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Speaker 1: bear with me. I thirty two female twenty one at

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Speaker 1: So anyway, he came up to me one day and

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Speaker 1: He said that he knew he had a car, but

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Speaker 2: Please, I need a new car.

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Speaker 1: I told him that if he could find one that

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Speaker 3: Reship his mom.

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Speaker 1: He agreed and went on his way to try and

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Speaker 1: So I said, okay. He called me toward the end

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Speaker 1: then looked at Rodney, then back at me, and back

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Speaker 1: I signed the contract. I'm sorry. How good is your

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Speaker 3: How's your credit?

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Speaker 3: I feel like my credit started off good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but well no, but it can only be so

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Speaker 1: But before I touched the pen to paper, I looked

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Speaker 1: You're even bringing that up, maybe not the best relationship.

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Speaker 1: Why did I say that? You ask? Well, the relationship

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Speaker 1: So of course, he says, I would never do that

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Speaker 1: Mind you, I do have my own car. This was

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Speaker 1: My mom's side being that she had just sat down

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Speaker 3: Just top her profile in your home every day. How

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Speaker 1: I've learned so many lessons while dating that boy, and

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Speaker 1: Dang man, what a story really well wrapped up.

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Speaker 3: I showed up at my ex's house with a new

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Speaker 3: She really is looking up.

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Speaker 3: She was amazed and said, I wish you were still

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she freaking ducks.

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Speaker 3: She sucks. She's right up here. But it doesn't matter

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Speaker 3: She's doing nothing. My son also sucks. You you're the best,

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Speaker 3: You're doing great. Some more background information. Kevin and I

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Speaker 3: I'm a business man.

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Speaker 3: I left a little after that, and when I got home,

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Speaker 3: I saw on Instagram DM from Kevin. It says you

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Speaker 3: Hearing that, I be like, damn the dagger. They hear

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Speaker 1: I think she was just I think he was just

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Speaker 3: Why don't you close your ears enough? Huh. So I

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Speaker 1: I think I have the same thoughts. I think the

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Speaker 3: And also just kind of rude to be it seems

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Speaker 3: I don't know what the exact words she was saying

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Speaker 1: I would feel very uncomfortable if I were Opie, if like,

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Speaker 3: I'm just trying to get my poll here. And also

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Speaker 3: It was a weekend, and Kevin and Tyler are usually

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Speaker 3: also forgetting that I was planning to get my poll

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Speaker 3: As for the people questioning how I have a great

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Speaker 3: What is this job? And the local police department eight

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Speaker 3: for those who don't know. But both my salaries are

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Speaker 3: it easier to save as well.

439
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Speaker 1: So Opie's string great, We get it, Jane Digital says

440
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Speaker 1: op he needs uber if she's going to Kevan's. Yeah,

441
00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:46,080
Speaker 1: she should have taken public transit.

442
00:18:46,119 --> 00:18:48,760
Speaker 3: Why don't you take the bus a bite, could have

443
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Speaker 3: sent a carrier pigeon come on to return.

444
00:18:51,520 --> 00:18:53,600
Speaker 1: The poll you this is ridiculous.

445
00:18:53,760 --> 00:18:55,320
Speaker 3: Well, you could have done a lot of other things

446
00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:57,400
Speaker 3: before pulling up in your one car.

447
00:18:58,080 --> 00:19:00,800
Speaker 1: In your beautiful, amazing car. No one wants to see

448
00:19:00,800 --> 00:19:04,000
Speaker 1: that my boyfriend cheated on me with his coworker. I

449
00:19:04,160 --> 00:19:06,840
Speaker 1: expose them and now he might get fired.

450
00:19:07,200 --> 00:19:09,360
Speaker 3: Don't crap where you eat, That's what they say. Don't

451
00:19:09,359 --> 00:19:10,080
Speaker 3: crap where you eat.

452
00:19:10,240 --> 00:19:12,600
Speaker 1: I twenty one female, have been in a relationship with

453
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Speaker 1: my boyfriend twenty four male for four years and we

454
00:19:16,520 --> 00:19:19,399
Speaker 1: have a three year old child. Our relationship was fine

455
00:19:19,640 --> 00:19:23,520
Speaker 1: until he started his new job around September last year.

456
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Speaker 1: This is already sad because a kid is involved. By

457
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Speaker 1: the way, this comes from exercise and Meat twenty seven

458
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Speaker 1: twenty four on the Okay storytime separate it so I

459
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Speaker 1: live with my family and our child while he lives alone,

460
00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:39,160
Speaker 1: so we often visit him. My family doesn't like him

461
00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:41,479
Speaker 1: for some reason, so it's usually just me and our

462
00:19:41,560 --> 00:19:44,040
Speaker 1: child visiting him. When he got his new job, he

463
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Speaker 1: decided to rent an apartment near his workplace instead of

464
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Speaker 1: taking up the accommodation provided by his employer, for the

465
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Speaker 1: sake of bonding with our child in the future. It

466
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Speaker 1: didn't bother me to bring our child to him, since

467
00:19:55,760 --> 00:19:58,359
Speaker 1: it's our only opportunity for them to bond due to

468
00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:00,719
Speaker 1: our family situation. For the first t two months, we

469
00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:03,840
Speaker 1: visited him often, spending time together on his days off.

470
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Speaker 1: It does sound kind of like they are a little

471
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Speaker 1: bit broken up. In early November, he mentioned that he

472
00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:10,280
Speaker 1: was short on his rental budget, and asked if I

473
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Speaker 1: was okay with him staying overnight at his workplace. During

474
00:20:13,119 --> 00:20:16,399
Speaker 1: his first two weeks there, everything seemed okay, but I

475
00:20:16,520 --> 00:20:20,119
Speaker 1: noticed he was frequently checking his female coworkers' profiles on

476
00:20:20,200 --> 00:20:23,800
Speaker 1: social media, liking and commenting on their posts. This made

477
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Speaker 1: me uncomfortable and jealous. When I confronted him about it,

478
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Speaker 1: he said he was just interested in their lives because

479
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Speaker 1: these coworkers were having issues at work. He dismissed my concerns,

480
00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:36,760
Speaker 1: saying it was just imagining things. By the third week

481
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Speaker 1: of his stay at work, our relationship started to deteriorate.

482
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Speaker 1: For some reason. We hardly talked. When we did, it

483
00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:46,239
Speaker 1: often led to arguments. He also started drinking with his

484
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Speaker 1: coworkers without informing me, and when I found out, he

485
00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:52,719
Speaker 1: would lie about it. Immediately, I had a gut feeling

486
00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:55,400
Speaker 1: that something was going on behind my back. I decided

487
00:20:55,400 --> 00:20:59,080
Speaker 1: to check his social media account since we shared passwords.

488
00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:03,920
Speaker 1: I discovered he was constantly stalking a specific female coworker

489
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Speaker 1: who seemed to be receiving more attention from him than

490
00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:10,639
Speaker 1: I was in recent days. I confronted him again, expressing

491
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Speaker 1: my discomfort with his behavior, but he once again dismissed it,

492
00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:17,760
Speaker 1: insisting that nothing was happening between them. He mentioned that

493
00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:20,119
Speaker 1: this girl had a boyfriend and they were planning to

494
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Speaker 1: get married soon. Let's call her Erica. Erica had been

495
00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:26,639
Speaker 1: in a long term relationship for five years, planning to

496
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Speaker 1: marry soon. I felt incredibly uncomfortable and jealous at the time,

497
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Speaker 1: and he suggested that we take a break to give

498
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Speaker 1: each other space. In the first week of December, things escalated.

499
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Speaker 1: On December sixth and seventh, twenty twenty three, I saw

500
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Speaker 1: two social media posts hinting at something more. If you want,

501
00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,760
Speaker 1: I will fight for you even if it's not allowed,

502
00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:51,159
Speaker 1: directed at a specific person Erica, So I believe that

503
00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:54,199
Speaker 1: is Ohpi's partner, saying that the first post was a

504
00:21:54,200 --> 00:21:56,800
Speaker 1: song about a boy expressing his feelings for someone and

505
00:21:56,880 --> 00:21:59,639
Speaker 1: wanting her to confess her feelings back. The second post

506
00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:02,399
Speaker 1: feature a shoe with a note saying, you're a size

507
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Speaker 1: forty two and I'm a size forty four. I like you,

508
00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:09,240
Speaker 1: but it's not allowed, but I can pursue you if

509
00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:11,560
Speaker 1: you say so. What does that mean?

510
00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:12,919
Speaker 2: Those are the lyrics?

511
00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:15,800
Speaker 1: Those are that? Oh no, it says. The second post

512
00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:18,520
Speaker 1: featured a shoe with this note saying you're a size

513
00:22:18,560 --> 00:22:21,040
Speaker 1: forty two and I'm a size forty four. I like you,

514
00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:23,240
Speaker 1: but it's not allowed, but I can pursue you say

515
00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:24,560
Speaker 1: so little? What does that mean?

516
00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:27,399
Speaker 3: It's a little Romeo and Juliet foot action going on.

517
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Speaker 3: I'm sorry.

518
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Speaker 1: Was that a poem? Was that a free verse poem?

519
00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:32,680
Speaker 2: I think you just don't get his art.

520
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:34,919
Speaker 1: I just don't get it. Art is subjective and I

521
00:22:34,960 --> 00:22:35,760
Speaker 1: hate this art.

522
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:38,160
Speaker 3: Okay, so you're being a cynic right now.

523
00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:40,920
Speaker 1: I gathered the courage to message Erica. I asked her

524
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Speaker 1: these questions, Hi, can I ask you something? Are you

525
00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:47,920
Speaker 1: a size forty two? And is referring to my boyfriend

526
00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:51,800
Speaker 1: courting someone in your workplace? She responded with either nothing

527
00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 1: or no to my questions. I also warned her not

528
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Speaker 1: to tell my boyfriend that I was gathering evidence of

529
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Speaker 1: his actions. What is this? To my surprise, Erica told

530
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 1: my boyfriend that I had asked her these questions. You're stupid, ob.

531
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Speaker 3: She's good friends with your partner, and you're like, I'm

532
00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:12,640
Speaker 3: going behind his back, but I'm assuming you have loyalty

533
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:14,960
Speaker 3: to me, A complete stranger over your good friend.

534
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:17,359
Speaker 1: She was like, I warned her and she did it

535
00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:20,640
Speaker 1: anyway the whole story. Oh, he's been very naive. It's

536
00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:23,800
Speaker 1: like my family hates him. I don't know why our

537
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:25,159
Speaker 1: relationship started failing.

538
00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:25,880
Speaker 2: I don't know.

539
00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:28,240
Speaker 3: Why she told my partner.

540
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:32,040
Speaker 1: I don't know why does Erica not follow the girl code?

541
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Speaker 2: No Erica, come on.

542
00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:37,359
Speaker 1: After that, my boyfriend messaged me immediately, telling me to

543
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 1: stop bothering Erica and insisting they weren't doing anything wrong. Dude,

544
00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 1: she's my coworker.

545
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:43,760
Speaker 2: He said.

546
00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:46,399
Speaker 1: I had asked for space, but was still causing trouble

547
00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:48,879
Speaker 1: for him. I reminded him that I wouldn't have asked

548
00:23:48,920 --> 00:23:52,240
Speaker 1: anyone else if he had been truthful with me from

549
00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:56,120
Speaker 1: the beginning. He clearly denied everything to my face, which

550
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,399
Speaker 1: made me feel like they were lying to me. Fast

551
00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 1: forward to our fourth anniversary. He acted as if nothing

552
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:04,879
Speaker 1: had happened, greeting me with a happy fourth anniversary and

553
00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:08,640
Speaker 1: saying I love you, et cetera. I don't understand any

554
00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:11,600
Speaker 1: part of the relationship. On the evening of December eleventh,

555
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:14,679
Speaker 1: I monitored his account and he casually informed me he

556
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:17,760
Speaker 1: was going out for drinks with his coworkers. I pretended

557
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:19,639
Speaker 1: to be sleepy and said I was going to bed,

558
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:23,560
Speaker 1: but in reality, I continued monitoring his account. This is

559
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:25,400
Speaker 1: incredibly unhealthy.

560
00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:26,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, risky maneuver.

561
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:28,480
Speaker 1: I think you might have to leave this man op

562
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:30,320
Speaker 1: because this is incredibly unhealthy.

563
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:30,600
Speaker 2: Yeah.

564
00:24:30,640 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 3: Ope's behaviors are not being supportive to herself.

565
00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:37,040
Speaker 1: Right after I pretended to be asleep, he quickly changed

566
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:40,320
Speaker 1: his password, but luckily I could still access his account

567
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:43,480
Speaker 1: through my messager. Honestly, it's weird because I feel like

568
00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:45,399
Speaker 1: he's gonna be in the wrong later in the story,

569
00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:48,520
Speaker 1: but right now, I'm like, that's fair. Your partner keeps

570
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:50,000
Speaker 1: breaking into your account.

571
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:53,680
Speaker 3: It's interesting to like hear the title first and know.

572
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:56,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, but this behavior is like so messed up.

573
00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:59,520
Speaker 3: Ohpe's behavior and I'm trying to judge. It just feels

574
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:02,080
Speaker 3: like kind of childish and immature.

575
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:04,159
Speaker 1: It feels like she's very young, but she has a

576
00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 1: three year old kid. Well, they were drinking, he saw

577
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:10,680
Speaker 1: Erica waiting outside their workplace. He messaged Erica asking why

578
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:13,359
Speaker 1: she hadn't gone home yet. In the dimly lit area

579
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:16,240
Speaker 1: where she was waiting, he sent caring messages and even

580
00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:18,680
Speaker 1: asked if Erica's boyfriend would be the one picking her up.

581
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:21,440
Speaker 1: He even said, don't go to sleep yet, let's chat

582
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:24,399
Speaker 1: when you get home. A few minutes later, they started chatting.

583
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:26,560
Speaker 1: They asked each other how their day had been, and

584
00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 1: then my boyfriend began to confess his feeling. Boo oh sad.

585
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:35,040
Speaker 1: I thought you guys were just gonna be balced. He

586
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 1: even un sent the message to make Erica guess what

587
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:42,240
Speaker 1: it originally said, and their conversation continued. My boyfriend confessed

588
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,919
Speaker 1: to Erica saying, from the first day, I liked you

589
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 1: because you're reserved in quiet time. I like that you

590
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 1: don't talk to me.

591
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 3: When you understand your place as a woman.

592
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 2: That really I like that.

593
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 1: It's really attractive, which is unlike me. He also tells

594
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:57,919
Speaker 1: Erica that he purposely chatted with her and changed his

595
00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:00,359
Speaker 1: passwords so that I wouldn't find out. It did not

596
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:04,160
Speaker 1: work out well for you. Yikes, exese amesus Racers says,

597
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:06,480
Speaker 1: didn't Op call him a stalker earlier. I'm not sure

598
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:10,440
Speaker 1: she understands what isn't isn't stocking. I didn't catch up part,

599
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:13,600
Speaker 1: but yeah. After they finished chatting, I immediately messaged my

600
00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:16,679
Speaker 1: boyfriend telling him that we're done, that I'm tired of

601
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:19,199
Speaker 1: listening to his lies and that I hope he and

602
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 1: Erica will be happy together. The next day, someone suddenly

603
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 1: messaged me asking if I knew someone named Erica. Let's

604
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:28,719
Speaker 1: call him Peter. Is this Erica's partner? He asked if

605
00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:31,160
Speaker 1: I had any information, but I was still shocked about

606
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 1: what happened. I suggested he ask his girlfriend instead. However,

607
00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:37,880
Speaker 1: Peter pleaded with me to tell him everything I knew

608
00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 1: because this girlfriend wouldn't disclose anything to him. So I

609
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:44,800
Speaker 1: proceeded to share all the information I had. I shared

610
00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:49,119
Speaker 1: screenshots of their conversation, and you can join our conversation

611
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:51,000
Speaker 1: every week to have three PMPSD on YouTube.

612
00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:53,159
Speaker 3: You don't even need to sneak in. You could just

613
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 3: come and you.

614
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 1: Don't even have to stop. We're welcoming you with open arms.

615
00:26:57,640 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 1: But there is a little bit left to this story.

616
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 1: But what are your thing? Closing thoughts.

617
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:04,919
Speaker 3: Op is upset that she thinks that her partner's breaking

618
00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 3: her trust, but in the process, she's breaking his trust

619
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:10,640
Speaker 3: and she's going behind his back. Yes, and so that's

620
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 3: not going to lead to any positive outcome at all.

621
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 1: No, Like, if you're getting to that point, just breakup.

622
00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, even without him cheating like the relationship was going.

623
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, even if he hadn't cheated, it was dead because

624
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 1: of the behavior with new your poem and stuff.

625
00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 3: And also it just seems like they have a lack

626
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 3: of intimacy and transparency and.

627
00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 1: Closing Yeah, which I think might have you know, developed

628
00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:36,879
Speaker 1: from their living situation of being separated, and you know,

629
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:38,920
Speaker 1: it seems like they don't see each other too too much.

630
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,440
Speaker 3: Yeah. And also to just verbalize, because it needs to

631
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:45,160
Speaker 3: be verbalized that this is one person's story and this

632
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:48,640
Speaker 3: is limited context and we have no idea what's happening

633
00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:51,320
Speaker 3: outside of this, We have no idea what the orientation

634
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:53,720
Speaker 3: of the relationship is. To me, it feels like a

635
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 3: pod of context that is missing.

636
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 1: From this jellybb size. It is an everyone sucks here.

637
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:00,639
Speaker 1: She's stalking and he's cheating and trying to have a

638
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 1: relationship with a coworker, which is against the rules.

639
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:03,879
Speaker 4: Yep.

640
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:07,359
Speaker 1: Later that day, my ex boyfriend messaged me saying he

641
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:11,520
Speaker 1: has been suspended because of my actions because she told Peter.

642
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:14,400
Speaker 1: I insisted that I hadn't done anything and asked why

643
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:16,960
Speaker 1: he was blaming me. I was unaware of the reason

644
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:19,119
Speaker 1: for his suspension. He said, that's why he let me

645
00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:22,000
Speaker 1: read because he trusted me not to tell Peter, and

646
00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:24,400
Speaker 1: he said, if I didn't tell Peter everything I knew,

647
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:27,679
Speaker 1: the situation wouldn't escalate. He even mentioned that I just

648
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:30,719
Speaker 1: added fuel to the fire. He explained that after I

649
00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:33,880
Speaker 1: informed Peter of everything I knew, Peter caused a scene

650
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 1: at the workplace, which led to his suspension and later termination.

651
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:41,480
Speaker 1: I believe Peter also works there, So am I the

652
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:42,760
Speaker 1: ale in this situation.

653
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:47,000
Speaker 3: So Peter is Erica's partner and he also potentially works

654
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 3: at the way I believe so, yes, okay, I guess

655
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:53,880
Speaker 3: because he works with the person that his partner is

656
00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 3: potentially cheating on, and that's why he brought it up

657
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 3: at the workplace. I was like, if you have drama

658
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 3: with your own part partner, talked to them in the

659
00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:01,720
Speaker 3: privacy of.

660
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 1: No, I think they all work together, and he was like,

661
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:08,120
Speaker 1: you're freaking cheating with my fiance or whatever. Yeah, Heleanna

662
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 1: Bane says, if there's nothing to tell, he cannot be

663
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:12,720
Speaker 1: in trouble. Yeah, my boyfriend cheated while I was at

664
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 1: my grandmother's funeral. I want revenge, I mean, yeah, take

665
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 1: revenge for you and for your grand your grandmother is

666
00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: probably rolling in her grave about this. My boyfriend twenty

667
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 1: four male we'll call him Joe, and I twenty two female,

668
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 1: have been dating for over five years. We live over

669
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 1: two thousand miles away from where we both grew up.

670
00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 1: We both went to the same high school, had the

671
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 1: same friends, shared a lot of the same trauma. By

672
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 1: the way, this comes from Good Morning Petty on the

673
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 1: Okay story Tim separate it. So both of our families

674
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 1: are in the same area. Still. We moved about three

675
00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:48,920
Speaker 1: years ago and I've been living in the new location since.

676
00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 1: We often go to a friend's house where they have

677
00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 1: garage hangouts. We shotgun beers, play cards, and just chill.

678
00:29:57,320 --> 00:29:58,600
Speaker 2: Just chill hangouts.

679
00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 1: We have met a lot of our friends there, and

680
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 1: we meet lots of new people constantly because it's a

681
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:06,560
Speaker 1: pretty open door policy. We recently met a girl we'll

682
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:10,479
Speaker 1: call her Brittany. Hello Brittany, Hello Brittany. Also note that

683
00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: Brittany lives two doors down from the garage parties. She

684
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 1: seemed really cool and someone I wanted to get to know.

685
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:20,959
Speaker 1: We exchanged numbers and swapped music back and forth. So

686
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:23,080
Speaker 1: we made a group chat with Joe, so we could

687
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 1: share his music too. We hang out with her maybe

688
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:29,720
Speaker 1: twice at our friend's garage hangout. Joe's in my relationship

689
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,160
Speaker 1: has been pretty solid. We've been through a lot together,

690
00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:34,720
Speaker 1: but we're always there to support each other. I know

691
00:30:34,880 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 1: him better than I know myself. Based on the title,

692
00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:41,080
Speaker 1: I don't think that's true. I trusted him fully. That's

693
00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 1: why when my grandmother passed, I wasn't worried about leaving

694
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:45,959
Speaker 1: him for a week to see my family and attend

695
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 1: her funeral. My sister paid for my ticket because we're

696
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 1: broke af but she couldn't pay for his. I was

697
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:55,480
Speaker 1: very wrong. On the night of my grandmother's viewing, he

698
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:58,080
Speaker 1: went to a garage hangout. We talked on the phone,

699
00:30:58,120 --> 00:30:59,760
Speaker 1: and he told me he wished he was with me.

700
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 1: When I woke up the day of the funeral, I

701
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:04,000
Speaker 1: checked my phone and saw that I had a miscall

702
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 1: from Brittany at two thirty am, and she texted the

703
00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 1: group chat. This is copied and pasted with the name

704
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:13,320
Speaker 1: redacted and the one word censored. Hey, I was just

705
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 1: thinking of you. I'm here with Joe and I at

706
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:19,080
Speaker 1: thing miss you, but he misses you two. Of course,

707
00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:22,560
Speaker 1: I hate how much I miss you call me. Note

708
00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:25,600
Speaker 1: no texts or miss calls from Joe. I didn't call

709
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:29,200
Speaker 1: Brittany back. I called Joe four times before he answered.

710
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 1: He was at another mutual friend's house we'll call him Tyler.

711
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:36,200
Speaker 1: And Tyler, Brittany and Joe were playing cards there since

712
00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 1: the garage party had ended, they had all stayed up

713
00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 1: all night. Now, obviously Haya had my suspicions, but I

714
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 1: trusted him and didn't want to be a crazy girlfriend

715
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:46,840
Speaker 1: to say he couldn't hang out with friends when this

716
00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 1: girl in the group has made no advances to him

717
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 1: in my presence and seemed like someone I wanted to

718
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 1: get to know. I wanted to give them all the

719
00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt. I got ready for the funeral,

720
00:31:56,760 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 1: and all while doing so, I was texting Joe and

721
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:01,880
Speaker 1: calling him because I was having a hard time. Thank

722
00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:06,520
Speaker 1: God for waterproof, Misscara. He wasn't answering this is ridiculous. Ope,

723
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 1: he's literally going through her grandmother's funeral and he's not

724
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:13,880
Speaker 1: picking up too busy shotgun with Brittany, too busy snogging Britney. Sorry, babe,

725
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:17,000
Speaker 1: Maybe if you knew how a shotgun, I'd be there

726
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 1: for you.

727
00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:19,960
Speaker 4: Little more interested in your grandma's funeral, but it doesn't

728
00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:20,640
Speaker 4: sound very lit.

729
00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 1: I knew then that something was up because this was

730
00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 1: not normal behavior. He's never done this before and has

731
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:29,440
Speaker 1: always been very upfront about his activities and location. When

732
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 1: we were walking out the door to go, he called me.

733
00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:34,320
Speaker 1: By then I was with my family and told him

734
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 1: i'd talked to him later. He said he was sorry

735
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:39,280
Speaker 1: for missing my calls and that he had fallen asleep,

736
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 1: but he had gotten home now safely. He said he

737
00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:44,320
Speaker 1: was going back to bed. I told him i'd talked

738
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:47,240
Speaker 1: to him after the funeral. When he woke up, we

739
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 1: texted about what happened that night, and I just couldn't

740
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 1: shake the suspicion that something was up. I called him

741
00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 1: briefly talked with the phone about the same stuff we

742
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:59,440
Speaker 1: texted about, and then I just bluntly asked him, did

743
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 1: anything happen happened between you and Britney.

744
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:07,479
Speaker 4: That's a horrific message to read. If you're Joe, You're like,

745
00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 4: I know something happened with Brittany.

746
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 1: He stuttered and said, well, well, nothing really happened. I

747
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 1: drove her home from Tyler's house. She invited me in

748
00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:14,440
Speaker 1: and we kissed.

749
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 2: Whoa wow? Wow?

750
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:18,240
Speaker 1: Dude?

751
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 2: Is that your definition of nothing?

752
00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:21,840
Speaker 1: Nothing? Nothing?

753
00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 2: Wow?

754
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 4: So if that's the lie, then you know the truth.

755
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:25,920
Speaker 4: You gotta be way worse.

756
00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, way worse. I stopped it there, then I fell

757
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 1: asleep on her couch. I'm sorry she kissed you, and

758
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:35,560
Speaker 1: then you stopped it there and then decided to stay

759
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 1: on her couch instead of leaving.

760
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:41,320
Speaker 4: Yeah right, dude, So I have a thought here, ridiculous.

761
00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 1: What's your thought? I have a thought there's more to

762
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 1: the story, but I want to hear your thought.

763
00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:47,080
Speaker 4: Was Britney's text the oh my god, I miss you

764
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 4: like so much. I mean clearly Joe does too because

765
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:51,520
Speaker 4: he's with me, and then being like, oh my god,

766
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 4: like I miss you like call me. Was that her

767
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 4: trying to give her like a warning, like your boyfriend's

768
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:57,760
Speaker 4: with me at two thirty.

769
00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:01,800
Speaker 1: I think it was either a hey, warning, your boyfriend's here,

770
00:34:02,160 --> 00:34:06,320
Speaker 1: or it was like trying to make her jealous, like hey,

771
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:07,160
Speaker 1: your boyfriend's here.

772
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:08,719
Speaker 4: I think it could have been either of this, or

773
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 4: trying to be like, yeah, your boyfriend's here and I

774
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:13,560
Speaker 4: miss you so much. See how we're not cheating on you.

775
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:15,839
Speaker 4: I just happened to be with your boyfriend who's not

776
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 4: kissing me, totally not kissing me.

777
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 1: I pretty much asked every question in the book with

778
00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:22,760
Speaker 1: him on the phone. Lots of his answers were vague,

779
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 1: and his reasoning or excuse was that he was drunk

780
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:28,360
Speaker 1: and didn't remember. The thing is, this really grates me.

781
00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:32,719
Speaker 1: If when you're drunk you are overly affectionate, or this

782
00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 1: is the behavior, then you need to stop or limit

783
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 1: your drinking, because if you can't control yourself to this extent,

784
00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:40,959
Speaker 1: then that's an issue. Which I don't think that's true.

785
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:43,320
Speaker 1: I think that he was fully aware of Folks.

786
00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:46,080
Speaker 2: Just whatever you do, don't drink to excess. Yeah.

787
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 1: I hung up, thinking I walked into a different reality.

788
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:51,920
Speaker 1: Now here's where I need the help. What the F

789
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 1: do I do? Do we work through this? This man

790
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 1: has been basically the perfect boyfriend up until this moment.

791
00:34:57,440 --> 00:34:59,800
Speaker 1: I have said that I created him in a lab

792
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 1: because we complete each other. But this is a huge moment.

793
00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 1: Even if it is just a kiss. Do we believe

794
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:08,319
Speaker 1: it's just a kiss? I asked? I like that, Opie's like,

795
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:11,319
Speaker 1: do we believe this? I don't and we do not?

796
00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:13,840
Speaker 1: I asked her to explain, and she said it was

797
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:16,839
Speaker 1: a dumb, intoxicated kiss. But did they plan to say

798
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:20,400
Speaker 1: that together? So Opie also asked Brittany, is this possible

799
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 1: to get over that this happened while I was burying

800
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 1: my grandmother, who I'm very close to. He agreed to

801
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:28,279
Speaker 1: go to personal therapy and couple's therapy to work through this.

802
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 1: He seems really remorseful. Is this really just a stupid

803
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:35,040
Speaker 1: intoxicated mistake? I need to move in the shadows, But

804
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:37,879
Speaker 1: I'm also very honest. Something that people I'm dealing with

805
00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:40,800
Speaker 1: are apparently not. I have a very hard time keeping

806
00:35:40,840 --> 00:35:44,080
Speaker 1: anything like a birthday surprise from Joe, let alone moving

807
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 1: in the shadow plans. On the other hand, I'm also

808
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 1: in need of some delicious petty revenge, and we're in

809
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 1: need of you joining us live every week dead there'd

810
00:35:51,960 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 1: be mpst on YouTube just tabur profile, but there is

811
00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 1: a little bit more. What do you think about this?

812
00:35:56,600 --> 00:35:58,880
Speaker 1: Because I have some thoughts about that final sentence.

813
00:35:59,160 --> 00:36:01,840
Speaker 4: I think, well, no, it's just funny because I realized

814
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:04,880
Speaker 4: part way through that story, Joe and Britney kiss, and

815
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:07,799
Speaker 4: then Joe still stays over at Brittany's and He's like, oh,

816
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:09,560
Speaker 4: it's just a kiss. It was just a kiss, and like,

817
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 4: I kind of did the same thing one time.

818
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 2: What Yeah, but there was never a kiss.

819
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 4: But I did sleep over at this person's house and

820
00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:20,319
Speaker 4: we did sleep on the couch.

821
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 2: And nothing happened.

822
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:24,400
Speaker 4: Now when she was in a relationship, no, she wasn't. Okay, okay, okay,

823
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:27,520
Speaker 4: I might have been, but nothing happened. Wait, but you

824
00:36:27,640 --> 00:36:28,360
Speaker 4: kissed or there was it?

825
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:28,919
Speaker 2: No, we didn't.

826
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:31,320
Speaker 1: Oh okay, that's different.

827
00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:34,600
Speaker 4: But we both slept on the couch, but nothing happened,

828
00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 4: And like, could something have happened? I have no idea,

829
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:40,960
Speaker 4: but I'm not a guy that makes stuff happen. So anyway,

830
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 4: I suddenly find myself somewhat ampathizing with Joe in this

831
00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:48,479
Speaker 4: no being like, I mean, I just needed a place

832
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:49,080
Speaker 4: to lay down.

833
00:36:49,120 --> 00:36:51,240
Speaker 2: I slept on the couch. It was at her place.

834
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:54,759
Speaker 1: I think that if op is wanting to get petty revenge,

835
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 1: then she should not stand this relationship. But there is

836
00:36:57,080 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 1: more to the story, slightly relevant silly tidbit. Grandmother was

837
00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 1: not the kind of lady who kept her opinions to herself.

838
00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 1: She was very blunt, unapologetic, and she kicked butt, not

839
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 1: everyone's cup of tea. My cousin told the story at

840
00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:12,720
Speaker 1: her funeral of when my grandmother and grandfather were dating.

841
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:15,120
Speaker 1: Two other girls were paying a little too much to

842
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:17,960
Speaker 1: attention to my grandfather, so my grandmother offered them a

843
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 1: ride to school, but instead dropped them off at the

844
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 1: mouth of the canyon and said get out, and then

845
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:27,200
Speaker 1: she drove away. Wow, because they paid a little too

846
00:37:27,280 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 1: much attention too. Yeah, that's intense. I don't care what

847
00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:33,560
Speaker 1: you believe happens after death, because that's my grandmother telling

848
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 1: me how she would handle this. That's some tasty, petty revenge. Edit.

849
00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:39,760
Speaker 1: Tyler's house is three miles away from the garage party house.

850
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:42,839
Speaker 1: Brittany lives two doors down from the garage party house. Tyler, Joe,

851
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 1: and Brittany all went to Tyler's house. Joe drove Brittany

852
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:48,839
Speaker 1: home from Tyler's house. Joe and I lived together six

853
00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 1: miles away from the garage party house. Two things. One,

854
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 1: the fact that Joe drove Brittany home but claims it

855
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 1: was a drunk mistake. Either you weren't drunk or you were.

856
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 1: Both are bad because you that's pretty much up. Second,

857
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:05,560
Speaker 1: I don't know if we should follow your grandmother for

858
00:38:05,760 --> 00:38:08,919
Speaker 1: advice in this seems like she might be a little

859
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 1: bit diffdent. She seems wonderful. I love your grandmother. Perhaps

860
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:14,239
Speaker 1: she is not the most the best role model in

861
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 1: this situation.

862
00:38:15,160 --> 00:38:20,160
Speaker 4: She's great and maybe just donsn't her entirely. Look, I

863
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:22,839
Speaker 4: think at this point the only person with any sort

864
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 4: of leverage. I guess in this situation, it's like your

865
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:28,520
Speaker 4: fate is entirely in your hands at this point. Whether

866
00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:30,919
Speaker 4: you want to try to make this work or want

867
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 4: it to be over, the power is in your hands.

868
00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:37,360
Speaker 4: And whichever one you choose is the right choice, because

869
00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:38,560
Speaker 4: it's your choice.

870
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:41,600
Speaker 1: To me exactly, don't let anyone bully you into thinking otherwise.

871
00:38:41,719 --> 00:38:43,359
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, at the end of the day, it's

872
00:38:43,400 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 4: your decision. What I would say is that having once

873
00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:49,840
Speaker 4: been a very stupid guy, I'm less stupid now, but

874
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:51,440
Speaker 4: by used to be way stupider.

875
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 2: This might be a case of just a real stupid guy.

876
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:56,720
Speaker 4: And then maybe he drove her back to his place,

877
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:58,960
Speaker 4: and then he has the realization, oh, I shouldn't have

878
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,640
Speaker 4: been driving that car, and then he sleeps on the couch.

879
00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:03,440
Speaker 4: One of the only things I can think of that

880
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 4: makes any sense or provides any leeway in that situation,

881
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:11,400
Speaker 4: It's still decision lies within Opie's hands. My best friend's

882
00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:15,279
Speaker 4: husband is cheating on her while her health declines, so

883
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:16,879
Speaker 4: I told her to divorce him.

884
00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 1: Please do it, divorced, Please.

885
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 4: I have a doozy of a story, so buckle in.

886
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 4: My best friend female forty seven, and I met at work.

887
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 4: She has always been my number one go to and

888
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 4: is always there for me. The sweetest person you'll ever meet,

889
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:34,759
Speaker 4: super devoted to God and her marriage as well as

890
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 4: her four children. She's literally one of the best women

891
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:39,920
Speaker 4: I've ever met, and I look up to her and

892
00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:43,239
Speaker 4: her backbone a lot. She lets me borrow her backbone

893
00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 4: quite often.

894
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:44,759
Speaker 2: By the way.

895
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 4: This comes from user Lily Woa on the r slash

896
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 4: Okay storytime star reread it. So backstory on her. Her

897
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:54,359
Speaker 4: last marriage failed due to her ex husband cheating on her.

898
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 4: This was the marriage that she had her four kids in,

899
00:39:57,480 --> 00:40:00,360
Speaker 4: so it was a mega betrayal. She has been broken

900
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 4: by a cheater before, so when she met her now husband,

901
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:06,000
Speaker 4: she came into the relationship very guarded, but ready to

902
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:08,160
Speaker 4: be the best wife she could be. She has faith

903
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:10,799
Speaker 4: in God and his plan, so she went forward with

904
00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:13,960
Speaker 4: marrying her now husband, forty one male, who she truly

905
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 4: loves and adores. Fast forward to about a year ago,

906
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:20,719
Speaker 4: my best friend slash coworker who will call Jess, had

907
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 4: major medical issues. Jess was practically on her deathbed, relying

908
00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:27,560
Speaker 4: on her husband to keep up with household chores, taking

909
00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:29,959
Speaker 4: care of her as well as their dog at home.

910
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 4: He would run back and forth from the hospital to

911
00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:34,279
Speaker 4: her house to grab her stuff she needed, but.

912
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:35,759
Speaker 2: Wouldn't stick around for the whole night.

913
00:40:35,920 --> 00:40:38,600
Speaker 4: When I say Jess was on her deathbed, the doctor

914
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 4: told her to start planning for end of life. Whoa,

915
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:44,480
Speaker 4: as it was a huge possibility with all the medical

916
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:47,799
Speaker 4: issues she was having, so scary, real scary. I don't

917
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 4: want to get into specifics as to what was happening

918
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 4: with her medically, but all I can say was that

919
00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:54,400
Speaker 4: it was life or death. All she had was her

920
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:56,399
Speaker 4: husband and her kids to look out for her while

921
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:59,040
Speaker 4: she was in the hospital. The conversations Jess and I

922
00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 4: have about her husban very general. We never really got

923
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 4: into how her husband treats her or vice versa, just

924
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:07,680
Speaker 4: that they spend as much time as they can together

925
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:10,279
Speaker 4: and that she doesn't really communicate about work stuff, as

926
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 4: he has his own stuff going on and doesn't want

927
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 4: to bother him with it. Totally fine. Some marriages are

928
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:17,440
Speaker 4: like this, but it was working for them, or so

929
00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:21,880
Speaker 4: I thought. Jess has been extremely quiet the past week.

930
00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:24,200
Speaker 4: She's a very private person, which is one of the

931
00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 4: things I really love about it.

932
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:27,680
Speaker 1: She just doesn't tell me about things. I love it

933
00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 1: she keeps herself.

934
00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:31,120
Speaker 4: She doesn't bother me with anything. Also, she is the

935
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:34,279
Speaker 4: biggest boss lady I've ever met. Isn't out of the

936
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 4: norm that she keeps to herself as there have been

937
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 4: some high school type drama on our work team that

938
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 4: caused some real hostility, but that's now being ironed out.

939
00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 4: I've been checking on her throughout next week, asking how

940
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 4: she's doing and making sure she was doing good. She

941
00:41:48,719 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 4: never really said anything that made me think that it

942
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:54,759
Speaker 4: was this bad. Today my manager tagged me and my

943
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:58,200
Speaker 4: other coworker who will call Jackie into a meeting room

944
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 4: to chat and that it wasn't anything. Of course, when

945
00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:03,279
Speaker 4: your manager says that, the first thing you're gonna do

946
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:05,880
Speaker 4: is freak out, which is what I did. I hopped

947
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:09,279
Speaker 4: into the meeting bracing for impact. And Jess didn't sound right.

948
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 2: Now. I was getting worried.

949
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:12,959
Speaker 4: We had to wait for Jackie to hop into the meeting,

950
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:15,200
Speaker 4: which took about ten minutes, and I can't even tell

951
00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:18,200
Speaker 4: you how nervous I was. Once Jackie got into the meeting,

952
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 4: Jess proceeded to tell us that she just found out

953
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:24,880
Speaker 4: her husband of six years cheated on her while she

954
00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:29,720
Speaker 4: was in the hospital as well as before. Oh my god,

955
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 4: and she is really going through it. I can imagine. Yeah,

956
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 4: as most people would, I'd be immediately plotting to get

957
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:40,720
Speaker 4: my immediate ex husband into the hospital.

958
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 1: Where I was squad places.

959
00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:45,239
Speaker 4: She told us that her and her husband worked at

960
00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 4: the same job before she came to work for us,

961
00:42:47,680 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 4: and that their HR department got involved because her husband

962
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:54,000
Speaker 4: and the mistress were sleeping around with each other at work.

963
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:57,439
Speaker 1: Oh so messy. So not only are they sleeping around,

964
00:42:57,440 --> 00:43:01,600
Speaker 1: but they're also not doing their job. Oh this is

965
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:05,359
Speaker 1: so like to be cheating on someone before and they

966
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:08,640
Speaker 1: have this terrible autoimmune disease and are like in the hospital.

967
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:10,640
Speaker 4: That doesn't even snap you out of it. You're not

968
00:43:10,719 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 4: like I should be better, You're like I should double down.

969
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 4: I should continue to cheat on my diet.

970
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:16,359
Speaker 1: Why kids too.

971
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 4: Well, once she dies, I won't be able to cheat

972
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:20,239
Speaker 4: on her anymore, so I gotta get it in well

973
00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 4: I can.

974
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, this guy's orts cloud.

975
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:25,840
Speaker 4: I'm thinking black hole for this guy. Honestly, Spaghetti. I

976
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 4: want this guy to be Spaghetti and then then no

977
00:43:28,160 --> 00:43:28,840
Speaker 4: longer exist.

978
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:30,800
Speaker 1: Don't want you here on this plane.

979
00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 2: Go to the spaghetti universe.

980
00:43:32,719 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 4: Okay, not only that, but just goes to the doctor

981
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 4: and finds out her husband brought.

982
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 2: Home a disease. No from the mistress.

983
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:49,200
Speaker 1: Oh my god, yeah, spaghetti easily, Spugghetti. I'm sorry you're

984
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:54,200
Speaker 1: having unprotected spicy sleep and bringing it to your sick wife.

985
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 2: You're having unprotected spaghetti.

986
00:43:56,360 --> 00:43:58,760
Speaker 1: Oh my god, like immunocompromised wife.

987
00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:01,879
Speaker 4: Needless to say, I had to hold my tongue during

988
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 4: the meeting. Some of the stuff I needed to say

989
00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:06,480
Speaker 4: to her couldn't have been said in that meeting without

990
00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:08,280
Speaker 4: me breaking some rules at work.

991
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:09,960
Speaker 2: We all just told her that we're.

992
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:11,879
Speaker 4: Here for her if she needs anything, and we'll do

993
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:14,720
Speaker 4: anything she needs us to, and that we love her dearly.

994
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:17,680
Speaker 4: We're a team of four girls and a lot like

995
00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 4: a family. So us saying I love you to each

996
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 4: other is not unusual.

997
00:44:21,280 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 1: That's what our workplace is like. We're a team of

998
00:44:23,719 --> 00:44:24,320
Speaker 1: four girls.

999
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:25,880
Speaker 2: We're a team of four girlies.

1000
00:44:26,600 --> 00:44:29,360
Speaker 4: We all have each other's backs and say you and

1001
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:33,279
Speaker 4: top girly is I guess Sam and John and then

1002
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 4: you and then it's me.

1003
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:35,400
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1004
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:38,200
Speaker 4: Once the meeting was over, I asked her if I

1005
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:40,920
Speaker 4: could call her, at which time she agreed. Once I

1006
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:43,000
Speaker 4: called her, the first couple of supportive things I could

1007
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:45,160
Speaker 4: say was I don't know how anyone could do this

1008
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:48,240
Speaker 4: is someone as special as you are. It's taking everything

1009
00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 4: into me not to get on a flight down to

1010
00:44:50,640 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 4: you and come kick his butt. Also, when someone shows

1011
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:56,400
Speaker 4: you their true colors, believe them. You've been through this before.

1012
00:44:56,560 --> 00:44:58,880
Speaker 4: Do you really want to put yourself through this again?

1013
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:01,480
Speaker 4: If it were me, it would be grounds for divorce.

1014
00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:02,279
Speaker 2: What do you mean?

1015
00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:04,840
Speaker 4: Yes, if it were me, it'd be grounds for divorce.

1016
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 4: If you're anybody, it's grounds for divorce.

1017
00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:10,360
Speaker 1: I think GOP he's trying to give advice without outright

1018
00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:11,879
Speaker 1: saying do this, which is fair.

1019
00:45:11,960 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 4: I'll support you in anything that you decide to do.

1020
00:45:14,520 --> 00:45:16,320
Speaker 4: She told me she wants to give it another shot,

1021
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 4: And I told her, in my personal opinion that it's

1022
00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:21,239
Speaker 4: time to jump ship and call your losses, but that

1023
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:23,719
Speaker 4: she needs to follow her heart. I talked to Jess

1024
00:45:23,719 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 4: about Reddit and she agreed to let me post this

1025
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:28,920
Speaker 4: story as long as I don't post names. She's curious

1026
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:31,240
Speaker 4: what people will think about her situation and the advice

1027
00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:31,800
Speaker 4: that she'll.

1028
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:33,640
Speaker 2: Receive Reddit support for the win.

1029
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:36,600
Speaker 4: So for the question we have all been waiting for,

1030
00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 4: Am I the a hole for telling her to leave

1031
00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 4: her husband after cheating on her or do you think

1032
00:45:41,680 --> 00:45:43,360
Speaker 4: she should be giving this another go?

1033
00:45:43,880 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 1: No, you're not the ale. It also doesn't seem like

1034
00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 1: she is calling you the a whole, So are you

1035
00:45:47,640 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 1: just feeling guilty?

1036
00:45:48,560 --> 00:45:50,799
Speaker 4: You're definitely not an a hole. And I think we

1037
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 4: said it in the last story. The ultimate decider is Jess.

1038
00:45:55,200 --> 00:45:57,959
Speaker 4: In this situation, you can give advice, although I feel

1039
00:45:57,960 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 4: like this situation is a little less south then the

1040
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 4: previous one. Yes, it still technically is up to Jess

1041
00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:08,840
Speaker 4: whether or not she wants to attempt to mend Yeah.

1042
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:12,760
Speaker 1: And I think you've given her advice and your thoughts

1043
00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 1: on it, and you've given her support. And I think

1044
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 1: as long as you show that you're a person that

1045
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:19,120
Speaker 1: she can come to for that love that she's not

1046
00:46:19,160 --> 00:46:22,000
Speaker 1: given from her husband. That's kind of all you can

1047
00:46:22,040 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 1: do right now, but I don't think that you're the

1048
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:24,279
Speaker 1: able for doing it.

1049
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, you just need to continue to be there for

1050
00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:28,359
Speaker 4: as a friend. We do have some more info here.

1051
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 4: We have it edit and I assume we have an

1052
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:33,359
Speaker 4: update too. Jess's husband has been cheating on her for

1053
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:34,920
Speaker 4: two years out of the six.

1054
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:35,800
Speaker 2: Years they've been married.

1055
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:39,240
Speaker 4: Before, during and after that she was sick in the hospital.

1056
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:39,959
Speaker 2: What a guy.

1057
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 4: He even had the balls to continue to go to

1058
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:45,320
Speaker 4: church with her, claiming to be a man of Godwood.

1059
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:48,719
Speaker 4: What an efin joke. Physically, she's doing a lot better

1060
00:46:48,760 --> 00:46:52,880
Speaker 4: and no longer in the hospital after successful surgeries, but emotionally.

1061
00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 2: Not so much.

1062
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:55,759
Speaker 4: I feel awful for her and would do anything to

1063
00:46:55,760 --> 00:46:58,400
Speaker 4: take it all away. This poor woman would give the

1064
00:46:58,480 --> 00:47:00,719
Speaker 4: shirt off her back for any one, and it makes

1065
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 4: me sick that she's with someone like that. I'll definitely

1066
00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:06,399
Speaker 4: let you all know updates as the story unfolds in

1067
00:47:06,440 --> 00:47:08,160
Speaker 4: real time, And here.

1068
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:09,800
Speaker 2: Is the update.

1069
00:47:10,000 --> 00:47:13,800
Speaker 4: Jess's husband seems to be emotionally and physically checked out.

1070
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 4: They both agreed they would communicate better and try to

1071
00:47:16,600 --> 00:47:19,560
Speaker 4: make it work and I'm totally supportive in whatever she

1072
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:22,360
Speaker 4: wants to do and told her I'm here for her anytime,

1073
00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:24,960
Speaker 4: day or night. It's not really going in her favor

1074
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:27,960
Speaker 4: and he doesn't tell her where he's going, completely disregards

1075
00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:30,600
Speaker 4: her throughout the day, and is super super secretive about

1076
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:33,960
Speaker 4: his phone. Yeah, doesn't sound like he's making any positive changes.

1077
00:47:34,280 --> 00:47:37,239
Speaker 1: No, just divorcees man. He sucks for real.

1078
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:39,640
Speaker 4: She has gone as far as saying I love you

1079
00:47:39,719 --> 00:47:42,239
Speaker 4: and he won't say it back. Oh it's over, girl,

1080
00:47:42,360 --> 00:47:43,840
Speaker 4: Leave this guy. It's done.

1081
00:47:44,040 --> 00:47:44,560
Speaker 1: Leave them.

1082
00:47:45,400 --> 00:47:48,480
Speaker 4: Jess set up counseling through church for them to attend,

1083
00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:50,920
Speaker 4: and her husband agreed that will be happening sometime in

1084
00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 4: the next two weeks. The mistress knew he was married

1085
00:47:54,160 --> 00:47:57,360
Speaker 4: and even worked with Jess and her husband at her

1086
00:47:57,400 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 4: previous job.

1087
00:47:58,360 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 1: Ridiculous.

1088
00:47:59,200 --> 00:48:01,600
Speaker 2: Wow, she's suck too. Yeah, she's the worst.

1089
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:04,600
Speaker 4: She's known as the company home wrecker and has done

1090
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:06,160
Speaker 4: this to other married couples.

1091
00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:06,480
Speaker 2: Wow.

1092
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:09,879
Speaker 4: Yeah, the worst, Guess said, she feels numb right now,

1093
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:12,200
Speaker 4: and I'm not sure what to do besides just be

1094
00:48:12,360 --> 00:48:14,440
Speaker 4: here for her. This is all the update that I

1095
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:17,160
Speaker 4: have for now. Petty Revenge has been issued and I'm

1096
00:48:17,200 --> 00:48:21,800
Speaker 4: excited for the end result and here comes the petty revenge.

1097
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:22,399
Speaker 2: Here we go.

1098
00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:25,120
Speaker 4: Okay, guys, you all want to know what my petty

1099
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:27,799
Speaker 4: revenge is. I'm trying to protect myself from trouble. But

1100
00:48:27,880 --> 00:48:30,560
Speaker 4: what I can say is she will be getting a

1101
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:34,640
Speaker 4: lot of calls from people wanting free electronics and also

1102
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:37,840
Speaker 4: for fun sec time with people all shapes and sizes.

1103
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:40,520
Speaker 4: I'm still planning and will update as I go on.

1104
00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:44,320
Speaker 4: The petty revenge has only begun. Don't mess with my homegirl.

1105
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:45,120
Speaker 2: To those of you.

1106
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:47,600
Speaker 4: Upset about the petty revenge I've dished or think I'll

1107
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:50,759
Speaker 4: get in trouble with the law, I'm speaking fight experience.

1108
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:53,319
Speaker 4: One of my old coworkers at my old job did

1109
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 4: exactly what I did, called the cops. They just told

1110
00:48:56,880 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 4: me to change my number and they had bigger problems

1111
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:02,319
Speaker 4: to the with. She was pissed because I called my

1112
00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:04,640
Speaker 4: manager at the time to tell her she was two

1113
00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:06,960
Speaker 4: hours late to her shift. To dismiss me from the store.

1114
00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:10,160
Speaker 4: She revenge posted me, which sucked because I had changed

1115
00:49:10,160 --> 00:49:12,680
Speaker 4: my number that I had since I was a kid. Also,

1116
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:14,759
Speaker 4: my mother in law is a lawyer. I've ran this

1117
00:49:14,960 --> 00:49:16,640
Speaker 4: by her and she said As long as I'm not

1118
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:19,359
Speaker 4: making threats or posting legit spicy picks of her, then

1119
00:49:19,440 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 4: nothing can come back to me.

1120
00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:22,000
Speaker 2: I'm being very careful.

1121
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:24,719
Speaker 4: But this mistress deserves everything that's coming for She was

1122
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 4: involved with her family and grandchildren for years and they

1123
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:29,480
Speaker 4: had an affair in her house.

1124
00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 2: Wow.

1125
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:33,440
Speaker 4: So yeah, she's the other side of this stinky little coin.

1126
00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:37,400
Speaker 4: I hater the husband and this home wrecker, professional home wrecker.

1127
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:39,320
Speaker 2: Just a stank little coin.

1128
00:49:39,520 --> 00:49:41,680
Speaker 4: Toss that coin out, throw it in a stinky well

1129
00:49:41,800 --> 00:49:43,240
Speaker 4: full of stinky water.

1130
00:49:43,440 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 1: She knew she.

1131
00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:46,399
Speaker 4: Was breaking up a happy home. Her husband was going

1132
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:48,719
Speaker 4: to do it anyway, but she knew what she was doing.

1133
00:49:48,800 --> 00:49:51,759
Speaker 4: Anyone that thinks she doesn't deserve what's coming for the mistress,

1134
00:49:52,000 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 4: But I know something that's not a question mark, and

1135
00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:57,600
Speaker 4: it's that you can join us every weekday when we

1136
00:49:57,600 --> 00:49:59,840
Speaker 4: go live on YouTube at three PMPSD.

1137
00:50:00,239 --> 00:50:02,200
Speaker 1: Just have our proofle tab it, tamp it.

1138
00:50:02,440 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 4: So we have a little bit of story left. I

1139
00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:07,360
Speaker 4: guess we have our second update here. Oh where do

1140
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 4: we think it's gonna go?

1141
00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:11,759
Speaker 1: But I think what Ope's thing was she sent? I

1142
00:50:11,800 --> 00:50:16,120
Speaker 1: don't know, maybe posted the mistress's name or number online

1143
00:50:16,520 --> 00:50:19,879
Speaker 1: and said, like she's looking for spicy.

1144
00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:21,359
Speaker 2: Time and cheap electronics.

1145
00:50:21,440 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 4: That's the only revenge that she did docs the mistress. Yes,

1146
00:50:24,680 --> 00:50:26,719
Speaker 4: but not in a real way that gets you in

1147
00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 4: trouble legally, I guess.

1148
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 1: So, so I guess she's in the clear.

1149
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:32,479
Speaker 4: Yeah, just I don't know, get her to leave him?

1150
00:50:32,800 --> 00:50:36,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, he sucks so much and he's still sucking. Like

1151
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:38,879
Speaker 1: she's still giving him a chance, and he sucks, sucks

1152
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:41,160
Speaker 1: big time, sucks so much, big time.

1153
00:50:41,520 --> 00:50:43,480
Speaker 4: Well you know it's not gonna suck big time this

1154
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:47,440
Speaker 4: update that we got right here. So just to heads up, everyone,

1155
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:50,759
Speaker 4: I'm reading all your comments to her daily and it's

1156
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:53,359
Speaker 4: been helping her heel, so keep it coming today. She's

1157
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:56,560
Speaker 4: not numb, she's mad, starting to realize that she shouldn't

1158
00:50:56,560 --> 00:51:00,319
Speaker 4: interact with him smexually anymore, as he is not to

1159
00:51:00,320 --> 00:51:03,359
Speaker 4: be trusted. She is realizing that it's time to guard

1160
00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 4: her heart and her body. She is a very spicily

1161
00:51:07,280 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 4: active individual. So I told her I would buy her

1162
00:51:10,160 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 4: a pallethora of silicone objects to take care of herself

1163
00:51:14,640 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 4: so she doesn't do the deed with him anymore. She agreed,

1164
00:51:17,640 --> 00:51:20,040
Speaker 4: So we are making progress. I'm so proud of her.

1165
00:51:20,160 --> 00:51:22,800
Speaker 4: I let her talk to me all day during work

1166
00:51:23,080 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 4: so she has someone to talk to and support her.

1167
00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:27,280
Speaker 4: The more I talk to her, the more she sounds

1168
00:51:27,320 --> 00:51:31,439
Speaker 4: like her more bad booty self. She even talks about

1169
00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 4: him differently, so something must have clicked for her. Yeah,

1170
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:35,840
Speaker 4: maybe that he's a pile of garbage.

1171
00:51:35,840 --> 00:51:36,440
Speaker 1: He sucks.

1172
00:51:36,520 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 4: She is still being secretive on his phone, so nothing

1173
00:51:39,120 --> 00:51:41,520
Speaker 4: has changed with the actions of her husband, only the

1174
00:51:41,520 --> 00:51:44,400
Speaker 4: way Jess reacts to how he treated her, one step

1175
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:45,959
Speaker 4: at a time, and that's the end.

1176
00:51:45,880 --> 00:51:46,360
Speaker 2: Of the story.

1177
00:51:46,480 --> 00:51:48,520
Speaker 1: I say in the story, man, I need them to

1178
00:51:48,520 --> 00:51:49,040
Speaker 1: break up.

1179
00:51:49,239 --> 00:51:52,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, this guy's not good. Cheated on you while you

1180
00:51:52,080 --> 00:51:55,799
Speaker 4: were in the hospital dying. Yeah, and before that and

1181
00:51:56,080 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 4: after that.

1182
00:51:57,000 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 1: I'm appreciative that ope's there. I mean, like, at least

1183
00:51:59,560 --> 00:52:02,120
Speaker 1: this girl's he's got a good friend in OPI who's supportive.

1184
00:52:02,920 --> 00:52:05,960
Speaker 1: My boyfriend lied about texting his X, so I told

1185
00:52:06,040 --> 00:52:08,000
Speaker 1: him to never contact me again.

1186
00:52:08,400 --> 00:52:11,719
Speaker 4: You want to text your X, well, don't text this X.

1187
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:14,319
Speaker 4: It's me now, I'm your ex. Don't text me.

1188
00:52:14,719 --> 00:52:18,239
Speaker 1: Yesterday, I had an amazing day with my boyfriend. It

1189
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:20,440
Speaker 1: was the first real day of our week vacation that

1190
00:52:20,480 --> 00:52:23,560
Speaker 1: I planned and organized for his b day. As we

1191
00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 1: were on our way to dinner, he suddenly wanted to

1192
00:52:26,160 --> 00:52:28,919
Speaker 1: go through my phone. Out of nowhere, he starts going

1193
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:32,279
Speaker 1: through messages for months before I even met him, questioning

1194
00:52:32,400 --> 00:52:35,560
Speaker 1: who everyone is. Mind you, I've never cheated on him

1195
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:38,120
Speaker 1: or talked to anyone behind his back. In fact, when

1196
00:52:38,120 --> 00:52:40,359
Speaker 1: my ex reached out a few times, I openly told

1197
00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:42,399
Speaker 1: him about it as soon as it happened and asked

1198
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:44,840
Speaker 1: him how he'd liked me to proceed. It seems like

1199
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:47,080
Speaker 1: he's projecting tell you that much. By the way, this

1200
00:52:47,160 --> 00:52:49,640
Speaker 1: comes from Babby Mesch on the Okay Storytime subured it.

1201
00:52:49,960 --> 00:52:54,120
Speaker 1: So anyways, after going through all of that, he checks

1202
00:52:54,160 --> 00:52:57,840
Speaker 1: my recently deleted texts. He is not text savvy, so

1203
00:52:57,960 --> 00:53:00,719
Speaker 1: I asked him how he knew that existed, at which

1204
00:53:00,760 --> 00:53:05,520
Speaker 1: point he bangs, stumbling over his words. I asked him

1205
00:53:05,800 --> 00:53:08,680
Speaker 1: if he's been deleting messages and then deleting them from

1206
00:53:08,840 --> 00:53:12,879
Speaker 1: recently deleted He said no, I doubt that. A little background,

1207
00:53:12,920 --> 00:53:15,560
Speaker 1: my boyfriend has an ex he broke up with right

1208
00:53:15,600 --> 00:53:18,160
Speaker 1: before meeting me, and when he blocked her some months

1209
00:53:18,200 --> 00:53:22,720
Speaker 1: into being with me, she began emailing him NonStop horrible things.

1210
00:53:23,040 --> 00:53:25,600
Speaker 1: There were many times a day, multiple times a week.

1211
00:53:25,680 --> 00:53:28,440
Speaker 1: About five and a half weeks ago, his ex abruptly

1212
00:53:28,480 --> 00:53:31,919
Speaker 1: stopped emailing. I found this extremely weird, and I began

1213
00:53:32,080 --> 00:53:35,080
Speaker 1: questioning him if he'd been talking to her. He started

1214
00:53:35,120 --> 00:53:39,120
Speaker 1: acting weird with his phone being secretive, and my anxiety peaked.

1215
00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:41,719
Speaker 1: I must have asked him over a dozen times if

1216
00:53:41,719 --> 00:53:43,799
Speaker 1: he was being honest with me about everything and if

1217
00:53:43,800 --> 00:53:46,640
Speaker 1: there's anything I needed to know. Hell I even voiced

1218
00:53:46,640 --> 00:53:48,759
Speaker 1: that I need to make my sessions in therapy more

1219
00:53:48,800 --> 00:53:51,640
Speaker 1: often because I have no idea why my anxiety is

1220
00:53:51,680 --> 00:53:54,080
Speaker 1: so hi. He's all the while, he played the supportive

1221
00:53:54,080 --> 00:53:57,720
Speaker 1: boyfriend doing nothing wrong. Well, after he went through my phone,

1222
00:53:57,800 --> 00:54:00,000
Speaker 1: I asked him if I emailed her with the story

1223
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:03,080
Speaker 1: line up. He assured me it would. Then, while at dinner,

1224
00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 1: he stepped away to the bathroom. When he came back,

1225
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:07,880
Speaker 1: I made a bitter comment, what did you go in

1226
00:54:07,960 --> 00:54:10,640
Speaker 1: there to warn her? To get your stories straight? He

1227
00:54:10,680 --> 00:54:14,400
Speaker 1: assured me. Know he has spoken to her in months. Elloel.

1228
00:54:14,719 --> 00:54:17,880
Speaker 1: Later that night, we make up and we're lying in

1229
00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:20,319
Speaker 1: bed and I ask him, so you swear you haven't

1230
00:54:20,360 --> 00:54:24,279
Speaker 1: talked to her? I swear on your family silence. He

1231
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:26,840
Speaker 1: couldn't do it, couldn't do it on his grandma. This

1232
00:54:27,000 --> 00:54:28,880
Speaker 1: is what I knew. I told him he needed to

1233
00:54:28,880 --> 00:54:31,960
Speaker 1: tell me everything, at which point he was silent for

1234
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:36,319
Speaker 1: about fifteen minutes. You can imagine my anxiety. Finally, he

1235
00:54:36,400 --> 00:54:38,960
Speaker 1: admitted that he did talk to her just once to

1236
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:42,759
Speaker 1: give her closure. I'm freaking out. How could you lie

1237
00:54:42,800 --> 00:54:44,880
Speaker 1: to me? I don't believe it was just that once?

1238
00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:49,399
Speaker 1: When was the last time, etc. All the while he's

1239
00:54:49,400 --> 00:54:51,319
Speaker 1: saying just the once, and it was right after the

1240
00:54:51,360 --> 00:54:54,440
Speaker 1: email stopped, he swears. Then I look at my phone.

1241
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:58,120
Speaker 1: What do I have? An Instagram request message from his

1242
00:54:58,200 --> 00:55:01,200
Speaker 1: ex saying that he told her I was going to email,

1243
00:55:01,280 --> 00:55:05,600
Speaker 1: but she hasn't received anything. Oh man, I lost it.

1244
00:55:05,800 --> 00:55:08,319
Speaker 4: His tomfoolery is in the light.

1245
00:55:08,760 --> 00:55:11,640
Speaker 1: I told him to tell me everything because obviously he

1246
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:14,520
Speaker 1: was still lying. He wouldn't, So I packed my bags

1247
00:55:14,520 --> 00:55:17,880
Speaker 1: and got a sketchy hotel and slept there with my

1248
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:20,800
Speaker 1: bags against the door. Talk to his ex this morning.

1249
00:55:20,920 --> 00:55:23,280
Speaker 1: She was trying to cover his back and hers. Turns

1250
00:55:23,320 --> 00:55:26,480
Speaker 1: out they've been talking what about who knows for weeks

1251
00:55:26,800 --> 00:55:29,680
Speaker 1: pretty sis. The most recent time, aside from when he

1252
00:55:29,719 --> 00:55:31,760
Speaker 1: was in the bathroom, was a week before a trip,

1253
00:55:31,960 --> 00:55:34,280
Speaker 1: when she wished him a happy birthday and they chatted

1254
00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:37,239
Speaker 1: about this trip. Allegedly, she said she could disappear, but

1255
00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:38,560
Speaker 1: did he take her up on that?

1256
00:55:39,239 --> 00:55:39,640
Speaker 2: Nope.

1257
00:55:39,680 --> 00:55:41,520
Speaker 1: The guy thinks he was the good guy for making

1258
00:55:41,560 --> 00:55:45,080
Speaker 1: amends with her while gaslighting me and lying and making

1259
00:55:45,080 --> 00:55:47,839
Speaker 1: me feel like I'm just overly anxious person, which I'm

1260
00:55:47,880 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 1: not when I'm in an environment that's true. What's crazy

1261
00:55:51,239 --> 00:55:54,400
Speaker 1: is my intuition new and I was literally having dreams

1262
00:55:54,400 --> 00:55:56,759
Speaker 1: about him talking to her all the while. He was

1263
00:55:56,840 --> 00:55:59,439
Speaker 1: constantly assuring me, I don't know if there's any way

1264
00:55:59,480 --> 00:56:03,040
Speaker 1: past this. Am I overreacting? And there is an update?

1265
00:56:03,400 --> 00:56:04,520
Speaker 1: You're not overreacting?

1266
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:05,320
Speaker 2: Are you sure?

1267
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:08,799
Speaker 1: Maybe you're overreacting. I feel like he's clearly lying.

1268
00:56:08,719 --> 00:56:10,359
Speaker 2: No, you're not overreacting.

1269
00:56:10,520 --> 00:56:13,920
Speaker 4: This guy has been so clearly, like from the very

1270
00:56:13,960 --> 00:56:16,720
Speaker 4: beginning of like, well, why don't you check you're recently deleted?

1271
00:56:17,040 --> 00:56:19,040
Speaker 4: And then she's just like, how do you know about that?

1272
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:22,480
Speaker 4: You don't know anything about technology, idiot? He's like, I

1273
00:56:22,520 --> 00:56:25,400
Speaker 4: definitely don't know about it because I've been deleting messages

1274
00:56:25,440 --> 00:56:26,400
Speaker 4: with my ex girlfriend.

1275
00:56:26,440 --> 00:56:27,400
Speaker 2: I don't want you to see.

1276
00:56:27,480 --> 00:56:29,640
Speaker 4: It's definitely not because of that, and also, no, you

1277
00:56:29,680 --> 00:56:33,560
Speaker 4: can't see my phone, and uh, shut up, cheater, you cheated.

1278
00:56:33,880 --> 00:56:36,640
Speaker 1: He's like, actually, I have been learning a little bit

1279
00:56:36,640 --> 00:56:40,680
Speaker 1: more about phones, and sometimes they just delete texts, especially not.

1280
00:56:40,719 --> 00:56:42,520
Speaker 2: Me Steve Jobs's ghost.

1281
00:56:42,760 --> 00:56:44,960
Speaker 1: He just gets into your phone and he deletes the text.

1282
00:56:45,040 --> 00:56:47,080
Speaker 2: And he's a cheaty little guy. He deletes your text.

1283
00:56:47,239 --> 00:56:50,959
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't trust him. He's gas slighting you. He's

1284
00:56:51,080 --> 00:56:52,240
Speaker 1: lying about things.

1285
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:54,160
Speaker 2: He's conspiring with the X.

1286
00:56:54,280 --> 00:56:58,120
Speaker 1: He conspired with the X. Drop him, you're done, Yeah, done,

1287
00:56:58,239 --> 00:57:01,759
Speaker 1: bye bye. No trust And there is an update. So

1288
00:57:01,840 --> 00:57:05,000
Speaker 1: my original post got deleted. I was assuming because his

1289
00:57:05,040 --> 00:57:07,520
Speaker 1: ex reported it, but who knows. I can post it

1290
00:57:07,600 --> 00:57:09,319
Speaker 1: on the bottom of this after I get the crap

1291
00:57:09,360 --> 00:57:12,560
Speaker 1: show that's come forth off my chest. So as most

1292
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:14,719
Speaker 1: of you who kept up, no, I had to stay

1293
00:57:14,760 --> 00:57:16,760
Speaker 1: at day and one night in the cabin with him.

1294
00:57:17,000 --> 00:57:20,280
Speaker 1: He wouldn't leave me alone, kept apologizing and asking if

1295
00:57:20,280 --> 00:57:22,720
Speaker 1: I can forgive him. He didn't even let me sleep

1296
00:57:22,720 --> 00:57:25,000
Speaker 1: in the bed after I expressed, he can take the

1297
00:57:25,040 --> 00:57:27,360
Speaker 1: floor of the couch, so I took the couch. We

1298
00:57:27,480 --> 00:57:30,160
Speaker 1: left the next morning. It was a seven hour car

1299
00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:32,960
Speaker 1: ride full of him attempting to apologize, say how he

1300
00:57:33,000 --> 00:57:35,240
Speaker 1: doesn't know how he could ruin this. He should have

1301
00:57:35,320 --> 00:57:37,400
Speaker 1: told me about trying to tie it up with her

1302
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:39,919
Speaker 1: and we should have handled it together. That he didn't

1303
00:57:39,960 --> 00:57:42,520
Speaker 1: know why he does this to people. He's ashamed and

1304
00:57:42,600 --> 00:57:45,400
Speaker 1: a crappy, a hole that he hopes I can forgive him.

1305
00:57:45,560 --> 00:57:48,480
Speaker 1: Fast forward, we're home. He won't leave my house. He

1306
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:51,000
Speaker 1: stayed with me most of the night and kept asking

1307
00:57:51,040 --> 00:57:53,760
Speaker 1: me to forgive him. Says he doesn't know what the

1308
00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:55,880
Speaker 1: f happened to him and feels like he was in

1309
00:57:56,000 --> 00:57:56,960
Speaker 1: trance at the cabin.

1310
00:57:57,120 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 4: Folks, I'm gonna say this right now. If you're not careful,

1311
00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:03,480
Speaker 4: you will become that which you hate the most, and

1312
00:58:03,520 --> 00:58:06,840
Speaker 4: it seems like this guy has done that to himself.

1313
00:58:06,880 --> 00:58:09,240
Speaker 4: If you're not careful, you become that very thing which

1314
00:58:09,240 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 4: you seek to destroy.

1315
00:58:10,520 --> 00:58:13,480
Speaker 2: And he is like, oh, now I could have done this,

1316
00:58:14,360 --> 00:58:15,640
Speaker 2: I shouldn't have done this, And.

1317
00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:18,680
Speaker 4: It's like, well, clearly you did want to do that,

1318
00:58:18,840 --> 00:58:19,600
Speaker 4: because you did it.

1319
00:58:19,600 --> 00:58:22,640
Speaker 1: It's also funny that like he keeps kind of making

1320
00:58:22,720 --> 00:58:25,040
Speaker 1: up these weird excuses. He's like, I didn't know what

1321
00:58:25,120 --> 00:58:29,480
Speaker 1: was going on, I was in a trance, I was possessed.

1322
00:58:29,040 --> 00:58:31,600
Speaker 4: There was something in the lacquer, something which took over

1323
00:58:31,680 --> 00:58:33,360
Speaker 4: my body, over my mind.

1324
00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:36,040
Speaker 1: I couldn't help it. Claims he has no idea why

1325
00:58:36,080 --> 00:58:39,560
Speaker 1: he'd defend his psycho X at this point, I even

1326
00:58:39,640 --> 00:58:42,160
Speaker 1: kind of believe she was a bit psychotic, like true

1327
00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 1: definition wise, not in a demeaning way. Boy was I manipulated?

1328
00:58:46,880 --> 00:58:49,360
Speaker 1: After a movie, he finally left, and this morning he

1329
00:58:49,400 --> 00:58:51,760
Speaker 1: sent me a screenshot of him signing up for therapy.

1330
00:58:52,040 --> 00:58:55,280
Speaker 1: Said this is special and he really saw us being forever,

1331
00:58:55,720 --> 00:58:57,760
Speaker 1: doesn't know why he did it, and he'll never speak

1332
00:58:57,760 --> 00:59:00,920
Speaker 1: to her again. Swears he's sorry and will work through everything,

1333
00:59:01,400 --> 00:59:03,760
Speaker 1: considering giving me full access to his Apple, I D

1334
00:59:04,040 --> 00:59:06,360
Speaker 1: and online accounts. Then he said he was going to

1335
00:59:06,400 --> 00:59:09,160
Speaker 1: the gym, then his parents because he needed to clear

1336
00:59:09,200 --> 00:59:09,600
Speaker 1: his head.

1337
00:59:09,720 --> 00:59:11,840
Speaker 4: The rationale of like, I don't know why I did this.

1338
00:59:12,320 --> 00:59:15,440
Speaker 4: I would have never done this. It's like you'll probably

1339
00:59:15,480 --> 00:59:18,000
Speaker 4: say the same thing when it happens next time you go,

1340
00:59:18,120 --> 00:59:19,640
Speaker 4: I didn't want to do this, I don't.

1341
00:59:19,480 --> 00:59:20,360
Speaker 2: Know how it happened.

1342
00:59:20,440 --> 00:59:21,800
Speaker 4: It'd be better for you to be like, I know

1343
00:59:21,880 --> 00:59:24,360
Speaker 4: exactly why this happened, and I know exactly how to

1344
00:59:24,440 --> 00:59:25,920
Speaker 4: make sure it never happens again.

1345
00:59:26,120 --> 00:59:27,040
Speaker 2: Instead of just like.

1346
00:59:27,240 --> 00:59:31,440
Speaker 4: The air inside the cabin made me text this person.

1347
00:59:31,680 --> 00:59:33,720
Speaker 1: No, whenever people say, oh, I don't it just happened,

1348
00:59:33,760 --> 00:59:36,480
Speaker 1: I want a full breakdown of why this happened. What

1349
00:59:36,680 --> 00:59:39,360
Speaker 1: in your childhood made you this way?

1350
00:59:39,800 --> 00:59:41,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, that'd be way better. Yeah.

1351
00:59:41,520 --> 00:59:44,560
Speaker 1: Well, while he's at his parents, I got a very

1352
00:59:44,600 --> 00:59:47,600
Speaker 1: long email from his ex about an hour ago, uncovering

1353
00:59:47,640 --> 00:59:50,240
Speaker 1: the extent they've been talking. Turns out the whole time,

1354
00:59:50,280 --> 00:59:52,720
Speaker 1: by the way, and the amount of lies and manipulation

1355
00:59:52,960 --> 00:59:56,080
Speaker 1: is truly the worst thing I've ever experienced personally from

1356
00:59:56,120 --> 00:59:58,720
Speaker 1: any man. She told me the entire story from the

1357
00:59:58,840 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 1: very beginning, and it was full of things that only

1358
01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:03,640
Speaker 1: he and I should ever know about, with a little

1359
01:00:03,640 --> 01:00:05,560
Speaker 1: twist in the way he painted me, so I know

1360
01:00:05,680 --> 01:00:07,480
Speaker 1: she can't be lying about most of it. I am

1361
01:00:07,520 --> 01:00:10,160
Speaker 1: an actual shock right now. I'm sitting on my couch

1362
01:00:10,240 --> 01:00:12,840
Speaker 1: and I started to cry, and then I just felt numb.

1363
01:00:13,000 --> 01:00:16,760
Speaker 1: But you should never cry, because you can join us

1364
01:00:16,760 --> 01:00:19,160
Speaker 1: live every weekday at the PMPST on YouTube. Just tap

1365
01:00:19,200 --> 01:00:20,120
Speaker 1: her profile. Tap it.

1366
01:00:20,280 --> 01:00:22,960
Speaker 4: Sometimes the stories make you want to cry, and sometimes

1367
01:00:23,080 --> 01:00:25,160
Speaker 4: but we can cry together, and we'll always be here.

1368
01:00:25,360 --> 01:00:26,240
Speaker 2: We'll always be here.

1369
01:00:26,160 --> 01:00:29,760
Speaker 4: To cry together about some ridiculous nonsense somebody.

1370
01:00:29,560 --> 01:00:33,000
Speaker 1: Went through stupid, stupid story. Yeah, and there's a little

1371
01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:35,919
Speaker 1: bit left to this tale, this sad tale. But yeah,

1372
01:00:36,040 --> 01:00:38,960
Speaker 1: drop him. He sucks, he's a liar, he's a cheater.

1373
01:00:39,160 --> 01:00:42,200
Speaker 1: And if he doesn't know why he's doing this, then

1374
01:00:42,600 --> 01:00:44,320
Speaker 1: he doesn't deserve to be with you.

1375
01:00:44,440 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, if he doesn't know why he's doing this with

1376
01:00:46,640 --> 01:00:48,280
Speaker 4: this X, does he even.

1377
01:00:48,040 --> 01:00:48,960
Speaker 2: Know why he's with you?

1378
01:00:49,360 --> 01:00:51,480
Speaker 4: Does he know why he wants to be with you?

1379
01:00:51,800 --> 01:00:54,840
Speaker 2: Outside of it's perfect and it's the one, it's the

1380
01:00:54,880 --> 01:00:57,120
Speaker 2: real deal. Why do you not know why?

1381
01:00:57,200 --> 01:00:58,840
Speaker 1: But there's a little bit left. I mean, this guy

1382
01:00:58,920 --> 01:01:01,960
Speaker 1: is possibly the scary man I've ever let into my life.

1383
01:01:02,080 --> 01:01:04,720
Speaker 1: The extent of his lies and deceit is insane. I

1384
01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:07,280
Speaker 1: genuinely don't even have the capacity to go into depth.

1385
01:01:07,360 --> 01:01:10,400
Speaker 1: Right now, his ex and I are exchanging emails and

1386
01:01:10,440 --> 01:01:12,800
Speaker 1: it just gets deeper and deeper. I mean, this is

1387
01:01:12,840 --> 01:01:14,840
Speaker 1: like the type of lying and behavior you only read

1388
01:01:14,840 --> 01:01:17,360
Speaker 1: about in psych books. I mean, he hits every point

1389
01:01:17,360 --> 01:01:20,400
Speaker 1: of a narc and everything that defines a sociopath, oh,

1390
01:01:20,440 --> 01:01:22,919
Speaker 1: a narcissist, But it just is a nark. I can't

1391
01:01:22,960 --> 01:01:25,720
Speaker 1: believe I've let someone like this into my life and

1392
01:01:25,840 --> 01:01:29,360
Speaker 1: was still considering believing him. Holy crap. I sent him

1393
01:01:29,400 --> 01:01:31,400
Speaker 1: screenshots of what she sent me and told him to

1394
01:01:31,560 --> 01:01:34,520
Speaker 1: never reach out to me again. He literally tried to

1395
01:01:34,560 --> 01:01:36,960
Speaker 1: pick specific things out and say that she was lying

1396
01:01:37,120 --> 01:01:38,960
Speaker 1: and he's so sorry she would say that to me.

1397
01:01:39,320 --> 01:01:40,120
Speaker 1: Still gaslight.

1398
01:01:40,240 --> 01:01:41,800
Speaker 2: Wow, Hey, he's fully committed.

1399
01:01:41,880 --> 01:01:44,400
Speaker 1: He's so committed to this bit, claiming he never said

1400
01:01:44,400 --> 01:01:47,160
Speaker 1: the thing she claims and that she's still sprinkling and lies.

1401
01:01:47,760 --> 01:01:49,920
Speaker 1: I am running far away, as you should.

1402
01:01:49,880 --> 01:01:56,600
Speaker 4: And I'm running so far away, running far. Honestly, I

1403
01:01:56,600 --> 01:01:59,560
Speaker 4: think you might have ducked out on a little sociopath.

1404
01:01:59,600 --> 01:02:00,000
Speaker 2: Potentially.

1405
01:02:00,400 --> 01:02:01,400
Speaker 1: Yeah,