingers crossed, hope I get through. And

999
01:02:25,120 --> 01:02:28,320
Speaker 5: so yeah, I'm really just kind of stoked.

1000
01:02:29,560 --> 01:02:33,360
Speaker 1: Well, Tiffany, I'm so glad that you called. It's nice

1001
01:02:33,400 --> 01:02:36,160
Speaker 1: to hear a real therapist's perspective on this.

1002
01:02:36,520 --> 01:02:36,640
Speaker 4: Uh.

1003
01:02:37,960 --> 01:02:39,920
Speaker 1: I don't even know if I'm a fake therapist. I

1004
01:02:39,960 --> 01:02:42,160
Speaker 1: think I'm just a gecko guy. I think I say this.

1005
01:02:42,400 --> 01:02:45,440
Speaker 1: I don't like the name therapy gecko. We're kind of

1006
01:02:45,480 --> 01:02:51,480
Speaker 1: just here chat and you know, exist and breathe on

1007
01:02:51,600 --> 01:02:55,840
Speaker 1: each other and whatnot. But thank you for sharing your perspective, Tiffany,

1008
01:02:55,920 --> 01:03:00,920
Speaker 1: and for having this lovely com assation with me. Is

1009
01:03:01,080 --> 01:03:02,800
Speaker 1: is there anything else you want to say before we

1010
01:03:02,920 --> 01:03:04,160
Speaker 1: go to the people to the world.

1011
01:03:05,560 --> 01:03:08,440
Speaker 5: No, thank you, thanks for having me on. I'm super

1012
01:03:08,520 --> 01:03:11,640
Speaker 5: grateful and really happy and yeah, this just sort of

1013
01:03:11,720 --> 01:03:13,360
Speaker 5: made my night. So thank you.

1014
01:03:13,480 --> 01:03:15,320
Speaker 6: I hope you have a really awesome evening.

1015
01:03:15,520 --> 01:03:18,640
Speaker 5: And yeah, thank you for all you do.

1016
01:03:19,520 --> 01:03:22,560
Speaker 1: Thank you, Tiffany. I will try have a good rest

1017
01:03:22,560 --> 01:03:23,000
Speaker 1: of the night.

1018
01:03:24,200 --> 01:03:24,720
Speaker 9: Thank you too.

1019
01:03:27,080 --> 01:03:32,520
Speaker 1: We did it. We talked to Tiffany. Hello, is this Gregory?

1020
01:03:34,760 --> 01:03:37,360
Speaker 3: That means are you Gregory.

1021
01:03:38,920 --> 01:03:39,440
Speaker 4: Doing good?

1022
01:03:39,960 --> 01:03:40,120
Speaker 5: Good?

1023
01:03:40,200 --> 01:03:40,560
Speaker 3: How about you?

1024
01:03:45,160 --> 01:03:49,800
Speaker 1: I'm doing doing okay.

1025
01:03:53,160 --> 01:03:57,400
Speaker 8: You know you've come so different. I was just saying

1026
01:03:57,440 --> 01:04:01,200
Speaker 8: you sound so different maker and my phone verses on

1027
01:04:01,520 --> 01:04:02,800
Speaker 8: Twitch it's actually wild.

1028
01:04:10,440 --> 01:04:11,240
Speaker 1: What is your name?

1029
01:04:14,080 --> 01:04:17,040
Speaker 8: My name is greg What is your question about?

1030
01:04:19,960 --> 01:04:20,520
Speaker 2: My question?

1031
01:04:21,400 --> 01:04:24,200
Speaker 8: Well, I do have I I have one question and

1032
01:04:24,280 --> 01:04:26,840
Speaker 8: the story for you. I'm also I know you were

1033
01:04:26,880 --> 01:04:30,360
Speaker 8: talking a lot about you're a filmmaker and you started

1034
01:04:30,560 --> 01:04:32,800
Speaker 8: film school and stuff, and a question I have for

1035
01:04:32,920 --> 01:04:35,360
Speaker 8: you after just watching your chance for quite some time,

1036
01:04:36,040 --> 01:04:41,400
Speaker 8: what kind of film do you see yourself making? When

1037
01:04:41,440 --> 01:04:42,880
Speaker 8: I was do you want to get into directed?

1038
01:04:43,520 --> 01:04:47,200
Speaker 1: When I was thirteen years old, I decided I wanted

1039
01:04:47,200 --> 01:04:52,160
Speaker 1: to become a filmmaker. I made films with my friends

1040
01:04:53,120 --> 01:04:55,720
Speaker 1: throw all of high school, from when I was thirteen

1041
01:04:57,040 --> 01:05:00,280
Speaker 1: years old to like eighteen years old, all of Highchoo School,

1042
01:05:00,320 --> 01:05:06,600
Speaker 1: we made a bunch of films. And to this day,

1043
01:05:07,840 --> 01:05:12,880
Speaker 1: the process of making those movies is probably the hardest

1044
01:05:13,000 --> 01:05:16,320
Speaker 1: thing I've ever done in my entire life. I don't

1045
01:05:18,280 --> 01:05:22,520
Speaker 1: genuinely making trying because here's the thing. It's so hard

1046
01:05:22,600 --> 01:05:26,640
Speaker 1: to make a movie. There's so many things you have

1047
01:05:26,800 --> 01:05:29,920
Speaker 1: to do to like to do it, and when your

1048
01:05:30,120 --> 01:05:34,080
Speaker 1: crew is a bunch of fifteen year olds, it just

1049
01:05:34,320 --> 01:05:37,760
Speaker 1: it makes it harder. It's the hardest thing I've ever

1050
01:05:37,840 --> 01:05:40,760
Speaker 1: to do. And and then I went to film school

1051
01:05:40,760 --> 01:05:44,800
Speaker 1: and I made some films in college, and now I'm

1052
01:05:44,840 --> 01:05:48,680
Speaker 1: a podcast guy thing, and I don't, I don't, I

1053
01:05:48,720 --> 01:05:50,320
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm not gonna say I would never make

1054
01:05:50,320 --> 01:05:52,080
Speaker 1: another film again in my entire life. But I haven't

1055
01:05:52,120 --> 01:05:53,720
Speaker 1: thought about a kind of film I would I would

1056
01:05:53,760 --> 01:05:59,200
Speaker 1: make moving forward. You know, I'm not against it, but

1057
01:05:59,280 --> 01:06:00,919
Speaker 1: it's one of those things. It's one of those things

1058
01:06:00,960 --> 01:06:04,160
Speaker 1: where I every like when I was I'm sure when

1059
01:06:04,160 --> 01:06:07,760
Speaker 1: I was twenty I was like, when I'm twenty four,

1060
01:06:07,880 --> 01:06:10,360
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make a movie. And now I'm twenty four

1061
01:06:10,440 --> 01:06:14,920
Speaker 1: and I haven't made a movie. And now I'm like,

1062
01:06:15,000 --> 01:06:17,760
Speaker 1: when I'm in my late thirties, I'm gonna make a movie.

1063
01:06:17,800 --> 01:06:19,280
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get there. I'm not gonna make a movie,

1064
01:06:19,400 --> 01:06:21,280
Speaker 1: So it's never gonna happen.

1065
01:06:24,600 --> 01:06:27,280
Speaker 8: I thought you could take a happy you really wanted to,

1066
01:06:27,960 --> 01:06:31,440
Speaker 8: some kind of like comedy short film. Even I get

1067
01:06:31,480 --> 01:06:32,320
Speaker 8: see you making that happen.

1068
01:06:32,440 --> 01:06:36,080
Speaker 4: For sure, I'd like to.

1069
01:06:37,520 --> 01:06:39,040
Speaker 1: I'd like to make a movie at some point. I

1070
01:06:39,080 --> 01:06:43,680
Speaker 1: don't know if it would be a Gecko thing, but

1071
01:06:43,960 --> 01:06:46,360
Speaker 1: I like doing this. This is I will you know

1072
01:06:46,400 --> 01:06:48,640
Speaker 1: what I will say about this. It's a lot easier.

1073
01:06:50,880 --> 01:06:53,360
Speaker 1: And when I look for things to do in my life,

1074
01:06:53,400 --> 01:06:58,400
Speaker 1: I just look for whatever is the least challenging. But Gregory,

1075
01:06:58,480 --> 01:07:02,880
Speaker 1: you said your name was yes, sir, Oh holy shit,

1076
01:07:02,880 --> 01:07:05,080
Speaker 1: I totally thought your name it was not Gregor. I

1077
01:07:05,120 --> 01:07:07,080
Speaker 1: made a wild guess. How can I get you this evening?

1078
01:07:09,720 --> 01:07:13,920
Speaker 8: Yeah, So the main thing I wanted to throw at

1079
01:07:14,000 --> 01:07:18,000
Speaker 8: you is so I had my first official, official, like

1080
01:07:18,920 --> 01:07:22,520
Speaker 8: full ass adult relationship. It was like, I'm so yeah,

1081
01:07:22,520 --> 01:07:26,960
Speaker 8: I'm twenty three, and I never really like committed hardcore,

1082
01:07:27,240 --> 01:07:32,880
Speaker 8: had something very serious before. And I've learned so much

1083
01:07:32,920 --> 01:07:36,640
Speaker 8: about like my boundaries and like, yeah, just like who

1084
01:07:36,760 --> 01:07:38,840
Speaker 8: I am and also the things that truly matter the

1085
01:07:38,920 --> 01:07:41,520
Speaker 8: most to me and also kind of made me truly

1086
01:07:41,600 --> 01:07:45,320
Speaker 8: think about what my Yeah, well my real purpose is too,

1087
01:07:45,400 --> 01:07:47,480
Speaker 8: and what drives me is a human being. That's just

1088
01:07:47,600 --> 01:07:54,040
Speaker 8: been pretty incredible. But I you know, I recently broke

1089
01:07:54,160 --> 01:07:57,520
Speaker 8: up with my girlfriend about well, I guess she's my acidalit. Yeah,

1090
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Speaker 8: it's been a month's actually, And what I wanted to

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01:08:04,120 --> 01:08:08,960
Speaker 8: run past you is I created such a healthy dynamics

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01:08:09,040 --> 01:08:11,040
Speaker 8: through the way I kind of have an outlook on

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01:08:11,160 --> 01:08:14,040
Speaker 8: life and how I just how my values are as

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01:08:14,040 --> 01:08:17,320
Speaker 8: a human being, where I always am about I'm about

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01:08:17,439 --> 01:08:20,320
Speaker 8: just being as considered as possible, communicating as much as

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01:08:20,360 --> 01:08:24,160
Speaker 8: possible and not letting emotions get to me, trying to always, yeah,

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01:08:24,200 --> 01:08:28,000
Speaker 8: to be communicative, considerate and constructive always and for me

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01:08:28,280 --> 01:08:31,240
Speaker 8: kind of enforcing that mindset with also just within the

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Speaker 8: relationship with her, we kind of created this somewhat strange

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01:08:35,040 --> 01:08:40,000
Speaker 8: dynamic even after the breakup where we have yeah, well

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01:08:40,040 --> 01:08:43,080
Speaker 8: we are, chemistry is there. We still very deeply love

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01:08:43,120 --> 01:08:46,000
Speaker 8: each other, but like those red flags that would come

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01:08:46,040 --> 01:08:48,320
Speaker 8: across within that relationship are still there, and I'm trying

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01:08:48,400 --> 01:08:51,759
Speaker 8: my best to maintain cranny creating some kind of friendship

1105
01:08:51,800 --> 01:08:56,320
Speaker 8: with the amount of like emotional investment is so deep

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01:08:56,720 --> 01:08:58,840
Speaker 8: where it just like it kills me just that you

1107
01:08:59,080 --> 01:09:02,120
Speaker 8: think about her eventually being with another person as well

1108
01:09:02,160 --> 01:09:05,040
Speaker 8: as she that has the same feelings towards me and

1109
01:09:05,200 --> 01:09:07,360
Speaker 8: with being another person. But we're both like honored ship

1110
01:09:07,400 --> 01:09:08,080
Speaker 8: trying to do our thing.

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01:09:08,200 --> 01:09:08,720
Speaker 4: We both are.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, so this is interesting. But I was thinking through yeah,

1113
01:09:13,200 --> 01:09:15,240
Speaker 8: through hearing all of that, do you think cre even

1114
01:09:15,320 --> 01:09:18,519
Speaker 8: creating that kind of dynamic in relationship with making that

1115
01:09:18,640 --> 01:09:19,360
Speaker 8: super healthy?

1116
01:09:21,479 --> 01:09:21,840
Speaker 5: It is?

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Speaker 8: What is the possibility I know that possibility is probably

1118
01:09:25,120 --> 01:09:28,320
Speaker 8: not so high of continuing some kind of friendship, but

1119
01:09:29,600 --> 01:09:32,960
Speaker 8: what's uh, yeah, what's your read on on creating that

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Speaker 8: kind of safe space and that in that kind of

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01:09:35,960 --> 01:09:39,519
Speaker 8: intimacy and healthiness yet? Is it even possible?

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Speaker 1: My initial thoughts is, I think it's very cool that

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01:09:47,479 --> 01:09:52,080
Speaker 1: you've you've like gayined something from this relationship that you

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01:09:52,479 --> 01:09:53,880
Speaker 1: are taking with you.

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Speaker 3: Uh.

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Speaker 1: I don't feel like a relationship has to end good bad.

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01:09:58,800 --> 01:10:00,960
Speaker 1: I don't think that the way in which relationship ended,

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01:10:01,360 --> 01:10:03,320
Speaker 1: whether it was good or is bad or it was neutral,

1129
01:10:05,120 --> 01:10:07,240
Speaker 1: can have any effect on whether or not you choose

1130
01:10:07,360 --> 01:10:10,640
Speaker 1: to take something from it to benefit you as you

1131
01:10:11,120 --> 01:10:12,760
Speaker 1: forward in your life. And it sounds like you did

1132
01:10:12,760 --> 01:10:15,479
Speaker 1: that because you're saying to me, now that you've learned

1133
01:10:16,000 --> 01:10:20,960
Speaker 1: how to communicate better, your boundaries have gotten better, which

1134
01:10:21,040 --> 01:10:23,439
Speaker 1: is great. That's cool to hear because you can you

1135
01:10:23,479 --> 01:10:26,120
Speaker 1: can gain that, whether the relationship and the good or bad.

1136
01:10:27,200 --> 01:10:29,519
Speaker 1: So that's great, right, because if you're doing things in life,

1137
01:10:29,560 --> 01:10:33,920
Speaker 1: you might as well get something out of them, whether.

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01:10:35,240 --> 01:10:35,559
Speaker 3: Or bad.

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01:10:36,160 --> 01:10:37,720
Speaker 1: So I'm glad to hear that you got something out

1140
01:10:37,760 --> 01:10:41,360
Speaker 1: of it. That's the most important thing. I don't know

1141
01:10:41,360 --> 01:10:42,600
Speaker 1: if it's the most important thing. I don't know what

1142
01:10:42,600 --> 01:10:44,280
Speaker 1: the most important thing is. I'm go on the computer,

1143
01:10:44,479 --> 01:10:54,000
Speaker 1: but that is an important thing, all right. So you're

1144
01:10:54,200 --> 01:10:57,120
Speaker 1: so now you're in a point where you're like, should

1145
01:10:57,240 --> 01:11:00,439
Speaker 1: I continue to have a relationship of any kind with

1146
01:11:00,520 --> 01:11:04,680
Speaker 1: this person? Because you still okay? So let me ask you,

1147
01:11:04,800 --> 01:11:10,519
Speaker 1: let me ask you something, or rather, my understanding is

1148
01:11:10,600 --> 01:11:13,840
Speaker 1: that you love her, she loves you, blah blah blah.

1149
01:11:14,680 --> 01:11:16,840
Speaker 1: You can't stand seeing each other as at and blah

1150
01:11:16,880 --> 01:11:20,320
Speaker 1: blah blah. But you made the decision that now is

1151
01:11:20,400 --> 01:11:22,160
Speaker 1: not the right time that you have other things in

1152
01:11:22,200 --> 01:11:25,680
Speaker 1: your life to pursue, so you amicably broke up. Is

1153
01:11:25,720 --> 01:11:29,720
Speaker 1: that an accurate ish a description of what's going on?

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01:11:31,520 --> 01:11:34,320
Speaker 8: I'll give you the rundown, the upgrade version, for sure.

1155
01:11:34,840 --> 01:11:39,960
Speaker 8: What ended up happening was, of course, you know, constructive

1156
01:11:40,000 --> 01:11:43,759
Speaker 8: consider it right, you know. So what ended up happening

1157
01:11:44,000 --> 01:11:49,919
Speaker 8: was I literally ripped my health, my finances, my identity

1158
01:11:50,000 --> 01:11:52,800
Speaker 8: to make this person happy. Who and this person had

1159
01:11:53,080 --> 01:11:58,400
Speaker 8: a very heavy indexpectation and I was so well still

1160
01:11:58,439 --> 01:12:00,600
Speaker 8: I am still so in love and also had that

1161
01:12:00,880 --> 01:12:02,720
Speaker 8: those love goggles. I guess you can call it the

1162
01:12:03,040 --> 01:12:06,880
Speaker 8: facade of you know, like not seeing or well knowing

1163
01:12:07,040 --> 01:12:09,479
Speaker 8: the red flags and being aware of them but just

1164
01:12:09,720 --> 01:12:12,280
Speaker 8: diluting them, you know. And I know that's a pretty

1165
01:12:12,320 --> 01:12:14,680
Speaker 8: typical thing that we go through. But it got to

1166
01:12:14,800 --> 01:12:17,879
Speaker 8: such a level where, yeah, like I so I graduated

1167
01:12:17,920 --> 01:12:20,080
Speaker 8: film school, right, and I made my big Decis film.

1168
01:12:20,160 --> 01:12:22,880
Speaker 8: I was getting some traction, and I was going through

1169
01:12:23,000 --> 01:12:25,719
Speaker 8: doing editing gigs as well. So I'm sure you've also

1170
01:12:25,880 --> 01:12:30,680
Speaker 8: experienced you know, Tom sud film stuff in general, and

1171
01:12:30,960 --> 01:12:34,880
Speaker 8: just tind of trying to find that balance, right, and yeah, no,

1172
01:12:35,360 --> 01:12:38,360
Speaker 8: I noticed that. Yeah, it was just yeah, my life

1173
01:12:38,439 --> 01:12:42,519
Speaker 8: became trying to make her happy NonStop, and then I

1174
01:12:42,680 --> 01:12:47,320
Speaker 8: was depending on on yeah, depending on her, which is

1175
01:12:47,320 --> 01:12:49,680
Speaker 8: the first time ever I felt bad noticed as like

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01:12:49,760 --> 01:12:54,240
Speaker 8: I'd always yeah, I've always been so independent, and then

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01:12:54,240 --> 01:12:57,040
Speaker 8: I became dependent where it's like if she's happy, I'm happy,

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01:12:57,120 --> 01:12:59,160
Speaker 8: and it got really bad because I was just like

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01:12:59,360 --> 01:13:01,960
Speaker 8: selling merk me still time to loving. So one of

1180
01:13:02,040 --> 01:13:04,519
Speaker 8: that I'm happening is she she is she has some

1181
01:13:04,680 --> 01:13:07,920
Speaker 8: narcissistic tendencies, so she and some power kind of things.

1182
01:13:07,960 --> 01:13:10,600
Speaker 8: So she kind of like definitely took advantage of my

1183
01:13:11,000 --> 01:13:13,960
Speaker 8: my kind heart and my nice you know, mentality, and

1184
01:13:14,200 --> 01:13:17,320
Speaker 8: that's just how this kind of like totally went backwards.

1185
01:13:17,360 --> 01:13:19,280
Speaker 8: And what ended up happening is I took it to

1186
01:13:19,360 --> 01:13:23,280
Speaker 8: a whole other level where I love this person so

1187
01:13:23,439 --> 01:13:28,080
Speaker 8: much that I legit like wrote down journals all my

1188
01:13:28,200 --> 01:13:31,400
Speaker 8: thoughts trying to be as constructive as possible and helpful,

1189
01:13:31,439 --> 01:13:34,600
Speaker 8: and I literally like de coded why she says the

1190
01:13:34,640 --> 01:13:36,880
Speaker 8: certain things she does and why she's mean about certain things,

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01:13:36,920 --> 01:13:39,960
Speaker 8: and why like just like yeah, like I even provided

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01:13:40,000 --> 01:13:40,280
Speaker 8: all this.

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01:13:43,160 --> 01:13:46,640
Speaker 1: And all this stuff. Was that was that stressful for you?

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01:13:49,160 --> 01:13:49,280
Speaker 7: Oh?

1195
01:13:49,360 --> 01:13:52,880
Speaker 8: Yeah, of course, I'm balancing a few editing jobs, trying

1196
01:13:52,920 --> 01:13:55,840
Speaker 8: to get a more stable job. And then I got yeah,

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01:13:57,800 --> 01:13:58,360
Speaker 8: I want to go back.

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01:13:58,439 --> 01:13:59,800
Speaker 1: I want to go back to the I feel like

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01:13:59,840 --> 01:14:01,680
Speaker 1: I I feel like I kind of get what's going

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01:14:01,720 --> 01:14:03,800
Speaker 1: I want to let's go to the present here. We're

1201
01:14:03,840 --> 01:14:08,320
Speaker 1: in the present now. Okay, you're deciding whether or not

1202
01:14:09,600 --> 01:14:12,040
Speaker 1: you want to remain friends with this person.

1203
01:14:14,760 --> 01:14:17,920
Speaker 8: And I know that there's just heavy investment, heavy love,

1204
01:14:17,960 --> 01:14:20,599
Speaker 8: and there's like you said too, there's that there's still

1205
01:14:20,640 --> 01:14:23,920
Speaker 8: that love. But I'm fearful that I'm going to get

1206
01:14:24,120 --> 01:14:26,280
Speaker 8: just hurt more and more because this person seems like

1207
01:14:26,320 --> 01:14:27,600
Speaker 8: they're slowly catching.

1208
01:14:27,360 --> 01:14:36,400
Speaker 1: One know the full scope of the relationship. And again

1209
01:14:36,439 --> 01:14:38,200
Speaker 1: I'm only a get go on the computer. But here's

1210
01:14:38,640 --> 01:14:43,960
Speaker 1: my thoughts. You have a level of a level of

1211
01:14:44,160 --> 01:14:46,080
Speaker 1: self awareness, a level of I don't know what you

1212
01:14:46,120 --> 01:14:49,600
Speaker 1: would call it, but maybe maybe you would call it

1213
01:14:49,720 --> 01:14:54,960
Speaker 1: a desire for betterment, a lust for life, a lust

1214
01:14:55,040 --> 01:14:57,880
Speaker 1: for the future. I can see that within you because

1215
01:14:57,880 --> 01:15:02,679
Speaker 1: I can because you started this off by you started

1216
01:15:02,720 --> 01:15:06,080
Speaker 1: this off on a pretty positive note by saying that

1217
01:15:08,840 --> 01:15:13,000
Speaker 1: you found something of value from this relationship, that you've learned,

1218
01:15:14,840 --> 01:15:18,439
Speaker 1: something you've learned. How to communicate better, how to set

1219
01:15:18,479 --> 01:15:22,040
Speaker 1: better boundaries. That's what you said. You've added to your

1220
01:15:22,160 --> 01:15:28,720
Speaker 1: emotional skill set. You, I can tell, are invested in

1221
01:15:28,880 --> 01:15:33,519
Speaker 1: making yourself a better person and growing and in looking

1222
01:15:33,600 --> 01:15:37,200
Speaker 1: to the future. I can see that in you, and

1223
01:15:37,439 --> 01:15:42,720
Speaker 1: so I would say that if if you wish to

1224
01:15:42,840 --> 01:15:49,880
Speaker 1: continue investing in yourself moving forward, especially at the at

1225
01:15:49,920 --> 01:15:55,439
Speaker 1: this this beautiful age that you're at, that we're at. Essentially,

1226
01:15:58,240 --> 01:16:02,759
Speaker 1: I don't see any reason to continue having this person

1227
01:16:02,840 --> 01:16:06,960
Speaker 1: in your life if much of what you can remember

1228
01:16:07,400 --> 01:16:10,880
Speaker 1: from their time in your life is just stressful and

1229
01:16:11,200 --> 01:16:14,360
Speaker 1: is a heavy level of investment and codependency and all

1230
01:16:14,400 --> 01:16:19,120
Speaker 1: the things that you have just now run down to us, right,

1231
01:16:19,760 --> 01:16:26,920
Speaker 1: So yeah, I would, And it's not it's of course,

1232
01:16:27,439 --> 01:16:31,560
Speaker 1: of course, easier said than done. But I think you

1233
01:16:31,640 --> 01:16:35,200
Speaker 1: can do it because you've shown us that you're a

1234
01:16:35,280 --> 01:16:38,679
Speaker 1: guy who cares about his own self development. I would

1235
01:16:39,280 --> 01:16:44,679
Speaker 1: move and look past beyond this person into the great

1236
01:16:46,120 --> 01:16:49,720
Speaker 1: wide see of other people and experiences and opportunities that

1237
01:16:49,800 --> 01:16:53,519
Speaker 1: there are in life, as opposed to continuing to invest

1238
01:16:53,600 --> 01:16:55,759
Speaker 1: and be further dependent upon this person.

1239
01:16:58,280 --> 01:17:01,479
Speaker 8: Understood, I appreciate that, and I feel that I am

1240
01:17:01,680 --> 01:17:05,240
Speaker 8: slowly going through that process, like I've gotten things back.

1241
01:17:05,840 --> 01:17:06,840
Speaker 5: I like that.

1242
01:17:07,000 --> 01:17:08,920
Speaker 8: I was fearful that I was going to get back,

1243
01:17:09,000 --> 01:17:12,560
Speaker 8: Like I finally took action to commit to one of

1244
01:17:12,600 --> 01:17:14,800
Speaker 8: my next film projects, and I'm gonna start trying to

1245
01:17:14,920 --> 01:17:18,639
Speaker 8: get it producers, investors going for that, and that's what's

1246
01:17:18,680 --> 01:17:20,600
Speaker 8: kind of like, that's my purpose, that's who I am.

1247
01:17:20,680 --> 01:17:23,000
Speaker 8: So I'm like so excited for that, and that's kind

1248
01:17:23,040 --> 01:17:25,320
Speaker 8: of what's really keeping me going while balancing everything else.

1249
01:17:25,400 --> 01:17:27,320
Speaker 8: But yeah, it's just it's hard because there's just so

1250
01:17:27,479 --> 01:17:31,160
Speaker 8: much chemistry and love there and also she's not the

1251
01:17:31,439 --> 01:17:35,880
Speaker 8: most she could be. She had some impulsive tendencies as

1252
01:17:35,920 --> 01:17:38,760
Speaker 8: will also shoot ends up like being mad at me.

1253
01:17:40,680 --> 01:17:42,080
Speaker 1: Sorry, I'm sorry to cut you off, but there we go.

1254
01:17:42,200 --> 01:17:43,960
Speaker 1: I mean, you've got, like you know, you've got your

1255
01:17:44,040 --> 01:17:48,000
Speaker 1: film projects. You've got I mean, you've got like you

1256
01:17:48,200 --> 01:17:49,920
Speaker 1: you have a you you are building what I like

1257
01:17:49,960 --> 01:17:55,080
Speaker 1: to call it diversified life portfolio, which is helpful because

1258
01:17:55,120 --> 01:17:58,920
Speaker 1: you said that you had dependency problems and I can

1259
01:17:59,040 --> 01:17:59,920
Speaker 1: hear in your voice.

1260
01:18:00,120 --> 01:18:00,600
Speaker 7: I learned that.

1261
01:18:02,360 --> 01:18:04,160
Speaker 1: I can hear. I can hear, you can hear from

1262
01:18:04,240 --> 01:18:06,240
Speaker 1: all the things you're saying you care about developing yourself.

1263
01:18:06,439 --> 01:18:09,880
Speaker 1: You care about building a diverse life portfolio, and I

1264
01:18:10,280 --> 01:18:14,320
Speaker 1: encourage you to continue caring about those things and taking

1265
01:18:14,400 --> 01:18:17,400
Speaker 1: actions down that path. What do you say anamas again?

1266
01:18:19,479 --> 01:18:19,719
Speaker 7: Greg?

1267
01:18:19,840 --> 01:18:22,240
Speaker 8: Greg Or Gregory either or Greg?

1268
01:18:22,320 --> 01:18:24,439
Speaker 1: Good luck to you. And last thing I'm gonna tell

1269
01:18:24,439 --> 01:18:27,840
Speaker 1: you before we go, uh, don't wait for people to

1270
01:18:27,920 --> 01:18:30,800
Speaker 1: give you as a film guy whatever. Don't wait for

1271
01:18:30,880 --> 01:18:33,479
Speaker 1: people to give you permission to make things. Just make

1272
01:18:33,520 --> 01:18:37,400
Speaker 1: them and put them on the internet. Okay, Gregor, I

1273
01:18:37,520 --> 01:18:39,639
Speaker 1: hear you. Thank you for call. I'll talk to you soon.

1274
01:18:40,280 --> 01:18:40,519
Speaker 6: Hello.

1275
01:18:43,040 --> 01:18:45,400
Speaker 1: Huh Hi, this is Courtney.

1276
01:18:47,240 --> 01:18:47,760
Speaker 6: What's up?

1277
01:18:49,320 --> 01:18:49,439
Speaker 5: Uh?

1278
01:18:49,560 --> 01:18:51,080
Speaker 1: Courtney? How can I get you this evening?

1279
01:18:57,160 --> 01:18:59,479
Speaker 6: I don't know how to answer that question. I've heard

1280
01:18:59,520 --> 01:19:02,519
Speaker 6: you ask it a few times that I just didn't

1281
01:19:02,560 --> 01:19:03,680
Speaker 6: think it would ever happened to me.

1282
01:19:05,040 --> 01:19:09,400
Speaker 1: I you know, can I actually can I event to

1283
01:19:09,400 --> 01:19:10,240
Speaker 1: you a little bit here?

1284
01:19:11,720 --> 01:19:12,840
Speaker 5: Ye see?

1285
01:19:12,920 --> 01:19:15,599
Speaker 1: On one this is the real problem is the problem

1286
01:19:15,720 --> 01:19:19,479
Speaker 1: is that on one hand, this is this is this

1287
01:19:19,640 --> 01:19:22,160
Speaker 1: is ultimately the problem of like I don't really know

1288
01:19:22,520 --> 01:19:27,040
Speaker 1: what this stream is or what the goal of it

1289
01:19:27,200 --> 01:19:29,559
Speaker 1: is because on one hand, it's like it's free form

1290
01:19:29,680 --> 01:19:34,519
Speaker 1: conversations with people that don't have any sort that are

1291
01:19:34,800 --> 01:19:38,120
Speaker 1: sort of boundaryless, right. But then on the other hand,

1292
01:19:38,200 --> 01:19:39,880
Speaker 1: I'm kind of like, look, if you're gonna call in,

1293
01:19:41,040 --> 01:19:43,720
Speaker 1: you know I have something, you know, some something at

1294
01:19:43,760 --> 01:19:45,439
Speaker 1: least a little it's just easier if you have a

1295
01:19:45,479 --> 01:19:48,160
Speaker 1: little bit of something you know. And also you did

1296
01:19:49,760 --> 01:19:51,880
Speaker 1: Here's another thing is you did tell you talk to

1297
01:19:51,960 --> 01:19:54,439
Speaker 1: a call screener who I asked you what it is

1298
01:19:54,479 --> 01:19:55,920
Speaker 1: you wanted to talk about? And you did tell them

1299
01:19:55,960 --> 01:19:58,160
Speaker 1: something and it happened. And I don't I want to

1300
01:19:58,160 --> 01:19:59,800
Speaker 1: know this from your perspective because I get callers all

1301
01:19:59,800 --> 01:20:05,080
Speaker 1: the time time who are like who, I say, how

1302
01:20:05,120 --> 01:20:06,519
Speaker 1: could what do you want to talk about? And they go,

1303
01:20:07,320 --> 01:20:08,840
Speaker 1: I don't know? And I'm like, you just told you

1304
01:20:08,960 --> 01:20:10,920
Speaker 1: told the person what you want. Why are you telling

1305
01:20:11,000 --> 01:20:12,800
Speaker 1: me that you don't know if you told the call

1306
01:20:12,840 --> 01:20:14,519
Speaker 1: scare what it is you want to talk about. I'm

1307
01:20:14,560 --> 01:20:18,360
Speaker 1: not upset. I'm just I'm a little bit just baffled.

1308
01:20:18,400 --> 01:20:22,680
Speaker 1: And I'm also on my end figuring out because all

1309
01:20:22,720 --> 01:20:24,120
Speaker 1: at the end of the day at all, it's my

1310
01:20:24,240 --> 01:20:28,320
Speaker 1: responsibility all this stuff. So on my end, I'm like,

1311
01:20:28,600 --> 01:20:31,120
Speaker 1: how do I what's the stand? What's the bar here?

1312
01:20:31,280 --> 01:20:31,320
Speaker 4: This?

1313
01:20:31,720 --> 01:20:32,880
Speaker 1: This makes sense?

1314
01:20:33,160 --> 01:20:33,320
Speaker 8: Right?

1315
01:20:33,400 --> 01:20:36,400
Speaker 1: I'm not talking in loops. Right, this all makes sense?

1316
01:20:37,520 --> 01:20:39,439
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, I was just wasn't sure if I wasn't

1317
01:20:39,439 --> 01:20:41,960
Speaker 6: supposed to just like jump into it, you know, like

1318
01:20:42,080 --> 01:20:42,679
Speaker 6: I wasn't sure.

1319
01:20:43,520 --> 01:20:46,519
Speaker 1: There's no there's no supposed to. There's no supposed to,

1320
01:20:46,760 --> 01:20:49,200
Speaker 1: there's no rules. Maybe maybe I don't know, maybe I

1321
01:20:49,200 --> 01:20:51,560
Speaker 1: should set rules. There could be there could be a

1322
01:20:51,640 --> 01:20:55,000
Speaker 1: supposed to do. I could set rules. I could be

1323
01:20:55,200 --> 01:20:58,360
Speaker 1: like I could. I was watching I was watching a

1324
01:20:58,400 --> 01:21:01,320
Speaker 1: little bit of doctor Drew's stuff because we're gonna have

1325
01:21:01,439 --> 01:21:04,760
Speaker 1: him on soon, and he's very much like caller, what's

1326
01:21:04,800 --> 01:21:08,280
Speaker 1: your question? Okay, thank you, all right, And then I

1327
01:21:08,400 --> 01:21:10,720
Speaker 1: know it's a different style, but I'm like, well, I

1328
01:21:10,760 --> 01:21:12,400
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know what my style should be,

1329
01:21:12,600 --> 01:21:15,000
Speaker 1: but I do. I always go back and forth on it.

1330
01:21:17,600 --> 01:21:20,479
Speaker 1: But you did you did? You did tell the call

1331
01:21:20,560 --> 01:21:21,960
Speaker 1: screen or something you want to talk about?

1332
01:21:22,280 --> 01:21:25,200
Speaker 6: I do, Yeah, I do. I wanted to tell you.

1333
01:21:26,520 --> 01:21:29,000
Speaker 6: I think it was when you had attorney Tom on.

1334
01:21:29,360 --> 01:21:31,640
Speaker 6: You had a caller call in and they told you

1335
01:21:31,880 --> 01:21:36,479
Speaker 6: about the dude got pulled over and they found some

1336
01:21:36,840 --> 01:21:41,160
Speaker 6: like weed in his car and dude ended up and

1337
01:21:41,240 --> 01:21:44,080
Speaker 6: he got a DUI for it. He told him that

1338
01:21:45,040 --> 01:21:47,280
Speaker 6: he told the cops that he hadn't smoked in like

1339
01:21:48,040 --> 01:21:50,360
Speaker 6: like two or three days or whatever, and they're like, oh, well,

1340
01:21:50,479 --> 01:21:54,320
Speaker 6: that's it, Like you still get a dui. And then

1341
01:21:54,400 --> 01:21:57,439
Speaker 6: recently I was running around door dashing and I had

1342
01:21:57,520 --> 01:22:00,880
Speaker 6: a roadblock on a Thursday night, which was super cool.

1343
01:22:02,120 --> 01:22:04,920
Speaker 6: And anyways, I had weed in my car and they

1344
01:22:04,960 --> 01:22:07,280
Speaker 6: were like, oh cool, Well you have weed in your car.

1345
01:22:07,360 --> 01:22:08,240
Speaker 6: Are you high right now?

1346
01:22:08,400 --> 01:22:09,000
Speaker 5: And I was like no.

1347
01:22:09,800 --> 01:22:11,680
Speaker 6: They're like, well, when's the last time you smoked? And

1348
01:22:11,760 --> 01:22:14,200
Speaker 6: I was like, well, it's been like like a couple

1349
01:22:14,320 --> 01:22:16,479
Speaker 6: of weeks. And they're like, well, you have weed in

1350
01:22:16,600 --> 01:22:19,360
Speaker 6: your car and like a bowl in your car and

1351
01:22:19,800 --> 01:22:22,040
Speaker 6: you just say you haven't smoked, and I was like no,

1352
01:22:22,479 --> 01:22:25,080
Speaker 6: and just because I remembered the episode to make sure

1353
01:22:25,200 --> 01:22:27,760
Speaker 6: to say that it had been a long time since

1354
01:22:27,800 --> 01:22:30,360
Speaker 6: I had smoked. And they gave me like a field

1355
01:22:30,400 --> 01:22:33,640
Speaker 6: sobriety test anyways, but they're like they go and I

1356
01:22:33,680 --> 01:22:37,720
Speaker 6: didn't get it to UA. Oh yeah, yeah, they let

1357
01:22:37,760 --> 01:22:40,360
Speaker 6: me go. She said that she thought I was high,

1358
01:22:40,600 --> 01:22:44,200
Speaker 6: but she thought I was good to drive anyways, But

1359
01:22:44,240 --> 01:22:44,600
Speaker 6: I don't know.

1360
01:22:44,600 --> 01:22:44,880
Speaker 2: How you.

1361
01:22:47,120 --> 01:22:52,040
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, you know, I despite I might get

1362
01:22:52,080 --> 01:22:54,599
Speaker 1: some flag for this. But did you ever just forget

1363
01:22:54,720 --> 01:22:56,479
Speaker 1: the driving high is super illegal?

1364
01:22:58,400 --> 01:22:58,639
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1365
01:22:58,760 --> 01:22:59,200
Speaker 8: It doesn't.

1366
01:22:59,280 --> 01:23:02,840
Speaker 1: I mean it's easy to everyone knows that. Everyone knows that, like, okay,

1367
01:23:02,920 --> 01:23:05,800
Speaker 1: everyone knows that driving drunk is super illegal. It's one

1368
01:23:05,840 --> 01:23:08,479
Speaker 1: of those I was talking about this. I think I

1369
01:23:08,600 --> 01:23:10,200
Speaker 1: was talking about this on stream the other day. It's

1370
01:23:10,240 --> 01:23:13,000
Speaker 1: a very similar thing with texting and driving, like like

1371
01:23:14,560 --> 01:23:19,280
Speaker 1: like texting and driving is like you ever on it, okay,

1372
01:23:19,320 --> 01:23:23,120
Speaker 1: because the whole the whole thing is like you shouldn't

1373
01:23:23,160 --> 01:23:26,440
Speaker 1: text and drive. So when you're like going through Spotify

1374
01:23:26,520 --> 01:23:28,679
Speaker 1: trying to change the song and you're on your phone,

1375
01:23:29,360 --> 01:23:33,880
Speaker 1: it's like you somehow differentiate that from texting, even though

1376
01:23:33,920 --> 01:23:36,479
Speaker 1: it's the same fucking thing, just because of the messaging.

1377
01:23:37,600 --> 01:23:41,320
Speaker 1: Driving high it's like it's dui. It's super legal, totally

1378
01:23:41,400 --> 01:23:44,960
Speaker 1: as illegal as driving drunk, but you just forget because

1379
01:23:45,240 --> 01:23:46,400
Speaker 1: no one ever Yeah.

1380
01:23:46,400 --> 01:23:50,840
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, like I hear you, I absolutely hear you,

1381
01:23:50,960 --> 01:23:55,000
Speaker 6: and I totally agree. But also I got it right

1382
01:23:55,360 --> 01:23:57,800
Speaker 6: for the most part until I don't, but I had it.

1383
01:24:03,200 --> 01:24:05,640
Speaker 1: I'm even looking at the chat people. Driving high is

1384
01:24:05,680 --> 01:24:08,519
Speaker 1: definitely not good, but driving drunk is way worse.

1385
01:24:08,960 --> 01:24:09,000
Speaker 4: It.

1386
01:24:10,520 --> 01:24:12,840
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I totally agree.

1387
01:24:14,000 --> 01:24:16,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I just forget all the time that

1388
01:24:16,520 --> 01:24:17,720
Speaker 1: it's uh illegal.

1389
01:24:19,640 --> 01:24:22,160
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, like I'm not it's not defense.

1390
01:24:22,240 --> 01:24:25,400
Speaker 1: I know people try to defend it, and it's like

1391
01:24:25,960 --> 01:24:29,400
Speaker 1: I get it because it's like it's at the end

1392
01:24:29,479 --> 01:24:32,519
Speaker 1: of the day, it's not defensible. It's not defensible at all.

1393
01:24:33,600 --> 01:24:34,519
Speaker 1: But I do forget this.

1394
01:24:34,760 --> 01:24:38,480
Speaker 6: Right, right, Like I'm not like, you can't you can't defend.

1395
01:24:38,960 --> 01:24:42,120
Speaker 1: Say, you can't be like, Okay, driving high is not

1396
01:24:42,240 --> 01:24:47,360
Speaker 1: as bad as driving drunk, it's not, but you can't

1397
01:24:47,400 --> 01:24:51,360
Speaker 1: defend it. There's no without that, without being a crazy person.

1398
01:24:53,680 --> 01:24:56,479
Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, I mean like you kind of feel like

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01:24:56,479 --> 01:24:57,479
Speaker 6: an honest band like.

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01:24:59,600 --> 01:25:04,720
Speaker 1: Trying to I've I yeah, yeah, you can't, and I

1401
01:25:05,200 --> 01:25:08,360
Speaker 1: shouldn't ever do that.

1402
01:25:08,840 --> 01:25:09,560
Speaker 6: You shouldn't know.

1403
01:25:09,720 --> 01:25:10,160
Speaker 8: It's round.

1404
01:25:10,200 --> 01:25:14,120
Speaker 6: It's totally frowned upon. But it's likely to die and

1405
01:25:14,280 --> 01:25:15,240
Speaker 6: kill other people.

1406
01:25:15,880 --> 01:25:18,280
Speaker 1: Oh, do you less likely to die and kill other people?

1407
01:25:19,080 --> 01:25:21,439
Speaker 1: I mean, when you're driving sober, you're pretty likely to

1408
01:25:21,680 --> 01:25:22,760
Speaker 1: die and kill other people.

1409
01:25:22,880 --> 01:25:26,880
Speaker 6: But yeah, like ninety seven percent more likely than you

1410
01:25:27,000 --> 01:25:28,719
Speaker 6: are to die in your room. We were talking about

1411
01:25:28,760 --> 01:25:29,439
Speaker 6: this the other day.

1412
01:25:29,560 --> 01:25:32,320
Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, yeah, so.

1413
01:25:35,240 --> 01:25:37,840
Speaker 1: You know I would not I would not endorse it,

1414
01:25:38,760 --> 01:25:42,920
Speaker 1: but I it's one of those things. It's one of

1415
01:25:42,960 --> 01:25:45,800
Speaker 1: those things. Someone said riding a motorcycle of mushrooms is

1416
01:25:45,880 --> 01:25:47,879
Speaker 1: super fun. That sounds horrible.

1417
01:25:49,400 --> 01:25:49,519
Speaker 4: Man.

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01:25:49,640 --> 01:25:51,280
Speaker 1: This is why I want to place I can use

1419
01:25:51,360 --> 01:25:54,600
Speaker 1: the subway, man, because the subway you can get. You

1420
01:25:54,640 --> 01:25:57,960
Speaker 1: can you can you can be, you can be up on,

1421
01:25:58,320 --> 01:25:59,800
Speaker 1: you get as fucked up as you want. On this

1422
01:26:00,920 --> 01:26:03,479
Speaker 1: you can get no way, dude, that's believe on the

1423
01:26:03,720 --> 01:26:05,080
Speaker 1: subway and no one cares.

1424
01:26:07,720 --> 01:26:11,720
Speaker 6: The first time my best friend ever did acid, we

1425
01:26:11,920 --> 01:26:14,720
Speaker 6: were she drove like we thought it was going to

1426
01:26:14,760 --> 01:26:16,640
Speaker 6: take like an hour to kick in, because that's what

1427
01:26:16,880 --> 01:26:20,240
Speaker 6: dude said. And then we had like a forty five

1428
01:26:20,280 --> 01:26:22,240
Speaker 6: minute drive home, so we were like, sweet, we'll take

1429
01:26:22,280 --> 01:26:24,960
Speaker 6: it now and then like fifteen minutes after we get home,

1430
01:26:25,120 --> 01:26:28,479
Speaker 6: we'll start tripping. And it kicked in in like fifteen

1431
01:26:28,640 --> 01:26:31,920
Speaker 6: twenty minutes. Oh yeah, oh yeah. She like threw up

1432
01:26:32,040 --> 01:26:34,200
Speaker 6: like a whole shit time. As soon as we got

1433
01:26:34,560 --> 01:26:35,400
Speaker 6: like where we were going.

1434
01:26:35,520 --> 01:26:36,120
Speaker 2: It was terrible.

1435
01:26:36,240 --> 01:26:38,680
Speaker 6: I was freaking out. The passenger seat had a great time.

1436
01:26:40,960 --> 01:26:42,640
Speaker 1: Well, Courtney, what what do we think? I know I

1437
01:26:42,800 --> 01:26:45,720
Speaker 1: sort of talked a little bit over you in this

1438
01:26:48,439 --> 01:26:49,920
Speaker 1: What do you. What do you think Do you think

1439
01:26:50,200 --> 01:26:52,200
Speaker 1: we are coming away? Do you think we're coming out

1440
01:26:52,240 --> 01:26:55,040
Speaker 1: of this? But you and me not? Just don't just

1441
01:26:55,080 --> 01:26:56,720
Speaker 1: think about it. If you learned anything, think about if

1442
01:26:56,720 --> 01:26:58,519
Speaker 1: I learned anything. Do you think either of us learned

1443
01:26:58,520 --> 01:26:59,519
Speaker 1: anything from this conversation?

1444
01:27:00,200 --> 01:27:04,439
Speaker 4: H mm hmmm.

1445
01:27:05,320 --> 01:27:11,559
Speaker 6: No, I have learned nothing. Yeah, no, I've learned nothing.

1446
01:27:13,000 --> 01:27:20,000
Speaker 6: But maybe you've learned something. Yeah, yeah, But that's all right.

1447
01:27:20,200 --> 01:27:20,840
Speaker 8: We were I don't know.

1448
01:27:20,960 --> 01:27:24,200
Speaker 1: That was like a bull that you had that I

1449
01:27:24,400 --> 01:27:26,320
Speaker 1: established it at the beginning. There's no supposed to is

1450
01:27:26,360 --> 01:27:26,519
Speaker 1: in this?

1451
01:27:28,120 --> 01:27:28,320
Speaker 5: Yeah?

1452
01:27:28,720 --> 01:27:32,520
Speaker 1: No, I supposed to beautiful? Have a good according.

1453
01:27:33,840 --> 01:27:34,360
Speaker 8: Yeah you too?

1454
01:27:34,479 --> 01:27:35,040
Speaker 6: Get bye?

1455
01:27:36,800 --> 01:27:44,040
Speaker 2: Hello, listen, Hello, Hi, what's up?

1456
01:27:48,960 --> 01:27:49,519
Speaker 4: Can you hear me?

1457
01:27:51,640 --> 01:27:52,000
Speaker 1: Tyler?

1458
01:27:54,840 --> 01:27:55,080
Speaker 7: Yeah?

1459
01:27:56,080 --> 01:27:56,599
Speaker 1: How's it going?

1460
01:27:57,720 --> 01:27:58,280
Speaker 7: How's it going?

1461
01:28:00,120 --> 01:28:02,080
Speaker 1: It's going good, It's going good.

1462
01:28:05,040 --> 01:28:05,960
Speaker 7: You look a bit stressed?

1463
01:28:06,520 --> 01:28:07,080
Speaker 1: Do I really?

1464
01:28:09,800 --> 01:28:10,000
Speaker 4: You do?

1465
01:28:10,840 --> 01:28:12,400
Speaker 7: Like you're annoyed with some callers today?

1466
01:28:13,439 --> 01:28:19,240
Speaker 1: I don't do. What about can you like sort of

1467
01:28:19,240 --> 01:28:21,120
Speaker 1: cut to the bone about what about that is?

1468
01:28:21,320 --> 01:28:22,680
Speaker 2: Like? Like?

1469
01:28:22,840 --> 01:28:24,720
Speaker 1: Is it is it my body language? Is it my

1470
01:28:24,800 --> 01:28:25,559
Speaker 1: tone of voice?

1471
01:28:25,600 --> 01:28:25,640
Speaker 4: Like?

1472
01:28:25,720 --> 01:28:28,040
Speaker 1: What what is it that's that's signaling that too?

1473
01:28:31,439 --> 01:28:32,639
Speaker 7: Maybe your body language?

1474
01:28:34,000 --> 01:28:36,639
Speaker 1: I feel like my body language is pretty like stagnant,

1475
01:28:36,720 --> 01:28:39,920
Speaker 1: like I don't pretty calm. Yeah, I feel like it's

1476
01:28:39,960 --> 01:28:42,280
Speaker 1: pretty calm. I mean it's is it my It's got

1477
01:28:42,320 --> 01:28:45,120
Speaker 1: to be a tone of voice thing, because I actually

1478
01:28:45,120 --> 01:28:46,439
Speaker 1: I kind of see it to myself a little bit.

1479
01:28:46,920 --> 01:28:56,599
Speaker 7: No, I think you're good, but seeing a little stressed,

1480
01:28:57,640 --> 01:29:00,120
Speaker 7: like maybe you don't want to do phone calls for

1481
01:29:00,200 --> 01:29:01,960
Speaker 7: a while and do cooking.

1482
01:29:04,240 --> 01:29:05,600
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think. I don't really know if I

1483
01:29:05,600 --> 01:29:06,280
Speaker 1: can cook anything.

1484
01:29:09,120 --> 01:29:09,800
Speaker 7: It's pretty good.

1485
01:29:11,840 --> 01:29:12,880
Speaker 1: I have to pee, maybe that.

1486
01:29:12,920 --> 01:29:13,240
Speaker 2: Could be it.

1487
01:29:13,600 --> 01:29:17,400
Speaker 7: Gotta have confidence in your cooking. Yeah, no, don't drink

1488
01:29:17,439 --> 01:29:17,760
Speaker 7: your pea.

1489
01:29:22,880 --> 01:29:29,960
Speaker 1: Jackson Jackson.

1490
01:29:32,400 --> 01:29:34,600
Speaker 8: Jackson, Oh, Tyler.

1491
01:29:37,160 --> 01:29:37,559
Speaker 7: Yes, sir?

1492
01:29:37,760 --> 01:29:38,120
Speaker 1: What's up?

1493
01:29:41,400 --> 01:29:43,000
Speaker 7: What do you think about the trucking industry?

1494
01:29:43,680 --> 01:29:45,839
Speaker 1: What do I think about the trucking industry?

1495
01:29:45,960 --> 01:29:46,000
Speaker 7: Like?

1496
01:29:46,080 --> 01:29:46,799
Speaker 1: What are my opinions?

1497
01:29:46,880 --> 01:29:47,240
Speaker 4: Like in what?

1498
01:29:47,479 --> 01:29:50,759
Speaker 1: In what sense? The odd? Actually, you don't even that whatever,

1499
01:29:51,080 --> 01:29:54,560
Speaker 1: whatever sense, whatever sense you would be referring to. I

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01:29:54,680 --> 01:29:57,400
Speaker 1: have no opinion on it. I've never driven a truck myself.

1501
01:29:58,720 --> 01:30:03,080
Speaker 1: I haven't interacted with many trucks, and I I don't

1502
01:30:03,080 --> 01:30:04,360
Speaker 1: I don't have that much of a depinion on it,

1503
01:30:04,640 --> 01:30:05,160
Speaker 1: to be honest.

1504
01:30:07,080 --> 01:30:12,240
Speaker 7: Well, I am a truck driver. I was wondering what's

1505
01:30:12,280 --> 01:30:13,880
Speaker 7: your thoughts on road rage?

1506
01:30:16,040 --> 01:30:20,439
Speaker 1: M Hm, Tyler, is this are you asking me your thoughts?

1507
01:30:20,880 --> 01:30:21,040
Speaker 5: Are you?

1508
01:30:21,120 --> 01:30:22,760
Speaker 1: Are you asking me my thoughts? And I'm this is

1509
01:30:22,840 --> 01:30:26,720
Speaker 1: not a hostile response. I'm genuinely genuine curious. Are you

1510
01:30:26,840 --> 01:30:31,560
Speaker 1: asking me these questions to set up your thoughts on

1511
01:30:31,600 --> 01:30:35,600
Speaker 1: the trucking industry and road rage? Because you don't have

1512
01:30:35,720 --> 01:30:37,719
Speaker 1: to do that. You can just tell me your thoughts industry.

1513
01:30:38,160 --> 01:30:39,360
Speaker 1: You can just you can just tell you can just

1514
01:30:39,439 --> 01:30:41,000
Speaker 1: tell me. We don't have to you don't have to

1515
01:30:42,600 --> 01:30:45,160
Speaker 1: set it up, like what do you think? Here's what

1516
01:30:45,240 --> 01:30:45,599
Speaker 1: I think.

1517
01:30:45,720 --> 01:30:48,360
Speaker 7: You can just tell it wasn't necessarily set up to that.

1518
01:30:50,720 --> 01:30:52,400
Speaker 1: I didn't say that to be a dif just why

1519
01:30:53,760 --> 01:30:54,840
Speaker 1: to let you know, no, no.

1520
01:30:55,160 --> 01:30:55,479
Speaker 5: You're good.

1521
01:30:55,760 --> 01:31:01,559
Speaker 7: I didn't catch that at all. Anyways, Alma, truck driver

1522
01:31:03,439 --> 01:31:11,120
Speaker 7: deal with a love distracted drivers out there, which is

1523
01:31:11,200 --> 01:31:13,680
Speaker 7: kind of unfortunate. See a lot of people texting and driving.

1524
01:31:15,320 --> 01:31:16,600
Speaker 1: About one hundred.

1525
01:31:18,040 --> 01:31:18,360
Speaker 7: Driving.

1526
01:31:19,880 --> 01:31:23,080
Speaker 1: You know what is a horrible thing that I do

1527
01:31:23,240 --> 01:31:25,760
Speaker 1: that I think a lot of people do is I

1528
01:31:26,000 --> 01:31:30,920
Speaker 1: think the whole, the whole, it's the dumbest thing of

1529
01:31:30,920 --> 01:31:35,560
Speaker 1: all time, the whole texting, the sentiment as like we

1530
01:31:35,600 --> 01:31:39,680
Speaker 1: should not text and drive, right, that's been like it's

1531
01:31:39,720 --> 01:31:43,160
Speaker 1: on the billboards, is what the PSAs are. No texting

1532
01:31:43,240 --> 01:31:48,920
Speaker 1: and driving. So people now have it in their head subconsciously.

1533
01:31:49,160 --> 01:31:54,960
Speaker 1: If you're using your phone but you're not texting, it's fine.

1534
01:31:55,240 --> 01:31:57,280
Speaker 1: Like you can like in the Instagram. If you're on

1535
01:31:57,400 --> 01:31:59,360
Speaker 1: Instagram and you're like talking to someone of her d

1536
01:31:59,520 --> 01:32:01,439
Speaker 1: MS while you're in the car, it's fine. You're not

1537
01:32:01,520 --> 01:32:05,920
Speaker 1: texting your Instagram direct messaging and driving. There's no billboard that.

1538
01:32:06,760 --> 01:32:10,040
Speaker 1: If you're changing the song on your on your iPod,

1539
01:32:10,880 --> 01:32:14,439
Speaker 1: there's no billboard against that. You know, if you're watching

1540
01:32:14,560 --> 01:32:21,880
Speaker 1: TikTok while driving, no billboard. So as long as you're

1541
01:32:21,960 --> 01:32:26,479
Speaker 1: not like literally texting, even if you're if you're messaging

1542
01:32:26,560 --> 01:32:29,120
Speaker 1: someone with another iPhone, that's not texting and driving. That's

1543
01:32:29,160 --> 01:32:32,280
Speaker 1: eye message. That's fine. There's no law.

1544
01:32:32,200 --> 01:32:39,880
Speaker 7: Against that, no billboard up on it. But I do

1545
01:32:40,040 --> 01:32:40,800
Speaker 7: call those people in.

1546
01:32:41,720 --> 01:32:48,559
Speaker 1: You call them in. Oh yeah, you seem to have.

1547
01:32:49,040 --> 01:32:51,320
Speaker 7: Some pretty almost pretty damn close.

1548
01:32:51,160 --> 01:32:53,639
Speaker 1: Accidents, really, but on account of people texting.

1549
01:32:53,439 --> 01:32:59,400
Speaker 7: And driving, oh yeah, swervings almost sides swapping each other

1550
01:33:00,240 --> 01:33:02,360
Speaker 7: changing lanes at the same time, but they're both texting

1551
01:33:02,360 --> 01:33:06,800
Speaker 7: and drive not paying attention. It's ridiculous. It's stressful out there.

1552
01:33:07,040 --> 01:33:11,160
Speaker 1: To be honest, it says here that sometimes it says

1553
01:33:11,200 --> 01:33:14,160
Speaker 1: here sometimes that you will see people jerking off in traffic.

1554
01:33:16,560 --> 01:33:17,840
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, I've seen it like twice.

1555
01:33:17,880 --> 01:33:19,840
Speaker 8: Now, Oh my.

1556
01:33:19,920 --> 01:33:23,120
Speaker 1: God, I feel there. Hold on, I could have sworn

1557
01:33:23,160 --> 01:33:27,400
Speaker 1: there was a caller in the queue who wanted to

1558
01:33:27,439 --> 01:33:29,200
Speaker 1: talk about how he jerked off in traffic.

1559
01:33:32,439 --> 01:33:33,040
Speaker 7: Fuck that guy.

1560
01:33:34,680 --> 01:33:39,120
Speaker 1: Hold on, it's wait when you say when you say jerking,

1561
01:33:39,120 --> 01:33:43,679
Speaker 1: I don't mean the person tim Was there a caller

1562
01:33:43,720 --> 01:33:45,519
Speaker 1: who wanted to jerk off in traffic? I swore I

1563
01:33:45,560 --> 01:33:49,200
Speaker 1: could have sworn I saw it a call with that.

1564
01:33:49,560 --> 01:33:51,759
Speaker 7: It's so, I guess more power to him, but pay attention.

1565
01:33:54,080 --> 01:33:57,880
Speaker 1: Well, okay, when you say jerking off trafficks, do you

1566
01:33:58,000 --> 01:34:03,680
Speaker 1: mean jerking off like in when we say traffic, like

1567
01:34:03,760 --> 01:34:05,840
Speaker 1: how is the cars moving?

1568
01:34:05,920 --> 01:34:08,679
Speaker 4: Or are we like in traffic traffic in cities?

1569
01:34:09,600 --> 01:34:14,599
Speaker 1: Oh okay, So we're not talking like you know, moving

1570
01:34:14,920 --> 01:34:20,200
Speaker 1: very slowly traffic. We're talking like you know, at a

1571
01:34:20,280 --> 01:34:20,720
Speaker 1: red light.

1572
01:34:22,520 --> 01:34:23,160
Speaker 7: It's not faster.

1573
01:34:23,680 --> 01:34:26,160
Speaker 1: Okay, So jerking off while your car is going seventy

1574
01:34:26,200 --> 01:34:26,639
Speaker 1: miles an.

1575
01:34:26,520 --> 01:34:29,519
Speaker 7: Hour, damn right?

1576
01:34:30,000 --> 01:34:35,439
Speaker 1: Better than texting because you don't have to look because

1577
01:34:35,439 --> 01:34:38,960
Speaker 1: you don't have I disagree, because you can just you

1578
01:34:39,040 --> 01:34:43,960
Speaker 1: can because you can look forward and masturbate while driving,

1579
01:34:44,120 --> 01:34:45,799
Speaker 1: but you can if you're on texting.

1580
01:34:45,880 --> 01:34:46,400
Speaker 4: You have to.

1581
01:34:47,600 --> 01:34:50,680
Speaker 1: You have to, you know, you have to look at

1582
01:34:50,680 --> 01:34:51,080
Speaker 1: your phone.

1583
01:34:55,000 --> 01:34:57,600
Speaker 7: Well, what's jerking off them? There was one guy that

1584
01:34:57,760 --> 01:35:01,240
Speaker 7: was watching porn while jerking while driving down the road.

1585
01:35:01,280 --> 01:35:03,240
Speaker 7: This was at night, so I could see clearly into

1586
01:35:03,320 --> 01:35:03,639
Speaker 7: his car.

1587
01:35:05,560 --> 01:35:10,920
Speaker 1: Mmm, and no. Part of it was like it's kind

1588
01:35:10,960 --> 01:35:11,439
Speaker 1: of efficient.

1589
01:35:15,680 --> 01:35:17,519
Speaker 7: Part of me was like it was kind of efficient.

1590
01:35:17,760 --> 01:35:20,559
Speaker 7: But at the same time I was like, come on, man,

1591
01:35:23,320 --> 01:35:25,320
Speaker 7: so you maintaining his lane all too well?

1592
01:35:25,560 --> 01:35:28,040
Speaker 1: And so you said you you typically report people like that.

1593
01:35:31,200 --> 01:35:32,400
Speaker 7: I did not report those two.

1594
01:35:33,840 --> 01:35:36,599
Speaker 1: Who was the who was the last person that you reported?

1595
01:35:41,560 --> 01:35:43,839
Speaker 7: Another trucker actually littering?

1596
01:35:47,120 --> 01:35:49,360
Speaker 1: You're reporting them for littering. And when you when you

1597
01:35:49,479 --> 01:35:58,080
Speaker 1: make these reports, what typically follows? Are these reports actioned

1598
01:35:58,160 --> 01:35:59,400
Speaker 1: upon or are they forgotten?

1599
01:36:02,640 --> 01:36:04,920
Speaker 7: I think the littering one was forgotten about. But one

1600
01:36:05,960 --> 01:36:09,120
Speaker 7: I was a reckless drunk driver. I'm pretty sure he

1601
01:36:09,280 --> 01:36:11,559
Speaker 7: was swerving hard through traffic. People were having a hard

1602
01:36:11,600 --> 01:36:14,439
Speaker 7: time passing him. I called his ass in up in

1603
01:36:14,520 --> 01:36:16,559
Speaker 7: Missouri and they ended up catching him.

1604
01:36:18,080 --> 01:36:18,479
Speaker 4: M hmm.

1605
01:36:18,960 --> 01:36:22,640
Speaker 1: Okay, so one of our reports was actioned upon and

1606
01:36:22,760 --> 01:36:24,240
Speaker 1: they were he was successfully caught.

1607
01:36:26,720 --> 01:36:28,920
Speaker 7: Yeah, but with tex texting drivers because I've never seen

1608
01:36:29,000 --> 01:36:31,320
Speaker 7: him actually pulled over because usually most of time they're

1609
01:36:31,400 --> 01:36:34,160
Speaker 7: going the same way I am, I figured because they

1610
01:36:34,200 --> 01:36:37,320
Speaker 7: get off at an exit before an officer could get him.

1611
01:36:37,760 --> 01:36:39,639
Speaker 1: Well, well, okay, wait, hold on, hold.

1612
01:36:39,479 --> 01:36:42,960
Speaker 7: On, even if I call people in so you're.

1613
01:36:43,479 --> 01:36:46,800
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, So you're driving in your truck, right

1614
01:36:49,320 --> 01:36:51,240
Speaker 1: and you look to your left and you see somebody

1615
01:36:51,320 --> 01:36:56,000
Speaker 1: texting and driving, and you go, I'm going to report

1616
01:36:56,040 --> 01:37:05,160
Speaker 1: this person. It's like, but how do you report them?

1617
01:37:08,280 --> 01:37:11,760
Speaker 7: I have a headset that I use booth connected to

1618
01:37:11,840 --> 01:37:12,240
Speaker 7: my phone.

1619
01:37:12,560 --> 01:37:15,080
Speaker 1: Okay, I was gonna say, this feels like because it's

1620
01:37:15,120 --> 01:37:19,120
Speaker 1: sort of a situation where like a cop, if they

1621
01:37:19,160 --> 01:37:22,960
Speaker 1: want to pull over somebody who's speeding, what do they do?

1622
01:37:23,040 --> 01:37:25,280
Speaker 1: They got a speed speed to catch up with them

1623
01:37:25,560 --> 01:37:26,280
Speaker 1: to pull them over.

1624
01:37:27,800 --> 01:37:28,000
Speaker 7: Yep.

1625
01:37:33,400 --> 01:37:35,680
Speaker 1: I hate driving. I I I if I could never

1626
01:37:36,800 --> 01:37:40,559
Speaker 1: if I could never get into a car ever again

1627
01:37:40,680 --> 01:37:42,400
Speaker 1: but still be able to live a full life, I

1628
01:37:42,680 --> 01:37:45,800
Speaker 1: would love that. But I I I truly hate cars

1629
01:37:45,840 --> 01:37:50,280
Speaker 1: because you're You're right. Everyone's out there, texting, eating, jerking off,

1630
01:37:50,600 --> 01:37:57,800
Speaker 1: getting drunk, getting hot, all the stuff, and you know,

1631
01:37:57,880 --> 01:37:59,760
Speaker 1: and and I get and look, I get, I get.

1632
01:38:00,880 --> 01:38:02,479
Speaker 1: You know, it's a lot of time in the car.

1633
01:38:03,800 --> 01:38:06,720
Speaker 1: It's a lot of your time. You can't you're there.

1634
01:38:06,800 --> 01:38:09,000
Speaker 1: People were trying to make this into a live time.

1635
01:38:09,080 --> 01:38:12,519
Speaker 1: It's it's typically dead time that we give of our

1636
01:38:12,600 --> 01:38:16,680
Speaker 1: lives to traffic, So why not lighten the time by

1637
01:38:16,800 --> 01:38:19,519
Speaker 1: jerking off and getting high and eating food, you know,

1638
01:38:20,400 --> 01:38:22,200
Speaker 1: the stuff we would do if we weren't in our car.

1639
01:38:23,120 --> 01:38:25,960
Speaker 7: Put all that stuff down and just pay attention to

1640
01:38:26,080 --> 01:38:28,320
Speaker 7: life and live in the moment.

1641
01:38:29,280 --> 01:38:30,120
Speaker 1: Get out of here.

1642
01:38:30,160 --> 01:38:35,000
Speaker 7: Who wants to do that, right, not in this day

1643
01:38:35,000 --> 01:38:35,320
Speaker 7: and age?

1644
01:38:36,760 --> 01:38:42,719
Speaker 1: Tyler, Do you have any Do you have any other thoughts, feelings, sentiments, questions, commons,

1645
01:38:42,720 --> 01:38:44,840
Speaker 1: concerns that you wish to share before we go? This

1646
01:38:45,000 --> 01:38:46,920
Speaker 1: was a good call. I enjoyed hearing your perspective on

1647
01:38:46,960 --> 01:38:47,360
Speaker 1: these things.

1648
01:38:51,320 --> 01:38:55,120
Speaker 7: Another thing, Please drivers that did it's just a NonStop thing.

1649
01:38:55,439 --> 01:38:57,200
Speaker 4: Please us truckers.

1650
01:38:57,240 --> 01:39:01,320
Speaker 7: We wait well. In the industry that I'm in, I

1651
01:39:01,360 --> 01:39:04,519
Speaker 7: can weigh up to eighty thousand pounds, and we got drivers,

1652
01:39:04,600 --> 01:39:06,640
Speaker 7: young drivers mostly that will cut in front of us

1653
01:39:06,680 --> 01:39:09,160
Speaker 7: at the last second to get their exit or just

1654
01:39:09,240 --> 01:39:11,040
Speaker 7: to merge back in front of us when we're coming

1655
01:39:11,080 --> 01:39:13,639
Speaker 7: up to a stoplight or something. It takes us about

1656
01:39:13,680 --> 01:39:16,640
Speaker 7: two football fields and more to stop that thing. And

1657
01:39:16,760 --> 01:39:19,439
Speaker 7: that's why there's so many accidents because people don't give

1658
01:39:19,560 --> 01:39:25,320
Speaker 7: us a space in front. It's important to do that,

1659
01:39:25,520 --> 01:39:28,240
Speaker 7: otherwise they're gonna be a pancake.

1660
01:39:29,439 --> 01:39:29,639
Speaker 8: Yeah.

1661
01:39:29,640 --> 01:39:31,000
Speaker 1: I don't even know how you. I don't even know

1662
01:39:31,080 --> 01:39:34,120
Speaker 1: how you drive that big ass truck around. They're too big.

1663
01:39:34,640 --> 01:39:35,840
Speaker 1: I can only do a tiny little time.

1664
01:39:35,880 --> 01:39:37,000
Speaker 7: I've been driving a long time.

1665
01:39:38,439 --> 01:39:40,120
Speaker 1: Well, I hope you drive for even longer.

1666
01:39:40,920 --> 01:39:42,599
Speaker 7: I'm pretty confident with my drivings.

1667
01:39:44,600 --> 01:39:47,840
Speaker 1: Well, Tyler, I hope you drive long and forever into

1668
01:39:47,920 --> 01:39:50,760
Speaker 1: the sunset. And uh, I hope you have a wonder

1669
01:39:50,800 --> 01:39:51,760
Speaker 1: for us of the night. Thank you.

1670
01:39:52,160 --> 01:39:57,320
Speaker 7: That's beautiful. Hey you too, shout out. It's a powerful condor.

1671
01:39:58,760 --> 01:40:04,600
Speaker 1: Have a good night, Tyler, he as well. Now, I

1672
01:40:04,680 --> 01:40:07,559
Speaker 1: don't want to be the guy who is driving behind

1673
01:40:07,640 --> 01:40:10,880
Speaker 1: the guy jerking off and he comes out the window

1674
01:40:11,000 --> 01:40:12,720
Speaker 1: and then you just drive into it and it gets

1675
01:40:12,760 --> 01:40:16,840
Speaker 1: all over your windshield. That's where I think things could

1676
01:40:16,880 --> 01:40:21,840
Speaker 1: go wrong. You ever played Mario Clark DS. You know

1677
01:40:21,960 --> 01:40:25,960
Speaker 1: the squid item where you prep you do it and

1678
01:40:26,080 --> 01:40:34,840
Speaker 1: it makes like ink go on everyone's screen. It's like that,

1679
01:40:35,040 --> 01:40:43,760
Speaker 1: but with come, I don't know what I'm talking about. Hello, Hello,

1680
01:40:44,920 --> 01:40:45,240
Speaker 1: How are you?

1681
01:40:46,520 --> 01:40:47,120
Speaker 4: This therapy?

1682
01:40:51,439 --> 01:40:52,240
Speaker 1: Is this mister V.

1683
01:40:54,520 --> 01:40:55,759
Speaker 8: This is mister V speaking.

1684
01:40:56,360 --> 01:40:57,080
Speaker 4: How are you tonight?

1685
01:40:57,479 --> 01:40:58,880
Speaker 1: I'm all right? How are you?

1686
01:41:02,200 --> 01:41:04,840
Speaker 4: Could be better, could be worse, could be worse.

1687
01:41:05,080 --> 01:41:07,240
Speaker 1: Totally, could always be better, totally, could always be worse,

1688
01:41:13,760 --> 01:41:19,519
Speaker 1: mister V. H How could it be worse?

1689
01:41:22,600 --> 01:41:23,719
Speaker 4: How could it be worse?

1690
01:41:24,280 --> 01:41:26,400
Speaker 8: Yes, well, I guess it goes to the root of

1691
01:41:26,400 --> 01:41:30,800
Speaker 8: why I'm calling in today, is uh. I used to

1692
01:41:30,840 --> 01:41:33,280
Speaker 8: be a teacher and I quit my job, and it's

1693
01:41:33,320 --> 01:41:37,559
Speaker 8: been about a year now and I'm doing something completely different,

1694
01:41:38,360 --> 01:41:40,599
Speaker 8: and I feel like my brain is turning into mush.

1695
01:41:41,280 --> 01:41:46,280
Speaker 8: To be quite honest, I feel like I'm getting dumber

1696
01:41:46,280 --> 01:41:49,160
Speaker 8: and dumber by the day with my new job, even

1697
01:41:49,200 --> 01:41:54,160
Speaker 8: though I get more money and I have literally zero responsibilities.

1698
01:41:55,640 --> 01:41:57,720
Speaker 8: But it's kind of weird. It's kind of weird now

1699
01:41:58,640 --> 01:42:01,280
Speaker 8: where I go home and I do this hard labor,

1700
01:42:01,479 --> 01:42:03,840
Speaker 8: and I come home and I and I look in

1701
01:42:03,920 --> 01:42:05,680
Speaker 8: my room and I see all these books I used

1702
01:42:05,680 --> 01:42:07,840
Speaker 8: to read. I'm like, what happened to that guy?

1703
01:42:08,280 --> 01:42:12,000
Speaker 1: Mmmmmmm? Why did you?

1704
01:42:12,160 --> 01:42:15,240
Speaker 8: And I hear about how schools are all I'll go ahead.

1705
01:42:15,040 --> 01:42:16,760
Speaker 1: No, no, no, please, I want to hear. I want

1706
01:42:16,760 --> 01:42:18,240
Speaker 1: to hear the rest of of what you're saying.

1707
01:42:21,760 --> 01:42:24,360
Speaker 8: Yeah, I just hear about how schools they're all super

1708
01:42:24,600 --> 01:42:28,360
Speaker 8: messed up, even getting worse. And I'm just like, well,

1709
01:42:28,360 --> 01:42:30,840
Speaker 8: I'm glad I'm not there, but I just I have

1710
01:42:31,080 --> 01:42:35,519
Speaker 8: like this inner need to go teach again. I just

1711
01:42:35,960 --> 01:42:39,240
Speaker 8: I need adults who can't do like falpilcation and really

1712
01:42:39,280 --> 01:42:42,000
Speaker 8: bad geography. I'm just like, why am I here? I

1713
01:42:42,040 --> 01:42:44,960
Speaker 8: should be, you know, teaching people fundamental skills.

1714
01:42:45,240 --> 01:42:46,000
Speaker 4: M M.

1715
01:42:47,439 --> 01:42:50,080
Speaker 1: That's super interesting. So okay, so how long ago did

1716
01:42:50,120 --> 01:42:51,040
Speaker 1: you leave your teaching job.

1717
01:42:53,360 --> 01:42:56,639
Speaker 8: It's it's it's gonna be a year now, okay.

1718
01:42:57,360 --> 01:43:01,800
Speaker 1: And you are saying that you're getting paid more and

1719
01:43:01,920 --> 01:43:05,040
Speaker 1: that you have less responsibilities, which are two things that

1720
01:43:05,760 --> 01:43:08,120
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people look for in gigs.

1721
01:43:08,280 --> 01:43:10,000
Speaker 1: Is more money for less work.

1722
01:43:10,439 --> 01:43:11,280
Speaker 6: Is that the.

1723
01:43:12,800 --> 01:43:15,880
Speaker 1: Main reason why you jump ship from being a teacher

1724
01:43:16,120 --> 01:43:18,639
Speaker 1: is because the software had more money and less work.

1725
01:43:20,800 --> 01:43:23,720
Speaker 8: I know, I mostly jumped ship from teaching because like

1726
01:43:24,240 --> 01:43:26,639
Speaker 8: it was a good, cozy job. Yeah, it was pretty cool.

1727
01:43:26,680 --> 01:43:29,200
Speaker 8: I got the summers off, I got a pretty decent

1728
01:43:29,280 --> 01:43:34,439
Speaker 8: salary and whatever. But COVID hit and turn everything upside down,

1729
01:43:34,520 --> 01:43:37,840
Speaker 8: and then I got paid the tame to do like

1730
01:43:38,360 --> 01:43:40,800
Speaker 8: way more work. To be honest, I know people think

1731
01:43:40,840 --> 01:43:43,960
Speaker 8: teachers just said at home, but it was like pretty

1732
01:43:44,000 --> 01:43:47,240
Speaker 8: intense to go from like a lot of social interaction

1733
01:43:47,439 --> 01:43:51,840
Speaker 8: to virtual interaction. And yeah, and I kind of got

1734
01:43:51,920 --> 01:43:55,160
Speaker 8: fed up with like the federal unemployment system. So like

1735
01:43:55,280 --> 01:43:58,479
Speaker 8: I was like a third year teacher, and the people

1736
01:43:58,560 --> 01:44:01,960
Speaker 8: who were getting the federal unemployment during the time of

1737
01:44:02,040 --> 01:44:04,519
Speaker 8: the pandemic, we're pretty much getting the same amount of

1738
01:44:04,560 --> 01:44:07,360
Speaker 8: money I was getting as a teacher. But I was

1739
01:44:07,439 --> 01:44:12,679
Speaker 8: devoting myself five days a week right online whatever, nine

1740
01:44:12,760 --> 01:44:16,040
Speaker 8: hours a day plus grading and planning all day on Sunday.

1741
01:44:16,680 --> 01:44:20,439
Speaker 8: And I just thought, well, this is bullshit. Fuck the system.

1742
01:44:21,160 --> 01:44:23,720
Speaker 8: But at the same time, I'm just like, well, how

1743
01:44:23,760 --> 01:44:26,519
Speaker 8: do I reach these kids to make sure they can

1744
01:44:26,600 --> 01:44:29,920
Speaker 8: go off to get decent careers and not get ripped

1745
01:44:29,960 --> 01:44:33,400
Speaker 8: off by like the ice cream man or no basic geography.

1746
01:44:33,479 --> 01:44:39,080
Speaker 1: I guess, so it sounds as though you have I

1747
01:44:39,160 --> 01:44:43,439
Speaker 1: mean aside from just money, you have external desires. You

1748
01:44:43,520 --> 01:44:47,080
Speaker 1: wish to help people and have a genuine desire to

1749
01:44:47,680 --> 01:44:50,799
Speaker 1: educate them, to reach these kids.

1750
01:44:51,200 --> 01:44:51,680
Speaker 8: Yeah, I was.

1751
01:44:53,680 --> 01:44:54,720
Speaker 4: I would I would say so.

1752
01:44:55,280 --> 01:44:58,120
Speaker 8: I would say so. And when you first just like, well,

1753
01:45:03,040 --> 01:45:06,080
Speaker 8: like it's kind of weird to be honest, like being

1754
01:45:06,120 --> 01:45:09,080
Speaker 8: a dude teacher and like kind of like doing bro

1755
01:45:09,280 --> 01:45:12,040
Speaker 8: things like I'm ripping my jewel and drinking a beer

1756
01:45:12,160 --> 01:45:16,880
Speaker 8: right now. But like you would meet these older teacher dudes, right,

1757
01:45:17,280 --> 01:45:21,160
Speaker 8: You meet these older dudes, and I was like, I

1758
01:45:21,240 --> 01:45:23,400
Speaker 8: don't really want to end up like these guys. You know,

1759
01:45:24,439 --> 01:45:26,639
Speaker 8: that looks kind of crappy, you know what I mean.

1760
01:45:27,320 --> 01:45:29,280
Speaker 8: But then I look at the people at my new job,

1761
01:45:29,760 --> 01:45:31,120
Speaker 8: I'm like, I don't want to end up.

1762
01:45:31,040 --> 01:45:33,400
Speaker 7: Like these people either. It sucks too.

1763
01:45:34,280 --> 01:45:36,400
Speaker 8: So I feel like it's just like a lose lose

1764
01:45:36,479 --> 01:45:39,920
Speaker 8: situation across the board. But at least I'm getting more money.

1765
01:45:40,760 --> 01:45:41,880
Speaker 3: But I work.

1766
01:45:42,160 --> 01:45:44,640
Speaker 8: I'm like from the Midwest, and like I work now

1767
01:45:44,720 --> 01:45:47,680
Speaker 8: in like an automobile factory, and I do like the

1768
01:45:47,800 --> 01:45:52,160
Speaker 8: same thing over like six hundred times a day. As

1769
01:45:52,240 --> 01:45:54,920
Speaker 8: much as like it was fun at the beginning, like oh,

1770
01:45:55,040 --> 01:45:57,840
Speaker 8: this is like super easy I just get paid to

1771
01:45:57,920 --> 01:46:00,639
Speaker 8: do this. But then after a while you're like, wow,

1772
01:46:00,760 --> 01:46:02,120
Speaker 8: like my brain is mush.

1773
01:46:01,960 --> 01:46:04,920
Speaker 1: Right now, like so so so hold on, hold, I

1774
01:46:04,960 --> 01:46:06,240
Speaker 1: want to stop. I want to stop you real quick.

1775
01:46:06,479 --> 01:46:11,000
Speaker 1: So you said that. You So you're at this teaching

1776
01:46:11,080 --> 01:46:17,000
Speaker 1: job and you're having uh whatever COVID's going on, the

1777
01:46:17,040 --> 01:46:21,720
Speaker 1: gig is changing all these sort of things, and you

1778
01:46:22,040 --> 01:46:25,639
Speaker 1: have these older teachers that you're looking at, and you're

1779
01:46:25,680 --> 01:46:28,080
Speaker 1: looking at them and you're going, I don't know if

1780
01:46:28,120 --> 01:46:30,160
Speaker 1: I want to be this guy when I'm you know,

1781
01:46:30,760 --> 01:46:34,320
Speaker 1: sixty years old. Whatever it is? What what is it

1782
01:46:35,080 --> 01:46:38,840
Speaker 1: about the older teachers that you look at and you

1783
01:46:39,000 --> 01:46:41,720
Speaker 1: see and it makes you go, I don't, I don't,

1784
01:46:41,760 --> 01:46:42,560
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't want that.

1785
01:46:45,680 --> 01:46:48,160
Speaker 8: Well, there was two case scenarios. We'll call him mister

1786
01:46:48,479 --> 01:46:51,880
Speaker 8: X and mister Y. Right, let's call mister X the

1787
01:46:51,960 --> 01:46:55,479
Speaker 8: good guy. Right, he was married, he had to get kids.

1788
01:46:56,640 --> 01:47:00,320
Speaker 8: But you can tell mister X, like, you know, he

1789
01:47:00,640 --> 01:47:04,040
Speaker 8: didn't have like nice things. He drove a beat up,

1790
01:47:04,800 --> 01:47:07,240
Speaker 8: you know, minivan. I'm pretty sure he probably struggled to

1791
01:47:07,280 --> 01:47:09,640
Speaker 8: pay the bills. And you know that I don't want

1792
01:47:09,680 --> 01:47:12,040
Speaker 8: to live a life like that, you know, taking care

1793
01:47:12,040 --> 01:47:14,000
Speaker 8: of my kids on a teacher salary.

1794
01:47:14,560 --> 01:47:15,759
Speaker 2: You know, it kind of sucks.

1795
01:47:16,240 --> 01:47:19,600
Speaker 8: But then there was mister Why. And mister Why was

1796
01:47:19,720 --> 01:47:23,920
Speaker 8: like the long term playboy bachelor who takes trips to

1797
01:47:24,760 --> 01:47:29,000
Speaker 8: the Netherlands in Columbia to do god knows what. And

1798
01:47:29,080 --> 01:47:30,680
Speaker 8: I'm like, well, I don't want to end up like that.

1799
01:47:30,800 --> 01:47:32,840
Speaker 4: Either, because that's a really shallow.

1800
01:47:32,960 --> 01:47:38,320
Speaker 8: Existence, you know. I'm like, that's like, that's even though

1801
01:47:38,360 --> 01:47:41,080
Speaker 8: they're completely polar opposites. I'm like, I feel that's you're

1802
01:47:41,160 --> 01:47:43,799
Speaker 8: gonna be one or the other. And they both sucked.

1803
01:47:44,320 --> 01:47:49,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, why why do you feel as though you

1804
01:47:49,840 --> 01:47:54,160
Speaker 1: can only be one or the other?

1805
01:47:57,200 --> 01:47:59,519
Speaker 8: I just I mean, like, well, I mean on a

1806
01:47:59,600 --> 01:48:01,720
Speaker 8: teacher's salary, it's kind of hard to kind of really

1807
01:48:01,760 --> 01:48:06,439
Speaker 8: do anything, to be quite honest. So like it's either

1808
01:48:06,520 --> 01:48:10,200
Speaker 8: you live for yourself only yourself, like you do your

1809
01:48:10,240 --> 01:48:13,080
Speaker 8: thing for the kids, obviously, but you really only live

1810
01:48:13,160 --> 01:48:16,560
Speaker 8: for yourself because you really don't make that much, or

1811
01:48:16,840 --> 01:48:18,720
Speaker 8: like you kind of do like the whole family thing.

1812
01:48:19,560 --> 01:48:23,200
Speaker 8: But then like when it's bill time, like fuck, like

1813
01:48:23,640 --> 01:48:25,080
Speaker 8: how am I going to do this? Like how am

1814
01:48:25,080 --> 01:48:26,920
Speaker 8: I going to put my kids through college?

1815
01:48:27,360 --> 01:48:32,799
Speaker 1: Mister V what's what what what's important to you? Because

1816
01:48:32,800 --> 01:48:35,000
Speaker 1: I know that you're looking at the and and I

1817
01:48:35,160 --> 01:48:37,439
Speaker 1: understand this. I understand this for sure. It's nice to

1818
01:48:37,479 --> 01:48:42,080
Speaker 1: have like models of you know what could be, but

1819
01:48:42,760 --> 01:48:45,519
Speaker 1: when you really think about it and you think about

1820
01:48:45,520 --> 01:48:47,280
Speaker 1: your life and you think about your options and you

1821
01:48:47,360 --> 01:48:50,479
Speaker 1: think about you know what, what is important to you?

1822
01:48:53,920 --> 01:49:00,400
Speaker 8: What's important to me is uh family, having like nice things,

1823
01:49:00,680 --> 01:49:04,200
Speaker 8: working hard, I guess, and being smart. I guess like

1824
01:49:04,320 --> 01:49:07,280
Speaker 8: I like to use my brain. I feel like I

1825
01:49:07,320 --> 01:49:10,479
Speaker 8: feel like this job like underutilizes me so much. I'm

1826
01:49:10,520 --> 01:49:14,560
Speaker 8: like I look like I don't know. I guess, like

1827
01:49:15,120 --> 01:49:17,600
Speaker 8: because it's been a whole year, right, and I like

1828
01:49:18,360 --> 01:49:22,439
Speaker 8: didn't teach. I had zero responsibilities. I had no I

1829
01:49:22,520 --> 01:49:25,120
Speaker 8: had zero like community commitment where I had to be

1830
01:49:25,200 --> 01:49:27,719
Speaker 8: like a role model citizen at the CPS and stuff

1831
01:49:27,800 --> 01:49:30,120
Speaker 8: like I could do whatever I want, Like I grew

1832
01:49:30,160 --> 01:49:33,840
Speaker 8: my hair out right, wore different shoes, like, wore different

1833
01:49:33,880 --> 01:49:36,720
Speaker 8: clothes like it was sweet. But then like as the

1834
01:49:36,800 --> 01:49:40,599
Speaker 8: year went on, I'm like, fuck, like kind of want

1835
01:49:40,720 --> 01:49:43,080
Speaker 8: some responsibilities. But then people look at the like you're

1836
01:49:43,120 --> 01:49:43,759
Speaker 8: fucking crazy.

1837
01:49:44,000 --> 01:49:50,280
Speaker 1: Well well, well, okay, so you say you have twenty

1838
01:49:50,360 --> 01:49:52,560
Speaker 1: six as well, okay, so you say you have not

1839
01:49:52,800 --> 01:49:56,800
Speaker 1: no responsibilities, but relatively minor responsibilities at this new gig.

1840
01:49:59,439 --> 01:50:00,720
Speaker 2: Yes, So.

1841
01:50:02,560 --> 01:50:10,000
Speaker 1: I don't know what would stop you then from trying

1842
01:50:10,120 --> 01:50:13,439
Speaker 1: to get creative because you seem like you're a creative

1843
01:50:13,479 --> 01:50:16,320
Speaker 1: guy and somebody can use your brain. I feel like

1844
01:50:16,560 --> 01:50:22,599
Speaker 1: for you, there could be a creative way on whatever

1845
01:50:22,720 --> 01:50:28,240
Speaker 1: your off time is to find a new type of venture.

1846
01:50:29,880 --> 01:50:31,240
Speaker 1: And I don't know what it would be. I'm not

1847
01:50:31,280 --> 01:50:33,560
Speaker 1: going to give you any sort of example because I

1848
01:50:33,640 --> 01:50:36,559
Speaker 1: don't I don't know. I just want to like plant

1849
01:50:36,600 --> 01:50:40,160
Speaker 1: the seed in your head of like that it's that

1850
01:50:40,280 --> 01:50:43,439
Speaker 1: it's possible. That's something to think about, Like what what

1851
01:50:43,560 --> 01:50:47,120
Speaker 1: would be the venture on the side for you that

1852
01:50:47,160 --> 01:50:50,120
Speaker 1: would allow you to use your brain, that would allow

1853
01:50:51,120 --> 01:50:55,720
Speaker 1: you to form a community? And I feel like, and

1854
01:50:55,840 --> 01:50:59,080
Speaker 1: again I'm playing armchair Gecko therapist here, but there's a

1855
01:50:59,200 --> 01:51:03,920
Speaker 1: there's a very very narrow binary thinking here of like

1856
01:51:04,040 --> 01:51:06,439
Speaker 1: I can either be this guy or I can be

1857
01:51:06,520 --> 01:51:09,080
Speaker 1: this guy. And it's like, my friend, we live in

1858
01:51:09,600 --> 01:51:13,960
Speaker 1: twenty twenty two, or an interconnected society we have, the

1859
01:51:14,080 --> 01:51:16,920
Speaker 1: computer we have, I mean, there's never been more tools

1860
01:51:16,960 --> 01:51:21,880
Speaker 1: available to human being to create community, to use their brain.

1861
01:51:22,640 --> 01:51:25,559
Speaker 1: And I would just sort of think in your off time,

1862
01:51:25,640 --> 01:51:27,519
Speaker 1: if you are telling me that you have more money

1863
01:51:27,560 --> 01:51:31,000
Speaker 1: and less responsibilities and you do have free time, I

1864
01:51:31,040 --> 01:51:35,080
Speaker 1: would I would only encourage you to at least think

1865
01:51:35,160 --> 01:51:39,720
Speaker 1: about ways in which in which you could form a

1866
01:51:39,840 --> 01:51:44,280
Speaker 1: new venture or activity or or something that could allow

1867
01:51:44,360 --> 01:51:47,720
Speaker 1: you to use your brain. Community you jam, I mean,

1868
01:51:47,760 --> 01:51:50,240
Speaker 1: that's a great that's a great idea. You know, there's

1869
01:51:50,280 --> 01:51:53,439
Speaker 1: something like that, you know, but it's.

1870
01:51:53,880 --> 01:51:58,439
Speaker 8: It's like, mister Ghek, like when you're a teacher, like

1871
01:51:58,880 --> 01:52:02,559
Speaker 8: it really you take it. You take it on fully.

1872
01:52:02,920 --> 01:52:03,040
Speaker 4: You know.

1873
01:52:03,160 --> 01:52:05,479
Speaker 8: It's hard to like walk in at the door at

1874
01:52:05,479 --> 01:52:07,839
Speaker 8: the end of the day and like put the teacher

1875
01:52:08,000 --> 01:52:10,760
Speaker 8: hat off, like it kind of stays on all the time. Yeah,

1876
01:52:11,040 --> 01:52:13,400
Speaker 8: you know what I mean. And then I just feel

1877
01:52:13,439 --> 01:52:17,040
Speaker 8: really conflicted with my identity nowadays, you know what I mean.

1878
01:52:17,240 --> 01:52:21,320
Speaker 8: Like before, when I was a teacher, I'd be at

1879
01:52:21,320 --> 01:52:24,719
Speaker 8: the store or around you know, people who had kids,

1880
01:52:24,800 --> 01:52:27,760
Speaker 8: and like I would like always test their timestables and

1881
01:52:28,240 --> 01:52:31,200
Speaker 8: can they can they can they do subtraction with money

1882
01:52:31,360 --> 01:52:34,360
Speaker 8: or anything? You know, just basic teacher stuff that I

1883
01:52:34,439 --> 01:52:37,240
Speaker 8: feel like kids could use and not be on their phones.

1884
01:52:37,320 --> 01:52:41,200
Speaker 8: And nowadays, I just like I look at kids, I'm

1885
01:52:41,240 --> 01:52:45,040
Speaker 8: just like, not my job, you know, it's not my

1886
01:52:45,200 --> 01:52:48,400
Speaker 8: job anymore. But then there's like a guilt on the inside.

1887
01:52:48,400 --> 01:52:50,080
Speaker 8: I'm like, well, that kid's not going to know the

1888
01:52:50,120 --> 01:52:52,680
Speaker 8: difference between China and Taiwan, you know what I mean.

1889
01:52:52,800 --> 01:52:55,400
Speaker 8: That's an important issue. I feel like most people should

1890
01:52:55,479 --> 01:52:58,080
Speaker 8: know about this kind of stuff or just any basic things.

1891
01:52:58,479 --> 01:53:03,160
Speaker 8: And especially because ironically enough, I was a science teacher

1892
01:53:04,000 --> 01:53:08,920
Speaker 8: who left during COVID because I realize education is just

1893
01:53:09,080 --> 01:53:12,960
Speaker 8: kind of not very scientific in regards to how they

1894
01:53:13,040 --> 01:53:18,479
Speaker 8: handle things. So it's just it's just like mister Gek.

1895
01:53:18,600 --> 01:53:20,800
Speaker 8: Just to be quite frank, it's just like, you know,

1896
01:53:20,920 --> 01:53:24,160
Speaker 8: how you're Lyle and your mister Ghek. It's like imagine

1897
01:53:24,200 --> 01:53:26,920
Speaker 8: hanging up the mister Ghek forever, you know, or something

1898
01:53:27,040 --> 01:53:29,200
Speaker 8: happened where you had to give up the mister Gek

1899
01:53:29,280 --> 01:53:32,360
Speaker 8: earth being mister Ghek became too much.

1900
01:53:32,600 --> 01:53:35,400
Speaker 1: You call me Gek. You don't have to call me

1901
01:53:35,520 --> 01:53:36,080
Speaker 1: mister Gek.

1902
01:53:38,840 --> 01:53:41,439
Speaker 8: It's a respect thing the teacher hats on, you know.

1903
01:53:41,680 --> 01:53:44,840
Speaker 8: But it's kind of that feeling, and I hope you

1904
01:53:44,960 --> 01:53:48,040
Speaker 8: never have that feeling, you know, walking away from something

1905
01:53:48,080 --> 01:53:51,240
Speaker 8: you're so passionate about because you have to, you know.

1906
01:53:51,960 --> 01:53:56,200
Speaker 1: Well, would you say a name was mister v mister

1907
01:53:56,320 --> 01:54:00,120
Speaker 1: v V In whatever you do, I wish you good luck.

1908
01:54:02,280 --> 01:54:04,439
Speaker 8: You take care of I'm mister go Thank you, mister Van.

1909
01:54:05,760 --> 01:54:05,920
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1910
01:54:05,920 --> 01:54:08,920
Speaker 1: I don't know why mister Ghak makes me feel super uncomfortable.

1911
01:54:11,760 --> 01:54:12,960
Speaker 1: I I don't. I don't.

1912
01:54:14,400 --> 01:54:14,560
Speaker 7: You know.

1913
01:54:14,640 --> 01:54:21,840
Speaker 1: I'm not a teacher, not a guru, never never, never

1914
01:54:21,920 --> 01:54:29,240
Speaker 1: had any interest in, never had any interest in presenting

1915
01:54:29,320 --> 01:54:37,320
Speaker 1: myself as such. Merely, truly, truly, I only wish to

1916
01:54:37,360 --> 01:54:40,880
Speaker 1: present myself and I hope I'm doing it. I hope

1917
01:54:40,920 --> 01:54:43,440
Speaker 1: I'm doing this properly, because sometimes I feel I'm afraid

1918
01:54:43,480 --> 01:54:46,600
Speaker 1: that I'm not. But I I really, truly, at the

1919
01:54:46,680 --> 01:54:48,360
Speaker 1: end of the day, I only wish to present myself

1920
01:54:50,560 --> 01:54:52,960
Speaker 1: as a crazy person in a gackle costume on the internet.

1921
01:54:54,480 --> 01:55:05,160
Speaker 10: Hello, Hello, Hello, Well hey, it's a good professor.

1922
01:55:07,440 --> 01:55:08,720
Speaker 1: Why do you say I'm a professor?

1923
01:55:13,800 --> 01:55:18,280
Speaker 4: Well, you didn't like mister, and you've got some credibility.

1924
01:55:18,400 --> 01:55:20,120
Speaker 8: I think I don't.

1925
01:55:21,040 --> 01:55:21,640
Speaker 3: But how are you doing?

1926
01:55:22,280 --> 01:55:25,120
Speaker 1: I don't know if I mean, I don't. Here's the thing.

1927
01:55:25,200 --> 01:55:28,400
Speaker 1: I know that there's people watching my stream and stuff.

1928
01:55:28,520 --> 01:55:30,120
Speaker 1: But I don't know if that inherently, I don't know

1929
01:55:30,160 --> 01:55:35,040
Speaker 1: if followers gives you inherent credibility. What do you I mean,

1930
01:55:35,080 --> 01:55:37,720
Speaker 1: what is your genuine opinion? What is your genuine opinion

1931
01:55:37,760 --> 01:55:37,960
Speaker 1: on that?

1932
01:55:38,480 --> 01:55:43,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, talks taught me that. TikTok has taught me that

1933
01:55:43,360 --> 01:55:46,640
Speaker 4: you will find a following in anything. And if you

1934
01:55:46,720 --> 01:55:48,960
Speaker 4: want to talk to the community, you're going to get it.

1935
01:55:49,800 --> 01:55:55,360
Speaker 8: But you you welcome and you embrace a welcome environment.

1936
01:55:56,000 --> 01:55:56,400
Speaker 5: Mm hmm.

1937
01:55:56,800 --> 01:55:59,920
Speaker 3: And so you stand out with a ruby.

1938
01:56:01,360 --> 01:56:01,520
Speaker 5: You know.

1939
01:56:01,680 --> 01:56:04,680
Speaker 1: Here's the thing, though, is you can say and if

1940
01:56:04,760 --> 01:56:10,320
Speaker 1: you like, like if your friend tells you something, you're like, well,

1941
01:56:11,000 --> 01:56:12,880
Speaker 1: who the fuck is this guy? Like if if you

1942
01:56:13,000 --> 01:56:16,560
Speaker 1: meet someone at a party and they start like saying

1943
01:56:16,760 --> 01:56:21,680
Speaker 1: giving you advice about something, or or going on spiel

1944
01:56:21,840 --> 01:56:24,480
Speaker 1: or making statements of opinion or anything like that, You're like,

1945
01:56:24,840 --> 01:56:27,280
Speaker 1: who is this person? What the fuck are they saying?

1946
01:56:27,360 --> 01:56:30,360
Speaker 1: But if you saw a TikTok of a rand of

1947
01:56:30,440 --> 01:56:33,240
Speaker 1: that same person, but of a random person. But you

1948
01:56:33,360 --> 01:56:35,320
Speaker 1: saw it and I had a bunch of like likes

1949
01:56:35,520 --> 01:56:37,000
Speaker 1: on it and a bunch of people commenting on it,

1950
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Speaker 1: it was it was like presented to you as media.

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Speaker 1: You would be like, oh, what's this? I agree with that,

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Speaker 1: but there's no difference between the two really, So everyone

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Speaker 1: is just saying things and hoping that they resonate with

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Speaker 1: people in some way, but there's no credibility to anyone. Hey,

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Speaker 1: when people say things. I picked the worst thing to do.

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Speaker 1: I picked a podcast where I say things and people

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Speaker 1: say I hate saying things. I hate listening to things.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to complete another nightmare.

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Speaker 4: Hearing fingers in front of a turtle.

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Speaker 1: How can I get you? This evening? I promise I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna find a better thing to say to transition into

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Speaker 1: like the what the part of the call where we

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Speaker 1: talk about the thing, But for now I'm using how

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Speaker 1: can we How can I get you? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Absolutely absolutely? For some advice, I don't know what the

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Speaker 4: moderator told you. For a little side quest today, I

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Speaker 4: accidentally drink my own year. Can you repeat that I

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Speaker 4: have a relationship with Say that again?

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Speaker 1: Can you repeat that.

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Speaker 8: I drink my own year?

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Speaker 4: In on accidents? This about seven o'clock. But I was

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Speaker 4: mainly calling because I have a very nice relationship with

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Speaker 4: a with a with a wonderful girl, and I've been

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Speaker 4: just like trying to find jobs, and it's hard to

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Speaker 4: put myself out there and find relationships and get get

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Speaker 4: connected to people. It's applying LinkedIn and your forms it.

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Speaker 4: Everybody wants something different and everyone says they're hiring, but

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Speaker 4: they're not. And it's just I haven't been able to

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Speaker 4: find employment. I'm just you know, I'm just kind of

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Speaker 4: vibing through life, living at my parents and trying to

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Speaker 4: remain happy. But yeah, what do you have to think

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Speaker 4: about them?

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Speaker 1: You said you drank your own urine this morning, not.

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Speaker 4: This morning, this evening accidentally, because I pulled it all

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Speaker 4: nighter and I went to go get some donuts from

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Speaker 4: my family in the morning about five am. I was

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Speaker 4: in the parking lot of h EB and Man, I

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Speaker 4: just had to pee and I had tinted windows, so

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Speaker 4: I had a.

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Speaker 7: Little water bottle.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 4: It got took care of it. I threw in my

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Speaker 4: back right seat because I have a two door. I

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Speaker 4: didn't want anyone happen to see it while I was

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Speaker 4: inside shopping, right, so I threw it back there. Has

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Speaker 4: forgotten about it. Me and my girlfriend when we were

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Speaker 4: in my car, we always throw water bottles on the ground, right. Well,

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Speaker 4: that's tonight I went to go pick up some cow

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Speaker 4: zones right, some fresh mosaicoli and some boy some good dessert, and.

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Speaker 8: I went to go.

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Speaker 4: I was like, wow, I'm really parked. Once go grab

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Speaker 4: some water from behind me instead of behind my seat.

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Speaker 4: I went to the far back right. I forgot about

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Speaker 4: my bottle and the disaster already hit me. Had to

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Speaker 4: flush my mouth out with another little water bottle, add

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Speaker 4: some kombusha. Some might say that was worse, but it

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Speaker 4: was great.

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Speaker 1: So you flushed out your mouth with a second water bottle.

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Speaker 7: I what?

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Speaker 1: And what did it tastes?

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Speaker 7: Like?

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Speaker 4: See, that's the thing. It's been really cold and texted lately,

2013
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Speaker 4: so it was about like forty outs today, and so

2014
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Speaker 4: instead of hot in like ammonia, it was kind of

2015
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Speaker 4: like a really watered down but slightly lemon added tastes

2016
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Speaker 4: to a very bad power aid for McDonald's served in

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Speaker 4: the plastic cuts, you know, a really big large cups

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Speaker 4: with too much ice. It was cold, it was it

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Speaker 4: didn't do it. I opened up my window. I had

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Speaker 4: to spit it out.

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Speaker 3: I had to get some other water.

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Speaker 4: I didn't think I was tell anybody to tonight, but

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Speaker 4: I told my girlfriend and then we went to see

2024
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Speaker 4: when you had last put some footage, and it was Friday,

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Speaker 4: and I'm like, oh, this man has a schedule. So

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Speaker 4: that's where we're at. Lyle, is it okay if I

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Speaker 4: say Lyle? My name is Jared.

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Speaker 1: And how did this experience make you feel in the

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Speaker 1: macro about your life as a whole?

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Speaker 4: In the macro, I really need to move out. My

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Speaker 4: mother's toxic. But in the macro some year it's not

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Speaker 4: going to change that. My my every day was pretty good.

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Speaker 4: I love my girlfriend. Your girlfriend is your hands shut

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Speaker 4: a chill out.

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Speaker 3: All to reach out?

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Speaker 1: No, you're not allowed to reach out.

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Speaker 8: Okay, Oh, I'm so.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, you are breaking rules.

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Speaker 4: I apologie. I just heard two mutics. But in the

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Speaker 4: math ro it's changed me for the better. I'm glad

2041
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Speaker 4: it happened. It wasn't pleasant, but I've learned from it.

2042
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Speaker 1: What have you learned from it?

2043
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Speaker 4: Not to throw water bottles on the floor. And I'm

2044
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Speaker 4: not going to allow my girlfriend to do it either.

2045
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Speaker 4: Granted she doesn't pee in water bottles in my car.

2046
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Speaker 4: But you win some, you lose some, right like unmedicated

2047
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Speaker 4: adhd man, It's you have some great three four days,

2048
02:02:39,120 --> 02:02:42,200
Speaker 4: but then you have some depression naps for you know,

2049
02:02:42,320 --> 02:02:44,360
Speaker 4: about a week trying. It's hard to take care of

2050
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Speaker 4: yourself a shower. You really have to think about and

2051
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Speaker 4: work yourself into doing it because you know it's for

2052
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Speaker 4: the better, even if you don't go outside today, even

2053
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Speaker 4: if you're on the computer, just trying to shower yourself

2054
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Speaker 4: as hard after about two and a half three days.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, what do you what do you do on

2056
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Speaker 1: the computer?

2057
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Speaker 4: So here's the thing, toxic trait. I know legal legends

2058
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Speaker 4: back in season three, but that that got me into

2059
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Speaker 4: building computers. But before that, my dad's an electronics engineers,

2060
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Speaker 4: so I always soldered and desoldered printed circuit boards with him.

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Speaker 4: I already forgot where this question is going. I am

2062
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Speaker 4: are you addicted to anything? While?

2063
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Speaker 1: Am I addicted to anything?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 8: Sugarh word heard.

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe a little bit of porn. I could probably,

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Speaker 1: I could. I could probably reasonably quit porn for a while.

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Speaker 4: Absolutely.

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Speaker 1: I I don't think I'm addicted to weed. I think

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Speaker 1: of all the of all the things.

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Speaker 11: For the animated, you have the animated stuff, sorry to

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Speaker 11: talk to over animated drawn you know hen Ti, Yeah, yeah, absolutely,

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Speaker 11: the Jinci do you know the girlfriend's Twitter porn account.

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Speaker 1: You know, no, what is that.

2075
02:04:24,960 --> 02:04:28,000
Speaker 4: Oh, she just has a Twitter account for her porn page.

2076
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Speaker 4: You know that's private because Twitter thinks that every single

2077
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Speaker 4: thing you like should be told to every single friend

2078
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Speaker 4: of yours. Crazy man, my bed's come to you.

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Speaker 1: What do you say? Her name was.

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Speaker 4: Jared.

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Speaker 1: Thank you very much for calling Jared.

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Speaker 4: Thank you so much, brother.

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Speaker 1: But it is not really an expert