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Speaker 2: Ray is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Cassie.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see
Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe
Speaker 2: get him a second date. But first, Ray, how long
Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Cassie?
Speaker 3: This has been like a week?
Speaker 4: Okay, not a week.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that sounds about right. It's a sweet spot for
Speaker 5: getting ghosted. I know that sucks. Have you reached out
Speaker 5: to her?
Speaker 6: I have, just not like obsessively, but just like a text,
Speaker 6: phone call and no answer. We'll tell us about the date, Okay, Yeah,
Speaker 6: there's a little bit to take in.
Speaker 3: So I'll just try to explain as best as I can.
Speaker 6: So, yeah, So Cassie and I went to this low
Speaker 6: key neighborhood bar and grill and it was trivia night,
Speaker 6: which is, you know, we weren't expecting it was actually
Speaker 6: really competitive, and we weren't expecting that though. I guess,
Speaker 6: you know, I could just say we sucked with spirit
Speaker 6: and we named our we actually named our team quiz
Speaker 6: tima aguilera.
Speaker 3: She was awesome.
Speaker 6: She came up with it, and we were really really terrible,
Speaker 6: and but we made fun of ourselves like the whole time,
Speaker 6: and and it was all honestly.
Speaker 3: Like it was hilarious.
Speaker 6: So, you know, we shared we shared fries, we had drinks,
Speaker 6: and she was really easy to talk to, uh, funny,
Speaker 6: super smart and and honestly, I was like, whoa, this
Speaker 6: is really going great. And so we decided to just
Speaker 6: get out of there and go to my place.
Speaker 4: All right, Trivia will bond to people very clear, definitely.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 6: And so here's the you know the problem is that
Speaker 6: when we walked out to my car, uh, on my
Speaker 6: driver's side door, the words cheater was spray painted across
Speaker 6: the door.
Speaker 4: Oh okay have you lately? Are you a cheater? I?
Speaker 6: No, I'm not, just like Also, also the windshield was cracked,
Speaker 6: so yeah, Cassie was obviously freaked out.
Speaker 3: And then she was like, dude, should I be here
Speaker 3: right now?
Speaker 6: And and I told her that's just my ex, which
Speaker 6: is I'm telling you guys, it's just my ex's like really,
Speaker 6: I'm single, literally single. We broke up a while ago,
Speaker 6: and she's just been having a really hard time letting
Speaker 6: letting go.
Speaker 5: Wait, so it wasn't a fluke Ray, this was like
Speaker 5: your car was the target.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that's why. And I didn't feed on her.
Speaker 6: It's just like she just kind of thinks if I
Speaker 6: talk to anybody new, it's I'm cheating.
Speaker 4: Oh damn. Wow, Okay that sucks.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Honestly, I didn't want the end the night to
Speaker 3: end like.
Speaker 6: That, so I told her, you know, please, let's do
Speaker 6: it do over and I'll deal with crazy and we'll
Speaker 6: pick out where were left off. And I got her
Speaker 6: an uber and she was cool about it.
Speaker 3: She even thanked me. She's like wow.
Speaker 6: She jokingly was like, hey damn, I'm getting like the
Speaker 6: deluxe package, and but she was like.
Speaker 4: Kind of shook.
Speaker 6: I saw that she was kind of shook.
Speaker 4: So oh yeah, yeah, this is definitely why you're getting go.
Speaker 4: How did everything end?
Speaker 2: Inn?
Speaker 4: After that?
Speaker 6: I just we we really connected and I and I've
Speaker 6: had it in days before and you know whatever, but
Speaker 6: this one felt really real and I felt like she
Speaker 6: really saw me, and we were making dumb trivia jokes
Speaker 6: a whole night.
Speaker 3: And anyways, it ended.
Speaker 6: Like she just went home basically, and then obviously it
Speaker 6: has to be the bandle thing, and it's not a great.
Speaker 3: Look for me.
Speaker 6: And she saw like she saw that I was embarrassed
Speaker 6: and I was pissed, and I thought she understood, but
Speaker 6: she even teased me and she said, your ex needs
Speaker 6: like therapy and a color coloring book, and uh so
Speaker 6: that's yeah, oh wow.
Speaker 7: I mean, maybe it isn't the X thing, But is
Speaker 7: there anything else that happened on the date that could.
Speaker 4: A girl that is the kind of drama nobody? I know.
Speaker 5: I know it's very but if I'm on a date
Speaker 5: with somebody in their cars vandalized by their ex, the
Speaker 5: last thing I'm gonna do is want to see them
Speaker 5: again until I know she's gone. Yeah, all right, and
Speaker 5: I'm sorry it sounded like it was good up until that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we probably know why you were getting ghosted. Then
Speaker 2: let's see if we can get you another date, all right,
Speaker 2: deem yourself. Yeah, we'll play a song Comeback Caller and
Speaker 2: see if that is in fact the reason, and then
Speaker 2: we'll see if we can get you a second date.
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, that would be awesome.
Speaker 4: All right, We'll get your first a follow up, next.
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Speaker 2: I'm right in the middle of today's first day follow up,
Speaker 2: and if you're just joining us, Ray is on the
Speaker 2: phone and he's getting ghosted by Cassie. So we're about
Speaker 2: to call her and see if she'll tell us why
Speaker 2: she's ghosting him, even though we think we already know.
Speaker 2: I tried to get him a second date. But first, Ray,
Speaker 2: why don't you break down what happened on your day
Speaker 2: real quick?
Speaker 6: Yeah, we went to an alphain bar like trivia night.
Speaker 6: We were really bad at it, but we laughed the
Speaker 6: whole way through, and then kind of went outside and
Speaker 6: found the words Cheeter written on my car and like
Speaker 6: whinshields smashed and that's my ex. I didn't cheat on her,
Speaker 6: but that kind of ruined the night. It's just my
Speaker 6: ex is not getting over our long time ago relationships,
Speaker 6: So not too long ago, but just long enough you
Speaker 6: know where she should have been over it. And so
Speaker 6: now seeing if you have a do over with this date,
Speaker 6: you know, start fresh.
Speaker 4: Well, are you ready for us to call her?
Speaker 3: Yeah, that would be great.
Speaker 4: I'll try to talk, try to see who knows.
Speaker 2: Maybe it's a different reason, Maybe you know maybe maybe
Speaker 2: it had someone in your shirt.
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 4: Yeah, probably not though. Are you ready?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. Hell, hi, man, I speak to Cassie. Please, Yes, Cassie,
Speaker 2: how are you? This is the Jewbil Show. It's a
Speaker 2: radio show.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Hi, Cassie. I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and my
Speaker 4: name is Jubell. How are you. How are you doing?
Speaker 6: Yeah? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Him, I think I'm good.
Speaker 4: Great. Have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 5: I have? Oh?
Speaker 4: Sweet?
Speaker 2: Guess what, Cassie, we got an email about you from
Speaker 2: somebody that you're ghosting. Yeah, you know the first day
Speaker 2: follow up where if you're ghosting someone, they can email
Speaker 2: us to get you on the phone and ask why
Speaker 2: you're ghosting them.
Speaker 3: Uh.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So is there anybody that you're currently ghosting?
Speaker 3: I can think of the name. I don't know if
Speaker 3: I want to.
Speaker 2: Say, I can say, yeah, we probably know we're probably
Speaker 2: talking about the same person.
Speaker 6: That is it?
Speaker 3: Ray?
Speaker 2: Yes? It is Ray? And Ray emailed us because he
Speaker 2: really liked you. He told us about your date and
Speaker 2: we think we know why you're ghosting him, but we're
Speaker 2: not sure.
Speaker 4: So do you mind telling us why you're ghosting him?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 7: Look, the date with Ray was really amazing. Honestly, hadn't
Speaker 7: laughed like that in a while, but he probably filed
Speaker 7: you in. And then on what happened with his X
Speaker 7: and I'm really freaked out by it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he said that you got back to his place
Speaker 2: and like his car was vandalized and it said that's cheater.
Speaker 7: Yeah, we walk out and his ex has spray painted
Speaker 7: cheater on his car, which already feels makes me feel like, first,
Speaker 7: I don't know, like I'm in some wrom calm, like
Speaker 7: maybe he maybe I'm the other woman on this date
Speaker 7: and he has a whole girlfriend.
Speaker 3: And then and you know.
Speaker 7: I tried to play it off because I could tell
Speaker 7: he was really embarrassed, and he kind of filled me
Speaker 7: on the situation a bit. But then I started getting
Speaker 7: phone calls. I don't normally pick up I not normally.
Speaker 3: Pick up numbers.
Speaker 7: I don't know, but they just kept calling and it
Speaker 7: was her, right, That's what's so freaky. I'm like, are
Speaker 7: you about to find out my address to? Somehow she
Speaker 7: got my number and knew my name, called me a
Speaker 7: flat told me to stay away from her. Man sent
Speaker 7: me then sent me a message saying she's pregnant. Yeah,
Speaker 7: like sent me a whole sonogram, started tagging me in
Speaker 7: weird stories online.
Speaker 4: This is crazy.
Speaker 7: Obviously, I've blocked her. I blocked her Instagram, I blocked
Speaker 7: her phone number. Honestly, I've blocked Ray too, because this
Speaker 7: is all a whole lot of complicated for somebody I
Speaker 7: just met. I don't need that kind of drama. I
Speaker 7: don't need to be dragged into this mess. Like I
Speaker 7: it sucked. I really did enjoy our date, but this
Speaker 7: is too much for day one.
Speaker 4: Is she really pregnant?
Speaker 2: I mean, Cassie raised on the phone, by the way,
Speaker 2: and you're listening.
Speaker 3: Oh man, Cassie, I didn't know she called you. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I didn't know.
Speaker 7: She said she said that you knocked her up and
Speaker 7: then completely ghosted her. And you didn't bring any of
Speaker 7: that up when we're standing outside of yours.
Speaker 6: Cassie, she's not and you guys, she's not. She's not pregnant,
Speaker 6: I swear, and she she literally is not in my life.
Speaker 6: She's just like I said, she hasn't let go and
Speaker 6: I've been like very nice to her, and I just
Speaker 6: I had no idea if she reached out to you.
Speaker 6: I'm so sorry, Like.
Speaker 7: I just think you might need to be putting your
Speaker 7: foot down because this nice thing isn't working.
Speaker 4: M M.
Speaker 7: I feel like you need to set a boundary with
Speaker 7: her of like we are over, you're in my past.
Speaker 3: Stop grasping.
Speaker 6: I didn't mean for you to be cooler than any
Speaker 6: of this.
Speaker 3: Like I was just being nice, like a normal dude.
Speaker 3: I wouldn't want to, didn't. I did say these things
Speaker 3: to her.
Speaker 4: Did you still talk to her right after you guys
Speaker 4: broke up? Do you like? I don't know, just you
Speaker 4: have some kind of hope that you're going to come
Speaker 4: back to her.
Speaker 3: Oh, I just I was just trying to keep it normal.
Speaker 7: Spray paint and broken glass and smashed up cars isn't normal.
Speaker 7: I've never seen something like that in my life.
Speaker 3: I hotly make a light of this. I'm just I guess.
Speaker 7: I'm unforgettable, you know, And you don't want to.
Speaker 4: It's not his fault.
Speaker 3: It's nice. It's not it, but it's nice.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Cassie, would you like to go on another day
Speaker 2: with Ray? Will pay for it?
Speaker 3: Thank God?
Speaker 6: For real.
Speaker 3: I will not mess this up. I'll like, I'll shut
Speaker 3: it all down.
Speaker 6: I'll make sure.
Speaker 3: She's out of my life completely.
Speaker 6: Okay, I'll go as far as like even getting a
Speaker 6: restraining order, Like, I just want you to know, Cassie,
Speaker 6: I had such.
Speaker 3: An amazing time. You're beautiful, year, you make me laugh.
Speaker 6: I've been on many dates before, and this is this
Speaker 6: felt very special for me, and I'm literally like, so sorry,
Speaker 6: what do you.
Speaker 4: Think, Cassie. Don't mind, Cassie, that's no easy thing.
Speaker 7: I mean, I really appreciate that because I really had
Speaker 7: a lot of fun with you, Ray and that is
Speaker 7: hard to find.
Speaker 3: And I'm not gonna lie. This is really freaked me out.
Speaker 7: And obviously I'll unblock you because that maybe it was
Speaker 7: a little a little rational.
Speaker 3: I don't think that's fair. You didn't do anything wrong.
Speaker 7: I just think that maybe there just needs to be
Speaker 7: some time to law and maybe call me when this
Speaker 7: drama's actually done.
Speaker 3: Because I think that's fair.
Speaker 7: She's so crazy, clearly that she's not understanding the dynamic
Speaker 7: and she's not getting whether you're being too nice or not.
Speaker 3: You're being perfectly farm I honestly don't know.
Speaker 7: I just think you need to deal with this because
Speaker 7: there's not room for both of us in your life.
Speaker 3: I would love to see you again right, but end
Speaker 3: this and then call me. So if I end this
Speaker 3: one hundred percent, that's a yes.
Speaker 6: Right.
Speaker 3: You know I'm going to the courthouse today to guess
Speaker 3: there's training order.
Speaker 4: Yeah, very romantic. Ju Will's first date fallow Up