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Speaker 1: All right, right now, it is time for today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: And if you need advice on relationship, on dating, on work,

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Speaker 1: on sex, on parenting, and more, submit your Strawberry Letter

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Speaker 1: you know, just go ahead and click clear it's not

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Speaker 1: it's not like a song, Steve. Just go ahehead and click.

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Speaker 1: Just go ahead and click. You chom on real damn

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Speaker 1: click buckle up. We got it for you here. It

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Speaker 1: is the Strawberry Letter. All right, thank you enough subjects.

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Speaker 1: Can't judge a book by its cover. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I've been dating the sixth Fords Tall drink of Water

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Speaker 1: for a few months. He is honest, generous, humor and

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Speaker 1: fun to be around. We decided it was time to

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Speaker 1: take the next step in our relationship since we have

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Speaker 1: been flirting and making suggestive comments to each other for weeks,

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Speaker 1: so we did the deed. If you get my drift,

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Speaker 1: and let me tell you, you cannot judge a book

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Speaker 1: by its cover. With all of his tall and chocolately goodness,

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Speaker 1: he is not packing a thing. I mean he couldn't

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Speaker 1: even hurt a fly. I couldn't use any of my

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Speaker 1: normal tricks because he couldn't stay in the game. Every

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Speaker 1: time that I tried, I knew you would love this letter, Steeve.

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Speaker 1: Every time that I tried my swivel in the hip move,

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Speaker 1: he slid out of bounds. My ex boyfriend is from

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Speaker 1: the Motherland, and some stereotypes, some stereotypes are very true,

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Speaker 1: so it's hard for me to go from an anaconda

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Speaker 1: to a garter snake and another thing. He talked NonStop

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Speaker 1: while we were getting busy. Who's whose is it? Do

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Speaker 1: you like that? Did you? Did you want me when

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Speaker 1: you first saw me? I mean, really, only men who

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Speaker 1: are bringing it are allowed to talk it, are allowed

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Speaker 1: to talk Tomack and ask questions. Stephen Shirley, I need

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Speaker 1: you all's advice. What do I do with little fella? Damn?

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Speaker 1: How how important is great sex in a relationship? I

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Speaker 1: cannot fake it again? But I also don't want to

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Speaker 1: leave him over something so little no pun intended pun,

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Speaker 1: isn't I think it was pretty pretty clear. Yeah, uh,

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Speaker 1: you know what? It depends on what your plans are

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Speaker 1: with this man in the future. If you if you have,

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Speaker 1: you guys have future plans. You like him, you say

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Speaker 1: he's honest, generous, humorous and fun to be around. Is

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Speaker 1: that where you want to keep it? I mean, do

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Speaker 1: you want to keep it at the fun stage? You

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Speaker 1: haven't mentioned catching serious feelings for him, or love or

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Speaker 1: anything like that. So what is it that you want?

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Speaker 1: Just the sex? And to answer your question, yes, sex

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Speaker 1: is very important in a relationship. But you're not in

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Speaker 1: a relationship or are you? I mean, I'm not really clear.

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Speaker 1: You've known this guy for a few weeks. You all

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Speaker 1: are having relations though I don't know about a relationship,

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Speaker 1: but you are having relations So if you decide to

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Speaker 1: stay with this guy, you know what you're in for.

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Speaker 1: You know, because you've already taken it for a test drive.

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Speaker 1: So you have to decide if that's what you want.

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Speaker 1: You'll have to weigh in if having a good man

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Speaker 1: with a small package can satisfy you in a relationship.

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Speaker 1: And you've got to stop and if you can, please

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Speaker 1: stop comparing him to your ex with the anaconda, because

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Speaker 1: that's not gonna make this relationship last. You know when

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Speaker 1: you guys are getting busy? Steve, well, well, yeah, here

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Speaker 1: we go. Fellas subject. Can't judge your book by a

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Speaker 1: couple The letter titling letter should be Yeah, how do

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Speaker 1: I get this over You just need to take to

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Speaker 1: see off of this cover and change the how do

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Speaker 1: I get this over cut? This ain't gonna last. Stephen Sherley,

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Speaker 1: I've been dating the six folk tall drake Award who honest,

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Speaker 1: he's generous, he's hearers, he got to be funny is

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Speaker 1: just about to begin. See that's how you know you

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Speaker 1: believe he's honest, generous and humorous. Yes, he's humorous, and

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Speaker 1: the jokes is just beginning, and he fun to be around,

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Speaker 1: like a short clown jumping out of voltewagon. We decided

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Speaker 1: it was time take the next step because we've been

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Speaker 1: flirting and making suggestive comments for weeks now, so we

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Speaker 1: did the deed. If you get my drift, and let

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Speaker 1: me tell you, you cannot judge your book buyers coming

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Speaker 1: with all it is tall and shocklate the goodness he

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Speaker 1: ain't packing a damn face ready, Yeah, because here I'll

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Speaker 1: go now here where to let her get good? He

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Speaker 1: couldn't even hurt a fly. Who you are in here?

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Speaker 1: Illy quipped with a woman who wants to be hurt,

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Speaker 1: put something on me, make me hard luck. But he

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Speaker 1: couldn't even hurt a fly. And then she tricked because

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Speaker 1: in the next statement, she's saying, I couldn't use any

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Speaker 1: of my normal tricks. She got tricks. Tricks is for

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Speaker 1: kids selling rabbit, but not in the bed room. Tricks

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Speaker 1: for growing for this ain't a box of seal. This

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Speaker 1: growing ass woman got tricks. Who wants to be hurt?

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Speaker 1: You can't hurt a fly, and she can't use normal

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Speaker 1: her normal tricks because she got tricks grown women. Tricks

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Speaker 1: ain't for kids. This ain't sill this bad room that

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Speaker 1: she got tricks. You in here ain't got nothing to

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Speaker 1: handling the tricks, because she said because if she did

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Speaker 1: her tricks, he couldn't stay in the game because he

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Speaker 1: will wanted the tricks every time I try my swivel

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Speaker 1: in the hip move, you know, pop popping moving round,

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Speaker 1: boom boom boom. He fell out the game and we

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Speaker 1: know what that means. Yes, he's off the field. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he out of bounds. He over there by the gay

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Speaker 1: rad table out to put the pop pop slip slip

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Speaker 1: move on him. Now his ass is over here where

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Speaker 1: you're handing it. All right, back on the field. Well,

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Speaker 1: I didn't call you out to get the hang on, Steve.

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Speaker 1: I know you're excited. We'll have part two of Steve's

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Speaker 1: response too, Can't Judge a Book by its cover coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three after the hour you're listening Steve

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Speaker 1: Morning Show. All right, Steve, come on, let's go with

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Speaker 1: part two of today's strong letter. Can't judge a book

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Speaker 1: by its cover? Is the subject? Can't judge a book

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Speaker 1: by this cover? She the met old big six folk.

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Speaker 1: Black Hamper is what she thinks I'll be dead. Black

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Speaker 1: Hamper is here, six foot folk, tall, generous, honest, humorous,

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Speaker 1: very funny. You about to find out how funny he is.

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Speaker 1: All y'all finally decide it's time to go on and

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Speaker 1: do it. It starts popping off and you discover he's

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Speaker 1: not hacking a damn thing. He couldn't hurt a fly.

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Speaker 1: Once again, we're talking about a woman who wants to

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Speaker 1: be hurt. Okay, but you can't make no, can't ain't

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Speaker 1: no what none of that? What too much too mutch

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Speaker 1: none of that? Wait wait wait wait wait wait wait

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Speaker 1: wait wait wait wait wait hold on, hold on, none

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Speaker 1: of that but slow down. None of that, none of that.

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Speaker 1: It's been a minute, bar I can't, I can't breathe.

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Speaker 1: That ain't none of that. So now she's so disappointed.

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Speaker 1: She couldn't even use none of her tricks. She got tricks.

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Speaker 1: Every time she tried my swivel in the hip move

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Speaker 1: you know where you go to the right to the left,

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Speaker 1: he slid out of bounds. He out the game. Little

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Speaker 1: tator cann't stay up? What is tat like tater tot

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Speaker 1: as in tater tot little junior man. Wow. So now

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Speaker 1: she's so hurt and disappointed. She don't know what's going on.

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Speaker 1: It didn't got to the point now where she didn't

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Speaker 1: wrote this letter into us. And it's sad because she

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Speaker 1: wants this relationship, but he can't try this now. Her

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Speaker 1: problem is she's using comparisons because her ex's boyfriend was

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Speaker 1: from the motherland Africa, and some stereotypes are very true.

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Speaker 1: That's hard for me to go from an anaconda to

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Speaker 1: a garden state. And another thing, here the part where

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Speaker 1: he got good. See this is where the humor come in.

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Speaker 1: That you said it was humorous, So here we go.

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Speaker 1: He talked, naw stop, why we was bitch, Naw stopped

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Speaker 1: and he was at whose is it? Do you like that?

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Speaker 1: Did you want me the first time you saw me?

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Speaker 1: I mean, really, why as you talking? Only men who

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Speaker 1: are bringing it are allowed to talk smacking a questions? Right? Well,

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Speaker 1: what you should have did was answer answer. So let's go,

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Speaker 1: Oh baby, whose is it? Well? Who's hell? Anybody help?

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Speaker 1: When you get in the house, letting me know? Whose

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Speaker 1: is it? I wanted it to be your Whose is it?

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Speaker 1: I'm not really shocked. I didn't hit the knock it

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Speaker 1: the dope? Whose is it? When you get in there,

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Speaker 1: I let you know. You gotta start answering these Chris,

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Speaker 1: do you like that? Like what you do? Do you

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Speaker 1: like it? Are you doing something? Do you like it?

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Speaker 1: I let you know soon as I feel something? Do

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Speaker 1: you like it? I show won't to man. You must

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Speaker 1: start answering questions. Did you want me the first time

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Speaker 1: you saw you? Yes? But not six? She changed her mind.

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Speaker 1: That hurt you when I first saw you. I still

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Speaker 1: I don't want you, see and then she says only

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Speaker 1: people who are bringing this should be allowed to talk,

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Speaker 1: smack and ask questions. Stephen Shell, I need Yaw's advice.

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Speaker 1: What do I do with live high importantess, great sex

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Speaker 1: and relationship. I can't fake it again. But I also

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Speaker 1: don't want to leave him over something so little, no

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Speaker 1: pun intended. Well, you ain't got to leave him over

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Speaker 1: something so little. There's a solution to this. There's a

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Speaker 1: solution to this because he's six for m But little

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Speaker 1: fella ain't packing. What should I do? I don't want

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Speaker 1: to break up over something so small. Well, ma'am, here's

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Speaker 1: a deal. I don't think you're in love with this guy.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how this is gonna work because sex

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Speaker 1: is important to a relationship, so right now, I don't

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Speaker 1: I don't know what to tell you. Tommy, I never

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Speaker 1: do you have any suggestions for this woman? I mean,

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Speaker 1: I cannot believe that you'll go to Reds to Tommy,

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Speaker 1: your nephew if you want me to come out of retirement.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I can you know what I mean? I mean,

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Speaker 1: you know what I was saying. He's married now, Oh,

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Speaker 1: he's coming out of retirement if you need him. Though,

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Speaker 1: I have a suggestion, Steve, what do you have if

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Speaker 1: you don't have to sit this man down and have

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Speaker 1: a little talk with him? Yeah? All right, Well, I

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Speaker 1: think we get the message thank you. Steve Poster comments

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